9 Signs Your Wife is Toxic | Pooja Priyamvada x Bonobology
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- Опубликовано: 6 авг 2024
- People feel a strong sense of stability when they get married because they have one person who they know will be their support system. Unfortunately, when you have a toxic wife, it is the exact opposite. Instead of being your rock through thick and thin, she is the one that will make your life feel unstable.
A toxic marriage can make you feel more alone than if you were single. A toxic wife will not only affect your life at home but can have a detrimental effect on your career, mental health, and friendships. So, if you have a gut feeling something is wrong but can't quite place your finger on what it is, maybe you have a toxic wife.
Spending your life intertwined with someone is not easy. This is why fights are very normal between married couples. It is important to make sure you are not confusing routine marital troubles with something more serious. You cannot expect your marriage to be smooth sailing all the time. It is only natural for there to be a little bit of choppy water. However, if it feels like you are perpetually stuck in a thunderstorm, then you must reflect on your marriage.
Renowned psychologist, Pooja Priyamvada, discusses 9 signs that you have a toxic wife. Watch the video and contemplate how many sound familiar. Don't worry if the similarities in the situations she describes match those in your life. It is never too late to seek help and heal your relationship. Book a session with one of our 30+ experts today: www.bonobology.com/online-lov...
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What if your husband do these things with you
What if husband do these things with his wife?
Whats even more sad is the amount of men who searched for this video because how their wives are treating them..
I did
So did I
Nail on the head. I'm one of them.
On vacation even. I need to leave her.
😔
I'm a mechanic and I'm sitting out back tearing up because every single thing you listed is accurate. 18 years and 3 kids. I absolutely hate my life.
We’re so sorry to hear that. Having a toxic wife becomes an even more complicated situation when children are involved
She made you hate your life... gain control over yourself and start doing things you like, like the things you did when single, you will start feeling good again...
Watch some Andrew Tate and take the control of your family..
Move on the best way you can bro.
Ya men are controlling ??? Never ever . She says why don't you ever want to do anything. I say in my mind " cause I'll make a wrong turn on the way and get into a huge fight then she well yell in public . Oh it's F bad I'm absolutely broken
I absolutely don't trust my wife. She hasnt ruined me and my life though, I have allowed her to do so. I wish i could go back in time and never have met her.
Same here.
@@raftaarsingh3327 is your name really Raftaarsigh? I ❤️ your name.
Same 😢
Well, on the other hand, we cannot be a control freak either and if you don't control some things, it will go out of hand and she will cross boundaries
Most wives become toxic after her husband's mother dies
My parents always told me from childhood that betting and gambling is a bad thing. But, now as a married man I feel it is better than the Gamble of MARRIAGE.
I suggest young boys to be away from marriage. Take care of your old parents. Take your parents for a vacation and Llive a Happy SINGLE life.
The emotional need and passing youth often makes men make such gambles. But you are right. It is indeed a deadly gamble. Not worth it.
Taking care of your old parent and making them happy gives far more genuine happiness and fulfilment.
So true
True, got married few months ago and suffering now. No way out 😢
Yes, my wife is toxic. My wife is highly manipulative, demanding, threating (often with divorce), explosive anger, name calling, condescending, silent treatment. She is ALWAYS right, never interested in any other point of view to name a few. My wife controls ALL the money and I'm given an allowance. I'm always questioned what I spend my allowance on, but she Never tells me what she spends money on. Yes, my wife is toxic.
Your wife have Narcissist personality disorder. Please check with consultant psychologist and also you will get good information from google and youtube.
Feels same..
Run like the wind bro. I’m serious. Get out of there today.
I'm a victim of silent treatment (its not treatment ) :(
See i control the money but he made his own bed when we almost lost everything because he blew his money on bad things. I cant trust him with money now so i told him the choice was his. Let me control the money until i can trust him raising his allowance as i see improvement or i leave. And he agreed to give me the money. I hate it. I feel controling i hate it but like god dammit i do not wanna move into a box with my kids cuz i always try to trust him. So far this video is teaching me im not toxic. Maybe some ways but thank goodness. Im not as bad as my spouse makes me feel :( im in a very toxic relationship with him. I just wanna be happy. He says he doesnt think ill be happy with anyone. Idk maybe. Maybe i should he alone for a while
My ex wife had multiple narcissist's behaviours but luckily I was aware what she was doing. Even then it was not easy. For that reason it is so much easier now to heal once I understood breaking up was the best decision ever! Happily we have no mortgage and no kids. Guys! Please run for your own life NOW!
