Regardless of how you word it, if you put your needs before the needs of that partnership it ceases to be one. Balance however is defined by the situation, my wife who is very successful in her corporate profession will often proclaim she "wears the pants" in our relationship, I dont challenge this point because our goals are alligned and ultimately I know in a time of crisis, when a big decision has to be made, she will turn to me and say "darling, what do you want to do?"
After 3 decades of ending up with narcissist after narcissist (even while attempting to TRULY determine their deep, inner loyalty or lack thereof)... I now believe that the idea of a HEALTHY 'relationship' which actually contains LOVE just simply isn't possible. No, never. Not unless both people happen to be exceptionally rich--yet can spend lots of time together--but ALSO magically retain empathy, 'emotional compasses', and genuine, compassionate, childlike approaches to what actual love is truly meant to be all about. Otherwise, it's either nothing more than another 'business arrangement' (either with or without a signed contract, lol), or, two people lying to one another for convenience, manipulation, 'climbing', or other methods of selfish gain. Additionally, when I look at all the 'relationships' I've WITNESSED (outside of my own)... they fit these models with ABSOLUTE precision, as above: business relationship, or, vampiric relationship. Sad, but... I'm willing to bet that a *huge* portion of people would agree with me.
I'm rather disapointed in this one. It is very linear and is missing consideration for changing needs irregardless of ones wants. Just the most egregious lacks imo. I think what I got out of it could be summed up as communicate, do check ins, be honest, and be considerate of your partner as you pursue your goals.
the point was that if you take the time to know your partner, understand each other, what each needs to feel happy. Then when the changing needs situation happens you will make better decisions and they will be less one sided.
There's a huge imbalance in South Asian working couples' personal relationship.Based on my observation,it's difficult for them to maintain and sustain their relation whilst pursuing career goals.But in the end,it all depends on mutual understanding and respecting each other's choices.
Well, thanks for the advice. Most of the time it would mean that women will struggle to find a partner who is ready to make equal sacrifices, because so few men are ready to put their career on hold to bring up a child. At least 50 % of men should be ready to do it to keep the world scales balanced. But then, should the men who do not want to spend their time on bringing up a child even reproduce?
Olesya, I've been thinking about this subject a lot lately and your comment intrigued me. Is what you are saying is that men who aren't going to be stay at home dads shouldn't have kids? Then, that would go for women, too, right? If a woman has a job outside the home, she shouldn't reproduce? But then, if only stay at home parents should have kids, then how will they get money to live? Or did you mean that it's ok for women to have children, even if they work outside the home, and it's only the men who don't want to be stay at home dads that shouldn't have kids? Or did I misunderstand and the stay at home parent question was not even what your comment was referring to? Thank you!
@@jennifercoopman yes, I am speaking about stay at home parents, but none of the above variants apply, I think. I mean that if both the partners are ready to sacrifice some time from their successful career and stay at home in turn, or together, and both of them are ready to take that responsibility - this is the situation when logical conversations about personal trajectories can happen. If one of the partners is not ready to make this kind of sacrifice and expects the other partner to fully embrace all the responsibility - there is no space for negotiations here, and the advice in the video is pretty much reduced to 'do not have children with the person who is not going to consider the option of staying at home at all."
@@OValger I get you now, thank you. To avoid that predicament, a woman would have to suss out the man's willingness to quit or reduce hours while still in the dating period. A man might have to rethink his masculinity if he wants to be in a relationship with a woman who asks him that question.
Working with your spouse surely has an impact on your personal relationship, and some couples say working and building a business together has made their personal relationship stronger, deepening their trust and appreciation and making both their business and marriage more successful
So brave speaking to us on this TED talk! You’ve inspired me to take the time to tell you that if you are confident enough to speak to the world looking like you cobbled together by leftover parts from an NFL linebacker and a Jersey cow, then anybody can!
So brave writing this comment. Obviously the topic went right over your head and listening to a woman without concentrating on her outward appearance seems impossible for you. If you can scramble enough words together for a comment then clearly everybody can.
