Years ago I went on a cruise with my boyfriend and was so excited on our first trip together. I know I over packed. Going to the airport we both took our own luggage and he had one suitcase to my three. He didn't help me with a single bag, on the bus or loading the carry on. I didn't pay attention to that, anticipating a wonderful vacation. The cruise was fine, but the real disappointment was coming home. Again he bypassed my suitcases and I was young and strong enough to load them on the airport bus. I saw him sitting in a seat and he saved a spot for me, but as I entered the bus I saw a very pregnant woman standing and a old gentleman standing holding the poles because the bus was full. I offered my seat to the pregnant girl and she was relieved. I asked my young healthy boyfriend to give up his seat to the older man standing. He would not do it. When we got home he was already planning our next vacation. I broke up with him right after that trip. He just didn't have that kindness and was selfish. I just couldn't see spending another minute with him. That was my choice and I never regretted it.❤❤
This is the first time I have ever listen to you. I am in my 70's and i completely know what you mean. I am sitting here bawling my eyes out, because I have felt so alone at times. You have helped me a lot.
After your good and healthy cry, go outside and walk around the block. Then call a friend or plan a visit with someone younger! You’ll feel better. And remember, your soul is eternal, that’s why you don’t feel older even though your body is aging. So praise God for letting you live a long time and keeping you in the palm of His hand. You Can Do It! Now, I think a good cry sounds great! I’ll be back in a little while . . . ♥️😊
My mom recently passes to her forever home at 102 and a half. She often said she was still 18 years old in her mind; her body just wasn’t cooperating. She then she laughed aloud. Miss her a lot. Heaven is sweeter with her presence!
Hi Patti, well I wanted to respond to your question and it has taken me days to do so. Feeling old, when it hit me like a ton of bricks was when I was diagnosed with cognitive memory impairment a year ago. I can not explain how alone, scared, afraid of what my life would become. I worked as a professional and knew "I was changing" but to afraid to say anything for awhile. As a professional I worked in the court system, doctors, attorney's was a expert in my field. Today I am no longer able to do these tasks, I was heartbroken. However, I knew I am a fighter so I read more, play brain games, take IQ test and rest more. I have to see my brain specialist often who says I am doing well and some test are great others okay. But, today I have no dementia thank god. I am thankful for my blessings, enjoy fixing my hair and make up again. For me, today I need to take small steps into the abyss of the unknown and do not take anything for granted. Your a awesome lady Patti and I enjoy your channel. I try to be kind every day and wish the world was a kinder place.
My 14 year old grandson was looking at old pictures. In some of them I was about 26. He looked at the picture and looked at me and said “You used to be so beautiful what happened to you?” I just looked at him and said I’m 66 not 26 and I think I still look beautiful. I’ll be 67 tomorrow and survived lung cancer so I’m thankful for every year my Lord let’s me stay on this earth. 💁♀️💕
I hope you used that as an opportunity to instruct him on needlessly blurting out hurtful things. He will not learn nor have the discernment if you do not guide him to be kind.
I’m so sorry nobody helped you on the plane with that overhead bag that is sorry as hell if I was there I would’ve grabbed it right up and put it up there for you and made you feel comfortable there’s no problem in asking for help Don’t let that one person ruined your outlook on younger people there still are good people in the world Patty I respect my elders to the fullest
My husband whose 78 and has a bad heart helped a disabled woman get her food into her car and she says to him Chivalry isn’t dead. Brought me to tears. A little kindness to someone made me happy
Yes you’ve must have beautiful in you’re youth , but lady look at u know. With admiration, I’m 84 and think I’m 34. Yes, the body has changed but not my thoughts of going on. Thanks M
So glad I watched you today! When I fly to MI next Monday from TX, I’m checking my bag! I am 77 also! Who needs the stress, even if the wheels aren’t broken!! Thanks, Patty!😘
My lovely granny lived to 98. Put on her face cream every night and curled her hair. Walked everywhere. Made people laugh. Enjoyed life to the very end. I plan to be just like her. Every day is precious.🥳
Mine also.. lived half way thru 100.. Always visited with people sitting up in the living room. She canned so much at age 99 that we got the gifts from her rather than the other way around. Of course she requested gifts go to Save the Children anyway. She expected to live to see some of the great great grandchildren.. and she did. She had 12 children at home.
I’m still grumpy at Southwest. I checked my big bag because it is so much more convenient. My suitcase was “lost.” After waiting a couple weeks (at their request) to see if it turned up, I began the process of making a claim for my property. It was an ORDEAL. It took weeks of filing papers and getting receipts for everything I claimed, some going back several years. I had to grieve the loss of several things that were in that bag that were personal things my children had given me. I do not check bags now. I’m in my 7th decade. I love the things you say near the end of your video about who you are. I hope you continue to be independent (and a bit sassy) for many more years. For me personally, an invisible line has been crossed. I find I’m not as brave as I used to be. I don’t like the feeling. May God bless us every one!
Somehow during the pandemic and long isolation, I have become obsessed with how old I am. I am 74, but have gone from feeling as if I could do anything, to feeling as if I can’t do anything. It is a terrible feeling. I truly enjoyed your video, and plan to practice choosing feeling strong and capable again. Thank you, Patty. You are beautiful inside and out.
One of the serious difficulties this pandemic has created - for those of us who are fortunate enough to have survived it - is that we are, for the most part, far less physically capable than we were before the pandemic started. I am now 71 and have an autoimmune disease that causes my windpipe to be 25% blocked. Prior to the pandemic, I was working pretty hard to improve my overall fitness, and was making progress, slowly but surely. However, BOOM! COVID hit and eventually all my forms of exercise disappeared. (I'm the type that needs an in-person setting - someone to flog me in person). I've lost a good 50%, if not 75%, of the progress I made. I am MUCH weaker physically, which drives me crazy. I'm at least still functioning, however - my neighbour's husband, who is now 85 and has dementia but managed to function somewhat previously, has been housebound for over a year and is now very weak, frail and confused. Quite apart from all those poor souls who died, the pandemic has been a disaster for a lot of previously functioning seniors. (Sorry for the rant, but this unacknowledged health issue REALLY bothers me.) Anyway, things are getting better now, so it's back to work at making myself more fit - and less old.
Being in isolation with Covid took a lot out of us all, young and old. It is hard to recover. I try just to be in the now moment, that's a good start. :)
@Petals You ladies are not alone. Tomorrow I have my first doctor appointment in forever and I don't want to leave the house. I'm 74 and I'm going to have to use the walker I have had to use after an injury. I have fibromyalgia, adrenal fatigue, problems from back surgery (years ago), I need both eye and throat surgery. All my friends are dead and this is the first time I've felt OLD. It stinks.
The light that emanates from your lovely eyes will keep you young forever!!! The "bag situation at the airport" is a universal thing. We have all been through it no matter our age. This situation restored our belief in kindness and doing the right thing. Your decision to "check your bag" brought you relief and confidence. Sometimes being decisive and seeking the simplest solution is best. Thank you for sharing!
When I turned 50, I felt like I was so old. Now, at nearly 68, 50 seems young. When I'm 85, I'm sure 68 will feel young. So, from now on, I'm going to always think of myself as young. ♥️
I whined all day when I turned 40, that was 29 years ago. What a waste of time that was. Now 40 year olds seem rather young and so will 69 seem some day should I still be around in another decade. Lesson learned! If you cant embrace it, at least dont whine about it.
Hello Patti. I felt old when I turned 70. I was sore all over for three months. I found out I have a torn rotator cuff. After another month I was going to the chiropractor, didn't have surgery, started taking collagen (neocell liquid). I started feeling like my old self. My mother-in-law , 90 years old next month, came to stay with us for 2 weeks. She almost died with kidney failure in 2013. My father-in- law told the doctors she would be better, for them to do all they could to save her. So here she is now, spunky as ever. She keeps our house tidy, puts her makeup on, does her hair, etc. I tell her how she inspires me. She loves watching your videos. She even brought her bathing suit to get in the pool. Thank you for making me think.
The thing that struck me the most in your story was the woman at the airport that told you that you are beautiful! We all need to do that for each other more. 🥰 You just never know what people are going through at any moment, and telling them they are beautiful raises everyone's vibration and just makes the world a better place. Thanks for sharing your story!
What a heartwarming story Patty! I will be 72 in July and recently retired. Life is very different now for me. I feel like I am rediscovering myself and this new passage of my life. I thanks God for each day He gives me. He is my strength. Thank you for being so positive and sharing your experience. It has encouraged me to keep going. God bless!
It really hit me when I turned 71 this past March. My daughter just had a baby girl 2 weeks after by birthday. When I met little Norah Grace, I realized I won't get to see her grow up, get married and have babies of her own. She probably won't remember me and how much I loved her. That was the first day I felt so very old. The reality of it all was so sobering and I am so grateful for one more day, one day at a time. Thank u Jesus for one more day!
Olivia, you might see her grow up and get married! My mother in law is 99 and has gone to the weddings of all 5 of her grandchildren! (She now has 4 GREAT grands!!) So stay strong and positive! You really may be here when your little granddaughter gets married. Infact.. one of the grandkids recently had a baby and my mother in law can still hold her and sing to her. My mother in law is an inspiration to all who know her..and has such a strong spirt. I was compelled to write you..just stay strong and laugh as much as you can. I swear the laughter keeps my mother in law healthy! Much joy to you❤and congratulations on your new little one!
Yes! I can relate to what you're saying: I am old! I am 79, and to think that I'm "pushing 80" has me almost overwhelmed! The airport and traveling thing has hit me, too! I really don't want to do it anymore! It's more of a hassle getting to the airport, getting IN the airport, getting to the gate, etc. that kills me... Not the flying! I could go on forever, but I've said enough. I am old. Whenever I start having a day of feeling overwhelmed by "what to do today" (I'm retired for the past year and 1/2... after working for the past 14 years at a part time job). Rambling on a lot also confirms that "I am old"! Thanks for sharing. I guess I'll just "Join The Club". I love your channel. Good job.
I remember being in England when I was in my twenties and the escalator at the airport was broken. I was trying to carry one of those bags that was like a giant duffel bag up some stairs. My shoe fell off and I dropped my bag and I didn't feel too old at that moment, but I had one of those, "Who do I think I am?" moments. Here I was traveling through Great Britain with no idea how to travel. A young mother with four children came up the stairs behind me and said cheerfully, "Come along kids! Let's help the lady!" Those kids grabbed my bag and carried it upstairs like it was a big game. I still get tears in my eyes when I think of that woman's kindness. That woman with four children she was trying to manage, but still had time for me. That was 39 years ago and I will never forget her. Thank you for sharing your story, Patti. The only time I feel old now is in airports! I think most people over 40 do. So much love to you and those beautiful twins!
I was in England a couple of years ago, at the age of 69. I was trying to navigate the London subway system, on my way to the airport, with a suitcase that was WAY too heavy (I had bought a whole bunch of books...kinda stupid). The London subway system is NOT set up for anyone who is not very mobile - there are all kinds of stairs. Everywhere I went, there was some wonderful young guy who immediately offered to help me. (One even commented "What have you got in here? A dead body?") I didn't feel old, though, so much as way over my head. But everyone was so helpful - it was lovely.
@@susanhenry4073 At least England is retaining it's civility! :) I say as an English person myself , though have spent most of my life in America- I'll never forget, as a young woman just off a flight from America, getting onto the tube, and dropping my huge duffel bag onto some young business man's feet as i was so tired and jet lagged , and he just said "pardon me miss" and stepped aside, rather than yelling at me for my clumsiness . seems a lot of us have the huge duffel bag whilst travelling stories.. lol -
Yes, I am experiencing it! I lost my husband of 47yrs, 4 years ago. I moved back to NC and have bought a home. I live with 2 fur babies who mean the world to me. But I’m an introvert and not terribly social. Also, I’m an illustrator but have trouble being inspired these days. I enjoy your talks and suggestions… I can certainly relate to what you say! Thanks for being there!
Hi, Patti. I'm 73 and (I know I'm fortunate) will not allow the "old lady" in, ie: when I find myself "slouching" I sit up straight, when I find myself walking too slow I put a "skip in my step" and a "smile on my face" like I'm going somewhere special. No matter what, when I leave the house I comb my hair, put on my lipstick and give myself a "look once over". I could go on and on but you get "the drift." I got this idea from an article I read several years ago. Two golfers one in his 50"s and one in his 90"s. 50 year old asks 90 year old, "what keeps you so young" and he said, "I don't let the old man in." The story is true and a little longer but I thought I would share it. Thank you for sharing your grandbabies. God bless you. Susie P.S. You look fabulous.
I am 74 and I can’t tell you how happy I am to have found your channel. Recently I have experienced that old feeling. It is probably a result of COVID-19 and isolation. Not realizing what I was doing, I took up quilting after being away from it for 30 years. I can’t tell you how that lifted my frame of mind and I begin to realize that I am a skilled sewer and I can do things that I never thought I would do and hearing you talk about it has given me a new Hope. Cheers from Canada
Hi Patti. Recently I turned 70. I have thought of the times I needed my husband to give me a hand doing things. It makes me sad because I use to have so much energy an I was always the one to help others. Last year we had my garden taken out and grass planted because it is way too much for me to take care of. I am starting to feel old but I focus on the things I can do. I get up every day and put my makeup on and fix my hair. I keep my house as clean as I can and set goals for myself each week. I’m not giving up. You are a great inspiration for us all. Thank you.
