This was a great one! Thank you! This subject can be so touchy. It's sad that we can't have a conversation about this without some immediately saying no, absolutely not. No, no, no. If we would all take time to try to understand and truly want to be there for our spouse in every way, this is part of it. Whether we want to admit it or not. Men are wired as visual, sexual beings. This was intentional by God. Sex is supposed to be good and pleasurable. There are so many things that can interfere from childhood and more. This world is being desensitized more and more. As a wife, I do understand that is how God wired my Husband and I am thankful for that, in our marriage. I do understand that because he is wired this way there is something that happens when he sees what he is wired to see and it gives him a feeling that happens automatically. We can't change that. It isn't something he can control. It's automatic. It's what you do next that matters. He decides to act on it or turn from it. As his wife, I want to do my part as well. To immediately shame him for this, can make him not want to be open and honest. We are one. If he is wired this way, I want to know all about it so that we, as one, can work through it TOGETHER. He does the same in return for how I am wired. Thank you for simply having real talk around real things. This was insightful! It truly takes open and honest communication with eachother to make your marriage work.
Someone going into a marriage knowing they dont like sex or cant have it but doesn't tell their partner is deception pure and simple. It happened with me. Ahe literally shut down a month after the ceremony. I dont hold any grudges but men are always blamed regardless so it just makes me stronger. God above All
Well, of course it isn’t. Did you watch the episode? But they put that in the thumbnail because there are people who ask this question. They discuss how it isn’t okay within the first couple of minutes of the episode.
No, God did not give you oversexed desire, he gave you a natural desire for your wife inside a covenant relationship. Through abuse and mainly your bad choices, you damaged yourself and your relationships. Life is just a bunch of choices and you have to control yourself.
I have to say, I’ve watched several videos with this guy leading the interview, and it makes me so uncomfortable and upset. He seems to always be giving the guys a pass on their bad behavior. Whether it’s porn, or lusting after attractive women… I feel more discouraged and upset because he just seems so casual about the severity of the subject matter. Am I the only one who feels this way?
I have to say I completely agree. The word that came to my mind was flippant. I have had 2 marriages destroyed by pornography and the things that go along with it, like deceit, lack of intimacy, emotional abuse, etc. Brent sounds like he believes that God hard wired men to behave this way? Really? I am attracted to men but as a Christian woman, I would never engage in pornography, as it is against God and especially because I know the damage it can do to my spouse. How would men feel if the roles were reversed? I almost get the sense that Brent believes pornography is not that big of a deal and wives should just tolerate it. I would strongly urge Brent to read "intimate deception" by Dr Sherri Kepfer, listen to an apology to women by Darrell Brazell and also look at the work by Dr. Omar Minwall on the " secret sexual basement". There is much more to pornography issues than what Brent seems to understand, and it is destroying families all over the world. As a Christian leader, I would hope Brent would take the time to learn more about the effects of pornography on a spouse, the damage porn use causes to mens brains, and also the atmosphere that porn use and sexual secrets creates within a home. Also, please talk to some women who have been betrayed by pornography and have them explain to you how they feel about pornography and the damage it has done to their souls. Another great video would be Darrell Brazell's "protector vs predator, addressing the harm of deceptive sexuality. The Church in many instances is getting this entire topic wrong and that further damages wives caught in these destructive marriages!!! Please Brent, take time to research this topic more thoroughly!! It's not just about a man looking at porn while eating his sandwich! Honestly...
@@beth4882 thank you for validating what I’ve been feeling and thinking. I’ve been dealing with learning about my spouse’s porn addiction that he hid from me until a few months ago. I am devastated. I forgive him, but I struggle with how I feel whenever he touches me or wants to be intimate. My heart hurts and I feel sick to my stomach thinking about it. He’s on his phone many, many hours during a day, and has too much down time at work, so I worry that it will happen again. We have installed Covenant Eyes on his phone and I can see if he’s looking at something explicit on his devices… but what about other devices I don’t know about? There’s always this fear that he will find a way to deceive me again, even though he’s said it will never happen again. Also… he refuses to see that he cheated on me every time he pleasured himself while watching another woman/women engaging in sexual acts. He insists he didn’t cheat. I think that’s the part that scares me the most. He, like Brent, doesn’t believe it’s unfaithfulness and doesn’t deserve the same punishment.
I don’t think I hear and I’m giving a free pass, but I think they’re just stating what it is. I hold the church responsible and a lot of always because they always turn a blind eye to it. I like what he said it’s a solution the menus. And that’s what we really gotta get to the core of.
