There's a difference between being THE best and being YOUR best. Striving to be YOUR best will leave you fulfilled. Striving to be THE best will leave you drained, disappointed, and devoid of your passion. Don't let outside perspective dictate how proud you are of yourself. Your pride isn't for everyone else. When I complete a puzzle or when my celery started sprouting, I was SO proud. So what if it's only 500 pieces or just one stalk, I DID THAT, something I've not accomplished before and I am ECSTATIC! LOL
Mediocre is subjective. What's mediocre to one isn't to another. To 1 person "mediocre" is plain, to another it's considered "understated" or "sophistication." To some "over the top" is considered "glamour", to another it's "tacky" or "gaudy."
Kindah agreed! A lot people view my life as a housewife and soon to be mom, supporting my husband in his business as mediocre. But to me it’s my life’s dream achieved! I’m so grateful for my life and it holds real meaning to me
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! Mediocre is such a subjective term. Someone else in this thread said that many people see her life as a housewife and soon to be mother as mediocre, but to her it’s what she’s always wanted. As long as she is happy and fulfilled she’s not being mediocre. She has the potential to be a CEO or the richest woman in the world, but if that doesn’t mean something to her then it’s just a waste of time.
It's okay to accept mediocrity in some areas. "No one will thank you when you burn out". Keep working and striving, but don't put your health at risk or believe that you need to be perfect to be valued ❤
It kinda makes sense. The pressure to be great is so big and when you don't deliver, the judgment will overwhelm you. Best way is to shed the expectations and do you boo.
I think they’re missing the point here. Being okay with being mediocre means being okay with being a nurse instead of being a doctor or being okay with being an accountant instead of being a CPA. It has nothing to do with what other people think of you but it’s the pressure that you put on yourself to achieve your dreams. I have to say, as someone who has actively strived to be the absolute best in my field, I agree with the original author that it’s not worth it because I was so unhappy and stressed out when I aimed for the top. I had to learn how to be content with not being the highest in my field and it was truly a battle for me.
Its not about jobs and positions only … mediocre life … some doctors are mediocre in comparison to others .. same with celebrities …. Its life in general
Do your best, that's all you need. Perfection is overrated & stressful. As long as your work is done, you feel accomplished & happy, you don't have to be #1 because those who know & appreciate you & that's all that matters.
It's okay to be just "okay" at certain aspects of your life. It's in these moments that we get to see other people shine and show expertise. If everyone lacked a form of "mediocrity," what purpose would we need to learn from each other? Love the direction Loni took this convo; she added more depth to the conceit.
Mediocre is when you DONT give your best at something. Is not the result , is the intention. Giving your best at things you WANT to do will never be mediocre no matter the result. If you don’t want to do something DONT do it. If you do a crappy job because you didn’t CARE that’s mediocre. Mediocre will never be a positive thing. Mediocre doesn’t mean giving your best without stressing, or being happy without the best result, that’s not the meaning.
Weirdly - I gotta day I’m with Adrienne on this. I’ve gotten myself into depression by trying to over work myself to try and outcompete colleagues, students etc. Now I strive for happiness and to I would say being PRODUCTIVE is far more important. So long as I feel productive at the end of my weeks and I’m happy - then I’m successful.
I feel like as an African-American young man who has somewhat worked in the industry... I think there’s this stigma of you have to keep working and the reality is... some people in the industry don’t work because they want to still live a normal life not because they “ aren’t famous “ or “aren’t relevant “ or “ fell off” so I think society should be more sensitive as well as mind their own business as to why people aren’t really around anymore ! There’s always time work but there isn’t as much time to live your life without worrying about work... so I guess it also depends on what you consider “ mediocre “
Myronn Coleman I think about this a lot when I see my faves doing projects back to back. I’m like damn, do y’all take breaks? lol. But like you said the pressure to stay relevant is real. If you stop working, your a “has been” and it can almost discredits everything you’ve done. Look at Monique, for example. She wasn’t working for a while and people wrote her off, as if she isn’t one of the most well-know/successful Black female comedians that our generation grew up on.
Perfectionism is definitely the worst enemy you can have because it implies that you are never good enough, the word mediocre was not best pick to fight perfectionism because it means that you are NOT good enough, I think it’s better to do things the best you can but not aiming to perfectionism.
