I get so disheartened as I’m 4.5 years natural now and my hair is around your length I’d say and I guess from the reaction some people give me when they hear how long I’ve been natural,and also social media influence, in my head I’m like damn my hair should be down my back by now. Il never go back to relaxers but I do feel I’ve become fed up with not being able to retain length 😞 I definitely need to assess my hair regime!!
At least you have length, I’ve bee natural for 7 years and its as long as the first day i cut it. I’m so tired I’m about to get a relaxer and get it cut into a pixie cut.
I love my 4c hair! I did experience a lot of shedding last year but since taking Collagen my hair has grown more and I haven't experienced the shedding I once had. A Caucasian woman once stated to me that she loves when a woman of color wears an Afro, she stated that wearing an Afro shows that she is PROUD of who she is and has PRIDE in her culture. Great video and you look beautiful!
I'm doing the same. My hair has grown faster than ever just leaving it alone. @@melxkelx1022 Don't wear wigs on the hairline, avoid using adhesives, & don't sleep in them.
It actually leaves my hair feeling worse when I use heat. Like more dry and brittle. I just did it with a shower cap for one hour and it feels so nice and I didn’t even need a comb to brush it
I agree with learning your hair texture. The first year of my healthy hair journey, I thought I had heat damage in the front because of the loose texture compared to the crown But after the first year I realized I had 2 drastically different textures growing from my scalp. I actually have 3 textures but the the 3c and 4c really stand out.
My hair is like that at the very front also. It barely has a curl pattern sometimes. I also thought I had heat damage and cut it off before I learned that is how it is🥲😢
Your hair looks soooooo good and has grown so much! I remember when you were just getting started on your journey and it’s amazing to see how far you’ve come.
I remember when you first went natural feels like yesterday. When you said you haven’t used heat in almost 2 years I couldn’t believe it’s been that long, crazy loved the video 🤗.
I've been thinking that by just having my hair braided all the time will help it grow...now I know that I don't have to have my hair in a protective style all of the time and I just need to protect it with simple nourishment and a bonnet on my head! Thank you for these tips Joy-el!
Of all the advice I've heard for loving your natural hair this is at the top. Especially the last 5 minutes or so is what a lot of newly natural hair women need to hear. 🙋🏾♀️❣
Mild heat isn’t too detrimental and as long as the flat iron is not hot enough to fry your hair and you do one pass you’re fine. I use a blow dryer on low heat to my hair because it’s low porosity and the heat helps with water absorption. I don’t blow dry it dry I just blow dry it enough that my hair can soak up the water and products on my hair after I’ve washed it
I’m mixed race with very course type 4 hair, I love my black hair type and the combination of my mixed features, your hair is gorgeous as our you, wear your crown proudly queen
I don't even know how I got here, I'm a white girl with the straightest hair known to man, but I watched some of your older videos and WOW! I get you being apprehensive about going natural and how some people were mean about it, cause we as a society just aren't used to seeing a biracial girl with white skin and a black fro. That being said, everyone is right. You have such striking facial features and watching this video with your more lengthy hair I'm just enamored. You look AMAZING. The ends of your hair have like lightened and they look beautiful with your skin. God gave you such contrasting features because he knew you'd grow into them. You were always beautiful but dayummm people who can't see that now are trippin.
Love your tips. By far the best video I've watched. I'm learning to accept my hair the way it is. It's very similar to yours. For so long I've been trying to get it to look like someone else's which leads to frustration . Thank you
Thank you for this!! I may finally give in and deep condition. Also, a thing I learned about moisture vs. hydration from Susan Yara which OPENED MY EYES (slight exaggeration) is that oil=moisture, water=hydration, at least in skincare, but I don't think it would be that different from haircare. Branding uses the two interchangeably which I think adds to the confusion. Dehydrated skin (skin that is showing fine lines, is tight or sensitive) needs water, and skin that is dry (is flaky or feels rough) needs oil. No idea how this would translate to hair, but there might be something to it!
