PAIGE LAYLE CONTROVERSY | The Time I Got Cancelled | Surviving Cancel Culture
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2024
- im so so so nervous to post this. i've always felt like it's not a good idea. but i think i should. for everyone who remembers this. and for me, so i don't feel like i'm hiding something anymore.
y'all know im not the most confident about my place on social media, and i think this is where it came from. i can respond to everything else confidently, except when someone asks about this. and i hate that i've been doing that, for what? because i got myself into this mess. i have to find a way out of it. this is me trying to get out of the mess. cause it didn't go away. it just moved inside of me.
and if you don't remember this and it means nothing to you then swag. i hope im an okay storyteller.
boundaries
~i will not show screenshots of anything
~i will not argue over word choice and semantics
~i don't really want to talk much more about this and don't see why i would need to
~i have grown lots because of this and i have learned and changed and continue to, so i am not looking for/ taking advice on what should have happened or what i should have done in hindsight
and let me leave you with a quote~
"anyone can be a god or the devil, all it takes is for people to believe it." - that was ATTACK ON TITAN dude and it was eren KRUGER who said it. banger quote. makes me think about. society and stuff.
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I'm always so scared of how nuance disappears on the internet. I can't believe you made it through this honestly with the confidence to keep posting and doing what you're doing. Thanks for everything you've done for my life, and just keep fuckin living the best life ya can.
This is crazy. I'm african American with some traces of Native American and what did youdo that was inherently racist or was pro white supremacy... Nothing... And if the organization that you formerly wanted to support, did do those negative actions, but you cut ties with supporting the company then you did your part and never did anything to be labeled as racist ir a white supremacist.
The way they manipulated you and guilt tripped you over this is sickening. I am so sorry that this happened to you, it really pisses me off
This really, really, really puts that community post you made about wanting to leave social media into perspective. What an awful thing to experience. It's one thing to have someone who hates you, but it's a whole other kind of trauma to have your friends and community disown you simply because they don't want to get bullied either. Wishing you the very best going forward, however you choose to live your life.
I was thinking about that community post the whole time I was watching this video too. I hope Paige is okay.
I'm a man of color, and i've always enjoyed your videos, honestly people just want to complain about the littlelist things ever nowadays. People are just too sensitive and soft nowadays about everything. Im not on tiktok at all, but thats just how I view it.
Much respect to you for sticking to your truth Paige, you are a good person and a sweet wholesome lady!! Never let toxic people bring you down!
I've had something kinda similar happen to me. It's really difficult when people weaponize something you care about against you in bad faith. I don't know anything about this issue besides what you've said in this video, but I'm glad you're not letting the trauma turn you away from being anti-racist and being an autism advocate/educator. You've helped so many of us. Thank you.
This was something that took a good many years to click as an autistic creator in leftist spaces myself- some stuff is not actually about doing better and fostering understanding. It’s theater for people who still don’t really understand the nuances of culture and communication.
A lot of young people- whether that be young in age or young to developing concepts of social justice- lack a lot of life experience and don’t really understand how to interpret situations accurately. They have strong emotions and passion for change, but really rudimentary tools. So like, if all someone has is a hammer…
What also sucks is learning that some people use social justice in bad faith. People who are bullies, manipulators, people who want to hurt people- they learn that others can be controlled through tapping into the inherent guilt and trauma embedded in our society through these channels.
It’s a hard lesson to learn and I’m thankful you’re sharing your experience- I’m only 15 minutes in and taking it slow because I had my own similar experiences and the feelings are intense. I wish you all the best and hope you are finding friends who have further developed their understanding of life.
very well put. as an old who has been haunting leftist online spaces for decades (at this point), there are levels to understanding and competency.
The screenshots thing really makes me side with Paige on this one; if there were screenshots they would have been uploaded to Twitter a million times over. They aren't all over Twitter/being dissected on TikTok because there's nothing to show.
It feels like they were parasites; they knew that generating drama would get them more viewers, climbing over you to get further up TikTok mountain.
What's crazy to me is this is the first I've heard of this. I have never thought you were racist nor would I have believed anyone saying you're racist without any evidence.
I sense a pattern I can't understand even tho I've witnessed it so much. Vulnerable people hurt/manipulated/gaslighted by predatory behaving people. I can't understand why this happens so much. Same with violence in general. I have no clue why, it's beyond any logic I can wrap my head around, like an unexplainable singularity. It's just what it is, and it sucks, and it blows my mind.