My mother constantly puts me down for just being a house wife and raising my 4 kids. Says I set women back and my life is so mediocre. I am so happy with my life, I love that I am there with my babies for everything. I was always alone or with a nanny because my parents’ businesses came first and my mother thinks ALL women need to be self employed by the time they are 25....
Mediocre is similar to beauty...two people could be staring at the same person,one thinks theyre beautiful,the other thinks theyre not all that.Same could be applied to hard work.
Loni ❤️❤️❤️ You add so much value by working with smaller business and us who cannot afford the expensive tickets ... I believe that working the middle/working class has bigger ripple effects 💗... So Thank You Loni!
I think mediocrity falls into the effort you put into something. If you’re not giving your best effort in something, then it’s mediocre. But if it is your best effort then it isn’t. 🤔
I agree with the concept that it's OK to be mediocre when you know it isn't your strong suit. But I also agree with Jeannie that if you're passionate about something, being mediocre isn't an option. That Tamera example Jeannie gave is case in point. Tamera would NEVER want to be a mediocre mom. She's got two kids!
mediocrity is usually based on stagnation i think? like, there's a difference between living comfortably and still having a passion and drive for the things you love, and people who would rather skate by doing just enough because they have no passion. sometimes when people say things about you, you gotta consider the source.
C-light i think their definition of that would be whether the doctor was popular famous always on the scenes getting known rather than someone who does their job is hoot at it but don’t want to be all in everyone’s faces they just want to do their job and bow out which is okay too as long as the job is done
I felt like everyone except Jeannie understood this question. The example person stopped trying to go above and beyond 24/7 at her job and just be ‘mediocre’ so she could probably save energy to focus her personal life or other passions.
Honestly, I feel this! I am in law school and so many people just do too much, stress themselves out and then end up failing because they put too much pressure on themselves to be perfect! What is meant for you will come for you! You do have to work hard but its more about consistency and understanding your strengths but also you have to enjoy life.
I think it’s important to be mediocre if you don’t like your job or at anything you aren’t passionate about. It steals too much of your soul to try to be the best at a company you don’t get joy from.
In my household as a kid I was raised to look a certain way and carry my self a certain way... so I always had a competitiveness about me... I don't believe it was healthy. I remember completing with a friend in my head and she still won. Crazy! I was a self proclaimed know it all and if I didn't know it I was searching for the answer. I had an opportunity to work a job fixing mistakes on loan documents and one of our investors kept having me revise the documents and every time I had to go back to the borrower. No one else was going to make the calls for me... I remember someone coming to me one day with a question, that day I answered; I don't know and was confident enough to not even search for an answer. It was very refreshing. That doesn't mean be lazy and never try. I'm saying that for me it was life! 💓
I find it far better to determine what your own best and most successful moments are for yourself. My family has for years, been stressing me out, with trying to do the most and be the over the top achiever of EVERY, SINGLE, FREAKING, THING. And it's annoying exhausting and just erodes any sort of ties and communication I have with them. As they don't see me for me and what I can do. Cause it's not on their level. Hell my father will even use the word mediocre as a major insult at times. But yet, it's not like he has accomplished that many over the top things himself either. So I've gotten to the point of tuning em out, and picking and choosing what is best for me, each step of the way. Cause only I know how successful I will be at it, as opposed to listening to others, that don't have the right view of what I can and can't do.
I definitely pick and choose my battles. I am not trying to be the best in everything I do...that IS stressful. And then there are other areas where i chose to step up my game with the ultimate goal of no to low stress.
Coming from a family who expected nothing less than a bachelor's which I did obtain among adversity (marriage, on one income and raising children), it's never enough for them. I have decided that what is best for my family now and today, for this season of life is staying home and raising my boys. For some, even colleagues who expected so much from me, family and friends, they see it as im being mediocre. To me I'm being mediocre to their standards but mine are all different. I'm raising MEN. That takes my undivided attention. One day they will know all the hard work I'm putting in and if they don't that's okay as well. Its actually liberating to live by your own standards of success.
