Awesome to hear of your success. Sounds like you get it. Enjoy the great times ahead with women. It only gets better from where you are now. Cheers, Dan 👍
It really seems like if you know what you are doing, and is doing it in a confident way, attraction seems to be more or less automatically created. But the man MUST believe what he is doing regardless of her reaction, which is the point where most men fumble.
Update: I finally have approached and attracted a few women so far. It's much more fun and easier at raves than anywhere else. Your advice is golden. There has been one insecure, childish guy who tried gaslighting me, dampening my ambition, and undermining you but he's just some sore loser who's lost in the sauce. I stay away from Super Weenie Hut Jr level people like him. Bonus: I tore him up to shreds and am unapologetic about it. You're doing God's work Dan! Keep it up! We need more people like you to shine 👏
Thanks Dan for your video! In French I will say : "Trop gentil attire le mépris..." Which can be translated into "Too nice attract disrespect..." It comes from mother wounds depending how our mothers acted / raised us as child without going into the easy blaming game. We have to be mature enough to recognize what / who has wounded us in order to recover
it's very good what to do, until I was 30 I didn't have a girlfriend, being a too rational person, after I went through your videos, I started to meet a lot of girls. Thank you, I'm sorry that I didn't know how to behave when I was young, but it's fine even now.
Just wanna say your point about emotional intelligence > looks is spot on. Always was decently attractive and had multiple girlfriends when I was younger but as I grew up, I stopped easily getting girls like that. Only after I learned how to actually talk to them did they come crawling back 😂 Would like to add that I’m extremely shy so most of them had to approach me to start anything, which adds to your point that they can just sense when you’re exuding confidence. Again, that confidence only came from learning how to actually communicate. Appreciate all your videos my man 🙏
The real problem is that men are raised to see women as better than them. This belief comes from them seeing their mother (and thus all women) as better than them as a small boy and then not naturally outgrowing this belief as they mature. After all, little boys are rewarded by their mothers for being "a good little boy" and many never outgrow this. The guys who are unsuccessful with women are trying to please the women they are attracted to just like they tried to please mommy. Of course this is happening subconsciously. The few men who do outgrow this belief are the guys who are naturally attractive and they are the guys who are very successful with women.
Wow this video fits me and a mindset thing for me to learn to not be stuck in the nice guy friend zone and hopefully be able to get into relationship mode ??? 🤔 !!!
Quick off-topic question: What would you do if you asked a girl to dinner in person, and she seemed genuinely interested, but when you follow up via text, she reads it but doesn’t respond to the dinner part, even though she replies to your other texts? Best to just move on, right?
Confidence is an emotional strength that attracts women. For those who lack confidence… how do you even start? Like here’s my pit: I’m 30, reverse narcissist(self loathing hatred) been picked on and told I’m shit my whole life, I feel ugly and undesirable as in I fear people are secretly disgusted just having to see me. Had no father, workaholic mother who has her own issues… antisocial, no coach or teachers or mentors… I went to college for 6 years without talking significantly to people, I do what I’m told and shut up. Blood test showed low T. I don’t even want to be in people’s lives, believing I’m doing bad and ruining people’s lives if I’m in it. If a girl wanted to date me I would tell her run or trust me you don’t want me or my problems. I just go to work 6 days, hardly able to keep myself or house going, just walk my dog then pass out. I’ll stop there.
Dan, you're the man. I bought The Flow from you and it had a dramatic effect on my dating life. I was a good looking kid when I was young, and got girls without even trying. I never really developed any sort of charisma or charm, but once I was thrown back into the dating pool in my 20s, and again in my mid 50s, I had to learn it, and The Flow got me on track. It's surprisingly easy to adjust your level of attractiveness to a woman, and I never realized it. Though I just make sure to turn the charm off when I'm talking with my ex wife. ;-) Thanks again!
Quirky question. What happens if there is hierarchical power difference between you as a Man and her as the Woman. I.e the Woman is a CEO and the man is an Employee? How does this affect the dynamic?
Approaching one woman is easy enough .. But women usually hang out in "packs" and "protect" each other ! Any advice on how to pennatrate through that ?
