Time Stamps Introduction 00:01 15:18 Opening song, Your good lies by Vividry 19:34 Candle of the evening, Le Labo Palo Santo Holy wood 19:41 Fragrance of the evening Le Labo Citron 28 and Musc 25 20:35 Opening monologue 22:12 Baby Boomer explanation 27:05 Get the likes up theme song 28:00 Instagram video, are you raising your daughters to be wives? 1:09:20 Cost of living explanation for black women 1:12:50 The gloves are off 1:23:42 The call lines are open 1:28:50 Money world song 1:33:20 1st Caller 1:36:28 2nd Caller 1:43:00 3rd Caller 1:52:30 4th Caller 1:56:40 5th Caller 2:02:50 6th Caller 2:08:35 7th Caller 2:11:30 8th Caller 2:18:00 9th Caller 2:26:15 10th Caller 2:34:15 11th Caller 2:45:00 Closing words 2:51:10 Closing Song
There was this Fragrance Kevin said in one of the streams I can't find that stream anymore. He said the Fragrance makes you smell like a oligarch. let me know if you remember the name of this Fragrance
I just sent this to my mom. She pissed me off because I explained that Kevin made me a new woman who would support my man. She responded “what’s going to happen when he finds the real you.” I told her “the real me is dead. I’m only supportive and refuse to argue with anyone anymore. I also told her she poisoned me with this independent woman BS.” Thank you Kevin. You are charging lives.
I had this conversation with my younger sister who’s a housewife. When her oldest turned 18, she got depressed because she didn’t graduate from college or have a career. I asked her if she was crazy. Her kids NEVER went to daycare, never had a babysitter that wasn’t a relative, always had home-cooked meals (my sister can COOK!). I told her there isn’t a higher calling on earth than being a mother to her children. She later thanked me for reminding her of her value and dedication to her husband and children.
My mother lives with me. And I’m becoming more and more bitter, everyday! I hope by her watching this with me, she can realize that I’m not selfish or wrong for not wanting to continue living with her. I have realized for probably the last 2 years, that it’s affecting my ability to create relationships with men.
Best thing i did was finally leave my mothers house and never looked back. Im glad i was smart about it and at least suffered a lil longer till I was financially able but it was all so worth it. Now I’ll never have to return and yes its much easier having a relationship without your bitter mothers influence. I see how my aunt is slowly ruining her marriage by keeping her single and bitter mother and sister involved so heavily.
I’m just grateful for Kevin. We’ve always discussed but my mother is good at deflection. Even while watching, she had every excuse. But like Kevin said, this is my life! I have to live it and I’m not gonna feel bad for it! I don’t want to be alone just bc she is…
@@Spokentruths725 THANKS FOR SHARING. MY DAUGHTER CALLED ME 3 MONTHS AGO AND SAID I CAN NO LONGER LIVE WITH THIS WOMAN AND CAN I COME LIVE WITH YOU??? I HAVE PRAYED 20 YEARS THAT WHEN THE KIDS GET OLD ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND TO REACH OUT… NOW!!! She’s WORKING HAS CAR AND IM WANTING HER TO STACK ABOUT $20K BEFORE SHE MAKES A MOVE… SHE IS WELCOMED AND YET HER WAYS ARE TERRIBLE IM JUST HAPPY TO HAVE HER HERE!!!!! PROUD DAD AND LOVING EVERY MINUTE!!!!!
My mom didn’t come to my wedding, then she said her fake ring is bigger than my engagement ring and her and my older sister laughed in my face. I’m still in love with my ring and I could care less if it was the size of a pebble. My grandparents on the other hand, were ecstatic.
In all honesty if you're mother is that wildly dysfunctional, you should just play the games with her. Go get your piece of glass that's bigger than hers, and tell her that your man decided to step you up above her. There's ALWAYS a bigger ring. There's always someone wealthier. There's ALWAYS some xxxxxxx. PERIOD.
The hate is too trill.. I wouldn't only hit them up on the holidays. I wouldn't even talk to them like that anymore. Give your marriage your all and watch it last. 🎩 Shout out to you for your mindset & congrats on scoring a ring. 💍🙌
My mother didn’t want me in her house after age 18 so I joined the military. Before she died, we had a long conversation that led to her telling people that I had disrespected her and had folks thinking I had abused her. I did no such thing. Needless to say she died alone in the ER after having an unknown health issue. The woman was so stubborn and wanted to do things her way by being manipulative and deceitful. It took me a long time to work through years of her bs. I’m good now and can talk about it.
Sorry for what you went through. Victim of a crazy mom here. Lots of lunatic boomer moms have ruined a lot of lives, sad to say. We have to pull through and leave them alone if need be. I did, decades ago, best decision I made.
Gen X female here. Mom was a divorced NY feminist. ('These men out here ain't about nothin'. You better get your education and be independent!') Interestingly enough, my entire life she would call me by her sister's name. Either way, lucky for me she sicced the military recruiters on me when I was 19. ('You turn 18, you gettin' up outta here!') I got stationed in the south where feminism didn't have as much of a stronghold then, which meant getting a husband was still a priority for young women. I got married at 23 and celebrated my 29th anniversary last week. By the way, she now lives with us. Can't make this sh*t up. 🤭🤬
@@antoniotula262 // Thank you. Hey, what can you do? (God has a sense of humor. 🤷🏾♀️) Marrying my hubby was THE BEST thing I've done in my entire life. (He has loved, supported, and cherished me more than either of my parents ever could.) If not for her lack of nurturing we would never have met. I owe her one for that alone. 😉
Independent Living Centres, Assisted Living Centers, and Nursing Homes. Do your research. Start early, because there are usually long Waiting Lists, depending on the state or region you reside in. Some elderly may qualify for subsidies. There is no reason to live with your parents out of guilt. Live your life.
This one really resonated with me. This dynamic is so toxic. Ever since I’ve been in a relationship, my mother has always tried to find any opportunity to convince me that men are bad and that I should just be independent, stay with her and not to depend on a man. I’m learning not to talk to my mom about relationships and love my family but keeping my family at a distance because many other female family members have that same mentality; and one of them lives off a man’s income. You can’t make this shit up!
That fresh-face, natural haired, 4th caller is the EXACT representation of what men look for in a feminine woman. A level headed, great conversationalist with a good attitude and positive outlook towards life. Wishing her the best that life has to offer as well as a fruitful and long-lasting marriage with her future husband.
I’m just gonna put this here. I worked at a community college for almost 10 years and it’s disgusting how many people sleep on trade programs. Students make bank after they get their certification. Some of which only take 8 months to complete. Trade jobs are ALWAYS in demand and if you don’t want to work for a company you can start your own. It’s a win win.
Thank you for posting this comment because people need to know this very valuable information. After 5 years of working for a big retailer and going no where my son has finally taken that very advice of learning a trade. He starts school too learn carpentry soon. He’s got a family and is the main bread winner. He’s a hard worker but has been wasting his time being jerked around working at a retail store. I’ve been encouraging him to sacrifice 6-12 months of his life and learn a trade for the betterment of himself. Thank God he finally listened and took the leap.
This conversation is LONG overdue! " You look like your ugly daddy!" Is what my mom said whenever she looked at me. By age 5, I would hide when company came over because that's how she introduced me. When my cycle started in 4th grade, I hid it from her because I thought I did something wrong. I was terrified of mom who died in 94. I've never missed her. Daddy's still my loving parent.
Wow smhh that made me hurt for you . I hid my cycle from my mother also at 11 because she never made me feel comfortable enough to tell her anything 🤦🏾♀️
He’s right about big mama’s generation being loving and caring. They loved and were confident in being feminine. I come from a two parent home but my mom didn’t raise me to be masculine or feminine. Growing up I was blessed to have three great grandmothers, two great grandfathers, and all of my grandparents. I learned to be loving, caring, feminine, cooperative, and submissive from my grandmothers. Anytime I did something they didn’t think was lady like, they got me together real quick lol. No open legs, no loud talking, cursing, no being messy, no short skirts, and sometimes no jeans. I watched them let my grandfathers lead and be a man. Even when they didn’t make the best decisions, my grandmothers were supportive. No one knew about their wrongdoing until they died because my grandmothers didn’t believe in telling everyone their business. I’m grateful to have two loving grandmothers alive today, I’m learning all I can about being a wife from them.
No lie...as a busy man, I literally have to block out at least four hours to call my grandmother (big momma). I love talking to her and we always go deep in our conversations.
I don’t think it’s healthy to support your husbands poor decisions. You have to be honest even if it hurts them. It goes both ways. I want to know the truth. It’s an act of love to hurt someone in the short term to protect them in the long run.
@@lizmad8091 what she meant was that help him and don’t nag him on every bad decision if he makes a bad decisions cooperate and help him that what she means by support not just allow him to make bad decisions and don’t tell him
@@lizmad8091 There’s nothing wrong with bad decisions. Only ones that aren’t made. Life is full of bad choices. We all make them. You support him and don’t nag him. Together you learn from the bad decisions and you continue to support him as the lead and move on together. Don’t reduce him.
At this point if you keep saying Kevin is pulling the black community apart you are in full denial. The discussions he had tonight are generationally important to the progress of the black family. Open your mind, open your heart, and listen!
MY SISTER... FAAAACTS!!!! The problem is there is so much ignorance that it masks women's minds... they're more fussed about how they FEEL about what he's saying, than hearing the sense of what's being spoken.
I love that the Mexican woman spoke up. I’m still fighting the anger with my Mexican mother for those exact same things, but thankfully my mother didn’t leave the marriage. I was the only traditional minded woman in my entire family minus one of my black aunts who lived across the country and unfortunately she was called selfish, spoiled and a gold digger for moving to be with her first boyfriend in college who married her, let her stay home with the kids and is now a millionaire. My other aunts still see her as a pick me and they’re in their 60s and single.
Listened to this when it first aired and it really hit home. Almost one year later I had to listen again and this message is even more relevant as I am growing and maturing as a wife and mother. Rest in Peace Unc
@@blackmatt78 men will do what women find attractive. Women will do what women find attractive. Lol! Now men are doing what we need to do for SELF. As long as we take care of ourselves- options are stable. It’s not the same for women.
