Mark H - Truth of losing connection to the 1st Step

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  • Опубликовано: 26 дек 2024

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  • @christinejohn5642
    @christinejohn5642 Год назад +100

    Mark is only carrying the message of the early pioneers of this life saving fellowship when recovery was 80 percent , our recovery today is less than 20 percent what mark “ preaches” takes discipline dedication hard work and helping others thank you mark for showing me how to live the 12 steps in my life

    • @mattymaze4088
      @mattymaze4088 Год назад +6

      This guys understanding of The Program is absolutely amazing. I can never get enough of hom!!!

    • @caltonsteven
      @caltonsteven 6 месяцев назад +4

      We have enough fear so why continue preaching more fear , everyone who said I was going to die after getting complacent over 28 years ago , are dead physically in one shape or another and I can remember my father saying if you are scared to Die then you are scared to live . Death one shape or another is natural path to disconnect and detatch from people places and thing's . This guy is sharing his experience which I respect his thoughts and experiences and ideas for his conception of the Western hemisphere understanding of ideas tennets principles and his words Disciplines which is the biggest clue to the Christian reference of ideas and beliefs which is not mine . As I write I'm in the grip of the illness of Addiction or Affliction and I don't know if I will ever get out of the woods again , if I do or if I don't I am not gathering anymore misplaced fears as I believe the steps which is suggested only and I think of the man walking with a sandwich boards around his shoulders with the saying The End is Coming so I keep a open mind and let all the nonsense trying to make sense go right on thru . . . . Too much Doom which is a pity as this guy is sharing some helpful ideas and his experience is his and only his which is not mine and that's the beauty of the fellowships it's different strokes for different folk's . . Step 2 is every day and in the past and future which is all I have Choices, my urge only last 5 minutes and if I keep my mind on something that is a different pattern then I will make it thru the urges to use. My favourite saying is If it ain't Practical then it ain't Spiritual . . . Even the old members said in the AA basic text that they have only scratched the surface of the illness and Discovery which will lead the way to the way to recover and there's so much advanced information and therapy out their to assist alongside the 12 step philosophy . Mark a good man who is trying to help me and others out their and my only critic is a tab too much Fear which is leading to Doom so let's inflame not dampen the spirit . My old guide said I will die and after 28 years later he died and how can anyone say that someone is going to Die I'm living proof I am not dead yes not as healthy as I could or would like to be and I am cool about that compared to where I was and have been over the past two decades of misery . Today I am feeling a pulse in my wrists so I am alive and I am glad for this reason for starter's. It's easy to talk about dying until you stare death in the eyes and dig deep inside somewhere to survive and stay alive . I don't ask God for anything as I have two hands two legs and feet and a brain with eyes and ears and you lot so what should I ask God for .. everything I think and feel is God given natural condition and my inside work is getting rid of misdplaced shame and guilt and ideas and beliefs. My father's word's keeps coming back if you are scared to die you are scared to Live

    • @Mandalas12
      @Mandalas12 3 месяца назад

      I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.

    • @tacomike417
      @tacomike417  3 месяца назад +3

      @@christinejohn5642 our numbers according to the Big Book are 50% of the people who came to AA and tried solved their drink problem, 25% had some slip up, came back and tried and solved their drink problem, and the remaining 25% who kept coming back improved.

    • @jeffwermuth8375
      @jeffwermuth8375 3 месяца назад

      Today... we have more of those that have been in and out in and out for yrssss.telling newcomers how to stay sober ...also telling them not to listen to them oldtimers they don't understand

  • @rwsbadabing
    @rwsbadabing 6 месяцев назад +41

    By the Grace of God and the program of AA I celebrated 1 year of sobriety 6/18/24 🙏💯. Every time I listen to Mark H I hear/learn something new I can apply to my recovery!
    I AM GRATEFUL!

    • @zd829
      @zd829 6 месяцев назад

      Ayyeee ohhh, Congratulations and God Bless! Continue forward and continue to grow spiritually in this program!

    • @y3Sound
      @y3Sound 5 месяцев назад

      Congratulations!!!!

    • @rickp3753
      @rickp3753 4 месяца назад +1

      I listened to Mark and Joe and all the others 20 years ago and never stopped. It's always been a part of my recovery. Congrats on your year!

