I absolutely love how real you are with us and how graciously you discuss mental health and self care. Take time, lean on your support systems, and know that your braidaholic family is always here. Thank you for all that you do. Your honesty and realistic positivity 😊 have helped some of us out here struggling with mental health as well.
Kayley, my favorite less friction ones are the ones that are made out of pantyhose like material. I have never had ANY breakage from them. Bonus: they also do not cause a bend in my hair.
Hi Kayley! Sometimes when I put up my hair in a loose bun at the top of my head overnight I get a lot of pull on my roots with the weight of it once I lie down. Do you have any tips for this? Thanks a million 😃
Literally got the alert for this video while lying in bed in a low moment… i cried towards the end for feeling understood and acknowledged… you are seriously an angel for making this video Kayley, thank you so much, been following you for nearly 15 years and thank you for being there! ❤❤❤ lots of love!
My favs and go-to's: rope braids for nightly protection, because it rewards you in the morning with pretty waves. Hair masks can help you detangle if it's really knotted. And only washing my bangs/front pieces in the sink when I cant handle a full shower
lol you're better than I! When my bangs look greasy, I spray my hair brush bristles with dry hair shampoo and just brush my bangs until they don't look gross anymore 😅
just an added tip for those who struggle with their mental health and find it hard to take care of their hair (hi! it’s me!😂) if your hair is extra dirty and you don’t have the time/energy to wash it just put it up in a slicked back pony or bun! add a little product and it’ll look intentional🤍
KC Davis talks about this in her book: How to Keep House While Drowning! She mentions how to deal when your overwhelmed with keeping up with the EVERYTHING, that sometimes its possible to get to the point where even brushing your hair is a struggle. She specifically mentions tying your hair up like you do, but also mentions silk sleep bonnets (which I'm obsessed with, so comfy!). I can't believe how long your hair is now! Lucious! 😍 Also, I'm so happy you're not ignoring/pretending about the mental health. So many of us are struggling right now, and seeing someone in real time deal with it can feel really comforting that we're not the only ones that are hanging by our fingernails
I rarely feel moved to comment on RUclips, but was so pleasantly surprised by your focus on mental illness and self care along with practical solutions that I felt that I must. Kayley, you totally nailed it. You made me-and clearly many others-feel seen and understood. Thank you so much and keep up the good work. God bless you.
This is such a great video Kayley. I’m neurodivergent and there are so many burnout or shutdown days where it’s so hard to get myself in the shower, let alone to wash my hair. A huge help has been to start wearing a silk bonnet. I also got my kids silk pillow cases and we’re now waking up tangle free with our hair shiny. My daughter’s natural curls look fresh for days too. I love how easy it makes our mornings.
This is so good! Whenever I feel like I’m slipping into a physical or mental downturn, I always use that last bit of energy to wash and blow dry my hair to keep it low maintenance for a few days. Also, I finally just got a microfiber hair towel at 33! WOW what a game changer! SO happy to see your face Kayley ❤
If you can braid, I like putting my hair in two french braids when I'm not doing well. It helps me feel put together, it's a nice repetitive task for a few minutes, and my hair is out of the way for the rest of the day. That way, it doesn't bother me, and if I don't touch it as much it can go longer between washes (and also, the braids hide greasy roots really well so they're a great option on days where i didn't manage to get a shower). And if you make them loose enough, you can just go to bed with them in and have nice contained hair in the morning!
A tip of mine that I think would count is an oil mist (drugstore!! Ogx makes one but i like herbal essences better). If you get a lightweight one and mist it over your lengths before bed I’ve found less tangles and breakage in the mornings, and it’s a little lighter than reapplying leave in conditioners! Love the video Kayley, we missed you so much!
Yes please! So nice to see you share what helped you during tough times, so that we all can have more ideas what to try and have a better chance to find what works for us. Thanks 💜
Tip for mental health and physical health reasons you're in bed...if you have to wear headgear of any sort (like with a CPAP) containing your hair in a satin bonnet helps protect it from the friction of the headgear too.
I definitely needed this today, like my mental health has been taking another dip and I find washing my hair and showering to be a really high effort task even when my mental health is good and so this video was exactly what I needed. I have been watching you since I was in middle school in like 2011 and I am glad that I have been able to grow with you!
You hit the nail on the head with this one. I'm so impressed by your compassion and preemtiveness. Because hair does matter to self-esteem. And, at least for me, when I came out of a depressive rut, this little bit of self-esteem can go a long way. you're an angel Kayley! ❤
A tip I learned from having allergies: if your hair is getting a bit dirty but you can't wash it for whatever reason, wrap it up before bed. A hair scarf, cap, whatever works for you. This keeps any grease/dirt/product/etc that's on your hair from getting all over your pillow and then all over your face as you sleep.
The rinse and repeat method has been such a game changer for me!! It helps my hair stay cleaner for longer so I’m not having to deal with it as often. Started doing it like a year ago and I haven’t gone back!!
added tip for anybody who gets annoyed with washing their hair, whenever my hair gets a little bit dirty I use this Raw Sugar Rosemary Vinegar Hair Rinse. You put it on wet hair (roots and ends), massage it in, and let it sit for like 3 minutes then rinse it out. Keeps my hair clean and soft!
Ive been sleeping for years with a loose bun. My 6 years old kept on waking with tangled hair and didnt liked me trying ro brush it for school . Now its the loose bun for her too 😅👌
My therapist says that something is always better than nothing. So maybe you can't wash your hair today, but maybe you can spray some leave-in and brush it. (This extends to other areas--maybe you can't clean your whole bathroom, but you can wipe your sink with a Clorox wipe; maybe you can't go for a walk but you can stand outside for 10 minutes, etc). No shame in doing whatever you are capable of that day
Things that helped me as someone who has spent time in bed due to mental and physical health: - Have hair stuff (brush, scrunchies) in my nightstand. - accepting that sometimes things have got to give (temporarily) so shorter hair (but still able to put it up) and growing out my bangs but having cute clips when I do go out or have an online appointment. - I love my wet brush, it detangles so well - doing things where I’m more comfortable, I always have to blow dry my hair but I can do it in bed! -when blow drying hair it really helps to do it in sections. I divide it in 4, put it in clips and suddenly it’s way less overwhelming.