Soooooo happy I dodged most of this! I saw through my mom’s BS EARLY enough to reunite and develop a relationship with my dad, get married b4 24yo and become a mom myself at 26yo. Not happy that my marriage failed but I gave that 10 years, effort and most of what I had. And now MY daughter needs to see an example of a successful marriage.
Im happy that you could make good decisions. My mother felt ashamed of having two baby fathers so much so that she removed their last names from our birth certificates. I always knew my dad but my brother never met his and when as a teenager he asked about him she told him his father was dead - when in reality he lived not twenty minutes away and was known to the family,.
Ain't it strange how our mothers have all this negativity toward ours dads while our dads bite their lip n say "WELL... U KNOW HOW SHE IS, SHE'S UR MOM N LOVES U"
Amen girl I had one like this. Happiest at my lowest and most depressed when I was making good choices. It’s baffling in the moment but I think it’s because in their minds our good choices may shed light on their past bad ones and they cant have that.
Narcissistic Mothers are jealous of their daughters. Once the mother doesn’t feel the validation from being a parent it’s a wrap. Most these mothers don’t want their daughters meeting the right guy early. They want their daughters to suffer before Meeting the right guy. It justifies the mother being a single mom or being married to Tyrone and pookie . Can go on and on with this one
Me too. You described my mother and all of the single mothers in my family. Even my grandmother tried to lead me down the wrong path and covered it up with God. They talk so much about men to distract from their destructive behavior.
Thank you Kevin for your content. I’m a 23 years old woman and I can honestly say I was raised around women like her who never gave me a structure on what a healthy relationship looked like therefore I had no knowledge or recognition on how to be a submissive and understanding wife for any man. My mom thought a lot of things were common sense and should have naturally came to me and my grandmother always warned me not to get married because of her poor selection of life time partner. It wasn’t until a year ago I noticed this generational curse I was in (single mom, meeting different men) and decided to make self improvement ever since.I wish I would had learned this 6/7years ago but am glad I caught on now so I don’t make the same unconscious mistakes✊🏽💯✖️🔟
The truth in this dialogue is unmatched. I moved back in with my mom temporarily when I was 21 because my boyfriend and I decided not to move in together unmarried. Three months into me living with her, my boyfriend proposed to me. I asked her if it would be ok for me to extend my stay with her for six months to save for the wedding. I was blindsided by her reaction to my engagement. She talked down on him and said I deserved better and told me I couldn't stay with her. In her opinion, I shouldn't marry someone I haven't lived with before. I was so surprised by her reaction because one of the reasons I decided not to live with him was because we had a pregnancy scare and I didn't want to be a single mom. When I told my mom that I thought I was pregnant she was super supportive, but when I told her we were getting married she was ready to kick me out of her house. It's sad to think your mom wants you to be better than her in the education department but not in the relationship department.
Things like this makes me wanna punch a hole in a wall due to these bitter ass moms pump faking genuine happiness/support for their children to be happy.
This is a topic that definitely needs to be spoken about more. In the black community we often act like mothers can do no wrong when the truth is, some of their terrible, selfish decisions affect us all for life or until we handle it with therapy. When he spoke and said “but you can’t be here because you can’t be in my house or in my pocketbook” just WAR flashbacks from my mother. As an eldest daughter, I was seen as competition for my single mother and you saw it in how different she parented me and her son; He became her husband-son until she got a husband and I became a sister-daughter until I was permanent competition. Thank you for speaking on this.
The truth is, women are teaching their daughters to be women empowerment foot soldiers.... in other words, sacrifice your love life and your kids for the women empowerment cause... this is why these modern women feel so strongly about not needing a man... if they don't need a man, that makes the man less significant in which empowers women
@@blackking7214 I really hate to see that. I hate seeing the devaluation of the black man especially in our community because it breeds such hatred and mistrust of the men we are supposed to love, uphold and be with. And it’s even worse when you see mothers teach that devaluation of men to their daughters. That nonsense needs to stop with our generation of women but not gonna lie, my hope for that is dimming a little🤧
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If Hurricane Katrina taught us anything it is that Big Momma and Big Daddy had three generations of family all living in their single bedroom home. And if you ask the older adults why they are all living in one tiny house the answer you get is somebody had to look after Big Momma after Big Daddy passed away. And Big Momma been dead 5 years prior. I can't help but wonder if anyone has written a book on the collapse of the African American Family after the creation of LBJ's Great Society. And if so, is that book reviewed in any African American Studies course at any University in the US?
When things were at their very worst: 2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid - repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy. Scientists will say it was a global illusion. Beware - Jesus will never walk in flesh again. After WW3 - rise of the “ man of peace“ from the East = Antichrist - the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Many miracles will be attributed to him. He will imitate Jesus in every conceivable way. Don`t trust „pope“ Francis = the False Prophet - will seem to rise from the dead - will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one. One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist. Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent. "Arab uprising will spark global unrest - Italy will trigger fall out" "Many events, including ecological upheavals, wars, the schism in My Church on Earth, the dictatorships in each of your nations - bound as one, at its very core - will all take place at the same time." The Book of Truth
@Miss C I guess it is all fine and dandy at 18. By 25 the average woman loses a bit of her sass. By 30 she is hitting the wall. By 35, half her clothes are something a kin to a muumuu because it is the only thing that fits.
My mother would love for me to get a divorce and become “independent” so I can take care of her when she’s older since she chose to be alone. All it does is make me resent her and cling onto my marriage that much more
@@memyselfmariah35 Some mothers can be so evil, intentionally or not. Folks who had good mothers or folks who thought they were good mothers will just never be able to understand. You are welcome.
@@terence.j you know what you can tell Kevin is a deep thinker & is very aware of many things, a lot of people live their life in sleep mode, Kevin has been woke for a long time, especially around relationships issue & personal development he used to work with men over the last 3 years but he is trending and branding now because he addresses women, I think he is exactly where he needs to be, and I’m grateful that he is opening up women’s eyes to their own foolishness and also be a voice to men that want more and want better
@@YourAverageChick those are the women that will suffer because they are moving in pride instead of humility, and think of it’s like this energy is energy, if a man see that a woman is loving, humble, has a peaceful spirit, caring and open to serve him naturally his heart will open up & she will put fuel inside of him to make him want to commit and take her serious but if all she gives off is attitude and pride and ego, then nothing authentic or real will ever grow or gravitate towards a woman but same applies to a man to ego and pride destroys real authentic love
@@glecservices3114 👏👏👏👏I was speaking about how you and your partners energies having to be synchronized.If. the energies are off,then of course the relationship won't work.But as a brown woman growing up your not taught that just the "worse" things to look forward to.But you have to want different and do different💪
The average age is South Africa is 18. 1 percent of the population is 45 or older. There are not many big mommas. Just young women who had to play a big momma role early because of a shorten life expectancy. Just to put context to your comment.
This dude just explained the entire 41 years of my life in one "French toast" monologue. Change came about just 3 short years ago when I started focusing on myself, and loving my family from a very far distance...
@@masoodb2464 Dude, my eldest daughter (22 on New Year's Eve) and I were just having this exact conversation not 30 minutes ago. Addition by subtraction is the conclusion we agreed upon. They have chosen to contribute nothing to our generation, so they should get the same return on their investment. "Tough love" they called it, if I remember correctly...
The relationship we see between some mothers and daughters today is a prime example of the blind leading the blind. Even if their intentions were good, they still failed them. And it's just going to continue as long as they keep pushing this "Strong & Independent" mindset.
@This kids Dad lool your making black men sound useless. A lot of men don’t go to court for their, because if it was COURT ORDERED, you could easily challenge the mother about not being able to see that child. However , if a mother does stop the father , that’s wicked, but a lot of black men just don’t want to be active fathers I’ve seen it myself
@@malikwilson7387 Lies, not all men are father material. I left my son with his father he graduated high school, went to army, left army, dated a girl with a baby that I didn't agree with, got her pregnant, now he has a kid, working lame jobs and being a baby daddy. None I agree with all cause I let his dad raise him from 12.
@@nk7925 FACTS, they only willing become active father's sometimes, to the women they marry. Alot of the times they end up raising another man's child/children. The woman's kids that he married.
@@randijohnson8550 I agree... men do stupid stuff like cheating. And he just wanted my money.. But yet men expect... us to follow them blindly through life. I would love to have a man.. but please don't mess up my successful business life. That I work so hard to get. 😊
I dated a woman that was raised by a single mother, and it was the worst relationship I ever had. One thing I learned is that I couldn’t date a woman who didn’t grow up in a household with a mother and father.
Question: did you grow up with both your parents in the home? ***I grew up in a 2 parent home, I'm a daddy’s girl all day...I'm just curious if you're asking for a qualification you can meet yourself***
My mama taught me how to be independent.. till this day I'm still fighting the shame I feel from not graduating college to focus on raising my family. Even though I have a great man and 3 lovely boys she still wants me to focus on my education instead of building with my man. She has good intentions but doesn't understand how hard it is to be a parent of small children. I am her only child. So I understand that I can't whole heartedly focus on my kids and the demands of school. Something is gonna suffer and I refuse to let it be the children. Thanks for touching on this topic, we women rarely talk about it our mothers don't even wanna acknowledge that they could've done better. 💖
Stay encouraged sis! I have a bachelor degree and still feel like I should have my masters by now. If it hard and rewarding raising two boys and being a wife. Don't let your mother or family shame you, you've accomplished so much already.
Absolutely do not feel ashamed, many graduate college to jobs they later despise. The priority is the kids (especially in their early years) & your husband. You can never get those years back. You can always make money.
When I became an adult and maintained my own household, I made sure my mother understood her place and respected my household. Respectfully. I didn't field questions over the control over my domain. Time to have that stern talk. She keeps coming at you because you didn't crush the subject.
