Diana, what a great attitude you have! I am perplexed why your husband expects you to care for your children, your home, and his parents! Surely they could learn to eat American food since they moved here, if you were in India you would have to eat their food. You are an awesome lady!
Dear Diana. I am speaking to you from my heart and from experience. Set boundaries. Talk to your husband about your needs and boundaries. We lived with my husband's aunt for six years. I cooked, took care of the household and cleaning, worked full time and did my PhD and had a child from one year to seven. It's nice to hear praise for your hospitality and the quality of your cooking, it's okay to cook for someone for a short time, but there must also be independence. If they want to eat like in their homeland, they should also cook independently like there. You need to make sure that the clash of cultures, expectations and what you think you have to, does not destroy the foundations of your marriage and family.
I have to agree with her. I am from the same culture and no one cooks like that in india anymore… atleast in the city. Don’t you feel it is an expectation with not much worth to it? Indian cooking involves prepping, cooking and cleaning dishes afterward which is exhausting. Spending so much time cooking is not worth it when you can put the time in sending time with them but I understand if you feel like serving them this way is right in this season but it is doesn’t seem sustainable. I hope you find some help soon to take care of them. You are providing care for them at this age and that is a blessing.
I just want to put my arms around you and hold you. Such a crazy time in your life. God please give this lady extra strength for her baby and all the things on her plate. I will be praying for you.
Bless your dear, sweet heart for doing all that cooking while pregnant. I’ve had 8 children and there is no way I could have risen to that occasion and still kept a sweet attitude about it. You are a hero. God bless you.
Several of my friends are Indian, and when their parents come from India to visit, their Indian mothers cook for them, especially if the wife is pregnant or has young children. They also don't expect Americans to cook authentic curry, although it's nice to learn. This seems really strange to me. Maybe the mother-in-law is trying to respect you as the woman of the house and doesn't want to overstep by taking over the kitchen, but in that case your husband should have a sit down with both of you and discuss what is best for his very pregnant wife. You should be getting ready for your new baby, not waiting on your in-laws. Bless your heart, though, for trying to be a good wife, but I hope you get the help you need when the baby comes.
I don't hear anywhere that your husband is helping. I feel so bad for you. You should be focusing on you and baby. Seems like you are a maid in your own home
Agreed; it seems a bit much. I know it’s your choice, and maybe you feel like its a way to repay the child care that they help provide but cooking an authentic meal once a week or so seems a sufficient way to show your love and inclusion. Also, does your husband not know how to cook? Couldn’t he be helping you?
Many Indian families I have met have the tradition tht the daughter in law serves the family while the matriarch of the family watches the children. Anything different would be considered disrespectful, respected Indian grandmother's definitely "retire" from the housework which is another reason the parents are so involved in matchmaking!
You get the award for Daughter-in-law of the year!!! Holy moly! No wonder you need a minute to yourself and some ice cream! So sorry your interview didn’t record. I felt sick to my stomach for you when I heard that.(as I know you did as well!) We have all been there in one way or another but it just stinks!
Diana I have friends from Princeton’s culture who explained to me why you cook but maybe could you explain the culture a bit to your viewers or have Princeton? You are such a respectful daughter in law. What a gift to them that you make them so welcome and receive them traditionally.
Dear sweet Diana, your desire to serve and love your family and extended family is wonderful. With that said, do not paint your self in a corner. We can already smell the frustration coming your way. You cannot be the only person in the household doing the cooking and cleaning. You are not the maid but you are allowing everyone else to see you that way and be very comfortable with that arrangement. Now may be a great time to get everyone involved- pre baby. You are going to need help when the baby comes. I don't see a sudden realization dawning on the rest of the family that they need to pitch in and help. Things will just not get done because you will be too tired and busy with baby. Create a list of all the things you do and start inviting everyone to help. Your in laws are not guest, they live there and they need to contribute. I see a lot of shared concern in the comments. That is because we think you are wonderful and want the best for you. ASK FOR HELP NOW!
@Diana Kokku I am Indian (married into a south Indian family such as yours, but another southern state, and I am from a western state), and I am overwhelmed to see how you've taken up the traditional Indian living arrangement, that too when it is actually utterly alien to you! Hats off to you.. Here in India this lifestyle (moving in with in-laws) is fading day by day because of the changing times. And here you are, exposed to the raw element of it, all of a sudden! I have lived myself in this set up for years, and I can tell you're being too modest and respectful to express the real challenges on daily, even hourly basis. In these days rarely the situation is idealistic, mostly it is culture and society pressure/expectations. I am no one to judge sitting 10000 miles away but I get it.. You need not spread yourself so thin as to be ideal DIL, if it is not a two way road. Having domestic help is easy here for middle class & upper middle class, and that instills some 'attitude' in people who are used to others working for them if the help is round the clock! Though the kitchen work and overall housewife stuff you are doing is still very common in India in a joint family (as yours is now), please do not let it come in way of your own priorities and goals in life. Also if the in-laws (parents and siblings) are new immigrants, then they are the ones who ought to adjust to and respect the local culture and not the other way round. Most of the times it happens that too much is expected from DIL while no empathy is extended in return, and as such either the families split up or the DIL silently succumbs to it feeling that its her duty to adjust (as you said 'bcoz it is hard for them to change in this age' - this is the exact typical argument Indian husbands throw when they do not want to get to the bottom of the issue, making them having to take side). For most of the IT Indians, it is the dream come true to go abroad for studies and then take job, and then settle there, and in many Telugu and Gujarathi families it is very common that their relatives also start piggybacking. In such a case, literally I would not support such arrangement even though it is from my culture. May God listen to your silent prayers and you be happy and fulfilled in every phase of your life. Edited: Seeing your next video about turning 40, I realised the in-laws were may be just visiting and and not living with you permanently. In this video you said, 'living with us now' so it was confusing. Anyway, so far as it is yearly visits, you will manage well.. 😊
I like to cook, I used to love to cook. Now at this stage in life I do not want to spend 35% of my time cooking. It is admirable that you are willing to learn and do a new type of cooking. WOW!!! Thanks for sharing.
