Kevin said one of the most realist thing I've ever heard. He said "Our children aren't born based on planning. They're born based on a good time." That shook me to my core.
I said this to myself years ago. It plays a huge role when you plan and when you don’t. Sad thing is so many still don’t plan things out properly hence retiring.
As a boy raised by a single mom who ran my father out (I found out at age 37 while cleaning out her apartment after she passed - old letters between them), this hit hard. I had many of the same mother wounds plus the added child husbandry issues when I got older. I was the most successful son and was expected (by her) to help support my older brother and his kids. Therapy for men is underrated. It's hard to find a good one, but a good one is invaluable
You are not the Only one brother, my mom kept me from my dad my entire life, then about 3 years ago she concocted a Story about how he really wasn’t my dad, and went into damsel Victim mode. These women are scandalous across the board 😢
Your mom could throw you down a flight of steps, be verbally abusive, even steal from you. And society will still tell you “But she’s still your mom. Respect her.” Horrible moms get more adoration than great fathers. In my opinion, having a toxic mom is far worse than having a absent father
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them and I hope it stays winter forever for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
My 59 year old sister started crying listening to this show and she was still defending our mother. Rev. Samuels is preaching tonight. It’s time for a Praise Break. CHURCH
Elijah it’s called living in a delusional state of denial. We use it to protect ourselves from the truth because the truth is to painful to admit, so we use beautiful fantasies to describe the abuser, even if that person is an Emotional Thief.
@@IncredibleIceCastle I was in that denial phase before I started to get therapy. This isn’t an epiphany you get to overnight when you’ve been brainwashed your entire life.
@@jbb8261 absolutely I agree, it’s a difficult thing to acknowledge the woman who gave you life is an active detriment to your existence but it really requires a calculated balance of manipulation and deception to keep your child deceived that far into adulthood…
@Jacc Sparrow not sure why I’m receiving this veiled threat, but I’m well aware who I was named after, and also aware that this punishment you reference has not been proven to be awaiting anybody in the afterlife. The inconvenient thing about the concept of hell is that it’s a perfect fear tactic to levy against your fellow believers, it tends to have the opposite effect on those who don’t believe; especially those who once believed but searched for the evidence of these claims of eternal torment and came up empty handed alongside the rest of mankind.
My mom is a "boss bae" always been able to provide for us. Our dad literally chose not to be present. As a kid I'd be so mad at my dad, as an adult- I was mad at my mother. As man I was able to see her flaws. I forgive them both and don't hold anything against them. I don't need them to change either. The change is for my siblings and I.
@@_manofreal3133 I love your comment and agree times 10. Just made a similar comment before seeing this. Sending peace, love, and light to you and your siblings.
My mother is a very toxic bitter women . I always felt like she is always trying to compete with me . Anytime I share a big milestone in my life she just brushes it off and trashes me behind my back with my 28 year old single baby mama sister . It’s sad because I wish my mom was loving and affectionate she’s s narcissistic mother . Awesome podcast Kevin you’re doing gods work sending love from California. Xoxox
Are we brother and sister? Lol I can definitely agree and I know the feeling. I'm a single father of 2 boys with full custody and I'm the oldest of six children. My mom was a single parent but she had a support system from my grandmother.. All I do is ask for the same support she received or at least genuinely helping as grandma.. But my askings go ignored while I watch my sisters kids get all the support from my mother while they dont have any dad around...I'm being the father that I never had.. While in my opinion, my mom is being the father to my sisters kids..with no issues. She doesnt expect a thank you from those men that she is stepping up for on my sisters behalf, But tells me to man up and be a man .. Pisses me off and I have to separate myself and turn to God and ONLY PUT MY FAITH IN HIM.
congratulations! it didn't work out like that, for me. i probably tapped out too early, though. these young men NEED TO KNOW the Cost, of getting involved with the Wrong Woman. they can cripple a dude, before his sails fill out. because of this, I've suggested to my son that he MUST NOT HAVE CHILDREN or a 'woman', until he's Established to the point that he is in Full and TOTAL Command, because regardless of what they say, they ONLY respect POWER, Authority, Domination and Mastery. otherwise, the woman will see him as a 'peer', and challenge and undermine All his decisions, to the degree that he won't be able to ever get anything going. they are they scorpion, that NEEDS the frog, to help her get across the river, but she stings him, mid crossing, because she has No Control over her Nature. If the man is too weak to resist, they will both end up at the bottom of the river. of COURSE, it's his fault! you KNEW she was a scorpion, when you let her climb onto your back. (yes, you were overwhelmed by Compassion and Decency (and lust. let's keep it REAL...), because yo' mama taught you good, but you shoulda been stronger! a 'REAL' Man don't die, when he gets sh*t in the heart. and the head. twice. what kind of man, are YOU??!?)
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
I went through the same thing my brotha. I was the monster when my children were little but when my oldest was about 14 she told me "dad i was told you were the bad guy, but now i see it for what it really is" i just smiled. I said whatever you want to know just ask. We talked, cried and both moved forward with each others new knowledge.
This is also seen in Mexican households. My mom is a very toxic, negative, bitter woman. Never takes responsibility for her actions. She used us as a wheapon against our father whenever they had problems. As a result we have a very distant relationship with our father and my older sister hates him because my mother used her and told her every bad thing about him. Now as an adult I see that my mother was the problem all along. She is impossible to talk to. Kevin said that a lot of moms are babysitters which is in my case true. My mother never taught us to do anything. When I ask her now on why she never taught us to cook or clean, or why she never was emotionally available she said she didn't have to be there because her children had one another. So basically we had to raise ourselfs and had to be her emotional support because she is emotionally and mentally immature. I am glad to have found this channel it is helping me heal and become a better partner and mother to my children. Thank you Mr. Samuels.
@@brianevans6343 brother your not listening and are confused. Women are in school for useless degrees they chase these titles to feel better if your a woman going for a degree in S.T.E.M he encourages it but you have to keep in mind who is going to pay that debt and why get a career like that if when you find a man you're not going to use it ...
@@Kokumajutsushi Lol. Doubling down on the wrong method doesn't magically make you right. All you just did now is articulate your misunderstanding. What is it about Americans that you can't properly use english? 😂 Ex: Do you want an apple? A: I do NOT want an apple. With accepting or rejecting the said apple, "apple" still remains in both forms of the answer. Sooooooo, that is not what's gets emphasized. What does, is the singular difference between the two. In your misunderstanding, you would accentuate "APPLE." What exactly gets emphasized by accentuating "apple"?? What exactly gets accentuated/emphasized by you capitalizing "love" that wouldn't get communicated in lower case??? "clearly show" Love is already individual of hate because they are 2 separate fucking words... Are your eyes unable to differentiate between different letters? Their different spelling is what accentuates them. Capitalizing "Love" doesn't increase or change the relationship or gap between hate and "love". Similarly just as, someone yelling loudly doesn't improve their talking points and make them factually right. Lol. Remedial.
@@NeoAndersonChannel1 I'm... not American. ''What exactly gets emphasized when you capitalize love?'' Uhm, 'love'? It's to denote to the reader the stark contrast between the two. Emphasizing ''IS'' does nothing.
It starts with you women "sharing" it. He catches so much hate and he's literally dismantling the great walls in our culture. They come after him as if it's a game and he's really helping.
@OpenMind are u a woman pretending to be a man? It’s either that or you’re a woman worshipper. Men don’t worship women, we conquer them. U also contradicted yourself. U said your father chose not to be in your life but then u turn around and say he was this, that and the third. If he wasn’t present, how do u know what he did thru out his life? U must’ve gotten those stories from your mother.
This show makes me realize even more how lucky and BLESSED I am to have my mom. Married 37 years, she’s a gem, never belittled me, understood the need for education but even more so finding a husband, slapped me that one time I said I was gonna have a baby without a husband🤣, gave me wise counsel at every turn, has never called my dad out his name, and helped me into marrying the man I have today. My parents are goals!! Actual goals not these bs social media goals.
God bless you. I love my mother and still have her thank goodness at age 71, but I had to confront my mother wound last year. It almost killed me, but it was the most emancipating thing I ever did. Now I’m ready to be a wife. My mother is boss, but when my father died after 35 years of marriage, I realized just how toxic her views on marriage and men actually were and I can see that she emasculated my dad, unwittingly or not. She dated 2 or 3 of gentleman about 10 years ago as a widow but attracted either beta males in their 50s who didn’t have who wanted her to take care of them financially, or a great Italian guy who was in his mid 70s, spoiled her, but she felt he “moved too slow”. She ghosted dude at the airport the day they were supposed to go away together. SMDH Education was always a priority. Cool. “so that you wouldn’t ever need a man”. Not so cool. It always made me wonder that was wrong with valuing a man as well as your career. Nothing but the husband part needs to be prioritized. I had no clue how to choose and by the time I was ready to marry after medical school, my father gad already passed. I picked a toxic narcissist out of my brokenness. I’m grateful that I have two young daughters so I’m not desperate to find any man. I got my head on straight, psychologically cleaved from my mom, and now I’m ready for a good husband. Took me a hot minute but I think I get it now. 😉
I stopped bending backwards for my mom a long time ago and realized that my mom is a toxic person that loves misery. So I just cut off all connections and felt happier doing so. She has since died and I didn’t go to her funeral nor did I shed a tear for her…I am just so grateful and thankful I found a man that knew I was broken and still married me. I am just now seeking therapy bc I don’t want to lose my husband. He truly is an outstanding man.
@@daughterofYAHWEH sounds like we are bc my mom died last year as well and arnd the same time in ‘99 was when I disconnected and checked out for good. It’s so sad how many of us went thru the same thing. All we’ve ever wanted was to be loved unconditionally. Thankfully their bad parenting has made us better parents. We have stopped that perpetual cycle of unwanted love so that our kids wouldn’t have to go thru the hell we went thru. So glad u were able to see that what your mom was doing to u wasn’t projected on to ur kids. Best feeling ever.
As a black woman living in this country and seeing all the damages and broken families, I can't thank you enough for speaking the truth. And the sad part is no other community is suffering the way we are. Thank you M. Samuels.
I can relate to this… My mother never taught me anything. All I heard from her mouth growing up was, how useless my father was. But I used that to be a better woman. I got married at 22 yrs old because at that time I knew I wanted to be a wife and a mother. I found my husband and married for 17 yrs now.. He is a blue collar man and he is a great provider and I get to stay home and care for my kids and him. I am very much happy because I get to do my purpose and role as his wife and as a mother. I am committed becAuse I see everyday how my husband sacrificed to protect and provide for us. And I am happy to serve him because he is my King 🤴
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
You wasn't tripping brother, My wife had the same issue with her mother, her mother was one hateful, miserable, bitter woman, who divorced her husband because he refused to go to church with her...
