WHAAAAAT! DARIUS JACKSON HAS BEEN PUTTING HANDS ON KEKE PALMER FOR THE LAST 2 YEARS!💔 😭
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- “The abuse in our relationship was not just physical, but emotional and manipulative. Darius would “love bomb” me and make me feel like I was the most important woman in the world, only to get extremely distant and cold over a perceived insult to him,” Keke Palmer wrote, per Radar Online.
Fans are in an uproar online after reports surfaced of legal actions Keke Palmer has taken against her son’s father. The actress alleges Darius Daulton Jackson has been abusive on several occasions throughout their relationship.
KeKe Palmer Gets Restraining Order Against Baby Daddy After He Broke Into Her Home!
In an update shared on Nov.10, Radar reports that a Los Angeles judge has granted Keke Palmer a temporary restraining order against Darius Daulton. He must stay 100 yards from Palmer and their infant son. Palmer also has sole custody of Leo “until further notice,” per the outlet. Darius is not allowed visitation. There’s reportedly a December 5 hearing in the books to determine the permanent status of the orders.
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It’s the psychology of being with someone who is content with mediocrity and then being a sista with ambition. DO NOT DATE OR MARRY THOSE WHO DO NOT MATCH YOU MENTALLY- SPIRITUALLY - FINANCIALLY
The Bible clearly states, do not be unequally yoked and this is why, totally 💯 agree with you💯
A lot of men are traumatized.
👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 SAY IT LOUDER
This right here 👆🏽
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“What you tolerate, you indirectly encourage” THAT, is a word ❤
Simple..!
You are so right, l was in the same situation looking back now l made a big mistake. You teach a man how to treat you right.Thanks
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What you tolerate, you authorize to stay
Agree 100%. As a retired Finance Officer I saw it over and over many times, for many years. The same situation. A young, professional woman would apply, and get approved for a mortgage. Most of the time she would be very stressed during the process because she had a fiancé, boyfriend, or partner and they had plans to marry, or co-habitate. Often I would advise them to purchase the home jointly, if they had plans to marry. 4 out of 5 times they would answer:
1. He won’t qualify because he isn’t working, or has bad credit, or makes much less than I do.
2. He’s not interested in being in the transaction.
What ALWAYS struck me about these situations was how intelligent, beautiful, professional young women were wasting their lives on absolute losers. Ironically in every single case these men would show up at closing, acting like they were the ones buying. I could only come to the conclusion that we must be doing something wrong raising our ladies. I still can’t understand it. DON’T MARRY DOWN LADIES.
It is SO WORRYING! What are we doing to make our girls feel the need to coddle and tolerate these losers?! 😢😢
@@Barbiette123there are people programming our young ladies to lower their standards, saying they'll be lonely cat ladies with no love in their life, and that it will be their fault. The men don't want to rise up so they indoctrinate women to drop down. And they find other women to co-sign on it. Then they also tell them that their standards will keep them lonely for so long that by the time they find a "high quality man" that they will not meet HIS standards because they are too old and something must be wrong with them to be so well put together, yet still alone. It's a no win situation for many of our sisters out here.
It's all calculated, predatory, mass emotional abuse to control the female gender. Our girls today are paying for the actions of the bra burners of yesterday.
The women who actually tell these young ladies to hold fast to their standards are severely outnumbered. Women in general sincerely want relationship and companionship and not all of them are desperate and scared to be alone, but when it feels like the entire opposite sex tells you that you must shrink or adjust to get a good relationship, and pockets of your own gender co-sign on it, then you start thinking that you must be wrong for what you want and that your desires are holding you back...and that's when they get you. The patriarchy can be evil on a young lady.
Wow ! 😢
This comment!!!!
Society keeps telling women to be humble and take things as they are. I’m glad this rhetoric is changing honestly
That part right there !!!!!!" Quit trying to give a boy your lifestyle when he has not earned it" . GREAT QUOTE. LADIES PLEASE LISTEN
I married down and he became emotionally and mentally abusive. I left him when he threatened to knock me out. I took my two children ( not his children), left the house the same night and didn't come back until he moved out of the house two months later. I divorced him 10 years ago and I have never regretted it for one second.
My ex-fiancee had slapped me one time and when that had happened I was surprised and disbelief,, I left the house the same night, but before I left I told him that was your first and your last time that you will ever put your hands on me, it has been 23 years since the last time I laid eyes on him,,
Good for you and your children my Sister. You Survived a bum.
@@mealine1975 excellent move on your part.
That’s Good!!! Blessings, No one deserves to be in an abusive Relationship
Ke ke always had that sad look about her, Shame on this Coward Man to be hitting on a woman!!! He Needs to be in Jail
Who is ready to get in a car and fight for our niece Keke. Absolutely shocked!
What time we meeting?! He’s a punk n karma is coming!
