I'm really glad I found this channel. All this stuff I was experiencing, I thought it was just me because I battle mental illness. It helps to know I'm not some lone freak. A big hug to everyone out there struggling, with binge eating or whatever else is going on.
I did this yesterday..the unplanned binge. I was out and about and I wanted to buy the binge foods. I didn't, thank heaven, but the idea came out of no where. I am still looking at why and I'm sure I'll figure it out today. Thanks I needed this today!
Happens to me all the time. I think the challenge for me is knowing whether to buy the “binge foods” or not - in one way I think buy them and incorporate them in my daily eating plan so they lose their power but on the other hand I think whenever I binge I eat sooo much of them so is it best just not to have them in the house. Still haven’t worked the right solution for me….
It helps me a lot that you are walking me through this in detail! Even if I did not stop binging yet: I already got to know and understand me selv so much better. ❤
I had just such an experience yesterday, a planned binge. I do it all the time - and I think I do it to reward myself on the one hand. For the days when I've been „good“ (I.e. dieting), but also I think because it makes me feel like I've somehow got my eating disorder under control - which of course is nonsense respectively quite the opposite 🤷♀️ Dear Sarah, I am so so glad that I found you, your channel, I am just reading your book… (very touching ❤) Dearest greetings from Germany 🇩🇪 ❤❤
I remember one occasion when I got off the bus from work; the sudden urge to buy binge food popped into my head. It was such a strong physical feeling, like I was possessed, but the very next unplanned thought I had was, “Oh, actually, I've got food in the fridge at home, so I don’t need to.” This MASSIVE pull to binge vanished instantly. It is hard to describe, but the contrast was amazing to me. I thought about it a lot afterward and realized that cravings can push you to a line, but they can't make you cross it. And although I have binged since and still do on occasion, I have never had such a powerful urge to binge as I had that day.
Sarah you’re in my gratitude list today!! I’m so grateful for the resources you put on RUclips. This is an integral - maybe THE integral part - of my BED recovery. There are no therapists that understand binging like this literally in my entire state. (How?? It’s the most common ED?!) idk where I’d be without your videos. Thank you 🙏
I love your approach in general, but this episode was really helpful in a couple ways: describing binging as a regulating tool for the trigger (which is the opposite of how we usually describe binges as disregard,aged), and the idea of imaging not being a person who binges rather than just telling myself to stop already. Thank you!
I've always been a unplanned person but I'm obviously one those people who feels it comes out of nowhere. I think your situation makes a difference because I have anxiety issues and dont leave the house on my own often so I havent got means to get food and if I'm out I dont buy stuff as I'm with someone so I'd be embarrassed if I bought a lot of fun foods. I binge on ordinary stuff like breakfast cereals, crisps. Always find your video's very thought provoking.
I just had planned binge twice yesterday, I had a busy week and it felt like such a huge relief just to eat. I still can't find a better way to de-stress than food 😕
Thank you thank you. You are providing such a service for those of us who struggle. Could you consider talking about the role of neurodiversity in BED. I suspect we are over represented due to over stimulation or impulse control.
That "manipulating the situation" (like going into the store for whatever) is something I definitely know. And you're definitely right that it seems to be "just under the surface". You can't quite grab it but yet you know somehow it's there.
Thank you for addressing this. I binge every night so I guess it is a plan. I absolutely do trick myself too though in terms of the number of things I end up getting from the store. I hadn’t really thought about it before but I do feel bad about it being a plan/priority. It seems like I am willing it so intentionally even though it creates so many problems. The visualization might help… because I really can’t picture an evening without it and I think that’s a pretty big stumbling block. Thanks again ❤️🙏
Thank you so much for this. I find myself going to the store for something I don't need then I buy something sweet I had been able to avoid until it's staring at me.
Sometimes I wonder if giving myself a planned binge at a regular interval would help? I much rather have one planned binge a month than 17 random, unplanned binges. Then I could tell my inner voice we are going to binge, it’s coming and we don’t have to feel ashamed about it.
I get anxiety if I don't fuffill my binges it makes me feel terrible 😭like im irritable immediately like a full mood change when im binge planning im really happy and excited😢.
I was doing so good with not bingeing since Oct. 17, 2024. Then I got into a car crash which was 100% not my fault but the other driver was blaming me and my insurance company told me that because the collision was a lane change collision and there are no witnesses (none that stopped anyway) and no dash cam I would be really hard to determine who was at fault. I ended up bingeing that night. Which led to a binge again the next evening, and the next evening.
Yes I also have realised that it doesn't take long to slip straight back into regular binges after a slip. Just commit to no binging for four days & that's all you have to get through then see after that. It took me so long & many years I'm talking to make it past day four. I don't know what it is about that number but 🤷 Anytway when I made it I thought it such an achievement that I wondered if I could stretch it out to five. After day seven it had become easy to resist the urge 🎉...then I played with fire & tested it just one night ...fine got back on track again few weeks later did it again couple of nights in a row too a few times to get back to four days third time was day four & months to get past day four again. I was so pissed off at myself for tempting fate when it was so much easier than ever not too.
