Its so silly to ask someone if they are a narcissist… a narcissist will never admit to that! In their minds they believe they are perfect and never do anything wrong-
@@twataizya 😂😂 its the fact that he felt so comfortable to tell this to her in front of the world thats why ppl are forming different opinions about him. Sure we all know these things to be true, but to our special person we should be the most beautiful, smart etc. Thats the main point here. 🤗
My issue with him is that while he places a high value on commitment, which is admirable, he also makes a lot of effort to downplay his fiancé's intelligence and beauty by repeatedly claiming that there are other women who are more beautiful and intelligent than her.
He’s insecure by her intelligence and achievements, he knows he is replaceable and that she can do better in a heartbeat so the cliche wear down her self esteem is in full effect so she puts up with him instead of meeting someone greater and on her level
He’s literally still gaslighting right now. He’s trying to gaslight the audience saying that they’re calling him a narcissist is their own issue. No no sir you are very clear in your post. You are a narcissist, whether you wanna admit that or not and it’s not the rest of the world that has the problem. It’s you. You owe her an apology. I think it’s more of a problem that she doesn’t think she deserves one. Apparently there’s already some issues there within her own self-esteem.
@@banwoolajumoke the woman is not smart that's what he's trying to say. If she was, she wouldn't be with a writer, when she's an investment analyst. She told him not to write about them publicly but she knew there would be backlash, why would you need to brace yourself even before he wrote it?! I don't think he said anything wrong but didn't say anything nice either. No mention of her values/faith caring nature..but who cares. Judging from this interview she seems very articulate, he not so much...he is wearing glasses, the prescription is wrong. Pray they had a fruitful wedding.
@@banwoolajumoke whew girl! Aren’t you on here just like me? And you are better how? Don’t answer that it was a rhetorical question. You’re not. I’m not even gonna try to prove to you whether I have a relationship or not because it’s neither here or there. Although for someone like you that’s probably the only way you find value in yourself is if you feel like somebody else wants you. Poor thing. I said what I said and I stand by what I said. Now you can go sit your hypocritical self down somewhere.
Sometimes people are their own worst enemy. which is why they naturally gravitate and attract people who don’t love & respect them at all. I hope one day some people see the light but everyone has a right to make their own decisions even if it’s a bad one.
Apparently her honors degree is not in Psychology so she doesn't recognize flags. Some of us see through the lense that has managed a Psychotherapy clinic. He doesn't present as Fit to be a Life Coach. It's not effective to ask a person if they are a Narcissist because they rarely know that they are, usually only their victims figure it out. Good Luck with him.
This girl is beautiful. This guy is just moving mad This is gaslighting. He is defending himself when he was wrong. No one saw it through the lens of any trauma wound.
She said: my security and my identity does not come from his affirmations... Me wondering: what other affirmations he gives her in private. Well good for her to be so confident and stand tall. Because this kind of talk can destroy some people's self esteem. That is the problem
Are you saying a man has to find the best woman in the world and a woman has to find the best man in the world if not, "they settled?" I know beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder but let's be honest , if you look (or even if you don't) , you will find people more intelligent and beautiful than the person you choose to settle with. You make that commitment despite everybody else.
@@orduenshambe4891 not everyone will marry the most beautiful or smartest person in the world that is true but you should be with someone you genuinely love, admire and respect, if you put down your partner publicly you are not considerate of their feelings, are uncaring and possibly have no self awareness and are possibly a mean spirited person not great qualities I would want in a husband especially if we are to raise children
@@orduenshambe4891 I’m not saying he settled I think she’s beautiful and probably wonderful. HE IS saying he settled by highlighting all her shortcomings to the world but saying but “I picked you anyway”. Geee thanks 🥴 Why is any of that necessary? Who does that? a narcissist that’s who.
This woman is very intelligent and that is why she is not having any problem with the write up..If you’re a having problems with it, check on your level of thinking..
I can see where he is coming from, but the way he says it has some root of raising a negative vibe in the relationship. If we are in Christ and see through the heart of Christ, then we are able to see our partner in a way that expresses things in a more uplifting way than what he said.
lmfao. see this idiot, projecting on people beautifully in love & about to marry & trying to scatter it. screams BROKEN. don't go and try to get your own fiance, keep on spewing THRASH on others lovely relationship.
Men, never play a woman's game. They know they are not the most beautiful, they know they are not the most intelligent, yet they want you to sing sweet nothings. this man just used the factual truth to communicate intentionality to his wife, and they call him a narcissist. These same women will have you playing this game and when you stop, they will find someone else that will. Run from them. This man has found himself a gem.
I get what he's trying to say in the post but at this point he should have just sat beside his wife and simply said my wife is beautiful rather than keep defending the post and have your wife defending you as well.
Sir, you are DEFINITELY not the most handsome (Actually to me you are just a 4). Of course you aren't the richest, you ain't Bill Gates sir! You are certainly not the most intelligent, you ain't no Einstein. And you must certainly not be the most romantic. But would you want her to announce it to the world? The funny thing is that she's actually smart. I wish her all the best in future with this man.
