Iyanla: Fix My Dependent Sister | Full Episode | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN
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- Опубликовано: 15 окт 2020
- Iyanla travels to Chicago to help two co-dependent sisters: one whose addiction is destroying her life, and the other who is forced to take care of her irresponsible sister at the expense of her own happiness and relationships.
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Parents need to stop having kids and making the oldest sibling feel like they have to take care of them. It’s NOT FAIR smh such a beautiful soul I’m sorry she had to endure that.
Amen
Life isn't fair and 99.9% of us have been raised in some sort of dysfunction because parents are people and people are not perfect. At a certain point, can't keep blaming parents.
@@gigilamoore2656 very true
@@gigilamoore2656 I strongly disagree! I was that older sibling who had to be responsible for my youngest siblings. My child hood was hell! I love my mother( may God rest her soul) but she should have made better choices, She and my father( who wasn't there). I am not judging her, but after the first child you should be able to know not to have more unless you are prepared! I will not have my oldest child be robbed of their childhood for my responsibilities!
I am the oldest child I was changing my sibling diapers at 10 and 16 years old. I didn't want any kids until I worked at a children's hospital and I seen the love in the parents eyes. I was around 33 years old then I am 38 now still desire kids.
I'm crying because she's like a little girl. Who didn't get a chance to be a little girl God bless her
It's never about not having the chance of being a child. It's the damaging things that happens while you are a child.
Me too🥺😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Wee bit buddy wee t
I thought the same thing. She's a little girl in a woman's body. Even her hairstyle is that of a little girl. She stopped growing at 11. I pray it works out for all of them.
@@stardust2172 Same difference. A child should be safe, innocent, carefree. She couldn't be a child.
If fixing another is breaking you, you need to do something different.
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Not necessarily! Emotions Are Relatable!
Blessingz
Easier said than done my dear.
@@nolaclarke253 For sure, but people do it. Those who usually succeed don't start with a negative frame of mind.
Lol if you think it’s that easy, you missed the whole point of the episode. It’s mental health and survivors guilt. Google it. Stop gaslighting people with your words. Iyanla does it better.
she needs more than rehab. She needs life skills and continued counseling. Learning how to healthily cope with emotional issues will take way more than a 90 day program.
Iyanla I thank you you have improved my counselling skill a whole lit after watchìng you in action.Thank you and may Good bless you and your work.
Of course. Getting sober is a good start 😊
One step at a time.
CoolKem C a great start
✅
Iyanla literally threw the rock at her lap like it ain't made of stone lol.....
I thought that was so disrespectful. I think Iyanla is mean and uncaring the way she speaks to the ones she supposes to care about.
@@emm8348 is life sweet and soft to you ?? Do you always get things softly placed into your lap?’
I think she was sending her an indirect message. "That's how her mum and dad dropped her sis to her to take care of her without them caring how it will be like for her or how it will hurt"
@@emm8348 She been carrying heavier and more damaging issues that stone probably felt like a baloon.
@@PhleGmatic1 EXACTLY
When children are robbed of their rightful place by adults who don't step into their rightful place as parents, it disturbs the entire order of a family. When she said "you're the only mother I've ever known"...that's too much for anyone 😔. My heart goes out to them.
The sad reality of it but unfortunately very little anyone can do to stop it (without violating human rights) particularly in the case of those who have addictions and mental health challenges for example
I’m an elementary teacher. And I have so many students who are the oldest or middle child and they are made to take care of their siblings. And will get punished by grounding, spanking, or worse if they don’t take care of their younger siblings, do the household chores, and do their school work. Some of these kids come to school so exhausted and my heartbreaks because they’re babies being robbed of their childhood and innocence.
The thing is WHY didn't relatives take the both of them.
Charese is now at Harvard university ❤️
@Coily Cue Andrea’s brother passed away recently and she’s drinking again per the Facebook post I just saw. My heart hurts for her.
