Listened to this one 3 times a day, at the beginning of my healing journey, for a year and i am back here to say it saved my life. It changed me and changed the trajectory of my life.
Found this book last weekend, I knew RIGHT away it was going to change my trajectory path too. I have tears around how much I've learned reading half of this book. The book gives GREAT detail and steps to take. Every bookshelf and library needs to offer this book it's absolutely life regenerative. SHARE the healing what a blessing.
See Brene Brown!!! Her research, Ted talks, and books definitely picked up where John Bradshaw left off. She also has a similar sense of humor which make me think of him when I listen to her.
I agree. People in the field continue to stay on the surface. I liked what he said that working on the guilt does the therapy will last for years. That’s why shame needs to be addressed to heal those emotions.
@@tbbart6463 I haven't read any of Brene Brown's books (I did listen to the audio version of a very short one), but I've seen some of her talks on YT. I don't see her addressing shame that originates in childhood. She seems to think people's problems begin in adulthood, like most Americans seem to. What am I missing?
It's time people stop saying, they were doing their best. Being physically attacked by a parent at age 3, being used as their personal punching bag, because they are under stress and you happen to be in their presence......is not their best. I can accept that they were doing the only thing they knew to do. Physical violence is never anyone's "best".
Couldn’t live this life without men like this. I’ve taken all my most critical values and information from these very rigorously virtuous men. I’ll be forever paying that forward.
I am currently reading his book "Home coming", and I've got to say that this guy clearly his stuff. The depth of his experience and detailed wisdom is, at times, breath taking. Gos bless him.
@@0ijm3409fiwrekjconnecting with and healing your inner child at different stages of development. Highly recommend! You can find an audiobook version here on youtube just search ‘jon bradshaw homecoming’.
I'm planning on re-recording some of John Bradshaw's lectures to move his messages onto modern audio and video equipment, since they're so much better today than they were when this was recorded in the 1980's. Personally, I think everyone in America would love to hear his powerful teachings that touch our wounded inner child. Like this comment to let me know if that's something that interests you! His work, along with Joseph Campbell's, has really helped me to become a whole person, and I just have to carry it on into the future!!
He wrote the book that helped the most in my journey to stop using alcohol and drugs and to began to be an adult. I have so much gratitude. Thank you my brother. I love you.😅
As a recovering alcoholic I knew I felt shame for things I did under the influence but it was John who helped me realize that shame leads to self hate and addiction. I knew I had to identify when my shame first started and heal from that impact. Thank God literally for John.
I herd this 30 years ago, And this lecture changed my life and bought so much healing. Today I hold the hot potato and it burns, but I won’t pass on that hot potato.
Life-changing video. If you are here, it means you have entered a new chapter of your life. It’s a chapter of renewal and healing ❤️🩹. Take time with yourself to finally heal. You deserve it. You deserve peace. My message is to you just as much it is to myself. Be well!
this man truely deserves a standing ovation. every sentence he says is full of meaning, such an intense and deeply truthful talk. which is still so needed, so needed to hear for most of humanity. thx for sharing.
I discovered this guy when he was doing a Sunday program on PBS in the mid 80’s. I’ve read his first 2 books and went to a presentation he did at the Brown Hotel in Denver with about 1000 others for $100 each. 25 years ago he came back to Denver to a Lakewood church and spoke to about 60 people for a $25 each. He was still as powerful as ever. I always thought it was amazing that Carol Burnett did the forward to his first book
I was watching and listening to John Bradshaw before Brene Brown reintroduced us to the power of vulnerability and how to be shame resilient. Thanks for this. When Bradshaw speaks people heal.
Have listened to this so many times, love it, originally watched the episode he came on with Oprah, here on RUclips, after watching it I felt healed, I brought the little girl home with me, and the shame disappeared. Thank you John, still helping us after death, you left your mark.
The thing that destroys shame is honesty. As soon as I was honest, shame was destroyed. I no longer felt the desire to watch porn compulsively. I realized that I was whole and there was nothing I needed to be loved. I realized that I was trying to achieve and be rich so I could feel significant. I was trying to feel significant because I felt the opposite; i felt like shit. But when I turned to honesty, my life became more peaceful. The truth will set you free.
