Those are very good points. I will add may be few. 1. If an American invite you for dinner at home, thank them for dinner and after dinner, offer to help to clean. I know in India, that is considered an anathema. And in America also, most host would not take your help in cleaning up. But still, it is considered polite to offer to help. The reason is because everyone is so busy in America. Even a small help is highly appreciated. 2. If you are invited for dinner at home, take a gift. It could be as small as a pack of chocolates. It does not have to be expensive. But token of appreciation is highly admired. 3. Know your host's bed time and leave 1/2 hour before that. Everyone has plans for next day in America. They are scheduled tightly. 4. If you planned with an American, and you wish to change it to another time and date, then think of their inconvenience. The way I did was as follows: "You and I have planned to meet on XXX date and YYY time. Would it be same for you if I change it? Ask for new date and time that would be equally convenient for them. If that works for you as well then, it’s OK. 5. Any cancellation should be well in advance. I would not cancel anything with any American if it is less than a week away. 6. Do not be a "return freak". Businesses do return purchased items here. But if you are there every other day, returning what you bought, then they will flag you in their system. There is no problem in returning something that you did not like. Personally, I almost never return anything I bought. 7. You cannot haggle for price, but you can ask if there are discount coupons available, or if the item you are buying will go on sale? There is no harm in asking, "are you authorized to give me a discount? If yes, then can you please give me a discount?" There are purchases, in which haggling is common even in America. That is in big ticket items, such as buying a home, or buying a car. Getting body work done on your car. But Americans do not haggle for pocket change. But asking for discount (not demanding it), is honorable.
In my 4 years in USA, all your points are very important. Your video series is the most accurate representation of life in USA. Thank you for taking the time off your busy schedule to make these informative sessions.
Paying 15% tip in America is the norm. If you are not happy with the service, then you can reduce it. In some cases, however, waiter or beautician may seek feedback for lowered tip. They have to pay tax on tips. IRS does not accept them saying zero as tip income. They have to report tip money as income. IRS expects that restaurant sales will include 8% tips. If a waiter reports X income from salary, IRS will bump up their income to 1.08X and charge tax on that. So if no one pays tips, then waiter has to pay tax on income, they never had. On the other hand why 15% rule is good? Well some people pay 10% tip, some pay nothing. So if many people pay 15%, then average may come out to be about 10%. So waiters are sensitive to less than 15% tip. If you pay less than that, sometimes (not always), they may seek feedback about quality of their service. These days , I leave tip, even if I am getting a take out.
Making employees rely on tips is an easy way to improve profit margins by paying below par wages .. tipping as a habit needs to be discouraged so that employers pay atleast minimum wages - when you tip , the tip first covers the min wage and any additional money goes to the employee - it is not on top of their usual wages
Dear Prof: The bargaining/haggling rule is not strictly true. For example, when one buys a new car, if one does not bargain for the best price/deal, the car dealers will take him/her to cleaners. When one buys a house, one does not take the list price. One makes a counter offer. In a recession, sellers are desperate and will accept a low ball offer particularly if one offers cash. I bought a condo in Florida at the height of the "GREAT RECESSION" this way. Obviously, one does not go to Walmart/Target/Home Depot ... and start bargaining!
Theres nothing wrong with negotiating prices at mainstream stores like the ones you've mentioned here. Items sold at these types of stores have a markup in the 30 to 50 percent range, so it would be foolish not to negotiate. That being said, these stores still need to make a profit to cover cost and of course, remain competitive in their respective industries, so you, as the consumer, have to convince store managers it's worth their while to negotiate the price of an item. Everything in business is up for negotiation.
Hi Friend I think points you highlighted it's not only relavant to western world . Every Indians shoul need to adopt it. Regardless he/she immigrating to west or not . Great job Proffesor 👏 You are a true teacher spreading etiquette and helping to realize facts of life in developed parts of Word . Good Job keep it up 👍 From Kerala , India
I did mistake 3 very often during my early days in US. The one thing I had problem understanding was giving people privacy. Where was the limit and how to give a person their privacy, which I had to learn in a hard way. The concept of privacy at that time was a alienating concept for me. Only now I understand how valuable privacy is.
