I was falling asleep while watching this and received a call from my own father. I have been ignoring his calls/texts for several months. But today I decided to answer. I've been binging Iyanla for the past few days and have been doing a lot of deep thinking about who I am and why I do the things I do and what I want in my life. This is just a start to my healing but I am SO grateful God has put Iyanla on this Earth to serve women like myself and so many others. 💜
I got some revelations watching this. I so believe my issues, like her, is because of the unhealed portions of myself. Love how Iyanla always takes it back to, it's not about him, it's you.
This is sooooo sad. I cannot imagine how victims of domestic violence who go through this repeatedly, live like this. I pray for all victims of domestic violence. 🙏🏾 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
My Grandmother told me, baby don't every go into a relationship thinking someone is going to change after I do, because whatever they are doing, it will only get worse. I have lived and testify.
It's too bad your grammar is so atrocious because what you're saying is correct, You cannot fix anyone, you cannot change anyone, you can not control anyone, you can only change or control yourself, If you're in relationship with someone that means you have to be okay with accepting them exactly as they are because YOU CAN'T CHANGE THEM! That is how it is......Fix yourself, be complete in yourself, you cannot love anyone 💯 unless you're good with yourself, Mic drop, periodt, end of story.......
This made me emotional, I think because I understand always having to defend yourself and that built up anger that's easily triggered, especially from men.
Either Evelyn is not able to go deeper into her truth, or she doesn't want to go deeper. She is still playing a part for the cameras. Sometimes we let our status in the world keep us from healing old wounds that will transform our lives in ways we can't imagine. But I get it, the unknown is a scary place. So we stay in the familiar no matter how toxic. I wish her the best. I wish all of us the best 😍
She has always kept up with Iyanla behind the scenes though which I think shows she's still been doing her work. These things aren't overnight you know, it's hard for some people
It's never the messenger its always the message! This was for those who needed it. Not those who believe they have no issues & just watch, to comment negativity! But continue on.
Why are you challenging iyanla, you your own woman challenge your to your own knowledge, because everybody has a different growning up, & there own story too there victory sweety
We've all got a story to tell. We've all done and dealt with something that was not beneficial to us as women. Healing is hard just as Iyanla stated. Evelyn isn't playing victim, she's damaged just as most are in some shape, form, or fashion. She just dealt with her damage differently. Growing up in the Bronx....Only the strong survive! I'm happy she recognized her flaws and sought the help to overcome them. Dios Bendiga mi hermana
She is a work in progress like most of us. It's levels to the progress, even her being on television telling her story should be inspiring to us because no one usually changes overnight. She's amazing woman, hurt but at least trying to find her way. For that Evelyn continue the work. It takes years sometimes to undo the pain that people have been through. May God bless you
Thank You ladies for being sooo real with it. it touched me to my core. I felt the story was about me. I too was a lil girl who didn't morn the betrayal of my father. he was my life I his only lil girl. then he separated from my mom and I did not see him or know about him for 4 years just like that I was dismissed. I was 18 but it hurt me so bad I felt I was unworthy of love. In my Latin misogynistic family I was not told the truth. That led me to a down word spiral. Man! its crazy that I as a woman I believed I had no power. I like how strong Evelyn is because she's putting it out there for every one to see. thank you both for this experience it has brought me to terms with how I also allowed men to hit me and dishonor me. Not anymore! These talks can really save some young woman from herself. Thank You! Ms. Vanzant for all your hard work on bringing our sisterhood together.
just crying will not heal anything. it re-creates stress in the body again and again. knowing that what happen, the absence of a parent is your strength because even if you don't see it, its been a gift to you.
Iyanla please come over and visit with me. I'll make some coffee and sandwiches and we'll talk. Lots of sadness no more fix my life but enjoy whatever you do. xo
There's very little I wouldn't give to have Iyanla sit me on her lap while I weep like a baby, shortly putting me at arms length, looking me deep in the eyes and saying: "you matter".