Honesty about yourself is also akin to acceptance of yourself. But damn is it so hard to be honest and accepting of yourself bc of the shame. I’m happy to hear that being honest worked so well for you
@@woowoo2358 I have continued to struggle being honest. The struggle feels like being in the middle of the ocean. There are times I have my head above water. And there are moments where something pulls me down deep and I struggle not to drown in the depths of shame.
"There was nothing I needed to be loved." Really loved what you said there. Because I think too often people including myself are chasing this need to prove our worth and value. I'm really glad you've internalized that piece of truth. It's probably the most important truth to learn.
Dang, that is powerful. I am reading the book right now. Also attending CoDA. I don't want to get to the end of my life never knowing who I am (or was).
I've been learning all this information from John Bradshaw, Gabor Mate, etc etc on trauma, complex-PTSD, shame - it's been a few years now but nothing is making a difference to how I feel. I know a lot more but still feel exactly as broken, lost and defective as I always have.
Dear Reena, Your success with helping your son to grow out of the shame that seems to have bogged him down (much like chaining him down and preventing him to move, let alone flying) "critically" depends on identifying the root causes of that very feeling of shame. The mechanisms with which shame poisons our psyche, vary greatly based on their relative root cause. For example, a feeling of shame stemming from the residual guilt of some action is fundamentally different from the shame one might feel because of the degree of their perceived attractiveness, and so on. @@reenasingh-id9zh
Hi, I just copied the answer that I just wrote to Reena, which I think generally applies to your question as well: Your success with helping your son to grow out of the shame that seems to have bogged him down (much like chaining him down and preventing him to move, let alone flying) "critically" depends on identifying the root causes of that very feeling of shame. The mechanisms with which shame poisons our psyche, vary greatly based on their relative root cause. For example, a feeling of shame stemming from the residual guilt of some action is fundamentally different from the shame one might feel because of the degree of their perceived attractiveness, and so on. @@inatorquoisemood93
Bradshaw also talked about all this as it plays out in academic and work environments. He talked about what he called 'poisonous pedagogy'. He drew on the work of Melody Beattie, Alice Miller, and others like them who were popular with some therapists as well as clients, along with people in diverse 12-step recovery programs.
Shame based relatives act out mostly when there is a death in the family. Met John Bradshaw studies on the Family, Shame and healing the inner child in 1987 when I was in recovery, hoping my whole family can listen to him so that they can see how to heal and come out of hiding themselves.
There is one reading that has allowed me to heal and find myself again despite depression, anxiety and panic attacks. The book is called " Everything Will be Fine I promise". It's a read I recommend to anyone who wants to heal and find the courage to change their life. I wish everyone that I can heal from the past 🌱🥀🌺
Amazing, I have just known this brilliant healer! This is so moving and inspiring. The whole world needs to see this presentation so we can start to heal ourselves and the planet ! 🙏🏾
25:00 Co-dependent as addict? I like Ross Rosenberg's view of it as a love deficit instead. There is a lot of onus and blame with an addiction when the "co-dependent" is the addict, too, and the bad bad guy or woman. Co-dependents are the ones going to group or seeing a therapist, the alcoholic, the gambler, or the narcissist don't go to meetings or therapist unless they hit bottom -- or the judge orders them to get therapy or go to meetings. Co-dependent have enough shame without being called an addict.
10:46 It's very important for parents to understand that the learning and teaching process goes both ways. Sometimes the kids are the teachers and the parents are the students.
Please start thinking of uploading these priceless videos to alternative platforms that aren't censoring. Shame survives in society the same way as it does in a family. We are a shame based society and when dissenting voices are censored you can be sure we as a society is only getting sicker. Support free speech by getting these teaching tools diversified.
This changed my life. Never experienced shame articulated in this way. My inner child is terrified of mistakes and criticism and being human. So I’ve played the people-pleaser and the placater. Low self-esteem. Homeless. Fear of joy and play. Never felt so seen. Thank you, John. In tears. I just wanna recover and champion that beautiful boy. ❤️ Blessings to all on this journey back home.
