The Problem with the Self-Love Movement
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- Опубликовано: 28 июн 2024
- Spilling the tea (with my donut mug) on the self-love movement. Just kidding. There isn't really any tea. Just sharing why I don't necessarily agree that we should all put ourselves first, and why I don't think the answer to life is to "love yourself more."
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Verses this video was founded on:
-Luke 9:23-25
-1 Timothy 6:19
-1 John 4
-Mark 10
-Philippians 2:3
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Song in outro: Touch the Sky by Hillsong
You are so loved. Be so blessed in Jesus,
-Becca
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Just for reference - I talk about mental health and people who genuinely hate themselves at 10:00 - please know I take mental health and people's struggles with that very seriously!!
I am always confuse about self-love thingy. Thanks for the video now i am clear now. Can you do a video for those who really always prioritize others and end up neglecting themselves and their own needs? More detailed advice for those who hate themselves?
I enjoyed your passion and perspectives...any thoughts about the idea of forgiving oneself? Is that concept even Biblical??😀
I cried cause you really touched a wound that I’ve been dealing with. Thank you so much for understanding and taking mental health seriously.
Yes I love myself as said because I can't do with you, who use as papet through others and speak wrong without evidence
“...the essence of gospel-humility is not thinking more of myself or thinking less of myself, it is thinking of myself less.”
― Timothy Keller, The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness
I LOVE Timothy Keller! That’s a wonderful quote!!
I love this quote!
nice! I think he got this from C.S Lewis ;) he First said it
I like this perspective but it’s so important to empathize that there’s a healthy balance. You can’t pour from an empty cup. For a lot of people, we pour everything out to help other people while completely ignoring our own needs and mental health. I’ve gotten to the point of having full blown panic attacks at the expense of being there for others or doing something to make them happy. Taking care of yourself is okay. Loving yourself is okay. Putting your mental health in front of someone else’s wants is okay. You can’t give to others or be there for others if you never take care of yourself. Unfortunately, a lot of Christians take it too far and completely burn out because they’re not engaging in enough self care. Jesus said love your neighbor as yourself, which means taking care of others and yourself. Jesus went out by himself to take time to pray, which is self-care. Don’t feel guilty for taking care of yourself 💜
Mental health is SO important! I talk about this at 10:00. Always love hearing your thoughts girl
Totally agree!
Rebekah Johnson of course yes we should take time to heal ourselves [allowing God to heal us and receiving help from people], especially when dealing with mental illness or when we are going through hard times. healing is important and we shouldn’t just give give give without dealing with things.
But at the same time there is freedom in giving and helping people who are going through rough things, despite if we feel burnt out or not. We find freedom and joy when we lay ourselves down and set aside our feelings. Let’s do what for people what we want others to do for us, which is a part of becoming love and becoming more like Jesus!!
Mia Foster This is awesome Mia! I agree with you :)
Rebekah Johnson I really like your reference to Jesus saying “Love your neighbor as yourself” I agree there has to be a balance. We have to love ourselves because God says to and we are His Children. Crossing that line starts bringing us into pride & jealousy we don’t have what others have and by wanting it we are then coveting, also sin, So again balance is 🔑
There's a fine line between Self Love and Selfishness. We need to check our thoughts every moment.
I agree that we need to accept and love ourselves but I don’t believe that we should put ourself before others, we should love everyone just as we do ourselves.
Right! Self-hatred isn't okay either!
Idk in some situations I thinks it’s a good choice. My former relationship my boyfriend did not really like that I follow in Jesus because he’s Muslim so in that case I did choose myself first because I knew it was the right choice to do even though it was hard at the time. I do agree that people over do it though.
Aww girl but see in that you were putting God first and following Him! Loving someone doesn't always have to be a romantic relationship. It can be being kind to someone or many other things! I think you made the right choice for sure but ultimately you did that because you were loving GOD!
I disagree, check out my comment and see what you think.
There was no tea
I was clickbaited >:((
But honestly, self love is becoming self worship. It's messed up.
Self love IS self worship. It's not a real thing. Self *respect* is a real thing. Respect yourself, love others.