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I am ready to fight for my girl
I am so PROUD of her for taking the steps to remove herself and her son from that dangerous situation. I am happy the judge granted her the restraining order and full custody from that maniac
Who raised this wolves?! The brother is so disrespectful and disgusting!
We have disowned him ,he’s no brother
Male wolves don't abuse their partners and pups. He would have been a better person if he was raised by wolves.
My friend was in an bad relationship with a narcissistic man whom she shares a child with. When he went to prison, she opened up to me about what she endured during their relationship, but was considering letting him come back home when he got out. I knew she suffered from low self-esteem and I made sure to constantly remind her that she was beautiful, intelligent, hardworking, accomplished, and just an overall good person and taking him back would be a mistake. She struggled because she kept saying she didn't want to hurt him. She ended up making the right decision. He got out of prison and tried to make her life a living hell, but she stood firm, and is thriving today. I'm so proud of her. If you know someone who suffers from low self-esteem, please remind them of their value and self-worth.
I don't care how angry you get, you should not be putting your hands on anyone. That goes for men and women. People need to teach their children how to deal with their anger . I prayer that this is sorted out for them, I hate to see anyone going through this.🙏
He's a narcissist. There is NO help for them
He is mentally ill. They tried counseling etc. There is no sorting this out, she should of left him a long time ago.
Well said. Some men need to learn to keep their hands to themselves. Also some women need to understand that a physical and emotionally abusive man is not the man to have children with or to invest in.
For them? He’s a POS. She’s the victim and that baby.
We obviously have alot of narcs men and women there response isn't addressing the abuse but how they feel about her personal life choices wich I'm sure most of these comments not believing her or just not acknowledging the abuse at all..and then here come the religious folks as if married women dnt suffer abuse or if she was married that would make it better..she is already paying for her choices publicly..and if you have no emotional control you need help to be able to be around a kid...and all these co signers and non believers would feel differently if it was someone they loved ..the hate us real sad
Honestly, women, we have to be careful. A man can be out biggest downfall . Honestly, I have seen time and time again how women can be at the top of their game and if they are not careful, these men can bring them allll the way down .
Yeah,perfect example of Whitney Houston
Same goes for men. I've seen many a successful man pulled down by a leech-ful woman
Facts!
These man are jealous
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I love how Steve laid it out straight, he was visibly concerned like a real dad or uncle
Keke seems like she doesn’t take anything seriously. Like if you’re trying to give her some sisterly advice she will just keep acting goofy. I hope this was her wake up call.
Its always women with such light sunshine energy who end up attracting these dark and wounded men. I know from experience, I feel so bad for Keke she seems so fun and a positive person.
The thing I respect about Fumi is that she’s honest and woman enough to change her mind with more information. She doesn’t care that she was wrong. She owned it and told us she changed her mind because that’s what grown women do. And she is absolutely right. These men are being raised differently and it serves women no good to date down in most cases.
Exactly!
These men were not RAISED. Sorry to say, they were dragged up. This is so sad.
Exactly...he's broke and abusive. Choose 1 struggle
Very unfortunate case, bc she had access to quality men.
Date down, lol 😂. Men have been dating down since the dawn of civilization plus all women with money come attitude and disrespect that's why men with money aren't looking for women with money. Good luck with that 😂😂😂
@@naphisa340She still does if she changes her strategy and how she dates after she heals.
Keke is very sweet and humble and that man really thought he could get her pregnant, sit her down, breaking her self esteem and taking away her autonomy. The typical controlling narcissist, this same male convinced his ex to ab0rt the baby she was pregnant with, right before he got with keke .. he's disgusting, NEVER deserved Keke
True but she chose him!
She's also not a child, I'm sure she ignored EVERY red flag before getting pregnant. She's a woman who had SOOO many men to pick from but chose this character. We gotta take accountability as adults
I wonder what it is about her personality and self worth that she would allow this. We think about victims of domestic abuse as ppl who are stuck financially and physically in abusive relationships. Keke could have a bodyguard snap Darius in half. She could change the locks or move with no problem, even leave the country. Idk why she stayed with this man and actively chose to have a baby with him! Keke is an airhead and she can't be as confident as she projects. How long can she keep saying that she doesn't know anything when she has the money and leisure to learn life skills. She didn't know how to act when Trey Songz got aggressive with her. Everyone has to learn to protect themselves, if not who will?
The ex should thank God in heaven it must be hell being stuck with that man
Wrong she isn’t innocent because her disrespect is just as bad as his abuse, they aren’t a match and he made a big mistake but that doesn’t make her an Innocent victim. You have tape on him but no tape on her bad behavior
Tell me you are Nigerian without telling me you are Nigerian - “When I’m not mad?”
Mama Fumi, you have spoken like a true West African woman, they love, respect, serve and honour their husbands, but there is an inner strength in them that their husbands don't dare to wake up with foolishness like abuse or disrespect.