This video was absolutely fantastic and, as a chronically ill person who spends a lot of time in bed, I really appreciate the empathy you included here. My situation isn't mentioned a lot in these kinds of things and it felt wonderful to feel so seen.
french pins/fair forks have changed my hair game!! i feel like my hair looks pretty when i take it out as opposed to claw clips which make my wavy hair look crunchy hehe!
you recommended the loose bun that I live in basically whenever I'm home - literally I stared at the screen as a mirror, identical buns being sported, and I CACKLED. I paused it to show to my partner and he also laughed aloud because it's so exactly how I wear my hair all the time lmao
I’m actually on holiday atm and stuck in bed with back pain. My hair is always the last thought on my mind and when I do have time I clarify and then Olaplex and air dry. I like the Function of Beauty leave in conditioner and use half a pump (I tied a clear elastic to the pump as I knew a full pump would be too much even when I had waist length hair) When I really want to make myself feel better I put on makeup. Thank you for sharing your tips and tricks and welcome back. Love the longer hair too ❤️
How much is too much clarifying shampoo? I have VERY hard water, use a lot of product, and use the k18 stuff. But I’m also very dry regardless 🤷♀️ I try and drink the water but still. What should my boundaries be? . You have such an … uplifting? Voice. Maybe a better word for it out there but rit is very nurturing and not condescending. … wait. not going down = going up.. lifting …up. The word works!
This is an excellent video idea!!! ❤ when I’m getting overwhelmed in life, I definitely transition to a “benign neglect” model of hair care (and all beauty related self care really) just going as simple as possible, but trying to keep the “routine” because my ADHD brain likes that. (i.e. in AM brush teeth, splash face, moisturizing face sunscreen, brush and braid hair. PM wash face, moisturize)
Kayla, it's wonderful to see you back on RUclips. Thanks for all your helpful suggestions. Personally I dread wash day as the end result of my hair style is never what I hope it will be which makes me feel ugly and depressed. Quick question for you: what is the difference between these two Bumble and Bumble products and when should each one be used? 1) Hairdresser's Invisible Oil Frizz Reducing Hair Oil 2) Hairdresser’s Invisible Oil Heat Protectant Leave In Conditioner Primer TSM! 🙂
I like Herbal Essences Nourishing Detangling Spray! So glad to have you and your tips back on RUclips. I've followed you since I was in high school (early 2010s)!
LOVE the message behind this video ❤ whenever I know I’m going to have a long stretch when I can’t take the time to do my hair (working 12hr o/n shifts) I put my hair in French rope braids and the curls/waves last for DAYS!!! And then I can leave it down or do updos with it 😊
Thank you Kayley!!! Great topic! Almost everyone has gone through a phase like this, but sadly we don't talk about (and thus accept / embrace) these moments enough. But you also offered tips with respect and even more compassion❤️
Kayley, thank you so much for this video! It truly meant a lot to me to hear you talk about these things. I've been quite sick for over 10 years, and figuring out how to care for my hair and not hate how it looks has been a journey for me! I really like the tips that you shared, and I want to look into getting some soft hair ties! Some other things that have been helpful for me personally are: 1) having shorter hair so that I'm not as self-conscious about how thin it is, 2) working to believe my husband when he tells me that my hair is beautiful, and 3) having realistic expectations for what I'm able to do for my hair. Recently I got a shower stool, as standing up in the shower can be pretty exhausting for me, especially when I wash my hair. Being able to sit has been such a help for me, and I don't feel as anxious or tired about washing my hair now. Again, thank you so much for this video! It helps some very tender parts of my heart feel seen. ❤️❤️
The Loreal Everpure 21-in-1 leave in spray is supposed to be really similar to the Pureology Color Fanatic spray that is really popular. The ingredient deck is very similar. Same parent company owns both brands and there are multiple products in recent Loreal drugstore lines that are basically dupes for high end. In regard to clarifying shampoos, I've tried a few of the popular ones but my fave is the Pantene Volume and Body shampoo. It somehow cleans really well but doesn't make your hair feel like straw after rinsing it out. My second choice after Pantene would be the Kristin Ess clarifying.
Sending you love, always. 🥰 And thank you for the tips! 💚 Can you do a video with different hairstyles with various clips? I noticed butterfly clips are in again. I love it! I still have some from when I was a pre-teen and teen. 😁
OMG thank you for creating this. I have spent the last 3 years in bed due to chronic illness and cannot shower regularly anymore, let alone wash my own hair as often as I need to. I resorted to having extremely short hair to cope. I am so heartened to have seen this on your channel. It will really help me, and it validates the steps I have already taken. I have heard from other friends with chronic illness that in addition to using leave-in conditioner, they also use leave-in shampoo. Have you heard of this? I haven’t personally tried it yet but have heard it’s useful when you have to go a long time without washing your hair. Thank you also for sharing your story in your previous video and alluding to it again here. I am sorry for what you have had to go through, and might be still going through. Your bravery in sharing what has happened to you makes me feel really seen. I have never before encountered a hair stylist who accounted for the full human experience beyond looking cute or stylish. We need help to look after our hair in times when we are genuinely not well - and you are amazing for finally fulfilling that need. Much love to you, and thank you!
