At 49, I started law school, and graduated at 52, then passed the bar. I started my new career as a defense attorney and have been defending juveniles accused of crimes ever since!
When I turned 50, I started to get worried and depressed for a second, then I realized that no one knows how long we're going to live. I continued learning and reading and researching as I always had. I'm about to be 57 and are starting a new business that I know will be very successful. To the people that think that after 50 it's to late to start a new journey I say that the goal is important but more important is the journey. It had crossed my mind that I can die without accomplishing my dreams and goals because I am living the second part of my life, but I will enjoy this journey to the fullest, if I die tomorrow it won't matter because I'm living my life with hope and enthusiasm knowing there will be a tomorrow for me and if there isn't, that will be fine. I had my son at 42, he is going to be 14 and I want to be a good example for him and I want him to be a winner, I always told him not to have a victim mentally or feel sorry for himself (even if his whole body aches after football practice) We women need to change our mentality and be a good example. A few months ago my mother who is 82 were at the mall and she was trying on a pair of 2" heel boots, a woman in her 30s turned to me and said, does she still wears high heels? She talked to me like my mum wasn't there! That's a mentality society needs to change, and change will come only if we show with our example that we're still capable of thinking and creating and working efficiently as any other person can do. Oh, and it had never crossed my mind to change MY name.
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RUclips led me to this talk after several TedTalks about aging. I’m turning 30 in a few months and I feel so underachieved and anxious about getting ‘old’. I’m also feeling lost in my career. This is such a powerful and inspiring talk. I love Connie’s and all the women’s stories. And enjoy reading the comments too. Thanks for letting me know that I still have time.
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👋 i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world 🙏🌍 I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask
I run a woman owned business, that I started 5 years ago. I am 53 and LOVE hiring women over age 50. They are smart, savvy, and bring A LOT to the table!!! My business would not be half as successful if it were not for them!!!
My mother survived stage 4 colon cancer for 15 years! She always said it was staying positive and not letting it get to you. So glad you're still here, keep going!
kindcounselor that’s amazing. I have a very dear friend who’s doing the same as yourself. Very inspiring. Thank you and the very best vibes your way. Mj 💙
58years old- moved to Japan 8 years ago-became a yoga teacher, regularly trek about 15 kilometers.... walk everywhere with my backpack and camera.. .. feel fantastic and I inspire my Japanese husband and his family because I grabbed Japan and jumped in- ! I have constant adventures here!
This is a wonderful comment! I wonder how this happened? What made you want to do this and how did you go from imagining this to doing it? I'm 49 and feeling stuck as heck, yet don't know what I do want.
At 52 I went to the Art Institute and was told by a post menopausal instructor I would never get a job. I then went onto University and was told by the course leader that I was unemployable, which was quite funny as he was the one who picked me as one of the 25 people from 179 applicants. It didn't matter to them I had high grades and was good at what I did. I gave up. Then someone who I thought was a good friend said I would never get any job because of my age, (59) I applied for a job with 259 applicants and I got the job. I applied for another job and got that too. However, I didn't take them but proved a point. Now at 62 I regret giving up my dream of a career because of those losers who put me in a box full of their negativity. Thank you for your inspirational talk... it's never too late. Since writing this post a year ago, I decided to apply for a job at 63! guess what? despite having loads of young applicants, they hired me on the spot. Don't give up people, you really are never too old.
Categories are a set up for failure. However we are living longer, more productive lives because of our diversity and choices to remain engaged enough to make a difference in this world. Thank you for sharing. At 59 I may go on into the chaplaincy.
One wanted me to work night shift alone with a security guard I didn't feel safe with, and work all public holidays, including Christmas Day. The other wanted me to use my own car without remuneration. The point was I did get the jobs at 59 when my friend was sure I wouldn't.
57. Just sold up in Australia, left my training job, and suburbia, and I am heading to rural Spain to run a B&B and teach English online while I work a small-holding. DO NOT slip into middle-aged decline.
I did the same, sold up everything in Down Under and went to take care of orphaned children in South East Asia. Now am taking a leave from my life travelling for two years to places on my bucket list. 57 may be the next turning point age for women, eh?
you are awesome....I think about becoming a social worker I am 53....but my self confidence is shaky...I used to be self confident...I dunno hey love from Canada
Julie, that is awful ! I know that there were times that I felt a little out of place...but I was never treated poorly. I did have the advantage of having been an LVN ( California’s version of an LPN) for many years prior to going back to school to earn my RN.
bluemoon three ...Don’t give up on your dream! While it wasn’t easy and my self confidence was a little shaky too, I now have a better understanding of the value of my life experience. And much more confidence and pride in myself 😁
Thank you Connie, your TED talk has touched me in a way I never felt before. I am 62 and, having chosen to be 'invisible' for most of my life, I know I have a voice and I give myself permission (it was taken away from me all my life) to have an opinion. You have kindled in me a flame that has been smouldering for years - look out for the flame is about to burn so brightly that it will light up the path for others. I am not too old to begin again; I am not dead yet!
Go Maureen, hope life is going swell and you don't feel invisible any longer.....I've had the opposite experience of feeling incredibly confident & empowered all my life.....and then I hit menopause. Now I'm a work in progress. Interesting times for sure. best wishes to you wherever you are on this crazy journey called life.
Wow, im hesitating to do med school, just turned 30. Instead im thinking to do nursing just because it takes much less time in uni. Tbh, i am quite disappointed in myself. I feel i have achieved nothing for the past 30 years.
@@emilyzheng7559 aw don't think that. You do matter - this person behind a screen definitely thinks so! You are entirely capable of achieving anything you wish and please don't think you're not good enough - you are and you can achieve anything you like Have a great day you are a good person :)
When I was 50 I started playing polo. (I had been an equestrian for 35 years, I wouldn't recommend a non rider attempt that!) So many people told me I was crazy, and way too old for such a vigorous and dangerous sport. My 85 year old step mom told me that when I turn 85 I will realize that 50 wasn't that old, and to go for it. Best advice ever. I always try to remember that!
I like your story. However, remember not to limit other people who may want to do something different at a later age than “normally” expected. Learning to ride horses and becoming an equestrian does not require 35 years. Plus some 50 years old are very fit and smart so they can learn anything they put their minds to.
I'm halfway through listening to you and had to comment. I am 59 years old and my life and career have been like making popcorn too. I received an Associates Degree at 49, Bachelors at 52 and a Masters at 55. I am a software test engineer for the FAA. What I really want to do is just what you are doing. I want to public speak and inspire others to follow and find their joy. That is my joy. A reason I am now in Toastmasters and just did my Icebreaker. Thank you for your presentation! I also, do not want to become invisible. I won't become invisible. Thank you!!
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Youth and beauty benefit only you - temporarily . Wisdom and strength can uplift the entire community for generations to come. You choose which thing has more value
after years and years of living with ADHD, anxiety and PTSD, changing college majors more than 3 times, starting and stopping school many times...last year I finally graduated college at 61! And at this point, I did it for ME. To complete something i started and found incredibly daunting...I was so worried I would look like everyone's grandma. I did not😊..It was wonderful. Keep going ladies. 💜
I am always so late to the party, but still happy (and needing) to see this talk. At 65, I am frightened, but detetmined to make my other dreams come true.
Hi Kathi. I am 65. There is a young man, 48, he says he loves me. I am not the woman i use to be in shape, thought, experience outlook, approach to life! He wants to try a life with me. I am terrified. Considering my life, friends, associates, and largely, my children (6 + 8 grands) this will not be an easy ride. I know we will have to rewrite the rules for 2nd marriages, August - November relationships and northern/ southern blending families. I have been celibate for app. 21 years, but divorced for 8. He has been divorced nearly as long, with a trail of partners and 2 children since then and a 2yr. Old. Its scary! However, i am considering the challenge! If God, be my help, this could be a 2nd chance and final call for us both.
