Have you ever heard of Dark Empath? We hope to bring some insight on this topic. If you want to learn more about the dark triad, we have a video on that too: ruclips.net/video/kvJDkPKbaLE/видео.html
Empathy means you can understand people. What you do with that ability is whole different story. Edit: a lot of comments here. Seems that i should have specified the difference between cognitive empathy and emotional empathy. But I didn't know when i wrote this comment lol.
not only, it's also feeling what they feel. that's why we talk about cognitive empathy here, it's because you can understand the person but you don't feel it.
"If you notice at the end of every argument or discussion that only their needs are met, they may be manipulating you." -> that's powerful! Fake kindness, manipulation, guilt seeding, malicious humor (to belittle you), spreading rumors. Other than the last one, I've seen the other 4 in some people who I know...
Relationships of personal life r dfrnt types relationships r all based we all. But Outside ppl as service giver taker relationships, strangers unknown ppl fr a while etc we r supposed to b formal humanity holder fr all, may we understand them or not may we feel them or not, they r never own ppl just lawfully using them wth no wrong all humanity, normal.
FYI: not everyone who is a dark empath will act like this. People are not animals and have self-control. Someone with these traits can choose to suppress their urges or act on them just like how someone with anger issues can learn to walk away from confrontation, so can the dark empath learn to behave in non-harmful way. They are not all good or all bad, like everyone else on planet earth. As humans, we all have to ability to think and feel without acting. There is no point in demonizing everyone with a certain characteristic.
You are right. But we should still be cautious. Maybe the Key is to know when they lose to their urges if they are sincerely trying to suppress them. Or correct their bad personality if you can?
@@saltychebs im not sure you understand it right, dark empath means u know what the other person feels but you dont necessarily feel for them so you can act selfishly without remorse and get ur way but some people can decide to not be totally selfish because of awareness they are not sadists who enjoy misery
@@xavierfrancis2425 for me it's more like I can open up more to people who don't know me or ik I can talk to ig? But like not people who care about me😂
*as a dark empath* i feel the need to nuance this; even though we are capable of the things mentioned in this video, we can still be very functioning. Eg. my parents gave me a VERY strong moral compass, that always guides me back whenever me instincs are malicious. So for me I have the thoughts and understand humans very well, but i dont misuse it since I know its wrong. A big part of me wants to, but I hold back. Im married and have kids and never let my shadows affect those around me. Im also fully transparent with my wife about how my mind works, but she knows that i shut that part down and do what i KNOW is right. and therefore you can still make it work as a dark empath
I think I’m a combination of dark and sorrowful empath. The sorrow is the hardest to deal with. As far as being a dark empath I completely agree with you. It’s always tempting, but you know deep down in your heart that it is wrong and destructive.
Dark Empaths are with a strong moral compass are actually great vs Non-empathic Narcissists and Abusive Personalities. Dark Empaths are the best because they can sense the feelings of those being afflicted and rise to meet the Narcissist head on to protect those they have learned to care about.
@@robertalexstormexactly. A lot of times as a dark empath I can sense and observe when someone is using empathical tactics for personal gain and expose the true intentions.
@@robertalexstormnot only that but sense when something said is going to take a turn for worse on someone specifics emotions and steer it away before it goes there
@undelete this You be in their place, Like bro, dark empaths can take revenge, as a person who was a dark empath when i was realllyyy sadistic before, Its easier for them than you think.
Actually though! It’s why personality disorders can’t be diagnosed until young adulthood. In Adolescence people are going from the evolutionarily necessary full self absorption of early childhood and learning empathy and to grow out of it. It stands to reason that some who are actually quite empathetic haven’t matured enough to use that gift for good. Some will never grow out of it. Some will. But yes, adolescents are genuinely a little more evil.