@@msblackberry09 oohh nooo
@@inthepinkconsultingboutique I know. I just pray that she gets clean once and for all. She's been through so much and I know she's broken.
Wowwww
Im not sure... I think this is just lack of awareness for what to do.. Any and all addictions are an escape from self development.. So why cant she get addicted to being healthy..
“Who you think gon carry it, me?” Lmao gotta love Iyanla 😭
It's just that simple. The symbolism she uses.
"You been carrying it all these years" Gotta love the realness 💖
Damn! She's amazing, the whole world needs lyanla's healing work.
@prophet Dr kofi odurop
"You're allowing her to be the person you're trying to save her from"! Wow, mind blown, that is DEEP Ms.Iyanla!!!!
@prophet Dr kofi oduro shut up!! You have come to RUclips too? Fake prophet. Wolf in sheep clothing. Destroyer of families. Judgment awaits you. You lazy fool. Go and find a job for yourself and stop scamming people. Onye ori
Deep stuff hey.
Iyanla knows how to break it down!! She has shown me how many people walk around with so much hurt. I binge watched previous episodes during quarantine and found so many enlightenments about my own life. Love her!
Pamela Curlee sane. I definitely gain insight from this show as well as her interviews. I can listen to her speak all day.
Well put !
She has such a soothing voice too...like the best bedtime story voice ever lol
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@@alicemiriah 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I love it when Ms. Iyanla starts off with, "why am I here?"
The next meeting I go to, that's exactly what I'm going to say.
@@shanec9840 oooh, the visual i just had of the attendees faces😂😂😂.
@@shanec9840 🤣🤣🤣
Okoyé Forever period
@@shanec9840 😩😂 yooo
When she said i don't want to end up like my mama, 😭😭😭😭😭😭my heart just dropped.
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I always have the same THOUGHT!
😢 😢 😢 Heartbreaking
Same. Had to brace myself
Same😭😭😭My God🙏🏽❤️
“You need to go to the mirror and slap the first person that shows up”. I’m soooooo using that line! Lol
Lol 😂 that part
RIGHT 😂😂!
Iyanla is not a psychologist. Her approach is unorthodox. She rips the bandaid off. Shakes them awake…so they can acknowledge their problems and do the work. I like it.
This episode made me cry. You could feel the love the sisters had for each other, they are both beautiful. I hope they are flourishing and would love to hear how they are doing 5 years later.( filmed 2015, now 2020)
Oh didn't know this was filmed 5 years ago 🤔🤯
@@bsinita_wokeone Right when the episode starts, you can see a caption that tells you the original airdate. Pause at 0:04.
Someone above said they're both on Facebook but I haven't looked.
Google “Charese and Andrea” the first post that pops up, will take you to Charese’s Facebook page. They both seem to be doing really well
All the episodes make me cry. 😢 There sooo many dysfunctional families out here...including mine.
Today I learned the term "false responsibility" and how I have addressed certain relationships. I am free.
Andrea True omg I feel that way with a friend
@Andrea and everyone else plzzzz
Do not call the Bishop,all they know is spiritual attack.God is always revealing spiritual attacks
to african pastors n Bishop's but never reveal the solution for lack of drinkingwater, electricity, hospital and etc smh.
Today, I've learned the term 'Survivor's guilt'; which is what I see in myself when it comes to my mentally ill and demonic possessed older brother who is so dependant on using his family. Now, I am finally releasing him out of my life and setting myself FREE in Jesus name!
Same with me
Same. This was helpful
"Drunk in the backyard is 1 thing, dead in the casket is another" 😖😩
And that young woman is SO PRETTY. She doesn’t see it - she could be anything she wants to be & doesn’t see all that potential.💔
I’m loving 🥰 the natural hairstyles
They are some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen, I really hope Andrea gets some peace and healing
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I love Andrea's hair
Me too but girl they are suffering 😅😂
Yes. Little sister’s hair is so pretty!