Welcome back, love all your advice. Ended cutting my hair because I never know what to do and always put it up on the same way ; yes with those hair ties 🤦🏽♀️🙃 same spot all the time ... thank you 🙏 😊
The thing about claw clips (and with how trendy they have become this should be shouted everywhere!)... They can be dangerous!! Take your claw clip out if you get in a car!!!! Because if you get in an accident all those little teeth of the claw clip get embedded in your skull. Claw clips can exacerbate your head injuries by a lot!!! If you use claw clips, be conscious about this and stay safe!!!!
I use Pantene Miracle Rescue 10 in 1 for my two young daughters and it works WONDERS on their super knotty hair. I’ve used low to high end leave-ins on them and this one provides some of the best slip when brushing.
Thank you so much for coming back you add so much to my life and your content is amazing. Congratulations on overcoming your OCD. as a new mom who had an emergency c section… recovery was awful and self care went away and depression set in… quick tips use a curl band at night so you wake up at least to pretty waves. I love cozy confidence bands or effortless muse. They’re amazing products
Ugh! My girl I'm so glad you're back in my feed ❤ and this video is so necessary for so many of us. Bonnets and hair clips are my best friend, especially when I have zero mental capacity for hair maintenance. 🥰 And so proud of you
Also, if your hair is a hindrance, feel free to cut/shave em. I shaved my head before getting major surgeries and it made my life so much easier (donate the hair). Also, I looked freaking dashing. (They often offer hair cutting and a bit of makeup in hospitals when you stay for a while, you wouldn't believe how much this can make a grandma happy).
My body reacts negatively towards cleansing agents, it's due to atypical connective tissue. I stopped using most products about 6 months ago, that includes shampoo and conditioner. I use a boar bristle brush to distribute the sebum for my scalp all throughout my hair now. Both my scalp and hair have never been this healthy. My hair is in between wavy and curly, very pliable, I do miss certain looks that I can't achieve without some type of fixing agent like gel. I recently tried some (pure) wool wax, it worked really well! I can just brush the wax out the same way I do sebum, so no need for cleaning agents. Oil makes my hair look greasy and flat. I was scared wax would do the same, but it turned out to be the perfect fit for me. I recently ordered some (pure) beeswax as that's firmer than the wool wax, I'm excited to see what I can do with it. Wax has a lot of similarities to pomade, and very little in common with gel or hairspray. Kaylee's tips are great, but I wanted to add a different perspective just in case somebody else struggles with the same things I do. Pure boar bristle without plastic bristles, otherwise the plastic will scrape your scalp. I bought both cheap and expensive versions, they're equally as good. The bristles are firmer and longer if it's the expensive type, that makes it easier to detangle and reach the scalp. But I find myself gravitating towards the softer bristles of the cheap brush. I brush my hair as often as I used to shampoo it, about once every 3 days. There's a lot of information on the internet on how to brush and honestly it's really not that deep. You don't need to do a certain amount of strokes, time, or give equal attention to all areas. Brush where your scalp has sebum build up and then go to areas of your hair that are dry, sometimes it takes me 2 minutes, sometimes it takes 20, use intuition not instructions.
For all y'all watching this bc you want to look and feel nice, but you have mental or physical health barriers, I also recommend the video "how to look cute when you're out of f****s" on the channel Bestdressed. It's older, but it has tips I still use all the time! She talks about easy, comfy ways to dress and 30 second hairstyles.
I love this! What a beautiful way to use a hard time in your life to share wisdom with others. These tips are also super helpful for neurodivergent people as well. Adhd brain here and one thing i know for me and many in the ND community struggle with is self care. I can tend to go days without brushing or washing my hair and it just stays in the same tight messy bun. My quick tips to add for more textured babes. I have super thick wavy/curly hair so it adds a lil more trouble to doing easy maintenance. The claw clip is a great tip. I use the ones that look like an octopus bc it helps holding all my hair. Dark colored dry shampoo for refreshing between washes makes a big difference. And just learning really easy braids to make the hair feel styled without much effort goes a long way. The braiding can also really help with lessening how tangled textured hair gets overnight, especially if like me you can't do bonnets or silk pillowcases bc the texture just bothers me while im trying to sleep.
I'm always so happy to see you posting!!! Just passed this video to my friend who just gave birth, I'm sure she'll be able to find the tips and tricks useful 💜 Just a teeny tiny opinion that it's not meant as a criticism and you're absolutely free to ignore: personally, I didn't love the changes of camera angle throughout the video, it actually looked really professional, but to me was quite distracting. Please please please don't take it badly, it really was meant as just an opinion that I felt free to share because you're so lovely and empathetic. I'll still be watching every video you post, and actually recreated some of your old ones on myself and even some friends for various events. 💜💜💜
Amazing video. You are so smart and thoughtful in your content Kayley ❤ These tips are also perfect for new parents!!! You are a life saver. Or a hair saver!!!
New mom here and I highly appreciate this video!! 💖 Also: Welcome back! Glad to see that you're feeling better. I've been a part of the braidaholic family for over a decade ❤
It is so nice to see your videos popping up again! Thank you for all your efforts! Also, random question: I noticed you were wearing a flat snake necklace, and I love those as well, but my hair always gets stuck in between the little chains and creates so much damage and breakage (of both my hair and the necklace!). Does this happen to you as well?
If you have greasy roots with ends that are dry, fragile, or frizzy, but all you can manage that day is dry shampoo, try a dry oil spray for the ends of your hair. I sometimes put a bit on before I get in there with the dry shampoo, for a bit of protection when I'm brushing that out, but mostly, I use it to calm down frizz afterwards. It doesn't need to be an expensive one - mine is made by Schwarzkopf in their got2b range. It doesn't leave the ends of my fine, thin hair stringy like a leave in conditioner, serum or hair oil can. Also, if you can manage it, take the time to give yourself a head massage while you're rubbing the dry shampoo into your roots. It makes it feel more like a self-care step, and less like something you're only doing because you can't manage a shower.
