#90 NEVER Fall Into THIS Type Of Love! || Chai With My Bhai
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Please teach الداء والدواء in South Seattle, Washington إن شاء الله ‼️
One of the best episodes we've done in a while!
Assalamu alaykum akhi
Stop arguing and interrupting the brothers, you do this all the time, it makes the episodes unwatchable.
From the manners of the Prophet (PBUH) is that he would let people finish speaking.
I felt that too, kept interrupting and ruining the flow made it a little hard to watch. @@Name-jz4fb
He can ask but let the brother finish like in other podcasts, you keep cutting him and it looks a little disrespectful to be honest, i know your intentions may not be to do that but try not to do it next time
May Allah grant you guys jannah al firdous
Wallahi I smiled when I saw the notification pop up الله يحفظكم
Assalaamu 'Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh, brothers Jazakumallah khair amazing episode, i really really needed to hear this right now, i really appreciate your guys work may Allah reward you guys for the amazing reminders and lessons May Allah reward you brothers with jannaht ul firdous
Love these chai with my Bhai videos 😄
More lighthearted episodes🙌🏻
When MrWavy said it’s what every woman prays for,Yes it is what we pray for😂 InShaAllah!
Theres a story the scholars mention about being majnoon (crazy in love) over laila, you're welcome
SubhanAllah…hahahahabyes we want our hubby’s to go crazy in love.
Do you know about Laila and Majnoon? 😅
Its not allowed for women to make jokes on internet amongst men and use emojis.
Praise be to Allah.
Firstly:
It is permissible for a woman to take part in public chat rooms, if she adheres to the following guidelines:
She should only participate as much as is necessary, so she should pose a question or state the topic, then leave, and not comment unless there is a need for that, because the basic principle is that she should avoid speaking to men or mixing with them.
There should be nothing in her words that could provoke fitnah (temptation), such as joking, speaking softly, or laughing, such as writing “hahahahahaha”, as mentioned in the question, or using smiley emojis, because that could lead to coveting on the part of those in whose hearts is disease, as Allah, may He be glorified, says (interpretation of the meaning): “O wives of the Prophet, you are not like anyone among women. If you fear Allah, then do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet, but speak with appropriate speech” [al-Ahzaab 33:32].
She should avoid giving out her email address or corresponding via private messages with any man, even if that is for the purpose of seeking help, because of what such correspondence often leads to of attachment and temptation. See the answers to question no. 34841 .
It is preferable and better for a woman to participate only in all-female chat rooms. This is safer for her. There are many such chat rooms, and that is better and sufficient. But if she needs to participate in public chat rooms, then it is better for her to choose a screen name that does not indicate that she is female.
And Allah knows best.
Source: islamqa
@@taimurahmadJazakumullahukhayran. this is out of hand among non muslims, and now muslims as well. most muslim women have no hayaa nowadays
May Allah reward brother imran
جزاکم اللە خیرا
it is the problem of so many people these days i know some stories about them 😢😢😢
50:00 - LOOOOL!
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
I recommend the next topic to be the situation of Abu Taymiyyah
Great episode ,I learnt alot
جزاكم الله خيرا
A request to please let each other speak. Fewer interruptions would be appreciated .جزاكم الله
Why are sisters getting married and messaging next man first day of marriage crazy bro I seek refuge from Allah from such women
Trust me it’s such a tragedy!
Sounds like Allah protected him
Ughhh I love this podcast Alhamdulillah for its existence 😊
sister these type of podcasts spread fitna, even a man shouldnt listen to this
@@MenkIsAMubtadiiDeobandiwhy do you say that?
i loved this 😍😂
Omg 🤦🏽♀️ this just got funnier and funnier lol 😂
السلام عليكم. لمن يربد أن يستمع لشرح كتاب الداء و الدواء لإبن القيم فليشاهد دروس الشيخ عبد الرزاق البدر .
ماشاءالله شرح جيد
Do you have the contact for the brother who has links for marriage in arab world?!
O bhai where is the chai?
Not Abubakr punching the fan 😭💀
Jazakumullah Khair, but i think each speaks digressed quite a lot of times and there was too much interjection, the video would hav been better if these things didn't happen. Jazakumullah Khair
Yes I know right
45:55 🔥 Don’t give them that satisfaction!
What book is Brother imran referring to? Does anyone know?
