May is almost over. In light of Mental Health month, we have another video that speaks on how to help someone with depression. These simple tips may go a long way. Also, this video was long overdue as many of you have watched our videos on how to tell if someone has suicidal thinking and wanted to know ways they can be there for there. Can someone help translate this?
Psych2Go what if both partners in a committed long term relationship deal with depression????? This video mentioned several great ways to help a depressed person, but many of these things are impossible for partners in a relationship similar to mine.
Rachael Critters yes I'm on the same situation then you >< I don't know how to help my friend who is far from me and have depression.. Does anybody can help me please?
Psych2Go im sory to bother you with this quastion and ik your probably busy and I dont mean to bother you but can you make a video on how to tell someone that your depressed Because I have been trying to tell someone but I just cant and idk how to
Rachael Critters i am in a situation like that too... my boyfriend has no friend no family to help him and I really want he gets better but we can't see us often and is killing me see my honey that way..
just by looking at the comment section makes me think that internet people are more helpful than our real friends. although they don't know each other, look at them, they're encouraging one another - despite the unknown of him/her just faking it or whatever, still the sincerity of wanting to help someone is there. the world is beautiful, we're just too blind on seeing it.
Then there are some internet people on other media sites that only care if you are listening to them, and they don't give a single brain cell to remembering when you struggle...they always get surprised when you blow up, and never bother to find out the bottom of the problem, only forcing you to apologize for yelling and hurting... I am sick and tired after going through an online friendship where the other person was clingy and constantly guilt tripped me over little things. There are *SOME* good people... but then there are the people who don't care or only want to care if you care about them.
Me and my best friend are suffering depression together. But my best friend suffered it before me, and now at the low point of life and she cant even fight back. I am helping her by telling her jokes, make her pay less more attention to the bad things in life, help her with her homework, and always be there by her side. And she helps me cope with my depression when I haven't recognised it, and help me cope with it.
Friends in real life often have the problem that they don’t know how to react or express their feelings which often comes across as if they don’t care. I have felt ignored for a long time and although I don’t suffer from depression it hurt a lot. I then one day randomly heard my friends talking about me and I started listening. They talked about how they feel like I am not happy right now and how they can help me without being annoying. Although they don’t find the right words they might really care and just can’t explain that to you.
Another way to care for them is to not just say "It's Okay, you're okay." They will not believe you, and it can make them spiral into believing they're getting manipulated, lied to, or that they can't trust even people they love. If the day is awful, sit with them, let them vent, and talk about what they want to, while subtly guiding them into much lighter, happier topics, slowly working positive words and conversational topics into the conversation itself will help them lift away the weight of depression slowly, and let them know you are being sincere with them. Many of my friends and myself all suffer from varying, but mainly severe depression... it's hard...
Zenz0ha I agree. I hate it when my peers say "But you look fine to me" when I mention about my clinical depression or my meds. Lecturers knowing of my condition say "You are fine, you don't need therapy" hoping that I snap out of it by myself. My campus counsellor forced me to attend classes too soon after hospitalisation and when I said that it's too much and that I'm tired of pretending to be OK, she said "But you look fine, I thought you are recovering." But the best is my very own parents, who tried to disown me because they think I'm like this on purpose. One moment they mock me with some sort of chicken dance pointing a finger at me saying "You don't have depression, it's all pretend~ pretend~ pretend~" and the next moment saying "Now the entire neighbourhood knows you have a mental illness. If I hear the faculty Dean call me up about your problems again, I'll just send you to an asylum and cut all ties with you." Doesn't help that they are typical Asian parents. Depression is not some cool fad like some make it out to be. It feels horrible and I'd do anything to get rid of it. Everyone around me is invalidating my suffering because I look "okay" on the outside. Even if you mean well, saying they are OK makes them feel misunderstood and alone. I'm still recovering from some fresh mental trauma so I'm sorry for the long rant. Have a nice day!
Cheesu Sandwichee You definitely have a very difficult problem, and having a problem is just part of being human. Everyone has their own unique set of problems, and I'm so sorry u got dealt this hard deck of cards in this game called life. But at least you are strong and smart enough to recognize your problems, alert others and get help, and face them head-on. I wish I could say the same of those around you in your life, but they seem a little too proud and dismissive. Just remember, while depression is your problem, it is definitely not your fault, and those people's immature attitudes are not your problem.
Amy Laircey Thank you for your kind words and concern. Unfortunately, here in Asia there is too little awareness about mental health, and having it is considered a huge stigma. People here associate depression with either (1) being sad over a sad event, or (2) weak and pathetic, or (3) an deliberate excuse to be a burden or, (4) simply a 'psycho'. It has gone to a point where I cannot interact with absolutely ANYONE around me except my psychiatrist, so I adapted coping mechanisms and enjoy my solitude now.
Some tips on how to help: - Don't force the person to take medication if they don't think it will help, it'll just stress them out and make them feel more alienated - Hug them (affection is a great help and that's what calms me down) - Let them talk to you without you interrupting and don't judge them - Don't say stereotypical phrases you think will help like "I know how you feel" "Exercise will help" It'll just frustrate them. I know for a fact exercise only makes me more miserable and if someone says they know how I feel it makes me angry. - Don't force them to feel happy either, it encourages them to fake a smile. Try to encourage them to feel happy instead. What I always tell myself is "If you can't help yourself, help others" and I hope this will help.
@Really Sleepy I imagine it could make them feel that either you are taking it too lightly or brushing it off as nothing (the typical "You're not special.") or that they are exaggerating, what they are experiencing is normal which contributes to the feeling of worthlessness and so on. Let's be honest, if you don't suffer with depression yourself, you probably don't know what it feels like, and even if you do, the experiences are unique for each person. Something like: "I don't know how you feel but I'll be there for you." sounds much better.
Thanks... people in general tend to shy away from me because I suffer with anxiety and depression.. even those close to me will avoid talking about it, though probably because they don't really understand how to help or even if they can... before I came out and told my friends I have depression and anxiety, they were there and wanting to help... now it's only 2 or 3 people who actually talk to me anymore... and even they are hesitant to bring up what's going on..
It does seem that whenever either my depression or anxiety come up, it's always something along the lines of "I hope you feel/get better soon," or "You'll feel better tomorrow, don't stress too much," though I can't not stress, and I also can't just feel better soon... I want to... but I can't.. and I think as a guy, everyone expects me to just shrug it off, but I can't.. most of the time I feel like I have to act happy or make it look like I'm getting better so they don't worry, but I'm never just "okay," or "doing better"... I don't know what to do in life anymore... I'm just... tired... both mentally and emotionally...
I tots get that, just lock your room door put on your best sad music and cry or go to the shower let the water bounce off of you and cry stay away from emerging your self in the bath tub that will only make it worse trust me and listen to music, read a book, read jokes online do something that always made you happy.
TIP! a lot of times, people who are depressed have something they want to say or do, but they are too overwhelmed by poor self-worth to initiate things themselves because they feel like nobody cares or wants to hear it. try to really articulate that you care and try to coax conversation out of them. They won't open up until they feel like they are in a secure, comforting environment. please like so others can see
oof you You have to have a strong mindset to help someone with depression and you have to remember that how they act towards you is not actually them being that way, but it’s actually the depression and pain that they are going through. Its hard for them to even want to talk to someone or be around someone so if you are able to always show them that you are always there for them, it helps.
1:03 Help them with their chores and duties 1:30 Take a walk with them 2:00 Encourage them to focus on self-care 2:38 Compliment them 3:04 Ask them to help you understand what they're feeling
My girlfriend is strongly depressed. You guys’ advice gave her the strength to talk to a counselor. You guys are the people who started her healing. Thank you so much. I needed to know that it can and will be heard to help someone with depression. She, like many other people have many other illnesses slowing down her healing. But still, the advice you guys give people works. And if you’re like me and have a loved one in a similar situation, do all of these things. They need to know that they are loved. Talk to them. Do small things that’ll make them smile. And most important of all, stay with them and don’t give up on them. If they know that you love them, it really helps. This is what helped me, and don’t be afraid to talk to someone about it (parent, counselor, etc). Please, listen to these people. This is real help. Thank you guys so much.
TEACH ME YOUR MAGIC!! :OOOOOO BUT CONGRATS THOUGH! I'm still prodding through . . . but I think I'm managing well alone (because I think no one wants to hear about other people's problems, especially depression, etc.. And my parent doesn't have much money/time for a therapist . . . frankly neither do I. DARN IT THERE I GO AGAIN. ;;)
I don't suffer from depression, but a lot of my friends do. I've learned most of this through trial and error unfortunately, and I really wish I could have seen this first, because it has caused a lot of unneeded stress on both them and me.
Sometimes it's hard to differentiate between a self-diagnosed depression or an actual clinically diagnosed depression. These days the word depression gets thrown out quite easily.. Or should that not matter? Sometimes I feel like I'm feeling depressed, then id ask myself again "are you really..? Or are you just sad?"
shesNearandFar If it's concerning you, talk to a professional. It doesn't matter if you don't think you deserve it, you are a person, and you deserve the best of help. Even if you don't think so. It's better safe than sorry. But check it out before it's too late.
shesNearandFar similarly, just because somebody wasn't diagnosed does not mean they don't have the condition. I've been struggling for years but every time I brought it up with my doctor he never offered to evaluate it or properly help treat it. The reason people get diagnosed is because they had the condition even before diagnosis.
shesNearandFar my friend has depression anixety and she's biaploar or whatever and literally she has to be stuck with it her whole, she said she's hears voices that tell very negative and mean stuff and her own friend literally fake being depressed and she betrayed her.
shesNearandFar I used to be a self diagnoser, and to this day I look back on it as just being a dumbass, but now? A year later, I've actually been diagnosed and it's just like oh. okay.
To you who is suffering from depression. I know it's so hard and you feel like you will never feel better again. You feel like you're always seeing everything though glasses that only show the negatives and it feels like the whole world is terrible. You feel like you only want to stay inside all day and all you ever do is think about the negatives and about your depression and how you're feeling and not understanding why. But let me give you some advice, because I have also felt this way but I feel much better now. You will feel better, sometimes all you can do is to wait for time to pass because as it does so does your wounds heal and with time you will feel better even if you don't think so. There is always a light still there but right now it is only hidden by the dark fog that surrounds you. The whole world is not terrible, there are so many amazing beautiful things you can't see right now that will show themselves once the dark fog starts going away. I know you don't want to do anything and you don't have the energy for anything, but I'm not telling you to get out of your house this minute and do something, but I'm only asking of you to stay busy doing anything; watching a movie, playing videogames, take a shower, take care of yourself, do your nails or your makeup, style your hair, maybe bake something sweet you know you love, and if you can go outside for a bit, or just do something. I know the anxiety that comes with doing anything is terrible and doesn't let you go outside because all you feel when you go outside is the terrible anxiety, but don't go outside immediatly, start small, maybe go to a café with a friend for example where you will get a chance to relax and just talk, at the same time as you're spending time outside of your home. I'm sorry for the long read but I only wanted to tell you this because I want you to feel better and nobody deserves to be depressed, everybody deserves a shot at feeling happy, even if you don't think so, you actually do. I wanted to tell you something else. You're not alone, the way your feeling is not weird or unusual in any way. You're only human and there is only so much you can manage. Don't blame yourself for how you feel, and don't think that you're alone because you're not, don't believe that you are useless or worthless because you are not. The dark fog that surrounds you makes you believe you are, but you are amazing and you can do amazing things. This world is a better place with you in it and we need you here. Don't give up. Keep fighting, I know you can! The light is always there at the end of the tunnel and you will get there. If anybody who feels depressed or has anxiety or just needs somebody to talk to, I am here. Just reply to this comment, and we can all help eachother. ❤️ Edit: Hey everyone. I just got a notification that someone replied to this comment, and at first I had no clue what this comment was. I now see that I wrote this 3 years ago and this is the first time I revisit this comment since I wrote it (today is May 31 2021). I just want to say sorry to all of you who tried to reach out, I never got any notifications. This one I got now is the first one for this comment. I'm happy that almost 200 of you either agreed with me, found my message helpful or maybe even got some comfort or hope from it. I hope you are all okay. ❤️ To those of you who wanted to talk to me, I'm still here for you and you can write me just reply to me and I will do my best to get back to you. I can't promise I will see your comment or reply because I now see that I can't trust to get any notifications (even though I have them on...). After I post this edit I will reply to some of you, I just wanted to write this message for everyone first. Stay strong everyone and take care of yourselves, especially during these difficult times with the pandemic. ❤️ On another note, something I didn't include when I wrote this comment 3 years ago is the importance of seeking professional help. Today I myself work with helping people with mental health issues and I understand from a professional point of view how important it is to seek help when you need it, even if you think your problem is small and you don't want to bother anyone with it, please seek help if you are in a bad place and you feel stuck. Much love to all of you. ❤️
The problem is when depression lasts three long years thanks to the cause of depression not changing and actually making it worse. Clingy guilt tripping people and parents who refuse to see how decisions hurt their children. At the end of the day. It's impossible to see the 'when' it clears up because it doesn't seem like it'll ever clear up.
