I'm not a muslim but I enjoyed these lessons on how men and women feel very much. You are so accurate. With all that is going on in the world today, its nice to know that we are all the same.
Peace to you all. My understanding is that this learned brother went out and did a proper research on a topic that is traditionally a taboo in most cultures Muslim or otherwise. He then mustered the courage to come on a global platform like the youtube to share his findings. It is remarkable that some people find the outcome of this research offensive. Far from being offensive, most of it is actually the brutal truth about men's and women's psychology. You could apply the outcome of this research work on any man or woman from any culture and it will fit perfectly well. My prayers are for this brother, Dr. Yasir, May Allah SWT reward him with the best of His blessings in this world and in the hereafter for this brilliant piece of work. Amin.
Here's the skinny on women coming from a WOMAN: 1. *Sense of humor* - if you have a sense of humor, your wife will never be bored of you. A sense of humor is also a sign of intelligence. 2. *Having intellectual conversations* - don't talk only about people and events, discuss ideas. Talk about your thoughts on different topics from neurobiology to astrophysics. Growing together at an intellectual level is what strengthens the bond. 3. *Understand she has a life that does not revolve around you* - If she is working in a halal environment, don't be the bad guy and stop her from pursuing her passion. She has goals and aspirations she want to achieve in her lifetime. Let her live a fulfilling life. 4. *Small gestures of kindness* - get her the latest gadgets she wanted, offer your jacket when it's cold, open the door for her, cuddle, etc. 5. *Look good for her* - take care of yourself and she will remain attracted to you. 6. *Give her space* - women need space to collect our thoughts and to just be left alone. 7. *"Not now" means "you're boring me"* - if she doesn't want to have sexual relations with you as often as you would like, it means you're boring her (i.e. you're selfish and she's not enjoying it). Stop being selfish and make it enjoyable for her. 8. *Cook* - Make her favourite dishes because food is an universal person pleaser. 9. *Support* - Women aren't damsels in distress. Don't make her decisions for her. You can guide her and be supportive. 10. *Respect* - the most important of all. Respect encompasses a lot of acts and behaviour. The way you want to be treated with respect, that's the way you should treat her. Be cognizant and see things from her perspective. Husbands can be 10x better if they just did the above and it doesn't even involve spending money or playing mind games.
u go, girl! i feel like i watched the audio version of men are from mars and women are from venus - u cant just simply separate human characteristics into male or female
Wednesday Addams It also applies to women. men like presentable women that are nice and like them etc. i meant to say those terms are also for women... :p
i have heard it said from a wonderful muslimah, I forgot her name, women need kindness and men need respect. If the man is unkind the woman sometimes chooses to attack and disrespect him, or she disrespects him and he is unkind to her. Words are so important in any relationship. Another i heard was choose wisely and treat kindly, that can be applied to both. :)
clearly you never been in love mate....when you are in love you can listen to her stories for years and never get bored as i love her alot ...i spend 2 hours on the phone listening to her and i always find her very interesting.
Arijeta Nik lol its love from mariage even after disputes i always find her interesting,..i never find love in relationships..im a muslim and i believe real love is mariage.
moha1900 As this is a good quality of you as an husband, many husbands dont have that. And brother, he knows what he says when saying "a lot of wives do this" or "a lot of husbands do that" as he as a sheikh has many people coming to him with their problems to get advice...
The part about being exclusive to the wife and making her feel beautiful and cherished (physically and emotionally) is so true. And not mentioning anything about a second wife or another woman in that way. However, I am surprised why the concept of respect to wife isn't mentioned so much. And giving her credit for her intelligence also means a lot to her. All in all, a very good video.
One thing I learn about Islamic marriage is: peace is the most important quality. You can "love" someone but not care about them, not respect them, be unkind to them even. Is love enough in a marriage. It's not! How can there be peace without kindness and mercy? What is love without kindness and mercy. It's selfishness.
We want respect in the form of validation: we want to feel seen, heard, understood, appreciated and loved. It falls into the category of the emotional needs. For men, they want their leadership overall to be respected. Doing that means honoring his manhood. So I agree with you that respect should have been mentioned in the frame and in this perspective, it would have been a plus.
Well explained. Even if it's difficult to accept the facts, this is so true. What women Need to know about men the same true explanation. Well explained, congratulations!
The greatest way to show love is by the action you take. Be a real man, strong, kind, understanding and own up to your mistakes. All a women wants is a real man. This video is like going back a 1000 years. Men and women are the same and just need mutual respect. He paints a simple black and white picture. Become conscious and everything will be fine.
I must admit, you had me laughing so hard. I was amazed that a man could hit the nail on the head concerning women. Most men are clueless. I hope all men pay attention to this and really listen to your words. Men and women are both so different. But, if we pay attention and really care, we will see and respond to our spouses needs. Thank you for these video's.
