How to Be Certain About a Potential Partner - Esther Perel
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- Опубликовано: 5 сен 2024
- Choosing a primary partner is a major life decision and we all want to feel sure about this choice. But, uncertainty is part of love and especially in the early stages of a relationship, so how do we manage this paradox?
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My advice is don't rush into anything. The problem that occurs so often is people want a fast track to commitment before they really got to know the other, then it's hard once deeper feelings develop to admit you've made a wrong choice and be able to extract yourself. Take time dating. Ask questions. Observe and don't let your desire to be coupled, blind you.
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Making people that love you wait is super toxic smug narcissistic garbage. Narcissists tend to have a high body count. High body count lands a girl in the friend zone. 🤔🙈👏🏻😉 I'm waiting for marriage haha good one.
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So so true!!
Thank you, I needed to hear this 💗
Expecting certainty is keeping many of us from ever giving new relationships a chance.
Wow.. this blew my mind. So basically I need to relax, loosen up a bit, give it a go and see what happens. Because I will never know otherwise.
And the certain ones are usually the women and men who are narcissists, hiding
@Cindy Lou yes. And for many of us , the ones who are so good at feeling certain to us,feel somewhat normal , even if we see flags. Because of our narcissistic mother or father growing up. Take it slow slow slow and hope they can't keep the mask on longer than you can wait .
Chances are, yes
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"The certainty and the need for it is like a plague these days."
I notice this too! We want the comfort of knowing something like we know information from a text book. We want safe and instant gratification. Life isn't so cut and dry. The ability to relax, lean back and go with the flow takes strength and courage.
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I wish alot of people will get this because it's so exhausting trying to be with someone who is hell bent on finding what's wrong with you to avoid being hurt instead of working with you to build something. Everybody has flaws, the people who want to be certain are the ones causing the unnecessary stress on relationships and ruin the flow of getting to know someone. I really find it a turn off...people don't want to date anymore they want a ready made package like two minute noodles.
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Everything you say is such a giant help to my overall mental health.
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There's no "right" person for anybody, you have to work for a good relationship, basically anyone can be your "right" person if you both are willing to put in the work and struggle 😌
EMSagahon this is not true...you absolutely need to find someone worth struggling for. You can have a relationship that both people are committed to but yet they aren't a good fit for each other. In that case you're both engaging in an illusion.
collins mugodo I'm not talking about just commitment, what do you mean when you say "a good fit for each other"?
EMSagahon you want different things out of life...maybe one of you really wants kids and the other definitely doesn't for example...that is a compromise that may only be ideal for one of you and not the other...this is a big deal and only one of you is going to find it suitable. The other one is going to have to compromise on a decision that's really important to them for the sake of keeping the object of their affection. this just creates resentment in the long run. in this case the most loving thing you can do for your partner is to leave them and let them find a better situation for the sake of their happiness.
collins mugodo yep. For that before you begin a relationship is good to know yourself and what you want, if you have life goals and your partner have different goals something like your example can happen, but if one of the couple members doesn't know what he/she wants, they can become compromised on just accomplishing the other goals and like you say, live with resentment. Great to speak with someone with your kind of thinking
EMSagahon yes!!!!! I've been saying this for YEARS
We worry way too much about making the right decision instead of playing out the game and seeing what happens. It is an adventure people!
We are uncertain about the other person because we are uncertain about ourselves. our partners are great mirrors. the need to be certain is the need to control...usually from having deep insecurity and the inability to be vulnerable. try sitting with yourself for a few days, weeks, months...and observe...what makes you tick. be honest with yourself. can you be honest with yourself? if you can't that's a great place to start.
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Words of Wisdom PIEPIE: I've really enjoyed hearing this lady , and think she should be making a video on the subject of " Why do I Need to Know Who You Are!?"
Something about "completely knowing" who this person you are trying to figure out, actually is, Mrs. Perel?
A music friend of mine sent to me, a beautifully arranged , instrument track, and I have a habit outside of writing my own thoughts to melody and feelings, usually more well thought stories and lyrics. But when i put this track on, and turned the mike on, ALL I could think of, was the FEELINGS in the musical content of the song. I " Felt" this arrangement was stating who the artists were, combined with whom, the singer FELT she might be, and it kept confusingly, asking....the music, " Who Are You?"