Dee Gonzalez I love what you said!!! When you lay your head on your pillow at night and you know that you did the best that day with the circumstances you tackled, that is the ultimate success for me. If someone else can’t see it, that’s on them. We’re not doing what we do to make them tell us we are “finally successful” we are doing what we do to actually get ahead for US 👀👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Strive to do your best, but accept yourself where you are. Do not worry about being THE best because the you of today only has to compete with the you of yesterday. It’s all about bettering yourself
I think what she was trying to say (imo) is that it is ok to not be perfect all of the time. That we have this impossible desire to be perfect because of everyone else (and even ourselves) around us, so anytime we do something that falls under not perfect, even in the slightest, it causes so much anxiety and stress. Not to mention the gut wrenching feeling of not being good enough, or feeling like you are not DOING enough to meet your, and everyone else's impossible standards and expectations.
I love watching The Real but this was hella frustrating to listen to because it's obviously just semantics. The writer of the article just meant she needed to allow herself to settle for less than some impossible, perfect standard. To her anything less than what she felt was perfect = "mediocre". Mediocre and Perfect are both such subjective terms no matter which way you slice it. She was basically just telling herself to ease up and that it's ok to let some things just be "good enough" instead of perfect. It isn't worth the extra stress. 😊
Adrienne is SUCH a flipflopper!!!! She literally went from, "hell no..." to "omg, I am SO passionate about this.." girl, pick a side and stick to it !!!
She said no when the question was should we aim to be in the middle. But she was saying you should be your best but being your best might be mediocre to someone else, those were two different responses to two different topics. Shes saying you shouldn't aim for the middle, aim for happiness and don't let anyone tell you what that is, that was what she was passionate about.
This has got to do with the motivation. This person appears to have performance based motivation rather than mastery based motivation. Performance is that you succeed for others, you crave to hear others praise you and you hate to fail bc it makes you look bad so it’s appearances. However mastery based performance, is about your own journey to master a skill... you do it for yourself and you’re not scared to fail bc you know you’re going to master it eventually...
I don't hang out with mediocres, I want to do my best. Personally I connect mediocraty with lack of ambitions. It all depends on what you allow or not in your circle of frineds.
Lady Hamilton xoxo I’m thinking of it as you gotta meet yourself where you at type of thing. Like when you start something new, you may not be the best at it or don’t have the resources to as good as you can be but you can let that get you caught up. Failing and being “mediocre” at things births a lot of greatness later on.
We need to learn our kids. When there is room for growth, its ok to tell them! Otherwise the will have a difficult time dealing with critics and counsel, later in life 🤷🏼♀️ just Iike Jeanie and Tamera🤔😕
Einstein's Note On the Key to Happiness : "A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness."
There is nothing wrong in wanting to improve yourself to each their rythme and cadence. However staying on the same level without evolving or improving that’s an issue. You can be stagnant in some aspect of your job or career and try to make it pass as if you made the choice to be on that level whereas you are completely mediocre. For instance Jenifer Lopez ain’t the best in terms of vocals, yet she elevated herself. If she can where she is with her level why not you. Of course it is at your discretion to choose the path that best for you.
I don't think this person was saying mediocre literally it seems it was more to make a point about how we didn't have to kill ourselves giving 1000% all the time and never feeling good enough
sometimes we all gotta take a step back and pat ourselves on the back, and say i''m doing my best and we gotta cut ourselves some slack, and say i'm living "My"best life, i'm living to the best of "MY" ability
They missed the WHOLE damn point. It’s not being the best by your standards and being mediocre by someone else’s standards. It’s being just ok at something, whatever it is. When a “C” grade will do, you don’t have to freak out if you don’t get an “A” sorta thing.
One person's mediocre is another person's excellence. If it is the best that a person can be, then there is nothing wrong with it. For example, one kid could be doing the best they can possibly do in school and get a C. Another does the best they can possibly do and get an A. Both worked hard and should be proud of what they did.
Just my personal opinion...at the end of the day only YOU can decide if you are mediocre. Otherwise, you would be forced to compare yourself to someone else’s standards, and who’s to say they are right and you are wrong? Constructive criticism is there to help us be a better version of OURSELVES, but being called mediocre by someone else (say at a job...) doesn’t necessarily mean that you are. Maybe that’s just their opinion and you shouldn’t accept that in your spirit. My point is, most human beings were given an intuition to know within ourselves if we are trying our best at something. If we know we are trying our very best, we are not mediocre no matter who’s standards we aren’t living up to. If your “very best” is someone else’s “mediocre” who cares?! Be proud within yourself.
when i saw this video i thought it would be talking about personality. i don’t think its good to have a mediocre personality.. like having no interests or hobbies, only following trends, etc.