First time listening to this and this was actually much better than I thought it'd be and much better than any Christian preachers have ever contributed to the issue.
i'm (obviously :D) not a muslim but this is a VERY GOOD video and has good points :) And i seriously appreciate the fact that this series wasn't just about womens responsibilities(in a meaning of "hey you,woman, go make me a sandwich!) but for the mutual understanding.
TheFleurChic you are so sweet thank you :) i said obviously just because, well, i don't really look like a muslim .. :D But to be honest i seriously considered converting at one point dunno what stopped me but i think it has something to do with commitment. I mean if i want to believe in something i want to do i with all my heart and i dont know if i am capable in such commitment which i admire in other muslims and christians also :D
TheFleurChic thank you for the info :) I guess i have to find Q'uran because i would love to study it to understand more :) beautiful blog by the way :) :D
it's nice to know that there are people out there like u who aren't Muslim but, have taken time and seen what has to be said rather than judge the book by it's cover. I hope u deeply learn more of the Quran because I'm confident u'll love it.
thank you very much, this is really really helpful to my marriage. thank you . Allah bless you. I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate this. Please know you are helping people and you are doing something very very good.
He's totally right about what he said about women/ ladies/ girls if I had a husband I want him to be my best friend and listen to what I have to say and not to "just" give me advice and show me that he loves me
if you stop watching the videos of this looser you will see marriage as good thing not a disaster, he cannot speak without reading his piece of paper. he cannot do research and analysis before making ignorant video.
Assalamu Alaikum Everyone ive recieved a lot of comments & msgs about the humming/nasheed in the background, please forgive me coz i cant remove it...the video was produced by TheDiscoverULife and they put the nasheed in the background: i was just compiling the series into one video for your ease..am very, very sorry my sisters & brothers, i cant do anything...plz make dua for my forgiveness inshallah, Jazaks
Dear sisters please listen to the lecture given on what men want by the same scholar and then give balanced opinion / comments. Dear brothers please have patience with your woman. Have compassion and kindness in your heart. We can flirt and listen to other women but no patience with your own wife. May Allah guide us on the right path and make our tasks easy. Aamin
The video is good. But it simply makes sound as if women do not need sexual satisfaction...which is not correct. If a women sexual needs is ignored and the husband only care for his physical needs , his wife will be frustrated. Im not saying women dont need the emotional connection, its important..but I think the lecturer needs to emphasis women need foreplay. I have heard of sisters who dislike sex as the husband only care to satisfy his needs and ignores her physical satisfation. This leads to cycle in the marriage in which the wife rejects sex or is angry with him and feels depressed butthe husband is just ignorant about the sexual needs of the wife as each sexual encounter she feels unhappy and frustrated her sexual needs are not satisfied.
I am surprise you did to hear it at all, he said that women need romance that is foreplay and that lead to sexual satisfaction. The idea is both parties to know about each other in order to adjust. That is a great presentation. Keep it up Dr Yasir!
+Nur Layla Muslim woman also needs to understand that being loyal to home(cleaning, cooking, housecaring) is different than being loyal to husband. The intimacy is created by woman, bought by man. A lot of man feel so distant to his wife, because she live in narcistic world (not listen, only care herself, and most important she cannot make a wrong thing or choice.) They are sold by Western society to everybody. But thank to muslim man, a lot of them are withdraw to their castle of himself, and do not follow his desires pervertly.
Salam Brother to each his own. I disagree with you and so we will have to agree to disagree. You see in my humble opinion BOTH men and women are more narcisstic these days....it is part of the increasing selfish culture that permeates most societies nowadays.
this is another good perspective into how to treat each other male and female.You do not have to take it personally and please find love as it exists her as well as in jannah! insha allah you find your other half and do not be put off as I myself do not endorse everything yassir says(may allah rewards him) but finds many thigns he says to be true!
It is great that we talk about Women in a certain Religion and Geographical arena. I will argue that there are women of same religion in different geographical regions whose ambitions are different then what we consider status quo.
the strong women don't cry on shoulders or want to have empathy so not all women are same regarding that. in ur video you got some very good points and true which i agree. mostly of ur descriptions about women are done right but not all women are same as i said. u got like.
You said a man should never ASSUME what a woman thinks but your whole video was based on assumptions! A woman is much more than her emotions by the way. We actually have a great ability to separate our emotions from logic. Your video also isn't very modern, sounds outdated. Nowadays most women are IN the workforce, at least in America. You have valid points but this video would be more accurate if you collaborated with a woman or if she herself made this video because it is subjective because you as a man are trying to pt yourself in the mindset of a woman. Salam.
