It’s so hard to live with. Anyone who has not experienced it will never truly understand. You’re so right. Just when you think you can breathe they self destruct and crush everyone around them. It’s such a selfish place for the addict and they don’t realize they are effecting everyone around them, not just themselves. It’s so hard to live through it. My prayers are with you.
Thank You, Missy❤️So well said. My son is an addict and I had to stop talking to my brothers because they dont understand what I’m going through. I was so very unsupported by them, I needed a break. However, there was one sister in law who said to me “I am so sorry you are going through this, let me pray with you❤️” I felt at that moment-no judgement, only love. I will never forget that. I will not let addiction take me down, Amen.
One of the hardest prayers I ever prayed was when I said Lord i put them in your hands I can't do it Lord you gave him to me now I'm putting him in your hands I can't do this
Missy, I have so much respect for you. I believe this is your calling too. Just like you said, drugs have no boundaries. Rich, poor, middle class, doctors, teachers, lawyers, any and all professions. I feel like every video you make is helping someone. I love your channel and what you stand for. Tfs❤
My husband always has had a lot to say about my son’s addiction. What I needed to do and what I had done wrong every single day. He never offered help or support. That’s why this platform is so valuable. Thank you Missy
You say everything I feel, and you say it so well. I have recently had a lovely vacation with my granddaughter…now in my custody. I keep telling her that we both deserve to be happy..over and over.
Ma’am yes it’s easy to slip into a dark sad place without even realizing it! It’s a roller coaster that’s so scary. The ups and downs of addiction is awful. It can go from good to bad in a split second
Yes, addiction is all those things, Missy, and I’ve dealt with all the emotions for many years. My nightmare dealing with my son’s addiction ended three weeks ago. It finally took his life. I didn’t want to type this, but it’s my reality now. And my heart is broken. 🍃💔🍃
Oh my dear friend, I'm so sorry!!! I wish I could give you a huge hug right now. I can't imagine what you're going through, but please know I'm always here for you and I love you soooooo much!
I’m waiting for this to become my reality. My daughter is in such a dark place. And there is no way to stop her…I just love on her child and keep her safe.
I watched Aidens birthday vlog and saw how much Aiden loves his dad. I hope that Joseph is able to see the love of his son and all the good that is coming rather than the blackness.
Missy, I hope your daughter-in-law is doing ok with the tough love tactics that Joseph needs (no money, no keys) without taking his sobriety on as her job. We don’t want her to lose herself either ❤
Hi Missy, that was one powerful video, You said it all so well, the truth right from the heart, and I hung on to every word you spoke, you are doing God's work Missy, I believe He puts people in our lives for a reason and He also removes people from our lives for a better reason, I pray that God will bless you abundantly in health and strength, and you can keep on doing these videos, thank you Missy for all you are doing.
Carol, amen, and amen. ❤💗❤ So well said. Missy, you mean the world to me since I found your channel. God's work, that's for sure. 💯 I need your voice. The world needs your voice. Thank you. Much love. 💗❤
Great talk, Missy. And its so true that its okay not to be okay. And to disassociate our Momma's heart from their addiction is a lesson so hard to learn. I have learned a lot attending some Al Anon meetings. Its for those of us affected by addiction, and like minded people. We just have to be tougher than what the addiction world hands us. Bless you!
My husband is a recovered cocaine addict. He put our two children and me through hell over and over. And yes. They have all the control. I fought to get him well bc I was NOT going to have my children live their lives with a father who committed suicide. I feel for you bc the only thing worse than having a spouse who is an addict is having a child who is an addict. There's nothing you can do. They have to want it. God bless you.
Praying for you all🙏🏼wish I could find my daughter I’d call the law she has a warrant for her arrest wish they would catch her cause it’s all there is left😢
Good job it's ok to not be ok, because that is often what family of addicts are, sadly. Hugs to you Missy, we know what you are dealing with. We can't do it for them, end of.
This is the truth. I made it through 40 years with a spouse and 25 with a parent, addicted. The best thing was when I realized this fact . . . I am not talking or dealing with my husband , I am listening and talking to “the addiction “. And it will do ANYTHING to stay alive. My husband took a handful of pills he had stashed on Nov 1st. RIP husband. I am recovering and doing better everyday. ( I hope Joseph can find a strong sponsor and attend N.A. meetings everyday for three years). He can make it.
I have 5 grandchildren that, depend on me and papa because, our daughter is a meth addict. My son died from meth addiction. I have his daughter. All of what your saying Missy is so, very very true.