Sucks we don’t learn these things until it’s too late now we’re pretty much screwed…
They wait until you marry them or have children together before they show their 'true self'
@@deamo1119 NOTHING could be more correct than this at the moment
@@deamo1119exactly!!!!!
At least we enjoyed the screwing.
It’s only too late if your a ball less wuss. Kids are no excuse to stay married to some snatch. It’s actually worse. As much as you try to hide it they see what’s going on and will grow up seeing this as normal in thier relationships . Not to mention they grow up knowing they have a whipped pussy for a father. Show them it’s not ok to be treated poorly.
I am a lady I have realized I am being toxic to my husband .the fear of losing him and about future ,kids makes me do somehow this behavior.i have never realized I am effecting my husbands mental health I am going to work on myself now thanks for the information 🙏
It’s amazing that you’ve recognised your mistakes and want to make active changes to be better!
I wish my wife starts to think like this.
My girls thinks she right all the time it’s her word or the highway she don’t listen to me or what I have to say but expect me to meet her demands
Same too. I think I'm a toxic wife too 😔
I’m even afraid of saying anything against her,…fed up of everything,life’s hell now
just leave
Same here😢
I'm in the same boat as you.
Just be selfish about your health and well-being and focus on yourself, come what may. I did that but after 11 yrs of torture and am finally happy and free. I had to take a decision and I did before it was too late as it affected my health so much.
My wife has all the characteristics mentioned. We've been through months of counseling, with different counsellors resulting in my wife being told she is the problem and her breaking down in tears with remorse, then going back to square one the very next day denying the outcome. Tried every approach, to no avail.
As is mentioned in this video, toxic people never take responsibility for their behavior because they know very well within themselves that they are wrong. They are highly selfish and don't care exploiting others. It is an illusion to expect that any counselling and therapy will change such people because they do all their bad deeds with full awareness.
13 years & 2 kids. Your video is almost like my life's story. I am living with someone who is ever critical of everything I do. She wouldn't take responsibility or ownership of anything but criticize every decision I take. She'll go out of her way to make me suffer if I am even speaking to my parents or sister. She's the reason I spend every single day for the past many years under stress. I've gained weight & do not feel like moving out for a walk even though I like to play badminton and tennis. I want to work on my career for achieving better prospects but her behaviour creates conditions in my house that I always feel mentally tired and exhausted.
Quit feeling sorry yourself. Get off your ass and do something. Start by walking every day, eating less and getting to bed early.
Exercise, 100 push-ups and 100 body weight squats a day.
And stop overeating.
This is all much easier to do than making your wife happy. And the results will change your life for the better.
Take control of your life. Join a gym. Lose weight that you have gained. Do something for yourself and stop feeling sorry. She won't like it and will try to make your life miserable. Don't retaliate or be cruel. Just do your own thing and improve physical well-being which will give you a positive outlook out of her domain and control.
@@nmazhar1979Be extremely manipulative and get in shape and pretend to care then one day dump her and leave the state without warning.
You hate your life but you got 2 kids with her ahahahah thats funny. 13 years and 2 kids... thats very strange
buddy... i can understand u
I wish I could leave behind everything and go away far away..
Same here bro but it’s not easy 😕
Please stay, your wife loves you,im sure
I realise that in the last 31 years of marriage everything you mentioned is true about my wife. Surprisingly I also recognise my own toxic behaviour after reflecting on these last 30 years. It's not all black and white. I apologised to my wife three years ago and decided to do what I can to remove toxicity from our relationship. On my suggestion we started couples counseling and with good results and so I thought. Gaslighting control and financial control all is true. I love her very much but apparently she doesn't have any feelings for me. So we are living separate lives in different countries. I wish her well. We are not officially divorced but there's no more toxicity due to our distance and my commitment to give her the space she needs.