This is absolutely true. The more detailed Kevin goes the more exacting his assessment is. Totally accurate. I realized my mother tried to sabotage every relationship I’ve ever had. You can’t clearly see it without help because it’s the only reality you know. In hindsight and after healing the trauma I find myself present at home with my children. Preparing them for the actual world rather than perpetuating the lie I see the last of gen x are still pushing. It’s a dying world. Look to the future. Families and relationships are the most important thing. I worked in hospice and saw this. Over and over.
When I sit back n think about all the negative emotions n bad ways I behaved growing up, it all came from my mom. I can see her now as an adult and can only imagine how my mom operated as an adult when I was a kid. I asked her rhetorically “how did I get it from my dad if he wasn’t there and you the one who raised me?” She didn’t like that but it’s the truth. We all suffer gaslighting, deflection, and everything else at the hands of our mothers. That’s why we go out into the world accepting whatever. Me n my dad recently talked and I told him I can only imagine how much better me n my brother lives would be had he raised us. . .
My mom has passed but I remember when I was 21 and my mom told me that I needed a man and I argued her down about how “women didn’t need a men” 🤦🏾♀️ (why was I like that) I wish she was still alive so I could apologize and tell her how right she was 😔
This show is already bringing tears 😭 to my eyes because I let her win in sabotaging my life. Now I’m 42 single with no kids and spend a lot of nights alone. I’m doing my best to enjoy what’s remaining of my life I have left even if it’s by myself.
You shouldn't give up, sister. Art galleries, museums, operas, group tennis lesson, group CrossFit lesson, poetry readings, hiking clubs, and foreign language classes are all activities you should be doing to find a husband WHILE at the same time doing therapy. Everyone still wants a nice Yoroba girl!!
I’m Nigerian. This can be typical of some african mothers. What matters is that you are now aware of what went wrong and you are making efforts to correct. It’s not over yet. Be kind. Be humble. Stay positive & Keep going. If you do, you’ll eventually find all you ever wanted.🙏🏾
Thanks for sharing your testimony. My mother is currently trying to sabotage mines but I'm not going let her! She feels that i don't deserve to be happy because shes not. Smh!!! Im fighting for my life!
My mother has a narcissistic personality disorder. She’s made my life a hell. She sabotaged every milestone in my life until I surgically removed her from my life. I’m in therapy for PTSD because of her. It’s real. Ladies if you have a toxic mother you must get therapy otherwise you spread the toxicity into your own life and everyone around you. My marriage, my life are now thriving since I cut my mother off years ago. No regrets.
I just recently cut my mother off. She denied several aspects of my childhood that she was the kid and I was the mother role. She said I owed her to take care of her household, HER kids and help her while my dad layed up everyday w/out a job! Last month I told her don't even bother putting my name on her obituary! She won't see me ever again in this lifetime.
I gotta say, much of this episode applies to this 50 year old man as well. I have been getting therapy at the suggestion of an earlier KS episode, and I have been learning that my mother really messed me up. I had no idea until I started watching KS. Thank you Mr. Samuels, you are saving lives out here.
BetterHelp Therapy- I’m in it now. They have an option for low-income. It’ll be $45/week, you have to be willing to invest $180/month for yourself. I stopped getting my nails done at the salon to budget it in. Make sacrifices. Eat more salads and chicken instead of anything else. You’ll have the money to do therapy. There are ways to cut your spending.
Kudos to you. People always blame lack of money when it comes to something that isn’t ‘sexy’ to do but always seem to find the money for a concert or something.
When I turned 40, my mother gave me a smirk 😏 like I got you now. You’re mine. No one is going to want you now so you have no choice but to take care of me in my old age. I’ve since blocked my mother. I’m 15 Ibs away from my BMI and I’ve got therapy. Even if I don’t get married or have children, she’ll also never have access to me ever again.
The title of this video is 100% true. I am speaking from my own experience as a daughter of a man-hating modern woman. We need to bring traditional gender roles back healthily and to stop hating one another and fighting constantly.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
Exactly my situation. My mother held on to another bs relationship after my dad and I think it was to compete with him. He’s no prize either but he got everything in life that she wanted, including the marriage and more kids.
Whew! This show had my eyes wet and throat hurting! My mother painted my father and all men in general as beasts, dogs and villains. When I became older, my eyes opened. Even to this day I hold on to guilt due to how I iltreated my father because of her. I even walked away from two relationships that could have resulted in marriage because of the fear of men and insecurity instilled into me by her. Luckily, I learned early and forced myself out of that rutt earlier than some women. My heart goes out to them. At least I had my father around to help me and explain what is needed to be a wife and took it upon myself to learn because I would have still been walking around blind. I also watched the mistakes of my sisters and learner what not to do. I'm not perfect but I'm getting there.
Was in a similar situation. You sound like an awesome girl, keep up the good work! I sincerely hope you will find a good man, its truly a blessing, I've never been more at peace with myself and the world around me until I met my fiancé. Good luck hun!
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
Our knowledge has deteriorated to the point, that we don't even know that we are destroying ourselves by our own (action). Case in point, our ancestors knew that our "action" determines and set things on course "positive or negative". So, when a male and a female agreed to engaged each other sexually (action), it's more than emotions/feelings, it's "duty and responsibility" (action). In addition, feelings/emotions are the last things you want to make a decision with, because they don't override natural laws aka biology. Hence, why our grandmothers seek commitment and cover (marriage) from a man, before engaging in biological affairs, because they come with physically responsibilities. In closing, they also understood that divorce was based on physical abuse (action), and lack of intimacy (action). Real, before feel.
Children are a reflection of the parents. They do what they see their parents do. I'm sorry your mother made a hasty generalization of men, based off her experience with men. Unfortunately, your mother, just like so many other women, are "relationship remedial." They don't have the skill to function in a relationship or marriage because they lack common sense through the operation of intelligence.
I left my mom's house year's ago and always lived miles apart. Now I live hours apart. People attempt to scold me for saying she has to fend for herself because she is grown and chose to live her life without a mate. I was told that I rely on a man too much because I choose to stay in the house cook, clean, and make tea 🤣
I can say this Kevin, you are a godsend. When you said our children are not born on planning, they are born on a good time, I can tell you that I planned both of my older children. The plan was trauma. The first son was born because I wanted to keep her happy. And the second child my oldest daughter was born because we wanted to save our marriage. Neither worked. Please keep doing Gods work.
Unfortunate to read this. You were a sperm donor to this lonely woman. This is sad. Not all women are like this, but we are all put in this category of being selfish, and I can do better by myself attitude, which is a lie. Children thrive in a two-parent household not based on a woman's insecurity and a man's sacrifice for one's happiness. The kids are suffering without a present father. I'm sure she's somehow telling herself and her single mother friends that only her children are the ingredients to happiness until her kids grow up, leave home, and she's all alone.
One of your best shows yet Kevin. The bit about the husband choosing to be the “bad guy” and leaving because of the mothers toxicity and bullshit and tired of seeing the kids faces when the mom is acting crazy is literally bull’s-eye.
@@mizzcashmoney1 Just remember, your dad did what he had to do for the good of the family and his kids. I hope you still have a good relationship with him.
This is a perfect conversation. My mother died three months ago of ovarian cancer only six months after diagnosis. I have so much to heal from. She and I had this discussion before her passing. I explained why I didn't choose her route in life because I saw the wrong in her. Had my great grandmother not been in my life to raise me, it would have been different. I am married to an alpha man who I submit to and commit to him. Opposite of my mother.
@@ystenne12 you copied and pasted this like crazy, bro. I am already married to a black, strong, alpha man. Eight years in. I am living proof your comment is inaccurate and opinionated. Good day.
This is the best video KS has done. There were minor technical issues that I found distracting but KS's intro was filled with a lot of useful information. With this episode, KS really emphasized his views against advanced education. And I have learned the hard way, looking at advanced education the wrong way can hurt in the long run. My mother and grandmother believed in going to college so I can get an education and get a good job so I can financially support myself. I was taught not to rely on a man for financial support. I think the reason why black women need to take a step back from advanced degrees is because the only purpose in going to college is learning how to learn. That's it. Then - you go to law school to think like a lawyer, you go to business school to think like a business person, you get a PHD to specialize in a subject. That's it. Otherwise, a degree is not going to fix you. I have went to 2,3 years of therapy in the past and it has helped a lot - and this was after I got my MBA. It was therapy that made me understand my issues with both of my parents. My mother got offended when I told her the mistakes she made as a parent when we had a talk over 10 years ago! And she was the one who initiated the conversation! If she didn't ask, I wasn't going to say anything because I knew I would open myself up to being misunderstood. Which is why this video is so important. We live in a country that like to put mothers on pedestals and here I am sitting over here, rolling my eyes because MY mother is not perfect. At the time I am writing this, I am 43, single, with no kids - and I work at a local gov't job that I hate and I want to quit so I can fulfill my artistic dreams. Both of my parents are survivors - and I don't want to survive anymore. I never wanted that for myself. So KS is right - some of us got mothers who want to see us survive, not thrive and be happy. And according to KS, my time has past. I understand that so - I wish the younger generation of Black women the best of luck in finding love and happiness.
Jackie I agree. The first time I heard him he looked to young to be giving advice to a man like me. He had no grey in his beard. I didn’t want any part of his show. Now he is at the top of his game.
This made me cry. I need to confromt my mom because i have lost my sister (she ran away 2yrs ago) because of our upbringing as well. We were taught get education/good job AND religion. These two were emphasised above all else tbh. While she treated dad with no respect. It was a toxic home.
Please confront her! For you and your sister who isn’t here any longer. It’s freeing and healing. It’s uncomfortable af n an array of emotions, but def worth it. You’ll feel so much more free and light!
Get ready for the most painful and messy fight of your life. Your mother will probably not accept any accountability because she doesn’t know how. You will be in my prayers.
Kevin has definitely hit the nail on the head with this one. Speaking straight facts. When my eyes started to open with the truth and seeing others in my life for who they are, my mother is# 1. Sadly, I got to the point that being around her begun to be difficult. But as Kevin says you can't change them and to move on.
One of the things you can do is tell her the truth. Not with tje idea it qill change her. Tell her the truth to for yourself to relieve yourself of burden. You dont have ro fight or hold it in. You can move on and grow yourself and not repeat with your own children. If you are not actively trying to hurt her you are good and guiltless.
Our knowledge has deteriorated to the point, that we don't even know that we are destroying ourselves by our own (action). Case in point, our ancestors knew that our "action" determines and set things on course "positive or negative". So, when a male and a female agreed to engaged each other sexually (action), it's more than emotions/feelings, it's "duty and responsibility" (action). In addition, feelings/emotions are the last things you want to make a decision with, because they don't override natural laws aka biology. Hence, why our grandmothers seek commitment and cover (marriage) from a man, before engaging in biological affairs. In closing, they also understood that divorce was based on physical abuse (action), and lack of intimacy (action). Real, before feel.