I thought so at first, too, because the first point is a little vague. I personally feel like a lot of empaths are people pleaser, which doesn't mean we aren't sincere, but sometimes it seems blurry in moments of insecurity. BUT I think the following points do make it rather clear. I feel horrible, hurting other people, even if it is an accident and even if it is with people I don't really like. Acting selfish to accomplish sth by consciously hurting others, I couldn't do that. I think that maybe the difference.
"They sound forced when giving you compliments." Me who's not used to giving compliments but tries to give it to my friends when they're feeling insecure: 😓😢
The huge difference can be felt in a voice, and it's definitely not the same when someone who is shy gives a compliment, and when a manipulator does it. Don't worry ♡
@@anelliel I see what you mean, but not being used to giving compliments isn’t the same as being shy, though. One can be extroverted and not be accustomed to handing out compliments because of stuff like growing up in a household where that wasn’t the norm. Manipulators are what they are bc they’re good at it. So saying manipulators “sound forced” noticeably could be harmful to people who highkey do force themselves out of their comfort zone in order to compliment their loved ones, ‘cause now it can lead them to question their own motives. And it can push their Loved ones to question their motives too, vice versa.
@@FaerieElethia True! I like your explanation, and thank you for this. Instead of "sound forced" might be better to state that manipulators "sound fake" while giving compliments, but it's really hard to notice since they are good actors.
You'll be fine as long as your intentions are good. People pick up on energy that's why in an instance where someone actually is being malicious, the other person feels uneasy or disconnected from what the manipulator is saying. If you are not doing that they will likely write it off as nerves or nervousness, which is what it is given you are forming a new habit. 😉
5 signs of a dark empath: 1. Their kindness often feels fake 2. They manipulate you 3. They guilt trip you 4. They love malicious humor 5. They spread rumors
I am VERY empathical (or however you say it) and will cry at anything remotely sad. I am also very good with knowing emotions and how people respond to different things. I don't abuse these powers in the way a dark empath does, but it is a useful tool to pursade. Edit: The craziest part is that I'm in introvert yet I know more about socializing than some extroverts I know. Please if someone could tell me why that is
I'm not sure but maybe ur observant and since ur an introvert u know what to do while socializing with other people who aren't introverts? I am an introvert too and I'm just like you and this is what I feel but yours might be different idk 😅
Your a latent psychopath, jk. This video is bullshit. Anyone and everyone has good and bad qualities. We are born into a corrupt world and quickly become corrupt ourselves perpetuating the cycle of pain.
No literally same. I've just summed it up to I'm always listening to other people socializing and subconsciously making mental notes. I hate socializing but I can when I need to because I'm always observing interactions between others and how doing or saying a certain thing will result. Thats just what I've come up with cause I've asked myself the same question lol
Being introverted does not necessarily mean being unable to socialize. Having social skills and choosing to socialize or not are two different things. You might have more social skills than an extrovert, but you might not choose to socialize or charge your social battery by spending your time alone. Or you could just be an ambivert.
Introverted or extroverted isn't relevant to being an Empath. In 2007 scientists discovered that when people talk face to face for around 10 minutes, the limbic systems of their brains fall into rhythm with each other. They synchronize. The limbic system is the primary emotional processing/routing/filtering center of the brain. Empaths sync immediately, deeper, and can do it over greater distances. They/we tend to lack the ability to filter extra information...so we get overwhelmed by both happy and negative high energy environments. Some of us love high energy, but we still need a daily retreat to recharge, re-balance. To tell if an emotion is yours or not, someone else's emotions will only be felt in your chest, upper back, shoulders, and maybe back of neck. Your emotions will come from your center of gravity a couple inches below the navel called the Hara or Dan Tien. You will feel it in the hips, abdomen, entire back, chest shoulders, neck and head. Basically your entire torso. From head to your thighs, it's your time to cry. Shoulders and chest belong to the rest. Hope that helps!