Thanks for the tips. I am definitely going to be more diligent with my satin bonnet. I tend to forget to wear it to bed. I am also going to try one of those hot head caps.
I've been natural for ages, I believe 10 years now, and it's been a rough journey to say the least. I noticed the following: I over the years I have developed sensitivity to the water in the country where I live now (the water is 'hard' as they say), which has my scalp in a hot mess, research has shown me that if your scalp isn't healthy your hair won't grow well. A doctor also mentioned hormonal issues which also explains why my skin and nails are a mess. So those are all things that we have to keep in mind when our hair doesn't grow. We might be doing the right things but changes in our bodies or our environment, or if we move to different countries, or even different regions within the same country, can all affect our hair. My hair was at it's best when I lived in Europe, and the water quality was better than where I live now.
Can you do a video on how you grew it out in the beginning. Everyone does this video once it’s long. I would like to here the process and tools you used along the way. If you can remember.
It’s so refreshing to see someone who has the exact same hair type as me on RUclips 🥺 thank you for the tips and for being on RUclips, representation is so important ❤️❤️
Hey Charmaine, I would like to address something that you said in your video about genetics. This is not a hate comment or even an angry comment, just food for thought. I understand why you put that disclaimer out there, but I'd like to talk about the subliminal message behind a statement like that because I hear a lot of black people (women more specifically) saying this. When we think about how white women grow their air we never think about their genetics. If genetics doesn't affect their hair growth as much, why would it affect us (black women) so much? This reminds me of how a few years ago black women would say that another was "mixed" or "Indian" as an excuse for why their hair was longer than another, instead of thinking about the regimen. It gives off an air of there being some lucky black girls who have beaten the odds rather than black girls who have healthy and proper hair care techniques. I will admit I am no hair expert, therefore I do not know about the specifics of hair genetics and how it effects women in different ways. And I know that there are a percentage of women whose hair is stunted significantly because of genetics no matter how healthy their is. I guess what I'm saying is if it it's not talked about in the white community or even the mixed race/biracial/type 3 community, why is it that the type 4 community, where most black women fall, is it an excuse that is used so commonly? Again, not a hate or chastising comment, just food for thought. Just a discussion that could maybe go somewhere. Or perhaps I am reaching? Has anyone else ever thought or experienced this? Your tips were spot on though. So many people have such high expectations, they just need to let it grow and let it flow.
Thank you for this! I apologize if it came across as if I was saying that our type 4 hair can't grow long. I meant it more as if someone's hair can grow 15" and yours is at 13.5", don't get upset because maybe that is the length that your hair can grow and vice versa. Your comment was very educational though and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain :)
@@SharmaineJoyel No need to apologize! I know you meant no harm by it, but I figured at the very least it would make someone stop and think about it. I appreciate that you took the time to reply, it means a lot. You make great content, keep it up 👍🏽! I can't wait to see where your hair journey takes you. Stay well 😊.
I do think genetics plays a part in hair though, for all races. I personally have super thick coily hair with a defined curl patters. When me sister does my hair, sometimes her fingers bruise because my strands are so thick. Her hair on the other hand is kind of light, fluffy and thin. We have both the same parents, but it was just the luck of the draw.
So excited for the straightening video. I think a lot of 4c naturals don’t tend to go fpr the bone straight look, including myself. Just one or max 2 passes on medium-high heat. ❤️❤️ it will look yaki straigtthis way
we have literally the same hair type and it’s crazy. i’m mixed as well, with pretty light skin, yet 4c hair, and i’ve never meet anyone with the same hair as me, even dark skinned girls with 4c hair. i’m in actual shock 🥺
I’m so tired of my single strand knots! I’ve tried going without protective styling for 3 months and I’ve noted I get more knots when my hair is out compared to when I have braids. It’s really frustrating. I don’t know what to do now, I’m finna get braids in June (God willingly)
This is why I always wear my hair in twist! I want to try a wash and go and wear my hair out, but I know my hair will be full of knots, so I just stick to twists and I get a lot less haha.
