"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone" Robin Williams, actor
+3DSgeek You're right. But, it's different. Young people have the energy, strength, and livelihood where they can go to church often and socialize, go out with friends, etc. Old people are not as energetic to get out often. And many of them don't have the money to go out on the town, gas in car, or movies, etc. So, they stay home often yet do not have anyone there to keep them company. And a dog or cat is good to have, but can never substitute another human being.
yes! loneliness sinks in the ppl of all ages...I know of ppl in their 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s who are busy on whats App but do not cultivate friendship with neighbours or family members ...be your best friend and keep a pet...go for volunteer work. ..
+Christopher Tacitus ...its good you have the net, imagine those who have only the radio and tv that would drive me nuts and perhaps being infirm or obese cannot go out either. I am lost rather now too as my kids have left home, it's not too nice, can be crippling and we only get like 5 months of decent weather if we are blessed so it's a long horrible freezing lonely year each year. Still, we are the final generation now to Jesus return so I try to think of that all the time.
+songster117 ...it's hard to join clubs if you aren't the mingling type and have no money to go places, also clubs are limited and clicky groups can be vile. Also some oldies who couldn't walk so well could have a problem. It is much easier said than done.
True no one talks about middle aged or younger people who are also alone. In cities people are lonely too. People have to have friends nearby that's the sensible way but it's hard to find friends these days where everyone is young and busy.
Old age loneliness is something else. Young age loneliness is not the same as old age one . Old people can be happy alone too.. but their body and health issues are a matter of concern and sometimes they loose mobility too. I know cz i work in an old age home .
@@sharmishthach685 I’m in my 60s and have some mobility issues. I think the fact that I still have health I make sure I don’t waste a minute failing to enjoy things that can bring me some interest, fun, simple pleasures like coffee, cleaning the house, cooking. But I understand what you’re saying. I think the fact that i have interests - dance, plants, pets, etc. keeps me learning and focused on things besides being alone. Talking to people such as you also helps me feel like i am in touch with others even if its only a virtual visit or conversation.
@@unitedstatesirie7431 when ya make the DVD to what ya said let me know! And did ya ever stop to think some people dont have the funds to keep their business going? Smh.
I’m old and widowed, disabled, alone and loving it. (I do miss my husband.) At my age I’ve learned that people pretty much suck, myself included. :) I read a lot and do a bit of gardening. I sew. I have a sweet dog. Life is good.
Lol! Yep, people pretty much suck!!! Its tough to find someone who has a sense of humor. My husband had me rolling on the floor at times. He passed away and I am dismayed at the lack of laughter I've encountered in people.
Rachel Williams Mine too! Funniest guy I’ve ever known, just the way he looked at life and himself. I smile when i think of him. And sometimes I burst out laughing remembering things he said or did. You and i were so lucky!
I’m exactly like her. I lost my husband that I was married to for 40 years, and I miss him so very much, But! Loneliness can be deadly. When you don’t have someone to talk to, you start thinking that no one cares if you live or die. No more family, and no friends to turn to, because you’ve moved and haven’t made any friends and really, you are afraid to go out and meet people, because your protector is not there. And you don’t trust strangers. You will never truly understand loneliness unless you have been there yourself. And yes, her husband filled all of that, now he isn’t there, and loneliness sets in. It’s all one package!
@@pamelaanderson8899 I am So sorry you've lost your husband. Actually your comment helped me see the bigger picture, thank you. I've been married for only two years now and I cannot imagine my life without my husband. Your comment really made me think about what would I do if I was to loose him. Its not something you think about when you are in your 30s. You are So right about calling it the whole package. I guess when you loose your soul mate you loose a piece of your soul as well..
I bet her husband made her feel special..loved and cared for..they could talk about so many good memories together..and without him..all that is gone..my grandparents were very lucky..never ever left alone..heart breaks every day for people alone 💔 good idea maybe to live in a complex with other people in the same boat..xx
Yes I agree they were together all the time they went shopping together hard breakfast lunch and dinner together to being alone all day it must be hard for her poor dear.
Im 73 and i have the most wonderful daughter on the face of this Earth. She will never let me go into a nursing home period the end. I thank god for het everyday. I must have done right when raising her. She loves me and im do blessed
@@goatamongsheep4296 It is not only how you raise your kids. Some parents did excellent raising their kids and their kids love them very much, unfortunately, they also have to work to raise their own families, and is not possible for them to take care of their parents 24/7, especially if they have especial needs.
#35 👍. I'm nearly 60. My older sister and her husband informed me they instructed their two children to put them in a home. I like their attitude. My time is up. I don't need to tie others down. Leave me to professionals. Nevertheless, I salute ur daughter's position!
When I was young, I stayed with my grandparents. They had a loud clock, similar to the one in the video. They would sit quietly tick, tock...tick, tock...it bothered me, but if I said anything they’d tell me to go outside and play, or else be quiet.
@@TheMrfoxguy Sounds like they were too old to play or engage with their grandchildren. My parents were both under 52 when they became grandparents and they were always doing something with their grandchildren or driving them around to different places and having fun with them. Their last grandchild was born when they were in their late 60s and they were still very active grandparents. I guess it also depends on individual grandparents.
GJ Alameda with your Faith in Jesus and the relationship between you and him. You are never ever alone. He loves you more then you could possibly imagine. Praying for you that the love of our beautiful God saturates you and fills you up. Not one second goes by without him knowing exactly where you are and how you are feeling. He will never leave you nor forsake you, which means you are never alone. GOD BLESS YOU =)
Me too. I'm 69 and live alone and can go days without seeing anyone. But although I occasionally long for company, I never feel truly alone, because the Lord Jesus is my best Friend and constant companion. He also reminds me of things out of the blue that I had completely forgotten: the other day it was: "Check the oil in your car." I dismissed it at first because I felt sure there was enough. But it kept coming to me, so I did, sure enough it was very low! I topped it up before I set out. Sometimes its; "Pay your power bill." I would think, "Oh? I thought I had!" So I'd check and sure enough I hadn't. Its the little things that Jesus does for me that lets me know He cares - and there are a great many of them - and some big things too! Like he healed me of cancer in 1992 and surgery was cancelled. Id prayed for myself and went back tot he specialist and the result was I did not need surgery. He is a wonderful friend.
Most people love to be alone. It is uncommon for people to like to be with people hence extroverted. I am unfortunately one of the extroverts and all alone. I am suffering. I would be overjoyed if introverted, but not by the virus, etc. Sorry I have intellectual disability so issues expressing self and writing.
@@birdlover6842 Many people, like you are lonely. It can be a sad, long day. I pray that you get relief from your loneliness. I find if I start make phone calls to people, I receive more calls back, usually. I'm grateful to know that I am loved and treasured by a great loving God. All can turn against me but I'll be ok if he is with me in my heart. You are not forgotten.
You’re right, and it’s incredibly sad. I am utterly alone about 98% of the time..even before the pandemic. That has made it worse than normal. It’s very strange to think that I used to always have a houseful of people and many, many friends.......but a serious illness, loss of home to fire, and a few other things, and life as I knew it was gone.....if I had a magic wand I would wave it. I thought about trying to start a friendship club in my town....just not sure if anyone would be interested. You know, just someone to play games with, talk to, walk with, dinner.....or even just sit and talk. Shoot, I would be happy just to have someone to buy groceries with! Prayers for all of the other lonely folks of all ages. I am 57.
But if you are young and half way decent looking and healthy there is always a glimmer of hope that you will meet someone. But when you are old, you will never meet anyone ever again.
Loneliness is a plague. It happens to all age groups. It happens to those who just don't deserve it. Loss from death, betrayal from those you thought you could trust. I'm middle aged and alone because I stood up to abusers. We just have to carry on.
Dorothy: Enjoy your life and if that means enjoying it alone, then so be it. Do not be afraid to be alone. It can be a wonderful state. Frankly, people are selfish and cruel and being alone helps you avoid a bunch of crappy people who only care about themselves. Carry on and be happy being alone. It is not unusual to be alone and many people are and they find happiness just as much as those who are around people all the time - which would drive me crazy. Also, and this is a fact, but most people don't give a damn about you or anybody but themselves. So, rejoice - read what you want, think what you want, walk where you want and live a good, healthy life, alone.
@@nemo7782 It is certainly not a choice, at least not in my case. Betrayal by loved ones, the death of friends and relatives. Helplessness due to illness or injury. And when you get old you find out there are very few left who care, if any.
I'm 70, I've lived alone for years. There are days where I am lonely but most times I am fine. Prefer living alone then with someone who just makes you miserable
@Kathleen Quinn Hello,hope this finds you well..Am Vin and would like us to be friends and on your free times we call video call we talk out our problems hence becoming friends ... Thank you and be blessed
Hi, Kathleen! How are you doing? I hope you are fine and staying safe. Sometimes we all need time to feel lonely and you get to neutralize it as time goes on. Where are you from? Hope you don't mind me asking.
I have an 82 year old grandma. I know she suffers from isolation and loneliness, but she doesn't want to accept it, and everytime she always say she's happy and fine but everynight, we can hear her cries in her room. She also has a little bit of narcissism. How can I help her?
This brought me to tears. Bless their hearts. I’m very fortunate to be so introverted and very content with my own company. I prefer to be alone most of the time. I can’t imagine their pain. I just want to hold that ladies hand and tell her it will be alright.
Perhaps there should be more TLC or better funding for the isolated elderly or youngens for that matter. Whereby a services like the befriender could call in at least once day to say hi or good morning how are you. Loniness is painful alone is much different As Alone is more of a choice whereby loneliness happens if you get drift. Imagine those who are house bound or bed ridden. Perhaps family members if un able to visit could call in daily just a puick one, Hi Mum dad auntie uncle or grandma.grandpa U.ok? "Just saying hello loveU bye Idk" something like that. Perhaps could ease some.of the pain, that loneliness brings. Id to.think that perhaps Ive cheered some.one up When I go shopping I often say hello :)to people idk. Many of which are elderly Nd they are quite chatty back to me, who knows maybe there the ones who live alone):
If people can't take time out of their precious day to check up on their own living-alone parent or grandparent then It just doesn't get any frigging Sadder than That! I wish I lived near these lovely old people. It would be an honor to visit with them and hear all about their lives. What excellent company and great stories to be heard. It's crushing to witness the sadness and longing in their voices. We have turned into a very self-absorbed and cold world. Too busy posting on social media and the like to give a Damn about anybody else. Very SAD indeed!!!
I work very hard and I put took care of three children by myself I had no time to myself I had a friend and I was married at one time my husband died and then I had a friend I had supposed to marry him but it didn't work out because I just about pick the same man that I married and had three children from him and I didn't want to get into that situation again so I work work work until my children will finish with college I worked a few years after that and I really didn't need anybody that was worth spending my time with our time is so precious and I'm a very giving person giving of my time of my kindness of conversation and sometimes you can find people that they are not deserving of a kind person so it's better just to cut them loose and do by yourself be by yourself and love yourself and that's what I do am I lonely no am I alone never because I have God his son Jesus and I'm never alone someone is always calling me I don't know if as I get older well I have that much company I don't have a lot of company in my house because I don't cook like I used to so I'm very happy because I have people around me as a child I had people around me as a teenager I helped my mother raised her to not raise our children but take care of her children and I never had a life of my own because I was always doing so now I appreciate the Meltdown I appreciate my time alone I appreciate I can go to my bathroom whenever I want to I appreciate no one wearing my clothes so these are all the things that I appreciate and I am not lonely I live alone but I am not lonely
One thing that I want to tell everyone is that you have to thank God if you believe in a god that he has given you whoever you were with for the time that you were with them and think of the happy times think of the times that you laugh your smile how you might have loved him or her and that's how I get along sometime to I try not to think about the bad times and I just thank God that he gave me the strength to get through the bad times and that I can tell others or younger people yes we did at bad times everything wasn't good all the time but we live through it it wasn't easy all the time but we lived through it
Hello, there! How are you doing? Yes, Elderly people have so much to share with us and that is why we also need to show them the love and care they need in their life. Where are you from? I hope you don't mind me asking. I love cats and dogs. Do you like pets around when you are lonely?
I love being alone. After living in a toxic relationship for many years, living alone has been a wonderful blessing. I would never consider having another relationship. I can do what I want to do when ever I want to do it. I can pursue the things that I truly enjoy. I can go so far as to say that getting married was the single worst mistake of my life.
I went through the same experience and eventually realized that being partnered up is too confining for me. It's far too much work and I tend to attract possessive types who become emotionally suffocating. I'm happy to go it alone, without someone constantly breathing down my neck. When I need some contact with people I'll grocery shop, stop in at Dollar Tree, chat with neighbors or go online.
@@shellanon4212 .....my ex brother in law's first wife found a bf not three years into the marriage. She divorced and remarried immediately and left behind a stunned and reeling ex husband, along with his family of origin. He did seek therapy to discover why his ex did this to him. My advice would have been to just ask her, since only she could explain her motives, and she may very well have. But this entire toxic family of his only sees and hears what they choose to. Much later, her reasons for dumping him became crystal clear to me but I kept them to myself.
I dont mind living alone. Once in a while , a family member or old friend stops by or call . What I do miss is hugging. A real sqeezy hug, we all need them.
I'm 70 years, living alone by choice and loving it. But I'm very young for my age and very healthy. I know how blessed I am. But I also feel for the elderly who are sad and lonely and have no one to care for them. I'm very active and that makes a huge difference. I'm real involved in emailing, texting, talking on the phone, and projects around the home. I've also been called to Christian service and am still very active with others, teaching and counseling and giving. My mom passed away this year, who was living with me for the past 3.5 years. Although I had lived alone for 24 years prior to that. My mom would have been 99 years this Oct 2020. She was very mobile and mentally alert. She took care of all of her own needs with the exception of cooking and laundry. We have great genes and my siblings are all over 70 years. We're all very active and healthy. I do thank God for good health and an alert mind. When we have so much, we need to give thanks every day.
I'm with you. I made a choice about my life after my second divorce. I live alone, I'm healthy, I take supplements, probiotics, healthy foods and exercise. I find people who share my interests which is filmaking and webshows, and I've never looked back. Too many people think you can only be happy with other people constantly around. Not me! I like my own company, have a great relationship with creator and I'm good! You can't sit around feeling sorry for youself and not taking care of your health! On my 71st birthday I was on set with my cast and crew having a lunch celebration for my birthday! Now, that's the way to age. I'm 72 now, and I do not take one medication!!!!
After watching this I applied to volunteer at LBFE. Instead of saying how sad this is, get up and do something about it. I found it sad, and instead of feeling sorry, I decided to volunteer to help these people.
Well I don't know what country you live in, but I tried to volunteer to visit older people, but the hoops that you have to jump through just put people off - so many checks, references, etc. etc., I realise that in these days (sadly) great care has to be taken with this sort of thing, but it has just gone over and above, and people just won't volunteer anymore because it is a deep invasion of their own privacy, you are made to feel like a criminal, when in fact you just want to help. I, and others I know, just gave up.
Not just the old. Many an abused child out there. Since the age of 6, I too know what it's like to be alone.When a mother or father fail you as a child, you will always know the feeling of loneliness.
Tropic-Al yes.. I wonder how a lot of us survived as small children.. many parents were not present either in the father or mother role.. and s a lot of us had to raise ourselves.. besides many being cruel.. abusive and mean.