“Have you met someone who is a dark empath?” Yup. Its called toasty. Its a cat that i live with who likes being pet but when it looks like it wants pets, even rubbing on my leg, when i try to pet it, it scratches my hand badly. I dont like this cat
@@Amynity i was just about to say: what else am i supposed to do? there is just so many people i dont actually care about but there is this kind of expectation in society to care about people. so you are just nice because you have to be. you dont get by on being snarky and telling people what you think. i dont put up a fascade for malicious intentions, but because its the easy way to navigate life.
@@Thundermikeee Easy way to navigate life ? If everyone is putting up the nice mask and playing it , how do you know who really is nice , who is your friend truly or partner , who can you trust and who uses you ? Dont confuse a civilised coexistence with the illusionary bubble-rainbow world that festers today , it created more anxiety , depression and suffering that the hardest and cruellest parts of our past , and when it pops it will be even more messy .
@@MrOssyan yes easy. to be polite and nice, to smile and to not tell people they are idiots when they are idiots makes life a lot easier. and you can tell by their actions, after all do their motives matter if they support you and have your back? besides the mask doesnt hold up under close inspection. the mask is the " hey how are ya doing? im doing fine too, thanks for asking." type things. or again not saying what you think.
I think if someone with a "dark empath" personality knows how to control themselves, they can be the most effective leaders and decision makers. The most dangerous people are often the heavy-hitters in life because they have that darkness within them and know how to use it in the right way.
Especially effective generals and commanders in wars, they know how to use your emotions to motivate you into battle, effective empaths care too much for peoples lives to do that.
I also covered this in another comment here too... You are correct. "Unfortunately... I do have dark empathic traits and have had a history of doing such things. There's a lot more to it though than it just being something we enjoy doing. Or like we do it on purpose. A lot of what happens to make a dark empath is many years of trauma and betrayal, typically in childhood. So please don't try to paint them as a monster like this. It's not as black and white. Years of therapy and introspection can allow a dark empath to center themselves and regain their sense of humanity and worth. A lot of what these traits are projecting is a lack of love of self, so they attempt to mask that self hatred and esteem issues by helping and caring for others, and unfortunately when that fails it results in rejection of failure and accountability. As a dark empath myself, I have learned to understand that the trauma and pain that may dictate my actions can be mended and controlled. You can bring them back away from the toxicity of their habitual coping mechanisms. So please, understand it's much, much more than this." With that said, knowing myself and understanding these traits has definitely allowed me to be a viable leader for those who need a.mentor and someone to help them stand confidently on their own feet. I apply this by being an artist who drives and runs my own community of other artists who have their own issues with self esteem and work accountability. It's useful when you can use these abilities for good. Thank you for understanding.
The problem with these educational mental health videos is that the traits are very general fairly relatable. This makes it easy for people to ascribe themselves as whatever type of person is described. In short, there's way more than 20% of people in these comments that now think that they're dark empathy. And while some are taking it to a positive direction, saying now they know how to be better now, many are crushed even further with this knowledge. Try to bring this knowledge to the people while also teaching ways to work around, avoid, or heal from these problems
Plottwist: The narrator is Dark Empath. She is trying to manipulate you, to not trust your friends... Joke aside. Interesting to have this video in my recommendation...
The way dark empaths are described it seems they are the most dangerous and evil kind of person on earth. More evil and more dangerous than a psychopath whom I consider the most evil kinds of people imaginable. There's no way I can see Shane no matter how fucked up he is as on par to the evilness inside of a psychopath. This person I see fits more of a dark empath would be Mark Zuckerberg. It would finally explain his cognitive dissonant personality though. His genius and his "compassionate humanity" is ultimately bringing down modern day civilization destroying social interactions and replacing it with cheap imitation knock off "social interactions" causing a massive amount of people to display ADHD like traits and stirring vanity and false happiness in people never before seen anywhere in history and its only going to advance as technology grows stronger.
