Not your choice anymore. If you return him without going thru the court, YOU will be charged with neglect and maybe abandonment. You have no choice but to make her go thru the court for you and the childs protection. That way if the court decides to return the boy to her and if she messes up again the court is to blame and not you. If she messes up after you return him you will be charged worse than her.
This is not a handbag that was returned, and now she wants to get it back. This is a child living and breathing. You did the right thing for the child. She would have to totally prove herself before she would get back in this child’s life. Shewould have to go to the court she would have to do Child classes. She would have to have small visitations. She would have to go through a whole series of things before she can prove that she worthy of having this child
Legally she can't just show up and take him. She has to go through the courts and work with a social worker before she even has a chance at getting him back
No!! go to child protective services and get them involved. She’s going to have to prove her fitness as a parent. They may allow short time supervised visitation. There’s a lot involved. Good luck. I have a 3 year old grandson I take care of when his mom works. He is so sweet. Great age.
He's not a pair of mittens. You can't return him. And if social services placed him with you, then you and her need to go through them. And she needs to go through all of their flaming hoops. He is an innocent human being. She is a capable adult who decided to put him aside like he's an unfavored sweater, instead of her own flesh and blood, but she created.
She can't just come back & take him without going through CPS! She abandoned her Son ffs! She dosent get to come back making demand's! Talk to CPS & DO NOT GIVE LUCUS BACK! Your doing the right thing for this incredible little boy by giving him stability which he need's & love.
If she was. A real mother she'd know it's not about her. It's about the child and she abandoned her child. No one stole her child. She abandoned her child and now there. She's bored what she's doing. She wants her child back and most likely because she's been ostracized by somebody. She knows so don't do it. Keep that baby safe and protect yourself. God bless and good luck.
No u shouldn’t have to give Lucas back she left him and u r protecting him ur doing what’s best and she’s just being selfish mean and immature if she takes any more steps just tell her “Actions come with consequences” or “think before u do” bc it something that she choose and couldn’t have done it but she did just as a reminder more people will support you than her❤
She has to go through the foster system to try to get him back from op ,but considering she abandoned him to the system i highly dought that shell be able to ,do what you see as right and for the benifit of Lucus he come first in all things ,his well being is most important
No you aren’t the wrong one she left him and she probably wants him back for clout or for the checks from the government you made your bed now sleep in it Sarah as far as I’m concerned and everyone else Lucas is YOUR son not Sarah’s hes yours
No you not wrong your sister is full of herself what mother would do such a painful thing to a child it's actually sad that the law will take her side Rather ask the social worker for help for the sake of her child and take it from there you right she will abandon him again as soon as she a opportunity next time she will take him far away and leave him again or she will be nasty to him his entire life she doesn't really want a child please do something that is right for the child
NO! You are the one being the responsible with stability and care. Call CPS in case she does something rational and inform family whats going on too. In case she spins a story to put pressure on you.
I swear, Sarah, in a different universe, could be my older brother. To say my older brother was no pride as a husband or father, or as a human being for that matter, would be a gross understatement. He had two kids with the ex-wife (and God knows how many with randos from one-night stands) that he never paid any attention to until it was convenient and he needed handouts or free, on the spot babysitting. He hasn't seen his children since they were 8 and 10 respectively. They turn 29 and 31 this spring. They're better off with their mother, stepfather and half-brother.
Actually, legally, depending on the intricacies, she probably just can't "take him back." If social services were involved there's more to this story.....MUCH MORE
Know if she’s leaving her kid in foster care it means she’s leaving her kid bye-bye and she doesn’t own him no more so it’s clearly if you’re adopting him it’s your child
Naaah she made her choice and there is no taking it back. She doesn't get to throw away her kid and get to have him back when she feels like it. She left this boy behind once and hid him from his family fully. His well-being and safety come way before her feelings on the matter.
No but asked her to clean up her life before taking the child because if she going to actually been in that child again then there's a problem then the police had to get involved and that is not good is the police has to get involved she might not ever see that child again it's not good for her or the child😢
He's 3 YR'S old so he doesn't get a say, especially as he has no compression of the situation thank god. He need's stability & it's genuinely not up to him or the scum bag mum who dumped her Son, it's up to CPS, the Court's & OP. This poor little boy is not an object to dump & then pick up again.