So…the language story brought tears to my eyes! So sweet! I think my daughter-in-law is amazing when she puts up with her in-laws for a week. Not an easy feat. So much understanding and kindness goes into each visit. (They live several states away)
You are amazing! Your love language -Gifts-is what you are giving to Princeton’s family. Learning how to cook Indian food in your busy life is truly a gift from God❗️You and Dawn add so much fun, learning and happiness to our lives❗️❗️You are truly a blessing 🙏❗️🥰🥰🥰
Praying for your MOM and Dad. My husband at 80 is still working 2 days a week and I am still teaching quilting and have customers to please by longarm quilting their tops. Yes, at this age we all have major and minor health issues, but by the Grace of God and the Holy Spirit's love and energy we always come back to work. I grew up on a farm. Most relatives died with 'their boots on' working fields or households. Stay active!!! That's the key to old age and showing your Christian strength and testimony. Both of us have many miracles in our lives and share them all the time. Praise The Lord. Love you and Dawn and Jesus!!!
What a great view into your daily life! So wonderful to see your commitment to family (extended family). You are a wonderful example you are to all of us watching you. May the Lord continue to bless all of you. Will be praying for you, Diana.
Oh my, you are amazing!! My heart broke that you hadn’t pushed record, that’s so rubbish, I’m so sorry!!! I would of cried!! Your grace too is amazing, and you are working so hard… I’m the uk, people take 9-12 months off, sometimes more, so don’t feel pressure to dash back, much as we love seeing you; we will still be here for you next year, and so do take time!! We love you!! God bless!!
Awh Diana, I feel for you with the recording :( I’ve done worse with pregnancy brain, so I hope you’re giving yourself grace 🥰 I had empathy for you when I saw your face-God bless you and I was just reading something that says to remind ourselves “this isn’t an emergency”. You’re serving Princeton’s family so well!! I bet he just adores you! My husband is from another culture and I’m not as gracious sometimes to the differences, so you’re leaving a beautiful example for us watching as wives! Hugs to you and cant wait to see baby soon!!
You will never know how sharing this “disaster” will bless someone; thanks for sharing! I love starting my day with The Bible Recap (in my third year, now), and am so glad you were able to connect with her.
Wow your attitude is so admirable. You could be saying "well you've moved in with us, why would I have to cook and why should I have to learn to cook a whole new kind of food?" But you're not. You've thrown yourself into it with an open heart. You're such a good person!
Diana, I just have to comment on what a wonderful wife, mother, sister, daughter and daughter-in-law you are. I am completely amazed. I can't even wrap my brain around this. You're so sweet and intentional...you want your "mom and dad" to feel comfortable and have their food that they're used to in their time of need. Absolutely, humbling, inspirational and impressive!
You are a blessing to your in-laws, your family, and also to those to watch you on YT. Food is an amazing way to serve your family and strengthen the bonds between two cultures. I’m glad that you will be getting a break soon, and sure that you will look back at this season of your life and laugh at how crazy (in a good way) it was. God bless you and your beautiful family!
Oh my goodness, Diana - I work in video/podcast and I was breaking out in a sweat as you unfolded that story! I feel for you! Think of it as a pre-interview. Looking forward to when you have the chance to record it.
Diana, I would love to see a video about advice you would give to somebody marrying a person of a different culture. If that’s something you are willing to share about.
Wow!! The cooking and cleaning non stop would wear me out! So great you can do that! Love to hear about the devotional! Do your inlaws have the same faith base as you and your hubby? So, my next question would be do they attend church with you, as well? How great of you to add a space for them in your home! Thanks for sharing all you did in this video!
Way to go Diana! So encouraged by this. My husband is Congolese and I have managed to learn French however not as much of the cooking, so seriously you're doing great!!! - Beth
I was actually concerned about y’all at first when the in-laws moved in. My daughter lives in Kuwait with nannies from India and Ghana. It’s a different world having hired help for everything from cooking, gardener, driver… versus here it’s hard to find a handyman! Prayers for you all and warm, loving wishes coming your way.
This is so sweet… yes, exactly, it’s so easy to have help for everything in India, but not so much here! It’s going well, having the kids and all of us together with the grandparents is priceless and a real gift! Thank you for your warm thoughts and prayers!!! 💛☺️
Phewy! Tell us you won't have to cook two meals for all those people when baby comes? I think many of us are curious why your in-laws aren't cooking for you, since it's their food, their style, and they are retired, hanging out? I am guessing it is a custom to serve the parents type of thing. You deserve guilt free ice cream, for sure! If you haven't tried Izzy's Ice Cream it's available in a few grocers (Bylery's and Kowalskis) and it's AMAZING (local to Minnesota.)
Yes, that’s a great question… it’s a combination of health reasons and tradition… and yes!! P’s sisters help on the weekends and will step in when baby comes, I will be soaking up all of the baby snuggles and enjoying that time “off”! And yes, love Izzy’s! Haven’t been there in years!