You cannot isolate a woman who is in a group without risking the whole group turning hostile on you. They'll talk about people only they know or make inside jokes that you don't understand, all to ostracize you. Be smart- befriend the whole group and figure out who's the easiest to approach first. After that, once your a friend of the group, they'll allow you to pursue one of their members. As a bonus you’ll get a sense of what kind of people you're dealing with. Whether they're strippers or network engineers, this info will come in handy when you start considering who you're actually thinking about making out with.
Dan im finally getting way more results with women. Im 31 and was on a date with a 20 year old. When she found out my age she was shocked because i look younger. Her friends convinced her it was too weird and we ended it. How do I make this age gap seem not weird ?
That's a problem... Not the age gap but the influences by her inner circle. You certainly don't have a problem with it, and she may not either - but her friends and/or family might convince her otherwise. Keep meeting women, but leave the door open for her in case she changes her mind.
If she listens to her friends, then she does not have her own mind. So don't feel sorry for losing her. The vital point is that the girl ought to have her own mind. Cheers!
Dan met his current wife 12 years ago when she was 20, and he was 35. About a year ago or so, I saw a guy possibly in his 50s approach a woman probably in her 20s at this bar I go to, and they seemed to hit it off. A little later on, she seemed to give her number to him. The fact that he's single and probably displayed the traits Dan described helped him at least get laid. Trust me, if she wasn't interested, she would have tuned him out, so to speak.
When I want to meet a woman none are available. When I'm not interested they are suddenly available. This has been repeating since 2020 and in the end nothing ever happens. It's so bloody tiring and depressing. I know how to interact in terms of natural attraction, to go with the flow etc, but the timing is always wrong for connecting. I'm starting to think I'm better off just giving up. What do you think?
Check your deep beliefs about relationship, commitment, love, intimacy. Maybe you are scared of real intimacy. (imagine a real relationship, how makes that feel you)
Hey dan There's a sky lounge I've been attending for a month and I have had a few numbers with different women however I didn't rly initiate a date with any of them due to disinterest but I still respect and appreciate them. I even danced with one of the girls there, didn't rly take her number down but I followed her on Facebook instead. Now am still single but will be going back to that sky lounge bar next week once I receive my salary next monday So this week I won't be gg anywhere will jus be relaxing at home while saving up my remaining money Any advuce you can share
If you see any of those women, just behave as though everything is totally fine between you and them (i.e. don't worry that you didn't follow up and initiate a date). Behave as though you are cool with each other and if you're interested, focus on attracting her and then shoot your shot. If you're not interested, just hang out with those women for a bit, or say a quick hello and then talk to women you're attracted to when you're ready. Cheers, Dan
This is something I still struggle with a bit--how to correctly display insecurities to women. By insecurity, I mean specifically not knowing how to tackle a certain situation. For example, I went on a friendly platonic date with a girl who used to date my friend. Even though we'd both decided to just be friends, I could sense the attraction between us. We had wine, we talked for a few hours, we laughed, she played with her hair, we went to my apartment and I showed her my "Bat-cave", but I never escalated, purposefully. I did it because my friend who she dated was not on the same page yet. I told her, "I would take her on dates if our circumstances were different". Now, perhaps this showed insecurity? What do you think? Should I have been more explicit in bringing up her ex? Moving forward, my goal is to encourage my friend (who is inclined to getting back with her at "some point") to get her back as soon as he can, because I think that this girl is quite the gem.
Hey Dan, bought your ex back system and worked very well so far but bit stuck now. We met few times even made out, went movies, held hands all as we used to etc. one time she told me she kissed another guy which later she said she told me as a joke to test if my heart will sink. I stayed strong and thst annoyed her, I also said I’m seeing other girls and she blocked me off everything again and said she doesn’t want to speak anymore as it’s easier to get over. What do i do now ?
Dan, if you only express attractive traits like masculine, confident and funny etc without openly hitting on a girl would you lose her interest? Would it be enough to keep her initial attraction for you, so you can date her if you want a later time?