I feel like yall got it wrong. You absolutely should not try to be the best in everything you do. You have limited energy and don't have to overachieve all the time! Instead focus on things that really matter to you and what you are passionate about. We are all great in a few things and mediocre in everything else and it's ok.
Everyone missed the point omg, in this case, the original post talked about how trying to be a 100% at everything really burned her out and then when she started to preserve the energy and learn to let loose, she started to enjoy the process more and became calmer. It's not about big arenas or big achievements. It's about the pressure you feel to always be at a 100% even though that is not realistic at all. It's mostly about internalised pressure that we put onto ourselves even though we know that is not something we personally love or enjoy. I don't get how they completely missed the point here...
People need to take other people's opinions as exactly that just their opinion and stop comparing themselves to others. Everyone has to fugue out what is right for themselves and their family. My husband and I face a lot of backlash and criticism for the way we choose to live our lives and how we raise our children. At the end of the day, we have decided that the Only approval we need is God's. Once we know that we are in the will of God we live in that confidence.
There's a difference between being THE best and being YOUR best. Striving to be YOUR best will leave you fulfilled. Striving to be THE best will leave you drained, disappointed, and devoid of your passion. Don't let outside perspective dictate how proud you are of yourself. Your pride isn't for everyone else. When I complete a puzzle or when my celery started sprouting, I was SO proud. So what if it's only 500 pieces or just one stalk, I DID THAT, something I've not accomplished before and I am ECSTATIC! LOL
thats it right there, it's not being THE best it's being YOUR best
T C I needed to hear this. Thank you.
I love you so much for this, thank you❤️ You have no idea how powerful and uplifting those words are to me❤️
Well said T C!
Well said 🙌🏽
Mediocre is subjective. What's mediocre to one isn't to another. To 1 person "mediocre" is plain, to another it's considered "understated" or "sophistication." To some "over the top" is considered "glamour", to another it's "tacky" or "gaudy."
Exactly!!!
Kindah Women are all mediocre and pathetic
Kindah agreed! A lot people view my life as a housewife and soon to be mom, supporting my husband in his business as mediocre. But to me it’s my life’s dream achieved! I’m so grateful for my life and it holds real meaning to me
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! Mediocre is such a subjective term. Someone else in this thread said that many people see her life as a housewife and soon to be mother as mediocre, but to her it’s what she’s always wanted. As long as she is happy and fulfilled she’s not being mediocre. She has the potential to be a CEO or the richest woman in the world, but if that doesn’t mean something to her then it’s just a waste of time.
Almost everything is subject to relativity.
Loni said that! I strive to be able to Express myself that eloquently one day
There's a start, vocabulary on point ;)
@@zionb5342 thanks!
2:16 so cute how Loni was looking at Adrienne ☺️
Jeanine i know right 😭
i’m glad others noticed😭too cute
You can see that she adores her
I peeped that too!
It's okay to accept mediocrity in some areas. "No one will thank you when you burn out". Keep working and striving, but don't put your health at risk or believe that you need to be perfect to be valued ❤
One of the best comments right here
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No shade but I feel like Loni is the only person who knew what she was talking about and defined mediocre to the point.
Thank you
It kinda makes sense. The pressure to be great is so big and when you don't deliver, the judgment will overwhelm you. Best way is to shed the expectations and do you boo.
I think they’re missing the point here. Being okay with being mediocre means being okay with being a nurse instead of being a doctor or being okay with being an accountant instead of being a CPA. It has nothing to do with what other people think of you but it’s the pressure that you put on yourself to achieve your dreams. I have to say, as someone who has actively strived to be the absolute best in my field, I agree with the original author that it’s not worth it because I was so unhappy and stressed out when I aimed for the top. I had to learn how to be content with not being the highest in my field and it was truly a battle for me.