@@Emper0rH0rde YESS
Also-I don’t think being selfish is self love. Ultimately, it leads to so much pain! To me, at least, self love is 1) maintaining my faith, 2) spending time with loved ones, 3) not taking too much on in life, and 4) having the occasional treat or doing something special. I don’t think we should paint it with such a broad brush and make it sound like taking care of ourselves is selfish.
Thanks for making this video, like your insights!
That is WISDOM!
Thanks Becca! I love this series about things we say as Christians but really shouldn’t, keep it up❤️
THIS is exactly what I was thinking...I've never seen or heard anyone treat self love as selfishness. I've always seen self love as loving and accepting yourself and others as they are in an age of social media perfection.
I’ve always wondered what other Christians thought about the “self-love” movement, and where we believe that the power is within ourselves. But really, the power is within God. These videos are so amazing, and a lot of these concepts are lining up with things in my life. In my youth group we’ve been talking about God’s love, and how we love because God loved us first! Keep it up with the God-filled videos!❤️
I agree with you!! My pastor just recently told me that “self-love” before “god love” is totally not the right idea. Through God, He can show us how and why to love ourselves instead of the vain ideas the world may portray. 😊 -that is just the short answer
As long as you love yourself in context of God, it wont become selfish. For instance, instead of doing self love (basically a pat on the back) I do affirmations “I am loved by God” etc. those make me feel loved. Then I tell myself that Ive been made by God so He must want me here for a reason. Ive been suicidal over 12 times and Im a self harmer and have an eating disorder.
True healing ONLY COMES
THROUGH GOD. I am NOT capable of healing myself.
God bless. Subscribed.
“Hate is a distorted form of hurt” wowowoowowoow wowowoowowoow that is profound!
i hate life
chiron affirmations You may hate life but I am glad that you have it
@@camolie6016 good for u lmao
Pɪᴄᴄᴏʟᴏ life is so temporary. Heaven and hell are so eternal...
@@blondie4lyfe245 WTHECK
You should do a video on the concept that "God helps those who help themselves"!
JRD YES!!
JRD yessss
That is contrary to what the Bible teaches.
@@avahbenjamin9985 100%! It's just far too common a mindset, would love to hear her opinion on it!
@@avahbenjamin9985 Benjamin Franklin is usually credited with the phrase "The Lord helps those who help themselves". Based on what we know about him,he probably said it between mouthfuls of French whore.
Mr. Franklin also said "Lighthouses are more useful than churches".
I feel like a lot of times “ self-love” can be more so arrogance than love for oneself. Self-care is good for health but selfishness is not, too much can destroy good character.
I’ve always viewed self love as a point where we reject the enemy’s lies about us such as “we’re ugly, we’re never good enough etc” but you’re right love truly does come from God. I thought loving oneself is recognizing your worth no? But I do believe there is a point where selfishness does come in the picture. Anyways great video.
CeCe 0 yes God makes us realize our worth through Christ! Loving yourself is also knowing that your identity comes from Christ!!
a good point!
I LOVE this message
This was a very interesting and insightful topic. It’s easy to misinterpret the verse “love others as you love yourself” as it can be perceived as requiring us to have love for ourself first but you’ve taught me so much. Thank you ❤️
FI👏NA👏LLY👏 someone is talking about this!! I have had terrible feelings about all this “self love” stuff for years but no one was saying anything about it so I kept my opinions mostly to myself. No Christians were stepping up and saying how messed up this movement is, so I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t agree, of course, but I didn’t know if it was wrong for me to disagree. Thank you so much for plainly stating what is wrong with all this “self love” stuff and how we as Christians should view it. God bless you!! 💕
Reminds me of the verse “For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it.”Matthew 16:25
Loved this video!! True satisfaction doesn’t lie in selfishness. When we know our identity as children of God and His love for us,we will desire to focus more on others, helping them feel the great love we have felt from God.
So incredibly true! God's love is all we need to have fullness of joy and we can't do that for ourselves. Only He can fill that void. It's so hard for me to see the brokenness everywhere in my friends and in my school. So many people need to hear this! Thank you so much for putting these messages out there. You're a blessing!
AMEN.