Might not be a diagnosed narcissist but definitely has narcissistic traits. He wanted the public to know how he views her…..and now we know that he can look past her mediocrity and still choose her…..wow
Inspired by beauty of commitment and giving someone your all. Having someone you just choose and stick with... Choosing someone and to stick with them I am sensing NO LOVE here... Arike mentioned love, he didn't My thoughts, he picked well but loving her and being in love with her, I am not sensing it here. Men who adore their wives/significant others take every opportunity to show it and say it... All I can say is that if my fiance sent me that, I would have to actually reconsider...
I actually thought I was the only one that heard that "just choose to be with..." And lol you know what I delibrately asked my partner "Babe do you think I am not the most beautiful woman in the world?" Mind you he hasn't even heard about this buchi's post and he's not even on Twitter so he just answered "what who said that..you are the most beautiful woman in the world and I love you" then I just smiled and kept it to myself...that was social experiment enough lol
Smiles but wait, are you the most beautiful woman on earth? Even you know that is not correct...You can show someone how that they are so beautiful without lying to them that they are the most beautiful in the world...Laugh
Solomon and Arike are compatible. They understand each other so well. Marriage is not only romantically but logically and rationally. I have Thesame point of view as Arike. They are perfect for each other
@@banwoolajumoke So women should go around announcing to the world that our men might be short, ugly and broke but we love them anyway, and the men should be fine with that or else be labelled insecure?
The fact of it is that Arike is a very beautiful lady, but as Solomon said she really isn't the most beautiful woman or the most intelligent woman. What makes this beautiful is that he is aware of the fact that there are other more beautiful and intelligent women out there but he chose her and will continue to do so and remain faithful to her. In my opinion it's really quite beautiful. This is what he meant.
Adike... you are beautiful... you are the most beautiful because you were made in Christ's image and likeness... Everyone is the most beautiful to someone... wow...
So he’s saying he cannot see where people are coming from ? I think that in itself is unrealistic. I rate her for supporting him but I hope they had a conversation about how they address each other especially in the public eye.
You need to take back what you wrote. The world cannot be wrong. Life coach , you both need to grow up first.. Look beyond your little fingers.. So the entire world wants to “project their insecurities???
He has a very good point and I do agree with him 💯% on the point of people's concept of a narcissists. Today from the time he/she express themselves Ina manner general public does not like he/she has become a narcissist. In terms of his post well if his woman understands what he meant and is unbothered by it, who am I to be mad at him.
Sorry but I still think this man is not right because marrying someone to me should mean you think the world of them. Him saying he’s picking her even though she’s not the prettiest or smartest is still insulting and degrading especially how it came out.
Get you a woman like Arike. Women with sense are the most attractive. The audience don't move them. The know who they're with. One dumb girl somewhere can't just tell her her man who she's known for years is a wicked and narcissistic person and she should leave and she’ll just up and leave. Especially knowing that a lot of these advisers are single, lonely and miserable lots.
The typical woman will think people/ other women are jealous of her love or marriage, instead of being objective, sitting down with her man and asking more questions, Adirke you are the most beautiful and intelligent woman( first class graduate), you will find someone who deserves you and will say that to you, if only you are patient, you are still young, marriage is not your priority and you will get a better person. That post is deep if only you have a third eye
She was on someone’s podcast or radio show or whatever stuttering so much while answering the questions and here she is on live tv still stuttering over these questions. Girl stop tryna lie to us and yourself. You know that post hurt you and we know it too.
Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. He is supposed to say your are the most beautiful, most loving lady that I know. Sounds like he was saying you are the only one who has agreed to marry me, I wish you were beautiful and smart etc., but since you are not those things I will love you anyway. (I guess?)
Honestly, I didn't see anything wrong in what Solomon wrote in his love letter, but maybe people interpreted it in another way. I wouldn't blame them, tbh; everyone is entitled to their own opinion. We all read meanings to things from different perspectives. So, I totally understand where people are coming from. But you know it's also good to hear Solomon's intention and not just jump to conclusion. Or perhaps people were paranoid that Solomon had an issue with his babe.
Girl, you are selling yourself short. This whole situation, is an insecure man trying to make himself feel good about himself, putting out such a statement. Wasn't necessary at all. You don't look or sound desperate. You are a beautiful queen, you deserve better. Even if he thought what he wrote, at a vulnerable insecure moment, it shouldn't have been put out there. Pray for God's discernment. Every girl wants to get married, at some point in life, to a wonderful good man. A man that will love, cherish, dote on them, and, treat them like a queen and unique treasure. He is, not it. Something ain't right. Your decision.