Sis Fumi! You’ve said it all. I applaud you. As a 47year old woman, I wish I had older sisters like you. Keke, my darling, don’t settle, move on!
Well said! You are mature and I hope that you continue to honor your age and understanding and keep the useless broke ones away!!!. Broke financially and morally.
It is crazy how other women are attacking this girl…
Holding to account for her choice is not attacking. She chose him out of all her pick of men
Self-hating pick-me Mammies are the worst! They endorse the evil behavior of fragile mediocre, narcissistic males- it’s the saddest thing to behold!
Jealous
So true 😢. KeKe is very talented but I don’t believe she’s a fortune teller🤔. They don’t realize that whether you date/marry up or down, people are people and certainly not perfect creatures. A successful man can do the same things this one did, but they can afford to hide their shortcomings for quite awhile before it all comes out, and it will. 🙏🏾❤️May The Lord Bless and Keep her and Leo safe and happy.🙏🏾❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Male focussed women. Not a good look. They do not value themselves. It is pathetic.
Watching the clip of her with Steve shows her naïveté when it comes to relationships. She thought Steve was talking about men with money, but he was talking about something much deeper. He was talking about men with CHARACTER!!! Prayers to Keke and her son. I pray for their continued safety 🙏🏾💕
"These are life lessons!!!" This video needs to go viral.
I knew just by looking at him, he gave me narcissist/abusive vibes, confirmed even more when he publicly humiliated her. Not shocked, Keke did what virgos do best!! Collect evidence 🧾 and receipts (10 steps ahead, very calculating), she stayed and played nice for the safety of her son and herself....she got her recording in her house ready for his abusive azz. So glad she called the cops on him, and left a paper trail and have video evidence of his abusive behavior
Yes, definitely Covert Narc tendencies!! Been there done that. Divorced Virgo here…
His eyes tell the whole story.
Yes Virgos are very detailed with evidence and will act accordingly as she did.❤
She definitely had to collect evidence for court and for these FOOLS online that even after seeing still shots will still say she lying and trying to keep a father from their child.
Fellow Virgo here! We LOVE to bring receipts 🧾!! We do NOT play!
The mom saying that she went to the brother over a year ago means that Darius was abusing Keke while pregnant.
But why go to the brother instead of the police?
If the mom reached out for help, that wasn’t the first time. It probably started before she was pregnant. Abuse comes in different forms.
Yes, the cctv shot is from Feb 2022- she got pregnant a month after that 😢 not sure what she was thinking!!!!!
Omg😮 So true!!!!
That's even messed up
My heart breaks for her and every woman who has experienced this. We must raise our standards. Period. We deserve so much better than this type of behavior.
I agree 👍 💯 🙆♀️
I'll say it again. Be careful who you marry, and more especially who you have children with. Millenials need to learn that they don't know everything and start listening to those who have credible life experiences they've learned from. Too many are rushing towards parenthood and marriage for the Gram without heeding the warning signs, nevermind trying to get to know themselves thoroughly first before diving into life-binding relationships. Focus on yourself and take your time. Things eventually fall into place when the time and the partner is right.
Amen. You didn’t tell one lie.
Amen
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Thanks 😊
Amen no rush 🙏
😢 she is soooooo beautiful and sooooo lost. I hope people gives her grace and space.
I’m glad you now understand us now auntie Fumi!! Marrying down hardly ever works(large financial gap), mostly because the men end up feeling very insecure and this can result in them finding other ways to show power. Usually they then become verbally and physically abusive!! This truly textbook behavior. I feel so bad for KeKe! And of course, it’s not easy dating women above you, SO men, don’t!! Leave us alone!! I need need a man to take care of me, but I need him to match me financially and more.. we will hold each other up forever. It’s thought out here. Also, it’s even sadder because Keke approach this man. 😢😢
Thank you!! It’s been stated the KeKe approached HIM! Some even said she bought him a drink when they met. Very masculine, low self worth, and pick me behavior of her. That man probably never truly wanted keke, but saw her as an easy lick, and she was happy to be his sucker. He is very narcissistic, childish, and opportunistic. It’s all sad.
I remember watch the episode KeKe on Steve Harvey show, and I watched in shock at her immaturity. Hardheaded, sass talking, and know everything. STEVE TRIED TO GIVE HER SOME GUIDANCE, but KEKE COULDN'T STOP TALKING DUMB LONG ENOUGH TO LISTEN TO A MAN WILLING TO BE A COVERING (Uncle Steve). As a result of following her own short-sighted ideas, totally discounting Steve's wisdom, she's a single mother having to deal with psycho baby daddy issues until the child becomes 18. Too bad, so sad. This drama could have been totally averted.
