He gets a bad rep for being "right wing", but if you pay attention to what he's saying and not what people are saying about him you realize he's not political. Not in the sense of Left or Right wing politics. If anything he's a realist and a logical thinker. I guess common sense may seem conservative. I consider myself liberal minded and I really like his views on life.
Curtis Bernard - it is no failure of a human being to be deeply concerned with the welfare of all people and the survival of the human species above or in spite of all ideologies, politics or partisan-type thinking that may be specious at best, cynical and murderous at worst.
Jose Jimenez Richard Nixon, George Bush Sr. & Jr., Stephen Harper, Dick Cheney and of course Donald Trump. You're in good company buddy. You should stay on that side.
Curtis Bernard Robert E. Lee, Obama, Lyndon Johnson, John Booth, Bill Clinton, and of course Hillary Clinton. You're in good company buddy. You should stay on that side.
I love how he just casually says "everyone's life is a tragedy". Also, his account of how depressed people reason from one small setback to a completely bleak outlook is spot on. I've been doing it for years.
I think the only valid meaning of this claim is that we are all going to die so life is a tragedy bu definition because the main character will die ;) but otherwise, life can be pretty fun if you are doing things right and get lucky
@Vinicius Raposo Yeah, a big part of healing depression is learning to be kinder to yourself. Depression is often the result of long-term emotional self-neglect.
One of the worst parts of depression is when you’re thinking about all the things you could have been doing and could have done that you wanted to, if you didn’t feel the way that you do. You’re sitting in the passenger seat of your own life
That's partly true but if it's any consolation.. I've noticed, We couldn't have done more or different Whether its the laws that govern our reality didn't permit us to do the things we want or say we could have done. Other times, free will gives us the option to make different decisions but ends up with the result of having to choose between the lesser of two/3 evils. In other words, you're damned if you do, damned if you do and damned if you don't. Accepting the things we could Not change or Did Not handle different is the best course of action.
Sitting back in the passenger seat of your own life (THINKING) about The Big (IF) means you got the time and the ability to learn from your own works and that's a natural Human power and instinct which the majority of humanity No longer Uses.
@@idonotknowanynames All do respect, if you actually read the first sentence.." If it's any consolation, "I've noticed". Idk where All or We or Us, much less yoou fit into that beginning.
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@@siegeg4892 Thank you... What you say is true. I've also learned that in hindsight they tell you what's coming in subtle, cryptic ways. We are left to decide what to do with the clues and there's no perfect way.
I went to a training once that was really intense. The days were long. Day one and Day two were one lecture after the other with very short breaks. At the beginning the moderator told us that we were all adults and needed to be responsible for taking care of ourselves. If the seats are too hard, go get a pillow. If you're chilly, go get a sweater. If your legs are getting stiff from sitting so long, go and walk around at the back of the room for a while. If you're thirsty, go get a drink. Do whatever it is you need to get yourself though this. She closed out with, "Suffering is inevitable, but misery is optional." That stuck with me.
I always appreciate that. I tend to stand up at the back of the room for stretches during long trainings. For one it's better for your health and also I get restless sitting for 8 hours.
@@urdude67 No. It was "PASSING," which stood for "program analysis of service systems' implementation of normalization goals." It was learning to look with fresh eyes at your own human service organization by learning a rating scale for what had origianlly been called "normalization" but was renamed "social role valorization." After learning about the scale you'd be put in a team to assess one day program and one residential program. One day you'd visit the place, and two days you'd discuss your observations with the team and rate the agency. Trainees would go back to their hotel crying at the end of a day. People were becoming aware of horrible things their well-meaning agencies were doing and instead of staying at their jobs to create change from the inside they were quitting. The training organization eventually started making participants sign a pledge that they'd not quit their jobs for at least thirty days after completing the training.
It's actually miraculous to see someone who puts so much energy into caring about the well being of strangers. He's not trying to sell anything or win an argument. He is passionately pleading with us to take care of ourselves and explaining the ways to succeed at that.
@@melissalynn5774 take comfort in the fact that JP's daughter is alive and well and the reason people think he had a daughter die is because of a video with a very misleading title. He is mourning someone else's daughter.
People who come to be thought of as "great minds" are original thinkers. Peterson is certainly intelligent, but he's just discussing other people's ideas. Great speaker though.
@@SerenaHe-z3k Buddha is believed to have been the first person to reach enlightenment, and he went on to share his insights of that with people. So he definitely had something new to say.
Hahaha! LoL. No one with even a modicum of intelligence thinks he is anything other than a bumbling idiot and a complete pseudo-intellectual moron. His fanboys gobble up his nonsense though. It's so weird and cult like.
John go checkout Truehope (website) They created a special vitamin therapy for people with Depression, Bipolar, Schizophrenia etc called Empower Plus. These vitamins saved my life after years of meds.
WHY IS MANKIND, you and me as we are? Without covering it up with all kinds of lies and excuses which do not satisfy the soul, that by the touch and grace of our Maker seek's light in the darkness. please take one hour of your precious time for the straight up Truth that will bring Light in the darkness I know this from my own experience check out (What happened with us) on my channel.
It's literally a spirit of death and keeps haunting you and the scary part is you don't know at first and just think it's just normal cuz it diminishes your self awareness and and energy , like in a war the enemy is going to destroy your communication and power resources to put you in the dark and have to fight to get it back
Get back then, man, and take your bloody exam, just study the way JBP has taught us! He didn't have even one professor like himself, either! Find the books on the topics and problems that interest you as much as JBP's lecture. And then take your ordinary classes and tests and writing essays, in addition to and beside your own smarter study plan. You will be rewarded for working double the amount compared to the curriculum - for sure that's what young Jordan did to become such a success. You are nobody's slave, remember! You work for you! JBP is his own boss even when he is employed. You can do it, too.
@@mossifrog4989 by definition it is. You die in the end. The point is, if you work on the premise that, sure ill die in the end but so will everyone else. So we're not alone here and we'd better work together to make our time as pleasant as possible for everyone
To all those watching this video for their mental health, in case no one tells you today, just know you’re not alone (a lot of us are here for the same reasons) and you’re doing an amazing job getting on top of your mental health. And you should be proud of yourself for doing so. I hope you have an amazing day, and know we’re all here with you :)
Professional help is essential, Rube. Personality cults like Jordan's are cheesy and contribute to your mental health issues. Doctors can be sued if they make a mistake, with advice for you, Cupcake. Cuz professionals are trained properly and pass tough tests, Buttercup! Jordan is a slick hustler, but hardly a pro. What goes quack, quack, quack? JORDAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of: -Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great -Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks") -Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed -Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it -Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model. -Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. -Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose. -Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves -Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor. -Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it -Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs. I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful. The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going." Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence. You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.
I highly appreciate your efforts in writing this message for all of us to see. Thank you for sharing what has worked for you in your struggle with depression. Your words resonate with me. Thank you
Passion is earned and not found. You will not randomly come across passion and start following it. You have to start digging up the road and begin paving it before passion starts to show itself. Start doing something and passion will meet you halfway.
@@RLLUMB Seems insane. How come? Genesis chapter 3 explains the origin and John 1:1-14 provides a succinct answer, elaborated by St. Paul in Romans 10:9-10. Best to read all of this letter for a full understanding of both the cause for misery and the cure currently available.
@Proper Psychology mate, I don't think he knew that woman in black. If she turns up, you scream as loud as you can at her to feck off, and run the OTHER way. That's from someone who has had serious hospital level depression for decade spans. You DO NOT let it back in. EVER. To do so is to die. She's a first class b*tch who's aim is to kill. don't invite her to bloody TEA!!!
@@onegorgeouschick I actually haven't got a job but I got accepted to University as that was something I already applied for at the start of this year and started trying to study here and there for 6 months while mostly gaming still. I'm so happy about that.
Don’t risk getting dependent on a piece of video. Make notes! Make em reflections of your own mind. Under the effect of the video. Make this wisdom your own. That way, it’ll become closer than anything.
Absolutely. We need more people who can "handle the truth " and articulate it the way he does. I have yet to experience another person that comes close to this Master of the Human Condition.
Your comment is much closer to the truth than you realise. People like this guy really are sent here from outside of this earth to help us..I'm telling you
I’m so happy he is ‘controversial’ because had it not been so, I may have never seen this lecture. He makes you think and expands your mind in ways you didn’t know you could.
I used to have a problem with anxiety, depression and paranoia. Then I started training MMA and thaiboxing at a gym where we train extremely hard conditioning and fitness. Cured me in two years. I recommend the same for anyone with any such illness: start exercising really, really hard!
We've been teaching others for the last 6 years. Created by a former martial artist tournament fighter who was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder.
This guy really knows what he is doing. I have been depressed ever since some time after I had entered puberty (I am 35 now) and lacking a sense of meaning has been the most diffcult challenge to overcome and the most wicked anchor which has kept dragging me down whenever I have almost come out of it. And I am Korean and do not understand what he is saying 100%, but the message came across straight through my heart...I am afraid I will develop another addiction from today. I hope everything is fine for everyone.
So lovely and so true. Your English is perfect. Regardless if you developed a new addiction, I hope you are doing well 6 months later. This man and videos on STOICISM will forever change your life. This coming from a fellow puberty (12/13) depressed person in their 30s lol
@@colfol231 Do you mean STOICISM videos done by Jordan Peterson...? Or Stoicism in general....? If in general if you have time please list some which helped you. Thank you. :)
I remember when I was severely depressed and first stumbled upon Jordan Peterson. The man planted a thought in me, "Can I actually live a good life? Can I actually be happy?". I found out it was possible. The reason I now start the day with a smile, looking forward to everything is because of this man. God bless him.
@@Billiebear204 I started with the things that were really small but mattered to me. For example instead of some off brand shampoo, I’d deliberately buy a top end one so everytime I take a shower I’d remind myself that I bought smth nice for myself. Then I started exercise. Also started small. My goal was to go to the gym. Didn’t matter if I broke a sweat or not. Just went, did what I could for that day whether it be one pushup or a full workout and went home. My point is, I made myself commit to things that were so small, they were laughably achievable. And it all snowballed. I wish the best for you too.
When he said "you do what you need to get better" I cried like the first time I was told as a real person that it wasn't my fault I felt the things I did. Hearing the things you need to hear hurts sometimes. I've had depression for 10 years, I started a new medicine last month that finally has started to help.
great to hear that! Grab his book 12 rules for life, there are more of such wisdom nuggets, and the overall book is a really interesting conversation, he's very personal and gives you plenty to think about, in the best sense. I hope you'll overcome whatever is your struggle :)
Good for you! It genuinely makes me happy to hear that. I can relate with you a lot. I'm really glad I finally found a community that I can somewhat relate to.
@@Messier31NGC224 I hope things go well for you. My medicine has helped so much, I've got hobbies, I'm going out with friends, I'm back at school, I'm exercising, I went spearfishing for the first time this week and conquered a fear. Jordan Peterson didn't save my life, but he gave me a reason to live. I wish you all the best and hope you can live your best life.
God Bless You. I have had Major Depressive Disorder for most of my life. The last five years its kicked my butt. I know where your coming from... I used to be the "over achiever" and was known for my work ethic. I feel worthless now...I pray you will get better...
Jordan actually did save my life I have had pretty server depression for a long time and I saw this video and thought why not hear what this dude has to say I was already a fan and knew he was smart so I gave it a go and I'm so glad I did because his advice works and i'm talking from the perspective of someone that was at the lowest of lows I had no job no family no romantic relationship no place to call home ect and what he said about putting these little practices into place slowly changed things for me and so I would fully recommend to anyone that has depression to take his advice on board get a routine eat enough sleep enough do not make things more complicated than they need to be do not do anything that could add to the misery you already feel that is out of you're control challenge yourself if you are agreeable try being disagreeable and do it all one tiny step at a time and see how much it changes in the longrun! Now I can get out of bed and want to do things that make me happy finally I have had a stable relationship the healthiest I have ever had for a little while now I am doing a job I love and I have my own place it is never to late to turn anything around.
Tim Richardson meds’ ent for everyone and they weren’t for me they may however work for you but meds only do so much you do also have to put in the work yourself
Tim Richardson I’m very sorry to hear about your loss I also have had losses in my life that only added to my already bad mental health the problem is when your already down losses are going to be much harder to overcome to the point you might even want to kill yourself the aim is to be able to get strong enough to deal with the suffering life throws at you such as a the death of a close one and so again I really recommend all of Jordan’s advice that I lined out in my post best of luck to you man I hope you over come your depression and anxiety like I did
Very pleased to read Your thoughts Cara. It is encouraging when feeling down to think about Life from another's perspective. Grateful . ThankYou. Stephen
@@CoercedJab it's also insane what can change in a year though! Wouldn't catch myself posting anything like this now, couldn't even recall typing it tbh. At the time it did hit home for me cuz I knew I had to address things that were hard to face. I looked/look up to JP alot, him saying that drove it home for me. What you mean by infantilization?