Thank you Becca. I really needed this because I was falling into this mentality a bit but I did feel like it was wrong deep down. Thanks for being that friend that isn't too scared to correct. Love you so much girl ❤❤❤❤
P.s. there are people who are hurt and depressed and they really do need to discover how loved they are in Christ, and they may be on their own journey in that. (Not saying it's ok to only be taking care of yourself, but we don't always know someone's mentality and it's best to comfort someone like that in that situation - who's depressed or going through anything painful).
Anyways God bless 💕
I agree totally with this girl!!
I understand where you are coming from. I don’t think you should be selfish. I do believe you need to learn to love yourself before you can truly love others otherwise you will eventually drain yourself. I have experienced this and my mother has as well. I put others first for so long that it messed with me. So I think it is important to be kind and loving to others while focusing on your growth. I definitely agree that learning to love yourself looks like going to God, counseling, etc. you do have to confront it and continue to work towards it. I am working on that now. It’s a journey. I think part of the self love movement isn’t coming from a Godly place but a place of showing others what you are doing which may be a form of getting approval or attention. That isn’t a healthy “self love”. It is artificial. But that almost always comes with social media. If that make sense that may have been jibberish. haha love your videos though. I love that you’re not afraid to put your opinion out there. You always give me something to think about.
I really like your overall message, and for the most part I’d agree. I would like to maybe clarify your thoughts on people taking time occasionally for self-care, but more as a way to then be able to serve others. Basically, taking time occasionally to recharge our energy to then be able to give someone everything we can. I personally don’t like the idea of using self-care as an excuse to not serve others. But I do think the once in a while time to process things will allow me the ability to better serve others.
Great video! I'm really glad you talked about this! I really like watching your videos I always feel like I learned a lot and it leaves me feeling uplifted! Keep up the great work! I don't know what I would do without your videos
This exact thing has been on my heart so much recently!! Never seen someone do a video on this- thank you! Please keep it up
Wow! Literally started watching this channel this time last year. Thanks so much for everything you're doing!
Thank you so much, Becca! I've been trying to "make" myself feel better a lot lately after miscellaneous tough things happen in life, but no amount of Netflix or sweet foods ever really sticks. But I know that Jesus has a way of filling us with joy and peace when we stop leaning on ourselves so much. Thanks for the reminder!
I’ve always struggled with my own self-esteem, and then how to look at myself in a different (Christian) light-because these little phrases always fell short to me; they were too shallow. And I didn’t realize I was still doing this until one of my church groups recently brought up the topic of self esteem and worth. It was so pivotal because they pointed out, We’re not worthy. That’s quite exactly the point. Christ died and WE WERE UNWORTHY. And there is so much in popular culture and even Christian songs that gets that at least a little wrong. Our group leader mentioned a Keith & Kristen Getty song that says, “Two wonders here that I confess: my worth and my unworthiness. My value fixed, my ransom paid at the cross.” And the point was that we have always been unworthy, and we don’t love ourselves but we love who we are in Christ. And I think in the grand scheme of things, loving ourselves in Christ must be accomplished before we can love others in Christ well bc without it we are ingenuine. But I completely agree with you on this movement that has come about and I’m thankful that you spoke about it to begin a conversation!
I think there's a difference between the self love you're describing and self care, self acceptance and self respect. I think the self love movement isn't necessarily bad (it's just sometimes interpreted wrongly) because I don't think it was originally about being selfish. I do think it's incomplete because when people try to do self love without involving God it goes wrong and does become selfish. I think people in certain situations do have to be told to value themselves more (people in abusive relationships, people who over work themselves, people who self harm) and to me that's who the 'self love' movement is about - no I agree it's not about middle class people having more bubble baths. Also the reason for self love, as I understand it, is in order to love others. For example a person who is in an abusive relationship isn't able to show love to others in the same way as if they weren't in that relationship because they being emotionally damaged. They don't have the emotional capacity to show love to others because their energies are going on surviving in the relationship they're in. Another example could be if a person is working all the hours under the sun and neglecting their own health. They would need reminding to care for themselves. The quotes that you read out from the Bible were warning against being prideful and doing things only for your own gain. This, to me, is different to self care.
I hate when people say you have to love yourself before you can love others. It doesn't make sense in my mind.
I’ve never looked at it like that before! I’ve always heard people say things like “you are enough” isn’t real self-love because we aren’t enough, and only God can satisfy us. I haven’t taken the time to think about how some of us are already too selfish.
