As a man my advice is WAIT DON'T MOVE STRAIGHT IN WITH A GUY THAT YOU DON'T KNOW!!!!! Loneliness is a depressing thing, and rash decisions are made because of it. Find a short term rental and get to know your boyfriend first. To me this reeks of control, manipulation and DANGER. GET HIM come stay with you first. DO ANYTHING EXCEPT MOVE ACROSS THE COUNTRY FOR A BOY Y9U DON'T KNOW.
This is definitely something she should be wary about. Even so, the experience of moving and getting out of her comfort zone will probably have immense value given her position. These things have to be balanced against each other. To @I_Exist, make sure to keep separate financial accounts from your boyfriend, don't share passwords or anything with him, and keep a private channel of communication that he can't eavesdrop on. Some people neglect these precautions because it can feel like they're not trusting their partner enough, but they're really basic diligence that every person should do to keep themselves safe.
I agree with you, but at the same time lessons are learned from experience, she’s only spent two days with him, the idea she has labeled him her boyfriend is ridiculous, it will blow up, lesson learned, just hope she doesn’t get pregnant, she’ll have a baby by November at the speed she moves.
why would a man in california need an online girlfriend from pennsylvania, be skeptical of a man who can't find a girlfriend in a state with 40 million people. there could be nefarious motives.
lonely and depressed people can get pretty desperate. not necessarily gullible but naive and dismissive of red flags. especially since they don’t have a lot of experience in the “real world”. still hoping for the best for her tho.
The amount of people doesn't have a lot to do with it. If four million isn't enough, forty million won't be either. It has more to do with how your values line up with the majority of people there.
They've met before IRL twice + lots of online. Still, better to stay independent for a bit, and only then move in. But, it's really expensive to do so, so moving it, maybe not the worst scenario.
@@RIP212I know this is a month old and she's in a relationship with him now so we know more about him honestly it's going to be catastrophic she's not stable mentally she needs some good therapy and I've been through lots of it I'm recovering alcoholic and drug adequate multiple years sober from both she's a Catholic he's an atheist she said in a few comments that he identifies as non-binary which it means he doesn't identify as a male or female but is male biologically their personalities are way way way far apart He's a lot more extroverted than she is she don't have a job she's 100% dependent on him moving their under his roof she also said that he doesn't like to be called that he either and got upset with her a few times during communication through text this is a recipe for a disaster I moved 4 hours away from home to live with a chick It lasted 2 weeks😂😂😂😂😂 and we admit once in real life she came and stay with me for a weekend she seems super chill but when we live together she was nuts crazy she only wanted to be in a relationship because she felt like she needed to be loved and was desperate I wasn't and that's the exact same story as what this woman is doing but I only move 4 hours away from home
I made this mistake when I was in my 20s. Within a week we realized that we were not compatible. People are very different online than they are when you live with them. Best of luck
i'm excited for you. my first girlfriend. we met through the internet. and i moved her out from california to move in with me to iowa. we crashed and burned like 2 years later. but it was a learning experience for the both of us. and i have no regrets. we both learned a lot and we loved each other. but yea. hey you never know. you always gotta try.
In my experience, and from what I seen from others, this is an exception to the rule. More common taking such a big steps so early crashes and burns much sooner than that. And there are even more concerning things than that should not be overlooked. Best of luck to her but I hope she does feel desperate and pressured to make snap decisions.
I think your parents just said that to push you out. Crazy to not have picked up on that. You need to be more independent and not be tethered to a parent, boyfriend, etc. I
Good for you!! I literally just found one of your old videos yesterday. Glad to see you've made so much progress. All these things coming up that you are afraid of or nervous about, are things you have to just do. That's the only way I've gotten better with my social anxiety. It's never anywhere near as bad as what you make it out to be in your head. The more you get out of your comfort zone, the easier it will become. Not saying you have to be a social butterfly, but you'll at least get to a point where your anxiety isn't preventing you from doing things that you need to do for yourself. Good luck with all of it! Just take it a little bit at a time.
It's not just for someone she took a trip there and wants to live there I don't blame her.. better than moving to Italy with parents.. who knows.. better than being alone and never experiencing life
Its worth considering how many opportunities there are to make money in California. The weather is also way better in Califonia compared to PA. I am so grateful to be living here compared to any other state
LOL, she can't be safe...it's just not safe out here with the DA's running Los Angeles, Ventura, Santa Barbara, San Mateo, Santa Clara, Solano, Napa, San Diego, Sonoma, Monterey, Fresno, Sacramento, San Francisco and Alameda counties... Heck, we even had a state senator come out and finally admit they have been crafting legislation to protect human traffickers and grapeists a few months ago.
I visited Seattle for a year after living in Pa for 40+ years and I love Seattle I'm completely ready and willing to start a life elsewhere this pa weather too extreme 😅
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s If you don’t already understand, then I wouldn’t be able to explain it to you in a short time. Perhaps you could ponder the benefit to species survival of people having concern for others.
@@capslock4959 It's a lot funnier to imagine her running around California with a sleuth hat & a trench coat following her "boyfriend" around trying find out his secrets like a little detective lmao
@@NathanKefyalewmaybe she couldn't live with her parents forever but she does have a sister that has a house she could live with but moving across the country with somebody you don't know and now we know how it's turning out and it's not turning out to be very sweet
Even if something would go wrong, dont regret it. You need that change, I would really recommend him to read about SA a lot. I also hope he is someone who will be good even when the hot love wears off at some point. But in general, really happy for that change. You have this channel, more power to you!
You are a smart chika, keep your wits about you and you should be fine. You are in for culture shock going from PA to CA, expect this.... The big lights and new experiences can/will overwhelm you, again; keep your wits about you. Also please do not allow yourself to get into any situation that you can't get yourself back out of. :) My thoughts and prayers go with you on this new leg of your journey though life.
I wouldn't call someone who is moving across the country to live with someone the barely know as 'smart'. Sure, it can work out, but the odds are against it. Women foolishly cling on to the exception while ignoring the rule.
As a Californian...you have my condolences...good luck, hopefully your moving to the country. If you're moving to a city, don't leave your moving van unattended for a SECOND, it will get stolen. Don't leave anything unattended or unlocked unless you want it to get stolen. They will literally steal everything and anything, a few months ago a colony of bees was stolen in Berkeley.
I watched the viral video first before looking for this one so I'm happy to see things have turned around for you. This leap you're taking seems crazy but I love that you're just going for it! Who knows what can happen so please try to be safe and smart about things. Good luck.
@@DylanVolksVictim it’s either a glitch in the device the poster of this comment was using or a glitch in the RUclips system during the time they were using it to post.
@@chocolatewheelchair wasn't really talking to you but wishing to see a tragic ending to the life of a very vulnerable person is simply satanic. If you feel this describes you go for it.
Dale pa´lante flaca, yo sigo pensando que no es una buena idea, pero si tienes la corazonada que todo va a salir bien, te apoyo, te apoyamos. No dejes de publicar ;)
@@7yep4336dfgvvhroommates live separate lives. A lot of them don't talk to each other and only say hi. A boyfriend is completelly different. The only intention roommates have is having a place to live in without spending a lot of money on rent.
I got so very depressed and jealous when you announced that you had a boyfriend, even though I'm 73 with terminal cancer. You are such a beautiful person with a sweet heart that deserves to be treated like the princess that you are. The new boyfriend is one lucky man to have your love and he needs to know that there are other single men out there who would have loved to have known that you were out there and available. I pray that everything works out in your favor with the boyfriend and with the move to California. You Exist for a reason maybe this is it. Good luck and may GOD be with you.