You only always feel loneliness if you love to play the victim. I was abused as a youth, raised by a divorced mother that had very little coping, people or maternal skills. And this was in a time that child abuse and parental alienation weren't talked about. Probably some of the wrong things I did as a teenager were lashing out at the bad hand life dealt me. But by the time your in your mid to late 20s it's time to quit playing the victim and start playing the survivor.
@@kaiserchief9319 It is not always 'you reap what you sow'. I have always been good to people and raised my children with much love and attention. However, now they never have time for me and I hardly ever see them. Only once per year or so.
Rock Alliance.... I understand. I'm very sad and miss my parents also... especially my dearest best friend in the whole world....my sweet mother. We were very close, and in her final years, I became her caregiver. So, I was present when she left this world. Life is hard, then gets super tough. I would have probably taken my life by now if it wasn't for Jesus Christ. Praise God He saved my soul in 1990....and I've never looked back. It's why I'm still here, after losing my wonderful mother. He is my hope, my life, and my strength....and He is my reason for living....my life is different now....losing my mother knocked me off my life's orbit, and slung me way out into unknown territories. But, I'm still here.... because of Jesus. And, yes, I miss both of my parents so much... especially my mother. I understand where you are at. God's love to you and Shalom. 💖🕊️💖
LALO LION Me to mum went 14 years ago and Dad last year I spent all my life with them and work at home on the farm and now on my own I walk around the farm without them like a lost lamb I am never unhappy and the memories are always good ones but the loneliness is the true killer and the uncertainty of the future which make things hard and the locals think you are fine but they have no idea what it is like but I go out to work 7 days a week just for the company ❤️
I am 83, and I have found my faith in Jesus has helped me so much. I keep my mind active studying the Bible and praying. I find word games and puzzles keep my mind active. We cannot give in to it as far as possible.
@@terrorgaming459simply god...not important the religion....if you write in english just say god...if you speak to a arabic you tube say allah.....sorry for my english....sonia....
Hello, Jeanne! How are you doing? Yes, Elderly people have so much to share with us and that is why we also need to show them the love and care they need in their life. Where are you from? I hope you don't mind me asking. I love cats and dogs. Do you like pets around when you are lonely?
SO TRUE!!!! Amen. Ask God to come into your life your home, you’ll be amazed with the things he will reveal to you!!! Start with a simple prayer ... Our Father.. then pick up the Bible and read the Word of The Most High and his promises. Have faith and BELIVE . God bless!
What’s wrong with being a caretaker? Not only are you not by yourself and alone, but you are caring for someone else which actually should make you feel better about yourself.
my heart goes out to them..... my husband left our home for “someone he liked better” ten years ago..... Am still not used to being alone, now our children have their own lives. I long for the rush to get dinner on the table and loved faces coming through the door, but that will not happen any more. Fortunately my son found me a companion, Alfie.....a dog who is now my shadow and comes everywhere with me. I would recommend older people to get a little dog....it doesn’t have to be a puppy, many older dogs just need someone to love them and keep them company, as do many older people. Vet fees in UK can be helped through charities, it is a wonderful thing to see two oldies from different species looking after each other, a win win situation, for both. Alfie makes me smile, gives me hugs and makes me go out for walks, all wonderful things.
Hey Julie, have you looked into befriending in the UK? It might be worth looking into if you are interested in meeting new people! Just be sure to choose a company who do background checks on their volunteers
Yes, good advise Julie. I have two pups here (not mine but I inherited them). They give me something to care for now that all my 1st family is gone and children get thru their own lives-jobs, family, their own health etc.
Those who worked witht he public (sany kind of sales work, P.R. work, etc) love their solitude on weekends and after retirement. Most people have "baggage" and I don't want any of it.
But it's not the same thing is it? If you are lonely when you are surrounded by people you can make a choice to reach out to those around you. But these people, including me, have no one around to reach out to. We are forced to be alone unless someone reaches out to us. Let's face it, it isn't popular to reach out to irrelevant old people is it?
When your so called friends are seemingly like your enemies. Dumping them and being alone with God is the next best thing. I talk to God all the time. I've never heard him say anything but I'm finding out that God is a God of action, and not words. I guess words are cheap. Everything is good!
@JCT I made all my money from poker, sports gambling, stock markets and smart real estate buying and selling... I didn't speak to barely anybody outside of my family up until I was 26.
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 I'm 34, I am financially successful, have had a few girlfriends, and I. I hate myself everyday for how blind I was in the past with women, and letting them leech off me without ever showing any real love back. Now I hate everybody and everything to the point I am just gambling every day for entertainment.... whether I win or lose thousands everyday, I don't care.. I have 0 desire to even try to get a girlfriend naturally, or even paying for one anymore..I have No desire to ever try and meet any male friends either.. Don't think getting with a woman who is with you because of your resources is going to make you happy in the long run dude
@@meredithbenjamin6694 .....yeah, my friend, it sucks, time to find new friends is what I do. And there's nothing wrong with me btw. Just arrogant self conceited people out there.
@@birdlover6842 Oh my dear, please don't be sad, my heart becomes heavy when others hurt. I just want you to know that somewhere someone is probably thinking of you, someone that you have impacted in some way, shape, or form, and you don't even know it! Our mature population is often so gratuitously scrutinized, it's not fair! I just want you to know that I love you and I am sending my love and prayers your way. Please smile, although you might be by yourself there are angels with you. And who knows, quarantine might be over sooner than you think and we can finally engage in proper human interaction. Don't lose hope in human nature, just yet. God bless, my love. - A sixteen year old girl
i visit a older neighbour few times a week, we have a good chat and cup of tea, i feel better for my visits, and the lady i visit has a smile by the time i leave.
Chris Mullan I did that too at an old lady's home, she was so happy every time i met her, now she's with the Lord, she was alone & poor but she was always so joyful !
I have an 87 yrs old friend. Most of her friends are dead. Two of her three children are dead. Her now only daughter has not spoken and visited her in nearly ten years. We go out at least twice a week. We speak on the phone every day. We like spending time together. My mum is no more. She is like a parent figure for me. We complete one another. She needs me, but I need her.
@@amorypeace - I am really lucky to have her in my life. She is a mother figure in my life. M'y mum left 11 years ago last week. Still missing her so bad.
@@lutwamafrank1882 - Sadly yes. This is real on 2018. On her case she misses her daughter si much and there is just no way I can replace her. I can only be there. My mum had to be in a specialized center. My dad and I were there everyday to every other day. Out of the 100 persons on that floor she was one of the very few having visitors (less than 5%). Go find out, ask, read. It is unreal. I did not know of this situation. Not everyone is like you and that is unfortunate.
Michelle B some our parents wish they had a miscourage coz wat is that thing that can make me forget myself parents esp mom .but thanks for comforting her
I'm Helene, who posted here 3 yesrs ago. I'm almost 74 years now. I'm just as active and so thankful for all of the beauty and blessings in my life. To Oscar here, who commented to me, thank you kindly. I feel that as people get older, if they can relate well with a mate, and they meet a kind one, it's never too late to remarry. I have a a friend whose dad remarried at 86 years. I think it's wonderful. And also beneficial in the times we live in. I'd like to also see people in their 80's and 90's live in a senior building, if they feel too alone. I moved into a senior property almost 3 years ago. It's secure and we look out for each other and have nice activities. We are well cared for. I believe that is what lonely seniors need. There are senior HUD properties with very low rent. I'm in one. My rent is amazingly low... God bless each dear one who visits here. I pray your latter days will be sweet.🌹
68, retired, debt free, two cats, a French bulldog and a cockatoo. I'm a semi-introvert as I don't like crowds. Yes I'm alone but a lot happier that those trapped in miserable marriages or relationships. I focus on all positive things and never anything negative. Works all the time.
Same here! To me it's far lonelier to be in the company of people you have nothing in common with or don't feel connected to. I always say that if you don't like living alone you're just not doing it right.
Loneliness is a state of mind. I grew up in a family of 7 and felt alone. Parents worked 7 days per week and there was no happiness just neediness. No love, trust or security. Now I prefer to be alone since I don't trust anyone. Sadly, my family are those I trust the least. I choose not to be a hypocrite any longer.
Norma.... You are naturally funny! Made me smile and bare my teeth! You are not a society reject! You still in your 50's? Spring chicken! Oh...and your name...Norma. That's the sweet, precious name of my own beloved mother....she was very, very sweet, kind and a natural clown....she loved to "make 'em laugh!" I think you're the same way...your comment about feeling like a reject made me laugh! You are a lovely gift to all here, and I'm positive God has blessed you with a rich sense of humour! Carry on, my friend. 🌺🕊️🌺
@@singingchef23 Apparently a lot of people choose wrong since there are so many second marriages and divorce. Besides it's not about choosing wrong ,we live a long time and people change. My grandparents were married for 50 years and they both had affairs so there's no easy answer
True story: I was reckless in my early 20s. No sense of respect for anyone other than myself. I was selfish, bitter and filled with animosity towards those who wronged me. I moved to an apartment building and next door was this elderly woman. Probably in her early 80s. She greeted with a smile and every morning she would sit outside and say good morning to anyone that walked by. I would start my day at 7am and come back at 5pm and this woman would still be there. She asked for my name and she would always "good morning!" and my name afterwards. A month later we would start talking and I'd make small talk. One night, after a night of partying, I went home and saw my neighbor, this old lady through her kitchen window and she was still awake and watching tv. There was nobody there but her. I knocked her on door, she opens the door and I asked her why she's up so late. The first thing she said was "nobody has ever knocked on this door for 8 months". I laughed and I told her I was just curious as it is late. She asked if I was hungry, I said "yes, I am going to make some cereal when I go to my kitchen". She laughed about my cereal statement. She says she made dinner for herself earlier but could not finish. She asked if I wanted some food. I said ok. She told me to come in and eat on the dining table. She prepared left over meatloaf and potatoes and to this day - that was the best meatloaf dinner i have had. As I was eating, she asked where I was from. I asked where she was from and we basically spent 30 minutes talking about her family history. She has 3 children and they live out of state. They only visit once a year. Her husband used to work at a mill after fighting in the pacific in WW2. She was a kindergarten teacher and retired in the 1990s. Her husband passed away 30 years ago. I'd look at the pictures on the wall, her family, grandkids, places she used to visit. She spent most of her days sitting outside and watching the news and old shows at night. I thanked her for the meal. When I walked out the door she said to me these words "This has been a wonderful night. Thanks for stopping by, come by again soon". I went home, I sat on the couch and realized something - The world actually has some nice people who care about others. Each week this old lady would make me these amazing cookies. She would also sometimes bring me over food (all my money went to rent and i was practically living on cereal, bread , peanut butter and ramen). I finally got a chair and sat next to her out front of the apartment and we would have saturday morning coffee. I was even lucky to get more food for sunday brunch as she made them! She made coffee on this percolator (which made really good old school coffee). Then one day, the ambulance came and picked her up. Weeks went by and she has not come back. A woman and a man stopped at her place and started moving things. I went out and asked who they were and she said they were her children from NY. They suspiciously asked me who I was and how I know her and I told them I am her neighbor, I have coffee with her every weekend. They looked at me and said "Yeah, thats strange.. my mom does not do that with anyone. You sure its her?" They jokingly laughed and said that was not her at all. I asked what happened to her and they told me she got hospitalized, had a stroke and disabled with 50% memory loss. I asked which hospital and I told them that If I showed up, she will know who I am and that I was telling the truth. Surprisingly, they invited me that evening to see her. The son opens the door of her mothers room. She was sleeping. I pulled up a chair and sat near her. Her son was yelling out loud to her mom to wake up. I didn't like his gesture of how she woke her up. I just had a bad vibe towards him. She woke up and I was the first set of eyes she looked at. She raised her left hand and held mine. She said in a slurred speech "How are you" and said my name afterwards. The children were shocked. Pure shock on their face. I had a little smirk seeing their faces. The son said she hasn't said much since her stroke. She started talking and talking but were all slurred that I could not understand most of what she said. I got the ok to visit her whenever I can. I'd come by and have coffee (but no coffee with her). Her children gave her the family album and saw pictures of her when she was young and I complimented how beautiful she is - then and now. She really was very pretty in her 20s. Her husband was a handsome man and this man had that grit look. For a mill worked, the man looked like hed been working steel for years. Her speech started to get better and I would help her pronounce the words. Three weeks later, she got the ok to be on assisted living. Her kids found an ok assisted living place. I was allowed to visit of course. 4 months later, I found out she passed. She had another stroke. The son stopped by and dropped off something for me. Old books, pictures, really old furniture and decor. Last but not least, i got the darn percolator to make coffee. I said my thank you and the son told me to make sure you clean the percolator and open it and clean it well before you use it and for me to wait until the weekend. I waited 4 days to make a cup of coffee (it was on a weekend). I opened the percolator and there are two pieces of paper. One was a check and the other was a note. Out of respect, I checked the note first. It says "Mom wanted to make a coffee and baked goods shop back in the 60s. The book contains recipes from what she was going to have for her shop. The shop never came about because she had kids and could not open the shop. I am sure you know what to do. Thanks for everything. You made her last year a wonderful one". I read the check and it was for $30,000. The check says "For the coffee shop". I found out she inherited a fortune after her fathers passing. A trust fund was given to the kids.The kids decided to give me this gift (which was a big deal, the kids were really wealthy and did not trust anyone outside of the family circle). 1 year later, I opened "Black Forest Cafe" in california. It thrived and learned about how to run a business, trial and error and made some of the best pastries, cake and home cooked meals. I made all my coffee in percolators. If you are reading this, your success to best coffee is using a percolator. The business stayed opened for years. I eventually sold the business just right before the 2008 recession. I gave the $30k back to the family but they refused and gave it back to me. Instead, I kept the money and saved to plan on opening another coffee shop.
Bill, what an amazing and touching story! I am so glad you knocked on her door and got to know her. You kept her company made her feel like someone cared. You did good with the $30k! You fulfilled her dream to open the coffee shop. It’s so good her kids recognized how important you were to her. She left this world being touched by you. And you became a better person for it. Blessings.
Heaven forbid their family members should dedicate a bit of their precious time to bringing some happiness and company to their lonely lives. I remember, when my grandfather was alive and lonely, I used to visit him often and get him to tell me about the most interesting and memorable events in his long colorful life. Talk about some incredible family and otherwise life stories; better than most novels around. That experience turned out to be among of the most enjoyable, meaningful, and life-enriching moments of both of our lives; and I still relive them with great fondness. We all have a lot to share with, and learn from, our elders - they are a wealth of knowledge, wisdom, and experience, abandoned in the age of virtual reality.
I am 61 now. I have enjoyed the company of older people all my life. I wish more people were like us. I find that people look through me often as I were already a ghost. Young people today don't value older people nowadays. They want us to go away and die.
your comment is one sided because you don't know if their family tries to get them out. A lot of older people want to stay caged in their house and comfort zones. Even people as young as 60 start to become rigid and anti social. They don't want to try anything new. Everything is 'in my day' so if they have that mindset and want companions on their times they have to wait until someone can sit in their house with them. We can barely sit in our own homes because of work and kids and responsibilities.
@@LaDeeDah Sorry..not all ppl over 60 are rigid and anti social..Lol,I travel on my own (Dream holiday in Santorini in a few weeks) and always meet lovely ppl, I love going out whenever I get chance,were not all anti social. Many older ppl have no family or friends to spend time with and many older ppl don't feel safe going out alone with so much crime 'out there'. If you go abroad especially to Spain ect,older ppl are out and about in the evenings because they feel safe.