PS : I found out my autism because of you (not only because of you obviously), and let me tell you : you greatly contributed to me avoiding ending my life and getting the support I needed. So yes, you did a great job in my opinion, thank you and much love from France.
Because toxic people LOVE preying upon vulnerable people, they want to feel superior over them and boost their own self-esteem. Unfortunately. Literally predator behavior, just like how animals prey upon more vulnerable ones
Unfortunately, as per the definition of the word 'predator,' the individuals who will react most swiftly and ruthlessly to the sight of vulnerability displayed by the vulnerable will be predators. The internet amplifies this in the same way that it amplifies our ability to communicate with like-minded individuals around the world. It is an indifferent tool, but nonetheless a tool that predators can very easily utilize towards their predatory ends.
If the accusers don’t provide evidence and just make videos shit talking you, then that’s a huge sign that you were not in the wrong. Sounds like an attention grab to me - if someone is ‘cancelable’ it is done with hard evidence - people are hella sheep minded on the internet unfortunately
Understatement of the year, but that really sucks. You didn't deserve that. I'm glad you're getting this off your chest and I hope it helps you heal.
"You don't gotta burn the bridge" That lines fire
I am hurting, but most definitely NOT because of you - quite the opposite!! You help make sense out of some very confusing things and you put things into a more reliable perspective, which is very helpful for me. I’m so sorry you had to endure what you went through, but I’m glad that you’re able to learn and grow in a positive way from it. Thank you for being anti-racism, for being such a caring person, and for speaking out against this awful kind of performative bullying. I want you to know that I love and appreciate you very, very much, and I know that you have a good heart, regardless of what kind of BS some people might feel the need to say about you. And I know that you are loved and valued by so many others as well, because you do so much that helps so many people in so many ways. Thank you!!! ❤️
Discovering that people will throw you under the bus for personal gain is a difficult lesson to learn and accept. Exploring as you are the real causes as they relate to yourself and others and the proper way to grow and learn is definitely something to be proud of. Thank you for being such a wonderful, caring person
I'm a black autistic man and I haven't ever heard anything that makes me think you're a racist, or even hold racist viewpoints. I spent a few minutes trying to find the other perspectives, and what I found was pretty weak.
Honestly looks like a big Nothing Burger to me. 🤷🏾♂️
i've been following you for a few years and this is definitely the first time i've heard about any of this. i think the types of people who you are trying to reach and help aren't attracted to the type of social media drama that you have been a victim of. keep doing the good work, you are appreciated.
This thing seems so toxic. Don't let other people gaslight you. Toxicity knows no race. This feels so Tumblr.
It's worth remembering how recently it was that torture and execution were popular public spectacles. The law's changed, but people haven't much.
France was still using the guillotine by the time the Star Wars movies were being released
People don’t realize that they are participating in scapegoating. A exstremly violent form of it against an autistic individual in this situation. Not one person stoped for a moment and went… am i stealing the voice of another minority. All they saw was someone to put their performance of guilt on them.
(I think the more horrifying stories of things like this are going to be like how we read about the more horrifying accounts of 1890-1975 linch-xing)
which puts into perspective how much white folks have to learn. but this mess was madness, taking advantage of a vulnerable person and blaming her race and a mistake she said then gaslighting her into thinking she's racist is a horrible thing to do. we're all people who deserve a chance to learn.
@@fancydeer Public executions are not a white phenomenon. They have been practiced the world over.
And by the way, this is slander. Which can be, as far as I know, a legal issue.
Considering you actually experienced loss of income and social life/status.
So, defending yourself and sharing the truth via screenshot is more than acceptable.
Don't let them keep you quiet. Speak your truth!
I always thought you did your best to handle it professionally and compasionately. When nothing was good enough; when nothing appeased the other side, it became suspicious. They used you for talking points; to create outrage, gain clout, etc. I would have done and felt and acted the same as you. You were brave to keep coming back and posting after that and I respect and admire the courage it takes to do that, including bringing it all up again in this video. Trust your instincts. You did nothing wrong. You were right then. You're right now. You're a good person.
Its been awhile since a saw a video of yours, they make me feel normal. Thank you.