When I first saw the title of this video I was so excited to watch it!!! I think this was something alot of people (including myself) needed to hear Thx so much!
@FarAwayDistance What about Matthew 22:39 "And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself"? I thought that "self-love" infiltrating the church was simply the church realizing that giving in to an overworking and under-loving culture/society is wrong. I thought it was more like remembering to take care of yourself instead of sacrificing your personal health and well being to complete something or empty what is left of yourself into someone else. I saw it as promoting balance. I did not see it as an extreme way to put myself first. I saw it as a reminder that I am also a person who needs to love myself the way I want to love others: abundantly well. I was missing this verse and that reminder of balance in the video. Who knows I may have missed it. I love and respect you and I hope that you continue with these videos on harder topics, life updates, and real talks. I am a fan of the way you choose to love. Keep loving well and answer back if you can.
Godspeed, Kayla
Thanks for posting this! It's so refreshing to hear this!
First quote: I agree with you because you won’t be fully by yourself in life and if so it’s practically not healthy for your well-being. Humans are social creatures, some more than others, and we need interactions in order to survive.
Second quote: At first I disagreed with you a bit but now I see what you’re saying. People who have confidence issues or even mental issues have a hard time loving themselves. I’ve had bad self esteem issues and I know what it’s like, but every time I was dealing with something that hurt me I wanted to seek help from someone.
I don’t know if it’s just me because I’m a naturally helpful and humble person, putting others before myself, but I interpret self love and care as taking care of my mental, physical, emotional, and even spiritual health. Sometimes when I’m overwhelmed I want to take a step back from the hustle and bustle and focus on the most important things in life. That’s why I’m taking a gap year because college was really stressful and overwhelmed me. So right now I’m refocusing on myself and what I love to do: getting back to my hobbies, growing in my relationship with God, venturing out to the world at my own pace, making new friends, and spending time with family.
Maybe I’m taking a more Christian-like approach when it comes to self love and care but this is how I see it 🤷🏽♀️
To me "loving yourself first" is actually not a matter of "selfishness." For me and many people I know it's a statement that unless you are confident in who God created you to be & you fully love who you are it is hard to selflessly love others without having another agenda. If you aren't taking care and loving your own self you will search for validation in others and constantly be feeding off attention from others. Your self esteem will be based on other's opinions and love for you. For me it's always been a statement that it's my job to know that God loves me and to confidently believe I have been chosen and created by him. I have to do this first because otherwise my intention for loving others can be skewed. "Selflessness" can become driven by selfishness when you are doing it because deep down you don't like yourself and are doing it to make yourself feel good. Self love for me is recognizing God's love for me and aligning my self view with how He views me BEFORE I interact with others so I can be confident, not think so much about myself, and fully invest in others. My love for myself must come first or else I cannot love others without subconsciously needing validation and attention. Just a different perspective!
I fully agree!
I literally was just thinking about this the other day. I've struggled with a lot of anxiety and depression, and something I kept hearing was to take care of myself. I can't move on until I feel happy... I realized my joy can come from helping others! The more I serve and focus on loving others, the more I have come to appreciate who God made me to be. Thank you for the video!
Thanks for covering this topic. I had never thought about it until now
I have been waiting for some one to do a video on this. AMEN TO EVERYTHING YOU SAID! you are truly rooted in Gods truth. So encouraging to see people of my age be so grounded and cold in their faith ❤
Thank you, I really needed to hear this. Keep praying and keep up the good work.
This message is so amazing and just what the world needs to hear. Thank you so much for this video! “True joy is in self denial and in losing yourself”👏🏼👏🏼
PREACH GIRL!! This has been on my heart for a while too
So true! I’ve seen this trend and had these same thoughts for a long time. Thank you for for making this video and speaking truth 🙌🏻
Thank you for this video!!! Because this is so so talked about even in the church and my friends, and I thought I was crazy for not agreeing.
Thanks sis!
Love love love you and your videos! 💕
Amen girl! yess always giving amazing advice and bringing up good points ! God bless you!💓
Amen amen ❤. This popular belief of "love yourself first" never resonated with me, it always left me feeling chaotic and empty. I had not been able to pinpoint why I felt that way about it and was praying about it the other day, and you made this video! Wow, praise God. I TOTALLY agree with everything you've shared. Such a profound and crucial topic, keep it up. God bless
Thank you so much!!!💕PTL!