As a society we should prevent this from happening. As people we have a duty to find out who we are and develop ourselves while younger. Every person should live for some time on their own while younger. These people are dependent on others and cannot live by themselves so we should be able to care for them Same as with homeless people, it shouldn’t be happening, care of others needs to be our priority as a society
There must be thousands of cells of loneliness spread around the country, maybe even within walking distance of eachother. I would like to see town authorities, and communities and neighbourhoods addressing this. There has to be a way of easing the state of being alone for those who are suddenly plunged into social and emotional isolation, particularly those who are living well into old age. No one should have to endure loneliness, that is ridiculous in our already overpopulated societies!!
@@marktwain380 Grief and loss is part of it. Reality is tough. However, it has to be said that people choose to wallow in self-pity a lot of the time. There are things you can do whilst you have your mind and ability to get around. Two lonely people, but they sit by themselves and don't meet up? Join groups or seek to live elsewhere. If you don't do something then how can the problem be solved?
I'm 87, wife passed 10 years ago and I live alone. My children all grown up and visit occasionally, my grandchildren at the same time. Those are great moments, icing on the cake! To me, loneliness is a state of mind that can be neutralized by enjoying your own company, creating a circle of like friends for getting together once in awhile, joining an organization that you enjoy, keeping healthy both physically and mentally, getting a good night sleep and eating healthy. The group of men I associate with volunteer in the community to make items like bird houses, outdoor furniture, benches, serve meals at a local public school, do projects for non-profit organizations and service clubs, etc. They buy the materials, we manufacture and assemble/paint/stain/whatever. We enjoy giving back to the community because it benefits the community. This gives us a sense of worth and allows comradeship among our friends. The key is to not stay at home gradually deteriorating both physically and mentally. As individuals it's our personal responsibility to get off our butts and become involved. Sitting at home pining away is not helpful.
Well said. We do all things through Christ who strengthens us. I hope you are fine and doing great. Just a brethren who support the elderly and create ways to make them feel okay all time. Do you have any elderly who need help and support?
I love living alone and being alone too. As long as lave a beloved dog or cat next to me , I’m good to go..I like people but only on my terms. But when I’ve had enough of them. I must retreat back home again to recharge myself. Feeling lonely must be awful. .I’ blessed to have never been that way as I can remember....
I love being alone I have always gone to movies alone I don't have to worry if your with someone they If they like the movie most of my life I have enjoyed my moments alone
I'm alone I'm 86...I pass the time on you tube....reading...I'm an avid reader always have been. I do watch tv if there's something I want to c. Not just mindless stuff...in summer I walk. Cant as much as I used to...I have couple friends. Younger than I. They're mostly 60s. I have sisters in my faith. If I need ride I can get it... it relatives I seldom hear from..its sad. On summer I sit on balcony a lot. I've always enjoyed a front porch now I'm on 9th fl..I still enjoy looking at traffic and people. There's a community em in my senior tower but I usually dont mingle...it can be like a small town...u have be careful. Yes I do wish I'd hear from relatives more...but they're not responding single for my happiness...I try to set goals. Like one wk I plan to clean drawers or closet. I find things to do. But yes..I'm tired and wish I were young again lol. But this is where we all wind up. Waiting just waiting..dont ever forget. Your creator...He knows. Ask him for what u want
Virginia, I hope you are doing well. How about a little joke? A man walks into the Dr. with a carrot rammed way up his nose. The Dr. looks up and says, Oh my God, you're not eating properly! Keep taking care of yourself, and staying current - I noticed you used lol, good for you!
Hello, there! How are you doing? Greetings from Preston hope you are fine and staying safe. Where are you from? and hope you don't mind me asking. Just checking on you and hope you stay safe too. 🕊️🕊️✌️✌️🤗🤗
If she has a granddaughter where are her children. Im 71. My grandparents were first generation Europeans and few of the elders lived alone. They either lived with family or had family within walking distance. This is serious problem for modern society.
It so very very sad to see old persons so alone at the end of their life. I am LatinAmerican, our culture is family and friend oriented. We are always on the look out of our old family members. It is not well accepted socially to send the elderly to a home, unless it is absolutely necessary because of a specific family problem. I am a widow, I am 75 years old, when my husband passed away, immediately one of my children came to live with me. My son comes to lunch every sunday with his children or takes me out for lunch. When my mother became old, and she was very indipendent, I moved to an apartment in a building next to hers, she had the keys to my apartment, my husband and children loved it, and she would come every morning to read our daily newspaper and have a cup of tea. Thank God we are always concerned with our older family members.
@@titalinda8515 I am fine. More snow today but the last 2 ft. Mostly melted. Did u get your mobility back? Are you all better? I thought you were from the states Tia. Your English is xcellent. I did get a text from my daughter on my birthday yesterday. Am 74! I am in the far north in Idaho she lives near Sacramento CA.
@@shellanon4212 . Hi sweetheart, I just saw your messages again. How are you doing Shilo? How has this awful pandemic affected you? It’s my birthday today, 76 years old.... wow.... never expected to be this old, but things are alright, thank God. Hope to hear from you. Much love!
This is why community is so important. We have let community slide over recent decades. People don't connect with their neighbours much any more. It's important to do it though. The lonely elderly people in this film are just examples, they are a drop in the ocean. In your community right now, there will be people like this. Alone, struggling. We can all help though. A visit, a kind word, a favour. Offer to tidy their garden, take in their shopping, ask if they need anything fixing, chat to them for 5 minutes. All very simple things we can all do with very little effort, but things like this make a huge life-changing difference to these people. Look out for each other.
I'm in my 50s. I have been alone most of my life. My wife to be left me because someone told here they were meant to be together. I'm glad. My dad died 4 years ago. My mother died this past February 2020. I quit my job in Colorado (it was a great job) to help my mother who couldn't take care of herself. Now I work at Eagle's Trace Retirement Home as a maintenance tech II. I fix just about everything in those buildings. At the same time I get to talk to these old people who live there. They just want to talk. Something to pass time by. Doing this helps me understand what I will be facing in the near future.
Actually,I live in a very christian community and moved due to toxic abusive relationship and even with that not one here has ever end me a helping hand. Its odd but true. I've always done that,offered a hand to those around me.This summer I thought to try to lend a hand to my neighbor and they wrote me not to do that again lolol They seemed to not like me soI thought that may break the ice but it just made things worse.
My mom is 73 yrs old and lives with me. Shes divorced and has noone else. Theres no way I would leave her to be alone and fend for herself. I cant believe theres people in the world that leave their old relatives let alone parents/grandparents to survive on their own.
I guess that is one way to deal with her. She lucked in with you "looking after her." I am not needing anyone to "fend" for me, 73 is not "old" unless she is either sickly or has not cared for her health and well being. I did not throw my husband away - he died many years ago and I then faced life with courage and enjoy the so called challenges. There is a whole system out here that caters to older people and if one is normal and healthy it's great. We do not need any more tax payer's money taken for unnecessary public servants to get cushy jobs pretending to "Look after lonely people". It has to stop. Perhaps your Mother is too dependent, you say she "has no-one else", that's odd because she has known many hundreds of people during her life and they are all out there still. Getting old is NOT the problem that some people are led to believe. Getting 'free' money or manipulating others is the fashion and that is wrong.
My aunt's husband died and she moved in with her son and his wife. I figured she would. Sh is in her 80s and has never lived alone. Her daughter died in her 50s in 2015, and now her husband just died on Christmas Day:((( her son is all she has left.
You are right, An older gentleman lives up the road from me, I was walking by one day with my dogs and he loved them, so I will make it a point to go past with my dogs and stop by and speak with him more often. Maybe I will even allow him to keep one of my dogs over night sometime if he wants too. for company.
I know that a pet cannot replace the warmth and comfort of a human, but it helps a lot. Having a cat waiting at home is a great comfort, and once a bond has been formed with a furry creature with awareness, they become like family. Even a little bird can fill that lonely gap, if you allow it to. Animals do need some care and attention, and for some elderly people they may find that bit too much to cope with, but if they are able, especially if there's someone willing to help if needed, it can be such a blessing.
I hope you have a backup plan for your pet if something should happen to you, and someone to check in on you daily so that your pet doesn't starve to death if you should die.
I am Seventy Have the Internet and Love You Tube I do not Like People taking up my Thinking Time, I only like them If I am in the Mood to Talk , I love my own Company Which I am Grateful For
@chistine....I also love the internet it helps me to keep in touch with what is happening in the world. I enjoy reading the comments, even the ones I disagree with and offering my opinion too.
I lost my darling husband in 2016 we were soulmates I was66 years old and my husband was 76 I miss him every single second of every day but life has to go on and until I join him I am going to live for the both of us and love you grandchildren and everyone that I know All my Love to anyone reading this 💋
I am 66.married to a man who never wants conversation. Might as. Well be all alone. I have 5 grown up children. 3 daughters stopped talking to me. Kept my beautifull granchildren from me. I'm so lonely and miss my family so much. Sometimes I wish God would take me and. End this sad sad life 😭
@@eileenryan8875 I pray for you and wish you`ll find a bit of happiness, at 66 life is not over at all. Good luck and God`s blessings from crazy Germany
Hello, Patricia Greetings from Preston how are you doing hope you are fine, and staying safe. It saddens my heart to see these elderly going through all these stressful times in their life. I think what they need at this time is care and love. How do you show love and care to the elderly in your city or your neighborhood?
Loneliness starts creeping in the day you realize your friends are not around. Your relatives have abandoned you. Now you are on your own . Its sad but it happens to the best of us
If you have God you will never be alone He loves you unconditionally He will never leave you nor forsake you, He's with you everywhere, pls turn to God 💖💖💖
@Weeblackie hahaha your wrong and you will see you are don't say you wasn't warned,, and He's coming back very soooooooooon now hahahaha, you are a lier,,,,
That's what I say. If our govts, social services, businesses, took the time, they could devise a data base & a means for screening for compatibility & safety. One year without a new model phone would be better spent. Then ppl could have ppl to phone, meet, chum around. Just -- you know - life. Heck, charge a fee. Save a lot more in the long run.
@@OlivePopeyeRed yes, but it would need lots of safety feature built in. It would be a playground for predators, which is already bad enough. There'd need to be a screening method & be hack proof. Big wish!
I work with old people. People who've been widowed, outlived their children or whose children have emigrated. Marriage and kids doesn't mean you won't end up alone.
That was amazing..even me..these days..i prefer being just myself in everything. Being alone is better than that of having huge amount of duties and responsibilities. Thought the joy it brings having companion is priceless but at the end of the day you'll be left alone is nothing
I did too, especially Margaret . As I'm a person who puts alot of time into other ppl (I do live alone) the thought of having no family or friends in yrs to come is, a, concern. Now cruel covid comes along, wish it'd feck off.
I did. It's terrifying to have to even think of having to live alone. But I am prepared. These people are alone even when they have family and children then what's the point of it. I'd rather be alone and embrace it gladly without any expectations.
Hello, Dim! How are you doing? Yes, Elderly people have so much to share with us and that is why we also need to show them the love and care they need in their life. Where are you from? I hope you don't mind me asking. I love cats and dogs. Do you like pets around when you are lonely?
When I'm alone, Im never lonely. The only time I've ever felt lonley is in a relationship, when I needed them emotionally and they weren't there. Ive since gotten over that, but learning that really made me look at what I invest my emotions in.
@@Yours_Truly_Rima ? Yes, felt. I dont feel lonely in relationships anymore, and I'm married now. I make no one my entire world because if they leave or die, they will take my entire world with them.
I agree. Everyone is different and I don’t think some of us understand what it’s like to have a lifelong happy relationship to lose it. I don’t as I’ve never had a good relationship. Saying that obviously these people are doing nothing but sitting and waiting for something or someone to fill the void which is their big mistake. They never planned for the fact that one day they might be alone. I think that’s naive and unrealistic
True it's not just old people but when you are young; you can go out walking or do things that the elderly cannot do. Please read the bible, get comfort Jesus loves you, join a church.
There is absolutely no way that my parents would have let me forget them. lol they called me at least 4 times a day. They are gone now. I miss you mum and dad.
My thoughts Exactly!! Our generation is living in a superficial digital world... talk to me about loneliness. I feel like this for the past 10 years...
Yes, I was thinking the same. They have already lived their happy fulfilling life. Many have never experienced love, happiness and have been lonely since young.
Loneliness is hideous, you begin to lead a pointless existence. People and friends should help when they see someone in this position. I regret not seeing a friend more often who recently passed away :(
I think it depends on the individual. I have been by myself my entire adult life. Having someone around all the time would drive me nuts. As long as I have someone I can call or email once in a while I'm good. My cats are fine company and they don't sass me. People make me tired. I also have a strong faith and know Jesus is always here when I need him.
Connie Hedges …. Very nice thoughts in your notes. People, I have found, can drain the ambient oxygen... I too like that there are some who I can email / call. Access to the world of the internet where we find youTube being a fascinating "gift". Those who have only television, radio are able to find distraction from the void. I've been alone for years and the pleasure found at doing things I wasn't always able to is downright enriching. Having your own --bungalow is an obvious pleasure -- for those in this video -- but the community filled with apartments all occupied by a variety of people, the individual apartments extremely well maintained... is a beautiful thing. You can still be as independent as ever while seeing others who are like-minded. People who are warmed by your smile when you bump elbows in the elevator. Or while at your mailbox. Or passing here/ there. I've met elders who hang on to their private homes. In a simple mention of what is available at the residences, like the one I live in, brings the sounds of shock. No one wants to move out of a home filled with memories. Let me stop rambling now. ;)
Sarah Jane there are so many wonderful People on our Beautiful Earth.. we just need to use some creativity and Turn the sadness into a movement for Love.. I do have some really good ideas...
I don't know why I felt compelled to watch this. Lived my entire life as a loner, dedicated to study and work and at 54 a single middle aged boring man. I can envisage me sitting there alone sipping tea and reminiscing on what might have been. That was my short sharp n sorry story shared. Say that while drinking beer ! Greetings from Italy.
Hello, Deborah Greetings from Preston how are you doing hope you are fine, and staying safe. It saddens my heart to see these elderly going through all these stressful times in their life. I think what they need at this time is care and love. How do you show love and care to the elderly in your city or your neighborhood?
This is no longer a problem that begins in old age, more and more are experiencing the isolation of old age in early middle age and younger. The only difference is that they are still generally healthy.
It actually feels like a curse sometimes. I'm 65, living alone since 62 and I can tell you it feels like I'm the only person on the planet sometimes. No words to describe how debilitating....crippling, loneliness can be.
Sorry to hear that but I've been feeling that way my entire life and I'm only nearly 40. It sounds like you've been in a relationship of sort, so at least you have that to go on but for me, and perhaps some of us, we never found someone and instead have to live life in isolation from everyone else despite the fact we try to find someone but can't.
I'm 65 myself and just lost my husband 2 years ago. I live up in the mountains in the woods and somedays it does get really lonely. I have my dog and 2 cats. I watch a lot of tv to keep my mind occupied so I don't think so much about being lonely. I've joined widows groups on Facebook to talk to people who know what I'm going thru.