You are so relatable and empathetic, that I wish I had someone like you as a friend. Watching your videos has often helped me through tough times. These people just used you as a scape goat to gain following. I hope reading this comment makes you feel better.
I wish you all the best.
Alot of people just regurgitate talking points and bs online. Im struggling with being misunderstood once again today IRL, I know your struggle.
the second the mob categorizes someone as "problematic" they will garble and ramble and throw everything at it to attempt to discredit the person. There is absolutely nothing someone could say or do to make them happy once they decide they're in the wrong. It's absolute derangement. The best thing to do in situations like this is to decide not to care and move on. We know our nature inside. We know inside whether or not we are prejudice/racist/a bad person, etc,
Thank you so much for speaking about this. There is always room to grow, but the people who point fingers at others instead of at themselves are the people who need the most work.
I'm really sorry that happened to you. I think we all have inherent biases, but that doesnt mean they are malicious. You gotta just do the best you can, and it really sounds like you've tried to. I really like you. I click on your content the second I see it. I really appreciate your compassion for autistic children. You seem kind and funny to me, and Im really glad for the content you post.
I hope you find peace, and I'm happy it seems like you've found some strength. You helped me during a really difficult season with my son. Thank you.
I remember this. The reason I never disengaged with your content during the debacle is because I couldn’t find what you actually did. I would go to one person’s page and they would direct everyone to another person’s page saying, “they can explain this better.” But nobody ended up explaining anything. I wasn’t just gonna unfollow you/believe everyone else who thought it was the “right” thing to do. (Honestly a bunch of virtue signaling) I think the right thing to do is make decisions yourself, as informed as you can be, and to hurt the least amount of people. You didn’t seem to actually hurt anyone.
I really wish I didn't understand what it feels like to have supposedly done something and not understand what I did wrong and have people ganging up on you. Unfortunately, more than once in my lifetime I have experienced being manipulated and gaslit into situations. Rumours about things that I have done that caused visceral hatred in people. Unfortunately, autistic people tend to see the best in others and our empathy is both a blessing and a curse.
Ahhh I really feel for you in the confusion about what you did wrong and thinking you were friends with people who turned on you, and never being able to fix anything or figure out what happened. It was like a trip back to my teens and 20s, except I had the privilege of just being a regular private person.
What I see of you in your content is a woman who is thorough, thoughtful and very considerate and charitable to others. I always learn a lot and feel less alone.
You for sure did not deserve any of the abuse and manipulation that happened to you. It can be really hard to imagine the lengths some people will go through to hurt and manipulate us.
Really upsetting that people weaponised racism to bully you. Especially for people you thought were your friends. Really shitty behaviour and if anything the fact you perservered through it says how good of a person you are. I really love the honesty and transparency.
Also, for some reason, the audio only comes through on one of the ears of my headphones. It might just be a me thing though.
25:16 righteous Canadian rage
I just tried googling this to see if anyone had ever posted receipts and I couldn't find anything. You would think if there was anything really there someone would have posted it. I literally saw people ask for receipts only to get the response "she was racist" as if that's an actual explanation. People can't be bothered to think.
What an absolute nightmare
Holy hell. This sounds like a horrible nightmare and I empathise and recognise so much of your reactions to this. I hope this video was cathartic and that it helped you. I didn’t know about any of this and I am mortified. I do agree that it doesn’t sit right and it doesn’t make sense.
I hope this can eventually become a distant memory 🙂
I am proud of you
This doesn’t have anything to do with right and left wing politics, this has to do with internet culture.
I love your content, and you're not doing something right, if there isn't people out there, trying to undermine what you're doing. I've dealt with similar things in the past, and tbh i didn't really understand it myself, but i just moved on with my life, and left those people behind. The brighest among us also cast the longest shadow, and there will always be people who want to capitalise, on what they believe to be true, when they are just high on their own supply.
It's all about intention. Your intentions were good, and always seem good to me. ❤
It actually breaks my heart to see you so upset over this gang of nobody You Tubers who thought that reducing your fame could build their own.
I am so glad you addressed this. Don't let anyone dull your sparkle.