For those of you out there battling demons alone, you are so strong for that and your life will amount to so much beauty one day and you will be stronger than ever. Your worth so much more than you feel in the moment, God bless you and your family 💜
What I got from each seminar: 1) if you need/have medication take it 2) figure out a healthy way to solve a problem instead of jumping to the worst case scenario 3) give yourself/body a schedule your mood will be much better regulated 4) don’t come after yourself so hard, work hard as much as the future is secured, come out of your routine every so often, life is a rats nest of misery and it can be tragedy but not hell 5) you have to be a fool if you want to be a master if you’re not willing to be a fool then you’re not gonna be a master, it’s part of the course it’s not indication that you failed it’s indication tat it’s really hard, the fact that you’re full of faults doesn’t mean you stop or you can’t learn.
Depression can also be something positive - a way your mind has of telling you to change your lifestyle or get rid of the toxic people from your life. Listen to your depression. Sort through things and figure out what you need to do. Get moving. Your mind wants to give you peace.
I'm glad you mentioned the medical intervention. I was a 30 yearl old woman in hospital and so depressed that I hung myself. I was found and resuscitated and went on to receive ECT treatments. It took years for the doctors to find the right medication cocktail for me. They succeeded and after 12 years of agony and insomnia, I came back to life. I went back to work and could socialize again and despite the hell I went through, I feel only gratitude.
Honestly, when you asked, "are you as educated as you are intelligent" I started to cry. I've never asked myself this before and it hit home hard. Thank you for always being so to the point.
I started seeking outside ways of learning because of how expensive college is. Watching RUclips, reading, finding people to train me, etc, was probably one of the best decisions I ever made. I'm bored out of my mind when I'm not learning...
I lost my husband to cancer 1 year ago. I didn't realize how depressed I was. I can't go to a job turn them down, make excuses to do things. Just talked to Dr yesterday and he will up meds. Hope this works and my son turned me on to these videos. Like them so far
I hope each day brings you even a nano-sliver of something that looks like peace, friend. That is a gut punch of the highest order. Be nice to yourself and don't compare your grief process to anyone else's. I bet your husband visits you every day, as a kooky squirrel or curious sparrow or an arms-out, gimme-a-hug tree. Keep on the lookout for signs in nature. He's saying hi.
All the best, hope you find your way out... I dove in this particular hole when my father died. Stayed there for 2 years... Didn't do anything. Slept 18-20 hours a day... would have gone for the rest of the day too. If not for my surroundings. In retrospect really happy about ppl around me.. Not at the time tho. .. Still have trouble motivating myself today (18 years later), I manage to hold a job (barely, but I do). Just going through the motions because I'm supposed to. Again, hope you find your way.
Indeed. Having depression, he gives a lot of good advice.And I feel better knowing someone has good advice for us. As all my kids have some form of depression as well. This video & all his videos on on depression have been life saving.
I love him and would say the same but I have to stop at intervals to process my own personal insanity. His formulas are genius, heartbreaking and glorious.
Jordan Peterson saved me, because of him after my life fell apart, my fiancee left me for another man, and I was losing myself, I found him and his book, and he has helped me start to drag myself out of the depths. Its not easy and I still have bad days but because of him, i have started the long climb back up. Thank you JP, and if i can do it any one can.
If you are a woman, thank God he left you before you had children with him and then he left. Also, you could never have made him happy, his problem no yours.
@@rodgerhempfing2921 it was a rough time but I'm doing okay now. I am a man, and still very happy I didnt have children with her! Still some bad days but I'm in a happy relationship with someone who cares, and solid in my career. I also make my bed!!
I made it until he started talking about relationships and generalization and how generalizations hurt depressed people and how it fuels their depression. I get told " you always do that" and it makes me feel useless in this world.
Right away you see he's a special professor: he speaks looking at every student, interacting deeply with them, he conveys his passion for the subject, his profound knowledge.
i would fight him all day every day because there is a part of me a large one that doesnt need any help even if its wrong,also fighting (verbaly always)is revealing me how dedicated is the person is that tries to help you. because some1 offers help doesnt mean u dont have to question him/she,hell even hitler thought he was going to build a better world, and trust me the difference between u,me and hitler is just a snaping moment
On anti-depressants: "Try this man, maybe you won't cut your throat in the next month because if you're dead it's going to be hard to work with you" I love this guy :)
He speaks re himself using antidepressants sometimes so i love his soft admission here regarding suicidal thoughts but remaining in a lecturer stance n discourse
antidepressant does not work, it may repress your emotions, but most likely it won't help. There are better drugs out there that help a lot of peoples, but sadly they're illegal.
If you combine Dr Peterson's achievements in the field of clinical psychology with his courageous stance against postmodernism and identity politics, he is one of the outstanding people alive today. I would love to see him nominated for a Nobel prize or some equally serious recognition of the work he does to make the world a better place. We need more Jordan Petersons in this world and fewer ignorant, mendacious, malevolent and narcissistic postmodernist fools.
as much as i like Dr. Peterson, i don't think that he's close to receiving a Nobel Prize anytime soon. His work is remarkable and the quality of his speech his up there with other geniuses but in my honest opinion i don't think that he has found anything groundbreaking as in discovering something that would re-write the laws of psychology as to where he'd be a keystone in the evolution of pyschology itself. He's extremely verbal, passionate and thorough in his work which is hard to find in any person.
JP doesn't have many original ideas at all, he's a great portal to linking different concepts together and putting it into something that people can comprehend at large though. So incredible to listen to but not Nobel prize worthy
The foundation of his lectures is Jungian psychoanalysis which is completely unscientific yet he's somehow a hero for opposing postmodernism? That's like the pot calling the kettle black. Exactly who are these horrible 'postmodernist fools' you're referring to?
At the apex of my life, my Dad died suddenly, not unexpected but suddenly. It has been a tough road, a depressing trial, yet I'm still here. May God bless you to persevere! There are other lives which you need to influence!
I am sorry for the loss of your father and your rough time. I hope you survived the holidays. Your last sentence struck a nerve rather sharply and I guess that is why I decided to comment. Yes, I think it is wise to think not of self in dark times but to think of what you can do for others. I came to listen to Peterson but your words turned my day around. Thanks.
So sorry for your loss. Same for me. My dad was diagnosed with cancer just as I was learning to manage my depression - which I'd had for 25 years. In 4.5 months he was gone. The grief really messed me up. But I figured out I was messed up in the first place cuz I'm on meds I don't need to be on that screwed up my head!! All I've ever wanted to do is get better so I can help people like me. Peer counseling. Peace and blessings to you.
¡This paragraph made me blow my mind!: "Even if you had the best opportunity, in your incomplete form, the probability that you see it as an opportunity is 0".
@@jdxiong i suppose the interpretation has to be subjective. Mine is: as long as your form to get enrolled or admitted for the bests of opportunities is 'incomplete', the probability of you realizing what an opportunity it is is 0.
@@jdxiong a severely depressed person wouldn’t be able to identify a situation as a opportunity for themselves as they have no hope, or meaning, to have opportunity you need a goal, as well as some hope.
@Donny Etta People have varying types of intelligence. Pretty much why everyone struggles but not everyone struggles with the same thing. Even just self awareness is a type of intelligence. Being aware of how what you do affects the world isn't the same as mastering a certain type of math or engineering machines that make other machines. However everyone is smart at something, the hard part is filling in the gaps in your own intelligence. Maybe you might not be aware of your emotional intelligence but it still exists. This is why certain things are obvious to some and not to others. It's all the things we are good at and things we need practice on.
I'm a prior service U.S. Marine...grew up in Detroit city and in the foster care system. Recently I started working with therapy through the VA for PTSD and depression. I kicked that can down the road for years. I didn't want to talk about stuff because "men dont do that" you deal with it quietly and as a Black man I always heard that therapy was something only rich White people did (I understand the history behind that idea now) Basically I started going to therapy because I had a moment where I woke up from sleep and grabbed my wife's hand as she was stroking my beard and couldn't figure out where I was...that could have been my daughter...she's 6 and I couldn't forgive myself if I'd grabbed her little hand like that. I got to the point where I had to admit that I've been fighting since I was a kid and since I was 14 I've been tired of living, I'm 35 and been tired of living over half of my life. I went to get help because I don't want to self terminate (and I constantly fight that shadow) and leave my daughter with that burden...I dont want her to say "my father didn't love me enough to get help" or "my father was too proud to ask for help" I told my wife that I didn't have anything else to give anyone...I needed to help myself. It's only been a few weeks. But I finally said yes to the medication and counseling, I'm going to stick with it. So if anyone else that's dealing with things...find a reason to move forward. Even if it's just to feel better about yourself. Always forward, you aren't alone.
Read Dr Gabor Mate if you really want to to understand muti generational trauma..Mate is one of the great minds today. He is all over RUclips Just Like Jordan
we always hide the things that need to be said the most. I`m proud u are able to slowly move forward. May the great thinkers of today help u with that! bless!
Stay strong my man, my life is totally different from yours but I'm pretty much in a similar situation: around 40 years old and starting a new journey with the help of therapy, some anti depressant and couple therapy. I want to build a new career as self employed from zero after covid years obliterated my old job. We can do it. Let's be proud of ourselves and keep working. Bless you
I see a lot of myself in what you shared. It gets better, when you don't give up. And I didn't have to get into a cult or become a monk, although it could've worked. This is going to get lengthy, but I just don't know how to put 12 years of limbo, and, at some point, logically considering to relieve the world of myself, in two sentences. For the lack of a better word, at this point down the line, I imagine it as walking in the dark. A few people hear you and flash lights from their paths - with short blinks or longer flares, you never know. You might just hear their voices, but no light would come through. Those lights and voices can't be steady, lighting up and going out, because each person has their own path to walk - learn to appreciate it. But this is how we make sense of things - if you were to walk silently, no one would ever know. Let your voice echo through this expanse, and people may flash a few navigation lights, if they can. Even through time, music, books, videos, and ages past. Ultimately, no matter what they say - it is only you who can walk your path - no matter who walks by, this path is only yours and can't be shared. It can only be parallel. The road appears under the steps of the one who walks. Walk it, Rodrick, it's worth it. If only I could put all my conviction and experience into this sentence, so that it would be more than just a fancy phrase. Medication is there to provide you with a cane, but it can't walk you - it's there to help you stop the self-narrating cycle. You have to drop the cane some day - aim for that. A therapist is a cane of another sort - this person is not there to heal you, but to nudge you towards right questions and ways of thinking you never considered before. Because you can only heal yourself, and that's the truth. We are the stories we tell ourselves, after all. The things you make matter to yourself. At some point, you'll most likely realize, that it's been dark all this time, because you had your eyes closed. And sometimes you have to close them, to think - it's not the enemy. You've just done it too much. Your thoughts are an estimation. But when you don't see the answer, it doesn't mean that the answer doesn't exist. You just don't see it. Accept it as a fact of life, and set sail - maybe you'll see it from over there. Most of the time, you will. Or you'll realize you had the wrong question in mind. Our brain is not one thing, it's a multi-dialogue thing converging at the top of what you call "yourself". You can't know what those dialogues are, subconscious is a closed hood covering the engine - but you have to discipline it all in one general direction. What we think our thought is - is the tip of the iceberg. It's worth taking the waves of emotions for what they are - waves. Welcome them, and know they will pass, don't play their game. Don't consider yourself an enemy - your previous steps led you to this, steps you couldn't see. So, the struggle is there to educate you, and help transition to something better than ever was. You have all the strength, you'd ever need. You cannot imagine the turn of the road, until you've seen one. Take it from a guy who lurched and seen the full spectrum, from the rock bottom - you can transform your life to what you can hardly imagine now. And, most importantly, be a positive influence in other people's lives. It should come naturally, without effort. As a side note, consider this advice I can give, which I consider being a big help for me some time ago: muster whatever motivation you can, and do sports activities. Just running can go a long way. Swimming is great for taking an edge off. Do something for your mind. I have personally discovered that applied sciences are the best for bringing order into your style of thinking. Sometimes I joke that "I started doing "meth", when I mean Mathematics. You have to understand that it's not something I ever enjoyed, I would've laughed if you said something like this to me about 8 years ago. Music helped a great deal, when I started - I picked up learning how to play the guitar. It was painful (literally) and upsetting in the beginning, today I can play Moonlight Sonata and hoping to have time to learn the piano and the flute some day. Try karting or go sailing (which is perfect as it's requires your mind as much as a body), go for a few sessions of bow shooting. Don't drink and don't smoke. Find other ways to cope, which can be harder to get into initially - but are more positive for you. Look at the people who have less than you, and are happier than you - you can learn and get motivated from that. Appreciate who you are right now, and welcome what's ahead of you. I wish you well
Dr Peterson is one of the most honest person I have heard. He speaks from the heart and admits his own pitfalls. He has a great amount of Wisdom, most people do not even know what wisdom is. I pray blessing upon his family. I admire his sincerity to want to help people.
I shed a tear on very dark days listening to JP because it's touching to know someone out there understands. Thanks for saving me so many times youll never know.
Now I have the goal to win the opportunity to talk to this man face to face and say how much I appreciate him for saving my life from depression. This man was in the right place to make my life straight and I can't express how grateful I am for it.