1. Their kindness often feels fake 1:56 2. They manipulate you 2:41 3. They guilt trip you 3:06 4. They love malicious humor 3:24 5. They spread rumors 3:49 I hope I could help! (:
As an INFJ who’s done this to somebody before (I can not stand that I did this, but want to share it) I want to share a situation I had like ones described in this video I have an amazing home life, and I’ve had a passion for helping people for several years now. It’s so easy to use that to get what I want. You play a little night in shining armor, slowly grow closer, and from there it’s all about the wording and how much to take. If done “well”, the victim is never, ever going to know that they were played. No guilt tripping, manipulation, rumors, or anything. They’re 100% blind, walking into the jaws of a shark thinking it’s an escape. I look back on the situation where I did this to somebody and want to smack myself across the face, I hate that I did that and never want to do it again. I just wanted to comment this as a follow up sorta thing, to confirm this point Psych2Go made (Not to say they were insincere). Be careful, and be aware out there people
@@RickyRiceB I guess that's why they attract empaths🤔.. I'm still struggling with the idea if they can actually be helped/healed or for ever doomed.. What do you think?
@@briibrii4524 I had a friend that ended up losing close to all her friends because of all the emotional manipulation, and from what I hear from mutuals is that she’s cleaned her act up a bit
@@RickyRiceB Hmm that's good to hear, pretty hopeful for others whom struggle with the traits.. But was she narcissistic or NPD tho? (cause that's actually what I mean🤭)
I knew this was going to make me think of myself and I still felt sick when it did haha. But I can watch in retrospect my empathetic self turn more and more defensive due to familial (and some friendships) abuse. I always had a slapstick trickster sense of humor but only as far as nobody actually getting hurt. As soon as it looked actually painful or the person was in real distress I'd flip right over to crying with them. I've had to commit to choosing sincerity at the expense of a preferred outcome in many situations, but if I'm not on top of myself I can be too strategic to be genuine and I never respect myself when I act that way - I'm always ashamed when I guilt trip or choose my needs over the greater good. Confessing and apologizing outright and then getting to watch people learn to trust you is a very empowering experience because you realize integrity is so much more meaningful. Self-assuring tactics leave you in lonely, strained relationships - you might as well just be alone at that point, or admit blatantly what you're really looking for is help/attention/validation/etc
having empathy sometimes is not being an empath, you're not an empath, no real empath would ever actually say they are because real empaths don't like that burden and wish they didn't have it
i said "my empathetic self", not even "my empathic self" - far from saying "as an empath..." I'm not sure why you felt the need to say "you're not an empath" to a comment like mine nor what that says about _you_ but if you'd paid attention I had carefully sidestepped "i'm An Empath" language bc 1) i don't claim to be and 2) i'm a little critical of the concept if an "empath" as a (diagnosable let alone literal) entity in the first place. All that being said, just like _you_ said, being empathetic is certainly a thing and probably a sufficient enough quality to be able to relate to at least some of this video.
@@skybug1706 it’s not enough, because despite the similarity in root word, the kind of empathy that regular people can experience vs the kind of empathy that empaths experience are worlds apart, and different enough to warrant an entirely different word. Regardless, you’re incredibly misguided if you found this video to be anything but extremely harmful and pandering.
@@skybug1706 the bad faith answer would be a real psych degree, or 3, but unfortunately formal education can be pretty brutal for a lot of people to get their hands on. Pop psych is a cancer on the minds of anyone hoping to understand themselves or anyone else better, because channels like this and websites like psychology today are founded in confirmation bias and a desperate need to feel validated and externalize their toxicity onto others. Ironically enough, what I would start with is google. When you think of topics you are interested in, look up research. Look up numbers, and if you have the patience, read from the DSM-V. It has a lot of clinical language, and it’s not really meant for light reading, but it has some incredibly interesting descriptions and also a rich context provided for every disorder that includes testing methods, comorbidities, false diagnosis tendencies, and a lot more. Getting familiar with the kind of language actual researchers use goes along way in understanding most of the topic of psychology much more meaningfully, and will help you weed out toxic and unhelpful sources in your analysis. For example, if this video were to be your blackpill moment, you might see the word empath and think “how many of those are there in the world? Seems kind of uncommon”, which would lead you to that 2% or less number after a google search and checking out a couple of the sources, then you’d 1: notice the sheer amount of people claiming they are empaths or dark empaths in the comments, and 2: notice that the language they use is almost copy pasted from each other. This is not because they’re empaths all experiencing each others consciousness at the same time, it’s because they’re all the same kind of toxic person getting their confirmation bias tickled. You might not be one of them, maybe I went way too hard on you, but take a second to look around you and see the company you’re keeping. These people are unhinged. Sorry for the novel.