You are correct. This should not have happened if she listened
It's not a simple case. She had to be smart and careful in order to leave this man. So many women lose their lives by deciding to leave these narcissistic men. Sending her love and support❤❤❤❤❤
She should have NEVER had a child by him!! Selfish
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Kiki needs to step back and reflect. She had her pick of men and chose him. I'm glad she has reported him as I'm sure this isnt the 1st time he's done that but she stayed. There is no way there were no red flags at the start....once again people, stop ignoring red flags and stop having kids with people who you know for 5 minutes
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🎯 I never understood the concept of being happily willing to have a child with it person you barely know.
Exactly = We need to teach our sistas that it's OK to leave when a guy when he puts his hands on you ONE TIME. She wasn't listening to Uncle Steve when he said she didn't go with the guy he picked! She wanted to pick one herself! Men know themselves, from my experience. A man in your corner will tell you that that other man ain't good. It's up to you to listen. 🖤
Timothee chalamet...
Please shut up because most pple are very good with keeping up appearances and some pple men especially won't show tru colors until ten years later...if you have no experience you shouldn't comment you don't know why she stayed you don't know her mental state at the time and you don't know how she got pregnant you think a man won't poke holes in his own condom for a win win situation you don't know if he took advantage of her and manipulated her after a night at the awards sho pple be commenting with no life experience....how many relationships have you had we all have overlooked some red flags but through experience we learned not to repeat
Omg I can’t believe you took back what you said auntie fumi😂 because I left a comment saying dating down is a no go in this generation, broke guys can have bad personalities too or be even worse because they’re bitter. I felt rude disagreeing with you on that video but I’m glad you see both sides of the coin.
Everybody was dragging Eboni K for her “bus driver”comment….😏
Eboni didn't make the comment. Iyanla did.
😂😂😂 We are ALWAYS proved right. BM are not it at all 😮
'Have the gift of good-byes" I truly love this sentence and I agree wholeheartedly. I was telling one of my bestfriends yesterday that it makes me sad seeing how some women choose the wrong men to have a kid with. No matter what, this man will be in her life until that baby is an adult! Yikes, I'd hate to be in her shoes! Women, let's do better and stop that cycle with baby daddies!
She's too informed and blessed to settle for this!
Really? Can you gaze narcissistic male behavior? Majority of them are like that, they are ruled by their weak testosterone!
You clearly don't understand how Trauma works. Sometimes you do this without subconsciously and until you meet someone as abusive as Darius that's when you start to notice that you cannot allow Yourself to be in that situation
Fumi I needed your take. People have been so hard on her about this, I can’t believe the lack of sympathy. I hope she finds her peace with her son soon ❤❤❤
At some point when are women responsible for the men they bring into their lives? Fr? Why did she have a child with a man with literally nothing to offer her? Why were all of her dating patterns the same way?
@laela6289 We have to bear some responsibility. It's a fact. She wasn't an empty-headed puppet. I was in a toxic relationship (no physical abuse) but I had to be honest with myself to see where I opened myself to that.
@@laela6289she doesn't deserve to be abuse literally nobody but what she did wrong was having a baby with him
. She should have dated up .
@@laela6289 There’s no problem on holding people accountable, whether it’s a man or woman. But I’m tired of the narrative always switching to women having to take responsibility for someone else ǎbűśǐńg her. Like dang it just happened and she can’t even get any empathy? It’s even sadder when it’s coming from another woman. Also, how are women supposed to know beforehand if a man is ǎbǔşĩvę or not when most of the time they don’t show that side of themselves until it’s too late?
Only people that are against keke are the incels and the pick me’s and the fact that we ALWAYS have to bare the pain for a man
Unlike Keke, I stayed and had two kids with him, UNMARRIED! Hoping he would change, love me, accept me, want to grow out of the mediocre life we were living. Years later with 2 beautiful daughters and channels like this one, I found my voice again, I found my self esteem, I found my confidence and I found the courage to leave and start afresh. And even after that, he is still in the same spot and I'm way ahead of him, mentally, emotionally and financially. I definitely dated down and I didn't know it at the time. I applaud Keke for doing right by herself and her son.
Stay strong Keke. Gods Got You. 💕💕💕🙏🏻🙏🏿🙏🏽
So many channels fall for the story hook line and sinker 🤦🏿♂️. I hope y'all come back when all the facts come out .
I’m so glad you apologized, Fumi. Yes, this generation of women, cannot and should not tolerate wasteman. Don’t date down or marry down… It’s detrimental to their life. I am Proud of this generation of young women, always know your worth, Queens. ❤️❤️❤️
I second that emotion
Yup...no wasteman
I am So glad KeKe had the Courage to release the video. I pray that she and the baby are ok and that Jesus would protect her.
Let's pray for KeKe because my gut tells me this guy is Hella Dangerous!! This is the type of guy that will beat you and dial 911 at the same time.
It's the BOLD NARCISSISM FOR ME!
Keke is so lovely, genuine and a grafter. I love her energy. She's an old soul! She worked hard to be where she is. It's a pity girls like her are preyed on by narcisists like that boy. She needs friends like Fumi who will tell her to run when them low lifes show up. Girls, pay close attention!