Its not about jobs and positions only … mediocre life … some doctors are mediocre in comparison to others .. same with celebrities …. Its life in general
Anyone else think about “mediocre clarinet player” from Spongebob 😂
Why you gotta do squidward like that?!!
😂😂😂😂😭🤣😅
You mean squikward
He below that.
Do your best, that's all you need. Perfection is overrated & stressful. As long as your work is done, you feel accomplished & happy, you don't have to be #1 because those who know & appreciate you & that's all that matters.
It's okay to be just "okay" at certain aspects of your life. It's in these moments that we get to see other people shine and show expertise. If everyone lacked a form of "mediocrity," what purpose would we need to learn from each other? Love the direction Loni took this convo; she added more depth to the conceit.
Mediocre is when you DONT give your best at something. Is not the result , is the intention. Giving your best at things you WANT to do will never be mediocre no matter the result. If you don’t want to do something DONT do it. If you do a crappy job because you didn’t CARE that’s mediocre. Mediocre will never be a positive thing. Mediocre doesn’t mean giving your best without stressing, or being happy without the best result, that’s not the meaning.
The first thing I think about when I hear the word " mediocre " is TI's song.... Mediocre!!😂😂 I cant be the only one😄😄
Boity Monare Trust me. You weren’t the only one. That was the only thing I was think about. 😂😂
Weirdly - I gotta day I’m with Adrienne on this. I’ve gotten myself into depression by trying to over work myself to try and outcompete colleagues, students etc. Now I strive for happiness and to I would say being PRODUCTIVE is far more important. So long as I feel productive at the end of my weeks and I’m happy - then I’m successful.
I feel like as an African-American young man who has somewhat worked in the industry... I think there’s this stigma of you have to keep working and the reality is... some people in the industry don’t work because they want to still live a normal life not because they “ aren’t famous “ or “aren’t relevant “ or “ fell off” so I think society should be more sensitive as well as mind their own business as to why people aren’t really around anymore ! There’s always time work but there isn’t as much time to live your life without worrying about work... so I guess it also depends on what you consider “ mediocre “
Myronn Coleman I think about this a lot when I see my faves doing projects back to back. I’m like damn, do y’all take breaks? lol. But like you said the pressure to stay relevant is real. If you stop working, your a “has been” and it can almost discredits everything you’ve done. Look at Monique, for example. She wasn’t working for a while and people wrote her off, as if she isn’t one of the most well-know/successful Black female comedians that our generation grew up on.
Beyoncé’s Freckles Boom... you get it !
Maybe being mediocre gives u a perfect life 🤷
Rana Alhadad I think it gives us a balance
Perfectionism is definitely the worst enemy you can have because it implies that you are never good enough, the word mediocre was not best pick to fight perfectionism because it means that you are NOT good enough, I think it’s better to do things the best you can but not aiming to perfectionism.
I love the show and you guys are so gorgeous
Tamara is giving me life with this look! Glam all day!
My mother constantly puts me down for just being a house wife and raising my 4 kids. Says I set women back and my life is so mediocre. I am so happy with my life, I love that I am there with my babies for everything. I was always alone or with a nanny because my parents’ businesses came first and my mother thinks ALL women need to be self employed by the time they are 25....
Mediocre is similar to beauty...two people could be staring at the same person,one thinks theyre beautiful,the other thinks theyre not all that.Same could be applied to hard work.
Tamera looks bomb 😍🔥
Loni ❤️❤️❤️
You add so much value by working with smaller business and us who cannot afford the expensive tickets ... I believe that working the middle/working class has bigger ripple effects 💗... So Thank You Loni!
Damn Loni. You hit the spot.😭😭😭😭
I think mediocrity falls into the effort you put into something. If you’re not giving your best effort in something, then it’s mediocre. But if it is your best effort then it isn’t. 🤔
I agree with the concept that it's OK to be mediocre when you know it isn't your strong suit. But I also agree with Jeannie that if you're passionate about something, being mediocre isn't an option. That Tamera example Jeannie gave is case in point. Tamera would NEVER want to be a mediocre mom. She's got two kids!
mediocrity is usually based on stagnation i think? like, there's a difference between living comfortably and still having a passion and drive for the things you love, and people who would rather skate by doing just enough because they have no passion. sometimes when people say things about you, you gotta consider the source.