I was beginning to feel old due to a lot of things going on right now in my life. I am pretty much doing all things alone due to my husband's illness and feeling overwhelmed, but I am bound and determine to stay strong, healthy, vibrant, and loving.....and kind. Thanks for sharing this. I was inspired by your words. Thank you Patty.
Loved this!! And you are beautiful!! And yes I feel old, I just turned 60 and my husband of 30 years has cheated and we're divorcing and now I feel old but yet I know I'm better off without him in my life and someday I will be with someone who is kind to me!! 💕😉🌼🌺
Hey Cynthia Ann !!! I am "69." Won't Tell You My Story, but wanted to Say . . . Especially, since He was NOT "Kind" to You, Think of It AS A BLESSING. AGE, "Ain't Nothin' but a Number," as the Saying Goes. This is My "2nd" Marriage and We have been Together for "46" Yrs. Challenging at Time's however. When Going-Through My Divorce, and Before We Met, I "Prayed," that if it was Meant to Be, for GOD to Put the RIGHT Man In My LIFE. I Wish the BEST For YOU. It's Kinda' Like Grieving a Death in a Way. You Are Grieving a Death Of a Relationship. There will Be All Different Kind's of Feeling's that you'll Experience, but that's Part of the Process. It Will Pass though. KEEP "Positive" Thought's About Yourself and the Wonderful NEW LIFE Ahead Of You. Remember, You Are Never Alone. 🙏
Amen. You deserve better and he is not worth making your life miserable. Thank you for loving yourself enough to get out. Too many women stay and it destroys them.
Now you can do things you have always wanted to do. Go places, change your decorating, maybe join a group etc. Think of it as an opportunity, the best is yet to be. 🥰
You will be so much better off. Once a cheater always a cheater. This is your time to be happy. I’ve been divorced twice and have had a few boyfriends along the way that I’ve loved. It seems I’ve always had a man in my life but since 2010 there hasn’t been anyone. I’m 68 now and don’t foresee any way to meet anyone. My last breakup was extremely painful. The good thing is I’ve not suffered that kind of pain since. I do what I want when I want. It’s kind of a freedom. I hope you stay happy and free💕
I mail my things when I visit my daughter. The box gets there before me and all I carry is my purse. I've been doing this since I turned 70. We have to find ways to make life easier and to remember someone will not always be there to help. I think the world is filled with good people but the population is aging and there aren't enough available helpers.
I have never had that feeling of doom. I am past 80 now and that # is the birthday that allows me to recognize that yes I am old. However, like you I do appreciate kindnesses received and do my part like your favorite saying...You get back what you give out. I also am grateful to God for each day He gives me. My husband of 52 years has gone to his reward so my motto is to live each day to the fullest and enjoy all that the Lord puts in my pathway. Your warmth and smile will keep you young at heart forever. God bless
I have never let the fact that I am older bother me until I lost my husband three years ago. I felt alone, and old and did not know what to do about it. I have recently started trying to reach out to a few
Ok, half way through this and crying, I have to stop for a minute. You are so beautiful inside and out. I needed this so much. I make my own choices, mental adjustments is so true. I have to work on that. Thank you Love from Michigan ♥️
I have felt old on numerous occasions. I still think I'm super women and can do anything. Then, I find that I can not. Very humbling. Patti, you ARE a beautiful woman inside and out. BE KIND to yourself❤️
In March I had a ruptured aneurysm in my brain followed by a mild heart attack. I am 70. I have made a complete recovery. My doctors tell me I am a walking miracle. I know that this experience could have made me feel very old but I am determined that I will live my life with joy and thanksgiving for the blessing of still being alive. I will help others and give back as much as I possible can. I will enjoy my grands, husband and friends. Thank you for allowing me to share and for sharing your experience.
I'm 73 and like you, I decided a few years ago not to bring roll-on bags with me on the plane anymore. I didn't want to be in the position of not being able to hoist it up into the bin and hoping someone would help. It made me feel old. Now, like you, I have my purse and maybe a small tote and I fly through the airport feeling free as a bird.
I’m 68, I walk daily. I fell on my walk and pinched my sciatic nerve...ouch I flew to see my daughter in New Orleans...I requested a wheelchair when I arrived in Atlanta. I too should have checked my luggage, I hated asking for help. I’m flying back down in July to welcome my 2nd grand baby. Yes, I’ll check my luggage this time and forever more...
I totally agree...if you can’t put your luggage in a bin then don’t expect someone else to do. I have always checked my bags b/c I don’t have much strength in my upper body. I also feel some women have pushed (especially the younger generations) women can do anything they want without a man until there are people who don’t teach their children manners anymore.
There are some people who are old at 45. I've worked with them and they are so depressing to be around. Yet I had a neighbour who, at 78, was the most uplifting, joyful person I'd ever known. Stay interested in the world of the young, keep active and make the best of whatever beauty you have. I was in my local craftshop recently and the girl behind the counter said I was the prettiest woman she's ever seen.....and I'm 71. I told her she needed to get out more!! But having a compliment like that is so encouraging. Stay happy and healthy Patti... the world needs you!!
I remember that I actually cried the day I turned 35. How crazy was that? I never let another birthday bother me, I'm just glad to have them.. I'm now 74 and I am trying to keep the old lady out. Sometimes I feel that she's getting closer. What I got out of your video is that we shouldn't let baggage weigh us down. Whether it's actually baggage or the baggage that we accumulate as we live our lives. I'm going to Pennsylvania alone in June and I'll be checking my bag.
Yes, I also learned to check my bags when I travel from now on. Either that, or just bring a backpack that I can stow under the seat in front of me. Travel light.
I visit with my mother daily, who in her 90s still drives, still lives independently and wears HIGH HEELS with the legs of Betty Grable! She is an inspiration!
If you have your health you have everything you need .....without good health it’s difficult to worry about getting old ! I pray for no pain ,I’lll take the aging ! Be blessed and favored always 💖🙏🏽
I wept, Patti. Your video made me cry and smile and, ultimately, feel good about myself and where I am at this stage in my life. I am 68...it's a process. I know I will have that "I am old" feeling altogether too soon. But, thanks to your words of enlightenment and courage, I refuse to feel it yet. Thank you so much for this video. Your message was exactly what I needed to hear today. :-)
This 2021 is the first year I felt old. I'm 69 years old. I came down with an autoimmune disease so painful I've cried for the first time and wanted to end things but I do have my children and granddaughters who keep me going. I actually got emotional with your story and I hope to have your attitude soon if I beat this thing I have now. Love your kindness and just love to hear you speak about anything, especially makeup!! Thank you!
We are the same age Doris and I can so relate to your comment. I think I had Polymyalgia about a yr. ago. It came out of the blue, and caused every joint and muscle in my body extreme pain. It was the most misserable thing health wise I had ever experienced. I felt at least 100 years old. It took awhile with some steroid treatments to subside but I'm grateful to only have some pain in one knee now. I hope for the same kind of recovery for you. All my best, Bonnie
I'm just a little over 3 months away from turning 60 and it hit me so hard that I am now considered elderly. In my mind I'm still the carefree, vibrant woman I was when I was a young woman. I'm just trying to age as gracefully and joyously as I can. I'm ever conscious of my treatment and actions towards others, animals and our planet. Here's to aging beautifully and gracefully!🌹🥀🍷🍷 ❤️🙏❤️🕊️🕯️🌈. You are such a beautiful and vibrant soul, inside and out. May God bless you and anyone that reads this.
For me your message was perfect timing. I am 83 and retired Friday from a wonderful, very longtime job where I was valued, felt youthful and needed. As co-workers wished me well in my next life chapter, my thoughts were that the next chapter will be getting old and preparing for leaving this life. Your inspirational video points out that I need a mental adjustment. I now have the gift of time to do what I want and have fun. Thank you.
I got that feeling at my local grocery store, H.E.B., just the other day. I was trying to pick up a case of drinking water & I absolutely could not. I was so embarrassed'. Lucky for me, a young man walking by, asked if he could help me. But I know EXACTLY the feeling you are referring to. For the first time in my life, I realized I'm not strong anymore and never will be again. That's WHEN I knew. I am now a weak, older woman. I'm not mad at turning 72, I'm mad at not having the physical strength I had just 10 yrs ago.
Unfortunately in today's world some men have lost chivalry or haven't been taught how to be a gentleman. It's all about all for one and me for myself attitude. Some women can do it all by themselves but at a certain age we just can't do it anymore. God Bless you
I agree but this is a direct result of a feminist culture. The younger generation of men have been told from the time they were children that men and women are equal and it's offensive to "help" a woman. So they don't even think of chivalry. Not even for older women. It just doesn't even cross their minds. These younger women who screech " I don't need a man" will be singing a different tune when they are seniors. (obviously this comment is not directed to rstrmom but to any younger women reading this)
She shouldn't feel bad about asking that young man to help her and she should not feel bad because he was rude to her. That is a common experience for older people, but there are kind people as well, like the family man (they are just a little harder to come by)
Amen! I always send out loving kindness. I feel that, for the most part, it is returned. I also take care of my body, exercise for strength and mobility, pray daily for all people, all nations. I try to remain grateful. Thank you for your uplifting message. 🥰
Patti I really needed to hear this today. I’m 74 in July I work out and eat pretty well (this is a recent photo) and will be having a knee replacement soon. The other one was replaced 5 years ago. Feeling discouraged at times that my body is failing me but you’ve really helped.
Hi Elaine, I am also turning 74 this July. I felt pretty old all of a sudden this pass year in this pandemic social-distancing phase. Lose weight unintentionally and not eating as much. But I know it is part of life and today, I decided to continually encourage myself to keep up Self Love and look at the situation with new eyes. I know I'll be ok. I will follow where life leads me in peace. Blessings to you.🌹
Elaine, you are truly beautiful! I'll be 67 next month. With my health & medications, I've aged a lot in this past year alone, I look older than you for sure. My friend just had her knee done, she's a sissy when it comes to anything like surgery/pain etc BUT she came out doing fantastic just like my constant pep talks! Loved giving her a rare "I told you so." Things have changed a lot since just 5 years ago. I'm wishing you the same excellent experience & recovery my friend had. hugzzzzz
My goodness Elaine! You are lovely! Since you have been thru one knee replacement, you know the drill. The PT after is tough! That said, so are you! You got this! And w dependable knees you can keep moving forward. So grateful there are many of us supporting one another. Many blessings.
I turned 70 this year, but I feel about 35. I feel wonderful, and you are so right! It is happiness that keeps us young. With that said, happiness comes from within.
Aw, Patty, it isn’t you that is old, it’s your carry-on that’s old. It was the old broken bag that was the culprit all along. What a gift you gave everyone that helped you. Receiving is a gift you give to another who wants to be of service. What a delightful story. Thank you for sharing.
I'm so glad I ran across your channel. Yes, I've had that feeling many times. I'm 81 now and I had the same "overhead" issue as you did, and a young man came forward to help me too. I know I have limitations, but I just keep on keeping on.
Well you took this 62 year old to "church" this morning, watching your video. I was riveted to every piece of your story & absolutely loved the end where you talked about feeling hopeful & inspired again & not letting parts of that experience taint you. It's amazing what simple acts of kindness can do for someone....like the wonderful TSA lady who told you how beautiful you are & really changed so much about that trip. I try to life my life that way & always extend kindness whenever I can, and it is amazing how it comes back to you so often when you live like that. And age seems to be relative & "older" always seems to get pushed back as I get older. And yes, it can be a struggle sometimes coming to terms with that & going thru our different seasons of life. Thank you SO much for sharing this story & I will definitely remember this story. xo 💜😎
You are right Patti. I`m 82 and had that feeling this weekend. The evil one likes to stir up doubts in our minds, but the Lord always lifts us up with a compliment, usually from a stranger, because He knows a compliment coming from a stranger is more appreciated and believable, when we need it most. Love your channel. Love and Blessings to you.
Recently people made me feel old because they saw me as helpless. I told myself "muscles might be a little weaker but this 70 yr old was tough". It was so uplifting. You're right about it being in your mind. Thank you!
I felt old the day I got an AARP card in the mail, unrequested. That was 16 years before I actually retired. These days, I sometimes feel old if I get mentally rattled. I have learned to take a few deep breaths and say "One thought at a time, one step at a time, one day at a time".
There is three of us. I get mentally rattled and I’m not as strong as I use to be for for sure. My niece who I live with diagnosed me as having dementia a few days ago. It broke me. I’ve been in a funk ever since and self conscious about everything I say. I feel old.
@@Friesian-q6u Looks like you are about to give into someone writing your life script for you. Don't let them do it!!! Shake it off!! Square your shoulders and tell the idea of dementia to go back to hell from where it came. Reject it entirely and purpose to live your life in full control. There is so much joy in life to live. Even if it's only watching a beautiful bird fly away or enjoying the company of an old friend. Pray without ceasing. God bless.