Thank you so much for changing your stance Fumi!!!! Like I said before…it is dangerous for black women (in particular) to date down. It’s not just the money, but it’s the mindset, it’s the circle of friends they have, it’s really just everything. I’m 50 and we need to see the truth.
Totally agree with you. I love that you mentioned that it’s not just about money. It includes everything,including exposure, mindset, interests, intellectual capacity, ability to be open to new useful ideas about life. I’m 46 and married for over 14 years to a good man but he is not forward thinking in many ways. I knew it from the onset but others (family and friends) didn’t see it and I couldn’t really put it into words to explain why I was hesitant about getting married to him. Now I feel stuck with a man who is very stoic in his beliefs about everything in life and will not entertain any other ideas. It’s frustrating because I’m the complete opposite. This to me is another example of marrying down. Someone can be educated, good at heart but also be set in their narrow beliefs, possibly due to their upbringing. It’s worse than all the other things really because it’s much more difficult to break away from such people, on the guise of them being a good person otherwise. Convincing yourself to leave such relationships is so difficult and that’s where I’m at.
We wouldn't know, from how happy she always looked. Prayers for you Dia Keke 😢
Portraying happiness is how we cope with DV. I work in a company from 2012 and noone knew what i was going thru. I always appear to be happy and content, never raise my voice or complained. I got close to an elderly lady on my job after many years i opened up to her and she could not believe all what i faced at home.
You never know. I’ve been in situations like this, and even the people closest to me always thought everything was okay at home. They never knew what was happening to me until I finally told them. That’s why I try not to judge anyone too much, especially other women, because you never know what someone is going through behind closed doors.
The most sad people are comedians are you not reading it's self protected attitude they put out
@@jeangumbs7172yeah but when some of us that, we get called haters. I learned this in elementary school: no one is always happy. never trust anyone that appears to be always happy. ever. they are always hiding shyt. I see the same patterns with that vegan lady Tabitha Brown and all that "I got joy in my heart and sunshine". GTOFH.
@@jeangumbs7172Rudy from Cosby show probably getting slapped around too and Jordin sparks.
She really made Uncle Steve mad! Steve WAS speaking on financial values but forgot to put it in the context of having values of respect, love and service to a partner. Its true that money can’t buy that, but dear KeKe, NOT having money doesn’t guarantee it either.
I'm so hurt this happened to Keke. Why she didn't have male family or beefy security at the ready to DESTROY him, I'll never know. She's a TREASURE and should have been treated exactly accordingly. Love how FRANK you got in this one, Fumi. Teach the babies.
Her father and mother are still together. So I’m wondering if they kept this from him cause…
Lesson learnt " never never never ever COMPROMISE yourself, you got to have BOUNDARIES." Thanks Sis Fumi, this is one my life's STANDARDS, and it has NEVER failed me!! 🌍😊👍
We early. Fumi that man is sick. Imagine his brother defending him out loud and him disrespecting the mother calling her by her first name, hell no zero respect. My heart breaks for KeKe. DO NOT MARRY DOWN.
She didn't marry him. Jeez! Marrying up is not about just money its about character point blank. If every woman marries a rich man are there enough to go around?
Unfortunately Keke has made a mistake, she didn't know this man..he saw a meal ticket..immediately remove yourself from this unhealthy situation..be glad you didn't marry him
Very costly mistake
….and these are the men that Tyler Perry suggestions we date down for and marry.
Date down and getting married doesn't mean doing it eyes close and ignoring red flags and one instinct. I dated up one man and he make me feel miserable I dated down many guys and only one which is my husband and father to my child he is a blessing. I made sure to ask questions and I check myself how I feel around him if I feel funny in a bad way its a no if I feel good every day and feel secure I stay in dating and I also pray to God to guide me and he did. Loads of woman sadly don't pay attention to what they feel actually they go with the idea. Kiki must have seen the red flags but when on, sadly I know many woman will think its a one time thing or he will change with time. One needs to get knowledge about what is a relationship about and one need to know themselves too and listen to their own spirit talking to them accepting the reality of this relationship is not work or its working. Some woman have good guys and ditched them for bad guys. Sadly because they have bad friends giving them wrong advice or even worse they can't be content being in peace with the good guy but because of greed wanting more they end up with a bad guy. Any man can be horrible any man can be good one needs to be careful
LAWD!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Tyler Perry is a whole billionaire who hasn't managed to find a wife or longterm partner. We don't take his advice on relationships. Zero expertise.
I don’t have a mom Fumi and you have always given me advice that I wish my own mother did. I recently left an abusive relationship and I feel for Keke so much. But it is true that we as women need to not settle because it will end up hurting us, or worse.