I’m actually writing a story about a protagonist exactly like this, but I never realized that this type of thing had a name. This was really interesting and helpful.
It's not a medical term to begin with. The worst thing the teens who watch this channel could do is spreading it around as a real thing. not even acting as an armchair psychiatrist.
And naturally so. Politicians win election campaigns, after all, by understanding and acting on the feelings of the people. Hence, the winners will usually be high on emotional and cognitive intelligence.
@Attauak Heelioocop I know that, I could never be a politician, the cold blood you need to have to make the decisions they do, to simply sign a letter that will kill hundred of thousands of people for example.
Everyone has intentions. So with empathy it is easier to pursuit the own goals. It is a gift to have empathy and borders. A real empathy is no fake person. Empathy means feel for others.
I believe an empath can be changed into a dark empath if they’ve absorbed enough negative energy that they’ve been dealing with and basically give up caring about others at that point.
Woahhhh I feel like I've unlocked a new acheivment... I'm for sure an empath, I can always tell how someone is feeling and when someones upset I almost always know why without even speaking to them about it. I'm also really good at figuring out why people do certain things on a psychological level. I've never even thought about using this info in a bad way but this made me realize its possible... I've always tried to read people so that I can better help them (which has gotten me into really toxic situations cause I've never learned to accept that I can't fix people). It's like being a waterbender. You have the power to heal and the power to control, and its up to you which power you use.
Dark empath: displays empathy but uses it against you 1. Their kindness feels fake 2. They manipulate you 3. They guilt trip you 4. They love malicious humor 5. They spread rumors
I think I might be one but I stopped being a mean dude back in like 7th grade. 1, 2, and 4 describes me well :( but i try not to manipulate anyone to cause them harm
@@feles_cat Q: Why don’t people in the Middle East teach Driver’s Education and Sex Education on the same day? A: They don’t want to wear out the Camel.
Could be a possibility! She is famous for gaslighting as well. You should look up the “Cinema Therapy” channel about their Tangled review. It’s really well done :)
@Jaden Pereira Nah, I'm sure this channel bases their videos on existing theories in psychology. I don't think this channel is actually making things up. However, I personally find it annoying in general that every little concept or occurrence seems to need a label. I'm admittedly already biased against the term 'empath' since I feel like it's really vague. I mean... almost all of us have empathy. Some may have more than others but how do you measure empathy? When is the 'amount of empathy' enough for someone to be considered an empath? Having terms/labels for every concept in psychology suggests that the human psyche is black and white, and I don't agree with that idea. I think the lines are more blurred than that, and that you can't sort your personality and behavior in little fixed boxes, no matter how good it may feel to put 'empath' in your social media bio. It's just not that simple in my opinion
I'm sorry to tell you that I have two Infjs in my life that I'm really close with, one of them is such a sweetheart, while another manipulate things or situations and people for their own convenience and what best accommodate their current situation . No one knows about this ofcourse I only know because the person actually told me that side of them. So I don't think type actually matters.