I was there as the whole drama unfolded (wasn't apart of the group chat) (old tag was NinjaFalcon2) I even asked to help do production for the event. then when the shit hit the fan, everyone got caught in an echo chamber (myself included for a minute). I wanted to figure out the proof as well but no one showed it. I thought you could've handled it better and explain your side first. But then you got bullied into taking that vid down which felt very off and sad when the next thing you made was an apology vid. Got super concerned that I left the Tik Tok autism community because I was worried I was gonna get attacked for asking questions as to "why" and "how" like everyone else has. Got called a white supremacist just for asking for some clarification.
as for the POC creators 1 POC I sort of understood the situation, had 0 issue with them because people were being jerks. the other guy I wanted to believe but everything about him felt so off. He even made a tik tok (deleted it later) going into another autistic creator's account and then basically trying to indoctrinate her in believing her skin color (white) is the reason she has more followers than him. She caved in and started believing him. He manipulated a lot of people and recently he got exposed for being a pervert by subscribing to a friends OF (I think), and also flirting a lot. basically manipulating people to get what he wanted when it came for views, attention, and perversion. He's cancelled, he's gone. no redemption.
What happened was not your fault. someone got greedy and decided to take a controversal situation with the plagerism and then made it all about himself (using "POC are getting suppressed" as a shield and crutch to guilt everyone). I thought everyone was given a fair chance with what resources were given and adjusted if necessary and nobody came across as racist or such, but looking back after the George Floyd protests, it shaped a lot of people's minds and looking back that did have a huge sensitive influence on the whole downfall as a whole. The whole stream was suppose to be a diverse group of Autistic influencers sharing their experiences and bringing each other up in uplifting.. Instead it became a "who had it worse" contest despite the fact, we all have different struggles big and small; intersection or without.
Glad I got to hear your side of the situation as clear as day.. because they were not being fair to you while you were being fair to everyone else.
thanks for providing some context for those of us that didn't hear about this and are now a bit confused
@@V1sual3y3zdidn't want to provide names as requested of Paige but I do know who they were. and some other names that were apart of the group as well. it was a shit sandwich as a whole and I had lots of time to reflect on it. I will say, if you didn't have a tik tok 3 years ago: good, no need to explore it back then
Violence, abuse, and manipulation doesn’t belong in accountability. Proving the morality of someone’s character is nuanced and also based in fact or fiction, evidence does count for something. Liking and disliking people doesn’t weigh in a person’s moral identity. People can dislike Paige for all sorts of reasons, but it doesn’t change that she is genuinely a kind person.
You have made some of the most greatest Videos on Austim on RUclips, & are one the most consistent Progressive voices, so keep Rocking!
It's easy to get fixated at the bird poop on the fruit in your hand & forget about all fruit that sourounds you
Also reusable cotton tissue are some of the most comfortable & non irritable, non allergic for me, & can fold them back in the box to pull chain, so I highly recommend.
As you agree no one deserves not to be held to account for ones actions & words.
"Canceling Someone" someone
can only effectively come from ones audience, & if you want their audience to understand what they're doing wrong, You need to dismantle their arguments.
I feel cancel culture is often depicted as ahh! they're holding me accountable or criticizing me, and often used as a shield by Conartists & White Supremacists.
I've had to Deal with Narcissists throughout my life
When someone doesn't explain
What you did wrong & demands a apology after repeated kind pleas for them to explain the error,
i find that is often a Red flag & they are intentionally being dishonest or are raging so much they fail to communicate where the issue lies, which often is a perceved transgression based on their assumptions or assumed intentions ie "mind reading" rather than a actual error.
You're fixing to get canceled a second time for painting that doorknob
The texture!!! That ain't smooth.
That's not funny 🥲
Sorry this happened to you. Can't imagine how horrible and confusing it must have felt, and how hard it must have been since to manage the fear it instilled. There will always be those who want to see you fail and to end what you have built here, even if just for the fact you are successful. If you left, it would change nothing. In all likelihood, it would quickly become another who they're demonising, and truth or nuance would be just as unlikely to matter in their choice of attack. Your videos do a lot of good and help a lot of people who really need them. Never forget that.
I think the whole point of everything is
putting effort in understanding our mistakes and making better choices going forward. Listening to the marginalized is ALWAYS the first step, but if you can’t understand your mistakes and therefore make better choices, then I think none of it is productive, and if people are criticizing you and not your actions, its just bullying and you should definitely move on from it.