As deep as this topic gets, it gets even deeper for the men who struggle most of their entire lives trying to grow into a man that his mother can never teach him how to......😞.......
this show brought me to tears. this was how my mother raised my 4 sisters and I. As a 31 year old I have had to cut my mother off because of what I have opened my eyes to see how toxic of a woman she has been to my life. This show is saving me from myself.
*Eastside Low Bottoms sh*t !* _Tappin' in from South Central LA_ Salute to the Godfather ✊🏾 *3/21/24* This broadcast is a reminder of why, although we no longer speak, I have empathy for the mother of my children. Rest easy KS 🙏🏾 You are appreciated.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
@@MaLaLa786 not sure what that means. If you discuss your relationship(marriage) with the opposite sex. Well what does that say of your value of the marriage. Weak. Low morals, no moral compass, I've learned women who do that are to be left behind. Not mine.
I watched this show when it came out... 4 months later it hits different now that I see my partner for who she really is. For the longest time I thought I was the problem, I've eventually figured it out it's not me, she's just emotionally unavailable and I just never realized it.
Things are so backwards these days that folks can’t see that the ones cheering their madness on want them to fail and the ones pointing out the madness want them to succeed.
Yes you're right about that.. we as black people have been trick all our lives. Back in the day when our people where slaves.. All they had was....anger at the slave master to keep them alive.. and it just followed us to present day..
With all the hate they had for this man. There’s not human could not say this video touched your soul. Wasn’t any bashing nothing just observation and reporting.
Time Stamps 00:00 Pre show songs, Current Mood by Gregory David 03:05 Vapour by Osoku 05:42 Homeless Soul by Fleurs Douces 08:39 Dusty Conscience by Matt Large 11:00 Getting Tipsy by Fox Morrow 13:10 Keep on Talking by Lionel Quick 15:18 Good lies by Vividry 18:22 Show starts, Candle of the evening Ambre by Diptyque, Fragrance of the evening Le Labo the Matcha 26 21:22 Modern Mothers Create Wounded Fearful Daughters 25:24 Important message in video 37:00 7 types of Mother daughter relationships, Sisters, Best friends, Strangers, Devaluation, Dismission, The cheerleader, Authoritarian 50:50 Mothers see their daughters as competition 59:00 There's no you left 1:11:15 You have to forgive yourself and get into some therapy 1:18:32 Break song, Crea2 by Ghen 1:19:20 1st Caller Brittany E age 33 , 2nd Caller Rae age 40, 3rd Caller Vanessa age 24, 4th Caller age 29 1:35:27 5th Caller Amberlin age 25 1:40:38 6th Caller Brittany B age 27 1:47:03 7th Caller Ivey age 36 1:48:55 8th Caller Ebony no age stated 1:52:28 Multiple Callers 2:18:30 9th Caller Ayanna age 41 2:27:10 Final words 2:44:17 Closing song
My mom told me to do the opposite of what she did. She’s been with my dad since she was 16. She never went to college. My dad was the bread winner when we were in our country. But when we came to the United States, my mom became the breadwinner. They’ve been married for 40 years. They had 5 kids. She told me go to college, be self reliant, don’t settle till your in you’re 30s. I have been with my husband since I was 22. I am 37. On my wedding day she wasn’t too happy. She wast happy when I told her I was engaged either. She said, “good for you” without looking up at me. Anyway…🤷🏾♀️
Thank you Mr. Samuels- I’m 37 years old. No children, never married - never a loose woman. But I allowed ‘religion’ aka waiting on the Lord and the fact that I came from a single parent , (never been married mom)- to distract me from marriage and relationships. I stayed in school. Not a PhD., but I have nothing to show for my life except a career and being a ‘pillar of comfort’ for everyone else’s problems.
It hurts my heart to see my 62 year old mother single. And when I ask her about it, she doesn’t think she did anything wrong. Fortunately she has children that can pay for her retirement.
Nat Turner self fulfilling prophecy. Men mostly aren’t interested in a relationship with an older woman. With less prospects, they let themselves go. Which further reduces their prospects. Nothing looks like defeat more than a 50 year old “career woman” thats single and childless
You have no idea how expensive taking care of an old woman is. Take your highest guess and multiply by 10. Go find that lady a man so she can get SSI spouse benefits and maybe some man pension.
This one touched my entire soul. Especially the first recording when the lady was talking about her relationship with her mother. I finally found the words I’ve been looking for. I’m trying to forgive my mother. I realized that I desperately need therapy.
Same ! I wish to one day have a conversation with my mother and tell her how her actions broke me. I’m older now married and only see her 2x a year but I long for that grandmother relationship with my children:-( .
@OpenMind it’s not for you to agree with because you don’t know anything about me or my mother. So unless you were there how in the world can you make this broad statement. Stick you your own life please.
My wife's close friend wasted her adult life financially supporting and carrying for her out-of-control mother, and sister. At one point she was engaged to an outstanding black man who had his life together. What killed their relationship is 'Survivors Guilt'. Her mother's husband was killed in a car accident...she moved her mother into her home with her fiance. Her sister, an out-of-control and just plain useless female, was a single mother of 3 children with no job. Something happened between her and one of her children's fathers that she was living with, and her 3 children were threatened to be placed in Foster Care. My wife's friend, who already had her out-of-control mother living with her, took custody of her nephews and niece. Her nephews and niece were feral (no home training) whatsoever. Her boyfriend, who was now her fiance, tried to get things under control in the house by enforcing discipline. Her mother, the children's grandmother, tried to intervene and shit hit the fan. The grandmother called up CPS and lied on him. When it was all said and done, nothing happened. My wife's friends fiance told her, "I know they are your family, but they have to find a new place to live. He rightfully told her, "Their presence in this household is having a negative impact on our relationship. So, they need to go. If not, I will go! She told him, "But that is my family, I can't abandoned them!" Well, he ended up leaving because she picked "blood" over love. That man ended up meeting and marrying a woman from Trinidad. They have been married for many years now and their kids are all doing well. My wife's friend...She never marri3ed and her adult son lives in her basement. Not long ago she admitted to my wife that the biggest mistake she ever made was choosing 'blood' over love. Her mother (RIP) passed away from disease related to alcohol abuse. Her sister, an unappreciative and unapologetic cow, now claims that her sister tried to take her kids away from her. It is sad. My wife and I used these stories to help our children, especially out daughters', to avoid making similar mistakes. Black women...We have 2 amazing son's...get yourselves together.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
The mother wound is a profound issue in our society. I used to facilitate women’s groups with women in recovery. They were stunned when I shared with them that mothers aren’t always motherly, but just had a baby the way people move their bowels.
This show right here...it hit different. I don't always agree with Kevin, however tonight he spoke bare facts. My Mother, a baby boomer did not show me a thing. My Father, bless him taught me and was always available. I found a partner at 40, we been going together 11 years strong. Needless to say my Mother can't stand him.....I'm not listening 😀
I have not been able to watch a full show since he passed away... Missed for who he was and a pleasure that I got the chance to listen while he was here.
A genius, a genius, a genius. This man is a pure genius... Ever damn episode he outdoes himself. He breaks down the male experience, Like I've never heard someone articulate before... He ALWAYS, takes every word, nuance, experience and situtaion out of my head and my life... and paints a perfect, descriptive canvas. And it's at that point, i feel understood. He always makes me say to myself. "You see, i knew i wasn't crazy" Kevin, thanks you soooooooooo, Much. Please keep given out your wisdom. Ill always continue to support your cause. And GOD, please keep this man protected at all times. WE NEED HIM
I personally gave up on a relationship with one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen because there was none of her left for us. She had everything in the world going for her. She was smart, funny, accomplished, and so beautiful that nobody in the room could take their eyes off of her, and we had absolutely the best time together but at the end of the day she would cry herself to sleep being completely emotionally exhausted from taking care of her staff at her job and her friends, and her family, and her mom, and her dog. She was putting herself through college in the evenings and was absolutely wiped out and I got sick of getting no emotion returned because there wasn’t any left.
Bruh I went got me a woman from Africa. Ghana to be exact. I personally believe the black american woman is too far gone. Any man desiring a truly patriarchal relationship must go outside the United States
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them and I hope it stays winter forever for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
@@ystenne12 correct men cannot save these type of woman from themselves and issues that the man did not create in the first place. What saves a woman is when she gets helps for herself so that she utilize practical adult skills that will give her clarity and start opening a path of clearance. So men work on you and focus on making sure you are good emotionally and stable to run a household with a woman that has either been taught or has just learned what it takes to be a wife and mother. One year of self care can truly make a world of difference and create some great new habits. Like being a husband and father and vice versa 🥰
@@keundrefresh very so much true there are quite a few people who do not care about others. So move right out of the way and attract those who do care place the focus into that group. 🥰
I've had so resentment against my mother. Therapy has helped me tremendously heal from the childhood trauma. I hold some of the most toxic traits I picked up from my mother.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
I’ve watched this almost more times than I have fingers. Damn I miss this guy, he’s so smart & gone too soon. Died doing what he loved at least. I need all the videos like this one
I know Kevin is technically at work during these videos, but it always cracks me up when he stands up and I can hear the clicking of his dress shoes. This man dresses professionally all the way down to where we can't see while he's at home.
This is so true.. I thought I was the only women that has experience this with my mother, but I have also realized that I have to fix this with my daughter
Now I usually don't do this, But I leaving this message as a marker for what I tend to monitor. This video here, should surpass the "Average at Best" video! Mr. Samuels got into the thick of the shadows and pulled out a big beast sabotaging people's lives. I wanna see how far a transformative broadcast like this goes !
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
Kevin thank you. My husband asked me to watch this and he was right. A light lit up for me. My mom is a combination of a few of the mothers you talked about. And now that I know what is cause I g my problems, I can finally begin the healing and hanging process. Thank you we as women needed to hear this.
I can fully relate. I'm 52, and my daughter is 29. I have NO RELATIONSHIP with her at all. Haven't even heard her voice in 5 years. Prayers to you and your Dad.
My mother screwed my sister (younger) and myself up pretty bad... I am the only one cleaning up the mess she made. I am so grateful for my relationship today. He loves me through these things and told me he wanted to marry me as soon as we started seeding one another .... he's so amazing I couldn't be happier. It's funny because she hates him lol my father approved of him before he passed away.... Praise God. Thank you Kevin for speaking on this.
Wow we have a similar story! My mother doesn't like my husband but my father gave him his blessing before he passed and thats all i needed to hear. Now she is so bitter and tries to break my marriage up everyday!! It's like she not happy that one of her daughters is married!
This was a very deep discussion and needs to be heard by many. Actually my Son sent this to me to listen to. I appreciate it so much. My mother was an absent mother in my life. I never got praised or encouragement from my mother of all the accomplishments. I was always felt unworthy but I know I was WORTHY AND BLESSED and I believe my mother felt envious of me. But I thank God I left home at the age of 19 and basically tried to teach myself how to love! When I gave birth to my kids that was the best moment in my life! Because I felt LOVED AND I GAVE THEM UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. This is so good! Blessings to you 🙏🏽
Kevin, I just watched your video stream from beginning to end and must conclude that this is one of your "greatest pieces of work ever," Sir. People let us give this man whatever he requests!!!
