Growing old: The unbearable lightness of ageing | Jane Caro | TEDxSouthBank
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- Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025
- Ageing is a gift, according to Jane Caro. In this funny, insightful and at times challenging TEDx talk she encourages us all to embrace ageing.
Jane Caro has a low boredom threshold and so wears many hats; including author, novelist, lecturer, mentor, social commentator, columnist, workshop facilitator, speaker, broadcaster and award winning advertising writer. The common thread running through her career is a delight in words and a talent for using them to connect with other people. @JaneCaro
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Worked for almost 40 years. I'm 71 and I adore being invisible to both men and women. No one gives a hoot about who I am, how I look or what I say and I feel the same about them. I'm a stranger in this land of old age, but I'm settling right in and plan to sparkle like champagne until the end.
Sally That's lovely:)
So with you there, Sally!
I feel the same. I am 62, and feel and see myself aging. Undoubtedly there is a benefit to doing and saying what you please. ☺️
my experience too about being invisible - a childhood dream and now it is here at 73
Sparkle bright girl!
I don’t understand why this has only less than 60k viewers after 3 years. Every person can benefit from watching and listening to Mrs. Caro.
As a 72-year-old male of the species, I can't say I understand how the female feels. I know we age differently, both physically and mentally. But I do have a beautiful 71-year-old wife who has shown me how to age gracefully. I didn't realize how much she means to me until last August when I almost lost her. Thanks to the skills of one of the top heart surgeons in the country and 4 bypasses, she is still in my arms at the end of the day and I still start my day looking into those big, beautiful blue eyes! As I said earlier, she gets more beautiful each day. Of course, maybe it's just that my eyes are traveling in time and I see her as she was at 22 when we got married. But, no, she IS beautiful and smart and kind and giving beyond measure and her grandchildren worship her, as do our children and I. I think the granddaughters just tolerate me. The eldest, who is 16 (her sister is 10), reminds me once in a while that I am getting older, but never says that about grandma! But just when I think my grandchildren are ready to put the old guy out to pasture, they put my favorite movie in the DVD player, grab some pillows, soft drinks and a big bowl of popcorn and snuggle up to me on the couch. With the heads of the two most beautiful girls on the planet resting on my shoulders, I know I am one of the luckiest old guys on the planet! And I know I am truly blessed and God is giving me a glimpse of heaven.
This comment really touched me. I’m still quite young, but I really do admire old people. They’ve went through so much challenges, experiences, and all that.. that I just admire how some of them have endured and overcome so many challenges in life. God Bless you, have a good day
That's beautiful,you are truly blessed
Your family is very lucky to have such a wonderful caring husband, father and grandfather. You have given them a beautiful and great gift.
Lovely words…you are very lucky
I am old and never had a man in my life to snuggle with!
Now I truly believe he lost out as mush as I or perhaps even more!
I could have loved him so…
Thank you 🙏🏽🩵🎼🍀🍷
I loved this talk and agree with most of what she said, cheers. I am 84yrs young and feel great. I get more respect now with this white hair than I ever had before in my life. I did what I was put here to do and now I am free. Thank you God!
Faye Faraldo..I envy you. I am 67 and still don't know why I am here.
No it NOT great 👎🤮
I get no more respect now as a senior citizen than I did as a younger woman. Not that I got much respect as a younger woman. My grandsons love me but I am not sure my children do. I do not know my purpose for being here and if it weren’t for my young grandsons, I would have no further use to be on this earth.
I'm only 20 but watching this makes me feel alot better about aging
You're a long, long way from being old, so don't worry about aging, just try to learn as much as possible, from the wisest of those who've lived long, in the meantime...
I would have also advised my twenty year old self (although much less was known then on the topic) to learn the meaning of 'personality disorder' because you'll be amazed at what that will do for you, your choice of marital partner etc.
Dear Kingstix, please enjoy being young if you can, it does come with its own set of challenges so you don't need to add worrying about aging to it. Enjoy being young, full of hope and if you are lucky, healthy. We do all age but you will have time enough later to worry about it. Viva la vida.
Youre already old. Look at all the 14yos around you
Dont buy balloons,and flowers
Literally why I’m here
Age 42 ....3 kids ....one grandkid and I was in crisis till I watched this. Old age was my biggest fear.I LOVE THIS! Growing old gracefully has to be better than aging skint in a cage made by society and the media. Thank you!
