Hi Bridget. From the bottom of my heart I would like to say thank you so so much for all your videos, especially the 13 meditation videos. I was listening to the meditation videos on my gym ball and I was so deep in meditation that I didn't realise I was in labor. I got up from the gym ball feeling the need to.push , I woke my husband up at 4am. 4:20 I was at the hosp and 4:45 on 1 July my precious boy was born. I made it to hospital just in time. I had no tearing this time and was 100% still in tact, I was discharged 4 hours later and got home before my first born even woke up.My first labor was so traumatic but your videos was the ultimate game changer with this labor. Labor is truly all a mind game and I believe that where the mind leads the body follows. Thank you so much, I wish you all the best.
Bridget, I thank God for stumbling unto one of your videos months ago. I’m 37 weeks now and I’ve learnt so much from you. I now feel confident about going through the whole labour process. You are a blessing.
This made me feel SO much better, I was checked last week and they said my cervix and baby were still very high. I’ve been extremely uncomfortable and my heart sank when they told me that. I’m ready to meet my little man ❣️
I'm 35 weeks first time mom, and your videos are so helpful in teaching me what to expect, how to prepare, and how to advocate for myself. I also love your interviews with mamas about each of their experiences! Thank you for all you do.
I am 38 weeks, I have had two cervical exams, baby is softening the cervix but not dilated as of yet. The last two exams irritated my vagina for a week. I am going to opt out of cervical exams until active labor/water breaks. My vagina is very sensitive. But there has got to be a better way to check for dilation. There is a lot of changing happening between the uterus, cervix, and vagina. Vaginal exams affects the skin and discourages the mom mentally/emotionally. I rather focus on relaxation and comfort, not vaginal pain.
Yes, a lot of people don't know that they can opt out of cervical exams, which are not even an evidence based practice. Hopefully you've had your babe now and all went well!
My sister was checked and she absolutely hated it. The nurse woke her baby up and he was very strong so she felt a terrible pain from him kicking the nurse. A nurse tried to do it to me and I asked what she was going to do. When she said "a vaginal exam", I just said "No, thank you". She was very surprised, but didn't argue with me. I felt like a super woman, honestly.
I needed this video yesterday… I have a history of abuse so there is a lot of trauma surrounding my intimate areas and even with telling them that yesterday at the hospital they checked me 3 times!!! I’m 35weeks3days. I was crying so hard and told them I feel violated and just kept saying we need to see where you’re at. 3 times!!! I was sent home after 9 hours anyways so I’m honestly so traumatized… I’ve literally been balling all day and can’t get over it I feel so uncomfortable. I wish I knew to just say no. To check 3 times in one visit is absurd. Especially knowing how much I panic and hate it. It’s my body to touch not theirs. It is so invasive and makes me feel horrible.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, you should absolutely report them, I don't understand why they even needed to check you so early. I hope the next visit is a lot better and positive for you, sending you hugs and prayers
Hi Bridget, I’m a FTM and gave birth to my son 6/11, my labor and delivery was smooth and fairly short. I give your very informative and motivating videos credit for helping me bring my baby into this world. Keep up the amazing work you do and I’ve been recommending my friends to watch your videos as they prepare to give birth soon.
This is exactly the reminder that I need. Currently 39+3 and so obsessed with effacement, dilation & engagement instead of letting go and trusting the process. I am also holding on to the fact that my baby is calling the shots of when she is ready to be born. So I can only do so much but in the end I guess she'll come when it is time. Thanks Bridget 🥰
@@shweta.maniwade I delivered at W40.. spontaeneous delivery 😆 had been wondering when she will come out, but once she decided to come out, she come out fast 😂
Just had my fourth baby and my first baby girl on July 5. Bonnie weighed 8lbs and 7oz by biggest baby she also shares a birthday with my dad (her grandpa)..... (I’ve had 2 epidurals and 2 unmedicated labors now). I went all natural no epidural and it was painful but quick. I had your voice in my head saying I could do it because I was giving up while I was pushing her out but I did it. I’m so happy I prepared myself with your videos. You’re amazing and you’re really making a difference in every woman’s labor and delivery.
I am 35 weeks and first time mama! You are helping me and my SO every night when we watch a video to be informed and guided to make our first birth a natural and pleasant experience! I am plus size and have been told my entire pregnancy that I won't have a normal birth or normal pregnancy and we are proving them wrong already! Healthy mama and healthy baby! THANK YOU for everything you do!
I wasn’t aware that I had the option to say yes or no. And when it happened, for me it was very painful and something I just didn’t expect. It discouraged me so much because I felt like a big baby for not being able to “handle” a cervix check, so how in the world was I going to be able to push a baby out :p it’s insane how much our brains fight against it. I ended up with another c-section unfortunately. But this time around, I really want to educate and empower myself to just do the damn thing.
Thank you so much for this. I've been facing a lot of hurdles in my 3rd trimester (GDM, baby measuring 3 weeks ahead, and SPD all back to back). I'm 36 weeks and wanted to cry when my doctor said I was 0 cm and 0% effaced because there's so much pain and pressure going on. I feel like all of the hiccups recently have stressed me out and made me tense up as whole and I really appreciate the comfort this video brought me. It's helped me transition into a more relaxed mindset that everything is going to play out when it's meant to play out. I think I'm going to forgo the cervix check at my next appointment so I can focus on a calm and happy mindset these final weeks.