Emilia Zec I.. I just feel like an overdramatic attention who're. I have a perfect life loving parents. Yet here I am feeling all low and empty. Just empty. Why?! Why do I feel like this?! There are people going through far worse situation. Then why... Why am I like this. I don't deserve this life... I wish I was never born. I wish my parents didn't have to see me like this. I wish I was normal.
Connect to professional help. Thats meant to be caring even if it might seem mean. A psychiatrist can be expensive so you could try a social worker or seeing if there are mental health agencies in you area. My city has a few mental health drop in centers where you can even have a sandwich while there. If you have had depression a long time its not just thoughts but could be a physical or biochemical imbalance has developed. I know one lady who had been suicidal when it turned out the doctor found she was low in lecithin. Not everyone would have the same sources for depression. That is where a professional can help direct you. Depression may be new or strange to you but others have overcome it and made notes. So check the notes.
one way to help someone with depression is to never give up on them and stand up for them. Sometimes depression makes people think everyone is going to leave them so if you just stick with them it helps more than you think
As someone who's severely depressed without remissions (aka it doesn't stop & I don't respond to medical treatment) - I can say everything here is correct. It really means a lot to me when someone helps me with something simple, because it doesn't feel simple to me. The sincerity in the complements too. Nothing is worse than false platitudes.
GRIMM_SIMMER Mine didn't either... until I started talking to one of my other friends outside my main friend group about it... and then he gave me the courage to tell them..
One of the biggest tests in your life is finding someone who you can trust. It doesn't have to be a big group of friends, it can be just one person in your life that you know 100% would not turn their back on you. Once you find that person you can trust, try your best to explain to them that you are depressed and why you are depressed. If they are a true friend/family member, they will accept you for who you are and do their best to help you. Keep in mind this person might not be in your life yet, it might take a long time to find that person, but don't let that stop you from looking for that trust.
Recently I found a girl in our grade who I didn't really talk to, and she's been a world of help for me. It's just about trying to reach out. It's hard af, but it's worth it, trust me.
GRIMM_SIMMER Well, no one can understand your depression. No one will. I don't have to know you to know that no one will understand someone else's depression. Everyone suffers differently. It is all about the help you get to be able to get out.
in my experience, depression is like anxiety in that coping methods are different from time to time. not only is my way of dealing with it different from someone else's, mine might also be different from the last time. i think the best thing to do to help those who are depressed is to listen and show them that you love them. knowing you genuinely care really helps because it shows them that there is a reason to be happy. i have a few close friends that notice when i'm depressed and they do things like comfort me (which will be different from person to person), try and make me laugh, let me talk to them, help get my mind off of mental illness, and tell me they love me. this is just how my friends have helped me. if you know someone who is going through depression, listen to them. respect, sincerity, understanding, and love can help so much more than you might think.
Whenever I went through heavy episodes with my depression, I remember being so angry. I thought "I need to talk to someone." but the issue is...I didn't trust my friends, therefore, I blamed them for me not being comfortable enough to talk to them. I hated judgment. As a result, I realized they only wanted to be associated with me when I was "okay." I'm no longer friends with these people, but I now have friends that I can actually trust.
same here. Recently id just direct my anger towards my best friend. i feel so bad for doing so cuz they did nothing wrong and they dont deserve all this. although its not clear whether they understand my depression or not but its quite clear they dont know how to help me at all. it makes me so mad whenever i go back into my wormhole of thought that their lack of replies to my countless texts mean that they are caring for me less and less. it also feels like they are trying to avoid me now since i started opening up to them. i do sympathize and understand that they might not want to be associated with me in fear of something happening. but also i dont like the thought that they are distancing themselves away from me when they, as a best friend, couldve at least tried to help me through this instead. now heres me contemplating if i should let them go or not....
Hey. I know I’m late, but I just wanted to tell you, if you feel like you can’t talk to your friends, try a therapist. It’s basically paying someone to listen to you and help you. That’s what they’re there for. Again, I know I’m late but I hope you’re doing better.
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Thank you so much. Seeing my friend in pain puts me in pain, and I feel like a failure of a friend when I don't know what to say or do. I will definitely try to organise some trips outside, maybe hiking. I heard that avoiding listening to sad music a lot also helps, so I'll encourage her to do that.
Hi I don't know you but I just wanted to say your friend is lucky to have someone in her life who cares the way you do. You are not a failure of a friend at all. As someone who struggles with depression, please know that you just being there to listen means everything. Having a friend who supports, loves and shows up for you is the most important thing. Sending love to you and your friend ⛅️💛
Beloved child, I see the pain and the hurt that you carry within your heart. I see the tears that you have shed, and I am moved with compassion for you. I want to heal your broken heart and to bind up all your wounds. I want to restore the joy of your salvation and to give you a garment of praise, instead of a spirit of despair. I want to comfort you and bring you peace in the midst of your storms. I understand the struggles and the challenges that you face in this life. I know the temptations and the trials that you endure. I will never leave you nor forsake you. I am your refuge and your strength, an ever-present help in times of trouble. I want you to know that I have great plans for your life. I want to use you to touch the lives of others, to bring healing and hope to the brokenhearted, and to set the captives free. I want to use you to bring light into the darkness, and to be a beacon of hope to a lost and dying world. My child, I want you to know that My love for you is unconditional and unchanging. I want you to know that you are My beloved child, and that I delight in you. I want you to know that you are precious in My sight, and that you are more valuable to Me than the finest gold and the most precious jewels... I want you to know that I rejoice over you with singing. I want you to know that I am always with you, and that I will never leave you nor forsake you. I want you to know that I am your constant companion, and that I will guide you and direct your steps. I want you to know that I will give you the wisdom and the understanding that you need to navigate the challenges of this life. I want you to know that I am the God of all comfort, and that I will comfort you in all your troubles. I want you to know that I am the God who heals you, who binds up your wounds, and who sets you free from the bondage of sin and its consequences. I want you to know that I am the God who restores you when you have gone astray, and who brings you back into the fold of My love. I want you to know that I am the God who gives you the desires of your heart when they are in alignment with My will and My purposes. I want you to know that I am the God who blesses you abundantly, and that I am a God of more than enough. My child, I want you to trust in Me with all your heart, and to lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Me, and I will make your paths straight. I will guide you with My eye, and I will lead you to the place I have prepared for you... I will never leave you nor forsake you. With all My love, God.
Psych2Go my best friend who was always very shy was recently diagnosed with social anxiety. I feel like it's a little different from just being shy and I'd like to know what I should avoid that might trigger a panic attack or something, which has happened before and I felt really bad for her.
Psych2Go Please do one on Social Anxiety. My boyfriend has it and it would seem no matter how we explain it to friends and other people, they don't understand that it's not something that just magically goes away for them. I have absolutely loved all of your videos so far and I hope you continue to make them.
steve lastname I used to suffer with Social Anxiety really bad and I promise you now there is a way it can be cured you just have to find the right tools for her and use exercises everyday
I have bad depression. Things that help me are things like: Just being able to talk about it. If someone tells me that they know how hard it is, and if they say that I'm strong for making it this far, it helps a lot. Knowing that people understand the severity of depression lets me think that I am strong for pushing through it this far. The main thing that seems to help me us talking about it. I can't really go on walks and stuff because I also have bad anxiety. But the struggles that I've faced and lived through help me help others. If anyone is depressed, you can reply or message me and I'll do what I can to help :)
These are all so nice, I wish I had someone to do this w/me w/o undermining my feelings and making me feel guilty bc "other ppl have it worse." One tip I would say is to not undermine depressed ppl's feelings. Everybody has their down times but it doesn't make them any less valid bc of their life and living situation. Another thing is to let depressed ppl be upset, I get so tired of hearing "it's okay, you're gonna be okay." It doesn't work, just listening to why the person is frustrated is enough and maybe using alternative comforting phrases. I'd lastly note is don't force a depressed person to do something, instead slowly or gently ease them to it. I can't explain how terrible it is to be forced into something, imo it makes everything a lot worse but there some exceptions just be careful about it. I got more but this comment is long enough. Just thought I'd share. 💖👍
Thank you so much for this comment. I have a friend of mine who is depressed and this made me better understand how to help her. I really appreciate this! Have a great week ahead. :)
Hi this comment is a year old already but I have a question! How do you mean that with easing someone into it? I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, do you maybe have an example! Thanks a lot
As someone who’s been on both sides of things.... Coming from being depressed: we don’t want u to “fix” us. We just want u to be there. Show u care when we feel so worthless. And sometimes we don’t even know what we need! So please be patient. Coming from someone who’s friend is depressed: it’s hard knowing they just don’t care are u the way they use to. And u know it’s not rlly their fault, but it can still be hard. It’s also rlly hard to be there for someone when they push u away one day, then want u by their side the next. I have my own life, my own ish going on... so sometimes it’s rlly straining on my mental health, having to try and be strong for someone else. But regardless, even though it’s hard to show it... I care. I care so much! And your friends and I talk, and we are worried for u! But sometimes the only thing we can do is give u space.
Thank you so much for uploading this! I have a friend who's having a really tough down phase at the moment and I didn't know how to help her. This video did help me a lot!
I really want to help people with depression. You shouldn't be suffering, because you deserve happiness, love and the beauty this world has yet to offer. There's always two sides to a coin and hope at the end of a tunnel, don't ever give up.
I am doing that myself actually. It's hard because in high school, I hid my feelings and no one knew I was depressed. Last year after my suicide attempt, my family and friends knew. I was hospitalized and diagnosed with clinical depression and generalized anxiety disorder. Even though my family and friends know how, I don't feel like they know how to help or they just don't check up on me. So I took it upon myself to get myself the help I need. I called my insurance and asked about my benefits and where are nearby therapists I can see. I also went to the doctor and was perscribed antidepressants. I don't mean to be rude to the people above but hobbies do help. they may not cure depressiom but they do help. I understand how it feels to not want to do something. I know. I love playing violin and I love yoga/gymnastics. But when im depressed those things seem like too much work and I just don't feel like doing them. One thing I learned from therapy is that take things small. for example, sometimes I wake up feeling depressed and I don't want to do anything. it feels like im being weighed down. As hard as it may be, I manage to drag myself out of bed and motivate myself by making hot chocolate. I really love that. so from there I say...just put your shirt on. and I do. and then i just lay there. after a while I tell myself...just put your jeans on. and i do. and then I watch something on my phone or listen to music that might get my spirits up even the slightest and take it from there. i hope this helps! take care! xo
Thanks, but I'm too scared to tell anyone about my depression. My parents are worried, I mean this morning they asked if I was depressed. All I could do was put on a fake smile and say: "No, I'm fine." Of course I'm not fine. Thank my soul that school is literally over in 3 days. But hobbies don't help me, they might, but I just don't take pleasure in doing them anymore. It feels too awful to get up and do it. All I want to do is lay in my bed, some pass it off as laziness but it's just I feel like a ton of bricks are weighing me down. I don't really want to go to therapy, I hate talking about my feelings. I'll probably regret this comment but fuck it. Anyways, thanks for listening even if you don't want to. I'm glad you're better.