I'm 74, my spouse is 75. We are happy to have downsized our big home for condos in three different cities where our grandchildren live. We have the freedom and simplicity of life it affords. We are guests at family events, and no longer have the responsibilities of executing holiday celebrations and family activities, but we still find great joy in being a support to our Grand families. Being old is not something to fear. Every day and year I live is a gift with lessons to embrace and new skills to acquire. I hope to grow older every day with the same grace and humility my grandmother did. Let's quit having anxiety over wrinkles and do our best to manage the aches and pains. All we leave in this world when we depart are memories and the lessons learned by being in honest healthy relationships with those we love.
Patti. Thank you. This was so helpful to me today. I was an RN for 44 years. I retired 5 years ago because I physically couldn’t handle the work anymore. Since I retired I have fallen 3 times. I have had 4 separate joint surgeries. Have had a hip fracture on 2 separate occasions and have had a knee replacement that went very wrong. I am in pain for 2 years from the knee. I was always the one helping others and now I know that sense of DOOM that you describe. What gets me through is leaning on the Everlasting Arms of God. Praying for healing in Jesus Name. Thankfully my husband has been a great support. I’m 71. Never thought it would be like this. Those grand babies are so adorable. Being with grandchildren keeps us young doesn’t it?
I have a 9 year old grandson and I LOVE being a grandmother. I never gave that role much thought before my son announced the pregnancy. It wasn't until last year that I was able to spend a significant amount of time with him and we bonded. Now I understand.
I'm 74 now and a retired RN and now I find myself on the other end of the stick. Whenever someone does something nice for me I really appeciate it and think back of how my patients felt when I did something out of the ordinary for them. God is good. I will from now on check my bag in. I thought it would be easier with a carry on but no. Just came back from Can Cun had a wonderful time but seeing my limitations cropping up. Thankful for each day I have.
As a 40 year veteran of the airline that you flew💕and on the behalf of all of us, thank YOU for your kindness❤️. You’re an inspiration in so many areas of life. LUV you!
Yes, I've had those thoughts too, and for a minute, I feel so depressed about it, but... No one in my family has been Martied 54 years to the same man! I've lived long enough to see this Pandemic come and go. Iam 74 this spring!! Iam thankful to be this age. I can still get up in the morning, walk to the bathroom, and make my coffee!! Just that alone is enough to thank God!!!!
Hi Brenda , Our true beauty lives INSIDE of us ! We are beautiful when we show kindness to others , and ourself . We are known by the fruit we bear ! I always admired Mother Theresa . What a beautiful human being ! It wasn't always about her ,She had three outfits to wear . If someone is young or old in age , selfish , not kindhearted , always thinking about themselves , I don't care what they look like , That is not beautiful to me ! Have a cup of John Wayne coffee with me ! Be Blessed ! I am 78 ! I also needed watching this today !
@@laurakerr3450 Laura, what kind thoughtful words you have spoken, it is Definitely a Blessing to be able to get up, THANK GOD FOR ANOTHER DAY, shower, make coffee, I just feel like I don't want to do it alone anymore, Now that I Really know how to LOVE. I have no one to share it with, I came from a very Dysfunctional family, generational curses,
@@walkingbyfaith5504 I am alone also ! I know what you mean ! I actually live a very lonely life . I feel like i am on another planet sometimes ! I am 1500 miles from my son , 1000 miles from brothers and sisters . I came from a family of eleven children . 7 of us left ! Due to covid , etc , I haven't seen them or my son far too long ! I plan to see them this summer tho ! I hope you can fill that lonely gap in your life ! Jesus Christ said I will never leave you or forsake you . Let us keep our faith strong in him , and we will be at peace and joy with him some day ! We will never be lonely again ! No more tears or heartache ! Are you depressed ? I like going to thrift stores , looking for unusual stuff. I can spend a couple of hours there sometimes ! I also like to cook . Try to do stuff you enjoy , but don't give up ! WE MUST ALWAYS WALK BY FAITH and never ever give up ! God be with you and protect you and guide your path ! Amen !
My moods swing ..I do fine and then it comes down again. I am praying that entering into these conversations will help. I an 78 with many blessings but feel so much self loathing do to ingratitude.
I've shared this here before and I'm inspired to share it again. I live in Santa Monica and there is a public pool nearby where I swim that is shallow enough that if people so choose they can walk their laps as opposed to swim. Before Covid, I used to share a lane with a woman named Aida who is now 108 years old. The only time she can walk is when she is in the pool. Otherwise she is either in a wheel chair or laying down. She can't hear very well or see all that great, but the way she feels when she's in that pool is such that it drives her to get there every single day. She is so precious. She's very petite and tan and always wears red lipstick and I once found out that tucked up into her hat that says Aida, she has two long white braids. Whenever I ask her how she is doing which I have to yell so she can hear me, she always says, "I'm tired. We'll see how much longer this is going to go." and then she laughs. I retell the story of Aida here to simply say, you're not old. In Aida's world, you're just a baby. xo, Melanie
I think the day I realized I had gotten "old" was the day I decided that I didn't want to live in a big house anymore, it seemed like a burden to take care of it all and the 12 little gardens I had planted and tenderly loved throughout my years on that property became torturous for my back, neck & shoulders. After we sold it, I felt like I unloaded a huge bundle of baggage weighing me down. I understand baggage, I've experienced enough of it in my lifetime. I want to down size again. Hopefully in 2 years I can make it happen. Moving is so difficult for us older folk, it really scares me.
Hi Patti, enjoyed video and was awed by your talk about feeling old. I just turned 80 and dreaded it. Thought I'd really feel so much older. Then, 2 days later had Gallbladder surgery. Thought that would really do me 😏 in. But I made it through both and I'm doing okay. Yes, there are many things I'm not able to do anymore and I try to accept those. Truth is I am old but still able to take care of myself for the most part. Live one day at a time for the most part and I look for kind and loving people to be around. Maybe that's tougher than anything else! Thanks so much for the inspiration you've given me. I will always remember your advise and thoughtful 💕 words. Beth/
Perfect timing Patti as ever. I am 71 and over the last year have lost a lot of confidence in the things I had always done. Living in London is fast and furious which I always took in my stride but now feel daunted by. So I will heed your words and ‘choose not to feel nervous or anxious’. They are just thoughts after all. Thank you for your wisdom. Xx
My name is Margaret from Oklahoma and I just started watching your channel a few days ago and It’s been inspiring. I I was encouraged by the content of this topic about dealing with getting old. I’m 72 years old and it’s a challenge to resist not thinking about getting old when the media and commercials about medical issues, drugs, insurance etc are geared toward the aging. Thank you for inspiring us that we need to guard our minds and how we think .
I’m 70 years young. I’m a mother of 3, grandmother of 14 and great grandmother of 20. I haven’t felt old but have noticed of slowing down a bit. What is old anyway. My children are still waiting for me to grow up. I’m single, still working and enjoying my life and family. I don’t know how to be old yet. Love ❤️ your videos and topics you discuss.
I just turned 26 years old, and I have no idea how, but I just came across your channel. I had always wondered if we have some sort of epiphany when we get old, or if we don't really notice. It was really nice to hear your perspective, and I am looking forward to all of life's stages and what they bring. :)
I felt old when my husband passed away and I realized all my children were so busy working one and a half or two jobs, raising their families. I decided to move to my hometown, but found out I had a slow terminal disease, plus other health issues. I ended up staying around my children, doctor's, hospital that I was familiar with. I try to stay feeling young in my heart and mind. Being around the kids helps alot! Enjoyed the video!
Frank Sinatra said on his 50th birthday, that his body maybe 50 but my brain is only 28!! I love this quote, so every birthday I say This, I will be 77this August, however we just cannot do some home duty tasks anymore, either can my husband of 55ys and 62yrs together, even changing the bed, trying to lift the mattress to tuck in the sheets and blankets. I could go on but you get my drift. Yes be kind, and thank you for this video, PS. I am 4ft8in I get it Patty Stay safe. From Australia
The man who helped you is a true gem. He is a gentleman. His wife is very blessed to have him. You shouldn’t fret about anything, you have every right to take your precious treasures. You are beautiful and I love watching your videos.
I felt old recently because I noticed my children planned the vacation right in front of me. Before I always planned family events. This time I noticed it was them and they didn't call me over to join them. It was a strange feeling. You are not old. You are one of the youngest people I know. Take care Patti! Melissa
Sorry to hear that, dear Melissa. Life is such and this is a reality in life. Our children are growing up everyday whether they are married or single. They choose to be whom they wanna be. Different generation gap. Best is never to expect our children to want to include us in their life. It is all about EXPECTATIONS. Have to lower our expectations from our children or else we will be very miserable. I have 3 growth ups. I have learnt to break away from them at times to enjoy trips n leisure with my other friends be it junior or senior friends. I'm a sociable being by nature. I will make a conscious effort to link up with people. I learnt from others to go to where I am celebrated bcs our loved ones may not do that for us. So do have your own circle of friends to chat n go trips with. If you already have them then it is good for you.
I just read your story and it sounds like me. I’m 71 and I’m finding my limitations are like yours. I’m in tears now because I never considered myself old, but everything seems to get harder and harder for me.
We all need help, and isn’t wonderful that we can help each other! Continue to help who you can and allow others to help you! By the way, you are beautiful!
Thank you. I have tears running down my cheeks. I'm 59 and I've had that feeling of impending doom of aging since the beginning of this decade. I needed your words of wisdom more than I can tell you. ❤
@@carolynhamilton3316 Agreed! That was unacceptable.I feel her pain.. It's quite humbling to ask for help. I've had similar experiences at diffrent locations.Not an airport.It's very embarrassing... now i wont ask anyone for help.
I really enjoyed your story. I am near 79 and how I handle aging is to realize I am old in body but young in spirit. I find things to be grateful for each day. I never sit and dwell on what I CANT do but what I CAN do. I do what I am able to do-the rest I choose to leave it alone. When you have arthritis and back problems you realizes where your strength lies and you adjust accordingly. When you do this assessment you will not fight old age but be graceful for everyday God gives us. My motto is every day is “best day yet” that God gives me. Hopes this help someone else. You was smart for checking that bag and continue to check in the future (smile). Keep up the videos!
I love you Patti!!!! I remember when my Grandmother was visiting us and she fell. She started crying and my Mom and I thought she get herself. She said she wasn't hurt, she just hated getting old!!! That has always stuck with me. But I know it is all about attitude. My Mom is 90 and can't see well, has breast cancer and still lives on her own. She has a good attitude and sense of humor and that is what is needed when ageing!!!! Loved this story!!! Blessings to you and your family!!!!
My mom is 90 and like yours has breast cancer.she didn't want to intervene in any way. She caught pneumonia this past winter and her health went down the hill but after 3 months she's slowly recovering. She can't live by herself at the moment but she's still a fighter and her m8nd is still intact. Cancer doesn't seem to be a problem after 2 yrs
When I read your comment I started to cry. I’m only 53 years old, but feel much older due to very painful chronic illnesses that have forced me to “retire” early and go on disability. But nothing has been more painful than watching my 49 year old sister succumb to stomach cancer. She moved in with me. One day she tripped and fell. I was shocked and devastated. She tried to hide her tears as I asked if she was ok. My sister was the strongest woman I’ve ever known. I was so proud of her breaking barriers into “men’s work” yet always becoming the best. The pain from having stomach cancer was indescribable, but the worst pain she experienced was becoming weak and not being able to do things for herself. She had always been there at a moment’s notice to help others. Three weeks ago she went to her rest, so my pain is still raw. It struck me that we can all face these difficulties and choices even when we’re not yet considered “old”. I find these videos to be relevant and helpful to me already. Thank you for sharing 💞
I do not know how I ended up watching your videos. Perhaps was the fact that you are almost my age, I am 79 therefore your are 2 years younger than me but I always wanted to upload a video in you tube thinking I would be the oldest one doing it, but watching people my age it encourage me although I can never be as beautiful as you are. I can see deep into your soul and thru your smiling face that you are a wonderful human being. You are so lucky that you still have your husband. I lost mine 24 years ago and there is not one day or night that I do not remember him. That is why I do not feel alone because he is always with me. I wish I could be like you . When I watch myself in a mirror I realized that I am getting old although inside me I feel much younger. Sometimes when I wanted to go to places where younger people goes to have fun and listening to music and have one or two glasses of wine then suddenly I realize that I am too old for that type of activity,. Or when I wanted to move to another place I discover that I need a condo with a 24 hours concierge because I am afraid to live by myself in a house. Thank God I love to be busy doing craft work and before I know the days, weeks and years are gone. Time goes too fast for me. It could be because I spend hours using my pc, tablet and cell phone and checking all Real Estate pages looking for houses that I know I will not buy but cannot helped. I watch your video showing your new house and I love it, congratulations and God bless both of you. We are not old, we just have a lot of young years in our inventory.
Thank you to the kind people in our world. I turned 74 two days ago and I am so grateful for your kindness, Patti. I too feel the age and look much older since even 70 years old. You have made such a difference in my attitude and I really try to stay calm and kind. It’s an ongoing challenge isn’t it to stay kind . Your beautiful face and your wonderful kind words are such an inspiration in my life. Brings tears to my eyes as I listen to you. I deal with ageing by watching your videos in the hope I can learn some lessons from your positivity.🤩
I thank you for this video, this last year has slowed me down so much that I’m surprised to find energy sometimes and actually do what I want to when I want to (73 in August) and am very grateful I’ve found your channel.