Ever met someone and initially you do not find them attractive, you might even think of them as ugly, but after getting to know that person and maybe even fall in love with that person, you start noticing that the person has beautiful hands, that they're articulate or smart, all the ugliness that you initially saw starts to fall away and the beauty in them shifts into centre stage, well, that is what love does, it reveals layers of beauty, similar to a beautiful person with an ugly spirit, their looks might attract you at first, but once you get to know the person, their innate being repels you. When you're in love with someone, the person won't all of a sudden become the most beautiful person in the world, but to you, because of your feelings towards them, they're will be the most beautiful in the world to you, once you find someone you love enough to marry, especially if you're newly engaged and still in a haze of emotions then all the beauty in the world will lose it's significance, because here's this perfect person, who is obviously not perfect, but is perfect for you. Another thing is; beauty is subjective, she might not be the most beautiful in the world to him, but to someone else, she might be, our standards of beauty are incredibly different, so in relation to his standards, she's not beautiful.
Sorry to say...Good point but wrong conclusion...In his own view she may not be the most beautiful...Even if he finds the most beautiful tomorrow, he is saying, he gives no damn about it....Chooses her forever and for life over everyone and everthing else...That's the message I got
The hustle to Japa and kpali is real All I see is someone who has no values and can't even stand by his words. Sis get ready you are the breadwinner he is not even a doctor or a tech bro !
Unfortunately, Nigerian journalists show case their ignorance on topics of such magnitude. You ask a narcissist if they're one and you expect them to reply to you in the affirmative? Why the fiancee in question would agree to allow them interview her is beyond me. If Solomon Buchi wants to control the narrative that's purely him to do & leave the lady out of it. Ladies! ladies!! ladies!!! make we dey pull our ears. When the love letter was written, I wonder how many of the people interviewing him now were present? In all honesty I understood the message he was trying to convey na the English tumble everything. In a nutshell this isn't something that was relevant to be said at all. Like a wise man I know would say, whatever action you want to take, reflect on it well because once it's out, you can never take it back and the person who it was said too will never forget it. I wish them goodluck
I only see a beautiful woman right now.. I don't hear him saying how beautiful she is outside & inside. The beauty he is seeking is unrealistic & those girl would not give him the time of day. I don't think it is mentally healthy for you girl not now or in the long term & if he can put that out in the public what else is he telling you behind closed door not healthy at all.
There's just a lot to be unpacked here, bottom line is that sis YOU are the one who settled. This man is trying to downplay your beauty and success to make himself feel better, I'm sorry you can't see your own value and worth. I was extremely embarrassed for you, as a lot of women were as this man dragged you down for the entire world to witness. Words matter and I really pray and hope you don't lose your self-esteem in your future marriage to this man who obviously has a lot of narcissistic traits. Goodluck gurl.
Hmmm…..these are some of the mistakes young people make before walking down the isle - “ignoring red flags” this red flag is huge! Recipe for an unhappy marriage for the woman.
@@pinkdollangel what exactly signifies he is not. Is it cos he was honest. Even though, I agree he shouldn't have done it so publicly. So women can beg men for money. But men can't do the same. Seems like hypocrisy to me.
Why is she so focused on being "the most" beautiful? The point is he didn't have to use the words the most in that post at all. He could have called her pretty or complimented her in any other way and he did not do this. If you are ok with this kind of treatment I need to ask you why. Why do you not think or see that you deserve so much better than this. This woman is worth so much more than him. I don't think anyone who is with someone like him is honestly making the smartest decisions. Know your worth.
Your confidence doesn't come from your partner's compliments but from knowing your identity in Christ. Arike knows she is beautiful and she knows she is smart. So whatever Solomon says be she is beautiful well that's nice and she knows she really is but I'd he says she is not the most beautiful woman she will still not be affected because she knows who GOD defined her to be and she would rather look at the logic and rationality behind his thoughts or point of view
Guys relax he just said "she's not the most beautiful" that doesn't mean she's not beautiful or he thinks she is ugly. We need to calm down with cancel culture you don't know them at all
Young lady, wake up!!! Leave him alone. He is cruel!!! I sounded like he despised the fact that you are not the most beautiful, etc. Please stop trying to rescue him. He will not protect you from others who may put you down. He will agree with them.
Delivery is everything hon. When you love someone you put extra care into how something is said or can be perceived. No one needs to hear everything they are NOT to a person neither do they need to be compared to every woman in the world. Highlighting what someone is NOT rather than all that they are, gives the impression that they are lacking in some way but that you will "make do". Not uplifting in anyway. We all get the point but that delivery is trash. Is this something he would put into his wedding vows to her, in front of all her fam and friends?
In a nutshell he is basically telling you girl that you are not beautiful, you are not intelligent but he chose you so you should honour him and stay committed to him because no one else will ever love you like he did. 🙄 Girl you need to get out while you can 😥😥😥
I call BS on all of their answers. How about this Solomon, if when your clients hire you they don't tell you how you're the perfect coach for them...but instead tell you what you are NOT? Well, since this video aired I heard that this couple is no more. Arika, per Solomon, isn't the most intelligent woman...but if she ended it with him clearly she's more intelligent than he thought. Every woman deserves a man who feels she is a prize. The best to this beautiful woman.
Women narcissism is on full display here. they are pinning it on this dude... but I guess women can't help being vain. And for the record, if he publicly professed his love to her in the wrong way... can someone point me to where she publicly professed her love for him AT ALL??