Keep going. Sounds like you have made positive changes and you're making progress.
Sorry to ask but do you have children? If yes, is your decision affecting them?
Couples counseling almost never fixes marriages. 9 times out of 10 it just leads to the woman leaving.
Because most counselor are always biased towards women . @@user-bl1dt8gg5f
My wife is just opposite of what you have mentioned in this video..glad to have her in my life.. thankyou
U r lucky not everyone is including myself ...
He probably has been married for two months. Six years from now, he’ll be right here in the comment section with the rest of us. These broads are insane!
Then why are you here anyways?
@@aritrasengupta8115 why are you?
@@ajaygoel1860 He showed up 5 years too early.😂
My wife is also super toxic. She never supports me in my decisions and is always critical of what i do. she always demean me in front of my neighbours and family members. it is so painful for the last 25 years. even on a spiritual visit ,she does not miss to fight on very petty issues. she always complains about everything and have a negative view of everything. Anyways, i spend a lot on her and never say 'No' to any of her demands.
at times,she is so much abusive with me and calls names to my parents.
She does have all the characteristics of a toxic spouse. for the last 3 days, i m damn seriously thinking about moving to other city
and live alone.
I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like a very difficult situation to be in. Before you move, we have a video with some tips on how you can deal with a toxic wife: ruclips.net/video/05sXK84DYac/видео.html - it might help you!
Run like the wind brother. I’m serious. Get out of there today.
Ma I know present situations
SvI
@@Bonobologyi think toxic wives more common that what I thought
My wife doesn’t work, doesn’t try to work and if she had a job, found excuses to leave it and dump her crap on me. She spends our paycheck as soon as it hits the bank. She demands I do everything for her. I work 60 hours a week, take care of our child and do nearly all the household chores because she is an excuse within an excuse. She demands I do things for her and expects me to do it without saying anything. I’m constantly picked apart for anything I do, I can’t do anything for myself because it’s wrong to her. If I stand up to her, she turns up the threats and mental and verbal abuse. It’s insane and I know I need to shut her down. I just don’t know what to do in fear of losing everything.
No matter what you lose but you should consider ending this relationship. Things will only become worse with age. Your peacefulness is the most important thing in life.
Don’t kid yourself losing everything is a very strong possibility in a divorce and worse the older you get but hey if you wind up homeless and broke at least you’ll have peace !
Nah no way protect yourself and the life you’ve worked hard to build ..think outside the box
We are on the same situation.
My wife and I are in this situation as you describe.
She thinks I'm toxic and I think she's toxic, it's never-ending yelling so in the end I shut my mouth and stop engaging with her every time we are in a heated argument. But then I started getting fed up with this situation.
We have 2 kids and she does not work which is no issue for me but I was expecting she would help me keep the house clean, cause at the end I'm tired at work then I have to keep the house clean also and even do the dishes and clothes. My main complaint to her she's not contributing at home even with house chores. The house is messed up, and she'll do house chores every time she felt like doing it.
My main concern is the kitchen, she rarely cooks, and if she cooks the oven, microwave, and stove are left messy. This messy kitchen is affecting me since I don't want insects especially cockroaches will start to creep out of our home. If I raise this concern with her and remind her every time she leaves the kitchen messy she talks back to me that I'm a nagging husband, toxic husband, and compares me to my father (who is never been a good father or husband).
I'm lost on this, it's very difficult to talk to this person especially since I already tried this. I want to talk this out to my relatives cause I really felt there is a need of intervention..
Today's mainstream media ( drama series and movies) and paid social media with an agenda have caused this that women are fed so much lies as all men and in laws are misogynist and cruel etc. With negative thoughts in their subconscious when they get married even the good mens become evil. In your case your wife is also a lazy person and today's women try to fight back as are thought in the same media different techniques.
That's why divorce rate has skyrocketed in most countries in past few decades.
U should search for how to deal with narcissistic spouse and settle this early and if no improvement just leave the relationship.