I invite YOU to listen to the song at You Tube, " Crying the Blues, Confused." and see if YOU feel some inner thoughts come to the surface while listening to Frans' song, " Crying Blues." I'm curious as to how YOU might "feel" as you hear it ?
Perhaps MY, personal confusion played a major part in how the lyrics came out;
Perhaps it's the manner in which the music became "interpreted " by me, and another person might have FELT it
so totally differently, that THEIR lyrics could have "stated their own feelings' in a totally different manner ?
Again, I came to think that the title should actually be, " Who A---r---e You?
Allot of arrangers who need a new melody or new lyrics to their arrangements would reply..."Lynda, just sing the song!"
I, myself can't "sing" a song that I can't understand how it came together, to be something I'd even attempt to sing TO?
In summary, I'd like to suggest that many women might also share the same "feeling" I had when I wrote ,"I Still Remember You."
("If I'd met the right man, would I be up her singing ?") written about, a man I probably "should" have married, and didn't ?
It seems to me, that YOU are saying, what so many people with "tender and strong" feelings WANT to say, but don't are going
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love this answer. It's funny how many people are uncomfortable with not knowing things. Even when we know that we feel good with a person and nothing is wrong, we still find ways to worry (what if he/she is not "the one"?). Esther is so wise. Thank you!
Always take your time. You really have to get to know the other person before you make any decision about becoming intimate. The surest way to not to get to know another is to have a sexual relationship with that person too soon. That 3 date rule is ridiculous. After a few dates you need to take a look at what's happening between you two. You need to remember that both of you have emotional baggage that can easily get into the way from the experience. What happens so often is that a person will try to get around their own and the other's baggage by romanticizing and fantasizing about the other and the relationship. In these fantasies it is easy to "sweep under the rug" those behaviors and attitudes that can cause problems in a big way. For example, he may drink a bit too much and because you are young and are used to it you will make excuses for that behavior by saying things like, "It's only at parties" or "He has a few when he's tired (or tense)." It is obvious that can be a problematic behavior and you need to take note of it.
The thing to remember is that at the beginning of a relationship everyone is going to be on their "best" behavior. They want to be the kind of person that they think the other person wants. In reality, they are being the kind of person that they themselves want. In this behavior fantasies play a major role and we tend to see only those behaviors that fit those fantasies while disregarding all others.
We would all want to have a "fairy tale" relationship but that is not realistic and it is not possible. Here's something that they don't teach you in school. Eighty percent of people who marry will marry someone who is similar to their opposite sex parent, a sibling or themselves. Familial relationships will tend to be much the same throughout generations. They may be exactly the same or they will flip over and turn it around. Look at how your father acted toward your mother and your mother acted toward your father. Your marriage may be the same or it will flip over. Then, in the next generation it will flip back to the previous generation (grand parents' behavior patterns). If you had one parent raising you then look at your siblings and yourself for whom you're looking.
We all have these "search images" that we seek out for mating. These search images are made up of all of those we've been close to as friends and intimates as well as family behavior patterns, fantasies and genetics. The thing is much of this clouds our sense of reality. It is a fact that strong emotions cloud our judgement. They keep us from seeing things as they really are and we end up seeing things as we would like them to be.
Before you can have a strong intimate relationship with another you need to have a strong intimate relationship with yourself. One thing that can help in this daunting task is to take a look around at the people you have around you; both those you like and those you don't like. Everyone you have around you tells you something about yourself. Look at what each of them brings to your relationship. You'll see yourself in all of them. Learn from them and enjoy them.They're your teachers. Look at what it is you like or dislike about each of them. Then look into yourself. You may be surprised at what you'll find.