Hi Missy I am new to ur channel and I am so glad I did find u I am a recovering addiction I been clean since 6/09/2013 but no matter what I had to do it because I told myself that I deserved to not be like that and I had to change myself for Myself.. And I lost my son on 07/11/2016 from a n overdose and me being clean and sober I couldn’t save him I prayed he would change but he had that change for him and I had to burial him on his 23rd birthday that was hard. But missy that is are children and no matter what all we can do is hope that they would what to change and never give up hope…huggggs to Missy💜💙💜💙
Congratulations on your sobriety! 11 years is a long time and I'm so proud of you. I'm also heartbroken to hear your son lost his battle. I truly can't even begin to imagine...I love you and I'm here for you always and I'm so glad you're with us here now.💜💜💜
I've been dealing with this for 25 years with my son. I wonder if you or viewers agree with me, maybe you could even do a video about it. I feel our young people are being intentionally poisoned with these drugs. Yes, the breeding ground is open to it based on peer pressure and trauma etc.but it's a for profit business selling drugs and intentional to disable society, also spiritual warfare.
Hey Sharon! I've said it millions of times, I fully believe they've set their sights on these "kids" or else the borders wouldn't be wide open allowing all the drugs they can carry over to make it through. It's about money, power and control. If they can control these people with the drugs then they have a whole little loyal community at their command.
I believe our government enables poor, I.E. welfare recipients in such a fashion that the generational disease of addiction has ALMOST zero chance of dying out. I say this because my addict mother was able to take one of my siblings (likely improperly diagnosed) ADHD meds invthe 90's. She was an addict before, but it transformed with my brothers diagnosis. She and mt step father had shelves of meds that weren't needed. They only took the "fun" ones.
@@katrina3560 definitely. I'm kind of in that loop. I'm 67 retired at 62. I worked since 15 and homeschooled my children 17 years created home based business. Retirement SS is low and if I earn money now my medical help is on jeopardy. So I live on the fringe no money to spend but none the less blessed as proud of motherhood profession.
Question for other parents: do your adult children meet the criteria for personality disorders while in active addiction? My daughter behaves like a narcissist and was diagnosed with borderline personality but she’s been using for so many years I don’t know if it’s possible that it’s the drugs! Maybe if she stopped using those toxic personality traits would go away?
Yes my son is like this he was always good to others and respectful but now even others he has been around says he has at least 7 personalities and he names them guys I thought it was me that was loosing my mind if it had not have been for the Lord I would have lost my mind my heart is breaking everyday but I have to live
@@peggyMcglade I’m sorry, it is truly heartbreaking. It’s torture to watch your child self destruct. I did lose my mind lol. I had so much anxiety and then panic attacks, insomnia. Now I have fibromyalgia from all the stress. It’s been 20 yrs of hell. Sending love from Canada 🇨🇦
@@katrina3560 Yes it’s confusing when they’re diagnosed with mental health conditions. Hard to tell which came first like the chicken or the egg! I’ve read that most addicts are self medicating a mental health disorder.
@@ashatan4554 Yes, it's so difficult to decipher. In my family, the addiction and mental health issues are both rampant. It's a fine line I walk while breaking the addiction generational curse for my own daughters. This means I have almost zero contact with my mother. My heart hurts for her, but I won't allow any of that hurt near my own daughters. Stopping the cycle hurts. My viewpoint of addiction is different, but none the less, I "see" you. I'm sorry you're struggling with your mama heart and dealing with addiction in your daughter. Stay strong💜
I love it when you come on here and talk. I always learn something or take something away from what it is you're saying. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Addiction and everything about it sucks !! 🫂🫂🙏🏻🙏🏻💙🤍💕
Keep on keeping on
Prayers for all the Moms and Dads going thru addiction wity their children 😭😭😭
It’s so hard to live with. Anyone who has not experienced it will never truly understand. You’re so right. Just when you think you can breathe they self destruct and crush everyone around them. It’s such a selfish place for the addict and they don’t realize they are effecting everyone around them, not just themselves. It’s so hard to live through it. My prayers are with you.
Thank You, Missy❤️So well said. My son is an addict and I had to stop talking to my brothers because they dont understand what I’m going through. I was so very unsupported by them, I needed a break. However, there was one sister in law who said to me “I am so sorry you are going through this, let me pray with you❤️” I felt at that moment-no judgement, only love. I will never forget that. I will not let addiction take me down, Amen.
I know that all too well. I'm sorry you had to go through that 😔
One of the hardest prayers I ever prayed was when I said Lord i put them in your hands I can't do it Lord you gave him to me now I'm putting him in your hands I can't do this
I agree, I've prayed that same prayer
I’ve had that talk with the Lord too.
This video put tears in my eyes i pray for everyone who is suffering. Sending a big hug from the UK ❤
Missy, I have so much respect for you. I believe this is your calling too. Just like you said, drugs have no boundaries. Rich, poor, middle class, doctors, teachers, lawyers, any and all professions. I feel like every video you make is helping someone. I love your channel and what you stand for. Tfs❤
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It's OK to be not okay because everything is going to be alright, love you Missy ❤
My husband always has had a lot to say about my son’s addiction. What I needed to do and what I had done wrong every single day. He never offered help or support.