As a person who suffers from severe and reoccurring depression, I really enjoy your videos. They are helping me in understanding, and what I need to try and focus on to help myself. Thank you.
Watching this video made me realise, that my friends were trying really hard to help me when I was depressed. I was too blind to see it sooner. I never thought that someone would care so much for me. Now it’s my turn to help them. This video will be a great start.
I know that there is a lot of great information on topics like these and how to help someone who is struggling with this. But let us please not forget about those who are helping someone with depression. It can be really draining and you need a lot of patience to take care of someone. Everyone is different and sometimes they can get angry at you and it's okay :). Please remember to take care of yourself and that just because you are taking care of somebody else doesn't mean you don't deserve that same treatment. Don't let it overwhelm you and remember to always cheer yourself up! Take a step back if it feels to overwhelming to take care of them, breathe and step back in. you are their support so you need to be at your very best. I'm sure there is many people out there who are doing their best in helping and I want to say that you guys are doing an amazing job! I'm proud of you guys! Remember to take very good care of yourself and your loved ones and have a beautiful morning/evening/ night. :) ❤
Thank you. This is really a great start in helping someone. Now I don't feel frustrated in worrying if I will do the wrong things but what else can help a depressed person the most is probably by listening and not jumping to conclusions. It's best to question in ways that allows them to speak rather than it being a yes or no question or make them seem like they are in the wrong. Also take note with their body language, for example, they may stiffen when they mention something and you can use that to help further understand what is going on. Don't sugar coat things. It may make them feel like you're not really listening and that you may be manipulating or lying to them. Just listen. my English is not the best so I can't explain this well but all in all, thank you for the video. ;w;
I just stumbled upon this channel, and as someone with severe anxiety and depression who also struggles talking with people, thank you for having this video, people always ask me what's wrong but I can never talk in person so I end up hiding away and getting worse, but next time someone asks, I'll direct them to this channel
Honestly guys If you have a friend that is going through depression just be there. That's honestly the best thing you can do for them. When someone is going through depression they feel they are completely alone. Just remind them that you are there,always. Text them regularly and even face to face interaction would be better. Make sure that they know you can count on them to be there. And another thing, listen. Listen to them because most likely they might be trying to tell you something without directly telling you. Listen to what they say and watch there actions. A big factor of getting them to talk to you and let you in is don't be judgemental. Always make sure that they can trust you with anything because big chance if and after they tell you they will think it was a big mistake. They will most likely regret it and replay the situation in their head. So make sure they can trust you and if they tell you about how they feel be understanding and let them know they are there to help.
I’m feeling emotional now, because I just noticed I did everything you mentioned in this video to help a friend. I did it! 🥺🥰 I feel so good knowing that I could help a friend.
I've been helping my girlfriend with her depression for awhile and it's really stressful... But what i found is that just simply talking with her and being there help most
I have a friend who had a rough past and she struggles with so much pain every day. I just needed some guidance and I asked God to help both of us. I wanna say 'thank you' for what you do.
Oh hey :) I know, I'm not that important or anything, but maybe I can throw in some ideas. 1)You can send them simple messages like "good morning" or "sweet dreams" or maybe even "hope you've had something yummy for lunch!". This kind of small talk sometimes can really show that you care. 2)Tell them your worries and encourage to tell theirs. Serious or not. "I had this weird dream about dolphins today..What about you?"/"Ugh..My mom keeps sending me memes from 2009.Tell me I'm not the only one." 3)Send them stuff you think they'll like. Maybe a link to the funny video with animals they like, figurines of videogame characters in amazon, craft ideas... all the crazy stuff. Or you can send them my comment to laugh at. 'cuz looking back at it...it's quite dum'. Just tell them you love 'em, at least.
Pushing away like "I don't wanna talk anymore" or just being silent? If they at least read the messages you send or they can sort of see the context by the preview, you can just send lots of them saying real basic stuff. "Hey, are you okay?" "I hope you are." "If you need some alone time, I understand." "Just promise me that you'll behave." "I miss you and I want to hear from you again." You can still spam them with hello-s and good morning-s to make them feel welcomed and make sure they know you still want to talk to them. (I've been there, too. Just abandoning my pals for no good reason, sometimes for almost a year. I don't know if they cared anymore, but I still feel like a jerk that I am. I have a feeling your friend may experience that too. Try to hold on to them, if you feel like they are important to you.)
My friend has been recently diagnosed with depression and this video and all the comments are so helpful so I can help her through it and make sure she’s ok 👍🙏😍
My best friend is depressed, it’s really hard for me because she says her mum abuses her everyday and shop lifts. It’s just so sad to think she’s going through this. Everyday she says “I can’t do this anymore” and it’s really depressing and I just feel so down hearted and sad for her.
in my personal expierence, they didn't work out. I'm not saying yours won't either but you have to know what things trigger your depression, How do you guys handle it, what signs do you give when you a depressed but you don't want to say you are, and just encourge one another. remind each other to take your meds. Do stuff like the video mentioned with each other. I was with a depressed person (I have clinical depression too) and he was just very isolated. I tried so hard to help him when he was depressed but he shut me out. And when I was depressed, he completely ignored me. one timebI was crying and he was literally on his phone. so I ended it. I was also with a bipolar person. He refused to give me the space I asked for. sometimes I do need someone but somtimes I also need space. Just because I didn't feel like being held or kissed at the moment, he got angry. I thought he would understand but he didn't. Again, I'm not discouraging you. I just advise you to help each other (:
Rob D you have to understand that you cannot be each other's cures. people are not cured to mental illness any more than they are to physical illness. Your relationship can definitely work but it is important that you both see a therapist/psychiatrist and use each other's love and support to encourage one another in the healing process.
Although I've never been in a romantic relationship, a friendship I had could've definitely become one since I loved him. I told him I'd be there if he ever needed someone to talk to and he and I talked several times a week before he blocked me on social media. When that happened, it felt as if a piece of me died. I definitely blame myself for this because I feel that I should've given him more space and now I'd honestly give anything to have him back. 😢
Rachel I'm going through almost the same situation as you :'( I told that friend of mine that I'd be there for him too. There was a time where we were close and we talked alot but now we're almost like strangers and he wont ever open up to me anymore. After all this time I still treat him as an important friend but he told me he never even treat me as a close friend and that talking to me was actually stressful :'(
My dad have had depression since i was six years old (im 14 now) he think its weak to get help and wont let me help him. He devorced my mom couse he thought he didn’t deserve her and it really hurt me to be seeing him like this! Thank you so much for making this video i will start helping him more often and give him a big compliment everyday! I love my dad!
the best thing is to hang out with that person, it helped me a lot.most time these people act like they dont want to hang out and havr social contacts, but everyone dose...you just have to respond to these people and you should show them that youre intrested about there hobbys or even the bad thing. have a nice day. stay alive.
One of the most important people in my life, my -crush- friend suffers from depression and I always shower her with affection and care. I let her rant, I comfort her, I go on walks with her. -I actually am pretty good at this even before I watched this wow I'm proud of myself and of you for getting through this-
To be honest, I'd feel extremely uncomfortable letting a friend do this for me. It seems totally one-sided and I'd feel horrible letting another person do all that because undoubtedly, they have their own problems too. I don't know why but it just feels so wrong for me.
Soph S you need somone .in my opinion everyone needs somone. that's want I thought for many years it's okay to tell somone your problems and if it's okay if they tell u theirs don't u want to know your friends problems and if u can help if it's a good friend they will feel the same way and if . worst comes to worst get a therapist sorry but u are not batman
Anna Bunny Boo I have no problem speaking to people that I trust about my problems and I do go to therapy as well. It's just that I don't feel very comfortable letting people do all that just to try and make me feel better, especially as in my state of mind, I probably wouldn't be able to help them to the extent that they're helping me, if you get what I mean. I guess it's because of some mindset I developed earlier in life which encouraged me to toughen up and just deal with it, of which the effects I'm still trying to deal with. It just doesn't sit right with me. Though I understand that if I were to look at the situation excluding how I feel about it, the healthier choice would be to let them try and help me. It's just that I won't like it.
I feel the same way, not just about my depressed situations and people trying to help with that but also in every day life. Like when I'm sick I will refuse anyone to do anything for me because it makes me feel guilty for not doing anything even though they're helping out of kindness and I should just accept it. And when I do let them help I keep this guilty weight on me that doesn't go away easily.
I believe that people with problems who don't believe they can get better help other people because they feel that at least they are doing something good. This can also help ,the person helping, with their problems cause it distracts them from it and helps them think clearly. Well this is why i choose to help my friends even when i'm dealing with my own stuff, it helps me a lot.
Two of my friends recently showed me they cut their wrists and im glad they trust me but learning about this is.. difficult. but i helped them as much as i can and i hope more people will be too. Dealing it alone is impossible, its never wrong to ask for help 😊.
I used to suffer from depression... but now I found a new passion, happiness, and I've gone to a realization to see the good things in life; and that there will always be a rainbow after rain. I've also learned to love myself, now my goal is to make everyone around me happy while at the same time making myself happy and just balancing things out.
The important thing when helping them (as described in the video) is NOT to make them feel like a charity case or even more worthless. Many people "trying to help" feel burdened by the depressed person and take out their frustration on them while doing their chores for them. Some even ridicule or bully them, throw it in their face that they have become "useless". Please, if you don't feel like you have it in your heart to be sincerely nice - don't help with any chores or other physical or financial things at all. The damage your attitude and your words will cause will be many times greater than any assistance you think you are providing.
A few months ago I told my parents about myself being moderately depressed, I was hoping for a supportive and positive response. Instead, what I got was something along the lines of: "Don't worry, it's just teenage hormones and that stuff"... yeah, because you understand teenage hormones in your 40s... Luckily I have a friend in my class who is somewhat depressed aswell, we usually talk to each other about our problems and I think it helps both of us :)
my gf has depression and i've been trying to help her feel better. This video showed me how to do that, and im extremely happy that i found this video and i can help her feel better. I really hope this will work, because since of the corona virus lockdown, i never had a chance to try these out. Thank you sooooo much Psych2Go for these videos. I truly love your channel
I'm sooo happy this had a big focus on self care. I have major depressive disorder, fibro, and PTSD, and when it gets really bad (I know its so gross but) I won't shower, change clothes, brush my teeth... Anything, for sometimes over a week. Its HORRIBLE. I looove showers too, but I just get so bad I don't have the energy to do anything but lay in bed. It takes everything in me just to take care of my cats, or get up to use the bathroom. So I would really benefit someone telling me to do these things when I'm not doing well. I used to do make make up every single day, and now I hardly bother, even though I love to do it. Its really sad what mental illness takes away from you... And doing those same, but crucial things are the most important.
One of my best friends just told me that he was in a hospital after a suicide attempt.. it absolutely destroyed me to even think of a world without him. I didn’t know what to say..
Oh my god, thank you so much for making this video!! My best, and pretty much my only friend has really bad depression and suicidal thoughts, and I try so hard to help her. I love her, man, I really do and loosing her would crush me, so thank you for making this! This has helped me to help my good friend, and I've managed to convince her into getting therapy. I wish her luck ^^
i have depression... but i try not to think about iti. it won't work. my friends doesn't seem to notice that i have depression and i'm afraid to talk about it. how can i tell them without hurtning their feelings? please reply
sugar heart I can relate... I told my friends about my anxiety and depression 3 months ago... and I just hinted at it first, telling them that I'm not shivering because I'm cold, that I'm putting on a mask of happiness to make it look like I'm okay, before I flat out told them... though... they've been more awkward and distant since... they probably just don't understand how to help... but the word probably... I hate it
sugar heart I'm not Psych2Go obviously, but I can only say that you should talk to them about it - true friends will understand and try to help you as best as they can! Maybe start off by meeting with them in a nice atmosphere at someone's home and tell them you want to talk about something that's really important for you! Wish you the best
as i've helped a friend of mine to go through depression, i agree with Tenebrae. You should talk about it with your closest friend and i hope from there they can understand and help you out.