"I sometimes want to be single". The autism psychologist Tony Atwood said that us that are on the spectrum need love, and affection, but not to the same extent as those who are neurotypical. Most people have a large bucket that need to be filled with love at all times, but those of us on the spectrum have a small cup that we need filled. If we get more than that dose of love we get overwhelmed and we can't handle it. We also have only a cup of love to give at any one time. My advise is if you are going to date to make sure they are also on the spectrum, that way the "love exchange" will be satisfying for both.
Must be terrible for you. Finding some guy in your DMs whos letting you move in with him only after a month of two of admitting you're a female version of a forever alone. Must be such a terrible existence.
It's completely understandable that you feel like a different person now - embracing new experiences and relationships can be both exciting and a little scary. It takes courage to step outside your comfort zone, especially when others don't fully understand. Your willingness to explore this new chapter shows a strength that many people admire, even if they can't articulate it.
I like You as a person and I'm pleasently surprised with the news for a man in your life and taking action by yourself. We all believe that You are on the right path! I wish You Luck and aaaalllll the Best in your future. Greatings from Eastern Europe!)))))
You think people telling you to be careful about a guy that you dont know is jealousy? You really need to grow up, girl. I get that you have no life experience, but that's so immature. I hope everything goes well but you're putting yourself in a terrible situation that could end really wrong.
At first I believed her story, now I'm wondering if she is making this up? Why I say that because look how staged the boxes in her room are. How will she continue this narrative after she moves in with bf? Will it be... here is me in my bf room and now I talk about how difficult it is to live in Cali and or how hard it is to be in a relationship. idk this whole story seems sus to me.
When I was younger, I met a girl online. We talked for years before we ever hung out. After spending about a week together, I bought her a ring. Been married 12 years now and we have a son. So yes, these things can work out.
Most people jump from relationship to relationship hoping the next person will make them happy. If you aren’t happy with your own company, you are fooling yourself. But for someone who hasn’t had a boyfriend, this might workout. I hope you have a back up plan. Good luck!
People are selfish and they hide themselves and then p when they get you in a position of control they turn into different people and then your life sucks You should be extremely careful I hate to hear that
I'm so happy for you. I hope all goes well in your relationship. You're a stunning woman and he's lucky to have you. All the best and good luck. Life will get better.
Noooo..don't do it please! I live in California and it's terrible you will probably regret this decision. Especially since you are making a decision out of emotion and emotion is never governed by reason. The reason the " nosey" questions probably bother you is because you don't know this man and it's making you deal with the fact you can't answer those questions. Don't mistake concern for meddling.
Seriously, if she isn't living in the ghetto of Philly so she's used to it, she's going to have a bad time out here. If she's living somewhere it's quiet and safe, she's going to have a REAL bad time.
@@mrsleep0000 If your only experience with California is living in a ghetto it may be time to go back to school. I've lived in California for decades and not once has anything bad happened to me or my family. Ultra-High-Net-Worth Individuals are defined as individuals worth over $30 million. California has 1400% more of them than PA. If the entire state is a ghetto, why do so many extraordinarily wealthy people *choose* to live here when they can live anywhere?
@@damonhtoo What an utterly stupid fucking comment. The reason is San Francisco, LA and Hollywood, and the tech industry / Silicon Valley. I am happy that you’re proud of your state for housing so many leeches, however!
Many people think it's too risky, but you have met this person twice and seem to have good intuition. I hope it works out for you. Safe travels with your move and looking forward to your next video.
Echoing what others have already said. Don't do this. You're nervous for a reason. Trust it. There are other ways to make changes in your life that are not going to be this catastrophic if it goes sideways.
@@nedflanders3769 Why? Shes just a grifter. She made a career off pretending to be a lonely female version of an inkwell, now she has a bf. No doubt she received hundreds of DMs from these desperate 51mps.
@@miyoskireads you should be realistic about a situation where you're moving across the country to live with a stranger. Optimism ends up with a Dateline episode
Any move is stressfull, and it's exactly been an instant spur-of-the-moment thing, you've been thinking about this for a very long time, you;ve been craving to change things. Nothing worst than years of regret at missed opportunities. I hope it works out great! "sometimes I like being single" - but that's totally normal, even for people in relationships. I struggle with people in general all the time, I get so anxious it drives me crazy and it's ruined alot of my life. I don't want to be singe all the time, I've got extremely depressed about it, but then when I do get close to anyone, I really, really realise that sometimes (often!) I really need to be alone. It's what I'm used to, and for parts of my life, I need that time. It would be pretty amazing (from what you've being saying about yourself for years) if you suddenly wanted to be with someone all day, everyday... spending time alone is as normal as breathing! 🙂
Spread your wings and go, it's a big world and so much to see and experience, take this time and dig deep and find yourself, I was in a very similar experience in the 90s, I found my place in the world, and have flourished ever since, I've done extremely well since and thank God for having his hand in my shoulder the entire time, and if ya don't believe, that's Totally ok too! Just follow your heart, stay relatively healthy, real safe and tuned into the world... finally, lol, say hi to your parents (good or bad) here and there and tell them you love them, trust me, you'll feel good and so will they...I've lost a lot of people in my life, and it sucks, so love while you can..and always remember, NOTHING is forever!😊
Happy to have you coming here for a fresh start! But worried about the situation, because you don't know this person very well. Reach out if you have any problems or concerns or need advice or help of any kind. Best of luck! Let us know that you're okay when you settle.
God bless you, M. I hope and pray things work out well for you. You have to mive beyond your fears in order to grow and be happy. And it is not easy, but if you don't try, then you are stuck where you are. Promise me that when you get settled and find being with people is not as stressful, you will go back to Mass. Good luck. I'm looking forward to seeing how things go.
It's normal to have thoughts about wanting to be alone because everyone has their own bubble. But since you have a boyfriend, I hope you can spend quality time together and appreciate each other. Also, it’s not that they are jealous of you but they just worry about you. I hope you don’t hate them, but rather understand their concerns. Wishing the best life for you.
At least if we don't hear from you again, we will know you have found your happy ever after. Every cloud has a silver lining. As long as you have some money saved or some sort of plan B just in case, I really don't see a problem. Good luck.
Lonely women just need to get out to fix the virgin thing and relationship issues. Lonely men not so much unless your a really young guy. Shame how that works, finding romantic partners isn't egalitarian for the sexes. If your some middle aged looser guy who hasn't ever been laid or in a relationship before you either go over seas or learn to love yourself. If your a girl just go to a populated area and learn to get out of your shell - men will accept you regardless. lol. I guess the trick is for men to not let it get that bad to begin with. I can tell you it's hard out there these days if your a childless older guy without much (or any) relationship or sexual experience or financial value, trying to attract younger women (which you almost HAVE to, because older women have kids and more demands). I have a friend who literally became a priest because at 37 he was still a virgin and never went to collage so he had no dating value. lol. Another buddy I have mo ed to Thailand at 40 because he had never been kissed in his life and had a dead end job and old car (was a chubby bald guy too) - he figured he would be 'exotic' looking there and his money would go farther. I sadly also had ANOTHER friend who ended up moving up into the mountains of West Virginia because he had no money to his name and at 43 had never even had a highschool girlfriend and having grownup without a sister, had no clue how to even talk to women. So he moved into a 20k doublewide trailer he traded a truck for and became a hermit. Then when his younger brother finally got married, on the day of his brother wedding (instead of attending) he got drunk and took his life on the same very day because he knew he would be alone. Lmao. So life's cruel. And if you guys are wondering why I know people like this, it's because a lot of my friends are elder millennial nerds who ended up being affected by the great recession and housing bubble of 2008 and had their lives basically out on hold. And since these guys had social issues and no real family financially help them, they got locked into bad employment and then aged out of the dating market. Because we're a woman's job is irrelevant - after 25 or 28, you start finding that younger women expect you to own things (including a home or nice apartment and car) if they give a 'older' guy a chance. If your broke, aging, not some great looking guy, and have no relationship experience neither the milfs or the younger women want you. And it's a self fulfilling prophecy because the older you get waiting to find love, the longer you go without experience, and the older women get the MORE they require experience. So a lot of guys fall between those cracks and get lost do to no fault of their own. While for women it's not like that. Usually their limitations are simply in their head. Which still feels very real and can be debilitating, but are hardily impossible to overcome. But I am happy for this girl. I saw a few of her older videos, so hopefully this doesn't end up a big mistake for her and she's over there in a bad relationship and ends up being kicked out. I would also be careful, because many of the guys asking questions are desperate and here because they think they might have a chance. It's rare that older virgin men see a girl who isn't 19 or something who says she's lonely and can't find someone... it's like waving a steak in front of a bear after hibernation. So be careful what you put out there. Good luck.