You will never WIN an opportunity to talk to him. If it's really a goal, you will work towards it, and EARN the opportunity. When you GET the opportunity, and you don't waste it, that's when you WIN. Make it matter. Best of luck, and much love. Thank you for commenting. Stay strong!
He popped into my life at just the right point too, but I wasn't properly listenining to him. I missed the opportunity and now my life is pure hell and I don't know how I can go on. It was only after everything fell apart that I started listening to him properly (not reading the crap about him online or superficially watching clips) and realized he was EXACTLY WHO AND WHAT I NEEDED in 2018. If I had listened to JP in 2018 I would have my family (would-have-been wife and daughter). I would have improved relations with my parents and siblings and extended family. I would be working. I would be protecting my family during this worst phase of the pandemic. Instead I am living in an untenable situation, with no money, my health demolished and unable to do anything about it. I am in the worst possible hell I can imagine. I am trying to find a way out of this that doesn't involve suicide.
@@murkartik please don't give up, I feel for you, I hope good things and money come your way. I wish I was in a position to do something real other than words, but know this, I care about you.
The fact that anyone would try to disparage this guy as a mean hateful person is so upsetting to me. He's helped millions of people. I have both of his books and he's really helped with my depression in real tangible ways. I can unequivocally say this man has helped at the very least 1 person from committing suicide - we should be cherishing him for what he brings.
Make that 2. I'm depressed ever since I got into a security analyst & assurance job and 5 months in, I'm so terribly depressed again and I'm spiraling out of control. Only not yet eating lead cause I don't live in the USA 🇺🇸
what he said around 7:10 - 8:00 is spot on, i've suffered with severe depression most my life and he really nailed that point home. Every slight failure is like being hit by a truck; it makes your entire roadmap collapse and corrupts your core values to the point where you're unwilling to help yourself AND puts you at risk of intentionally sabotaging yourself. It's rough.
I'm going through this now, and I feel that I'm on a road to self destruction. I am conscious of the path I'm on and where it goes and ends and also know its preventable but at the same time feel as if I'm pushing myself intentionally there. I have tried so hard to be happy, successful and until now I have "taken the knocks on the chin" all my life with failure and have brushed it off with ease. Most of my dedication was to my work as a builder because I used to and to some degree still enjoy it, not so long ago I took on a huge project and gave my soul to it only for it to fail catastrophically. The fail was not caused by me but by the customers son, and then becoming aggressive to me. The next big kick was the covid lockdowns, no financial assistance was available, 7 months later the debt compounded matters more. This was a real low point for me, I distanced myself from my family more and more due to the feeling of shame. And then a light in the tunnel was visible, and could return to work but on the 2nd day back and just agreeing a contract, but my vehicle was destroyed by a person not paying attention. Since then I am out all hours, getting further into debt with no end in sight and on the verge of bankruptcy. I have a young son that I love with all my heart ❤ but my inner shame, disappointment, anxiety and lack of self worth is crippling me from even being a good father. I feelbi have no one to share this with, even though I know there are people who care for me but the admission of this to them is impossible for me to do and the most painful thing is that I fully realise it. I have always believed in reaching out for help, but until now I never appreciated why some don't. I hope anyone feeling the same finds inner peace and happiness.
@@bambam-cm8we I know you may not understand this straight away.. This is just now.. you have done great work for many more years than these events. You have amazing skills other people don't.. more on that later. Reaching out has to happen at times, family, friends, churches, charities. We too in Sydney LGAs are in lock down.. builders were allowed out again this week. I am off work due to the actions of someone else and I now have to seek help. I am learning skills on RUclips and of course watching this brilliant psychologist. I would love to see your lectures and demonstrations on building on RUclips or a learning platform. Enjoy your son, my parents protected me from a major recession and played with me, read to me etc.. how amazing that you have family.. and I think as a child even if we had lived in a car I would have seen it as an adventure. We grew up poor for most of my life and that is enough for now. You are a builder and it may be hard, you can rebuild. When I lose my job due to how I've been treated after 15 years, I will have to get a lower paid job, with old references .. and try to study to re skill myself.. while trying to pay my way and keep up with medical bills because Medicare and health insurance doesn't cover specialists, teeth and there is always something needs maintenance.. you will get there.. perhaps you can trust a good smart friend or counsellor with a budget and a plan so you are ready. In the meantime enjoy the small things, they will not hold hard times against you .. at that age I didn't know the difference but I was lucky I had my loving parents and love and fun.. so just be there... and people do start again.. they often don't talk about it till you get to know them..
Well let’s see I have this and this and this and that with some of this to do today . … but that couch looks so good for a 5 hour nap mid day on Saturday and Sunday as well . So no time to do anything I need to do . bummer wish I had more time ! My life sucks but is great . I’m a well adjusted high achievement failure most days 😀
this video made me call a psychiatrist and make an appointment; even though i have crippling anxiety just to pick up the phone.. thank you dr. peterson, youre a lifesaver
Lost my job, my savings, my house, my wife (now ex) had an affair, I broke and had an affair, divorced, and am now putting myself back together. It’s hard.
try to remind yourself 5 things: - it wasn’t done TO you, it was done FOR you. difficult times are meant to make you stronger - don’t allow yourself to give energy to things out of your control and don’t allow yourself to live in the past - always keep your self respect, the best revenge is always bettering yourself and your life - absolutely no matter what happens in life, you are always worthy of and capable of abundance, success, happiness and respect - even if it doesn’t feel like it, you can always choose to be happy life hurts sometimes, best of luck my friend.
He seems to know how people in general think about themselves. He explains things in a way that you just get it, and can use what he's telling you to help yourself. Very informative, thank you.
The way he expresses himself, the clarity of his thought process. The more you listen to what Jordan has to say, whether in interviews with terrible interviewers or during his lectures, the more you learn and respect him.. Thankfully RUclips makes it possible for people on the other side of the globe (like myself) to see these videos
Imagine having the opportunity to be in his class and listen to him speak every day. No chance you won't come out a slightly better and more intelligent person each time.
I think for me the worst part of depression is the people around you don't want to be around you when you're in those depressive states. Which is understandable but it seems to make everything worse when you feel bad and know the people you love the most don't enjoy being around you. Nobody wants to be sad but people treat you like it's a choice you're making. It's so lonely inside our minds.
@@avivastudios2311 im honestly not sure i use anger its much easier than breaking down people have no idea they just think im moody i wouldnt know what id like someone to say maybe just empathy but thats extremely rare these days
It’s a double sided coin. I don’t want to be around others due to my behaviors but also don’t want to be left alone. I already feel completely left alone, abandoned, left for dead when depressed. Hoping to make new changes if I can figure out what. I have an insomnia problem for one. God bless all of you reading and suffering from depression and what all else.
Its been two years since my last relationship working hard as a struggling academy teacher and living by myself in another country with no friends. I have to say its always the small things in life that make it all worthwhile. Depression tends to open your eyes to all those things and makes you realise youre not doing too badly afterall. Keep fighting. Keep loving.
Mate how did you get through this? Ive just been dumped, in a strange country with no friends no job living in a hotel and I cant seem to find any little things that make it okay right now.. sorry if this is personal.. guess I’m looking now for a friend in RUclips comments now. Le Sigh
@@kfrisch6811 Hope things have changed for you since you made this comment. Or at least found yourself back home. Definitely a time of hardship in all countries. I'm in my late 20's now and have never experienced people wanting me around. I haven't been on a date in almost 10 years. Parents never encouraged or supported me or even told me if they love me. But at least I have a job I guess. Not something I love. I'm like a walking zombie with no direction. Just living.
This is so true. When you are depressed every single bad thing, how minor it migjt be can make you feel like you are worthless. This really hit me badly. I have been severly depressed for the past 6 years. Tried to commit suicide once. Now I am a little better but still not well. Hopefully some people can relate and we can help each other. God bless and thank you Dr. Peterson.
hey, how are you man? i hope you are ok. yeah, depression can absolutely destroy someones life. but, if you stay alive, you still have a chance to turn the table. i can relate, and i have to say, i am not the perfect person to say that, but still, i am way better then i was one day. so just keep it man. work hard on yourself, on your mental health. sending love to you from Brazil.
Hi bro ! I hope that you are doing better .. Based on my experience I always turn back to God my faith is so strong than I can’t think of giving up so we need to trust God and this is only a phase and it shall pass hold on to ur faith and be strong it takes time and will … Always remember that our God does not burden any soul with more than it can bear.. Have faith and bear patience . I wish you all the best
He’s hitting everything right on the nose for me. I haven’t had my life together at all since High School. I haven’t found my purpose, I’ve been working low-entry jobs for years, I’ve been depressed since 2017. I’m 24 now. I never wanted to try antidepressants because I wanted to solve my own problems. It’s not working, and I am on a chaotic downward spiral to nothing. I bit the bullet, and have my first antidepressants on the way. I quit marijuana, working on nicotine addiction, and don’t drink. I could be worse off, I know that. But everybody has personal struggles.. I need to make major changes to my life if I want to find purpose and happiness.
I’ve been there and once I accepted I couldn’t fix it I took the tablets got rid of the smoke drink and crap and am now finally getting the clear headed enthusiasm to make better choices … you’re on the right track don’t give up … you may find you have to try a few tablets to find the right mix for you 💪😎
I've heard so much smack about Mr. Peterson so started listening to his videos. I'm genuinely confused why. I'm a liberal woman and I'm becoming quite the fan. Seems like an intelligent man with much to offer.
You heard alot of smack because of the main stream media They like to twist things so they can fit their own agenda They got a narrative to push so they can win political power Dont believe the media
Yes. Mr. Peterson is right on, in his analytical explanation on how we function as society and as human beings, but still think his personal standpoint is conservative and old school, but nothing wrong with that.
I've found myself to be in the same boat as you. After watching a video about Dr. Peterson on Baggage Claim's channel I started seeking out his videos, interviews, lectures and whatever I could. I'm happy I looked past what was being said and looked into this guy myself. My eyes and mind are open a little wider these days, hoping to continue that trend.
While listening to this the girl I'm into texted back. Little bit later in the conversation with this video on the background I found out I just got a date for the first time. I came here having the impression I'll never succeed and will never give a chance. Right now all that matters is that tomorrow I have a place to go with someone. It doesn't matter if it won't go well... I just made a huge step just by going out tomorrow. Thank you for showing us that eventually everybody deserves a reward at some point.
2021 was the hardest, darkest time of my life. I was physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually BROKEN. But now I feel genuinely GRATEFUL and BLESSED that I had to go through that phase because GOD has graciously REVEALED Himself to me in miraculous ways. I am fortunate that He allowed me to know Him at a very young age, but this year is so much SPECIAL because of what WE (yes, GOD and me) have been through last year. He showed me how POWERFUL prayers truly are when I started to focus on WHO HE IS rather than who I am, on WHAT HE CAN DO rather than what I deserve. The experience was MAGICAL. He showed up BIG TIME and assured me that HE is indeed a LISTENING and RESPONDING GOD. Oh how my faith has skyrocketed as a result! Now more than ever, I have very bright HOPE for my future because I experienced first hand how RELIABLE God is. And for that I will forever be grateful. GLORY BE TO GOD, MY EVER FAITHFUL FATHER. ♥️♥️♥️ To everyone who's struggling right now, please know that JESUS LOVES YOU. HE DIED FOR YOU. He wants to help you and give you peace. Please surrender your burdens to Him and allow Him to move in your life. "Because he loves Me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges My Name. He will call on Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him." (Psalm 91:14-15) Please hold on to this bible verse because WHATEVER GOD SAYS, HE FULFILLS. ✝️
I am not right wing nor Republican. Jordan appeals to my moral intellect and my hearts desire to do good. In his lectures he confirms my understanding of meaning, knowledge that he accumulated from other people's writings and other people's experiences.
i realised a couple of days back that my "distain" for JP originated from the idea i had of him, mainly the one created by his "vocal" and political audience. Having set that aside i now realise what an absolute truckload of knowledge this man can bring.
He's absolutely right, depression affects families just as bad as the individual. When I'm depressed and suicidal I could care less because I've been down that road many times before... But when my friends and family see me in a dark place, pushing them away they get confused. They get upset and don't understand, what is going on. It feels awful indirectly hurting the ones that you love.
Time and suffering are measured the same way, by ones perception of it. Perhaps the people that you think are living it up can’t be be as happy as you think because to not have felt true loss or pain gives you appreciation for the good times based on ones perception. One day at a time. Just keep muddering along… Winston Churchill
@john knusson that's a little too forward. It's easy to get stuck in your head and perceive your struggles as some of the worst you can imagine until you know how good you really have it
It's crazy, he is juste describing the exact fellings I have. I'm lucky that this guy exist. It's help me a lot to get trough these dark days to find the light at the end.
"The sense of meaning is actually an instinct that orients people in time and space... It is the most fundamental form of perception." So beautiful. 10:36
To whomever put this together: I deal with, sometimes crippling, depression on a daily basis. This video has helped me so much! I watch it from time to time when I can't pull myself out of the void.. Thank you.