I turned 52 today & it's fantastic! (I have to say I LOVED being 45! I finally "fit" in my skin.)
I'm free of so many "burdens" now. It's a great stage stage of life.
Sit back & enjoy it! Never lament another birthday. Don't waste time on dread. Enjoy the freedoms aging offers you.
There is more to life than worrying about your age!
Na Noir, it gets better, too. Have fun, enjoy your life :D
@@werebilbyj4449 don't worry about it, embrace aging instead.
I’m 42 now, under depression.
Because of the aging thing .
Worried about my period go away
Great fun and so true. It's refreshing to hear from a competent, articulate woman celebrating her age and owning it for the achievement it is. All us "middle aged" oldies should all be acting our age and enjoying every minute instead of mourning a youth that was often not all that great.
Fantastic.. I'm heading for 70 and I just loved this talk..right on and FUNNY.
She is fantastic! I'm 48, 2 Daughters, a Grandson and separated and I'm loving it.
😂 I can’t see how this is a Ted Talk... she sounds like someone on the comedy stage circuit. She’s like an inspirational comedian, she has her own brand... brilliant!
Was thinking the same while attempting to watch this 'routine'...
it's aweful
I've been mentally struggling recently with the idea of what the rest of life will being with it. This talk has inspired me and helped me immensely. I plan to rewatch this regularly. I wish the best to everyone on their journeys! Thank you to this lovely woman♡
Jane Caro, I love your attitude to growing old! You are a funny lady who makes a lot of sense!
Where you on TV?
What a breath of fresh air this lady is. I couldn't agree with her more, and the bonus was that she made me laugh. Thank you Jane Caro.
I totally agree with her! The older I get, the happier I get. I am 49. Sure, I liked being skinnier but I would not want to be younger again. I have come to far to go backward. Besides, what is gone is not that big of a deal to me because I love who I am overall now. I think there is a lot of truth in the fact that people who don't age well are missing something inside, loving themselves. When you love yourself, you really do let go of all of those other limitations of worrying about how you look or how others perceive you. The MOST important thing to me is not how others perceive me, but how how I perceive myself. :-)
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I'm 48... and ENTIRELT agree with you... Well said..
My son is her age and my daughter two years older! We still refer to them as the kids! Me, I'm having fun and have been singing and swinging for 45 years since I got sober! Yay!
The best talk on ageing I think I've seen. Thank you so much!
Love this talk. I always say, "Old is what you get if you're lucky."
Beautifully said! 👍😁
not lucky, I hate it.
Lmao cope
67 feel great. Perfect bloodwork and the best love life ever🔥
Most comments I have noticed are people from 20-50. Where are the old people? You are very fortunate; I did pretty well up to age 68 (now 71). I was pretty healthy except for my back issues which began in my 30's. Since then I have had 5 back surgeries, both knees replaced, a tricep repair, an ulcer, fibromyalgia, hypothyroidism, esophageal reflux, carpal tunnel(now hands are numb), sleep apnea, idiopathic neuropathy, migraine headaches, allergies, degenerative disc disease, AFIB, osteoarthritis, and a rheumatoid-like arthritis (my body is rejecting the available meds). My blood work had always been good, or corrected with meds. I had a wonderful career and planned to work until age 70, then Covid came and I got the vaccinations. Within a week I was in bed and could barely move, my neurological system was reacting to the shots. I could no longer walk, developed lymphedema,had 10 falls due to reactions to medications, was hospitalized twice with cellulitis due to lymphedema, was in rehab twice, lost bladder and bowel control for a few years, During that 18-20 month period it was one battle after another. I now know I won't get better and my quality of life is dwindling. I really enjoyed my 50's through early 60's! I am currently unable to tend to my lawn & flower beds, clean my house, cooking has become difficult, I cannot eat or drink before I leave the house for PT, doctor appts, or socializing for fear of accidents. I am merely existing, and it is extremely discouraging!
Jane Caro, Thank you So Very Much for this talk...You have Inspired me to actually grab Life by the horns, and Live to the Best of my abilities from This moment on ! I'm 55 and 3 quarters, and have m.s, and have been starting to 'Wallow' but Not Any More ! This is the kick up the bum I Really Needed !