Pretty much. That's how life and society works and the kicker is nobody gives AF about men's problems such as this one. I came to realize all this In college and I've been proven right ever since
You literally look like the younger version of me, it's uncanny! If you are happy, that's all that matters. I moved in fast with ex-boyfriends in the past from age 17 and well into my 20's, but it was still in the same town as my family, so I can understand why it's scary for you. However, none of those relationships worked out - because I got bored and left them after a short while... It was a great life experience though. I did learn a lot about myself. Sometimes you've just gotta get out there and make the mistakes so that you can level up. I'm now married to a man I met at age 30, we moved in together after a few months of meeting when he proposed marriage, then married a year later, but I knew the moment we met he would be my husband - all because of the experiences I had in the past, so I knew when the right one came along. Maybe with your lack of experience being independent, moving out is going to be the best thing you ever did. Stay safe, and stay connected with your family and friends
Hi, catching up from your previous video. I'm excited that you've found a boyfriend! And happy that you're moving! This will be an exciting new chapter in your life ✨️ I've never lived with a partner but I imagine you'll need to be prepared to learn A LOT. My advice would be, make lots of new friends in your new environment and find people that you'll be able to trust and rely on. If things go good or things go bad, its good to have true friends who you can rely on. Be smart, be wise, and be happy, go for it! Stay safe and take care. I wish you all the best ✨️
This is the best advice. Some of the dudes commenting here seem to just be salty that their forever alone crush has a boyfriend and it isn't them. Just making sure she has a friend group is the most important.
@damonhtoo lol. Some people are only commenting because they also don't want to see her get hurt. She obviously has depression issues, if this obviously bad idea becomes the worse case scenario, she can be traumatized in a very dangerous way. I am surprised by the amount of people that want her to do this, knowing it's a bad idea. It's like you guys want her to suffer?
@luisblanco4371 Hey, well I noted that she's a grown adult 🤷♀️ Grown adults are old enough to make their own decisions - whether we like it or not, unfortunately 🤷♀️ The people commenting have never met her in real life, nor are they her guardian -- so to "demand" that she "doesn't do something," or call her "stupid," or other names (as some have done) because they don't agree with her choices, don't help anyone. If this is the decision she's made, I can only advise her to build a good network around her. Whether it turns out good, (as things can in rare cases), or it turns out bad - having a lot of people around you who give support and who you can trust is a good thing 🤨 Personally, I'd never do what she's doing. But this is the road she's choosing - as a legalee old enough person to do so 🤷♀️ To reply to my comment that "It's like I want to see her suffa..." - You use strong words... I didn't say that anywhere 🧐🧐🧐 How do you know I've not got personal stuff going on and you've just left that reply for me, huh?... Maybe you are genuinely coming from a place of care for her, but in doing so you've left an unkind comment to me? 🙃 If your comment is truly coming from a place of care, where's the consistency?... 🤷♀️ You don't *know* anyone in this thread. If you've got a better idea and your solution is to stop her, you'd better go find her and stop her then.
@@lisab1854 I am not sure what point you’re making about some people “demanding” that she does what they want. I guess you want to know if I agree with them or not? I would need an example to know if these comments are bad like you are saying they are. If knew her personally I would help her to move on her own. I would actually even lend her money so that she can have real choices. What she is doing is not even a choice. She is being forced to it because she has no other option. That’s why I find it wild that this guy who is supposed to care about her is trying to box her in with him and not give her a chance to flourish on her own. But I have no opinion one way or another if she really does want to discern marriage with this guy. I would not care that she would continue to be with the guy after she moves on her own. But based on the signs, I am sure that the moment she starts thinking for what is best for her, this guy will leave. If that happens while she is living with him, It will be the worse situation for her. My comment was not addressed to you. I don’t see an issue with saying that you want to see her suffering, if I think you are encouraging her to make this choice. I don’t see that there is anything for her to gain out of this decision but suffering. Under my assumption, your feeling of being insulted or being misrepresented is unimportant because you would be causing her harm indirectly. Either way my comment was not to you.
Life is good, take some care on your needs and be careful, let your sister informed about anything and everything should be ok. I would suggest travelling to Italy just for holidays, living there is not so good for young people. California is awesome, buy a longboard or a bike and enjoy the coolest place ever, i found myself walking there for hours, with loads of nice shops and places to go, and you gonna find a cool job there as well, in my head it's already playing the wild world song
As someone whos lived in California for many years, its really not as bad as the media makes it out to be. There is amazing incredible nature. In one hour drive you can be in the pines in the mountains, on a subtropical beach, or in a desert. Definitely lots to do for an outdoor enthusiast like me, but also for city people too. You can easily find a job as a waitress and youll notice customers are nicer here and theyll tip better. On the flipside theirs a lot of crime, drugs and homelessness, just be careful in certain areas, especially in LA.
My Dear, you told us you read all the comments of the watchers of your channel. I am so happy you found your boyfriend. Let the very best of luck be at your side, you deserve no less than that!
I would never move in with anyone after meeting them twice but at least you DID meet him in person more than once. So if you’re confident enough to take that leap, just do it and ignore everyone else’s opinion.
You should check out the video of the state senator here that admitted, on her way out the door a few months ago, they have been crafting legislation to protect traffickers and grapeists.
It's insane how most people just can't be happy for other people's desire to improve their situation. They should be offering well wishes and assistance. Even if that assistance is meaningless and superficial. As I always say, give love a chance and let love have the last word! Good luck to New beginnings!!
Positive or negative outcome I think it needed to be done. I went through a similar dilemma at your age but even though it was many "downs" and just few "ups" I would do it all over again, no hesitations. All the best to you.
I’m proud of you. You would have never had the opportunity for personal growth. Regardless of where you end up, you are adding experiences. With those experiences, you will be able to continue to grow and make decisions based on them. You are a beautiful and authentic person and you deserve happiness. All of the anxiety will be worth it. Safe travels.
How the hell do you find a partner in another state!? Just curious as online dating is trash for average men. Im older so I dont understand how the younger people manage to meet online. I used to do well with online dating but that was b4 social media changed everything for average men. i see alot of women who claim they are happiest alone with a career but I suspect that isnt really true. God intended man and woman to be together and build families yet here we are with so many miserable lonely people. I read an article the other day that said like 68% of people feel lonely at least part of the time. Thats very concerning for society. People are probably jealous cause so many are lonely today.🙏
I think moving in with him is a bit sudden. You should probably visit him as much as you can. Try to find out if he’s an axe murderer. Make sure he’s a normal person before investing so much of yourself like that. Otherwise, be happy! You’re living life. Screw what everyone else thinks! I am on Team Cautious though. Hope everything works out for you.
Don't listen to the people telling you not to move to California. The top comment telling you it's controlling is super weird. Keep in mind all those people asking what race your bf is or if he's trans... that's racist, intolerant people who have toxic beliefs about a very beautiful, progressive state. Many of the people here telling you not to go are going to have similar biases. Welcome to Cali! Glad to have yet another cool person here. Edit: Also keep in mind that some of the men commenting may have a crush on you and actually be jealous.