When you're made to feel like you're not good enough you start behaving like you're not good enough. None of us is perfect, we all have our faults but no one deserves abuse in any shape or form. She's not telling everything and is protecting someone or something. If you haven't been stamped on and brought to the lowest of lows, no one will understand 😥
There's this surface level acknowledgement from her. Can't put my finger on it... I think that's why Iyanla kept asking "Is that the truth?" She knew there's more than what she wasn't being told.
We all have the fear of not being loved by an earthly man but sadly it doesn't go as planned.... imagine being beautiful and rich and still can't find love Society is the problem
Unfortunately It is common amongst male athletes that a lot of their wives give them an ok or it is understood that they will cheat when they are away.
I know am watching this two years later.....but.....wow......I just wrote down it will not get any better until you tell yourself the down in the gutter dirty truth about what you do to dishonour yourself 😢
Tolerated that behavior from a man who has daughters and raising the daughters that's why is other wifes left him with the daughters hoping he would see him self in time to stop that behavior and apologize to them girls and let them know that they deserve better then he was showing them.
Sadly a lot of women feel that way. All about the money. I can take care of my damn self, don't get me wrong help on the bills won't hurt but what else are you gonna bring to the table?
My question is do a woman think before they sleep with a man is it going to be a family out of it & the kids will be punished also in the beginning, middle & the end, so in the end they have to suffer what’s the truth how it all started, & it’s sad, disrespectful, unloyal to a mom,mother, & your family
I have to disagree with Iyanla for focusing exclusively on Evelyn’s ‘part’ in the domestic violence. Men/Ppl like her husband target women who they believe they can control. The man is an abuser. I have never watched basketball wives. I didn’t know who she was, I just like Iyanla.
So focusing on Chad would have done what? Think about it. She needs to focus on why she picked a ninja like him in the first place. That’s not a Chad issue, it’s an Evelyn issue.
I feel like iyanla was feeding Evelyn every answer to every question she asked her. I guess at the time Evelyn needed the credibility for something......this is the one episode of iyanla I didn't enjoy
Well did she headbutt herself? A man should never put his hands on a woman no matter what, he actually held her by the ears and headbutted her, so he is to blame. He actually apologized for it so he was the only wrong one in this situation.
Absolutely, she's a gold digger, wants to play the victim...years later she was bullying other women on that God awful show that's thankfully now cancelled!
I really wouldn't put it past her if her so called friend told her to place those condoms in the car and start an argument. Attention seeker. If anyone got over on you iyanla, I believe that this one did
Do you mean oops? Because that means one thing, like shouldn't have done it, but opps is like correctly ops, as in short for operations, black ops......
That's not a fair statement. Apparently, you have absolutely no idea of what victims of domestic violence go through or what their mental state is when they go back to or stay in DV situations.
I was falling asleep while watching this and received a call from my own father. I have been ignoring his calls/texts for several months. But today I decided to answer. I've been binging Iyanla for the past few days and have been doing a lot of deep thinking about who I am and why I do the things I do and what I want in my life. This is just a start to my healing but I am SO grateful God has put Iyanla on this Earth to serve women like myself and so many others. 💜
Good for you ❤❤
I got some revelations watching this. I so believe my issues, like her, is because of the unhealed portions of myself. Love how Iyanla always takes it back to, it's not about him, it's you.
Same here....
Iyanla a server. Thank you Lord Jesus Christ.
This is sooooo sad. I cannot imagine how victims of domestic violence who go through this repeatedly, live like this. I pray for all victims of domestic violence. 🙏🏾 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
She has shown she hit women and men as well🤦🏿♀️Women can't be abusive neither.
@@damarcusmomm05 When have you seen her hit a man? I know you don't have an answer for me, so don't make statements that are not true.
@@justdorcas3875 Well, why did Iyanla ask her did she hit Chad first or raise her hand to him, as if she knows Evelyn has done that before?
My Grandmother told me, baby don't every go into a relationship thinking someone is going to change after I do, because whatever they are doing, it will only get worse. I have lived and testify.