Hi Bridget.. I would like to thank you for the amazing work you've done by creating these videos.. I've been able to gain more knowledge about pregnancy by following most of your videos.. I tried my best to deliver my baby - normal way but ended up having a c-section a week before from today.. Thanks for all the information you've passed on via these videos.. Love from India..
I’m having a home birth so this doesn’t apply to me this time around, however I was told they “needed” to check me in order to be admitted into the hospital with my first.. could I have refused that one, and if so, what would’ve happened? I planned an unmedicated labor and I was 9.5cm when I was admitted but the nurses and even my midwife said I was “too calm” to be in labor 😒
I am a first time mom. I had my first cervical check at 36 + 4 and baby was very low but my cervix was not dilated neither effaced. I had my second cervical check this week at 37 + 5 and my obgyn asked me before if I had felt contractions but I told him I only felt very mild period cramps (I am used to very bad cramps while on my period) so I didn't think much of it because I also had some the week prior. So he was not very hopeful for the second cervical check...to our surprise I was 2,5 cm dilated and 80 % effaced and baby was still really low at station -1. I was in shock! I now it doesn't mean anything cause I could stay like that for a couple of weeks, but I was still amazed! For me, cervical check don't hurt at all but I am never really stressed about those type of medical procedure and my obgyn is so relaxing and zen! I really hope he's going to be the one at the hospital when I will come in for my delievery.
I have Polyhydramnios and there are a lot of risks associated with it. My doctor and I agreed that inducing early was what made the most sense. I agreed to have a cervical exam, so I knew if I was starting to dilating. My doctor asked me and let me decide for myself.
It went very well! I declined all of them until I got closer and did one in office, then probably 2 or 3 during labor before having a c section. I'm glad I skipped the rest. There was no need. My doctors had no problem with it at all. They were very knowledgeable on consent and how to handle someone declining and took it in stride.
Ye there’s only need for these during labor and delivery I feel. Also it may be even easier cause you maybe have some sort of epidural anesthetic while they check
Thank you so much for this video! It is perfect timing as I am 38 weeks and 4 days with my third pregnancy (Due July 16th). At my last two check ups I was only 1 centimetre dilated. But since this last friday I have noticed an increase in braxton hicks around the same time in the evening everyday. I can still talk through them but they are making me super uncomfortable when I have them. I walked around dilated with my first two pregnancies so I wasnt surprised at all when they said it hadn't changed. I listen to many of your videos all of the time to help me get through these last few days/weeks of pregnancy! thank you for all of your amazing videos.
I'm due around that time with my 2nd. On the 18th of July! 😊💕 have my next appointment tomorrow to check my cervix. Having mild cramping the whole day on and off.
I absolutely hate vaginal exams. I was induced and I had about 6 vaginal exams and that was enough for me to choose to get c section because I couldn't go through any more. I guess it also has to do the bedside manner of the doctors in my place. They don't ask you for your consent and or even warn you about what they're going to do
Seeking consent for any care and explaining what they are doing. That this hasn't happened for you is awful, and you should make a formal complaint to your care provider, so that others don't have to go through the same situation
I’ve decided to opt out of cervical checks, many times it does not seem necessary and feel personally it would just stress me out mentally since I would feel discouraged if baby was high or not dilated at all
My cervix is deep, they have to really dig in there to reach it. It's super uncomfortable and sometimes even painful. My first one I wasn't warned of the risks and bled for days. At this point I'm declining any exams that I don't want and don't seem necessary.
Yes! Aren’t her videos so helpful?! I’m 35 weeks, getting ready to give birth in India for the first time. Not nervous about birth in general, just nervous about Indian hospitals.🙁
So my cervix is usually super high with all my babies and today I was checked due to contractions and possible preterm and she barely had to reach in. Wasn’t high at all but no dilation. So what does that mean? I’ve always been told with my others that it’s still high and today I was shocked when it was that easy for her.
This makes SO MUCH sense! My first childbirth was 2021 and I was being cared for by residents. They were SO not gentle with the cervical checks. That pain was so much worse than most everything else I experienced there. A nurse ended up breaking my water when the residents failed to. I was already maxed on miso and pitocin but failed to get past 6 cm and they were forced to do a c section 😕 Thinking about it now, I wonder if that pain and tension is why I couldn't dilate further.
My first pregnancy: I was 2cm dilated from 36 1/2 weeks to 37 weeks. My water broke at home when I was 4cm dilated at 37 weeks + 2 days. My second pregnancy: I just found out I'm 2cm dilated at 35 weeks. Very exciting!!!
I genuinely didn’t know that we could say no. I’ve had this done twice on me and it was the most painful experience of my life and has made me scared in general.
Hi Bridget! I'm on my 40th week now and I'm really getting nervous and stressed out as I am still not feeling anything re labor. Your videos inspire me to pursue natural delivery but now I don't know. I hope passing due date means nothing serious.