Amen. I wish I had learned about this ages ago I had no clue how much shame I was carrying with me since I saw that, the lack of perception of my own emotions, it's so powerful, it's touching everyone and it might be one of the greatest sickness of our society. Thank you
I want to help my adult kid who is having this problem ,as he mentioned in the video ,I think my son has internalised shame . I don't know how to put it so that he gets this and work on himself . He doesn't want to listen to such kind of things ,he is still focussed externally ,something around him to change . I can not model myself as I am myself struggling and working on myself . So can't guide him that much
@@johnnysprocketz yes ,actually there is no going back . Although it does feel like giving up sometimes but then everything makes sense even the thought of giving up and frustration seems like part of the journey . Everything is "ok ",peace or frustration
@@reenasingh-id9zh you can show him where you are and explain what has happened and what you're working on. You can explain what might have happened to him and that you want to help and support him. By leaving him alone will make him resentful especially if he finds this stuff on his own
I saw this video 10 years ago and it really helped me back then. Today I rewatch and it clicks even more. The ingredient that I was missing was COMPASSION. I entered a phase of trying to « undo » the shame by doing other stuff, but I couldn’t forgive myself. It’s only when I became humble, that I loosened the shame I carried…
John, literally, saved my life. I saw him in denver, on KPFT, and was instantly drawn to him. During the first seminar, I made a remark that changed his seminar. And the second time he was in denver, I made a remark to change life, just as he had change to mine..
My sibling and I carry the shame of my father. His mom had 6 children with one man that never married her. When she was pregnant with child #6 he married another person. So my father said he was a bastard (1940s).He became an alcoholic at 12 years old. He got so much anger when he was drunk that he would braked chairs, windows,walls,doors… I thought he was the incredible hock … we children became shameful of seeing dad sleeping on the sidewalks by the bar and our classmates telling us…or the scandals in our house because he became violent against mother. She never defended herself or divorced him.Father tried to be a good father,the father he never had.Now the sperm”donor” (grandfather) and my dad passed. I am in my 70s now and I realizing why I am so ashamed to even when people looked up me or even talked to me.the stress of making mistakes that I wished I could die.this is the best description of my inner mind. Thanks.
Guided meditations on toxic shame, healing the inner child and releasing trauma from the body have helped me so much, and the 12 step program adult children of alcoholics is available online meetings.
When he said, about parents, they couldn't love. The thought was, I'm sure that my mother and dad, when I was born, it was probably the happiest day of her life. However, she could only give what she had which was not too sufficient, but there was love, however lacking. I'm blessed to have a choice. The other thing, when he talked about wallopping a freind. Grabbing their ear, tell them to get a switch - I didn't know this was not o.k. I owe amends.
very helpful. enjoy listening to him from way back, decades ago!. bluntness speaker, blunt speaking. eye opener with frank words about subjects and taboos that can hit the ears of must of those around like it has me. thanks for speaking and sharing your experiences.
Hey everyone - looking for a spot of advice. Started reading Homecoming and finding it super overwhelming. I have an EMDR therapist but not a talk therapist. Thoughts on whether I should read Healing the Shame first?
This is so powerful still watching in 2024
Listened to this one 3 times a day, at the beginning of my healing journey, for a year and i am back here to say it saved my life. It changed me and changed the trajectory of my life.
Wow
❤
Im so happy for you! ❤
Found this book last weekend, I knew RIGHT away it was going to change my trajectory path too. I have tears around how much I've learned reading half of this book. The book gives GREAT detail and steps to take. Every bookshelf and library needs to offer this book it's absolutely life regenerative. SHARE the healing what a blessing.
Glad to hear that ❤️
Miss you JB. Not enough people honor your legacy. Your work has helped me immensely.
Radical honesty
His "legacy" is utter trash.
He was such ahead of the times … even today , professionals in the field doesn’t stress this important subject of toxic shame
See Brene Brown!!! Her research, Ted talks, and books definitely picked up where John Bradshaw left off. She also has a similar sense of humor which make me think of him when I listen to her.