I love this! Incredibly relatable. I have always loved your content and especially love the realist views about life you are sharing. I actually learned to French braid (and all sorts of other braids) my hair from your old braid encyclopedia days. Thank you for being so brave and sharing snippets of your life. ❤
In my experience, changing the brush so it fits the type of hair helps tremendously fx bigger brush head for longer hair, brushing from the ends and up towards the scalp with conditioner. If it get's stuck, don't force it, add a bit more conditioner and spread out the tangle then brush. If I'm not feeling well, I'll brush my hair before heading into the shower because it helps with the tangles afterwards. Not rubbing the hair dry with a towel, but padding/scrunching it prevents tangles. Removing the hair on the brush every time you are done really helps with my hair not getting oily because of all the dust and stuff gathered on the brush and occasionally washing it as well. Either way, hope this might help someone out there and have as wonderful day
It’s so lovely to see a new video from you ❤. This is very interesting to me - as someone who’s embraced their natural curl pattern for the last few years, many of these tips are things that I do as part of my routine, eg sleeping with my hair in a pineapple, using a micro fibre towel on wash day. I also try to make wash day count (by following a routine to give my curls longevity), so that I won’t have to refresh my hair for the next 4-5 days.
Any tips for that bed head flatness in the back/ crown area? It’s my biggest struggle- my hair just reaches my shoulders and is thin/ gets really oily so I find myself just giving up and throwing it in a bun or pony until next wash and it’s really just taking the fun out of hair y’know?
Thank you for this video! How should I sleep with my hair up/to avoid friction if I have short/shoulder-length hair and braids don't stay in overnight? :)
Hi Kayley! First of all, it's great to have you back and good to know that you are getting better and being able to take care of yourself. As someone who has consistently struggled with mental health, I know how challenging and scary that can be. Do you have any tips for keeping hair contained at night for someone with chin/shoulder length hair? My hair doesn't tie up into a single pony yet for reference.
I love my microfibre towel! It makes such a difference as my hair holds a lot of water. I put my hair in two loose dutch braids to sleep, which I find most comfortable as I find a low braid doesn’t hold my hair enough and a bun pulls on my hair too much. Thank you for these tips!! I’m so excited to try them!
Especially if I'm air drying my hair, I use two microfiber towels. I leave each one on for about 15 minutes. My theory is this absorbs twice as much water.
I can get up to 2 weeks without washing my hair. I always wash my hair twice, and I use those scalp tool. Use a micro fibre towel until it’s about 80%. Then blast it with the Dyson. X
I love this video so much!! I know it’s not the greatest but dry shampoo is a huge saver for me when I’m not feeling the effort of washing my hair. I’ve really loved the Dae fairy duster powder! It smells amazing and works so well and makes me feel confident in my hair!
I’m so glad you’re back, and this was a perfect video for it! I loved that you recommended some products, and I would love to see a video recommending some more. Thanks ❤
Can I adopt you as a sister? you are such a genuine, bright person and your videos make me so happy. I love how really and honest you are, making your page informative and a safe space for people struggling with something anywhere from how to get the hair/styles they want to mental health
I wash my hair once a week and put it up in a clip when it’s wet and go to work. 😂 I’m so lazy and not good with time management. I have to wear it up everyday at work anyways so there’s no point in blowing it out or anything. Luckily I have very thick hair so it doesn’t get greasy very quickly. I also wash it 2-3 times when I do wash it.
Appreciate this so much thank you, as someone with chronic fatigue too and other disabilities it means so much you talk about this stuff with no judgement and so much love 🥺🥺 as well as it being legit helpful lol I rarely actually try the hairstyles you show but so often pick up such great tips as well as loving your creativity, passion and kindness, so easy to watch and have done for so so many years 🥰 No pressure to be consistent with videos but proud of you for posting these 💜💜💜
This was a really timely video for me! Great tips, I'll definitely be using some of these now. I don't know how I never thought of brushing my hair before showering lol
I absolutely love how real you are with us and how graciously you discuss mental health and self care. Take time, lean on your support systems, and know that your braidaholic family is always here. Thank you for all that you do. Your honesty and realistic positivity 😊 have helped some of us out here struggling with mental health as well.
I need advice how to have my hair stop being frizzy and breaking 😢
Thank you, you are so adorable. I love seeing you back.
Thank you so so much for sharing this with us!!! I did a happy dance when I saw you had uploaded this! It’s amazing to see your videos again ❤
Kayley, my favorite less friction ones are the ones that are made out of pantyhose like material. I have never had ANY breakage from them. Bonus: they also do not cause a bend in my hair.
So happy you are back.
Hi Kayley! Sometimes when I put up my hair in a loose bun at the top of my head overnight I get a lot of pull on my roots with the weight of it once I lie down. Do you have any tips for this? Thanks a million 😃
As a therapist, I’m definitely recommending these tips to clients (and taking notes myself)! Love you, Kayley! ❤
Literally got the alert for this video while lying in bed in a low moment… i cried towards the end for feeling understood and acknowledged… you are seriously an angel for making this video Kayley, thank you so much, been following you for nearly 15 years and thank you for being there! ❤❤❤ lots of love!
My favs and go-to's: rope braids for nightly protection, because it rewards you in the morning with pretty waves. Hair masks can help you detangle if it's really knotted. And only washing my bangs/front pieces in the sink when I cant handle a full shower
lol you're better than I! When my bangs look greasy, I spray my hair brush bristles with dry hair shampoo and just brush my bangs until they don't look gross anymore 😅
If this isn't absolutely perfect for me right now. Sometimes it's hard enough to just brush it and keep it clean. But this could really help. ❤
Been there! I hope it helps - I used a lot of these when I was in that time.
just an added tip for those who struggle with their mental health and find it hard to take care of their hair (hi! it’s me!😂) if your hair is extra dirty and you don’t have the time/energy to wash it just put it up in a slicked back pony or bun! add a little product and it’ll look intentional🤍
Hard agree!! The slick back hair trend came just in time for us 😂
You can also put a scarf or a turban over it even at home, so the oils don't touch your skin and it doesn't break out.