She would still feel some attraction for you if you had displayed those traits correctly (i.e. some guys think they are displaying confidence, but women can sense insecurity. Some guys think they are being funny, but it's not the kind of humor that attractions). However, in in almost all cases, you need to shoot your shot (i.e. ask for her number, kiss her, set up a date, etc) because women will rarely do it for you. If you take too long to shoot your shot, the woman may assume that you don't like her enough to do that (and then she'll start playing hard to get, or assume you wouldn't genuinely like her so it would be a waste of time), you're not confident enough to make a move, you're expecting her to man up and make the move, or that there isn't enough of a spark between you and her for that to happen. Solution: All you need to do with women is display attractive traits and shoot your shot. If you do that, you will get results with many of the women you meet. The better you are at attracting women, the better your results are. That said, you can make women feel attracted and follow up later. Yet, she won't always be available of course. You get better results when you 'strike while the iron is hot' so to speak. Cheers, Dan
All women have a time limit on how long they will be intrigued by you if you act aloof. When that time limit is over, they will write you off mentally and move on. Many factors including the individual woman and how much they're into you will influence how long that time limit is. Once that switch is flipped they may even hate you for real and it won't be possible to unflip it.
Thanks for the thoughtful response Dan, I understand I’m a bit too picky about the girls I date, I know I should date more girls but I also don’t want to waste time with the girls I don’t have really high attraction for. I look for a certain look in a girl, but so far I got no where with this strategy
A better question that "Why can't she like me right away" is why do you like her based off of nothing but looks? Looks should get the ball rolling, but men gotta start using discernment when it comes to drooling.
Solid advice! Although I might have to watch this video again as I found it hard to concentrate on listening while nearly climaxing on multiple occasions due to a certain visual stimulation :)
Always on point mate. You've changed everything for me. I'm now the guy that my friends ask "how do you do it?" Absolute legend
Awesome to hear of your success. Sounds like you get it. Enjoy the great times ahead with women. It only gets better from where you are now. Cheers, Dan 👍
It really seems like if you know what you are doing, and is doing it in a confident way, attraction seems to be more or less automatically created. But the man MUST believe what he is doing regardless of her reaction, which is the point where most men fumble.
Update: I finally have approached and attracted a few women so far. It's much more fun and easier at raves than anywhere else. Your advice is golden. There has been one insecure, childish guy who tried gaslighting me, dampening my ambition, and undermining you but he's just some sore loser who's lost in the sauce. I stay away from Super Weenie Hut Jr level people like him. Bonus: I tore him up to shreds and am unapologetic about it. You're doing God's work Dan! Keep it up! We need more people like you to shine 👏
Weenie hut jrs, love it!
Thanks Dan for your video!
In French I will say : "Trop gentil attire le mépris..."
Which can be translated into
"Too nice attract disrespect..."
It comes from mother wounds depending how our mothers acted / raised us as child without going into the easy blaming game.
We have to be mature enough to recognize what / who has wounded us in order to recover
I think this is your most important video to date - nice work 👏
it's very good what to do, until I was 30 I didn't have a girlfriend, being a too rational person, after I went through your videos, I started to meet a lot of girls. Thank you, I'm sorry that I didn't know how to behave when I was young, but it's fine even now.
Just wanna say your point about emotional intelligence > looks is spot on. Always was decently attractive and had multiple girlfriends when I was younger but as I grew up, I stopped easily getting girls like that. Only after I learned how to actually talk to them did they come crawling back 😂 Would like to add that I’m extremely shy so most of them had to approach me to start anything, which adds to your point that they can just sense when you’re exuding confidence. Again, that confidence only came from learning how to actually communicate. Appreciate all your videos my man 🙏
Dan ... i love you bro 🤝
Thank you very much master 🙏
The real problem is that men are raised to see women as better than them. This belief comes from them seeing their mother (and thus all women) as better than them as a small boy and then not naturally outgrowing this belief as they mature. After all, little boys are rewarded by their mothers for being "a good little boy" and many never outgrow this. The guys who are unsuccessful with women are trying to please the women they are attracted to just like they tried to please mommy. Of course this is happening subconsciously.
The few men who do outgrow this belief are the guys who are naturally attractive and they are the guys who are very successful with women.
Dan I'm also reading the flow but I'm still listening to the master attraction as well
Take action brother, I wish I had funds to get that ebook of the flow 😭😭😭
@@oparaochaudochukwu3813I'm doing that
Pure gem as always
Wow this video fits me and a mindset thing for me to learn to not be stuck in the nice guy friend zone and hopefully be able to get into relationship mode ??? 🤔 !!!