Well explained..Thank you so much
This was a really good comment! Thanks!
epic! i feel this to be true, my ex showed me signs of his true self and he did indeed want to be more of what he wanted to be, but wasn't necessarily. cloudy and ignored my inner feelings, because so many other things were nice, but ultimately, i wasn't impressed. next time,
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You will know your person.. even if you have issues or minor human doubt.. it's more than just feelings and emotions.. it's honesty.. passion.. intimacy.. trust.. you will feel safe.. valued.. loved.. you can share spiritual moments.. they are good influencers for you and your health.. they guide you.. and so much more.. you just feel nourished.. even if you are afraid or scared from past things .. just that reassurance and also that person will be healed and took time from past experiences to heal themselves so they can be good for you.. also you can be exactly the same to them.. a really good partner brings out the best in you and you will have human moments.. and grieving and many other challenges but your partner will love you or like you through all seasons of life.. mostly you will feel emotionally and mentally safe.. best feeling in the world..
For me you find someone you like but love comes from you and that person..you will treat the one you like exactly the way you treat all those people whose been with you all your life your friends and your family and so will he. If you are a very selfish person and doesn't even try to understand anyone else's but only your needs .. I don't think you will find "the one" even if you find someone who truly cares for you ..it will not last. Love comes from us.
It took me 5 years into a relationship to realize that we were not compatible. Sometimes you can know right away that a person is not for you. But sometimes, it takes a long time. And 3 years later, I still miss some things about him, and I'm sad that it didn't work out.
If you are anxious, unsure, and seeking approval (commitment), you are an easy mark to be love bombed. Those who love bomb almost always have something hidden. Be strong in your mind and psyche, walk away when you are love bonded.
Asking for certainity right from the start is saying you want to avoid being vulnerable and taking a risk but vulnerability is an intrinsic part of love.
Someone is able to help you he can also help you just as he did mine too recently he can also help you too
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Wow.. this blew my mind. So basically I need to relax, loosen up a bit, give it a go and see what happens. Because I will never know otherwise, if I'm waiting for certainties.
Thank you Esther... I've slowly and painfully reached this conclusion unconsciously, but its so relieving to actually hear someone say the words! Keep up your amazing work.
Beautifully put together the truth.
Wow, what a relief hearing these words. I always thought I'm suppose to know and have many times felt guilty when having the uncertainty feelings.
Brilliant. I struggled with wanting certainty. This is well articulated.
That's the problem with all these online dating sites, people are swiping left, swiping left, trying to find the perfect person. They think they have all these choices, but are eliminating all the good people, they will eventually end up old an alone waiting for something better to come along, perfection does not exist. Afraid they'll miss out on something better that might come along. Commitment phobes. Look out for obvious red flags though, unstable, emotionally unavailable, addictions, steer clear of those ones
Simply enjoy the journey, no expectations.
It'll go much smoother and you won't lose yourself...
The right Person is a Concept. The good Person is a Reality .
really true.
Yes Maam, absolutely agree with you. There's no such thing as "the one". You will be the right person for each other if you want and will work hard on that. You need to become a team and achieve that one goal - build a great relationship.
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Crystal Medina yes, Crystal I hope you do to. She could possibly speak on the most boring topic in the world and we would still be interested. But the fact is her level of knowledge and her ability to engage her audience gives her an advanced edge. She has something to say, for sure.
This was like "I agree, so wise.. and you are hot ._." XDDD
SO AGREE
She IS beautiful. How old is she?
"Human Supermarket" Wow...Well put! Some men are addicted to the dating sites, like shopping for their favorite fix.
Vintage Black Arabians Some men? Any source? Why put at a statement with no facts behind?
Both genders are just as eager.
It's like a circuit, the same people are on all the dating sites. Finding lots of emotionally unavailable men out there, putting themselves out there for a relationship when they're not actually capable of it. Can make an effort to go all out for the first date but can't keep up the momentum for a second one.
And women.
Vintage Black Arabians Same can be said about women
*people. There you go.
I beg to differ. I agree with Stephen Speaks and Dr John Gray which is varify by my experience too that the person who is the one will leave you with less and less doubt with each encounter. Especially for women, our time is so valuable. I'd say given the relationship 6 months to a year tops, if you still feel uncertain and even worse than you started, he's not the one. Wish him the best, say farewell and time to continue the search😇🥰
Self-trust is the key to knowing which person is right for us. (brilliant video!)