Great video! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the truth!
I love your videos so much! I always look forward to your videos! You are a great role model!
POWERFUL! Never stop making videos. So many great topics like this for you to cover.
Thank you so much!!
okay so the bible says love your neighbour as you love yourself. the question is how can you give out much of yourself when you have none to give out? should you criticise others as you do to yourself? of course not but sometimes we tend to treat others better than we treat ourselves and thats wrong too. the bible says love others AS you love yourself, its supposed to be a balance. on another point, i have social anxiety and i know how much exhausting and draining it can be for me to go out with friends or get involved. in situations as such, i take time off for myself doing the things i love as a sense of recharge. but i do agree with you that love isnt something we can just dig up, we have to ask God to constantly fill us with his love and give us the strength to be there for others even when we dont feel like it. i hope this didnt sound like some kind attack on you or the video. you talking about this is amazing and i feel like i got to see self love from a different perspective. thanks becca x
Awesome video, you are able to articulate the problem with this trend better than I can but it's exactly what I've been thinking.
Becca, you did an amazing job with this video. You spoke on this so beautifully. You are definitely a light in this dark world. Keep sharing! This was a very good video. I love and agree with everything you said. God bless you sweet sister. 💗💗🙏
I have borderline personality disorder and bipolar Disorder and ever since I was 8 I have hated myself and thought I was supposed to be dead it wasn’t until I stopped focusing on myself and instead focused on others that I finally became okay with myself.
You inspire me so much! Thank you for this video
Yes! You spoke so much truth here. God bless you.
I have been having rough evening and I was excited when I saw you had posted!
Aww girl I'm sorry to hear that!!
Ok, but self care and selfishness are not the same thing. I agree with you that we shouldn’t put ourselves before others, but you just CANNOT always be giving and giving and giving by loving others if you don’t REST and rest in God’s love and take care of yourself. Also “fight or flight” is a physiological response where adrenaline kicks in and you either decide to run away or fight it.
Ooh I love this! When I saw the title I was a bit skeptical because I was afraid you were going to completely attack the movement and disregard the people who need more self care but you didn’t.
Thank you so much for acknowledging how mental illnesses and traumatic experiences contribute to self-hatred and for giving valuable advice to those who struggle in those areas.
I’m all for learning to take care of your hygiene, watching what you put into your body, doing something for yourself that will actually benefit your health and keep you from feeling ill. This is especially hard for people who might struggle with depression, or anxiety or even exhaustion and burnout. Sometimes you need to take little steps like this to be a functioning person. If you ignore your health, then it’s going to be extremely difficult to carry out God’s plan for your life. You might find yourself stepping down from missions because traveling might be a danger to your health, or you might not be able to serve at your church even because you would easily faint from the heat, or you might not be able to give generously because you have to pay medical bills. That’s not a great place to be. But again, practicing self care is very beneficial and life-enhancing but in itself, it does not heal us.
It always rubbed me the wrong way when people say that you need to love yourself before you can love others. For some people (like myself), we would never be able to love another person if we followed that advice. It’s the same as when people say you need to be confident in yourself before you can start dating. Like hunny, if that’s the case then I guess I’m going to be alone for good! The beautiful thing is that you can love someone and they can love you and through the love you share, you learn to accept yourself. It’s like our relationship with God. I think his love for us and the fact that he has made us righteous and worthy of salvation affects our view of ourselves. And honestly, caring for yourself and caring for others is not mutually exclusive. Some say you have to love yourself before others, but can’t you do both at the same time? How is loving another person a detriment to your self image? I
Thanks for your wise insight Becca! Keep on listening to what God puts on your heart and making these videos! :)
I love this so much! Thank you!!
I admire your boldness in speaking about topics like this. God bless you always. 💚
I love everything you stand for. God is truly using you Becca. ❤️
I think I came across one of your Bible-journaling videos recently? And then this showed up in my feed. You've got yourself a subscriber. Thanks for your work for the King!
Thank you for all of your inspiration! God speaks through you so well, and so relatable!