Hi! Don’t worry at all, pregnant women are considered full term from 38-42 weeks so you have lots of wiggle room there as long as you and baby are healthy ;) .. Of course consult with your OB but also know that you don’t have to be induced if not necessary and you will meet your baby soon! I will be 40 weeks on Wednesday and I’m going to start all the natural remedies for inducing labor. Due dates are more so estimations rather than a 100% accurate dates. The more calm and relaxed you are the better your chances going into labor naturally. Sending you and your family so much love 💙💙💙
@@zainabali7495 I needed to hear this also. I’m at 39 and 1/2, and I get family calling me everyday wondering where the baby is already 😂 just need to relax and know that she’ll come on her own timing.
2nd time mom almost 40 weeks and no effacement or dilation 😭 with my first my water broke at 39 weeks and 2 days, I thought I'd go into labor faster second time around 😭
I just got my first cervical exam today. I’m 36 weeks pregnant, but measuring at 41 weeks. I tense up every time a doctor tries to go down there. It seems like it’s hurting when my doctor checked me, but I think I just may be afraid. Do you have any tips on relaxing when you are super anxious?
Currently 37 weeks and 3 days. Was 4cm for a week and as of yesterday 5 - 5 1/2cm dilated and almost completely effaced. Have been having contractions, but I am able to tolerate them still, but worried about going into labor and not realizing it..
How did it went? I am exactly 38 weeks today and at 37 + 5 I was 2,5 cm and 80% effaced and I honestly thought I was still completely close because the week before at 36+4 I was close even tough I was having mild period cramps for two weeks prior. I am also worried about not knowing when the real thing is gonna start.
so im 40 weeks, I went to my midwife to get a sweep and stretch but I wasn't dilated. She did mention though that she could feel my babies head when she was doing the exam. Is it possible to be effaced but not dilated?
I'm 20 weeks with short cervix.. but today's vaginal exam was terrible.. She did ask..but i just thought saying yes..was what i had to do . I would be ok with a vaginal exam if I'm going into labor..but this early and a short cervix.. doesn't seem safe Thank you
Do you have any comments on moms who have had multiple babies who have a more relaxed or open external cervix and a closed internal cervix ? My dr said it was fine. However I am very worried about incompetent cervix and preterm labor I’m only 20 weeks. They will be doing an anatomy scan to measure the cervix and the dr will follow up after that.
I'm not sure if my doctor's office does them or not. I've heard different things from different people that go to the same office. Should I ask for one?
Hi honey, I thought I would answer this. In general epidurals are given when a women is about 5-6cm dilated. After that it is considered too late and before that, too early. If you have vaginismus and your vaginal area is tense because of this condition (so maybe a cervical exam isn't something you want) you need to be gauging your contractions to have an idea about how dilated you are. Usually, when you are approaching 5-6cm dilation you will be having contractions every 4 ish minutes and they will be lasting 45 ish seconds. This is not set in stone though and it depends if you are a first or second time mum. I would advise asking your midwife to see what they can advise for vaginismus. When is your baby due? Love and best wishes, Anja xxxx
@@HypnobirthingWithAnja thank you ! Even I get tensed when I hear about cervical exams. I guess I too have vaginismus. I am 37 weeks pregnant. What can I do to avoid cervix exams ? I am going to a gynaec for my delivery & not a midwife. Please suggest
Hi Bridget I had two cervical checks today, which was the most painful thing I’ve experienced. I noticed that many online recourses state that only the tips are to be inserted into cervix? I am confused because my nurse sticked her whole finger up my cervix and was wondering if this was normal?
My hands are pretty petite and my fingers are definitely wider than 1cm each so the exam seems pretty inaccurate depending on the oerson doing the exam
I’m 39 weeks, breech, with a family history of precipitous labor and my doc didn’t even offer an exam today. I was 2 cm 5 days ago. Im so nervous and feeling off put. I feel like I should’ve been examined…
Hi Bridget. I’m only barely 31 weeks pregnant and yesterday I started having contractions and had 2 cervical exams that showed me I was 2-3 cm dilated!! I was terrified! I’m in the hospital now and I am so very confused. Thankfully the contractions have gotten much fewer and farther between but I don’t know if I should have them do another cervical exam to determine and make sure I’m not continuing to dilate more. I feel like if they don’t I’m not sure they’d be comfortable allowing me to leave and go home on bed rest.
Hi Colleen, how are you? I just read your comment and was wondering if you went into labour early or are still pregnant now? Sending lots of love, Anja xxx
Hi i want you help i had the periods at 30 march my cycle is 26-27 days . At 17 april i had light blood for 2-3 hours and i pee to much .. i made the test today 21 april it was negative . My next periode suppose to be at 24 aprile...i can wait until that date for the next periode to take another test or i am not pregnant .help me please
I'm afraid I'll be super tense and can't relax during or after these exams, because I have some traumatic experiences where this person forsed himself onto me and ignored the fact that I did not consent. Basically sexual trauma. Even when they did ultrasounds where I had to pull my shirt up my legs were shaking and heart was pounding and I could not relax on the ultrasound bed. Strangers touching me makes me really nervous and I can't help it. How can I cope with this in the hospital since I know they'll need to do vaginal exams?
I'm sorry you had that experience. ❤️ Honestly, you can decline ALL exams. This is more for the health care professionals than you, there are different ways to gauge your progress.