You are doing right sharing that how you can improve im in my room always single alone but i know everything will be fine... Don't talk about your love... Rule. 1
Please make sure you have some connections outside of your parents. People are asking you these questions about your boyfriend because they care about you. This is a huge decision, make sure you have a source of income too.
Don’t be scared I’m also going to Indiana and I’m scared of the newness but I know it’s best for me for a fresh start , what would you like to accomplish in cali ? And are you moving to be with him ? I’m moving to be near a guy I want and I get nervous , but I know if it don’t work out with him then it’s not the end of the world
Yeah that was my first video of her’s that I saw as well two months ago, I was like damn she’s the female version of me because everything she was talking about sounded like the same exact life I have and surprisingly her life quickly changed.
Wishing you all the best! I hope that you find your happiness 👍 Just to add, that it's very common to be nervous before a big change. Most folks fear change!
I hope it works out with the boyfriend, but if not, at least you'll be in a new state with new possibilities. I would be pissed if I thought I was moving to Italy and then not. Good luck!
I get it. You're lonely and depressed. It will have you make rash and irrational decisions. Moving in with a person you don't know is definitely that. I hope you don't think that this person is "the one" already. What if the relationship ends? What will you do then in California? You have to think about this stuff. This relationship is already moving way too fast. All I can say is that I wish you the best in this decision and nothing bad happens.
An algorithm recommended this to me, oh boi, watch out girl, something gonna happen in a long term. Hoping for best, but enjoy even if the worst happens.
Sometimes in life we don't realize how wonderful people are until they're no longer there. I empathize with your loneliness. Italy sounds beautiful, I've always wanted to visit. I don't think I'll ever visit in my lifetime or whatever is left of it
Good luck! I'm excited for you, and I hope everything works out. Try to remember that there'll definitely be an adjustment period. For most people, the first month is hard. Months 2 through 6 are exciting and fun. And then months 7 through 12 are HARD and often very depressing. But... silver lining, after that 12 month mark, everything is pretty much all upsides from then on out as the adjustment has fully set in. Yeah... that line of questioning is weird. Just make sure that your parents know the address you're moving to and have like a photo of your boyfriend's driver's license. Almost certainly you'll be fine, but taking extra precautions will only make that very likely situation even more likely. And double yeah, people are likely jealous. Sometimes protectiveness and jealousy can clash in weird ways, too. But all of that crap will pass. And, even if something doesn't work out, you can always move again. But I'll still be keeping my fingers crossed for you.
I think your channel is going to grow quite big, it's already grown a lot. Seeing you at your lowest point and how you took steps to improve your life and escape your controlling parents, is going to inspire others who are in the same position you once were to also take action.
You are moving to california not because of you are ready to new life lesson, that is cuz of your parents are threatening to push you out of their house i dont think so california is too scary, but your situation is, first threat your mental health, take some trainings that may help you, after you empowered yourself and became independent, you can move to california after months or a year also living with bf doesn't deserve u, marriage is a better thing finally some comments you considered as jealousy may help you, wish you better life❤
You are wonderfully calm and well spoken. Demure and naturally beautiful. Maybe you will be discovered and celebrated🌠 I wish you every happiness, including safety and freedom.🙏
I've watched some of your videos and I enjoyed them. You seem like a nice person and I wish you the best. I think you see yourself differently than the rest of the world does. I see an intelligent, beautiful young woman who should have more self-worth and self-esteem. Moving to California to move in with a guy that you barely know seems like a bad idea to me. There are a lot of sick people out there - especially online. I'm not saying your boyfriend is one of them, I'm just saying be careful because you seem like a person that is vulnerable to being abused. You don't deserve to be treated bad by anyone ever! Good Luck and keep us informed about what's going on in your life because it's interesting and I truly hope everything goes great for you in California
The good thing about hope is you believing it will be ok and it’s a good move… The bad thing about hope is it removes the reality of the situation… do be safe , do prepare for the worst, don’t reply or him or anyone, you will be alone there from what it sounds like.. let that sink in, not saying you’re incapable. Just don’t let feelings cloud your judgement. Many people do, we realized this person isn’t my person , or the other way around. Internet vs reality Distance vs in person , Just be safe , to anyone doing such. It’s good to take risks, but be prepared.
I’m originally from Pa and right now I currently live in California it’s a bit more expensive out here but the weather is great, I live by Riverside California so hope it will be a good experience for you my friend
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As a man my advice is WAIT DON'T MOVE STRAIGHT IN WITH A GUY THAT YOU DON'T KNOW!!!!! Loneliness is a depressing thing, and rash decisions are made because of it. Find a short term rental and get to know your boyfriend first. To me this reeks of control, manipulation and DANGER.
GET HIM come stay with you first. DO ANYTHING EXCEPT MOVE ACROSS THE COUNTRY FOR A BOY Y9U DON'T KNOW.
This is definitely something she should be wary about. Even so, the experience of moving and getting out of her comfort zone will probably have immense value given her position. These things have to be balanced against each other. To @I_Exist, make sure to keep separate financial accounts from your boyfriend, don't share passwords or anything with him, and keep a private channel of communication that he can't eavesdrop on. Some people neglect these precautions because it can feel like they're not trusting their partner enough, but they're really basic diligence that every person should do to keep themselves safe.
Hell yes your absolutely right..this is definitely a risky endevour
I agree with you, but at the same time lessons are learned from experience, she’s only spent two days with him, the idea she has labeled him her boyfriend is ridiculous, it will blow up, lesson learned, just hope she doesn’t get pregnant, she’ll have a baby by November at the speed she moves.
@@santacruz3600 yeah I'm concerned he might just be using her
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Something about your authenticity comes through well in these videos. Yeah, moving is stressful so take it easy. Thanks for sharing!
why would a man in california need an online girlfriend from pennsylvania, be skeptical of a man who can't find a girlfriend in a state with 40 million people. there could be nefarious motives.
lonely and depressed people can get pretty desperate. not necessarily gullible but naive and dismissive of red flags. especially since they don’t have a lot of experience in the “real world”.
still hoping for the best for her tho.
The amount of people doesn't have a lot to do with it. If four million isn't enough, forty million won't be either. It has more to do with how your values line up with the majority of people there.
Show this guy to your fans, document your progress and grow emotionally, God bless you
Someone's jealous 😂
I live in the same state with 40 million people, and cant find a girlfriend. The struggle is real
Be safe. Keep posting every day so everybody here knows you're safe. Be careful.
Do not move in.
Just find a place to rent and get to know him a bit better, spend a day together or smth.
Not a good idea
They've met before IRL twice + lots of online.
Still, better to stay independent for a bit, and only then move in. But, it's really expensive to do so, so moving it, maybe not the worst scenario.
A day, more like a year before even considering moving in with someone.
@@RIP212I know this is a month old and she's in a relationship with him now so we know more about him honestly it's going to be catastrophic she's not stable mentally she needs some good therapy and I've been through lots of it I'm recovering alcoholic and drug adequate multiple years sober from both she's a Catholic he's an atheist she said in a few comments that he identifies as non-binary which it means he doesn't identify as a male or female but is male biologically their personalities are way way way far apart He's a lot more extroverted than she is she don't have a job she's 100% dependent on him moving their under his roof she also said that he doesn't like to be called that he either and got upset with her a few times during communication through text this is a recipe for a disaster I moved 4 hours away from home to live with a chick It lasted 2 weeks😂😂😂😂😂 and we admit once in real life she came and stay with me for a weekend she seems super chill but when we live together she was nuts crazy she only wanted to be in a relationship because she felt like she needed to be loved and was desperate I wasn't and that's the exact same story as what this woman is doing but I only move 4 hours away from home
I made this mistake when I was in my 20s. Within a week we realized that we were not compatible. People are very different online than they are when you live with them. Best of luck
i'm excited for you. my first girlfriend. we met through the internet. and i moved her out from california to move in with me to iowa. we crashed and burned like 2 years later. but it was a learning experience for the both of us. and i have no regrets. we both learned a lot and we loved each other. but yea. hey you never know. you always gotta try.