Tsahai McQuilkin what exactly ia your point here ? There are alot of female scholars who have given lectures on this same topic. If his lecture is bothering you so much, simply dont watch it, he's a lecturer of islam, he doesnt base hi lectures on your feelings, so what if he's a man ? He can talk about anything he want since he's here to give you knowledge. And before running your mouth, look through the comments, there are ao many women who agree with him, you dont and thats just you, there's no fault with the video here. "We have a great ability to seperate our emotions from logic" how can you say that for sure ? Do you know every woman on the planet ? He's talking generally here and generally most women think emotionally and jump to conclusions easily. Stereotypes develop for a reason. How is this video outdated ? There is no concept of women working in islam, the man is the provider, women work because their husbands allow them to and because they want to, not because its a duty on women to provide. There's nothing wromg with the video, your mindset on the other hand seems pretty darn off.
Abdul Raffay lol 😂 so you believe that the only aspirations of women is clean the house and take care of children? 😂 ho please! You wrong, women has abilities that can be share in this world. Women in time of Muhammad was hard worker mamas! Kadija be first business woman who married Muhammad and by the way SHE was the want to ask him to marry. Aisha was a great boss! She gives ideas not taking in consideration she was able to analyze situations! There more examples. We work for our money because food and house is not enough we want our own things yes we like to shop! Second, no all in this lesson is correct he got a lot wrong and generalize to certain types of women. Eastern women to be more precise. Western and African sometimes have a little more strong personality. I didn’t fit in not even one bullet he presented. Lol I fit in most of the male bullets 😂 Salaam!
I find this amusing that he made a lecture for sisters which lasts for over 45 minutes explaining men while he explains women (!) in around 30 minutes. How's that possible?
I guess he tries to keep the video aimed at men as short as possible, while lengthening the one aimed at women. If he made a lecture describing men to men, it would be over within 5 mins. And if he made a -lecture- ahem lecture _series_ describing women to women...it would be too long to be on youtube :D
Asalam alaykum brother. As much as I liked the lecture about what women need to know about men, and as much as I appreciate your effort to try to explain this from a womans perspective, there is something that is really bothering in this lecture. As the first point in the video about men is that they want respect from their wife, this should be the first point in this lecture too. Another thing is that your point 1 and 3 are basically the same and could be said as one, but more importantly, women want and deserve, first of all, respect from their husbands. Not sympathy like you have for a cranky over-emotional immature child. Respect. If husbands do understand this in the first point, they will understand why all the points that come later on are important. I hope you will understand my opinion and consider it
every last thing he says is true and backed up by multiple Western studies, researchers, authors, etc so get off your Islam bashing rampage. This is a very intelligent man and the info is so well presented in a kind way.
Well, he is wrong in sex part women ENJOY sex as much or more then man and if women remind a man about trash take out during sex, well he can use his intellect to asume he is not doing his job either on taking the trash in timely manners or satisfying her (you gets it? “... take the trash out” ) .
Salamu Alaikum, i would like to express my opinion in this video it mostly applies when the man is in his masculine energy and the woman in her feminine. Most of it relates, but women in her masculine have the traits of the man, and then you have the man who is more emotional and likes to talk more and repeat over and over again. Women desire to be in her feminine energy at all times. This should be the number 1 major concern in how they will understand each other. I do appreciate the concept. Thank you.
alhamdulillah, brother u really know your subject. Allah subhanahowatalah may reward u the best here and hereafter. i really wouldn't mind if my husband even call me object to say something to admire me. yes i can testify from my prospective that every single word is nothing but the truth . i'm totally agreed that husband can destroy his wife's love for him by just ignoring her efforts or even worse when say something negative about her appearance. jazak Allah for putting everything in words.
Most info in both videos are also mentioned in Men are from "Mars women are from venus" book. the good thing here is that it is backed up by some hadith... & frankly I think many religious men don't read these kind of books, so these videos will transmit the info for this category. Jazakum Allah kheiran!
a very helpful video. those who don't have much experience with women will find it very helpful to understand women. please don't pick of every word. if you and me speak for 30 mins we will make lots of mistake. the scholar is a human being and I am sure using the word object is an error so ignore that.
Assalamualaikum, We all sin and someone who has the courage to say that here does not need to hear "Go repent". He/she needs someone to understand his situation first, then a solution.
I agree with all of this. But what about when the husbands oppress their wives, telling her she should do this, wear this (niqab) be like this and that. I have come across many that forces his wife to wear the niqab (but she don't want to), or else they will divorce her. When they don't stand up for their wife when they are being treated like slave/maid of the house by his mother. When they are stuck inside the house and can't set foot outside. They just have to cook, clean, and bear children, and this is their job as a housewife, even though they want to work, or even just to earn money because they don't want to rely on their husband financially because he does not use those earnings on his wife. what about when a man makes promises to the women, just to marry her. But ends up not fulfilling those promises after marriage, even though he is more than capable. what about those who set up conditions for the women should meet, but ignores her condition or not ask for her opinion. 1) Give up her job that she studied hard to get, and she doesn't want to leave. 2) Become a housewife, the housewife that just at home cooks, cleans and wait for the husband to come home, and obey his sexual needs. 3) wear the niqab, even though she is comfortable with what she is wearing that covers her, and she doesn't want to wear the niqab. 4) move in with her in-laws, even though they are capable to get a house for themselves, that she might find secure and comfortable. Or even move countries, so he can take your passport away and control you as he likes.