I've lived in both in India and the US for years and have to say, I really enjoyed this video and for the most part, would have to agree with what you've said. Interesting video. I bet it likely really helps those who may not have experience or friends/family in the US to learn from.
few insights for your next video 1. never take food laced with turmeric and hing (asafoetida) to your office. 2. always take gifts when invited to the party. 3. never spit on the road. keep surrounding clean. always clean up your mess when using public restroom. 4. always appreciate other people's job. no job is too small or not important 5. always write emails with the proper salutation. never use Sir or Madam. always refer gentleman with last name and a lady with the first name 6. do not try to help people until asked. most Indians have a bad habit of either helping people or trying to misuse the meaning of help by intentionally making people work. if you take help, offer something in return. for example, if someone replaced your tire, offer them a drink, beer or maybe a dinner. 7. never shake your head to represent yes or no. always speak upfront.
This video is very on point. You summarized essentially what a newcomer learns in the first few years by themselves. I still find it strange that people don’t follow the local strategy - when in Rome be a Roman. Thanks for spreading this knowledge.
This video was very helpful. Thank you Professor. I am very thankful for the thoughts you put in your content. In one of your points where you mentioned- not to speak in your language in the presence of Americans; I feel this should also apply amongst Indians who come from different regions and speak different languages. I have felt excluded many a times and literally feel are they bitching about me since am their boss. In an incident that happened recently at my work place,I told an associate to do a job. He told his manager to do it in his language and just left. When I asked him why didn’t he inform me he said he had delegated it to his manager who he was friends with. That was really unprofessional. However, he apologized for his behavior and again passed a remark on me in his language. In a multilingual environment we must stick to English even when we talk to Indians.
Thank you so much for this video Dr. Sambhara. I made some of the mistakes you mentioned and realized that later. At once, when I was a master's student, I was working on an on-campus job where I had to check the internet connection in campus student housing. There was an American student worker in the building, and she was opening the doors for my friends and me to check the internet connections. I was casually conversing with my friend in my regional language when she walked beside us. When she heard our conversation and couldn't understand the same, she asked, "if we were bitching about her?" From that day, I made it a habit to converse in English whenever I'm with Americans or people of any other nationality.
Sir I liked the video, in India we have a more informal and casual way of speaking while we talk to people in our neighbourhood and community, which I feel is very good. In all the western nations, including UK where I am currently residing, everybody keeps a distance, which seems to be more of a formal nature. When it comes to societal bonding, I feel India has better closeness than the western counterparts.
Very useful video ! One of the point that you probably missed is how as part of the communication skills we are not supposed to interrupt someone. It may not be US related but still in general desis make this mistake here. It’s considered very rude to interrupt while the other person is talking. Overall great video!
Hello Sir , I am Watching your video now , when i am already in America but U really appreciate your work and i am totally agree with your points Also i want to add one very important thing which i personally feel is American are very particular about time which i like the most Thanks again for making such video to helping others to understand the culture difference
I would like to add that please try to make friends from other cultures and countries. It is essential to assimilate into the society and have the ability to hold a meaningful conversation other than talking general topics like weather. In short, have the ability to exchange your views and cultures.
HI Chaitanya! Great video! But most of the tips that you gave are I think applicable living in any country (including India), which people should follow regardless. But yes, some of the tips are super helpful( experienced here in US) like not invading the personal space.
Comment #15. America is a free country. Nobody will judge you if you are acting stupid or not. If people don't like you, then you don't have to make them like you. You be yourself. So be free and exercise your freedom in USA which is not available in India.
You are also a cultural ambassador of the country of your birth/origin. As a person of Indian origin, I cannot even dream of misrepresenting my country. Rather, I wish to build-upon or at least uphold the respect that other Indians earned before me.
Sir it would be great if you could make video on pros and cons of living in America vs in India, as a lot students are confused as to whether they should pursue their masters and settle in India or USA.Thank you.
Point 16: Don't touch people. Point 17: Pay at least 15% tip when you dine out. Most restaurants now charge a minimum 15% gratuity for a team of 6 or more people. Point 18: If you are dining out or otherwise being provided a service, please develop a habit of saying thank you even though you are paying for the service. Point no last: When you talk to someone talk to that person with continuous eye contact.