In my experience, and from what I seen from others, this is an exception to the rule.
More common taking such a big steps so early crashes and burns much sooner than that.
And there are even more concerning things than that should not be overlooked.
Best of luck to her but I hope she does feel desperate and pressured to make snap decisions.
I grew up 30 years in council bluffs Iowa which is about 10 minutes from Omaha Nebraska the last 10 years I have moved and lived in Memphis Tennessee
I think your parents just said that to push you out. Crazy to not have picked up on that. You need to be more independent and not be tethered to a parent, boyfriend, etc. I
Very sad and cruel. Don't have kids if you are not willing to support them
Made up my mind to make a new start. Going to California with an aching in my heart. ~ Led Zeppelin (1971)
Good for you!! I literally just found one of your old videos yesterday. Glad to see you've made so much progress. All these things coming up that you are afraid of or nervous about, are things you have to just do. That's the only way I've gotten better with my social anxiety. It's never anywhere near as bad as what you make it out to be in your head. The more you get out of your comfort zone, the easier it will become. Not saying you have to be a social butterfly, but you'll at least get to a point where your anxiety isn't preventing you from doing things that you need to do for yourself. Good luck with all of it! Just take it a little bit at a time.
I live in PA also!! I couldnt imagine packing up and moving to California for someone. I wish you the best..PLEASE BE SAFE!!
It's not just for someone she took a trip there and wants to live there I don't blame her.. better than moving to Italy with parents.. who knows.. better than being alone and never experiencing life
Its worth considering how many opportunities there are to make money in California. The weather is also way better in Califonia compared to PA. I am so grateful to be living here compared to any other state
LOL, she can't be safe...it's just not safe out here with the DA's running Los Angeles, Ventura, Santa Barbara, San Mateo, Santa Clara, Solano, Napa, San Diego, Sonoma, Monterey, Fresno, Sacramento, San Francisco and Alameda counties...
Heck, we even had a state senator come out and finally admit they have been crafting legislation to protect human traffickers and grapeists a few months ago.
I visited Seattle for a year after living in Pa for 40+ years and I love Seattle I'm completely ready and willing to start a life elsewhere this pa weather too extreme 😅
@kcsnipes that's one of PA's positives! If you don't like the weather just wait 15 min., it'll change!!
Dont get pregnant until you two really really want that, take precautions girl
She said he’s trans right so might not be a problem
I hope you know what you're getting yourself into. Did you run a background investigation on him?
Lol why do you or anyone care? It's her damn life
@@user-ue4fh5mv9s If you don’t already understand, then I wouldn’t be able to explain it to you in a short time. Perhaps you could ponder the benefit to species survival of people having concern for others.
Yeah, she can afford a private eye, sure 🤣🤣🤣
@@JillRobertsIsmyGFyou don't need a P.I to look up someones criminal record, derp
@@capslock4959 It's a lot funnier to imagine her running around California with a sleuth hat & a trench coat following her "boyfriend" around trying find out his secrets like a little detective lmao
Bad idea.
I agree, I'm a man and this screams of control, manipulation and danger. He will use his dominant situation and she is in serious trouble.
Yep her decision has a risk. But she had no choice, she will not live with her parents forever.😮
@@peterharris9022he could be a very nice guy we don’t know that, she does..
Gr8 comment. It's short & gets to the point quick. 🤣🤣🤣
@@NathanKefyalewmaybe she couldn't live with her parents forever but she does have a sister that has a house she could live with but moving across the country with somebody you don't know and now we know how it's turning out and it's not turning out to be very sweet
Even if something would go wrong, dont regret it. You need that change, I would really recommend him to read about SA a lot. I also hope he is someone who will be good even when the hot love wears off at some point. But in general, really happy for that change. You have this channel, more power to you!
I'm assuming SA is sexual assault? If he's sexualky assaulted someone b4 he should be reprimanded to being an incel the rest of his life
@@SirSmokesAlot-r8k SA is social anxiety
Wow, what an adventure. Congratulations, and best of luck
You are a smart chika, keep your wits about you and you should be fine. You are in for culture shock going from PA to CA, expect this.... The big lights and new experiences can/will overwhelm you, again; keep your wits about you. Also please do not allow yourself to get into any situation that you can't get yourself back out of. :) My thoughts and prayers go with you on this new leg of your journey though life.
I wouldn't call someone who is moving across the country to live with someone the barely know as 'smart'. Sure, it can work out, but the odds are against it. Women foolishly cling on to the exception while ignoring the rule.
My dear please be careful and make sure that your mom and dad can track you❤
I think you'll do well in California and I hope the best for you!
i think she'll be an easy target in cali by predators. seems like a gentle soul that is going to be taken advantage of
As a Californian...you have my condolences...good luck, hopefully your moving to the country.
If you're moving to a city, don't leave your moving van unattended for a SECOND, it will get stolen. Don't leave anything unattended or unlocked unless you want it to get stolen. They will literally steal everything and anything, a few months ago a colony of bees was stolen in Berkeley.
I watched the viral video first before looking for this one so I'm happy to see things have turned around for you. This leap you're taking seems crazy but I love that you're just going for it! Who knows what can happen so please try to be safe and smart about things. Good luck.
so "he's" an 18 year old north korean? awesome
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Moving is stressful. Hang in there.
How did you comment on this 3 weeks ago
@@DylanVolksVictim it’s either a glitch in the device the poster of this comment was using or a glitch in the RUclips system during the time they were using it to post.
@@richardcarte I think it's actually her boyfriend and this was recorded a while ago, but unlisted
@@richardcarte, Or a glitch in the matrix.
it's a sign, maybe 4 months is how long the relationship will last.
The moving to LA /Get murdered by new bf story arc has me invested.!!!
Yeah that guy's body count has got to be about as high as her view count sexually.
Don’t unfollow now will she post with her man will he make her delete her channel
You're an awful person, be careful with karma though
@@tubethis777 what do people like you always threaten “karma” on people?
@@chocolatewheelchair wasn't really talking to you but wishing to see a tragic ending to the life of a very vulnerable person is simply satanic. If you feel this describes you go for it.
Dale pa´lante flaca, yo sigo pensando que no es una buena idea, pero si tienes la corazonada que todo va a salir bien, te apoyo, te apoyamos. No dejes de publicar ;)
Do you have a job in California? Usually people find a job before making the move.
Unless they have a lot of money saved because they lived at home and banked all there earnings.
I think the anxiety is because California is one of the worst possible places to move to right now. Learn to cook asap.
Why learn to cook?
@@te9591 cmBecause eating out in Cali will bankrupt you. And her boyfriend might kick her out like her parents did if she doesn't contribute.
@@MintyFreshTurds yeah, same here in Denver.
"Already met him twice in person", that doesn't seem quite enough time to decide that you know him enough to move in with him imo
Why? People move in with roommates they never met all the time
@@7yep4336dfgvvhroommates live separate lives. A lot of them don't talk to each other and only say hi. A boyfriend is completelly different. The only intention roommates have is having a place to live in without spending a lot of money on rent.
The old “moving to Italy” trick to get the adult daughter out of the house. Props to your parents haha
I have a cousin whose parents just moved out while he stayed in the house.