Lurning so much I louse out on so much because I didn't have the knowledge on these things
Better late than never 👍 Most guys never find out about this stuff. Cheers, Dan
Quick off-topic question: What would you do if you asked a girl to dinner in person, and she seemed genuinely interested, but when you follow up via text, she reads it but doesn’t respond to the dinner part, even though she replies to your other texts? Best to just move on, right?
You too huh?
“Men learn to love the woman they are attracted to. Women learn to become attracted to the man they fall in love with.”
― Woody Allen
thanks, good video
Hi Dan is that your living room it's very nice!
8: 'emotional attractivness in men equals beautiful sexy women ' --❤
Confidence is an emotional strength that attracts women.
For those who lack confidence… how do you even start?
Like here’s my pit: I’m 30, reverse narcissist(self loathing hatred) been picked on and told I’m shit my whole life, I feel ugly and undesirable as in I fear people are secretly disgusted just having to see me. Had no father, workaholic mother who has her own issues… antisocial, no coach or teachers or mentors… I went to college for 6 years without talking significantly to people, I do what I’m told and shut up. Blood test showed low T. I don’t even want to be in people’s lives, believing I’m doing bad and ruining people’s lives if I’m in it. If a girl wanted to date me I would tell her run or trust me you don’t want me or my problems.
I just go to work 6 days, hardly able to keep myself or house going, just walk my dog then pass out. I’ll stop there.
Start by deciding that you're going to take yourself and your life less seriously than you have done up till now.
Dan, you're the man. I bought The Flow from you and it had a dramatic effect on my dating life. I was a good looking kid when I was young, and got girls without even trying. I never really developed any sort of charisma or charm, but once I was thrown back into the dating pool in my 20s, and again in my mid 50s, I had to learn it, and The Flow got me on track. It's surprisingly easy to adjust your level of attractiveness to a woman, and I never realized it. Though I just make sure to turn the charm off when I'm talking with my ex wife. ;-) Thanks again!
Quirky question.
What happens if there is hierarchical power difference between you as a Man and her as the Woman.
I.e the Woman is a CEO and the man is an Employee?
How does this affect the dynamic?
Is 33 too late to start doing this?
Best channel
Ayyyyyyyyye 💥✌🏾
Great video
Approaching one woman is easy enough .. But women usually hang out in "packs" and "protect" each other ! Any advice on how to pennatrate through that ?
The more women you approach, the easier it becomes. The hard part in a pack of women is picking the girl that requires the least amount of effort.
You cannot isolate a woman who is in a group without risking the whole group turning hostile on you. They'll talk about people only they know or make inside jokes that you don't understand, all to ostracize you. Be smart- befriend the whole group and figure out who's the easiest to approach first. After that, once your a friend of the group, they'll allow you to pursue one of their members. As a bonus you’ll get a sense of what kind of people you're dealing with. Whether they're strippers or network engineers, this info will come in handy when you start considering who you're actually thinking about making out with.
Dan im finally getting way more results with women. Im 31 and was on a date with a 20 year old. When she found out my age she was shocked because i look younger. Her friends convinced her it was too weird and we ended it. How do I make this age gap seem not weird ?
I'm 37 and 23 year old is feeling me u think that age gap is too big Dan
Great question - I've often wondered the exact same thing
That's a problem... Not the age gap but the influences by her inner circle. You certainly don't have a problem with it, and she may not either - but her friends and/or family might convince her otherwise. Keep meeting women, but leave the door open for her in case she changes her mind.
If she listens to her friends, then she does not have her own mind. So don't feel sorry for losing her. The vital point is that the girl ought to have her own mind. Cheers!
Dan met his current wife 12 years ago when she was 20, and he was 35. About a year ago or so, I saw a guy possibly in his 50s approach a woman probably in her 20s at this bar I go to, and they seemed to hit it off. A little later on, she seemed to give her number to him. The fact that he's single and probably displayed the traits Dan described helped him at least get laid. Trust me, if she wasn't interested, she would have tuned him out, so to speak.
When I want to meet a woman none are available. When I'm not interested they are suddenly available. This has been repeating since 2020 and in the end nothing ever happens. It's so bloody tiring and depressing. I know how to interact in terms of natural attraction, to go with the flow etc, but the timing is always wrong for connecting. I'm starting to think I'm better off just giving up. What do you think?