I agree God chose Diana as a special person who is happy to serve in this way. Most American women would not be so accommodating. I sure wouldn't be. 😅❤️
Wow, Diana... I am so sorry that happened to you. I can only imagine the dread you felt when you realized the error. As a mom entrepreneur with limited time I completely understand how each moment of work time is valuable and limited. I am praying that God will redeem this situation for you and Tara Leigh and that what is to come of the conversation will be life changing for so many. Blessings.
So precious! And, your time with the Lord right now IS serving your family! Yes..you need a few minutes to for Him to fill you..but don't feel obligated to spend more than a few minutes.
Bless your heart... you are doing a lot and are such a sweet daughter in law and wife! Seeing you cry broke my heart. Love your attitude and positivity!
I absolutely loved this video. Seeing the ins and outs of your day and the way you led in with what all we were going to see made me want to watch even more!
Wow! You are a gem! I'm sure God had something special in your conversation that was meant for just you and Tara to enjoy. I love your heart for serving and sharing with others.
I’m 36 weeks pregnant and I have a toddler to- so definitely appreciated hearing I’m not the only one who sometimes doesn’t get to brush my teeth til 1pm! Haha
It's around 9am -10am for me. I have a 2yo and I'm 27w pregnant. I keep a set of toothbrushes and paste downstairs and that helps a lot. I also bring my toddler his toothbrush and we brush our teeth together.
You're so lovely inside and out, Diana! I can so much relate to the little kid life, am heartbroken for you about the recording situation, and am touched that you're going to the effort to speak the language of food to your family especially because of the other language barrier. Excited for your devotional book!
First, I see The Lord in EVERY part of this day ❤️ Second, you know that “accident” wasn’t by chance. The person meant to see that interview is not yet ready to see it… and now you have a basis of love respect and friendship to repeat it… and we do not know what is coming in the world… so the time, the season, for this message is next year. I look forward to it! God bless!!!! Love to your wonderful growing family!!! Keep cooking! See you soon! ❤️🙏🏻
Lady! All of this is spiritual! From the menial tasks to the disappointments at work, even taking time to eat some ice cream and breathe. God is sustaining you. Seize that rest, and be willing to give way to let others bless you back, even if things will not be taken care of to your desired level. ❤️
You introduced me to the Bible Recap and I've been following the plan since last August. I've almost read through the entire Bible! Thanks to you, Dawn, and Tera Leigh! It's been amazing!
You are an inspiration. Thank you for your honesty about how your day goes. You keep love and joy in your every action and it shows. Have a blessed week! ❤️
Thank you for sharing.. it helps more than you know. I am excited to hear about your book coming in time for Christmas gifts.😊 Bless you and your sweet family.😊💛
Diana, what you are cooking looks so delicious to me! I am a midwesterner but even though I am from the USA, I somehow got introduced to non-USA foods early on and promptly adopted them as my favorites. Passionate about Indian cuisine and I am especially enchanted about your breakfast foods. That is how I would like to eat for breakfast. Hoping that Princeton's family is bringing new love and gratitude to your household. I have so much love and gratitude for your videos!
Awww. I'm sorry your interview wasn't recorded. You have a great attitude. Roll with it and look forward to the next opportunity to get together. You may find that there is purpose in a second meeting.
Diana, I enjoyed your video! I’m totally impressed with your loving sacrifice and respect for your in-laws. And I will have to try your go-to flavor of the mini-concrete at Culver’s!
You are a humble, patient, positive person. It seems your in-laws came to the US with full on Indian habits. Your needs, wishes and culture don’t seem to be even secondary. What if one day enough is enough? A bit of self care is what we all need…
Wow, what an amazing woman you are! I'm glad Tara Leigh was so understanding, accidents happen. That could happen to anyone, plus you're pregnant and so much you do everyday. I love you and Dawn's videos. Both of you are amazing, you must have some awesome parents that are very proud.
I just love you, Diana!! I'm so sorry that your interview didn't get recorded. What a bummer! You truly have a servant's heart! Blessings to you as you prepare for baby's arrival. God's love to all!
Awhh… loved this video. So sorry about the not-recording incident but these things happen to everyone, and are so disappointing but eventually we get over them. After all, we are only human. You look really really healthy and glowing. I’m sure your husband and in-laws are very appreciative and thankful for having you, someone who understands their situation and for trying your best to support them, and I’m sure they know it’s done with love, and for love. I hope it doesn’t get too overwhelming. Try to remember if you need help, even though it might be very hard to do so , you might have to ask for help, and that is not a sign of weakness, or not caring, or incompetence, or anything else. It’s just that you’re a person, one person, and we can only do so many things into 24 hours, especially day after day. God bless you and your family and special blessings for your new little one coming along here any day. Sending love.❤️
I am so impressed with your love for Princeton and your in laws in learning how to cook authentic Indian food. I am not adventurous in foods, so they would all be out of luck with me! It’s burgers, chicken breasts, and fish in my world…no spicy cuisine of any kind. I’m sorry you experienced the issue with your interview. The disappointment was evident on your face. I have the Bible recap book and study guide, but I probable won’t be starting it until the beginning of 2023 because I am working on the Inductive method of Bible study right now, but my niece has been listening to the Bible recap podcast for a couple of years, and she loves it. I am looking forward to your’s and Dawn’s book! God bless you as you traverse these next couple of months. Try to take is easy a little bit. ❤️👼
I just relived a time when I had the worst recording error of my life! For years, I had to not think of it because my inner fixer would get so distressed. Please receive this cyber *hug* and any consolation it is to know that others have similar stories and that you probably have a future lunch date to look forward to
It was great to see you how, you spent your day Diana. You're so gracious in learning how, to cook indian food especially the idilly and dhal and brinjal curry. Amazing! Yes, i agree with the person who asks why can't your mother in law doesnt cook for the family? Usually that's the case with Asian mums. Unless, she doesn't want to overstep the lady of the house (you Diana) place. A good family dialogue will make things easier for the good of all. This is only my opinion. So sorry for getting involved in your personal matters.i pray you will get some rest and relax in expecting you little one 🥰
I would love to see more videos like this. Daily life stuff, tips and tricks to managing a household, budgeting, etc. I find all of those kinds of things helpful.