Great show very illuminating thank you Kevin. I recognise the amount of work and research you put into your shows. Thank you for being a positive influence for us
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
I always knew I had an amazing mother. Even in childhood, I knew why my dad wedded her. She was beautiful, amicable, well-dressed, poised, and wise. I’m 24 now and I always tell my mom how blessed I am to have her. Especially when I compare her to other mothers or even some of my aunts. The only reason why I have any sort of navigation in the world, is because of my mother. The best thing my father ever did was give me a healthy two parent house hold with an amazing mother.
I am so grateful for the work your putting in, I wish more BW would listen to you instead of hating. Thank you Mr. Samuels💫 this conversation was needed.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
The color Black has nothing to do with nothing .. This whole “Feminist “ agenda is Antichrist and it’s destroying our communities as a whole .. not skin color!
Peace Sis, THANX for sharing. Please dont worry. When all BS fails TRUTH alone will STAND. Be patient, keep living, Thinking & remember what you wished for. Thy will be done. Stay feminine. Peace
Mr. Samuel you are my virtual therapist. I be experiencing all emotions listening to you. My sons be thinking I am crazy talking to myself responding to the questions you ask on your platform. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!.
Kevin is on point with this one,I can agree with how he breaks down this important topic.This hits me so much and the fact that we(my m-other) grew up like sisters and it was cool at first so I thought, but as I started getting older it became tiring. I told her how I felt about it and she just brushes it off and tells me"you know who I'm to you" but that's Not what I wanted and needed to hear.Ever since I was 11 years old I always wanted a more mature and responsible mother and was speaking with my grandmother about it and my m-other hear us,she got so upset because she heard me say that I wished I had a more mature mother because I already knew that living with her wasn't gonna be a great learning experience. However now I can't be around her nor have her around my daughter with her kind of mindset, that's why I'm in therapy so is my daughter because m-other dear is just Toxic AF😔
I had this argument with a lady friend who said she’s gonna raise her daughter as her friend and my reply was love her but she shouldn’t be ur friend and She got really upset..
@@James_150 Smdh,that's because they're afraid of taking responsibility for another also "they" don't like when their time is up so Now "they " choose to live through their daughters until the daughters light shines brighter than "ma's",then that's when the real Competition starts,sometimes before the child grows🤔This is something that has to change in our communities because it's just not healthy.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
Had a few Hispanic friends growing up . Close enough to be let inside their homes . You see how much respect the women have for their husbands . Clean home and food always being. They Fr look out for their families too . Strong unity
P.S. Also I'm married, by yhe Grace of GOD.. Your show has helped me improve my relationship with my husband as well. Real introspection needed for me.....
Yoooh bhuda Kevin...this broadcast was enough to make me cry...I dated a girl who I loved kakhulu at varsity and she self sabotaged our relationship because she was dismissive. Her father was married to her mom but he had issues and looking back it all makes sense
When I was a kid I thought I was so lucky, I had so much freedom, go to school when I want, come home when I want, hang out with whoever I want. My mother chased my father off, taught me to hate him and reward me with full freedom. That made me grow up to be a complete ass, thank God I had grandparents, aunts & uncles to set me straight.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
All of this is true. I've said this about my mother. She didn't teach me anything, but how to clean. I had to learn everything on my own. My parents were married, but my dad was the provider, protector, and did all the cooking after he got off work. I had to do all of the cleaning. My mother went to work full time and paid small bills such as the cable, her car note, and her cell phone. She would come home and sit on her butt. She did not interact with my father, me or my siblings. Then she had the audacity to divorce my dad. When she divorced him, she wanted me and my sister to be her man by paying her bills. I use to think I owed her my life, but eventually I had to cut my mom off.
Fathers , in order to keep their sanity, became the sacrificial lambs and left the marriage in order to keep a bad mother from using his children as weapons against him. Very true Kevin.
This pissed me off when he said it cause then the mom gets the blame for how the children are raised. If it's too toxic for you as an adult then why leave your children to grow up in that environment. Leave but fight to tale your kids with you.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
My sister's keeper Your statement shows you really don’t understand the fight that men have with women when you have to fight them and the state Would you rather your father die in a war, or live to tell you the tale? If he’s alive, he could at least give you a first person perspective of what the war was like, versus just being told what the war was like
You make such insightful content. I never realized the depth of my pain. My partner often tells me how closed off I am. I’ve struggled to be open and your content has opened my eyes.
Thank you. This message is so important. I've been dealing with this for years. Thank you again for bringing this mother/ daughter relationship to light.🙏
So happy for the way I was brought up. My Mum served my Dad...showing me how to treat a man. She never allowed the helpers to cook for us. She did it. She taught me to be selective and keep my legs closed. I am a good parent and wife due to my parents.
Kevin said one of the most realist thing I've ever heard. He said "Our children aren't born based on planning. They're born based on a good time." That shook me to my core.
I said this to myself years ago. It plays a huge role when you plan and when you don’t. Sad thing is so many still don’t plan things out properly hence retiring.
The percentage of children conceived while the mother is on alcohol in the west is astounding
Not shocking the vast majority of women choose men base on how they feel not base on logic.
Exactly! We were collateral damage of our momma's good times.
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As a boy raised by a single mom who ran my father out (I found out at age 37 while cleaning out her apartment after she passed - old letters between them), this hit hard. I had many of the same mother wounds plus the added child husbandry issues when I got older. I was the most successful son and was expected (by her) to help support my older brother and his kids.
Therapy for men is underrated. It's hard to find a good one, but a good one is invaluable
😟sorry Frank
You are not the Only one brother, my mom kept me from my dad my entire life, then about 3 years ago she concocted a Story about how he really wasn’t my dad, and went into damsel Victim mode. These women are scandalous across the board 😢
Your mom could throw you down a flight of steps, be verbally abusive, even steal from you. And society will still tell you “But she’s still your mom. Respect her.” Horrible moms get more adoration than great fathers. In my opinion, having a toxic mom is far worse than having a absent father
Agreed!!! Wayyyyyyy more detrimental
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them and I hope it stays winter forever for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
fact!
Nailed it my brother
Truth
My 59 year old sister started crying listening to this show and she was still defending our mother. Rev. Samuels is preaching tonight. It’s time for a Praise Break. CHURCH
How can you be at the point of tears and still not admit your denial, very sad
Elijah it’s called living in a delusional state of denial. We use it to protect ourselves from the truth because the truth is to painful to admit, so we use beautiful fantasies to describe the abuser, even if that person is an Emotional Thief.
@@IncredibleIceCastle I was in that denial phase before I started to get therapy. This isn’t an epiphany you get to overnight when you’ve been brainwashed your entire life.
@@jbb8261 absolutely I agree, it’s a difficult thing to acknowledge the woman who gave you life is an active detriment to your existence but it really requires a calculated balance of manipulation and deception to keep your child deceived that far into adulthood…
@Jacc Sparrow not sure why I’m receiving this veiled threat, but I’m well aware who I was named after, and also aware that this punishment you reference has not been proven to be awaiting anybody in the afterlife. The inconvenient thing about the concept of hell is that it’s a perfect fear tactic to levy against your fellow believers, it tends to have the opposite effect on those who don’t believe; especially those who once believed but searched for the evidence of these claims of eternal torment and came up empty handed alongside the rest of mankind.
You can't tell me this man is not doing God's work! One of his best shows!
“You must judge your mothers as harshly as you judge your fathers, forgive them both, forgive yourself, and move forward” 🗣🗣🗣
My mom is a "boss bae" always been able to provide for us. Our dad literally chose not to be present. As a kid I'd be so mad at my dad, as an adult- I was mad at my mother. As man I was able to see her flaws. I forgive them both and don't hold anything against them. I don't need them to change either. The change is for my siblings and I.
@@_manofreal3133 Correct, see the triumphs and the failures and duplicate the triumphs and improve on the mistakes as best as you can.
This is a thread to tread on.💯 A lot to talk about here.
@@_manofreal3133 I love your comment and agree times 10. Just made a similar comment before seeing this. Sending peace, love, and light to you and your siblings.
Whoa.....I could have cussed. 💯
My mother is a very toxic bitter women . I always felt like she is always trying to compete with me . Anytime I share a big milestone in my life she just brushes it off and trashes me behind my back with my 28 year old single baby mama sister . It’s sad because I wish my mom was loving and affectionate she’s s narcissistic mother . Awesome podcast Kevin you’re doing gods work sending love from California. Xoxox
share your wins with people who support and encourage you, leave those two to themselves
There are too many mothers like that in America.
That’s really sad.. you need to build your own climate and you own world with your family.. and tell her how you feel ..
Are we brother and sister? Lol I can definitely agree and I know the feeling. I'm a single father of 2 boys with full custody and I'm the oldest of six children. My mom was a single parent but she had a support system from my grandmother.. All I do is ask for the same support she received or at least genuinely helping as grandma.. But my askings go ignored while I watch my sisters kids get all the support from my mother while they dont have any dad around...I'm being the father that I never had.. While in my opinion, my mom is being the father to my sisters kids..with no issues. She doesnt expect a thank you from those men that she is stepping up for on my sisters behalf, But tells me to man up and be a man .. Pisses me off and I have to separate myself and turn to God and ONLY PUT MY FAITH IN HIM.
Detach from her🙏🏿💯
In my divorce, I fell on my sword and "became the bad guy." Four years later, and my kids finally know the truth and I'm vindicated.
congratulations!
it didn't work out like that, for me.
i probably tapped out too early, though.
these young men NEED TO KNOW the Cost, of getting involved with the Wrong Woman.
they can cripple a dude, before his sails fill out.
because of this, I've suggested to my son that he MUST NOT HAVE CHILDREN or a 'woman', until he's Established to the point that he is in Full and TOTAL Command, because regardless of what they say, they ONLY respect POWER, Authority, Domination and Mastery.
otherwise, the woman will see him as a 'peer', and challenge and undermine All his decisions, to the degree that he won't be able to ever get anything going.
they are they scorpion, that NEEDS the frog, to help her get across the river, but she stings him, mid crossing, because she has No Control over her Nature.
If the man is too weak to resist, they will both end up at the bottom of the river.
of COURSE, it's his fault!
you KNEW she was a scorpion, when you let her climb onto your back.
(yes, you were overwhelmed by Compassion and Decency (and lust. let's keep it REAL...), because yo' mama taught you good, but you shoulda been stronger! a 'REAL' Man don't die, when he gets sh*t in the heart. and the head. twice. what kind of man, are YOU??!?)