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This innocent child is not an object, he is an actual person. He is not something to just be "given back". No one is.
You know what they say every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child
"every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child"
- human
Not your choice anymore. If you return him without going thru the court, YOU will be charged with neglect and maybe abandonment. You have no choice but to make her go thru the court for you and the childs protection. That way if the court decides to return the boy to her and if she messes up again the court is to blame and not you. If she messes up after you return him you will be charged worse than her.
You are the right one here because you are his legal guardian on paper now because you adopted him
I was gonna just comment that
This is not a handbag that was returned, and now she wants to get it back. This is a child living and breathing. You did the right thing for the child. She would have to totally prove herself before she would get back in this child’s life. Shewould have to go to the court she would have to do Child classes. She would have to have small visitations. She would have to go through a whole series of things before she can prove that she worthy of having this child
they’re talking about returning a child like it’s a busted up xbox.
As a child, HELL NO. DO NOT GIVE HER THAT CHILD BACK. Lucas deserves so much better than her ☹️
Keep the boy, this way he is safe and loved!
A child is not a pair of shoes that you can purchase and return and buy again.
Keep him! He deserves a loving home where he isn’t in fear of getting abandoned❤
Legally she can't just show up and take him. She has to go through the courts and work with a social worker before she even has a chance at getting him back
Hell no. Protect that child.
As a child if you left me and I get adopted NO WAY am I going back with you
Nta , you shouldn't give her Lucas because he needs a stable life and place, and not a mom who will abandon him
No!! go to child protective services and get them involved. She’s going to have to prove her fitness as a parent. They may allow short time supervised visitation. There’s a lot involved. Good luck. I have a 3 year old grandson I take care of when his mom works. He is so sweet. Great age.
He's not a pair of mittens. You can't return him. And if social services placed him with you, then you and her need to go through them. And she needs to go through all of their flaming hoops.
He is an innocent human being. She is a capable adult who decided to put him aside like he's an unfavored sweater, instead of her own flesh and blood, but she created.
You didn’t STEAL HIM, SHE GAVE UP her right when SHE gave the child to CPS
She can't just come back & take him without going through CPS! She abandoned her Son ffs! She dosent get to come back making demand's! Talk to CPS & DO NOT GIVE LUCUS BACK! Your doing the right thing for this incredible little boy by giving him stability which he need's & love.
If she was.
A real mother she'd know it's not about her. It's about the child and she abandoned her child. No one stole her child. She abandoned her child and now there. She's bored what she's doing. She wants her child back and most likely because she's been ostracized by somebody. She knows so don't do it. Keep that baby safe and protect yourself. God bless and good luck.
It’s not her child anymore. He is now legally your child
Bro, he's a kid, not an object, don't give him to her😭
No she needs to go to cort and face the legal system! It's the only way! She has no right to just show up! So no you can't just return him to her!
What a selfish prick, Lucas deserves better 🤦🏽♀️……although I am curious what happened to make her go no contact tho…
Who’s selfish? Op or their sister
NTA don’t give him back ❤
No u shouldn’t have to give Lucas back she left him and u r protecting him ur doing what’s best and she’s just being selfish mean and immature if she takes any more steps just tell her “Actions come with consequences” or “think before u do” bc it something that she choose and couldn’t have done it but she did just as a reminder more people will support you than her❤
She has to go through the foster system to try to get him back from op ,but considering she abandoned him to the system i highly dought that shell be able to ,do what you see as right and for the benifit of Lucus he come first in all things ,his well being is most important
NO DONT GIVE HIM AWAY ITS NOT AN ITEM ITS A CHILD. YOU ADOPTED HIM LEGALLY SO ITS YOUR KID NOW.
Lucas has been through enough and your sister might abandon him again so I think that you should keep Lucas
That’s your call to let him see her (according to my mom who is a Social Worker)
No
@SOLARTHEMEEPMEEPif she like adopted Lucas technically she doesn’t have to give back Lucas because she’s legally her new mom….
@@AWESOME.POSSUM. that's what I'm saying
Let them see echother, and let lucas make the desision. A mother isnt who youre given, its who you bond with
Firstly it's neither of you're choices it's lukas's and secondly wtf would just leave their child like that
I reckon CPS would have something to say about it.