Emphatically NO!!! for most people it’s a carryover from our carnal unsaved/undisciplined lives to our new life created in Christ Jesus. It’s a weight and sin that must be removed from our new lives by fasting prayer and deliverance
This was a great one! Thank you! This subject can be so touchy. It's sad that we can't have a conversation about this without some immediately saying no, absolutely not. No, no, no. If we would all take time to try to understand and truly want to be there for our spouse in every way, this is part of it. Whether we want to admit it or not. Men are wired as visual, sexual beings. This was intentional by God. Sex is supposed to be good and pleasurable. There are so many things that can interfere from childhood and more. This world is being desensitized more and more. As a wife, I do understand that is how God wired my Husband and I am thankful for that, in our marriage. I do understand that because he is wired this way there is something that happens when he sees what he is wired to see and it gives him a feeling that happens automatically. We can't change that. It isn't something he can control. It's automatic. It's what you do next that matters. He decides to act on it or turn from it. As his wife, I want to do my part as well. To immediately shame him for this, can make him not want to be open and honest. We are one. If he is wired this way, I want to know all about it so that we, as one, can work through it TOGETHER. He does the same in return for how I am wired. Thank you for simply having real talk around real things. This was insightful! It truly takes open and honest communication with eachother to make your marriage work.
I just came to comment absolutely NO!
Someone going into a marriage knowing they dont like sex or cant have it but doesn't tell their partner is deception pure and simple. It happened with me. Ahe literally shut down a month after the ceremony. I dont hold any grudges but men are always blamed regardless so it just makes me stronger. God above All
Adultery is engaging in sexual relations out side the confines of the covenant.. so it is grounds for divorce.
Of course porn is not okay!! Seriously?!
Well, of course it isn’t. Did you watch the episode? But they put that in the thumbnail because there are people who ask this question. They discuss how it isn’t okay within the first couple of minutes of the episode.
No, God did not give you oversexed desire, he gave you a natural desire for your wife inside a covenant relationship. Through abuse and mainly your bad choices, you damaged yourself and your relationships. Life is just a bunch of choices and you have to control yourself.
Amen, sex is not a need for survival.
Can you tell me the name of the book Mark wrote?
I have to say, I’ve watched several videos with this guy leading the interview, and it makes me so uncomfortable and upset. He seems to always be giving the guys a pass on their bad behavior. Whether it’s porn, or lusting after attractive women… I feel more discouraged and upset because he just seems so casual about the severity of the subject matter. Am I the only one who feels this way?
I have to say I completely agree. The word that came to my mind was flippant. I have had 2 marriages destroyed by pornography and the things that go along with it, like deceit, lack of intimacy, emotional abuse, etc. Brent sounds like he believes that God hard wired men to behave this way? Really? I am attracted to men but as a Christian woman, I would never engage in pornography, as it is against God and especially because I know the damage it can do to my spouse. How would men feel if the roles were reversed? I almost get the sense that Brent believes pornography is not that big of a deal and wives should just tolerate it. I would strongly urge Brent to read "intimate deception" by Dr Sherri Kepfer, listen to an apology to women by Darrell Brazell and also look at the work by Dr. Omar Minwall on the " secret sexual basement". There is much more to pornography issues than what Brent seems to understand, and it is destroying families all over the world. As a Christian leader, I would hope Brent would take the time to learn more about the effects of pornography on a spouse, the damage porn use causes to mens brains, and also the atmosphere that porn use and sexual secrets creates within a home. Also, please talk to some women who have been betrayed by pornography and have them explain to you how they feel about pornography and the damage it has done to their souls. Another great video would be Darrell Brazell's "protector vs predator, addressing the harm of deceptive sexuality. The Church in many instances is getting this entire topic wrong and that further damages wives caught in these destructive marriages!!! Please Brent, take time to research this topic more thoroughly!! It's not just about a man looking at porn while eating his sandwich! Honestly...
@@beth4882 thank you for validating what I’ve been feeling and thinking. I’ve been dealing with learning about my spouse’s porn addiction that he hid from me until a few months ago. I am devastated. I forgive him, but I struggle with how I feel whenever he touches me or wants to be intimate. My heart hurts and I feel sick to my stomach thinking about it. He’s on his phone many, many hours during a day, and has too much down time at work, so I worry that it will happen again. We have installed Covenant Eyes on his phone and I can see if he’s looking at something explicit on his devices… but what about other devices I don’t know about? There’s always this fear that he will find a way to deceive me again, even though he’s said it will never happen again. Also… he refuses to see that he cheated on me every time he pleasured himself while watching another woman/women engaging in sexual acts. He insists he didn’t cheat. I think that’s the part that scares me the most. He, like Brent, doesn’t believe it’s unfaithfulness and doesn’t deserve the same punishment.
I don’t think I hear and I’m giving a free pass, but I think they’re just stating what it is. I hold the church responsible and a lot of always because they always turn a blind eye to it. I like what he said it’s a solution the menus. And that’s what we really gotta get to the core of.
Emphatically NO!!! for most people it’s a carryover from our carnal unsaved/undisciplined lives to our new life created in Christ Jesus. It’s a weight and sin that must be removed from our new lives by fasting prayer and deliverance
Nope that's a big nope!!!!!!!!