Same happened to me brother kids find out the real truth when they become adults.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
I went through the same thing my brotha. I was the monster when my children were little but when my oldest was about 14 she told me "dad i was told you were the bad guy, but now i see it for what it really is" i just smiled. I said whatever you want to know just ask. We talked, cried and both moved forward with each others new knowledge.
You either die a hero, or live long enough to see yourself become the villain - Dark Knight
This is also seen in Mexican households. My mom is a very toxic, negative, bitter woman. Never takes responsibility for her actions. She used us as a wheapon against our father whenever they had problems. As a result we have a very distant relationship with our father and my older sister hates him because my mother used her and told her every bad thing about him. Now as an adult I see that my mother was the problem all along. She is impossible to talk to. Kevin said that a lot of moms are babysitters which is in my case true. My mother never taught us to do anything. When I ask her now on why she never taught us to cook or clean, or why she never was emotionally available she said she didn't have to be there because her children had one another. So basically we had to raise ourselfs and had to be her emotional support because she is emotionally and mentally immature. I am glad to have found this channel it is helping me heal and become a better partner and mother to my children. Thank you Mr. Samuels.
Reconnected with your father yet?
Congratulations! Hope everything works out!
@My Nameis same with black children so I feel your pain
Thanks for that enlightenment
@@grindhard4312 "same with black children so I feel your pain" -> My guy I am black this is not true stats show.
I knew sh*t went downhill when I see so many women in their 40s, & 50s REFUSED to be called grandma/ grandmother by their OWN grandchildren! 🤦🏾♀️
Nu Nu and Gi Gi 😂
U can call a 50 year old MISS & they get all worked up like... "MY NAME IS KAREN"🤣😂
Yep! I had to call mine Mama lol
This show gets better and better. It really shines a light on what’s been a plague in our community. 👍🏽
Our community is extremely damaged.... It's hard to to even date our women (speaking 4 me). We continue to try but, patients is running thin.
Ben Simmons I see you foo
How? He literally is telling women to get a man and not get higher education lol you guys are sick.
@@brianevans6343 stop trolling Brianna.
@@brianevans6343 brother your not listening and are confused. Women are in school for useless degrees they chase these titles to feel better if your a woman going for a degree in S.T.E.M he encourages it but you have to keep in mind who is going to pay that debt and why get a career like that if when you find a man you're not going to use it ...
Ladies and Gentlemen holding a person Accountable is LOVE not Hate....
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Amen
"holding a person accountable IS love NOT hate" * * *
@@NeoAndersonChannel1 No. You have to clearly show that it's LOVE, not hate.
You don't have to accentuate 'IS'.
@@Kokumajutsushi Lol. Doubling down on the wrong method doesn't magically make you right. All you just did now is articulate your misunderstanding. What is it about Americans that you can't properly use english? 😂
Ex: Do you want an apple?
A: I do NOT want an apple.
With accepting or rejecting the said apple, "apple" still remains in both forms of the answer. Sooooooo, that is not what's gets emphasized. What does, is the singular difference between the two. In your misunderstanding, you would accentuate "APPLE." What exactly gets emphasized by accentuating "apple"??
What exactly gets accentuated/emphasized by you capitalizing "love" that wouldn't get communicated in lower case???
"clearly show" Love is already individual of hate because they are 2 separate fucking words... Are your eyes unable to differentiate between different letters? Their different spelling is what accentuates them. Capitalizing "Love" doesn't increase or change the relationship or gap between hate and "love". Similarly just as, someone yelling loudly doesn't improve their talking points and make them factually right. Lol. Remedial.
@@NeoAndersonChannel1 I'm... not American.
''What exactly gets emphasized when you capitalize love?''
Uhm, 'love'?
It's to denote to the reader the stark contrast between the two.
Emphasizing ''IS'' does nothing.
This one hurts...my mother is the authoritarian , dismissive an the stranger . This broadcast needs to be heard . God.... this is tragic !
It starts with you women "sharing" it. He catches so much hate and he's literally dismantling the great walls in our culture. They come after him as if it's a game and he's really helping.
@OpenMind are u a woman pretending to be a man? It’s either that or you’re a woman worshipper. Men don’t worship women, we conquer them. U also contradicted yourself. U said your father chose not to be in your life but then u turn around and say he was this, that and the third. If he wasn’t present, how do u know what he did thru out his life? U must’ve gotten those stories from your mother.
Send it to her
@@cobby7672 yup that's it from her mother 💯💯
@@wesornaitit No. This is what I know. It’s been that way since the beginning of time. In the United States, The Caribbean and everywhere else.
This show makes me realize even more how lucky and BLESSED I am to have my mom. Married 37 years, she’s a gem, never belittled me, understood the need for education but even more so finding a husband, slapped me that one time I said I was gonna have a baby without a husband🤣, gave me wise counsel at every turn, has never called my dad out his name, and helped me into marrying the man I have today. My parents are goals!! Actual goals not these bs social media goals.
That’s what I’m aiming to be and I will slap my daughters if they say they want to have a baby without a husband too 😂
You’re very blessed. My parents were not thoughtful.
God bless you.
I love my mother and still have her thank goodness at age 71, but I had to confront my mother wound last year. It almost killed me, but it was the most emancipating thing I ever did. Now I’m ready to be a wife.
My mother is boss, but when my father died after 35 years of marriage, I realized just how toxic her views on marriage and men actually were and I can see that she emasculated my dad, unwittingly or not.
She dated 2 or 3 of gentleman about 10 years ago as a widow but attracted either beta males in their 50s who didn’t have who wanted her to take care of them financially, or a great Italian guy who was in his mid 70s, spoiled her, but she felt he “moved too slow”. She ghosted dude at the airport the day they were supposed to go away together. SMDH
Education was always a priority. Cool. “so that you wouldn’t ever need a man”. Not so cool. It always made me wonder that was wrong with valuing a man as well as your career. Nothing but the husband part needs to be prioritized. I had no clue how to choose and by the time I was ready to marry after medical school, my father gad already passed. I picked a toxic narcissist out of my brokenness. I’m grateful that I have two young daughters so I’m not desperate to find any man. I got my head on straight, psychologically cleaved from my mom, and now I’m ready for a good husband.
Took me a hot minute but I think I get it now. 😉
1 of the few
I stopped bending backwards for my mom a long time ago and realized that my mom is a toxic person that loves misery. So I just cut off all connections and felt happier doing so. She has since died and I didn’t go to her funeral nor did I shed a tear for her…I am just so grateful and thankful I found a man that knew I was broken and still married me. I am just now seeking therapy bc I don’t want to lose my husband. He truly is an outstanding man.
You are a new person
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@@daughterofYAHWEH sounds like we are bc my mom died last year as well and arnd the same time in ‘99 was when I disconnected and checked out for good. It’s so sad how many of us went thru the same thing. All we’ve ever wanted was to be loved unconditionally. Thankfully their bad parenting has made us better parents. We have stopped that perpetual cycle of unwanted love so that our kids wouldn’t have to go thru the hell we went thru. So glad u were able to see that what your mom was doing to u wasn’t projected on to ur kids. Best feeling ever.
My stepmom died in 2019 and I was angry at my little brother because he was crying over her ass .. it was his biological mother sooo... 🙄
Wow
As a black woman living in this country and seeing all the damages and broken families, I can't thank you enough for speaking the truth. And the sad part is no other community is suffering the way we are. Thank you M. Samuels.
K. Samuels***
You would think the CIA hired him but nope they never cared that much
You would think the CIA hired him but nope they never cared that much
The Problem is your community won’t admit to the fact that it’s awful and it’s choices. Not suffering, it’s due to choices
@@dcg590isn't she admitting that the black community is in a sorry state?
This is a serious issue in our communities
Toxic mothers sadly create toxic daughters who don't respect anyone.
And spineless, fearful, lazy, entitled, pandering sons. That's even more alarming than the daughters they create
I assume we understand the fathers role in this right?
And they never ever ever will smh
Yes indeed. The very bane of the culture.
@@xMckingwill u mean the government?
Big respect to all the mothers that called in because they genuinely want to help thier daughters. You're a credit to your children.
📥 𝟷𝟻𝟽𝟿𝟻𝟶𝟿𝟸𝟾𝟶𝟽📥
Thanks!
I can relate to this… My mother never taught me anything. All I heard from her mouth growing up was, how useless my father was. But I used that to be a better woman. I got married at 22 yrs old because at that time I knew I wanted to be a wife and a mother. I found my husband and married for 17 yrs now.. He is a blue collar man and he is a great provider and I get to stay home and care for my kids and him. I am very much happy because I get to do my purpose and role as his wife and as a mother. I am committed becAuse I see everyday how my husband sacrificed to protect and provide for us. And I am happy to serve him because he is my King 🤴
Years ago I told my now ex wife she has issues with her mother that handicapped our now failed marriage. I knew I wasn’t trippin.
Same
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
You worded it so right ! I cut my mother off 1-2yrs ago and I must say it’s been the best thing for my sanity and marriage .
You wasn't tripping brother, My wife had the same issue with her mother, her mother was one hateful, miserable, bitter woman, who divorced her husband because he refused to go to church with her...
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This is absolutely true. The more detailed Kevin goes the more exacting his assessment is. Totally accurate. I realized my mother tried to sabotage every relationship I’ve ever had. You can’t clearly see it without help because it’s the only reality you know.
In hindsight and after healing the trauma I find myself present at home with my children. Preparing them for the actual world rather than perpetuating the lie I see the last of gen x are still pushing. It’s a dying world. Look to the future. Families and relationships are the most important thing. I worked in hospice and saw this. Over and over.
When I sit back n think about all the negative emotions n bad ways I behaved growing up, it all came from my mom. I can see her now as an adult and can only imagine how my mom operated as an adult when I was a kid. I asked her rhetorically “how did I get it from my dad if he wasn’t there and you the one who raised me?” She didn’t like that but it’s the truth. We all suffer gaslighting, deflection, and everything else at the hands of our mothers. That’s why we go out into the world accepting whatever.
Me n my dad recently talked and I told him I can only imagine how much better me n my brother lives would be had he raised us. . .
wow your comment is amazing. I do believe we need to hold our mothers accountable. but eventually need to forgive them
Keep driving the point home to her that she’s the reason you had issues
My mom has passed but I remember when I was 21 and my mom told me that I needed a man and I argued her down about how “women didn’t need a men” 🤦🏾♀️ (why was I like that)
I wish she was still alive so I could apologize and tell her how right she was 😔
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She sees u...
Aww that’s a sad comment .. I’m so sorry you guys ran out of time! 😪
Awww... well,... you can honor your mom by living your life knowing you NEED a Man. I am sorry for you loss.
@@krypton1982 thank you
This show is already bringing tears 😭 to my eyes because I let her win in sabotaging my life. Now I’m 42 single with no kids and spend a lot of nights alone. I’m doing my best to enjoy what’s remaining of my life I have left even if it’s by myself.