Check your deep beliefs about relationship, commitment, love, intimacy. Maybe you are scared of real intimacy. (imagine a real relationship, how makes that feel you)
Hey dan
There's a sky lounge I've been attending for a month and I have had a few numbers with different women however I didn't rly initiate a date with any of them due to disinterest but I still respect and appreciate them.
I even danced with one of the girls there, didn't rly take her number down but I followed her on Facebook instead.
Now am still single but will be going back to that sky lounge bar next week once I receive my salary next monday
So this week I won't be gg anywhere will jus be relaxing at home while saving up my remaining money
Any advuce you can share
If you see any of those women, just behave as though everything is totally fine between you and them (i.e. don't worry that you didn't follow up and initiate a date). Behave as though you are cool with each other and if you're interested, focus on attracting her and then shoot your shot. If you're not interested, just hang out with those women for a bit, or say a quick hello and then talk to women you're attracted to when you're ready. Cheers, Dan
Where is this sky lounge btw?
Thanks bro
This is something I still struggle with a bit--how to correctly display insecurities to women.
By insecurity, I mean specifically not knowing how to tackle a certain situation.
For example, I went on a friendly platonic date with a girl who used to date my friend.
Even though we'd both decided to just be friends, I could sense the attraction between us.
We had wine, we talked for a few hours, we laughed, she played with her hair, we went to my apartment and I showed her my "Bat-cave", but I never escalated, purposefully. I did it because my friend who she dated was not on the same page yet.
I told her, "I would take her on dates if our circumstances were different". Now, perhaps this showed insecurity? What do you think? Should I have been more explicit in bringing up her ex?
Moving forward, my goal is to encourage my friend (who is inclined to getting back with her at "some point") to get her back as soon as he can, because I think that this girl is quite the gem.
Hey Dan, bought your ex back system and worked very well so far but bit stuck now. We met few times even made out, went movies, held hands all as we used to etc. one time she told me she kissed another guy which later she said she told me as a joke to test if my heart will sink. I stayed strong and thst annoyed her, I also said I’m seeing other girls and she blocked me off everything again and said she doesn’t want to speak anymore as it’s easier to get over. What do i do now ?
What did you tell her when she told you she kissed another guy?
Dan, if you only express attractive traits like masculine, confident and funny etc without openly hitting on a girl would you lose her interest? Would it be enough to keep her initial attraction for you, so you can date her if you want a later time?
She would still feel some attraction for you if you had displayed those traits correctly (i.e. some guys think they are displaying confidence, but women can sense insecurity. Some guys think they are being funny, but it's not the kind of humor that attractions). However, in in almost all cases, you need to shoot your shot (i.e. ask for her number, kiss her, set up a date, etc) because women will rarely do it for you. If you take too long to shoot your shot, the woman may assume that you don't like her enough to do that (and then she'll start playing hard to get, or assume you wouldn't genuinely like her so it would be a waste of time), you're not confident enough to make a move, you're expecting her to man up and make the move, or that there isn't enough of a spark between you and her for that to happen. Solution: All you need to do with women is display attractive traits and shoot your shot. If you do that, you will get results with many of the women you meet. The better you are at attracting women, the better your results are. That said, you can make women feel attracted and follow up later. Yet, she won't always be available of course. You get better results when you 'strike while the iron is hot' so to speak. Cheers, Dan
All women have a time limit on how long they will be intrigued by you if you act aloof. When that time limit is over, they will write you off mentally and move on. Many factors including the individual woman and how much they're into you will influence how long that time limit is. Once that switch is flipped they may even hate you for real and it won't be possible to unflip it.
Thanks for the thoughtful response Dan, I understand I’m a bit too picky about the girls I date, I know I should date more girls but I also don’t want to waste time with the girls I don’t have really high attraction for. I look for a certain look in a girl, but so far I got no where with this strategy
@@nn99nn99and sometimes they get obsessed with you obviously its not a risk one should take if one really like a girl
A better question that "Why can't she like me right away" is why do you like her based off of nothing but looks? Looks should get the ball rolling, but men gotta start using discernment when it comes to drooling.
Solid advice! Although I might have to watch this video again as I found it hard to concentrate on listening while nearly climaxing on multiple occasions due to a certain visual stimulation :)
You always got the hottest chicks in pictures
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With Woman Emotional Attraction or Energetic attraction or spark is the thing that makes her like your physical appearance.