I like this girl and she has major depression, every week is a new thing sometimes we are so close, then next week she will ignore me for days and she always push me away, i still havent given up on her. Watching this videos and reading all the comments people are saying has given me ideas on how to take care of her.
Few days ago, i had a dream about my boyfriend cutting himself on his wrist using a knife, and said "should I put it in?" And i woke up. My boyfriend have depression & suicidal tendencies. Yesterday, we both had a heart breaking and heart warming conversation about it. Even tho the place was just a food court (i try taking him to the beach, laid out picnic mats so it was more secluded) & lots of people were passing by, he was so comfortable saying it all to me, knowing i was there to hold his hands tightly. I let him voice out what he feels and what he's thinking and encouraged him more gently. I told him all the things i find absolutely wonderful about him. My eyes didn't leave his face. He has such a strong, precious heart. A brave soul who face this all everyday. It's so sad and heart breaking knowing someone this beautiful suffered from childhood to adulthood. I know and see how my lovey is trying everyday and seeing him grew as a person through the years of knowing him, I'm very happy and proud of him. We did baby steps, for the past few days, we showered both at the same time (we don't live together). Didn't force him, asked him if it's okay. Made the deal sound nice and pleasant although i did say i will give him a lifetime supply of buttcheek bites (im ...😂❤️). I'm not strict about it with him, we both agreed showering at 8pm but if there's something he has to do then we can shower a little later. I think this is a good start. I love my favorite person to infinity & beyond. We'll get through this together, my love.
Hey guys! well i dont know who im talking to but i do hope u get through whatever ur goin through and if ur loved one is goin through depression i hope it clears out for them too and if u searched this up to clear a problem for ur loved one ur a very great person and ur friend has a really good person as a friend(you) Happy life and good luck!
As someone who is Bipolar 2 and experiences severe bouts of depression I agree with all these tips. But, also listen to what your loved one wants. Sometimes you just need to be left alone and cry or sleep it off for a bit. So, if you try to help and are rejected come back in a few hours. If they are someone who self-harms or is suicidal though make sure there is nothing they can hurt themselves with during that alone time.
THANK YOU. Now I finally have some ways to help my friend who is depressed. We're not living together so I can't do everything but I can ask her to go out with me more often, and compliment her when I see the chance
Reason why I been watching these vids is because majority of my friends have always been going through rough times such as bullying and isolation too often which they are almost at a breaking point to give up everything. I try to be there for them and listen to their situations so they won’t feel so alone, but it’s often hard for me to relate to them cause I never got bullied or dealt with anything they had to go through that have made them feel this way, and ofc I never want to use phrases such as “Ik how you feel,” cause it’s too vague and I honestly can’t understand why they’re like this. Most of the time I keep them company or just leave them alone if they just want to be by themselves for a while, but at times I just feel less as a friend and more of a stranger.
Manøn C They can refer to the same thing but clinical depression is a more medical term and depression is more an emotional term but, again, some people call clinical depression just depression
Thank you so much for this! I'm a lighthearted person (I feel bad for even Animal Crossing characters when they are distressed) but I'm not good at comforting friends and people. I stay by their side when something is wrong like a pet but I can never help. Thank you so much for this!
I know someone who is depressed but they sometimes say things like" It would be better if I just kill myself" and I never know what to answer to this. And another friend doesn't talk with me about it anymore (I think it but because about that thing I did)I still think it didn't get much better. And they don't really live next to me :/. So any tips for helping them even if you can't really be near them?
Letting your friends vent to you is important. I need to let off steam a lot and pretty much all I need is a listening ear, some kind words/advice and a hug. My depression has got so bad and my friends have got so sick of it and don’t even want to know anymore. I’m just the complainer who brings everyone down. This is the toughest point of my life and now I can’t talk to anyone to help me through it :(
How can I help someone with depression when I most likely have depression too and don't know how to deal with my own? Why would/should I push my problems onto other people who already have plenty of problems of their own?
Thank you for all the tips! A friend of mine... well we haven't spoken in a long time, but she is suffering from depression. I reached out to her way back in September. I didn't know how to help a depressed person back then, I didn't know what to say, what to do or anything for that matter! After like a month of our friendship, she pushed me away. It was honestly quite unexpected since she snapped at me out of blue! We didn't talk for like a month but eventually, she reached out to me and explained her condition and was truly sorry for pushing me away. Our friendship definitely got a lot better since then, she trusted me way more than before. But then again in December, we had a huge argument and we haven't talked since... Today, she greeted me again, which was again, so unexpected! I'm trying my best to understand her feelings and to help in the best way possible. If someone has any tips, please reply to this comment, I would appreciate it.
my close friend told me last night that she tried to kill herself last week. I want to help her through this, and this video really helps. Do you have any more ways I can help?
first make sure you recover emotionally from this, you can be really shooken up by something like this but remember this is not your fault whatsoever this was her choice and you couldnt change that. anyways maybe in person talking to her during lunch (i assume your in school) or at a park or something will help her open up a bit and if you ask her questions about it make sure you try to bring her attention to the positive things like simply the stars in the sky and other beautiful things about the world and him/her i hope something helped (it can be hard for a depressed person to see the good but it is possible) but remember while i know you care alot about him/her realize that this isnt your job, you can try to help her but if she mentions that she wants to again or wishes he/she did die a professional or there parents need to be contacted its so she/he can get help.
sorry i referred to her alot this happened to my girl best friend, but if you have any other questions on how i got through it or her feel free to email me at whitedes001@bisdmail.net (school email)
I was just like this.. But I had to change, everything is not the way you want it to be. To not get bullied or get hated by people it's everywhere you just need to believe in yourself and not care what people say about you.. Cause your an amazing person!
I have a friend who has Bipolar Depression. She said Hugs and gently holding her hand while she talked about her feelings helps her get through the loneliness
My friend has severe depression, and medicine wont help. He needs a hospital but he said he would commit with no hesitation if he goes to a mental hospital. I honestly dont know what to do and hes like a brother to me and I dont know what i would do without them. I suggestions on what to do. Hes not the type of person to express his feelings and he knows we all love him and thats why hes not committing suicide but he can't take much more and i fear im gonna lose him soon. Give me suggestions on what to do im scared. Someone please help
I'm trying to research more about the symptoms my friend has and it seems like long term depression. Taking notes about our conversations helps me a lot with this research. He's talked too much about suicide and his family. He's such a good person but he's being sucked into this big black numbness. I'm so happy I'm actually doing this for him. He doesn't deserve this.
I hate going outside. Especially on a sunny day. Feeling of sun warming up my skin is the worst, makes me want the sun to burn out, and make the earth slowly loose Heat until it freezes.
A firend of mine suffers from depression. When I meet him he didn't want to talk to anyone (except random topics like weather, just to pretend to be ok), he stopped contacting his friends, family, stopped taking care of himself. Somehow we started to talk and he trusted me. It took long time to do so, but finaly he opened and I guess that in the moment when he realized, that it's ok to have problems and heavy feelings, he got better. He is still struggling, but he bacame much more cheerful. I am very happy that I could have helped him just a bit, we both made ourselves feel needed.
What if your loved ones/best friend don't do any of these things, and they just get mad. Even when they know you have depression and anxiety, even when they know your going through a hard time... but they think theirs is harder, even though it's not! What if they don't help?What if you feel like they don't care?What if they just say get over it?
But what if they're actually having a hard time themselves? You're just being selfish fuck off and think about others for a change you depressed piece of shit.
You are a beautiful person Mitzkeylah, do not forget that. I don't have the answer to your question, I wish I did, but know that there is always someone out there who cares. Be well
A long hug, often just a warm hug to make you feel better, I use this technique when my boyfriend experiences mild episodes of depression, I just stand by his side in silence letting him know that everything is going to be okay.
One thing i learned to support someone w/depression is quietly listen/support, suggest therapy and leave open communication/available, but also remember that u can't fix that person's situation nor force them to go to therapy; that's up to them if they wanna do the work and improve themselves.
Now, i know how to help my best friend be happy. I cant thank you enough for this! Thank you thank you thank you!! All i want for her is happiness and light, i want to help with her depression. This helps and gives me ideas on what to do!😭❤
The best thing I personally experience that helps against depression is just doing something with your friend.. If you're depressed you often lack the motivation to do just about anything, kind of like a mental numbness. If you "force" them to do something with you (or more or less invite them to come along) they will usually cheer up if you both have a good time together and it might help them through their depressive state.
May is almost over. In light of Mental Health month, we have another video that speaks on how to help someone with depression. These simple tips may go a long way. Also, this video was long overdue as many of you have watched our videos on how to tell if someone has suicidal thinking and wanted to know ways they can be there for there. Can someone help translate this?
Thanks
Psych2Go what if both partners in a committed long term relationship deal with depression????? This video mentioned several great ways to help a depressed person, but many of these things are impossible for partners in a relationship similar to mine.
Rachael Critters yes I'm on the same situation then you >< I don't know how to help my friend who is far from me and have depression.. Does anybody can help me please?
Psych2Go im sory to bother you with this quastion and ik your probably busy and I dont mean to bother you
but can you make a video on how to tell someone that your depressed
Because I have been trying to tell someone but I just cant and idk how to
Rachael Critters i am in a situation like that too... my boyfriend has no friend no family to help him and I really want he gets better but we can't see us often and is killing me see my honey that way..
Don't compare. Never compare.
Its not a competition.
wish i had friends who know that
@@michaloid8351 wish i had friends
@@yuukaii999 did you even read the comment.
Easier said than done though
My brain says always compete and I can’t achieve my dreams now
just by looking at the comment section makes me think that internet people are more helpful than our real friends. although they don't know each other, look at them, they're encouraging one another - despite the unknown of him/her just faking it or whatever, still the sincerity of wanting to help someone is there. the world is beautiful, we're just too blind on seeing it.
Then there are some internet people on other media sites that only care if you are listening to them, and they don't give a single brain cell to remembering when you struggle...they always get surprised when you blow up, and never bother to find out the bottom of the problem, only forcing you to apologize for yelling and hurting...
I am sick and tired after going through an online friendship where the other person was clingy and constantly guilt tripped me over little things.
There are *SOME* good people...
but then there are the people who don't care or only want to care if you care about them.
@Callie Morales I've cut them out of my life, but the effects are longlasting.
Me and my best friend are suffering depression together. But my best friend suffered it before me, and now at the low point of life and she cant even fight back. I am helping her by telling her jokes, make her pay less more attention to the bad things in life, help her with her homework, and always be there by her side. And she helps me cope with my depression when I haven't recognised it, and help me cope with it.
Friends in real life often have the problem that they don’t know how to react or express their feelings which often comes across as if they don’t care. I have felt ignored for a long time and although I don’t suffer from depression it hurt a lot. I then one day randomly heard my friends talking about me and I started listening. They talked about how they feel like I am not happy right now and how they can help me without being annoying. Although they don’t find the right words they might really care and just can’t explain that to you.
the world is okay but the most people living on it suck.
Another way to care for them is to not just say "It's Okay, you're okay." They will not believe you, and it can make them spiral into believing they're getting manipulated, lied to, or that they can't trust even people they love. If the day is awful, sit with them, let them vent, and talk about what they want to, while subtly guiding them into much lighter, happier topics, slowly working positive words and conversational topics into the conversation itself will help them lift away the weight of depression slowly, and let them know you are being sincere with them. Many of my friends and myself all suffer from varying, but mainly severe depression... it's hard...
Zenz0ha I don't know any one with depression but if I do I'm gonna do that
Zenz0ha I agree. I hate it when my peers say "But you look fine to me" when I mention about my clinical depression or my meds. Lecturers knowing of my condition say "You are fine, you don't need therapy" hoping that I snap out of it by myself. My campus counsellor forced me to attend classes too soon after hospitalisation and when I said that it's too much and that I'm tired of pretending to be OK, she said "But you look fine, I thought you are recovering." But the best is my very own parents, who tried to disown me because they think I'm like this on purpose. One moment they mock me with some sort of chicken dance pointing a finger at me saying "You don't have depression, it's all pretend~ pretend~ pretend~" and the next moment saying "Now the entire neighbourhood knows you have a mental illness. If I hear the faculty Dean call me up about your problems again, I'll just send you to an asylum and cut all ties with you." Doesn't help that they are typical Asian parents.