I'm so sorry you experienced that! Something that helps me is to ask the provider to walk me through every step and tell me what they're doing. Deep breathing and trying to relax my muscles and focus on that can help the exams be less painful too. Remember that you can tell them to stop at any time too! Good luck 💙💙
So sorry for your experience !!! I didn't get any vaginal exam until 39 weeks, you can wait until your water breaks or u are in labor pain. Also try to shift your focus on something else like deep breathing... Essential oils helps too...
It can also help for you to explain your sexual trauma and request the same clinican/s during your care journey so you have some time to build a trusting relationship.
Hey Bridget, you talk a lot about first-time vs second-time mothers and I was wondering if this distinction only works for vaginal delivery. I had HELLP with my first and had an emergency C-section at 32 weeks. I never experienced contractions, not even Braxton Hicks, so I don't think my body would know what to do the second time around. So the "when contractions start and if you're a second-time mom you should go to hospital sooner" etc doesn't apply to me right?
I have a similar question too. I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first child but I have had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks before. It was a blighted ovum but I still experienced labor pains (induced with help of 12 misoprostol tablets placed in vagina) and I was dilated before a D&C was performed. So does that mean I will go into labor rather quickly like second time moms or will it still be slow like a general first time labor? Confused.
It depends on your health and baby's health. If you want to decline induction til 42 weeks this is permitted with informed consent, but you normally need monitoring every couple of days from 40 weeks as there is a slight (and increasing evry day) risk of still birth, which becomes substantial after 42 weeks.
Hi, love watching your videos! I was just wondering if you new much about scar tissue on the cervix and if that affects dilation? I am 40+1 and am a little worried this might slow my labour. This is my third pregnancy. Hope to hear from you soon!
You'll know when to push! Your body will start pushing whether you want it to or not lol. Your uterus is pushing the baby out and you're just assisting it. It's like when you reeeeeeeally need to poop, it's coming outta there!
My dr tried to check my cervix it felt like she cut me with her nails i had to push her out this is my 2nd kid .. for my first my old dr never ever hurt me like that
Hi Bridget. From the bottom of my heart I would like to say thank you so so much for all your videos, especially the 13 meditation videos. I was listening to the meditation videos on my gym ball and I was so deep in meditation that I didn't realise I was in labor. I got up from the gym ball feeling the need to.push , I woke my husband up at 4am. 4:20 I was at the hosp and 4:45 on 1 July my precious boy was born. I made it to hospital just in time. I had no tearing this time and was 100% still in tact, I was discharged 4 hours later and got home before my first born even woke up.My first labor was so traumatic but your videos was the ultimate game changer with this labor. Labor is truly all a mind game and I believe that where the mind leads the body follows. Thank you so much, I wish you all the best.
Congratulations Mumma! 💖
@@jowhite4504 Thank you❤
Congratulations
@@mackeymec Thank you dear❤
congrats 😍😍😍
38weeks and listening to your videos every night. Thank you so much for providing such helpful information!💗
Bridget, I thank God for stumbling unto one of your videos months ago. I’m 37 weeks now and I’ve learnt so much from you. I now feel confident about going through the whole labour process. You are a blessing.
This made me feel SO much better, I was checked last week and they said my cervix and baby were still very high. I’ve been extremely uncomfortable and my heart sank when they told me that. I’m ready to meet my little man ❣️
I'm 35 weeks first time mom, and your videos are so helpful in teaching me what to expect, how to prepare, and how to advocate for myself. I also love your interviews with mamas about each of their experiences! Thank you for all you do.
I am 38 weeks, I have had two cervical exams, baby is softening the cervix but not dilated as of yet. The last two exams irritated my vagina for a week.
I am going to opt out of cervical exams until active labor/water breaks. My vagina is very sensitive. But there has got to be a better way to check for dilation. There is a lot of changing happening between the uterus, cervix, and vagina. Vaginal exams affects the skin and discourages the mom mentally/emotionally.
I rather focus on relaxation and comfort, not vaginal pain.
Yes, a lot of people don't know that they can opt out of cervical exams, which are not even an evidence based practice. Hopefully you've had your babe now and all went well!
My sister was checked and she absolutely hated it. The nurse woke her baby up and he was very strong so she felt a terrible pain from him kicking the nurse.
A nurse tried to do it to me and I asked what she was going to do. When she said "a vaginal exam", I just said "No, thank you". She was very surprised, but didn't argue with me. I felt like a super woman, honestly.
I'm 36 weeks with my first baby and I just want to thank you for being such an important part of my pregnancy.
I am 36 weeks and 4 days, I had my cervical exam today with my second pregnancy and it was SO SORE! I will opt out of a cervical exam next week.
39 weeks 6 days with my 1st successful pregnancy and I am oh so thankful I found your channel ❤️
I needed this video yesterday… I have a history of abuse so there is a lot of trauma surrounding my intimate areas and even with telling them that yesterday at the hospital they checked me 3 times!!! I’m 35weeks3days. I was crying so hard and told them I feel violated and just kept saying we need to see where you’re at. 3 times!!! I was sent home after 9 hours anyways so I’m honestly so traumatized… I’ve literally been balling all day and can’t get over it I feel so uncomfortable. I wish I knew to just say no. To check 3 times in one visit is absurd. Especially knowing how much I panic and hate it. It’s my body to touch not theirs. It is so invasive and makes me feel horrible.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, you should absolutely report them, I don't understand why they even needed to check you so early. I hope the next visit is a lot better and positive for you, sending you hugs and prayers
Hi Bridget, I’m a FTM and gave birth to my son 6/11, my labor and delivery was smooth and fairly short. I give your very informative and motivating videos credit for helping me bring my baby into this world. Keep up the amazing work you do and I’ve been recommending my friends to watch your videos as they prepare to give birth soon.