A mediocre comic I can deal with, but a mediocre doctor/dentist/lawyer/teacher/etc...lord help us when we come across those
C-light i think their definition of that would be whether the doctor was popular famous always on the scenes getting known rather than someone who does their job is hoot at it but don’t want to be all in everyone’s faces they just want to do their job and bow out which is okay too as long as the job is done
Lmaooo Loni's laugh gets me every time!
I felt like everyone except Jeannie understood this question. The example person stopped trying to go above and beyond 24/7 at her job and just be ‘mediocre’ so she could probably save energy to focus her personal life or other passions.
This segment needs to be shown to Abby Lee Miller. She calls those amazing dancers "Mediocre" in a negative way. -_-
Honestly, I feel this! I am in law school and so many people just do too much, stress themselves out and then end up failing because they put too much pressure on themselves to be perfect! What is meant for you will come for you! You do have to work hard but its more about consistency and understanding your strengths but also you have to enjoy life.
Tam sounded like Sister, Sister Season 6 Tamera at 3:39. (Yes, That is oddly specific)
You know what the sad part is? I know exactly what you're talking about.
I know too
lmaaoo I know exactly what you mean. When she was playing a 90s Black girl. She always sounds like that when she putting on the extra “sass.”
Omg!! The accuracy of this statement!!!!
I also recall her having a raspy-ish voice back then.
Tam looks stunning here!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I think it’s important to be mediocre if you don’t like your job or at anything you aren’t passionate about. It steals too much of your soul to try to be the best at a company you don’t get joy from.
Oh my goodness,so true. I left my old job because of this. Giving my all for a shitty pay and no grattitude.
In my household as a kid I was raised to look a certain way and carry my self a certain way... so I always had a competitiveness about me... I don't believe it was healthy. I remember completing with a friend in my head and she still won. Crazy! I was a self proclaimed know it all and if I didn't know it I was searching for the answer. I had an opportunity to work a job fixing mistakes on loan documents and one of our investors kept having me revise the documents and every time I had to go back to the borrower. No one else was going to make the calls for me... I remember someone coming to me one day with a question, that day I answered; I don't know and was confident enough to not even search for an answer. It was very refreshing. That doesn't mean be lazy and never try. I'm saying that for me it was life! 💓
Ohh Jeanie that yellow YASSS MA’AM! 😩
Most people who measure other people's passions as mediocre may be suffering from inferiority complex.
Adrianne's earrings sound like my cat walking around the house 😂
Loni hit this one on the head!!
There’s a difference in meanings. Some think it means subpar and some think it’s common/basic/normal.
I find it far better to determine what your own best and most successful moments are for yourself. My family has for years, been stressing me out, with trying to do the most and be the over the top achiever of EVERY, SINGLE, FREAKING, THING. And it's annoying exhausting and just erodes any sort of ties and communication I have with them. As they don't see me for me and what I can do. Cause it's not on their level. Hell my father will even use the word mediocre as a major insult at times. But yet, it's not like he has accomplished that many over the top things himself either. So I've gotten to the point of tuning em out, and picking and choosing what is best for me, each step of the way. Cause only I know how successful I will be at it, as opposed to listening to others, that don't have the right view of what I can and can't do.
I definitely pick and choose my battles. I am not trying to be the best in everything I do...that IS stressful. And then there are other areas where i chose to step up my game with the ultimate goal of no to low stress.
Coming from a family who expected nothing less than a bachelor's which I did obtain among adversity (marriage, on one income and raising children), it's never enough for them. I have decided that what is best for my family now and today, for this season of life is staying home and raising my boys. For some, even colleagues who expected so much from me, family and friends, they see it as im being mediocre. To me I'm being mediocre to their standards but mine are all different. I'm raising MEN. That takes my undivided attention. One day they will know all the hard work I'm putting in and if they don't that's okay as well. Its actually liberating to live by your own standards of success.