One important one you mentioned in another aspect......I am not trying to be disparaging here. But this problem do exist and it is high time it is spelled out clearly in the open. Americans/Canadians hate the curry smell in the clothes, jackets and in your car. In my company lot of desi people got offended when people got email not to store jackets in common closets which are not smell neutral. The email did not explicitly target a particular smell, rather politely mentioned people can be allergic to certain smells. So all my Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi brothers and sisters, yes the problem exists and you better take care of it.
2 more things: 1) Be punctual and respect the time of others. 2) If you have RSVPd for an event, and if your plans change, please inform. Do not take others for granted by not showing up
Sir am a in intern of bachelors of Ayurveda and medicine and surgery (BAMS) ..... an ayurvedic doctor .. am 22 ... its my dream to come and settle in USA... is there any possibility in any way... as i want to spread ayurveda as much as i can ... will be waiting soon for ur rply sir..
Great points .. living abroad I would say - please do not stare at other people , even if you want to check them out.. please it’s highly uncomfortable and rude
A message to the owner of the channel: you are doing a great job sensitizing Indians who are already here or want to come here. A couple of things i want to add: (regarding food) please do not burp, slurp or use your fingers to lick your food when no one else is. Find your corner to do it seperately please. Spoons and forks are quite cheap too.
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Your hard work is not ignored. It is very commendable. I am humbled.
Those are very good points. I will add may be few.
1. If an American invite you for dinner at home, thank them for dinner and after dinner, offer to help to clean. I know in India, that is considered an anathema. And in America also, most host would not take your help in cleaning up. But still, it is considered polite to offer to help. The reason is because everyone is so busy in America. Even a small help is highly appreciated.
2. If you are invited for dinner at home, take a gift. It could be as small as a pack of chocolates. It does not have to be expensive. But token of appreciation is highly admired.
3. Know your host's bed time and leave 1/2 hour before that. Everyone has plans for next day in America. They are scheduled tightly.
4. If you planned with an American, and you wish to change it to another time and date, then think of their inconvenience. The way I did was as follows: "You and I have planned to meet on XXX date and YYY time. Would it be same for you if I change it? Ask for new date and time that would be equally convenient for them. If that works for you as well then, it’s OK.
5. Any cancellation should be well in advance. I would not cancel anything with any American if it is less than a week away.
6. Do not be a "return freak". Businesses do return purchased items here. But if you are there every other day, returning what you bought, then they will flag you in their system. There is no problem in returning something that you did not like. Personally, I almost never return anything I bought.
7. You cannot haggle for price, but you can ask if there are discount coupons available, or if the item you are buying will go on sale? There is no harm in asking, "are you authorized to give me a discount? If yes, then can you please give me a discount?" There are purchases, in which haggling is common even in America. That is in big ticket items, such as buying a home, or buying a car. Getting body work done on your car. But Americans do not haggle for pocket change. But asking for discount (not demanding it), is honorable.
excellent points sir
Thank you @@DesiAmericanProfessor
@@SupreethGaddam , Thanks to you.
Also add the point, people without fluent American accent are seen as aliens
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Imagine little Kids telling dad in India Kids -- Dad u should knock the door before entering my room
Dad-- 1 Jhapad padega to akal thikane a jayegi 🤣
US me baccho ko marne par jail ho skti hai
I avoid these mistakes in India and people think I am weird
They think I am different , I think they all are same
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In my 4 years in USA, all your points are very important. Your video series is the most accurate representation of life in USA. Thank you for taking the time off your busy schedule to make these informative sessions.
All points discussed and addressed here are 100% accurate. I have also observed the same thing when I was studying MS in Australia.
This channel is growing and getting better everyday. So much potential.
Thank you
You have missed the most important part. Immigrants usually don't tip well or don't tip at all.
yes, great point!