It helps to keep your hair stretched. I notice a difference in my fairy knots when I wear more braidouts and protective styles. I save my fro for special occasions lol. Otherwise, my hair would be broken off.
Your hair looks awesome stretched out like that! Now that your hair has grown out even more, could you tell us if you still sleep with your hair out and free under the satin bonnet on nights you don't re-twist/re-band? Thank you!💕
We have very similar hair textures, so your videos are super helpful... can you make a video on your favorite products (diy & store bought) that work best for your hair ?!? That would be awesome! Pls & thanks !
Can you send the link to the black owned website? I just tried to find it (putting in what you said) and it’s not coming up. Maybe I missed something. Please help. Thanks! Love your videos
Don't forget to visit TNT Beauty Supply for your hair needs!
www.stylistsolutions.pro/tnt-beauty-supply-5.aspx
Joy-el you need to go help Doja cat with her hair 😂
Thanks for the website. I reviewed it for shampoos and found a very limited inventory. Hopefully their inventory will be expanded. 😊
@@maylavernebarnes2007 they also need to include product ingredients
i realize Im kinda off topic but does anybody know of a good site to watch newly released series online ?
@Leonel Ace lately I have been using flixzone. Just google for it =)
AMEN! Natural hair loves water! Oil is not a moisturizer. Oils lock in moisturizer. Use oils after moisturizing.
I get so disheartened as I’m 4.5 years natural now and my hair is around your length I’d say and I guess from the reaction some people give me when they hear how long I’ve been natural,and also social media influence, in my head I’m like damn my hair should be down my back by now. Il never go back to relaxers but I do feel I’ve become fed up with not being able to retain length 😞 I definitely need to assess my hair regime!!
You are not alone.... Im so glad that she made the genetics comment..... Just keep it as healthy as you sis.. You will still get compliments ❤️
At least you have length, I’ve bee natural for 7 years and its as long as the first day i cut it. I’m so tired I’m about to get a relaxer and get it cut into a pixie cut.
Take collagen and ashwagandha supplements this is a game changer
Morgan I’ve not heard of ashwagandha supplements before...il have to look into it! Thank you 💜
You may need to get your hormone levels checked.
I love my 4c hair! I did experience a lot of shedding last year but since taking Collagen my hair has grown more and I haven't experienced the shedding I once had. A Caucasian woman once stated to me that she loves when a woman of color wears an Afro, she stated that wearing an Afro shows that she is PROUD of who she is and has PRIDE in her culture. Great video and you look beautiful!
I keep my hair tucked away in wigs have a wash day every week and I have been retaining length and moisture for 8 months I’m almost at my dream length
That's what I'm doing too!
I started out protecting with wigs until I got use to styling my natural hair. I would get so hot in the AZ summer!😂😅
Sakeena Hamid gurl u ain’t never lied hotter then fish grease
How do you wear wigs and not break off your hairline?? I wear wigs too but my edges are suffering, any tips please??
I'm doing the same. My hair has grown faster than ever just leaving it alone. @@melxkelx1022 Don't wear wigs on the hairline, avoid using adhesives, & don't sleep in them.
Deep conditioning with a Bonnet attachment changed the game for me too. Adding heat is so necessary. Don't discount it, ladies!
It actually leaves my hair feeling worse when I use heat. Like more dry and brittle. I just did it with a shower cap for one hour and it feels so nice and I didn’t even need a comb to brush it
@@boricua584 That's cool too! Not everything works for everybody. The important thing is to listen to your hair, after all. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
heat is not always good. Sort of like frying your hair. Water on the other hand is great. Everyday if you can.
@@boricua584 it could be that you have high porosity hair and your hair drys faster??
@@mamadeebuildsahouse Sounds like you have high porosity hair. 🤷🏾♀️
I agree with learning your hair texture. The first year of my healthy hair journey, I thought I had heat damage in the front because of the loose texture compared to the crown But after the first year I realized I had 2 drastically different textures growing from my scalp. I actually have 3 textures but the the 3c and 4c really stand out.
same!!!