I love the visualization of carrying the bag of rocks around. That's what trauma feels like. It's time to identify what rocks we have in our bags and finally put em down.
Whew it’s crazy to see how trauma can cause a person to literally stay stuck at whatever age or mindset it occurred. You can still see that scared 8year old in her sister. I pray she got herself together she’s beautiful. Wish them both the best
My heart is breaking for Andrea. She is bound to feel her sister is abandoning her like her mother did (even though she's not). This is hard to watch.
@prophet Dr kofi oduro how you get all that from a letter B 😲
Iyanla has no problem laughing by herself!
When that first rock landed in her lap, she felt that. I did too!
she brought that sack out and i was like, “baaaag laaadyyyy, you. gon. hurt. back.” lmao
“carrying all them bags like thaaaat” lol
I guess nobody ever told you, all you must hold on to, is youuu😭
Me too...in Ms. Badu's voice
When iyanla was hugging Andrea at the end, you could see the 9 year old girl in her. Afraid, unsure, lonely, and hurt all bottled up inside. I’m glad she made it through rehab. Bless all these beautiful women!
We need a Where are they now episode
Trueee
We really do
Seriously.
Yesss
I found their facebook pages. Look up Charese Howard & Andrea Howard
Little sister look young and her mannerism are very childlike
She hasn't grown up. I hope she's better now.
It’s called “arrested psychological development”.
Being 'stuck' in an emotional level of development. Depending on the timing of trauma (childhood, adolescent or teen) determines the symptoms of Arrested Psychological Development.
So you are absolutely accurate in your observation!
@@nadirahcroom1938 Someone in the comments (decided to be a Facebook detective) said Charese was accepted to Havard University! However, the other sister has since relapsed after her brother passed away.
The older sister is BEAUTIFUL
When Auntie said "holdon" and ran outside to tell the sister to put 2 more rocks in her bag, I apologize but I lost it 😂🤣😂🤦🏾♂️
So if you took care of her,who took care of you?
Exactly.
God took care of her and held her up!😉
Except her father, truly it was no one. No one took take care of Sharise the way she needed.
Nobody. That's why she is stuck.
Well let’s talk about what an amazing sister she is😭
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Did we all note that the elder sister did not want to share the burden ( bag)with her younger sister. But her sister threw it back.
She's used to it its sad
@@kgabomolele3346 Yes i picked up on it , so sad
Trueeeee - amazing observation plus she kept carrying it around, she could’ve let it on the table
@@stacieraexoxo4562 girl you could of proved your point without speaking down on race. We should be lifting each other up on a channel and sensitive topic like this. Just my opinion/observation.
@@fallyneprinciotta9058 ...oh really Karen? You can go right over to the Trump and White Nationalist channels or Tara Mongeau and the White Feminist vloggers and preach all you want about race sensitivity. The woman who posted the initial and exaggerated comment about the girl suffering from alcoholism, triggered by PTSD doesn't need anymore false accusations and character attacks by people commenting who obviously are experiencing comphrensive, literacy and audio-visual inadequacies.
We don't deserve this woman but I'm so happy we have her.
Tru
Same thing we should say about Jesus, seeing as He died for us.
We deserve Iyanla! She was gifted to serve us all! She’s heaven on earth. Literally learn so much from her. Such a gem she is.
She is not a BELIEVER of JESUS CHRIST haven't heard she mentioned JESUS name at all!!!
@@mariskatjon9115 she believes in Source, The Creator... From which Jesus would hail from.
& She mentions Source often! You are not observant and speak falsely amongst praise for this very enlightened woman.
Be aware of your own actions before you seek to tear another down. Plz find true love & peace within you.