My dear friend, YES, I've felt it one day just like you!! At first, I was depressed & sad even though I just before that I had felt young & could do almost anything if I put my mind to it. But, the depression didn't last long, for God had a job for me, my friend needed help & I was there to help her & put all my energy into my caring for my friend. Feeling needed was what did the trick for me to get my balance of age. God's word tells us that we are to first, Love Him with all our heart and second, to Love our neighbor as ourselves. True happiness & Balance comes from the fact that we are not alone, God says that we should not be anxious about anything because he is with us & will help us through any trial that befalls us. You live by those standers, I feel your love for others every time I watch your videos! You truly are a blessing to us ladies & that love makes us beautiful....and guess what, the gal at the airport is right....YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, INSIDE & OUT!! I always enjoy spending time with you. You are exactly right, it's our choice to Love God or not because we are blessed with the free will to make that choice! There is soooo much hate & violence in the world today that the peaceful & loving people, those trying to live by Godly principals are the minority today. Well, I'm sorry if I said too much, I did not mean to preach, just saying that only because God loves us, can we love other... Have a Wonderful Day!! Your Friend
Yes. I think that makes the feeling of being old so much worse. At least it does for me. Especially when my children and grandchildren tell me to just sit down and point and give them instructions on how I want something done. I'm 74. But I am so very grateful that they want to take care of me.
@@celestineweathers5137 yes, you are fortunate to have good family members helping you. I'm 64 and hoping my son will become more like your people by the time i need routine assistance.
WOW . I wrote my previous comment in the middle of the video. Now, I feel I must add that , not only are you gorgeous but also enlighten. You’re message serves many in various situations. I needed to hear this. It does take work ( changing ones thoughts) but it can be done and once you achieve it, everything is sooo different. This is one of the most powerful videos you’ve done. Thank you ❤️
Shame on that young man who treated you so badly. I feel sorry for him and hope that he wakes up and catches the clue bus before his life implodes on him. I'm 72 and so far I've never let that feeling of being old invade my consciousness even though sometimes my joints and muscles try to tell me so!😄 Thanks for sharing your life experiences--you are an encourager!❤
This was so inspiring and uplifting. Thank you so much for sharing this. It's amazing how a small change in attitude and perspective can change the way we feel. By the way... you ARE beautiful! You have an incredible glow that comes from the inside and radiates outward.
I just love this video. You are indeed beautiful both inside and outside. I have heard that Resilience is one of most important factors as we age. Physical resiliency but ALSO Mental resiliency. Looking for the positive. Choosing happiness. 😍
I ‘m just back from a 8 day Disney trip, with 12 other family members. I will be 80 yrs young in two months, I am blessed to have energy and good health, was able to help with the greatgrandkids. My mind still make me thing young,thanks for your stories.Young at ❤️
Beautiful woman, beautiful story. It’s so nice to receive an honest genuine compliment. When I see someone I know or just admire maybe someone’s hair, outfit, smile anything, I tell them. I know how it makes me feel so it’s nice to give it back! We all need to heed your words. Beautiful, well spoken, classy!
It is all of the mind! You see, I am 50 and have always been scared to go anywhere far by myself. Last year I drove 2 hours to pick up my daughter and grandson and thought that was big but my mind has made me old all my life. I admire you. Here you are, traveled all over with work and travel. I am proud of you. You are wise. ❤
I have traveled by myself but mostly on planes with people waiting to meet me. A few years ago I had to drive by myself half way across the country. I was a bit nervous, took me two nights, three days to get home. For the most part I loved it, there were stretches of heavy traffic in unknown cities, but it didn’t last long and my trusty GPS was a huge help. Turns out it was a confidence building experience for me. I look back on that trip with fondness, I’d like to do something like that again.
@@paulachristie7807 I love this! Congratulations on your experience. I do hope to experience the same, off the interstate, one day. I know it could build lots of confidence.
I had no idea I was old until my doctor didn't prescribe me a medicine because it was not good for the "elderly". That was 4 years ago. I'm 75 now. And, I've had so many of the same experiences you have. I had the same experience with the suitcase. The flight attendant would not help me and neither would anyone else. I asked her for help and she looked at me as if to say, "It's not my fault you're old." Since then, I always check my bag. It's a real challenge getting old. I enjoy your videos and thank you for this one. I'm not alone.
The unexpected kindness of strangers never ceases to surprise me! Patti we are resourceful we simply need to believe in ourselves with lots of self compassion:) All we have to do is keep moving forward and yes as we age we are less able but Patti it’s not over ‘till its over. I think that you are remarkable I admire you so much. Xxx
Today is my birthday! Your video is such a marvelous gift. I woke up at 1:30 from excitement and as birthday greetings started rolling in I got more excited. I am so full of joy and your life affirming message is right on. My “old” moment came st 20. I LOVED being a teenager and was inconsolable. I am thrilled that today, at 68 (yikes!) I am happier and freer than I have ever been. Yayyyyyy!!!!
😢 right now. I 💜 this. The feelings are indescribable. It is grief and we must deal with it and process it, and learn from it, and go on, somehow. So grateful 🙏 for your videos!
Patti I am finding those moments too many times recently, but you know since I came upon your videos you have become a great inspiration to me. You are a beautiful woman inside and out and even though I don't comment all the time I look to your videos to encourage me and keep me inspired to carry on. With all my heart I thank you. Congratulations on your grand babies. Many Blessings from Ireland.
Such a beautiful story, thank you for sharing. Not long ago, I was almost done teaching a course and I felt exhausted.... so much so that I muttered that I needed to retire. One of the students (a soldier) overheard and asked me not to.... that he had learned so much and that my passion for the program was contagious. It meant so much..... he will never realize how much 💕
We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing...I love this quote by George Bernard Shaw...it's so true...I am about to turn 70 in a few days and as today comes to an end I have a back ache and am tired out just from doing some walking and cooking and every day things. But I am grateful to be able to do them. Am I old, not really ...am I getting older..of course, who isn't. This video was amazing. The comfort of your voice while sharing your experience flying helped me to see things in a different perspective. I refuse to say I am old...others may say it to me, about me ...but that is their opinion. I was afraid that once I turned 70 everything would be downhill. But I don't think it will be. I would rather think the best is yet to come. Thanking my precious sister-in-law Nancy for sending me the link to this video.
Patti you are the epitome of true beauty with your wisdom plus inner and outer beauty . Thank you for your inspiration and honesty . That story brought tears and smiles to my face. 😀
Patti, you are indeed beautiful, inside & out! Your list of positive thoughts that we can choose is brilliant, & we should all review them frequently! Yes, there is nothing like prepping for a flight & then doing all that's necessary at the airport & on the plane to make me feel overwhelmed. The antidote is seeing the smiling faces of my family at the journey's end & hugging them. I think focusing on all the things one *can* still do is key to keeping the fear of old age
I think that I make good choices but thus far you would not look at me and think so. I love your videos, you could be a life coach. Thank you dearie. You are beautiful 💜
I agree with you checking in the bag. It makes it easier just to pay the $30 fee and let the workers hassle your luggage around.. I took a flight last week and had to carry my CPAP along with my purse and check in a bag. When I boarded the plane people had put over sized bags in my bin and left me no room. They were sitting across the isle and refused to move their bags. Like your situation there was not a n attendant to help. I had to store my CPAP two rows down. Some people flying are rude . I don't treat people like that but there's always a few out there. When I got I got back from my 6 HR flights There and back with a layover in a huge huge airport I had the very same feeling you did. You are beautiful and remember, it's okay for us to not fight the aging thing because it just prolongs the misery. Love you !
Hi Patti!--gorgeous, as always. Consider this: there are 40-year-old's who can't haul a carry-on bag to its compartment due to a "bad shoulder". For that reason, I didn't see your story as "It's official--I am old and can no longer do for myself." You can do everything *but* lug that heavy bag above your head (like many 30, 40, 50-somethings), so you're doing GREAT--you just have "a bad shoulder". :) Much love to you, Jim and Biscuit. xo
Patty you are an inspiration, don’t let no one make you feel that a little help is a big deal, it must be natural to all humans to help each other. I just flew recently and I questioned myself how long I will able to fly alone, all this technology and check in complications are each day more difficult, people are not as kind and well educated as we all were before, our parents taught us to think first in others than ourselves, and that makes us happy. In my heart I’m sure that we are blessed of being able to grow old, and we should try to teach kindness to everyone we meet, because if we don’t who will?......and to ask for help is also a way of being humble and teach others to be kind to one another. Thank you for your videos, you are beautiful!!!!!
Patti, when you said, "I am the one who always helps OTHER PEOPLE!", I gasped because I have said that hundreds of times during the 16 months of Covid when ALL OF A SUDDEN I was hearing multiple times a day that I was part of the 'vulnerable community'...that get in your head, for sure.
I'm 76 have hip stenosis and your story today was so uplifting to me. It brought tears to my eyes. I feel like I'm getting older by the minute, but it's in my head. With the good Lord and your story I'm going to change my thoughts. Starting in the morning I'm going to talk wit God as I always do and I'm going to tell him my thoughts about getting old will be changing . I'm going to exercise my legs hips arms and get stronger. This morning I truly felt like l was to tired and weak to walk. I just wanted to give up, but you made me feel different. God bless you Patti ! I'll keep you posted and you keep all of us posted and in your prayers. Much love Sherry Saunders from southern Ohio🌈🙏
Patti, I am just discovering you on You Tube and you never cease to amaze me with your stories and wisdom. I'm 64 and fell a couple of years ago off my front steps when checking on my barking dog. I laid there in the front yard for 20 minutes screaming for my husband as I knew I was really hurt and couldn't move. I ended up breaking my leg {femur!} and had to have a total hip replacement. It was because of that fall, I realized that I too, was getting old. I was so traumatized by that, that I'm still not feeling steady and hang on for dear life when going up and down stairs. I move slower. I think about every step I take. I used to scurry around like a busy little squirrel. I too have that feeling of dread, of impending doom, of being old. Not GETTING old, but BEING old. Your story today made me sob. It really hit something in my heart. It made me realize that my fear, like that old bag of yours, has no place and doesn't serve me at all. I will make a conscious effort to put that fear in the dumpster, just like you did with your bag. I guess we just need to stop lugging around all that old broken stuff to feel like ourselves again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Patti! I really needed this. Love right back to you!!
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Years ago I went on a cruise with my boyfriend and was so excited on our first trip together. I know I over packed. Going to the airport we both took our own luggage and he had one suitcase to my three. He didn't help me with a single bag, on the bus or loading the carry on. I didn't pay attention to that, anticipating a wonderful vacation. The cruise was fine, but the real disappointment was coming home. Again he bypassed my suitcases and I was young and strong enough to load them on the airport bus. I saw him sitting in a seat and he saved a spot for me, but as I entered the bus I saw a very pregnant woman standing and a old gentleman standing holding the poles because the bus was full. I offered my seat to the pregnant girl and she was relieved. I asked my young healthy boyfriend to give up his seat to the older man standing. He would not do it. When we got home he was already planning our next vacation. I broke up with him right after that trip. He just didn't have that kindness and was selfish. I just couldn't see spending another minute with him. That was my choice and I never regretted it.❤❤
Good. On. You. I bet he was cheap, too.
YOU are a very wise & compassionate LADY! Whooo hooo for you! Love YOU!!!!!
Wise choice!!!
love that you saw his true colors
That trip and seeing him for the person he was saved you a lifetime of misery .
This is the first time I have ever listen to you. I
am in my 70's and i completely know what you mean. I am sitting here bawling my eyes out, because I have felt so alone at times. You have helped me a lot.
You are not alone. There are many of us out there. Blessings to you.
After your good and healthy cry, go outside and walk around the block. Then call a friend or plan a visit with someone younger! You’ll feel better. And remember, your soul is eternal, that’s why you don’t feel older even though your body is aging. So praise God for letting you live a long time and keeping you in the palm of His hand. You Can Do It!
Now, I think a good cry sounds great! I’ll be back in a little while . . . ♥️😊
A dear friend in her nineties told me that the mind doesn't age, only the body, and that she still felt mentally decades younger.
and your friend is absolutly RIGHT :) "over70stillglamorous" :)
Truth!
My mom recently passes to her forever home at 102 and a half. She often said she was still 18 years old in her mind; her body just wasn’t cooperating. She then she laughed aloud. Miss her a lot. Heaven is sweeter with her presence!
Oh, I love that...and it's so true. I'm 78.
@Petals
I'm sure that gentleman wanted to save face. 😊 Don't stop being sweet and kind. 👍
Hi Patti, well I wanted to respond to your question and it has taken me days to do so. Feeling old, when it hit me like a ton of bricks was when I was diagnosed with cognitive memory impairment a year ago. I can not explain how alone, scared, afraid of what my life would become. I worked as a professional and knew "I was changing" but to afraid to say anything for awhile. As a professional I worked in the court system, doctors, attorney's was a expert in my field. Today I am no longer able to do these tasks, I was heartbroken. However, I knew I am a fighter so I read more, play brain games, take IQ test and rest more. I have to see my brain specialist often who says I am doing well and some test are great others okay. But, today I have no dementia thank god. I am thankful for my blessings, enjoy fixing my hair and make up again. For me, today I need to take small steps into the abyss of the unknown and do not take anything for granted. Your a awesome lady Patti and I enjoy your channel. I try to be kind every day and wish the world was a kinder place.