Thank you so much for your wonderful, uplifting talk. My brother passed away at age 52 from pancreatic cancer. He taught all of us, his family and his friends, an important lesson as he faced his illness with grace and courage: Live until the end. XXOO :)
I really enjoyed this talk, Jane is very funny, and lots rang true. But she does not speak for every aging woman. She jokes about having children, but she doesn't realize how lucky she is to have been able to have them. She is married/coupled, and doesn't have to worry about her looks because she doesn't have to worry about finding a partner at her age. Being invisible is great if you aren't single and alone. I am invisible when I go shopping for electronics, when I am waiting to be seated in a restaurant (where I am given the worst table most of the time), and I am invisible to all men anywhere near my age. Aging is a very different experience when you are a single woman.
Thats so true. Good point
Standing ovations are rare on Ted. This one's a gem and a keeper.
When I reached 70 years old, I thought this can't be 70. I'm not stooped over, arthritic, filled with aches and pains and I don't shuffle along when i walk. WOW, was I happy to be 70. How the heck did I get here ? I figured that it had to do with me telling myself when I was 25 years old that I needed to change my attitude and become a happy, upbeat, positive person. It worked ! I was also inspired by two more ideas. 1) life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. 2) Barbra Streisand quoted someone who said, a life without love or passion is no life at all. I believe both. I am now 72 years old and l still look forward to everyday. I learn something new everyday,( whether I want to or not : ) ). With the internet, google earth, webcams etc, you can connect with the world. I wonder what new technology will come next. I can hardly wait. I have decided it is time to learn another language. I have chosen Italian because it sounds like a very lyrical language and mostly because I watched an Italian movie on youtube, with English subtitles, and it drove me nuts to have to read the subtitles to understand the movie. Wish me luck with that. I have discovered that what goes on in your body depends mostly on what is going on between your ears. Be good to yourself. Be true to who you are and NEVER lose your inner child.
👍 at 67 I agree with much of what is said. Humorous and wise.
I hope I can be a positive person like you as well.I am nineteen and I already feel sad because I am getting older and because I am afraid of how my life is going to be from now on and about how is going to change.I hope you can give me an advice and also good luck with learning Italian!!
I just love you! 🤗
What brothers me most is all my friends are dead or dying. I am only 73.
S.L.S
Thank you so much. I need it this today. I wish in my 70s I be like you
Omg funny and truthful. I am 49 and things are looking different in my face. I was feeling pretty bad about myself because until this year i looked so so much younger than my age. My sweet heart died last year and the sadness has aged me and i was feeling bad. Thank you for this
Ah Jane - that was fantastic. Thanks for letting me know about it. Also, it's not too bad getting older as a man. I find myself using the word 'content' to describe my life rather than 'worried'. As a fellow 57 and a half year old, I salute you!!
Her accent + her words = the best Ted Talk I've ever seen!!
"It wont be petty but it will be real" - Yes! Exactly!! Excellent
It’s important people realize it IS a privilege to get old. I hope I make it.
I would say not having a period anymore is THE best thing about menopause ☺️
What a lovely presentation. I loved it
I love saying my age when I make comments on RUclips videos. I am 66 years, three months and three days as of my comments. Each day I am alive, I add to it. Wearing elementary, junior high, senior high, college, petites, and women clothes allows me to appreciate the versatility of clothes. Wearing children footwear and clothes, coats, etc., also allows me to get great bargains especially when they are on clearance racks. While people pay very high prices for clothing and footwear, I get to get them for dirt cheap, cost effective and take very good care of them that lasts for years and years. Getting compliments regularly also uplifts me, even when though I think I’m not being seen or noticed. Younger males be with their wives and/or girlfriends do back steps and come up aisles by themselves to stare at me. While that does not really impress me, in my mind they seem to be wondering my age. I have been married for 39 years as of December 31, 2022. My husband who is 70 is in a nursing home three hours away. Being by his side all of this time speaks volumes of my love for him. I’ve learned a lot being with him. Living alone taking care of everything including dealing with the upkeep of a Honda Civic and a minivan all because of being with him maintaining and repairing every vehicle of various sorts we’ve had throughout our marriage. Getting older makes me appreciate how great God is being in my life giving me strength, wisdom, love, truths and understanding. Without God being in my heart, mind and soul, life would be scary. The breathing abilities within me to utilize is much gratitude to God for whom and what he’s created me. I am not jealous