This is kinda what is happened to me except the kid part
They’re your kid now, she’s treating them like an object, you shouldn’t give them back
NTA go to CFS explain the situation about your sister
Knowlingly abandoning a toddler is not the whoopsie poopsie she thinks it is
No you aren’t the wrong one she left him and she probably wants him back for clout or for the checks from the government you made your bed now sleep in it Sarah as far as I’m concerned and everyone else Lucas is YOUR son not Sarah’s hes yours
I agree
Natalia Wojcik as a lioness: I agree with you, sweetie!
Yta😊
Edit: if yall angry goes cry abt it
heck no Lucas is yours now if she wants Lucas back she will have to explain to the judge
The fact your even considering letting him go back.
"Erm may I please have the breathing ornament back I think I changed my mind🤓"
No you not wrong your sister is full of herself what mother would do such a painful thing to a child it's actually sad that the law will take her side
Rather ask the social worker for help for the sake of her child and take it from there you right she will abandon him again as soon as she a opportunity next time she will take him far away and leave him again or she will be nasty to him his entire life she doesn't really want a child please do something that is right for the child
NO! You are the one being the responsible with stability and care. Call CPS in case she does something rational and inform family whats going on too. In case she spins a story to put pressure on you.
Contact a social worker
lord no!
She abandoned her son! You took him in and took care of him even grew to love him. Take her to court and fight for custody!
NTA DON'T give Lucas back!!!
I swear, Sarah, in a different universe, could be my older brother. To say my older brother was no pride as a husband or father, or as a human being for that matter, would be a gross understatement. He had two kids with the ex-wife (and God knows how many with randos from one-night stands) that he never paid any attention to until it was convenient and he needed handouts or free, on the spot babysitting. He hasn't seen his children since they were 8 and 10 respectively. They turn 29 and 31 this spring. They're better off with their mother, stepfather and half-brother.
Actually, legally, depending on the intricacies, she probably just can't "take him back." If social services were involved there's more to this story.....MUCH MORE
Know if she’s leaving her kid in foster care it means she’s leaving her kid bye-bye and she doesn’t own him no more so it’s clearly if you’re adopting him it’s your child
You act like he is a dog. There is no "giving back" there a reconsider custody but no dont
Naaah she made her choice and there is no taking it back. She doesn't get to throw away her kid and get to have him back when she feels like it. She left this boy behind once and hid him from his family fully. His well-being and safety come way before her feelings on the matter.
No but asked her to clean up her life before taking the child because if she going to actually been in that child again then there's a problem then the police had to get involved and that is not good is the police has to get involved she might not ever see that child again it's not good for her or the child😢
No, do not "give" a child back to someone who can walk away in the first place.
Why was this child in foster care? Would he even be safe with her?
No you shouldn’t
You should contact CPS. Surely they are involved because she put her child in foster care. They will decide.
Please think of what Lucas wants he feels safe with you has he ever felt safe with your sister?
What does the boy feel about all of this? Maybe the mom can see him with supervision.
You didn’t steal her child. You got a call from CPS, which that means Sarah probably doesn’t even have parental rights over him
No don't return that poor child.
Noooooo tell her to prove it
Hell no keep that child
Girl you only have one chance
I think u should ask him what he wants
He's 3 YR'S old so he doesn't get a say, especially as he has no compression of the situation thank god. He need's stability & it's genuinely not up to him or the scum bag mum who dumped her Son, it's up to CPS, the Court's & OP. This poor little boy is not an object to dump & then pick up again.
@ oh he’s 3 I thought he was 4 yrs old you might not think there’s a difference but there it is
Let the kid choose
No your not the wrong one
That’s not her child she made her bed and now she has to lay in it
It's not really up to you, it's up to c p.S whether she gets her child back.
dont give him back
No one should agree with the sister she isnt even married💀
Nta.
No
Do 😅not in any way, shape or form return this child to your sister.
Return him? Hes not a package. She left him, so hes not longer her son.
Okay why did u word it like that "should I return him" he's not a dog or item 😭😭😭
No don’t give him back to your sister she’ll just abandon him again
No ur not wrong.....
no neva eva
Heck no
She should have thought of that before putting him for adoption
ZNO
Lucks ни машины чтобы его назад отдавать. И уж точно не такое матери как у него.
NAR
Nope
Absolutely not
Make an actual story, man.
No
No