Ive seen this happen always to people who actually care to be good to others, acknowledge their mistakes and learning from it, but what I see is that the (very valid) rage that people have about being oppressed can’t really be taken on by the opressors, because they do that care, and is just shifted to anyone who can be seen as not opressed (i.e. white, st8, men) who actually will listen. And I just think that sucks, lets hold people accountable not bully anyone.
This shows how much certain people are careless about being fair. Look if I do something wrong then fine. Give me a consequence. But I do something little and get banned from social media while a spoiled selfish content creator or someone so stupid just gets put on time out for a day. Like fuck all biased people. People need to be fair. We are all equal. Autistic people aren’t above nor below. We are equal. Yet some people don’t seem to give a crap. The people I hate are people who are few people ablest, racist etc. The other group of people that I don’t like are people who call me a racist or sexest when I haven’t done anything and they are just being a piece of crap. Especially when people twist my words and make me look dumb. True friends would understand one another. There are people who will say they are your friend until they show their true colors and throw you under the bus for their own benefit.
Hi Paige, don't pay attention to bullies, look after your mental health and continue doing what you are doing. You help me and based on what I'm seeing, you help others so much regardless of their skin colour etc. Listen to people who constructively criticise to help you become more inclusive (like you always do) and teach you life lessons but the internet can be a horrible place. I have OCD and I'm sure it's common amongst autistic people and I am constantly walking on eggshells to try and please people. There will always be haters, but way more people like you, from all communities. I look at comments and way more people like you from all races, genders, backgrounds, communities etc. Stop being so hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect. You have a good heart and so many of us see that. You don't hold the weight of the world on your shoulders. You are a good human being.
I am such a fan of yours Paige I ploughed through your near hour long video addressing narcissistic grifters and clown shoe social justice warriors !
There is this quote that will never be popular globally, but in Hungary is huge:
´Ki minek gondol, az vagyok annak’
It means something like ;
Whomever thinks of me one way, that which to them I am.
It is mainly to encourage people and to help them realise that our nature is to assume and project onto each other. Not to take things personally, and to accept that in someone’s reality, you’ll be a villain regardless of your words and actions. Whatever people think about you is always reflecting back onto them, whether they talk of light or dark. It’s all them. ❤
Well, I watch you on your merits. I don't listen to the crowd of unknowing people. I don't believe you would purposely hurt anyone.
Autism doesn't have skin color, or maybe it has every skin color. You shouldn't ever have to apologize for your skin color no matter what it your color is.
I am so sorry, Paige, nobody should have to go through anything like that... and although I don't know what was really going on there, I have a feeling you did indeed absolutely nothing wrong, but people just decided they could create drama out of the situation by making it look like you did something - may it be to gain more followers for their own platforms and the internet being that drama theatre it is, it may indeed have worked.... They may not even care about racism or autism issues, just about fame, followers, popularity and money...and the power to get all of that by gaslighting you into believing you did something wrong... Tbh. I felt reminded of Kafka's "The Trial" when you told the story. Anyway, just letting you know, that I highly value your videos and have never experienced you saying anything discriminating against anybody. And I am now singing quietly to myself the "end of the video"-song, I know why you left it out this time, but I still missed it.
I think you were a victim of fraud, they wanted to capitalize on you and take advantage of you. You're handling the situation correctly. But if necessary, I would seek advice from a lawyer.
This whole story is just a microcosm of today's social landscape, hey. The classic abusive relationship. I've been labelled things and told who I am and who I should be my whole life because I'm autistic. Hearing this story is infuriating because it's those same things playing out, being labelled as a racist and a white supremacist even though your internal reality is entirely different. These people are deplorable and manipulative. Sending many blessings your way
Was there for all of that. It was bizarre they way they were targetting you. They were wrong.
11:50 (if they were unverified accounts… there’s a high likelihood that it was fake accounts)
I love you too, Paige
I'm ten minutes in and I don't understand. The organizer turned out to be racist and since you supported the organizer, people said you were racist???
That's...... not how anything works......
Or I'm just completely misunderstanding the core of the story.
No that seems like what happened.
There isnt a confirmed racist thing that happened. The only thing still in the air is the charity. Even the organizer did nothing wrong it seems like.
@@Halfendymion Thanks, I thought I was going nuts! :)
Proud of you, Paige.
That person in your dm’s were definitely targeting and harassing you. You were targeted
Sociopathy and psychopaths are on the rise even in the neurodivergent community. Deleting socials was the best thing iv ever done!