I really like this. You don't know if you found the perfect friend either, But you can be in the now and in your body and grounded with them, and experience the pleasure of being in their company. Are you going to be friends the next time you hang out? The next week? The next year or 2? Many people don't consider this, because they don't make it mean anything more than it is in the now. I see parallels between that and a romantic relationship. I say just let it unfold as it may, and be grateful for whatever experience that gives you, however long it is.
it's weirdly comforting to know this is how it is and that this is normal
Everyone you come in contact with is the One for you. For that time. For the relationship is contributing to your expansion and thus the evolution of life.
I don't think that is really what people are asking when they ask that question. I feel that they are attempting to learn how to be more discerning. They want to know how to tell someone is wrong for them after making lots of mistakes in the past. They ARE vulnerable, not trying to avoid being vulnerable.
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Yeah, I've known that Esther Perel was The Expert ever since I heard her first talk ages ago. She just never disappoints. So grateful she helps us think.
The need for certainty for me is due to my ego, anxiety, insecurity and childhood traumas. Not easy.
At least you're honest, you have a fighting chance because of that.
Look up Tracy Crossley
Very self aware and you really should try and deal with all/most of these issues before even getting into a relationship (or they will probably mess it up no matter how "right" they are for u ;)
oh. i have the same problems :) a break up it s like a god damn hell.
seems like you put on yourself all of these labels to not try. it's helpful to love yourself, sure, and not to push yourself too hard. but you need to try despite these.
so important. We have to allow ourselves to be curious and ask questions, instead of thinking we have to "feel it." or just know that this is the one. Get to know them and know yourself.
Monica Burton, LMFT, your pretty smile can make the news!
2019....binging on Esther’s vlogs before I make my next move🙌🏻
Esther Perel’s wisdom never expires!
The phrase, "being with the right person," implies that here is only one person in the entire world who is destined to be your marital/relationship partner. Nothing could be further from the truth. There are probably tens of thousands of "the right person" for every individual on earth.
Having choice in on-line dating is such an illusion, it's so rare that there's actually somebody who's worth the attention. So many conversations start and end in not time, most men want just sex/
The more important question is: how do you create uncertainty in a committed relationship, without being manipulative or inauthentic, but still being loyal and honest?
You'll never know if that certain person is the one you wanna be with if you'll never gone through problems with the same person you want to certain with.
what a wise human being.
Ms. Perel, you are a gift to this world! Thank you for pursuing your calling. I truly hope you are feeling the gratitude you deserve.
This need to be certain and right everytime stems from the modern day narrative in business and other walks of life. Also, we have lost our life skills to a large extent because we receive everything ready to be consumed. This makes every the smallest uncertainty a big risk for many people.
She is so beautiful! I can look at her so much time!
you are literally changing my perspective on each relationship i have, I've been having some issues with uncertainty as well and not "getting" what i want from other people when they give some many great things but still disatisfied, so i am learning how to shift my perspective to a more positive and less uncomfortable one.
And you will have all of that in the beginning of a relationship and you will think they are the one because everything is new and exciting, but when it all fades you will be left wondering again if this is the right person for you, if you made the right choice. I agree with EMSagahon in the comment below me that says, "There's no "right" person for anybody, you have to work for a good relationship, basically anyone can be your "right" person if you both are willing to put in the work and struggle".
absolutely correct...
Indeed. It's fun, uncertainty, not routine stasis. Enjoy.
My ex would constantly tell me that he wanted to be with me forever. I would tell him that we should just go one step at a time, one day at a time. Now, we split up. We spent just under four years together. You are very correct. There’s no certainty in this. Spending time with the person will determine largely whether or not you want them in your life, that is, if you’re not blind sided by the inevitable red flags that pop up.
I love you! I cannot wait to be a therapist with your level of experience and knowledge!!! You inspire me to be a better therapist! Only way is up!
Pretty useful compassionate clear response. :)
if i might comment on the question: There are better uses for the energies often invested in seeking certainty or guarentees in relationships, imo; learn to know yourself better, learn to see clearly & compassionately, & learn if the dynamic & relationship looks to be good over time. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Unpack baggage, without dumping it on anyone else. Remember to breathe and cultivate self awareness & compassion, despite any shiny sparkley bits. May all be happy, and at peace.