This is exactly the reminder that I need. Currently 39+3 and so obsessed with effacement, dilation & engagement instead of letting go and trusting the process. I am also holding on to the fact that my baby is calling the shots of when she is ready to be born. So I can only do so much but in the end I guess she'll come when it is time. Thanks Bridget 🥰
Same. When did you deliver
@@shweta.maniwade I delivered at W40.. spontaeneous delivery 😆 had been wondering when she will come out, but once she decided to come out, she come out fast 😂
Just had my fourth baby and my first baby girl on July 5. Bonnie weighed 8lbs and 7oz by biggest baby she also shares a birthday with my dad (her grandpa)..... (I’ve had 2 epidurals and 2 unmedicated labors now). I went all natural no epidural and it was painful but quick. I had your voice in my head saying I could do it because I was giving up while I was pushing her out but I did it. I’m so happy I prepared myself with your videos. You’re amazing and you’re really making a difference in every woman’s labor and delivery.
My first cervical exam is in 3 weeks! This video came out at such a perfect time! Thank you!!!
Thank you for these videos. I’m 36 weeks, and quite frankly at the end of my rope. I hope and pray I go into labor as soon as baby is full term.
Hi! I’m 36 weeks too.😊 I’m hoping my baby will be born in one week. I’m so glad I found her videos too!
I am 35 weeks and first time mama! You are helping me and my SO every night when we watch a video to be informed and guided to make our first birth a natural and pleasant experience! I am plus size and have been told my entire pregnancy that I won't have a normal birth or normal pregnancy and we are proving them wrong already! Healthy mama and healthy baby! THANK YOU for everything you do!
Me too! 35 weeks in a larger body - it's a different situation to manage for sure. We've got this! 💕
I wasn’t aware that I had the option to say yes or no. And when it happened, for me it was very painful and something I just didn’t expect. It discouraged me so much because I felt like a big baby for not being able to “handle” a cervix check, so how in the world was I going to be able to push a baby out :p it’s insane how much our brains fight against it. I ended up with another c-section unfortunately. But this time around, I really want to educate and empower myself to just do the damn thing.
Hey Thanks Bridget for us male nursing students this is great info for us to better grasp what is foreign.
Thank you so much for this. I've been facing a lot of hurdles in my 3rd trimester (GDM, baby measuring 3 weeks ahead, and SPD all back to back). I'm 36 weeks and wanted to cry when my doctor said I was 0 cm and 0% effaced because there's so much pain and pressure going on. I feel like all of the hiccups recently have stressed me out and made me tense up as whole and I really appreciate the comfort this video brought me. It's helped me transition into a more relaxed mindset that everything is going to play out when it's meant to play out. I think I'm going to forgo the cervix check at my next appointment so I can focus on a calm and happy mindset these final weeks.
Hi Bridget.. I would like to thank you for the amazing work you've done by creating these videos.. I've been able to gain more knowledge about pregnancy by following most of your videos.. I tried my best to deliver my baby - normal way but ended up having a c-section a week before from today.. Thanks for all the information you've passed on via these videos.. Love from India..
36 weeks 🙋🏻♀️ 1st baby! Thank you for your videos ❤️
I’m having a home birth so this doesn’t apply to me this time around, however I was told they “needed” to check me in order to be admitted into the hospital with my first.. could I have refused that one, and if so, what would’ve happened? I planned an unmedicated labor and I was 9.5cm when I was admitted but the nurses and even my midwife said I was “too calm” to be in labor 😒
I am a first time mom. I had my first cervical check at 36 + 4 and baby was very low but my cervix was not dilated neither effaced. I had my second cervical check this week at 37 + 5 and my obgyn asked me before if I had felt contractions but I told him I only felt very mild period cramps (I am used to very bad cramps while on my period) so I didn't think much of it because I also had some the week prior. So he was not very hopeful for the second cervical check...to our surprise I was 2,5 cm dilated and 80 % effaced and baby was still really low at station -1. I was in shock! I now it doesn't mean anything cause I could stay like that for a couple of weeks, but I was still amazed! For me, cervical check don't hurt at all but I am never really stressed about those type of medical procedure and my obgyn is so relaxing and zen! I really hope he's going to be the one at the hospital when I will come in for my delievery.
35 weeks today , can't wait to meet my baby boy 👦💛
I'm surprised she didn't go over the risks of cervical exams
I have Polyhydramnios and there are a lot of risks associated with it. My doctor and I agreed that inducing early was what made the most sense. I agreed to have a cervical exam, so I knew if I was starting to dilating. My doctor asked me and let me decide for myself.
I’m planning to decline these exams. They don’t seem medically necessary and don’t give a lot of information from what I can tell.
How did it go? Have you had your baby yet? I’m 37 weeks
Me too from now on, it's brutal.