Never trust your wife if she's being in toxic guys.
It took 8 years to identify that it was a toxic relationship right from the start. Now atleast I priortized myself and just moving out to breath again
Walk Away
Awesome! 👍👍👍
Right.
Indian males are thoroughly groomed entire life to feel that their duty is to please and care everybody and everything around. They don't know how to take care of themselves. It is difficult to learn later, but it is really good to learn. It can make you come out of quicksand.
This is so true!!!! Also, there is no solution to such a situation. Work on yourself, gather strength and wisdom, focus on self and make yourself a priority. When you have good people around you, you will no longer need or need to tolerate toxic ones!!!!
Single here! Living the best of life ever ! 😂😂😂
Be single for ever , stay away from women if you want mental peace ...
I was isolated from my friends and family and ripped to shreds by her I'm out of it and healing thanks to friends family and channels like yours thank you❤
You are a man so you are lying.
Toxic is also using vulnerabilities they are told or realise against you.
At present we did not expect anything from our wife's, not even love, not even respect, not even peace in life.
But we are also not expecting disrespect and every time controlling our emotions.
😂😂😂 very good u support feminists so enjoy😊😊😊😊😊😊
@@comedyalbums7202no, feminism is what ruined women in the first place. It's a narcissist factory.
I have watched this video and have decided that there are enough difference that, while our relationship is very difficult, it could NOT be considered toxic. This gives me hope. Thank you.
Glad to hear it. Mine was toxic.
You absolutely have hope. Many churches have marriage conferences in Feb so I would check that out. Get in some couples counseling so you can both learn to communicate when something bothers you and what you need (and how to give each other what you both need-it can be harder than it seems at first.)
Give her time and she will become much worse. Look at the red flags and decide what you want. I decided to stay for my children and she is killing me slowly
THere is no solution for living with a toxic spouse. Divorce is the only answer. You can worry about all the healing - of yourself - after. As for the (ex) spouse... to hell with them!
And if you have kids?
@@deamo1119 Give her a blumpkin on only fans and give the kids up for adoption.
@@deamo1119 Give her a blumpkin on only fans and give the kids up for adoption.
Agreed divorce is the only way but divorce is expensive
Help me, my wife is like this, I'm so afraid of her that I just sit at home and don't go out or see my family because I don't want her to get in bad mood and get angry with me, I just feel like I'm always walking on thin ice
Communicate what you just said to her. And if she's not willing to change, leave.
Remember to be a MAN don't be wimpy or timid . I loss it on my wife when i have had enough of her controlling bs . I MEAN loss it nothing volant but very clear that you better shut up or im going start smashing the house up . Japanese woman are so good to there men they don't even know how to yell . Very calm and i can asure you all the men here hate YELLING from our bitch wife . We need to bring Japanese woman here .
Just do what you want and ignore her. BTW, record her whenever there is an argument. Do not get get angry at all, be fully in control all the time. Unless she accepts your masculinity, divorce her. Keep all the recording since you will need those to prove how bad her behaviour was all the time. She will try to put false 498A but these recordings will prove she is lying. Become free once and for all since people never change, they just become worse over time.
Run, get away, Brother. They manipulate you by using your family, money, and so forth. I couldn’t change her no matter what.
Run as far as you can. Go visit my Cambodia and find a good wife there, and she'll treat you like a king
I have been toxic towards my husband. I grew up in a toxic household with a narcissist mother.
When I got married I had to clue what being healthy was. I still have some of these traits but I am healing myself from all. It even got to the point that my spouse cheated on me not justifying his actions but I am taking accountability on mines and just want to be better.
I had toxic relationship. I walked away from my wife. Everything you listed in video is right. She tried to intimidate me . She always abuse me and my parents. She never allowed me to talk to other relatives. She was evil. Just because of my baby boy i was bearing this torture . Later on i realised that i deserve a better life . I simply walked away from her and decided to never go back.