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I have found many people come to me and say why don't you find you a boyfriend and I asked. Why I am happy I go out when I want to I go on vacation when I want to I cook I seen so couples who are not happy and I ask myself why do they stay together when neither one are happy are they scared to be alone I see myself happier than they are today I'll go skydiving LOL life is good
Never complain about getting old, too many have never had that priviledge ! At 69 now, having been retired for 3 years I love being alone and independant and on my own apart from my cat I just wish that I am as "lucky" as this lady and the good lord grants me another 20 years of freedom and enjoyment," I,m not by myself, I,m with myself ,there is a difference ,good luck and long life to you all, ❤❤❤✝.....
Soft water Music, spiritual growth, and God is a blessing in our lives that we will never feel alone. In today's world it is good to be alone and spent time to get to know the realization of the true self and the Supreme Father the Supreme Soul. That's all we need now.
Yep and your friends kind of fade away once you become disabled and/or chronically ill and can't keep up with them. It's a very hard thing to find out that your friends didn't like you for you but only because you did things with them and made them feel important and facebook share worthy moments.
@@BlazeDuskdreamer I can hear the experience in your comment Blaze. I too recognize all of that as well. As I also am fighting my battles of chronic illness. If not for thw love of Jesus and the comfort of the Holy spirit things might have beem worse. Are you part of any support groups online? Those have helped me as well.
That's me -- completely ignored by the people I supported, sacrificed for and loved. I thought I'd have lots of family in my late years. Instead, I make do w/ neighbors.
It's possible to live alone and not be lonely!!! I'm an example of that. If someone would've told me years ago that I'd be on my own, I wouldn't have believed it because I was a huge co-dependant. Yet, here I am... Christians shouldn't feel lonely either! Being filled with the Holy Spirit and having a close relationship with Jesus will fill any void and negativity of all sorts.
Weezie I totally agree with you, only Jesus can fill any void, it's not about being religious, it's about a beautiful relationship with Him, having HIM as LORD & Savior & being your truest friend !
Thats true. I have lived alone over 30 years. However, God meant us for one another not just for Himself. When He made Adam, Adam was filled with God and loved God, yet God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone." If God says its not good - it isn't. You can bet that if He made the woman for Adam, it sure isn't natural for the woman to be alone either. It is right and good to have Jesus Christ as Lord in ones life, He is God in flesh; He loves us like no one else can, but when you have done over 30 years alone and live daily without seeing anyone for days sometimes, you can tell us what we "should" and "shouldn't feel."
He doesn't text but He answers. He says, "My sheep hear My voice and follow Me." He is called the Good Shepherd. You will not hear His voice until you repent of your pride and sarcasm and open yourself to Him, then He will answer. I used to mock Christianity, but I have known Him now over 40 years.
Remember this while looking at ALL ur family and friends. When u have nothing to provide them with they will all be gone and u will realize it's all been a lie.
DirtyPreppy completely and absolutely true!! It's easy to have friends and family when the times are good, but watch what happens when you're the in need!!!
That is not always true. My mom an be quite combative with me and has nothing materialistic to offer. I take her shopping at least once a week and I take her to appointments, but I have stopped visiting often because she likes to argue and I am too old to exhaust the energy I have left being negative. I still try to engage her socially but as soon as conversation gets negative I leave.
Gais, it's a good idea. As soon as I feel settled & stable, I intend t get myself a cat 1st, then a dog, then a bird. It will help me tremendously. Just writing this puts a smile on my face already. Bless you & your kitty cat
I know it's very hard but ask Jesus to heal your broken heart, He will, cry out to Him, just be yourself before Him & let him heal you & love you unconditionally ! I lost my mom & my sis at a young age, my Heavenly Father & the Holy Spirit comforted & loved me like no one else !
Tribal life is far superior to civilisation... Modern life just disconnects people, we now use social media but we are even more disconnected than before. Its a sad reality we have.
As an "older person" who is educated, I must say you are talking complete rubbish. Tribalism is a form of lifestyle that lead to all sorts of abuses about which nothing can be done by those living under a totalitarian leader. I like to live with clean running water, electricity and everything that has come from people NOT living in tribal situations, (take a good look at African S...H.... regions). Also don't put your own communication deficiencies onto others, that's obviously your own problem. You are delusional.
Hello everyone. Yes, lost my family because I am suffering from illnesses they'd rather not deal with. Not completely alone yet, but the writing is on the wall.
It's heartbreaking to see how many younger people don't dedicate time to the older generation. I go spend time with my 83 year old mother DAILY. I don't take it for granted. It's my top priority. I bring her food, help with chores, keep her company, make conversation, take her on outings, make sure she's healthy and has everything she needs. I don't understand why everyone can't find the time to care. My heart breaks as I watch this video.
@@rajpavaskar5268 Maybe you can ģet out more, if you feel lonely. Join a group, serve at a kitchen for the homeless. I've been more social than usual this week. It's killing me, I just want to be alone most of the time.
Im very proud to say i love being a filipino..we have unique culture that we are crazy about our family...we cannot let our grand parents be alone in the house we grow up with our grandparents with us...i hope preople out there will also love thier grandparents and taking care of them...
Philipinos are one if the best immigrant people 🌹 They're helpful, kind, friendly, family-oriented, go to church, go to school (most), want to make something of their life. Thank you. Salamat 🌹🌹🌹
You philipinoes are such the most amazing people.i have daughter 5kms down the road with two grandkids..... haven't seen any of them since Xmas. No words could express my loneliness. Got a philipino family out there who might adopt me.....social isolation is destroying me x
There is commonalities between the Japanese elderly experience and these Brits. In Japan, after decades of a busy life as salary men or workers and also raising children, the retired are put out to pasture. The loneliness must be terrible for those who were so integrated in Japanese society. I have known many foreigners who would practice their Japanese of seniors since they had the time and patience to talk for hours. In Canada there is a new program where university students live with widows and widowers in their home and interact each day. It helps the student financially with affordable housing and the senior with some discussion over at least one meal per day. It appears to be a success.
@Klik B He's not talking about an idea but an actual lived relationship. If God is there at each moment giving you joy and love then how could you despair?
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"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not.
The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone"
Robin Williams, actor
Thomas White , thank you for this comment.
Yup
That's so sad
So True
Woman and close freind and close family memeber who just are selfish and use u instead of encouring u
this isn't just an old persons problem, there are people of all ages who spend most of their lives alone.
+3DSgeek ....very true I have spoken with young ones who are just as lonely.
+3DSgeek ...it's just old people cant afford the net or know how to work it in some cases.
+3DSgeek You're right. But, it's different. Young people have the energy, strength, and livelihood where they can go to church often and socialize, go out with friends, etc. Old people are not as energetic to get out often. And many of them don't have the money to go out on the town, gas in car, or movies, etc. So, they stay home often yet do not have anyone there to keep them company. And a dog or cat is good to have, but can never substitute another human being.
Sweet Sugar 101
100%. U hit the nail on the head. 👌 🕊 💖
yes! loneliness sinks in the ppl of all ages...I know of ppl in their 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s who are busy on whats App but do not cultivate friendship with neighbours or family members ...be your best friend and keep a pet...go for volunteer work. ..
It's not just old people. I'm middle-aged and know no one at all, often go weeks without speaking to anyone except store clerks and bus drivers.
+Christopher Tacitus
I wish you all the best
+Christopher Tacitus
+Christopher Tacitus ...its good you have the net, imagine those who have only the radio and tv that would
drive me nuts
and perhaps being infirm or obese cannot go out either. I am lost rather now too as my kids have
left home, it's not too nice, can be crippling and we only get like 5 months of decent weather if we
are blessed so it's a long horrible freezing lonely year each year. Still, we are the final generation now
to Jesus return so I try to think of that all the time.
+songster117 ...it's hard to join clubs if you aren't the mingling type and have no money to go places,
also clubs are limited and clicky groups can be vile. Also some oldies who couldn't walk so well
could have a problem. It is much easier said than done.
True no one talks about middle aged or younger people who are also alone. In cities people are lonely too. People have to have friends nearby that's the sensible way but it's hard to find friends these days where everyone is young and busy.
I’m alone but not lonely.... I enjoy my own company....my books, a good movie, puzzles....etc. No reason to be lonely. Life is good. And I’m 81.
I agree. I enjoy my pets, plants, movies, occasional shopping, exercise, coffee, other things as well.
I agree🥰
Old age loneliness is something else. Young age loneliness is not the same as old age one . Old people can be happy alone too.. but their body and health issues are a matter of concern and sometimes they loose mobility too.
I know cz i work in an old age home .
Channel 4 don't find people like you interesting, unfortunately.
@@sharmishthach685 I’m in my 60s and have some mobility issues. I think the fact that I still have health I make sure I don’t waste a minute failing to enjoy things that can bring me some interest, fun, simple pleasures like coffee, cleaning the house, cooking. But I understand what you’re saying. I think the fact that i have interests - dance, plants, pets, etc. keeps me learning and focused on things besides being alone. Talking to people such as you also helps me feel like i am in touch with others even if its only a virtual visit or conversation.
Better to be alone than with people who really don't care about you.
The HOLY BIBLE says we will suffer on this earth. The LORD GOD JESUS suffered and so will we.
If you care about your children, they will always care about you
@@unitedstatesirie7431 when ya make the DVD to what ya said let me know! And did ya ever stop to think some people dont have the funds to keep their business going? Smh.
@@jimmyfortmoller4293 that's so far from the truth!! Some adults just dont want to deal with their parents when they are elderly. Its pathetic.
@@A83-A83 depends of how they have been educated. Making kids is easy, educating them is another thing.
There is no age requirement for this feeling😞
in time true that, man
I feel alone from birth till now 😏
This, my dear is the truth
Well, they’re closer to death than we are. So the feeling of loneliness only increases by the moment...
true
I’m old and widowed, disabled, alone and loving it. (I do miss my husband.) At my age I’ve learned that people pretty much suck, myself included. :) I read a lot and do a bit of gardening. I sew. I have a sweet dog. Life is good.
Lol! Yep, people pretty much suck!!! Its tough to find someone who has a sense of humor. My husband had me rolling on the floor at times. He passed away and I am dismayed at the lack of laughter I've encountered in people.
Rachel Williams Mine too! Funniest guy I’ve ever known, just the way he looked at life and himself. I smile when i think of him. And sometimes I burst out laughing remembering things he said or did. You and i were so lucky!
@@rachelwilliams3108 but can any one fill that space that has been left by your husband
@@Mrs.TJTaylor do you still have hope of finding true love maybe theres some one that can be the one you need
I love a good conversation, but most people talk such rubbish.
Hello - byyye 💨💨 🔰🔰👓👞👢🌳🌳🌳🌻🌞🌹
I think her main struggle is not being alone but being without her husband.
I’m exactly like her. I lost my husband that I was married to for 40 years, and I miss him so very much, But! Loneliness can be deadly. When you don’t have someone to talk to, you start thinking that no one cares if you live or die. No more family, and no friends to turn to, because you’ve moved and haven’t made any friends and really, you are afraid to go out and meet people, because your protector is not there. And you don’t trust strangers. You will never truly understand loneliness unless you have been there yourself. And yes, her husband filled all of that, now he isn’t there, and loneliness sets in. It’s all one package!
@@pamelaanderson8899 I am So sorry you've lost your husband. Actually your comment helped me see the bigger picture, thank you. I've been married for only two years now and I cannot imagine my life without my husband. Your comment really made me think about what would I do if I was to loose him. Its not something you think about when you are in your 30s. You are So right about calling it the whole package. I guess when you loose your soul mate you loose a piece of your soul as well..
I bet her husband made her feel special..loved and cared for..they could talk about so many good memories together..and without him..all that is gone..my grandparents were very lucky..never ever left alone..heart breaks every day for people alone 💔 good idea maybe to live in a complex with other people in the same boat..xx
Yes I agree they were together all the time they went shopping together hard breakfast lunch and dinner together to being alone all day it must be hard for her poor dear.
Yes, losing someone you love can be devastating.
Im 73 and i have the most wonderful daughter on the face of this Earth. She will never let me go into a nursing home period the end. I thank god for het everyday. I must have done right when raising her. She loves me and im do blessed
Right on !! you were a great parent.
@@goatamongsheep4296 It is not only how you raise your kids. Some parents did excellent raising their kids and their kids love them very much, unfortunately, they also have to work to raise their own families, and is not possible for them to take care of their parents 24/7, especially if they have especial needs.
Helen Boula I’m guessing you don’t need constant care. If she works and you become paraplegic then the story will be different.
This is wonderful to hear
#35 👍. I'm nearly 60. My older sister and her husband informed me they instructed their two children to put them in a home. I like their attitude. My time is up. I don't need to tie others down. Leave me to professionals. Nevertheless, I salute ur daughter's position!
The fact that a clock is ticking in the background is terrifying.
There is an old poetry says " One's heart beats,always a reminder to him that life is minutes and seconds .
When I was young, I stayed with my grandparents. They had a loud clock, similar to the one in the video. They would sit quietly tick, tock...tick, tock...it bothered me, but if I said anything they’d tell me to go outside and play, or else be quiet.
@@Name-ps9fx sounds like your grandparents didnt like you.
@@TheMrfoxguy Sounds like they were too old to play or engage with their grandchildren. My parents were both under 52 when they became grandparents and they were always doing something with their grandchildren or driving them around to different places and having fun with them. Their last grandchild was born when they were in their late 60s and they were still very active grandparents. I guess it also depends on individual grandparents.
That needs to GO! STAT!
Breaks my heart. I too live alone. I'm in my sixties and have no one, it's very hard. My faith in Christ and my little dog help.
GJ Alameda with your Faith in Jesus and the relationship between you and him. You are never ever alone. He loves you more then you could possibly imagine. Praying for you that the love of our beautiful God saturates you and fills you up. Not one second goes by without him knowing exactly where you are and how you are feeling. He will never leave you nor forsake you, which means you are never alone.
GOD BLESS YOU =)
My Faith in Christ is everything. My JOY, Peace, not lonely at all. THE LORD JESUS is everything.
There are many of us GJ. You are not alone!! 💕💕💕
Me too. I'm 69 and live alone and can go days without seeing anyone. But although I occasionally long for company, I never feel truly alone, because the Lord Jesus is my best Friend and constant companion. He also reminds me of things out of the blue that I had completely forgotten: the other day it was: "Check the oil in your car." I dismissed it at first because I felt sure there was enough. But it kept coming to me, so I did, sure enough it was very low! I topped it up before I set out. Sometimes its; "Pay your power bill." I would think, "Oh? I thought I had!" So I'd check and sure enough I hadn't. Its the little things that Jesus does for me that lets me know He cares - and there are a great many of them - and some big things too! Like he healed me of cancer in 1992 and surgery was cancelled. Id prayed for myself and went back tot he specialist and the result was I did not need surgery. He is a wonderful friend.
Start a blog. Go to a strip club. Do Zumba. Learn a new language. Fucking bake. Write a children's book. You can do a bunch of things alone
There are many many more people than we think that are actually alone and don’t speak to anybody for long periods of time.
Exactly
Most people love to be alone. It is uncommon for people to like to be with people hence extroverted. I am unfortunately one of the extroverts and all alone. I am suffering. I would be overjoyed if introverted, but not by the virus, etc. Sorry I have intellectual disability so issues expressing self and writing.