Dee Gonzalez I love what you said!!! When you lay your head on your pillow at night and you know that you did the best that day with the circumstances you tackled, that is the ultimate success for me. If someone else can’t see it, that’s on them. We’re not doing what we do to make them tell us we are “finally successful” we are doing what we do to actually get ahead for US 👀👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Strive to do your best, but accept yourself where you are. Do not worry about being THE best because the you of today only has to compete with the you of yesterday. It’s all about bettering yourself
Happiness is Success. Life lesson from Adrienne to live by. ❤❤
I think what she was trying to say (imo) is that it is ok to not be perfect all of the time. That we have this impossible desire to be perfect because of everyone else (and even ourselves) around us, so anytime we do something that falls under not perfect, even in the slightest, it causes so much anxiety and stress. Not to mention the gut wrenching feeling of not being good enough, or feeling like you are not DOING enough to meet your, and everyone else's impossible standards and expectations.
There is or was a page on Twitter called Average Life Goals and I totally related to it. 😄
I love watching The Real but this was hella frustrating to listen to because it's obviously just semantics.
The writer of the article just meant she needed to allow herself to settle for less than some impossible, perfect standard. To her anything less than what she felt was perfect = "mediocre". Mediocre and Perfect are both such subjective terms no matter which way you slice it. She was basically just telling herself to ease up and that it's ok to let some things just be "good enough" instead of perfect. It isn't worth the extra stress. 😊
Adrienne is SUCH a flipflopper!!!! She literally went from, "hell no..." to "omg, I am SO passionate about this.." girl, pick a side and stick to it !!!
She said no when the question was should we aim to be in the middle. But she was saying you should be your best but being your best might be mediocre to someone else, those were two different responses to two different topics. Shes saying you shouldn't aim for the middle, aim for happiness and don't let anyone tell you what that is, that was what she was passionate about.
Tamera, Twitches was my FAVORITE movie and it still makes me happy!!
Prefer to be mediocre in several things on being great in one or two things
Dont let others define your success!!!What may be a mediocre for others may be your own success!! Define Your Own Success!!
This has got to do with the motivation. This person appears to have performance based motivation rather than mastery based motivation. Performance is that you succeed for others, you crave to hear others praise you and you hate to fail bc it makes you look bad so it’s appearances. However mastery based performance, is about your own journey to master a skill... you do it for yourself and you’re not scared to fail bc you know you’re going to master it eventually...
I don't hang out with mediocres, I want to do my best. Personally I connect mediocraty with lack of ambitions. It all depends on what you allow or not in your circle of frineds.
Lady Hamilton xoxo I’m thinking of it as you gotta meet yourself where you at type of thing. Like when you start something new, you may not be the best at it or don’t have the resources to as good as you can be but you can let that get you caught up. Failing and being “mediocre” at things births a lot of greatness later on.
What's ambitious for one person can be mediocre for another and vice versa
I definitely heard that it's a great way to cope if you're suffering from fear. It helps to take the pressure off.
The point is, its okay if u do ur best and STILL is mediocre
Loni i love the hair,makeup
Hurrrh you look really good
Tam i see you
Mediocre people are needed in this world. Keeps us balanced.
Let’s just take a moment to appreciate how good they all look 🙌🏽 loving Tam Tam outfit & hair in this episode 💚
The only thing you should strive for is Contentment. That’s when you are truly are at rest
Great show ladies, keep up the great work you all do 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
We need to learn our kids. When there is room for growth, its ok to tell them! Otherwise the will have a difficult time dealing with critics and counsel, later in life 🤷🏼♀️ just
Iike Jeanie and Tamera🤔😕
Einstein's Note On the Key to Happiness : "A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness."
Why does Adrienne have to talk after everyone????.... sit and listen sometimes
leave her alone , if you don’t like her get off The Real .
There is nothing wrong in wanting to improve yourself to each their rythme and cadence. However staying on the same level without evolving or improving that’s an issue. You can be stagnant in some aspect of your job or career and try to make it pass as if you made the choice to be on that level whereas you are completely mediocre. For instance Jenifer Lopez ain’t the best in terms of vocals, yet she elevated herself. If she can where she is with her level why not you. Of course it is at your discretion to choose the path that best for you.
Adrienne spoke straight facts.
I don't think this person was saying mediocre literally it seems it was more to make a point about how we didn't have to kill ourselves giving 1000% all the time and never feeling good enough
Loni looks so good with dark hair😍😍
A is goin too much per usual. I love Tam's energy, she stays classy and I love her tone.