Greasy hair also goes really well into braids, I do 2 Dutch braids or Dutch rope braids and they look better with greasy hair.
@@loonybinrejectoooh I’m going to try that. I just don’t suit slicked back hair at all so this might be a good alternative!
Yes! I have also recently discovered Hats...they cover up all sorts and makes me feel comfy/blocks out big lights
KC Davis talks about this in her book: How to Keep House While Drowning! She mentions how to deal when your overwhelmed with keeping up with the EVERYTHING, that sometimes its possible to get to the point where even brushing your hair is a struggle. She specifically mentions tying your hair up like you do, but also mentions silk sleep bonnets (which I'm obsessed with, so comfy!). I can't believe how long your hair is now! Lucious! 😍 Also, I'm so happy you're not ignoring/pretending about the mental health. So many of us are struggling right now, and seeing someone in real time deal with it can feel really comforting that we're not the only ones that are hanging by our fingernails
Ha! The shrimp clip!
This is so helpful! And so amazing to have you back girly! 💜
i’ve missed you kayley! take your time of course, but i’m so excited to see your comeback🔥
I rarely feel moved to comment on RUclips, but was so pleasantly surprised by your focus on mental illness and self care along with practical solutions that I felt that I must. Kayley, you totally nailed it. You made me-and clearly many others-feel seen and understood. Thank you so much and keep up the good work. God bless you.
This is such a great video Kayley. I’m neurodivergent and there are so many burnout or shutdown days where it’s so hard to get myself in the shower, let alone to wash my hair. A huge help has been to start wearing a silk bonnet. I also got my kids silk pillow cases and we’re now waking up tangle free with our hair shiny. My daughter’s natural curls look fresh for days too. I love how easy it makes our mornings.
This is so good! Whenever I feel like I’m slipping into a physical or mental downturn, I always use that last bit of energy to wash and blow dry my hair to keep it low maintenance for a few days. Also, I finally just got a microfiber hair towel at 33! WOW what a game changer! SO happy to see your face Kayley ❤
If you can braid, I like putting my hair in two french braids when I'm not doing well. It helps me feel put together, it's a nice repetitive task for a few minutes, and my hair is out of the way for the rest of the day. That way, it doesn't bother me, and if I don't touch it as much it can go longer between washes (and also, the braids hide greasy roots really well so they're a great option on days where i didn't manage to get a shower). And if you make them loose enough, you can just go to bed with them in and have nice contained hair in the morning!
Those jaw clips are the most fun and pretty hair accessories I've seen in a long time! Totally bookmarking that store for future considerations :D
Totally here for the victory dance at the end ❤😂
A tip of mine that I think would count is an oil mist (drugstore!! Ogx makes one but i like herbal essences better). If you get a lightweight one and mist it over your lengths before bed I’ve found less tangles and breakage in the mornings, and it’s a little lighter than reapplying leave in conditioners! Love the video Kayley, we missed you so much!
Oh so cool! I may need to try that 💕
Yes please! So nice to see you share what helped you during tough times, so that we all can have more ideas what to try and have a better chance to find what works for us. Thanks 💜
Tip for mental health and physical health reasons you're in bed...if you have to wear headgear of any sort (like with a CPAP) containing your hair in a satin bonnet helps protect it from the friction of the headgear too.
The goal dance at the end is the real winner! So glad you’re posting again, we missed you ❤
I definitely needed this today, like my mental health has been taking another dip and I find washing my hair and showering to be a really high effort task even when my mental health is good and so this video was exactly what I needed. I have been watching you since I was in middle school in like 2011 and I am glad that I have been able to grow with you!
You hit the nail on the head with this one. I'm so impressed by your compassion and preemtiveness. Because hair does matter to self-esteem. And, at least for me, when I came out of a depressive rut, this little bit of self-esteem can go a long way.
you're an angel Kayley! ❤
A tip I learned from having allergies: if your hair is getting a bit dirty but you can't wash it for whatever reason, wrap it up before bed. A hair scarf, cap, whatever works for you. This keeps any grease/dirt/product/etc that's on your hair from getting all over your pillow and then all over your face as you sleep.
The rinse and repeat method has been such a game changer for me!! It helps my hair stay cleaner for longer so I’m not having to deal with it as often. Started doing it like a year ago and I haven’t gone back!!
Cantu Leave-in conditioner was AMAZING. Even for my fine,wavy hair
added tip for anybody who gets annoyed with washing their hair, whenever my hair gets a little bit dirty I use this Raw Sugar Rosemary Vinegar Hair Rinse. You put it on wet hair (roots and ends), massage it in, and let it sit for like 3 minutes then rinse it out. Keeps my hair clean and soft!
Please take us to the salon next time you get your haircut. Xo Sarah
I really love the Eva NYC magic 10 in 1 detangler!
Ive been sleeping for years with a loose bun. My 6 years old kept on waking with tangled hair and didnt liked me trying ro brush it for school . Now its the loose bun for her too 😅👌
My therapist says that something is always better than nothing. So maybe you can't wash your hair today, but maybe you can spray some leave-in and brush it. (This extends to other areas--maybe you can't clean your whole bathroom, but you can wipe your sink with a Clorox wipe; maybe you can't go for a walk but you can stand outside for 10 minutes, etc). No shame in doing whatever you are capable of that day
So happy to have new videos coming
Another tip I would add: satin pillowcase or satin bonnet to sleep
Thank you for this beautiful video. Currently watching from bed with multiple chronic illnesses.