Depression is not some cool fad like some make it out to be. It feels horrible and I'd do anything to get rid of it. Everyone around me is invalidating my suffering because I look "okay" on the outside. Even if you mean well, saying they are OK makes them feel misunderstood and alone. I'm still recovering from some fresh mental trauma so I'm sorry for the long rant. Have a nice day!
Zenz0ha Excellent post
Cheesu Sandwichee You definitely have a very difficult problem, and having a problem is just part of being human. Everyone has their own unique set of problems, and I'm so sorry u got dealt this hard deck of cards in this game called life. But at least you are strong and smart enough to recognize your problems, alert others and get help, and face them head-on. I wish I could say the same of those around you in your life, but they seem a little too proud and dismissive. Just remember, while depression is your problem, it is definitely not your fault, and those people's immature attitudes are not your problem.
Amy Laircey Thank you for your kind words and concern. Unfortunately, here in Asia there is too little awareness about mental health, and having it is considered a huge stigma. People here associate depression with either (1) being sad over a sad event, or (2) weak and pathetic, or (3) an deliberate excuse to be a burden or, (4) simply a 'psycho'. It has gone to a point where I cannot interact with absolutely ANYONE around me except my psychiatrist, so I adapted coping mechanisms and enjoy my solitude now.
Some tips on how to help:
- Don't force the person to take medication if they don't think it will help, it'll just stress them out and make them feel more alienated
- Hug them (affection is a great help and that's what calms me down)
- Let them talk to you without you interrupting and don't judge them
- Don't say stereotypical phrases you think will help like "I know how you feel" "Exercise will help" It'll just frustrate them. I know for a fact exercise only makes me more miserable and if someone says they know how I feel it makes me angry.
- Don't force them to feel happy either, it encourages them to fake a smile. Try to encourage them to feel happy instead.
What I always tell myself is "If you can't help yourself, help others" and I hope this will help.
The Evergreen Daisy I would disagree with you on that, if it hadn't been for anti depressants I probably would have killed myself
I hate hugs tho... and I have depression.....
@Really Sleepy I imagine it could make them feel that either you are taking it too lightly or brushing it off as nothing (the typical "You're not special.") or that they are exaggerating, what they are experiencing is normal which contributes to the feeling of worthlessness and so on.
Let's be honest, if you don't suffer with depression yourself, you probably don't know what it feels like, and even if you do, the experiences are unique for each person.
Something like: "I don't know how you feel but I'll be there for you." sounds much better.
How... we are practically the same person with that motto
That last quote sounds familiar
I wish people would do this for me.... my friends seem to be too busy to try to understand..
Thanks... people in general tend to shy away from me because I suffer with anxiety and depression.. even those close to me will avoid talking about it, though probably because they don't really understand how to help or even if they can... before I came out and told my friends I have depression and anxiety, they were there and wanting to help... now it's only 2 or 3 people who actually talk to me anymore... and even they are hesitant to bring up what's going on..
Someone will. :)
I know how that feels :(
It does seem that whenever either my depression or anxiety come up, it's always something along the lines of "I hope you feel/get better soon," or "You'll feel better tomorrow, don't stress too much," though I can't not stress, and I also can't just feel better soon... I want to... but I can't.. and I think as a guy, everyone expects me to just shrug it off, but I can't.. most of the time I feel like I have to act happy or make it look like I'm getting better so they don't worry, but I'm never just "okay," or "doing better"... I don't know what to do in life anymore... I'm just... tired... both mentally and emotionally...
I tots get that, just lock your room door put on your best sad music and cry or go to the shower let the water bounce off of you and cry stay away from emerging your self in the bath tub that will only make it worse trust me and listen to music, read a book, read jokes online do something that always made you happy.
TIP! a lot of times, people who are depressed have something they want to say or do, but they are too overwhelmed by poor self-worth to initiate things themselves because they feel like nobody cares or wants to hear it. try to really articulate that you care and try to coax conversation out of them. They won't open up until they feel like they are in a secure, comforting environment. please like so others can see
describes me perfectly.
How to help? Just don't leave.
How did six words make me cry omfg
+My Name is Schuyler * hug *
Unless you are the cause for all that hurt
How can you help If they constantly push you away? It hurts those around them to. How can you help if they will not let you even try?
oof you You have to have a strong mindset to help someone with depression and you have to remember that how they act towards you is not actually them being that way, but it’s actually the depression and pain that they are going through. Its hard for them to even want to talk to someone or be around someone so if you are able to always show them that you are always there for them, it helps.
1:03 Help them with their chores and duties
1:30 Take a walk with them
2:00 Encourage them to focus on self-care
2:38 Compliment them
3:04 Ask them to help you understand what they're feeling
Tysm!!
Thank you for telling me this
Im watching this cause Im the only one who can help myself from depression....
Same lol. Then again, I guess I would be talking to myself more often . . . lololol xD doesn't sound too out of ordinary for me, hahah
Toratan123 same 🙄
xKat Kya Hey kid that was me. No one was there to help but me. I owe my life to myself and no one else. Stay strong. It ends, I swear.
xKat Kya same
Wow, thanks Krista.
My girlfriend is strongly depressed. You guys’ advice gave her the strength to talk to a counselor. You guys are the people who started her healing. Thank you so much. I needed to know that it can and will be heard to help someone with depression. She, like many other people have many other illnesses slowing down her healing. But still, the advice you guys give people works. And if you’re like me and have a loved one in a similar situation, do all of these things. They need to know that they are loved. Talk to them. Do small things that’ll make them smile. And most important of all, stay with them and don’t give up on them. If they know that you love them, it really helps. This is what helped me, and don’t be afraid to talk to someone about it (parent, counselor, etc). Please, listen to these people. This is real help. Thank you guys so much.
I came out of my depression a few weeks ago =]
Me Like Cookie That's amazing! I'm glad you've been feeling better! Someone as amazing as you can do incredible things! 💕
TEACH ME YOUR MAGIC!! :OOOOOO BUT CONGRATS THOUGH! I'm still prodding through . . . but I think I'm managing well alone (because I think no one wants to hear about other people's problems, especially depression, etc.. And my parent doesn't have much money/time for a therapist . . . frankly neither do I. DARN IT THERE I GO AGAIN. ;;)
Toratan123 If you ever want someone to talk to, that will take all the time you need, just hit me up!
+PancakeEating Those words just made my day~! Thank you so much 😊. Even I'm a stranger to you, it's really considerate of you to offer :DD
Me Like Cookie good stay strong
I don't suffer from depression, but a lot of my friends do. I've learned most of this through trial and error unfortunately, and I really wish I could have seen this first, because it has caused a lot of unneeded stress on both them and me.
Sometimes it's hard to differentiate between a self-diagnosed depression or an actual clinically diagnosed depression. These days the word depression gets thrown out quite easily.. Or should that not matter?
Sometimes I feel like I'm feeling depressed, then id ask myself again "are you really..? Or are you just sad?"
shesNearandFar If it's concerning you, talk to a professional. It doesn't matter if you don't think you deserve it, you are a person, and you deserve the best of help. Even if you don't think so. It's better safe than sorry. But check it out before it's too late.
Sadly, this is how it is for me.
shesNearandFar similarly, just because somebody wasn't diagnosed does not mean they don't have the condition. I've been struggling for years but every time I brought it up with my doctor he never offered to evaluate it or properly help treat it. The reason people get diagnosed is because they had the condition even before diagnosis.
shesNearandFar my friend has depression anixety and she's biaploar or whatever and literally she has to be stuck with it her whole, she said she's hears voices that tell very negative and mean stuff and her own friend literally fake being depressed and she betrayed her.
shesNearandFar I used to be a self diagnoser, and to this day I look back on it as just being a dumbass, but now? A year later, I've actually been diagnosed and it's just like
oh. okay.
To you who is suffering from depression. I know it's so hard and you feel like you will never feel better again. You feel like you're always seeing everything though glasses that only show the negatives and it feels like the whole world is terrible. You feel like you only want to stay inside all day and all you ever do is think about the negatives and about your depression and how you're feeling and not understanding why. But let me give you some advice, because I have also felt this way but I feel much better now. You will feel better, sometimes all you can do is to wait for time to pass because as it does so does your wounds heal and with time you will feel better even if you don't think so. There is always a light still there but right now it is only hidden by the dark fog that surrounds you. The whole world is not terrible, there are so many amazing beautiful things you can't see right now that will show themselves once the dark fog starts going away. I know you don't want to do anything and you don't have the energy for anything, but I'm not telling you to get out of your house this minute and do something, but I'm only asking of you to stay busy doing anything; watching a movie, playing videogames, take a shower, take care of yourself, do your nails or your makeup, style your hair, maybe bake something sweet you know you love, and if you can go outside for a bit, or just do something. I know the anxiety that comes with doing anything is terrible and doesn't let you go outside because all you feel when you go outside is the terrible anxiety, but don't go outside immediatly, start small, maybe go to a café with a friend for example where you will get a chance to relax and just talk, at the same time as you're spending time outside of your home. I'm sorry for the long read but I only wanted to tell you this because I want you to feel better and nobody deserves to be depressed, everybody deserves a shot at feeling happy, even if you don't think so, you actually do. I wanted to tell you something else. You're not alone, the way your feeling is not weird or unusual in any way. You're only human and there is only so much you can manage. Don't blame yourself for how you feel, and don't think that you're alone because you're not, don't believe that you are useless or worthless because you are not. The dark fog that surrounds you makes you believe you are, but you are amazing and you can do amazing things. This world is a better place with you in it and we need you here. Don't give up. Keep fighting, I know you can! The light is always there at the end of the tunnel and you will get there.
If anybody who feels depressed or has anxiety or just needs somebody to talk to, I am here. Just reply to this comment, and we can all help eachother. ❤️
Edit: Hey everyone. I just got a notification that someone replied to this comment, and at first I had no clue what this comment was. I now see that I wrote this 3 years ago and this is the first time I revisit this comment since I wrote it (today is May 31 2021).
I just want to say sorry to all of you who tried to reach out, I never got any notifications. This one I got now is the first one for this comment.
I'm happy that almost 200 of you either agreed with me, found my message helpful or maybe even got some comfort or hope from it. I hope you are all okay. ❤️
To those of you who wanted to talk to me, I'm still here for you and you can write me just reply to me and I will do my best to get back to you.
I can't promise I will see your comment or reply because I now see that I can't trust to get any notifications (even though I have them on...).
After I post this edit I will reply to some of you, I just wanted to write this message for everyone first.
Stay strong everyone and take care of yourselves, especially during these difficult times with the pandemic. ❤️
On another note, something I didn't include when I wrote this comment 3 years ago is the importance of seeking professional help. Today I myself work with helping people with mental health issues and I understand from a professional point of view how important it is to seek help when you need it, even if you think your problem is small and you don't want to bother anyone with it, please seek help if you are in a bad place and you feel stuck. Much love to all of you. ❤️
The problem is when depression lasts three long years thanks to the cause of depression not changing and actually making it worse. Clingy guilt tripping people and parents who refuse to see how decisions hurt their children.
At the end of the day. It's impossible to see the 'when' it clears up because it doesn't seem like it'll ever clear up.
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Emilia Zec hey?
I love you
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I just feel like an overdramatic attention who're. I have a perfect life loving parents.
Yet here I am feeling all low and empty. Just empty.
Why?! Why do I feel like this?! There are people going through far worse situation. Then why... Why am I like this. I don't deserve this life... I wish I was never born.
I wish my parents didn't have to see me like this. I wish I was normal.