When she got in the car to go to the meeting and was talking about "everyone just here to jump on poor Andrea. Take a vacation at my expense." Being a recovering addict myself, I knew she wasn't ready. For me personally, and for several others I've talked to and known, they had to hit their absolute rock bottom. Pretty much it's either prison(you can get drugs easier there than on the outside most times) or death. Everytime either I was court ordered or forced into some kind of "intervention", I would do it, BUT only because it BENEFITED me in ways not related to my sobriety at ALL. But, in March of this year, I nearly died on my dad's birthday. I, for the first time, was actually ready on my own, and was in rehab a few days later!!! Been clean, sober, and in my very own HOME (that just got decorated for Halloween mind you 😁) since March 2nd!!! So know, that when we the addicts are ready to get help, that we, us, the addict, the HUMAN.... WE DO RECOVER!!!! Relapse is part of recovery too, so don't give up, it's good she is addressing the reasons WHY she uses substances to self medicate. That was another biggie for me. Until I dealt with those, I was bound to continue to get high because those deep seeded issues were still there and still there enough for me to self medicate to cover or numb them. Love all these beautiful Queens!!! I'm so proud they asked for help, they have an amazing teacher! I'm so ready to see their glow up!!!! 🖤❤🖤❤🖤❤
Thats amazing! Wishing you and your future all the best.
Congratulations on your new life!
Congratulations!
I used the AA rules to begin my recovery from years of toxic abuse by my family. Some of our wounds come from drug abuse, and I’ve begun to see destructive behavior as addiction and obsession- Some choose drugs and alcohol, others choose unhealthy situations and toxic people (and believe we’re safer without a substance).
Peace and love to you!
Congrats on you choosing your life!!! You are worth all amazing things❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉.You are an inspiration showing us that the past doesn't determine our future 🤗
Andrea mad me cry. I can still see the little girl in her. My prayers are for her success and growth
Yeah!
U definitely r right!
I felt like hugging her SOMEHOW!
But am hopeful both sisters will be fine .......
Lord. Help me be a better version of myself, to be an example.
Bless your heart ladies 🤗
✋ I receive this prayer in my soul.
@Bishop Oyedepo not interested
This lady is talented with understand ing others and helping them solve their own problems.
This is sad
She's very blessed. It's definitely a God given gift
@Jenny Agrippa I guess we'll find out what's what some day... in the meantime, each to their own 😊❤️
Ammmmmmennn!!!!
🗣”Put one in there for ‘helplessness’, and put one in there for ‘hopelessness!’”
Lol, ☝🏼that right there!😂😂😂😁
I heard that
This
Bro I felt trapped and burdened as the oldest sister has. Bc I too went through that with my siblings. Except for the fact that I ended up being an addict at one point. Only through God's mercy and grace I am clean, happy, and blessed. My mom is still alive and tries to make me responsible for her and my siblings still! And I am 32 yrs old now.
Bless God and you 🙏❣️
Congratulations! I’m proud of you💜
Congrats on your sobriety. Sometimes we have to distance ourselves from family for our own sanity and mental health.
💕
That lady was appalled when that rock hit her leg 🤣. Iyanla probably will say, you bruised yourself. *message*
These sister gave no attitude was ready to listen really good episode
Well said.
I hope the older sister break free from the younger sister and lives her life.
“The adults in your life failed you” is such a powerful statement smh
Iyanla calls stuff out so beautifully!
Why do some ppl have children? They just create a cycle of pain, hurt and heartache
Thank you for posting a full episode!! I don’t have cable anymore and I’ve greatly missed my Mother Iyanla!
Girlll free movie sites you can watch full everything now a days
I haven’t had cable in a couple years now 😩 RUclips is it lol
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@@ItsLotus89 me too I just watch RUclips or Netflix 🤷🏾♀️😂
You can see she is scared to be by herself. She also needs therapy. Which I'm sure she gonna get when she go
I have watched these videos lately and I see how parents can destroy children whether intentional or not and the children have to live with pain all their life. I pray to God everyday that he gives me strength and wisdom to raise my daughter into a wonderful and decent human being!!