Paying 15% tip in America is the norm. If you are not happy with the service, then you can reduce it. In some cases, however, waiter or beautician may seek feedback for lowered tip. They have to pay tax on tips. IRS does not accept them saying zero as tip income. They have to report tip money as income. IRS expects that restaurant sales will include 8% tips. If a waiter reports X income from salary, IRS will bump up their income to 1.08X and charge tax on that. So if no one pays tips, then waiter has to pay tax on income, they never had. On the other hand why 15% rule is good? Well some people pay 10% tip, some pay nothing. So if many people pay 15%, then average may come out to be about 10%. So waiters are sensitive to less than 15% tip. If you pay less than that, sometimes (not always), they may seek feedback about quality of their service. These days , I leave tip, even if I am getting a take out.
Making employees rely on tips is an easy way to improve profit margins by paying below par wages .. tipping as a habit needs to be discouraged so that employers pay atleast minimum wages - when you tip , the tip first covers the min wage and any additional money goes to the employee - it is not on top of their usual wages
@@CuteNeha777 your name describes you very well
Dear Prof: The bargaining/haggling rule is not strictly true. For example, when one buys a new car, if one does not bargain for the best price/deal, the car dealers will take him/her to cleaners. When one buys a house, one does not take the list price. One makes a counter offer. In a recession, sellers are desperate and will accept a low ball offer particularly if one offers cash. I bought a condo in Florida at the height of the "GREAT RECESSION" this way.
Obviously, one does not go to Walmart/Target/Home Depot ... and start bargaining!
Theres nothing wrong with negotiating prices at mainstream stores like the ones you've mentioned here. Items sold at these types of stores have a markup in the 30 to 50 percent range, so it would be foolish not to negotiate. That being said, these stores still need to make a profit to cover cost and of course, remain competitive in their respective industries, so you, as the consumer, have to convince store managers it's worth their while to negotiate the price of an item. Everything in business is up for negotiation.
Hi Friend
I think points you highlighted it's not only relavant to western world .
Every Indians shoul need to adopt it. Regardless he/she immigrating to west or not .
Great job Proffesor 👏 You are a true teacher spreading etiquette and helping to realize facts of life in developed parts of Word .
Good Job keep it up 👍
From Kerala , India
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Very good, I'm already following these in India and maybe most people in Mumbai
Another important thing is - do not honk unnecessarily, at least when the signal is red ;)
very good point, but people do not do it here anyhow. They quickly learn about this
Mostly Indians wont do it here. Not because Indians are polite- but because they are afraid of a buckshot going up their ass.
so buddy r u also in usa
I did mistake 3 very often during my early days in US. The one thing I had problem understanding was giving people privacy.
Where was the limit and how to give a person their privacy, which I had to learn in a hard way. The concept of privacy at that time was a alienating concept for me.
Only now I understand how valuable privacy is.
Hey can you plz share your advices in details so that we don’t make the same mistake.
Great suggestions! Thank you.
Dir, This is one of the most useful posts. Wish that I learned this 20 years back. Thank you very much
Glad you enjoyed it!
Informational as usual, Point out more mistakes if you can. Glad that I learned new things.
I've lived in both in India and the US for years and have to say, I really enjoyed this video and for the most part, would have to agree with what you've said. Interesting video. I bet it likely really helps those who may not have experience or friends/family in the US to learn from.
I was searching for an iPad Pro review on RUclips and ended up watching all your videos and became your subscriber. I'm from Sydney, Australia.
Thank you Sir
Great videos sir. I get so much knowledge from your videos. Thanks
few insights for your next video
1. never take food laced with turmeric and hing (asafoetida) to your office.
2. always take gifts when invited to the party.
3. never spit on the road. keep surrounding clean. always clean up your mess when using public restroom.
4. always appreciate other people's job. no job is too small or not important
5. always write emails with the proper salutation. never use Sir or Madam. always refer gentleman with last name and a lady with the first name
6. do not try to help people until asked. most Indians have a bad habit of either helping people or trying to misuse the meaning of help by intentionally making people work. if you take help, offer something in return. for example, if someone replaced your tire, offer them a drink, beer or maybe a dinner.
7. never shake your head to represent yes or no. always speak upfront.
This video is very on point. You summarized essentially what a newcomer learns in the first few years by themselves. I still find it strange that people don’t follow the local strategy - when in Rome be a Roman. Thanks for spreading this knowledge.