جزاك الله خيرا أخي I couldnt feel more relatable , everything that have've been mentioned was a 100% factss . However , I'd like to highlight that this was a male speaking abt what women think nd want , so I suggest for my brothers to go listen for a female's podcast or smth similar to this (there are plenty on ytb for sure ) talking abt women needs and small expectations from their husbands etc . This will 10 times help you understand better your wife or future wife . If u've noticed sheikh made a 45min talking abt men and a 28min video talking abt women , not bc we're less complicated or bc men are more important to him , but bc no male would ever speak abt women needs nd thoughts as a female would
Honestly, I think it's more fitting for a WOMAN to be giving this type of lecture instead of a man. Not that anything he said is particularly offensive (in my opinion at least) or untrue, but seriously, what's a better way to know about what a woman wants/thinks than by listening to a woman herself?? There are so many great Muslim women speakers out there who deserve much more recognition, men shouldn't be the only ones.
Thank you for uploading. Let's look at the positive and focus on the information and focus on putting it into practice in our lives and marriage. Ya Allah grant the single brothers and sisters among us spouses who will be the coolness of their eyes. Ameen.
It means if you love and appreciate her and what she's likely spent all day preparing for her man is that she will naturally feel the desire to make sure that he feels appreciated as well. However coming home and barking about food and whats not done with no regard for her day and what may have happened will not likely get you any respect or anything else.
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I'm not a muslim but I enjoyed these lessons on how men and women feel very much. You are so accurate. With all that is going on in the world today, its nice to know that we are all the same.
Saddenldy we need to understand that we are all not the same and that's a good thing.
As a woman I can tell you, you spoke exactly my mind. I am sharing this video with my husband. Thank you very much Jzk
I am not a man who is very in with religion but brother, you changed my view of women! thank you
Im a woman and I agree with all of this!
Peace to you all. My understanding is that this learned brother went out and did a proper research on a topic that is traditionally a taboo in most cultures Muslim or otherwise. He then mustered the courage to come on a global platform like the youtube to share his findings. It is remarkable that some people find the outcome of this research offensive. Far from being offensive, most of it is actually the brutal truth about men's and women's psychology. You could apply the outcome of this research work on any man or woman from any culture and it will fit perfectly well.
My prayers are for this brother, Dr. Yasir, May Allah SWT reward him with the best of His blessings in this world and in the hereafter for this brilliant piece of work. Amin.
Here's the skinny on women coming from a WOMAN:
1. *Sense of humor* - if you have a sense of humor, your wife will never be bored of you. A sense of humor is also a sign of intelligence.
2. *Having intellectual conversations* - don't talk only about people and events, discuss ideas. Talk about your thoughts on different topics from neurobiology to astrophysics. Growing together at an intellectual level is what strengthens the bond.
3. *Understand she has a life that does not revolve around you* - If she is working in a halal environment, don't be the bad guy and stop her from pursuing her passion. She has goals and aspirations she want to achieve in her lifetime. Let her live a fulfilling life.
4. *Small gestures of kindness* - get her the latest gadgets she wanted, offer your jacket when it's cold, open the door for her, cuddle, etc.
5. *Look good for her* - take care of yourself and she will remain attracted to you.
6. *Give her space* - women need space to collect our thoughts and to just be left alone.
7. *"Not now" means "you're boring me"* - if she doesn't want to have sexual relations with you as often as you would like, it means you're boring her (i.e. you're selfish and she's not enjoying it). Stop being selfish and make it enjoyable for her.
8. *Cook* - Make her favourite dishes because food is an universal person pleaser.
9. *Support* - Women aren't damsels in distress. Don't make her decisions for her. You can guide her and be supportive.
10. *Respect* - the most important of all. Respect encompasses a lot of acts and behaviour. The way you want to be treated with respect, that's the way you should treat her. Be cognizant and see things from her perspective.
Husbands can be 10x better if they just did the above and it doesn't even involve spending money or playing mind games.
u go, girl! i feel like i watched the audio version of men are from mars and women are from venus - u cant just simply separate human characteristics into male or female
it's the other way around
André Perry Fox
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Wednesday Addams It also applies to women. men like presentable women that are nice and like them etc. i meant to say those terms are also for women... :p
André Perry Fox
The topic of this video is "What men need to know about women".
i have heard it said from a wonderful muslimah, I forgot her name, women need kindness and men need respect. If the man is unkind the woman sometimes chooses to attack and disrespect him, or she disrespects him and he is unkind to her. Words are so important in any relationship. Another i heard was choose wisely and treat kindly, that can be applied to both. :)
clearly you never been in love mate....when you are in love you can listen to her stories for years and never get bored as i love her alot ...i spend 2 hours on the phone listening to her and i always find her very interesting.