No one helped me but this channel. If only this channel could turn into a person lol
We're here for you, and we're here for each other, the psych2go community :)
Thank you. ❤️
Moody Marie we are here! ❤
Connect to professional help. Thats meant to be caring even if it might seem mean. A psychiatrist can be expensive so you could try a social worker or seeing if there are mental health agencies in you area. My city has a few mental health drop in centers where you can even have a sandwich while there. If you have had depression a long time its not just thoughts but could be a physical or biochemical imbalance has developed. I know one lady who had been suicidal when it turned out the doctor found she was low in lecithin. Not everyone would have the same sources for depression. That is where a professional can help direct you. Depression may be new or strange to you but others have overcome it and made notes. So check the notes.
Moody we're here for you❤ you know you can talk with me anytime you want
one way to help someone with depression is to never give up on them and stand up for them. Sometimes depression makes people think everyone is going to leave them so if you just stick with them it helps more than you think
As someone who's severely depressed without remissions (aka it doesn't stop & I don't respond to medical treatment) - I can say everything here is correct. It really means a lot to me when someone helps me with something simple, because it doesn't feel simple to me. The sincerity in the complements too. Nothing is worse than false platitudes.
My friends don't get my depression, I think they don't even know i suffer from it.
GRIMM_SIMMER Mine didn't either... until I started talking to one of my other friends outside my main friend group about it... and then he gave me the courage to tell them..
guess my friends are assholes :(
One of the biggest tests in your life is finding someone who you can trust. It doesn't have to be a big group of friends, it can be just one person in your life that you know 100% would not turn their back on you. Once you find that person you can trust, try your best to explain to them that you are depressed and why you are depressed. If they are a true friend/family member, they will accept you for who you are and do their best to help you. Keep in mind this person might not be in your life yet, it might take a long time to find that person, but don't let that stop you from looking for that trust.
Recently I found a girl in our grade who I didn't really talk to, and she's been a world of help for me. It's just about trying to reach out. It's hard af, but it's worth it, trust me.
GRIMM_SIMMER Well, no one can understand your depression. No one will. I don't have to know you to know that no one will understand someone else's depression. Everyone suffers differently. It is all about the help you get to be able to get out.
in my experience, depression is like anxiety in that coping methods are different from time to time. not only is my way of dealing with it different from someone else's, mine might also be different from the last time. i think the best thing to do to help those who are depressed is to listen and show them that you love them. knowing you genuinely care really helps because it shows them that there is a reason to be happy. i have a few close friends that notice when i'm depressed and they do things like comfort me (which will be different from person to person), try and make me laugh, let me talk to them, help get my mind off of mental illness, and tell me they love me. this is just how my friends have helped me. if you know someone who is going through depression, listen to them. respect, sincerity, understanding, and love can help so much more than you might think.
Whenever I went through heavy episodes with my depression, I remember being so angry. I thought "I need to talk to someone." but the issue is...I didn't trust my friends, therefore, I blamed them for me not being comfortable enough to talk to them. I hated judgment. As a result, I realized they only wanted to be associated with me when I was "okay." I'm no longer friends with these people, but I now have friends that I can actually trust.
same here. Recently id just direct my anger towards my best friend. i feel so bad for doing so cuz they did nothing wrong and they dont deserve all this. although its not clear whether they understand my depression or not but its quite clear they dont know how to help me at all. it makes me so mad whenever i go back into my wormhole of thought that their lack of replies to my countless texts mean that they are caring for me less and less. it also feels like they are trying to avoid me now since i started opening up to them. i do sympathize and understand that they might not want to be associated with me in fear of something happening. but also i dont like the thought that they are distancing themselves away from me when they, as a best friend, couldve at least tried to help me through this instead. now heres me contemplating if i should let them go or not....
Hey. I know I’m late, but I just wanted to tell you, if you feel like you can’t talk to your friends, try a therapist. It’s basically paying someone to listen to you and help you. That’s what they’re there for. Again, I know I’m late but I hope you’re doing better.
TO ALL SPANISH SPEAKERS/ PARA TODOS LOS QUE HABLAN ESPAÑOL:
JUST TRANSLATED THIS VIDEO SUBTITLES TO SPANISH BUT THEY CAN'T BE VISIBLE YET TILL IT'S REVISED. WHY AM I TELLING YOU THIS? BECAUSE YOU, KNOWING BOTH SPANISH AND ENGLISH CAN HELP ME REVISE THE SUBTITLES AND MAKE THIS VIDEO MORE REACHABLE TO PEOPLE AROUND THE WORLD, PLEASE HELP US!
(*oh, by the way, if there is something wrong with my translation, you can always add or modify something, that would be very appreciated because I might have some mistakes on them).
(like so everyone can see this) ^^
Thanks, I really need this for everything going on right now. Never cease to amaze me
Happy to hear!
Thank you so much. Seeing my friend in pain puts me in pain, and I feel like a failure of a friend when I don't know what to say or do. I will definitely try to organise some trips outside, maybe hiking. I heard that avoiding listening to sad music a lot also helps, so I'll encourage her to do that.
Hi I don't know you but I just wanted to say your friend is lucky to have someone in her life who cares the way you do. You are not a failure of a friend at all. As someone who struggles with depression, please know that you just being there to listen means everything. Having a friend who supports, loves and shows up for you is the most important thing. Sending love to you and your friend ⛅️💛
Oh my gosh this is great timing in my life
I guess I'm not the only one, then.
Beloved child,
I see the pain and the hurt that you carry within your heart.
I see the tears that you have shed,
and I am moved with compassion for you.
I want to heal your broken heart
and to bind up all your wounds.
I want to restore the joy of your salvation
and to give you a garment of praise,
instead of a spirit of despair.
I want to comfort you and bring you peace
in the midst of your storms.
I understand the struggles and the challenges that you face in this life.
I know the temptations and the trials that you endure.
I will never leave you nor forsake you.
I am your refuge and your strength,
an ever-present help in times of trouble.
I want you to know that I have great plans for your life.
I want to use you to touch the lives of others,
to bring healing and hope to the brokenhearted,
and to set the captives free.
I want to use you to bring light into the darkness,
and to be a beacon of hope to a lost and dying world.
My child,
I want you to know that My love for you is unconditional and unchanging.
I want you to know that you are My beloved child, and that I delight in you.
I want you to know that you are precious in My sight,
and that you are more valuable to Me
than the finest gold and the most precious jewels...
I want you to know that I rejoice over you with singing.
I want you to know that I am always with you,
and that I will never leave you nor forsake you.
I want you to know that I am your constant companion,
and that I will guide you and direct your steps.
I want you to know that I will give you the wisdom and the understanding that you need
to navigate the challenges of this life.
I want you to know that I am the God of all comfort,
and that I will comfort you in all your troubles.
I want you to know that I am the God who heals you,
who binds up your wounds, and who sets you free
from the bondage of sin and its consequences.
I want you to know that I am the God who restores you when you have gone astray,
and who brings you back into the fold of My love.
I want you to know that I am the God who gives you the desires of your heart
when they are in alignment with My will and My purposes.
I want you to know that I am the God who blesses you abundantly,
and that I am a God of more than enough.
My child,
I want you to trust in Me with all your heart,
and to lean not on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Me,
and I will make your paths straight.
I will guide you with My eye,
and I will lead you to the place I have prepared for you...
I will never leave you nor forsake you.
With all My love,
God.
Please make a video on how to help someone with social anxiety!
Sure thing! Is this for yourself or for someone close to you? Can you provide the context?
Psych2Go my best friend who was always very shy was recently diagnosed with social anxiety. I feel like it's a little different from just being shy and I'd like to know what I should avoid that might trigger a panic attack or something, which has happened before and I felt really bad for her.
steve lastname Yes, please do a social anxiety video!!
Psych2Go Please do one on Social Anxiety. My boyfriend has it and it would seem no matter how we explain it to friends and other people, they don't understand that it's not something that just magically goes away for them. I have absolutely loved all of your videos so far and I hope you continue to make them.
steve lastname I used to suffer with Social Anxiety really bad and I promise you now there is a way it can be cured you just have to find the right tools for her and use exercises everyday
I have bad depression. Things that help me are things like: Just being able to talk about it. If someone tells me that they know how hard it is, and if they say that I'm strong for making it this far, it helps a lot. Knowing that people understand the severity of depression lets me think that I am strong for pushing through it this far. The main thing that seems to help me us talking about it. I can't really go on walks and stuff because I also have bad anxiety. But the struggles that I've faced and lived through help me help others. If anyone is depressed, you can reply or message me and I'll do what I can to help :)
These are all so nice, I wish I had someone to do this w/me w/o undermining my feelings and making me feel guilty bc "other ppl have it worse." One tip I would say is to not undermine depressed ppl's feelings. Everybody has their down times but it doesn't make them any less valid bc of their life and living situation. Another thing is to let depressed ppl be upset, I get so tired of hearing "it's okay, you're gonna be okay." It doesn't work, just listening to why the person is frustrated is enough and maybe using alternative comforting phrases. I'd lastly note is don't force a depressed person to do something, instead slowly or gently ease them to it. I can't explain how terrible it is to be forced into something, imo it makes everything a lot worse but there some exceptions just be careful about it. I got more but this comment is long enough. Just thought I'd share. 💖👍
Thank you so much for this comment. I have a friend of mine who is depressed and this made me better understand how to help her. I really appreciate this! Have a great week ahead. :)
Hi this comment is a year old already but I have a question! How do you mean that with easing someone into it? I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, do you maybe have an example! Thanks a lot
As someone who’s been on both sides of things....
Coming from being depressed: we don’t want u to “fix” us. We just want u to be there. Show u care when we feel so worthless. And sometimes we don’t even know what we need! So please be patient.
Coming from someone who’s friend is depressed: it’s hard knowing they just don’t care are u the way they use to. And u know it’s not rlly their fault, but it can still be hard. It’s also rlly hard to be there for someone when they push u away one day, then want u by their side the next. I have my own life, my own ish going on... so sometimes it’s rlly straining on my mental health, having to try and be strong for someone else. But regardless, even though it’s hard to show it... I care. I care so much! And your friends and I talk, and we are worried for u! But sometimes the only thing we can do is give u space.
Thank you so much for uploading this! I have a friend who's having a really tough down phase at the moment and I didn't know how to help her. This video did help me a lot!
Hey there stranger, I can’t begin to imagine what your going through, but know that you matter and you are somebody’s reason to smile ❤️
This is the best timing ever. My 3 friends are depressed and I didn't know how to help tchem. Now I know. Thank you.
I really want to help people with depression. You shouldn't be suffering, because you deserve happiness, love and the beauty this world has yet to offer.
There's always two sides to a coin and hope at the end of a tunnel, don't ever give up.
So...How do you help yourself if no one is willing to help you...?
Hobbies don't cure depression
In fact, depression can cause someone to not enjoy their hobby as much as they used to
Toratan123 Those don't help when you're drowning in misery. It can only make you think of how much more they have a better life than you.
I am doing that myself actually. It's hard because in high school, I hid my feelings and no one knew I was depressed. Last year after my suicide attempt, my family and friends knew. I was hospitalized and diagnosed with clinical depression and generalized anxiety disorder. Even though my family and friends know how, I don't feel like they know how to help or they just don't check up on me. So I took it upon myself to get myself the help I need. I called my insurance and asked about my benefits and where are nearby therapists I can see. I also went to the doctor and was perscribed antidepressants. I don't mean to be rude to the people above but hobbies do help. they may not cure depressiom but they do help. I understand how it feels to not want to do something. I know. I love playing violin and I love yoga/gymnastics. But when im depressed those things seem like too much work and I just don't feel like doing them. One thing I learned from therapy is that take things small. for example, sometimes I wake up feeling depressed and I don't want to do anything. it feels like im being weighed down. As hard as it may be, I manage to drag myself out of bed and motivate myself by making hot chocolate. I really love that. so from there I say...just put your shirt on. and I do. and then i just lay there. after a while I tell myself...just put your jeans on. and i do. and then I watch something on my phone or listen to music that might get my spirits up even the slightest and take it from there. i hope this helps! take care! xo
Thanks, but I'm too scared to tell anyone about my depression. My parents are worried, I mean this morning they asked if I was depressed. All I could do was put on a fake smile and say: "No, I'm fine." Of course I'm not fine. Thank my soul that school is literally over in 3 days. But hobbies don't help me, they might, but I just don't take pleasure in doing them anymore. It feels too awful to get up and do it. All I want to do is lay in my bed, some pass it off as laziness but it's just I feel like a ton of bricks are weighing me down. I don't really want to go to therapy, I hate talking about my feelings. I'll probably regret this comment but fuck it. Anyways, thanks for listening even if you don't want to. I'm glad you're better.