My hair is like that at the very front also. It barely has a curl pattern sometimes. I also thought I had heat damage and cut it off before I learned that is how it is🥲😢
Your hair looks soooooo good and has grown so much! I remember when you were just getting started on your journey and it’s amazing to see how far you’ve come.
I remember when you first went natural feels like yesterday. When you said you haven’t used heat in almost 2 years I couldn’t believe it’s been that long, crazy loved the video 🤗.
The best part about the video was the look back at the camera after he used the bathroom. lol! omg....the greatest.
I've been thinking that by just having my hair braided all the time will help it grow...now I know that I don't have to have my hair in a protective style all of the time and I just need to protect it with simple nourishment and a bonnet on my head! Thank you for these tips Joy-el!
Your hair is extremely beautiful and full and healthy!
Of all the advice I've heard for loving your natural hair this is at the top. Especially the last 5 minutes or so is what a lot of newly natural hair women need to hear. 🙋🏾♀️❣
I’m two years natural too. Sometimes I have thoughts of straightening my hair but I’m really scared to as well. I’ll just stick to wigs 😊
I use the Revair. And I love it. It is better than a blow dryer. It doesn't get as hot as a regular blow dryer.
Mild heat isn’t too detrimental and as long as the flat iron is not hot enough to fry your hair and you do one pass you’re fine. I use a blow dryer on low heat to my hair because it’s low porosity and the heat helps with water absorption. I don’t blow dry it dry I just blow dry it enough that my hair can soak up the water and products on my hair after I’ve washed it
I’m mixed race with very course type 4 hair, I love my black hair type and the combination of my mixed features, your hair is gorgeous as our you, wear your crown proudly queen
I don't even know how I got here, I'm a white girl with the straightest hair known to man, but I watched some of your older videos and WOW! I get you being apprehensive about going natural and how some people were mean about it, cause we as a society just aren't used to seeing a biracial girl with white skin and a black fro. That being said, everyone is right. You have such striking facial features and watching this video with your more lengthy hair I'm just enamored. You look AMAZING. The ends of your hair have like lightened and they look beautiful with your skin. God gave you such contrasting features because he knew you'd grow into them. You were always beautiful but dayummm people who can't see that now are trippin.
I like how you made the point of people needing to spend time with their hair to figure it out. Great point!
I absolutely agree with you on water, a open secret that has been kept from us. Water is what our hair needs.
I’ve been watching you since your big chop and this growth is INSANE! 👏🏾 We love to see it!
Yay! More videos 🥰 idk what specifically it is but I’ve been obsessed with your channel since I found it!!
Also I appreciate the different location :)
Same😀
You have to be the sweetest person ever❤️ we love you !
Love your tips. By far the best video I've watched. I'm learning to accept my hair the way it is. It's very similar to yours. For so long I've been trying to get it to look like someone else's which leads to frustration . Thank you
You are such a natural beauty 💗
Thank you for this!! I may finally give in and deep condition. Also, a thing I learned about moisture vs. hydration from Susan Yara which OPENED MY EYES (slight exaggeration) is that oil=moisture, water=hydration, at least in skincare, but I don't think it would be that different from haircare. Branding uses the two interchangeably which I think adds to the confusion. Dehydrated skin (skin that is showing fine lines, is tight or sensitive) needs water, and skin that is dry (is flaky or feels rough) needs oil. No idea how this would translate to hair, but there might be something to it!
Awww the part with the baby was so wholesome lol. ❤️
Wow you've come a long way and you've learned so much about natural hair , now you're teaching me! Hope you had a good Memorial Day!
Your hair is beautiful. Don’t feel pressure to use heat to show your hair length and then it gets damaged. I love seeing your hair like this
Yasss! I love your hair it looks amazing!!!
You could try African threading for a safe blowout look ☺️
Thanks for the tips. I am definitely going to be more diligent with my satin bonnet. I tend to forget to wear it to bed. I am also going to try one of those hot head caps.