  • @mattymaze4088
    @mattymaze4088 Год назад +24

    Mark H is without a doubt living on in the lives of many recovering people thru all his tapes. I for one appreciate these every day. Thank you Mark, Thank you AA, and thank you GOD🙏

  • @Treetopper911
    @Treetopper911 9 месяцев назад +7

    Rest in peace, Mark, you saved my life. Your words live in my mind and your memory lives in my heart. I hope that my life makes you proud. Rest in peace brother

  • @christinejohn5642
    @christinejohn5642 Год назад +32

    Mark houston and his pure dedication to helping others by carrying the original message of a a from bill w and dr Bob is saving thousands of lives I lost my beautiful daughter to this illness in July leaving me two beautiful grandchildren one 19 and 3 years old I did not plan to be a mum at 72 years of age her ex partner is in prison on a murder charge a crack addict she was 6 years sober when he came into her life in recovery , they thought they were clean and sober and wanted to celebrate with a recovery baby her partner relapsed and she followed soon after their son is autistic and now social services are taking me to court to have her son adopted taking him from his loving family . No step one as mark shared it is priceless thank god for people like mark who carries a genuine message of recovery to us I spent years I n a a not drinking and going to meetings for this alcoholic there was no connection to my hp after gym first 6 months in a a I wouldn’t get honest and do the work I’m 37 years sober thanks to hearing people like mark carrying the true message of recovery

    • @theworldsastage6231
      @theworldsastage6231 5 месяцев назад

      Sorry to hear that in your 70s your having to pick up the pieces for your daughter I’m glad your in recovery yourself so have this understanding ❤ it’s a family illness for sure I’m also from an alcoholic family and have struggled myself over the years but happy to say I’m 28 days and back in the rooms , we are very fortunate to them to go to from people carrying this message ❤

  • @kevingreaves2037
    @kevingreaves2037 5 месяцев назад +10

    Wow I'm just over 2 half years and this has just blown me away fit spiritual condition more meditation more plugging in more connection I love having that quiet time jus peace in my head quiet time love AA thankyou Bill thankyou everyone who is carrying the message ❤️ 🙏🇬🇧

    • @susansmithey5317
      @susansmithey5317 Месяц назад

      Nine years sober for me. And not one person or sponsor has been as clear as Mark.

  • @JoyfulJenn
    @JoyfulJenn 2 месяца назад +6

    2 years yesterday thanks AA

  • @mariad6573
    @mariad6573 2 месяца назад +6

    Mark you have put into perspective things I have been questioning for my 17 months in AA. I believe it is by no mistake I have listened to this video and I believe it will have a profound impact on how I move forward in this program. Mark you were an absolute pleasure to listen to and I appreciate you sharing wisdom that WILL help save lives. I can only hope that one day, God is gracious enough to grant me half of the wisdom that man has. Thank you Mark.

  • @rubenesquivel9630
    @rubenesquivel9630 12 дней назад +2

    I just relapse for myself I was going on 3 years sober January 3rd today's day one I started over jump right back into it it lasted 3 days all I could say is I prayed to God for now answered give me the power to stop so I stopped

    • @tacomike417
      @tacomike417  12 дней назад

      @@rubenesquivel9630 keep coming back bro, there's more out here for you.

  • @NeilD1
    @NeilD1 11 месяцев назад +10

    35:02 My mom has a spiritual malady. Has been describing the malady for years and years. She's not alcoholic. The book describes the spiritual malady as 'our human problems' on p 52, not our alcoholic problem. Nowhere does it say in the step 1 part of the book that a malady, or an obsession (OED: A recurring thought or idea which intrudes or is not easily dismissed) with alcohol that leads to the first drink. It does talk about the absence of a defense a whole lot. Mental blank spot, absence of necessary sanity, will power, memory, coupled with the inability to reason with oneself. Step 10 - We are restored to sanity IE defense now seemingly in operation (p.83 - 84).
    Fred, Jim - Quote: 'No thought of drinking' ... But 'Suddenly the thought arose' for Jim. 'The end of a perfect day' for Fred. Even if an 'obsession' is present or not, it still falls to the absence of a defence which ultimately determines the drink. It's also my experience that those who suffer from an obsession can, 'at certain times', get through it until it passes. I see many real alcoholics fall for the first drink after a period of sobriety because they are holding a vigilance for 'the obsession' but then drink 'as carelessly as if it were ginger ale' (like Bill) in the mental blank spots described in chap.3. How could there be the presence of an obsession during a blank spot (the absence of sanity)? Just an idea to consider if like me, you drank because you were busy with the great life in recovery and were neglecting 10, 11, 12 - therefore losing connection with step 1.
    We treat the malady because the mind of the alcoholic is ineffective, and the body has an allergy (according to Silkworth and his mentor). We only have one option to recover if we are alcoholic, spiritual growth, and then by step 10, (11, 12), we have indeed straightened out physically and mentally. 'Recovered from a hopeless state of mind and body'. The book does describe an obsession to 'beat the game', but far as I can make out, that is talking about an alcoholic still in his cups who is using strategies to keep on drinking without experiencing the 'terrific consequences', or 'this time (I have a drink) it'll be different, and here's how'.
    I post this only as it may be helpful to someone, not to be in any way contentious.