Thank you aunty Fumi … this brought tears to my eyes I’ve experienced this kind of behavior all my life , with sadly 3 baby daddies not regretting my children long story short 2/3 were physically abusing me the other one mentally and emotionally in one of my relationship I watched my daughter now 26 took a pillow and sheet at the age of 6 and went to the door lay down and cover her ears this is when I first walked… but through it all I blame myself trying to get ahead of life before I turn 40 . I’m now 51 and I got married and my life without any baby daddies has just began thank you wish I know this back then but I thank God I came out alive .
Fumi it is very sad. My Mom and Dad are no longer here but they set the standard . My Dad showed me how a Man should be. The relationship between him and my Husband was one of genuine respect. He asked for my hand in marriage. His Father told my Husband you better not hurt her.
36 years later here we are.
The People of today are so different. They don’t have to take just anyone but they do. Don’t marry down is facts🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️
✍🏽I’m with you Fumi, I cannot stand disrespectful people. Where I’m from, we put respect on our elders' names. These people are immature narcissists who could learn a lot by studying certain animals; even they follow a hierarchy.🖐🏾
There’s a culture of bitter men online teaching how to be mean to women. Hurt people hurt other people.
I agree how people are raised has a lot to do with it some weren’t raised with love.
No lies told. My kids are 31 and 27 and they still say Mrs and Mr so and so. They don't call anybody by they first name. This generation that's been taught this strange realm of equality as children and this strange realm of being disrespectful with no accountability. The sheer number of young people disrespecting their elders and totally comfortable with it is frightening. This generation has no real awareness and no empathy. Accountability is a foreign concept.
I am so afraid for my granddaughter with these types of men that are out there now. No respect , integrity, and no kindness and I wonder what parents raised them. God help the world
I just think the “marrying down” advice should refer more to a person’s character health maturity/love health maturity/relationship health maturity rather than their financial class. Because abusers abide in every financial class. Literally.
I feel sorry for Keke and her cute little pumpkin. Hope she will be granted the R/O and sole custody of Leo. But let's call a spade a spade, y'all. We need to he careful who we have kids with...these ninjaz is crae-crae! Damn 😩🤦
Well said. She has to sit and reflect on her choice. She would have seen the red flags still got pregnant
Thank you for taking it back! 💖You see what we have been telling you. Dating down has serious consequences for women. I was giving your relationship advice the side-eye when you encouraged educated, successful women to date “down”.
Exactly and that's why women need to know what they want for themselves and not listen to anyone on social media. No compromise.
Thank you! I agree!❤
It doesn't matter - Ivy League millionaire men are no different.
Me too. I remember feeling confused about that take after the Ebony and bus driver thing
Dating up or down, this can happen to anyone. Money does not keep the monsters away. Coupling well is a blessing from God, and we have to be willing to wait a long time to see if these partners are worth our time. Even when the connection is strong, give it a few seasons, then double that time before trusting. For me, I waited two+ years to even let him step into my home, but it still happened. So honestly, count yourself blessed if you found good deserving partners. They will hide their true colours for as long as it takes. Do not judge the women that fall prey to these manipulative POS. Be careful how you judge. No one settlers for less, people pick and choose using the best information they have at the time. Give her grace, and she deserves respect for getting out. In her position it’s so easy to give up and hide behind ego, but she chose to walk away. She faced her demons, she’s fighting back. That is what should be the focus.
Congratulations to keke for not alllowingvthis to continue. She has always moved quietly and even in this storm, she is moving accordingly. I hope she does not have regrets, she made the decisions to love and create with the person that he showed her, no one knows what they don’t know. I’m so sorry this turned out this way, but so damn proud.
Do not marry down✅
What you encourage, you indirectly tolerate ✅
It couldn't be me either I'd be in jail as well. Never going to accept or tolerate a man putting their hands on me. I just can't do it.
SIDE NOTE..THAT DRESS IS GIVING🔥🔥🔥
I love you so much Fumi! You speak things that all of us need to hear as the younger generation. You are the strict African mother we all need!!
I love how Steve got so frustrated and angry that she was sitting up there laughing and lying on him when he’s trying to warn her
I love my fired up Fumi!! Girl, you told no lies!!! Do not deal with men beneath you!!❤️🌅
FUMIIIIIIII THAT OUTFIT IS OUTFITTING, BAAAAAAAAAAABY THAT'S AMAZING❤❤❤
Yh !The outfit is fire on her 🔥
Great advice, I hope the women’s who need to hear this LISTEN. And make a move to get out of these toxic relationships! I have been married for 30 years and NOT once has my husband been aggressive, abusive, insulting or made me feel unsafe around him. He is always there for me best that he can be! Good men are out there, women just need to have higher standards, trust themselves more, love themselves more and walk away when things done live up to those expectations!
Please educate our girls out here on what to look for?