Kathi, I am 67 own my consulting business to help heal communication with the human family, fighting cancer at the same time. So - go for it; live your dream whatever it is; just do it. We never know how long we have, don't you dare leave until you have stepped out there and honour why you have come to this planet.
Great inspiration to me, who just turned 54 earlier this month and who is in the middle of a divorce after 34 years of marriage. I, too, do NOT wear pale fingernail polish...I, too, do NOT plan on being invisible, and I am so thankful for the reminder that there is still plenty of time to do the things I dream of. Being a writer and illustrator happens to be high on my list. Thank you!!
I am 57 and left my husband after 34 yrs of marriage. Yes, I refuse to be invisible, I work in IT, have a great career, raised two boys. I live alone now and have lots of friends, travel, work out, don’t miss a good concert and still hope to find the love of my life. I feel very much alive and VISIBLE.
@@kaylami5281did your spouse make you invisible? Why did you have to leave in order to become visible? My 60 year old wife left after 35 years of marriage and I am devastated as I encouraged everything she did and even was her biggest cheerleader.
I am 51 years of age and I am in a relationship with a 70 year young man who is real and who loves me for 8 years and I love him back. I am not dead yet so as long as my heart is beating and my breathing is still breathing I will live my life period!!!!
When I began a relationship with a 50-year-old man at 35 I felt the same way. We stayed together through his three heart attacks and three strokes, developing diabetes, and refusal to apply for VA benefits for which he was qualified until JUST before he was diagnosed with inoperable aortic valve stenosis. Less than six months after we FINALLY had enough income for a decent standard of living, he had to be admitted to a skilled nursing facility; within 18 months, he was gone. PLEASE adopt a healthy diet and regular exercise regimen with your beloved, keep him in physical therapy when he develops health issues (note that I said "when", not "if") and be prepared to have to provide end-of-life care for him. I wish you both the best.
I learned swimming, cross country skiing and kayaking all after 50. Now I'm nearly 60 and learned ice skating last winter. Age doesn't mean much as long as you motivate yourself. I'm taking music and dance lessons now. So go ladies! Don't stop enjoying life. You can learn a lot free online.
I am 55 and since I was young, wanted to sing and write songs. I've had a checkered work past filled with anxiety and depression. I am going back to school this fall to take a very practical course simply to get a job. I am not giving up on singing again...I am so appreciative of all the comments below. We need more strong women of "a certain age" to tell their stories!!! Meryl Streep can play the role ;D
At 50, thought of retiring, but after listened this speech, i started my to do agenda, it came to 5 counts now and will be adding more. Will be rocking. Thanks Connie
I am 59 years old. The Palm Beach Post outed me a few months ago when they wrote an article about my work. I freaked out. As I kept my age hidden for years. I'm so grateful I don't have to anymore! I am an Inner Peace Troubadour who has been traveling the country for over 17 years performing concerts for Peace. There's no stopping me now. Especially now!
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I am a 53 year old singer songwriter in an industry all about youth. But I am not stopping because I am who and what I am and I will continue to express myself as honestly and capably as I know I can! I look forward to hearing and seeing more women over fifty who go out and rock!! Thanks for the great inspiration.!!
Thank you for your "Life unleashed" stories. Im 54 going on 55. I started back in college last year (online schooling) and It is very much a struggle for me, Its been over 20 years since i've been in school. I get very upset with myself when I fail my test on my first try, sometimes fail even on my second(not good at proctored testing), then I get very emotional. Reality, I know I can do this! My kids are grown now and i feel it is my time. As others have said, better late than never, and not to mention this has been on my bucket list since forever. If all goes well, I should be graduating next year or early 2023 with my Bachelor of Science, Business - Information Technology Management. I just wanted to write you and say thank you for the encouraging words. I feel I also have a monster under my bed and will need to have a talk with as well = ).
I am 49, immigrated from a tiny town in Germany 22 years ago and will be finally working as a professional Nanny in NYC very soon; it was my dream since forever, but my ex husband did not like it...I will never put myself on the back burner again!
Geriname72 You haven’t wasted those 5 years they were the stepping stones to this speech you heard to give you the light to show the way. When you are ready you will leave this job. Not all who wonder are lost. Maturity takes time and reflection not harried days of busyness. Slow down and think about your possibilities and the worst case scenarios and plan B if your plan A doesn’t work out. Don’t stay discouraged for long. Get up and go get what you want after you’ve sat on the pity pot. Dust yourself off and go for it from a different tactic Good Luck and blessings for your true soul’s purpose
I encourage you to not give your dream a deceased deadline. I was in your same spot. Worked in corporate world for 20 yrs and was laid off at 42 yrs old. My own Mother said who goes to college in their 40's? I told her-I do. After completing my Masters I'm now a mental health therapist and L💜 VE it! By returning for my Masters I discovered I was always smart but never owned it. Now I am trying to decide if I will pursue my PhD. Follow your passion and never let anyone kill off your sparkaliciousness.
Kimberly Reiser you are describing my dream career path. How did you do it? Damn I need a mentor just everything costs money! I can barely pay the rent. Smh
Worked my way through college as a single mom, a term at a time as I could. Graduated in my 30s, recession, no jobs. It was ok, I could work doing really odd things and do interesting things on the side. All, it turned out, preparation. My mom died young of cancer, and I went home to help Dad take care of her. In one of her lucid moments she told me she admired me because no matter what happened, I always landed on my feet and kept going. (Tears in my eyes just writing that down.) One of the jobs I'd done was doing research for a documentary film about the environment. It so fascinated me that I decided that if I ever got to go to grad school, I wanted to study environmental science and management. On my way home from caring for my mom, I stopped at a college just starting up a grad program in environmental studies to ask about it. The following year I started classes, with financial aid and a work-study job. I was 40. The second term, I parlayed the work-study into an entry level job with the state environmental agency. For the next 15 years I did the most fascinating work I could imagine. Then life dropped one of its clinkers: I became ill with a disease that drs couldn't figure out, and my life gradually fell apart. Lost everything, unable to work, became bedridden, helped by friends and family. I never gave up: kept looking and eventually was diagnosed with Lyme Disease and appropriately (and successfully) treated in time to spend the last five years of my work life doing field work and researching and writing. I loved it. Still lost a lot of worktime, used up my savings, so retirement hasn't been exactly cozy. I'm 76 now, involved in community activism and politics. I'm thinking of maybe taking all my grad credits and seeing what the chances are of building on that to get my PhD in history. Maybe only so my kids can call me Dr Mom, but it sure would feel good. Oh, and I'm in love, with a friend I've known for over four decades. Now THAT I never thought would happen! Just don't give up. If there's anything that women can lay claim to, it's gumption. No matter where you are in life, think about what gets you through the tough times. That's what you can use to go for what you really want. That, and the people you discover along the way who are supportive. Leave the rest behind, the ones who try to hold you back. You may end up in a different place that where you thought you were headed, but if you do, it will be your best choice out of what's available. And that's worth a lot. Go for it.
Only a few months before turning 50 I STARTED playing ice hockey!!! I could barely stand up on ice skates but I had always loved the game, thank you Bobby Orr, and the ice rink in my hometown was brand new. I was never good at it, but I got to play, first on an in-house co-Ed team (we won the league championship that first year against all male teams!!), then on a women's travel team along with one of my daughters. I had so much fun!! No one ever ragged on how badly I skated or stick handled, and I was never just a bench warmer. I played for five years and only quit because our rink was closing anyway. The most fun time of my life at 50!! I turn 70 this year, making art has become my passion in the last decade, and I am up for any art-ventures that come along!! Don't ever think you're too old to do whatever you set your mind to!!
Dear Connie you have just given me the courage to keep doing what I want to do , continue to believe in me . I must confess you had me at the hands and nail polish . I’m 68 no one will put me on a shelf till I’m ready to do it myself . I needed to hear this timing is everything. Thank you LiedyMc
I will be 65 near Christmas and considering love and marriage to a 48 yr old young man. A lot of things to consider, but after 21 yrs of celibacy and divorce, i am open to the challenge! LoL.... its already quite a ride!