@Amy Woehler WHY😂😂😂😂😂😋
@@birdlover6842 Many people, like you are lonely. It can be a sad, long day. I pray that you get relief from your loneliness. I find if I start make phone calls to people, I receive more calls back, usually. I'm grateful to know that I am loved and treasured by a great loving God. All can turn against me but I'll be ok if he is with me in my heart. You are not forgotten.
You’re right, and it’s incredibly sad. I am utterly alone about 98% of the time..even before the pandemic. That has made it worse than normal. It’s very strange to think that I used to always have a houseful of people and many, many friends.......but a serious illness, loss of home to fire, and a few other things, and life as I knew it was gone.....if I had a magic wand I would wave it. I thought about trying to start a friendship club in my town....just not sure if anyone would be interested. You know, just someone to play games with, talk to, walk with, dinner.....or even just sit and talk. Shoot, I would be happy just to have someone to buy groceries with! Prayers for all of the other lonely folks of all ages. I am 57.
BEING ALONE IS TOUGH
BUT BEING OLD ALONE N SICK. IS A NIGHTMARE
The sucker you are the more you are abandoned.
It's no coincidence the two happen at once.
Very true
Richard Hudak
not necessarily.. lots of centurions have lived past the actuarial age
by taking care if themselves.
Richard Hudak OKAY BOOMER
Yeah I agree with... Im 55,alone for many years....
it is not only older people..loneliness has no age.. this made me cry
thats so true i get lonley and im justover 60 but been without a man for years
But if you are young and half way decent looking and healthy there is always a glimmer of hope that you will meet someone. But when you are old, you will never meet anyone ever again.
Not true.You can meet other old people.They`re out there.
I'm old but why would I want to meet other old people? I'd rather be alone.
Why?
Loneliness is a plague. It happens to all age groups. It happens to those who just don't deserve it. Loss from death, betrayal from those you thought you could trust. I'm middle aged and alone because I stood up to abusers. We just have to carry on.
Dorothy: Enjoy your life and if that means enjoying it alone, then so be it. Do not be afraid to be alone. It can be a wonderful state. Frankly, people are selfish and cruel and being alone helps you avoid a bunch of crappy people who only care about themselves. Carry on and be happy being alone. It is not unusual to be alone and many people are and they find happiness just as much as those who are around people all the time - which would drive me crazy. Also, and this is a fact, but most people don't give a damn about you or anybody but themselves. So, rejoice - read what you want, think what you want, walk where you want and live a good, healthy life, alone.
It's not a plague, it is a choice. A plague conveys that it comes unbidden. It doesn't manifest that way in all cases.
@@nemo7782 WORD!!
101 per cent
@@nemo7782
It is certainly not a choice, at least not in my case. Betrayal by loved ones, the death of friends and relatives. Helplessness due to illness or injury. And when you get old you find out there are very few left who care, if any.
I'm 70, I've lived alone for years. There are days where I am lonely but most times I am fine. Prefer living alone then with someone who just makes you miserable
I won’t make you miserable mom, oh sorry! Can you be there for me?
I miss my grand parents..
They died when my elder brother. Was 1 yrs old
@Kathleen Quinn
Hello,hope this finds you well..Am Vin and would like us to be friends and on your free times we call video call we talk out our problems hence becoming friends ...
Thank you and be blessed
Hi, Kathleen! How are you doing? I hope you are fine and staying safe. Sometimes we all need time to feel lonely and you get to neutralize it as time goes on. Where are you from? Hope you don't mind me asking.
I have an 82 year old grandma. I know she suffers from isolation and loneliness, but she doesn't want to accept it, and everytime she always say she's happy and fine but everynight, we can hear her cries in her room.
She also has a little bit of narcissism.
How can I help her?
This brought me to tears. Bless their hearts. I’m very fortunate to be so introverted and very content with my own company. I prefer to be alone most of the time. I can’t imagine their pain. I just want to hold that ladies hand and tell her it will be alright.
Perhaps there should be more TLC or better funding for the isolated elderly or youngens for that matter. Whereby a services like the befriender could call in at least once day to say hi or good morning how are you. Loniness is painful alone is much different As Alone is more of a choice whereby loneliness happens if you get drift. Imagine those who are house bound or bed ridden. Perhaps family members if un able to visit could call in daily just a puick one, Hi Mum dad auntie uncle or grandma.grandpa U.ok? "Just saying hello loveU bye Idk" something like that. Perhaps could ease some.of the pain, that loneliness brings. Id to.think that perhaps Ive cheered some.one up When I go shopping I often say hello :)to people idk. Many of which are elderly Nd they are quite chatty back to me, who knows maybe there the ones who live alone):
But it won't be.
If people can't take time out of their precious day to check up on their own living-alone parent or grandparent then It just doesn't get any frigging Sadder than That! I wish I lived near these lovely old people. It would be an honor to visit with them and hear all about their lives. What excellent company and great stories to be heard. It's crushing to witness the sadness and longing in their voices. We have turned into a very self-absorbed and cold world. Too busy posting on social media and the like to give a Damn about anybody else. Very SAD indeed!!!
I work very hard and I put took care of three children by myself I had no time to myself I had a friend and I was married at one time my husband died and then I had a friend I had supposed to marry him but it didn't work out because I just about pick the same man that I married and had three children from him and I didn't want to get into that situation again so I work work work until my children will finish with college I worked a few years after that and I really didn't need anybody that was worth spending my time with our time is so precious and I'm a very giving person giving of my time of my kindness of conversation and sometimes you can find people that they are not deserving of a kind person so it's better just to cut them loose and do by yourself be by yourself and love yourself and that's what I do am I lonely no am I alone never because I have God his son Jesus and I'm never alone someone is always calling me I don't know if as I get older well I have that much company I don't have a lot of company in my house because I don't cook like I used to so I'm very happy because I have people around me as a child I had people around me as a teenager I helped my mother raised her to not raise our children but take care of her children and I never had a life of my own because I was always doing so now I appreciate the Meltdown I appreciate my time alone I appreciate I can go to my bathroom whenever I want to I appreciate no one wearing my clothes so these are all the things that I appreciate and I am not lonely I live alone but I am not lonely
One thing that I want to tell everyone is that you have to thank God if you believe in a god that he has given you whoever you were with for the time that you were with them and think of the happy times think of the times that you laugh your smile how you might have loved him or her and that's how I get along sometime to I try not to think about the bad times and I just thank God that he gave me the strength to get through the bad times and that I can tell others or younger people yes we did at bad times everything wasn't good all the time but we live through it it wasn't easy all the time but we lived through it
It's so painful to see her crying from within.
really...
It is. Its a good thing to have empathy for others.
Hello, there! How are you doing? Yes, Elderly people have so much to share with us and that is why we also need to show them the love and care they need in their life. Where are you from? I hope you don't mind me asking. I love cats and dogs. Do you like pets around when you are lonely?
@@prestonsmith9824 hello.. I'm from India. I'm good. how are you doing? And yes I love pet animals.
@@bodhitsal7638 Okay, that's good, where in India are you from?
I love being alone. After living in a toxic relationship for many years, living alone has been a wonderful blessing. I would never consider having another relationship. I can do what I want to do when ever I want to do it. I can pursue the things that I truly enjoy. I can go so far as to say that getting married was the single worst mistake of my life.
Oh Honey, don,t let him do that. He stunted your life. U r missing so much. Go see a psych..
I went through the same experience and eventually realized that being partnered up is too confining for me. It's far too much work and I tend to attract possessive types who become emotionally suffocating. I'm happy to go it alone, without someone constantly breathing down my neck. When I need some contact with people I'll grocery shop, stop in at Dollar Tree, chat with neighbors or go online.
@@shellanon4212 .....my ex brother in law's first wife found a bf not three years into the marriage. She divorced and remarried immediately and left behind a stunned and reeling ex husband, along with his family of origin. He did seek therapy to discover why his ex did this to him. My advice would have been to just ask her, since only she could explain her motives, and she may very well have. But this entire toxic family of his only sees and hears what they choose to. Much later, her reasons for dumping him became crystal clear to me but I kept them to myself.
Your so right.
@@msr1116 So why did she dump him?
I dont mind living alone. Once in a while , a family member or old friend stops by or call . What I do miss is hugging. A real sqeezy hug, we all need them.
That is true! I haven't had a hug in 6 months. I miss a normal hug too.
@@lilywhite1481 here, hugs 🤗 kisses 😘 😘
I'll be your friend
@@JahannamHellfire ok then can we talk on WhatsApp??
If you move to Ojai, there is a guy that stands at the Farmer's Market offering free hugs. People go once a week for a hug.
I'm 70 years, living alone by choice and loving it. But I'm very young for my age and very healthy. I know how blessed I am. But I also feel for the elderly who are sad and lonely and have no one to care for them. I'm very active and that makes a huge difference. I'm real involved in emailing, texting, talking on the phone, and projects around the home. I've also been called to Christian service and am still very active with others, teaching and counseling and giving. My mom passed away this year, who was living with me for the past 3.5 years. Although I had lived alone for 24 years prior to that. My mom would have been 99 years this Oct 2020. She was very mobile and mentally alert. She took care of all of her own needs with the exception of cooking and laundry. We have great genes and my siblings are all over 70 years. We're all very active and healthy. I do thank God for good health and an alert mind. When we have so much, we need to give thanks every day.
Helene D,you deserve a better man 😍😍😊😊🙏🙏🤙
I'm with you. I made a choice about my life after my second divorce. I live alone, I'm healthy, I take supplements, probiotics, healthy foods and exercise. I find people who share my interests which is filmaking and webshows, and I've never looked back. Too many people think you can only be happy with other people constantly around. Not me! I like my own company, have a great relationship with creator and I'm good! You can't sit around feeling sorry for youself and not taking care of your health! On my 71st birthday I was on set with my cast and crew having a lunch celebration for my birthday! Now, that's the way to age. I'm 72 now, and I do not take one medication!!!!
What a beautiful lady
Health is our 1 happiness in life be thankful if we are healthy
You are wealthy with that as it is...you sound fulfilled..stay happy and content just as you are ! !
After watching this I applied to volunteer at LBFE. Instead of saying how sad this is, get up and do something about it. I found it sad, and instead of feeling sorry, I decided to volunteer to help these people.
I Like ButteredToast I do that too in my country !
Well I don't know what country you live in, but I tried to volunteer to visit older people, but the hoops that you have to jump through just put people off - so many checks, references, etc. etc.,
I realise that in these days (sadly) great care has to be taken with this sort of thing, but it has just gone over and above, and people just won't volunteer anymore because it is a deep invasion of their own privacy, you are made to feel like a criminal, when in fact you just want to help.
I, and others I know, just gave up.
That's a good idea
Does this organisation exist in N Ireland.?Thank you in advance.
I eat out, cheap at family restaurants. They treat me like family. but sad. all over. This not a quality of life
Not just the old. Many an abused child out there.
Since the age of 6, I too know what it's like to be alone.When a mother or father fail you as a child, you will always know the feeling of loneliness.
I grew up the same way honey , I'm sending you a hug , 💕 can you fill me .😘💕✌️
Same for me:raised by mother alone but recieved double love of her 🙏🏻but one of the parents missing scars a child forever
Tropic-Al
yes.. I wonder how a lot of us survived as small children.. many parents were not present either in the father or mother role.. and s a lot of us had to raise ourselves.. besides many being cruel.. abusive and mean.
You only always feel loneliness if you love to play the victim. I was abused as a youth, raised by a divorced mother that had very little coping, people or maternal skills. And this was in a time that child abuse and parental alienation weren't talked about. Probably some of the wrong things I did as a teenager were lashing out at the bad hand life dealt me.
But by the time your in your mid to late 20s it's time to quit playing the victim and start playing the survivor.
@@snakechrmr6398 Well done I say.
It’s a society problem. Unacceptable. The older people deserve the BEST. They did everything for us.
thank you! I believe that we are getting what we deserve and sometimes it is not pleasant!
Nope they pushed their own children away, that’s their choice
we would not be who we are if it wasn't for them im scared of this
and we are all going to be there one day!
@@kaiserchief9319 It is not always 'you reap what you sow'. I have always been good to people and raised my children with much love and attention. However, now they never have time for me and I hardly ever see them. Only once per year or so.
I miss my parents. Tears flowing tonight.. take care out there.
Rock.. - So do I.
I miss my parents together...tears
Have things improved??
Rock Alliance....
I understand. I'm very sad and miss my parents also... especially my dearest best friend in the whole world....my sweet mother. We were very close, and in her final years, I became her caregiver. So, I was present when she left this world.
Life is hard, then gets super tough. I would have probably taken my life by now if it wasn't for Jesus Christ. Praise God He saved my soul in 1990....and I've never looked back. It's why I'm still here, after losing my wonderful mother. He is my hope, my life, and my strength....and He is my reason for living....my life is different now....losing my mother knocked me off my life's orbit, and slung me way out into unknown territories. But, I'm still here.... because of Jesus.
And, yes, I miss both of my parents so much... especially my mother. I understand where you are at. God's love to you and Shalom. 💖🕊️💖
LALO LION Me to mum went 14 years ago and Dad last year I spent all my life with them and work at home on the farm and now on my own I walk around the farm without them like a lost lamb I am never unhappy and the memories are always good ones but the loneliness is the true killer and the uncertainty of the future which make things hard and the locals think you are fine but they have no idea what it is like but I go out to work 7 days a week just for the company ❤️
I am 83, and I have found my faith in Jesus has helped me so much. I keep my mind active studying the Bible and praying. I find word games and puzzles keep my mind active. We cannot give in to it as far as possible.
Good👍
Find faith in allah
@@terrorgaming459simply god...not important the religion....if you write in english just say god...if you speak to a arabic you tube say allah.....sorry for my english....sonia....
Hello Jeanne greetings from 🇺🇸 am robert chatting from Baltimore Maryland I could be a friend trust me I mean no harm
Hello, Jeanne! How are you doing? Yes, Elderly people have so much to share with us and that is why we also need to show them the love and care they need in their life. Where are you from? I hope you don't mind me asking. I love cats and dogs. Do you like pets around when you are lonely?
I am old and alone and I enjoy it. For now. Time for conversation with my soul.
AMEN!
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Hello
Absolutely. The best time - your thoughts can go in any direction :) and they do. You can do whatever, whenever, wherever.
I’m old & enjoy being alone. When you have the Lord you’re never really alone.
Amen!
After a lifetime of dealing with people and all their nonsense, sometimes you need some alone time.
SO TRUE!!!! Amen. Ask God to come into your life your home, you’ll be amazed with the things he will reveal to you!!! Start with a simple prayer ... Our Father.. then pick up the Bible and read the Word of The Most High and his promises. Have faith and BELIVE . God bless!
@@lisaellis2593 amen 🙏🏽
Still find you someone to live with ?
You know whats worse? Being with someone you can’t stand or having to be a caretaker.
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I would rather be completely alone ( though it can be painful ) than to be with someone I'm unhappy with .
I agree with your statement.
Or,having an abusive caregiver. People who are just after your money or your possessions.,family included.
What’s wrong with being a caretaker? Not only are you not by yourself and alone, but you are caring for someone else which actually should make you feel better about yourself.