As a person who suffers from severe and reoccurring depression, I really enjoy your videos. They are helping me in understanding, and what I need to try and focus on to help myself. Thank you.
I need that care
Same, lol. I'm just helping myself by watching funny videos and RUclipsrs' videos I enjoy watching until then (^3^)
Alejandra Feliciano Same. I have OCD, Anxiety, and depression. I hate my life, but I persevere. Try to do the same 4 me ok?
Awesome 315
I love you.
Watching this video made me realise, that my friends were trying really hard to help me when I was depressed. I was too blind to see it sooner. I never thought that someone would care so much for me. Now it’s my turn to help them. This video will be a great start.
I know that there is a lot of great information on topics like these and how to help someone who is struggling with this. But let us please not forget about those who are helping someone with depression. It can be really draining and you need a lot of patience to take care of someone. Everyone is different and sometimes they can get angry at you and it's okay :). Please remember to take care of yourself and that just because you are taking care of somebody else doesn't mean you don't deserve that same treatment. Don't let it overwhelm you and remember to always cheer yourself up! Take a step back if it feels to overwhelming to take care of them, breathe and step back in. you are their support so you need to be at your very best. I'm sure there is many people out there who are doing their best in helping and I want to say that you guys are doing an amazing job! I'm proud of you guys! Remember to take very good care of yourself and your loved ones and have a beautiful morning/evening/ night. :) ❤
Hi
Thank you. This is really a great start in helping someone. Now I don't feel frustrated in worrying if I will do the wrong things but what else can help a depressed person the most is probably by listening and not jumping to conclusions. It's best to question in ways that allows them to speak rather than it being a yes or no question or make them seem like they are in the wrong. Also take note with their body language, for example, they may stiffen when they mention something and you can use that to help further understand what is going on. Don't sugar coat things. It may make them feel like you're not really listening and that you may be manipulating or lying to them. Just listen. my English is not the best so I can't explain this well but all in all, thank you for the video. ;w;
I don't really have no one willing to give me the help I need so this is difficult
Call a help line and speak to a professional
You okay buddy?
I'm here for you if you need to vent or talk about it with someone.
I just stumbled upon this channel, and as someone with severe anxiety and depression who also struggles talking with people, thank you for having this video, people always ask me what's wrong but I can never talk in person so I end up hiding away and getting worse, but next time someone asks, I'll direct them to this channel
Honestly guys If you have a friend that is going through depression just be there. That's honestly the best thing you can do for them. When someone is going through depression they feel they are completely alone. Just remind them that you are there,always. Text them regularly and even face to face interaction would be better. Make sure that they know you can count on them to be there. And another thing, listen. Listen to them because most likely they might be trying to tell you something without directly telling you. Listen to what they say and watch there actions. A big factor of getting them to talk to you and let you in is don't be judgemental. Always make sure that they can trust you with anything because big chance if and after they tell you they will think it was a big mistake. They will most likely regret it and replay the situation in their head. So make sure they can trust you and if they tell you about how they feel be understanding and let them know they are there to help.
I’m feeling emotional now, because I just noticed I did everything you mentioned in this video to help a friend. I did it! 🥺🥰 I feel so good knowing that I could help a friend.
I've been helping my girlfriend with her depression for awhile and it's really stressful... But what i found is that just simply talking with her and being there help most
I have a friend who had a rough past and she struggles with so much pain every day. I just needed some guidance and I asked God to help both of us. I wanna say 'thank you' for what you do.
uh... excuse me but how would I deal with a friend with depression who I can talk to online...?
Oh hey :)
I know, I'm not that important or anything, but maybe I can throw in some ideas.
1)You can send them simple messages like "good morning" or "sweet dreams" or maybe even "hope you've had something yummy for lunch!". This kind of small talk sometimes can really show that you care.
2)Tell them your worries and encourage to tell theirs. Serious or not. "I had this weird dream about dolphins today..What about you?"/"Ugh..My mom keeps sending me memes from 2009.Tell me I'm not the only one."
3)Send them stuff you think they'll like. Maybe a link to the funny video with animals they like, figurines of videogame characters in amazon, craft ideas... all the crazy stuff.
Or you can send them my comment to laugh at. 'cuz looking back at it...it's quite dum'.
Just tell them you love 'em, at least.
IGREK RAY but what if they've been pushing me away..?
Pushing away like "I don't wanna talk anymore" or just being silent?
If they at least read the messages you send or they can sort of see the context by the preview, you can just send lots of them saying real basic stuff. "Hey, are you okay?" "I hope you are." "If you need some alone time, I understand." "Just promise me that you'll behave." "I miss you and I want to hear from you again."
You can still spam them with hello-s and good morning-s to make them feel welcomed and make sure they know you still want to talk to them.
(I've been there, too. Just abandoning my pals for no good reason, sometimes for almost a year. I don't know if they cared anymore, but I still feel like a jerk that I am. I have a feeling your friend may experience that too. Try to hold on to them, if you feel like they are important to you.)
I agree with Igrek, even sending the message means something. They will always push you away at first but you have to be persistent
ABC_124 Do whatever you can to try at least to keep them positive. It can only go so far, but the right kind of help will go somewhere.
My friend has been recently diagnosed with depression and this video and all the comments are so helpful so I can help her through it and make sure she’s ok 👍🙏😍
Watching this to help my friend with depression while having depression myself
My best friend is depressed, it’s really hard for me because she says her mum abuses her everyday and shop lifts. It’s just so sad to think she’s going through this. Everyday she says “I can’t do this anymore” and it’s really depressing and I just feel so down hearted and sad for her.
thanks for this video!! I've noticed my friends depressions gotten worst during quarantine and I'm trying my best to help her
What if I'm depressed and my partner is depressed too? please answer or do a video on it.
in my personal expierence, they didn't work out. I'm not saying yours won't either but you have to know what things trigger your depression, How do you guys handle it, what signs do you give when you a depressed but you don't want to say you are, and just encourge one another. remind each other to take your meds. Do stuff like the video mentioned with each other. I was with a depressed person (I have clinical depression too) and he was just very isolated. I tried so hard to help him when he was depressed but he shut me out. And when I was depressed, he completely ignored me. one timebI was crying and he was literally on his phone. so I ended it. I was also with a bipolar person. He refused to give me the space I asked for. sometimes I do need someone but somtimes I also need space. Just because I didn't feel like being held or kissed at the moment, he got angry. I thought he would understand but he didn't. Again, I'm not discouraging you. I just advise you to help each other (:
Darlenne Reyes Thank you! :)
Rob D you have to understand that you cannot be each other's cures. people are not cured to mental illness any more than they are to physical illness. Your relationship can definitely work but it is important that you both see a therapist/psychiatrist and use each other's love and support to encourage one another in the healing process.
Although I've never been in a romantic relationship, a friendship I had could've definitely become one since I loved him. I told him I'd be there if he ever needed someone to talk to and he and I talked several times a week before he blocked me on social media. When that happened, it felt as if a piece of me died. I definitely blame myself for this because I feel that I should've given him more space and now I'd honestly give anything to have him back. 😢
Rachel I'm going through almost the same situation as you :'( I told that friend of mine that I'd be there for him too. There was a time where we were close and we talked alot but now we're almost like strangers and he wont ever open up to me anymore. After all this time I still treat him as an important friend but he told me he never even treat me as a close friend and that talking to me was actually stressful :'(
My dad have had depression since i was six years old (im 14 now) he think its weak to get help and wont let me help him. He devorced my mom couse he thought he didn’t deserve her and it really hurt me to be seeing him like this! Thank you so much for making this video i will start helping him more often and give him a big compliment everyday! I love my dad!
Never say “I know how it feels”.
It will make them very angry.
What if u say I know how it feels I been depressed before
@@ratrat7926 ik this is 2 years ago but everyone has different experiences so you couldve been in a different situation than them
the best thing is to hang out with that person, it helped me a lot.most time these people act like they dont want to hang out and havr social contacts, but everyone dose...you just have to respond to these people and you should show them that youre intrested about there hobbys or even the bad thing.
have a nice day.
stay alive.
I wish people could do some of those things for me, everyone is just wrapped up in their own lives
One of the most important people in my life, my -crush- friend suffers from depression and I always shower her with affection and care. I let her rant, I comfort her, I go on walks with her.
-I actually am pretty good at this even before I watched this wow I'm proud of myself and of you for getting through this-
To be honest, I'd feel extremely uncomfortable letting a friend do this for me. It seems totally one-sided and I'd feel horrible letting another person do all that because undoubtedly, they have their own problems too. I don't know why but it just feels so wrong for me.
Soph S you need somone .in my opinion everyone needs somone. that's want I thought for many years it's okay to tell somone your problems and if it's okay if they tell u theirs don't u want to know your friends problems and if u can help if it's a good friend they will feel the same way and if . worst comes to worst get a therapist sorry but u are not batman
Anna Bunny Boo I have no problem speaking to people that I trust about my problems and I do go to therapy as well. It's just that I don't feel very comfortable letting people do all that just to try and make me feel better, especially as in my state of mind, I probably wouldn't be able to help them to the extent that they're helping me, if you get what I mean.
I guess it's because of some mindset I developed earlier in life which encouraged me to toughen up and just deal with it, of which the effects I'm still trying to deal with. It just doesn't sit right with me. Though I understand that if I were to look at the situation excluding how I feel about it, the healthier choice would be to let them try and help me. It's just that I won't like it.
I feel the same way, not just about my depressed situations and people trying to help with that but also in every day life. Like when I'm sick I will refuse anyone to do anything for me because it makes me feel guilty for not doing anything even though they're helping out of kindness and I should just accept it. And when I do let them help I keep this guilty weight on me that doesn't go away easily.
I believe that people with problems who don't believe they can get better help other people because they feel that at least they are doing something good. This can also help ,the person helping, with their problems cause it distracts them from it and helps them think clearly. Well this is why i choose to help my friends even when i'm dealing with my own stuff, it helps me a lot.
Two of my friends recently showed me they cut their wrists and im glad they trust me but learning about this is.. difficult. but i helped them as much as i can and i hope more people will be too. Dealing it alone is impossible, its never wrong to ask for help 😊.
I used to suffer from depression... but now I found a new passion, happiness, and I've gone to a realization to see the good things in life; and that there will always be a rainbow after rain. I've also learned to love myself, now my goal is to make everyone around me happy while at the same time making myself happy and just balancing things out.
Thanks for this great video, i have a friend dealing with depression. This helps a lot :)
The important thing when helping them (as described in the video) is NOT to make them feel like a charity case or even more worthless. Many people "trying to help" feel burdened by the depressed person and take out their frustration on them while doing their chores for them. Some even ridicule or bully them, throw it in their face that they have become "useless". Please, if you don't feel like you have it in your heart to be sincerely nice - don't help with any chores or other physical or financial things at all. The damage your attitude and your words will cause will be many times greater than any assistance you think you are providing.
A few months ago I told my parents about myself being moderately depressed, I was hoping for a supportive and positive response. Instead, what I got was something along the lines of: "Don't worry, it's just teenage hormones and that stuff"... yeah, because you understand teenage hormones in your 40s...
Luckily I have a friend in my class who is somewhat depressed aswell, we usually talk to each other about our problems and I think it helps both of us :)
Imma here, if u ever feel lonely just reply to these comment, n I'm here:)
my gf has depression and i've been trying to help her feel better. This video showed me how to do that, and im extremely happy that i found this video and i can help her feel better. I really hope this will work, because since of the corona virus lockdown, i never had a chance to try these out. Thank you sooooo much Psych2Go for these videos. I truly love your channel
When people compliment me, which is rare it does make me feel really Good for that week!