How do they test for dilation?
It went very well! I declined all of them until I got closer and did one in office, then probably 2 or 3 during labor before having a c section. I'm glad I skipped the rest. There was no need. My doctors had no problem with it at all. They were very knowledgeable on consent and how to handle someone declining and took it in stride.
Ye there’s only need for these during labor and delivery I feel. Also it may be even easier cause you maybe have some sort of epidural anesthetic while they check
35 weeks now. Perfect time to watch this video so I can get prepared! :)
Thank you so much for this video! It is perfect timing as I am 38 weeks and 4 days with my third pregnancy (Due July 16th). At my last two check ups I was only 1 centimetre dilated. But since this last friday I have noticed an increase in braxton hicks around the same time in the evening everyday. I can still talk through them but they are making me super uncomfortable when I have them. I walked around dilated with my first two pregnancies so I wasnt surprised at all when they said it hadn't changed. I listen to many of your videos all of the time to help me get through these last few days/weeks of pregnancy! thank you for all of your amazing videos.
Im due the same time! And have been having pains off and on. Pains after sex, hoping its softening things up and ill be ready for real labor soon..
I'm due around that time with my 2nd. On the 18th of July! 😊💕 have my next appointment tomorrow to check my cervix. Having mild cramping the whole day on and off.
@@khushboorahman3470 Good Luck! I am having mild cramping and pelvic pressure on and off since yesterday too. and my next appointment is tomorrow!
@@chelseapena2209 Thank you! 😊 Found out I'm 2 cm dilated! Still on and off cramping! Good luck to you too. 👍 Hope it all goes smoothly for us all! 😁💕
I absolutely hate vaginal exams. I was induced and I had about 6 vaginal exams and that was enough for me to choose to get c section because I couldn't go through any more.
I guess it also has to do the bedside manner of the doctors in my place. They don't ask you for your consent and or even warn you about what they're going to do
Seeking consent for any care and explaining what they are doing. That this hasn't happened for you is awful, and you should make a formal complaint to your care provider, so that others don't have to go through the same situation
I’ve decided to opt out of cervical checks, many times it does not seem necessary and feel personally it would just stress me out mentally since I would feel discouraged if baby was high or not dilated at all
My cervix is deep, they have to really dig in there to reach it. It's super uncomfortable and sometimes even painful. My first one I wasn't warned of the risks and bled for days. At this point I'm declining any exams that I don't want and don't seem necessary.
Literally binge watching your videos!! I'm 37 weeks and I'm so scared 🥺
Yes! Aren’t her videos so helpful?! I’m 35 weeks, getting ready to give birth in India for the first time. Not nervous about birth in general, just nervous about Indian hospitals.🙁
So my cervix is usually super high with all my babies and today I was checked due to contractions and possible preterm and she barely had to reach in. Wasn’t high at all but no dilation. So what does that mean? I’ve always been told with my others that it’s still high and today I was shocked when it was that easy for her.
This makes SO MUCH sense! My first childbirth was 2021 and I was being cared for by residents. They were SO not gentle with the cervical checks. That pain was so much worse than most everything else I experienced there. A nurse ended up breaking my water when the residents failed to. I was already maxed on miso and pitocin but failed to get past 6 cm and they were forced to do a c section 😕 Thinking about it now, I wonder if that pain and tension is why I couldn't dilate further.
Makes a lot of sense. Would highly recommend also the book Ina May's Guide to childbirth. The sphincter law is very revealing indeed
My first pregnancy: I was 2cm dilated from 36 1/2 weeks to 37 weeks. My water broke at home when I was 4cm dilated at 37 weeks + 2 days.
My second pregnancy: I just found out I'm 2cm dilated at 35 weeks. Very exciting!!!
I genuinely didn’t know that we could say no. I’ve had this done twice on me and it was the most painful experience of my life and has made me scared in general.
Hi Bridget! I'm on my 40th week now and I'm really getting nervous and stressed out as I am still not feeling anything re labor. Your videos inspire me to pursue natural delivery but now I don't know. I hope passing due date means nothing serious.
Hi! Don’t worry at all, pregnant women are considered full term from 38-42 weeks so you have lots of wiggle room there as long as you and baby are healthy ;) .. Of course consult with your OB but also know that you don’t have to be induced if not necessary and you will meet your baby soon! I will be 40 weeks on Wednesday and I’m going to start all the natural remedies for inducing labor. Due dates are more so estimations rather than a 100% accurate dates. The more calm and relaxed you are the better your chances going into labor naturally. Sending you and your family so much love 💙💙💙
@@zainabali7495 I needed to hear this also. I’m at 39 and 1/2, and I get family calling me everyday wondering where the baby is already 😂 just need to relax and know that she’ll come on her own timing.
2nd time mom almost 40 weeks and no effacement or dilation 😭 with my first my water broke at 39 weeks and 2 days, I thought I'd go into labor faster second time around 😭
I'm 16 , I watched a couple of your videos and honestly I'm freaking out
I just got my first cervical exam today. I’m 36 weeks pregnant, but measuring at 41 weeks. I tense up every time a doctor tries to go down there. It seems like it’s hurting when my doctor checked me, but I think I just may be afraid. Do you have any tips on relaxing when you are super anxious?