Pearl Callands ... Hey I have always like younger guys! I don't mind them being older long as lam attracted to him! Lol 😆 ya it's seem to be OK when an older man is with a 20 yr old girl. I think it's up to the two people to make it or break it! Good luck. And ya I am 62 yrs. And on dating site myself. Just tired of living alone. But each to their own! 👵👴👩👨👧👦👴👵👴👵👴👵
It’s a challenge to go into the world as a bold brave woman who has an opinion. I admire her brave sense of humor and opinions. As a 58 year old woman who just can’t believe I just wrote that number, I thank her for just putting it out there. I’m wearing purple nail polish today!
Age is only a number. we, women must believe in it. To change a society, the best approach is to educate a woman, mother. The whole society will change eventually. Endurance pays off.
I was a mechanical engineer when i was 33. Then i stayed home 13 years to take care of my kids. At the age of 46 i started to study to be an educator. I graduated this end of August and now I'm an educator at 49. I'm very confident and proud of myself. It was three very exhausting years but it was worth doing. I love my profession as an educator, my childhood dream ❤
What an inspirational and moving story for women, I applaud you and can relate. I will graduate in 2018 with my BA in Communications at 54 and I have quite a story to tell. I never had a support system to cheer me on but I had goals, dreams, and my faith that will see me through. I too hope to inspire other women. 😊 Thank you.
Yes, I turned 50 in 2014 and Celebrated. Having the right people in your life matters, and I learnt this the hard way. Thank you for this inspirational talk. There is a great book called late bloomers, it would be great to see a book written about Women over 50,with stories like this talk.
I’m in tears...thank you! I’m 36, I got off to such a strong start, having a business in the 4th grade, etc...and in the last 10 years I feel as if I’ve wasted time. Not that I didn’t want a husband and children, you know what I mean. Thank you for showing that I’m not late.
Jan last year at age 68 years I started painting and to my surprise I found I could get a reasonable result. Over the next few months I practiced and watched loads of you tube tutorials. I still learn more every time but now get commissions and each time I see tears in the eyes of the person I created the painting for my life is complete. Having said that I challenge myself more every time I pick up my paint brush. Hoping to grow. I will be seventy this year and am not done yet.! I am happier now that I have got purpose and new dreams. Don't let anything stop you being you.
Just the talk I needed to hear. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement. At 54 I will graduate from an accelerated nursing program and will be moving to Florida to begin my new life. Your words of inspiration will stick with me!
One of the best talks that I heard in recent times. I will touch 40 next year and haven't even done half the things i thought i would. This talk is what i needed right now!
What a great talk Connie. thankyou! its perfect timing. Im 54 and challenged by the No voices in my head. Your talk just gave me the most compassionate nudge in a direction I've wanted to go for awhile. Yep I'm guilty of waiting to be invited, so no waiting any longer.
Dear Connie, I am from Pakistan, after listening to hundred of hours of Ted Talks, in last few months, this is my first response ever through social media to anyone, I am facing so many social issues and no help what so ever, culture in this part of the word is very different from west, I need help, for myself and want to prepare myself to help others in this regard too, I loved your talk because I could relate, the problem is, I might be the only one in Pakistan thinking all that. Where do I start? I am 55
Roshina, maybe you are the start. I know that you are not the only one in Pakistan thinking and feeling the way you do, because I've seen and heard women writing and talking. I hope you find the opening you need to begin connecting with them. Sometimes it begins by starting a group of women who help each other, or doing community work, but you will be the best judge of how to proceed. Little steps grow. Please don't lose your dream.
Thank you Connie. I’m 55 and been struggling desperately to know what I can do with the rest of my time here on earth. Unemployed now, in an abusive marriage, that I’m planning to end this year, been scared to death to leave not knowing who would want to hire someone my age. Hearing you today has reminded me that I’m college educated, resilient and strong. There is a future for me. I had independence and a career once and I’ll find them both again.
I’m 51, and always felt a bit of a disconnect with my mother over my career. She has never understood “why” I work so hard, and has given me a hard time over things like having a cleaning lady. She astonished me recently when she told me she was proud of me, proud that I was independent, that I earn my own money, and can make decisions for myself. She also shared she admired how I take care of myself and prioritize my health. She wishes she had taken better care of herself. I was floored
I am 50 and retired! I took the leap of faith, bought my time from the government and retired. My dream has always been to be the best dog trainer and behaviorist I can and make a difference. Today, right now as I type this comnent, I have a business of my own as a successful pet sitter and dog traiber.....scared out of my mind. But still and moving forward. I'm doing it I'm living my dream. I'm checking off those items on my bucket list and creating more. I feel so energized and alive and moving forward. In dog psychology and training, the key is this... Keep moving forward. Women of 50+, keep moving forward.
I've watched this multiple times...and it encourages me every time. Over 10 years ago just before turning 50 I began my studies towards becoming a licensed spiritual practitioner. A few months after getting my license, I left over 30 years of being an underwriting professional to teaching our new underwriters. And now, at the young age of 61 1/2, and 6 years of teaching insurance and supporting people spiritually...I'm leaning into what's next. Thank you! There is much I still have to offer!
I’m soon to be 63 & for a life-time have always wanted to empower women facing 50 to become stronger, fitter, leaner, so they too can enjoy a greater health span, during a longer life span & be the difference the want to see in this world. It’s great to hear Connie encourage us all to keep on, showing up, stepping up & shining bright - whatever the colour of your nail varnish.
This TEDTalk is another example of how living in the past makes us think in psychotic ways, but looking forward and planning gives us hope and a future. Being 20 years old and looking forward to the age of 50 is a lifetime away, but having reached the age of 50 and hitting 60 now, I see that I still do have a lot of future in my life and within myself! It took me many years to confront this. So don’t lament about your past, see it as a wonderful experience no matter how terrible it may have been-and use it to find the strength to move forward and create hope for yourself, your family, your group, and even to change the world and make it a better place! Love to you all. 💝
Seeing all the wonderful women in this comment section share their experiences as they did things after 50 makes me realize I don't need to rush myself to do anything. Thank you for sharing your stories!
Thank you Connie for these empowering words. I literally started to cry when she said “it’s not too late.” As a woman over 50, working a job that leaves me defeated I am struggling to make a new start. This talk was just what I needed to hear today.
i asked the universe for an affirmation that it wasn’t too late for me to follow my passion and fulfill my dream for myself. This morning this popped up in my feed. I am so grateful for this message of confirmation and affirmation, there are no adequate words.
I think I had tears in my eyes for at least half of this incredible video. I am linking it on fb. I want women of ALL ages to see this beautiful, inspiring talk and actually HEAR it, feel it, and carry it forward in their lives so we can all help inspire one another. Thank You (*sniff*)
Wonderful Birthday message for me!! I celebrate this weekend and I will wear bright nail polish to remind me of this moment in my life that is limitless!! Thank you for posting
Jill LOvesJack I needed this today too. 62 today and still recovering from a major car accident. Tough to know where to go from here but we as women have more to give than we know. You are an inspiration to us all! Thank you.
I may be only 21 years of age, but I am still so thankful for this video and for her message. This is a video for all women, of all ages, and with every shade of nail polish. Ladies, regardless of age, we are unstoppable when we allow ourselves to be. 💪🏼💜💅🏻
I have just this week been told that doing the thing I want to do would be too hard and time consuming and I should concentrate on something less difficult - I’m too old to be in touch with the young and ‘cool’ audience that I would need to reach to be successful. I’m 57. Thank you so much for your supportive and encouraging talk - it really helps me to remember to tell people like that to hoof off!
At 62 I'm considering running for public office and have taken the first steps to do so. This is so timely. I'm meeting folks this afternoon to plan and strategize.