Arijeta Nik lol its love from mariage even after disputes i always find her interesting,..i never find love in relationships..im a muslim and i believe real love is mariage.
sounds like the first month in the relationship or a Disney movie lol
moha1900
As this is a good quality of you as an husband, many husbands dont have that.
And brother, he knows what he says when saying "a lot of wives do this" or "a lot of husbands do that" as he as a sheikh has many people coming to him with their problems to get advice...
historypoliticsbb lmaooo
Gullible kid.
The part about being exclusive to the wife and making her feel beautiful and cherished (physically and emotionally) is so true. And not mentioning anything about a second wife or another woman in that way. However, I am surprised why the concept of respect to wife isn't mentioned so much. And giving her credit for her intelligence also means a lot to her. All in all, a very good video.
Masha Allah, my wife is watching what women need to know at the same time, lol.. Truly enlightening..
The first point should be respect.
I as a woman want to be respected and honored more than i want anything else
One thing I learn about Islamic marriage is: peace is the most important quality. You can "love" someone but not care about them, not respect them, be unkind to them even. Is love enough in a marriage. It's not!
How can there be peace without kindness and mercy?
What is love without kindness and mercy. It's selfishness.
We want respect in the form of validation: we want to feel seen, heard, understood, appreciated and loved. It falls into the category of the emotional needs. For men, they want their leadership overall to be respected. Doing that means honoring his manhood. So I agree with you that respect should have been mentioned in the frame and in this perspective, it would have been a plus.
Mashallah, a Muslim teacher who speaks American and knows. Alhumduallah
Well explained. Even if it's difficult to accept the facts, this is so true. What women Need to know about men the same true explanation. Well explained, congratulations!
This scary, he's really got us figured out :/
Sabrina I think he read men are from mars ans women are from venus check it out
Really? Interesting...
The greatest way to show love is by the action you take. Be a real man, strong, kind, understanding and own up to your mistakes. All a women wants is a real man. This video is like going back a 1000 years. Men and women are the same and just need mutual respect. He paints a simple black and white picture. Become conscious and everything will be fine.
7dl, I couldn't agree more! this is a MUST video for both sides to see! Is like the key for life! If only everybody could see it! Masha Allah!
Jazaa'akallaah khair brother Yasir Qadhi. It is vital to anyone Woman or man, Muslim or Non-muslim, the old or the young.
I must admit, you had me laughing so hard. I was amazed that a man could hit the nail on the head concerning women. Most men are clueless. I hope all men pay attention to this and really listen to your words. Men and women are both so different. But, if we pay attention and really care, we will see and respond to our spouses needs. Thank you for these video's.
Thank u. I felt like u were describing /talking about me. I never thought someone will know how we r as women as much u did.
i wish all men would watch this
it's okay brother, actually thi humming nasheed made me enjoy it, and think in the lecture alot more!
First time listening to this and this was actually much better than I thought it'd be and much better than any Christian preachers have ever contributed to the issue.
i'm (obviously :D) not a muslim but this is a VERY GOOD video and has good points :) And i seriously appreciate the fact that this series wasn't just about womens responsibilities(in a meaning of "hey you,woman, go make me a sandwich!) but for the mutual understanding.
TheFleurChic you are so sweet thank you :) i said obviously just because, well, i don't really look like a muslim .. :D But to be honest i seriously considered converting at one point dunno what stopped me but i think it has something to do with commitment. I mean if i want to believe in something i want to do i with all my heart and i dont know if i am capable in such commitment which i admire in other muslims and christians also :D
TheFleurChic thank you for the info :) I guess i have to find Q'uran because i would love to study it to understand more :)
beautiful blog by the way :) :D
Greta J. If you have a smart phone, Android or IPhone, then you can just download Quran for free. For Android devices its iQuran and same for Iphone.
it's nice to know that there are people out there like u who aren't Muslim but, have taken time and seen what has to be said rather than judge the book by it's cover. I hope u deeply learn more of the Quran because I'm confident u'll love it.
SkullKIDIron why? Im 18
thank you very much, this is really really helpful to my marriage. thank you . Allah bless you. I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate this. Please know you are helping people and you are doing something very very good.
He's totally right about what he said about women/ ladies/ girls if I had a husband I want him to be my best friend and listen to what I have to say and not to "just" give me advice and show me that he loves me
Me being a women I still find interesting to listen to these topics and he's 100% right?women want their men to express that they love
Everything the sheikh says is very true
I AM WOMEN. EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS VERY TRUE. ALSO THINGS I NOTICED IN A MAN I HAVE BEEN WITH.