I hope my relationship will not end up like yours. I wanna leave her, but i have a baby girl and I dont wanna see her growing up without a father
I know she will never change...after walked away from her...after a month ...i got legal notice with all false allegation ..i filed directly for divorce in a court but now i am thinking about my baby boy...what will be his future without father..her people coming to me for asking my forgivenes and settling up this matter out of court... I m also thinking to give her one last chance...just due to my son....
@@sameermujawar1790 wow thats great that you have thought of giving a last chance, thats your greatness but has she ever approached you directly seeking for a last chance? matter is that if not she has that ego. People coming to you on behalf of her ...requesting or appealing...i am a kind skeptical..Anyways giving her a chance a good move though😅.
She regretted losing me...She came with her people along with my son .... She hugged me and asked for my forgiveness ....I also ask her forgiveness...Matter settled down...l love has been restored again...Let's hope for the beautiful life.....
@@sameermujawar1790 Thats amazing and so sweet...Atleast you both have regretted and asked for forgiveness....thats what is needed...Go ahead and Start a beautiful life..God bless your family...
I thought toxic wives are rare until i watched this video..when a wife tries to prove you are wrong and name call your parents …belittle anything that you do for her..doubt anyone that you know or talk to …ask to eat foods that make you sick saying that it is all in your head….keep brining things from the past to tell you how much you dont care for her…pull any excuse in the book that she is quite unique and you are so lucky to have her…I recently woke up and realized how much I ve changed and not to the person i ve wanted to be ..her negativity finally woke me up…Man what was I thinking…trying to convince us with fake love and emotions..this is not what I wanted…am taking a job in a different city to be away from her…my biggest hold are thee kids not her
Thank you for the video. I understood where I Stand. Can you also make a video on the next steps to be taken so that we can come out and maintain our well-being?
Glad this video helped you. Here is the video you requested: ruclips.net/video/05sXK84DYac/видео.html
If i show this to my wife, i do not think she will accept it and will try to find reasons to justify her behavior. I have never seen a video i can relate to in this regard. Thank you very much.
I'm glad you found this video helpful. We have some advice on dealing with it here: ruclips.net/video/05sXK84DYac/видео.html Hopefully that will help you :) Please take care of yourself
I couldn’t even show this to my wife! She would refuse to watch it !
Many thanks for this valuable video 🙏🙏🙏
A very famous saying “happy wife, happy life” … 99% marriages are where men are henpecked and miserable.
Choose one
Henpecked is a good word for it
That saying is the problem. It turns women into an idol who think their feelings are the measurement of right and wrong.
@@transitionshotline I am 100% sure the 99% is correct.
See that's the problem who ever came up with the term Happy wife Happy life is got to be the worst and shameful thing to say. Let me put it right Happy spouse Happy house this includes both and not just one gender so I hope that that phase Happy wife Happy house will just disappear cause it's not a true saying in most cases
20 years in and I just want to give up not because I don’t love her but I’m tired of being the blame for everything wrong with my marriage
🫂get well soon dear
Wonderful practical explanation and advise
Excellent analyses !!
I never seen any video in this channel, simply subscribed just after watching this one.
With Love🙏
Very insightful and direct information. Would like to see more realistic content like this!
Thanks!
Thank you, glad you connected with this
Thanks for giving insight.
Thank you so much, but I did seriously contribute to this.
Watch our tips on how to deal with your wife once you have identified she is toxic: ruclips.net/video/05sXK84DYac/видео.html
This applies, to husband, wife, girlfriend or a boyfriend. Even friendships. Applies both ways. Unfortunately I am living in this type of a relationship.
In my life , to be honest, there are 50% of the signs strongly present, but 50% not. And it is episodes of extreme toxicity. Also the life partner is normal after all such instances and I am left completely wrecked up and to deal with the after effects completely on my own. The question of separation is impossible because of the children and because of my life life partner financially dependent on me. I find myself completely helpless.
I have the same problem, have u got the solution?
@@bhaveshkatara8967 🙁 Sorry my friend, please read the last line of my comment, you ll get the answer..
She looks like Narcissist to me!
Only solution is to ditch such toxic people
Wow. I feel so much better Watching this.😊
Very good video, thank you!
Glad you liked it!