My 14 year old grandson was looking at old pictures. In some of them I was about 26. He looked at the picture and looked at me and said “You used to be so beautiful what happened to you?” I just looked at him and said I’m 66 not 26 and I think I still look beautiful. I’ll be 67 tomorrow and survived lung cancer so I’m thankful for every year my Lord let’s me stay on this earth. 💁♀️💕
I am a lung cancer survivor also take care.
this country is driven by youth in ads and more, its so shallow..there is a short window, congratulations, so happy for you
I hope you used that as an opportunity to instruct him on needlessly blurting out hurtful things. He will not learn nor have the discernment if you do not guide him to be kind.
PLEASE have "THE TALK " with grandson, it's the Training, Raising up of boys to men , BLESSINGS
Your son was very insensitive. He could not see the beautiful woman who was and is always there shame, shame.
I’m so sorry nobody helped you on the plane with that overhead bag that is sorry as hell if I was there I would’ve grabbed it right up and put it up there for you and made you feel comfortable there’s no problem in asking for help Don’t let that one person ruined your outlook on younger people there still are good people in the world Patty I respect my elders to the fullest
My husband whose 78 and has a bad heart helped a disabled woman get her food into her car and she says to him Chivalry isn’t dead. Brought me to tears. A little kindness to someone made me happy
Yes you’ve must have beautiful in you’re youth , but lady look at u know. With admiration, I’m 84 and think I’m 34. Yes, the body has changed but not my thoughts of going on. Thanks M
So glad I watched you today! When I fly to MI next Monday from TX, I’m checking my bag! I am 77 also! Who needs the stress, even if the wheels aren’t broken!! Thanks, Patty!😘
My lovely granny lived to 98. Put on her face cream every night and curled her hair. Walked everywhere. Made people laugh. Enjoyed life to the very end. I plan to be just like her. Every day is precious.🥳
Loved this
Thank you for sharing 🙏
Mine also.. lived half way thru 100.. Always visited with people sitting up in the living room. She canned so much at age 99 that we got the gifts from her rather than the other way around. Of course she requested gifts go to Save the Children anyway. She expected to live to see some of the great great grandchildren.. and she did. She had 12 children at home.
@@karendixon401
Wow
Thank you for sharing this. Put a smile on my face 💞
My Nan was like that. Sat in hospital with her curled hair, pink fluffy slippers and mascara on.
I love your granny's attitude.
I’m still grumpy at Southwest. I checked my big bag because it is so much more convenient. My suitcase was “lost.” After waiting a couple weeks (at their request) to see if it turned up, I began the process of making a claim for my property. It was an ORDEAL. It took weeks of filing papers and getting receipts for everything I claimed, some going back several years. I had to grieve the loss of several things that were in that bag that were personal things my children had given me. I do not check bags now.
I’m in my 7th decade. I love the things you say near the end of your video about who you are. I hope you continue to be independent (and a bit sassy) for many more years. For me personally, an invisible line has been crossed. I find I’m not as brave as I used to be. I don’t like the feeling. May God bless us every one!
Somehow during the pandemic and long isolation, I have become obsessed with how old I am. I am 74, but have gone from feeling as if I could do anything, to feeling as if I can’t do anything. It is a terrible feeling. I truly enjoyed your video, and plan to practice choosing feeling strong and capable again. Thank you, Patty. You are beautiful inside and out.
I agree with this. The pandemic has brought feelings of becoming old in such a depressing way. Let’s choose to be strong and capable.
You said exactly how I feel. I do believe being in isolation for a year didn’t help. I am 73.
One of the serious difficulties this pandemic has created - for those of us who are fortunate enough to have survived it - is that we are, for the most part, far less physically capable than we were before the pandemic started. I am now 71 and have an autoimmune disease that causes my windpipe to be 25% blocked. Prior to the pandemic, I was working pretty hard to improve my overall fitness, and was making progress, slowly but surely. However, BOOM! COVID hit and eventually all my forms of exercise disappeared. (I'm the type that needs an in-person setting - someone to flog me in person). I've lost a good 50%, if not 75%, of the progress I made. I am MUCH weaker physically, which drives me crazy. I'm at least still functioning, however - my neighbour's husband, who is now 85 and has dementia but managed to function somewhat previously, has been housebound for over a year and is now very weak, frail and confused. Quite apart from all those poor souls who died, the pandemic has been a disaster for a lot of previously functioning seniors. (Sorry for the rant, but this unacknowledged health issue REALLY bothers me.) Anyway, things are getting better now, so it's back to work at making myself more fit - and less old.
Being in isolation with Covid took a lot out of us all, young and old. It is hard to recover. I try just to be in the now moment, that's a good start. :)
@Petals
You ladies are not alone. Tomorrow I have my first doctor appointment in forever and I don't want to leave the house. I'm 74 and I'm going to have to use the walker I have had to use after an injury. I have fibromyalgia, adrenal fatigue, problems from back surgery (years ago), I need both eye and throat surgery. All my friends are dead and this is the first time I've felt OLD. It stinks.
The light that emanates from your lovely eyes will keep you young forever!!!
The "bag situation at the airport" is a universal thing. We have all been
through it no matter our age.
This situation restored our belief in kindness and doing the right thing. Your decision to "check your bag" brought you relief and confidence. Sometimes being decisive and seeking the simplest solution is best. Thank you for sharing!
When I turned 50, I felt like I was so old. Now, at nearly 68, 50 seems young. When I'm 85, I'm sure 68 will feel young. So, from now on, I'm going to always think of myself as young. ♥️
❤️🌹
One of my favorite b'day cards says: You may be older than you've ever been before, but you are younger than you'll ever be again, so celebrate!
Good plan.
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I whined all day when I turned 40, that was 29 years ago. What a waste of time that was. Now 40 year olds seem rather young and so will 69 seem some day should I still be around in another decade. Lesson learned! If you cant embrace it, at least dont whine about it.
Hello Patti. I felt old when I turned 70. I was sore all over for three months. I found out I have a torn rotator cuff. After another month I was going to the chiropractor, didn't have surgery, started taking collagen (neocell liquid). I started feeling like my old self. My mother-in-law , 90 years old next month, came to stay with us for 2 weeks. She almost died with kidney failure in 2013. My father-in- law told the doctors she would be better, for them to do all they could to save her. So here she is now, spunky as ever. She keeps our house tidy, puts her makeup on, does her hair, etc. I tell her how she inspires me. She loves watching your videos. She even brought her bathing suit to get in the pool. Thank you for making me think.
Hello Annie
The thing that struck me the most in your story was the woman at the airport that told you that you are beautiful! We all need to do that for each other more. 🥰 You just never know what people are going through at any moment, and telling them they are beautiful raises everyone's vibration and just makes the world a better place. Thanks for sharing your story!
Hello Diane, how are you doing?
Patti Ive just found your chanel and I love it.I like to hear you talk and hear your experiences.yes you are beautiful.Elsa
What a heartwarming story Patty! I will be 72 in July and recently retired. Life is very different now for me. I feel like I am rediscovering myself and this new passage of my life. I thanks God for each day He gives me. He is my strength. Thank you for being so positive and sharing your experience. It has encouraged me to keep going. God bless!
It really hit me when I turned 71 this past March. My daughter just had a baby girl 2 weeks after by birthday. When I met little Norah Grace, I realized I won't get to see her grow up, get married and have babies of her own. She probably won't remember me and how much I loved her. That was the first day I felt so very old. The reality of it all was so sobering and I am so grateful for one more day, one day at a time. Thank u Jesus for one more day!
Olivia, you might see her grow up and get married! My mother in law is 99 and has gone to the weddings of all 5 of her grandchildren! (She now has 4 GREAT grands!!) So stay strong and positive! You really may be here when your little granddaughter gets married. Infact.. one of the grandkids recently had a baby and my mother in law can still hold her and sing to her. My mother in law is an inspiration to all who know her..and has such a strong spirt. I was compelled to write you..just stay strong and laugh as much as you can. I swear the laughter keeps my mother in law healthy! Much joy to you❤and congratulations on your new little one!
There are some people who never have had children or grandchildren
@BlueHorseYellowCow Looool...it’s their bad luck I guess.
That just made me cry
@@aldarling6743 I am so sorry. I don’t have any children or grandchildren but it’s 👌
Yes! I can relate to what you're saying: I am old! I am 79, and to think that I'm "pushing 80" has me almost overwhelmed! The airport and traveling thing has hit me, too! I really don't want to do it anymore! It's more of a hassle getting to the airport, getting IN the airport, getting to the gate, etc. that kills me... Not the flying! I could go on forever, but I've said enough. I am old. Whenever I start having a day of feeling overwhelmed by "what to do today" (I'm retired for the past year and 1/2... after working for the past 14 years at a part time job). Rambling on a lot also confirms that "I am old"! Thanks for sharing. I guess I'll just "Join The Club". I love your channel. Good job.
I remember being in England when I was in my twenties and the escalator at the airport was broken. I was trying to carry one of those bags that was like a giant duffel bag up some stairs. My shoe fell off and I dropped my bag and I didn't feel too old at that moment, but I had one of those, "Who do I think I am?" moments. Here I was traveling through Great Britain with no idea how to travel.
A young mother with four children came up the stairs behind me and said cheerfully, "Come along kids! Let's help the lady!" Those kids grabbed my bag and carried it upstairs like it was a big game. I still get tears in my eyes when I think of that woman's kindness. That woman with four children she was trying to manage, but still had time for me. That was 39 years ago and I will never forget her.
Thank you for sharing your story, Patti. The only time I feel old now is in airports! I think most people over 40 do. So much love to you and those beautiful twins!
I was in England a couple of years ago, at the age of 69. I was trying to navigate the London subway system, on my way to the airport, with a suitcase that was WAY too heavy (I had bought a whole bunch of books...kinda stupid). The London subway system is NOT set up for anyone who is not very mobile - there are all kinds of stairs. Everywhere I went, there was some wonderful young guy who immediately offered to help me. (One even commented "What have you got in here? A dead body?") I didn't feel old, though, so much as way over my head. But everyone was so helpful - it was lovely.
What a LOVELY STORY!
Thank-you so much for sharing it!!
@Susan Henry. I'm English, and feel so proud that you were helped by the English lady and her children. Take care.🙋🇬🇧
@@susanhenry4073 At least England is retaining it's civility! :) I say as an English person myself , though have spent most of my life in America- I'll never forget, as a young woman just off a flight from America, getting onto the tube, and dropping my huge duffel bag onto some young business man's feet as i was so tired and jet lagged , and he just said "pardon me miss" and stepped aside, rather than yelling at me for my clumsiness . seems a lot of us have the huge duffel bag whilst travelling stories.. lol -
I hope the lady with the 4 children read this and recognise herself and her children in this story...it will make her feel so special, which she IS.
Yes, I am experiencing it! I lost my husband of 47yrs, 4 years ago. I moved
back to NC and have bought a home. I live with 2 fur babies who mean the
world to me. But I’m an introvert and not terribly social. Also, I’m an illustrator
but have trouble being inspired these days. I enjoy your talks and suggestions…
I can certainly relate to what you say! Thanks for being there!
Hi, Patti. I'm 73 and (I know I'm fortunate) will not allow the "old lady" in, ie: when I find myself "slouching" I sit up straight, when I find myself walking too slow I put a "skip in my step" and a "smile on my face" like I'm going somewhere special. No matter what, when I leave the house I comb my hair, put on my lipstick and give myself a "look once over". I could go on and on but you get "the drift." I got this idea from an article I read several years ago. Two golfers one in his 50"s and one in his 90"s. 50 year old asks 90 year old, "what keeps you so young" and he said, "I don't let the old man in." The story is true and a little longer but I thought I would share it. Thank you for sharing your grandbabies. God bless you. Susie P.S. You look fabulous.
Wonderful thought, I am going to make it a mantra
@@paulachristie7807 Christie, that's exactly what I do every day and I instantly feel better.
@@paulachristie7807 ME too!!!!!
very pretty lady
I am 74 and I can’t tell you how happy I am to have found your channel. Recently I have experienced that old feeling. It is probably a result of COVID-19 and isolation. Not realizing what I was doing, I took up quilting after being away from it for 30 years. I can’t tell you how that lifted my frame of mind and I begin to realize that I am a skilled sewer and I can do things that I never thought I would do and hearing you talk about it has given me a new Hope. Cheers from Canada
Hi Patti. Recently I turned 70. I have thought of the times I needed my husband to give me a hand doing things. It makes me sad because I use to have so much energy an I was always the one to help others. Last year we had my garden taken out and grass planted because it is way too much for me to take care of. I am starting to feel old but I focus on the things I can do. I get up every day and put my makeup on and fix my hair. I keep my house as clean as I can and set goals for myself each week. I’m not giving up. You are a great inspiration for us all. Thank you.
Hello Barbara,how are you doing?
I was beginning to feel old due to a lot of things going on right now in my life. I am pretty much doing all things alone due to my husband's illness and feeling overwhelmed, but I am bound and determine to stay strong, healthy, vibrant, and loving.....and kind. Thanks for sharing this. I was inspired by your words. Thank you Patty.