    • @rogerfournier3284
      @rogerfournier3284 10 месяцев назад +2

      Knowledge is self seeking for more knowledge. Spiritual awareness is being responsible of my higher power which is not me, and having a conscious contact of a higher power. Having a daily reprieve of alcoholism. Living in the moment in which we, us, take away the “I” Thank you, well spoken. Going forward on six months, and I'm working on the 12 step with a good sponsor who understands the Big book.

    • @dalemason5970
      @dalemason5970 4 месяца назад

      Same buddy, thankyou. Hope you're still going. I brleive so.

  • @christinaanderson1628
    @christinaanderson1628 6 месяцев назад +12

    It's on 777 just new 24 days clean hopefully learn as much as I can here good luck to everyone ❤️ God and thankful fir getting me clean and sober giving me the opportunity thankyou devine spirit

    • @theworldsastage6231
      @theworldsastage6231 5 месяцев назад

      Howard e does a good book study as well I really get so much from it reading alone doesn’t do it for me to hear these great people break it down is so helpful good luck in your journey

  • @katlyncoyl3155
    @katlyncoyl3155 2 месяца назад +2

    Mark and Joe hawk (and my sponsor at the time who shared the message of AA) completely made my experience with the steps just that a true experience and not just knowledge or a conception or a theory or an idea they made the gut level experience fruition well in reality god gave that experience to me. So grateful for men and women who carry the message that there is a solution and it's not human including sponsors kids meetings the steps or sponsoring other women but those are things that lead me to having a relationship and an experience with god.

  • @Raven_Intuition
    @Raven_Intuition 2 месяца назад +5

    49:00 .... You don't drink because of something that happened 15 years ago... You drink because of your current spiritual condition

  • @jameswarda6118
    @jameswarda6118 2 года назад +21

    Wow. After a long weekend of doubt and fear, I needed this. Thank you.

  • @sum2automation
    @sum2automation 2 года назад +14

    Yup.... from 1976 to today AA has saved millions of Alcoholics. Mark H has truly help my understanding of the 12 steps that have truly save my life beyond anything that I deserved. Truly an amazing experience and way to live life.
    If your drinking yourself to death and want it to stop. Make the call for help, good Sponsorship is hard to find at times but don't you ever give up. Keep looking and going forward with the 12 steps! Don't worry about what any one has to say, YOUR INSTALLATION ARE IN THE BOOK! ... and YOU can't go wrong. I have never seen anyone wish they didn't complete the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
    Yes the are truly the happiest people in life and in the room of AA. That I've ever seen....
    Thanks for sharing
    Good message it is, thanks for the fellowship!

  • @eshjane
    @eshjane Год назад +18

    REST IN PEACE MARK 😢

  • @lolliisabusdriver.4447
    @lolliisabusdriver.4447 10 месяцев назад +3

    Yes. This is the message. I am living proof.

  • @steveb9525
    @steveb9525 Месяц назад +2

    Mark we love and miss you

  • @rogerfournier3284
    @rogerfournier3284 10 месяцев назад +2

    Very spiritual message from Mark. Thank you Mark.

  • @Tanman-lk1hk
    @Tanman-lk1hk 3 месяца назад +2

    I had 18 years and relapsed a year ago..this is life and death. It's no joke!

  • @887stitch
    @887stitch 3 месяца назад +2

    Shout out to Dave! You're a true warrior sir! Thank you both very much!