I've been natural for ages, I believe 10 years now, and it's been a rough journey to say the least.
I noticed the following: I over the years I have developed sensitivity to the water in the country where I live now (the water is 'hard' as they say), which has my scalp in a hot mess, research has shown me that if your scalp isn't healthy your hair won't grow well. A doctor also mentioned hormonal issues which also explains why my skin and nails are a mess. So those are all things that we have to keep in mind when our hair doesn't grow. We might be doing the right things but changes in our bodies or our environment, or if we move to different countries, or even different regions within the same country, can all affect our hair. My hair was at it's best when I lived in Europe, and the water quality was better than where I live now.
I loved this video :) I'm so happy I discovered you. Out of all the natural hair youtubers that I've seen, your hair is the most similar to mine ❤
Finally found my hair twin, the best feeling!!
Excellent video as always. I couldn't take my eyes off your lush, healthy, beautiful hair. Just gorgeous.😍😘
Can you do a video on how you grew it out in the beginning. Everyone does this video once it’s long. I would like to here the process and tools you used along the way. If you can remember.
It’s so refreshing to see someone who has the exact same hair type as me on RUclips 🥺 thank you for the tips and for being on RUclips, representation is so important ❤️❤️
This my second year too I started using green tea to help with shredding and it helps so much. I do twists and plats now I do twist and banding
You’re hair is beautiful. Thanks for the tips.
That hair is growing girl!!❤
Hey Charmaine, I would like to address something that you said in your video about genetics. This is not a hate comment or even an angry comment, just food for thought. I understand why you put that disclaimer out there, but I'd like to talk about the subliminal message behind a statement like that because I hear a lot of black people (women more specifically) saying this. When we think about how white women grow their air we never think about their genetics. If genetics doesn't affect their hair growth as much, why would it affect us (black women) so much? This reminds me of how a few years ago black women would say that another was "mixed" or "Indian" as an excuse for why their hair was longer than another, instead of thinking about the regimen. It gives off an air of there being some lucky black girls who have beaten the odds rather than black girls who have healthy and proper hair care techniques. I will admit I am no hair expert, therefore I do not know about the specifics of hair genetics and how it effects women in different ways. And I know that there are a percentage of women whose hair is stunted significantly because of genetics no matter how healthy their is. I guess what I'm saying is if it it's not talked about in the white community or even the mixed race/biracial/type 3 community, why is it that the type 4 community, where most black women fall, is it an excuse that is used so commonly? Again, not a hate or chastising comment, just food for thought. Just a discussion that could maybe go somewhere. Or perhaps I am reaching? Has anyone else ever thought or experienced this? Your tips were spot on though. So many people have such high expectations, they just need to let it grow and let it flow.
Exactly ✊🏻✊🏽✊🏿
Thank you for this! I apologize if it came across as if I was saying that our type 4 hair can't grow long. I meant it more as if someone's hair can grow 15" and yours is at 13.5", don't get upset because maybe that is the length that your hair can grow and vice versa. Your comment was very educational though and I do appreciate you taking the time to explain :)
@@SharmaineJoyel No need to apologize! I know you meant no harm by it, but I figured at the very least it would make someone stop and think about it. I appreciate that you took the time to reply, it means a lot. You make great content, keep it up 👍🏽! I can't wait to see where your hair journey takes you. Stay well 😊.
You've got a point🤔
I do think genetics plays a part in hair though, for all races. I personally have super thick coily hair with a defined curl patters. When me sister does my hair, sometimes her fingers bruise because my strands are so thick. Her hair on the other hand is kind of light, fluffy and thin. We have both the same parents, but it was just the luck of the draw.
So excited for the straightening video. I think a lot of 4c naturals don’t tend to go fpr the bone straight look, including myself. Just one or max 2 passes on medium-high heat. ❤️❤️ it will look yaki straigtthis way
we have literally the same hair type and it’s crazy. i’m mixed as well, with pretty light skin, yet 4c hair, and i’ve never meet anyone with the same hair as me, even dark skinned girls with 4c hair. i’m in actual shock 🥺
It’s so crazy to think that my hair is just like hers and I’m just black. Idek any black girls with hair like mine.