of any younger people because I got to do so much since a little girl. I been through good and so-called bad times like in and out like stormy weather. Singing and dancing to all of the songs I created, recorded as engineer in my recording studio, played the instrumentals and did the lead and background harmonies, along with copyrighting them is joy, love, peace, harmonious to last me for the rest of my life. If ever I am down, my songs lifts me up. Some of the titles are: Get On Up; Till The End Of Time; Steps Of Love; Put Your Problems On The Table. It’s amazing I have all of the equipment to do live shows. If I did not have sufficient money to pay for multiple camera operators, I am able to set up multiple cameras to capture myself, with switchers to show on multiple projects jet or screens, and then edit them to create dvd’s, convert to various formats both analog and digital for RUclips, Facebook, and other internet platforms. Teaching myself these skills allowed me to create and express and bring out the juices in me. Having skills, gifts, resources and talents to share with others worldwide regardless of their age has been one of my main desires pursuing technology. While many artists wants to be upfront center, I chose to go way behind the scenes to learn a variety of skills. If the future permits, I am looking forward to be performing singing and dancing and sharing my life stories and experiences. I even named my technology business Octopus. That name came out my mouth while sitting at my recording studio, mixing, creating dvd cover labels, etc.. At first I was a bit awkward having a technology name Octopus. But the more I thought of it, the more I fell in love with it because I figured I could attract toddlers s well as young children like Barney, Big Bird, etc.. Afterall, all ages have something to be be seen and heard. So why not start people off from their very beginnings. Thanks for reading my comments. Plus, do me a big favor and spread the news about Noreene Bostick aka Octopus is coming out. Smiles
I'll never her plastic surgery because when I'm older I want to look at my face and remember my mom, that would make me so happy❤ I admire and love her a lot
"No one is looking at me anymore"
HURRAH! I hope that I am virtually INVISIBLE! No longer a candidate for MEASURING UP to some unreachable and ever changing standard imposed by people who might consider those things for THEMSELVES but are so entitled that it never crossed their minds that they do not measure up to the standards that they impose,
I am learning as much as I learned at any other stage of my life (and that is A LOT) and I love it.
I earned every wrinkle! They are mine and I am keeping them.
I love my life- I finally learned that it mattered and I SURVIVED IT! HAhahahahahhhaaaa!
The saddest thing for most women is that they spend their lives living someone else's life. 2 people living one life is one too many and that leaves NO ONE living your own life. EMBRACE your life before it is gone.
BRAVO! This irreverent talk is funny and right on! This lady surely "wears purple".
The most important thing I have realized is this: NO ONE GETS OUT OF LIFE ALIVE! Enjoy it!
I disagree with the loss of beauty, you ARE beautiful, as are all women, no matter what their age.
not to men though.
Philip Agtuca Not to young men. On the flip side, old women aren't attracted to young men. Sure, there are exceptions on both sides, I'm speaking in general. Old people have more life experience and I find them to be very interesting. Being young was great but I'm very comfortable being 66.
Phillip, are you going to leave your wife when she gets 50? People like you are not capable of real relationships.
Plenty of attractive women over 50 and 60. Kim Catrall , Helen Mirren, Susan Saradon. Jlo is pushing 50. So I agree beauty is not about age.
maggie wood Thank you! I love a handsome silver fox. Fortunately my husband falls into that category!!🐺
I love her outlook and she's so right on about everything.
Absolutely bloody brilliant - I’m 59 and love it 😍
Thanks for that - you are a sweetheart!!
I am 37, entering premenopause, and have been feeling quite low lately. I never realized how much we suffer, truly suffer, as we age! I thought I was ok with it...pshhh yea right. I thank you, thank you for reminding me its not all bad. I needed this more than I can say.
Right there with you - you’re not alone luv ♥️
There isnt a huge difference in aging from your 20s and 30s but once you get in your 40s, thats when aging really starts to accelerate.
@@bretts5571 I'm in my 60's and haven't noticed any speeding up of aging.
@@catherinebirch2399 It all depends on how you take care of yourself. When I was in my 20s, people used to say, you can do that now but when your in your 30s everything starts to go. I'm 38 and haven't lost any strength, speed, or any other abilities yet. Eventually time will catch-up to me, but it seems that aging is largely dependent on how well we take care of ourselves. I've found from my friends who are now in their 40s, things really "hit you" once you stop caring and let yourself go. It is not so much age as it is not caring.
@@bretts5571 I haven't found this to be true for me. It definitely isn't down to genetics in my case. I think that if you take good care of yourself you will be rewarded with slower aging.
fabulous &courageous -- love her!!!