@Bishop Oyedepo There are no spiritual attacks on me as I am covered by the blood of Jesus.... Go spread your lies somewhere else.
I love Iyanla's wisdom and strength. She wasn't born with it. She's learned it from life! Now she works to help others learn. In my opinion, she's a living saint!!
OWN can we get some "where are they now" episodes please? Don't let Iyanla retire before you tape those please.
Pleaseeeee!
This is a perfect example of someone who wants to heal. Shay Johnson did not come with an open mind.
no fr shay was so prideful
Disrespectful as HELL and I really don't like her after that 💯 I see exactly what Scrap was talking about on the L&HH reunion.
She came for more TV time.
@ChocolateMe91 ! I disagree when you are battle with issues and you really want them to be resolved nothing will trigger you to not make the best of the opportunity that is presented.
Everyone is different shay has anger lots of anger
The younger sister was such a beautiful baby, still beautiful now and more beautiful when she gets healthy.
"ALL big girls have a purse" When I look into Andrea's eyes I can still see the little girl in her I wish her nothing but the best that life has to offer her...the Father has a plan and purpose for both of these beautiful sisters. I loved her big sis also ...she has such a huge heart what a blessing to have had her as a covering all those years despite the damage it caused she was a HUGE blessing and covering
Man she ain't gotta throw that rock on her😭😭
It hurt seeing that
That symbolized the heavy loads she's been carrying,she needed to feel it to realize it however I get your point.
@Bishop Oyedepo shameless scammer
Did you see the episode with the man with 32+ kids holding all those baby dolls?!
😆 Ms. Iyanla wasn’t playing that day. She kept piling up them baby dolls in that man’s lap and arms!
I pray Sharese finds the strength she needs to move forward and release her sister... so many times people focus on the younger party or the party that acts out and the one that "appears" to hold it together is left out to dry. She needs love and prayer too. Her children dont deserve a "portion" or broken piece of her bc she is giving the best of her to her sister.
She’s such a beautiful woman. I’m hoping she’s received/receiving all of the healing she needs 💕💕💕
She is really pretty. She just needs to stop drinking. She has some real demons walking around with
She really is!
This was very emotional to watch.. I could literally feel Andrea's inner turmoil as she told the story of her mother being burned and thrown out the window (bless her sweet soul)!! I would really like to know how she's doing in 2020....
Me too. The system has failed us as children of abuse there has got to be a better way to help .
I respect Iyanla because she has been through the struggle and came out on top. ❤️
Thats what makes her genuine and relatable.
I learn more and more about her with each episode. Goodness she's been thru so much
My heart kept breaking during this episode. Bless these women. Iyanla, tv or no tv, you’ve broken some yolks, opened some heavy hearts, and healed folks that weren’t even on your show.
Feels like Andrea drinks and acts up to punish her sister. Like you can’t have a better life because I’m the one who suffered
This show has helped me heal and communicate with my family about the abuser in the family however they didn’t receive it well but it’s there and I’m free 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Well done !!! This show has helped a lot of us
You are free, be at peace. Show is helping my do self therapy as well
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Just watching this is what I needed to do. I wish I had her as a therapist for my mother and I
What is discerning to me is when children have mothers and fathers that actually take care and ❤ them but they don't appreciate it. Then there is this story.. 🤷♀️Go figure.
So very true
Yes preach
It’s always going to be a struggle as a child and as a parent. The children haven’t gone through anything
I try to explain this to my own children, some parents are selfish, torture their own even kill but exposure is real! God bless these ladies
Yep I got cousins like that. 3 kids 2 of them act like they was raised by wolves. Meanwhile my aunt and uncle was the most amazing arents.
I think other therapists need to learnt from iyanla she’s the best
Those sisters love each other. I felt that 😭😭😭
That's your get high right there!! I felt that. Been a caregiver since childhood... Dropped my bag of rocks recently...