I think deep breathing could help. Also reminding yourself that they are pro who do this very often and they are there to make you comfortable.
Entonox gas can help
So helpful! Thank you n God bless you!💜
So informative!! Love going to my midwives where they don’t check us until we are in labor.
Currently 37 weeks and 3 days.
Was 4cm for a week and as of yesterday 5 - 5 1/2cm dilated and almost completely effaced. Have been having contractions, but I am able to tolerate them still, but worried about going into labor and not realizing it..
How did it went? I am exactly 38 weeks today and at 37 + 5 I was 2,5 cm and 80% effaced and I honestly thought I was still completely close because the week before at 36+4 I was close even tough I was having mild period cramps for two weeks prior. I am also worried about not knowing when the real thing is gonna start.
I’m 39 weeks with first baby and I’m now 2cm dilated! I feel like it’s going by so slowwww cause last week I was 1cm
I needed this video two months ago :(
Yaaah thank you I needed to know if it softens so I'm definitely dilating
I love your informative videos soooo much!
Hi love...how do you feel about cervical cerclage?
Take a drink every time she says mama
Like... a drink of water? 😂
Oh girl, I hope you get more positivity
so im 40 weeks, I went to my midwife to get a sweep and stretch but I wasn't dilated. She did mention though that she could feel my babies head when she was doing the exam. Is it possible to be effaced but not dilated?
Hi and thanks for your useful videos.is going for walk necessary for having a better labor while doing prenatal yogas every day and routine?
I'm 20 weeks with short cervix.. but today's vaginal exam was terrible..
She did ask..but i just thought saying yes..was what i had to do .
I would be ok with a vaginal exam if I'm going into labor..but this early and a short cervix.. doesn't seem safe
Thank you
This was super helpful. Thank you so much!! ♥️
With my first son, I was dilated to 6 at 36 weeks. I had no idea that I was even in labor.
Are there more risks for low laying placentas I’m week 23 and was told pelvic rest is it not agains this rules ? Thanks
I can’t stand regular Pap smears let alone this, definitely opting out
Can you refuse all exams even once admitted to the hospital? And if so how to know when to start pushing?
I’m 38 weeks and 5cm dilated!!!
I feel sexually assaulted after my cervical check td can u explain a normal procedure plz
Same, I've gotten 2 done already and I am already traumatized for my next appointment
Do you have any comments on moms who have had multiple babies who have a more relaxed or open external cervix and a closed internal cervix ? My dr said it was fine. However I am very worried about incompetent cervix and preterm labor I’m only 20 weeks. They will be doing an anatomy scan to measure the cervix and the dr will follow up after that.
I'm not sure if my doctor's office does them or not. I've heard different things from different people that go to the same office. Should I ask for one?
What about women having vulvodynia or vaginismus? How would they know when to give epidural? Please help.
Hi honey, I thought I would answer this. In general epidurals are given when a women is about 5-6cm dilated. After that it is considered too late and before that, too early. If you have vaginismus and your vaginal area is tense because of this condition (so maybe a cervical exam isn't something you want) you need to be gauging your contractions to have an idea about how dilated you are. Usually, when you are approaching 5-6cm dilation you will be having contractions every 4 ish minutes and they will be lasting 45 ish seconds. This is not set in stone though and it depends if you are a first or second time mum. I would advise asking your midwife to see what they can advise for vaginismus. When is your baby due? Love and best wishes, Anja xxxx
@@HypnobirthingWithAnja thank you ! Even I get tensed when I hear about cervical exams. I guess I too have vaginismus. I am 37 weeks pregnant. What can I do to avoid cervix exams ? I am going to a gynaec for my delivery & not a midwife. Please suggest
is it normal for your vagina to bleed after a midwife/doctor do the cervical test?(putting 2 fingers inside)
Hi Bridget I had two cervical checks today, which was the most painful thing I’ve experienced. I noticed that many online recourses state that only the tips are to be inserted into cervix? I am confused because my nurse sticked her whole finger up my cervix and was wondering if this was normal?
I think they call this sweep. research it
So, if I am GBS+ do I have to have one?
I talk to my cervix & baby.. “Hey open up hunny.. come on baby get out” 😂😂😂
Love it! 😅😅😅
My hands are pretty petite and my fingers are definitely wider than 1cm each so the exam seems pretty inaccurate depending on the oerson doing the exam
First baby, cervical exams at 38/39 weeks, hurt so bad. Second baby, didn't bat an eye LOL
I’m 39 weeks, breech, with a family history of precipitous labor and my doc didn’t even offer an exam today. I was 2 cm 5 days ago. Im so nervous and feeling off put. I feel like I should’ve been examined…
Can you do a video on posterior cervix while pregnant??
Pleaseeeee
Hi Bridget. I’m only barely 31 weeks pregnant and yesterday I started having contractions and had 2 cervical exams that showed me I was 2-3 cm dilated!! I was terrified! I’m in the hospital now and I am so very confused. Thankfully the contractions have gotten much fewer and farther between but I don’t know if I should have them do another cervical exam to determine and make sure I’m not continuing to dilate more. I feel like if they don’t I’m not sure they’d be comfortable allowing me to leave and go home on bed rest.