Sister you can't allow your mother to dictate your life. You have to do what is in the best interest of your life. You can't please everyone. Continue to be the best version of yourself, be a great mother and an awesome wife
“I refuse to let it be my children “ man your a special kinda of woman / mother in this day and age ….. peace and blessings sister , best wishes to you and your family !!!!!
Its not just the women in tears Kevin, its grown men who took the whole nine yards of their mothers version of events and did not get the time to reconnect with their fathers before they died!!! Flying monkey narcism is a curse and a poison that effects both men and women in this scenario. Great show bro and real healing going on
Very true. The women need to be spoken to heavy, but I know that I can relate to this big time. I'm still work in progress (and my parents are still married), but I'm glad I started to cut the codependent bond with my mother 2 years ago. What people don't say about this cursed bond with your mom (either as a woman or a man) is that it affects even things such as motivation, energy levels, self-image, etc. It's extremely disempowering.
Without a doubt, YES! These moms are SABOTAGING their daughters. I owe my father for his genes and the lessons he taught me. He is so level-headed and practical. Respectful, and reasonable. My mom is chaotic, judgmental, she saw me as a grown woman when I was 11, and treated me as such. It was awful. Men, please please make sure your wife or baby mama cannot ruin your kid’s psyche. My mom is the reason I went to therapy. Thankfully I’m happily married but it could’ve gone awry *without my father’s influence.*
Just the reminder I needed. I'm going to have to deal with the influence misconception with my sons. It is sad that some women are so broken that they will lie to their own children and attempt to damage the bond with their father because of their own selfishness and anger. Like I've already told her, they won't be children forever and they will see us both for who we really are. I actually think my oldest understands it already at 5. He sees through his Mom's bullshit because of what he sees me do and how I behave. Props to you for being your own human being and seeking your own experience with your Father, and not being lazy and just siding with your Mother because of what was spoon fed to you.
@@SweetBSaph 5 is old enough to understand it. I knew my mom was not trustworthy when I was 4, unfortunately. She has a lot of unaddressed mental health problems.
you sound like my daughter's life. she is thirteen going through what you went through. and it started at 11. i am constantly soothing her from her mother's attacks of jealousy. she's envious that she still has me in her life and not her.
This was a great show tonight, this is a topic that needs to be spoken about more… The dialogue was on point.. there was less talking over each other, it flowed pretty well… Good job Kevin. Keep it up 💪🏾
Finally!! A show that didn't get Kevin worked up, frustrated or having him tell a caller: "Don't over-talk me". "I will shut this thing down and bid you a good night".
It’s a lot of mislead mothers showing their daughters the the wrong way. In the words of J Cole… “The good news is you came a long way, the bad news is you went the wrong way”.
That’s my favorite song about whole album, because it’s the realist song on the album. It’s partway the problem with the opposite sex, you will never learn to love anything until you learn to love what you have, too many people want all these materialistic things, just a realize after they are burned out, but it was the sentimental things that would’ve made them happy
I’m currently married to a woman who was raised to be her mother’s companion and not my wife. Initially, the close relationship with her mother didn’t raise any red flags but now it’s clear that most of our marital issues are because my wife (in title) is not equipped to be a man’s wife. I know it’s not her fault. She got a poor example of adulthood and marriage from both parents. Thank you Kevin because no one speaks about this aspect of failing relationships.
Same situation here brother. My wife was raised by a single mom during the early years of her life. Because of her own insecurities or fear of separation she raised my wife as a best friend and not how to be a woman. She was raised to have this sense of wanting a traditional man without being a traditional woman. The men on that side were rather weak and don’t have a backbone. They brought home the money, stayed quiet, and tended to their honey-do lists. Our issues are due to me bucking back at that, but I have to do that, we have a 5 year old son and a 3 year old daughter and I need them to see what a successful relationship should be life.
Wow thanks for sharing your story.I too was grown up to be my "m-others" best friend and till this day she prides herself on it.I told her recently that I don't like Us saying we're sisters because it's getting old,I'm nearing 40 and she's 52 but thinks and acts like unaware teen.Good luck with your situation,maybe you and your wife should sit down alone at dinner and discuss how mother-in law maybe the cause of the chaos.
Mr. Samuels, this was by far one of my favorite shows. The level of compassion in your voice when addressing this touchy topic was immeasurable and greatly appreciated. Thank you for addressing this topic.
I have three daughters. I want the best for them and I am actively trying to gather all the information from these videos so I can prepare them properly. I'm two marriages down, yes I know I know, and I want them to be the wife I wasn't taught to be.
Kevin is really making a change. I'm glad to see this young women learning and understanding. I hope those who need help get it and I hope this is the start to fixing black families
Unbelievable how true this is! My grandparents married 60+ years, both sides, fully funded retirement and amazing role models! My parents, hippies, selfish, mom married 6 times 😬 Dad married 4 times!! I’m in therapy and learning to accept them and be grateful my grandmother helped raise me. Thank god I’m married to a fabulous wife who had a similar upbringing and doesn’t want to repeat our parents selfishness!!!!
Indeed, my mom married and divorced twice. My dad is on his 3rd marriage(2nd one passed away). But my grandmother and father raised me best thing that could've happened. My mom is 60plus has no income and wishes my dad (her first husband) would still financial care for her. You can't make this up. My husband says no way your mom can stay with us.
You made some great points Kevin, My mom and I always had a strained relationship. We as black women need to talk about the mother-daughter dynamic. It needs to be discussed.
The more I know the more I believe that a lot of women are each other's enemies. It doesnt matter if its mother or sister or best friend! At the end of the day women dont want other women to be fitter, more beautiful or have better relationships than them!
You are absolutely correct.. A lot of my female cousins don’t really like each other and I see the jealousy my aunts have towards my female cousins as well
You're absolutely right... If you really wanted to get deep and biblical... There's a reason y the divine order was so genius. That emotion can be evil and most time it is. That's y the man is so important to the woman to protect her and others from the potential of evil.
This conversation needed to happen in the worst way. A lot of people refuse to address the elephant in the room when it comes to how some of these mothers are setting their daughters up for failure and it needs to be addressed before it gets worse. Thank you KS
I seriously agree with you, I taught my children about relationships and marriage. When my Son in-law asked my ex husband for our daughters hand in marriage, he said why don’t you try living together first. I said you start right, you get right, and no sampling our daughter. They’ve been married now 18 yrs and a second grand on the way.
This is the absolute best KS show I’ve seen! We have to start at beginning to change our future. We must start asking our mothers the tough questions to make sure our generation does it better.
We gotta start teaching kids with our traumas put to the side.. all women aren’t bad and all men aren’t bad. Kids should learn from our mistakes but our mistakes shouldn’t be their view of life.
Spot on Kevin! You hit the nail on this one! Mother's keeping/holding their daughters back because they see them as their competition is the epitome of toxic.
One of the things that I noticed around girls is how their mother projects their own insecurities and anger toward men onto young girls at an early age. Mothers need to stop treating their daughters like little sisters or work friends too. She's your child , not your damn salon friend.
Or their experiences (it depends how you would chose to see it) because they want to save their daughters what they've been through. OR now that they are no longer desirable they want to revenge men through their daughters.
This video was deep! Thanks Mr. Kevin for all that you do. Your channel has helped me to become a better wife, helpmate and mother. Your channel has helped me to maneuver into true healing. I thank TMH for you
I’m so blessed that my mom was very caring, nurturing and loving growing up. I can talk to my Mom bout everything, even to this day. My mother was submissive and I knew Dad was the head of the household. Watching her as a wife, taught me how to be one.
You had some great intelligent conversations today mr. Samuels. It was a pleasure to hear women fight for their future against the heritage of their mothers
My former Mother-in-Law acting like my former wife's best friend was 98% of the reason my 21 year relationship/18 year marriage broke up. They would be on the phone 2 to 3 hours a day, and she would be over there 2 to 3 days a week. Everything was fine until as long as I just went along with it. Sh*t would go sideways fast if I said anything about it. She (MIL) would complain to my wife about all of the things wrong with her husband, ignoring the fact that she was telling her daughter all kinds of negative about her father. One again, you are right on point...
You just summed up why my four year relationship ended. As a women you end up needing help then get emotionally blackmailed and resentment from your mother when she broke up your potential marriage by doing exactly what you said above.
I’m 17 years in and have recently explained this sister/ daughter dynamic to my wife. She’s been taught to be her moms companion more so than my wife. I love and respect my parents but when I moved out on my own I was still their son but I was no longer their child. I find that some mothers never allow their daughters to grow up emotionally which dooms any relationship to failure they engage in.
I commend the 21 year old young lady who is wise beyond her years. A lot of the 30's, 40's and in some cases 50+ year old women that call in behaving like teenagers can learn from her. She presents herself with class and dignity. Kudos to her and our like-minded sisters.
You spoke about my life Dr.samuels I literally felt that when you said mother’s are competing with their daughters. This is why I decided to finally cut my mom off about a year ago and it’s been the best decision of my life especially for my sanity and marriage. Of course I still see her when I take the kids over but she has always depended on me as an emotional trashcan who she pretty much unloads all her negativity on and honestly it’s draining and takes a toll . I’ve been with my husband for over a decade and I always felt like she’s always been jealous and in a competition with me she is constantly taking subtle passive shots at my husband or myself or trashing me with my 27yr old single mama sister who she still has at home sad 😢.
Single women keep other women single, even if they're your mothers, sisters, cousins or aunts. Misery loves company so don't let these single ladies jealousy break down your beautiful marriage ;they would absolutely trade places with you if they could.
The fourth caller was an inspiration and a breath of fresh air. She is going to be a wonderful wife and mother some day. Great topic and great show. This type of conversation is critical!
I wish I called in . I feel like my mother failed me when it came to men . I had no guidance I wasnt taught about my value. It’s like I had to learn the hard way on my own smh . I still cry about my mother not even speaking to me about life while growing up. She just allowed me to do what I wanted as a teenager. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😢
Girl, I was the exact opposite lol. I was sheltered! Terribly! And after having a big debate, which led to the fulfilment of crappy requirements, I ended up leaving home for college. From there, things were extra tough. Fast forward to 10 years later, I realized where the issues were and started working on healing. Forgive her and love from afar. That's the best!