Some wise woman once told me 'You should marry the man that thinks you're the hottest thing this side of the Sahara.' He should literally go nuts when he sees you, and its something he should feel from deep in his heart and mind. This nonsense of 'You're not the smartest or most intelligent but I choose you' is pure bullshit!!!
Yuck yuck yuck! Come ON girl. Wake up 😩 He should be madly in love with you, his fiancé. Instead he wrote a letter ensuring to let you know what he really thinks of you. Even if he doesn’t think you’re the prettiest or smartest, it didn’t have to be included in the letter. This is gaslighting and you’re relationship will NOT last unless you continue to belittle yourself to “make things work.” Exhausting and a waste of your own time
Hmm. His family must be rich. 🤷🏾♀️ To the sister: defend him publicly but question his moves in private. Anyways, the whole “I’m not the average emotional woman, I’m very intellectual” act you will see is a waste of time and a detriment to your womanhood. Even if you don’t want to be called “the most beautiful woman”, he should still have some respect for seeing you as SOME FORM of beautiful if he respects and loves you.
Girl! Why would you be with a man who does not think you are the most beautiful? Seriously?! He is just with you for the commitment? Like he is saving you? Girl you are gorgeous and you need a man that reminds you about that everyday. This fiancé of yours is full of shit. Have you tried to tell him the same? That he is not the most handsome man in the world? How would he feel?
I'm sorry lady he showed his ass and how he really feels about you, and we as black women take anything because our self-esteem is in the toilet and we be happy a chose us (literally by any means necessary). AND the minute a woman he finds prettier and smarter than you he will cheat and or leave you....
Its so silly to ask someone if they are a narcissist… a narcissist will never admit to that! In their minds they believe they are perfect and never do anything wrong-
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I thought the same!
Me too, why would he admit that.
She's a freaking investment banking analyst, and you're just a contributing writer yet you're outchea saying she's not the smartest.
He is trying to pull her down so he can feel like the prize!
@@beewest5704 I was thinking the same thing. Hummm some men are just so uuuggh.
He was being real. She is beautiful but telling her she is the most beautiful ? That's a lie and you know it too.
I'm studying medicine that makes me pretty smart on the world scale , not the smartest ? You bet. And I should be okay with that
@@twataizya 😂😂 its the fact that he felt so comfortable to tell this to her in front of the world thats why ppl are forming different opinions about him. Sure we all know these things to be true, but to our special person we should be the most beautiful, smart etc. Thats the main point here. 🤗
She’s beautiful, but not maybe the smartest to be with man who talks about you this way.
True.
Right
Sad that he put his future wife in this uncomfortable position. I can't imagine marrying a man like this.
She's GORGEOUS! And if she's an investment banker (I believe) she's obviously intelligent. He's a clown trying to make her feel less about herself.
You bearly know him
My issue with him is that while he places a high value on commitment, which is admirable, he also makes a lot of effort to downplay his fiancé's intelligence and beauty by repeatedly claiming that there are other women who are more beautiful and intelligent than her.
He's sick.
He’s insecure by her intelligence and achievements, he knows he is replaceable and that she can do better in a heartbeat so the cliche wear down her self esteem is in full effect so she puts up with him instead of meeting someone greater and on her level
If you sincerely love someone your initial thoughts should be, they are beautiful. Or am I wrong?
True
Not you're not I promise
You are beautiful is not the same as you are the most beautiful in the whole world...He didn't say she is not beautiful
@@michealadetayo9942 general speaking when you say you’re not the most beautiful it infers that your not attractive.
He’s literally still gaslighting right now. He’s trying to gaslight the audience saying that they’re calling him a narcissist is their own issue. No no sir you are very clear in your post. You are a narcissist, whether you wanna admit that or not and it’s not the rest of the world that has the problem. It’s you. You owe her an apology. I think it’s more of a problem that she doesn’t think she deserves one. Apparently there’s already some issues there within her own self-esteem.
Lol
You better go and work on your own self and relationship (if you have one) and stop chooking mouth into someone else's 😝
@@pinkdollangel She didn't complain👌
@@banwoolajumoke the woman is not smart that's what he's trying to say. If she was, she wouldn't be with a writer, when she's an investment analyst. She told him not to write about them publicly but she knew there would be backlash, why would you need to brace yourself even before he wrote it?! I don't think he said anything wrong but didn't say anything nice either. No mention of her values/faith caring nature..but who cares. Judging from this interview she seems very articulate, he not so much...he is wearing glasses, the prescription is wrong. Pray they had a fruitful wedding.
Hey, pls read my reply above. All will be well. They know who eachother is. Not many people do
@@banwoolajumoke whew girl! Aren’t you on here just like me? And you are better how? Don’t answer that it was a rhetorical question. You’re not. I’m not even gonna try to prove to you whether I have a relationship or not because it’s neither here or there. Although for someone like you that’s probably the only way you find value in yourself is if you feel like somebody else wants you. Poor thing. I said what I said and I stand by what I said. Now you can go sit your hypocritical self down somewhere.