I can't wait. I love when you two are together with both decluttering & devotional. Perfect! I'm excited. More power to you with the learning to cook Indian.
(Second comment after watching) Wow- you are amazing and doing such a great job of loving your family and sharing God's love with others!!! Excited about y'all's book! Thank you for sharing your day:)
I feel so related to this video! I'm from south america, my first language is spanish, and my husband is from Punjab India, we communicate in english! I had try 3 times to learn punjabi, official classes but few month into I felt completely overwhelmed (punjabi have those 4 T sounds, 4 D and the 3 R that are nightmare for me) I respect and value his culture so much! But is a work in process! I feel so blessed to find your channel!
Hello Diana….you are such a thoughtful person to attempt to tackle something so difficult as a new language in order to surprise your family 👏🏻👏🏻The food looks delicious and I’m positive your entire family loves you for the wonderful person you are, regardless if your Indian cooking isn’t perfect. I live in a large city and I am always aware of my surroundings, so that person seeming to walk directly to your car alarmed me. Crazy, we have to live like that. Great video and I love seeing your family🌸
You are brave to share and brave to open up your struggles. I really appreciate that you are in what I would categorize as an extremely stressful time of your life, where you are about to give birth, but also have so many responsibilities with your in-laws. Learning and accepting their way of life, instead of expecting them to conform to yours, is gracious and so generous. God is surely with you daily. Draw on His strength (I'm sure you couldn't do this if you weren't, I couldn't.) Thank you so much for sharing and I pray for God's peace to go with you daily.
Ohhh! So sorry the interview with Tara-Leigh didn't work out. Bummer. I look forward to when you're able to talk to her again and can share it with us. Loved seeing your day!
Diana, you’re a rockstar! It’s amazing how much you do in a day, at how many weeks pregnant?! So inspiring! And congrats on the book. That’s so exciting you get to collaborate with Dawn!
I have bonded with my mother -in -law spending time learning to cook my husband's favorite dishes and learning English. I am sure if you ask her to help you to learn cooking and language, she would feel honored and valued, and she might learn English in the process as well. Love you and thankful for you ❤️🤗
Hi Diana, Just loved this video! I knew you were married to a south Indian but dint know he was a Telugu! I am Telugu too! It was inspiring to see you making the sambar and the egg plant curry. 💖 And yeah, I totally get that about the tradition and yet it's so wonderful to see you honour them and not complain! Some of us Indian Christian DIL's gotta learn from this. Glad to know you'll have help once the baby comes. Praying for you. Blessings from Hyderabad.🥰
I went India. I love Indian food so my husband has shortcuts. He buys curry mixes and we eat Indian quite often. So check Indian mixes at the store. Chicken Masala etc. so much easier.
Diana, what a great attitude you have! I am perplexed why your husband expects you to care for your children, your home, and his parents! Surely they could learn to eat American food since they moved here, if you were in India you would have to eat their food. You are an awesome lady!
Dear Diana. I am speaking to you from my heart and from experience. Set boundaries. Talk to your husband about your needs and boundaries. We lived with my husband's aunt for six years. I cooked, took care of the household and cleaning, worked full time and did my PhD and had a child from one year to seven. It's nice to hear praise for your hospitality and the quality of your cooking, it's okay to cook for someone for a short time, but there must also be independence. If they want to eat like in their homeland, they should also cook independently like there. You need to make sure that the clash of cultures, expectations and what you think you have to, does not destroy the foundations of your marriage and family.
I have to agree with her. I am from the same culture and no one cooks like that in india anymore… atleast in the city. Don’t you feel it is an expectation with not much worth to it? Indian cooking involves prepping, cooking and cleaning dishes afterward which is exhausting. Spending so much time cooking is not worth it when you can put the time in sending time with them but I understand if you feel like serving them this way is right in this season but it is doesn’t seem sustainable. I hope you find some help soon to take care of them. You are providing care for them at this age and that is a blessing.
I just want to put my arms around you and hold you. Such a crazy time in your life. God please give this lady extra strength for her baby and all the things on her plate. I will be praying for you.
Hi Diane
WHAT!? I literally fell off my chair. NFL talk? I never would have thought.... 😘 Still love you.
I feel so stressed watching you having to cook and cook with 2 kids and one on the way! Man, you are such a beautiful servant!
Bless your dear, sweet heart for doing all that cooking while pregnant. I’ve had 8 children and there is no way I could have risen to that occasion and still kept a sweet attitude about it. You are a hero. God bless you.
Several of my friends are Indian, and when their parents come from India to visit, their Indian mothers cook for them, especially if the wife is pregnant or has young children. They also don't expect Americans to cook authentic curry, although it's nice to learn. This seems really strange to me. Maybe the mother-in-law is trying to respect you as the woman of the house and doesn't want to overstep by taking over the kitchen, but in that case your husband should have a sit down with both of you and discuss what is best for his very pregnant wife. You should be getting ready for your new baby, not waiting on your in-laws. Bless your heart, though, for trying to be a good wife, but I hope you get the help you need when the baby comes.
They dont even set or clear the table? I REALLY dont understand the arrangement,but it is not about me.