Yay!! Seeing you post Kayley just made my day so much better. I only just put my hair up in a ponytail lol 😂 I need some hairinspo ❤
Things that helped me as someone who has spent time in bed due to mental and physical health:
- Have hair stuff (brush, scrunchies) in my nightstand.
- accepting that sometimes things have got to give (temporarily) so shorter hair (but still able to put it up) and growing out my bangs but having cute clips when I do go out or have an online appointment.
- I love my wet brush, it detangles so well
- doing things where I’m more comfortable, I always have to blow dry my hair but I can do it in bed!
-when blow drying hair it really helps to do it in sections. I divide it in 4, put it in clips and suddenly it’s way less overwhelming.
I have never needed a video more than this😅
This video was absolutely fantastic and, as a chronically ill person who spends a lot of time in bed, I really appreciate the empathy you included here. My situation isn't mentioned a lot in these kinds of things and it felt wonderful to feel so seen.
What an absolutely practical, compassionate video. Thank you for sharing yourself with the Internet, Kayley. You bring so much to this space.
french pins/fair forks have changed my hair game!! i feel like my hair looks pretty when i take it out as opposed to claw clips which make my wavy hair look crunchy hehe!
New mom over here, sometimes I barely wash my hair... 😅
Thank you so much! ❤
you recommended the loose bun that I live in basically whenever I'm home - literally I stared at the screen as a mirror, identical buns being sported, and I CACKLED. I paused it to show to my partner and he also laughed aloud because it's so exactly how I wear my hair all the time lmao
As a nee mum with PPD this had truly made my day ❤ thank you
I love Davines Oi oil and leave in conditioner. I also use their shampoo and liquid luster. Love the scent and it makes my hair so soft and shiny.
I’m actually on holiday atm and stuck in bed with back pain. My hair is always the last thought on my mind and when I do have time I clarify and then Olaplex and air dry. I like the Function of Beauty leave in conditioner and use half a pump (I tied a clear elastic to the pump as I knew a full pump would be too much even when I had waist length hair) When I really want to make myself feel better I put on makeup. Thank you for sharing your tips and tricks and welcome back. Love the longer hair too ❤️
Thank you for this content. As a chronically ill person, I greatly appreciate feeling seen and cared for.
A dose of your friendly neighbourhood hairstylist videos never fails to bring sunshine into your day! Hugs from Jakarta
i love the garnier leave in conditioner!
Verb oil is my absolute favorite 😍
I’ve missed you 🩵
How much is too much clarifying shampoo? I have VERY hard water, use a lot of product, and use the k18 stuff. But I’m also very dry regardless 🤷♀️ I try and drink the water but still. What should my boundaries be?
. You have such an … uplifting? Voice. Maybe a better word for it out there but rit is very nurturing and not condescending. … wait. not going down = going up.. lifting …up. The word works!
So happy you’re back. Love your videos. You look amazing 😍💕💕
This is an excellent video idea!!! ❤ when I’m getting overwhelmed in life, I definitely transition to a “benign neglect” model of hair care (and all beauty related self care really) just going as simple as possible, but trying to keep the “routine” because my ADHD brain likes that. (i.e. in AM brush teeth, splash face, moisturizing face sunscreen, brush and braid hair. PM wash face, moisturize)
Kayla, it's wonderful to see you back on RUclips. Thanks for all your helpful suggestions. Personally I dread wash day as the end result of my hair style is never what I hope it will be which makes me feel ugly and depressed.
Quick question for you: what is the difference between these two Bumble and Bumble products and when should each one be used?
1) Hairdresser's Invisible Oil Frizz Reducing Hair Oil
2) Hairdresser’s Invisible Oil Heat Protectant Leave In Conditioner Primer
TSM! 🙂
I like Herbal Essences Nourishing Detangling Spray! So glad to have you and your tips back on RUclips. I've followed you since I was in high school (early 2010s)!
LOVE the message behind this video ❤ whenever I know I’m going to have a long stretch when I can’t take the time to do my hair (working 12hr o/n shifts) I put my hair in French rope braids and the curls/waves last for DAYS!!! And then I can leave it down or do updos with it 😊
Thank you Kayley!!! Great topic! Almost everyone has gone through a phase like this, but sadly we don't talk about (and thus accept / embrace) these moments enough. But you also offered tips with respect and even more compassion❤️
Kayley, thank you so much for this video! It truly meant a lot to me to hear you talk about these things. I've been quite sick for over 10 years, and figuring out how to care for my hair and not hate how it looks has been a journey for me! I really like the tips that you shared, and I want to look into getting some soft hair ties! Some other things that have been helpful for me personally are: 1) having shorter hair so that I'm not as self-conscious about how thin it is, 2) working to believe my husband when he tells me that my hair is beautiful, and 3) having realistic expectations for what I'm able to do for my hair. Recently I got a shower stool, as standing up in the shower can be pretty exhausting for me, especially when I wash my hair. Being able to sit has been such a help for me, and I don't feel as anxious or tired about washing my hair now.
Again, thank you so much for this video! It helps some very tender parts of my heart feel seen. ❤️❤️
The Loreal Everpure 21-in-1 leave in spray is supposed to be really similar to the Pureology Color Fanatic spray that is really popular. The ingredient deck is very similar. Same parent company owns both brands and there are multiple products in recent Loreal drugstore lines that are basically dupes for high end. In regard to clarifying shampoos, I've tried a few of the popular ones but my fave is the Pantene Volume and Body shampoo. It somehow cleans really well but doesn't make your hair feel like straw after rinsing it out. My second choice after Pantene would be the Kristin Ess clarifying.