Yes im happy being happy medium. As long as your trying your best that all that matters x
sometimes we all gotta take a step back and pat ourselves on the back, and say i''m doing my best and we gotta cut ourselves some slack, and say i'm living "My"best life, i'm living to the best of "MY" ability
the gang looks fineeee today! all four ladies are killing it!!!!
Tam looks amazing !!!
They missed the WHOLE damn point. It’s not being the best by your standards and being mediocre by someone else’s standards. It’s being just ok at something, whatever it is. When a “C” grade will do, you don’t have to freak out if you don’t get an “A” sorta thing.
Loni's laugh always makes me chuckle a little
Yeah I’m mediocre as hell and I love it.
Loni looked stunning!!!
As long as you are trying your best, wherever you fall on someone else's chart...is irrelevant..
the dif in being mediocre and not being mediocre is when ur doing whatever ur doing (be in on a large or small scale) below average.
And let’s not forget there is a difference between mediocre and being lazy.
Tamera's too nice to interrupt...Adrienne!
Tam looks beautiful 🥰
Yup. I'm extraordinary
Being mediocre is better than being the worst. America is obsessed with everyone must be the best or you’re a failure which is just unrealistic
I LOVE MY LONI!!!!! She is never mediocre thats my boo! My Auntie!!!
None of you ladies are mediocre in my book because you are children of God!
It all comes back to what "Having it all means to you." I don't strive to be better, I am.😎
Hhhmmm i dont agree with your last statement. Theres ALWAYS room for improvement.
One person's mediocre is another person's excellence. If it is the best that a person can be, then there is nothing wrong with it. For example, one kid could be doing the best they can possibly do in school and get a C. Another does the best they can possibly do and get an A. Both worked hard and should be proud of what they did.
I’m in love with Adrienne and Tam Tam’s outfits. They look really beautiful today. All of them do, ❤️the Real ladies
You can tell that they love each other a lot.
Just my personal opinion...at the end of the day only YOU can decide if you are mediocre. Otherwise, you would be forced to compare yourself to someone else’s standards, and who’s to say they are right and you are wrong? Constructive criticism is there to help us be a better version of OURSELVES, but being called mediocre by someone else (say at a job...) doesn’t necessarily mean that you are. Maybe that’s just their opinion and you shouldn’t accept that in your spirit. My point is, most human beings were given an intuition to know within ourselves if we are trying our best at something. If we know we are trying our very best, we are not mediocre no matter who’s standards we aren’t living up to. If your “very best” is someone else’s “mediocre” who cares?! Be proud within yourself.
Yessss i cant believe how much i agree with all you ladies (: and crazy My mom catered for strong medicine and sister sister.
when i saw this video i thought it would be talking about personality. i don’t think its good to have a mediocre personality.. like having no interests or hobbies, only following trends, etc.
Yes Loni!!!!!! YES!!!!! Everybody has a place.
out of topic but i feel like the way jeannie talks is like she's always expecting a bunch of claps at the end
Your maker isnt mediocre, why would YOU be??
You mean your parents?
In certain areas, I don't give a damn about mediocre.
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Daniel Vestholm she means God
I feel like yall got it wrong. You absolutely should not try to be the best in everything you do. You have limited energy and don't have to overachieve all the time! Instead focus on things that really matter to you and what you are passionate about. We are all great in a few things and mediocre in everything else and it's ok.
Everyone missed the point omg, in this case, the original post talked about how trying to be a 100% at everything really burned her out and then when she started to preserve the energy and learn to let loose, she started to enjoy the process more and became calmer. It's not about big arenas or big achievements. It's about the pressure you feel to always be at a 100% even though that is not realistic at all. It's mostly about internalised pressure that we put onto ourselves even though we know that is not something we personally love or enjoy. I don't get how they completely missed the point here...
yup
I think you missed parts of the conversation though. Tamera and Jeannie spoke about it.
People need to take other people's opinions as exactly that just their opinion and stop comparing themselves to others. Everyone has to fugue out what is right for themselves and their family. My husband and I face a lot of backlash and criticism for the way we choose to live our lives and how we raise our children. At the end of the day, we have decided that the Only approval we need is God's. Once we know that we are in the will of God we live in that confidence.
I like the simple life and don't need too much to be happy, success depends on the person :)