We live in hell
I'm proud of the Paige I know from the videos. 100%.
as the son of a black man (who's married to a white woman), I apologize to you. this is horrible. There is a huge difference between being racist and the not knowing. Sadly, we seem to live in a world where everyone thinks it's their _right_ to be an asshole, and the best way to lift themselves up is to tear others down. This whole thing breaks my heart. Dealing with racism all my life, you learn to tell who is really that way and who is not. And while I know nothing more of you then your content, I do not think you are a racist... for what that's worth. A lot of white people just don't see the world that we live in. I believe that white privilege is a thing (no it's not bad, it just is what it is). my wife had a very rude awakening when we first got together. Not knowing what we deal with is one thing, but if you're willing to learn, have an open mind, try to do better, then you are not racist! keep your head up! I'm very sorry that you're going through this. Dog piles suck.
Audio is on the left channel only.
I realized that afterward 😩I fixed it for not the next video lol but the next one. Sorry it’s annoying
@realpaigelayle I like to layer my audio, this works well with music.
@@realpaigelayle no problem I listen with only one plug anyway
Oh so that's why I was thrown off
me listening on my phone without headphones: what even is stereo 😂
I'm proud of you
I subscribed and enjoy your video because you’re one of the only autistic creators that I can relate to the most, and I’m a French African woman in my 30s. I will keep on defending you when I see or hear autistic creators or commenters attacking you. And unfortunately, a few months ago, I did defend you and then blocked on RUclips/IG the 2 creators who made shitty videos calling you racist and other stuff when you were posting about stopping to mock Jojo Siwa… what they were saying was take. Out of context and their bottom line was that they didn’t like you because of you white pretty privilege (one is Latina and the other white). I have your back, you’re one of the most considerate, kind autistic creators and advocate. Keep being your amazing self ❤🫶🏽
Just wanted to blurt out that Shure microphones are awesome and I love mine. Also Tyler Childers is awesome, you have great taste. Thanks, that is all 🙂
Well done Paige for not falling for the woke/ Judeo-Christian idea that 'the oppressed or disadvantaged group is automatically right'. Based as usual!
You’re a gem. Sorry your “friends” lost their minds and projected so much negativity onto you.
You didn’t do anything racist in the least. You have such an open heart and clearly tried to do what was best.
I’m a black woman btw.
It really seems like they were trying to guilt you, and make you feel ashamed. Like they aimed all of their frustration and all of the hurt from the racism they’ve experienced, onto you.
You didn’t deserve it.
Stay up girlie.
digital mob energy vampirism - *old dial up tone* is this the future we all looked forward to?
you didnt hurt anyone, its them who are trying to hurt you cos you're huge competition. they want your followers. Or they want to try use your popularity to their advantage, they're obsessed with color.
Password to your channel and to post on your channel is kinda out there. Very weird in my opinion and no matter how apologetic I am about something that will always be a weird resolution request. I do however feel like some details were definitely skipped over no one can make such a far fetched accusation of racism based off of 1 twitter post you made saying an event was cancelled. Have I seen the twitter post? No I haven’t but I assume in said tweet you weren’t attacking anyone because of their race or made a negative connotation related to race. So there has to be more to the story and for a story time to be complete you can’t shield or hide certain truths. Idk what the screenshots or messages were that you aren’t comfortable sharing maybe they have the insight this story time is lacking. Maybe something in those messages that you feel aren’t important played a role in how your tweet was perceived even if unrelated. Idk it’s your channel and your truth so I can’t say what it or what isn’t but from the outside looking in full transparency is kinda important if you’re going to play the side of truth. I didn’t even hear about any of this hopefully you’re doing well now and it hasn’t impacted the way you see POC
yeah. as someone who only watches her youtube and didn't know about any of this, this video is a bit confusing.
It took me a long time to realize that there are some people who are committed to misunderstanding you, no matter what you say or do. My impression is that these call outs / complaints about racism were a response to your relative social location / positionality / privilege / power in this particular group chat, than about who you are as a person (or even any specific action you did / did not take). You named it yourself that your apology video sucked, which makes sense because it's hard to apologize genuinely when you don't know what you're apologizing for. Tbh, this is why "calling in" feels much more constructive & community-oriented than the more common "calling out" approach. I get how that can be labour intensive for all involved, & likely less viral/content generating... yet it seems more conducive to being in right relation with one another. All that said - I'm another white queer neurodivergent ciswoman steeped in the grossness of a white supremacist & colonial culture. Divesting from that oppressive garbage will be a life-long process.