Thanks a lot brother! So true...I’ll share this to my husband.
Djazzaka Llaahu Khayran, sheykh. It's great explanation. May Allaah grant you success in this life and next. Ameen. I love you for the seek of Allaah.
i was wishing to marry soon, but now am shocked and postponed my marriage for some reason, realy marriage was not what i thought!!!
if you stop watching the videos of this looser you will see marriage as good thing not a disaster, he cannot speak without reading his piece of paper. he cannot do research and analysis before making ignorant video.
Assalamu Alaikum Everyone
ive recieved a lot of comments & msgs about the humming/nasheed in the background, please forgive me coz i cant remove it...the video was produced by TheDiscoverULife and they put the nasheed in the background: i was just compiling the series into one video for your ease..am very, very sorry my sisters & brothers, i cant do anything...plz make dua for my forgiveness inshallah, Jazaks
Dear sisters please listen to the lecture given on what men want by the same scholar and then give balanced opinion / comments.
Dear brothers please have patience with your woman. Have compassion and kindness in your heart. We can flirt and listen to other women but no patience with your own wife. May Allah guide us on the right path and make our tasks easy. Aamin
The video is good. But it simply makes sound as if women do not need sexual satisfaction...which is not correct. If a women sexual needs is ignored and the husband only care for his physical needs , his wife will be frustrated. Im not saying women dont need the emotional connection, its important..but I think the lecturer needs to emphasis women need foreplay. I have heard of sisters who dislike sex as the husband only care to satisfy his needs and ignores her physical satisfation. This leads to cycle in the marriage in which the wife rejects sex or is angry with him and feels depressed butthe husband is just ignorant about the sexual needs of the wife as each sexual encounter she feels unhappy and frustrated her sexual needs are not satisfied.
I am surprise you did to hear it at all, he said that women need romance that is foreplay and that lead to sexual satisfaction. The idea is both parties to know about each other in order to adjust. That is a great presentation. Keep it up Dr Yasir!
+Nur Layla Muslim woman also needs to understand that being loyal to home(cleaning, cooking, housecaring) is different than being loyal to husband. The intimacy is created by woman, bought by man. A lot of man feel so distant to his wife, because she live in narcistic world (not listen, only care herself, and most important she cannot make a wrong thing or choice.) They are sold by Western society to everybody.
But thank to muslim man, a lot of them are withdraw to their castle of himself, and do not follow his desires pervertly.
Salam Brother to each his own. I disagree with you and so we will have to agree to disagree. You see in my humble opinion BOTH men and women are more narcisstic these days....it is part of the increasing selfish culture that permeates most societies nowadays.
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this is another good perspective into how to treat each other male and female.You do not have to take it personally and please find love as it exists her as well as in jannah!
insha allah you find your other half and do not be put off as I myself do not endorse everything yassir says(may allah rewards him) but finds many thigns he says to be true!
that second wife joke thing was sooooo spot on
This is great! Thanks for the knowledge
jazakallahkhayr my brother. very nice advice and facts. May Allah reward you.
Great video! Barak Allaahoe Feek.
Already love this man....so true what he says.
This gentlemen is on point.
Thank You SO much !!!! I needed these advices. "Ahemduleelah!"
It is great that we talk about Women in a certain Religion and Geographical arena. I will argue that there are women of same religion in different geographical regions whose ambitions are different then what we consider status quo.
the biggest thanks for all the informations.... it is very helpful and simple to understand
the strong women don't cry on shoulders or want to have empathy so not all women are same regarding that. in ur video you got some very good points and true which i agree. mostly of ur descriptions about women are done right but not all women are same as i said. u got like.
I totally agree with what has been said in this video you get the thumb up from me👍
Mashallah this is the best advice ever for a man
loooooooved this speach so much that i never wanted it end.
You said a man should never ASSUME what a woman thinks but your whole video was based on assumptions! A woman is much more than her emotions by the way. We actually have a great ability to separate our emotions from logic. Your video also isn't very modern, sounds outdated. Nowadays most women are IN the workforce, at least in America. You have valid points but this video would be more accurate if you collaborated with a woman or if she herself made this video because it is subjective because you as a man are trying to pt yourself in the mindset of a woman.
Salam.
Tsahai McQuilkin what exactly ia your point here ? There are alot of female scholars who have given lectures on this same topic.
If his lecture is bothering you so much, simply dont watch it, he's a lecturer of islam, he doesnt base hi lectures on your feelings, so what if he's a man ? He can talk about anything he want since he's here to give you knowledge.
And before running your mouth, look through the comments, there are ao many women who agree with him, you dont and thats just you, there's no fault with the video here.
"We have a great ability to seperate our emotions from logic" how can you say that for sure ? Do you know every woman on the planet ? He's talking generally here and generally most women think emotionally and jump to conclusions easily. Stereotypes develop for a reason.