Wow that part of the nurturing grandmas we had as kids... Those fond family moments that seared its impressions in us.... Wow... That was an end of an Era once that generation died. This one you spoke truth sir. May I have that live and compassion towards those coming on after me.
That emotional availability piece is big. My ex gave so much of her energy and attention to her family, community, church, sorority, and FRIENDS. I was given whatever was left, which wasn’t much. Of course I was still expected to be a traditional provider through it all.
She knew you were always be there in the end. I dated a woman like that too. I stopped calling and making plans with her. Less then 2 years later I was engaged then married. Currently she still single
Jesse lee Peterson always say this that people should forgive their mothers and confront their mothers because mothers destroys their kids indirectly and that is the reason u need a male figure around but people think it’s a joke smh
Too many of our black fathers have traditionally been getting screwed over regarding child custody, visitation and support. Far too many emotionally-immature women have allowed their own spiteful feelings, greed and attorneys persuade them into family courts which push their agenda of destroying the two-parent family unit, our men and eventually our children who always blame the parent they don't see.
This is what we therapists call “Enmeshment”. Thanks for shedding light to this problem in the black community (and all communities) because it has been in the shadows too long. Great topic and it definitely requires more discussion! I hope there will be a part two.
The call segment of this show was the best in MONTHS. Thats because there was more of dialogue and less cutting off and trying to look for disagreements. Good Stuff, and there should definitely be a part 2 to this. In fact, this topic of Mother and Daughter relationships would be the perfect follow up to the ''modern woman'' saga.
This entire video is what I always unconsciously knew but never heard out loud. Just had a whole cry. My mom or grandma would never listen if said anything to them. They’d either stop talking to me or play victim which is common theme.
The truth is, women are teaching their daughters to be women empowerment foot soldiers.... in other words, sacrifice your love life and your kids for the women empowerment cause... this is why these modern women feel so strongly about not needing a man... if they don't need a man, that makes the man less significant in which empowers women
@@blackking7214 On the surface yes. But how is a women truly empowered when she is living in direct opposition to her true nature. Sacrificing security, safety and companionship from the man and denying the the nurturing and teaching aspects of her make up has caused an exponential spike in stress induced mental health issues not to mention the extremely damaging impact on the wider communities and society. When the social care system tightens you will see it really hit the fan.
@@7reload777 The problem is, they have been brainwashed into believing there is no value in the true nature of a woman and the only way to become valuable is to take on the role of a man.... therefore, their idea of women empowerment is decreasing male empowerment and transfer it to women empowerment
This video was a recommended video. Wasn't gonna watch it due to the negative clips I've seen of KS talking to women. So for the first time I decided to watch an entire KS broadcast and I have to say this was a great show! It was done in a respectful way while being direct and getting to the ROOT of these ladies issues. You really dropped a lot of gems. When you explained the generational history and change of women and the family structure...that did it for me! I can definitely relate. Moms and daughters really need to have these tough conversations so we can help the next generation of daughters to be better women and wives.
I agree with Mother’s failing their daughters… I don’t think mothers had bad intent, but I don’t think they understood the impact would have been so detrimental. I’m a daughter who’s mother didn’t teach. So we have to learn so we can teach our daughters and sons.
Same here. So my teen daughter just announced she wants to be a commercial pilot. She is very interested in making it in a man's world. I honestly felt like I was betraying my sisterhood to explain that a commercial pilot is not a mommy career. If she had kids, someone else would raise them. It's weird how uncomfortable I was.
I got married at 19 years old, completed my Bachelors at 24 years and my MBA in Accounting at 29 years old all while raising 2 daughters and being a wife. Married for 17 years and pursuing my CPA since I have my own accounting firm. You can do it. ;)
@@InfoTechMM I think she’s just proud of her accomplishment why you gotta try and put someone else down. Work on getting your own bread up then worry about others
This was one of the best shows in a while. Great dialogue. No talking over each other and clear thoughts being put on the table for proper overstanding. 👍🏾
Whew! This is heavy but this weight had to be lifted so I can live freely as a blossoming woman. . Great convo, thank you Kevin. P.S. I am that woman in tears 🥺🥺
Time Stamps
Introduction
00:01
15:18 Opening song, Your good lies by Vividry
19:34 Candle of the evening, Le Labo Palo Santo Holy wood
19:41 Fragrance of the evening Le Labo Citron 28 and Musc 25
20:35 Opening monologue
22:12 Baby Boomer explanation
27:05 Get the likes up theme song
28:00 Instagram video, are you raising your daughters to be wives?
1:09:20 Cost of living explanation for black women
1:12:50 The gloves are off
1:23:42 The call lines are open
1:28:50 Money world song
1:33:20 1st Caller
1:36:28 2nd Caller
1:43:00 3rd Caller
1:52:30 4th Caller
1:56:40 5th Caller
2:02:50 6th Caller
2:08:35 7th Caller
2:11:30 8th Caller
2:18:00 9th Caller
2:26:15 10th Caller
2:34:15 11th Caller
2:45:00 Closing words
2:51:10 Closing Song
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Thank you for your service, king.
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You are greatly appreciated my brother!
There was this Fragrance Kevin said in one of the streams I can't find that stream anymore. He said the Fragrance makes you smell like a oligarch. let me know if you remember the name of this Fragrance
I just sent this to my mom. She pissed me off because I explained that Kevin made me a new woman who would support my man. She responded “what’s going to happen when he finds the real you.” I told her “the real me is dead. I’m only supportive and refuse to argue with anyone anymore. I also told her she poisoned me with this independent woman BS.” Thank you Kevin. You are charging lives.
This is the new real you ❤
Have a blessed life ❤
Shout out to you yo. 🙌💯
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Love hearing things like this
GOD BLESS YOU I WISH YOU MARRIAGE AND SUCCESS FOR BEING SO HONEST WITH YOURSELF WE THE BLACK MEN /PROUD OF YOU~ PROMISE
I had this conversation with my younger sister who’s a housewife. When her oldest turned 18, she got depressed because she didn’t graduate from college or have a career. I asked her if she was crazy. Her kids NEVER went to daycare, never had a babysitter that wasn’t a relative, always had home-cooked meals (my sister can COOK!). I told her there isn’t a higher calling on earth than being a mother to her children.
She later thanked me for reminding her of her value and dedication to her husband and children.
this is the comment right here. Women forget tis too often. REAL men thank women like u and your sis.
This is the problem we don't value motherhood and many women get filled with resentment
That's an amazing save for your sister
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@@oddstuff6137 single motherhood is called more over being a mother in a committed relationship.
“A lot of women are raising their daughters to be their back-up plan…” whew! We need a part two! 😩
This applies to sons too, smh.
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@@Kay.D it's a little bit harder to retain the boys
Yup…. DONT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP CAUSE I MAY NEED YOU AND YOUR MAN MAY NOT ALLOW THAT…. UNBELIEVABLE
Definitely need a part two! This is what we need to discuss in church on Sunday’s!
Judge your mother as harshly as you judge your father, forgive your father, forgive your mother, forgive yourself, and move on 💎
Amen 🙏🏾 🔥 💯
Exactly. And its hard at time to forgive someone who’s not sorry. Just forgive and keep your distance anyway.
@sahra Khasim Yessss, very good advice
@@Spokentruths725 BINGO
@@killa704 🙏🏾
My mother lives with me. And I’m becoming more and more bitter, everyday! I hope by her watching this with me, she can realize that I’m not selfish or wrong for not wanting to continue living with her. I have realized for probably the last 2 years, that it’s affecting my ability to create relationships with men.
Wow trust me it sucks
Best thing i did was finally leave my mothers house and never looked back. Im glad i was smart about it and at least suffered a lil longer till I was financially able but it was all so worth it. Now I’ll never have to return and yes its much easier having a relationship without your bitter mothers influence. I see how my aunt is slowly ruining her marriage by keeping her single and bitter mother and sister involved so heavily.
I’m just grateful for Kevin. We’ve always discussed but my mother is good at deflection. Even while watching, she had every excuse. But like Kevin said, this is my life! I have to live it and I’m not gonna feel bad for it! I don’t want to be alone just bc she is…
@@Spokentruths725 THANKS FOR SHARING. MY DAUGHTER CALLED ME 3 MONTHS AGO AND SAID I CAN NO LONGER LIVE WITH THIS WOMAN AND CAN I COME LIVE WITH YOU??? I HAVE PRAYED 20 YEARS THAT WHEN THE KIDS GET OLD ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND TO REACH OUT… NOW!!! She’s WORKING HAS CAR AND IM WANTING HER TO STACK ABOUT $20K BEFORE SHE MAKES A MOVE… SHE IS WELCOMED AND YET HER WAYS ARE TERRIBLE IM JUST HAPPY TO HAVE HER HERE!!!!! PROUD DAD AND LOVING EVERY MINUTE!!!!!
Of course it does. YOUR MOM LIVES WITH YOU!! We don’t want to be bothered with that at all!!! God bless
My mom didn’t come to my wedding, then she said her fake ring is bigger than my engagement ring and her and my older sister laughed in my face. I’m still in love with my ring and I could care less if it was the size of a pebble. My grandparents on the other hand, were ecstatic.
Ring can’t be marriage life ! They were trying to creat dissatisfaction in you to creat fight with your man then broke the marriage
In all honesty if you're mother is that wildly dysfunctional, you should just play the games with her. Go get your piece of glass that's bigger than hers, and tell her that your man decided to step you up above her. There's ALWAYS a bigger ring. There's always someone wealthier. There's ALWAYS some xxxxxxx. PERIOD.
The hate is too trill.. I wouldn't only hit them up on the holidays. I wouldn't even talk to them like that anymore. Give your marriage your all and watch it last. 🎩
Shout out to you for your mindset & congrats on scoring a ring. 💍🙌
WOW 🤯.. she said her Mom acted that way 🤦🏾♂️
Your mom is evil and know she will get hers
My mother didn’t want me in her house after age 18 so I joined the military. Before she died, we had a long conversation that led to her telling people that I had disrespected her and had folks thinking I had abused her. I did no such thing. Needless to say she died alone in the ER after having an unknown health issue. The woman was so stubborn and wanted to do things her way by being manipulative and deceitful. It took me a long time to work through years of her bs. I’m good now and can talk about it.