I agree. People in the field continue to stay on the surface. I liked what he said that working on the guilt does the therapy will last for years. That’s why shame needs to be addressed to heal those emotions.
I was just recommended this by a counselor so it sounds like professionals are finally catching on
@@tbbart6463 I haven't read any of Brene Brown's books (I did listen to the audio version of a very short one), but I've seen some of her talks on YT. I don't see her addressing shame that originates in childhood. She seems to think people's problems begin in adulthood, like most Americans seem to. What am I missing?
most cant bear to look at it by nature of what it is
It's time people stop saying, they were doing their best. Being physically attacked by a parent at age 3, being used as their personal punching bag, because they are under stress and you happen to be in their presence......is not their best. I can accept that they were doing the only thing they knew to do. Physical violence is never anyone's "best".
Couldn’t live this life without men like this. I’ve taken all my most critical values and information from these very rigorously virtuous men. I’ll be forever paying that forward.
I am currently reading his book "Home coming", and I've got to say that this guy clearly his stuff. The depth of his experience and detailed wisdom is, at times, breath taking. Gos bless him.
Just bought his book on toxic shame and about to start, what's Home coming about?
@@0ijm3409fiwrekjconnecting with and healing your inner child at different stages of development. Highly recommend! You can find an audiobook version here on youtube just search ‘jon bradshaw homecoming’.
kept my precious copy from the early 90s brilliant
He’s a real hero
hello
can I contact you
I'm planning on re-recording some of John Bradshaw's lectures to move his messages onto modern audio and video equipment, since they're so much better today than they were when this was recorded in the 1980's. Personally, I think everyone in America would love to hear his powerful teachings that touch our wounded inner child. Like this comment to let me know if that's something that interests you! His work, along with Joseph Campbell's, has really helped me to become a whole person, and I just have to carry it on into the future!!
Great guy. Amazing he can tie humor into such a heavy subject
He wrote the book that helped the most in my journey to stop using alcohol and drugs and to began to be an adult. I have so much gratitude.
Thank you my brother. I love you.😅
As a recovering alcoholic I knew I felt shame for things I did under the influence but it was John who helped me realize that shame leads to self hate and addiction. I knew I had to identify when my shame first started and heal from that impact. Thank God literally for John.
A bodhisattva of our time. Healed himself to heal others.
He made the hero’s journey & returned to help others.
Omg Shame is "Hiding". That one hits hard. Thank you.
I herd this 30 years ago, And this lecture changed my life and bought so much healing. Today I hold the hot potato and it burns, but I won’t pass on that hot potato.
🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
That's the key.. what Jung called conscious suffering
Life-changing video. If you are here, it means you have entered a new chapter of your life. It’s a chapter of renewal and healing ❤️🩹. Take time with yourself to finally heal. You deserve it. You deserve peace. My message is to you just as much it is to myself. Be well!
Thank you. Be well
this man truely deserves a standing ovation. every sentence he says is full of meaning, such an intense and deeply truthful talk. which is still so needed, so needed to hear for most of humanity. thx for sharing.
He speaks with such a good combination of wisdom and humor.
I discovered this guy when he was doing a Sunday program on PBS in the mid 80’s. I’ve read his first 2 books and went to a presentation he did at the Brown Hotel in Denver with about 1000 others for $100 each. 25 years ago he came back to Denver to a Lakewood church and spoke to about 60 people for a $25 each. He was still as powerful as ever. I always thought it was amazing that Carol Burnett did the forward to his first book
I was watching and listening to John Bradshaw before Brene Brown reintroduced us to the power of vulnerability and how to be shame resilient. Thanks for this. When Bradshaw speaks people heal.
😢😢😢🎉🎉
😢🎉🎉😢🎉🎉😊😢😢
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What a beautiful legacy he has left us with.
44:00 mens issues
Is he late?
I love Dr. Bradshaw and how much he has taught me.❤
I Love John Bradshaw. He's right on the Mark with stuff.
Have listened to this so many times, love it, originally watched the episode he came on with Oprah, here on RUclips, after watching it I felt healed, I brought the little girl home with me, and the shame disappeared. Thank you John, still helping us after death, you left your mark.