That’s why this platform is so valuable. Thank you Missy
I've been through that, too, and my husband is the father of that child!
@@FromtheHoller this isn’t his child but he has been stepdad since he was 3.
@CindyG-i8x bless your heart! 💜
You say everything I feel, and you say it so well. I have recently had a lovely vacation with my granddaughter…now in my custody. I keep telling her that we both deserve to be happy..over and over.
❤ sending love
Ma’am yes it’s easy to slip into a dark sad place without even realizing it! It’s a roller coaster that’s so scary. The ups and downs of addiction is awful. It can go from good to bad in a split second
Yes, addiction is all those things, Missy, and I’ve dealt with all the emotions for many years. My nightmare dealing with my son’s addiction ended three weeks ago. It finally took his life. I didn’t want to type this, but it’s my reality now. And my heart is broken. 🍃💔🍃
So sorry that you lost your son now for the grief you have to endure. My prayers are with you and your family during such difficult time.
Oh my dear friend, I'm so sorry!!! I wish I could give you a huge hug right now. I can't imagine what you're going through, but please know I'm always here for you and I love you soooooo much!
I’m waiting for this to become my reality. My daughter is in such a dark place. And there is no way to stop her…I just love on her child and keep her safe.
@@reneegranger284 Thank you.
@@FromtheHoller Thank you.
So well said. You are totally spot on. I have been to every one of them places with my sons addiction.
Sending prayers 🙏
You are such a lovely person, I just wanted you to know that.
Thank you 💜
God is with you Missy. You have my prayers. 🙏❤️
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I watched Aidens birthday vlog and saw how much Aiden loves his dad. I hope that Joseph is able to see the love of his son and all the good that is coming rather than the blackness.
Me too 💜💜
Thank u for praying for us❤
Missy, I hope your daughter-in-law is doing ok with the tough love tactics that Joseph needs (no money, no keys) without taking his sobriety on as her job. We don’t want her to lose herself either ❤
She's staying strong for now. She knows Paps and I stand behind her 100% and all it takes is a phone call
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Hi Missy, that was one powerful video, You said it all so well, the truth right from the heart, and I hung on to every word you spoke, you are doing God's work Missy, I believe He puts people in our lives for a reason and He also removes people from our lives for a better reason, I pray that God will bless you abundantly in health and strength, and you can keep on doing these videos, thank you Missy for all you are doing.
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Carol, amen, and amen. ❤💗❤ So well said. Missy, you mean the world to me since I found your channel. God's work, that's for sure. 💯 I need your voice. The world needs your voice. Thank you. Much love. 💗❤
Thank you 🥰
Sending hugs to everyone ❤
Great talk, Missy. And its so true that its okay not to be okay. And to disassociate our Momma's heart from their addiction is a lesson so hard to learn. I have learned a lot attending some Al Anon meetings. Its for those of us affected by addiction, and like minded people. We just have to be tougher than what the addiction world hands us. Bless you!
My husband is a recovered cocaine addict. He put our two children and me through hell over and over. And yes. They have all the control. I fought to get him well bc I was NOT going to have my children live their lives with a father who committed suicide. I feel for you bc the only thing worse than having a spouse who is an addict is having a child who is an addict. There's nothing you can do. They have to want it. God bless you.
God bless you, Mama! 💜💜💜
Praying for you all🙏🏼wish I could find my daughter I’d call the law she has a warrant for her arrest wish they would catch her cause it’s all there is left😢
Thank you for this because I'm not ok on most days
I know 💜💜💜
Big huge hug from Coral in Lake City Florida! I know every bit of those feelings ❤️
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Thank you for this, God bless.
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Good job it's ok to not be ok, because that is often what family of addicts are, sadly. Hugs to you Missy, we know what you are dealing with. We can't do it for them, end of.
Sending big hugs to everyone ❤
❤ hug ❤
Amen Sista!
This is the truth. I made it through 40 years with a spouse and 25 with a parent, addicted. The best thing was when I realized this fact . . . I am not talking or dealing with my husband , I am listening and talking to “the addiction “. And it will do ANYTHING to stay alive. My husband took a handful of pills he had stashed on Nov 1st. RIP husband. I am recovering and doing better everyday. ( I hope Joseph can find a strong sponsor and attend N.A. meetings everyday for three years). He can make it.
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😘 love you Missy. This channel is so important. Prayers sent to you, paps , AIDEN and your family and everyone who is struggling. 🙏🏼❤🙏🏼❤🙏🏼
Thank you so much!
Thank you for this chat… my son he’s 29, blames me sometimes for his older brother’s addiction . 😢 like you said, I evidently enabled him.