Sounds like she was a strong, independent woman.
@@SeattlePioneer underrated comment right here
Sorry for what you went through. Victim of a crazy mom here. Lots of lunatic boomer moms have ruined a lot of lives, sad to say. We have to pull through and leave them alone if need be. I did, decades ago, best decision I made.
Take care💙
Most women in-particular blackwomen are that way,
Gen X female here. Mom was a divorced NY feminist. ('These men out here ain't about nothin'. You better get your education and be independent!') Interestingly enough, my entire life she would call me by her sister's name. Either way, lucky for me she sicced the military recruiters on me when I was 19. ('You turn 18, you gettin' up outta here!') I got stationed in the south where feminism didn't have as much of a stronghold then, which meant getting a husband was still a priority for young women. I got married at 23 and celebrated my 29th anniversary last week.
By the way, she now lives with us. Can't make this sh*t up. 🤭🤬
Damn tht last part lol 😂
proof is in the provisions huh🤣🤬
First CONGRATS on 29th Anniversary 🏆👏👏👏, second...😂😂😂😂LMAO @mom now living with you all. Woww!!!!
@@antoniotula262 // Thank you. Hey, what can you do? (God has a sense of humor. 🤷🏾♀️) Marrying my hubby was THE BEST thing I've done in my entire life. (He has loved, supported, and cherished me more than either of my parents ever could.) If not for her lack of nurturing we would never have met. I owe her one for that alone. 😉
Independent Living Centres, Assisted Living Centers, and Nursing Homes. Do your research. Start early, because there are usually long Waiting Lists, depending on the state or region you reside in. Some elderly may qualify for subsidies. There is no reason to live with your parents out of guilt. Live your life.
This one really resonated with me. This dynamic is so toxic. Ever since I’ve been in a relationship, my mother has always tried to find any opportunity to convince me that men are bad and that I should just be independent, stay with her and not to depend on a man. I’m learning not to talk to my mom about relationships and love my family but keeping my family at a distance because many other female family members have that same mentality; and one of them lives off a man’s income. You can’t make this shit up!
Seriously 😳
That fresh-face, natural haired, 4th caller is the EXACT representation of what men look for in a feminine woman. A level headed, great conversationalist with a good attitude and positive outlook towards life. Wishing her the best that life has to offer as well as a fruitful and long-lasting marriage with her future husband.
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And yet the guys in chat room were giving her a 6....lmao
Forget what Kevin looks like what about you??? Fake @$$
@@flexhenry3 they're bitter. She was cool.
I’m just gonna put this here. I worked at a community college for almost 10 years and it’s disgusting how many people sleep on trade programs. Students make bank after they get their certification. Some of which only take 8 months to complete. Trade jobs are ALWAYS in demand and if you don’t want to work for a company you can start your own. It’s a win win.
Thank you for posting this comment because people need to know this very valuable information.
After 5 years of working for a big retailer and going no where my son has finally taken that very advice of learning a trade. He starts school too learn carpentry soon.
He’s got a family and is the main bread winner. He’s a hard worker but has been wasting his time being jerked around working at a retail store. I’ve been encouraging him to sacrifice 6-12 months of his life and learn a trade for the betterment of himself. Thank God he finally listened and took the leap.
@@kirbyaugustine761 tell him to pursue welding. As long as he can travel, he'll make bank
Thanks for this comment any trade suggestions?
@@gratefullandblessed0135 Electrician, construction, HVAC, and plumbing. Can’t go wrong.
My mother never apologized. She said it was a personal problem and for us to get therapy. My Dad apologized all the time. I respected him for that.
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With the laws the way they are, it is next to impossible for a father to protect their children from their mother.
Not a problem the other way around.
This conversation is LONG overdue! " You look like your ugly daddy!" Is what my mom said whenever she looked at me. By age 5, I would hide when company came over because that's how she introduced me. When my cycle started in 4th grade, I hid it from her because I thought I did something wrong. I was terrified of mom who died in 94. I've never missed her.
Daddy's still my loving parent.
💙💞 so sorry to hear this. Glad you have a good relationship with your Dad.
Yho 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 Your Mom. I hope you are alright keep loving your Dad✨🤴🏾🌠
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🙏🏾 for you
Wow smhh that made me hurt for you . I hid my cycle from my mother also at 11 because she never made me feel comfortable enough to tell her anything 🤦🏾♀️
I’m so sorry you experienced that. Virtual hug 🤗💜
He’s right about big mama’s generation being loving and caring. They loved and were confident in being feminine. I come from a two parent home but my mom didn’t raise me to be masculine or feminine. Growing up I was blessed to have three great grandmothers, two great grandfathers, and all of my grandparents. I learned to be loving, caring, feminine, cooperative, and submissive from my grandmothers. Anytime I did something they didn’t think was lady like, they got me together real quick lol. No open legs, no loud talking, cursing, no being messy, no short skirts, and sometimes no jeans. I watched them let my grandfathers lead and be a man. Even when they didn’t make the best decisions, my grandmothers were supportive. No one knew about their wrongdoing until they died because my grandmothers didn’t believe in telling everyone their business. I’m grateful to have two loving grandmothers alive today, I’m learning all I can about being a wife from them.
No lie...as a busy man, I literally have to block out at least four hours to call my grandmother (big momma). I love talking to her and we always go deep in our conversations.
I don’t think it’s healthy to support your husbands poor decisions. You have to be honest even if it hurts them. It goes both ways. I want to know the truth. It’s an act of love to hurt someone in the short term to protect them in the long run.
@@lizmad8091 what she meant was that help him and don’t nag him on every bad decision if he makes a bad decisions cooperate and help him that what she means by support not just allow him to make bad decisions and don’t tell him
@@lizmad8091 There’s nothing wrong with bad decisions. Only ones that aren’t made. Life is full of bad choices. We all make them. You support him and don’t nag him. Together you learn from the bad decisions and you continue to support him as the lead and move on together. Don’t reduce him.
Damn. U lucky!💯
Came back to the vid bc this rings so true for me. This podcast gave me the courage to address my mother. Rip KS
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😭im so happy for u
At this point if you keep saying Kevin is pulling the black community apart you are in full denial. The discussions he had tonight are generationally important to the progress of the black family. Open your mind, open your heart, and listen!
I think at this point, he'd crossed over to all races and genders, and that's a great thing for us all
Well stated!🥰
@@gabriellefennessee Thank you
MY SISTER... FAAAACTS!!!!
The problem is there is so much ignorance that it masks women's minds... they're more fussed about how they FEEL about what he's saying, than hearing the sense of what's being spoken.
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I love that the Mexican woman spoke up. I’m still fighting the anger with my Mexican mother for those exact same things, but thankfully my mother didn’t leave the marriage. I was the only traditional minded woman in my entire family minus one of my black aunts who lived across the country and unfortunately she was called selfish, spoiled and a gold digger for moving to be with her first boyfriend in college who married her, let her stay home with the kids and is now a millionaire. My other aunts still see her as a pick me and they’re in their 60s and single.
Listened to this when it first aired and it really hit home. Almost one year later I had to listen again and this message is even more relevant as I am growing and maturing as a wife and mother. Rest in Peace Unc
The only thing harder than being a parent is being a child-parent to his/her parent.
Any sane person would never want to be a child parent to an old Karen / Keysha SMH 😒
Fam you don’t even know how sadly accurate this comment is, I almost jumped up reading this smh
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This comment described my life in a nutshell 😂😂
I wish more women were open to this. A lot of men out here aren’t trying to take advantage of y’all.
True. We are only playing the game woman has set forth.
@@blackmatt78 men will do what women find attractive. Women will do what women find attractive. Lol! Now men are doing what we need to do for SELF. As long as we take care of ourselves- options are stable. It’s not the same for women.
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Soooooo happy I dodged most of this! I saw through my mom’s BS EARLY enough to reunite and develop a relationship with my dad, get married b4 24yo and become a mom myself at 26yo. Not happy that my marriage failed but I gave that 10 years, effort and most of what I had. And now MY daughter needs to see an example of a successful marriage.
Im happy that you could make good decisions. My mother felt ashamed of having two baby fathers so much so that she removed their last names from our birth certificates. I always knew my dad but my brother never met his and when as a teenager he asked about him she told him his father was dead - when in reality he lived not twenty minutes away and was known to the family,.
Ain't it strange how our mothers have all this negativity toward ours dads while our dads bite their lip n say "WELL... U KNOW HOW SHE IS, SHE'S UR MOM N LOVES U"
Amen girl I had one like this. Happiest at my lowest and most depressed when I was making good choices. It’s baffling in the moment but I think it’s because in their minds our good choices may shed light on their past bad ones and they cant have that.
Narcissistic Mothers are jealous of their daughters. Once the mother doesn’t feel the validation from being a parent it’s a wrap. Most these mothers don’t want their daughters meeting the right guy early. They want their daughters to suffer before Meeting the right guy. It justifies the mother being a single mom or being married to Tyrone and pookie . Can go on and on with this one
Me too. You described my mother and all of the single mothers in my family. Even my grandmother tried to lead me down the wrong path and covered it up with God. They talk so much about men to distract from their destructive behavior.
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@@Spokentruths725 Exactly.
Wow. You nailed it. My ex-wife has told me several times that she was jealous of our 3 year old daughter.