Yes Becca! Your on fire , keep it up. 💛
Hello 👋 My Name is Tonya I subscribed to you about a month ago. Along the way somewhere I had gotten interested in meditations & finding your higher self and Vision boards and the whole self love movement. As a Christian I started to feel a conviction like this was maybe prideful and selfishness! I had made a video on making a vision board but now I tore it down my vision board and threw it out in the dumpster!! I cannot believe how easily Satan had deceived me with this by putting spirituality on the title! It showed me to never get comfortable but to always keep our guard up against Satan and his demons!! Thank you for making this video (I believe it was partly just for me-Thank you God for answering my questions) Please heed her advice people.
i love you❤️this video is full of wisdom.
Thank you so much for discussing this topic!! Everything you said was so well articulated, and a good
reminder for us all. I especially loved the end, when you talked about where true joy comes from-it made me think of John Piper, and his ‘Christian hedonism’ ideas...anyways, as always, I loved and really appreciated your video :) Thanks becca!
Amen Becca! Thank you for sharing the truth 🙏🏿💖
Awesome video! I really appreciate your insight!
🎉🎉🎉 hooray thanks for making this!
10:00 really touched me. Thank you for understanding 🤍
Thank you so much for this video!! Such important words for this generation!
I definitely saw it this way for many years, and a lot of people take this too far, and justify selfish actions under "self-care"
But i found myself in a situation where i found myself starting to treat others and think about other very negatively. Even people who really loved me, I didn't want their love.
And one day i sat down and asked myself "why do i act this way?"
I wasnt happy with myself. I definitely did not like a single thing about myself and i had no use or function in life. I spent my days poring over school work and when i wasnt doing that i was laying around depressed.
I didnt see a purpose or use of myself. I definitely hated who i was.
And i didnt want others to love me or see me at all. I think people need to definitely feel some sort of confidence in who they are, and feel worthy- So they can love others well. And how you do that, im not sure but it definitely invoves focusing on yourself for a while and not just other responsibilities
You should make a podcast in the future! I feel like you can talk and talk and talk on things that spark passion for you and ahhh it’s so good to listen to! Your messages are so touching and uplifting.
I love talking haha😂💕I would love to make a podcast one day!!
I'm so glad you made this video. The self love concept has just always felt wrong to me.
AMAZING VID 💗🙌🏽
Hi Becca,
You make some interesting comments here. I do agree that "self-love" and "self-care" when taken to the extreme, can be very selfish as you've described. But, I want to say, I can't say it's always a bad thing. Here's why. The quote from Yeshua (Jesus) about loving Him and loving others is this, "And the second, like it, is this: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these” (Mark 12:31). It says, to love your neighbor AS yourself. The implication here is that we love ourselves, and to care about others as we love ourselves - He did not exclude that aspect of it.
Also consider what Paul teaches to husbands concerning how husbands ought to love their wives: "So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church" (Ephesians 5:28-29). Thus, I don't think it's saying to not love ourselves at all, but to serve others with the same respect, dignity, and provision. This doesn't mean casting aside other people's needs in favor of our own. It means taking other people's needs into consideration, just as we would take our own needs into consideration. "Love others AS we would love ourselves."
Concerning "self-care," I don't necessarily believe something is wrong with that. As humans, we get worn out in this life, because we live in a broken world. Even the most passionate and selfless missionary worker can get worn out. That is why God gave us the Sabbath rest. As Yeshua said, He created the Sabbath for man, not man for the Sabbath (Mark 2:17). Even if you don't celebrate the Sabbath, the principle is the same: God gives us rest. Yeshua said the same thing when He said His burden is light and easy, and to come to Him and He will give us rest (Matthew 11:29-30). When we go to Him, and find our rest in Him, our restoration in Him, that is a form of "self-care." Yes, we can serve the Lord in many capacities & ministries. But we're only human and we do get worn out. If we don't find time to be alone with the Lord, whether in the prayer closet, or maybe even at a spa or gym (yes, that is possible), we will get worn out and burned out as human beings. He is Our Bread of Life, our Living Water. Taking care to step back and take care of ourselves by coming back to rest in Him is important. Because if we keep going and going and letting ourselves get burned out, we won't have anything left to give - and that doesn't help anybody.