I loved your Hindi and you are funny too.. just subscribed 😊👍🏼
You can please make part 2 of this video including points missed in this video , it is very much needed 🙏
Good sharing.of dos n don'ts.one more point on right of way n yielding while driving.
This was very much helpful prof.
Nice information सर जी।
Nice"beralu adanu sir" thank you
Really enjoyed the vdo specially that climbing part dialogue
This video was very helpful. Thank you Professor. I am very thankful for the thoughts you put in your content.
In one of your points where you mentioned- not to speak in your language in the presence of Americans; I feel this should also apply amongst Indians who come from different regions and speak different languages. I have felt excluded many a times and literally feel are they bitching about me since am their boss. In an incident that happened recently at my work place,I told an associate to do a job. He told his manager to do it in his language and just left. When I asked him why didn’t he inform me he said he had delegated it to his manager who he was friends with. That was really unprofessional. However, he apologized for his behavior and again passed a remark on me in his language. In a multilingual environment we must stick to English even when we talk to Indians.
Thank you so much for this video Dr. Sambhara. I made some of the mistakes you mentioned and realized that later.
At once, when I was a master's student, I was working on an on-campus job where I had to check the internet connection in campus student housing.
There was an American student worker in the building, and she was opening the doors for my friends and me to check the internet connections.
I was casually conversing with my friend in my regional language when she walked beside us.
When she heard our conversation and couldn't understand the same, she asked, "if we were bitching about her?"
From that day, I made it a habit to converse in English whenever I'm with Americans or people of any other nationality.
Great information sir .
Cool... Very Useful sir ☺️👍🏻
Very well compiled!!
I've no intention of going to America. Don't know why I am still watching all your videos. 😅
Try doing these things in your home country! At least some people would respect you :)
Thank you for good information my friend.
Glad it was helpful!
Very helpful!
Thanks Professor...
Sir I liked the video, in India we have a more informal and casual way of speaking while we talk to people in our neighbourhood and community, which I feel is very good. In all the western nations, including UK where I am currently residing, everybody keeps a distance, which seems to be more of a formal nature. When it comes to societal bonding, I feel India has better closeness than the western counterparts.
Well said, Professor great points to people who want to come to the US.
Good points and a nice reminder for even those who have lived in US for a while.
Professor Sir, very informative. Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
@@DesiAmericanProfessor Yes, indeed it was. As a matter of fact, all ur videos are very helpful.
Today I following you. Apne meri ankhe khol Di america ane ka sonch Raha tha mai..
Very useful video !
One of the point that you probably missed is how as part of the communication skills we are not supposed to interrupt someone. It may not be US related but still in general desis make this mistake here. It’s considered very rude to interrupt while the other person is talking.
Overall great video!
Very nice and very informative
Hello Sir , I am Watching your video now , when i am already in America but U really appreciate your work and i am totally agree with your points Also i want to add one very important thing which i personally feel is American are very particular about time which i like the most
Thanks again for making such video to helping others to understand the culture difference
Good content sir :)
Just a small suggestion, background music pitch seems more than required. It would be better music is kept low.
Noted
I would like to add that please try to make friends from other cultures and countries. It is essential to assimilate into the society and have the ability to hold a meaningful conversation other than talking general topics like weather. In short, have the ability to exchange your views and cultures.
Professor is back with priceless content appreciate u r efforts sir...Thnx for 5:00 to 5:02.
More videos on these, please!
Plz you can make part 2 this video
Nice editing and great content 👌
Thank you so much 😀
Good all tips were correct
make a video on what americans would love to see/hear you doing....it's not apple polishing but may come handy to many
Superlike! Everyone coming to the US should watch
HI Chaitanya! Great video! But most of the tips that you gave are I think applicable living in any country (including India), which people should follow regardless. But yes, some of the tips are super helpful( experienced here in US) like not invading the personal space.
Thanks for sharing!
These things are so similiar to UK as well !! Gurss that most western etiquettes are similiar !!
Comment #15. America is a free country. Nobody will judge you if you are acting stupid or not. If people don't like you, then you don't have to make them like you. You be yourself. So be free and exercise your freedom in USA which is not available in India.