I got so very depressed and jealous when you announced that you had a boyfriend, even though I'm 73 with terminal cancer. You are such a beautiful person with a sweet heart that deserves to be treated like the princess that you are. The new boyfriend is one lucky man to have your love and he needs to know that there are other single men out there who would have loved to have known that you were out there and available. I pray that everything works out in your favor with the boyfriend and with the move to California. You Exist for a reason maybe this is it. Good luck and may GOD be with you.
"I sometimes want to be single". The autism psychologist Tony Atwood said that us that are on the spectrum need love, and affection, but not to the same extent as those who are neurotypical. Most people have a large bucket that need to be filled with love at all times, but those of us on the spectrum have a small cup that we need filled. If we get more than that dose of love we get overwhelmed and we can't handle it. We also have only a cup of love to give at any one time. My advise is if you are going to date to make sure they are also on the spectrum, that way the "love exchange" will be satisfying for both.
Lonely people do irrational things. Stay safe.
That’s Beautiful. Congratulations
Must be terrible for you. Finding some guy in your DMs whos letting you move in with him only after a month of two of admitting you're a female version of a forever alone. Must be such a terrible existence.
periodt
They communicated online for 5 or 6 months online..that is not a 1 month friendship
@@NathanKefyalewI have a burrito in my fridge I’ve had a longer relationship with 😂
@@NathanKefyalew That's not very long, you can't really know anyone in that amount of time, little lone move in with them!?
It's completely understandable that you feel like a different person now - embracing new experiences and relationships can be both exciting and a little scary. It takes courage to step outside your comfort zone, especially when others don't fully understand. Your willingness to explore this new chapter shows a strength that many people admire, even if they can't articulate it.
I like You as a person and I'm pleasently surprised with the news for a man in your life and taking action by yourself. We all believe that You are on the right path! I wish You Luck and aaaalllll the Best in your future. Greatings from Eastern Europe!)))))
You think people telling you to be careful about a guy that you dont know is jealousy? You really need to grow up, girl. I get that you have no life experience, but that's so immature. I hope everything goes well but you're putting yourself in a terrible situation that could end really wrong.
At first I believed her story, now I'm wondering if she is making this up? Why I say that because look how staged the boxes in her room are. How will she continue this narrative after she moves in with bf? Will it be... here is me in my bf room and now I talk about how difficult it is to live in Cali and or how hard it is to be in a relationship. idk this whole story seems sus to me.
@@sun_paper_girlya, but I think so version of her life experience before months may be years😢
@@NathanKefyalew lol so there is an alternate timeline where she does move to Italy with her parents ?
Greetings from Bucks county Pennsylvania 🇺🇸. Please keep everyone updated.
When I was younger, I met a girl online. We talked for years before we ever hung out. After spending about a week together, I bought her a ring. Been married 12 years now and we have a son. So yes, these things can work out.
Most people jump from relationship to relationship hoping the next person will make them happy. If you aren’t happy with your own company, you are fooling yourself. But for someone who hasn’t had a boyfriend, this might workout. I hope you have a back up plan. Good luck!
I wish you all the best!! ❤❤❤
Good. Live your life. Experience all there is to experience.
I believe in you. You've already come so far. I'd be stupid to doubt you can go any further. So happy for you broski!! Go live life to the fullest
I have a few relatives that live in California, they live by Long Beach they love the weather.
People are selfish and they hide themselves and then p when they get you in a position of control they turn into different people and then your life sucks You should be extremely careful I hate to hear that
I'm so happy for you. I hope all goes well in your relationship. You're a stunning woman and he's lucky to have you. All the best and good luck. Life will get better.
Noooo..don't do it please! I live in California and it's terrible you will probably regret this decision. Especially since you are making a decision out of emotion and emotion is never governed by reason. The reason the " nosey" questions probably bother you is because you don't know this man and it's making you deal with the fact you can't answer those questions. Don't mistake concern for meddling.
Seriously, if she isn't living in the ghetto of Philly so she's used to it, she's going to have a bad time out here. If she's living somewhere it's quiet and safe, she's going to have a REAL bad time.
@@mrsleep0000 If your only experience with California is living in a ghetto it may be time to go back to school. I've lived in California for decades and not once has anything bad happened to me or my family. Ultra-High-Net-Worth Individuals are defined as individuals worth over $30 million. California has 1400% more of them than PA. If the entire state is a ghetto, why do so many extraordinarily wealthy people *choose* to live here when they can live anywhere?
@@damonhtoo What an utterly stupid fucking comment. The reason is San Francisco, LA and Hollywood, and the tech industry / Silicon Valley. I am happy that you’re proud of your state for housing so many leeches, however!
I applaud your courage, please take care.
Many people think it's too risky, but you have met this person twice and seem to have good intuition. I hope it works out for you. Safe travels with your move and looking forward to your next video.
Only meeting the person twice and then moving in together? Probably not the best decision. Maybe if she got her own place first, then it may work out.
You deserve to be happy I wish you all the best 🌹
Echoing what others have already said. Don't do this. You're nervous for a reason. Trust it. There are other ways to make changes in your life that are not going to be this catastrophic if it goes sideways.
You'll be back with your parents by Christmas. This is going to explode spectacularly
Way to be supportive!! 😅
@@nedflanders3769 Why? Shes just a grifter. She made a career off pretending to be a lonely female version of an inkwell, now she has a bf. No doubt she received hundreds of DMs from these desperate 51mps.
🤣😛😂 These things usually don't work out.
It's inauspicious to be pessimistic at the beginning of something like this. Better to start with hopes, even if things go south later 🙏
@@miyoskireads you should be realistic about a situation where you're moving across the country to live with a stranger. Optimism ends up with a Dateline episode
Internet relationships are always too good to be true, don’t fall for it
Any move is stressfull, and it's exactly been an instant spur-of-the-moment thing, you've been thinking about this for a very long time, you;ve been craving to change things. Nothing worst than years of regret at missed opportunities. I hope it works out great!
"sometimes I like being single" - but that's totally normal, even for people in relationships. I struggle with people in general all the time, I get so anxious it drives me crazy and it's ruined alot of my life. I don't want to be singe all the time, I've got extremely depressed about it, but then when I do get close to anyone, I really, really realise that sometimes (often!) I really need to be alone. It's what I'm used to, and for parts of my life, I need that time. It would be pretty amazing (from what you've being saying about yourself for years) if you suddenly wanted to be with someone all day, everyday... spending time alone is as normal as breathing! 🙂
Moving in with a stranger will not fix anything. Please reevaluate your choice.
Spread your wings and go, it's a big world and so much to see and experience, take this time and dig deep and find yourself, I was in a very similar experience in the 90s, I found my place in the world, and have flourished ever since, I've done extremely well since and thank God for having his hand in my shoulder the entire time, and if ya don't believe, that's
Totally ok too! Just follow your heart, stay relatively healthy, real safe and tuned into the world... finally, lol, say hi to your parents (good or bad) here and there and tell them you love them, trust me, you'll feel good and so will they...I've lost a lot of people in my life, and it sucks, so love while you can..and always remember, NOTHING is forever!😊
Happy to have you coming here for a fresh start! But worried about the situation, because you don't know this person very well. Reach out if you have any problems or concerns or need advice or help of any kind. Best of luck! Let us know that you're okay when you settle.
California has a lot of wonderful things to offer---sunshine, sea breeze, beaches...traffic can be pretty bad...the malls are amazing too.
Tell the truth
God bless you, M. I hope and pray things work out well for you. You have to mive beyond your fears in order to grow and be happy. And it is not easy, but if you don't try, then you are stuck where you are. Promise me that when you get settled and find being with people is not as stressful, you will go back to Mass. Good luck. I'm looking forward to seeing how things go.
Just as long as you're sure that this is the right thing to do. Good luck.👍
It's normal to have thoughts about wanting to be alone because everyone has their own bubble. But since you have a boyfriend, I hope you can spend quality time together and appreciate each other. Also, it’s not that they are jealous of you but they just worry about you. I hope you don’t hate them, but rather understand their concerns. Wishing the best life for you.