I feel like some days I can control my urges but not all the time. I am trying to grasp the intuitive eating thing, but at the same time, I hear about how the food industry is literally making these ultra processed foods to be "addictive" and I don't want to blame these companies and their foods, but the binge gets triggered the most when I eat these foods.
I appreciate this and don't deny certain foods can impact our capacity to self regulate around food. We talk about this in more depth in these conversations: ruclips.net/video/O3bvaOAlBv0/видео.htmlsi=GUo--vBAs-0IG9Kj ruclips.net/video/HmtkFgG8AnY/видео.htmlsi=NPucTKqmVhxj42k6
Sarah, have you ever heard of Dr. Ross Ellenhorn? I’ve been listening to a bunch of interviews with him lately and he seems like someone you would like. He’s written a bunch of books including one called How We Change And Ten Reasons Why We Don’t, and is a psychotherapist and social worker. If you’re not already familiar, you should check him out 🤓
I know I am not related to the topic but I was wondering how the fear of death is connected with disordered eating. Do we have any video on it? Sarah if I remember well in one of your videos you mentioned somebody who helped you overcome this fear did you ever find that disordered eating was connected with loss of any kind but particularly death? Is it possible that the fear of our own death is connected with it? Is there any literature on it? Now regarding the todays topic liked when you said if you plan to see yourself bingeing why don’t you plan to see yourself not bingeing thank you I could imagine my moments of anxiety that could trigger me bingeing and tried to imagine me not doing it but doing something else like moving with the problem instead of avoiding it and loving me while doing it not separating into pieces but having me there with me as a safety blanket. Love this visualization I came up with thank you for causing it.
Death actually isn't a topic I find coming up a lot with this work. That's not to say there can't be a link for some, but it isn't something I have considered in any depth. I sometimes think of the binge as the life force. It's energy that wants to live and gets triggered when it perceives a threat to this. This is one way it could be connected to death. I'm not sure I have enough on this subject to create a video.
I'm really glad I found this channel. All this stuff I was experiencing, I thought it was just me because I battle mental illness. It helps to know I'm not some lone freak. A big hug to everyone out there struggling, with binge eating or whatever else is going on.
I did this yesterday..the unplanned binge. I was out and about and I wanted to buy the binge foods. I didn't, thank heaven, but the idea came out of no where. I am still looking at why and I'm sure I'll figure it out today. Thanks I needed this today!
Happens to me all the time. I think the challenge for me is knowing whether to buy the “binge foods” or not - in one way I think buy them and incorporate them in my daily eating plan so they lose their power but on the other hand I think whenever I binge I eat sooo much of them so is it best just not to have them in the house. Still haven’t worked the right solution for me….
It helps me a lot that you are walking me through this in detail! Even if I did not stop binging yet: I already got to know and understand me selv so much better. ❤
I DEFINITELY relate to your story about going to the shops for one thing. It makes me feel crazy, thank you for sharing.
@@father_vladdy Same here, I was literally gasping when she said that and thought „others do that too????“ 🫶
I had just such an experience yesterday, a planned binge. I do it all the time - and I think I do it to reward myself on the one hand. For the days when I've been „good“ (I.e. dieting), but also I think because it makes me feel like I've somehow got my eating disorder under control - which of course is nonsense respectively quite the opposite 🤷♀️
Dear Sarah, I am so so glad that I found you, your channel, I am just reading your book… (very touching ❤)
Dearest greetings from Germany 🇩🇪 ❤❤
I remember one occasion when I got off the bus from work; the sudden urge to buy binge food popped into my head. It was such a strong physical feeling, like I was possessed, but the very next unplanned thought I had was, “Oh, actually, I've got food in the fridge at home, so I don’t need to.” This MASSIVE pull to binge vanished instantly.
It is hard to describe, but the contrast was amazing to me.
I thought about it a lot afterward and realized that cravings can push you to a line, but they can't make you cross it.
And although I have binged since and still do on occasion, I have never had such a powerful urge to binge as I had that day.
Sarah you’re in my gratitude list today!! I’m so grateful for the resources you put on RUclips. This is an integral - maybe THE integral part - of my BED recovery. There are no therapists that understand binging like this literally in my entire state. (How?? It’s the most common ED?!) idk where I’d be without your videos. Thank you 🙏
Thank you for helping me understand and to have hope
Ahhh, thank you! That's very kind 🙏
I love your approach in general, but this episode was really helpful in a couple ways: describing binging as a regulating tool for the trigger (which is the opposite of how we usually describe binges as disregard,aged), and the idea of imaging not being a person who binges rather than just telling myself to stop already. Thank you!
I've always been a unplanned person but I'm obviously one those people who feels it comes out of nowhere. I think your situation makes a difference because I have anxiety issues and dont leave the house on my own often so I havent got means to get food and if I'm out I dont buy stuff as I'm with someone so I'd be embarrassed if I bought a lot of fun foods.