You are also a cultural ambassador of the country of your birth/origin.
As a person of Indian origin, I cannot even dream of misrepresenting my country.
Rather, I wish to build-upon or at least uphold the respect that other Indians earned before me.
Sir your video is informative for students
Sir Plz Help me
Which Exam is better SAT or Act
all good points... mistake no. 14 was hilarious.
Sir it would be great if you could make video on pros and cons of living in America vs in India, as a lot students are confused as to whether they should pursue their masters and settle in India or USA.Thank you.
The driving advice was funny!
Point 16:
Don't touch people.
Point 17:
Pay at least 15% tip when you dine out. Most restaurants now charge a minimum 15% gratuity for a team of 6 or more people.
Point 18:
If you are dining out or otherwise being provided a service, please develop a habit of saying thank you even though you are paying for the service.
Point no last:
When you talk to someone talk to that person with continuous eye contact.
I watch your videos from fortworth TX. And would like to meet you one day when I come to UTA campus. I have a lot of friends from UTA
Well appreciate. Have a lovely day!!
Thank you! You too!
7:25 that was hilarious 😂🤣
10:35, Is there any fine for seeing into the camera while driving?
not that I know of. It is not very safe though
I'm waiting for part 2🤗
I want a part 2
Why U Delete This Video
very nice video.
In UK you don't say bring, you would say 'would you please get me a plate?'
One important one you mentioned in another aspect......I am not trying to be disparaging here. But this problem do exist and it is high time it is spelled out clearly in the open.
Americans/Canadians hate the curry smell in the clothes, jackets and in your car. In my company lot of desi people got offended when people got email not to store jackets in common closets which are not smell neutral. The email did not explicitly target a particular smell, rather politely mentioned people can be allergic to certain smells. So all my Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi brothers and sisters, yes the problem exists and you better take care of it.
Please give us knowledge of Latest changes in Immigration policy of USA
16- Not holding the door for others behind you.
Ha ha love it the ladies standing in the parking spot was hilarious!
Good one bro . So useful for us when we come there. Telugu ha bro?
Chala baguntadi video
Wow ...
Good points. What happened to those asians trying to block and take the parking space?
Thx
Hahahaha .. nice video and i liked your jokes.. 😂😂
2 more things:
1) Be punctual and respect the time of others.
2) If you have RSVPd for an event, and if your plans change, please inform. Do not take others for granted by not showing up
you are awsmm prof i have also done one negative comment in one of your vedios but there also i was crt and herre also
I replied to your "negative comment" to show you that you were wrong
@@DesiAmericanProfessor yes prof i was thanks for teaching me this lesson thanks again
Good video
Nice video, when we migrate to other countries, we should maintain their rules and regulation adopt their culture
These Are Good Manners. 👍
American culture is very good. 👍
All cultures are good or bad in some way.
Why i am finding this video to be really amusing than the others✌😂
Sir am a in intern of bachelors of Ayurveda and medicine and surgery (BAMS) ..... an ayurvedic doctor .. am 22 ... its my dream to come and settle in USA... is there any possibility in any way... as i want to spread ayurveda as much as i can ... will be waiting soon for ur rply sir..
In malls do not overtake others or do not try to get the thing before they do if they are ahead of you.
Thanks
these are some basic etiquettes everyone would appreciate
Great points .. living abroad I would say - please do not stare at other people , even if you want to check them out.. please it’s highly uncomfortable and rude
Do you have US passport?
sir, shocked listening your telugu
then be a bit more shocked ruclips.net/channel/UC5t6zl_TohLSI86N3mm2v7w
Sir please also tell about tipping culture in US as it's not common in most countries.
if the service is not too good, 10%, if it was acceptable and good, 15-20%, if it was amazing, 20% or more
A message to the owner of the channel: you are doing a great job sensitizing Indians who are already here or want to come here. A couple of things i want to add: (regarding food) please do not burp, slurp or use your fingers to lick your food when no one else is. Find your corner to do it seperately please. Spoons and forks are quite cheap too.
Annayya meru Telugu lo matladuthe chala Baga anipisthundhi.
Always hold the door for other people.
did you get a green card in eb1b?
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