@@debayanpal3181 How to resolve that? Tricky. Oh I know. Don't live in a "tier 1 city". That's what suburbs and commuting are for. If you want to live in a city. Then fine. But you can't chose to do that and complain about both parents working, hassles and costs of child care etc.
HEAVILY dyad(couple)-centric and therefore increasingly obsolete... it's 2021, and insightful people know that humans are not like that and don't live like that.
She wants a career? NMFP, is it? I want a career? NHFP, is it? She wants children? OK, she can decide to have children. She wants children AND a career? Bye bye, not my children anyway, not in this life.
Well thank God showed a black family in the cartoon depiction. I am not a black family nor cartoon depiction so this will never happen to me. RIGHT?? 🤪LOL 🙄🙄🙄
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I love the way she explained that life is
about choices..
And also about how we deal with the opportunities..
@@seekoutknowledge7248 and also dealing with the consequences of these choices 😅 😅
Over time should not be seen as normal. A job should pay enough from a normal work week. Over time should be an emergency short term situation.
Regardless of how you word it, if you put your needs before the needs of that partnership it ceases to be one. Balance however is defined by the situation, my wife who is very successful in her corporate profession will often proclaim she "wears the pants" in our relationship, I dont challenge this point because our goals are alligned and ultimately I know in a time of crisis, when a big decision has to be made, she will turn to me and say "darling, what do you want to do?"
Quick thank you to Erin Gregory and Camille Martinez who I just noticed took care of transcribe/captions. 0:00
Simple and to the point. Liked this video a lot :-)
who else is single and unemployed
Here here.. Nepotism blocks the gates.
The likes speak for themselfs.
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After 3 decades of ending up with narcissist after narcissist (even while attempting to TRULY determine their deep, inner loyalty or lack thereof)... I now believe that the idea of a HEALTHY 'relationship' which actually contains LOVE just simply isn't possible. No, never. Not unless both people happen to be exceptionally rich--yet can spend lots of time together--but ALSO magically retain empathy, 'emotional compasses', and genuine, compassionate, childlike approaches to what actual love is truly meant to be all about.
Otherwise, it's either nothing more than another 'business arrangement' (either with or without a signed contract, lol), or, two people lying to one another for convenience, manipulation, 'climbing', or other methods of selfish gain.
Additionally, when I look at all the 'relationships' I've WITNESSED (outside of my own)... they fit these models with ABSOLUTE precision, as above: business relationship, or, vampiric relationship.
Sad, but... I'm willing to bet that a *huge* portion of people would agree with me.
Be careful of using the written recond as a tool for blaming. It's an easy trap to miss.
So useful and easy to remember
TED talks should be mandatory to watch in schools.
I want to speak here ,one day!
The same 😊
@@solitaryrsrchr I wish we make it! Fighting!
I'm rather disapointed in this one. It is very linear and is missing consideration for changing needs irregardless of ones wants. Just the most egregious lacks imo.
I think what I got out of it could be summed up as communicate, do check ins, be honest, and be considerate of your partner as you pursue your goals.
the point was that if you take the time to know your partner, understand each other, what each needs to feel happy. Then when the changing needs situation happens you will make better decisions and they will be less one sided.
work together with couple is lessen the indoors & outdoors responsibility .
To the person that’s reading this: You’re a very intelligent and adorable human! Stay healthy during the quarantine!
how working single can best support myself :(
with yer two hands
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As part of a millenial working couple gotta say good advice from TED. Kinda surprising coming from them honestly.
Great helpful suggestions. Thanks. I wonder if there's a book from you for some couple activities like these.
There's a huge imbalance in South Asian working couples' personal relationship.Based on my observation,it's difficult for them to maintain and sustain their relation whilst pursuing career goals.But in the end,it all depends on mutual understanding and respecting each other's choices.
Document all plans 👍🏾
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Great work
Thank you
Great video 👍
I want to know where that shelf in the back is from , it looks identical to the one I made in my A level product design class?
Well, thanks for the advice. Most of the time it would mean that women will struggle to find a partner who is ready to make equal sacrifices, because so few men are ready to put their career on hold to bring up a child. At least 50 % of men should be ready to do it to keep the world scales balanced.