@@reidbtable SMDH
You can tell these young women already felt a certain way about their mothers. They just didn't have somewhere to express how they felt. Great show
Thank you Kevin for your content. I’m a 23 years old woman and I can honestly say I was raised around women like her who never gave me a structure on what a healthy relationship looked like therefore I had no knowledge or recognition on how to be a submissive and understanding wife for any man. My mom thought a lot of things were common sense and should have naturally came to me and my grandmother always warned me not to get married because of her poor selection of life time partner. It wasn’t until a year ago I noticed this generational curse I was in (single mom, meeting different men) and decided to make self improvement ever since.I wish I would had learned this 6/7years ago but am glad I caught on now so I don’t make the same unconscious mistakes✊🏽💯✖️🔟
The truth in this dialogue is unmatched. I moved back in with my mom temporarily when I was 21 because my boyfriend and I decided not to move in together unmarried. Three months into me living with her, my boyfriend proposed to me. I asked her if it would be ok for me to extend my stay with her for six months to save for the wedding. I was blindsided by her reaction to my engagement. She talked down on him and said I deserved better and told me I couldn't stay with her. In her opinion, I shouldn't marry someone I haven't lived with before. I was so surprised by her reaction because one of the reasons I decided not to live with him was because we had a pregnancy scare and I didn't want to be a single mom. When I told my mom that I thought I was pregnant she was super supportive, but when I told her we were getting married she was ready to kick me out of her house.
It's sad to think your mom wants you to be better than her in the education department but not in the relationship department.
Things like this makes me wanna punch a hole in a wall due to these bitter ass moms pump faking genuine happiness/support for their children to be happy.
Wow!
That last part hit me like a ton of bricks. I’m glad you stuck to your own standards.
Wow 🥺
On a KS binge right now but woooow to your story!! Hope everything worked out for the best...
This is a topic that definitely needs to be spoken about more. In the black community we often act like mothers can do no wrong when the truth is, some of their terrible, selfish decisions affect us all for life or until we handle it with therapy. When he spoke and said “but you can’t be here because you can’t be in my house or in my pocketbook” just WAR flashbacks from my mother. As an eldest daughter, I was seen as competition for my single mother and you saw it in how different she parented me and her son; He became her husband-son until she got a husband and I became a sister-daughter until I was permanent competition. Thank you for speaking on this.
Jesus this sounds like hell. Kevin is talking about a world unknown to someone on the outside.
The truth is, women are teaching their daughters to be women empowerment foot soldiers.... in other words, sacrifice your love life and your kids for the women empowerment cause... this is why these modern women feel so strongly about not needing a man... if they don't need a man, that makes the man less significant in which empowers women
@@blackking7214 I really hate to see that. I hate seeing the devaluation of the black man especially in our community because it breeds such hatred and mistrust of the men we are supposed to love, uphold and be with. And it’s even worse when you see mothers teach that devaluation of men to their daughters. That nonsense needs to stop with our generation of women but not gonna lie, my hope for that is dimming a little🤧
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Mr Samuels. Thank you for your work. You do not have an easy task but you are healing the community for those that can accept this information
It is almost scary, how on point this brother is.
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Powerful broadcast-The women’s testimony tonight is eye-popping, sums up the conditions with society today.
If Hurricane Katrina taught us anything it is that Big Momma and Big Daddy had three generations of family all living in their single bedroom home. And if you ask the older adults why they are all living in one tiny house the answer you get is somebody had to look after Big Momma after Big Daddy passed away. And Big Momma been dead 5 years prior.
I can't help but wonder if anyone has written a book on the collapse of the African American Family after the creation of LBJ's Great Society. And if so, is that book reviewed in any African American Studies course at any University in the US?
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When things were at their very worst:
2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid - repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy.
Scientists will say it was a global illusion.
Beware - Jesus will never walk in flesh again.
After WW3 - rise of the “ man of peace“ from the East = Antichrist - the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Many miracles will be attributed to him. He will imitate Jesus in every conceivable way.
Don`t trust „pope“ Francis = the False Prophet
- will seem to rise from the dead
- will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one.
One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist.
Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent.
"Arab uprising will spark global unrest - Italy will trigger fall out"
"Many events, including ecological upheavals, wars, the schism in My Church on Earth, the dictatorships in each of your nations - bound as one, at its very core - will all take place at the same time."
The Book of Truth
@Miss C I guess it is all fine and dandy at 18. By 25 the average woman loses a bit of her sass. By 30 she is hitting the wall. By 35, half her clothes are something a kin to a muumuu because it is the only thing that fits.
Right and we been quiet because its always, "So and so dont like when you say this or that. Its disrespectful." Smh
My mother would love for me to get a divorce and become “independent” so I can take care of her when she’s older since she chose to be alone. All it does is make me resent her and cling onto my marriage that much more
Take care of your mother regardless. It’s your duty when she becomes old.
@@2021noname thank you
Take care of your mother if you want to. Not because it's your duty.
@@Secretelover12 thanks. Her duty was to take care of me. I’m sick of parentalization abuse to be normalized.
@@memyselfmariah35 Some mothers can be so evil, intentionally or not. Folks who had good mothers or folks who thought they were good mothers will just never be able to understand. You are welcome.
I really don’t think people understand the levels of Kevin, this mans levels are deep he carries serious wisdom, knowledge & depth
@@terence.j you know what you can tell Kevin is a deep thinker & is very aware of many things, a lot of people live their life in sleep mode, Kevin has been woke for a long time, especially around relationships issue & personal development he used to work with men over the last 3 years but he is trending and branding now because he addresses women, I think he is exactly where he needs to be, and I’m grateful that he is opening up women’s eyes to their own foolishness and also be a voice to men that want more and want better
The understand but the don't care bz is black if was white men the will by book look at Dr Phil
I'm a woman and I get it fully,I say the same things but get the side eye from other woman.SMDH the dysfunction that some mother's cause is dangerous.
@@YourAverageChick those are the women that will suffer because they are moving in pride instead of humility, and think of it’s like this energy is energy, if a man see that a woman is loving, humble, has a peaceful spirit, caring and open to serve him naturally his heart will open up & she will put fuel inside of him to make him want to commit and take her serious but if all she gives off is attitude and pride and ego, then nothing authentic or real will ever grow or gravitate towards a woman but same applies to a man to ego and pride destroys real authentic love
@@glecservices3114 👏👏👏👏I was speaking about how you and your partners energies having to be synchronized.If. the energies are off,then of course the relationship won't work.But as a brown woman growing up your not taught that just the "worse" things to look forward to.But you have to want different and do different💪
We still got our big mommas in South Africa, I count that as a blessing, their genuine kindness is unmatched
Much Love from Latin America🇲🇽
But the two generations after them will be a big worry
The average age is South Africa is 18. 1 percent of the population is 45 or older. There are not many big mommas. Just young women who had to play a big momma role early because of a shorten life expectancy. Just to put context to your comment.
This dude just explained the entire 41 years of my life in one "French toast" monologue. Change came about just 3 short years ago when I started focusing on myself, and loving my family from a very far distance...
You and me both! It was much much needed. I moved far away too with my man.
Same. Cut them loose and I am flourishing. Mom was 50% problem but dad was 50% as well. Selfish generation 100%.
@@masoodb2464 Dude, my eldest daughter (22 on New Year's Eve) and I were just having this exact conversation not 30 minutes ago. Addition by subtraction is the conclusion we agreed upon. They have chosen to contribute nothing to our generation, so they should get the same return on their investment. "Tough love" they called it, if I remember correctly...
The relationship we see between some mothers and daughters today is a prime example of the blind leading the blind. Even if their intentions were good, they still failed them. And it's just going to continue as long as they keep pushing this "Strong & Independent" mindset.
And with dads, being absent that can’t be good either. But let me guess, that’s someone else’s fault too
@This kids Dad lool your making black men sound useless. A lot of men don’t go to court for their, because if it was COURT ORDERED, you could easily challenge the mother about not being able to see that child. However , if a mother does stop the father , that’s wicked, but a lot of black men just don’t want to be active fathers I’ve seen it myself
@@malikwilson7387 Lies, not all men are father material. I left my son with his father he graduated high school, went to army, left army, dated a girl with a baby that I didn't agree with, got her pregnant, now he has a kid, working lame jobs and being a baby daddy. None I agree with all cause I let his dad raise him from 12.
@@nk7925 FACTS, they only willing become active father's sometimes, to the women they marry. Alot of the times they end up raising another man's child/children. The woman's kids that he married.
@@randijohnson8550 I agree... men do stupid stuff like cheating. And he just wanted my money.. But yet men expect... us to follow them blindly through life. I would love to have a man.. but please don't mess up my successful business life. That I work so hard to get. 😊
I dated a woman that was raised by a single mother, and it was the worst relationship I ever had. One thing I learned is that I couldn’t date a woman who didn’t grow up in a household with a mother and father.
Huge red flags 🚩
@@michaelbrown8861 lesson learned. Totally uncooperative and argumentative.
Yup…..INDEPENDENT THEORY!!!!!
Question: did you grow up with both your parents in the home?
***I grew up in a 2 parent home, I'm a daddy’s girl all day...I'm just curious if you're asking for a qualification you can meet yourself***
@@Mindurbusiness1234 daddies girls are worst girl to meet from a 2 parent family, they want a new daddy that will put up with their shit
This hit home for me...This discussion needs to be held waaaaaay more! This way of raising daughters needs to change immediately!
My mama taught me how to be independent.. till this day I'm still fighting the shame I feel from not graduating college to focus on raising my family. Even though I have a great man and 3 lovely boys she still wants me to focus on my education instead of building with my man. She has good intentions but doesn't understand how hard it is to be a parent of small children. I am her only child. So I understand that I can't whole heartedly focus on my kids and the demands of school. Something is gonna suffer and I refuse to let it be the children. Thanks for touching on this topic, we women rarely talk about it our mothers don't even wanna acknowledge that they could've done better. 💖
Stay encouraged sis! I have a bachelor degree and still feel like I should have my masters by now. If it hard and rewarding raising two boys and being a wife. Don't let your mother or family shame you, you've accomplished so much already.
Absolutely do not feel ashamed, many graduate college to jobs they later despise. The priority is the kids (especially in their early years) & your husband. You can never get those years back. You can always make money.
When I became an adult and maintained my own household, I made sure my mother understood her place and respected my household. Respectfully. I didn't field questions over the control over my domain.