Sending you love, always. 🥰 And thank you for the tips! 💚 Can you do a video with different hairstyles with various clips? I noticed butterfly clips are in again. I love it! I still have some from when I was a pre-teen and teen. 😁
OMG thank you for creating this. I have spent the last 3 years in bed due to chronic illness and cannot shower regularly anymore, let alone wash my own hair as often as I need to. I resorted to having extremely short hair to cope. I am so heartened to have seen this on your channel. It will really help me, and it validates the steps I have already taken. I have heard from other friends with chronic illness that in addition to using leave-in conditioner, they also use leave-in shampoo. Have you heard of this? I haven’t personally tried it yet but have heard it’s useful when you have to go a long time without washing your hair.
Thank you also for sharing your story in your previous video and alluding to it again here. I am sorry for what you have had to go through, and might be still going through. Your bravery in sharing what has happened to you makes me feel really seen. I have never before encountered a hair stylist who accounted for the full human experience beyond looking cute or stylish. We need help to look after our hair in times when we are genuinely not well - and you are amazing for finally fulfilling that need.
Much love to you, and thank you!
Welcome back, love all your advice. Ended cutting my hair because I never know what to do and always put it up on the same way ; yes with those hair ties 🤦🏽♀️🙃 same spot all the time ...
thank you 🙏 😊
The thing about claw clips (and with how trendy they have become this should be shouted everywhere!)...
They can be dangerous!!
Take your claw clip out if you get in a car!!!! Because if you get in an accident all those little teeth of the claw clip get embedded in your skull. Claw clips can exacerbate your head injuries by a lot!!!
If you use claw clips, be conscious about this and stay safe!!!!
I use Pantene Miracle Rescue 10 in 1 for my two young daughters and it works WONDERS on their super knotty hair. I’ve used low to high end leave-ins on them and this one provides some of the best slip when brushing.
Thank you so much for coming back you add so much to my life and your content is amazing. Congratulations on overcoming your OCD.
as a new mom who had an emergency c section… recovery was awful and self care went away and depression set in… quick tips use a curl band at night so you wake up at least to pretty waves.
I love cozy confidence bands or effortless muse. They’re amazing products
Ugh! My girl I'm so glad you're back in my feed ❤ and this video is so necessary for so many of us. Bonnets and hair clips are my best friend, especially when I have zero mental capacity for hair maintenance. 🥰 And so proud of you
Also, if your hair is a hindrance, feel free to cut/shave em. I shaved my head before getting major surgeries and it made my life so much easier (donate the hair). Also, I looked freaking dashing. (They often offer hair cutting and a bit of makeup in hospitals when you stay for a while, you wouldn't believe how much this can make a grandma happy).
My body reacts negatively towards cleansing agents, it's due to atypical connective tissue.
I stopped using most products about 6 months ago, that includes shampoo and conditioner. I use a boar bristle brush to distribute the sebum for my scalp all throughout my hair now. Both my scalp and hair have never been this healthy.
My hair is in between wavy and curly, very pliable, I do miss certain looks that I can't achieve without some type of fixing agent like gel. I recently tried some (pure) wool wax, it worked really well! I can just brush the wax out the same way I do sebum, so no need for cleaning agents.
Oil makes my hair look greasy and flat. I was scared wax would do the same, but it turned out to be the perfect fit for me. I recently ordered some (pure) beeswax as that's firmer than the wool wax, I'm excited to see what I can do with it. Wax has a lot of similarities to pomade, and very little in common with gel or hairspray.
Kaylee's tips are great, but I wanted to add a different perspective just in case somebody else struggles with the same things I do.
Pure boar bristle without plastic bristles, otherwise the plastic will scrape your scalp. I bought both cheap and expensive versions, they're equally as good. The bristles are firmer and longer if it's the expensive type, that makes it easier to detangle and reach the scalp. But I find myself gravitating towards the softer bristles of the cheap brush.
I brush my hair as often as I used to shampoo it, about once every 3 days. There's a lot of information on the internet on how to brush and honestly it's really not that deep. You don't need to do a certain amount of strokes, time, or give equal attention to all areas. Brush where your scalp has sebum build up and then go to areas of your hair that are dry, sometimes it takes me 2 minutes, sometimes it takes 20, use intuition not instructions.
For all y'all watching this bc you want to look and feel nice, but you have mental or physical health barriers, I also recommend the video "how to look cute when you're out of f****s" on the channel Bestdressed. It's older, but it has tips I still use all the time! She talks about easy, comfy ways to dress and 30 second hairstyles.
I love this! What a beautiful way to use a hard time in your life to share wisdom with others.
These tips are also super helpful for neurodivergent people as well. Adhd brain here and one thing i know for me and many in the ND community struggle with is self care. I can tend to go days without brushing or washing my hair and it just stays in the same tight messy bun.
My quick tips to add for more textured babes. I have super thick wavy/curly hair so it adds a lil more trouble to doing easy maintenance. The claw clip is a great tip. I use the ones that look like an octopus bc it helps holding all my hair. Dark colored dry shampoo for refreshing between washes makes a big difference. And just learning really easy braids to make the hair feel styled without much effort goes a long way. The braiding can also really help with lessening how tangled textured hair gets overnight, especially if like me you can't do bonnets or silk pillowcases bc the texture just bothers me while im trying to sleep.
I'm always so happy to see you posting!!!
Just passed this video to my friend who just gave birth, I'm sure she'll be able to find the tips and tricks useful 💜
Just a teeny tiny opinion that it's not meant as a criticism and you're absolutely free to ignore: personally, I didn't love the changes of camera angle throughout the video, it actually looked really professional, but to me was quite distracting.
Please please please don't take it badly, it really was meant as just an opinion that I felt free to share because you're so lovely and empathetic.
I'll still be watching every video you post, and actually recreated some of your old ones on myself and even some friends for various events. 💜💜💜
Amazing video. You are so smart and thoughtful in your content Kayley ❤ These tips are also perfect for new parents!!! You are a life saver. Or a hair saver!!!