It's too bad your grammar is so atrocious because what you're saying is correct, You cannot fix anyone, you cannot change anyone, you can not control anyone, you can only change or control yourself, If you're in relationship with someone that means you have to be okay with accepting them exactly as they are because YOU CAN'T CHANGE THEM! That is how it is......Fix yourself, be complete in yourself, you cannot love anyone 💯 unless you're good with yourself, Mic drop, periodt, end of story.......
Yep. I agree
This made me emotional, I think because I understand always having to defend yourself and that built up anger that's easily triggered, especially from men.
Either Evelyn is not able to go deeper into her truth, or she doesn't want to go deeper. She is still playing a part for the cameras. Sometimes we let our status in the world keep us from healing old wounds that will transform our lives in ways we can't imagine. But I get it, the unknown is a scary place. So we stay in the familiar no matter how toxic. I wish her the best. I wish all of us the best 😍
So true. We care too much about other people think of us.
She has always kept up with Iyanla behind the scenes though which I think shows she's still been doing her work. These things aren't overnight you know, it's hard for some people
When you don't deal with what's going on it keeps going on. Wow! I felt that
Chad knew he was not being a good husband and father. And knew that Iyanla will call him out for that and ultimately losing his job.
In this moment, Evelyn was at her MOST authentic! She has never looked better 💯
She's always been a beautiful woman, she just behaves very badly.
Regardless of how I feel about her, this is sad.
It's never the messenger its always the message! This was for those who needed it. Not those who believe they have no issues & just watch, to comment negativity! But continue on.
I would pay Millions Just to hear iyanla call me beloved
Why are you challenging iyanla, you your own woman challenge your to your own knowledge, because everybody has a different growning up, & there own story too there victory sweety
@@luanamontgomere5897 Don't take away her statement of love and respect for Iyanla.
God says you are His Beloved.
But you have to receive Him as your Lord and Saviour, Thats all.
Yes,she says "beloved" and then goes the ugly truth that "beloved" doesn't won't to hear,so are you really sure that you want that?b😀😀😉
Me toooooooooo 🥹
We've all got a story to tell. We've all done and dealt with something that was not beneficial to us as women. Healing is hard just as Iyanla stated. Evelyn isn't playing victim, she's damaged just as most are in some shape, form, or fashion. She just dealt with her damage differently. Growing up in the Bronx....Only the strong survive! I'm happy she recognized her flaws and sought the help to overcome them. Dios Bendiga mi hermana
She is a work in progress like most of us. It's levels to the progress, even her being on television telling her story should be inspiring to us because no one usually changes overnight. She's amazing woman, hurt but at least trying to find her way. For that Evelyn continue the work. It takes years sometimes to undo the pain that people have been through. May God bless you
Always liked Evelyn i could see the brokenness but also the kindness. And thank God IYANLA could see her for a good and truthful person she really is
Thank You ladies for being sooo real with it. it touched me to my core. I felt the story was about me. I too was a lil girl who didn't morn the betrayal of my father. he was my life I his only lil girl. then he separated from my mom and I did not see him or know about him for 4 years just like that I was dismissed. I was 18 but it hurt me so bad I felt I was unworthy of love. In my Latin misogynistic family I was not told the truth. That led me to a down word spiral. Man! its crazy that I as a woman I believed I had no power. I like how strong Evelyn is because she's putting it out there for every one to see. thank you both for this experience it has brought me to terms with how I also allowed men to hit me and dishonor me. Not anymore! These talks can really save some young woman from herself. Thank You! Ms. Vanzant for all your hard work on bringing our sisterhood together.
just crying will not heal anything. it re-creates stress in the body again and again. knowing that what happen, the absence of a parent is your strength because even if you don't see it, its been a gift to you.
I have to,
" Vote for me, so that I can have peace and not pieces."
And this man is raising daughters and hitting his wife and sleeping around he need to see Iyana.