I started smoking when l was 19, it's been 8yrs now. Started trying to quit about 4yrs ago but all with no win. Listened to all audios l could to no good result till l meet this guy. Today is my 4th day smoke free. I don't even feel the graving or the anxiety. This guy for sure saves lives. My future kids will always be grateful to you. Thank God for this guy.
I've spent the last 6 years of my life working to change my perception to fight my depression and PTSD, because even during my lowest times I didn't truly desire death. I just wanted to stop feeling like that. Those two things will most likely never leave me, and it's been an uphill battle that continues for me today, but I've made undeniable progress forward. Every single day I do what I can to maintain my forward momentum, even if I'm mentally crawling. These days, I wake up and no longer question why I draw breath. Instead, I wake up and am mostly ready to handle business, because who doesn't need caffeine right? Lol. Anyways, yeah. I'm here today because I realized back then that I had to at least try to change my perception so that I could not only survive, but learn to actually live.
I had to make the commitment right away when my crisis hit. No matter how bad I will never give up. It helped me deal with the depression and never experience suicidal thoughts no matter how deep the pain was (And I thought the depression itself might kill me.)
I love this. Learning how to truly ~live~ my life, as mundane or monotonous it could be - has really transformed how I view life. Appreciating small moments, living in the present... all things that aim toward a healthy relationship with myself and others
Jordan Peterson gave me the meaning of life in 3 yrs at the age of 60 that I never understood in 12 + yrs of schools . On line and his books . Thank you Jordan 😊
15:07 - This hits me SO hard. Some days I am so tired and so fed up with just everything that even eating is laborious and I skip meals. I inevitably feel like absolute dog water the next day, and I know I will, yet I still do it..
Yeah same except i just realised that i literally study all day long and only eat a piece of crisp that's already on the table. I tried to actually cook breakfast once but nearly threw up trying to stomach it for some reason before sitting down to study. How can someone not eat much but also not be hungry??
@@ibolyakatona8192 personally I find smoking or consuming THC helps in that regard. I always attribute my lack of appetite to my chronic THC consumption, but meh.
I absolutely love that you can get this information for free. It's insanely helpful in so many ways and those college kids are paying to learn everything this video has taught us. RUclips is such an amazing teacher ❤
I've suffered very bad depression and been taking medication for years. Thankfully, I've managed to move on with my life and I am doing OK now..But I will never be the same and that's something I've learned to live with. From my personal experience, I can tell you that sometimes people who suffer depression need only to hear from their family and friends 'Yes, I understand what you're going through'..That's all. That can help so much. I was screaming for a help, for someone who would listen, just listen and say those words, someone who would just understand what I was going through. But all I was hearing was ' Oh man, that;s nothing, just go out and have some fun'..Or people would simply avoid me.. So please if you have someone around who is depressed just try to understand them and support them, just say that you do understand what they are going through and then you'll see how suddenly they will want to fight against it. They will feel that they are not alone and hopeless. Depression is not just a bad mood..
So true. People don't understand the power of one kind word or phone call to see how you are or to give encouragement. People need people. That's it. Those that avoid you when you are down are the lowest of the low. I know. I've had to see them in my own life. And it's damaging to the soul.
Igor R I hear you. My 82 year old mother knows the names, birthdays, death dates, wedding year, etc for my extended family over four generations because she cares and listens. She has always listened well, even while CONSTANTLY interrupting! She ALWAY asks people - family, strangers, everyone - questions and she remembers their answers. She cares. She asks. She listens. She thinks about it. She remembers. Who these days spends their time doing that? We consume - constantly. I tell my three year twins that the BEST thing you can do for someone is to truly listen to them. It’s the ONE thing we all truly WANT more than anything. Thank you for sharing your experience Igor.
I never seen an educator be able to command the attention of so many people. After 18 years in school and grad school, I've never had a teacher even come close. Absolutely incredible.
this gentleman is amazing , why after 30 odd years of depression and anxiety my choice is anti depressents or anti psychotics iv seen psychiatrists, mental health nurses, cbt, but never has any of them stretched their mind like this man he gives me hope instead of thinking iv got no hope because if i dont take medications there seems to be little on offer.
This fellow is brillant, and a true gift to humanity. I am astounded that some people feel obligated to paint him into a 'right' or 'left' corner. Just LISTEN to him, and forget about the polarization FOR ONCE.
It took me 3 years to try an antidepressant and it was in my epilepsy medication. Those 3 years were an absolute hell of looking at the rifle in the corner of my bedroom while trying to figure out what I could do to make my life better. Jordan Peterson didn’t fix my depression but when I was really lost having a good father figure to listen too like Jordan Peterson helped me move along. Doing much better but not done yet, this mans lectures are wonderful and I hope I have a college professor with even a smidge of the genius of this man.
As someone who's battled depression for a few years and kept it private in shame this has honestly opened my eyes a lot and made me want to get better 😊.
@@troystreacker8829 How condescending of you to assume to know my education and background. Quoting research from a "real scientist" is not the equivalent of intellect or proof of *anything". In fact, it has been found by many, many "real scientists" that JP is lying about, misusing, and manipulating quite a bit of the research he does quote from or refer to in his talks.
Shrug. Isn't that the great thing about America. everyone is allowed to have an opinion. Where you're not thrown in jail and dehumanized for no believing in the church (secular or religious) doctrine of the state. Even if JP is 20% - 80% wrong he has still helped many find a reason to question themselves and pursue better endeavors regardless of what those might be.
@@troystreacker8829 There are quite a few who would like to strip us of the right to opinions and free speech. May we all be vigilant about protecting our rights in those areas... and always striving to question ourselves, those we look up to, and evolving and growing as humans. Maybe those are some areas where we can agree. :-)
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He gets a bad rep for being "right wing", but if you pay attention to what he's saying and not what people are saying about him you realize he's not political. Not in the sense of Left or Right wing politics. If anything he's a realist and a logical thinker. I guess common sense may seem conservative. I consider myself liberal minded and I really like his views on life.
Curtis Bernard - it is no failure of a human being to be deeply concerned with the welfare of all people and the survival of the human species above or in spite of all ideologies, politics or partisan-type thinking that may be specious at best, cynical and murderous at worst.
Yess you nailed it
Jose Jimenez Richard Nixon, George Bush Sr. & Jr., Stephen Harper, Dick Cheney and of course Donald Trump. You're in good company buddy. You should stay on that side.
Curtis Bernard Robert E. Lee, Obama, Lyndon Johnson, John Booth, Bill Clinton, and of course Hillary Clinton. You're in good company buddy. You should stay on that side.
Curtis Bernard Also, are you just going to ignore the good Trump has done?
I love how he just casually says "everyone's life is a tragedy".
Also, his account of how depressed people reason from one small setback to a completely bleak outlook is spot on. I've been doing it for years.
Fight it back, man.
@@boqueronsocarrao696 I always try to. Thank you for the encouragement.
I think the only valid meaning of this claim is that we are all going to die so life is a tragedy bu definition because the main character will die ;)
but otherwise, life can be pretty fun if you are doing things right and get lucky
@Vinicius Raposo Yeah, a big part of healing depression is learning to be kinder to yourself. Depression is often the result of long-term emotional self-neglect.
What point in the video did he say this? (Really busy so I can’t watch the full thing rn :,)
One of the worst parts of depression is when you’re thinking about all the things you could have been doing and could have done that you wanted to, if you didn’t feel the way that you do. You’re sitting in the passenger seat of your own life
Yes, yes! that is exactly how it feels.
You've perfectly explained how I'm feeling, thank you!
That's partly true but if it's any consolation.. I've noticed, We couldn't have done more or different Whether its the laws that govern our reality didn't permit us to do the things we want or say we could have done. Other times, free will gives us the option to make different decisions but ends up with the result of having to choose between the lesser of two/3 evils. In other words, you're damned if you do, damned if you do and damned if you don't. Accepting the things we could Not change or Did Not handle different is the best course of action.
Sitting back in the passenger seat of your own life (THINKING) about The Big (IF) means you got the time and the ability to learn from your own works and that's a natural Human power and instinct which the majority of humanity No longer Uses.
@@idonotknowanynames All do respect,
if you actually read the first sentence.." If it's any consolation, "I've noticed". Idk where All or We or Us, much less yoou fit into that beginning.
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
Shrooms was the best trip I had. It was an amazing experience.
Dr.spores is the best, he's been my supplier for anything psychedelics.
Drug bots? 😅
My son left us at 18. Your words were helpful. Thank you. How I wish he was here. Beautiful kid.
Everyone has to move out at some point, 18 is a common age they leave.
The person might have been talking about Suicide
@@_R_R_R you're right. I overestimate the perceptiveness of others. It never crossed my mind it would be read any other way.
@@siegeg4892 Thank you... What you say is true. I've also learned that in hindsight they tell you what's coming in subtle, cryptic ways. We are left to decide what to do with the clues and there's no perfect way.
Victor, there are tears on my face. Warm thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
I went to a training once that was really intense. The days were long. Day one and Day two were one lecture after the other with very short breaks. At the beginning the moderator told us that we were all adults and needed to be responsible for taking care of ourselves. If the seats are too hard, go get a pillow. If you're chilly, go get a sweater. If your legs are getting stiff from sitting so long, go and walk around at the back of the room for a while. If you're thirsty, go get a drink. Do whatever it is you need to get yourself though this. She closed out with, "Suffering is inevitable, but misery is optional." That stuck with me.
Thats brilliant. That in a sense is what conservativism is. Like you have the freedoms choose your best option.
I always appreciate that. I tend to stand up at the back of the room for stretches during long trainings. For one it's better for your health and also I get restless sitting for 8 hours.
Was it est or the Forum or som self actualization thing?
@@urdude67 No. It was "PASSING," which stood for "program analysis of service systems' implementation of normalization goals." It was learning to look with fresh eyes at your own human service organization by learning a rating scale for what had origianlly been called "normalization" but was renamed "social role valorization." After learning about the scale you'd be put in a team to assess one day program and one residential program. One day you'd visit the place, and two days you'd discuss your observations with the team and rate the agency. Trainees would go back to their hotel crying at the end of a day. People were becoming aware of horrible things their well-meaning agencies were doing and instead of staying at their jobs to create change from the inside they were quitting. The training organization eventually started making participants sign a pledge that they'd not quit their jobs for at least thirty days after completing the training.
@@thesisypheanjournal1271 Thanks very much for your awesome amplification. I find this information very interesting.
I am so glad I learned English!
Welcome. :)
I haven’t been glad about anything in the last 4 years. Well now I’m here
Me too
@@florianbrammer9951 You're on the right path, and taking that first step is the beginning of your journey. It WILL come.
me too
It's actually miraculous to see someone who puts so much energy into caring about the well being of strangers. He's not trying to sell anything or win an argument. He is passionately pleading with us to take care of ourselves and explaining the ways to succeed at that.
There’s so much about your comment that is absolutely correct. He’s not selling anything. He just wants people to be well.
Yes
Very well spoken!!
his daughter was 24 when she committed suicide
@@melissalynn5774 take comfort in the fact that JP's daughter is alive and well and the reason people think he had a daughter die is because of a video with a very misleading title. He is mourning someone else's daughter.
"Are you as educated as you are intelligent?" just legit blew my mind.
Me too. Because automatically the answer for me was "no". You?
whats the time mark for when he says that? thanks
@@johnmcdaid7957 Same answer here, by a far margin. And PlanYourLift I'm not sure, sorry, watching the whole video is worth it however.
@@PlanYourLift 2:00 - 3:00 . around that time.
@@huzainijai1184 2:24
But indeed it's worth the entier watch no doubt.
And yes, it's a really good point.
This man will go down as one of the greatest minds of the last 100 years atleast.
He is enlightened, and has compassion. He is a Buddha.
People who come to be thought of as "great minds" are original thinkers. Peterson is certainly intelligent, but he's just discussing other people's ideas. Great speaker though.
@@Gimipork Buddha was not an original thinker neither,, he just spoke the truth. Nobody can come up with truth, they just discover it or summarize it.
@@SerenaHe-z3k Buddha is believed to have been the first person to reach enlightenment, and he went on to share his insights of that with people. So he definitely had something new to say.
Hahaha! LoL. No one with even a modicum of intelligence thinks he is anything other than a bumbling idiot and a complete pseudo-intellectual moron. His fanboys gobble up his nonsense though. It's so weird and cult like.
This really hit home for me. Depression is no joke. It's not fun, it's crippling and painful
I really hope you fight it .
All the best.
John go checkout Truehope (website) They created a special vitamin therapy for people with Depression, Bipolar, Schizophrenia etc called Empower Plus. These vitamins saved my life after years of meds.
@@A.C.71 scam
WHY IS MANKIND, you and me as we are? Without covering it up with all kinds of lies and excuses which do not satisfy the soul, that by the touch and grace of our Maker seek's light in the darkness. please take one hour of your precious time for the straight up Truth that will bring Light in the darkness I know this from my own experience check out (What happened with us) on my channel.