But then, should the men who do not want to spend their time on bringing up a child even reproduce?
😅 😅 wait what? where are you getting all these from. it is so far from any truth here...
Olesya, I've been thinking about this subject a lot lately and your comment intrigued me. Is what you are saying is that men who aren't going to be stay at home dads shouldn't have kids? Then, that would go for women, too, right? If a woman has a job outside the home, she shouldn't reproduce?
But then, if only stay at home parents should have kids, then how will they get money to live?
Or did you mean that it's ok for women to have children, even if they work outside the home, and it's only the men who don't want to be stay at home dads that shouldn't have kids?
Or did I misunderstand and the stay at home parent question was not even what your comment was referring to? Thank you!
@@jennifercoopman yes, I am speaking about stay at home parents, but none of the above variants apply, I think. I mean that if both the partners are ready to sacrifice some time from their successful career and stay at home in turn, or together, and both of them are ready to take that responsibility - this is the situation when logical conversations about personal trajectories can happen. If one of the partners is not ready to make this kind of sacrifice and expects the other partner to fully embrace all the responsibility - there is no space for negotiations here, and the advice in the video is pretty much reduced to 'do not have children with the person who is not going to consider the option of staying at home at all."
@@OValger I get you now, thank you. To avoid that predicament, a woman would have to suss out the man's willingness to quit or reduce hours while still in the dating period. A man might have to rethink his masculinity if he wants to be in a relationship with a woman who asks him that question.
Working with your spouse surely has an impact on your personal relationship, and some couples say working and building a business together has made their personal relationship stronger, deepening their trust and appreciation and making both their business and marriage more successful
3% of people who are watching this comment, i wish their parents still alive for mor than 100 years, good bless you 😘😘😘😍😍🥰🥰
According to Pew Research, in 63% of couples with children in the United States, for example, both partners work👍
@Commander Spock Both men and women are achieving dreams what is the problem??...
Thanks actually question about it .
So brave speaking to us on this TED talk!
You’ve inspired me to take the time to tell you that if you are confident enough to speak to the world looking like you cobbled together by leftover parts from an NFL linebacker and a Jersey cow, then anybody can!
So brave writing this comment.
Obviously the topic went right over your head and listening to a woman without concentrating on her outward appearance seems impossible for you. If you can scramble enough words together for a comment then clearly everybody can.
@@anschiver , Thank you!
great!
So this 2 generations long experiment, where we've decided we know more than evolution and human history, creaks when stressed.
I'm confused, what experiment are your referring to?
@@brittanyouldcott2912
Both parents working full-time jobs away from the home.
@@danielwebb8402 Its impossible to live in Tier 1 cities without both working...
@@debayanpal3181
How to resolve that? Tricky. Oh I know. Don't live in a "tier 1 city".
That's what suburbs and commuting are for.
If you want to live in a city. Then fine. But you can't chose to do that and complain about both parents working, hassles and costs of child care etc.
Why is there no translation in Arabic?????????????????????
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Easy...they can divorce
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Channels translated into Arabic please🥺🥺🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
Step 1, unionize.
Step 2, get the CEO, make ultimatum
Step 3, take over the company. Make it into worker co-op
HEAVILY dyad(couple)-centric and therefore increasingly obsolete... it's 2021, and insightful people know that humans are not like that and don't live like that.
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What is this video about? That ~20% of families that not pass trough divorce procedure?
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She wants a career? NMFP, is it? I want a career? NHFP, is it? She wants children? OK, she can decide to have children.
She wants children AND a career? Bye bye, not my children anyway, not in this life.
I can recommend you to this woman who help me bring back my wife back just in 48 hours
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thats a man.
I was thinking the same thing...wtf?
@@7duke77 because it is. its clearly a man.
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Is this only a heterosexual problem? That’s all the video showed.
Channels translated into Arabic
Well thank God showed a black family in the cartoon depiction. I am not a black family nor cartoon depiction so this will never happen to me. RIGHT?? 🤪LOL 🙄🙄🙄
Try that in English.
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