Hi Colleen, how are you? I just read your comment and was wondering if you went into labour early or are still pregnant now? Sending lots of love, Anja xxx
Hi i want you help i had the periods at 30 march my cycle is 26-27 days . At 17 april i had light blood for 2-3 hours and i pee to much .. i made the test today 21 april it was negative . My next periode suppose to be at 24 aprile...i can wait until that date for the next periode to take another test or i am not pregnant .help me please
I'm afraid I'll be super tense and can't relax during or after these exams, because I have some traumatic experiences where this person forsed himself onto me and ignored the fact that I did not consent. Basically sexual trauma. Even when they did ultrasounds where I had to pull my shirt up my legs were shaking and heart was pounding and I could not relax on the ultrasound bed. Strangers touching me makes me really nervous and I can't help it. How can I cope with this in the hospital since I know they'll need to do vaginal exams?
I'm sorry you had that experience. ❤️ Honestly, you can decline ALL exams. This is more for the health care professionals than you, there are different ways to gauge your progress.
I'm so sorry you experienced that! Something that helps me is to ask the provider to walk me through every step and tell me what they're doing. Deep breathing and trying to relax my muscles and focus on that can help the exams be less painful too. Remember that you can tell them to stop at any time too! Good luck 💙💙
So sorry for your experience !!! I didn't get any vaginal exam until 39 weeks, you can wait until your water breaks or u are in labor pain. Also try to shift your focus on something else like deep breathing...
Essential oils helps too...
I don't know how far along you are but perhaps hypnobabies could help you feel more comfortable during exams.
It can also help for you to explain your sexual trauma and request the same clinican/s during your care journey so you have some time to build a trusting relationship.
I was told from my doc I have a narrow cervical canal what does that mean will I still be able to have a vaginal birth??
Hey Bridget, you talk a lot about first-time vs second-time mothers and I was wondering if this distinction only works for vaginal delivery. I had HELLP with my first and had an emergency C-section at 32 weeks. I never experienced contractions, not even Braxton Hicks, so I don't think my body would know what to do the second time around. So the "when contractions start and if you're a second-time mom you should go to hospital sooner" etc doesn't apply to me right?
Same question 👍
I have a similar question too. I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first child but I have had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks before. It was a blighted ovum but I still experienced labor pains (induced with help of 12 misoprostol tablets placed in vagina) and I was dilated before a D&C was performed. So does that mean I will go into labor rather quickly like second time moms or will it still be slow like a general first time labor? Confused.
Hi Bridget...can you please please give some comments on this topic. Because iam facing same problem and I always want to know.....🙏🙏🙏🙏
Hi Bridget, how long shall we wait without induction? 41 week ? 42 weeks?
It depends on your health and baby's health. If you want to decline induction til 42 weeks this is permitted with informed consent, but you normally need monitoring every couple of days from 40 weeks as there is a slight (and increasing evry day) risk of still birth, which becomes substantial after 42 weeks.
I prefer to not get any cervical exams from my midwife 😅
Me too
Better that way eehhh
Please answee me my finger length is 7 cm . Can i reach ther cervix?
Hey so my wife is 37 weeks pregnant and her cervix length is 4.5 cm. Is this normal??
but what month does the Cervical get's hard?
is it safe to have IE or vaginal exam at 37 weeks?
I'm 40 weeks pregnant and still 1cm.. My OB said that my cervix is too deep .. Is there anything i can do with this?
I’m 38w2d and 3.5 cm 70% effaced. Just like my last pregnancy this means nothing. I probably have two weeks to go... like last time😂
39+4 I had a check today, she said it’s too high she can’t feel it? what does this indicate ? That baby isn’t even near the canal?
Thank you
Hi, love watching your videos! I was just wondering if you new much about scar tissue on the cervix and if that affects dilation? I am 40+1 and am a little worried this might slow my labour. This is my third pregnancy. Hope to hear from you soon!
I’m 3 cm dilated & 100% effaced (as of Thursday July 9th) and I just wanna give birth already 😭
I’m 28 weeks pregnant and I was checked and was told I was medium . I don’t know what that means.
Bridget do you pronounce your last name as "Taylor," "Tyler," or "Teelor?"
lol I've always wondered ^___^
When I’ve heard her say it, it sounds like “Tyler”
I had a baby in my 35th week of pregnancy it was a horrible experience natural birth without an epidural
I would imagine a lot of fear was present at a preterm birth. Generally fear=pain.
Is vaginal exam painful? I heard it's really uncomfortable from some friends...
Ah yes the fight or flight response and the sphincter law.
I wonder if it is possible for dilation to reverse...
Yes it is. Ina May talks about it in her book “Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth”
So if I dont want a cervical exam, how will I know when to push?
Your body will tell you when you're supposed/ready to push.
You'll know when to push! Your body will start pushing whether you want it to or not lol. Your uterus is pushing the baby out and you're just assisting it. It's like when you reeeeeeeally need to poop, it's coming outta there!
They are also dangerous by allowing a infection especially if your water has broken.
Don't fear monger
My dr tried to check my cervix it felt like she cut me with her nails i had to push her out this is my 2nd kid .. for my first my old dr never ever hurt me like that
Was you in a show called Wentworth? Lol ❤
41 weeks and 2 days 😫😫😫