It's literally a spirit of death and keeps haunting you and the scary part is you don't know at first and just think it's just normal cuz it diminishes your self awareness and and energy , like in a war the enemy is going to destroy your communication and power resources to put you in the dark and have to fight to get it back
We must protect this man at all costs. He's been a huge resource in my life as of late.
Oh my word, so well said. We MUST protect him, always.
I love your profile pic.
Mam? He is not a woman. You one of those transgender persons?
@@winkekatze5593 typo. Dingus
@@BlueCollarSlave 😂😂😂
This students have no idea how lucky they are to have someone like him
I think they are =)
tCenturion on Saturday Diderot
incredibili !
You never listened when the english teacher taught you the difference between this and these!
I N C R E D I B I L I S 8)
If this man was my professor I would have never dropped out of college.
Get back then, man, and take your bloody exam, just study the way JBP has taught us! He didn't have even one professor like himself, either!
Find the books on the topics and problems that interest you as much as JBP's lecture. And then take your ordinary classes and tests and writing essays, in addition to and beside your own smarter study plan. You will be rewarded for working double the amount compared to the curriculum - for sure that's what young Jordan did to become such a success. You are nobody's slave, remember! You work for you! JBP is his own boss even when he is employed. You can do it, too.
If this man had been my professor, I would have laughed at him and walked out of his class
@@leckmichamarsch7259 That's because you are a shame of a man !
@@leckmichamarsch7259 gay
@@leckmichamarsch7259 that one diva in class who thinks he’s cool but no one gives a hoot about
"Everyone's life is a tragedy" -Jordan Peterson. Love this man. We need more of him.
Not everyone life is a tragedy
@@mossifrog4989 by definition it is. You die in the end. The point is, if you work on the premise that, sure ill die in the end but so will everyone else. So we're not alone here and we'd better work together to make our time as pleasant as possible for everyone
@@kylegriffin8783 you need to hire JP personally bro lol
@@gabe.digital why do you say that?
@@gabe.digital because I'm literally just repeating what JP himself said in this video
To all those watching this video for their mental health, in case no one tells you today, just know you’re not alone (a lot of us are here for the same reasons) and you’re doing an amazing job getting on top of your mental health. And you should be proud of yourself for doing so. I hope you have an amazing day, and know we’re all here with you :)
and we are here for you too 😊👍
Thank u
Thank u
Thank you
Professional help is essential, Rube. Personality cults like Jordan's are cheesy and contribute to your mental health issues. Doctors can be sued if they make a mistake, with advice for you, Cupcake. Cuz professionals are trained properly and pass tough tests, Buttercup! Jordan is a slick hustler, but hardly a pro. What goes quack, quack, quack? JORDAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of:
-Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great
-Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks")
-Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed
-Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it
-Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model.
-Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.
-Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose.
-Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves
-Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor.
-Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it
-Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs.
I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful.
The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going."
Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence.
You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.
I highly appreciate your efforts in writing this message for all of us to see. Thank you for sharing what has worked for you in your struggle with depression. Your words resonate with me.
Thank you
This is a beautiful comment, thank you
LOVE THIS.
Passion is earned and not found. You will not randomly come across passion and start following it. You have to start digging up the road and begin paving it before passion starts to show itself.
Start doing something and passion will meet you halfway.
thank you.
“No ones life is fine. Everyone’s life is a tragedy”. Well said.
@@RLLUMB Seems insane. How come?
Genesis chapter 3 explains the origin and John 1:1-14 provides a succinct answer, elaborated by St. Paul in Romans 10:9-10. Best to read all of this letter for a full understanding of both the cause for misery and the cure currently available.
@@edwardwalsh5477 🙄 😂 😆
Only losers. R U A DUMBFUCK?
Yep, not too dissimilar to everyone has an I. Objectively there must be a lot of people that are really suffering bad though, don't get me wrong.
@Proper Psychology mate, I don't think he knew that woman in black. If she turns up, you scream as loud as you can at her to feck off, and run the OTHER way. That's from someone who has had serious hospital level depression for decade spans. You DO NOT let it back in. EVER. To do so is to die. She's a first class b*tch who's aim is to kill. don't invite her to bloody TEA!!!
" we're all in the same game, just different levels
Dealing with the same hell , just different devils ,,..
Nice way of putting it.
that's tsunami by russ
@@abhishekrohera Is that the author?? My grandmother used to have this written on a tile.
@@giovannaroma9527 ohh, tsunami is a song by russ and in the song it comes
@@abhishekrohera Okay thanks✌
Dr. Peterson has helped me from being a suicidal mess to embracing life and stepping up and dealing with my issues.
Thanks doc❤
... 🙏🙏🙏God bless you❤️, God bless prof.Jordan Peterson ❤️, .... 🙏🙏🙏
Try a real doctor. R U A Total dumbfuck?
@@martinkent333 what a totally useless comment.
@@1323-j6k Dumbfucks need medical help, Dumbfuck. You are too stupid to know? Better to listen to charismatic paranoids like Jordan, Rube?
@@martinkent333 Obviously a real doctor hasn’t helped you? Now who is the DF.
I applied for a job today.
It was hard but i pressed "send". Whew.
Good job, now keep doing it. It gets easier the more you do it. If you dont get that job, shoot for another
Good lad 👏
That's great!
Hope you hv made a few more applications
@@onegorgeouschick I actually haven't got a job but I got accepted to University as that was something I already applied for at the start of this year and started trying to study here and there for 6 months while mostly gaming still. I'm so happy about that.
Imagine where humanity would be if all educators were like him..
Remain hopeful
We would "know" a lot less and likely be better off for it.
You mean if all teachers were depressed addicts?
@@furatal-samaraie3884 better than the leftist idiots that I had throughout college
Honestly, his use of words is sometimes confusing
Please don't ever delete this. I think I need to watch it every week for the rest of my life.
same :)
Just download it to be sure Youll never loose it:) all the best Guys!
Agree, good luck to you x
Alan watts helps me too though my depression
Don’t risk getting dependent on a piece of video. Make notes! Make em reflections of your own mind. Under the effect of the video.
Make this wisdom your own. That way, it’ll become closer than anything.
For those of us that can't afford to see a therapist Dr Peterson is a gift from the great universe ✨
or a curse...
Absolutely. We need more people who can "handle the truth " and articulate it the way he does. I have yet to experience another person that comes close to this Master of the Human Condition.
Your comment is much closer to the truth than you realise. People like this guy really are sent here from outside of this earth to help us..I'm telling you
@@XxCherylCravenXx I believe it x
@Recite-God-Purify-Me-Miracles thank you ❤
I’m so happy he is ‘controversial’ because had it not been so, I may have never seen this lecture.
He makes you think and expands your mind in ways you didn’t know you could.
I used to have a problem with anxiety, depression and paranoia. Then I started training MMA and thaiboxing at a gym where we train extremely hard conditioning and fitness. Cured me in two years. I recommend the same for anyone with any such illness: start exercising really, really hard!
Worked for me too. I punished myself physically for a year. I am far more hopeful for my future than ever before
We've been teaching others for the last 6 years. Created by a former martial artist tournament fighter who was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder.
@@PolykineticsFit Which martial arts styles do you use?
@@Marius-vw9hp My background is in Taekwondo.
@@PolykineticsFit cool. Some Tae kwon do guys at my gym. They are really good at kicking.
This guy really knows what he is doing. I have been depressed ever since some time after I had entered puberty (I am 35 now) and lacking a sense of meaning has been the most diffcult challenge to overcome and the most wicked anchor which has kept dragging me down whenever I have almost come out of it. And I am Korean and do not understand what he is saying 100%, but the message came across straight through my heart...I am afraid I will develop another addiction from today. I hope everything is fine for everyone.
So lovely and so true. Your English is perfect. Regardless if you developed a new addiction, I hope you are doing well 6 months later. This man and videos on STOICISM will forever change your life. This coming from a fellow puberty (12/13) depressed person in their 30s lol
@@colfol231 Do you mean STOICISM videos done by Jordan Peterson...? Or Stoicism in general....? If in general if you have time please list some which helped you. Thank you. :)
You're English is great btw
Hope you are living and learning and finding meaning in even the so-called smallest things in life.
Sincerely,
A stranger
Hope you are doing well.
I remember when I was severely depressed and first stumbled upon Jordan Peterson. The man planted a thought in me, "Can I actually live a good life? Can I actually be happy?". I found out it was possible. The reason I now start the day with a smile, looking forward to everything is because of this man. God bless him.
This comment made me so happy
@@user-ti2ph6qb1y yup, me too
Can I ask what you did to make changes?
@@Billiebear204 I started with the things that were really small but mattered to me. For example instead of some off brand shampoo, I’d deliberately buy a top end one so everytime I take a shower I’d remind myself that I bought smth nice for myself. Then I started exercise. Also started small. My goal was to go to the gym. Didn’t matter if I broke a sweat or not. Just went, did what I could for that day whether it be one pushup or a full workout and went home.
My point is, I made myself commit to things that were so small, they were laughably achievable. And it all snowballed.
I wish the best for you too.
When he said "you do what you need to get better" I cried like the first time I was told as a real person that it wasn't my fault I felt the things I did. Hearing the things you need to hear hurts sometimes.
I've had depression for 10 years, I started a new medicine last month that finally has started to help.
Yay!!!
great to hear that! Grab his book 12 rules for life, there are more of such wisdom nuggets, and the overall book is a really interesting conversation, he's very personal and gives you plenty to think about, in the best sense.
I hope you'll overcome whatever is your struggle :)
Good for you! It genuinely makes me happy to hear that. I can relate with you a lot. I'm really glad I finally found a community that I can somewhat relate to.
@@Messier31NGC224 I hope things go well for you. My medicine has helped so much, I've got hobbies, I'm going out with friends, I'm back at school, I'm exercising, I went spearfishing for the first time this week and conquered a fear. Jordan Peterson didn't save my life, but he gave me a reason to live. I wish you all the best and hope you can live your best life.
God Bless You. I have had Major Depressive Disorder for most of my life. The last five years its kicked my butt. I know where your coming from...
I used to be the "over achiever" and was known for my work ethic. I feel worthless now...I pray you will get better...
Jordan actually did save my life I have had pretty server depression for a long time and I saw this video and thought why not hear what this dude has to say I was already a fan and knew he was smart so I gave it a go and I'm so glad I did because his advice works and i'm talking from the perspective of someone that was at the lowest of lows I had no job no family no romantic relationship no place to call home ect and what he said about putting these little practices into place slowly changed things for me and so I would fully recommend to anyone that has depression to take his advice on board get a routine eat enough sleep enough do not make things more complicated than they need to be do not do anything that could add to the misery you already feel that is out of you're control challenge yourself if you are agreeable try being disagreeable and do it all one tiny step at a time and see how much it changes in the longrun! Now I can get out of bed and want to do things that make me happy finally I have had a stable relationship the healthiest I have ever had for a little while now I am doing a job I love and I have my own place it is never to late to turn anything around.
Yeah it's not too late for people to turn there life around. Also it's important to forgive your self. We gotta have mercy on ourselves.
@@heavymetaldoherty1375 true
Tim Richardson meds’ ent for everyone and they weren’t for me they may however work for you but meds only do so much you do also have to put in the work yourself
Tim Richardson I’m very sorry to hear about your loss I also have had losses in my life that only added to my already bad mental health the problem is when your already down losses are going to be much harder to overcome to the point you might even want to kill yourself the aim is to be able to get strong enough to deal with the suffering life throws at you such as a the death of a close one and so again I really recommend all of Jordan’s advice that I lined out in my post best of luck to you man I hope you over come your depression and anxiety like I did
Very pleased to read Your thoughts Cara. It is encouraging when feeling down to think about Life from another's perspective. Grateful . ThankYou. Stephen
After hearing "If you're sick, you have to treat it" I was in tears for the rest of this talk/compilation. This really hit home.
Amelia Nelson - Do you feel depressed?
Geez the infantilization of our culture is depressing
@@CoercedJab it's also insane what can change in a year though! Wouldn't catch myself posting anything like this now, couldn't even recall typing it tbh. At the time it did hit home for me cuz I knew I had to address things that were hard to face. I looked/look up to JP alot, him saying that drove it home for me.
What you mean by infantilization?
@@CoercedJab No body, no brains.
For those of you out there battling demons alone, you are so strong for that and your life will amount to so much beauty one day and you will be stronger than ever. Your worth so much more than you feel in the moment, God bless you and your family 💜
@Proper Psychology Here you are again with your terrible advice! You a sadist?
I’ve been depressed for what feels like an eternity. This guy comforts and understands me
Me too ❤
I hope you feel better!
@@abigailramkissoon7038 I hope you feel better
@@moreyoandinoruiz6833 i do thank you! I wish you all the best in life may you have a healthy and happy life!!!