@@Livetoeat171 that sounds a bit like codependency, but I agree with your general view.
my heart goes out to them..... my husband left our home for “someone he liked better” ten years ago..... Am still not used to being alone, now our children have their own lives. I long for the rush to get dinner on the table and loved faces coming through the door, but that will not happen any more. Fortunately
my son found me a companion, Alfie.....a dog who is now my shadow and comes everywhere with me. I would recommend older people to get a little dog....it doesn’t have to be a puppy, many older dogs just need someone to love them and keep them company, as do many older people. Vet fees in UK can be helped through charities, it is a wonderful thing to see two oldies from different species looking after each other, a win win situation, for both. Alfie makes me smile, gives me hugs and makes me go out for walks, all wonderful things.
There it is . . . .
Hey Julie, have you looked into befriending in the UK? It might be worth looking into if you are interested in meeting new people! Just be sure to choose a company who do background checks on their volunteers
Yes, good advise Julie. I have two pups here (not mine but I inherited them). They give me something to care for now that all my 1st family is gone and children get thru their own lives-jobs, family, their own health etc.
God bless you, Julie.
Good 4 u
There’s a big difference between alone and lonely. I’m alone a lot, but I don’t feel lonely- I like it.
same with me
Those who worked witht he public (sany kind of sales work, P.R. work, etc) love their solitude on weekends and after retirement. Most people have "baggage" and I don't want any of it.
Amen
ALLINKNOTS
that's good to hear.. me too..
Me to ...I just mix with people when i work ...the rest mostly alone and enjoy and happy ...
She's only been alone the last two years- many of us have been lonely our whole lives even surrounded by people.
I have been a loner most of my lifetime.Alone in old age is entirely different failing health more years behind then in front.😢
@@michaelbaldwin5495 yea, doesn't seem right. We have been "robbed"(?) of our legacies. Basically
orphans.
That's a different matter
@@leannesmith5818 Not totally- more contextual.🧐
But it's not the same thing is it? If you are lonely when you are surrounded by people you can make a choice to reach out to those around you. But these people, including me, have no one around to reach out to. We are forced to be alone unless someone reaches out to us. Let's face it, it isn't popular to reach out to irrelevant old people is it?
I’m only 22 years old and I’ll go weeks with out speaking
When your so called friends are seemingly like your enemies. Dumping them and being alone with God is the next best thing. I talk to God all the time. I've never heard him say anything but I'm finding out that God is a God of action, and not words. I guess words are cheap. Everything is good!
@JCT I made all my money from poker, sports gambling, stock markets and smart real estate buying and selling... I didn't speak to barely anybody outside of my family up until I was 26.
I talk to myself all the time. It gets odd when I do get out in public and do it. :)
Me too.
I am 30. All girls rejected me. SO alone. All day. No friends.
Never had a kiss, a hug.
I am also uneducated, why have almost no money.
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 I'm 34, I am financially successful, have had a few girlfriends, and I. I hate myself everyday for how blind I was in the past with women, and letting them leech off me without ever showing any real love back. Now I hate everybody and everything to the point I am just gambling every day for entertainment.... whether I win or lose thousands everyday, I don't care.. I have 0 desire to even try to get a girlfriend naturally, or even paying for one anymore..I have No desire to ever try and meet any male friends either.. Don't think getting with a woman who is with you because of your resources is going to make you happy in the long run dude
....An old saying I made up, “I'd rather be alone on a desert island, than be alone in a crowd.“
Iright iget that. I been in groups where the friends are with others. Your still alone.
@@meredithbenjamin6694 .....yeah, my friend, it sucks, time to find new friends is what I do. And there's nothing wrong with me btw. Just arrogant self conceited people out there.
@@nickfriend3629 yes thank you. 🤗🤗🤗
@@meredithbenjamin6694 🥰
True words. Thriving and densely populated citys are well known for breeding lonely people.
Margaret is dressed so beautifully! Classy lady.
And with Covid I am sure that seniors are feeling lonelier than ever
:(
I sure am affected. I have smothering anxiety and sadness.
Yes this is very sad
😔😢
@@birdlover6842 Oh my dear, please don't be sad, my heart becomes heavy when others hurt. I just want you to know that somewhere someone is probably thinking of you, someone that you have impacted in some way, shape, or form, and you don't even know it! Our mature population is often so gratuitously scrutinized, it's not fair! I just want you to know that I love you and I am sending my love and prayers your way. Please smile, although you might be by yourself there are angels with you. And who knows, quarantine might be over sooner than you think and we can finally engage in proper human interaction. Don't lose hope in human nature, just yet. God bless, my love. - A sixteen year old girl
In retirement homes, they are locked in and I am locked out.
The older I get the more I realize that loneliness is my future...
Yep, i understand.
Hello watts greetings from 🇺🇸 am robert chatting from Baltimore Maryland I could be a friend trust me I mean no harm
Yes, its better to end it all before it gets unbearable....
@aafiq_ badblood you will have to end it all before you reach that stage.....
@@snjvrd shut up
i visit a older neighbour few times a week, we have a good chat and cup of tea, i feel better for my visits, and the lady i visit has a smile by the time i leave.
keep up the good work! many people need it now.
Chris Mullan Bless you.
Chris Mullan I did that too at an old lady's home, she was so happy every time i met her, now she's with the Lord, she was alone & poor but she was always so joyful !
Chris Mullan >> I agree, I do the same thing...
Your awesome.👍
I have an 87 yrs old friend. Most of her friends are dead. Two of her three children are dead. Her now only daughter has not spoken and visited her in nearly ten years. We go out at least twice a week. We speak on the phone every day. We like spending time together. My mum is no more. She is like a parent figure for me. We complete one another. She needs me, but I need her.
Michelle B I am glad you are helping your friend. God will bless you👌👍
@@amorypeace - I am really lucky to have her in my life. She is a mother figure in my life. M'y mum left 11 years ago last week. Still missing her so bad.
Michelle B that's not her daughter coz u can't spend all that long time without visiting your only and lonely mom no way
@@lutwamafrank1882 - Sadly yes. This is real on 2018. On her case she misses her daughter si much and there is just no way I can replace her. I can only be there. My mum had to be in a specialized center. My dad and I were there everyday to every other day. Out of the 100 persons on that floor she was one of the very few having visitors (less than 5%). Go find out, ask, read. It is unreal. I did not know of this situation. Not everyone is like you and that is unfortunate.
Michelle B some our parents wish they had a miscourage coz wat is that thing that can make me forget myself parents esp mom .but thanks for comforting her
I'm Helene, who posted here 3 yesrs ago. I'm almost 74 years now. I'm just as active and so thankful for all of the beauty and blessings in my life. To Oscar here, who commented to me, thank you kindly. I feel that as people get older, if they can relate well with a mate, and they meet a kind one, it's never too late to remarry. I have a
a friend whose dad remarried at 86 years. I think it's wonderful. And also beneficial in the times we live in. I'd like to also see people in their 80's and 90's live in a senior building, if they feel too alone. I moved into a senior property almost 3 years ago. It's secure and we look out for each other and have nice activities. We are well cared for. I believe that is what lonely seniors need. There are senior HUD properties with very low rent. I'm in one. My rent is amazingly low... God bless each dear one who visits here. I pray your latter days will be sweet.🌹
You’re lucky to have found a place like that.
68, retired, debt free, two cats, a French bulldog and a cockatoo. I'm a semi-introvert as I don't like crowds. Yes I'm alone but a lot happier that those trapped in miserable marriages or relationships. I focus on all positive things and never anything negative. Works all the time.
@@muffs55mercury61 You’re not alone. You’re living in Wild Kingdom.
@@sharonsparks900 Well in a sense, yes.
@@muffs55mercury61 how do the mammals like the screeches of the cockatoo?
I'm a woman, single and Introverted. I think I'll be okay being alone. I enjoy my space and time with the Lord Jesus. ❤
You are never alone when you have Jesus!! ❤
Me too... Everyday is reflection day..
Get help.
hello I feel the same
Same here! To me it's far lonelier to be in the company of people you have nothing in common with or don't feel connected to. I always say that if you don't like living alone you're just not doing it right.
Loneliness is a state of mind. I grew up in a family of 7 and felt alone. Parents worked 7 days per week and there was no happiness just neediness. No love, trust or security. Now I prefer to be alone since I don't trust anyone. Sadly, my family are those I trust the least. I choose not to be a hypocrite any longer.
Oh I know that...
I ditch half of my family too
Good riddance
My family isn't close and I have friends and neighbors who I like better. Everytime any relative comes to visit they always want to borrow money. 💰
Exactly
@@purpleviolet207 😅😂😂
I am heart broken but they all think it funny
Am 56. Feel like a society reject. God bless all those who feel alone and lonely.
💗💗
Norma McManus Blessings 🙏👆
I can related. I'm 26 years old and people who I thought was my friends has forgotten me. Big virtual hug for you 💜
God bless you too my friend💛
Norma....
You are naturally funny! Made me smile and bare my teeth!
You are not a society reject! You still in your 50's? Spring chicken!
Oh...and your name...Norma. That's the sweet, precious name of my own beloved mother....she was very, very sweet, kind and a natural clown....she loved to "make 'em laugh!" I think you're the same way...your comment about feeling like a reject made me laugh! You are a lovely gift to all here, and I'm positive God has blessed you with a rich sense of humour! Carry on, my friend. 🌺🕊️🌺
Loneliest I've ever been was married to the wrong person. I.adore being alone now.
i agree!
So you chose wrong and you double down? Why not chose correctly?
@@singingchef23 Apparently a lot of people choose wrong since there are so many second marriages and divorce. Besides it's not about choosing wrong ,we live a long time and people change. My grandparents were married for 50 years and they both had affairs so there's no easy answer
I'm glad you're happy 😊.
I totally agree!!
True story: I was reckless in my early 20s. No sense of respect for anyone other than myself. I was selfish, bitter and filled with animosity towards those who wronged me. I moved to an apartment building and next door was this elderly woman. Probably in her early 80s. She greeted with a smile and every morning she would sit outside and say good morning to anyone that walked by. I would start my day at 7am and come back at 5pm and this woman would still be there. She asked for my name and she would always "good morning!" and my name afterwards. A month later we would start talking and I'd make small talk. One night, after a night of partying, I went home and saw my neighbor, this old lady through her kitchen window and she was still awake and watching tv. There was nobody there but her. I knocked her on door, she opens the door and I asked her why she's up so late. The first thing she said was "nobody has ever knocked on this door for 8 months". I laughed and I told her I was just curious as it is late. She asked if I was hungry, I said "yes, I am going to make some cereal when I go to my kitchen". She laughed about my cereal statement. She says she made dinner for herself earlier but could not finish. She asked if I wanted some food. I said ok. She told me to come in and eat on the dining table. She prepared left over meatloaf and potatoes and to this day - that was the best meatloaf dinner i have had. As I was eating, she asked where I was from. I asked where she was from and we basically spent 30 minutes talking about her family history. She has 3 children and they live out of state. They only visit once a year. Her husband used to work at a mill after fighting in the pacific in WW2. She was a kindergarten teacher and retired in the 1990s. Her husband passed away 30 years ago. I'd look at the pictures on the wall, her family, grandkids, places she used to visit. She spent most of her days sitting outside and watching the news and old shows at night. I thanked her for the meal. When I walked out the door she said to me these words "This has been a wonderful night. Thanks for stopping by, come by again soon". I went home, I sat on the couch and realized something - The world actually has some nice people who care about others. Each week this old lady would make me these amazing cookies. She would also sometimes bring me over food (all my money went to rent and i was practically living on cereal, bread , peanut butter and ramen). I finally got a chair and sat next to her out front of the apartment and we would have saturday morning coffee. I was even lucky to get more food for sunday brunch as she made them! She made coffee on this percolator (which made really good old school coffee). Then one day, the ambulance came and picked her up. Weeks went by and she has not come back. A woman and a man stopped at her place and started moving things. I went out and asked who they were and she said they were her children from NY. They suspiciously asked me who I was and how I know her and I told them I am her neighbor, I have coffee with her every weekend. They looked at me and said "Yeah, thats strange.. my mom does not do that with anyone. You sure its her?" They jokingly laughed and said that was not her at all. I asked what happened to her and they told me she got hospitalized, had a stroke and disabled with 50% memory loss. I asked which hospital and I told them that If I showed up, she will know who I am and that I was telling the truth. Surprisingly, they invited me that evening to see her. The son opens the door of her mothers room. She was sleeping. I pulled up a chair and sat near her. Her son was yelling out loud to her mom to wake up. I didn't like his gesture of how she woke her up. I just had a bad vibe towards him. She woke up and I was the first set of eyes she looked at. She raised her left hand and held mine. She said in a slurred speech "How are you" and said my name afterwards. The children were shocked. Pure shock on their face. I had a little smirk seeing their faces. The son said she hasn't said much since her stroke. She started talking and talking but were all slurred that I could not understand most of what she said. I got the ok to visit her whenever I can. I'd come by and have coffee (but no coffee with her). Her children gave her the family album and saw pictures of her when she was young and I complimented how beautiful she is - then and now. She really was very pretty in her 20s. Her husband was a handsome man and this man had that grit look. For a mill worked, the man looked like hed been working steel for years. Her speech started to get better and I would help her pronounce the words. Three weeks later, she got the ok to be on assisted living. Her kids found an ok assisted living place. I was allowed to visit of course. 4 months later, I found out she passed. She had another stroke. The son stopped by and dropped off something for me. Old books, pictures, really old furniture and decor. Last but not least, i got the darn percolator to make coffee. I said my thank you and the son told me to make sure you clean the percolator and open it and clean it well before you use it and for me to wait until the weekend. I waited 4 days to make a cup of coffee (it was on a weekend). I opened the percolator and there are two pieces of paper. One was a check and the other was a note. Out of respect, I checked the note first. It says "Mom wanted to make a coffee and baked goods shop back in the 60s. The book contains recipes from what she was going to have for her shop. The shop never came about because she had kids and could not open the shop. I am sure you know what to do. Thanks for everything. You made her last year a wonderful one". I read the check and it was for $30,000. The check says "For the coffee shop". I found out she inherited a fortune after her fathers passing. A trust fund was given to the kids.The kids decided to give me this gift (which was a big deal, the kids were really wealthy and did not trust anyone outside of the family circle). 1 year later, I opened "Black Forest Cafe" in california. It thrived and learned about how to run a business, trial and error and made some of the best pastries, cake and home cooked meals. I made all my coffee in percolators. If you are reading this, your success to best coffee is using a percolator. The business stayed opened for years. I eventually sold the business just right before the 2008 recession. I gave the $30k back to the family but they refused and gave it back to me. Instead, I kept the money and saved to plan on opening another coffee shop.
Bill, what an amazing and touching story! I am so glad you knocked on her door and got to know her. You kept her company made her feel like someone cared. You did good with the $30k! You fulfilled her dream to open the coffee shop. It’s so good her kids recognized how important you were to her. She left this world being touched by you. And you became a better person for it. Blessings.
Great story 👌
This story cuts deep. Thanks for sharing.
Wow
BEAUTIFUL SOUL THANK YOU FOR SHARING ❤
Heaven forbid their family members should dedicate a bit of their precious time to bringing some happiness and company to their lonely lives. I remember, when my grandfather was alive and lonely, I used to visit him often and get him to tell me about the most interesting and memorable events in his long colorful life. Talk about some incredible family and otherwise life stories; better than most novels around. That experience turned out to be among of the most enjoyable, meaningful, and life-enriching moments of both of our lives; and I still relive them with great fondness. We all have a lot to share with, and learn from, our elders - they are a wealth of knowledge, wisdom, and experience, abandoned in the age of virtual reality.