I binge on ordinary stuff like breakfast cereals, crisps.
Always find your video's very thought provoking.
I just had planned binge twice yesterday, I had a busy week and it felt like such a huge relief just to eat. I still can't find a better way to de-stress than food 😕
Thank you thank you. You are providing such a service for those of us who struggle.
Could you consider talking about the role of neurodiversity in BED.
I suspect we are over represented due to over stimulation or impulse control.
Sarah has done a video/ interview on this on her channel. I think one with stef too....
I do the “we need eggs” trips to the store, however I consciously know I am goin for binge targets. It’s not a secret to me.
I have NEVER had a planned binge. I always believe the lies I tell myself about 'its OK I'll just have one'.
That "manipulating the situation" (like going into the store for whatever) is something I definitely know. And you're definitely right that it seems to be "just under the surface". You can't quite grab it but yet you know somehow it's there.
Thank you for addressing this. I binge every night so I guess it is a plan. I absolutely do trick myself too though in terms of the number of things I end up getting from the store. I hadn’t really thought about it before but I do feel bad about it being a plan/priority. It seems like I am willing it so intentionally even though it creates so many problems. The visualization might help… because I really can’t picture an evening without it and I think that’s a pretty big stumbling block. Thanks again ❤️🙏
Thank you so much for this. I find myself going to the store for something I don't need then I buy something sweet I had been able to avoid until it's staring at me.
Sometimes I wonder if giving myself a planned binge at a regular interval would help? I much rather have one planned binge a month than 17 random, unplanned binges. Then I could tell my inner voice we are going to binge, it’s coming and we don’t have to feel ashamed about it.
I get anxiety if I don't fuffill my binges it makes me feel terrible 😭like im irritable immediately like a full mood change when im binge planning im really happy and excited😢.
I was doing so good with not bingeing since Oct. 17, 2024. Then I got into a car crash which was 100% not my fault but the other driver was blaming me and my insurance company told me that because the collision was a lane change collision and there are no witnesses (none that stopped anyway) and no dash cam I would be really hard to determine who was at fault. I ended up bingeing that night. Which led to a binge again the next evening, and the next evening.
Im so sorry that happened to you!
Yes I also have realised that it doesn't take long to slip straight back into regular binges after a slip.
Just commit to no binging for four days & that's all you have to get through then see after that. It took me so long & many years I'm talking to make it past day four. I don't know what it is about that number but 🤷
Anytway when I made it I thought it such an achievement that I wondered if I could stretch it out to five. After day seven it had become easy to resist the urge 🎉...then I played with fire & tested it just one night ...fine got back on track again few weeks later did it again couple of nights in a row too a few times to get back to four days third time was day four & months to get past day four again. I was so pissed off at myself for tempting fate when it was so much easier than ever not too.
I feel like some days I can control my urges but not all the time. I am trying to grasp the intuitive eating thing, but at the same time, I hear about how the food industry is literally making these ultra processed foods to be "addictive" and I don't want to blame these companies and their foods, but the binge gets triggered the most when I eat these foods.
I appreciate this and don't deny certain foods can impact our capacity to self regulate around food. We talk about this in more depth in these conversations:
ruclips.net/video/O3bvaOAlBv0/видео.htmlsi=GUo--vBAs-0IG9Kj
ruclips.net/video/HmtkFgG8AnY/видео.htmlsi=NPucTKqmVhxj42k6
Sarah, have you ever heard of Dr. Ross Ellenhorn? I’ve been listening to a bunch of interviews with him lately and he seems like someone you would like. He’s written a bunch of books including one called How We Change And Ten Reasons Why We Don’t, and is a psychotherapist and social worker. If you’re not already familiar, you should check him out 🤓
Thanks for the recommendation! I haven't heard of him, but will look him up
It was the same for me! I used fo trick myself so much for a trip to the supermarket and end up buying bingd foods:(
I know I am not related to the topic but I was wondering how the fear of death is connected with disordered eating. Do we have any video on it? Sarah if I remember well in one of your videos you mentioned somebody who helped you overcome this fear did you ever find that disordered eating was connected with loss of any kind but particularly death? Is it possible that the fear of our own death is connected with it? Is there any literature on it?
Now regarding the todays topic liked when you said if you plan to see yourself bingeing why don’t you plan to see yourself not bingeing thank you I could imagine my moments of anxiety that could trigger me bingeing and tried to imagine me not doing it but doing something else like moving with the problem instead of avoiding it and loving me while doing it not separating into pieces but having me there with me as a safety blanket. Love this visualization I came up with thank you for causing it.
Death actually isn't a topic I find coming up a lot with this work. That's not to say there can't be a link for some, but it isn't something I have considered in any depth. I sometimes think of the binge as the life force. It's energy that wants to live and gets triggered when it perceives a threat to this. This is one way it could be connected to death. I'm not sure I have enough on this subject to create a video.
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