@@tianalasoretti7954 🙏🏽🙏🏽
What I got from each seminar:
1) if you need/have medication take it
2) figure out a healthy way to solve a problem instead of jumping to the worst case scenario
3) give yourself/body a schedule your mood will be much better regulated
4) don’t come after yourself so hard, work hard as much as the future is secured, come out of your routine every so often, life is a rats nest of misery and it can be tragedy but not hell
5) you have to be a fool if you want to be a master if you’re not willing to be a fool then you’re not gonna be a master, it’s part of the course it’s not indication that you failed it’s indication tat it’s really hard, the fact that you’re full of faults doesn’t mean you stop or you can’t learn.
A rats nest of misery.
This helps. Thanks!
Amazing, good job with listing this down 👍😃
thanks
So basically everything that we already know?
I’ve never heard someone speak that makes such perfect sense every sentence and I want to hear every word.
Yes yes. His one liners string together to form volumes.
Depression can also be something positive - a way your mind has of telling you to change your lifestyle or get rid of the toxic people from your life. Listen to your depression. Sort through things and figure out what you need to do. Get moving. Your mind wants to give you peace.
Love this comment. I will absolutely take this advice ty
This comment made me smile, thankyou 😊
Very wise! Love this so much! 💜
I'm glad you mentioned the medical intervention. I was a 30 yearl old woman in hospital and so depressed that I hung myself. I was found and resuscitated and went on to receive ECT treatments. It took years for the doctors to find the right medication cocktail for me. They succeeded and after 12 years of agony and insomnia, I came back to life. I went back to work and could socialize again and despite the hell I went through, I feel only gratitude.
God bless you
Hehas work for you to reach out to others in same boat.
God bless you
@onetwo19, please share the medication cocktail that has finally worked for you🙏
Honestly, when you asked, "are you as educated as you are intelligent" I started to cry. I've never asked myself this before and it hit home hard. Thank you for always being so to the point.
That got me too. I started crying.
Yes my ears pricked up , I love this.
I started seeking outside ways of learning because of how expensive college is. Watching RUclips, reading, finding people to train me, etc, was probably one of the best decisions I ever made.
I'm bored out of my mind when I'm not learning...
This resonated with me too!!! Such a critical point
@@me_rio_sola thats awesome. Extremely inspiring to someone like me grappling with whether or not I can finish college and if its for me.
I lost my husband to cancer 1 year ago. I didn't realize how depressed I was. I can't go to a job turn them down, make excuses to do things. Just talked to Dr yesterday and he will up meds. Hope this works and my son turned me on to these videos. Like them so far
I hope you are doing a little better, that is a horrible thing to go through
I hope each day brings you even a nano-sliver of something that looks like peace, friend. That is a gut punch of the highest order. Be nice to yourself and don't compare your grief process to anyone else's. I bet your husband visits you every day, as a kooky squirrel or curious sparrow or an arms-out, gimme-a-hug tree. Keep on the lookout for signs in nature. He's saying hi.
you'll get there Renee, you just need time.
If you're really listening to Jordan and truly wish to change what's wrong in life, Jordan Peterson can save your life
All the best, hope you find your way out... I dove in this particular hole when my father died. Stayed there for 2 years... Didn't do anything. Slept 18-20 hours a day... would have gone for the rest of the day too. If not for my surroundings. In retrospect really happy about ppl around me.. Not at the time tho. ..
Still have trouble motivating myself today (18 years later), I manage to hold a job (barely, but I do). Just going through the motions because I'm supposed to. Again, hope you find your way.
I can listen to Jordan Peterson all day long...such logic, such knowledge
This
Indeed. Having depression, he gives a lot of good advice.And I feel better knowing someone has good advice for us. As all my kids have some form of depression as well. This video & all his videos on on depression have been life saving.
Me too, he has a pile of common sense down to earth logic and wisdom, and is a humble man without his head in the clouds
I love him and would say the same but I have to stop at intervals to process my own personal insanity. His formulas are genius, heartbreaking and glorious.
This man is a treasure. I spent most of my life suffering in silence and he provided an extremely bright light for the damaged souls such as myself.
Hiring a psychologist is not your thrill, Rube. Listening to fuckups works, Cupcake?
@Proper Psychology Having fun keeps depression away, cuz the miserable hate fun and laughter? You must be proud of spreading gloom, Cupcake!
👍
me too
Jordan Peterson saved me, because of him after my life fell apart, my fiancee left me for another man, and I was losing myself, I found him and his book, and he has helped me start to drag myself out of the depths. Its not easy and I still have bad days but because of him, i have started the long climb back up. Thank you JP, and if i can do it any one can.
If you are a woman, thank God he left you before you had children with him and then he left. Also, you could never have made him happy, his problem no yours.
@@rodgerhempfing2921 it was a rough time but I'm doing okay now. I am a man, and still very happy I didnt have children with her! Still some bad days but I'm in a happy relationship with someone who cares, and solid in my career. I also make my bed!!
Beautifully written post
Which book is that?
@@laurafeher9694 thank you so much. It came right out of my heart.
I got roughly 11mins in and felt my eyes start to well. I wish I had someone like him in my early life.
I feel you brother, I was about 8 mins in after he described what depression was like and felt the same thing.
And grateful that he's here now
I made it until he started talking about relationships and generalization and how generalizations hurt depressed people and how it fuels their depression. I get told " you always do that" and it makes me feel useless in this world.
You do, US the comments. We're all here together.
👍
Right away you see he's a special professor: he speaks looking at every student, interacting deeply with them, he conveys his passion for the subject, his profound knowledge.
Imagine him being on your side like a therapist!? wow
He is.
Doesn't matter how good the therapist or coach is if you don't apply the lessons.
i would fight him all day every day because there is a part of me a large one that doesnt need any help even if its wrong,also fighting (verbaly always)is revealing me how dedicated is the person is that tries to help you. because some1 offers help doesnt mean u dont have to question him/she,hell even hitler thought he was going to build a better world, and trust me the difference between u,me and hitler is just a snaping moment
ψυχασθενης bullshit.. no one owes u anything.. if your trying to make it hard for someone to help u.. he will just leave you..
ψυχασθενης the difference between you me and hitler is you’ve been smoking too much marijuana and think you’re badass
I have watched over a hundred hours of Dr Peterson, and still I am continually amazed at his genius
I am on a mission to watch every minute. My life is improving at a steady rate....
On anti-depressants:
"Try this man, maybe you won't cut your throat in the next month because if you're dead it's going to be hard to work with you"
I love this guy :)
He speaks re himself using antidepressants sometimes so i love his soft admission here regarding suicidal thoughts but remaining in a lecturer stance n discourse
So spot on. Who can help me if I’m dead ! Love his lectures
antidepressant does not work, it may repress your emotions, but most likely it won't help. There are better drugs out there that help a lot of peoples, but sadly they're illegal.
Facts, dude.
Oh I know!! I cracked up!!! He's great!
He gave everything to us. And life almost did him in because his strength was given to us. Shame on those who seek to destroy him and his family.
@Proper Psychology We create our own darkness when we resist our own light. 💜
Like Ana Kasparian who who called him a creep.
"It's the unnecessary misery that really brings you down."
🤙 right
One could argue that all misery is unnecessary
I agree!
If you combine Dr Peterson's achievements in the field of clinical psychology with his courageous stance against postmodernism and identity politics, he is one of the outstanding people alive today. I would love to see him nominated for a Nobel prize or some equally serious recognition of the work he does to make the world a better place.
We need more Jordan Petersons in this world and fewer ignorant, mendacious, malevolent and narcissistic postmodernist fools.
as much as i like Dr. Peterson, i don't think that he's close to receiving a Nobel Prize anytime soon. His work is remarkable and the quality of his speech his up there with other geniuses but in my honest opinion i don't think that he has found anything groundbreaking as in discovering something that would re-write the laws of psychology as to where he'd be a keystone in the evolution of pyschology itself. He's extremely verbal, passionate and thorough in his work which is hard to find in any person.
Don't talk about postmodernism if you don't actually know what it encompasses. It's not just a buzzword.
Hey, if you wanna talk about things you don't understand and make an ass of yourself, go for it.
JP doesn't have many original ideas at all, he's a great portal to linking different concepts together and putting it into something that people can comprehend at large though. So incredible to listen to but not Nobel prize worthy
The foundation of his lectures is Jungian psychoanalysis which is completely unscientific yet he's somehow a hero for opposing postmodernism? That's like the pot calling the kettle black. Exactly who are these horrible 'postmodernist fools' you're referring to?
At the apex of my life, my Dad died suddenly, not unexpected but suddenly. It has been a tough road, a depressing trial, yet I'm still here. May God bless you to persevere! There are other lives which you need to influence!
I am sorry for the loss of your father and your rough time. I hope you survived the holidays. Your last sentence struck a nerve rather sharply and I guess that is why I decided to comment. Yes, I think it is wise to think not of self in dark times but to think of what you can do for others. I came to listen to Peterson but your words turned my day around. Thanks.
So sorry for your loss. Same for me. My dad was diagnosed with cancer just as I was learning to manage my depression - which I'd had for 25 years. In 4.5 months he was gone. The grief really messed me up. But I figured out I was messed up in the first place cuz I'm on meds I don't need to be on that screwed up my head!! All I've ever wanted to do is get better so I can help people like me. Peer counseling.
Peace and blessings to you.
Well done brother
hey peterson, i wrote u at my lowest. ive risen. alot of it is from listening to you. thank you. u saved a life
Keep up the hard work!!
¡This paragraph made me blow my mind!:
"Even if you had the best opportunity, in your incomplete form, the probability that you see it as an opportunity is 0".
Someone please explain it to me!
@@jdxiong i suppose the interpretation has to be subjective.
Mine is: as long as your form to get enrolled or admitted for the bests of opportunities is 'incomplete', the probability of you realizing what an opportunity it is is 0.
@@jdxiong a severely depressed person wouldn’t be able to identify a situation as a opportunity for themselves as they have no hope, or meaning, to have opportunity you need a goal, as well as some hope.
profound
"Are you as educated as you are intelligent?" 02:25 That line is so perfectly said and comes across as genuine and not snarky. Wow.
That one hit me pretty hard...
@Donny Etta People have varying types of intelligence. Pretty much why everyone struggles but not everyone struggles with the same thing. Even just self awareness is a type of intelligence. Being aware of how what you do affects the world isn't the same as mastering a certain type of math or engineering machines that make other machines. However everyone is smart at something, the hard part is filling in the gaps in your own intelligence.
Maybe you might not be aware of your emotional intelligence but it still exists. This is why certain things are obvious to some and not to others. It's all the things we are good at and things we need practice on.
I'm a prior service U.S. Marine...grew up in Detroit city and in the foster care system. Recently I started working with therapy through the VA for PTSD and depression. I kicked that can down the road for years. I didn't want to talk about stuff because "men dont do that" you deal with it quietly and as a Black man I always heard that therapy was something only rich White people did (I understand the history behind that idea now)
Basically I started going to therapy because I had a moment where I woke up from sleep and grabbed my wife's hand as she was stroking my beard and couldn't figure out where I was...that could have been my daughter...she's 6 and I couldn't forgive myself if I'd grabbed her little hand like that. I got to the point where I had to admit that I've been fighting since I was a kid and since I was 14 I've been tired of living, I'm 35 and been tired of living over half of my life.
I went to get help because I don't want to self terminate (and I constantly fight that shadow) and leave my daughter with that burden...I dont want her to say "my father didn't love me enough to get help" or "my father was too proud to ask for help" I told my wife that I didn't have anything else to give anyone...I needed to help myself. It's only been a few weeks. But I finally said yes to the medication and counseling, I'm going to stick with it.
So if anyone else that's dealing with things...find a reason to move forward. Even if it's just to feel better about yourself. Always forward, you aren't alone.
Read Dr Gabor Mate if you really want to to understand muti generational trauma..Mate is one of the great minds today. He is all over RUclips Just Like Jordan
we always hide the things that need to be said the most. I`m proud u are able to slowly move forward. May the great thinkers of today help u with that! bless!
Stay strong my man, my life is totally different from yours but I'm pretty much in a similar situation: around 40 years old and starting a new journey with the help of therapy, some anti depressant and couple therapy. I want to build a new career as self employed from zero after covid years obliterated my old job.
We can do it. Let's be proud of ourselves and keep working. Bless you
I see a lot of myself in what you shared. It gets better, when you don't give up. And I didn't have to get into a cult or become a monk, although it could've worked. This is going to get lengthy, but I just don't know how to put 12 years of limbo, and, at some point, logically considering to relieve the world of myself, in two sentences.
For the lack of a better word, at this point down the line, I imagine it as walking in the dark. A few people hear you and flash lights from their paths - with short blinks or longer flares, you never know. You might just hear their voices, but no light would come through. Those lights and voices can't be steady, lighting up and going out, because each person has their own path to walk - learn to appreciate it. But this is how we make sense of things - if you were to walk silently, no one would ever know. Let your voice echo through this expanse, and people may flash a few navigation lights, if they can. Even through time, music, books, videos, and ages past.
Ultimately, no matter what they say - it is only you who can walk your path - no matter who walks by, this path is only yours and can't be shared. It can only be parallel.
The road appears under the steps of the one who walks. Walk it, Rodrick, it's worth it. If only I could put all my conviction and experience into this sentence, so that it would be more than just a fancy phrase.