I'm sooo happy this had a big focus on self care. I have major depressive disorder, fibro, and PTSD, and when it gets really bad (I know its so gross but) I won't shower, change clothes, brush my teeth... Anything, for sometimes over a week. Its HORRIBLE. I looove showers too, but I just get so bad I don't have the energy to do anything but lay in bed. It takes everything in me just to take care of my cats, or get up to use the bathroom. So I would really benefit someone telling me to do these things when I'm not doing well. I used to do make make up every single day, and now I hardly bother, even though I love to do it. Its really sad what mental illness takes away from you... And doing those same, but crucial things are the most important.
One of my best friends just told me that he was in a hospital after a suicide attempt.. it absolutely destroyed me to even think of a world without him. I didn’t know what to say..
Oh my god, thank you so much for making this video!! My best, and pretty much my only friend has really bad depression and suicidal thoughts, and I try so hard to help her. I love her, man, I really do and loosing her would crush me, so thank you for making this! This has helped me to help my good friend, and I've managed to convince her into getting therapy.
I wish her luck ^^
i have depression... but i try not to think about iti. it won't work. my friends doesn't seem to notice that i have depression and i'm afraid to talk about it. how can i tell them without hurtning their feelings? please reply
sugar heart I can relate... I told my friends about my anxiety and depression 3 months ago... and I just hinted at it first, telling them that I'm not shivering because I'm cold, that I'm putting on a mask of happiness to make it look like I'm okay, before I flat out told them... though... they've been more awkward and distant since... they probably just don't understand how to help... but the word probably... I hate it
sugar heart I'm not Psych2Go obviously, but I can only say that you should talk to them about it - true friends will understand and try to help you as best as they can!
Maybe start off by meeting with them in a nice atmosphere at someone's home and tell them you want to talk about something that's really important for you!
Wish you the best
:D
as i've helped a friend of mine to go through depression, i agree with Tenebrae. You should talk about it with your closest friend and i hope from there they can understand and help you out.
i just... don't know how to tell my friends about my depression tho. i tried to give them hints, but they don't seem to get it...
I like this girl and she has major depression, every week is a new thing sometimes we are so close, then next week she will ignore me for days and she always push me away, i still havent given up on her. Watching this videos and reading all the comments people are saying has given me ideas on how to take care of her.
Few days ago, i had a dream about my boyfriend cutting himself on his wrist using a knife, and said "should I put it in?" And i woke up.
My boyfriend have depression & suicidal tendencies. Yesterday, we both had a heart breaking and heart warming conversation about it. Even tho the place was just a food court (i try taking him to the beach, laid out picnic mats so it was more secluded) & lots of people were passing by, he was so comfortable saying it all to me, knowing i was there to hold his hands tightly. I let him voice out what he feels and what he's thinking and encouraged him more gently. I told him all the things i find absolutely wonderful about him. My eyes didn't leave his face. He has such a strong, precious heart. A brave soul who face this all everyday. It's so sad and heart breaking knowing someone this beautiful suffered from childhood to adulthood. I know and see how my lovey is trying everyday and seeing him grew as a person through the years of knowing him, I'm very happy and proud of him.
We did baby steps, for the past few days, we showered both at the same time (we don't live together). Didn't force him, asked him if it's okay. Made the deal sound nice and pleasant although i did say i will give him a lifetime supply of buttcheek bites (im ...😂❤️). I'm not strict about it with him, we both agreed showering at 8pm but if there's something he has to do then we can shower a little later. I think this is a good start.
I love my favorite person to infinity & beyond. We'll get through this together, my love.
Having an action plan and knowing specifically what we can do to help is so amazing! Thank you.
Hey guys!
well i dont know who im talking to
but i do hope u get through whatever ur goin through
and if ur loved one is goin through depression i hope it clears out for them too
and if u searched this up to clear a problem for ur loved one ur a very great person and ur friend has a really good person as a friend(you)
Happy life and good luck!
i usually dont talk like very emotionally and stuff
but the amount of people who looked this up for their friends
WOW!
IM SUPRISED
As someone who is Bipolar 2 and experiences severe bouts of depression I agree with all these tips. But, also listen to what your loved one wants. Sometimes you just need to be left alone and cry or sleep it off for a bit. So, if you try to help and are rejected come back in a few hours. If they are someone who self-harms or is suicidal though make sure there is nothing they can hurt themselves with during that alone time.
Well it's definitely not:
"I don't want any depressed vibes today"
Thx for not giving af tiahna!
THANK YOU. Now I finally have some ways to help my friend who is depressed. We're not living together so I can't do everything but I can ask her to go out with me more often, and compliment her when I see the chance
Me: *watches this video to help my friend*
*realizes this is for physically close friends*
Also me, with a long distance friend: "Oh shi- "
Reason why I been watching these vids is because majority of my friends have always been going through rough times such as bullying and isolation too often which they are almost at a breaking point to give up everything. I try to be there for them and listen to their situations so they won’t feel so alone, but it’s often hard for me to relate to them cause I never got bullied or dealt with anything they had to go through that have made them feel this way, and ofc I never want to use phrases such as “Ik how you feel,” cause it’s too vague and I honestly can’t understand why they’re like this. Most of the time I keep them company or just leave them alone if they just want to be by themselves for a while, but at times I just feel less as a friend and more of a stranger.
I may sound stupid but what is the difference between clinical depression and depression ?
Manøn C They can refer to the same thing but clinical depression is a more medical term and depression is more an emotional term but, again, some people call clinical depression just depression
Thank you so much for this! I'm a lighthearted person (I feel bad for even Animal Crossing characters when they are distressed) but I'm not good at comforting friends and people. I stay by their side when something is wrong like a pet but I can never help. Thank you so much for this!
I know someone who is depressed but they sometimes say things like" It would be better if I just kill myself" and I never know what to answer to this. And another friend doesn't talk with me about it anymore (I think it but because about that thing I did)I still think it didn't get much better.
And they don't really live next to me :/. So any tips for helping them even if you can't really be near them?
Letting your friends vent to you is important. I need to let off steam a lot and pretty much all I need is a listening ear, some kind words/advice and a hug. My depression has got so bad and my friends have got so sick of it and don’t even want to know anymore. I’m just the complainer who brings everyone down. This is the toughest point of my life and now I can’t talk to anyone to help me through it :(
How can I help someone with depression when I most likely have depression too and don't know how to deal with my own? Why would/should I push my problems onto other people who already have plenty of problems of their own?
Thank you for all the tips!
A friend of mine... well we haven't spoken in a long time, but she is suffering from depression. I reached out to her way back in September. I didn't know how to help a depressed person back then, I didn't know what to say, what to do or anything for that matter! After like a month of our friendship, she pushed me away. It was honestly quite unexpected since she snapped at me out of blue! We didn't talk for like a month but eventually, she reached out to me and explained her condition and was truly sorry for pushing me away. Our friendship definitely got a lot better since then, she trusted me way more than before. But then again in December, we had a huge argument and we haven't talked since...
Today, she greeted me again, which was again, so unexpected! I'm trying my best to understand her feelings and to help in the best way possible. If someone has any tips, please reply to this comment, I would appreciate it.
my close friend told me last night that she tried to kill herself last week. I want to help her through this, and this video really helps. Do you have any more ways I can help?
first make sure you recover emotionally from this, you can be really shooken up by something like this but remember this is not your fault whatsoever this was her choice and you couldnt change that. anyways maybe in person talking to her during lunch (i assume your in school) or at a park or something will help her open up a bit and if you ask her questions about it make sure you try to bring her attention to the positive things like simply the stars in the sky and other beautiful things about the world and him/her i hope something helped (it can be hard for a depressed person to see the good but it is possible) but remember while i know you care alot about him/her realize that this isnt your job, you can try to help her but if she mentions that she wants to again or wishes he/she did die a professional or there parents need to be contacted its so she/he can get help.
sorry i referred to her alot this happened to my girl best friend, but if you have any other questions on how i got through it or her feel free to email me at whitedes001@bisdmail.net (school email)
Destiny White thank you!
I was just like this.. But I had to change, everything is not the way you want it to be. To not get bullied or get hated by people it's everywhere you just need to believe in yourself and not care what people say about you.. Cause your an amazing person!
I’m here for my friend
I have a friend who has Bipolar Depression. She said Hugs and gently holding her hand while she talked about her feelings helps her get through the loneliness
My friend has severe depression, and medicine wont help. He needs a hospital but he said he would commit with no hesitation if he goes to a mental hospital. I honestly dont know what to do and hes like a brother to me and I dont know what i would do without them. I suggestions on what to do. Hes not the type of person to express his feelings and he knows we all love him and thats why hes not committing suicide but he can't take much more and i fear im gonna lose him soon. Give me suggestions on what to do im scared. Someone please help
I'm trying to research more about the symptoms my friend has and it seems like long term depression. Taking notes about our conversations helps me a lot with this research. He's talked too much about suicide and his family. He's such a good person but he's being sucked into this big black numbness. I'm so happy I'm actually doing this for him. He doesn't deserve this.
I hate going outside. Especially on a sunny day. Feeling of sun warming up my skin is the worst, makes me want the sun to burn out, and make the earth slowly loose Heat until it freezes.
Great video btw.
amadeusz antyga You can use a umbrella
TrashBag I prefer my good ol' trusty hood.
You seem like an edgy 12 year old boy
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A firend of mine suffers from depression. When I meet him he didn't want to talk to anyone (except random topics like weather, just to pretend to be ok), he stopped contacting his friends, family, stopped taking care of himself. Somehow we started to talk and he trusted me. It took long time to do so, but finaly he opened and I guess that in the moment when he realized, that it's ok to have problems and heavy feelings, he got better. He is still struggling, but he bacame much more cheerful. I am very happy that I could have helped him just a bit, we both made ourselves feel needed.
What if your loved ones/best friend don't do any of these things, and they just get mad. Even when they know you have depression and anxiety, even when they know your going through a hard time... but they think theirs is harder, even though it's not!
What if they don't help?What if you feel like they don't care?What if they just say get over it?
But what if they're actually having a hard time themselves? You're just being selfish fuck off and think about others for a change you depressed piece of shit.
You are a beautiful person Mitzkeylah, do not forget that. I don't have the answer to your question, I wish I did, but know that there is always someone out there who cares. Be well
They are NOT a piece of crap. They are special. Help people instead of tearing them down.
A long hug, often just a warm hug to make you feel better, I use this technique when my boyfriend experiences mild episodes of depression, I just stand by his side in silence letting him know that everything is going to be okay.
"As their close trusted friend"
Oh, fucking kill me... I've no fucking "friends". Thank you for making me feel even WORSE.
One thing i learned to support someone w/depression is quietly listen/support, suggest therapy and leave open communication/available, but also remember that u can't fix that person's situation nor force them to go to therapy; that's up to them if they wanna do the work and improve themselves.
Bello humans!
Hi!
Psych2Go omg hru?
Good! Thanks for asking! How about yourself?
I know you didn't ask me but since I'm here, I'm okay
Psych2Go i'm good i just wanted to say thanks for making these amazing videos. they are really helpful
Now, i know how to help my best friend be happy. I cant thank you enough for this! Thank you thank you thank you!! All i want for her is happiness and light, i want to help with her depression. This helps and gives me ideas on what to do!😭❤
hi
The best thing I personally experience that helps against depression is just doing something with your friend..
If you're depressed you often lack the motivation to do just about anything, kind of like a mental numbness.
If you "force" them to do something with you (or more or less invite them to come along) they will usually cheer up if you both have a good time together and it might help them through their depressive state.
But no one. Understands. They just get angry and yell at me.. And it is making me worst.. They always. Take my Messages the wrong way.. :(
Drafting Punk I know I’m a complete stranger and to you, but if no-one you know will listen, I will.