Me an INTJ watching this,I have scored moderate to high on the dark triad traits on multiple tests,am high in cognitive empathy too,low in compassionate & affective empathy,but the characteristic features that this video narrated as typical to be displayed by a dark empath isn't like me at all,in fact I try to be as sincere as possible when comforting the people I care about,I'd probably know exactly how to manipulate someone in a situation but simply wouldn't,as my Fi would consider it wrong & I wouldn't do it until it was my only resort🤔 Neither would I indulge in employing guilt trips,malicious humor or spreading rumors(absolutely nasty,my Fi would be against it and my Te simply would consider it inefficient use of time & effort)
@@pb8301 a fellow INTJ, love to see it. That’s the point, we know how to, but we don’t, we spend too much time thinking how we could do this, but we actually do, when someone who was once close, turns toxic, then we use the information we have gathered to make a attack on them lmaoooo. But spend too much time thinking instead
5 Signs of Dark Empath: 1:54 1.) Their kindness often feels fake: 1:57 2.) Their manipulate you: 2:41 3.) They guilt trip you: 3:06 4.) They love malicious humor: 3:24 5.) They spread rumors: 3:49
You mean narcissist. Dark empaths aren't real. As a narcissist, you want to believe you're this cool sounding thing, because well, you're a narcissist. The term dark empath isn't a real clinical term. Now please stop self diagnosing. It makes you look silly.
@@kagaminelen2652 alright, this happened about a year ago, on my freshmen year of highschool. Im a really passive guy so if someone annoys me or physically harms me I usually let them get away with it (except for on 2 occasions). Anyways someone I considered as a friend was in my gym class and we were playing dodgeball, let me tell you a little bit more about this guy, he's kind of a small guy and was on the wrestling team of our highschool, he always acted like he was a badass and would usually do stuff that would physically harm me, I would just tell him off usually as I'm kind of a pushover. Anyways back to the story, we were playing dodgeball and I had a ball in my hand, he kept telling me to give it to him but I didn't and right then the game ended. I said I was sorry and gave him the ball, and unexpectedly he started to walk away with the ball and turned around and whipped the ball full force at my face. When the impact came I saw white, it hit me dead in the nose, now something about me is that I have incredibly bad bloody noses and my nose is extremely sensitive. So my nose started flowing with blood, this got the attention of everyone in the court and the only thing that was on my mind was to not get blood on the court as I know how much work it would be for the janitor, I also knew about the dangers of blood borne pathogens, so I held my nose over my hands to catch all the blood flowing out, I filled both of hands completely with blood before I went with the gym teachers to a place I can get treated. They said I had to let the blood flow until it stopped so I just sat and talked with them, I told them about what happened but a mistake I made was not completely blaming my friend for what happened, anyways we just kept pulling humongous amount of blood clots out of my nose over and over again, another thing to know is that the gym teachers I was with were both football coaches and they had seen their fair share of bloody noses, but they were truly disgusted by the amount of blood coming out of my nose as I could see it on their faces and one said to me "This is the worst bloody nose I have ever seen!" Eventually I was free to go after a while of being in that room as my nose wasn't leaking as badly. I later talked with the kid who threw the dodgeball and told him how pissed I was. He never even said sorry and the only thing to come out of his mouth was "I didn't even throw it that hard". Turns out the school never did anything about it and I don't blame them, it was my fault for not telling them the story straight. Of course my parents were pissed also but I told them its over and done with and there's was no need to complain. I never really got near the guy again understandably. I still had a couple more follow up bloody noses for a week after, I took a picture of one of those follow up bloody noses and still have it in my phone. Anyways that's all I really have to say, I actually had a similar thing happen to me that same year also involving someone throwing something at my face and having a bloody nose, but I would have to write out an essay like this one again. 😅
If memory serves me right... Both are youtubers. Jeffrery is known as a beauty guru. He also sell makeup as well (aside doing review etc). Shane is... Well I'm not sure which he stands for in the RUclips categories. But you two can look them up. There are some article and blogs about them.... Though just be aware that there are a mixed crowds on their... Friendliness and Likability. Take it as you well... 😅
The thing is, Shane had shouted up and down about how he was an empath, how empathetic he was, how hard it was to be an empath, etc, in multiple videos, especially during his "documentaries" or "apologies". Jeffree has never, too my knowledge, directly made the claim. That's why Shane comes to mind first. They're both very dark personalities and manipulators, however. And they both know just how to work their fans.