The thing that destroys shame is honesty. As soon as I was honest, shame was destroyed. I no longer felt the desire to watch porn compulsively. I realized that I was whole and there was nothing I needed to be loved. I realized that I was trying to achieve and be rich so I could feel significant. I was trying to feel significant because I felt the opposite; i felt like shit. But when I turned to honesty, my life became more peaceful. The truth will set you free.
Powerful!!
Honesty about yourself is also akin to acceptance of yourself. But damn is it so hard to be honest and accepting of yourself bc of the shame. I’m happy to hear that being honest worked so well for you
@@woowoo2358 I have continued to struggle being honest. The struggle feels like being in the middle of the ocean. There are times I have my head above water. And there are moments where something pulls me down deep and I struggle not to drown in the depths of shame.
"There was nothing I needed to be loved." Really loved what you said there. Because I think too often people including myself are chasing this need to prove our worth and value. I'm really glad you've internalized that piece of truth. It's probably the most important truth to learn.
I am struggling so much with this. I have no idea how to even begin. I feel like, like I need someone to draw me a map. my shame is so deep.
The best talk Iv heard
Dang, that is powerful. I am reading the book right now. Also attending CoDA. I don't want to get to the end of my life never knowing who I am (or was).
I started readed the book of him, discovered him today and wow tears are flowing looks incredible
John's work saved my life in the early 90's. Bless you John, RIP.
God bless i hope ur well to this day bro.
I've been learning all this information from John Bradshaw, Gabor Mate, etc etc on trauma, complex-PTSD, shame - it's been a few years now but nothing is making a difference to how I feel. I know a lot more but still feel exactly as broken, lost and defective as I always have.
Have you tried any group therapy? Shame thrives in isolation. Best wishes
Stay gold Bob 👍
@@chrisseager1820 witnessed discharge of trauma is very healing, hey?
Shame is a terrible thing to live with. I've been living with shame most of my life. John Bradshaw makes a lot of sense.
get rid of it brother ... believe me, it'll set you free.
@@veritasdude1358 how can I help my adult kid who is just completely blocked and doesn't believe it will work when I tell him . He is not convinced .
@@veritasdude1358 how do you get rid of shame ?
Dear Reena,
Your success with helping your son to grow out of the shame that seems to have bogged him down (much like chaining him down and preventing him to move, let alone flying) "critically" depends on identifying the root causes of that very feeling of shame.
The mechanisms with which shame poisons our psyche, vary greatly based on their relative root cause. For example, a feeling of shame stemming from the residual guilt of some action is fundamentally different from the shame one might feel because of the degree of their perceived attractiveness, and so on.
@@reenasingh-id9zh
Hi, I just copied the answer that I just wrote to Reena, which I think generally applies to your question as well:
Your success with helping your son to grow out of the shame that seems to have bogged him down (much like chaining him down and preventing him to move, let alone flying) "critically" depends on identifying the root causes of that very feeling of shame.
The mechanisms with which shame poisons our psyche, vary greatly based on their relative root cause. For example, a feeling of shame stemming from the residual guilt of some action is fundamentally different from the shame one might feel because of the degree of their perceived attractiveness, and so on.
@@inatorquoisemood93
Wow I did not expect to love this guy so much!
This is powerful.
Bradshaw also talked about all this as it plays out in academic and work environments. He talked about what he called 'poisonous pedagogy'.
He drew on the work of Melody Beattie, Alice Miller, and others like them who were popular with some therapists as well as clients, along with people in diverse 12-step recovery programs.
Be sure to get the 10 part PBS series he did on the Family. Most libraries will carry them.
thank you so much! I just found this series here on RUclips for free after seeing this comment :)
Shame based relatives act out mostly when there is a death in the family. Met John Bradshaw studies on the Family, Shame and healing the inner child in 1987 when I was in recovery, hoping my whole family can listen to him so that they can see how to heal and come out of hiding themselves.
10:00 need a community to raise kids
37:00 anger
39:15 comparison
46:34 Shane vs guilt
52:50 addiction
This is so fantastic! I really needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing ❤
Omg!!! I’m having sooo much revelation from his teachings!!