@@Barbiette123, that’s a great question and honestly the answer all over the place because abusive men/ partners show up in many different ways, here are a few “ NON NEGOTIABLES” when it comes warning signs: 1) as a woman you should always feel safe around your partner, you should not “ walk on eggshells “ so not to tip him in a bad mood, 2) if your partner is aggressive towards you physically or abusive towards you in their words and apologizes or makes you feel like it was your fault that he behaved in that way when he clearly has a choice to always walk away or to choose a different behaviour, THAT IS A BIG WARNING SIGN- nobody can be responsible for another person’s behaviour and he is not wanting to take accountability and therefore he will not change as long as he blames somebody else or something else he is not going to change because he sees the problem is external not internal. 3) remember you are no ones purse or nurse ! you cannot fund his lifestyle and you cannot nurse his emotional wounds, he must show up and contribute the best he can and to know that he must take care of his own healing. Now, aa a partner we can offer love and support, we can choose to contribute a bit more to the relationship financially and choose to be emotionally available to our partners however there are limits that must be set! 4) beware of a partner that wants to isolate you from your family and your friends, have more influence on how you dress and where you go! That is classic controlling and will shrink your identity which is what the abusive person wants! 5). Most important is women must learn to love themselves unconditionally first! When we love ourselves we gravitate towards others who show us value in relationships, self love will help us to know that no other person is worthy destroying ourselves to please and accommodate them. Sadly, most women give more to a relationship than is given in return. They become exhausted and as time passes, maybe children are involved, they think they have invested too much to walk away and start over, that’s when they have lost themselves, but the sound of a woman’s footsteps walking away from a sad loveless abusive relationship is the most powerful sound she will ever hear! I would encourage all women to watch the movie The Color Purple...those strong female characters changed my life.
@@beeiz5656I love your response. At the same time I’m sad because all the red flags you listed accurately describe my current marriage. Tbh I’m only sticking in this unhappy situation bc I have two young children and I’m the breadwinner with no family support so I literally feel stuck. Divorce is on my mind but I already know it will be a long fight for custody and spousal support. I’m praying God shows me a safe strategy for me and my kids, I’m clueless on how to start my safe exit from this relationship
YES FUMI!! He forgot himself and I’m so glad he slipped up. She’s been enduring this for longer than we know and he unknowingly forced her hand with the Usher concert incident.
Always watch you FUMI but must comment today from experience.....NEVAAH MARRY DOWN! MAKE THEM COME UP OR THEY'LL PULL YOU DOWN!
It’s so sad how she rushed with this guy for him to change her life forevet
Victim blaming much? Adjust your comment already, yikes🙄
It’s so beautiful that as grown adults that when parents visit you’re both thrown back into that love and security. You and your husband revert back to being cared for cause you have good parents. ❤❤ I want my children and their spouses to feel this way when I’m around. I want them to both feel that nurturing.
I was trembling throughout this whole episode. As women we let ourselves down. We need a scolding when we make decisions about love.😢😢😢😢
You look beautiful Auntie Fumi! Love the makeup and the outfit! I’ll continue listening 😊
You always knock me into line. Thanks Aunt Fumi. You just confirmed an action I was confused about taking. You are such a teacher.
I never saw Fumi so furious..😂😂😂😂 Serious talk though!❤
I just watched video on Feminine universe. In the video, the “girl out of the league” trope was explained. Men who get in relationships with women out of their league, whether through education, money, fame…. The guy quickly or eventually goes from worship to resentment which leads to all types of abuse. She literally just posted the video this week, and Keke’s situation perfectly emulates this. Praying for healing and guidance for all parties involved.
Thank you Fumi. We need to encourage our ladies to do better. I made a comment on another channel saying that an insecure man will always find a way to try and gain some level of power and control over his woman even if it means DV. Ladies, please learn from Keke, Halle Berry and other female celebrities that date or marry down. It ends badly if a man is insecure of his woman's achievements. A man's ego is more powerful than his love. Please take care of yourselves and level up.
I feel so sorry that Keke is going through this. I think so many people called this from the beginning with that disgusting tweet of his. You don’t know, what you don’t know until you know!!! And the best teacher is life and experience. First comes compassion and empathy and healing. Then come the lessons- how to break the pattern etc. She’ll get through this. Sending her and Leo so much love ❤
This is so true… you don’t know until you know…and by then you are knee deep and so overwhelmed by the love-bombing!
Thank you AUNTIE FUMI for finally saying this!! Every single time we date down, these men become SUPER RESENTFUL of us and most of them become emotionally abusive to say the least! DO NOT DATE DOWN. I LEARNED MY LESSON!!
“When it comes to relationships & when it comes to those that we love & he hurts you we don’t stop loving them we stop loving ourselves” -FUMI DESALU-VOLD. That’s the sad truth!
She refused knowledge.
Agreed. Im sure Steve and Mommy Keke were not the only ppl who tried to give her a different perspective. we must heed the knowledge of the elders, even if we don’t agree. Store the knowledge and look for areas in life to apply it. Teachable moment here, Aunty Fumi is right sometimes we have to learn the worst way to grow/mature. It seems like she has learned. God bless her and that beautiful baby.