This is literally so weird and so crazy. Like WTAF? I'm sorry Paige that you went through that and were treated like that. I haven't been following you for 3 years, so I missed that whole insanity, but as a Black autistic person, I don't believe you had anything to apologize for. If they had proof you said or did something racist, they would and should have posted it. Most of the autistic content creators I've found are white, some I like, some I don't like that much, but something I've noticed, and I think I noticed it from you first, is that y'all are aware and inclusive of people with different backgrounds and skin tones from y'all. The group was going to support a company or whatever, y'all found out they did a racist thing and then dropped the support and canceled the event, in protest of what they did, so I can't fathom what y'all did that was racist in that... It literally did have nothing to do with you, and no, you shouldn't have to be friends with people just because of their melanin count, especially not when they've treated you like that. You deserve better and better friends. You have been a major help to me understanding my autism and I relate to you a lot, and that has nothing to do with our skin or where we grew up.
It sounds like you were subjected to a couple of skilled manipulators or even narcissists whose objective was to use your popularity online as a ladder up into their own big platforms--by the destruction of your reputation. I am SO PROUD of you for not giving them your password--that is YOUR property. Also, if someone cannot produce evidence and won't pinpoint something you did wrong, they don't deserve a second thought. And no, they weren't ever your friends. This makes me so angry on your behalf, especially with how you said you had to behave around your mother as a child.
I went through something like this to a much lesser degree from a gaming group in 2022. I had accusations made against me on a public discord (on which I was a mod) in front of all of our servers--the two girls who came at me had always squawked about personally messaging them if there was a problem, but did not do the same thing to me. I had never spoken to one of them before. (This was a very confusing and nuanced situation as well and can't be explained fully in a comment) I eventually left that group to do my own thing and neither of them exist in my space anymore.
I did an internet deep dive about narcissists during that time, which was very much needed for me to understand why and how some people think/operate. That was probably the HARDEST thing I have ever been through, and I'll be 29 next month. I also don't know shit and I'm almost 30 lol
I'll be waiting for and watching your videos. Idgaf what people say about you, Paige. Don't let these liars and manipulators get rid of you before your time.
It really seems that they just farmed you for outrage likes, knowing you had a larger following. So many "influencers" make their entire personality about that crap.
It seems these other creators are jealous of your success and trying to take you down. That's not right, but they are selfish and don't care. Sorry, you are going through all this. I can't think of anything you did wrong in this whole situation. 😊❤. Take care.
I'm so confused. Why are you talking badly about yourself? You're not an awful person und what others have made you feel is not who you are.
These people were clearly in the wrong. Even if you had said something questionable, you wouldn't deserve this treatment.
You give them way too much grace, in my opinion. They suck.
You are the definition of open minded and self reflected and I don't see how you could say something sooo evil and racist (I don't even now in what way you're supposed to be racist).
Also, that Liam Payne guy was getting cancelled. And it really looks like he gave up his life because of that. That makes me sad. He might not have been a good person, but... id this really the goal? Is this what we want as a society? There is a reason we do not condone vigilante justice, and I think there are huge parallels there. I do want people to be better, but Im not sure being horrible makes that happen.
We are always the villain in someone elses story. Sadly, simply because of your skin color, you've been accused of being racist. The thing that kills me with it all is that absolutely no one gets to pick and choose what color they're going to be born. Nor do we get to pick the problems internally that we will face. If we could, there would be a lot less need for many things that exist our world. You are not a racist. You've helped many people, including my husband and I, when it comes to our daughter and her autism journey. Thank you.
Please please please fix your audio balance
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I remember this all so well, it made no sense to ne
When did you get cancelled???
I see you Paige💜
Clout goblins begone.
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Envy
I had no idea about your cancellation before this, but Those people definitely were NOT your friends. What you said about a friend would be able to come to you instead of going to the world is so true. And sounds like they were really just projecting on you and mob mentality really kicked in.. seeing you cry had me crying right with you Paige hope you found some genuine people since then. and if not I’d be happy to be your friend.🫶
we love you too dude. for real. you are a good person, don’t worry about it.