You shouldn't give up, sister. Art galleries, museums, operas, group tennis lesson, group CrossFit lesson, poetry readings, hiking clubs, and foreign language classes are all activities you should be doing to find a husband WHILE at the same time doing therapy. Everyone still wants a nice Yoroba girl!!
@@juniorjames7076 I will keep putting myself out there… thank you 🙏🏾
@@joyhappy3461 Keep moving and stay focused…Life gets better with the decision we make!!!
I’m Nigerian. This can be typical of some african mothers. What matters is that you are now aware of what went wrong and you are making efforts to correct. It’s not over yet. Be kind. Be humble. Stay positive & Keep going. If you do, you’ll eventually find all you ever wanted.🙏🏾
Thanks for sharing your testimony. My mother is currently trying to sabotage mines but I'm not going let her! She feels that i don't deserve to be happy because shes not. Smh!!! Im fighting for my life!
My mother has a narcissistic personality disorder. She’s made my life a hell. She sabotaged every milestone in my life until I surgically removed her from my life. I’m in therapy for PTSD because of her. It’s real. Ladies if you have a toxic mother you must get therapy otherwise you spread the toxicity into your own life and everyone around you. My marriage, my life are now thriving since I cut my mother off years ago. No regrets.
I just recently cut my mother off. She denied several aspects of my childhood that she was the kid and I was the mother role. She said I owed her to take care of her household, HER kids and help her while my dad layed up everyday w/out a job! Last month I told her don't even bother putting my name on her obituary! She won't see me ever again in this lifetime.
I gotta say, much of this episode applies to this 50 year old man as well. I have been getting therapy at the suggestion of an earlier KS episode, and I have been learning that my mother really messed me up. I had no idea until I started watching KS. Thank you Mr. Samuels, you are saving lives out here.
Emotional incest I’m guessing?
@@IncredibleIceCastle ????
@@DK-gl3ih he means son husband.
Same thing for me fam. I’m 45
Facts my guy, listening to K. Samuels and Sister Sharazad Ali has changed the trajectory of my life over the past few months.
BetterHelp Therapy- I’m in it now. They have an option for low-income. It’ll be $45/week, you have to be willing to invest $180/month for yourself. I stopped getting my nails done at the salon to budget it in. Make sacrifices. Eat more salads and chicken instead of anything else. You’ll have the money to do therapy. There are ways to cut your spending.
What's your point here?
@@ystenne12 thats counterproductive isnt it?? This woman is clearly getting the help she needs. I applaud her and any woman like her
Kudos to you. People always blame lack of money when it comes to something that isn’t ‘sexy’ to do but always seem to find the money for a concert or something.
When I turned 40, my mother gave me a smirk 😏 like I got you now. You’re mine. No one is going to want you now so you have no choice but to take care of me in my old age. I’ve since blocked my mother. I’m 15 Ibs away from my BMI and I’ve got therapy. Even if I don’t get married or have children, she’ll also never have access to me ever again.
Damn...
Like other dude said, damn
Yes miss move on. I wish you the best
I hope you find a husband and have a child. You still have time. What you did to your mom is best. Both for you and for her!
It's never too late to change for the better, I wish you the best
My wife doesn't believe me when I tell her that she has more influence on our children than I do.....Thanks Kevin!
Women pass down culture. Mothers are the first teachers.
The title of this video is 100% true. I am speaking from my own experience as a daughter of a man-hating modern woman. We need to bring traditional gender roles back healthily and to stop hating one another and fighting constantly.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
Change the system. Ronald Reagan's "No Fault Divorce" instated in 1969 created all this.
If your parents are separated but your father “is” and “has” been in a relationship yet your mother is single…. This is your video!
Exactly my situation. My mother held on to another bs relationship after my dad and I think it was to compete with him. He’s no prize either but he got everything in life that she wanted, including the marriage and more kids.
Lady D way to miss the point
@@duckfoutube1761 thank you, I had to reread what I wrote so many times and still didn’t know what to say…
My father is no longer alive but this still might be my video.
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Whew! This show had my eyes wet and throat hurting! My mother painted my father and all men in general as beasts, dogs and villains. When I became older, my eyes opened. Even to this day I hold on to guilt due to how I iltreated my father because of her. I even walked away from two relationships that could have resulted in marriage because of the fear of men and insecurity instilled into me by her. Luckily, I learned early and forced myself out of that rutt earlier than some women. My heart goes out to them. At least I had my father around to help me and explain what is needed to be a wife and took it upon myself to learn because I would have still been walking around blind. I also watched the mistakes of my sisters and learner what not to do. I'm not perfect but I'm getting there.
Was in a similar situation. You sound like an awesome girl, keep up the good work! I sincerely hope you will find a good man, its truly a blessing, I've never been more at peace with myself and the world around me until I met my fiancé. Good luck hun!
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
Much love your way.
Our knowledge has deteriorated to the point, that we don't even know that we are destroying ourselves by our own (action). Case in point, our ancestors knew that our "action" determines and set things on course "positive or negative". So, when a male and a female agreed to engaged each other sexually (action), it's more than emotions/feelings, it's "duty and responsibility" (action). In addition, feelings/emotions are the last things you want to make a decision with, because they don't override natural laws aka biology. Hence, why our grandmothers seek commitment and cover (marriage) from a man, before engaging in biological affairs, because they come with physically responsibilities. In closing, they also understood that divorce was based on physical abuse (action), and lack of intimacy (action). Real, before feel.
Children are a reflection of the parents. They do what they see their parents do. I'm sorry your mother made a hasty generalization of men, based off her experience with men. Unfortunately, your mother, just like so many other women, are "relationship remedial." They don't have the skill to function in a relationship or marriage because they lack common sense through the operation of intelligence.
I left my mom's house year's ago and always lived miles apart. Now I live hours apart. People attempt to scold me for saying she has to fend for herself because she is grown and chose to live her life without a mate.
I was told that I rely on a man too much because I choose to stay in the house cook, clean, and make tea 🤣
Good for you!
You won .. these silly heifers want what you have .. only they don’t qualify! 🤪😜🤪
I can say this Kevin, you are a godsend. When you said our children are not born on planning, they are born on a good time, I can tell you that I planned both of my older children. The plan was trauma. The first son was born because I wanted to keep her happy. And the second child my oldest daughter was born because we wanted to save our marriage. Neither worked. Please keep doing Gods work.
Unfortunate to read this. You were a sperm donor to this lonely woman. This is sad. Not all women are like this, but we are all put in this category of being selfish, and I can do better by myself attitude, which is a lie. Children thrive in a two-parent household not based on a woman's insecurity and a man's sacrifice for one's happiness. The kids are suffering without a present father. I'm sure she's somehow telling herself and her single mother friends that only her children are the ingredients to happiness until her kids grow up, leave home, and she's all alone.
One of your best shows yet Kevin. The bit about the husband choosing to be the “bad guy” and leaving because of the mothers toxicity and bullshit and tired of seeing the kids faces when the mom is acting crazy is literally bull’s-eye.
I’ve been there
Spot on
Yes! That's exactly why my Dad left. He told me things in the home would have been worse if he stayed
@@mizzcashmoney1 Just remember, your dad did what he had to do for the good of the family and his kids. I hope you still have a good relationship with him.
I've had to do this right now..
This is a perfect conversation. My mother died three months ago of ovarian cancer only six months after diagnosis. I have so much to heal from. She and I had this discussion before her passing. I explained why I didn't choose her route in life because I saw the wrong in her. Had my great grandmother not been in my life to raise me, it would have been different. I am married to an alpha man who I submit to and commit to him. Opposite of my mother.
@@ystenne12 you copied and pasted this like crazy, bro.
I am already married to a black, strong, alpha man. Eight years in. I am living proof your comment is inaccurate and opinionated. Good day.
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This is hitting me so hard right now. You’re amazing, Mr Samuels
What he do?
@@ORIGINAL_INTELLIGENCE His words hit close to home
he's hitting you harder than the last D you had? Damn girl.
Fellas do not save them
@@kosovir Shutup LMAOOOOOO im dead!!!!!!
This is the best video KS has done. There were minor technical issues that I found distracting but KS's intro was filled with a lot of useful information. With this episode, KS really emphasized his views against advanced education. And I have learned the hard way, looking at advanced education the wrong way can hurt in the long run.
My mother and grandmother believed in going to college so I can get an education and get a good job so I can financially support myself. I was taught not to rely on a man for financial support. I think the reason why black women need to take a step back from advanced degrees is because the only purpose in going to college is learning how to learn. That's it. Then - you go to law school to think like a lawyer, you go to business school to think like a business person, you get a PHD to specialize in a subject. That's it. Otherwise, a degree is not going to fix you.
I have went to 2,3 years of therapy in the past and it has helped a lot - and this was after I got my MBA. It was therapy that made me understand my issues with both of my parents. My mother got offended when I told her the mistakes she made as a parent when we had a talk over 10 years ago! And she was the one who initiated the conversation! If she didn't ask, I wasn't going to say anything because I knew I would open myself up to being misunderstood. Which is why this video is so important.
We live in a country that like to put mothers on pedestals and here I am sitting over here, rolling my eyes because MY mother is not perfect. At the time I am writing this, I am 43, single, with no kids - and I work at a local gov't job that I hate and I want to quit so I can fulfill my artistic dreams. Both of my parents are survivors - and I don't want to survive anymore. I never wanted that for myself. So KS is right - some of us got mothers who want to see us survive, not thrive and be happy. And according to KS, my time has past. I understand that so - I wish the younger generation of Black women the best of luck in finding love and happiness.
It’s never too late! Be encouraged.
Your have gone to ..
As Kevin ages, he gets better. As he should. This is a good commentary.
Jackie I agree. The first time I heard him he looked to young to be giving advice to a man like me. He had no grey in his beard. I didn’t want any part of his show. Now he is at the top of his game.
This made me cry. I need to confromt my mom because i have lost my sister (she ran away 2yrs ago) because of our upbringing as well. We were taught get education/good job AND religion. These two were emphasised above all else tbh. While she treated dad with no respect. It was a toxic home.
Sorry. I pray God heals your family.
Sad that the religion wasn't applied to the parental relationship. Peace to you
Please confront her! For you and your sister who isn’t here any longer. It’s freeing and healing. It’s uncomfortable af n an array of emotions, but def worth it. You’ll feel so much more free and light!
Get ready for the most painful and messy fight of your life. Your mother will probably not accept any accountability because she doesn’t know how. You will be in my prayers.
Damn I feel ya pain. May God heal your wounds
Kevin has definitely hit the nail on the head with this one. Speaking straight facts. When my eyes started to open with the truth and seeing others in my life for who they are, my mother is# 1. Sadly, I got to the point that being around her begun to be difficult. But as Kevin says you can't change them and to move on.