I don't hear anywhere that your husband is helping. I feel so bad for you. You should be focusing on you and baby. Seems like you are a maid in your own home
Agreed; it seems a bit much. I know it’s your choice, and maybe you feel like its a way to repay the child care that they help provide but cooking an authentic meal once a week or so seems a sufficient way to show your love and inclusion. Also, does your husband not know how to cook? Couldn’t he be helping you?
Many Indian families I have met have the tradition tht the daughter in law serves the family while the matriarch of the family watches the children. Anything different would be considered disrespectful, respected Indian grandmother's definitely "retire" from the housework which is another reason the parents are so involved in matchmaking!
I'm exhausted just watching this video. She is amazing to be doing this but I feel someone should be helping.
You get the award for Daughter-in-law of the year!!! Holy moly! No wonder you need a minute to yourself and some ice cream!
So sorry your interview didn’t record. I felt sick to my stomach for you when I heard that.(as I know you did as well!) We have all been there in one way or another but it just stinks!
I'm so thankful you have a nanny! That makes all of the other things seem more possible!
I pray that the nanny is not getting more time with your children than you are.
Diana I have friends from Princeton’s culture who explained to me why you cook but maybe could you explain the culture a bit to your viewers or have Princeton? You are such a respectful daughter in law. What a gift to them that you make them so welcome and receive them traditionally.
Dear sweet Diana, your desire to serve and love your family and extended family is wonderful. With that said, do not paint your self in a corner. We can already smell the frustration coming your way. You cannot be the only person in the household doing the cooking and cleaning. You are not the maid but you are allowing everyone else to see you that way and be very comfortable with that arrangement. Now may be a great time to get everyone involved- pre baby. You are going to need help when the baby comes. I don't see a sudden realization dawning on the rest of the family that they need to pitch in and help. Things will just not get done because you will be too tired and busy with baby. Create a list of all the things you do and start inviting everyone to help. Your in laws are not guest, they live there and they need to contribute. I see a lot of shared concern in the comments. That is because we think you are wonderful and want the best for you. ASK FOR HELP NOW!
I love your positive attitude as you take on these challenges. Thank you for showing the hard parts ! 💖 you are doing a great job. Above and beyond.
Wow, what a crazy and fulfilling day! You are such a blessing to Princeton's family. Not everyone would be so giving to their husband.
What a BLESSING you are as a wife and daughter in law. I definitely look forward to purchasing the devotional !!!
@Diana Kokku I am Indian (married into a south Indian family such as yours, but another southern state, and I am from a western state), and I am overwhelmed to see how you've taken up the traditional Indian living arrangement, that too when it is actually utterly alien to you!
Hats off to you..
Here in India this lifestyle (moving in with in-laws) is fading day by day because of the changing times. And here you are, exposed to the raw element of it, all of a sudden!
I have lived myself in this set up for years, and I can tell you're being too modest and respectful to express the real challenges on daily, even hourly basis.
In these days rarely the situation is idealistic, mostly it is culture and society pressure/expectations.
I am no one to judge sitting 10000 miles away but I get it..
You need not spread yourself so thin as to be ideal DIL, if it is not a two way road.
Having domestic help is easy here for middle class & upper middle class, and that instills some 'attitude' in people who are used to others working for them if the help is round the clock!
Though the kitchen work and overall housewife stuff you are doing is still very common in India in a joint family (as yours is now), please do not let it come in way of your own priorities and goals in life.
Also if the in-laws (parents and siblings) are new immigrants, then they are the ones who ought to adjust to and respect the local culture and not the other way round.
Most of the times it happens that too much is expected from DIL while no empathy is extended in return, and as such either the families split up or the DIL silently succumbs to it feeling that its her duty to adjust (as you said 'bcoz it is hard for them to change in this age' - this is the exact typical argument Indian husbands throw when they do not want to get to the bottom of the issue, making them having to take side).
For most of the IT Indians, it is the dream come true to go abroad for studies and then take job, and then settle there, and in many Telugu and Gujarathi families it is very common that their relatives also start piggybacking.
In such a case, literally I would not support such arrangement even though it is from my culture.
May God listen to your silent prayers and you be happy and fulfilled in every phase of your life.
Edited: Seeing your next video about turning 40, I realised the in-laws were may be just visiting and and not living with you permanently. In this video you said, 'living with us now' so it was confusing.
Anyway, so far as it is yearly visits, you will manage well.. 😊
I like to cook, I used to love to cook. Now at this stage in life I do not want to spend 35% of my time cooking. It is admirable that you are willing to learn and do a new type of cooking. WOW!!! Thanks for sharing.
So…the language story brought tears to my eyes! So sweet!
I think my daughter-in-law is amazing when she puts up with her in-laws for a week. Not an easy feat. So much understanding and kindness goes into each visit. (They live several states away)
Diana, You are amazing!
Your schedule is overflowing, but you exemplify GRACE in everything…and you’re pregnant!
God Bless You!
Plus…you look great!
God bless you. You've stepped out of comfort zone to bless and honor the parents and many would throw in the towel.
You are amazing! Your love language -Gifts-is what you are giving to Princeton’s family. Learning how to cook Indian food in your busy life is truly a gift from God❗️You and Dawn add so much fun, learning and happiness to our lives❗️❗️You are truly a blessing 🙏❗️🥰🥰🥰
Praying for your MOM and Dad. My husband at 80 is still working 2 days a week and I am still teaching quilting and have customers to please by longarm quilting their tops.