Thank you for this ma'am . Apparently I have a toxic wife and I wasn't aware of it . Regards
We’re glad you found the video helpful!
Oh! Thats sad
That’s really painful 😢
Thank you for this video.
I absolutely loved this video. My wife has always been controlling. Deciding our vacations. Choosing kids' school even without my consent and then forcibly asking for money when she is overspending. Not respecting me and also trained her friends not to respect me. Then shifting blame and said something was wrong with me. I was confused for many years but finally had the courage to walk out when she stopped her wifely duties.
Thank you maam.. you are doing what a tremendous job
Great. I cannot agree more with what you are describing as toxic.
Thank you for great advice
Thank you for the explanation.
Glad it was helpful! If you're looking for tips on how to deal with a toxic wife, watch this video: ruclips.net/video/05sXK84DYac/видео.html
🙏mam. A lot of respect for your words and inherent truth it bears. I surprised after seeing the video made by a woman, who portrayed the reality and suggested remedies in details.
It took me 16 years to realize my wife came into my life only for the sake of using me. By any means.
Now i understand that there's nothing called love. It is only a means of using somebody for personal needs, wishes, desires, etc. Needs keep on changing. So does the behaviour.
I am experiencing all the points you listed. Please give more tips on how to handle such a person.
I learn new points here. Though I am single but if I have a chance to choose life partner, I will definately remember your nine points of toxic partner. I will request you make a video for me that how I understand the girl is toxic or not when I go to choose a life partner. Give me few signs pls. Lastly I would say, your speaking tone is so soft. Thank you.
Wow that is so accurate, Coming this from a woman is so re affirming and relieving
I think this is the life story of most Indian Men nowadays. I am a Man with 15 yrs of Marraige with 2 kids, all what you have said, fits right....Thanks a lot for the Video, I will atleast stop to cure her now and start taking care of myself.
Thanks woman!!!
All these apply to my wife!!
Help me because am concerned with many children I have with her
Should have used a rubber
Thank you lady. Somehow this video cleared my mind. It was foggy.
We're glad you found it helpful!
Great explained mam - thanks
Very informative Video ❤️❤️
Spot on on every point unfortunately.....
Beautifully said
This video, speaks to my heart directly. It's happening especially the isolation part.
No supportive words and I have work pressure and my son is autistic. Omg
Ma'am, Since 13 years I am facing the same issues, my children & my parent also can not do anything in this... It is very critical for me to make situation right or make comfortable.
WonderFUL CONCLUSION👍
Thank you. I needed this badly.
Informative.
I have a one year child and i have to go out from my house for dinner since my wife didnt cook thou i had a tiring day, having diiner from a car watching this video,,this video explains my life,all i wanted was a good wife but my wife is toxic as hell she will never listen to my problems
How about divorce
It's not too late to leave. Yourself is the most important.
Correctly said my sister❤❤❤its reality now a days😮
Very informative.
Hi mam i really liked your presentation . It was informative and relatable. However the topic should not be specific to wife .it should be partner .
This isolation thing is so real....thank you
This is the story of my 28 year relationship/marriage.
The more I understand what happened, the happier I am that the divorce is almost final.
Still very painful but I think I see light at the end of this tunnel.
One last thing, Bonnie, may your karma come back on you three fold.
Nice informations.
Pooja every thing you say is so true this is my wife inside out after 15yrs of marriage I have to get away for my own good .🙏
Excellent... 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
One must not stay in a toxic relationship. No matter what is at stake, one must come out of such a relationship. Have self some self-respect.
You are a blessing to my life this is the video that solved my mystery questions self doubts.....forever grateful
Glad this video helped you. We have another video on how you should approach this situation if you have identified your wife is toxic: ruclips.net/video/05sXK84DYac/видео.html
Thank you so much mam
More valuable information shared
Is that the behavior of a losing partner? Good insight. Thank you
My wife and I are in this situation as you describe.
She thinks I'm toxic and I think she's toxic, it's never-ending yelling so in the end I shut my mouth and stop engaging with her every time we are in a heated argument. But then I started getting fed up with this situation.