The disease and the cure by ibn qayim
Assalamu’alikum . I have an important question regarding Ibn Abbas, his wife and the story of the slave. When his wife said “please my husband”, what exactly was going to happen after? If you were insinuating intercourse - should she not have been married to him first? Something I’d like to some clarification on please.
the story is of umar ibn abdul-aziz.
a man is permitted to have relations with his wife and his sl@ves g!rl(s). according to the quran, “And they who guard their chastity, Except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for indeed, they will not be blamed -“ [23:5-6]
the word ‘right hands’ here refers to sl@ves who are captives of war. they may be g!fted and s0ld. men do not need to marry their sl@ves in order to have relations with them. if they would like to marry them, they may free them to do so.
Sad.
@@bintbadawiyyahbarakallahu feek
8:47 but Akhi you've said in another video not to mention your salary to the Wali and to only say you're stable. I'm very confused what's the answer?
@@Peaches10608 The brothers mentioned once in one of the classes (on the brothers club) not to mention your salary to the wali as its private, so long as you're financially stable that's all you would need to say
@@BigDuck786I think it’s something you should mention if they ask because it’s life partner and need to know going to share life together
@@BigDuck786 i think they mean specificly mentioning it, but giving a general answer like in this range is what they could mean. Allahu alem
I don’t think Abubakr literally meant that you say I have a six
Figure company lol
But rather the confidence of knowing that you do will help you answer his questions Inshaa’Allah
where is the Chai
They drank it
As salamu alaykum. Please, What book is this ? Is it translated in English and where can we buy it ?
‘The disease and the cure’ by ibn Qayim. Usually available in English over the counter in most Islamic book stores
Assalam alaikum I want pdf of that book if possible please
The explanation of the book is available in "Al Madrasatu Al Umariyyah" by Ustadh Abdul Rahman Hassan
darpdfs.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/The-Disease-The-Cure-Imam-Ibn-Al-Qayyim-compressed.pdf
@@fatmanadia6521darpdfs.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/The-Disease-The-Cure-Imam-Ibn-Al-Qayyim-compressed.pdf
Im Muslim 19, do you think its good idea to get married while at uni, both you at uni, i have saved over the year which will allow me to have the wedding around 26k. No haram relationship 😅, i just wanna straightforwardly ask for her hand in marriage
assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
yes and the scholars recommended marrying as young as you can manage it weather it be teenage or early twenties
@@celeste09372 cool, thanks
Women are so op. Whenever I make dua the first thing I ask is to be protected from women and my desire. It helps Alhamdulliah
could you PLEASE link the book brother imran is talking about?
darpdfs.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/The-Disease-The-Cure-Imam-Ibn-Al-Qayyim-compressed.pdf
here is the English pdf
darpdfs.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/The-Disease-The-Cure-Imam-Ibn-Al-Qayyim-compressed.pdf
Searxh googlr
Dar pdfs ibn al qayyim disease and cure
Salam, ustadh Abdurahman Hassan is doing an explanation of the book. Go check it out, it's gold
search up on google "ibn al qayyim disease and cure dar pdf"
Asalaam alakum
I could tell u a story 😮
As a woman, this episode truly unsettled me. Am I the only one???
you must be delusional then
@@samihakhondoker2456 Nice that you think that without asking me what exactly made me say that.
Why
13:52 😂
Allah did not say ان كيدكن عظيم
It’s العزيز who said that. Baarak Allahu Feekum.
Yes Allah said it. Everything in the Quran is from the speech of Allah, even the conversations of the people of the past that Allah himself relays to us.
It’s عظيم
OK brother STOP MOVING YOUR LEG
there is this novel here which is ver mch red by the urdu audience .. peere kamil... it has this obsession of a man over a woman.
I don’t think he explained the correct “revenge body” 😂😂😂😂
Asalalamualaykum, the Hadith of the one who refrains from acting upon ‘ishq’ which brother Imran mentioned is fabricated and extremely weak.
Assalamolaikum, in the UK is it allowed to marry more than 1 wife or not?
It's not allowed in the UK but that doesn't matter. In the UK it's illegal to marry more than one but they have no problem you cheating & fornicating and having mistresses, whilst married - but you can't marry them and give them rights that is the methodology of the kuffar, Allah's wrath is upon them
It is illegal in the uk but many men still do it without registering the second marriage
It not illegal if the marriage is only islamic(which is valid) but it won’t be a legal marriage, just like how a kaffir has many women legally as they don’t consider it a marriage.