Hello Sharon
Loved this!! And you are beautiful!! And yes I feel old, I just turned 60 and my husband of 30 years has cheated and we're divorcing and now I feel old but yet I know I'm better off without him in my life and someday I will be with someone who is kind to me!! 💕😉🌼🌺
Hey Cynthia Ann !!! I am "69." Won't Tell You My Story, but wanted to Say . . . Especially, since He was NOT "Kind" to You, Think of It AS A BLESSING. AGE, "Ain't Nothin' but a Number," as the Saying Goes. This is My "2nd" Marriage and We have been Together for "46" Yrs. Challenging at Time's however. When Going-Through My Divorce, and Before We Met, I "Prayed," that if it was Meant to Be, for GOD to Put the RIGHT Man In My LIFE. I Wish the BEST For YOU. It's Kinda' Like Grieving a Death in a Way. You Are Grieving a Death Of a Relationship. There will Be All Different Kind's of Feeling's that you'll Experience, but that's Part of the Process. It Will Pass though. KEEP "Positive" Thought's About Yourself and the Wonderful NEW LIFE Ahead Of You. Remember, You Are Never Alone. 🙏
Amen. You deserve better and he is not worth making your life miserable. Thank you for loving yourself enough to get out. Too many women stay and it destroys them.
@@selena2709 AMEN TO THAT ! ! !
Now you can do things you have always wanted to do. Go places, change your decorating, maybe join a group etc. Think of it as an opportunity, the best is yet to be. 🥰
You will be so much better off. Once a cheater always a cheater. This is your time to be happy. I’ve been divorced twice and have had a few boyfriends along the way that I’ve loved. It seems I’ve always had a man in my life but since 2010 there hasn’t been anyone. I’m 68 now and don’t foresee any way to meet anyone. My last breakup was extremely painful. The good thing is I’ve not suffered that kind of pain since. I do what I want when I want. It’s kind of a freedom. I hope you stay happy and free💕
I mail my things when I visit my daughter. The box gets there before me and all I carry is my purse. I've been doing this since I turned 70. We have to find ways to make life easier and to remember someone will not always be there to help. I think the world is filled with good people but the population is aging and there aren't enough available helpers.
So refreshing
You are a realist
I have never had that feeling of doom. I am past 80 now and that # is the birthday that allows me to recognize that yes I am old. However, like you I do appreciate kindnesses received and do my part like your favorite saying...You get back what you give out. I also am grateful to God for each day He gives me.
My husband of 52 years has gone to his reward so my motto is to live each day to the fullest and enjoy all that the Lord puts in my pathway. Your warmth and smile will keep you young at heart forever. God bless
Hello Eileen, How are you doing?
I have never let the fact that I am older bother me until I lost my husband three years ago. I felt alone, and old and did not know what to do about it. I have recently started trying to reach out to a few
Ok, half way through this and crying, I have to stop for a minute.
You are so beautiful inside and out.
I needed this so much.
I make my own choices, mental adjustments is so true. I have to work on that.
Thank you
Love from Michigan ♥️
I have felt old on numerous occasions. I still think I'm super women and can do anything. Then, I find that I can not. Very humbling. Patti, you ARE a beautiful woman inside and out. BE KIND to yourself❤️
Hello Becky, How are you doing?
In March I had a ruptured aneurysm in my brain followed by a mild heart attack. I am 70. I have made a complete recovery. My doctors tell me I am a walking miracle. I know that this experience could have made me feel very old but I am determined that I will live my life with joy and thanksgiving for the blessing of still being alive. I will help others and give back as much as I possible can. I will enjoy my grands, husband and friends. Thank you for allowing me to share and for sharing your experience.
I'm 73 and like you, I decided a few years ago not to bring roll-on bags with me on the plane anymore. I didn't want to be in the position of not being able to hoist it up into the bin and hoping someone would help. It made me feel old. Now, like you, I have my purse and maybe a small tote and I fly through the airport feeling free as a bird.
I’m 68, I walk daily. I fell on my walk and pinched my sciatic nerve...ouch
I flew to see my daughter in New Orleans...I requested a wheelchair when I arrived in Atlanta. I too should have checked my luggage, I hated asking for help. I’m flying back down in July to welcome my 2nd grand baby. Yes, I’ll check my luggage this time and forever more...
I totally agree...if you can’t put your luggage in a bin then don’t expect someone else to do. I have always checked my bags b/c I don’t have much strength in my upper body. I also feel some women have pushed (especially the younger generations) women can do anything they want without a man until there are people who don’t teach their children manners anymore.
I do the same!
@@janewarrick4083 SO agree!!!
There are some people who are old at 45. I've worked with them and they are so depressing to be around. Yet I had a neighbour who, at 78, was the most uplifting, joyful person I'd ever known. Stay interested in the world of the young, keep active and make the best of whatever beauty you have. I was in my local craftshop recently and the girl behind the counter said I was the prettiest woman she's ever seen.....and I'm 71. I told her she needed to get out more!! But having a compliment like that is so encouraging. Stay happy and healthy Patti... the world needs you!!
Hello Kathy, how are you doing?
I remember that I actually cried the day I turned 35. How crazy was that? I never let another birthday bother me, I'm just glad to have them.. I'm now 74 and I am trying to keep the old lady out. Sometimes I feel that she's getting closer. What I got out of your video is that we shouldn't let baggage weigh us down. Whether it's actually baggage or the baggage that we accumulate as we live our lives. I'm going to Pennsylvania alone in June and I'll be checking my bag.
What a spot on anology! So true💖
Yes, I also learned to check my bags when I travel from now on. Either that, or just bring a backpack that I can stow under the seat in front of me. Travel light.
I got that message from this video too, don’t let any type of baggage weigh you down ❤️❤️❤️
Have a safe and blessed trip in June. I can see no 'baggage' for you of any kind!! You will do just fine.
Good for you!! Lol.
Have a great time and be sure to check that bag!
I visit with my mother daily, who in her 90s still drives, still lives independently and wears HIGH HEELS with the legs of Betty Grable! She is an inspiration!
She sound lovely! I want to be like her. I'm 70 and have relatives in their 90s.
If you have your health you have everything you need .....without good health it’s difficult to worry about getting old ! I pray for no pain ,I’lll take the aging ! Be blessed and favored always 💖🙏🏽
Amen❤️🙏🏻
I wept, Patti. Your video made me cry and smile and, ultimately, feel good about myself and where I am at this stage in my life. I am 68...it's a process. I know I will have that "I am old" feeling altogether too soon. But, thanks to your words of enlightenment and courage, I refuse to feel it yet. Thank you so much for this video. Your message was exactly what I needed to hear today. :-)
This 2021 is the first year I felt old. I'm 69 years old. I came down with an autoimmune disease so painful I've cried for the first time and wanted to end things but I do have my children and granddaughters who keep me going. I actually got emotional with your story and I hope to have your attitude soon if I beat this thing I have now. Love your kindness and just love to hear you speak about anything, especially makeup!! Thank you!
We are the same age Doris and I can so relate to your comment. I think I had Polymyalgia about a yr. ago. It came out of the blue, and caused every joint and muscle in my body extreme pain. It was the most misserable thing health wise I had ever experienced. I felt at least 100 years old. It took awhile with some steroid treatments to subside but I'm grateful to only have some pain in one knee now. I hope for the same kind of recovery for you. All my best, Bonnie
I'm just a little over 3 months away from turning 60 and it hit me so hard that I am now considered elderly. In my mind I'm still the carefree, vibrant woman I was when I was a young woman. I'm just trying to age as gracefully and joyously as I can. I'm ever conscious of my treatment and actions towards others, animals and our planet. Here's to aging beautifully and gracefully!🌹🥀🍷🍷 ❤️🙏❤️🕊️🕯️🌈. You are such a beautiful and vibrant soul, inside and out. May God bless you and anyone that reads this.
For me your message was perfect timing. I am 83 and retired Friday from a wonderful, very longtime job where I was valued, felt youthful and needed. As co-workers wished me well in my next life chapter, my thoughts were that the next chapter will be getting old and preparing for leaving this life. Your inspirational video points out that I need a mental adjustment. I now have the gift of time to do what I want and have fun. Thank you.
Wow Julie! How wonderful to have had such a long productive career. Best wishes on the next chapter. I bet you would be a great mentor to other women.
I got that feeling at my local grocery store, H.E.B., just the other day. I was trying to pick up a case of drinking water & I absolutely could not. I was so embarrassed'. Lucky for me, a young man walking by, asked if he could help me. But I know EXACTLY the feeling you are referring to. For the first time in my life, I realized I'm not strong anymore and never will be again. That's WHEN I knew. I am now a weak, older woman. I'm not mad at turning 72, I'm mad at not having the physical strength I had just 10 yrs ago.
Unfortunately in today's world some men have lost chivalry or haven't been taught how to be a gentleman. It's all about all for one and me for myself attitude. Some women can do it all by themselves but at a certain age we just can't do it anymore. God Bless you
Hello Maria,how are you doing?
I agree but this is a direct result of a feminist culture. The younger generation of men have been told from the time they were children that men and women are equal and it's offensive to "help" a woman. So they don't even think of chivalry. Not even for older women. It just doesn't even cross their minds. These younger women who screech " I don't need a man" will be singing a different tune when they are seniors. (obviously this comment is not directed to rstrmom but to any younger women reading this)
She shouldn't feel bad about asking that young man to help her and she should not feel bad because he was rude to her. That is a common experience for older people, but there are kind people as well, like the family man (they
are just a little harder to come by)
Amen! I always send out loving kindness. I feel that, for the most part, it is returned. I also take care of my body, exercise for strength and mobility, pray daily for all people, all nations. I try to remain grateful. Thank you for your uplifting message. 🥰
Hello Shelly
Patti I really needed to hear this today. I’m 74 in July I work out and eat pretty well (this is a recent photo) and will be having a knee replacement soon. The other one was replaced 5 years ago. Feeling discouraged at times that my body is failing me but you’ve really helped.
Hi Elaine,
I am also turning 74 this July. I felt pretty old all of a sudden this pass year in this pandemic social-distancing phase. Lose weight unintentionally and not eating as much. But I know it is part of life and today, I decided to continually encourage myself to keep up Self Love and look at the situation with new eyes. I know I'll be ok. I will follow where life leads me in peace. Blessings to you.🌹
Elaine, you are truly beautiful! I'll be 67 next month. With my health & medications, I've aged a lot in this past year alone, I look older than you for sure. My friend just had her knee done, she's a sissy when it comes to anything like surgery/pain etc BUT she came out doing fantastic just like my constant pep talks! Loved giving her a rare "I told you so." Things have changed a lot since just 5 years ago. I'm wishing you the same excellent experience & recovery my friend had. hugzzzzz
Girl you look Good!
Hi Elaine,
You are beautiful.
Your 100 watt smile is beautiful and makes your face radiant.
I need to smile more.
My goodness Elaine! You are lovely! Since you have been thru one knee replacement, you know the drill. The PT after is tough! That said, so are you! You got this! And w dependable knees you can keep moving forward.
So grateful there are many of us supporting one another.
Many blessings.
I turned 70 this year, but I feel about 35. I feel wonderful, and you are so right! It is happiness that keeps us young. With that said, happiness comes from within.
Aw, Patty, it isn’t you that is old, it’s your carry-on that’s old. It was the old broken bag that was the culprit all along. What a gift you gave everyone that helped you. Receiving is a gift you give to another who wants to be of service. What a delightful story. Thank you for sharing.
Hello Aryana,how are you doing?
I actually kept thinking that same thing! A good rolling bag is worth a mint!!
You're so right!
I'm so glad I ran across your channel. Yes, I've had that feeling many times. I'm 81 now and I had the same "overhead" issue as you did, and a young man came forward to help me too. I know I have limitations, but I just keep on keeping on.
Well you took this 62 year old to "church" this morning, watching your video. I was riveted to every piece of your story & absolutely loved the end where you talked about feeling hopeful & inspired again & not letting parts of that experience taint you. It's amazing what simple acts of kindness can do for someone....like the wonderful TSA lady who told you how beautiful you are & really changed so much about that trip. I try to life my life that way & always extend kindness whenever I can, and it is amazing how it comes back to you so often when you live like that. And age seems to be relative & "older" always seems to get pushed back as I get older. And yes, it can be a struggle sometimes coming to terms with that & going thru our different seasons of life. Thank you SO much for sharing this story & I will definitely remember this story. xo 💜😎
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A beautiful truth.
"As a man thinks in his heart...SO IS HE"..Jesus .
Hello Gail
@@fredwilliam575love. This
You are right Patti. I`m 82 and had that feeling this weekend. The evil one likes to stir up doubts in our minds, but the Lord always lifts us up with a compliment, usually from a stranger, because He knows a compliment coming from a stranger is more appreciated and believable, when we need it most. Love your channel. Love and Blessings to you.
Recently people made me feel old because they saw me as helpless. I told myself "muscles might be a little weaker but this 70 yr old was tough". It was so uplifting. You're right about it being in your mind. Thank you!
I felt old the day I got an AARP card in the mail, unrequested. That was 16 years before I actually retired. These days, I sometimes feel old if I get mentally rattled. I have learned to take a few deep breaths and say "One thought at a time, one step at a time, one day at a time".