Wonderful!! God Bless You Connie for not being afraid to speak up (For Not Waiting!), but also for supporting (verbally and by action) women who (sometimes) are afraid to stand up for themselves (like me; invisible/overlooked and tired of it; but hopeful ☯🙏) ❤❤🤗
This is perfect, the timing, and not an accident as life and I have learned to work together like this - I'm rolling up on my 49th year in April 2019 and it's been a cause for reflection. I've had no trouble forging new trails while living on my own terms, etc. and never worried about being invisible, but I found myself feeling a little stuck for a while here lately still needed to see this just as much as everyone here, in my own way. You lovely women are so inspiring as you tell your stories - no matter what their content is. We draw strength from one another as we share in our experiences as the women we have been found their way to the women we are now and are still becoming. Thank you for your help out of the little mud patch in my road. :)
Wow! A very sincere and inspirational speech. Every woman over 50 needs to hear this. I refuse to become invisible and stopped waiting for an invitation in my late 40s.
I just turned 50 and I love it. Pressure is off. I quit trying to be fabulous, or normal. I'm neither and I'm okay! (I'm also a lot nicer to people because I know how hard life can be.)
When she said that thing about becoming invisible, my breath stopped. That is exactly how I feel. I have a couple of close women friends who are going through the same thing so it helps that we can all vent. I have described that invisible feeling to them and they understand it. It's not a pleasant feeling when you realize your role in society has changed, and not necessarily for the better. I Now understand people that said I may be 50 60 on the outside but I only feel like I'm 25 or 30 on the inside
Thank you so so much for this Connie! You are an inspiration. I needed this today. I just turned 60-I am separated after 27 years of marriage. I’m working for the first time in years as an adolescent counselor in long-term residential care and I’ve gone back to school to get my masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. You’re soooo right. It’s never too late to be the person you always wanted to be.
This is so powerful & inspiring, thank you Connie! I laughed at your jokes and I teared up when you talked about one of your last conversations with your mom. My mom also passed just before 61. And in one of our final conversations she encouraged me to keep practicing self-care because she wishes she had known how to do it. In other words, I'm who she wanted to be. Observing her life I choose to live my life with passion, purpose and intensity. I will not be invisible no matter what my age.
I am 72 year old woman and I am not invisible! I am the leader of a band play several instruments, lead singer. We are actively playing music gigs. This is all after retiring from social work, I was a L.C.S.W. (Licensed Clinical Social Worker). I did not go to college until my two children were in high school. I hope I am an inspiration to my grandchildren. I still have lots of plans of future projects. I forget how old I am until my arthritis starts hurting but that does not affect my mind. I love your talk, just discovered you. I forwarded your talk to my daughter. My daughter is an amazing woman and needs to know she can continue to be amazing-age is not a boundary.
Connie, thank you for the inspiration. I am a women who is 71years old with a wonderful husband, 3 children and 4 grandchildren. I regret that there were things in my life that I did not have a chance to fulfill. I believe that passage in Romans 8:28 " And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose." My life is dedicated to service and helping others live and find true meaning in their lives and fulfilling their dreams. Yes, if I had it to do over I would become that doctor who helps others find healing through prevention and Holistic means. However, I as a nurse still try to walk others through difficult times of illness with all that I have been equipped to do. I LOVE your message. Keep speaking to the women and men who need to hear what you have to say. I found that you brought tears to my eyes as I identified with my own life in your testimony. PS. Your children are lovely. If you only accomplished one thing, raising healthy, happy, productive children, you were an amazing success. Well done, mama.
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At 49, I started law school, and graduated at 52, then passed the bar. I started my new career as a defense attorney and have been defending juveniles accused of crimes ever since!
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Excellent,dear
You are presently my hero!
Good for you! :)
What an inspiration you are! Awesome!
When I turned 50, I started to get worried and depressed for a second, then I realized that no one knows how long we're going to live. I continued learning and reading and researching as I always had. I'm about to be 57 and are starting a new business that I know will be very successful.
To the people that think that after 50 it's to late to start a new journey I say that the goal is important but more important is the journey. It had crossed my mind that I can die without accomplishing my dreams and goals because I am living the second part of my life, but I will enjoy this journey to the fullest, if I die tomorrow it won't matter because I'm living my life with hope and enthusiasm knowing there will be a tomorrow for me and if there isn't, that will be fine.
I had my son at 42, he is going to be 14 and I want to be a good example for him and I want him to be a winner, I always told him not to have a victim mentally or feel sorry for himself (even if his whole body aches after football practice)
We women need to change our mentality and be a good example.
A few months ago my mother who is 82 were at the mall and she was trying on a pair of 2" heel boots, a woman in her 30s turned to me and said, does she still wears high heels?
She talked to me like my mum wasn't there!
That's a mentality society needs to change, and change will come only if we show with our example that we're still capable of thinking and creating and working efficiently as any other person can do.
Oh, and it had never crossed my mind to change MY name.
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You have a different way of thinking and that gives an indication of affection thank you beautiful lady with a beautiful heart
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Published my first book at the age of 50. At 53, I'm now working on my 4th! Great talk!
Deborah Wow 🤩. You such an inspiration. Where you from? I’d like to know you.
Hello
RUclips led me to this talk after several TedTalks about aging. I’m turning 30 in a few months and I feel so underachieved and anxious about getting ‘old’. I’m also feeling lost in my career.
This is such a powerful and inspiring talk. I love Connie’s and all the women’s stories. And enjoy reading the comments too. Thanks for letting me know that I still have time.
I'm in love with your "Don't wait to be invited to make a difference in the world" comment. Thank you, Connie
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I run a woman owned business, that I started 5 years ago. I am 53 and LOVE hiring women over age 50. They are smart, savvy, and bring A LOT to the table!!! My business would not be half as successful if it were not for them!!!
This is extremely inspiring 😍❤
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Love your attitude!
54 - diagnosis of aggressive cancer. 58 - still here
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My mother survived stage 4 colon cancer for 15 years! She always said it was staying positive and not letting it get to you. So glad you're still here, keep going!
Happy for you, Robin. Stay strong and going. You ROCK
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Awesome!
I'm turning 71....and just about to retire and live my dream ...as a tai ch-Qigong teacher!
kindcounselor that’s amazing. I have a very dear friend who’s doing the same as yourself. Very inspiring. Thank you and the very best vibes your way. Mj 💙
Really you don’t look your age
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Hello kindcounselor
Hello my beautiful
58years old- moved to Japan 8 years ago-became a yoga teacher, regularly trek about 15 kilometers.... walk everywhere with my backpack and camera.. .. feel fantastic and I inspire my Japanese husband and his family because I grabbed Japan and jumped in- ! I have constant adventures here!
This is a wonderful comment! I wonder how this happened? What made you want to do this and how did you go from imagining this to doing it? I'm 49 and feeling stuck as heck, yet don't know what I do want.
At age 67 me and 64 wife we decided to build a house, ourselves. Took four years but it’s almost done.
Congratulations
Very encouraging Tedtalk! I’m 54 years young and a senior in college. Hoping to finish my degree in Social Work by next year.
At 60, I published my first book, a historical novel, and won a literary award. Now I am working on my second book.
Wow, that’s awesome! Congratulations!
At 52 I went to the Art Institute and was told by a post menopausal instructor I would never get a job. I then went onto University and was told by the course leader that I was unemployable, which was quite funny as he was the one who picked me as one of the 25 people from 179 applicants. It didn't matter to them I had high grades and was good at what I did. I gave up. Then someone who I thought was a good friend said I would never get any job because of my age, (59) I applied for a job with 259 applicants and I got the job. I applied for another job and got that too. However, I didn't take them but proved a point. Now at 62 I regret giving up my dream of a career because of those losers who put me in a box full of their negativity. Thank you for your inspirational talk... it's never too late.
Since writing this post a year ago, I decided to apply for a job at 63! guess what? despite having loads of young applicants, they hired me on the spot. Don't give up people, you really are never too old.
PammyR56 great history! Thank you so much for sharing ❤
Categories are a set up for failure. However we are living longer, more productive lives because of our diversity and choices to remain engaged enough to make a difference in this world. Thank you for sharing. At 59 I may go on into the chaplaincy.