  • @TeresaAnthony-r9r
    @TeresaAnthony-r9r 10 месяцев назад +2

    Just needed to hear this god bless ❤

  • @MaggiePashley-s1z
    @MaggiePashley-s1z 2 месяца назад +1

    I’m 33 & I’ve. never heard this & it’s so true ❤

  • @scotttheo3711
    @scotttheo3711 Год назад +9

    Mark is a perfect example of hard work and discipline without the added crucial element of surrender! I wish he had the humility to go to nicotine anonymous. Pride kills great men!

    • @merrymeditation
      @merrymeditation 5 месяцев назад +2

      lol, you realize Mark died over a decade ago, right?

    • @dalemason5970
      @dalemason5970 4 месяца назад

      I'm pretty sure Mark would have stopped if he'd wanted to, surely.. Mark had plenty of humility. I know how he died..Great man yes

    • @merrymeditation
      @merrymeditation 4 месяца назад +1

      @@dalemason5970 I will never understand anyone comparing alcoholism to smoking. " Annhiliation of everything worthwhile is life" is what alcoholism produces; there is NOTHING on earth that compares to it.

  • @CarmelCollins
    @CarmelCollins 11 месяцев назад +1

    So Powerful. Felt Tearful. Thank you.

  • @markg.4246
    @markg.4246 3 месяца назад

    I've never "done" a 1st Step. Step One is something that "happened" to me. In one moment of time, I was overcome by SURRENDER, and WILLINGNESS.
    After that, all I had to do was "SHOW UP". 30 plus years later, I still show up. Not because I have so much to lose...but so much to gain! Mark

  • @SylviaMarinaMartinez
    @SylviaMarinaMartinez 10 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for sharing this!

  • @MarcusHawak
    @MarcusHawak Месяц назад

    Mark .H is my hero & his sponsor Don Prits, there not to many guys like him ,the only one I seen is my sponsor,he a 164 pgs of the Big book Guy ,I never met Mark ,I herd he was tought met one of his sponcees that dude tough as nails !!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏👍🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

  • @jeffwermuth8375
    @jeffwermuth8375 3 месяца назад

    A.a. has allowed toooo many outside issues in a.a. when first introduced....I was an outside issue coming in...thank GOD for old timers that had ONE singleness of purpose...and was IN the fellowship and not AROUND the fellowship ....

  • @julieoneill8698
    @julieoneill8698 Год назад +3

    I needed to hear this!

  • @allencollins6031
    @allencollins6031 2 года назад +4

    Thanks for posting.

  • @chefprepjustindieh
    @chefprepjustindieh 2 месяца назад +2

    Phenomenal

  • @Raven_Intuition
    @Raven_Intuition 2 месяца назад +1

    33:51 Craving = MENTAL OBSESSION

    • @TheBardicDruid
      @TheBardicDruid Месяц назад

      No, Mental Obsession is just mental, the craving is physical that happens after the first drink.

    • @brodyeckblad7413
      @brodyeckblad7413 Месяц назад

      Doctors Opinion. "AFTER they have succumbed to the desire again, as so many do, the phenomenon of craving develops..."

  • @LauweThee
    @LauweThee 2 месяца назад

    Who is that seccond guy talking , very powerfull message!

  • @zachrebert6775
    @zachrebert6775 Год назад +4

    Who is the second voice? Love Mark but never heard this guy before. He has some good stuff.

    • @awesome_john_dipiero
      @awesome_john_dipiero Год назад +2

      I believe it’s Dave f … there’s a worship tape of Dave f or David f and mark h … I believe this is a clip of that tape

  • @allisonerickson3598
    @allisonerickson3598 15 дней назад

    Wow wow wow just wow 🎯🙏🙏🙏🙏🔈

  • @awesome_john_dipiero
    @awesome_john_dipiero Год назад +3

    There’s a tape of this workshop with David f

  • @ihsanpenny9945
    @ihsanpenny9945 3 месяца назад +1

    Any ideas on what year this was?

  • @kylemedeiros6907
    @kylemedeiros6907 2 года назад +6

    This is really good and I’m only 20 min

    • @susanadams76
      @susanadams76 2 года назад

      welcome home Kyle welcome home Kyle

    • @susanadams76
      @susanadams76 2 года назад

    • @susanadams76
      @susanadams76 2 года назад

      call AA find a closed AA meeting and get on with it call AA find a closed AA meeting and get on with it God bless you God bless you

  • @izdotcarter
    @izdotcarter 7 месяцев назад +1

    Year of record?