Excellent talk. Seize the day!
Getting older has its perks but the one thing I miss about being younger is my stability. In the past few years, I have fallen quite a few times.
I absolutely loved this talk ❤ Thank you for reminding me to enjoy life before it's too late. Cheers 🍸
Sorry at age 57 and a half she is NOT past middle age! Life is divided into four seasons reflecting the actual seasons of nature. From newborn to 25 is the Spring of one's life, from 25 to 50 is the Summer of one's life, from 50 to 75 is the Fall of one's life and over 75 to 100 plus is the Winter of one's life! The middle age years though are basically from 40 to 70, one's 40s, 50s and 60s. So technically, she's middle middle age! One is as old as they feel...pushing 70 and feel young at heart like I'm still in my 30s and 40s! Age is just a number though. To life, to life, to life, l'chaim from Fiddler on the Roof.
You're sweet but... That's splitting hairs quite a bit. Our society, Western society, it's not so polite and that's what she was, in essence, flipping off. But, I agree... You're only as old as you feel and the older I get, the younger I feel in many ways; like, naivety. Which just makes me want to learn more, faster. When I look in the mirror, however, that's when I know I have more of society's narrative to destroy inside my own because I'm not feeling younger there by any stretch. 😉🌸
Where'd you get those age figures and what 'seasons' they correspond to? How can you say 75-100 is the 'winter' of one's life, when the majority of the population across the board is typically dead before 75? I don't think you can apply such specific age ranges to seasons without considering the Country we may be talking about, the person's socio-economic status, gender, etc. In South Sudan, the 'winter' of a man's life is probably what.... 50-60? In Japan, the 'winter' of a woman's life is probably what.... 80-110?
2 munutes in and I love this woman.
Hello all,
26 years old and the anxieties about aging are perpetually growing. However, I understand the value I have failed to apply to myself as a person and not as an number. Unlearning the toxic perspective we are conditioned to see aging as in society. May sound laughable to some of you, but I feel ancient and so exhausted about life I could not see myself at 36, 46, or even 56. It’s particular daunting in our generation. Social media and the constant dependence on image to sustain our social positions in a global platform makes it even worse.
Loving the talk... not sure if someone else has already mentioned this, but like humans, female killer whales stop giving birth by about 40, but can live into their 90s. Short finned Pilot Whales also go through menopause. So... the comment about only humans going through menopause is inaccurate. Small piece of trivia ;-)
Love the honesty ! Thank you for a good laugh :-).
Be nice & helpful to the elder folks cuz one day when you get there, youll be wishing for people to be nice,helpful to you .
I’m 57.5. This was perfect and timely! Thank you!
I’m 62 and aging has been horrible. Extreme fatigue, loss of purpose and meaning, friends.
I wish I could knock out a public talk in your strength therefore you have done a great service .Thankyou. X
Thankyou Ted for giving.
I really needed to hear this. Thank you!
Thank you I am enjoying your talk and am 70--Brava!
Thanx Jane Caro
love this!!! coincidentally, I am 57-1/2 and feeling great!!
I need to watch this every day.
NO.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.. my god you have put everything in perspective. ..I resonated with everything you said...it's all so true..what an absolute joy it was to listen to you...
Thank you so much for putting aging in perspective.
I love what she says about people who feel the need to get cosmetic surgery...and about the idea of physical aging, and accepting it instead of fighting it, which is only futile. It's true that a 50 y/o who had a facelift doesn't kid anyone. They don't look younger. They just look like a 50 y/o who had a facelift.
I agree with you. I am 61 years old, and am enjoying my life more now than ever before! Getting old is so freeing.
How can it be?
@@mitch5222 I no longer worry about what people "think" of me. I wear clothes I feel comfortable in- whether they are on trend or not. I'm not a homeowner so I don't worry about costly home repair bills. Our cars aren't new, but we own them. They get us around and our insurance bills are low. I'm 65 and retired, so there's no more work stress. My income is less now, but so are my needs. I have all the material possessions I need, so I only buy things occasionally. I have more time to walk, read, sit by the ocean, have breakfast with a friend, spend time with my husband. Every Monday my older sister and I I babysit our 2.5 year old grand nephew. Neither of us has a grandchild. We get to play and laugh with him for hours, and when he naps my sister and I enjoy our time talking.