Awesome good luck.
I don't get it. Why didn't you take the jobs?
One wanted me to work night shift alone with a security guard I didn't feel safe with, and work all public holidays, including Christmas Day. The other wanted me to use my own car without remuneration. The point was I did get the jobs at 59 when my friend was sure I wouldn't.
57. Just sold up in Australia, left my training job, and suburbia, and I am heading to rural Spain to run a B&B and teach English online while I work a small-holding. DO NOT slip into middle-aged decline.
Good on ya mate, and best of luck!
Thanks
I did the same, sold up everything in Down Under and went to take care of orphaned children in South East Asia. Now am taking a leave from my life travelling for two years to places on my bucket list. 57 may be the next turning point age for women, eh?
Wisepersonsay how much money did you need to feel secure enough and able to do that?
Heath Savage How did you make that happen? I'm 57 and so ready for change and new purpose.
I am 54, and graduated last month as a Registered Nurse! Better late than never 😁
Congratulations!
I went to nursing school and was looked at by the instructers as wth are you doing here?
you are awesome....I think about becoming a social worker I am 53....but my self confidence is shaky...I used to be self confident...I dunno hey love from Canada
Julie, that is awful ! I know that there were times that I felt a little out of place...but I was never treated poorly. I did have the advantage of having been an LVN ( California’s version of an LPN) for many years prior to going back to school to earn my RN.
bluemoon three ...Don’t give up on your dream! While it wasn’t easy and my self confidence was a little shaky too, I now have a better understanding of the value of my life experience. And much more confidence and pride in myself 😁
Entered a nursing program at 59 and graduated at 61! Age shouldn't hold you back!!
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Wow, that is SO great! I wish I could do something like this. Why can't I? I don't know, I'm so stuck!
Laura Weeks You. Are. Awesome.
I remember when I graduated with my RN at 42, some people thought I was old. 20 years later, I have only begun. Bravo for us!
That inspires me, Laura. I’m 54 and wondering if it’s too late to do the same. You’re proof that it’s not. Thank you.
Thank you Connie, your TED talk has touched me in a way I never felt before. I am 62 and, having chosen to be 'invisible' for most of my life, I know I have a voice and I give myself permission (it was taken away from me all my life) to have an opinion. You have kindled in me a flame that has been smouldering for years - look out for the flame is about to burn so brightly that it will light up the path for others. I am not too old to begin again; I am not dead yet!
Maureen Wise And this is not the 40’s or 50’s anymore!!!!
Maureen Wise You speak your truths especially in the face of those who want to stay asleep 😴
Love it!!
Go Maureen, hope life is going swell and you don't feel invisible any longer.....I've had the opposite experience of feeling incredibly confident & empowered all my life.....and then I hit menopause. Now I'm a work in progress. Interesting times for sure. best wishes to you wherever you are on this crazy journey called life.
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Inspiring speech... I am starting med school at 50...
That is awesome 👏!!!
Wow, im hesitating to do med school, just turned 30. Instead im thinking to do nursing just because it takes much less time in uni. Tbh, i am quite disappointed in myself. I feel i have achieved nothing for the past 30 years.
@@emilyzheng7559 aw don't think that. You do matter - this person behind a screen definitely thinks so! You are entirely capable of achieving anything you wish and please don't think you're not good enough - you are and you can achieve anything you like
Have a great day you are a good person :)
i hope you graduated and are enjoying internship or working.
When I was 50 I started playing polo. (I had been an equestrian for 35 years, I wouldn't recommend a non rider attempt that!) So many people told me I was crazy, and way too old for such a vigorous and dangerous sport. My 85 year old step mom told me that when I turn 85 I will realize that 50 wasn't that old, and to go for it. Best advice ever. I always try to remember that!
Id love to learn polo. Grew up riding horses, miss it.
you are awesome....I am 53 and seem too depressed
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Excellent,dear....still there are many chances for us...wonderful , new horizons ,various flavours to be tasted.
I like your story. However, remember not to limit other people who may want to do something different at a later age than “normally” expected.
Learning to ride horses and becoming an equestrian does not require 35 years. Plus some 50 years old are very fit and smart so they can learn anything they put their minds to.
I'm halfway through listening to you and had to comment. I am 59 years old and my life and career have been like making popcorn too. I received an Associates Degree at 49, Bachelors at 52 and a Masters at 55. I am a software test engineer for the FAA. What I really want to do is just what you are doing. I want to public speak and inspire others to follow and find their joy. That is my joy. A reason I am now in Toastmasters and just did my Icebreaker. Thank you for your presentation! I also, do not want to become invisible. I won't become invisible. Thank you!!
Carolyn Salvadore So inspiring your comment with great 👍 achievement. Where you from? I’d like to know you.
I'm glad I saw this. I am a 54 year old college sophomore. I found this to be highly inspiring. Thanks so much!!!!
Keep me encouraged
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Youth and beauty benefit only you - temporarily . Wisdom and strength can uplift the entire community for generations to come. You choose which thing has more value
BEAUTIFULLY SAID!
after years and years of living with ADHD, anxiety and PTSD, changing college majors more than 3 times, starting and stopping school many times...last year I finally graduated college at 61! And at this point, I did it for ME. To complete something i started and found incredibly daunting...I was so worried I would look like everyone's grandma. I did not😊..It was wonderful. Keep going ladies. 💜
I just graduated with a BFA... (finally) at 61. Now to create a life's work....
I am always so late to the party, but still happy (and needing) to see this talk. At 65, I am frightened, but detetmined to make my other dreams come true.
Hey Kathi, I have just met couple of people in early 90-es who are very much active & living their lives to the full. Go for it.
Hi Kathi. I am 65. There is a young man, 48, he says he loves me. I am not the woman i use to be in shape, thought, experience outlook, approach to life!
He wants to try a life with me. I am terrified. Considering my life, friends, associates, and largely, my children (6 + 8 grands) this will not be an easy ride. I know we will have to rewrite the rules for 2nd marriages, August - November relationships and northern/ southern blending families. I have been celibate for app. 21 years, but divorced for 8. He has been divorced nearly as long, with a trail of partners and 2 children since then and a 2yr. Old.
Its scary! However, i am considering the challenge! If God, be my help, this could be a 2nd chance and final call for us both.
kathi wright awesome!
Kathi, I am 67 own my consulting business to help heal communication with the human family, fighting cancer at the same time.
So - go for it; live your dream whatever it is; just do it. We never know how long we have, don't you dare leave until you have stepped out there and honour why you have come to this planet.
Absolutely... going prayerfully forward and building momentum !
Great inspiration to me, who just turned 54 earlier this month and who is in the middle of a divorce after 34 years of marriage. I, too, do NOT wear pale fingernail polish...I, too, do NOT plan on being invisible, and I am so thankful for the reminder that there is still plenty of time to do the things I dream of. Being a writer and illustrator happens to be high on my list. Thank you!!
I am 57 and left my husband after 34 yrs of marriage. Yes, I refuse to be invisible, I work in IT, have a great career, raised two boys. I live alone now and have lots of friends, travel, work out, don’t miss a good concert and still hope to find the love of my life. I feel very much alive and VISIBLE.
BEAUTIFUL! I love your spirit!
Godspeed!
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@@kaylami5281did your spouse make you invisible? Why did you have to leave in order to become visible? My 60 year old wife left after 35 years of marriage and I am devastated as I encouraged everything she did and even was her biggest cheerleader.
I’m 58 and wearing glittery cobalt blue nail polish on my tattooed hands as I watch this!
you are sweet and honest and amazing
You rebel!
Yes, sistah!
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yeah,the speech was sensational and i loved it.
I am 51 years of age and I am in a relationship with a 70 year young man who is real and who loves me for 8 years and I love him back. I am not dead yet so as long as my heart is beating and my breathing is still breathing I will live my life period!!!!