Boom. Once again, killing it, E. 100% agree with the top comments that this obsession with a guarantee is preventing us from having meaningful and educational experiences. We cannot know for certain until we know the person. If you’ve already been friends, perhaps that’s different! But starting from online dating... I wouldn’t want to “know” right away, because how could you?! You genuinely just met that stranger off the street!
@1:27 what a mind-blowing insight,just WOW...
So good!! This woman is brilliant. Ha Ha! She just dealt with this question from the first second! So true! Why do we always put this kind of pressure on ourselves. She addressed this perfectly 💜
Simple yet so powerful advice.
Exactly related, to what Esther is saying, is the parallel, synonymous "plague" of: Modern stress demands that everybody has to be Myers-Briggs "J" -- Closure-Oriented -- just to cope with the tsunami of, the onslaught of tasks and deadlines! "I gotta Know It All, right nowwwww! I'm falling behind, already! Gotta move, gotta move on, gotta FINISH THIS, gotta GET THERE, gotta GET THIS DONE!" No one feels safe being "P" -- Process-Oriented. No one has time to Take Time With It.
Excellent advice 💜 Love is a leap into the unknown...and nothing is ever set in stone!
Thank you, thank you! There are no absolutes, yet we are obsessed with it.
This see of human supermarket... thank you Esther.
If you are in doubt,go with that gut feeling!Something that feels uncertain,a mismatch or worse,it usually is!
love the way she opens up her legs like that, it comes from confidence.
The mindset that wasn't mentioned is *confidence* which you could also say is *faith* (and I don't use "believe" because that implies "certainty" - and I agree with Esther, you can't be).
I am confident in Esther's teachings.
There will be mutual respect, especially when you are honest with one another. The ability to be yourself without any fear of being judged or abandoned.
Best description to describe online dating, "Human supermarket!"
There is no certainty with anything in life. Sometimes you just have to take the leap and the risk. Cheers, from Country Victoria. Australia. ✌️
10 seconds in and I trust this French woman implicitly. Liked and subscribed 🙌
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Clearly I'm a control freak - I can't seem to settle with anyone because I always wonder about the future.
Elena Salvatore omgggg me too!
That's the plague these days. I feel similarly and I wish it was only restricted to relationship choices.
Overthinker aye..? Fear of the unknown..? We cannot play God..
Me too
Hello Esther, you are a very inspiring person. You make so much sense in all your videos and speeches. I think you made me realize so many things about myself and relationships that I wouldn't otherwise have known. Please keep up all this great work because you leave a very strong impact with it!
Perhaps the question comes from individuals who have been in damaging relationships, with an abusive partner. It's fear of it happening again. Fear of being manipulated and tricked.
Yes, and I'm afraid that sexy-fying the uncertainty and this constant bludgeoning on about 'be open'! It's often the openness that also leads people to STAY in a relationship that is actually unhealthy...
I get it but you need to stop the mind reading.. if you always read into it your partner can say all they want you will still find something manipulative. You are killing it if you let the baggage take over. It's a new person and he/she deserves the benefit of the doubt. My last partner couldn't and here we are..
I'm 25 male, i've never dated before and it's been like 10 years since my last "interest" in someone and now i somehow developed such high romantic expectations that i doubt i will ever date anyone. And i'm scared shitless because of it that i will die lonely, never experienced love
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love the practical answer!it's all about discovery and seeing for yourself with time!
There is beauty in uncertainty, we have to embrace it ❤️
Once we accept the risk of life, being open to love and become even more attractive...
Thanks for the insight of exploring a potential relationship and getting to know a potential partner - without certainty - with curiosity!
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Anyway I've just recently discovered you!!! And I can't believe how all over the internet you are....... I can't believe I had never heard you speak before this week....
THANK YOU for the information you share!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's so powerful and transformative. I deeply appreciate you 💗🙏🏼😊
I actually want to remove the anxiety from my life so i want certainty to an extent. We never know what life brings. But i wanna know what my partner intend to bring in this relationship. I ain't cool
She is right. This is a good video. Thanks for sharing.