My husband and I were both married and divorced before we met. We found each other in our late 40s, and are still deeply in love. The love and respect we have for each other frees us to be ourselves and feel secure in our relationship. Our children are adults and are making good lives for themselves, so no worries there.
I have never enjoyed and appreciated life more than I do now. My mind is at peace. My life is good. I am content. If I had to get "old" to feel this way, so be it. I will treasure every moment I have left.
Thank you for the speech ❤ the lecture really helped me today.
Excellent!! 👏👏👏
I’ve done all the stuff, the big developmental tasks of life. Education, career, travel, love, happy marriage, home, kids. I’m 51. The rest is icing on the cake as far as I’m concerned. I could die tomorrow and I wouldn’t feel “ripped off” or that it was unfair.
@@morganderrick6912 everything is wonderful. Going on my first cruise for 21st anniversary.
Lori C good to know that Tori
What are you celebrating?
21st anniversary of what
@@morganderrick6912 marriage
How is Mrs Caro not a comedian too, she's absolutely hilarious 😂
This was amazing, thank you so much. 💖💖💖
What an amazing message! So true Jane! So true! Well done!
I agree- we have earned every bag and wrinkle! It is a privilege to past all the expectations of society, and find who really are!
Absolutely awesome. Loved it
Yes indeed. Getting old is a privilege! We really do need to claim this precious phase of life. Yeah! No more worrying about a bunch of silly things and the body image face thing - so exhausting!!
I wish there was another talk such as this one except for the aging male perspective.
I'd enjoy that, too!
As a 33 year old male I feel the pain we can joke about it but it's hard getting older
I get more respect now that I am older. Everyone answers me, "yes, ma'am," now😂
"I have earned every bit of my age."
I grew up around family much , much older than me. I’m the youngest in my family now in my late fifties. Getting older is OK up to a point, then it’s only pain and increasing limitation. Getting old is no fun. It’s how you cope that matters.
Well! hmmm.....I am now 67 but when ı was 57 and a half ı didnt feel ANY aspects of aging and nor did ı look aged...but now ı am 67...ten years later and now ı FEEL old. And whilst ı concur on most of the issues raised, ı dont think Jane Caro fully understands ageing. For example, now ı can hardly walk in the mornings as ı have arthritis especially in my feet....so moving around is a struggle. Its de-energising and sometimes depressing. But at 57 , ı felt no effects at all. The business about periods and men ogling you etc ...yes its a relief but now at the age of 67 much of the time ı feel ignored or not worth being bothered with......this is not good. I sometimes have to really assert myself for my voice to be heard...much more than when ı was younger. I dont like being invisible...and why should we be invisible?....and who are we not to let our light shine as Nelson Mandela said. I do feel now that the west does not really respect aging folks or their voices especially in this media driven technological age. Did I respect and listen to my elders when ı was younger? yes ı did....but it would have been good if information was as prolific on ageing as becoming pregnant.
.ı!m sorry....!!! BUT.....ı have just read most of the captions and replies here......just how many of you have known someone have a heart attack before 50? or a stroke?.....leaving them incapacitated?.......just two of MANY things which can happen to you. lucky the older people who have commented and still feel sprightly......I dont look my age at all,despite arthritis ,and that is not down to anything ı have done...it just is...in fact I am the worlds worst at beauty regimes.....and ı smoke like a chimney . ı have known other sufferers who have never touched a cigarette too! ı know a sufferer who had arthritis at 17 also .THERE FOR THE GRACE OF GO ME AND YOU. IT JUST İS........the luck of the draw.
Good talk! Charismatic speaker with a good mindset who will never be invisible! She'll be invited and included. Big birthday looming and I want to read books that will put me in the right frame of mine to own it. I wouldn't mind being my age if 50 year old women were better at staying in groups. They say the population is ageing but where are they all? Why is everybody 30!?
I’m 38. I want to leave by 39. I don’t want to live longer.
Two comments: She looks lovely. The way her hair and jacket match enough to coordinate color. 2) I remember a true story that a woman had many plastic surgeries along life's highway and when her father died she loved him so much and she realized she didn't have any of his features that made them family. She also had distress that her children wouldn't see that family resemblance.
Yes! What a woman! And Australian! Yay!
She nailed it! 💕💕💕
This is great 👌👍💗
Love this woman! xxx
I’m 49 yrs old and scared to death about getting older, I know everyone dies but I’m hurting now and can’t deal with the pain
You're mistaken. You are supposed to look your age. What you gained is wisdom.