Is the brother on the left sleeping @ 5:00 😂
I think he was reading on his tablet 😂
You guys are still forgetting women are going through the same thing ,falling into depression,taking their own lives all cuz of a guy .
So is having a crush haram
Don't ever ever have crush it is haram I am 100 percent sure. You are bringing harm to yourself. Love is a disease. Having crush is nothing but love you keep to yourself. Wallahi I'm not lying it's been 6 years it's painful if things don't work out. You will not understand "better safe than sorry". I'm not lying sometimes you'd want to commit suicide, if atall you eeman is weak you'd definitely do it. If you like her go talk to her father straight away dont ever hold her in you head.
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:
"And the cure for this deadly illness (love before marriage) is for the person that is afflicted to realize that this love is only due to his/her own delusions and ignorance. So upon such a person is to first and foremost strengthen their Tawhid and reliance upon Allah, and secondly to increase in worship and busy themselves with it, so much so that they do not have any spare time letting their minds wander and think about their beloved. And they should call upon Allah to protect them and save them from this evil, just as Prophet Yusuf عليه السلام called upon Allah and he was saved. And they should do as he did, be as he was, in terms of Ikhlas and remembering Allah in abundance. This is because if the heart is filled with Ikhlas for the sake of Allah, there will be no space left for any unlawful love to be present, rather this only happens to a heart that is empty and has no Ikhlas whatsoever. And let such people remind themselves that whatever Allah has decreed for them is only in their own best interests, and when Allah commands something it is never to cause harm or misery to His slaves. And let them also remind themselves that their unlawful love does not benefit them, neither in this world or the hereafter! As for this world then they will be so preoccupied with their love that it will cripple them and will cause them to live in a fantasy world. And as for the hereafter then it will cause them to be preoccupied with the love of the creation instead of love for the Creator! These people need to be reminded, that the one who is emerged in something will never see its ill effects, neither will the person who has never experienced such things. The only people who will be able to relate to them are those who have experienced the same thing but have been saved. Such people can look back and realize how evil it is."
الداء والدواء 300
Just in case if fell in love or things did not work out.
only if you act on it in haram ways
@@samihakhondoker2456 control your thoughts, thoughts become thinking, thinking paves way for determined action. You and my sister have a common name. My sister don't ever have a man in your head, same applies for men. I am well experienced in this. Love is a worst of disease. If atall ud known me I wouldn't have told you this I used to scratch I'm my chest and bleed just 2 years back out of disgust I have fir myself
Edit: There is a saying having Patience on lowering the gaze is easier than having patience on what comes after
yes if you think about them constantly it is haram.
Infatuation and attraction do not usually develop in the heart except because of letting one’s gaze wander freely; failing to lower the gaze and refrain from looking at that which is prohibited; and doing that which strengthens this infatuation, such as listening to haraam songs, reading or watching love stories, letting one’s thoughts wander, and letting the infatuation take root, especially if one’s heart is spiritually weak and devoid of remembrance of Allah, may He be exalted.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
The steps that lead to infatuation are under one’s control, and what is required is to avoid them. Looking, harbouring thoughts and exposing oneself to circumstances in which one may fall in love are all voluntary matters (that should be avoided), but once one takes those steps, then what results from that is something that a person has no control over.
It is like the intoxication that results from drinking alcohol: if consuming the intoxicant is something voluntary, what results from it of intoxication becomes beyond one’s control. As the means that led to that state was something that the individual chose and was not forced to do, he is not to be excused from what results from it that is not under his control. If the means is haraam, then the intoxicated person is not excused.
No doubt looking repeatedly and dwelling on thoughts is like drinking an intoxicant, so the individual is to be blamed for not keeping away from that which led to this outcome.
End quote from Rawdat al-Muhibbeen (p. 225).
Indeed, in some cases a person may be excused and is not to blame for what arises in his heart of attraction and infatuation. This applies if there was no unlawful action on his part, such as if the attraction comes about as a result of an accidental glance, or if he is married to a woman and loves her, but she does not love him and wants a divorce from him, and ends up divorced, but his heart remains attached to her. In this case he is not to be blamed.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
If infatuation occurs due to a cause that is not prohibited, then the individual is not to be blamed, such as one who loves his wife then divorces her, but continues to love her and thinks constantly of her. In that case there is no blame on him.