At least if we don't hear from you again, we will know you have found your happy ever after. Every cloud has a silver lining. As long as you have some money saved or some sort of plan B just in case, I really don't see a problem. Good luck.
Lonely women just need to get out to fix the virgin thing and relationship issues. Lonely men not so much unless your a really young guy. Shame how that works, finding romantic partners isn't egalitarian for the sexes.
If your some middle aged looser guy who hasn't ever been laid or in a relationship before you either go over seas or learn to love yourself. If your a girl just go to a populated area and learn to get out of your shell - men will accept you regardless. lol.
I guess the trick is for men to not let it get that bad to begin with. I can tell you it's hard out there these days if your a childless older guy without much (or any) relationship or sexual experience or financial value, trying to attract younger women (which you almost HAVE to, because older women have kids and more demands).
I have a friend who literally became a priest because at 37 he was still a virgin and never went to collage so he had no dating value. lol. Another buddy I have mo ed to Thailand at 40 because he had never been kissed in his life and had a dead end job and old car (was a chubby bald guy too) - he figured he would be 'exotic' looking there and his money would go farther.
I sadly also had ANOTHER friend who ended up moving up into the mountains of West Virginia because he had no money to his name and at 43 had never even had a highschool girlfriend and having grownup without a sister, had no clue how to even talk to women. So he moved into a 20k doublewide trailer he traded a truck for and became a hermit. Then when his younger brother finally got married, on the day of his brother wedding (instead of attending) he got drunk and took his life on the same very day because he knew he would be alone.
Lmao. So life's cruel.
And if you guys are wondering why I know people like this, it's because a lot of my friends are elder millennial nerds who ended up being affected by the great recession and housing bubble of 2008 and had their lives basically out on hold. And since these guys had social issues and no real family financially help them, they got locked into bad employment and then aged out of the dating market.
Because we're a woman's job is irrelevant - after 25 or 28, you start finding that younger women expect you to own things (including a home or nice apartment and car) if they give a 'older' guy a chance. If your broke, aging, not some great looking guy, and have no relationship experience neither the milfs or the younger women want you.
And it's a self fulfilling prophecy because the older you get waiting to find love, the longer you go without experience, and the older women get the MORE they require experience. So a lot of guys fall between those cracks and get lost do to no fault of their own. While for women it's not like that. Usually their limitations are simply in their head. Which still feels very real and can be debilitating, but are hardily impossible to overcome.
But I am happy for this girl. I saw a few of her older videos, so hopefully this doesn't end up a big mistake for her and she's over there in a bad relationship and ends up being kicked out.
I would also be careful, because many of the guys asking questions are desperate and here because they think they might have a chance. It's rare that older virgin men see a girl who isn't 19 or something who says she's lonely and can't find someone... it's like waving a steak in front of a bear after hibernation. So be careful what you put out there. Good luck.
Great comment. Sorry about your friend.
Pretty much. That's how life and society works and the kicker is nobody gives AF about men's problems such
as this one. I came to realize all this In college and I've been proven right ever since
You literally look like the younger version of me, it's uncanny! If you are happy, that's all that matters. I moved in fast with ex-boyfriends in the past from age 17 and well into my 20's, but it was still in the same town as my family, so I can understand why it's scary for you. However, none of those relationships worked out - because I got bored and left them after a short while... It was a great life experience though. I did learn a lot about myself. Sometimes you've just gotta get out there and make the mistakes so that you can level up. I'm now married to a man I met at age 30, we moved in together after a few months of meeting when he proposed marriage, then married a year later, but I knew the moment we met he would be my husband - all because of the experiences I had in the past, so I knew when the right one came along. Maybe with your lack of experience being independent, moving out is going to be the best thing you ever did. Stay safe, and stay connected with your family and friends
This won't end badly.
Hi, catching up from your previous video. I'm excited that you've found a boyfriend! And happy that you're moving! This will be an exciting new chapter in your life ✨️ I've never lived with a partner but I imagine you'll need to be prepared to learn A LOT.
My advice would be, make lots of new friends in your new environment and find people that you'll be able to trust and rely on. If things go good or things go bad, its good to have true friends who you can rely on. Be smart, be wise, and be happy, go for it! Stay safe and take care. I wish you all the best ✨️
This is the best advice. Some of the dudes commenting here seem to just be salty that their forever alone crush has a boyfriend and it isn't them. Just making sure she has a friend group is the most important.
@damonhtoo lol. Some people are only commenting because they also don't want to see her get hurt. She obviously has depression issues, if this obviously bad idea becomes the worse case scenario, she can be traumatized in a very dangerous way. I am surprised by the amount of people that want her to do this, knowing it's a bad idea. It's like you guys want her to suffer?
@luisblanco4371 Hey, well I noted that she's a grown adult 🤷♀️ Grown adults are old enough to make their own decisions - whether we like it or not, unfortunately 🤷♀️ The people commenting have never met her in real life, nor are they her guardian -- so to "demand" that she "doesn't do something," or call her "stupid," or other names (as some have done) because they don't agree with her choices, don't help anyone.
If this is the decision she's made, I can only advise her to build a good network around her. Whether it turns out good, (as things can in rare cases), or it turns out bad - having a lot of people around you who give support and who you can trust is a good thing 🤨
Personally, I'd never do what she's doing. But this is the road she's choosing - as a legalee old enough person to do so 🤷♀️ To reply to my comment that "It's like I want to see her suffa..." - You use strong words... I didn't say that anywhere 🧐🧐🧐 How do you know I've not got personal stuff going on and you've just left that reply for me, huh?...
Maybe you are genuinely coming from a place of care for her, but in doing so you've left an unkind comment to me? 🙃 If your comment is truly coming from a place of care, where's the consistency?... 🤷♀️ You don't *know* anyone in this thread. If you've got a better idea and your solution is to stop her, you'd better go find her and stop her then.
@@lisab1854 I am not sure what point you’re making about some people “demanding” that she does what they want. I guess you want to know if I agree with them or not? I would need an example to know if these comments are bad like you are saying they are.
If knew her personally I would help her to move on her own. I would actually even lend her money so that she can have real choices. What she is doing is not even a choice. She is being forced to it because she has no other option. That’s why I find it wild that this guy who is supposed to care about her is trying to box her in with him and not give her a chance to flourish on her own. But I have no opinion one way or another if she really does want to discern marriage with this guy. I would not care that she would continue to be with the guy after she moves on her own. But based on the signs, I am sure that the moment she starts thinking for what is best for her, this guy will leave. If that happens while she is living with him, It will be the worse situation for her.
My comment was not addressed to you. I don’t see an issue with saying that you want to see her suffering, if I think you are encouraging her to make this choice. I don’t see that there is anything for her to gain out of this decision but suffering. Under my assumption, your feeling of being insulted or being misrepresented is unimportant because you would be causing her harm indirectly. Either way my comment was not to you.
@@luisblanco4371 Fair enough. Thanks for sharing.
You give off pretty strong tism vibes. Just don't go
definitely spectrum
California is expensive i moved out of that hellish state , i wouldn't move there
Life is good, take some care on your needs and be careful, let your sister informed about anything and everything should be ok. I would suggest travelling to Italy just for holidays, living there is not so good for young people. California is awesome, buy a longboard or a bike and enjoy the coolest place ever, i found myself walking there for hours, with loads of nice shops and places to go, and you gonna find a cool job there as well, in my head it's already playing the wild world song
As someone whos lived in California for many years, its really not as bad as the media makes it out to be. There is amazing incredible nature. In one hour drive you can be in the pines in the mountains, on a subtropical beach, or in a desert. Definitely lots to do for an outdoor enthusiast like me, but also for city people too. You can easily find a job as a waitress and youll notice customers are nicer here and theyll tip better. On the flipside theirs a lot of crime, drugs and homelessness, just be careful in certain areas, especially in LA.