Medication is there to provide you with a cane, but it can't walk you - it's there to help you stop the self-narrating cycle.
You have to drop the cane some day - aim for that.
A therapist is a cane of another sort - this person is not there to heal you, but to nudge you towards right questions and ways of thinking you never considered before. Because you can only heal yourself, and that's the truth.
We are the stories we tell ourselves, after all. The things you make matter to yourself.
At some point, you'll most likely realize, that it's been dark all this time, because you had your eyes closed. And sometimes you have to close them, to think - it's not the enemy. You've just done it too much. Your thoughts are an estimation. But when you don't see the answer, it doesn't mean that the answer doesn't exist. You just don't see it. Accept it as a fact of life, and set sail - maybe you'll see it from over there. Most of the time, you will. Or you'll realize you had the wrong question in mind. Our brain is not one thing, it's a multi-dialogue thing converging at the top of what you call "yourself". You can't know what those dialogues are, subconscious is a closed hood covering the engine - but you have to discipline it all in one general direction. What we think our thought is - is the tip of the iceberg.
It's worth taking the waves of emotions for what they are - waves. Welcome them, and know they will pass, don't play their game.
Don't consider yourself an enemy - your previous steps led you to this, steps you couldn't see. So, the struggle is there to educate you, and help transition to something better than ever was. You have all the strength, you'd ever need.
You cannot imagine the turn of the road, until you've seen one.
Take it from a guy who lurched and seen the full spectrum, from the rock bottom - you can transform your life to what you can hardly imagine now. And, most importantly, be a positive influence in other people's lives. It should come naturally, without effort.
As a side note, consider this advice I can give, which I consider being a big help for me some time ago: muster whatever motivation you can, and do sports activities. Just running can go a long way. Swimming is great for taking an edge off.
Do something for your mind. I have personally discovered that applied sciences are the best for bringing order into your style of thinking. Sometimes I joke that "I started doing "meth", when I mean Mathematics. You have to understand that it's not something I ever enjoyed, I would've laughed if you said something like this to me about 8 years ago. Music helped a great deal, when I started - I picked up learning how to play the guitar. It was painful (literally) and upsetting in the beginning, today I can play Moonlight Sonata and hoping to have time to learn the piano and the flute some day.
Try karting or go sailing (which is perfect as it's requires your mind as much as a body), go for a few sessions of bow shooting.
Don't drink and don't smoke. Find other ways to cope, which can be harder to get into initially - but are more positive for you.
Look at the people who have less than you, and are happier than you - you can learn and get motivated from that. Appreciate who you are right now, and welcome what's ahead of you.
I wish you well
It takes a ton of courage to come to this realization and then share it, you got this, wishing you and your family nothing but the best man.
Dr Peterson is one of the most honest person I have heard. He speaks from the heart and admits his own pitfalls. He has a great amount of Wisdom, most people do not even know what wisdom is. I pray blessing upon his family. I admire his sincerity to want to help people.
I shed a tear on very dark days listening to JP because it's touching to know someone out there understands. Thanks for saving me so many times youll never know.
Now I have the goal to win the opportunity to talk to this man face to face and say how much I appreciate him for saving my life from depression. This man was in the right place to make my life straight and I can't express how grateful I am for it.
You will never WIN an opportunity to talk to him.
If it's really a goal, you will work towards it, and EARN the opportunity.
When you GET the opportunity, and you don't waste it, that's when you WIN. Make it matter.
Best of luck, and much love. Thank you for commenting. Stay strong!
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
He popped into my life at just the right point too, but I wasn't properly listenining to him. I missed the opportunity and now my life is pure hell and I don't know how I can go on.
It was only after everything fell apart that I started listening to him properly (not reading the crap about him online or superficially watching clips) and realized he was EXACTLY WHO AND WHAT I NEEDED in 2018.
If I had listened to JP in 2018 I would have my family (would-have-been wife and daughter). I would have improved relations with my parents and siblings and extended family. I would be working. I would be protecting my family during this worst phase of the pandemic.
Instead I am living in an untenable situation, with no money, my health demolished and unable to do anything about it.
I am in the worst possible hell I can imagine.
I am trying to find a way out of this that doesn't involve suicide.
@@murkartik please don't give up, I feel for you, I hope good things and money come your way. I wish I was in a position to do something real other than words, but know this, I care about you.
@@paulaw9764 Thank you buddy, and you too.
The fact that anyone would try to disparage this guy as a mean hateful person is so upsetting to me. He's helped millions of people. I have both of his books and he's really helped with my depression in real tangible ways. I can unequivocally say this man has helped at the very least 1 person from committing suicide - we should be cherishing him for what he brings.
Kindly, what are the names of the books?
He lost people for being a trans sceptic and criticising queer theory. He was also quite feisty on twitter
@@leigh7507 rightfully so. you really support these people that believe a man can be pregnant? ffs
Make that 2.
I'm depressed ever since I got into a security analyst & assurance job and 5 months in, I'm so terribly depressed again and I'm spiraling out of control.
Only not yet eating lead cause I don't live in the USA 🇺🇸
I love that even though he was so deep in that lecture, he addressed that dude's question so quickly and enthusiastically, what an awesome professor
what he said around 7:10 - 8:00 is spot on, i've suffered with severe depression most my life and he really nailed that point home. Every slight failure is like being hit by a truck; it makes your entire roadmap collapse and corrupts your core values to the point where you're unwilling to help yourself AND puts you at risk of intentionally sabotaging yourself. It's rough.
Yep
I'm going through this now, and I feel that I'm on a road to self destruction. I am conscious of the path I'm on and where it goes and ends and also know its preventable but at the same time feel as if I'm pushing myself intentionally there.
I have tried so hard to be happy, successful and until now I have "taken the knocks on the chin" all my life with failure and have brushed it off with ease. Most of my dedication was to my work as a builder because I used to and to some degree still enjoy it, not so long ago I took on a huge project and gave my soul to it only for it to fail catastrophically. The fail was not caused by me but by the customers son, and then becoming aggressive to me. The next big kick was the covid lockdowns, no financial assistance was available, 7 months later the debt compounded matters more. This was a real low point for me, I distanced myself from my family more and more due to the feeling of shame. And then a light in the tunnel was visible, and could return to work but on the 2nd day back and just agreeing a contract, but my vehicle was destroyed by a person not paying attention. Since then I am out all hours, getting further into debt with no end in sight and on the verge of bankruptcy. I have a young son that I love with all my heart ❤ but my inner shame, disappointment, anxiety and lack of self worth is crippling me from even being a good father. I feelbi have no one to share this with, even though I know there are people who care for me but the admission of this to them is impossible for me to do and the most painful thing is that I fully realise it. I have always believed in reaching out for help, but until now I never appreciated why some don't. I hope anyone feeling the same finds inner peace and happiness.
@@bambam-cm8we I know you may not understand this straight away.. This is just now.. you have done great work for many more years than these events. You have amazing skills other people don't.. more on that later. Reaching out has to happen at times, family, friends, churches, charities. We too in Sydney LGAs are in lock down.. builders were allowed out again this week. I am off work due to the actions of someone else and I now have to seek help. I am learning skills on RUclips and of course watching this brilliant psychologist. I would love to see your lectures and demonstrations on building on RUclips or a learning platform. Enjoy your son, my parents protected me from a major recession and played with me, read to me etc.. how amazing that you have family.. and I think as a child even if we had lived in a car I would have seen it as an adventure. We grew up poor for most of my life and that is enough for now. You are a builder and it may be hard, you can rebuild. When I lose my job due to how I've been treated after 15 years, I will have to get a lower paid job, with old references .. and try to study to re skill myself.. while trying to pay my way and keep up with medical bills because Medicare and health insurance doesn't cover specialists, teeth and there is always something needs maintenance.. you will get there.. perhaps you can trust a good smart friend or counsellor with a budget and a plan so you are ready. In the meantime enjoy the small things, they will not hold hard times against you .. at that age I didn't know the difference but I was lucky I had my loving parents and love and fun.. so just be there... and people do start again.. they often don't talk about it till you get to know them..
Well let’s see I have this and this and this and that with some of this to do today . … but that couch looks so good for a 5 hour nap mid day on Saturday and Sunday as well . So no time to do anything I need to do .
bummer wish I had
more time ! My life sucks but is great . I’m a well adjusted high achievement failure most days 😀
this video made me call a psychiatrist and make an appointment; even though i have crippling anxiety just to pick up the phone.. thank you dr. peterson, youre a lifesaver
did the meds help?
Lost my job, my savings, my house, my wife (now ex) had an affair, I broke and had an affair, divorced, and am now putting myself back together. It’s hard.
try to remind yourself 5 things:
- it wasn’t done TO you, it was done FOR you. difficult times are meant to make you stronger
- don’t allow yourself to give energy to things out of your control and don’t allow yourself to live in the past
- always keep your self respect, the best revenge is always bettering yourself and your life
- absolutely no matter what happens in life, you are always worthy of and capable of abundance, success, happiness and respect
- even if it doesn’t feel like it, you can always choose to be happy
life hurts sometimes, best of luck my friend.
I'm right there with you
I don’t know you but I wish you well and you’ll come back to this comment years from now and see this dark time was actually a gift.
That's rough bud.
It's great that you recognize what is going on in your life.
Don't forget to mention how things may have gotten there by your own hand...
He seems to know how people in general think about themselves. He explains things in a way that you just get it, and can use what he's telling you to help yourself. Very informative, thank you.
The way he expresses himself, the clarity of his thought process. The more you listen to what Jordan has to say, whether in interviews with terrible interviewers or during his lectures, the more you learn and respect him.. Thankfully RUclips makes it possible for people on the other side of the globe (like myself) to see these videos
Imagine having the opportunity to be in his class and listen to him speak every day. No chance you won't come out a slightly better and more intelligent person each time.
I think for me the worst part of depression is the people around you don't want to be around you when you're in those depressive states. Which is understandable but it seems to make everything worse when you feel bad and know the people you love the most don't enjoy being around you. Nobody wants to be sad but people treat you like it's a choice you're making. It's so lonely inside our minds.
So glad I'm not the only one who feels this way
What should I say to someone who is depressed? I dont want to hurt anyone.
@@avivastudios2311 im honestly not sure i use anger its much easier than breaking down people have no idea they just think im moody i wouldnt know what id like someone to say maybe just empathy but thats extremely rare these days
It’s a double sided coin. I don’t want to be around others due to my behaviors but also don’t want to be left alone. I already feel completely left alone, abandoned, left for dead when depressed. Hoping to make new changes if I can figure out what. I have an insomnia problem for one. God bless all of you reading and suffering from depression and what all else.
"The Worst Part Of Having A Mental Illness Is People Expect You To Behave As If You Don't"
- Arthur Fleck
Its been two years since my last relationship working hard as a struggling academy teacher and living by myself in another country with no friends. I have to say its always the small things in life that make it all worthwhile. Depression tends to open your eyes to all those things and makes you realise youre not doing too badly afterall. Keep fighting. Keep loving.
Mate how did you get through this? Ive just been dumped, in a strange country with no friends no job living in a hotel and I cant seem to find any little things that make it okay right now.. sorry if this is personal.. guess I’m looking now for a friend in RUclips comments now. Le Sigh
@@kfrisch6811 damn you ok?
@@kfrisch6811 Hope things have changed for you since you made this comment. Or at least found yourself back home. Definitely a time of hardship in all countries. I'm in my late 20's now and have never experienced people wanting me around. I haven't been on a date in almost 10 years. Parents never encouraged or supported me or even told me if they love me. But at least I have a job I guess. Not something I love. I'm like a walking zombie with no direction. Just living.
Take care bro
Dr. Peterson has honestly has helped turn my life around. This is something that is rare to find in any university today.
That's because they don't want you to think for yourself anymore
Jordan Peterson is such a wonderful, encouraging, inspiring human being.
This is so true. When you are depressed every single bad thing, how minor it migjt be can make you feel like you are worthless. This really hit me badly. I have been severly depressed for the past 6 years. Tried to commit suicide once. Now I am a little better but still not well. Hopefully some people can relate and we can help each other. God bless and thank you Dr. Peterson.
hey, how are you man? i hope you are ok. yeah, depression can absolutely destroy someones life. but, if you stay alive, you still have a chance to turn the table. i can relate, and i have to say, i am not the perfect person to say that, but still, i am way better then i was one day. so just keep it man. work hard on yourself, on your mental health. sending love to you from Brazil.
Hi bro ! I hope that you are doing better .. Based on my experience I always turn back to God my faith is so strong than I can’t think of giving up so we need to trust God and this is only a phase and it shall pass hold on to ur faith and be strong it takes time and will … Always remember that our God does not burden any soul with more than it can bear.. Have faith and bear patience . I wish you all the best
He’s hitting everything right on the nose for me. I haven’t had my life together at all since High School. I haven’t found my purpose, I’ve been working low-entry jobs for years, I’ve been depressed since 2017. I’m 24 now. I never wanted to try antidepressants because I wanted to solve my own problems. It’s not working, and I am on a chaotic downward spiral to nothing. I bit the bullet, and have my first antidepressants on the way. I quit marijuana, working on nicotine addiction, and don’t drink. I could be worse off, I know that. But everybody has personal struggles.. I need to make major changes to my life if I want to find purpose and happiness.