Similarly, if an accidental glance occurred, then he averted his gaze; love may take root as a result of that, without him wanting it to. But he has to try to resist it and try to avert it by means of something contrary to it. But if he is overwhelmed by that love, then there is no blame on him, provided that he strove hard to ward it off.
End quote from Rawdat al-Muhibbeen (225-226).
Secondly:
When a man finds himself attracted to a specific woman, then the right things to do is propose to her, if that is possible in both shar‘i and realistic terms.
One example of that is when the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) intervened for Mugheeth and asked Bareerah to go back to him, after she had left him. It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the husband of Bareerah was a slave called Mugheeth; [Ibn ‘Abbaas said:] it is as if I can see him, following her around and weeping, with tears flowing down to his beard, and the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said to ‘Abbaas: “O ‘Abbaas, are you not amazed at how much Mugheeth loves Bareerah, and how much Bareerah dislikes Mugheeth?” The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said (to Bareerah): “Why don’t you go back to him?” She said: O Messenger of Allah, are you instructing me to do that? He said: “I am only interceding for him.” She said: I have no need of him. Saheeh al-Bukhaari (5283).
If he is not able to marry her, then in this case he must turn to Allah, may He be exalted, in order to relieve his distress, and he must be patient and realise that this is a trial and test from Allah, may He be exalted; if he bears it with patience, then he will have a great reward.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
If a man is tested with falling in love, yet he maintains his chastity and bears that with patience, then he will be rewarded for fearing Allah.… It is well known on the basis of shar‘i evidence that if he refrains from that which is unlawful in terms of looking, speaking and acting, and he conceals it and does not speak of it, so as to avoid saying anything that is prohibited - either by complaining about his problem to people (instead of to Allah), or by uttering indecent speech, or by seeking to reach his beloved in any way - and he is patient in obeying Allah and refraining from disobeying Him, and in putting up with the pain of love in his heart, just as one afflicted by calamity bears the pain of calamity with patience, then he will be one of those who fear Allah and are patient: “Indeed, he who fears Allah and is patient, then indeed, Allah does not allow to be lost the reward of those who do good” [Yoosuf 12:90].
End quote from Majmoo‘ al-Fataawa (10/133)
Thirdly:
With regard to the verse quoted in the question, and interpreting it as meaning that the solution for love and attraction to the opposite gender before marriage is either to propose or to conceal the matter until Allah decides concerning it, this verse was actually revealed concerning the rights of the woman who is observing ‘iddah following the death of her husband; it is permissible for one who wants to propose to her to hint at marriage, but not to state his proposal clearly, and it is also permissible for him to think to himself that when her ‘iddah is over, he will propose to her.
We see no reason why the verse cannot also be understood as meaning what you mentioned. If someone feels love in his heart for a woman, then he should propose to her, and if there is any reason why he should not propose to her, then there is no blame on him if he thinks to himself that when the impediment is removed, he will propose to her.
But that is on condition that he does not agree with her to do something unlawful, or do anything unlawful with her, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “…except for saying a proper saying”.
So it is not permissible for him to say to her anything that is contrary to the teachings of Islam.
The one who expresses his love and infatuation to the one whom he loves has not spoken in a proper manner; rather he has spoken in an inappropriate manner, and has raised the hope of the other party that he will keep in touch. If he is not able to marry her, then the matter is worse in this case, and as a result of that the Shaytaan will be toying with them; if the door to what is lawful is closed, there is nothing left but what is unlawful!
But if he is able to marry her and wants to marry the girl, then he should make it clear and propose to her through her guardians.
And Allah knows best.
it is not allowed therefore to have crushes. Attach your heart ton Allah instead
Whats the name of the book?
ad-Daa' wa ad-Dawaa'
الداء والدواء
The Disease and the Cure by Ibn al-Qayyim
Searxh googlr
Dar pdfs ibn al qayyim disease and cure
disease and cure ibn al qayyim darpdf
Toooo late already in love like a crazy person. You could have made this video 6 years ago
Pls do one making hijra inshallah. Since you guys have made it.❤
So weird, why do you guys talk about stuff like this.
The boy in the far left can’t he speak English tellin everyone business
Our brothers and sisters are literally dying right now and your talking about absolute irrelevant nonsense
Guess you missed the 5 episodes in a row on Palestine huh…
Bro's about to dash out a fatwa that doing anything or speaking on any topic besides Palestine rn is haraam
No offence but this is an embarrassing comment. Fear Allah. They've literally recorded podcasts going into or over an hour on Palestine.