How is this video outdated ? There is no concept of women working in islam, the man is the provider, women work because their husbands allow them to and because they want to, not because its a duty on women to provide.
There's nothing wromg with the video, your mindset on the other hand seems pretty darn off.
Abdul Raffay lol 😂 so you believe that the only aspirations of women is clean the house and take care of children? 😂 ho please!
You wrong, women has abilities that can be share in this world. Women in time of Muhammad was hard worker mamas! Kadija be first business woman who married Muhammad and by the way SHE was the want to ask him to marry. Aisha was a great boss! She gives ideas not taking in consideration she was able to analyze situations! There more examples.
We work for our money because food and house is not enough we want our own things yes we like to shop!
Second, no all in this lesson is correct he got a lot wrong and generalize to certain types of women. Eastern women to be more precise. Western and African sometimes have a little more strong personality.
I didn’t fit in not even one bullet he presented. Lol I fit in most of the male bullets 😂
Salaam!
@@elisalopezdelacruz3563 You need to take the red pill Elisa... You are thinking from the feminist point of view.
Marbuy Fixed I am thinking from a western less submissive perspective. Like I say I fit most males bullets that might mean I think like a man.
A very enlightening talk. TY for sharing.
I have never heard more truth than this. This is crazy. I wonder why I've been in so many problems :/
I find this amusing that he made a lecture for sisters which lasts for over 45 minutes explaining men while he explains women (!) in around 30 minutes. How's that possible?
So what? Listen to the message please, it is totally on-point.
I don't agree. But mainly I disagree about how he describes men to women. Anyways, I'm not trying to have discussion here. Just expressing my opinion
I guess he tries to keep the video aimed at men as short as possible, while lengthening the one aimed at women.
If he made a lecture describing men to men, it would be over within 5 mins. And if he made a -lecture- ahem lecture _series_ describing women to women...it would be too long to be on youtube :D
I agree I don't think he gotta down pack to what women really want
+cherryandblueberry
you can add on your views, take the lesson, not count the minutes
What a shame you don't have this lecture in urdu, I really would like my husband to listen to this, everything you said is so true.
More then any thing a women wants is,respect. She just want to feel respected by her husband , in privicy and among people
Asalam alaykum brother.
As much as I liked the lecture about what women need to know about men, and as much as I appreciate your effort to try to explain this from a womans perspective, there is something that is really bothering in this lecture. As the first point in the video about men is that they want respect from their wife, this should be the first point in this lecture too. Another thing is that your point 1 and 3 are basically the same and could be said as one, but more importantly, women want and deserve, first of all, respect from their husbands. Not sympathy like you have for a cranky over-emotional immature child. Respect. If husbands do understand this in the first point, they will understand why all the points that come later on are important.
I hope you will understand my opinion and consider it
Valentina Becker which is why he talked about the woman being the man's best friend. Being her best friend means he would respect her.
@@faris_ibrahim. why didn't he say it in the male video then?
as both needs this, in general respect is to the old and the leader and sympathy and kindness is to the young and the risky.
Subhanallah ... a very clear and well presented lecture.. alla the points were expressed beautifully ... May ALLAh bless you always shiekh ...
every last thing he says is true and backed up by multiple Western studies, researchers, authors, etc so get off your Islam bashing rampage. This is a very intelligent man and the info is so well presented in a kind way.
elsa Grace He does have a Ph.D from Yale University :)
Well, he is wrong in sex part women ENJOY sex as much or more then man and if women remind a man about trash take out during sex, well he can use his intellect to asume he is not doing his job either on taking the trash in timely manners or satisfying her (you gets it? “... take the trash out” ) .
Women need stability 1st foremost
Someone who can look up to
A responsible man
Love and companionship and all the stuff sisters says below
Salamu Alaikum, i would like to express my opinion in this video it mostly applies when the man is in his masculine energy and the woman in her feminine. Most of it relates, but women in her masculine have the traits of the man, and then you have the man who is more emotional and likes to talk more and repeat over and over again. Women desire to be in her feminine energy at all times. This should be the number 1 major concern in how they will understand each other. I do appreciate the concept. Thank you.
God bless you Sheikh Yasin.... I learn a lot and disappointed is some comments below.
just amazing yasir qadhi
will its really true,...it makes me smile...cos i am that...a women....multi task and emotional...
invaluable tips, even though I'm not religious at all!
Thank you.
I must say I find the background humming/nasheed, VERY distracting!
all the best.
Great video! Thank you 🙏🏾
Kazakhstan kheyr for such a beautiful lecture
i must say, ur logic makes sense, and you have caught me out.
alhamdulillah, brother u really know your subject. Allah subhanahowatalah may reward u the best here and hereafter. i really wouldn't mind if my husband even call me object to say something to admire me. yes i can testify from my prospective that every single word is nothing but the truth . i'm totally agreed that husband can destroy his wife's love for him by just ignoring her efforts or even worse when say something negative about her appearance.
jazak Allah for putting everything in words.