I understand the practicality of this message but it's not applicable to everyone. My parents knew right away when they met and were married for 43 years until my father's death. I wish we could empower people with the message that you will know when you know...sometimes it's right away, sometimes it takes time but it's your own individual journey and you should trust your own heart and intuition and process.
I agree with, you know when you know in your heart.
No Internet human supermarket. It was easier for people back in the day. Less choice
Stop comparing modern dating to ancient times, it was way different. Back then anything called man or woman was good enough for you.
Good advice. 6 years in and still no certainty but it’s what keeps it passionate too 😉
I love ♥️ it. There *is no certainty!*
Keep relating.
Keep knowing.
Keep living!
*2021 blessings to all.* 💚
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This is exactly what I am struggling with right now and exactly what I needed to hear.
Fantastic succinct sensible answer. I love it and I think can be applied to a lot of areas of life.
This is unrelated but you remind me of Olivia Benson 😂❤️ so strong
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You have to go with, pay attention to the things you ARE certain about
The best version of himself is the ideal partner for me.
The monument she starts to reply to the question, I subscribed
Wow simple and smartest answer there ever will be. Thank you for this.
It used to be that you hooked up with who your parents chose, or whoever you got pregnant with. And you had to stay together else you got sent to hell. So with that pressure on both people to make it work, it was much easier to find 'the one' who had to stay with you your whole life.
But so much choice is so much temptation. And the breakdown of communities and religion means less consequences for breaking up.
It took me a lot of heartbreak to figure out what my heart and soul really wanted. But that clarity make it easy.
It sounds to me like this person is anxious about repeating the same dysfunctional relationship patterns they may have had in the past... and if that this the case, the answer would be self examination.
I think values are most important.
If you have same/similar values, typically you’ll have similar morals. Morals are like a belief but people don’t follow their morals as often as they do values. I think of it as Morals are thoughts and beliefs and values are put into action through lifestyle.
Morals is a more appealing term to many, as is values to others.
Uncertainty makes you work harder to have a better, happy & successful relationship. Laws of love 101.
Also… there are NO guarantees in anything in life… work at it, without a break.
What are some signs that a person is a good match, that they treat you well, and they are worth committing to?
You are amazing Esther! Thank you for sharing your insights. Keep sharing please. This is your gift.
I sort of disagree. Of course, there's no absolute certainty nor guarantee, but if our need for certainty is a plague, so is our tendency to undermine our own intuition, especially we women. If in the early stages, the person gives me negative vibes, drains my energy or just makes me feel kind of bad overall, I'd feel okay to move on. I believe the connection between a potential partner and I should be an uplifted feeling. There's still no telling how things will end up, but I think it's going to be a subtle positive rapport toward which I can move. That's just me though.
At least she answered the damn question
I love Esther and I agree, expecting to be certain about anything in life is an unrealistic ask. And if you do it about every aspect of your life it's wise to self-reflect to understand why. Still, I don't think she addressed all the underlying issues here. From a perspective of a woman who wants family and kids, knowing sooner rather than later if the relationship you are in can give you that is crucial. Sure, you can never be 100% certain, life happens and people change, but it's not wise to ignore this completelly. If you do, you end up not honouring your needs, and you may also find yourself investing in a relationships that can't give you what you want. You may also end up being out of time. It's not smart to ignore biology. On the other hand, you can't be neurotic about it either, or you kill all the joy of a new relationship unfolding. It's a balancing act. You need to make sure that the relationship you are in is progressing towards greater certainty and has a potential to give you what you want, according to your own personal time frame. If you are a woman who wants a family and kids it's in your best interest to make that time frame short.
Mia Kos, you got a lovely smile
Surely, certainty cannot be guaranteed when it comes to meeting “the one”; instead, an open mind is the best attitude which is under one’s own control...
To me, further interesting questions are:
where does our need for certainty stem from?
What are the possible underlying fears behind this worry/preoccupation?
Finally, besides the questioning of our need for certainty, are there any objective “red flags” that should not be ignored?
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This is beautiful.
Love you Esther Perel!!! 💗 you are such a blessing!!
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Esther Perel is my soulmate.