My Dear, you told us you read all the comments of the watchers of your channel. I am so happy you found your boyfriend. Let the very best of luck be at your side, you deserve no less than that!
I hope you have a successful move and your relationship works out for you. Change can be crazy for sure and you deserve to be happy
I would never move in with anyone after meeting them twice but at least you DID meet him in person more than once. So if you’re confident enough to take that leap, just do it and ignore everyone else’s opinion.
Met my GF of 13 years on the internet so wish you the best but this moving in thing sounds like a BAD idea. Please don't get trafficked or worse
You should check out the video of the state senator here that admitted, on her way out the door a few months ago, they have been crafting legislation to protect traffickers and grapeists.
@@mrsleep0000please do not say “grapeists.”
It's insane how most people just can't be happy for other people's desire to improve their situation. They should be offering well wishes and assistance. Even if that assistance is meaningless and superficial. As I always say, give love a chance and let love have the last word! Good luck to New beginnings!!
Positive or negative outcome I think it needed to be done. I went through a similar dilemma at your age but even though it was many "downs" and just few "ups" I would do it all over again, no hesitations. All the best to you.
I’m proud of you. You would have never had the opportunity for personal growth. Regardless of where you end up, you are adding experiences. With those experiences, you will be able to continue to grow and make decisions based on them. You are a beautiful and authentic person and you deserve happiness. All of the anxiety will be worth it. Safe travels.
How the hell do you find a partner in another state!? Just curious as online dating is trash for average men. Im older so I dont understand how the younger people manage to meet online. I used to do well with online dating but that was b4 social media changed everything for average men. i see alot of women who claim they are happiest alone with a career but I suspect that isnt really true. God intended man and woman to be together and build families yet here we are with so many miserable lonely people. I read an article the other day that said like 68% of people feel lonely at least part of the time. Thats very concerning for society. People are probably jealous cause so many are lonely today.🙏
I think moving in with him is a bit sudden. You should probably visit him as much as you can. Try to find out if he’s an axe murderer. Make sure he’s a normal person before investing so much of yourself like that. Otherwise, be happy! You’re living life. Screw what everyone else thinks! I am on Team Cautious though. Hope everything works out for you.
Don't listen to the people telling you not to move to California. The top comment telling you it's controlling is super weird. Keep in mind all those people asking what race your bf is or if he's trans... that's racist, intolerant people who have toxic beliefs about a very beautiful, progressive state. Many of the people here telling you not to go are going to have similar biases. Welcome to Cali! Glad to have yet another cool person here. Edit: Also keep in mind that some of the men commenting may have a crush on you and actually be jealous.
exactly.
You are doing right sharing that how you can improve im in my room always single alone but i know everything will be fine... Don't talk about your love... Rule. 1
Please make sure you have some connections outside of your parents. People are asking you these questions about your boyfriend because they care about you. This is a huge decision, make sure you have a source of income too.
Don’t be scared I’m also going to Indiana and I’m scared of the newness but I know it’s best for me for a fresh start , what would you like to accomplish in cali ? And are you moving to be with him ? I’m moving to be near a guy I want and I get nervous , but I know if it don’t work out with him then it’s not the end of the world
I saw your video about 26 years old virgin, now you have a boyfriend??
Yeah that was my first video of her’s that I saw as well two months ago, I was like damn she’s the female version of me because everything she was talking about sounded like the same exact life I have and surprisingly her life quickly changed.
Yes that is my first video, what is the problem? She won't stay alone and as a virgin forever.
@@MikeVibingnot really quickly. That video is 1 year old.
Wishing you all the best! I hope that you find your happiness 👍 Just to add, that it's very common to be nervous before a big change. Most folks fear change!
Holy moly! What a change. Don't let him run too much of your life or it'll be the same thing as with your parents. But I wish you two the best.
I hope it works out with the boyfriend, but if not, at least you'll be in a new state with new possibilities. I would be pissed if I thought I was moving to Italy and then not. Good luck!
I get it. You're lonely and depressed. It will have you make rash and irrational decisions. Moving in with a person you don't know is definitely that. I hope you don't think that this person is "the one" already. What if the relationship ends? What will you do then in California? You have to think about this stuff. This relationship is already moving way too fast. All I can say is that I wish you the best in this decision and nothing bad happens.
agree, it's sure to fail for the simple fact that she is looking for happiness.
An algorithm recommended this to me, oh boi, watch out girl, something gonna happen in a long term. Hoping for best, but enjoy even if the worst happens.
Sometimes in life we don't realize how wonderful people are until they're no longer there. I empathize with your loneliness. Italy sounds beautiful, I've always wanted to visit. I don't think I'll ever visit in my lifetime or whatever is left of it
Good luck! I'm excited for you, and I hope everything works out. Try to remember that there'll definitely be an adjustment period. For most people, the first month is hard. Months 2 through 6 are exciting and fun. And then months 7 through 12 are HARD and often very depressing. But... silver lining, after that 12 month mark, everything is pretty much all upsides from then on out as the adjustment has fully set in.
Yeah... that line of questioning is weird. Just make sure that your parents know the address you're moving to and have like a photo of your boyfriend's driver's license. Almost certainly you'll be fine, but taking extra precautions will only make that very likely situation even more likely.
And double yeah, people are likely jealous. Sometimes protectiveness and jealousy can clash in weird ways, too. But all of that crap will pass. And, even if something doesn't work out, you can always move again.
But I'll still be keeping my fingers crossed for you.
I think your channel is going to grow quite big, it's already grown a lot. Seeing you at your lowest point and how you took steps to improve your life and escape your controlling parents, is going to inspire others who are in the same position you once were to also take action.
Ooooh Cali is awesome , you'll love it.
You are moving to california not because of you are ready to new life lesson, that is cuz of your parents are threatening to push you out of their house i dont think so california is too scary, but your situation is, first threat your mental health, take some trainings that may help you, after you empowered yourself and became independent, you can move to california after months or a year also living with bf doesn't deserve u, marriage is a better thing finally some comments you considered as jealousy may help you, wish you better life❤
Prayers. Pls keep the community updated. Safety First. 😉❤
You are wonderfully calm and well spoken. Demure and naturally beautiful. Maybe you will be discovered and celebrated🌠
I wish you every happiness, including safety and freedom.🙏
I've watched some of your videos and I enjoyed them. You seem like a nice person and I wish you the best. I think you see yourself differently than the rest of the world does. I see an intelligent, beautiful young woman who should have more self-worth and self-esteem. Moving to California to move in with a guy that you barely know seems like a bad idea to me. There are a lot of sick people out there - especially online. I'm not saying your boyfriend is one of them, I'm just saying be careful because you seem like a person that is vulnerable to being abused. You don't deserve to be treated bad by anyone ever! Good Luck and keep us informed about what's going on in your life because it's interesting and I truly hope everything goes great for you in California
The good thing about hope is you believing it will be ok and it’s a good move…
The bad thing about hope is it removes the reality of the situation… do be safe , do prepare for the worst, don’t reply or him or anyone, you will be alone there from what it sounds like..
let that sink in, not saying you’re incapable.
Just don’t let feelings cloud your judgement.
Many people do, we realized this person isn’t my person , or the other way around.
Internet vs reality
Distance vs in person ,
Just be safe , to anyone doing such.
It’s good to take risks, but be prepared.
Why would you do that to yourself? California sucks.
I’m originally from Pa and right now I currently live in California it’s a bit more expensive out here but the weather is great, I live by Riverside California so hope it will be a good experience for you my friend