I am 61 now. I have enjoyed the company of older people all my life. I wish more people were like us. I find that people look through me often as I were already a ghost. Young people today don't value older people nowadays. They want us to go away and die.
your comment is one sided because you don't know if their family tries to get them out. A lot of older people want to stay caged in their house and comfort zones. Even people as young as 60 start to become rigid and anti social. They don't want to try anything new. Everything is 'in my day' so if they have that mindset and want companions on their times they have to wait until someone can sit in their house with them. We can barely sit in our own homes because of work and kids and responsibilities.
TRUTH every word i agree with you god bless you
My husband is ill and won't get better. He really wishes our daughter could be here. She feels badly, but her husband doesn't want to move near us.
@@LaDeeDah Sorry..not all ppl over 60 are rigid and anti social..Lol,I travel on my own (Dream holiday in Santorini in a few weeks) and always meet lovely ppl, I love going out whenever I get chance,were not all anti social.
Many older ppl have no family or friends to spend time with and many older ppl don't feel safe going out alone with so much crime 'out there'.
If you go abroad especially to Spain ect,older ppl are out and about in the evenings because they feel safe.
Why dont these two meet for tea,surely someone could arrange that
As a society we should prevent this from happening.
As people we have a duty to find out who we are and develop ourselves while younger.
Every person should live for some time on their own while younger.
These people are dependent on others and cannot live by themselves so we should be able to care for them
Same as with homeless people, it shouldn’t be happening, care of others needs to be our priority as a society
There must be thousands of cells of loneliness spread around the country, maybe even within walking distance of eachother. I would like to see town authorities, and communities and neighbourhoods addressing this. There has to be a way of easing the state of being alone for those who are suddenly plunged into social and emotional isolation, particularly those who are living well into old age. No one should have to endure loneliness, that is ridiculous in our already overpopulated societies!!
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Because that would be logical.
@@marktwain380 Grief and loss is part of it. Reality is tough. However, it has to be said that people choose to wallow in self-pity a lot of the time. There are things you can do whilst you have your mind and ability to get around. Two lonely people, but they sit by themselves and don't meet up? Join groups or seek to live elsewhere. If you don't do something then how can the problem be solved?
I'm 87, wife passed 10 years ago and I live alone. My children all grown up and visit occasionally, my grandchildren at the same time. Those are great moments, icing on the cake! To me, loneliness is a state of mind that can be neutralized by enjoying your own company, creating a circle of like friends for getting together once in awhile, joining an organization that you enjoy, keeping healthy both physically and mentally, getting a good night sleep and eating healthy. The group of men I associate with volunteer in the community to make items like bird houses, outdoor furniture, benches, serve meals at a local public school, do projects for non-profit organizations and service clubs, etc. They buy the materials, we manufacture and assemble/paint/stain/whatever. We enjoy giving back to the community because it benefits the community. This gives us a sense of worth and allows comradeship among our friends.
The key is to not stay at home gradually deteriorating both physically and mentally. As individuals it's our personal responsibility to get off our butts and become involved. Sitting at home pining away is not helpful.
Well said....if one actually enjoys other people and is lonely.
Well said. We do all things through Christ who strengthens us. I hope you are fine and doing great. Just a brethren who support the elderly and create ways to make them feel okay all time. Do you have any elderly who need help and support?
I’m single
You can tell she genuinely loved her husband and misses him. Not very common these days.
I love living alone and being alone too. As long as lave a beloved dog or cat next to me , I’m good to go..I like people but only on my terms. But when I’ve had enough of them. I must retreat back home again to recharge myself. Feeling lonely must be awful. .I’ blessed to have never been that way as I can remember....
Animals are so lovely
I couldn't be happy at all without my animal companions...God bless them!!!!!!
@Dominick Bundy, I am exactly the same way. I don't get what being lonely means....never did.
I love being alone I have always gone to movies alone I don't have to worry if your with someone they
If they like the movie most of my life I have enjoyed my moments alone
trudy karim Me too !
I'm alone I'm 86...I pass the time on you tube....reading...I'm an avid reader always have been. I do watch tv if there's something I want to c. Not just mindless stuff...in summer I walk. Cant as much as I used to...I have couple friends. Younger than I. They're mostly 60s. I have sisters in my faith. If I need ride I can get it... it relatives I seldom hear from..its sad. On summer I sit on balcony a lot. I've always enjoyed a front porch now I'm on 9th fl..I still enjoy looking at traffic and people. There's a community em in my senior tower but I usually dont mingle...it can be like a small town...u have be careful. Yes I do wish I'd hear from relatives more...but they're not responding single for my happiness...I try to set goals. Like one wk I plan to clean drawers or closet. I find things to do. But yes..I'm tired and wish I were young again lol. But this is where we all wind up. Waiting just waiting..dont ever forget. Your creator...He knows. Ask him for what u want
Virginia, I hope you are doing well. How about a little joke? A man walks into the Dr. with a carrot rammed way up his nose. The Dr. looks up and says, Oh my God, you're not eating properly! Keep taking care of yourself, and staying current - I noticed you used lol, good for you!
Hello Virginia greetings from 🇺🇸 am robert chatting from Baltimore Maryland I could be a friend trust me I mean no harm
Hello, there! How are you doing? Greetings from Preston hope you are fine and staying safe. Where are you from? and hope you don't mind me asking. Just checking on you and hope you stay safe too. 🕊️🕊️✌️✌️🤗🤗
Some of us enjoy being alone. I can't stand most people.
You got it!
I talk to myself in the bathroom at 26. So I won't be THAT lonely by their age.
FuzzyCholo >> 😄😄😄, your right, I do that all the time, special to the TV...
Lol !!!
Me too an am 28
FuzzyCholo lol lol don't answer 😂
That’s so sad. Loneliness is the curse of modern society.
It’s always been a problem.
People need someone to tell their secrets to...or just to love.
If she has a granddaughter where are her children. Im 71. My grandparents were first generation Europeans and few of the elders lived alone. They either lived with family or had family within walking distance. This is serious problem for modern society.
It so very very sad to see old persons so alone at the end of their life. I am LatinAmerican, our culture is family and friend oriented. We are always on the look out of our old family members. It is not well accepted socially to send the elderly to a home, unless it is absolutely necessary because of a specific family problem. I am a widow, I am 75 years old, when my husband passed away, immediately one of my children came to live with me. My son comes to lunch every sunday with his children or takes me out for lunch. When my mother became old, and she was very indipendent, I moved to an apartment in a building next to hers, she had the keys to my apartment, my husband and children loved it, and she would come every morning to read our daily newspaper and have a cup of tea. Thank God we are always concerned with our older family members.
I thought this sounded like u Tita. It,s me, Shilo.
I am glad u have family who care.
I do not.
Shell anon . Hi sweetheart!!!! I am sorry your family is not lovable with you, as you, such a wonderful person, deserve. How are you doing???
@@titalinda8515
I am fine. More snow today but the last 2 ft. Mostly melted.
Did u get your mobility back? Are you all better?
I thought you were from the states Tia. Your English is xcellent.
I did get a text from my daughter on my birthday yesterday. Am 74! I am in the far north in Idaho she lives near Sacramento CA.
That's beautiful
@@shellanon4212 . Hi sweetheart, I just saw your messages again. How are you doing Shilo? How has this awful pandemic affected you? It’s my birthday today, 76 years old.... wow.... never expected to be this old, but things are alright, thank God. Hope to hear from you. Much love!
This is why community is so important. We have let community slide over recent decades. People don't connect with their neighbours much any more. It's important to do it though. The lonely elderly people in this film are just examples, they are a drop in the ocean. In your community right now, there will be people like this. Alone, struggling. We can all help though. A visit, a kind word, a favour. Offer to tidy their garden, take in their shopping, ask if they need anything fixing, chat to them for 5 minutes. All very simple things we can all do with very little effort, but things like this make a huge life-changing difference to these people. Look out for each other.
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I'm in my 50s. I have been alone most of my life. My wife to be left me because someone told here they were meant to be together. I'm glad. My dad died 4 years ago. My mother died this past February 2020. I quit my job in Colorado (it was a great job) to help my mother who couldn't take care of herself. Now I work at Eagle's Trace Retirement Home as a maintenance tech II. I fix just about everything in those buildings. At the same time I get to talk to these old people who live there. They just want to talk. Something to pass time by. Doing this helps me understand what I will be facing in the near future.
Nah
Actually,I live in a very christian community and moved due to toxic abusive relationship and even with that not one here has ever end me a helping hand. Its odd but true. I've always done that,offered a hand to those around me.This summer I thought to try to lend a hand to my neighbor and they wrote me not to do that again lolol They seemed to not like me soI thought that may break the ice but it just made things worse.
My mom is 73 yrs old and lives with me. Shes divorced and has noone else. Theres no way I would leave her to be alone and fend for herself. I cant believe theres people in the world that leave their old relatives let alone parents/grandparents to survive on their own.
I guess that is one way to deal with her. She lucked in with you "looking after her."
I am not needing anyone to "fend" for me, 73 is not "old" unless she is either sickly or has not cared for her health and well being. I did not throw my husband away - he died many years ago and I then faced life with courage and enjoy the so called challenges.
There is a whole system out here that caters to older people and if one is normal and healthy it's great. We do not need any more tax payer's money taken for unnecessary public servants to get cushy jobs pretending to "Look after lonely people". It has to stop.
Perhaps your Mother is too dependent, you say she "has no-one else", that's odd because she has known many hundreds of people during her life and they are all out there still. Getting old is NOT the problem that some people are led to believe. Getting 'free' money or manipulating others is the fashion and that is wrong.
bbygoly2, yes,, that is the way it should be
Your mother is among the blessed. Your loyalty is remarkable.
My aunt's husband died and she moved in with her son and his wife. I figured she would. Sh is in her 80s and has never lived alone. Her daughter died in her 50s in 2015, and now her husband just died on Christmas Day:((( her son is all she has left.
Your mother is so lucky having you. You have a heart full of love. Great done!
And yet everybody avoiding talking to old people that's a shame.
You are right, An older gentleman lives up the road from me, I was walking by one day with my dogs and he loved them, so I will make it a point to go past with my dogs and stop by and speak with him more often. Maybe I will even allow him to keep one of my dogs over night sometime if he wants too. for company.
We even already started not to speak people in our own age it's not just old.
Sufi Baba
I do not avoid talking to old people.. I welcome their wisdom and life experience they share.
Try living with 91 year old 24x7,
From the time I was a little girl I talked to the elderly and befriended them. I was an old soul and now am a old soul.
I know that a pet cannot replace the warmth and comfort of a human, but it helps a lot. Having a cat waiting at home is a great comfort, and once a bond has been formed with a furry creature with awareness, they become like family. Even a little bird can fill that lonely gap, if you allow it to. Animals do need some care and attention, and for some elderly people they may find that bit too much to cope with, but if they are able, especially if there's someone willing to help if needed, it can be such a blessing.
Hello, Sheila! How are you doing? Yes, pets can't replace humans for sure. What is the name of your cat? I love cats and dogs too.
I hope you have a backup plan for your pet if something should happen to you, and someone to check in on you daily so that your pet doesn't starve to death if you should die.
Oh I don't know. I love my 2 dogs more than any other human save one....my son.
jeez, ticking of that clock sure doesnt help that situation
Actually, ticking clocks are comforting.
I was thinking the same, that tic toc has got to go
I love ticking clocks but this comment really made me laugh
Dubbed on for effect, I imagine.
greenleafkratom Just to give a little sense of the harsh reality.
I am Seventy Have the Internet and Love You Tube I do not Like People taking up my Thinking Time, I only like them If I am in the Mood to Talk , I love my own Company Which I am Grateful For
It's about having the choice.
Good for you but there are those that prefer human contact more..
Christine Davis too bad relationships and company have been replaced by technology.
Me too.
@chistine....I also love the internet it helps me to keep in touch with what is happening in the world. I enjoy reading the comments, even the ones I disagree with and offering my opinion too.
I lost my darling husband in 2016 we were soulmates I was66 years old and my husband was 76 I miss him every single second of every day but life has to go on and until I join him I am going to live for the both of us and love you grandchildren and everyone that I know All my Love to anyone reading this 💋
I am 66.married to a man who never wants conversation. Might as. Well be all alone. I have 5 grown up children. 3 daughters stopped talking to me. Kept my beautifull granchildren from me. I'm so lonely and miss my family so much. Sometimes I wish God would take me and. End this sad sad life 😭
@@eileenryan8875 I pray for you and wish you`ll find a bit of happiness, at 66 life is not over at all. Good luck and God`s blessings from crazy Germany
@@uschihalger4338 thank you so much for your kind words. Please keep me in your prayers. ❤️
Hello, Patricia Greetings from Preston how are you doing hope you are fine, and staying safe. It saddens my heart to see these elderly going through all these stressful times in their life. I think what they need at this time is care and love. How do you show love and care to the elderly in your city or your neighborhood?
Loneliness starts creeping in the day you realize your friends are not around. Your relatives have abandoned you. Now you are on your own . Its sad but it happens to the best of us
They should move in together.
If you have God you will never be alone He loves you unconditionally He will never leave you nor forsake you, He's with you everywhere, pls turn to God 💖💖💖
@Weeblackie that's your belief don't call me a lier when you don't know yourself , prove me a lier, or don't comment
@Weeblackie hahaha your wrong and you will see you are don't say you wasn't warned,, and He's coming back very soooooooooon now hahahaha, you are a lier,,,,
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@Weeblackie ahhh I see yet you hail satan, yes I also believe in him too,
Why don't all the lonely ppl get together.
That's what I say.
If our govts, social services, businesses, took the time,
they could devise a data base & a means for screening
for compatibility & safety.
One year without a new model phone would be better spent.
Then ppl could have ppl to phone, meet, chum around.
Just -- you know - life.
Heck, charge a fee. Save a lot more in the long run.
Why they have not discovered an app yet for lonely people to interact?
@@OlivePopeyeRed yes, but it would need lots of safety feature built in.
It would be a playground for predators, which is already bad enough.
There'd need to be a screening method & be hack proof.
Big wish!
But they need the transport and basic organisation.
tutu beast
HA,HA, YOUR NOT FUNNY
Living alone isnt my choice but a destiny. I"m scared that the time will come then i realize that i am old and all by my self.
Agree .. its a sad filling
I work with old people. People who've been widowed, outlived their children or whose children have emigrated. Marriage and kids doesn't mean you won't end up alone.
If u don’t want that take steps now to change your path
Hello Elvira greetings from 🇺🇸 am robert chatting from Baltimore Maryland I could be a friend trust me I mean no harm
I miss my grand parents..
I'm always praying for them may Allah grant jannah
I like being alone. I was so relieved when me and my ex broke up.
That was amazing..even me..these days..i prefer being just myself in everything. Being alone is better than that of having huge amount of duties and responsibilities. Thought the joy it brings having companion is priceless but at the end of the day you'll be left alone is nothing
@melanated misfit I like my own company Time goes so fast
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Me, at 55 im a dog lover had a 2 closest friend ( rare seeing each other now) Im living wd my eldest sis at 74 widowed in an apt.🇵🇭
Anyone else cry listening to this ? I just wanted to hug both of these folks. This is one of my greatest fears.
I did too, especially Margaret . As I'm a person who puts alot of time into other ppl (I do live alone) the thought of having no family or friends in yrs to come is, a, concern. Now cruel covid comes along, wish it'd feck off.