I have 5 grandchildren that, depend on me and papa because, our daughter is a meth addict. My son died from meth addiction. I have his daughter. All of what your saying Missy is so, very very true.
It is Satan`s lies
He just wants us to sink
Hi Missy. Hugs sent your way. Prayers always ,love you dear lady😊
Love you 💜
Praying for you all ❤❤
🫶🌹🦋Mana hugs!
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"Let Go and Let God ".
Hi Missy I am new to ur channel and I am so glad I did find u I am a recovering addiction I been clean since 6/09/2013 but no matter what I had to do it because I told myself that I deserved to not be like that and I had to change myself for Myself.. And I lost my son on 07/11/2016 from a n overdose and me being clean and sober I couldn’t save him I prayed he would change but he had that change for him and I had to burial him on his 23rd birthday that was hard. But missy that is are children and no matter what all we can do is hope that they would what to change and never give up hope…huggggs to Missy💜💙💜💙
Congratulations on your sobriety! 11 years is a long time and I'm so proud of you. I'm also heartbroken to hear your son lost his battle. I truly can't even begin to imagine...I love you and I'm here for you always and I'm so glad you're with us here now.💜💜💜
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Gorgeous lady your sons very lucky yes this might be your calling ❤️
❤❤❤❤ONE DAY AT A TIME ❤️❤️❤️amen🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
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I've been dealing with this for 25 years with my son. I wonder if you or viewers agree with me, maybe you could even do a video about it. I feel our young people are being intentionally poisoned with these drugs. Yes, the breeding ground is open to it based on peer pressure and trauma etc.but it's a for profit business selling drugs and intentional to disable society, also spiritual warfare.
Hey Sharon! I've said it millions of times, I fully believe they've set their sights on these "kids" or else the borders wouldn't be wide open allowing all the drugs they can carry over to make it through. It's about money, power and control. If they can control these people with the drugs then they have a whole little loyal community at their command.
@@FromtheHoller thank you. I'm new here. Hugs
I believe our government enables poor, I.E. welfare recipients in such a fashion that the generational disease of addiction has ALMOST zero chance of dying out. I say this because my addict mother was able to take one of my siblings (likely improperly diagnosed) ADHD meds invthe 90's. She was an addict before, but it transformed with my brothers diagnosis. She and mt step father had shelves of meds that weren't needed. They only took the "fun" ones.
@@katrina3560 definitely. I'm kind of in that loop. I'm 67 retired at 62. I worked since 15 and homeschooled my children 17 years created home based business. Retirement SS is low and if I earn money now my medical help is on jeopardy. So I live on the fringe no money to spend but none the less blessed as proud of motherhood profession.
Jelly Roll song " I am not ok".
Yes ma'am
Great Book "It's OK, not to be Ok" by Megan Devine..
It's really good!
Alot of people do t understand and can be nasty........
Oh don't I know that to be true 😒🙄
Question for other parents: do your adult children meet the criteria for personality disorders while in active addiction? My daughter behaves like a narcissist and was diagnosed with borderline personality but she’s been using for so many years I don’t know if it’s possible that it’s the drugs! Maybe if she stopped using those toxic personality traits would go away?
Yes my son is like this he was always good to others and respectful but now even others he has been around says he has at least 7 personalities and he names them guys I thought it was me that was loosing my mind if it had not have been for the Lord I would have lost my mind my heart is breaking everyday but I have to live
@@peggyMcglade I’m sorry, it is truly heartbreaking. It’s torture to watch your child self destruct. I did lose my mind lol. I had so much anxiety and then panic attacks, insomnia. Now I have fibromyalgia from all the stress. It’s been 20 yrs of hell. Sending love from Canada 🇨🇦
My mother had attempted for years to mask her personality disorders with her drug of choice.
@@katrina3560 Yes it’s confusing when they’re diagnosed with mental health conditions. Hard to tell which came first like the chicken or the egg! I’ve read that most addicts are self medicating a mental health disorder.
@@ashatan4554 Yes, it's so difficult to decipher. In my family, the addiction and mental health issues are both rampant. It's a fine line I walk while breaking the addiction generational curse for my own daughters. This means I have almost zero contact with my mother. My heart hurts for her, but I won't allow any of that hurt near my own daughters. Stopping the cycle hurts. My viewpoint of addiction is different, but none the less, I "see" you. I'm sorry you're struggling with your mama heart and dealing with addiction in your daughter. Stay strong💜
Different story I lost my son at 32 years Old from fetinal
I'm so sorry for your loss! Bless you, Mama 💜
I lost my daughter to fentanyl also.
I love it when you come on here and talk. I always learn something or take something away from what it is you're saying. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Addiction and everything about it sucks !! 🫂🫂🙏🏻🙏🏻💙🤍💕