The wife is a glorified nanny 😢
Iyanla please come over and visit with me. I'll make some coffee and sandwiches and we'll talk. Lots of sadness no more fix my life but enjoy whatever you do. xo
Jesus can love you until you cry tears of joy
Amen 🙏🏿
We needed this thank you 🙏
It shows how gorgeous and successful you can be and a man will still cheat. 🤷🏿♀️
My thoughts exactly when Eric Benet cheated on Halle Berry!
Been there myself!!
But wouldn't get married to a known cheater
A cheater is always a cheater!
She should have never married him, he was just as damaged as she was.
There's very little I wouldn't give to have Iyanla sit me on her lap while I weep like a baby, shortly putting me at arms length, looking me deep in the eyes and saying: "you matter".
😂😂😅😅
When you're made to feel like you're not good enough you start behaving like you're not good enough. None of us is perfect, we all have our faults but no one deserves abuse in any shape or form. She's not telling everything and is protecting someone or something. If you haven't been stamped on and brought to the lowest of lows, no one will understand 😥
If you listen ling enough you'll believe what others say about you......plain and simple
“He was a great teacher to you!!” Come on Iyanla!!!
That was so a good quote. You have to train people how to treat you.
It's crazy because after these, she ends up having another baby with a boyfriend
Love you Evelyn!!
*If I had relationships worth saving, I'd call Iyanla first.*
That's funny but true
I like the way you are, Iyanla!
I'm so grateful for this channel. To prove my joy, I'm giving you some 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
There's this surface level acknowledgement from her. Can't put my finger on it... I think that's why Iyanla kept asking "Is that the truth?" She knew there's more than what she wasn't being told.
Yes OWN, YES!!!!
We all have the fear of not being loved by an earthly man but sadly it doesn't go as planned.... imagine being beautiful and rich and still can't find love
Society is the problem
Bless day everyone. Give your life and heart to jesus today. Truly seek him. Before its too late. Life is short
Celebrities always get a divorce. It is so rare to see celebrity marriages make it.
Unfortunately It is common amongst male athletes that a lot of their wives give them an ok or it is understood that they will cheat when they are away.
Iylana I send You Love !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Respect .
Damn Evelyn 😢. I feel like you are a good person but traumatized
This one hit me. I’ve done some of this wow.
Thank you for sharing. Make me work harder to be a server.
I know am watching this two years later.....but.....wow......I just wrote down it will not get any better until you tell yourself the down in the gutter dirty truth about what you do to dishonour yourself 😢
Thanks!
So blessed to have you in our lives ❤
How do I find a life coach like Iyanla??
Tolerated that behavior from a man who has daughters and raising the daughters that's why is other wifes left him with the daughters hoping he would see him self in time to stop that behavior and apologize to them girls and let them know that they deserve better then he was showing them.
I love her.
I think Evelyn married Chad for the wrong reasons, one is proving a point to B* 😁
She’s light skin but she got the same bm that....
😉
Can iyanla fix my life
You can fix your life, all the answers lay within you, you need to access them, be true to the truth you know
She still didn’t learn her lesson and always playing the victim smh 🤦🏽♀️ I’m so glad that show is over
Absolutely! Hit the nail on the head
How is my soul being scarred? That’s the question!
A friend of mine told me that as long as a man take care of her she don't care if he cheats🤔😳👀
Sadly a lot of women feel that way. All about the money. I can take care of my damn self, don't get me wrong help on the bills won't hurt but what else are you gonna bring to the table?
She told Iyanla she saw pictures of women. I wonder if one of the PHOTOS had OG in it?
I'm not gonna lie...i thought the same thing.
😂😂🥲
What is OG pls ?
Genetics bishhhhh. Ocho cinco wanted me. I’m your athletes favorite athlete!!!
😂
Just be honest and say that you’re after a men with money hell...
There is nothing wrong with wanting a man of means, it's a problem when that matters more than who he is and how he is.