Love them from a distance so that you can prosper 🪴 It doesn't make you a bad person. 🥂
@@JoshNtheedrifter Thank you. I'm doing that right now. Hard but has to be done. Have a wonderful day. 🧘🏽♀️
One of the things you can do is tell her the truth. Not with tje idea it qill change her. Tell her the truth to for yourself to relieve yourself of burden. You dont have ro fight or hold it in. You can move on and grow yourself and not repeat with your own children. If you are not actively trying to hurt her you are good and guiltless.
And yep!
Our knowledge has deteriorated to the point, that we don't even know that we are destroying ourselves by our own (action). Case in point, our ancestors knew that our "action" determines and set things on course "positive or negative". So, when a male and a female agreed to engaged each other sexually (action), it's more than emotions/feelings, it's "duty and responsibility" (action). In addition, feelings/emotions are the last things you want to make a decision with, because they don't override natural laws aka biology. Hence, why our grandmothers seek commitment and cover (marriage) from a man, before engaging in biological affairs. In closing, they also understood that divorce was based on physical abuse (action), and lack of intimacy (action). Real, before feel.
As deep as this topic gets, it gets even deeper for the men who struggle most of their entire lives trying to grow into a man that his mother can never teach him how to......😞.......
Wow. We are so broken as a community.... poor boys & girls.
I'm in this situation. Thanks to KS and Sharazad Ali, I'm healing myself.
@@blackboysbuild keep on healing king💯
@@blackboysbuildsame here and now Crimson Cure. Check out her RUclips page! She’s on this same wave of getting Black women to get their act together
this show brought me to tears. this was how my mother raised my 4 sisters and I. As a 31 year old I have had to cut my mother off because of what I have opened my eyes to see how toxic of a woman she has been to my life. This show is saving me from myself.
*Eastside Low Bottoms sh*t !*
_Tappin' in from South Central LA_
Salute to the Godfather ✊🏾
*3/21/24*
This broadcast is a reminder of why, although we no longer speak, I have empathy for the mother of my children.
Rest easy KS 🙏🏾 You are appreciated.
It may be demonetized but this broadcast should be the most shared!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
We need an alternative from this RUclips platform.
It's a huge red flag when a married woman calls in. She supposed to be able to go to her husband and have the same conversation.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
@@ystenne12 And that's why you're single homie you sound bitter
I agree. If you don't accept this behavior they say your not man enough. Laughable 😅
Oh didn't realise a married woman could only really converse with her husband and noone else...🤔🤷🏾♀️
@@MaLaLa786 not sure what that means. If you discuss your relationship(marriage) with the opposite sex. Well what does that say of your value of the marriage. Weak. Low morals, no moral compass, I've learned women who do that are to be left behind. Not mine.
This was another intense family discussion. Eye-opening to listen to these discussions.
These are the best shows. I love the Family discussions.
I watched this show when it came out... 4 months later it hits different now that I see my partner for who she really is. For the longest time I thought I was the problem, I've eventually figured it out it's not me, she's just emotionally unavailable and I just never realized it.
I am so glad you talked about this! I was raised to be independent and my mom and dad were married 44 years. I was not raised to be a wife.
Same here. My mom is a widow now but she groomed me to be her caregiver and not want a man. Yet she was married!
Things are so backwards these days that folks can’t see that the ones cheering their madness on want them to fail and the ones pointing out the madness want them to succeed.
Nailed it
Facts 💯
Yes you're right about that.. we as black people have been trick all our lives. Back in the day when our people where slaves.. All they had was....anger at the slave master to keep them alive.. and it just followed us to present day..
With all the hate they had for this man. There’s not human could not say this video touched your soul. Wasn’t any bashing nothing just observation and reporting.
Time Stamps
00:00 Pre show songs, Current Mood by Gregory David
03:05 Vapour by Osoku
05:42 Homeless Soul by Fleurs Douces
08:39 Dusty Conscience by Matt Large
11:00 Getting Tipsy by Fox Morrow
13:10 Keep on Talking by Lionel Quick
15:18 Good lies by Vividry
18:22 Show starts, Candle of the evening Ambre by Diptyque, Fragrance of the evening Le Labo the Matcha 26
21:22 Modern Mothers Create Wounded Fearful Daughters
25:24 Important message in video
37:00 7 types of Mother daughter relationships, Sisters, Best friends, Strangers, Devaluation, Dismission, The cheerleader, Authoritarian
50:50 Mothers see their daughters as competition
59:00 There's no you left
1:11:15 You have to forgive yourself and get into some therapy
1:18:32 Break song, Crea2 by Ghen
1:19:20 1st Caller Brittany E age 33 , 2nd Caller Rae age 40, 3rd Caller Vanessa age 24, 4th Caller age 29
1:35:27 5th Caller Amberlin age 25
1:40:38 6th Caller Brittany B age 27
1:47:03 7th Caller Ivey age 36
1:48:55 8th Caller Ebony no age stated
1:52:28 Multiple Callers
2:18:30 9th Caller Ayanna age 41
2:27:10 Final words
2:44:17 Closing song
Missed your timestamps for Wednesday marathon! 😅
Many blessings to you child 🙏
Thanks. You help a lot.
This my friends is what you call adding value
Thanks mate.
My mom told me to do the opposite of what she did. She’s been with my dad since she was 16. She never went to college. My dad was the bread winner when we were in our country. But when we came to the United States, my mom became the breadwinner. They’ve been married for 40 years. They had 5 kids. She told me go to college, be self reliant, don’t settle till your in you’re 30s. I have been with my husband since I was 22. I am 37.
On my wedding day she wasn’t too happy. She wast happy when I told her I was engaged either. She said, “good for you” without looking up at me.
Anyway…🤷🏾♀️
Congrats on 15 years of marriage! You did that! If you waited around for someone else’s approval you’d never get anything done.
Thank you Mr. Samuels- I’m 37 years old. No children, never married - never a loose woman. But I allowed ‘religion’ aka waiting on the Lord and the fact that I came from a single parent , (never been married mom)- to distract me from marriage and relationships. I stayed in school. Not a PhD., but I have nothing to show for my life except a career and being a ‘pillar of comfort’ for everyone else’s problems.
It hurts my heart to see my 62 year old mother single. And when I ask her about it, she doesn’t think she did anything wrong. Fortunately she has children that can pay for her retirement.
Nat Turner self fulfilling prophecy. Men mostly aren’t interested in a relationship with an older woman. With less prospects, they let themselves go. Which further reduces their prospects. Nothing looks like defeat more than a 50 year old “career woman” thats single and childless
Let us pray that she remains relatively healthy until the end
You have no idea how expensive taking care of an old woman is. Take your highest guess and multiply by 10. Go find that lady a man so she can get SSI spouse benefits and maybe some man pension.
Women are Never worng when will you realise 🤔??
@@a.iassistedtrading8004 true
This one touched my entire soul. Especially the first recording when the lady was talking about her relationship with her mother. I finally found the words I’ve been looking for. I’m trying to forgive my mother. I realized that I desperately need therapy.
Same ! I wish to one day have a conversation with my mother and tell her how her actions broke me. I’m older now married and only see her 2x a year but I long for that grandmother relationship with my children:-( .
@OpenMind it’s not for you to agree with because you don’t know anything about me or my mother. So unless you were there how in the world can you make this broad statement. Stick you your own life please.
@@Kimberly578 💯😂
My wife's close friend wasted her adult life financially supporting and carrying for her out-of-control mother, and sister. At one point she was engaged to an outstanding black man who had his life together. What killed their relationship is 'Survivors Guilt'.
Her mother's husband was killed in a car accident...she moved her mother into her home with her fiance. Her sister, an out-of-control and just plain useless female, was a single mother of 3 children with no job. Something happened between her and one of her children's fathers that she was living with, and her 3 children were threatened to be placed in Foster Care.
My wife's friend, who already had her out-of-control mother living with her, took custody of her nephews and niece. Her nephews and niece were feral (no home training) whatsoever. Her boyfriend, who was now her fiance, tried to get things under control in the house by enforcing discipline. Her mother, the children's grandmother, tried to intervene and shit hit the fan. The grandmother called up CPS and lied on him. When it was all said and done, nothing happened.
My wife's friends fiance told her, "I know they are your family, but they have to find a new place to live. He rightfully told her, "Their presence in this household is having a negative impact on our relationship. So, they need to go. If not, I will go! She told him, "But that is my family, I can't abandoned them!" Well, he ended up leaving because she picked "blood" over love.
That man ended up meeting and marrying a woman from Trinidad. They have been married for many years now and their kids are all doing well.
My wife's friend...She never marri3ed and her adult son lives in her basement. Not long ago she admitted to my wife that the biggest mistake she ever made was choosing 'blood' over love. Her mother (RIP) passed away from disease related to alcohol abuse. Her sister, an unappreciative and unapologetic cow, now claims that her sister tried to take her kids away from her. It is sad.
My wife and I used these stories to help our children, especially out daughters', to avoid making similar mistakes.
Black women...We have 2 amazing son's...get yourselves together.
True
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Stories like this show why Patrice’s advice can be applied to everyone. You really gotta live for yourself man sheesh
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
Damn this was a good read. Well done
Missing you KS. RIP
The mother wound is a profound issue in our society. I used to facilitate women’s groups with women in recovery. They were stunned when I shared with them that mothers aren’t always motherly, but just had a baby the way people move their bowels.
Wow that’s not cute .. but soo true .. soo sad! 😪
This show right here...it hit different. I don't always agree with Kevin, however tonight he spoke bare facts. My Mother, a baby boomer did not show me a thing. My Father, bless him taught me and was always available. I found a partner at 40, we been going together 11 years strong. Needless to say my Mother can't stand him.....I'm not listening 😀
How don’t you always agree with what he says yet he states the same facts regardless of who it’s being told to in every episode?
@@qkp01 I hope you can understand that it is ok not to agree with everything someone says.
@@sunshinejones8643 I’m asking because he doesn’t state anything different but you agreed with everything he said here that’s why I was asking
I have not been able to watch a full show since he passed away... Missed for who he was and a pleasure that I got the chance to listen while he was here.
Same. I'm just now getting back into the videos. His passing really hurt even tho we didn't know him personally.
He dropped so many gems and life lessons on this one
A genius, a genius, a genius.
This man is a pure genius...
Ever damn episode he outdoes himself.
He breaks down the male experience,
Like I've never heard someone articulate before...
He ALWAYS, takes every word, nuance, experience and situtaion out of my head and my life... and paints a perfect, descriptive canvas.
And it's at that point, i feel understood.
He always makes me say to myself.
"You see, i knew i wasn't crazy"
Kevin, thanks you soooooooooo,
Much. Please keep given out your wisdom.
Ill always continue to support your cause.
And GOD, please keep this man protected at all times.
WE NEED HIM
Co sign
Just when I thought the KS Show couldn’t get any better, KS blesses us with this 🤦🏿
I personally gave up on a relationship with one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen because there was none of her left for us. She had everything in the world going for her. She was smart, funny, accomplished, and so beautiful that nobody in the room could take their eyes off of her, and we had absolutely the best time together but at the end of the day she would cry herself to sleep being completely emotionally exhausted from taking care of her staff at her job and her friends, and her family, and her mom, and her dog. She was putting herself through college in the evenings and was absolutely wiped out and I got sick of getting no emotion returned because there wasn’t any left.