Yes, at this age we all have major and minor health issues, but by the Grace of God and the Holy Spirit's love and energy we always come back to work. I grew up on a farm. Most relatives died with 'their boots on' working fields or households. Stay active!!! That's the key to old age and showing your Christian strength and testimony. Both of us have many miracles in our lives and share them all the time. Praise The Lord.
Love you and Dawn and Jesus!!!
What a great view into your daily life! So wonderful to see your commitment to family (extended family). You are a wonderful example you are to all of us watching you. May the Lord continue to bless all of you. Will be praying for you, Diana.
Oh my, you are amazing!! My heart broke that you hadn’t pushed record, that’s so rubbish, I’m so sorry!!! I would of cried!! Your grace too is amazing, and you are working so hard… I’m the uk, people take 9-12 months off, sometimes more, so don’t feel pressure to dash back, much as we love seeing you; we will still be here for you next year, and so do take time!! We love you!! God bless!!
oh no!! i’ve had similar recording experiences when we were teaching virtually. it makes you want to cry. tfs!
Awh Diana, I feel for you with the recording :( I’ve done worse with pregnancy brain, so I hope you’re giving yourself grace 🥰 I had empathy for you when I saw your face-God bless you and I was just reading something that says to remind ourselves “this isn’t an emergency”.
You’re serving Princeton’s family so well!! I bet he just adores you! My husband is from another culture and I’m not as gracious sometimes to the differences, so you’re leaving a beautiful example for us watching as wives! Hugs to you and cant wait to see baby soon!!
You will never know how sharing this “disaster” will bless someone; thanks for sharing! I love starting my day with The Bible Recap (in my third year, now), and am so glad you were able to connect with her.
I love hearing these stories! Yes, looking forward to connecting again 💛
Wow your attitude is so admirable. You could be saying "well you've moved in with us, why would I have to cook and why should I have to learn to cook a whole new kind of food?" But you're not. You've thrown yourself into it with an open heart. You're such a good person!
Diana, I just have to comment on what a wonderful wife, mother, sister, daughter and daughter-in-law you are. I am completely amazed. I can't even wrap my brain around this. You're so sweet and intentional...you want your "mom and dad" to feel comfortable and have their food that they're used to in their time of need. Absolutely, humbling, inspirational and impressive!
You are a blessing to your in-laws, your family, and also to those to watch you on YT. Food is an amazing way to serve your family and strengthen the bonds between two cultures. I’m glad that you will be getting a break soon, and sure that you will look back at this season of your life and laugh at how crazy (in a good way) it was. God bless you and your beautiful family!
It is really inspiring to see you actively try to love and serve your in laws in a very positive way.
Oh my goodness, Diana - I work in video/podcast and I was breaking out in a sweat as you unfolded that story! I feel for you! Think of it as a pre-interview. Looking forward to when you have the chance to record it.
Diana, I would love to see a video about advice you would give to somebody marrying a person of a different culture. If that’s something you are willing to share about.
Wow!! The cooking and cleaning non stop would wear me out! So great you can do that! Love to hear about the devotional! Do your inlaws have the same faith base as you and your hubby? So, my next question would be do they attend church with you, as well? How great of you to add a space for them in your home! Thanks for sharing all you did in this video!
Way to go Diana! So encouraged by this. My husband is Congolese and I have managed to learn French however not as much of the cooking, so seriously you're doing great!!! - Beth
I was actually concerned about y’all at first when the in-laws moved in. My daughter lives in Kuwait with nannies from India and Ghana. It’s a different world having hired help for everything from cooking, gardener, driver… versus here it’s hard to find a handyman! Prayers for you all and warm, loving wishes coming your way.
This is so sweet… yes, exactly, it’s so easy to have help for everything in India, but not so much here! It’s going well, having the kids and all of us together with the grandparents is priceless and a real gift! Thank you for your warm thoughts and prayers!!! 💛☺️
Ooh that Kuwait life!
Phewy! Tell us you won't have to cook two meals for all those people when baby comes? I think many of us are curious why your in-laws aren't cooking for you, since it's their food, their style, and they are retired, hanging out? I am guessing it is a custom to serve the parents type of thing. You deserve guilt free ice cream, for sure! If you haven't tried Izzy's Ice Cream it's available in a few grocers (Bylery's and Kowalskis) and it's AMAZING (local to Minnesota.)
Yes, that’s a great question… it’s a combination of health reasons and tradition… and yes!! P’s sisters help on the weekends and will step in when baby comes, I will be soaking up all of the baby snuggles and enjoying that time “off”! And yes, love Izzy’s! Haven’t been there in years!
I had the same doubt. 💖
@@DianaKokku the Izzy's shop is closed, sadly, but ice cream is still available in local grocers!
I thought the same! Will they not eat American food? So nice of you to learn and serve them in that way.
I agree God chose Diana as a special person who is happy to serve in this way. Most American women would not be so accommodating. I sure wouldn't be. 😅❤️
Love that you call your in-laws MOM and DAD!
Wow, Diana... I am so sorry that happened to you. I can only imagine the dread you felt when you realized the error. As a mom entrepreneur with limited time I completely understand how each moment of work time is valuable and limited. I am praying that God will redeem this situation for you and Tara Leigh and that what is to come of the conversation will be life changing for so many. Blessings.
I’m so excited to hear about your writing! Both with Dawn and with Tara-Leigh! And goodness… your servant’s heart is amazing for your in-laws💕
So precious! And, your time with the Lord right now IS serving your family! Yes..you need a few minutes to for Him to fill you..but don't feel obligated to spend more than a few minutes.
Bless your heart... you are doing a lot and are such a sweet daughter in law and wife! Seeing you cry broke my heart. Love your attitude and positivity!