I did. It's terrifying to have to even think of having to live alone. But I am prepared. These people are alone even when they have family and children then what's the point of it. I'd rather be alone and embrace it gladly without any expectations.
Angus McIntyre and
The secret brother of depression i think is loneliness
True.
I have been suffering from depressions and this is definitely caused by loneliness
Hello, Dim! How are you doing? Yes, Elderly people have so much to share with us and that is why we also need to show them the love and care they need in their life. Where are you from? I hope you don't mind me asking. I love cats and dogs. Do you like pets around when you are lonely?
When I'm alone, Im never lonely. The only time I've ever felt lonley is in a relationship, when I needed them emotionally and they weren't there. Ive since gotten over that, but learning that really made me look at what I invest my emotions in.
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@@Yours_Truly_Rima ? Yes, felt. I dont feel lonely in relationships anymore, and I'm married now. I make no one my entire world because if they leave or die, they will take my entire world with them.
This is why I'm single you explained it perfectly
Same. I stick to my fly fishing and riding
I agree. Everyone is different and I don’t think some of us understand what it’s like to have a lifelong happy relationship to lose it. I don’t as I’ve never had a good relationship. Saying that obviously these people are doing nothing but sitting and waiting for something or someone to fill the void which is their big mistake. They never planned for the fact that one day they might be alone. I think that’s naive and unrealistic
True it's not just old people but when you are young; you can go out walking or do things that the elderly cannot do. Please read the bible, get comfort Jesus loves you, join a church.
Great advice - get off your backside and do some good in the world.
Marilyn Willett amen
There is absolutely no way that my parents would have let me forget them. lol they called me at least 4 times a day. They are gone now. I miss you mum and dad.
Johnny Bee
same with me Johnny..
Very true. I miss my mom and dad very much.
Took the words right out of my mouth! 😂
@@kimberlyalbert9232 Same here!😊
Yes and i bet you miss those 4 phone calls a day. :)
At least this older people have gad a beautiful life story, many now are young lonely, without a good past nor a good future
peace and love
True.. I am working on a life mission that has a lot to do
with what you are saying my friend
My thoughts Exactly!!
Our generation is living in a superficial digital world... talk to me about loneliness. I feel like this for the past 10 years...
Yes, I was thinking the same. They have already lived their happy fulfilling life. Many have never experienced love, happiness and have been lonely since young.
"without a good past nor a good future" but also without a bad past or a bad future. you have to look at it both ways you see.
Me too.
I am 30. All girls rejected me. SO alone. All day. No friends.
Never had a kiss, a hug.
I am also uneducated, why have almost no money.
One is Never alone who has opened their hearts door to Jesus. He's my best friend, truly.
How about god ?
Amen to that, Nancy!!
Amen!!
Amen
Praise God🙏🏾
Loneliness is hideous, you begin to lead a pointless existence. People and friends should help when they see someone in this position. I regret not seeing a friend more often who recently passed away :(
sorry for your loss
True, let's help each other in need while they're still here, it will change their lives !
I think it depends on the individual. I have been by myself my entire adult life. Having someone around all the time would drive me nuts. As long as I have someone I can call or email once in a while I'm good. My cats are fine company and they don't sass me. People make me tired.
I also have a strong faith and know Jesus is always here when I need him.
Same here, Connie. Nice post.
Yes people make me tired too, like a drain on the system so to speak.
The problem comes when you are old and frail (body and mind) and can no longer a lot of things to care for yourself and around the house.
Connie Hedges …. Very nice thoughts in your notes. People, I have found, can drain the ambient oxygen... I too like that there are some who I can email / call. Access to the world of the internet where we find youTube being a fascinating "gift". Those who have only television, radio are able to find distraction from the void. I've been alone for years and the pleasure found at doing things I wasn't always able to is downright enriching. Having your own --bungalow is an obvious pleasure -- for those in this video -- but the community filled with apartments all occupied by a variety of people, the individual apartments extremely well maintained... is a beautiful thing. You can still be as independent as ever while seeing others who are like-minded. People who are warmed by your smile when you bump elbows in the elevator. Or while at your mailbox. Or passing here/ there. I've met elders who hang on to their private homes. In a simple mention of what is available at the residences, like the one I live in, brings the sounds of shock. No one wants to move out of a home filled with memories. Let me stop rambling now. ;)
@@Macky1101 TRUE!!! Alot of people are missing your point the key word is Old & frail.
This completely broke my heart....💔
Sarah Jane
there are so many wonderful People on our Beautiful Earth.. we just need to use some creativity and Turn the sadness into a movement for Love.. I do have some really good ideas...
Sarah Jane, Really!
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Ohh yes it has sarah
How are you doing Sarah?
I don't know why I felt compelled to watch this. Lived my entire life as a loner, dedicated to study and work and at 54 a single middle aged boring man. I can envisage me sitting there alone sipping tea and reminiscing on what might have been.
That was my short sharp n sorry story shared.
Say that while drinking beer !
Greetings from Italy.
Caro Lorenzo, stessa storia a 24 anni.
Well its never too late to marry👍
Hello Lorenzo greetings from 🇺🇸 am robert chatting from Baltimore Maryland I could be a friend trust me I mean no harm
Hi Lorenzo im 30 single,,, contact me if u can im in the same situation we can be friends
ask God to send you a friend or a spouse!!
This is heartbreaking! We have got to fix this
Deborah Kamerick
let's create a Support Group.. I ve got some ideas.
Yes I have ideas too. Every elderly should find their alone elderly Partner and star a new life
Hello, Deborah Greetings from Preston how are you doing hope you are fine, and staying safe. It saddens my heart to see these elderly going through all these stressful times in their life. I think what they need at this time is care and love. How do you show love and care to the elderly in your city or your neighborhood?
Loneliness among seniors is detrimental to their emotional and physical health. I wish their was a answer to this issue.
There is. Visit the seniors in your life.
I've seen that. What a brilliant idea.
It's a shame and inexcusable the lack of care and of heart that people today seem to have. Even to those they purport to love.
Hello, lisa! How are you doing? Greetings from Preston hope you are fine and staying safe. Where are you from and hope you don't mind me asking.
imagine, you're so complete at some point in life then the next you're just... alone. :/
+Lil Curried Pigeon Thats me right now
i'm so sorry :( i'm not pitying you btw. but it must be so hard, ive seen people go through it.. if you ever need someone to hear you out i'm here :)
This is no longer a problem that begins in old age, more and more are experiencing the isolation of old age in early middle age and younger. The only difference is that they are still generally healthy.
This made me sad and unless we all die next week one day this will be us, take notes 📝
It actually feels like a curse sometimes. I'm 65, living alone since 62 and I can tell you it feels like I'm the only person on the planet sometimes. No words to describe how debilitating....crippling, loneliness can be.
Sorry to hear that but I've been feeling that way my entire life and I'm only nearly 40. It sounds like you've been in a relationship of sort, so at least you have that to go on but for me, and perhaps some of us, we never found someone and instead have to live life in isolation from everyone else despite the fact we try to find someone but can't.
I'm 65 myself and just lost my husband 2 years ago. I live up in the mountains in the woods and somedays it does get really lonely. I have my dog and 2 cats. I watch a lot of tv to keep my mind occupied so I don't think so much about being lonely. I've joined widows groups on Facebook to talk to people who know what I'm going thru.
When we live alone, is an invitation to Our Lord. “ I will never leave you orphans”.
I understand exactly what you're saying. 😢
But society lies to young women. Telling them how wonderful life will be old and childlesss.
As I get older I realize how important it is to have friends off all ages. Have lost many of the people I know close to my age.
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Hello Carol greetings from 🇺🇸 am robert chatting from Baltimore Maryland I could be a friend trust me I mean no harm
I wish to be your friend
I have found many people come to me and say why don't you find you a boyfriend and I asked. Why I am happy I go out when I want to I go on vacation when I want to I cook I seen so couples who are not happy and I ask myself why do they stay together when neither one are happy are they scared to be alone I see myself happier than they are today I'll go skydiving LOL life is good
Never complain about getting old, too many have never had that priviledge !
At 69 now, having been retired for 3 years I love being alone and independant and on my own apart from my cat I just wish that I am as "lucky" as this lady and the good lord grants me another 20 years of freedom and enjoyment," I,m not by myself, I,m with myself ,there is a difference ,good luck and long life to you all, ❤❤❤✝.....
Soft water Music, spiritual growth, and God is a blessing in our lives that we will never feel alone. In today's world it is good to be alone and spent time to get to know the realization of the true self and the Supreme Father the Supreme Soul. That's all we need now.
Shameful of families to just ignore the elderly !!
It isnt just elderly but disabled as well
Yep and your friends kind of fade away once you become disabled and/or chronically ill and can't keep up with them. It's a very hard thing to find out that your friends didn't like you for you but only because you did things with them and made them feel important and facebook share worthy moments.
@@BlazeDuskdreamer I can hear the experience in your comment Blaze. I too recognize all of that as well. As I also am fighting my battles of chronic illness. If not for thw love of Jesus and the comfort of the Holy spirit things might have beem worse. Are you part of any support groups online? Those have helped me as well.
Coni Edward's it's when you've got no family or friends it's tough.
That's me -- completely ignored by the people I supported, sacrificed for and loved. I thought I'd have lots of family in my late years. Instead, I make do w/ neighbors.
It's possible to live alone and not be lonely!!! I'm an example of that. If someone would've told me years ago that I'd be on my own, I wouldn't have believed it because I was a huge co-dependant. Yet, here I am...
Christians shouldn't feel lonely either! Being filled with the Holy Spirit and having a close relationship with Jesus will fill any void and negativity of all sorts.
Weezie I totally agree with you, only Jesus can fill any void, it's not about being religious, it's about a beautiful relationship with Him, having HIM as LORD & Savior & being your truest friend !
what kind of friend is he? i bet the fucker doesnt even text you back
Thats true. I have lived alone over 30 years. However, God meant us for one another not just for Himself. When He made Adam, Adam was filled with God and loved God, yet God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone." If God says its not good - it isn't. You can bet that if He made the woman for Adam, it sure isn't natural for the woman to be alone either. It is right and good to have Jesus Christ as Lord in ones life, He is God in flesh; He loves us like no one else can, but when you have done over 30 years alone and live daily without seeing anyone for days sometimes, you can tell us what we "should" and "shouldn't feel."
He doesn't text but He answers. He says, "My sheep hear My voice and follow Me." He is called the Good Shepherd. You will not hear His voice until you repent of your pride and sarcasm and open yourself to Him, then He will answer.
I used to mock Christianity, but I have known Him now over 40 years.
Linda nah i think i'll keep mocking, not him since he's not real, but the adults who still believe in their imaginary friend.
Seriously my heart breaks for everyone feeling so alone😔
You don't have to feel that way there,let's get to know each other !
Remember this while looking at ALL ur family and friends.
When u have nothing to provide them with they will all be gone and u will realize it's all been a lie.
Uncle Jed.....true
bt in India people have family and respect for grand mother and father...
DirtyPreppy completely and absolutely true!! It's easy to have friends and family when the times are good, but watch what happens when you're the in need!!!
That is not always true. My mom an be quite combative with me and has nothing materialistic to offer. I take her shopping at least once a week and I take her to appointments, but I have stopped visiting often because she likes to argue and I am too old to exhaust the energy I have left being negative. I still try to engage her socially but as soon as conversation gets negative I leave.
DirtyPreppy
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I am middle age. Lost my husband to cancer. Lost my children and only grandchild because I don't cater to them. There is a longing to die.
Feeling for you Helen. Hope you are managing alright. Lost my children for the same reason.
Helen Rogers I feel your pain I'm a lone too my kitty cat helps
Gais, it's a good idea. As soon as I feel settled & stable, I intend t get myself a cat 1st, then a dog, then a bird. It will help me tremendously. Just writing this puts a smile on my face already. Bless you & your kitty cat
I am completely alone and without my little dog I will die.
I know it's very hard but ask Jesus to heal your broken heart, He will, cry out to Him, just be yourself before Him & let him heal you & love you unconditionally ! I lost my mom & my sis at a young age, my Heavenly Father & the Holy Spirit comforted & loved me like no one else !
Tribal life is far superior to civilisation... Modern life just disconnects people, we now use social media but we are even more disconnected than before. Its a sad reality we have.
John, you need to read Tribes by Sebastian Junger.
sorry I cant read, due to being too disconnected.. can you read it for me. cheers
As an "older person" who is educated, I must say you are talking complete rubbish. Tribalism is a form of lifestyle that lead to all sorts of abuses about which nothing can be done by those living under a totalitarian leader. I like to live with clean running water, electricity and everything that has come from people NOT living in tribal situations, (take a good look at African S...H.... regions). Also don't put your own communication deficiencies onto others, that's obviously your own problem. You are delusional.
Yes sir 👍
Hello everyone. Yes, lost my family because I am suffering from illnesses they'd rather not deal with. Not completely alone yet, but the writing is on the wall.
It's heartbreaking to see how many younger people don't dedicate time to the older generation. I go spend time with my 83 year old mother DAILY. I don't take it for granted. It's my top priority. I bring her food, help with chores, keep her company, make conversation, take her on outings, make sure she's healthy and has everything she needs. I don't understand why everyone can't find the time to care. My heart breaks as I watch this video.
Hello, Daisy! How are you doing? Greetings from Preston hope you are fine and staying safe. Where are you from and hope you don't mind me asking.
Daisy, people could find the time if they really wanted to . They are selfish in my opinion
Its sad. As a 24 year old I feel lonely. I can imagine how they feel. I feel it.
Get a boyfriend then lol.
That so sweet and empathetic of you. Bless you.
@@ilikepancakes2368 you are rude.
From age 12 I feel alone lonely
@@rajpavaskar5268 Maybe you can ģet out more, if you feel lonely. Join a group, serve at a kitchen for the homeless. I've been more social than usual this week. It's killing me, I just want to be alone most of the time.
Man this can and will happen to many of us. As if life wasn't already depressing enough.
the people what should care to put it bluntly are rubbish and that's the government
Im very proud to say i love being a filipino..we have unique culture that we are crazy about our family...we cannot let our grand parents be alone in the house we grow up with our grandparents with us...i hope preople out there will also love thier grandparents and taking care of them...
Same in India we leave together
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Same here and from Thailand.
Philipinos are one if the best immigrant people 🌹 They're helpful, kind, friendly, family-oriented, go to church, go to school (most),
want to make something of their life. Thank you. Salamat 🌹🌹🌹
You philipinoes are such the most amazing people.i have daughter 5kms down the road with two grandkids..... haven't seen any of them since Xmas. No words could express my loneliness. Got a philipino family out there who might adopt me.....social isolation is destroying me x
There is commonalities between the Japanese elderly experience and these Brits. In Japan, after decades of a busy life as salary men or workers and also raising children, the retired are put out to pasture. The loneliness must be terrible for those who were so integrated in Japanese society. I have known many foreigners who would practice their Japanese of seniors since they had the time and patience to talk for hours. In Canada there is a new program where university students live with widows and widowers in their home and interact each day. It helps the student financially with affordable housing and the senior with some discussion over at least one meal per day. It appears to be a success.
You got Christ in your heart. You're never alone.
@Klik B He's not talking about an idea but an actual lived relationship. If God is there at each moment giving you joy and love then how could you despair?
@@Hope4all2 Nothing imaginary. But you do you.