She saying she doesn’t want to be called the most beautiful woman that didn’t sound true at all
Sometimes people are their own worst enemy. which is why they naturally gravitate and attract people who don’t love & respect them at all. I hope one day some people see the light but everyone has a right to make their own decisions even if it’s a bad one.
This!!!!!
Apparently her honors degree is not in Psychology so she doesn't recognize flags. Some of us see through the lense that has managed a Psychotherapy clinic. He doesn't present as Fit to be a Life Coach. It's not effective to ask a person if they are a Narcissist because they rarely know that they are, usually only their victims figure it out. Good Luck with him.
We don't know him but he's the one who put it on social media. He should have kept it private. Good luck to you girl🤷🏾♀️
This girl is beautiful. This guy is just moving mad
This is gaslighting. He is defending himself when he was wrong.
No one saw it through the lens of any trauma wound.
I see you didn't even watch this video huh?
She said: my security and my identity does not come from his affirmations...
Me wondering: what other affirmations he gives her in private. Well good for her to be so confident and stand tall. Because this kind of talk can destroy some people's self esteem. That is the problem
So basically he’s saying…. He settled. And she needs to wake up
Yep,great summary!
I have heard lots of women say they settled for their man as a thing of pride
Are you saying a man has to find the best woman in the world and a woman has to find the best man in the world if not, "they settled?"
I know beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder but let's be honest , if you look (or even if you don't) , you will find people more intelligent and beautiful than the person you choose to settle with. You make that commitment despite everybody else.
@@orduenshambe4891 not everyone will marry the most beautiful or smartest person in the world that is true but you should be with someone you genuinely love, admire and respect, if you put down your partner publicly you are not considerate of their feelings, are uncaring and possibly have no self awareness and are possibly a mean spirited person not great qualities I would want in a husband especially if we are to raise children
@@orduenshambe4891 I’m not saying he settled I think she’s beautiful and probably wonderful. HE IS saying he settled by highlighting all her shortcomings to the world but saying but “I picked you anyway”. Geee thanks 🥴 Why is any of that necessary? Who does that? a narcissist that’s who.
She’s the most beautiful woman to some Men out there. They are saying horrible comments to defend his fiancé actually.
This woman is very intelligent and that is why she is not having any problem with the write up..If you’re a having problems with it, check on your level of thinking..
The voice of people is the voice of God, Adirike is in love, so she has no third 👁 eye, now. How can the whole public be wrong and you are right?
I would take it as a major redflag
I can see where he is coming from, but the way he says it has some root of raising a negative vibe in the relationship. If we are in Christ and see through the heart of Christ, then we are able to see our partner in a way that expresses things in a more uplifting way than what he said.
"profound way of him expressing his love for me"
Women will do almost anything and take almost anything in order to have a man. Such a pity
The post in 2020 confirms it... SMH
Girl... Adike 🏃♀️ run... run fast... run run... run... run...
Which post?
lmfao. see this idiot, projecting on people beautifully in love & about to marry & trying to scatter it. screams BROKEN. don't go and try to get your own fiance, keep on spewing THRASH on others lovely relationship.
@@mizzcashmoney1 watch the video... he posted in 2020...
Men, never play a woman's game. They know they are not the most beautiful, they know they are not the most intelligent, yet they want you to sing sweet nothings. this man just used the factual truth to communicate intentionality to his wife, and they call him a narcissist. These same women will have you playing this game and when you stop, they will find someone else that will. Run from them. This man has found himself a gem.
The best comment I have seen so far
You should be the most beautiful to him!!
I get what he's trying to say in the post but at this point he should have just sat beside his wife and simply said my wife is beautiful rather than keep defending the post and have your wife defending you as well.
And what do you have to say about her not saying anything AT ALL... (wrong way, right way, any way)
Sir, you are DEFINITELY not the most handsome (Actually to me you are just a 4). Of course you aren't the richest, you ain't Bill Gates sir! You are certainly not the most intelligent, you ain't no Einstein. And you must certainly not be the most romantic. But would you want her to announce it to the world? The funny thing is that she's actually smart. I wish her all the best in future with this man.
Exactly. This average looking dude talking about her not being the most beautiful. Their looks are the same level.
Might not be a diagnosed narcissist but definitely has narcissistic traits.
He wanted the public to know how he views her…..and now we know that he can look past her mediocrity and still choose her…..wow
She is a Mathematician and he is an influencer.. Tells you all you need to know. He tried to cut her down
'Look past her mediocrity'
The craziest part is she's the one who settled. She's college educated and has a career. His "job" is being an influencer.
@@mashamitchell9574 😂🤣
Inspired by beauty of commitment and giving someone your all. Having someone you just choose and stick with... Choosing someone and to stick with them
I am sensing NO LOVE here...
Arike mentioned love, he didn't
My thoughts, he picked well but loving her and being in love with her, I am not sensing it here. Men who adore their wives/significant others take every opportunity to show it and say it...
All I can say is that if my fiance sent me that, I would have to actually reconsider...