@@shawnm.martin5721 boom
Evelyn is so GORGEOUS 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋
OMG I have daddy issues too
This is where I lost interest in iyanla. Never held Evelyn accountable, instead put everything on ocho!
good episode
My question is do a woman think before they sleep with a man is it going to be a family out of it & the kids will be punished also in the beginning, middle & the end, so in the end they have to suffer what’s the truth how it all started, & it’s sad, disrespectful, unloyal to a mom,mother, & your family
I have a hard time feeling bad for her. The way she bullied others on Basketball wives.
"DOWN IN THE GUTTER DIRTY TRU--THHH"
It’s some holes in this story she’s giving she fought with him multiple times besides the big show down .
People marry for the wrong reasons. He has money and looks good. The guy marries eye-candy. What about morals, values...character?
Is this clean up for her negative publicity from the O.G. colorist issue? Is this a second or third punishment for Ocho's past transgressions?
This is old this was taped in 2012 they’re just putting it on RUclips
This was recorded in 2012.
She has no issues with OG because OG is irrelevant to her. OG needs to seek help for her own issues.
@@brandoniswhoiam I'm saying they published this now for clean up on Evelyn's image.
@@justdorcas3875 They both have issues it's called "reality TV".😂😂😂😂
Evilyn is a colorist.
It's spelled Evelyn
Ignore appropriate behavior but don't ignore visible marks. 🤔 It's a first step before it's a two..step! Pay attention!
I have to disagree with Iyanla for focusing exclusively on Evelyn’s ‘part’ in the domestic violence. Men/Ppl like her husband target women who they believe they can control. The man is an abuser. I have never watched basketball wives. I didn’t know who she was, I just like Iyanla.
Iyanla is right to work with Evelyn. You work with people that are willing, And you work on them, not on third parties.
So focusing on Chad would have done what? Think about it. She needs to focus on why she picked a ninja like him in the first place. That’s not a Chad issue, it’s an Evelyn issue.
I feel like iyanla was feeding Evelyn every answer to every question she asked her. I guess at the time Evelyn needed the credibility for something......this is the one episode of iyanla I didn't enjoy
For first time I am the first one
Who fckng cares? What is wrong with kids today who think being first like this is a flex? Ridiculous, priorities out of whack....
What happened to the good strong durable women?
Can you fix my life over the phone
Only God can beloved sis
We must be truthful many are going in on Chad, Evelyn must own up to her mistakes too, don't blame it all on him period
Well did she headbutt herself? A man should never put his hands on a woman no matter what, he actually held her by the ears and headbutted her, so he is to blame. He actually apologized for it so he was the only wrong one in this situation.
Absolutely agree Katryn
He's 100% responsible for the violence he chose, causing her to need stitches, period end of story
Evelyn is lying. Shonie is her friend. Hang with what you are. Her plan was to get out of it what she could
I want this beautiful Puerto Rican 😍
😂 she never learnt anything
Thats what his girls need . He doing the same to his girls.
Evelyn is still acting like she is the innocent one. She know that she set him up
Who told you that Chad? Did she set him up to put that scar on her forehead also? He apologized to her publicly for everything so you are wrong.
Absolutely, she's a gold digger, wants to play the victim...years later she was bullying other women on that God awful show that's thankfully now cancelled!
Bella Lubisi
Emmett Till
Wilson Betty Brown Christopher Garcia Mary
Somehow I knew she would do this. Cry victim
This is from 2012 which makes it frustrating seeing her actions after this
Iyanla doesn't hold black men accountable
I really wouldn't put it past her if her so called friend told her to place those condoms in the car and start an argument. Attention seeker. If anyone got over on you iyanla, I believe that this one did
Sorry a head but will not split your nose, it’ll break it you gone need more than stitches..Something else happened!
It’s not her nose he hit, it was her forehead. And yes it can split you head if it’s hard enough.
First
opps!
Do you mean oops? Because that means one thing, like shouldn't have done it, but opps is like correctly ops, as in short for operations, black ops......
Victims of domestic violence who reapeatly go through this .lets it happens.
That's not a fair statement. Apparently, you have absolutely no idea of what victims of domestic violence go through or what their mental state is when they go back to or stay in DV situations.