When I began a relationship with a 50-year-old man at 35 I felt the same way. We stayed together through his three heart attacks and three strokes, developing diabetes, and refusal to apply for VA benefits for which he was qualified until JUST before he was diagnosed with inoperable aortic valve stenosis. Less than six months after we FINALLY had enough income for a decent standard of living, he had to be admitted to a skilled nursing facility; within 18 months, he was gone. PLEASE adopt a healthy diet and regular exercise regimen with your beloved, keep him in physical therapy when he develops health issues (note that I said "when", not "if") and be prepared to have to provide end-of-life care for him. I wish you both the best.
Good for you!
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I'll be 49 in 2 weeks. Today I'm going to open that cool tube of turquoise paint that I bought and put it to canvas. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
At 49 I qualified to teach. I'm 60 next year and still teaching.
I am almost 60 and I am wearing a lovely yellow color!
I learned swimming, cross country skiing and kayaking all after 50. Now I'm nearly 60 and learned ice skating last winter. Age doesn't mean much as long as you motivate yourself. I'm taking music and dance lessons now. So go ladies! Don't stop enjoying life. You can learn a lot free online.
Angie Li Inspiring! Thanks for sharing!
I am 55 and since I was young, wanted to sing and write songs. I've had a checkered work past filled with anxiety and depression. I am going back to school this fall to take a very practical course simply to get a job. I am not giving up on singing again...I am so appreciative of all the comments below. We need more strong women of "a certain age" to tell their stories!!! Meryl Streep can play the role ;D
I LOVE Meryl Streep!
And I love your spirit too, Rosslyn. 👍
Much Love❤️and MANY Blessings with Godspeed! 🌷
By the way, you are GORGEOUS!
Rosslyn Picton sounds good
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At 50, thought of retiring, but after listened this speech, i started my to do agenda, it came to 5 counts now and will be adding more.
Will be rocking. Thanks Connie
C K sounds good
I’m currently 20 and I just love the energy in this comment section. Here’s to the journey ahead of me!!!
I am 59 years old. The Palm Beach Post outed me a few months ago when they wrote an article about my work. I freaked out. As I kept my age hidden for years. I'm so grateful I don't have to anymore! I am an Inner Peace Troubadour who has been traveling the country for over 17 years performing concerts for Peace. There's no stopping me now. Especially now!
Hello Cecilia
Hello my beautiful queen
Hi frind how are you
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A billion thumbs up for this.
Yes! And a billion more.
I am a 53 year old singer songwriter in an industry all about youth. But I am not stopping because I am who and what I am and I will continue to express myself as honestly and capably as I know I can! I look forward to hearing and seeing more women over fifty who go out and rock!! Thanks for the great inspiration.!!
Hi Pamela
Thank you for your "Life unleashed" stories. Im 54 going on 55. I started back in college last year (online schooling) and It is very much a struggle for me, Its been over 20 years since i've been in school. I get very upset with myself when I fail my test on my first try, sometimes fail even on my second(not good at proctored testing), then I get very emotional. Reality, I know I can do this! My kids are grown now and i feel it is my time. As others have said, better late than never, and not to mention this has been on my bucket list since forever.
If all goes well, I should be graduating next year or early 2023 with my Bachelor of Science, Business - Information Technology Management.
I just wanted to write you and say thank you for the encouraging words. I feel I also have a monster under my bed and will need to have a talk with as well = ).
Hello how are you doing today I hope you are having a good day off do tell me how is health and work
I am 49, immigrated from a tiny town in Germany 22 years ago and will be finally working as a professional Nanny in NYC very soon; it was my dream since forever, but my ex husband did not like it...I will never put myself on the back burner again!
Let's be bold & make a move toward our dream jobs.
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You haven’t wasted those 5 years they were the stepping stones to this speech you heard to give you the light to show the way. When you are ready you will leave this job.
Not all who wonder are lost. Maturity takes time and reflection not harried days of busyness. Slow down and think about your possibilities and the worst case scenarios and plan B if your plan A doesn’t work out. Don’t stay discouraged for long. Get up and go get what you want after you’ve sat on the pity pot. Dust yourself off and go for it from a different tactic Good Luck and blessings for your true soul’s purpose
I encourage you to not give your dream a deceased deadline. I was in your same spot. Worked in corporate world for 20 yrs and was laid off at 42 yrs old. My own Mother said who goes to college in their 40's? I told her-I do. After completing my Masters I'm now a mental health therapist and L💜 VE it! By returning for my Masters I discovered I was always smart but never owned it. Now I am trying to decide if I will pursue my PhD. Follow your passion and never let anyone kill off your sparkaliciousness.
Were they wasted? Or are these the jobs that lead us to where we really want to be.
Kimberly Reiser you are describing my dream career path. How did you do it? Damn I need a mentor just everything costs money! I can barely pay the rent. Smh
Worked my way through college as a single mom, a term at a time as I could. Graduated in my 30s, recession, no jobs. It was ok, I could work doing really odd things and do interesting things on the side. All, it turned out, preparation. My mom died young of cancer, and I went home to help Dad take care of her. In one of her lucid moments she told me she admired me because no matter what happened, I always landed on my feet and kept going. (Tears in my eyes just writing that down.) One of the jobs I'd done was doing research for a documentary film about the environment. It so fascinated me that I decided that if I ever got to go to grad school, I wanted to study environmental science and management. On my way home from caring for my mom, I stopped at a college just starting up a grad program in environmental studies to ask about it. The following year I started classes, with financial aid and a work-study job. I was 40. The second term, I parlayed the work-study into an entry level job with the state environmental agency. For the next 15 years I did the most fascinating work I could imagine. Then life dropped one of its clinkers: I became ill with a disease that drs couldn't figure out, and my life gradually fell apart. Lost everything, unable to work, became bedridden, helped by friends and family. I never gave up: kept looking and eventually was diagnosed with Lyme Disease and appropriately (and successfully) treated in time to spend the last five years of my work life doing field work and researching and writing. I loved it. Still lost a lot of worktime, used up my savings, so retirement hasn't been exactly cozy. I'm 76 now, involved in community activism and politics. I'm thinking of maybe taking all my grad credits and seeing what the chances are of building on that to get my PhD in history. Maybe only so my kids can call me Dr Mom, but it sure would feel good. Oh, and I'm in love, with a friend I've known for over four decades. Now THAT I never thought would happen!
Just don't give up. If there's anything that women can lay claim to, it's gumption. No matter where you are in life, think about what gets you through the tough times. That's what you can use to go for what you really want. That, and the people you discover along the way who are supportive. Leave the rest behind, the ones who try to hold you back. You may end up in a different place that where you thought you were headed, but if you do, it will be your best choice out of what's available. And that's worth a lot. Go for it.
Thank you so much!!
I should watch this video every day. I"m 60 this year, and I'm creating my own new reality. Love you, Connie!
This is really inspiring. I am 49 and still trying to figure out my life. But this to Connie Schultz I am motivated enough to keep fighting.
Only a few months before turning 50 I STARTED playing ice hockey!!! I could barely stand up on ice skates but I had always loved the game, thank you Bobby Orr, and the ice rink in my hometown was brand new. I was never good at it, but I got to play, first on an in-house co-Ed team (we won the league championship that first year against all male teams!!), then on a women's travel team along with one of my daughters. I had so much fun!! No one ever ragged on how badly I skated or stick handled, and I was never just a bench warmer. I played for five years and only quit because our rink was closing anyway. The most fun time of my life at 50!! I turn 70 this year, making art has become my passion in the last decade, and I am up for any art-ventures that come along!! Don't ever think you're too old to do whatever you set your mind to!!
How fantastic... I'm impressed.
Dear Connie you have just given me the courage to keep doing what I want to do , continue to believe in me .
I must confess you had me at the hands and nail polish .
I’m 68 no one will put me on a shelf till I’m ready to do it myself . I needed to hear this timing is everything. Thank you LiedyMc
I will be 65 near Christmas and considering love and marriage to a 48 yr old young man. A lot of things to consider, but after 21 yrs of celibacy and divorce, i am open to the challenge! LoL.... its already quite a ride!