I handle things the same we you do. Thank you for your comment now I know there are at least 2 of us. Lol
There is three of us. I get mentally rattled and I’m not as strong as I use to be for for sure. My niece who I live with diagnosed me as having dementia a few days ago. It broke me. I’ve been in a funk ever since and self conscious about everything I say. I feel old.
Haaaa, same thing happened to me , age 50 , open mail box and saw the AARP card. I was so angry, I sent it back to them. I'm 70 now
@@Friesian-q6u Looks like you are about to give into someone writing your life script for you. Don't let them do it!!! Shake it off!! Square your shoulders and tell the idea of dementia to go back to hell from where it came. Reject it entirely and purpose to live your life in full control. There is so much joy in life to live. Even if it's only watching a beautiful bird fly away or enjoying the company of an old friend. Pray without ceasing. God bless.
I'm 74, my spouse is 75. We are happy to have downsized our big home for condos in three different cities where our grandchildren live. We have the freedom and simplicity of life it affords. We are guests at family events, and no longer have the responsibilities of executing holiday celebrations and family activities, but we still find great joy in being a support to our Grand families. Being old is not something to fear. Every day and year I live is a gift with lessons to embrace and new skills to acquire. I hope to grow older every day with the same grace and humility my grandmother did. Let's quit having anxiety over wrinkles and do our best to manage the aches and pains. All we leave in this world when we depart are memories and the lessons learned by being in honest healthy relationships with those we love.
Patti. Thank you. This was so helpful to me today. I was an RN for 44 years. I retired 5 years ago because I physically couldn’t handle the work anymore. Since I retired I have fallen 3 times. I have had 4 separate joint surgeries. Have had a hip fracture on 2 separate occasions and have had a knee replacement that went very wrong. I am in pain for 2 years from the knee. I was always the one helping others and now I know that sense of DOOM that you describe. What gets me through is leaning on the Everlasting Arms of God. Praying for healing in Jesus Name. Thankfully my husband has been a great support. I’m 71. Never thought it would be like this. Those grand babies are so adorable. Being with grandchildren keeps us young doesn’t it?
I have a 9 year old grandson and I LOVE being a grandmother. I never gave that role much thought before my son announced the pregnancy. It wasn't until last year that I was able to spend a significant amount of time with him and we bonded. Now I understand.
I'm 74 now and a retired RN and now I find myself on the other end of the stick. Whenever someone does something nice for me I really appeciate it and think back of how my patients felt when I did something out of the ordinary for them. God is good. I will from now on check my bag in. I thought it would be easier with a carry on but no. Just came back from Can Cun had a wonderful time but seeing my limitations cropping up. Thankful for each day I have.
As a 40 year veteran of the airline that you flew💕and on the behalf of all of us, thank YOU for your kindness❤️. You’re an inspiration in so many areas of life. LUV you!
Hello Gina
Yes, I've had those thoughts too, and for a minute, I feel so depressed about it, but...
No one in my family has been Martied 54 years to the same man!
I've lived long enough to see this Pandemic come and go.
Iam 74 this spring!!
Iam thankful to be this age.
I can still get up in the morning, walk to the bathroom, and make my coffee!!
Just that alone is enough to thank God!!!!
Hi Brenda , Our true beauty lives INSIDE of us ! We are beautiful when we show kindness to others , and ourself . We are known by the fruit we bear ! I always admired Mother Theresa . What a beautiful human being ! It wasn't always about her ,She had three outfits to wear . If someone is young or old in age , selfish , not kindhearted , always thinking about themselves , I don't care what they look like , That is not beautiful to me ! Have a cup of John Wayne coffee with me ! Be Blessed ! I am 78 ! I also needed watching this today !
@@laurakerr3450 Laura, what kind thoughtful words you have spoken, it is Definitely a Blessing to be able to get up, THANK GOD FOR ANOTHER DAY, shower, make coffee, I just feel like I don't want to do it alone anymore, Now that I Really know how to LOVE. I have no one to share it with, I came from a very Dysfunctional family, generational curses,
@@walkingbyfaith5504 I am alone also ! I know what you mean ! I actually live a very lonely life . I feel like i am on another planet sometimes ! I am 1500 miles from my son , 1000 miles from brothers and sisters . I came from a family of eleven children . 7 of us left ! Due to covid , etc , I haven't seen them or my son far too long ! I plan to see them this summer tho ! I hope you can fill that lonely gap in your life ! Jesus Christ said I will never leave you or forsake you . Let us keep our faith strong in him , and we will be at peace and joy with him some day ! We will never be lonely again ! No more tears or heartache ! Are you depressed ? I like going to thrift stores , looking for unusual stuff. I can spend a couple of hours there sometimes ! I also like to cook . Try to do stuff you enjoy , but don't give up ! WE MUST ALWAYS WALK BY FAITH and never ever give up ! God be with you and protect you and guide your path ! Amen !
My moods swing ..I do fine and then it comes down again. I am praying that entering into these conversations will help. I an 78 with many blessings but feel so much self loathing do to ingratitude.
I've shared this here before and I'm inspired to share it again. I live in Santa Monica and there is a public pool nearby where I swim that is shallow enough that if people so choose they can walk their laps as opposed to swim. Before Covid, I used to share a lane with a woman named Aida who is now 108 years old. The only time she can walk is when she is in the pool. Otherwise she is either in a wheel chair or laying down. She can't hear very well or see all that great, but the way she feels when she's in that pool is such that it drives her to get there every single day. She is so precious. She's very petite and tan and always wears red lipstick and I once found out that tucked up into her hat that says Aida, she has two long white braids. Whenever I ask her how she is doing which I have to yell so she can hear me, she always says, "I'm tired. We'll see how much longer this is going to go." and then she laughs. I retell the story of Aida here to simply say, you're not old. In Aida's world, you're just a baby. xo, Melanie
I find people to be much nicer to me. I feel like they all look at me like I am their Mother or Grandmother. I find it a perk of getting older!
Hello Patricia,how are you doing?
I think the day I realized I had gotten "old" was the day I decided that I didn't want to live in a big house anymore, it seemed like a burden to take care of it all and the 12 little gardens I had planted and tenderly loved throughout my years on that property became torturous for my back, neck & shoulders. After we sold it, I felt like I unloaded a huge bundle of baggage weighing me down. I understand baggage, I've experienced enough of it in my lifetime. I want to down size again. Hopefully in 2 years I can make it happen. Moving is so difficult for us older folk, it really scares me.
Hi Patti, enjoyed video and was awed by your talk about feeling old. I just turned 80 and dreaded it. Thought I'd really feel so much older. Then, 2 days later had Gallbladder surgery. Thought that would really do me 😏 in. But I made it through both and I'm doing okay. Yes, there are many things I'm not able to do anymore and I try to accept those. Truth is I am old but still able to take care of myself for the most part. Live one day at a time for the most part and I look for kind and loving people to be around. Maybe that's tougher than anything else! Thanks so much for the inspiration you've given me. I will always remember your advise and thoughtful 💕 words. Beth/
Perfect timing Patti as ever. I am 71 and over the last year have lost a lot of confidence in the things I had always done. Living in London is fast and furious which I always took in my stride but now feel daunted by. So I will heed your words and ‘choose not to feel nervous or anxious’. They are just thoughts after all. Thank you for your wisdom. Xx
Hello Meg,how are you doing?
My name is Margaret from Oklahoma and I just started watching your channel a few days ago and It’s been inspiring. I
I was encouraged by the content of this topic about dealing with getting old.
I’m 72 years old and it’s a challenge to resist not thinking about getting old when the media and commercials about medical issues, drugs, insurance etc are geared toward the aging. Thank you for inspiring us that we need to guard our minds and how we think .
I’m 70 years young. I’m a mother of 3, grandmother of 14 and great grandmother of 20. I haven’t felt old but have noticed of slowing down a bit. What is old anyway. My children are still waiting for me to grow up. I’m single, still working and enjoying my life and family. I don’t know how to be old yet. Love ❤️ your videos and topics you discuss.
Maria I agree with you 100 %
I just turned 26 years old, and I have no idea how, but I just came across your channel. I had always wondered if we have some sort of epiphany when we get old, or if we don't really notice. It was really nice to hear your perspective, and I am looking forward to all of life's stages and what they bring. :)
Thank God there are still gentlemen in the world! His mama taught him well❤️
And kind gentleladies.
This was such a touching video. I was almost in tears because I know how you feel. You are beautiful and kind. Shame on those rude people!
I felt old when my husband passed away and I realized all my children were so busy working one and a half or two jobs, raising their families. I decided to move to my hometown, but found out I had a slow terminal disease, plus other health issues. I ended up staying around my children, doctor's, hospital that I was familiar with. I try to stay feeling young in my heart and mind. Being around the kids helps alot! Enjoyed the video!
Hope you continue to feel well. Thinking good thoughts for you.
@@kathybates508 Me too!
Frank Sinatra said on his 50th birthday, that his body maybe 50 but my brain is only 28!! I love this quote, so every birthday I say
This, I will be 77this August, however we just cannot do some home duty tasks anymore, either can my husband of 55ys and 62yrs together, even changing the bed, trying to lift the mattress to tuck in the sheets and blankets. I could go on but you get my drift. Yes be kind, and thank you for this video, PS. I am 4ft8in I get it Patty Stay safe. From Australia
The man who helped you is a true gem. He is a gentleman. His wife is very blessed to have him. You shouldn’t fret about anything, you have every right to take your precious treasures. You are beautiful and I love watching your videos.
Hello
I felt old recently because I noticed my children planned the vacation right in front of me. Before I always planned family events. This time I noticed it was them and they didn't call me over to join them. It was a strange feeling. You are not old. You are one of the youngest people I know. Take care Patti! Melissa
Sweet Melissa. Thank you!. Hope you are at least going with them.
Sorry to hear that, dear Melissa. Life is such and this is a reality in life. Our children are growing up everyday whether they are married or single. They choose to be whom they wanna be. Different generation gap. Best is never to expect our children to want to include us in their life. It is all about EXPECTATIONS. Have to lower our expectations from our children or else we will be very miserable. I have 3 growth ups. I have learnt to break away from them at times to enjoy trips n leisure with my other friends be it junior or senior friends. I'm a sociable being by nature. I will make a conscious effort to link up with people. I learnt from others to go to where I am celebrated bcs our loved ones may not do that for us. So do have your own circle of friends to chat n go trips with. If you already have them then it is good for you.
Yes Melissa I know exactly what you mean. Suddenly we are invisible people it seems.
Awww Melissa I'm so sorry, but I'll bet they didn't realize they were doing it. I'm sure they didn't mean to hurt you.
Well said Melissa..
I just read your story and it sounds like me. I’m 71 and I’m finding my limitations are like yours. I’m in tears now because I never considered myself old, but everything seems to get harder and harder for me.
We all need help, and isn’t wonderful that we can help each other! Continue to help who you can and allow others to help you! By the way, you are beautiful!
Thank you. I have tears running down my cheeks. I'm 59 and I've had that feeling of impending doom of aging since the beginning of this decade. I needed your words of wisdom more than I can tell you. ❤
That young man who was rude to you wasn’t raised right. That father that helped you was raised by a good loving mother.
That young man is a jerk .
@@carolynhamilton3316 Agreed! That was unacceptable.I feel her pain.. It's quite humbling to ask for help. I've had similar experiences at diffrent locations.Not an airport.It's very embarrassing... now i wont ask anyone for help.
I wouldn’t blame the parents. Those men were adults. One chose to be rude. One chose to be kind.
@@sewgatormomm 👍You're Right. Grown Adults make their own decisions regardless of their upbringing.🍀
@Hayedeh Janansouz........ likely a father as his example to emulate.
I really enjoyed your story. I am near 79 and how I handle aging is to realize I am old in body but young in spirit. I find things to be grateful for each day. I never sit and dwell on what I CANT do but what I CAN do. I do what I am able to do-the rest I choose to leave it alone. When you have arthritis and back problems you realizes where your strength lies and you adjust accordingly. When you do this assessment you will not fight old age but be graceful for everyday God gives us. My motto is every day is “best day yet” that God gives me. Hopes this help someone else. You was smart for checking that bag and continue to check in the future (smile). Keep up the videos!
I love you Patti!!!! I remember when my Grandmother was visiting us and she fell. She started crying and my Mom and I thought she get herself. She said she wasn't hurt, she just hated getting old!!! That has always stuck with me. But I know it is all about attitude. My Mom is 90 and can't see well, has breast cancer and still lives on her own. She has a good attitude and sense of humor and that is what is needed when ageing!!!! Loved this story!!! Blessings to you and your family!!!!
My mom is 90 and like yours has breast cancer.she didn't want to intervene in any way. She caught pneumonia this past winter and her health went down the hill but after 3 months she's slowly recovering. She can't live by herself at the moment but she's still a fighter and her m8nd is still intact. Cancer doesn't seem to be a problem after 2 yrs
When I read your comment I started to cry. I’m only 53 years old, but feel much older due to very painful chronic illnesses that have forced me to “retire” early and go on disability.
But nothing has been more painful than watching my 49 year old sister succumb to stomach cancer. She moved in with me. One day she tripped and fell. I was shocked and devastated. She tried to hide her tears as I asked if she was ok. My sister was the strongest woman I’ve ever known. I was so proud of her breaking barriers into “men’s work” yet always becoming the best.