As far as your comment of "it's not about finding ourselves, but losing ourselves." I don't know if I agree with you or not, it depends on how you meant it. But, from what I understand, God created each of us with different personalities, spiritual gifts, practical gifts, etc. When we allow Him, He can use the gifts He has given us, and even our different personalities in order to glorify Him, and to be the different parts of the Body as we were meant to be (1 Corinthians 12). When God molds us into the men and women He created/intended for us to be, we end up finding ourselves in Him - and losing ourselves to our flesh. "For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it" (Matthew 16:25). I don't think there's something wrong with "looking for ourselves" as long as Yeshua is our guide into that journey, where He helps us become the men and women He created us to be - while at the same time, not losing ourselves to the world.
Thank you for acknowledging the importance of this movement for people dealing with severe mental health issues. I'm one of them, and this self love/self care movement really encourages me to actually take care of myself. And the Word does too! That being said, i can see how people can twist the purpose of this movement. So much joy and healing comes from putting others first and being a helping hand as well♡
people are living in this entrepreneurship age. We set goals financially and socially. We hope to have the best in our business and our social relationships. what i see are people constantly pushing themselves to a new level in their social relationships, this could be trying to hang out with new people who you dont identify with or aint comfortable with. the problem they run into is rejection or constantly trying to fit in with in a group. people get to a stage where they feel they are being used or not getting the same effort/ or 'love' they are giving. So they claim that people aren't honest with them or true. and all the energy they have been investing in other people they should invest in themselves hence 'self' love. **** i agree with video self love is such a deceiving concept because it makes people compete with each other. this proclaimed 'self love' is not someone really being happy with themselves but its seems (well to me) that someone is try to prove a point that they dont need anyone to make them happy. people will tend exaggerate that notion by showing off how good their life is and showing people that they are doing well in life
I’ve been seeing some problems here are there about this topic too!! Thanks Becca!! ☺️☺️
I just found this channel, and it is so wholesome and down to Earth.
Love this video!!! Got me wondering about the second commandment love your neighbor as yourself.
What an amazing video!!
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I agree with your main points against this "self-love movement," and I'm glad you also clarified that self-hatred is a real thing for many people, and that you're not advocating they stay within that. As you quote, there's clearly something deliberately paradoxical about how Jesus speaks of this -- that we "gain ourselves/our lives by losing it," that we become "first" by becoming "last," etc. Accordingly, my own approach to this is to say that this movement represents a distorted form of self-love, whereas we actually SHOULD love ourselves in a rightly-ordered way: i.e., as ordered to God, as a recognition of and Spirit-enabled sharing in God's own unmerited, grace-given love for us, such that our self-love is never self-enclosed, but inseparable from love for other people. Even love for others can easily become self-enclosed and even idolatrous, if we're not loving the other in God.
Amen sister! So good! The fastest way to depression is to focus on ourselves. Loved!🥰
I love this perspective so much and I've thought like this before. But I feel like the whole idea if self love is to make people aware of their worth which relates to not taking abuse in the name of living for the sake of others. I think it for sure can create a selfish world if it's taken too far. But essentially, some people don't put themselves first and they get abused by friends and family and boyfriends and that comes form not loving themselves enough.
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Such a great video. I'm a new subscriber from New Zealand. Love your videos.
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That's good teaching!
Thank you for this video, it was so helpful for me 😊 Love from France ❤🇫🇷
"LOVE your neighbor AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF"....
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Agreeing with the KING the passage assumes we already love ourselves and we do
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i ususally don’t comment on videos but i just loved this video God really spoke through you and encouraged me to love Him and others deeper!! so thankful for your videos!
HUGE PROPS TO YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO! I totally agree that we don't need to love ourselves more, but try to love God more, and in doing so we will treat ourselves and others as we ought to, not as we feel. We base too many things on feelings, and that kills people. True love definitely comes from God!
So So Good...! I could feel His pleasure as you shared that.
Wow I had never thought about it this way!!😧
Me never
Personally I think that there’s a huge difference between self-love and self importance. Most of the things you said pertain to the second one. That being said, I agree that by loving others more we will naturally put them above ourselves. Just because you shouldn’t love yourself more than you love others, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t love yourself.
You just completely destroyed the self-love movement. Epic 😁