Oh my goodness Fumi, how awful! I feel so bad for my baby sister Keke. Domestic abuse is very scary. Let us all keep her in prayer for God's protection and grace, in Jesus name, amen. Blessings.
If KeKe would have hurt him in self-defense, she would not have went to jail, because she was protecting herself from harm. I agree with you. This man is a narcissist, with a big “N”. I had a past friend who is in the church, who came back into my life decades later. I had not seen him in years. I am single. He took me out for lunch on my birthday, and was so nice to me. He was ‘love bombing’ me. Then one day, the narcissist in him showered up. Long story short, I end up needing therapy after interacting with him for a couple of months. Now, he’s out of my life. I think I will be forever, traumatized from that relationship, but now I am free. Narcissist! Without a doubt. 😂😂😂😂.
It is how these young ladies just go about giving birth for men who are not even qualified for the friendship stage alone. Keke you really messed up, but I wish you well and good luck✌🏾
As someone who has worked in DV field for 23 years, it is good to see this support. I don't know why people are surprised. black women experience the most DV in this country. Love Keke down and I hope all the survivors get this support. think "dating down" is not just about money. And most POC have such deep issues with money they get triggered when we say date up. Money is a VERY important aspect but that is just the beginning. A person also needs to be on the same accord physically, mentally, and most importantly spiritually. I dated down and definitely paid for it in my younger days. but never again. I would say don't date down, don't friend down, don't family down. If the vibes are not in harmony move on. The thing about vibes is you have to be in tune with yourself, your needs, and your self worth to be able to pay attention to them.
I appreciate that you have seen the light... and are woman enough, mature enough to not only adjust your position, but to publicly state it. Bravo! 🏆
Thanks you Fumi, gorgeous as usual. You sound advice also goes for us more mature women who are entering new relationships in our 50's + not just the younger ladies. Like you said, if we tolerate bad behaviour dished out by of our partners (red flags), they will continue because that is who they really are.
Fumi you are so right, sometimes we women think that we need to marry young and when time passes by we panic. I am thankful I waited. Not all that glitters is gold just because he is fit and handsome does not mean he is perfect... Eeh simple is quality a man with stability and has a plan for his life and his lady then he is refined wine. Girls let's know our value.
Keke has b nothing but amazing handworking young woman. She let's in the snake in the garden 😮. I feel terrible for her. It's a pity, its really is
I've been waiting for you to speak on this. My heart aches for Keke.😢
You are right on time! I was just reading an article on this very same topic! I’m a stop reading, and listen to you.
Thank you for taking that statement back. Men who are not equally yoked with their women will always be resentful and bitter towards them.
The closing comments were EVERYTHING!!! So much wisdom! ❤
Thank you aunty Fumi! I thought I was coming for some juicy gossip and your take but I got a WORD OF INSPIRATION for myself! Thank you so much! ❤❤❤
Love this episode ❤ This life lesson is amazing . Just bought the new rules book so I'm excited to learn more . Thank you so much Fumi 💖😘🔥🔥
I Just found your page, I love all this positive advice you are giving I'm 51years Thankyou very much, Watching from Chicago Illinois ❤❤
Never left a comment before. This is the best show you ever have done... we are the same age... what I tell my younger women friends... ladies- great advice!
Love love love this video ,Fumi you are truly AMASZING! Keke keep staying strong for you and your baby. Thank you for sharing❤❤❤❤
I absolutely love you! Thank you for making this video and dropping knowledge for all our young sistas! 👏🏾👏🏾💗
The way Sarunas threw his brother under the bus real quick instead of holding any level of accountability or apology is wild.
❤️❤️❤️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾just got out of a very similar situation.Needed to hear every word Prayers for Key-Key and all other survivors.Love you Fumi thank you❤️❤️❤️
Sister Fumi, Thank you for understanding that this generation is indeed very different when it comes to male and female financial roles. I appreciate your maturity and can demonstrate right in front of us how people can evolve and have the confidence to apologize when it is needed. Thank you for seeing our plight in the millennium. I applaud you as a woman, mother, wife, sister, black female and most importantly as a human.
You are talking TRUTH! I'm praying for KeKe and her baby boy. Thanks for sharing this post. Wow! You Rock! Thanks for the encouragement about starting a business. God bless you and all of Fumi Nation followers! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾💖❤💞🤗😍😘
My respect and love for you Auntie Fumi is just organic. It's the way you advise, encourage, motivate and inspire. There is always something to learn or be reminded of and I get that when I watch videos such as these. Your a blessing to us from miles apart. I am happy the day I ran across your channel. You have been a source of Motherly guidance and wisdom.💜
Mrs. Vold, I'm am listening to you...your words now live rent-free in my head. Thank you!