And me you never picked them up
This one hits home , all the way thru my house....wish I had this support so I can get better.....damn near very same story....if ur reading this please pray for me 🙏🏾
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Sending Love and hugs to you
You are the redeemed of the Lord, I plead the blood of Jesus over your life in Jesus name amen
Praying for you!🥰
I hope you are doing well❤
“All big girls have a purse.”
I couldn't believe she said she didn't even have a purse! And for Iyanla to say she was going to send her a purse and a wallet, I thought that was just beautiful! Although, come to think of it, she may have had a purse and sold it for her habit. Either way, I was SMH.
Oh this made my heart melt.
My dad raised me and I wasn't allowed to carry purses because they made me look grown. Even to this day, at 27 years old, I avoid a purse at all costs. Ms. Iyanla is right. I am a woman, not a child depending on my daddy.
Iyanla is AMAZING. I've been following her since the 1990s. In doing so my life has been so much better listening to her teaching & guidance. I trust her words and live everything about her. Iyanla you fixed my life and I have never met you. I saw you in person in Raleigh in 1996. That changed my life. I started living different acting different and caring about me more. Iyanla words helped me run my salon better. This Lady is a God sent. I thank you Iyanla for being the person that you are.❤❤❤😇❤❤😇❤❤❤😇
@Bishop Oyedepo 🤣🤣🤣🤣 copy and paste huh,
Leaving family to fend for themselves if you're a child is the best act of Self love
I feel for Andrea. I understand why her sister wants to protect and keep her close for the rest of her life.
Having a loving mother and father in my life was a great blessing, but how do you get counciling for a love you never had and crave till the day you die. I cant imagine the pain these sisters have endured. I pray God finds a way to bring the love they so deserve and heal their broken hearts.
I do not know whether its correct but according to a person who is very very close to me told me,
she could forget about her aboundenment through her children.
May be it will work ..........
Finally someone gets it. EXACTLY
You learn how to love and re-parent yourself 💖
A counselor will help them learn to love themselves more profoundly then their parents failures. Self love is transformative and freeing from the mistakes that others have made
This comment touched my very soul 🥺😢made me weep and call on the name of Jesus. 🙏🏾🙌🏾
Every single one of us are products of our childhood.
For better or worse!
Parents treat your kids better than well. Keep their journey to adulthood healthy.
She was so scared. 💕... You can see that little girl inside of her.. I pray she found healing
I had two siblings i had to be the mom my mom had a nervous breakdown and was beaten by a boyfriend. I never allowed it to bother me. Thus my faith in Christ help me. My sister's are deceased for other reason although my middle sister she never seemed to be bothered with our pain of life situations. Although she tried to commit suicide. I had thoughts of it when i went on the darkside of life. I'm grateful to say I've succeeded with Degrees and now taking care of my mom. My story!!!!!!!!
Let me say this with as much kindness as possible. It must have bothered you if you tried to commit suicide.
Keep Going👑
Kudos to you. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
This was a really powerful episode.
So powerful
Incredibly powerful.
This is my girlfriend's life. She has this exact dynamic with her sister.
It's heart-wrenching to see how sad Andrea is. You can tell she's really broken. I pray she heal and find wholeness. Parents must always remember their sins are visited upon their children.
Who love an update, on these two beautiful ladies.
@Marquisha Jerry Aw no. 😩
Wooowwwwww!!! This opens up my eyes to a lot and explains what codependency looks like!! Woowwww!! Can we get an update?
@Bishop Oyedepo Mmmm so in order for your prayer to be successful she has to donate to foundation lol , God is on her side , He will protect her, she doesn't need to donate for God to fight for her
@Bishop Oyedepo you are the devil
You could see how stunted Andreas growth is. She’s like a little girl so scared... I feel for her, I cried this whole episode. It’s the best I’ve seen so far.
They are both beautiful sisters. I hope she gets well.
I grew up with Chareese. My heart has always gone out for the family because they were always withdraw. She has always been a sweetheart.