  • @niallwilson3787
    @niallwilson3787 Год назад

    My gut begins to turn and turn thats been my experience with step 1 totally relate

  • @paulsnodgrass5150
    @paulsnodgrass5150 7 месяцев назад

    It seems like the first guy has all the answers. Time will tell. Sometimes I need to do inventory on how I'm carrying the message.

  • @steveb9525
    @steveb9525 Месяц назад

    What happened to Elvis?

  • @solaflare2006
    @solaflare2006 3 месяца назад +1

    Is there any women who take women this way like mark h & joe Hawk.??.im in the UK.
    Any help I'd really appreciate.
    Need some new belief systems. Old ones aint working.
    Im not a new nember either

  • @LauroGV
    @LauroGV 3 месяца назад

    THANK you, you know, here un México AA has bad translations so a deformación of the program. You nigth try to do something.

  • @georgelow11
    @georgelow11 Год назад +3

    Anybody know who the man speaking alongside Mark? ❤🙏🏽

    • @tacomike417
      @tacomike417  Год назад +2

      I believe it is a guy named Dave F.

    • @georgelow11
      @georgelow11 Год назад

      @@tacomike417 thanks brother

  • @oDubnobasswithmyhead
    @oDubnobasswithmyhead Год назад +2

    Does anyone know who the second speaker is? Thnx

  • @Raven_Intuition
    @Raven_Intuition 2 месяца назад

    48:00 ..... Dimensions

  • @Cmkrs34
    @Cmkrs34 Год назад +6

    Buddhism Christianity C J Jung have different understandingss of Ego and what to do with it. Simply killing it is not possible by any of above. See St Pauls writings and St Johns Gospel. See Dalai Llama writings or Zen and see too Individuation process by CJ Jung. You need to dis identify with Ego to be free of it. Its not going to disappear.

    • @NeilD1
      @NeilD1 Год назад +6

      'Attempting to get rid of your ego is the greatest ego trip there is' - Alan Watts.

    • @kriscowley3241
      @kriscowley3241 6 месяцев назад

      @@NeilD1❤️

  • @vinceorlando4712
    @vinceorlando4712 3 месяца назад

    I do not believe you immediately loose your conscious contact if you pick back up.

  • @sharonsherry7554
    @sharonsherry7554 Год назад +2

    Only a real alki will get this their is the chronic type who has to live by 10 11 and 12 and serve a homegroup

  • @jasonwoodward3391
    @jasonwoodward3391 2 года назад +1

    AMAZING

  • @schizocomp
    @schizocomp 7 месяцев назад

    Hey maybe this whole losing touch with the first step thing is truth so does this mean that the founders had it figured out we shouldn’t take six months to get to step 9??? 😂 I should be done already

  • @joetuch3332
    @joetuch3332 11 месяцев назад

    Not sure I want this experience in any way. Don't get me wrong but this AA meeting has completely took our addiction to have a never ending story. I'm not letting go the fact of me being clean to experience a thought of drinking again. Sure it could happen. I ain't thinking of it. Good luck to everyone staying clean

  • @jasons6616
    @jasons6616 Год назад

    Dave f

  • @lobo1281
    @lobo1281 2 года назад +4

    I believe that cocaine use prevented Mark from becoming an alcoholic. He seems to know nothing about the first step

    • @tacomike417
      @tacomike417  2 года назад +2

      Wow

    • @lobo1281
      @lobo1281 2 года назад +2

      @@tacomike417 the first step of Alcoholics Anonymous is the qualifying step for membership in AA. This person, as many others have never crossed the line into a region from which there is no return through human aid. Use of cocaine or any substance other than alcohol cannot get you into alcoholics anonymous.

    • @tacomike417
      @tacomike417  2 года назад +9

      @@lobo1281 I don't know him or anything about his sobriety. The talk helped me out a lot.

    • @lobo1281
      @lobo1281 2 года назад +2

      What makes you think that you are an alcoholic?

    • @John-rb3yv
      @John-rb3yv 2 года назад

      He knew waaaaay more than you probably ever will
      Stop splitting hairs
      Spiritual malady is no respecter of drug of no choice