She's here!!! And she is gorgeous!! Welcome sweet Cora to such an amazing family. Happy for you all!!
Omg you look so much like Dawn today 😍 I know you are twins, but usually look very different from one another (to me, avid fan of both your channels!)
I absolutely loved this video. Seeing the ins and outs of your day and the way you led in with what all we were going to see made me want to watch even more!
Wow! You are a gem! I'm sure God had something special in your conversation that was meant for just you and Tara to enjoy. I love your heart for serving and sharing with others.
Love this day-in-the-life kind of video, so interesting, and so relatable!
God bless you, Diana! I pray you are getting enough rest and time with your children.
I’m 36 weeks pregnant and I have a toddler to- so definitely appreciated hearing I’m not the only one who sometimes doesn’t get to brush my teeth til 1pm! Haha
I'm not even pregnant right now, but with 4 kiddos, amen! 😅
It's around 9am -10am for me. I have a 2yo and I'm 27w pregnant. I keep a set of toothbrushes and paste downstairs and that helps a lot. I also bring my toddler his toothbrush and we brush our teeth together.
You're so lovely inside and out, Diana! I can so much relate to the little kid life, am heartbroken for you about the recording situation, and am touched that you're going to the effort to speak the language of food to your family especially because of the other language barrier. Excited for your devotional book!
First, I see The Lord in EVERY part of this day ❤️ Second, you know that “accident” wasn’t by chance. The person meant to see that interview is not yet ready to see it… and now you have a basis of love respect and friendship to repeat it… and we do not know what is coming in the world… so the time, the season, for this message is next year. I look forward to it!
God bless!!!!
Love to your wonderful growing family!!! Keep cooking! See you soon! ❤️🙏🏻
Lady! All of this is spiritual! From the menial tasks to the disappointments at work, even taking time to eat some ice cream and breathe. God is sustaining you. Seize that rest, and be willing to give way to let others bless you back, even if things will not be taken care of to your desired level. ❤️
You introduced me to the Bible Recap and I've been following the plan since last August. I've almost read through the entire Bible! Thanks to you, Dawn, and Tera Leigh! It's been amazing!
SO impressed by the way you make idly and sambhar and the love you have for your husband's family. God bless you.
Shalini… what part of India are you from? And thank you ☺️💛
@@DianaKokku Hyderabad's twin city...Secunderabad, but live in the UK. I know and love Hyderabad very well and visit often.
Wonderful. You are so uplifting even during daily frustrations and pressures. Thank you.
Diana your children are sooooo awesome and love your WHOLE FAMILIES!!!!!!!!
You are a wonderful person,I enjoy your videos so much.Thank you!
You are such a blessing to your family. I will sign up for a presale of your book. Enjoy that new bundle of love in your arms.
Great video! I'm exhausted just watching you do so much in one day.
Thanks for the honesty and peek into your day, you are a beautiful, strong, Christian woman which is evident! God bless you and your family!
Good for you for figuring out all those meals. Your family is beautiful and your faith inspires me so much
You are an inspiration. Thank you for your honesty about how your day goes. You keep love and joy in your every action and it shows. Have a blessed week! ❤️
Thank you for sharing.. it helps more than you know. I am excited to hear about your book coming in time for Christmas gifts.😊 Bless you and your sweet family.😊💛
Your family is so BLESSED to have Aunties, Grandmas, Uncles, Grandpas COUSINS from both you and Preston!!!!
Diana, what you are cooking looks so delicious to me! I am a midwesterner but even though I am from the USA, I somehow got introduced to non-USA foods early on and promptly adopted them as my favorites. Passionate about Indian cuisine and I am especially enchanted about your breakfast foods. That is how I would like to eat for breakfast. Hoping that Princeton's family is bringing new love and gratitude to your household. I have so much love and gratitude for your videos!
The breakfast foods are my favorite! And I love the spice (even more so when I’m not pregnant 😉)… yes, our house is full of joy and so much love 💛
Awww. I'm sorry your interview wasn't recorded. You have a great attitude. Roll with it and look forward to the next opportunity to get together. You may find that there is purpose in a second meeting.
Diana, I enjoyed your video! I’m totally impressed with your loving sacrifice and respect for your in-laws. And I will have to try your go-to flavor of the mini-concrete at Culver’s!
You are a humble, patient, positive person. It seems your in-laws came to the US with full on Indian habits. Your needs, wishes and culture don’t seem to be even secondary. What if one day enough is enough? A bit of self care is what we all need…
Wow, what an amazing woman you are! I'm glad Tara Leigh was so understanding, accidents happen. That could happen to anyone, plus you're pregnant and so much you do everyday. I love you and Dawn's videos. Both of you are amazing, you must have some awesome parents that are very proud.
I just love you, Diana!! I'm so sorry that your interview didn't get recorded. What a bummer! You truly have a servant's heart! Blessings to you as you prepare for baby's arrival. God's love to all!
Thank you. I am praying for you sister!
Loved the cooking demonstration. Many thanks for another great video.
How devastating. So sorry that you don’t have the interview saved. Please be sure to take care of yourself and be sure to have a babymoon.