No love indeed. Arike run
I actually thought I was the only one that heard that "just choose to be with..." And lol you know what I delibrately asked my partner "Babe do you think I am not the most beautiful woman in the world?" Mind you he hasn't even heard about this buchi's post and he's not even on Twitter so he just answered "what who said that..you are the most beautiful woman in the world and I love you" then I just smiled and kept it to myself...that was social experiment enough lol
Smiles but wait, are you the most beautiful woman on earth? Even you know that is not correct...You can show someone how that they are so beautiful without lying to them that they are the most beautiful in the world...Laugh
@@michealadetayo9942 you are not handsome or smart...how about that Michael
Solomon and Arike are compatible. They understand each other so well.
Marriage is not only romantically but logically and rationally.
I have Thesame point of view as Arike. They are perfect for each other
This is another Tobe Nwigwe. Nigerian men explain yourselves! what is this thing of publicly humiliating your wives! 😭
Your insecurity speaking, dear
@@pinkdollangel well, she didn't complain to y'all
Wait what did Tobe do?
@@iamphayvoured He habitually denigrates Fat in public under the guise of "honesty".
@@banwoolajumoke So women should go around announcing to the world that our men might be short, ugly and broke but we love them anyway, and the men should be fine with that or else be labelled insecure?
The fact of it is that Arike is a very beautiful lady, but as Solomon said she really isn't the most beautiful woman or the most intelligent woman. What makes this beautiful is that he is aware of the fact that there are other more beautiful and intelligent women out there but he chose her and will continue to do so and remain faithful to her. In my opinion it's really quite beautiful. This is what he meant.
Adike... you are beautiful... you are the most beautiful because you were made in Christ's image and likeness...
Everyone is the most beautiful to someone... wow...
So he’s saying he cannot see where people are coming from ? I think that in itself is unrealistic. I rate her for supporting him but I hope they had a conversation about how they address each other especially in the public eye.
You need to take back what you wrote. The world cannot be wrong. Life coach , you both need to grow up first.. Look beyond your little fingers.. So the entire world wants to “project their insecurities???
Imagine
The world can be wrong
The majority can be wrong.its happened several times
He has a very good point and I do agree with him 💯% on the point of people's concept of a narcissists. Today from the time he/she express themselves Ina manner general public does not like he/she has become a narcissist. In terms of his post well if his woman understands what he meant and is unbothered by it, who am I to be mad at him.
Sorry but I still think this man is not right because marrying someone to me should mean you think the world of them. Him saying he’s picking her even though she’s not the prettiest or smartest is still insulting and degrading especially how it came out.
or they have what you are looking for, so they are the full package to him.
Get you a woman like Arike. Women with sense are the most attractive. The audience don't move them. The know who they're with. One dumb girl somewhere can't just tell her her man who she's known for years is a wicked and narcissistic person and she should leave and she’ll just up and leave. Especially knowing that a lot of these advisers are single, lonely and miserable lots.
The typical woman will think people/ other women are jealous of her love or marriage, instead of being objective, sitting down with her man and asking more questions, Adirke you are the most beautiful and intelligent woman( first class graduate), you will find someone who deserves you and will say that to you, if only you are patient, you are still young, marriage is not your priority and you will get a better person. That post is deep if only you have a third eye
Solomon BUCHI gives me narcissistic vibes...he doesn't strike me like a good person...something is definitely off with him.
I hope one day she wakes up and sees it for what it is
She was on someone’s podcast or radio show or whatever stuttering so much while answering the questions and here she is on live tv still stuttering over these questions. Girl stop tryna lie to us and yourself. You know that post hurt you and we know it too.
Arike has loved up already anything solom does will always be perfect
God see grace thanks for the grace of knowing you and having you in this generation #SOLOMON BUCHI# more grace
Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. He is supposed to say your are the most beautiful, most loving lady that I know. Sounds like he was saying you are the only one who has agreed to marry me, I wish you were beautiful and smart etc., but since you are not those things I will love you anyway. (I guess?)
Honestly, I didn't see anything wrong in what Solomon wrote in his love letter, but maybe people interpreted it in another way. I wouldn't blame them, tbh; everyone is entitled to their own opinion. We all read meanings to things from different perspectives. So, I totally understand where people are coming from. But you know it's also good to hear Solomon's intention and not just jump to conclusion. Or perhaps people were paranoid that Solomon had an issue with his babe.
Girl run, run🙅🏾♀️🤦🏽♀️🏃🏿♂️🏃🏿♂️🏃🏿♂️🏃🏿♂️🏃🏿♂️🏃🏿♂️
Well now she has left him, serves him right...
wow such a matured young lady. I love her already lol
This has got nothing to do with maturity honestly.
@@Salad_Channel More like low self esteem
I see her being being a starter wife. This is not ok
Why is music playing in the background?? It is distracting.
Well, if she says she is realistic, maybe he's trying to project that in what he said.
Let us rest abeg. E don do.
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He look like urkle from the 80 show. He not that smart to make a comment like that and his job is not better than hers. I wouldn't marry him.