Most info in both videos are also mentioned in Men are from "Mars women are from venus" book. the good thing here is that it is backed up by some hadith... & frankly I think many religious men don't read these kind of books, so these videos will transmit the info for this category. Jazakum Allah kheiran!
i cant wait to get married....
This is sooo true. Everything you said is real.
Brother you are talking about guys out side western countries . Here woman are working as hard of men even harder outside and inside .
a very helpful video. those who don't have much experience with women will find it very helpful to understand women.
please don't pick of every word. if you and me speak for 30 mins we will make lots of mistake. the scholar is a human being and I am sure using the word object is an error so ignore that.
respect
don't listen to men explaining how to understand women, how would they know there not women duh
It's a great presentation.
Assalamualaikum,
We all sin and someone who has the courage to say that here does not need to hear "Go repent". He/she needs someone to understand his situation first, then a solution.
I agree with all of this.
But what about when the husbands oppress their wives, telling her she should do this, wear this (niqab) be like this and that.
I have come across many that forces his wife to wear the niqab (but she don't want to), or else they will divorce her.
When they don't stand up for their wife when they are being treated like slave/maid of the house by his mother.
When they are stuck inside the house and can't set foot outside. They just have to cook, clean, and bear children, and this is their job as a housewife, even though they want to work, or even just to earn money because they don't want to rely on their husband financially because he does not use those earnings on his wife.
what about when a man makes promises to the women, just to marry her. But ends up not fulfilling those promises after marriage, even though he is more than capable.
what about those who set up conditions for the women should meet, but ignores her condition or not ask for her opinion.
1) Give up her job that she studied hard to get, and she doesn't want to leave.
2) Become a housewife, the housewife that just at home cooks, cleans and wait for the husband to come home, and obey his sexual needs.
3) wear the niqab, even though she is comfortable with what she is wearing that covers her, and she doesn't want to wear the niqab.
4) move in with her in-laws, even though they are capable to get a house for themselves, that she might find secure and comfortable. Or even move countries, so he can take your passport away and control you as he likes.
Best one as usual...
Very informative and thought provoking
I HAD to watch this video to validate his talk on what Women need to know about Men. Spot on!! I'm embarrassed :/
JAZAK'ALLAH KHAIRAN YAH SHIEKH.
This is so accurate it's scary
Jazak Allah for the explanation. I appreciate it :)
oh btw, having watched this, all i can say is thank Allah i am not married
How can a man focus on one thing at a time that seems impossible. You are opening my eyes
Thank you for this video
جزاك الله خيرا أخي I couldnt feel more relatable , everything that have've been mentioned was a 100% factss . However , I'd like to highlight that this was a male speaking abt what women think nd want , so I suggest for my brothers to go listen for a female's podcast or smth similar to this (there are plenty on ytb for sure ) talking abt women needs and small expectations from their husbands etc . This will 10 times help you understand better your wife or future wife . If u've noticed sheikh made a 45min talking abt men and a 28min video talking abt women , not bc we're less complicated or bc men are more important to him , but bc no male would ever speak abt women needs nd thoughts as a female would
barakallahu fii, very inciting
excellent speech.jazakallaah khairan kaseeraa
thanks a lot for summarize this facts ..jazakallah khair
That's a really good video and many of the points in it are actually true.
Honestly, I think it's more fitting for a WOMAN to be giving this type of lecture instead of a man. Not that anything he said is particularly offensive (in my opinion at least) or untrue, but seriously, what's a better way to know about what a woman wants/thinks than by listening to a woman herself?? There are so many great Muslim women speakers out there who deserve much more recognition, men shouldn't be the only ones.
Thank you for uploading. Let's look at the positive and focus on the information and focus on putting it into practice in our lives and marriage.
Ya Allah grant the single brothers and sisters among us spouses who will be the coolness of their eyes. Ameen.
As a INTJ personality type this is probably more accurately pointed at me if I was with someone I didn't like.
*****
The nasheed is distracting. Haven't finished yet, but nice lecture so far. Jazakallahu khayran sheikh and uploader.
double thumbs up for the lecture...it's just the background music is so annoying.
JazakAllah for this brother.
mashAllah this is so on point jazak Allah kheir
It means if you love and appreciate her and what she's likely spent all day preparing for her man is that she will naturally feel the desire to make sure that he feels appreciated as well. However coming home and barking about food and whats not done with no regard for her day and what may have happened will not likely get you any respect or anything else.
I'm a female and I watched this.
very excellent advice.
If every man follow the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم how he react when he has a problem with aysha رضي الله عنها. All woman will be happy