Time to have that stern talk. She keeps coming at you because you didn't crush the subject.
Sister you can't allow your mother to dictate your life. You have to do what is in the best interest of your life. You can't please everyone. Continue to be the best version of yourself, be a great mother and an awesome wife
“I refuse to let it be my children “ man your a special kinda of woman / mother in this day and age ….. peace and blessings sister , best wishes to you and your family !!!!!
Its not just the women in tears Kevin, its grown men who took the whole nine yards of their mothers version of events and did not get the time to reconnect with their fathers before they died!!! Flying monkey narcism is a curse and a poison that effects both men and women in this scenario. Great show bro and real healing going on
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Flying monkey narcissism?? That's a new one
Very true. The women need to be spoken to heavy, but I know that I can relate to this big time. I'm still work in progress (and my parents are still married), but I'm glad I started to cut the codependent bond with my mother 2 years ago.
What people don't say about this cursed bond with your mom (either as a woman or a man) is that it affects even things such as motivation, energy levels, self-image, etc. It's extremely disempowering.
Without a doubt, YES! These moms are SABOTAGING their daughters. I owe my father for his genes and the lessons he taught me. He is so level-headed and practical. Respectful, and reasonable. My mom is chaotic, judgmental, she saw me as a grown woman when I was 11, and treated me as such. It was awful.
Men, please please make sure your wife or baby mama cannot ruin your kid’s psyche. My mom is the reason I went to therapy. Thankfully I’m happily married but it could’ve gone awry *without my father’s influence.*
God bless you for persevering
May the Lord bless you. Many of these mothers are toxic and sabotaging.
Just the reminder I needed. I'm going to have to deal with the influence misconception with my sons. It is sad that some women are so broken that they will lie to their own children and attempt to damage the bond with their father because of their own selfishness and anger. Like I've already told her, they won't be children forever and they will see us both for who we really are. I actually think my oldest understands it already at 5. He sees through his Mom's bullshit because of what he sees me do and how I behave. Props to you for being your own human being and seeking your own experience with your Father, and not being lazy and just siding with your Mother because of what was spoon fed to you.
@@SweetBSaph 5 is old enough to understand it. I knew my mom was not trustworthy when I was 4, unfortunately. She has a lot of unaddressed mental health problems.
you sound like my daughter's life. she is thirteen going through what you went through. and it started at 11. i am constantly soothing her from her mother's attacks of jealousy. she's envious that she still has me in her life and not her.
This was a great show tonight, this is a topic that needs to be spoken about more… The dialogue was on point.. there was less talking over each other, it flowed pretty well… Good job Kevin. Keep it up 💪🏾
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I agree great show. Energy and everything!
Was brilliant the agee ability of the callers made it one of his best shows. He mastered it well
Finally!! A show that didn't get Kevin worked up, frustrated or having him tell a caller: "Don't over-talk me". "I will shut this thing down and bid you a good night".
Great show I agree ☝️
It’s a lot of mislead mothers showing their daughters the the wrong way. In the words of J Cole… “The good news is you came a long way, the bad news is you went the wrong way”.
That’s my favorite song about whole album, because it’s the realist song on the album. It’s partway the problem with the opposite sex, you will never learn to love anything until you learn to love what you have, too many people want all these materialistic things, just a realize after they are burned out, but it was the sentimental things that would’ve made them happy
I’m currently married to a woman who was raised to be her mother’s companion and not my wife. Initially, the close relationship with her mother didn’t raise any red flags but now it’s clear that most of our marital issues are because my wife (in title) is not equipped to be a man’s wife. I know it’s not her fault. She got a poor example of adulthood and marriage from both parents. Thank you Kevin because no one speaks about this aspect of failing relationships.
I'm sorry. This was almost me. Please stay strong. Value yourself
@@777_LORDGOD Thank you. Learning to value myself as well as setting and adhering to boundaries have been important lessons that I had to learn.
Same situation here brother. My wife was raised by a single mom during the early years of her life. Because of her own insecurities or fear of separation she raised my wife as a best friend and not how to be a woman. She was raised to have this sense of wanting a traditional man without being a traditional woman. The men on that side were rather weak and don’t have a backbone. They brought home the money, stayed quiet, and tended to their honey-do lists. Our issues are due to me bucking back at that, but I have to do that, we have a 5 year old son and a 3 year old daughter and I need them to see what a successful relationship should be life.
But u married her still, so that’s your problem now
Wow thanks for sharing your story.I too was grown up to be my "m-others" best friend and till this day she prides herself on it.I told her recently that I don't like Us saying we're sisters because it's getting old,I'm nearing 40 and she's 52 but thinks and acts like unaware teen.Good luck with your situation,maybe you and your wife should sit down alone at dinner and discuss how mother-in law maybe the cause of the chaos.
Man this one made me cry 😔. So true about these new mothers and grandmothers
Mr. Samuels, this was by far one of my favorite shows. The level of compassion in your voice when addressing this touchy topic was immeasurable and greatly appreciated. Thank you for addressing this topic.
I have three daughters. I want the best for them and I am actively trying to gather all the information from these videos so I can prepare them properly. I'm two marriages down, yes I know I know, and I want them to be the wife I wasn't taught to be.
Be the loving, sweat, caring mother people want to have in their lives❤
Kevin is really making a change. I'm glad to see this young women learning and understanding. I hope those who need help get it and I hope this is the start to fixing black families
Word.
Facts
I was born in '02 but I'll keep your legacy going Mr.Samuels, Your Legendary in my books...
This is HANDS DOWN Kevin’s BEST Monologue ! Nothing but teary eyes when he was dropping knowledge
Yes, it is. That was one helluva vacation he went on. Hahahaha
I agree
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Unbelievable how true this is! My grandparents married 60+ years, both sides, fully funded retirement and amazing role models! My parents, hippies, selfish, mom married 6 times 😬 Dad married 4 times!! I’m in therapy and learning to accept them and be grateful my grandmother helped raise me. Thank god I’m married to a fabulous wife who had a similar upbringing and doesn’t want to repeat our parents selfishness!!!!
Indeed, my mom married and divorced twice. My dad is on his 3rd marriage(2nd one passed away). But my grandmother and father raised me best thing that could've happened. My mom is 60plus has no income and wishes my dad (her first husband) would still financial care for her. You can't make this up. My husband says no way your mom can stay with us.
Goodness gracious !
You made some great points Kevin, My mom and I always had a strained relationship. We as black women need to talk about the mother-daughter dynamic. It needs to be discussed.
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Then you ladies need to facilitate the discussion with your mothers and quit being cowards..
The more I know the more I believe that a lot of women are each other's enemies. It doesnt matter if its mother or sister or best friend! At the end of the day women dont want other women to be fitter, more beautiful or have better relationships than them!
You are absolutely correct.. A lot of my female cousins don’t really like each other and I see the jealousy my aunts have towards my female cousins as well
Sad facts.
Facts!!!
You're absolutely right... If you really wanted to get deep and biblical... There's a reason y the divine order was so genius. That emotion can be evil and most time it is. That's y the man is so important to the woman to protect her and others from the potential of evil.
@@jageee5227 Also the man keep the woman on track… we women can easily get off track and out of control
This conversation needed to happen in the worst way. A lot of people refuse to address the elephant in the room when it comes to how some of these mothers are setting their daughters up for failure and it needs to be addressed before it gets worse.
Thank you KS
I seriously agree with you, I taught my children about relationships and marriage. When my Son in-law asked my ex husband for our daughters hand in marriage, he said why don’t you try living together first. I said you start right, you get right, and no sampling our daughter. They’ve been married now 18 yrs and a second grand on the way.
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This was such a blend of women, of all backgrounds and races.
The great tragedy in this is how many girls and boys grew up with no parent because one was pushed out and the other was insufficient.
That's the sad reality
Trauma begins in the wound
This is the absolute best KS show I’ve seen! We have to start at beginning to change our future. We must start asking our mothers the tough questions to make sure our generation does it better.
That preach in Atlanta need to apologize to Kevin publicly. This was better than any church sermon today
True o!
Yeah they call him Cash Dog...fr
The only reason that preacher said something was because KS is cutting into their donations
@@a.wilkerson2nd334 yes… the church makes money off single lonely women
Facts!
We gotta start teaching kids with our traumas put to the side.. all women aren’t bad and all men aren’t bad. Kids should learn from our mistakes but our mistakes shouldn’t be their view of life.
Pastor Stephen Darby says we gotta keep it G with our kids and tell them the truth and not beat around the bush playing innocent…
@@livinglifewiththepierresai2806 idk about that doc
Come correct
Big facts
This!!!
Spot on Kevin! You hit the nail on this one! Mother's keeping/holding their daughters back because they see them as their competition is the epitome of toxic.
You provide information that transcends race, these issues are universal, thanks. Winter is coming. Australia 🇦🇺
Winter is coming. Portugal 🇵🇹
Getting very cold in Canada 🇨🇦
lmfaoooo
I love this thread. helps me understand I'm not alone and reminds me grass ain't always greener.
Quite cold in Latin America🇲🇽
Men never ever allow your mother in law to move in your home with your wife. She will destroy it
Tell us the story 🕊🕊
Daddy issues arise from lack of a father while mommy issues arise from the presence of a mother.
Let that sink in!!!!
Deep
Mommy issue With the presence of mother without a husband .
Wow.
One of the things that I noticed around girls is how their mother projects their own insecurities and anger toward men onto young girls at an early age.
Mothers need to stop treating their daughters like little sisters or work friends too. She's your child , not your damn salon friend.
BOOM!!
Or their experiences (it depends how you would chose to see it) because they want to save their daughters what they've been through. OR now that they are no longer desirable they want to revenge men through their daughters.
@@evanatbri-s13 Almost always they are jealous of youth and use them to get “revenge” on men.
This is the word right here.... I'm a teacher and hear all the business.
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This video was deep! Thanks Mr. Kevin for all that you do. Your channel has helped me to become a better wife, helpmate and mother. Your channel has helped me to maneuver into true healing. I thank TMH for you
I’m so blessed that my mom was very caring, nurturing and loving growing up. I can talk to my Mom bout everything, even to this day. My mother was submissive and I knew Dad was the head of the household. Watching her as a wife, taught me how to be one.