Excellent,dear....still there are many chances for us...wonderful , new horizons ,various flavours to be tasted.
don't do it!!! You'll regret it!
If you say so........ :-)~
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Pearl Callands ... Hey I have always like younger guys! I don't mind them being older long as lam attracted to him! Lol 😆 ya it's seem to be OK when an older man is with a 20 yr old girl. I think it's up to the two people to make it or break it! Good luck. And ya I am 62 yrs. And on dating site myself. Just tired of living alone. But each to their own! 👵👴👩👨👧👦👴👵👴👵👴👵
It’s a challenge to go into the world as a bold brave woman who has an opinion. I admire her brave sense of humor and opinions. As a 58 year old woman who just can’t believe I just wrote that number, I thank her for just putting it out there. I’m wearing purple nail polish today!
Kelly Bandalos Studios i am going to get one tomorrow :)
Kelly Bandalos Studios I'm sporting purple with gold glitter accents at 50😉👍
I am 57 and sell cars for a living in a “man’s world”. I recently had purple color added to m gray hair 😃
Laura Pfeiff I'll bet it looks cool! 👍
Age is only a number. we, women must believe in it. To change a society, the best approach is to educate a woman, mother. The whole society will change eventually. Endurance pays off.
I was a mechanical engineer when i was 33. Then i stayed home 13 years to take care of my kids. At the age of 46 i started to study to be an educator. I graduated this end of August and now I'm an educator at 49. I'm very confident and proud of myself. It was three very exhausting years but it was worth doing. I love my profession as an educator, my childhood dream ❤
What an inspirational and moving story for women, I applaud you and can relate. I will graduate in 2018 with my BA in Communications at 54 and I have quite a story to tell. I never had a support system to cheer me on but I had goals, dreams, and my faith that will see me through. I too hope to inspire other women. 😊 Thank you.
Way to go Melissa. I am sending cheer!
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“You’ve got time...” I LOVED THAT! 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️ I watched this by accident. I’m so grateful!🙏🏼 Thank you Connie!!
Yes, I turned 50 in 2014 and Celebrated. Having the right people in your life matters, and I learnt this the hard way.
Thank you for this inspirational talk.
There is a great book called late bloomers, it would be great to see a book written about Women over 50,with stories like this talk.
Your post drew my attention to write you. Most of your comment are true,
best ted talk ever. you pulled me out of a grey dungeon. thank you.
If women waited for the invitation, we still wouldn't have the right to vote. Thank you, Connie.
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@scott sanger
TROLLLLLL IN THE DUNGEON!!!
I’m in tears...thank you! I’m 36, I got off to such a strong start, having a business in the 4th grade, etc...and in the last 10 years I feel as if I’ve wasted time. Not that I didn’t want a husband and children, you know what I mean. Thank you for showing that I’m not late.
Jan last year at age 68 years
I started painting and to my surprise I found I could get a reasonable result. Over the next few months I practiced and watched loads of you tube tutorials. I still learn more every time but now get commissions and each time I see tears in the eyes of the person I created the painting for my life is complete. Having said that I challenge myself more every time I pick up my paint brush. Hoping to grow. I will be seventy this year and am not done yet.! I am happier now that I have got purpose and new dreams. Don't let anything stop you being you.
Just the talk I needed to hear. Thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement. At 54 I will graduate from an accelerated nursing program and will be moving to Florida to begin my new life. Your words of inspiration will stick with me!
I’m 68 and just graduated December 2023 with a Masters in Nursing for Family Nurse Practitioner. I’m planning to go for my DNP next!!
at 61, Im just starting a paralegal course. much fun! also, work. but...FUN!
One of the best talks that I heard in recent times. I will touch 40 next year and haven't even done half the things i thought i would. This talk is what i needed right now!
What a great talk Connie. thankyou! its perfect timing. Im 54 and challenged by the No voices in my head. Your talk just gave me the most compassionate nudge in a direction I've wanted to go for awhile. Yep I'm guilty of waiting to be invited, so no waiting any longer.
You look fabulous btw 🤗❤
Hello my beautiful queen
Female snowboarder at 50...started when I was 40..
NEVER had the desire to be married or have kids and I love it! 🥳🥴😉🤩
I'll go snowboarding with u in the alps😁😁
keep trying to convince your cat... lady
@@robertwarner1160 This comment is unnecessary. So what if she's happy without kids? Plenty of people don't want them.
@@TheShitArtist yeah... keep trying to "care"... KAREN
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@@robertwarner1160 ... ok Robert. Take care. That bitterness isn't good for your mental health. Trust me.
Dear Connie, I am from Pakistan, after listening to hundred of hours of Ted Talks, in last few months, this is my first response ever through social media to anyone, I am facing so many social issues and no help what so ever, culture in this part of the word is very different from west, I need help, for myself and want to prepare myself to help others in this regard too, I loved your talk because I could relate, the problem is, I might be the only one in Pakistan thinking all that. Where do I start? I am 55
Roshina, maybe you are the start. I know that you are not the only one in Pakistan thinking and feeling the way you do, because I've seen and heard women writing and talking. I hope you find the opening you need to begin connecting with them. Sometimes it begins by starting a group of women who help each other, or doing community work, but you will be the best judge of how to proceed. Little steps grow. Please don't lose your dream.
Keep asking, keep listening! You will find your way!💜
Thank you Connie. I’m 55 and been struggling desperately to know what I can do with the rest of my time here on earth. Unemployed now, in an abusive marriage, that I’m planning to end this year, been scared to death to leave not knowing who would want to hire someone my age. Hearing you today has reminded me that I’m college educated, resilient and strong. There is a future for me. I had independence and a career once and I’ll find them both again.
Thank you! 47 and in my dream career for four months now. Never thought I could do it before! 💕
Hello Chrissy
I’m 51, and always felt a bit of a disconnect with my mother over my career. She has never understood “why” I work so hard, and has given me a hard time over things like having a cleaning lady. She astonished me recently when she told me she was proud of me, proud that I was independent, that I earn my own money, and can make decisions for myself. She also shared she admired how I take care of myself and prioritize my health. She wishes she had taken better care of herself. I was floored
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I am 50 and retired! I took the leap of faith, bought my time from the government and retired. My dream has always been to be the best dog trainer and behaviorist I can and make a difference. Today, right now as I type this comnent, I have a business of my own as a successful pet sitter and dog traiber.....scared out of my mind. But still and moving forward. I'm doing it I'm living my dream. I'm checking off those items on my bucket list and creating more. I feel so energized and alive and moving forward. In dog psychology and training, the key is this... Keep moving forward. Women of 50+, keep moving forward.
I've watched this multiple times...and it encourages me every time. Over 10 years ago just before turning 50 I began my studies towards becoming a licensed spiritual practitioner. A few months after getting my license, I left over 30 years of being an underwriting professional to teaching our new underwriters. And now, at the young age of 61 1/2, and 6 years of teaching insurance and supporting people spiritually...I'm leaning into what's next. Thank you! There is much I still have to offer!
Women of the world unite we have nothing to lose but our chains.
Yes - the only problem is that the young women dont think they have a problem ;-)
WHAT CHAINS? Only these you put yourself on!
symphony: Society does as well, to a degree.
little red rose
In the society like the Islamic but if you have a dignity, confidence and brain no one sane will dare to enchain you.
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Life feels different after listening to this Ted talk, you are a gem Connie!!!
58 and working with an architect to build my dream home. Life after 50 is good!
I’m soon to be 63 & for a life-time have always wanted to empower women facing 50 to become stronger, fitter, leaner, so they too can enjoy a greater health span, during a longer life span & be the difference the want to see in this world. It’s great to hear Connie encourage us all to keep on, showing up, stepping up & shining bright - whatever the colour of your nail varnish.