There is one reading that has allowed me to heal and find myself again despite depression, anxiety and panic attacks. The book is called " Everything Will be Fine I promise". It's a read I recommend to anyone who wants to heal and find the courage to change their life. I wish everyone that I can heal from the past 🌱🥀🌺
Thanks for uploading this. If you have more videos by this great man please upload
Very intersting and worth the time to listen..
Who is this man , why u didn’t know him before? Why was he hiding? He is so amazing, may his soul be blessed wherever he is ❤️
I'm so happy this exists. This is so healing
I bet you're still in treatment, dumbo.
This is really how we saw new ideas before RUclips.
Wow, what an incredible video.
WOW! This was wonderful! Thank you. Much needed video...esp. right now.🤔😊
Amazing, I have just known this brilliant healer! This is so moving and inspiring. The whole world needs to see this presentation so we can start to heal ourselves and the planet ! 🙏🏾
his book Homecoming is brilliant also 90s
Excellent!!
Wow I have this book and started reading it today, wow just wow.
This is such rich information, thank you for sharing!
25:00 Co-dependent as addict? I like Ross Rosenberg's view of it as a love deficit instead. There is a lot of onus and blame with an addiction when the "co-dependent" is the addict, too, and the bad bad guy or woman. Co-dependents are the ones going to group or seeing a therapist, the alcoholic, the gambler, or the narcissist don't go to meetings or therapist unless they hit bottom -- or the judge orders them to get therapy or go to meetings. Co-dependent have enough shame without being called an addict.
Thanks John. And thanks Dad
this video is good weather you're addicted or not, lots of good views without holding religion or blaming others
Yes, he actually sounds like a preacher.
"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed." James 5:16a
FOLEY'S oh man what a throwback, I'm just barely young enough to remember that place lol
34:00 All humans are Animals too. All species need respect
I love you Dr. Bradshaw, thank you for everything
We were poetry itself 💗
Are you fucking kidding That phone ☎️ rang and rang and rang😆😆
Seriously! I don’t know if I can finish the video
Spot on!!! Change the rules, embrace the change, and allow vulnerability & authenticity within yourself - today.
Remember when a phone would ring 30 times?
Still powerful even 35+ years later thank you for this 🙏
🌼🦄🌞blessings to all..you are heroes💚💗💚💗💚💗💚🙌 love is the golden key🍀🙏 maximum respect from Toronto🌼🦄🦋
10:46 It's very important for parents to understand that the learning and teaching process goes both ways.
Sometimes the kids are the teachers and the parents are the students.
Those whom put themselves on public display will always be judged.
Thank you, so, much for posting it in its entirety. :)
Thanks so much, Anton. JB was and is a gem. Such wisdom Thank you for posting this talk on YT. xxox
This is the best i have ever seen
Answer the phone ☎️ dang!
Please start thinking of uploading these priceless videos to alternative platforms that aren't censoring.
Shame survives in society the same way as it does in a family. We are a shame based society and when dissenting voices are censored you can be sure we as a society is only getting sicker.
Support free speech by getting these teaching tools diversified.
A Healer and wonderful Human being. Dr Gabor Mate comes to mind too ❤️
Thank you so much for uploading this needed information 🎁❤️☀️🙏
Thank you to the channel for sharing this video I'm glad to have found it after the original was removed by the censors of the times
Absolute brilliance from this man! I could listen to him all day long. Truly remarkable!! Thank you for sharing this!!
This changed my life.
Never experienced shame articulated in this way.
My inner child is terrified of mistakes and criticism and being human.
So I’ve played the people-pleaser and the placater. Low self-esteem. Homeless.
Fear of joy and play.
Never felt so seen.
Thank you, John.
In tears.
I just wanna recover and champion that beautiful boy.
❤️
Blessings to all on this journey back home.