You had some great intelligent conversations today mr. Samuels.
It was a pleasure to hear women fight for their future against the heritage of their mothers
Kevin is healing the community with each video
I'm sitting here all the way across the ocean listening to K.S. daily, he is the Truth!
KS has taken on a role that would be very hard to walk away from. People are coming to him for counseling and therapy instead of casual conversation
Watching his shows is like watch an intense therapy session. Its very therapeutically and there are many lessons.
Even us men are doing it too!! Lol negga be crying out here listening to these sermons lol
My former Mother-in-Law acting like my former wife's best friend was 98% of the reason my 21 year relationship/18 year marriage broke up.
They would be on the phone 2 to 3 hours a day, and she would be over there 2 to 3 days a week. Everything was fine until as long as I just went along with it. Sh*t would go sideways fast if I said anything about it.
She (MIL) would complain to my wife about all of the things wrong with her husband, ignoring the fact that she was telling her daughter all kinds of negative about her father.
One again, you are right on point...
You just summed up why my four year relationship ended. As a women you end up needing help then get emotionally blackmailed and resentment from your mother when she broke up your potential marriage by doing exactly what you said above.
I’m 17 years in and have recently explained this sister/ daughter dynamic to my wife. She’s been taught to be her moms companion more so than my wife.
I love and respect my parents but when I moved out on my own I was still their son but I was no longer their child.
I find that some mothers never allow their daughters to grow up emotionally which dooms any relationship to failure they engage in.
I commend the 21 year old young lady who is wise beyond her years. A lot of the 30's, 40's and in some cases 50+ year old women that call in behaving like teenagers can learn from her. She presents herself with class and dignity. Kudos to her and our like-minded sisters.
You spoke about my life Dr.samuels I literally felt that when you said mother’s are competing with their daughters. This is why I decided to finally cut my mom off about a year ago and it’s been the best decision of my life especially for my sanity and marriage. Of course I still see her when I take the kids over but she has always depended on me as an emotional trashcan who she pretty much unloads all her negativity on and honestly it’s draining and takes a toll . I’ve been with my husband for over a decade and I always felt like she’s always been jealous and in a competition with me she is constantly taking subtle passive shots at my husband or myself or trashing me with my 27yr old single mama sister who she still has at home sad 😢.
Single women keep other women single, even if they're your mothers, sisters, cousins or aunts. Misery loves company so don't let these single ladies jealousy break down your beautiful marriage ;they would absolutely trade places with you if they could.
Wow we have the same story.
Keep this young lady in your prayers
Misery loves company. Keep your head up 👍🏿
You will never hear this type of message in the black church. Salute to KS for having the conversation.
@@whoisthegreatest6255 American “churches” have been subverted by the you-know-who.
Kevin is describing the downfall of American society. Everyone should listen to what he is saying here, so so true.
It is useful , to limit this one's specific cultural section of America. But yeah...Probably happening across all demographics in our America
@@dmoss7143 It is sir
The fourth caller was an inspiration and a breath of fresh air. She is going to be a wonderful wife and mother some day. Great topic and great show. This type of conversation is critical!
I wish I called in . I feel like my mother failed me when it came to men . I had no guidance I wasnt taught about my value. It’s like I had to learn the hard way on my own smh . I still cry about my mother not even speaking to me about life while growing up. She just allowed me to do what I wanted as a teenager. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😢
You have to forgive yourself and your mother. Take accountability and move forward sis. We all have made mistakes and done things we are not proud of.
Girl, I was the exact opposite lol. I was sheltered! Terribly! And after having a big debate, which led to the fulfilment of crappy requirements, I ended up leaving home for college. From there, things were extra tough. Fast forward to 10 years later, I realized where the issues were and started working on healing. Forgive her and love from afar. That's the best!
@@sosinceremila8824 I’m having a hard time doing that because it had led to poor decisions making that I’m currently dealing with now . Smh
@@Liinabadd20 it’s a process but you this 💪
_Damn, wow_
Wow that part of the nurturing grandmas we had as kids... Those fond family moments that seared its impressions in us.... Wow... That was an end of an Era once that generation died. This one you spoke truth sir. May I have that live and compassion towards those coming on after me.
We needed this conversation. I can tell this hits way too deep in our community.
You have so many great episodes Mr. Samuels but this one was amazing.
That emotional availability piece is big. My ex gave so much of her energy and attention to her family, community, church, sorority, and FRIENDS. I was given whatever was left, which wasn’t much. Of course I was still expected to be a traditional provider through it all.
She knew you were always be there in the end. I dated a woman like that too. I stopped calling and making plans with her. Less then 2 years later I was engaged then married. Currently she still single
Jesse lee Peterson always say this that people should forgive their mothers and confront their mothers because mothers destroys their kids indirectly and that is the reason u need a male figure around but people think it’s a joke smh
Facts
Agreed.
However, the ridiculous tactics he employs to get views totally overshadows his "facts".
@@71capr What ridiculous tactics?
Facts and I'm a woman
Correctooo
U see this is why Fathers are in important in daughters lives. Fathers ask questions that moms don't think about. The look on her face says it all.
Man U hit the nail on the head with this one Godfather. Straight facts…every minute of this live!!! Sheesh this was deep🥺!!!!
Too many of our black fathers have traditionally been getting screwed over regarding child custody, visitation and support. Far too many emotionally-immature women have allowed their own spiteful feelings, greed and attorneys persuade them into family courts which push their agenda of destroying the two-parent family unit, our men and eventually our children who always blame the parent they don't see.
Indeed!
True brotha, The Black man in the family solves a lot of problems we as black people face.
Trust me, it ain't just the brothers getting metaphorically screwed by the courts.
I’m just a Mexican stoner tryna make it out the hood by doing reaction videos & storytimes on my RUclips channel 😩
@@georgeblair3894 True. Because of the demographics, white men in cities like San Diego and Phoenix, AZ are catching hell too.
This is what we therapists call “Enmeshment”. Thanks for shedding light to this problem in the black community (and all communities) because it has been in the shadows too long. Great topic and it definitely requires more discussion! I hope there will be a part two.
Hi
I share yur videos on my Facebook... Im a 55 year old widow, i didnt choose to be single but here i am.. Im listening.
The call segment of this show was the best in MONTHS. Thats because there was more of dialogue and less cutting off and trying to look for disagreements. Good Stuff, and there should definitely be a part 2 to this. In fact, this topic of Mother and Daughter relationships would be the perfect follow up to the ''modern woman'' saga.
Agree!
This could have been a week long topic. Much needed discussion.
It should be a week long topic. There is too much depth to not have a Part 2 or Part 3. One of his most revealing sessions ever
This entire video is what I always unconsciously knew but never heard out loud. Just had a whole cry. My mom or grandma would never listen if said anything to them. They’d either stop talking to me or play victim which is common theme.
The monologue in this one will go down as one of the most culturally impactful insights in the so called modern era 👌🏾💫
Thanks to a black man 👨
The truth is, women are teaching their daughters to be women empowerment foot soldiers.... in other words, sacrifice your love life and your kids for the women empowerment cause... this is why these modern women feel so strongly about not needing a man... if they don't need a man, that makes the man less significant in which empowers women
@@blackking7214 On the surface yes. But how is a women truly empowered when she is living in direct opposition to her true nature. Sacrificing security, safety and companionship from the man and denying the the nurturing and teaching aspects of her make up has caused an exponential spike in stress induced mental health issues not to mention the extremely damaging impact on the wider communities and society. When the social care system tightens you will see it really hit the fan.
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The problem is, they have been brainwashed into believing there is no value in the true nature of a woman and the only way to become valuable is to take on the role of a man.... therefore, their idea of women empowerment is decreasing male empowerment and transfer it to women empowerment
It’s called emotional terrorism, when friends and family are draining you for their sake.
This video was a recommended video. Wasn't gonna watch it due to the negative clips I've seen of KS talking to women. So for the first time I decided to watch an entire KS broadcast and I have to say this was a great show! It was done in a respectful way while being direct and getting to the ROOT of these ladies issues.
You really dropped a lot of gems. When you explained the generational history and change of women and the family structure...that did it for me! I can definitely relate. Moms and daughters really need to have these tough conversations so we can help the next generation of daughters to be better women and wives.
Don't sell yourself short, he drops gems in every show.
Wondering where are these bad clips?
clips out of context paint a different picture, this is why he says watch full lives
I agree with Mother’s failing their daughters… I don’t think mothers had bad intent, but I don’t think they understood the impact would have been so detrimental. I’m a daughter who’s mother didn’t teach. So we have to learn so we can teach our daughters and sons.
Same here. So my teen daughter just announced she wants to be a commercial pilot. She is very interested in making it in a man's world. I honestly felt like I was betraying my sisterhood to explain that a commercial pilot is not a mommy career. If she had kids, someone else would raise them. It's weird how uncomfortable I was.
All praises the young lady was able to get her father's side of the story🙏🙏🙏God bless!!!⚘⚘⚘
I got married at 19 years old, completed my Bachelors at 24 years and my MBA in Accounting at 29 years old all while raising 2 daughters and being a wife. Married for 17 years and pursuing my CPA since I have my own accounting firm. You can do it. ;)
Did you miss the entire point trying to disprove him?
@@InfoTechMM I think she’s just proud of her accomplishment why you gotta try and put someone else down. Work on getting your own bread up then worry about others
From my observation most do not maliciously mentor their girls into this mess, but from experience a mother can be a girls greatest enemy.
Yes she can!
Yessssss
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Amen to that sister
This was one of the best shows in a while. Great dialogue. No talking over each other and clear thoughts being put on the table for proper overstanding. 👍🏾
This was a really good conversation, the conversations he had before he died were so important.
Whew! This is heavy but this weight had to be lifted so I can live freely as a blossoming woman. . Great convo, thank you Kevin. P.S. I am that woman in tears 🥺🥺