Make your life about others and not yourself. You will then see your purpose
I hope that you are still moving "forthrightly". Godspeed.
I’ve been there and once I accepted I couldn’t fix it I took the tablets got rid of the smoke drink and crap and am now finally getting the clear headed enthusiasm to make better choices … you’re on the right track don’t give up … you may find you have to try a few tablets to find the right mix for you 💪😎
This man, like all men, will die someday. We are enriched he loves to talk so much. And it's been recorded. Long live the King.
I've heard so much smack about Mr. Peterson so started listening to his videos. I'm genuinely confused why. I'm a liberal woman and I'm becoming quite the fan. Seems like an intelligent man with much to offer.
You heard alot of smack because of the main stream media
They like to twist things so they can fit their own agenda
They got a narrative to push so they can win political power
Dont believe the media
Exactly. Question the naysayers.
Yes. Mr. Peterson is right on, in his analytical explanation on how we function as society and as human beings, but still think his personal standpoint is conservative and old school, but nothing wrong with that.
I've found myself to be in the same boat as you. After watching a video about Dr. Peterson on Baggage Claim's channel I started seeking out his videos, interviews, lectures and whatever I could. I'm happy I looked past what was being said and looked into this guy myself. My eyes and mind are open a little wider these days, hoping to continue that trend.
Because critical thinking isn’t a strong-suit for liberals lol
Its time to make some changes in my life. Im going to get out of a toxic relationship and learn to love myself.
His body language is an incredible addition to his teaching
While listening to this the girl I'm into texted back. Little bit later in the conversation with this video on the background I found out I just got a date for the first time.
I came here having the impression I'll never succeed and will never give a chance. Right now all that matters is that tomorrow I have a place to go with someone. It doesn't matter if it won't go well... I just made a huge step just by going out tomorrow. Thank you for showing us that eventually everybody deserves a reward at some point.
Whoop how did it go
How's it going, king?
@@jimbob3708 She's my current GF. It's going well.
Thanks for asking ;)
@@randygraham7966 We are together, everything is going well so far :D
@@catalinfistis good on you, keep it cool
If you're truly engaged in Peterson's message, the music is not overly loud
Kryma right..didnt even know there was music until people mentioned it. Those people werent fully engaged
Then why are you having to mention it?
Or you know...maybe people are just observant? And you GOTTA lie if you say you can't hear the music
Lol I am thinking “what music” 😂
Sounds like shoegaze
2021 was the hardest, darkest time of my life. I was physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually BROKEN. But now I feel genuinely GRATEFUL and BLESSED that I had to go through that phase because GOD has graciously REVEALED Himself to me in miraculous ways. I am fortunate that He allowed me to know Him at a very young age, but this year is so much SPECIAL because of what WE (yes, GOD and me) have been through last year. He showed me how POWERFUL prayers truly are when I started to focus on WHO HE IS rather than who I am, on WHAT HE CAN DO rather than what I deserve. The experience was MAGICAL. He showed up BIG TIME and assured me that HE is indeed a LISTENING and RESPONDING GOD. Oh how my faith has skyrocketed as a result! Now more than ever, I have very bright HOPE for my future because I experienced first hand how RELIABLE God is. And for that I will forever be grateful. GLORY BE TO GOD, MY EVER FAITHFUL FATHER. ♥️♥️♥️
To everyone who's struggling right now, please know that JESUS LOVES YOU. HE DIED FOR YOU. He wants to help you and give you peace. Please surrender your burdens to Him and allow Him to move in your life.
"Because he loves Me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges My Name. He will call on Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him." (Psalm 91:14-15)
Please hold on to this bible verse because WHATEVER GOD SAYS, HE FULFILLS. ✝️
Which god?
There's only One.
God bless you
I am not right wing nor Republican. Jordan appeals to my moral intellect and my hearts desire to do good. In his lectures he confirms my understanding of meaning, knowledge that he accumulated from other people's writings and other people's experiences.
i realised a couple of days back that my "distain" for JP originated from the idea i had of him, mainly the one created by his "vocal" and political audience.
Having set that aside i now realise what an absolute truckload of knowledge this man can bring.
The more you listen to him, the more you are unsure of his political leanings. I'm also not right wing, but I can listen to him all day
He's absolutely right, depression affects families just as bad as the individual.
When I'm depressed and suicidal I could care less because I've been down that road many times before...
But when my friends and family see me in a dark place, pushing them away they get confused.
They get upset and don't understand, what is going on.
It feels awful indirectly hurting the ones that you love.
I wish I had this man's public speaking skills... His articulation, his body language, eye contact, everything... perfect.
His kermit voice?
I burst into tears at several points in this video. I've watched it several times and it's been so helpful. God bless JP.
Me: “This video looks like it will help my depression”
1 minute in: “everyones life is a tragedy”
🙂
That information did truly help me with my inner sadness
Feel that everone suffering some level of pain every single day
Time and suffering are measured the same way, by ones perception of it. Perhaps the people that you think are living it up can’t be be as happy as you think because to not have felt true loss or pain gives you appreciation for the good times based on ones perception. One day at a time.
Just keep muddering along… Winston Churchill
@john knusson that's a little too forward. It's easy to get stuck in your head and perceive your struggles as some of the worst you can imagine until you know how good you really have it
@john knusson ?
It's crazy, he is juste describing the exact fellings I have. I'm lucky that this guy exist. It's help me a lot to get trough these dark days to find the light at the end.
You are an ignorant dumbfuck who listens to fuckups. Having fun keeps depressing folks away from you, Rube. Like duhh!!
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Keep up the hard work!! Don't stop, you got this!
"The sense of meaning is actually an instinct that orients people in time and space... It is the most fundamental form of perception."
So beautiful. 10:36
To whomever put this together:
I deal with, sometimes crippling, depression on a daily basis. This video has helped me so much! I watch it from time to time when I can't pull myself out of the void.. Thank you.
Keep plugging away, stranger. You're worth it to someone out there.
Good bless. Keep going.
Get the David Burns books
I started smoking when l was 19, it's been 8yrs now. Started trying to quit about 4yrs ago but all with no win. Listened to all audios l could to no good result till l meet this guy. Today is my 4th day smoke free. I don't even feel the graving or the anxiety. This guy for sure saves lives. My future kids will always be grateful to you. Thank God for this guy.
Celebrate your ongoing strength
hope youre still going strong!
I believe in you. Keep changing it.
I've spent the last 6 years of my life working to change my perception to fight my depression and PTSD, because even during my lowest times I didn't truly desire death. I just wanted to stop feeling like that. Those two things will most likely never leave me, and it's been an uphill battle that continues for me today, but I've made undeniable progress forward. Every single day I do what I can to maintain my forward momentum, even if I'm mentally crawling. These days, I wake up and no longer question why I draw breath. Instead, I wake up and am mostly ready to handle business, because who doesn't need caffeine right? Lol. Anyways, yeah. I'm here today because I realized back then that I had to at least try to change my perception so that I could not only survive, but learn to actually live.
Appreciate your candor
I had to make the commitment right away when my crisis hit. No matter how bad I will never give up. It helped me deal with the depression and never experience suicidal thoughts no matter how deep the pain was (And I thought the depression itself might kill me.)
@Alex Maximilian Hahahaha, I'm not entirely sure about that method but I appreciate the advice.
I love this. Learning how to truly ~live~ my life, as mundane or monotonous it could be - has really transformed how I view life. Appreciating small moments, living in the present... all things that aim toward a healthy relationship with myself and others
I see him, I start cleaning my room.
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I know right, lol
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I just cleaned my fridge watching this.
I did a very good job of that yesterday and the bathroom cabinets too. Bags of trash out, mind clear. Grateful
Jordan Peterson gave me the meaning of life in 3 yrs at the age of 60 that I never understood in 12 + yrs of schools . On line and his books . Thank you Jordan 😊
15:07 - This hits me SO hard. Some days I am so tired and so fed up with just everything that even eating is laborious and I skip meals. I inevitably feel like absolute dog water the next day, and I know I will, yet I still do it..
Stay strong man, if you cannot get to help yourself try to get some. We can do it
Me too, dude. Me too💗
Yeah same except i just realised that i literally study all day long and only eat a piece of crisp that's already on the table. I tried to actually cook breakfast once but nearly threw up trying to stomach it for some reason before sitting down to study. How can someone not eat much but also not be hungry??
@@ibolyakatona8192 personally I find smoking or consuming THC helps in that regard. I always attribute my lack of appetite to my chronic THC consumption, but meh.
@@loochan-o7174 thanks fam.
I absolutely love that you can get this information for free. It's insanely helpful in so many ways and those college kids are paying to learn everything this video has taught us. RUclips is such an amazing teacher ❤
He is priceless
I've suffered very bad depression and been taking medication for years. Thankfully, I've managed to move on with my life and I am doing OK now..But I will never be the same and that's something I've learned to live with. From my personal experience, I can tell you that sometimes people who suffer depression need only to hear from their family and friends 'Yes, I understand what you're going through'..That's all. That can help so much. I was screaming for a help, for someone who would listen, just listen and say those words, someone who would just understand what I was going through. But all I was hearing was ' Oh man, that;s nothing, just go out and have some fun'..Or people would simply avoid me.. So please if you have someone around who is depressed just try to understand them and support them, just say that you do understand what they are going through and then you'll see how suddenly they will want to fight against it. They will feel that they are not alone and hopeless. Depression is not just a bad mood..
Couldn't agree more. You stay strong, brother
So true. People don't understand the power of one kind word or phone call to see how you are or to give encouragement. People need people. That's it. Those that avoid you when you are down are the lowest of the low. I know. I've had to see them in my own life. And it's damaging to the soul.
Understanding is a powerful tool. It opens the mind and expands it.
I also agree, full awareness solves many problems.
Igor R I hear you. My 82 year old mother knows the names, birthdays, death dates, wedding year, etc for my extended family over four generations because she cares and listens. She has always listened well, even while CONSTANTLY interrupting! She ALWAY asks people - family, strangers, everyone - questions and she remembers their answers. She cares. She asks. She listens. She thinks about it. She remembers. Who these days spends their time doing that? We consume - constantly. I tell my three year twins that the BEST thing you can do for someone is to truly listen to them. It’s the ONE thing we all truly WANT more than anything. Thank you for sharing your experience Igor.
God Bless You Man
I never seen an educator be able to command the attention of so many people. After 18 years in school and grad school, I've never had a teacher even come close. Absolutely incredible.
this gentleman is amazing , why after 30 odd years of depression and anxiety my choice is anti depressents or anti psychotics iv seen psychiatrists, mental health nurses, cbt, but never has any of them stretched their mind like this man he gives me hope instead of thinking iv got no hope because if i dont take medications there seems to be little on offer.
This fellow is brillant, and a true gift to humanity.
I am astounded that some people feel obligated to paint him into a 'right' or 'left' corner. Just LISTEN to him, and forget about the polarization FOR ONCE.
He's a bumbling idiot.
Meredith Lincoln Thanks for your insightful comment.
@@xfreespirit1979x Hey, whats your beef,stranger? Clean your room. Good girl. Thanks ; )
It took me 3 years to try an antidepressant and it was in my epilepsy medication. Those 3 years were an absolute hell of looking at the rifle in the corner of my bedroom while trying to figure out what I could do to make my life better. Jordan Peterson didn’t fix my depression but when I was really lost having a good father figure to listen too like Jordan Peterson helped me move along. Doing much better but not done yet, this mans lectures are wonderful and I hope I have a college professor with even a smidge of the genius of this man.
As someone who's battled depression for a few years and kept it private in shame this has honestly opened my eyes a lot and made me want to get better 😊.
ME: "IDK WHAT IM DOING!!!!!!"
JORDAN: "that's where you start"
Peterson doesn't know what he's doing either except for bumbling keyword salad with a bunch of nonsense filler.
@@xfreespirit1979x start reading the psych literature and journals and you'll see he's quoting research from real scientist a lot
@@troystreacker8829 How condescending of you to assume to know my education and background. Quoting research from a "real scientist" is not the equivalent of intellect or proof of *anything". In fact, it has been found by many, many "real scientists" that JP is lying about, misusing, and manipulating quite a bit of the research he does quote from or refer to in his talks.
Shrug. Isn't that the great thing about America. everyone is allowed to have an opinion. Where you're not thrown in jail and dehumanized for no believing in the church (secular or religious) doctrine of the state. Even if JP is 20% - 80% wrong he has still helped many find a reason to question themselves and pursue better endeavors regardless of what those might be.
@@troystreacker8829 There are quite a few who would like to strip us of the right to opinions and free speech. May we all be vigilant about protecting our rights in those areas... and always striving to question ourselves, those we look up to, and evolving and growing as humans. Maybe those are some areas where we can agree. :-)