I totally agree, brilliant talk!
Best talk I've heard in a long time! Thank you for this!
My Aunt lived until 102. She remembered my Dad when he was a baby. She couldn’t understand why we slaughtered cattle with foot and mouth. She had a cow with this dishes, the just isolated it and treat it as best they could until it got well again. She was a farmer. From horse and carriages to landing on the moon and world wide computers with mobile phones. What a history she’d lived through.
I know someone who is alive at 104 and still has perfect memory. Life and aging is different for all types of people.
I'm 23 and I'm scared of getting older. It feels like I was 18 just a few years ago, but it has been half a decade! Getting older makes me sad and scared.
You haven't obviously watched and listen to this lady then
I'm from the UK & about 127 Years old give or take!,
I still have all My Hair & all My Teeth, I keep both in Very nice Cases!.
That talk can only work on women in their 20-30s. When you actually get 40-45 or older - you don’t find your periods annoying, quite the contrary. And you are not happy about being invisible. I agree with the “better to feel good, than to look good” part though. That one is indeed a revelation you make only once you reached a certain age.
Ive found that unless I look good I dont feel good-and Im certainly not alone-every cosmetic practitioner will say that aging has made their patients depressed and that they feel so much better after surgery/treatment. Its just an undeniable reality for many people- if no one else felt this way there wouldnt be an anti aging industry-yet were constantly made to feel guilty for caring about how we look.
Love this talk!!
Im 30 but at around 28 it truly hit me. I had been aware of my mortality my whole life and lived accordingly (auhenticity) but being old seemed so far away. 21 to 29 went by fast but no regrets.
I’m 27 now but yes I feel the same (even had a slight bit of death-anxiety) it scares me how quickly the last 7 years have shot past
Even if you have some cosmetic surgery, you're still ageing and you don't forget that! She's entitled to her view- and it's a valid one- but there's nothing wrong with having cosmetic surgery if that's what you want. I've had an eyelid lift and I still look natural and like myself but it means I enjoy putting on make up more and feel more confident about my appearance. I did consider ageing naturally as I thought that was beautiful as well but one thing led to another and I took the leap and it has worked out. I don't feel vain or obsessed and I'm still aware when I look in the mirror that I am 49 years old but I feel younger.
I agree, I see nothing wrong with cosmetic surgery to feel better about yourself. Many people have it and don’t t talk about it. Good cosmetic surgery just makes for a refreshed appearance not looking different.
Old age has a very bad press. Nearly everyone believes that once you get past 70 or so, you suffer endless aches and pains, Ill health, decreptitude and be unable to care for yourself. No one seems to be live that you can be healthy and independent into your 90's. I hope that If I can't be a super ager,, then I want to step out before I become a burden to myself and society.
Omg girl I say this too. I believe this too. I always say I love "menopause" as it was THE MOST LIBERATING thing that happened to me
Hot flushes ect be damned 🤪
You'd love my poem I wrote on this topic
Love you for saying this to the world
I know..... I've seen those faces looking at me blankly🤣 when I used to say this
We rock sister. Cheers🥂💃
Looooove her honesty!!!!!
Crying from laughing. Just great.
I get that this is meant to be a humorous and empowering talk, but shaming other women for their personal beauty choices isn't the right way to go about it. We women already spend a lifetime being judged on our looks and this just more of the same. You need to find another way to present your argument, one that doesn't pull other women down just so you can stand tall and have a laugh at their expense.
I agree. There’s nothing wrong with cosmetic surgery. If some women don’t the care about their appearance and want to be invisible that’s fine. I think it’s healthier to want to be as attractive as possible for one’s age. Good cosmetic surgery should just give a refreshed appearance not change someone’s looks. I feel like she’s shaming women .
@@jjkatz Thank you for seconding my opinion, but I have to disagree with your comments. Good cosmetic surgery is whatever makes you happy at the end of the day. Looking refreshed or not, it's none of our business what someone else does to their body or face. To say otherwise is just another form of judgement. I think it's healthiest to love yourself and be kind to others, stay physically and mentally active, eat well, and be a contributing member of your community. After that, beauty will follow. Beauty is subjective after all - it's all in the eye of the beholder.
61 here and I have had all these thoughts! Freedom!
I loved the talk so very very very much! Thank you!!! ❤❤❤❤❤