Somewhere in 3 months after we met I started talking bout moving in together. She refused. Then I talked about marriage, she didnt think I was serious, so I did what I had to do; meet her family near & far, bought a house thats suitable for a family, proposed to her like a month after. Her friends said they met 2 guys before me, her family said I'm the first. That explains the look on their face, town folks when they saw us, they're surprised & happy. I was actually surprised to know she didnt date many like women I know.
Thank you for this video because I've never dated before which may sound bizarre to some and it's like being thrown into a pool of water without any previous experience. I'm supposed to go out with this guy soon and I am taking it one step at a time and make sure I'm making the right decision.
HELLEN KIPTOO I know moving on is hard, but if you don’t do it, you’ll never be able to find the man you’re supposed to spend your life with. In order to be happy you gotta do it. Easier said than done, but you’ll never know true happiness if you just stay in a relationship because it’s hard to move on. Everything is hard. If you really want to move on, you’ve got to work for it. It won’t come easy, but it’s not impossible. You can do. I absolutely believe in you. Please do it, because although I don’t know you, I still want you to know what happiness means, what it feels like and what it looks like. So keep trying. Focus on yourself, and soon you’ll find your one and only
Think couples should be will established before dating afterwards start dating it takes Six months to a year not five and ten years waste of time yeah establish a friendship how not four or five years No
I disagree about the length of time. It varies. To me, 6 months is way too soon, but I've heard of couples that have gotten engaged in that time. To me, a couple's end goal together isn't marriage, as that's not a necessity in life. There are tons of couples who stay together for their whole lives, but don't get married, and they're happy. Marriage isn't for everyone. I tell people to date for at least a year or more before even considering proposing. Too many people jump into marriage too quickly. Women, especially, tend to focus on the wedding way more than the actual marriage, which is a recipe for disaster. I've been with my fiance for 12 years, engaged for 9 of them. We wanna get married, but can't afford it right now, even though we agreed on eloping due to family drama. But we have lots of things to deal with first in our lives before tying the knot. We love each other more now than we ever have and it's amazing. We don't need a government issues certificate to prove we're in love. We already know that. ;) Oh, and marriage isn't a "sacrifice". That's pretty harsh. It takes zero sacrifice to be with the person you love. If sacrifice is involved, something is wrong.
Midnight Sonnet but God forbid if something happens to you does your spouse have say over medical choices? Do you have a will in place that gives your spouse the power of attorney over you? You mentioned family drama who’s to say that your family won’t completely EX your spouse out because legally your spouse can’t make any decisions..? You will probably say to yourself my family wouldn’t do that but you will be surprised...marriage is not only confessing your love under God but in mans term it protects your spouse legally as well..who wants to spend a lifetime with someone only to have their rights stripped away if something happens medically ..you have to protect your spouse even in the afterlife...just saying
Marriage is sacrifice though, you are giving yourself completely to the other person and will no longer have the ability to do whatever you want with no thought. While you are not giving up your individuality you are willingly choosing to do everything you can for the other person, and this works both ways. In this way the couple continues to build each other up and support the other. Sacrifice is not a negative it is giving up a selfish mindset and thinking of the other, without sacrifice how can any relationship be successful?
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Somewhere in 3 months after we met I started talking bout moving in together. She refused. Then I talked about marriage, she didnt think I was serious, so I did what I had to do; meet her family near & far, bought a house thats suitable for a family, proposed to her like a month after.
Her friends said they met 2 guys before me, her family said I'm the first. That explains the look on their face, town folks when they saw us, they're surprised & happy. I was actually surprised to know she didnt date many like women I know.
Brandon and Lakendria gave excellent relationship advise. I look forward to hearing more from them!! Great job!!!!
Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed it!
Really helpful; Really insightful. Wish you guys the best!
Thank you for this video because I've never dated before which may sound bizarre to some and it's like being thrown into a pool of water without any previous experience. I'm supposed to go out with this guy soon and I am taking it one step at a time and make sure I'm making the right decision.
May God bless the both of you, I've been overthinking a lot
You look just like this girl from Selma that I went to high school with.
good stuff guys,i just feel like am in a toxic relationship thou its so hard to move on
HELLEN KIPTOO I know moving on is hard, but if you don’t do it, you’ll never be able to find the man you’re supposed to spend your life with. In order to be happy you gotta do it. Easier said than done, but you’ll never know true happiness if you just stay in a relationship because it’s hard to move on. Everything is hard. If you really want to move on, you’ve got to work for it. It won’t come easy, but it’s not impossible. You can do. I absolutely believe in you. Please do it, because although I don’t know you, I still want you to know what happiness means, what it feels like and what it looks like. So keep trying. Focus on yourself, and soon you’ll find your one and only
How long do you suggest if your going on dates with someone before you should be in relationship?
Great video
Hey I'll take this into consideration
Btw this be Quincy
Think couples should be will established before dating afterwards start dating it takes Six months to a year not five and ten years waste of time yeah establish a friendship how not four or five years No
1-2 years friends first
Great video, thank you for sharing.
I disagree about the length of time. It varies. To me, 6 months is way too soon, but I've heard of couples that have gotten engaged in that time. To me, a couple's end goal together isn't marriage, as that's not a necessity in life. There are tons of couples who stay together for their whole lives, but don't get married, and they're happy. Marriage isn't for everyone. I tell people to date for at least a year or more before even considering proposing. Too many people jump into marriage too quickly. Women, especially, tend to focus on the wedding way more than the actual marriage, which is a recipe for disaster. I've been with my fiance for 12 years, engaged for 9 of them. We wanna get married, but can't afford it right now, even though we agreed on eloping due to family drama. But we have lots of things to deal with first in our lives before tying the knot. We love each other more now than we ever have and it's amazing. We don't need a government issues certificate to prove we're in love. We already know that. ;) Oh, and marriage isn't a "sacrifice". That's pretty harsh. It takes zero sacrifice to be with the person you love. If sacrifice is involved, something is wrong.
Midnight Sonnet but God forbid if something happens to you does your spouse have say over medical choices? Do you have a will in place that gives your spouse the power of attorney over you? You mentioned family drama who’s to say that your family won’t completely EX your spouse out because legally your spouse can’t make any decisions..? You will probably say to yourself my family wouldn’t do that but you will be surprised...marriage is not only confessing your love under God but in mans term it protects your spouse legally as well..who wants to spend a lifetime with someone only to have their rights stripped away if something happens medically ..you have to protect your spouse even in the afterlife...just saying
Marriage is sacrifice though, you are giving yourself completely to the other person and will no longer have the ability to do whatever you want with no thought. While you are not giving up your individuality you are willingly choosing to do everything you can for the other person, and this works both ways. In this way the couple continues to build each other up and support the other. Sacrifice is not a negative it is giving up a selfish mindset and thinking of the other, without sacrifice how can any relationship be successful?