Bruh I went got me a woman from Africa. Ghana to be exact. I personally believe the black american woman is too far gone. Any man desiring a truly patriarchal relationship must go outside the United States
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them and I hope it stays winter forever for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
@@a.iassistedtrading8004 yessss standing up for africa!!! im east african myself 🤗
@@a.iassistedtrading8004 a friend of mine taught me to speak Ghana in the army
The crazy part millions will watch follow and critique but very few will apply. KS for President ✊🏾
Love the sentiment, but I doubt he'd take the pay cut haha
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!!
Because it's "cooler" to be in the loop than to do actual work. We left high school for a bigger high school smh
@@ystenne12 correct men cannot save these type of woman from themselves and issues that the man did not create in the first place. What saves a woman is when she gets helps for herself so that she utilize practical adult skills that will give her clarity and start opening a path of clearance.
So men work on you and focus on making sure you are good emotionally and stable to run a household with a woman that has either been taught or has just learned what it takes to be a wife and mother. One year of self care can truly make a world of difference and create some great new habits.
Like being a husband and father and vice versa 🥰
@@keundrefresh very so much true there are quite a few people who do not care about others. So move right out of the way and attract those who do care place the focus into that group. 🥰
I've had so resentment against my mother. Therapy has helped me tremendously heal from the childhood trauma. I hold some of the most toxic traits I picked up from my mother.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
I’ve watched this almost more times than I have fingers. Damn I miss this guy, he’s so smart & gone too soon. Died doing what he loved at least. I need all the videos like this one
I know Kevin is technically at work during these videos, but it always cracks me up when he stands up and I can hear the clicking of his dress shoes. This man dresses professionally all the way down to where we can't see while he's at home.
Spot on ✅
Says a lot about hiM. HE HAS AN EXCELLENT SPIRIT
This is so true.. I thought I was the only women that has experience this with my mother, but I have also realized that I have to fix this with my daughter
Now I usually don't do this, But I leaving this message as a marker for what I tend to monitor.
This video here, should surpass the "Average at Best" video!
Mr. Samuels got into the thick of the shadows and pulled out a big beast sabotaging people's lives. I wanna see how far a transformative broadcast like this goes !
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
You're giving a voice to the side of the story that never gets told.
Kevin thank you. My husband asked me to watch this and he was right. A light lit up for me. My mom is a combination of a few of the mothers you talked about. And now that I know what is cause I g my problems, I can finally begin the healing and hanging process. Thank you we as women needed to hear this.
I hope the views and comments continue to rise on videos like this. The knowledge he is giving is priceless! Rest in paradise Godfather 🙏🏾
Wow. This show today is revelations. A whole 3 generations need to hear this. May God continue to Bless this Brother. 💪🏿👑
57:57-58:37 This line hits hard. It feel like he was speaking on what my dad went through and what I’m going through now🥺🤦🏽♂️
I can fully relate. I'm 52, and my daughter is 29. I have NO RELATIONSHIP with her at all. Haven't even heard her voice in 5 years.
Prayers to you and your Dad.
My mother screwed my sister (younger) and myself up pretty bad... I am the only one cleaning up the mess she made. I am so grateful for my relationship today. He loves me through these things and told me he wanted to marry me as soon as we started seeding one another .... he's so amazing I couldn't be happier. It's funny because she hates him lol my father approved of him before he passed away.... Praise God. Thank you Kevin for speaking on this.
Wow we have a similar story! My mother doesn't like my husband but my father gave him his blessing before he passed and thats all i needed to hear. Now she is so bitter and tries to break my marriage up everyday!! It's like she not happy that one of her daughters is married!
@@08missaka Praise God and Abundance to your Marriage !
This was a very deep discussion and needs to be heard by many. Actually my Son sent this to me to listen to. I appreciate it so much. My mother was an absent mother in my life. I never got praised or encouragement from my mother of all the accomplishments. I was always felt unworthy but I know I was WORTHY AND BLESSED and I believe my mother felt envious of me. But I thank God I left home at the age of 19 and basically tried to teach myself how to love! When I gave birth to my kids that was the best moment in my life! Because I felt LOVED AND I GAVE THEM UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. This is so good! Blessings to you 🙏🏽
Kevin, I just watched your video stream from beginning to end and must conclude that this is one of your "greatest pieces of work ever," Sir. People let us give this man whatever he requests!!!
Thànks for watching and comments,
*I am always available for questions,*
+guidance and smart money tips,
Great show very illuminating thank you Kevin. I recognise the amount of work and research you put into your shows. Thank you for being a positive influence for us
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
I always knew I had an amazing mother. Even in childhood, I knew why my dad wedded her. She was beautiful, amicable, well-dressed, poised, and wise. I’m 24 now and I always tell my mom how blessed I am to have her. Especially when I compare her to other mothers or even some of my aunts. The only reason why I have any sort of navigation in the world, is because of my mother. The best thing my father ever did was give me a healthy two parent house hold with an amazing mother.
Congrats 👏
You are very blessed. Many of us had the opposite in every way.
@@Spokentruths725 I do understand that, my mom also didn’t have a great mother. That inspired her to be a great mother to me.
I tap into her grace to be this. You’re blessed🙏🏾
I am so grateful for the work your putting in, I wish more BW would listen to you instead of hating. Thank you Mr. Samuels💫 this conversation was needed.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
The color Black has nothing to do with nothing .. This whole “Feminist “ agenda is Antichrist and it’s destroying our communities as a whole .. not skin color!
Peace Sis, THANX for sharing. Please dont worry. When all BS fails TRUTH alone will STAND. Be patient, keep living, Thinking & remember what you wished for. Thy will be done.
Stay feminine. Peace
Mr. Samuel you are my virtual therapist. I be experiencing all emotions listening to you.
My sons be thinking I am crazy talking to myself responding to the questions you ask on your platform.
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!.
📥 𝟷𝟻𝟽𝟿𝟻𝟶𝟿𝟸𝟾𝟶𝟽
Keep dropping pearls. Our teenage girls are in so much trouble right now. Hopefully, their mothers are listening.
Kevin is on point with this one,I can agree with how he breaks down this important topic.This hits me so much and the fact that we(my m-other) grew up like sisters and it was cool at first so I thought, but as I started getting older it became tiring. I told her how I felt about it and she just brushes it off and tells me"you know who I'm to you" but that's Not what I wanted and needed to hear.Ever since I was 11 years old I always wanted a more mature and responsible mother and was speaking with my grandmother about it and my m-other hear us,she got so upset because she heard me say that I wished I had a more mature mother because I already knew that living with her wasn't gonna be a great learning experience. However now I can't be around her nor have her around my daughter with her kind of mindset, that's why I'm in therapy so is my daughter because m-other dear is just Toxic AF😔
I had this argument with a lady friend who said she’s gonna raise her daughter as her friend and my reply was love her but she shouldn’t be ur friend and She got really upset..
@@James_150 Smdh,that's because they're afraid of taking responsibility for another also "they" don't like when their time is up so Now "they " choose to live through their daughters until the daughters light shines brighter than "ma's",then that's when the real Competition starts,sometimes before the child grows🤔This is something that has to change in our communities because it's just not healthy.
@@YourAverageChick it does have to change..BM n BW need to be together
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Winter is here for them. They will always hate men and they will never change. Like mother like daughter forever that's all they know and all they can be smh
@@ystenne12 Yeah it's sad!
Had a few Hispanic friends growing up . Close enough to be let inside their homes . You see how much respect the women have for their husbands . Clean home and food always being. They Fr look out for their families too . Strong unity
P.S. Also I'm married, by yhe Grace of GOD.. Your show has helped me improve my relationship with my husband as well. Real introspection needed for me.....
Yoooh bhuda Kevin...this broadcast was enough to make me cry...I dated a girl who I loved kakhulu at varsity and she self sabotaged our relationship because she was dismissive. Her father was married to her mom but he had issues and looking back it all makes sense
@56:10 that part really just changed an outlook on a situation I’m dealing with and gave me so much peace
When I was a kid I thought I was so lucky, I had so much freedom, go to school when I want, come home when I want, hang out with whoever I want. My mother chased my father off, taught me to hate him and reward me with full freedom. That made me grow up to be a complete ass, thank God I had grandparents, aunts & uncles to set me straight.
This episode was heavy but was needed and more women need to watch it
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
Tonight’s show was what we could call a Come to Jesus Show . . . it was a rough one but absolutely necessary!
This was the most rough shows he has Ever done ✅
Absolutely
Right on JB
JB
True. But they as a whole will not do anything to change and never will fellas. They will still put men through the same ol bs smh.
His opening really hit home, I know he was speaking to the women...but this hit home for men who were raised by these mother's.
All of this is true. I've said this about my mother. She didn't teach me anything, but how to clean. I had to learn everything on my own. My parents were married, but my dad was the provider, protector, and did all the cooking after he got off work. I had to do all of the cleaning. My mother went to work full time and paid small bills such as the cable, her car note, and her cell phone. She would come home and sit on her butt. She did not interact with my father, me or my siblings. Then she had the audacity to divorce my dad. When she divorced him, she wanted me and my sister to be her man by paying her bills. I use to think I owed her my life, but eventually I had to cut my mom off.
I love this panel of women that was on this show. Much respect to all of you. As always great job Kevin.
Fathers , in order to keep their sanity, became the sacrificial lambs and left the marriage in order to keep a bad mother from using his children as weapons against him. Very true Kevin.
Then the children grow up upset with the fathers for not protecting them
I believe it. Sometimes you have to bite the bullet.
This pissed me off when he said it cause then the mom gets the blame for how the children are raised. If it's too toxic for you as an adult then why leave your children to grow up in that environment. Leave but fight to tale your kids with you.
Fellas DO NOT SAVE Them!!!!! or feel sorry for them!!!! Stay on your purpose because you know they could care less for a millisecond about the men we see this day in and day out and it will always be this way.
My sister's keeper Your statement shows you really don’t understand the fight that men have with women when you have to fight them and the state
Would you rather your father die in a war, or live to tell you the tale?
If he’s alive, he could at least give you a first person perspective of what the war was like, versus just being told what the war was like
You make such insightful content. I never realized the depth of my pain. My partner often tells me how closed off I am. I’ve struggled to be open and your content has opened my eyes.
you username says eveything
Thank you. This message is so important. I've been dealing with this for years. Thank you again for bringing this mother/ daughter relationship to light.🙏
So happy for the way I was brought up. My Mum served my Dad...showing me how to treat a man. She never allowed the helpers to cook for us. She did it. She taught me to be selective and keep my legs closed. I am a good parent and wife due to my parents.