Girl, you are selling yourself short. This whole situation, is an insecure man trying to make himself feel good about himself, putting out such a statement. Wasn't necessary at all. You don't look or sound desperate. You are a beautiful queen, you deserve better. Even if he thought what he wrote, at a vulnerable insecure moment, it shouldn't have been put out there. Pray for God's discernment. Every girl wants to get married, at some point in life, to a wonderful good man. A man that will love, cherish, dote on them, and, treat them like a queen and unique treasure. He is, not it. Something ain't right. Your decision.
Ever met someone and initially you do not find them attractive, you might even think of them as ugly, but after getting to know that person and maybe even fall in love with that person, you start noticing that the person has beautiful hands, that they're articulate or smart, all the ugliness that you initially saw starts to fall away and the beauty in them shifts into centre stage, well, that is what love does, it reveals layers of beauty, similar to a beautiful person with an ugly spirit, their looks might attract you at first, but once you get to know the person, their innate being repels you.
When you're in love with someone, the person won't all of a sudden become the most beautiful person in the world, but to you, because of your feelings towards them, they're will be the most beautiful in the world to you, once you find someone you love enough to marry, especially if you're newly engaged and still in a haze of emotions then all the beauty in the world will lose it's significance, because here's this perfect person, who is obviously not perfect, but is perfect for you.
Another thing is; beauty is subjective, she might not be the most beautiful in the world to him, but to someone else, she might be, our standards of beauty are incredibly different, so in relation to his standards, she's not beautiful.
Sorry to say...Good point but wrong conclusion...In his own view she may not be the most beautiful...Even if he finds the most beautiful tomorrow, he is saying, he gives no damn about it....Chooses her forever and for life over everyone and everthing else...That's the message I got
THEY BROKE UP
He is not even attractive, the girl even smart is a pick me
Can you imagine
The hustle to Japa and kpali is real
All I see is someone who has no values and can't even stand by his words. Sis get ready you are the breadwinner he is not even a doctor or a tech bro !
Five years from now, we will need a "What are they now" update because this woman is chosen wrong.
Wow.. speechless 😵😵😵😵🤯
Unfortunately, Nigerian journalists show case their ignorance on topics of such magnitude. You ask a narcissist if they're one and you expect them to reply to you in the affirmative? Why the fiancee in question would agree to allow them interview her is beyond me. If Solomon Buchi wants to control the narrative that's purely him to do & leave the lady out of it. Ladies! ladies!! ladies!!! make we dey pull our ears. When the love letter was written, I wonder how many of the people interviewing him now were present? In all honesty I understood the message he was trying to convey na the English tumble everything. In a nutshell this isn't something that was relevant to be said at all. Like a wise man I know would say, whatever action you want to take, reflect on it well because once it's out, you can never take it back and the person who it was said too will never forget it. I wish them goodluck
The question is who he thinks is the most beautiful to him. Or most intelligent. Why compare or say it 🙄
Make una leave the babe,few years down the line her eye go clear Dem no dey tell person
Cold stout for you
This is a beautiful woman. But maybe she isn't that bright if she can't see through his obvious disrespect. Sad!
I only see a beautiful woman right now.. I don't hear him saying how beautiful she is outside & inside. The beauty he is seeking is unrealistic & those girl would not give him the time of day. I don't think it is mentally healthy for you girl not now or in the long term & if he can put that out in the public what else is he telling you behind closed door not healthy at all.
He should have listened to his Fiancée and not posted.
The fact that it was posted ...it was never for her to begin with it was for him.... it was a tool used to serve his EGO.
He got on that “Get Out” hat omg
There's just a lot to be unpacked here, bottom line is that sis YOU are the one who settled. This man is trying to downplay your beauty and success to make himself feel better, I'm sorry you can't see your own value and worth. I was extremely embarrassed for you, as a lot of women were as this man dragged you down for the entire world to witness. Words matter and I really pray and hope you don't lose your self-esteem in your future marriage to this man who obviously has a lot of narcissistic traits. Goodluck gurl.
Hmmm…..these are some of the mistakes young people make before walking down the isle - “ignoring red flags” this red flag is huge! Recipe for an unhappy marriage for the woman.
I am SO confused that he has a TedxTalk entitled "Dear Patriarchy, Rest in Peace" from a year ago.
Bestie WHAT?! 👀👀👀
He is a feminist. What is wrong with that.
@@pinkdollangel what exactly signifies he is not. Is it cos he was honest. Even though, I agree he shouldn't have done it so publicly.
So women can beg men for money. But men can't do the same. Seems like hypocrisy to me.
Now I know why he wants to marry her, knowing recently how much a beggar he is. Hope he doesn't live off her.
Why is she so focused on being "the most" beautiful? The point is he didn't have to use the words the most in that post at all. He could have called her pretty or complimented her in any other way and he did not do this. If you are ok with this kind of treatment I need to ask you why. Why do you not think or see that you deserve so much better than this. This woman is worth so much more than him. I don't think anyone who is with someone like him is honestly making the smartest decisions. Know your worth.