Amen. I wish I had learned about this ages ago I had no clue how much shame I was carrying with me since I saw that, the lack of perception of my own emotions, it's so powerful, it's touching everyone and it might be one of the greatest sickness of our society. Thank you
I want to help my adult kid who is having this problem ,as he mentioned in the video ,I think my son has internalised shame . I don't know how to put it so that he gets this and work on himself . He doesn't want to listen to such kind of things ,he is still focussed externally ,something around him to change . I can not model myself as I am myself struggling and working on myself . So can't guide him that much
@@reenasingh-id9zh never quit
@@johnnysprocketz yes ,actually there is no going back . Although it does feel like giving up sometimes but then everything makes sense even the thought of giving up and frustration seems like part of the journey . Everything is "ok ",peace or frustration
@@reenasingh-id9zh i recommend hypnosis for u
@@reenasingh-id9zh you can show him where you are and explain what has happened and what you're working on. You can explain what might have happened to him and that you want to help and support him. By leaving him alone will make him resentful especially if he finds this stuff on his own
I saw this video 10 years ago and it really helped me back then. Today I rewatch and it clicks even more. The ingredient that I was missing was COMPASSION. I entered a phase of trying to « undo » the shame by doing other stuff, but I couldn’t forgive myself. It’s only when I became humble, that I loosened the shame I carried…
Powerful and way ahead of his time
John, literally, saved my life. I saw him in denver, on KPFT, and was instantly drawn to him. During the first seminar, I made a remark that changed his seminar. And the second time he was in denver, I made a remark to change life, just as he had change to mine..
Not a chance that my parents did their best. NO. WAY. They were socialites and they couldn't get rid of their kids (neglect) quick enough.
That phone was infuriating...
My sibling and I carry the shame of my father. His mom had 6 children with one man that never married her. When she was pregnant with child #6 he married another person. So my father said he was a bastard (1940s).He became an alcoholic at 12 years old. He got so much anger when he was drunk that he would braked chairs, windows,walls,doors… I thought he was the incredible hock … we children became shameful of seeing dad sleeping on the sidewalks by the bar and our classmates telling us…or the scandals in our house because he became violent against mother. She never defended herself or divorced him.Father tried to be a good father,the father he never had.Now the sperm”donor” (grandfather) and my dad passed. I am in my 70s now and I realizing why I am so ashamed to even when people looked up me or even talked to me.the stress of making mistakes that I wished I could die.this is the best description of my inner mind. Thanks.
Guided meditations on toxic shame, healing the inner child and releasing trauma from the body have helped me so much, and the 12 step program adult children of alcoholics is available online meetings.
When he said, about parents, they couldn't love. The thought was, I'm sure that my mother and dad, when I was born, it was probably the happiest day of her life. However, she could only give what she had which was not too sufficient, but there was love, however lacking.
I'm blessed to have a choice.
The other thing, when he talked about wallopping a freind. Grabbing their ear, tell them to get a switch - I didn't know this was not o.k. I owe amends.
9:21 Depending on the race, the local culture/judicial
/educational systems, Karma, family relationships, neighbourhood, etc.
Thanks for saving my life John!!!!!
13:43 The ego is talking. And that goes for all the people, not only for parents ...
What’s the difference that makes the difference? The thorn of existence.
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
very helpful.
enjoy listening to him from way back, decades ago!.
bluntness speaker, blunt speaking.
eye opener with frank words about subjects and taboos that can hit the ears of must of those around like it has me.
thanks for speaking and sharing your experiences.
wow
Wow 🕊️🕊️
Wow, I have to get this guy's book on shame now. 🙏
Do it... It is a great book!!!!
I found it hard to sit down and read, but the audio book helped me enormously!!!
Is there a audio on here
@@georginajovanovic see at Audible
Brilliant Enlightening Stuff. Was introduced to his work mdecades ago. So TRUE
He is my hero. My Savior.
The man who changed my paradigm of life
is it possible that I contact you ?
Thank you. This is one of his best. I got to meet him twice in Houston.
You're lucky!
thank you Anton
Benefit of the Confessional❤
WOW, just WOW
Hey everyone - looking for a spot of advice. Started reading Homecoming and finding it super overwhelming. I have an EMDR therapist but not a talk therapist. Thoughts on whether I should read Healing the Shame first?
It sounds like you already have the answer. You are the expert in how to go forward. I hope it’s going well ❤
Thank you for sharing this. Learning a lot right now