Awhh… loved this video. So sorry about the not-recording incident but these things happen to everyone, and are so disappointing but eventually we get over them. After all, we are only human. You look really really healthy and glowing. I’m sure your husband and in-laws are very appreciative and thankful for having you, someone who understands their situation and for trying your best to support them, and I’m sure they know it’s done with love, and for love. I hope it doesn’t get too overwhelming. Try to remember if you need help, even though it might be very hard to do so , you might have to ask for help, and that is not a sign of weakness, or not caring, or incompetence, or anything else. It’s just that you’re a person, one person, and we can only do so many things into 24 hours, especially day after day. God bless you and your family and special blessings for your new little one coming along here any day. Sending love.❤️
I am so impressed with your love for Princeton and your in laws in learning how to cook authentic Indian food. I am not adventurous in foods, so they would all be out of luck with me! It’s burgers, chicken breasts, and fish in my world…no spicy cuisine of any kind. I’m sorry you experienced the issue with your interview. The disappointment was evident on your face. I have the Bible recap book and study guide, but I probable won’t be starting it until the beginning of 2023 because I am working on the Inductive method of Bible study right now, but my niece has been listening to the Bible recap podcast for a couple of years, and she loves it. I am looking forward to your’s and Dawn’s book! God bless you as you traverse these next couple of months. Try to take is easy a little bit. ❤️👼
I just relived a time when I had the worst recording error of my life! For years, I had to not think of it because my inner fixer would get so distressed. Please receive this cyber *hug* and any consolation it is to know that others have similar stories and that you probably have a future lunch date to look forward to
It was great to see you how, you spent your day Diana. You're so gracious in learning how, to cook indian food especially the idilly and dhal and brinjal curry. Amazing! Yes, i agree with the person who asks why can't your mother in law doesnt cook for the family? Usually that's the case with Asian mums. Unless, she doesn't want to overstep the lady of the house (you Diana) place. A good family dialogue will make things easier for the good of all. This is only my opinion. So sorry for getting involved in your personal matters.i pray you will get some rest and relax in expecting you little one 🥰
I would love to see more videos like this. Daily life stuff, tips and tricks to managing a household, budgeting, etc. I find all of those kinds of things helpful.
I can't wait. I love when you two are together with both decluttering & devotional. Perfect! I'm excited. More power to you with the learning to cook Indian.
(Second comment after watching) Wow- you are amazing and doing such a great job of loving your family and sharing God's love with others!!! Excited about y'all's book! Thank you for sharing your day:)
You’re so sweet… thank you!! ☺️💛
I feel so related to this video! I'm from south america, my first language is spanish, and my husband is from Punjab India, we communicate in english! I had try 3 times to learn punjabi, official classes but few month into I felt completely overwhelmed (punjabi have those 4 T sounds, 4 D and the 3 R that are nightmare for me) I respect and value his culture so much! But is a work in process! I feel so blessed to find your channel!
You are an inspiration!! Thank you for sharing!!🙏🙏🙏
Hello Diana….you are such a thoughtful person to attempt to tackle something so difficult as a new language in order to surprise your family 👏🏻👏🏻The food looks delicious and I’m positive your entire family loves you for the wonderful person you are, regardless if your Indian cooking isn’t perfect. I live in a large city and I am always aware of my surroundings, so that person seeming to walk directly to your car alarmed me. Crazy, we have to live like that. Great video and I love seeing your family🌸
I noticed the person walking towards the car as well… I also found it alarming.
Me too!! Haha… I grew up in London and always so OTT aware now
You are brave to share and brave to open up your struggles. I really appreciate that you are in what I would categorize as an extremely stressful time of your life, where you are about to give birth, but also have so many responsibilities with your in-laws. Learning and accepting their way of life, instead of expecting them to conform to yours, is gracious and so generous. God is surely with you daily. Draw on His strength (I'm sure you couldn't do this if you weren't, I couldn't.) Thank you so much for sharing and I pray for God's peace to go with you daily.
Ohhh! So sorry the interview with Tara-Leigh didn't work out. Bummer. I look forward to when you're able to talk to her again and can share it with us. Loved seeing your day!
Hi Joy
I'm with you, Diana. Ice cream for any reason at all.
Diana, you’re a rockstar! It’s amazing how much you do in a day, at how many weeks pregnant?! So inspiring! And congrats on the book. That’s so exciting you get to collaborate with Dawn!
I have bonded with my mother -in -law spending time learning to cook my husband's favorite dishes and learning English.
I am sure if you ask her to help you to learn cooking and language, she would feel honored and valued, and she might learn English in the process as well.
Love you and thankful for you ❤️🤗
Bless you, Diana!!! So glad there is a light on the horizon based on comments below 💜
Hi Diana,
Just loved this video! I knew you were married to a south Indian but dint know he was a Telugu! I am Telugu too! It was inspiring to see you making the sambar and the egg plant curry. 💖
And yeah, I totally get that about the tradition and yet it's so wonderful to see you honour them and not complain! Some of us Indian Christian DIL's gotta learn from this.
Glad to know you'll have help once the baby comes. Praying for you.
Blessings from Hyderabad.🥰
Great video Diana. You sure have your hands full. I’m glad you have some help.
I loved riding along with you Diana!!!
Bless! Your! Heart!!!!!💔
Well, you sure look beautiful to have had such an upset!
God bless you & keep all of you & your family.
I look forward to getting the book. Sounds great. Thanks for sharing your day. God bless you.
I really enjoy your every video! God bless you! I can learn so much from you, Dawn and Tom 🤗
You are a very strong lady.. I wish for you to have your own space back again, no cooking and the AC turned up!!❤
I went India. I love Indian food so my husband has shortcuts. He buys curry mixes and we eat Indian quite often. So check Indian mixes at the store. Chicken Masala etc. so much easier.
Love your DITL! I'm so sorry about that recording. You are a blessing!
Thank you for your honesty. And for showing the blessings and hardship to mix culture. God is good and sees us all has one people. God bless you
Love what you said “ Work your spirituality in your day”
I can’t wait to get your devotional!👏