Hello Rosaleen
This TEDTalk is another example of how living in the past makes us think in psychotic ways, but looking forward and planning gives us hope and a future. Being 20 years old and looking forward to the age of 50 is a lifetime away, but having reached the age of 50 and hitting 60 now, I see that I still do have a lot of future in my life and within myself! It took me many years to confront this. So don’t lament about your past, see it as a wonderful experience no matter how terrible it may have been-and use it to find the strength to move forward and create hope for yourself, your family, your group, and even to change the world and make it a better place! Love to you all. 💝
Tatjana Qadada So beautifully said! Yes!
You will feel twenty at 50 etc. no difference ...
Seeing all the wonderful women in this comment section share their experiences as they did things after 50 makes me realize I don't need to rush myself to do anything. Thank you for sharing your stories!
Your welcome can we be friends
Thank you Connie for these empowering words. I literally started to cry when she said “it’s not too late.” As a woman over 50, working a job that leaves me defeated I am struggling to make a new start. This talk was just what I needed to hear today.
Teaching around the world from 52. Still going at 60. Bahrain, China, Vietnam, Kuwait and now Lagos.
We are 50 not dead!
62 !
Almost tho.
Excellent,dear....still there are many chances for us...wonderful , new horizons ,various flavours to be tasted.
52 here! Aggghh
Well, those young students are blessed to have you among them, you are a treasure trove of wisdom and life's experience!!!!!
i asked the universe for an affirmation that it wasn’t too late for me to follow my passion and fulfill my dream for myself. This morning this popped up in my feed. I am so grateful for this message of confirmation and affirmation, there are no adequate words.
I think I had tears in my eyes for at least half of this incredible video. I am linking it on fb. I want women of ALL ages to see this beautiful, inspiring talk and actually HEAR it, feel it, and carry it forward in their lives so we can all help inspire one another. Thank You (*sniff*)
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Wonderful Birthday message for me!! I celebrate this weekend and I will wear bright nail polish to remind me of this moment in my life that is limitless!! Thank you for posting
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I needed this! Thank you in the same boat over 50 downsized needing to take charge and move forward and follow my heart!
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I needed this today too. 62 today and still recovering from a major car accident. Tough to know where to go from here but we as women have more to give than we know. You are an inspiration to us all! Thank you.
I may be only 21 years of age, but I am still so thankful for this video and for her message. This is a video for all women, of all ages, and with every shade of nail polish. Ladies, regardless of age, we are unstoppable when we allow ourselves to be. 💪🏼💜💅🏻
I have just this week been told that doing the thing I want to do would be too hard and time consuming and I should concentrate on something less difficult - I’m too old to be in touch with the young and ‘cool’ audience that I would need to reach to be successful. I’m 57. Thank you so much for your supportive and encouraging talk - it really helps me to remember to tell people like that to hoof off!
While I haven’t loved what has happened to my body as I’ve gone through life, I will take the wisdom over the midriff every time.
At 62 I'm considering running for public office and have taken the first steps to do so. This is so timely. I'm meeting folks this afternoon to plan and strategize.
Wonderful!! God Bless You Connie for not being afraid to speak up (For Not Waiting!), but also for supporting (verbally and by action) women who (sometimes) are afraid to stand up for themselves (like me; invisible/overlooked and tired of it; but hopeful ☯🙏) ❤❤🤗
This is perfect, the timing, and not an accident as life and I have learned to work together like this - I'm rolling up on my 49th year in April 2019 and it's been a cause for reflection. I've had no trouble forging new trails while living on my own terms, etc. and never worried about being invisible, but I found myself feeling a little stuck for a while here lately still needed to see this just as much as everyone here, in my own way. You lovely women are so inspiring as you tell your stories - no matter what their content is. We draw strength from one another as we share in our experiences as the women we have been found their way to the women we are now and are still becoming. Thank you for your help out of the little mud patch in my road. :)
Wow! A very sincere and inspirational speech. Every woman over 50 needs to hear this. I refuse to become invisible and stopped waiting for an invitation in my late 40s.
Inspirational and empowering -it's not too late to chase dreams .Good for you to open up your story
I just turned 50 and I love it. Pressure is off. I quit trying to be fabulous, or normal. I'm neither and I'm okay! (I'm also a lot nicer to people because I know how hard life can be.)
Thank you for sharing this! ☺️
When she said that thing about becoming invisible, my breath stopped. That is exactly how I feel. I have a couple of close women friends who are going through the same thing so it helps that we can all vent. I have described that invisible feeling to them and they understand it. It's not a pleasant feeling when you realize your role in society has changed, and not necessarily for the better. I Now understand people that said I may be 50 60 on the outside but I only feel like I'm 25 or 30 on the inside
Finished my bachelor’s degree at 40. Wonderful talk!
Thank you so so much for this Connie! You are an inspiration. I needed this today. I just turned 60-I am separated after 27 years of marriage. I’m working for the first time in years as an adolescent counselor in long-term residential care and I’ve gone back to school to get my masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. You’re soooo right. It’s never too late to be the person you always wanted to be.
You're such a strong woman and your story is quite inspiring. For sure it's not really too late to be the person you wanted to be
This talk came to me at a pivotal moment in my life. Thank you for the encouragement. 🎤
This is so powerful & inspiring, thank you Connie! I laughed at your jokes and I teared up when you talked about one of your last conversations with your mom. My mom also passed just before 61. And in one of our final conversations she encouraged me to keep practicing self-care because she wishes she had known how to do it. In other words, I'm who she wanted to be. Observing her life I choose to live my life with passion, purpose and intensity. I will not be invisible no matter what my age.
Wonderful talk! Thank you for bringing hope back to women "of a certain age". I struggle with purpose & meaning.
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I love this! Thank you so much! I’m 52 and I’m going to be a writer.
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Very inspirational for me at age 42. I have been moved by this. Thank you!
Yes, 44 and worried already. I don't agree anyone can be too young to have this applied to her - you must have watched this for a reason.
I am 72 year old woman and I am not invisible! I am the leader of a band play several instruments, lead singer. We are actively playing music gigs. This is all after retiring from social work, I was a L.C.S.W. (Licensed Clinical Social Worker). I did not go to college until my two children were in high school. I hope I am an inspiration to my grandchildren. I still have lots of plans of future projects. I forget how old I am until my arthritis starts hurting but that does not affect my mind. I love your talk, just discovered you. I forwarded your talk to my daughter. My daughter is an amazing woman and needs to know she can continue to be amazing-age is not a boundary.
Connie, thank you for the inspiration. I am a women who is 71years old with a wonderful husband, 3 children and 4 grandchildren. I regret that there were things in my life that I did not have a chance to fulfill.
I believe that passage in Romans 8:28 " And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose." My life is dedicated to service and helping others live and find true meaning in their lives and fulfilling their dreams. Yes, if I had it to do over I would become that doctor who helps others find healing through prevention and Holistic means. However, I as a nurse still try to walk others through difficult times of illness with all that I have been equipped to do. I LOVE your message. Keep speaking to the women and men who need to hear what you have to say. I found that you brought tears to my eyes as I identified with my own life in your testimony. PS. Your children are lovely. If you only accomplished one thing, raising healthy, happy, productive children, you were an amazing success. Well done, mama.
This is great! I'm 63 and not thinking about retirement as much as starting something new..different. Glad to see I'm not alone
This is amazing!!!! Thank you!!!! I’m glad you kept your name, Connie is a lovely name for a lovely woman ❤️
Hello Shangri
About to turn 57 and I needed to hear this. I'm thinking of going back to school to become a Social Worker.
Did you do it?
I am 59 this year and just started a 3 year counselling degree - just do it - better to die trying than die wondering.
@@MandyWoodArtist hi Mandy, I am 52 and planning to do a course starting this year too. Where are u based? Usa?
@@TheSlinkyinky no New Zealand. What kind of course are you doing?
@@MandyWoodArtist Starting Counselling with Psychology element! Do you want a remote study buddy? I am on FB
Connie, you rock. Thanks for this awesome talk. Loved the stories you shared. My heart goes out to everyone who 'carries while they climb' xxxx