We have 2 kids and she does not work which is no issue for me but I was expecting she would help me keep the house clean, cause at the end I'm tired at work then I have to keep the house clean also and even do the dishes and clothes. My main complaint to her she's not contributing at home even with house chores. The house is messed up, and she'll do house chores every time she felt like doing it.
My main concern is the kitchen, she rarely cooks, and if she cooks the oven, microwave, and stove are left messy. This messy kitchen is affecting me since I don't want insects especially cockroaches will start to creep out of our home. If I raise this concern with her and remind her every time she leaves the kitchen messy she talks back to me that I'm a nagging husband, toxic husband, and compares me to my father (who is never been a good father or husband).
I'm lost on this, it's very difficult to talk to this person especially since I already tried this. I want to talk this out to my relatives cause I really felt there is a need of intervention..
Here to share my story with the people in comments section as well.
I work 2 jobs because my wife hasn't gone back to work when we had a child 6 years ago.
The house is a complete mess, the laundry is never done and piles of dirty clothes are in every room on floor I have to help. The toilets are dirty i clean.
I work 7 days a week and also need to find time to buy some workclothes when they wear out because thats all I wear everyday, including socks.
Last time my wife got clothes it was because I went to buy her some she refuses to go to the stores to dress herself decently, I shop for both of us with what little time I have.
I get yelled at for missing my child's school moments because Im always at work, and get yelled at for not planning a vacation for us.
I just can't do and plan everything and being scolded for it. I am mentally and physically exhausted.
We fight everyday, it starts with me being yelled at for something so miniscule its not worth mentioning to a partner, and results with me exploding lately in front of our child because I cannot take it anymore.
I am always afraid of saying or doing anything around her that she will get mad.
I sometimes hold my breath when she comes downstairs from a nap that I will get scolded for something like a dog.
But now, I no longer can contain my inside rage that has built up for 12 years. and explode screaming profanities at the top of my lungs because I no longer respect her.
I feel terrible all around for becoming something I never was but Im tired of being bullied and living in fear. Part of problem is she has lost alot of my respect. I am aware of that fact, and want to be proud of my wife, but most of the time I am dissapointed because the house is a dump, her appearance is terrible, her attitude is lousy, things don't get done unless I do it, always complains and hates my parents who have contributed huge sums of money to us to buy our first house and a new car when we got married.
No matter what, she is never grateful and Im tired of working 7 days a week for us to be financially comfortable, if she does nothing but complain as a stay at home wife.
I can’t believe the direction of my marriage the past 5 years. I am living in a strange world where nothing she does or wants makes sense to me
I am proud of my wife. She trusts me with almost everything including, money, emails, and any difficulties/challenges she faces in life despite me encouraging her to be more independent and have greater confidence. I love you .....
You are " SPOT ON ".
everything said is totally correct in my case,,,,i just cant get out of this,,,,,,,,,,,,,,she has been isolating me since 20004,,,,,,,,,first ,,,,relatives,then family ,,,then my parents,,,then ,,,my best friends my job,,,,,,,and now,,,,its come to my kids
Thank you so much
Very informative
Divorce and live happily…..God make man strong and weak in emotional so bring out your strong part out and F the emotions
Fantastic...now I know...
She wanted me to clean more. That’s fair. I started doing all the dishes. It wasn’t enough, so I started doing all of the laundry. That wasn’t enough. I did more. That’s not enough. I asked her not to tell me I’m not doing enough for 1 week. She agreed and was back on it the next day.
I’m done doing dishes and laundry and anything. If I’m going to be treated like I’m not doing anything, I might as well not do anything.
Very Useful Madam
Thq Vry MUCH FOR INFO 💢👌
I did arrange marriage before 2 years...in two years she not allowed me to talk with my parents...but she ask me to stay with her in her parents home...
3:28 pooja jee
For me your advice has come too late. My ex-wife was not just toxic she was the devils own poison. More than all the points you have mentioned and I must say your description is mild compared to what she did to me.
Thank God I recovered but it took me a few years.
I wish youtube and you had arrived earlier. Please keep up the good work. May Allah bless you and keep you in good health always. ❤❤