The pain from having stomach cancer was indescribable, but the worst pain she experienced was becoming weak and not being able to do things for herself. She had always been there at a moment’s notice to help others.
Three weeks ago she went to her rest, so my pain is still raw. It struck me that we can all face these difficulties and choices even when we’re not yet considered “old”. I find these videos to be relevant and helpful to me already. Thank you for sharing 💞
I do not know how I ended up watching your videos. Perhaps was the fact that you are almost my age, I am 79 therefore your are 2 years younger than me but I always wanted to upload a video in you tube thinking I would be the oldest one doing it, but watching people my age it encourage me although I can never be as beautiful as you are. I can see deep into your soul and thru your smiling face that you are a wonderful human being. You are so lucky that you still have your husband. I lost mine 24 years ago and there is not one day or night that I do not remember him. That is why I do not feel alone because he is always with me. I wish I could be like you . When I watch myself in a mirror I realized that I am getting old although inside me I feel much younger. Sometimes when I wanted to go to places where younger people goes to have fun and listening to music and have one or two glasses of wine then suddenly I realize that I am too old for that type of activity,. Or when I wanted to move to another place I discover that I need a condo with a 24 hours concierge because I am afraid to live by myself in a house. Thank God I love to be busy doing craft work and before I know the days, weeks and years are gone. Time goes too fast for me. It could be because I spend hours using my pc, tablet and cell phone and checking all Real Estate pages looking for houses that I know I will not buy but cannot helped. I watch your video showing your new house and I love it, congratulations and God bless both of you. We are not old, we just have a lot of young years in our inventory.
Thank you to the kind people in our world. I turned 74 two days ago and I am so grateful for your kindness, Patti. I too feel the age and look much older since even 70 years old. You have made such a difference in my attitude and I really try to stay calm and kind. It’s an ongoing challenge isn’t it to stay kind . Your beautiful face and your wonderful kind words are such an inspiration in my life. Brings tears to my eyes as I listen to you. I deal with ageing by watching your videos in the hope I can learn some lessons from your positivity.🤩
Happy belated birthday Pamela!
I thank you for this video, this last year has slowed me down so much that I’m surprised to find energy sometimes and actually do what I want to when I want to (73 in August) and am very grateful I’ve found your channel.
My dear friend, YES, I've felt it one day just like you!! At first, I was depressed & sad even though I just before that I had felt young & could do almost anything if I put my mind to it. But, the depression didn't last long, for God had a job for me, my friend needed help & I was there to help her & put all my energy into my caring for my friend. Feeling needed was what did the trick for me to get my balance of age. God's word tells us that we are to first, Love Him with all our heart and second, to Love our neighbor as ourselves. True happiness & Balance comes from the fact that we are not alone, God says that we should not be anxious about anything because he is with us & will help us through any trial that befalls us. You live by those standers, I feel your love for others every time I watch your videos! You truly are a blessing to us ladies & that love makes us beautiful....and guess what, the gal at the airport is right....YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, INSIDE & OUT!! I always enjoy spending time with you. You are exactly right, it's our choice to Love God or not because we are blessed with the free will to make that choice! There is soooo much hate & violence in the world today that the peaceful & loving people, those trying to live by Godly principals are the minority today. Well, I'm sorry if I said too much, I did not mean to preach, just saying that only because God loves us, can we love other... Have a Wonderful Day!! Your Friend
Hello Pamela
I wonder if this feeling is stronger when a person has been fiercely independent most of their life?
The answer is Yes ! I still struggle with asking for help because I feel I could do everything on my own and I’m only in my 60’s 😅
Yes. I think that makes the feeling of being old so much worse. At least it does for me. Especially when my children and grandchildren tell me to just sit down and point and give them instructions on how I want something done. I'm 74. But I am so very grateful that they want to take care of me.
@@celestineweathers5137 yes, you are fortunate to have good family members helping you. I'm 64 and hoping my son will become more like your people by the time i need routine assistance.
Yes, it is. We simply are not used to asking or being asked if we need help it comes as a sad shock.
WOW . I wrote my previous comment in the middle of the video. Now, I feel I must add that , not only are you gorgeous but also enlighten. You’re message serves many in various situations. I needed to hear this. It does take work ( changing ones thoughts) but it can be done and once you achieve it, everything is sooo different. This is one of the most powerful videos you’ve done. Thank you ❤️
Shame on that young man who treated you so badly. I feel sorry for him and hope that he wakes up and catches the clue bus before his life implodes on him. I'm 72 and so far I've never let that feeling of being old invade my consciousness even though sometimes my joints and muscles try to tell me so!😄 Thanks for sharing your life experiences--you are an encourager!❤
Hello Linda,how are you doing?
This was so inspiring and uplifting. Thank you so much for sharing this. It's amazing how a small change in attitude and perspective can change the way we feel.
By the way... you ARE beautiful! You have an incredible glow that comes from the inside and radiates outward.
I just love this video. You are indeed beautiful both inside and outside. I have heard that Resilience is one of most important factors as we age. Physical resiliency but ALSO Mental resiliency. Looking for the positive. Choosing happiness. 😍
I ‘m just back from a 8 day Disney trip, with 12 other family members. I will be 80 yrs young in two months, I am blessed to have energy and good health, was able to help with the greatgrandkids. My mind still make me thing young,thanks for your stories.Young at ❤️
Beautiful woman, beautiful story. It’s so nice to receive an honest genuine compliment. When I see someone I know or just admire maybe someone’s hair, outfit, smile anything, I tell them. I know how it makes me feel so it’s nice to give it back! We all need to heed your words. Beautiful, well spoken, classy!
It is all of the mind! You see, I am 50 and have always been scared to go anywhere far by myself. Last year I drove 2 hours to pick up my daughter and grandson and thought that was big but my mind has made me old all my life. I admire you. Here you are, traveled all over with work and travel. I am proud of you. You are wise. ❤
I have traveled by myself but mostly on planes with people waiting to meet me. A few years ago I had to drive by myself half way across the country. I was a bit nervous, took me two nights, three days to get home. For the most part I loved it, there were stretches of heavy traffic in unknown cities, but it didn’t last long and my trusty GPS was a huge help. Turns out it was a confidence building experience for me. I look back on that trip with fondness, I’d like to do something like that again.
@@paulachristie7807 I love this! Congratulations on your experience. I do hope to experience the same, off the interstate, one day. I know it could build lots of confidence.
I had no idea I was old until my doctor didn't prescribe me a medicine because it was not good for the "elderly". That was 4 years ago. I'm 75 now. And, I've had so many of the same experiences you have. I had the same experience with the suitcase. The flight attendant would not help me and neither would anyone else. I asked her for help and she looked at me as if to say, "It's not my fault you're old." Since then, I always check my bag. It's a real challenge getting old. I enjoy your videos and thank you for this one. I'm not alone.
The unexpected kindness of strangers never ceases to surprise me! Patti we are resourceful we simply need to believe in ourselves with lots of self compassion:) All we have to do is keep moving forward and yes as we age we are less able but Patti it’s not over ‘till its over. I think that you are remarkable I admire you so much. Xxx
Hello Pamela,how are you doing?
Its so true!😅
Today is my birthday! Your video is such a marvelous gift. I woke up at 1:30 from excitement and as birthday greetings started rolling in I got more excited. I am so full of joy and your life affirming message is right on. My “old” moment came st 20. I LOVED being a teenager and was inconsolable. I am thrilled that today, at 68 (yikes!) I am happier and freer than I have ever been. Yayyyyyy!!!!
😢 right now. I 💜 this. The feelings are indescribable. It is grief and we must deal with it and process it, and learn from it, and go on, somehow. So grateful 🙏 for your videos!
Wow you described it perfectly a grief and yes it can be dealt with in time.
Patti I am finding those moments too many times recently, but you know since I came upon your videos you have become a great inspiration to me. You are a beautiful woman inside and out and even though I don't comment all the time I look to your videos to encourage me and keep me inspired to carry on. With all my heart I thank you. Congratulations on your grand babies. Many Blessings from Ireland.
Such a beautiful story, thank you for sharing. Not long ago, I was almost done teaching a course and I felt exhausted.... so much so that I muttered that I needed to retire. One of the students (a soldier) overheard and asked me not to.... that he had learned so much and that my passion for the program was contagious. It meant so much..... he will never realize how much 💕
We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing...I love this quote by George Bernard Shaw...it's so true...I am about to turn 70 in a few days and as today comes to an end I have a back ache and am tired out just from doing some walking and cooking and every day things. But I am grateful to be able to do them. Am I old, not really ...am I getting older..of course, who isn't. This video was amazing. The comfort of your voice while sharing your experience flying helped me to see things in a different perspective. I refuse to say I am old...others may say it to me, about me ...but that is their opinion. I was afraid that once I turned 70 everything would be downhill. But I don't think it will be. I would rather think the best is yet to come. Thanking my precious sister-in-law Nancy for sending me the link to this video.
Patti you are the epitome of true beauty with your wisdom plus inner and outer beauty . Thank you for your inspiration and honesty . That story brought tears and smiles to my face. 😀
Patti, you are indeed beautiful, inside & out! Your list of positive thoughts that we can choose is brilliant, & we should all review them frequently! Yes, there is nothing like prepping for a flight & then doing all that's necessary at the airport & on the plane to make me feel overwhelmed. The antidote is seeing the smiling faces of my family at the journey's end & hugging them. I think focusing on all the things one *can* still do is key to keeping the fear of old age
I think that I make good choices but thus far you would not look at me and think so. I love your videos, you could be a life coach. Thank you dearie. You are beautiful 💜
I agree with you checking in the bag. It makes it easier just to pay the $30 fee and let the workers hassle your luggage around.. I took a flight last week and had to carry my CPAP along with my purse and check in a bag. When I boarded the plane people had put over sized bags in my bin and left me no room. They were sitting across the isle and refused to move their bags. Like your situation there was not a n attendant to help. I had to store my CPAP two rows down. Some people flying are rude . I don't treat people like that but there's always a few out there.
When I got I got back from my 6 HR flights There and back with a layover in a huge huge airport I had the very same feeling you did.
You are beautiful and remember, it's okay for us to not fight the aging thing because it just prolongs the misery. Love you !
Hi Patti!--gorgeous, as always. Consider this: there are 40-year-old's who can't haul a carry-on bag to its compartment due to a "bad shoulder". For that reason, I didn't see your story as "It's official--I am old and can no longer do for myself." You can do everything *but* lug that heavy bag above your head (like many 30, 40, 50-somethings), so you're doing GREAT--you just have "a bad shoulder". :)
Much love to you, Jim and Biscuit. xo
Patty you are an inspiration, don’t let no one make you feel that a little help is a big deal, it must be natural to all humans to help each other.
I just flew recently and I questioned myself how long I will able to fly alone, all this technology and check in complications are each day more difficult, people are not as kind and well educated as we all were before, our parents taught us to think first in others than ourselves, and that makes us happy. In my heart I’m sure that we are blessed of being able to grow old, and we should try to teach kindness to everyone we meet, because if we don’t who will?......and to ask for help is also a way of being humble and teach others to be kind to one another. Thank you for your videos, you are beautiful!!!!!
Hello Norma, how are you doing?
Patti, when you said, "I am the one who always helps OTHER PEOPLE!", I gasped because I have said that hundreds of times during the 16 months of Covid when ALL OF A SUDDEN I was hearing multiple times a day that I was part of the 'vulnerable community'...that get in your head, for sure.
Hello Ann,how are you doing?
Never forget YOU ARE A BLESSED, BEAUTIFUL, AND ABLE BODIED YOUNG LADY...always remember. 👍🏾 Im glad I found your channel.
Blessings ☺
I'm 76 have hip stenosis and your story today was so uplifting to me. It brought tears to my eyes. I feel like I'm getting older by the minute, but it's in my head. With the good Lord and your story I'm going to change my thoughts. Starting in the morning I'm going to talk wit God as I always do and I'm going to tell him my thoughts about getting old will be changing . I'm going to exercise my legs hips arms and get stronger. This morning I truly felt like l was to tired and weak to walk. I just wanted to give up, but you made me feel different. God bless you Patti ! I'll keep you posted and you keep all of us posted and in your prayers. Much love Sherry Saunders from southern Ohio🌈🙏
Hello Sherry, how are you doing?
Patti, I am just discovering you on You Tube and you never cease to amaze me with your stories and wisdom. I'm 64 and fell a couple of years ago off my front steps when checking on my barking dog. I laid there in the front yard for 20 minutes screaming for my husband as I knew I was really hurt and couldn't move. I ended up breaking my leg {femur!} and had to have a total hip replacement. It was because of that fall, I realized that I too, was getting old. I was so traumatized by that, that I'm still not feeling steady and hang on for dear life when going up and down stairs. I move slower. I think about every step I take. I used to scurry around like a busy little squirrel. I too have that feeling of dread, of impending doom, of being old. Not GETTING old, but BEING old. Your story today made me sob. It really hit something in my heart. It made me realize that my fear, like that old bag of yours, has no place and doesn't serve me at all. I will make a conscious effort to put that fear in the dumpster, just like you did with your bag. I guess we just need to stop lugging around all that old broken stuff to feel like ourselves again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Patti! I really needed this. Love right back to you!!