Your hair is absolutely gorgeous!!
Also, I’m very happy to see your growth on the youtube platform!
Excellent tips! Your hair is soo long and growing and is so pretty.
Your hair is looking great! It's super thick!
I’m so tired of my single strand knots! I’ve tried going without protective styling for 3 months and I’ve noted I get more knots when my hair is out compared to when I have braids. It’s really frustrating. I don’t know what to do now, I’m finna get braids in June (God willingly)
This is why I always wear my hair in twist! I want to try a wash and go and wear my hair out, but I know my hair will be full of knots, so I just stick to twists and I get a lot less haha.
Knots=un moisturized . Wash hair/ deep condition more and trim
naturalpn7 thank you!❤️
It helps to keep your hair stretched. I notice a difference in my fairy knots when I wear more braidouts and protective styles. I save my fro for special occasions lol. Otherwise, my hair would be broken off.
I love your videos! Your hair is looking so great 🥰🥰
I like you're whole look. So unique, never seen anyone like you before
Your hair looks awesome stretched out like that! Now that your hair has grown out even more, could you tell us if you still sleep with your hair out and free under the satin bonnet on nights you don't re-twist/re-band? Thank you!💕
No! Please don’t straighten your hair. It just takes one time for your hair to get damaged.
Your hair is absolutely stunning!!! I'm a new subbie here because I absolutely adore your content. Keep up the great work!💛
We have very similar hair textures, so your videos are super helpful... can you make a video on your favorite products (diy & store bought) that work best for your hair ?!? That would be awesome! Pls & thanks !
Absolutely love ❤️ this information and the reality of life with our families 🙂
Awesome tips. I can attest that these all work wonders for our hair
Love this look. This week I'm going to try bantu knots as an actual style. Wish me luck. Lol
I loveeeee the band method it makes such a difference
Can you send the link to the black owned website? I just tried to find it (putting in what you said) and it’s not coming up. Maybe I missed something. Please help. Thanks! Love your videos
Here you go! 😁💕
www.stylistsolutions.pro/tnt-beauty-supply-5.aspx
Finally caught up on your videos for the week! ☺️
I would really like to buy from TNT. Are you sure it is black owned?
Yes ma'am! I've seen a picture of the owner and spoke to her daughter as well :)
You have beautiful thick natural hair.
I love that you call his underwear panties 😂
Beautiful hair. Sometimes I get jealous of your beauty.
I love your hair ^_^ You're beautiful!
Wow your hair has grown and it is healthy.
I'm confused, what's her ethnic background? She's beautiful!
Biracial- Black and White :)
You have such a unique look to you 😍
It’s getting bigger!
Lol little boys wear underwear not "panties" 😂😂
LOL sorry! I grew up with just a sister so I have it ingrained in my vocabulary 😂😂😂
I legit refer to ALL underwear as panties, even boxers.
Lol I was like... Wait.... What 🤣🤣
😂😂😂 it's all just gender-specific titles, same product lol
@@MCMLXXXIX1989 lol same. I refer to my adults son's and my husband's underwear as panties they've never corrected me. 😂
as you were scrolling down the add I was watching your bookmarks lol. Sorry, I'm crazy like that.
Hey joy are you doig your shampoo= deep condition every week ?
Great hair tips. 🥰
Where did you buy your Felicia Leatherwood brush
Where’s your engagement ring 💍?
🥰🥰🥰 loved it
Your hair is beautiful.
Hiiiiiii
6:47 😂
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Not panties for boys!!! 😂
Today your face is giving me Nelly Furtado vibes but in your other videos I dont feel that way.
Your nephew wears panties?...i couldn't understand..correct me if I'm wrong..lol
She looks white
I love your videos but I'm not sure you have 4c hair