New mom here and I highly appreciate this video!! 💖
Also: Welcome back! Glad to see that you're feeling better. I've been a part of the braidaholic family for over a decade ❤
It is so nice to see your videos popping up again! Thank you for all your efforts! Also, random question: I noticed you were wearing a flat snake necklace, and I love those as well, but my hair always gets stuck in between the little chains and creates so much damage and breakage (of both my hair and the necklace!). Does this happen to you as well?
If you have greasy roots with ends that are dry, fragile, or frizzy, but all you can manage that day is dry shampoo, try a dry oil spray for the ends of your hair. I sometimes put a bit on before I get in there with the dry shampoo, for a bit of protection when I'm brushing that out, but mostly, I use it to calm down frizz afterwards. It doesn't need to be an expensive one - mine is made by Schwarzkopf in their got2b range. It doesn't leave the ends of my fine, thin hair stringy like a leave in conditioner, serum or hair oil can.
Also, if you can manage it, take the time to give yourself a head massage while you're rubbing the dry shampoo into your roots. It makes it feel more like a self-care step, and less like something you're only doing because you can't manage a shower.
I love this! Incredibly relatable. I have always loved your content and especially love the realist views about life you are sharing. I actually learned to French braid (and all sorts of other braids) my hair from your old braid encyclopedia days. Thank you for being so brave and sharing snippets of your life. ❤
L'Oréal dry oil. It's an old product but works amazing for my dry hair
In my experience, changing the brush so it fits the type of hair helps tremendously fx bigger brush head for longer hair, brushing from the ends and up towards the scalp with conditioner. If it get's stuck, don't force it, add a bit more conditioner and spread out the tangle then brush.
If I'm not feeling well, I'll brush my hair before heading into the shower because it helps with the tangles afterwards. Not rubbing the hair dry with a towel, but padding/scrunching it prevents tangles.
Removing the hair on the brush every time you are done really helps with my hair not getting oily because of all the dust and stuff gathered on the brush and occasionally washing it as well.
Either way, hope this might help someone out there and have as wonderful day
It’s so lovely to see a new video from you ❤.
This is very interesting to me - as someone who’s embraced their natural curl pattern for the last few years, many of these tips are things that I do as part of my routine, eg sleeping with my hair in a pineapple, using a micro fibre towel on wash day. I also try to make wash day count (by following a routine to give my curls longevity), so that I won’t have to refresh my hair for the next 4-5 days.
Any tips for that bed head flatness in the back/ crown area? It’s my biggest struggle- my hair just reaches my shoulders and is thin/ gets really oily so I find myself just giving up and throwing it in a bun or pony until next wash and it’s really just taking the fun out of hair y’know?
Thank you for this video! How should I sleep with my hair up/to avoid friction if I have short/shoulder-length hair and braids don't stay in overnight? :)
Hi Kayley! First of all, it's great to have you back and good to know that you are getting better and being able to take care of yourself. As someone who has consistently struggled with mental health, I know how challenging and scary that can be. Do you have any tips for keeping hair contained at night for someone with chin/shoulder length hair? My hair doesn't tie up into a single pony yet for reference.
I love my microfibre towel! It makes such a difference as my hair holds a lot of water. I put my hair in two loose dutch braids to sleep, which I find most comfortable as I find a low braid doesn’t hold my hair enough and a bun pulls on my hair too much. Thank you for these tips!! I’m so excited to try them!
Especially if I'm air drying my hair, I use two microfiber towels. I leave each one on for about 15 minutes. My theory is this absorbs twice as much water.
I'm about to have my 3rd baby. So happy about it, but I KNOW my hair suffer. It always does. So this video is perfect for me!
youtube: „new video by kayleymelissa“
me: clicks video, instantly likes, watches the video
I can get up to 2 weeks without washing my hair. I always wash my hair twice, and I use those scalp tool.
Use a micro fibre towel until it’s about 80%. Then blast it with the Dyson. X
I love this video so much!! I know it’s not the greatest but dry shampoo is a huge saver for me when I’m not feeling the effort of washing my hair. I’ve really loved the Dae fairy duster powder! It smells amazing and works so well and makes me feel confident in my hair!
Love this video, Kayley! I’m really struggling with self care at the moment and this was honestly just what I needed. So glad to see you back 🥰
I’m so glad you’re back, and this was a perfect video for it! I loved that you recommended some products, and I would love to see a video recommending some more. Thanks ❤
Can I adopt you as a sister? you are such a genuine, bright person and your videos make me so happy. I love how really and honest you are, making your page informative and a safe space for people struggling with something anywhere from how to get the hair/styles they want to mental health
Leave in conditioner that’s amazing for my fine wavy hair prone to frizz: Pureology colour fanatic. Game changer for me.
I wash my hair once a week and put it up in a clip when it’s wet and go to work. 😂 I’m so lazy and not good with time management. I have to wear it up everyday at work anyways so there’s no point in blowing it out or anything. Luckily I have very thick hair so it doesn’t get greasy very quickly. I also wash it 2-3 times when I do wash it.
This is exactly what I need right now. Thank you for your great tips.
Appreciate this so much thank you, as someone with chronic fatigue too and other disabilities it means so much you talk about this stuff with no judgement and so much love 🥺🥺 as well as it being legit helpful lol I rarely actually try the hairstyles you show but so often pick up such great tips as well as loving your creativity, passion and kindness, so easy to watch and have done for so so many years 🥰 No pressure to be consistent with videos but proud of you for posting these 💜💜💜
This was a really timely video for me! Great tips, I'll definitely be using some of these now. I don't know how I never thought of brushing my hair before showering lol
My hair dont stay in a ponytail with silk scrunchies :( They slip...what am I doing wrong (I have very fine hair)
I nearly always have a beanie or a hood on for comfort. And I ALWAYS sleep with a hat on. Is this horrible for my hair? (Not tight hats btw)