Iyanla by me watching these episodes you are fixing my life. My mum used to drink a lot,to forget her pain. She wasn't a bad mum. We ate,had a roof over our heads and were clean and went to school BUT, mum used to drink a lot.
There's no way the sister only drinks. She had to have been doing drugs too. I'm getting that vibe
I agree
Generational situation. Happened to mum, now the daughter is carrying it. Wanna bet a grandparent or great grandparent was in the same predicament?
Definitely
I agree
Agreed, that’s usually how it goes, so people can start to view dysfunction and pain and trauma as “normal” because previous generations endured it as well
Generational Curse..... Its hard to break it .Especially in the black community
This woman looks shell shocked by her responsibilities and burdens. Like a scared 10 year old girl. Her mom and dad put all that on her.
I’m the oldest (I have a younger sister) and my mom had to leave us at home at night so that she could work. This started at age 6 and my sister was 2. That was a lot of responsibility on me being a little girl having to “take care” of my baby sister. I couldn’t tell anyone what was going on and never got a chance to express my emotions. This is why I have a hard time expressing my feelings to this day. I’m a work in progress and it still bothers me to this day at 33 years old. I’m thinking about going to counseling.
It’s a lot ❤️brave girl ❤️
"You don't know the YOU that you are becoming. You don't know her yet, but I think that she is going to be more than enough to hold you up" .. Wow
I am an ex addict an I'm praying for sis but unfortunately I don't quite think she's surrender yet! It's a process as long as she keeps coming back something will eventually click! Prayers for the still suffering addict and alcoholic 🙏🏽
I need a follow up episode. The end made me emotional she was terrified to go to LA. But her coming back to workin in her sisters salon again and probably still living with her makes me think not much has changed.
Sara K. I definitely want to see a follow up of this episode, as well.
Did anyone catch their last names and/or the name of the salon❓❓ I'd really like an update too‼️
@@blessedmslady7341 Hey! Charese's last name is Howard. The salon is Amazing Kinkz Natural Hair Shop in Detroit, Michigan.
@@atiyaz Thank you 👍 I'd like to know if she MADE IT ❣️ So I'm gonna turn into B M L- Private Investigator.
Anybody got an update?
Awesome metaphor with that burden-bag. I have let go of a burden-bag myself, but it’s good to know I only carry 1 rock of burden: guilt, for dropping the rest of the weight of that burden-bag 😊 I love Iyanla. I love the strong women out there who really can make the difference in so many lives here on earth 💪🏻❤️👌👏👏👏👏
Moved to tears, she's still a little girl inside.
As an abuse survivor who after 40 years admitted to my sisters part of what happened to me, and have just cut off my abusive family, I'd do about Anything to get Iyanla's help!! My story is so crazy, no one would believe it... I've been in therapy for years, but I need an Iyanla . Many Therapist don't understand the experience of a woman of color, no matter how well meaning they are. How do you write the show??..
I pray you find help ❤🙏
I believe you. Unfiltered stories on Facebook might be able to help
"All big girls have purses" I felt that lol...until I had kids and the purse became the baby bag lol
This one is really sad because you can tell that not only the younger sister has had an arrested development, but she is also suffering from PTSD as well. I can only imagine how it would feel like seeing your mother get tortured and abused then abusing hardcore drugs. And then the older sister carrying all of burden on her back. My heart really goes out to the both of them 💓
Classic parentification right here. I went through it. 2020 has given me the gift of being freed from it.
So sad to know that there are people walking around with this much pain. So heartbreaking. I hope & pray these ladies are doing well today.
omg. why the hell would I watch this in the nail shop. These ladies are so concerned cause I'm balling. 🥺
Lol it’s all good tears are cleansing
Lol 😂
😩😂 aww
This was so real to me because I saw myself in the sister that is taking care of the other
I need to go back home and work things out with my big sister. i didn't realize how much of a burden i am to her until i watched these two sisters. something needs to be done.
All the best Sis