He didn't say it the 'right way huh?' Can you point me to her letter where she professed her commitment to him... in ANY WAY?
Am back after his announcement of breakup. Her cough said much
It was rude and tone deaf
Your confidence doesn't come from your partner's compliments but from knowing your identity in Christ. Arike knows she is beautiful and she knows she is smart. So whatever Solomon says be she is beautiful well that's nice and she knows she really is but I'd he says she is not the most beautiful woman she will still not be affected because she knows who GOD defined her to be and she would rather look at the logic and rationality behind his thoughts or point of view
Guys relax he just said "she's not the most beautiful" that doesn't mean she's not beautiful or he thinks she is ugly. We need to calm down with cancel culture you don't know them at all
If you had to go the dictionary to find the meaning of 'narcissist,' gather here😂
Young lady, wake up!!! Leave him alone. He is cruel!!! I sounded like he despised the fact that you are not the most beautiful, etc. Please stop trying to rescue him. He will not protect you from others who may put you down. He will agree with them.
the note also applies to him, he certainly isn't handsome but she loves him for him.
I don't know why I silently understand his point tho
Delivery is everything hon. When you love someone you put extra care into how something is said or can be perceived. No one needs to hear everything they are NOT to a person neither do they need to be compared to every woman in the world. Highlighting what someone is NOT rather than all that they are, gives the impression that they are lacking in some way but that you will "make do". Not uplifting in anyway. We all get the point but that delivery is trash. Is this something he would put into his wedding vows to her, in front of all her fam and friends?
And now they called it quite. What happened than?????
Wait, what???
@@tam9856 yes they did.....look up solomon buchi
Gaslighting@its peak! Kinda narcissistic
In a nutshell he is basically telling you girl that you are not beautiful, you are not intelligent but he chose you so you should honour him and stay committed to him because no one else will ever love you like he did. 🙄 Girl you need to get out while you can 😥😥😥
She is soo pretty though
This is so unfortunate he is trying to make sense but sadly he is not….
I call BS on all of their answers. How about this Solomon, if when your clients hire you they don't tell you how you're the perfect coach for them...but instead tell you what you are NOT?
Well, since this video aired I heard that this couple is no more. Arika, per Solomon, isn't the most intelligent woman...but if she ended it with him clearly she's more intelligent than he thought. Every woman deserves a man who feels she is a prize. The best to this beautiful woman.
Women narcissism is on full display here. they are pinning it on this dude... but I guess women can't help being vain. And for the record, if he publicly professed his love to her in the wrong way... can someone point me to where she publicly professed her love for him AT ALL??
He's loving the attention.
I hope she finds a way to benefit from this exposure because she looks like an abuse victim
I think social media is a joke, people sitting on their sofas have no moral authority to judge a stranger based on a simple statement,
But he sought out strangers opinion on the post, unfortunately she might not be as smart if she is marrying a attention seeker.
Some wise woman once told me 'You should marry the man that thinks you're the hottest thing this side of the Sahara.' He should literally go nuts when he sees you, and its something he should feel from deep in his heart and mind. This nonsense of 'You're not the smartest or most intelligent but I choose you' is pure bullshit!!!
she's actually very beautiful
Yuck yuck yuck! Come ON girl. Wake up 😩 He should be madly in love with you, his fiancé. Instead he wrote a letter ensuring to let you know what he really thinks of you. Even if he doesn’t think you’re the prettiest or smartest, it didn’t have to be included in the letter. This is gaslighting and you’re relationship will NOT last unless you continue to belittle yourself to “make things work.” Exhausting and a waste of your own time
These are his thoughts allow him to have them. I would toss this love note in my past. DONT LOOK IN THE REAR VIEW MIRROR LEAVE THE PAST ENOUGH SAID .
Hmm. His family must be rich. 🤷🏾♀️ To the sister: defend him publicly but question his moves in private. Anyways, the whole “I’m not the average emotional woman, I’m very intellectual” act you will see is a waste of time and a detriment to your womanhood. Even if you don’t want to be called “the most beautiful woman”, he should still have some respect for seeing you as SOME FORM of beautiful if he respects and loves you.
Girl! Why would you be with a man who does not think you are the most beautiful? Seriously?! He is just with you for the commitment? Like he is saving you? Girl you are gorgeous and you need a man that reminds you about that everyday. This fiancé of yours is full of shit. Have you tried to tell him the same? That he is not the most handsome man in the world? How would he feel?
I'm sorry lady he showed his ass and how he really feels about you, and we as black women take anything because our self-esteem is in the toilet and we be happy a chose us (literally by any means necessary). AND the minute a woman he finds prettier and smarter than you he will cheat and or leave you....
People who are doing marriage the Christian way will kinda see reasons with them
I do not
They explained this very well
Maybe more people should be this honest in their relationships
But he didn't need to post his thoughts about his wife to be, he is a attention seeker because of the desperation for strangers opinion.
Girl blink twice if you need help
This is what happen when you talk too much.