I believe I used to be a bit of a dark empath. I could easily read other's emotions, their feelings, and used it to my own advantage to get at them. Worked like a charm, got extremely close, really got to know them deep down. Some people just can't resist spilling a few secrets to a close friend, you know? I used everything I gained from them, lying, deception, manipulation, the works. Nothing extremely serious, just rumor spreading and relationship troubles, no lives in danger. Couple years later, started to see how bad that was. It was pretty harsh sometimes which seemed to be entertaining for me back then. I've emotionally matured a lot more, and now I'm just trying to make some close friends, I strive to be that friend that you can talk to about anything, they'll comfort you the best way they can, the kind of friends that your grateful for and make you happy. I realized that makes me more happy inside then the other stuff. I'm doing a lot of stuff I used to do for bad things, getting close to people, knowing their emotions, etc. But I just want to genuinely be close to them in a good way now. Might make up for all the bad stuff too. interesting video :>
In the first half of your comment I hated you Now I don't Hate and I'm happy your trying to be better I know for a fact how harmful your actions must've been cuz I've gone through that with other people Even if lives weren't in danger, relationships must've been destroyed So it's not a small thing I'm not saying drown in guilt I'm pointing how bad it must've been to them and u must not have even realized the true extent I'm happy your changing now pls don't stop 😊
What you are trying to do is what I try to accomplish as well, I gain my satisfaction by the trust that people give me, it makes me feel important. They get the feeling of being understood, good solutions to problems, comfort, advice and the likes
literally anyone ever can realize peoples feelings and use it against them. its even a propaganda tactic. its literally everywhere. theres babies seperated from their parents at the border. ok maybe they are terrible parents for putting their kids through that maybe they are seeking a better life. use the emotional response to propagandize one view or another. divide the voters into teams of speculative bullshit
1. 2:00 their kindness often feels fake 2. 2:43 they manipulate you 3. 3:06 they guilt trip you 4. 3:26 they love malicious humor 5. 3:49 they spread rumors everyone has a lil bit of some of these flaws and that's okay as long as you know about it (especially its negative effects) and try to work towards making it less of an important part of your person if it really is. dont beat yourself up for relating, use this extra knowledge to your advantage :))
I have a person who is really close to me, and I think he's a dark empath.. what actions should I do? I dislike him but I want to help him at the same time, I am really confused right now..
@@frankaustriablas6186 i think the best way to help them would be to talk about it with them (or maybe watch this video together). on your part: -ask to meet face to face -think through and through about concrete examples (but dont insist on showing him proof, or else they could feel like you were purposely framing them). -if you really care about this person enough to value your friendship make sure they understand it when you explain why some things about them are dislikeable and tell them you're worried about them and your relationship -don't turn it into a fight or blame them in any way (make sure to clear your mind before the meetup), even if they are in the wrong to you, the message almost never gets through when both people are in a heated mindset -if you want to keep them in your life, tell them clearly that you are not trying to get rid of them and that you simply wish for them to self-reflect (ask them if they've ever thought about it, their point of view) on their part: -they'll have more insight on themselves from what you tell them and it's up to them to decide if these traits are "part of who they are" or something they ll never fix even for the sake of the friendship this clearly upsets you a lot and if being friends with them takes a toll on your life maybe you should ask for some space from them for a bit (i d say a month or 2 to start), see if a weight feels lifted and if you can see a better future without them in the picture. i know it s harsh but you gotta think about yourself most and foremost (you're not responsible for their actions, it's their own decisions and you cant force someone to be good, it's up to them to make a change or not). i ve learned that sometimes people arent meant to be even if it hurts like hell, don't beat yourself up worrying about others so much, of course talk it out but after clearly communicating through and through, if they do nothing, it's time to move on. anyways you seem like a very nice person i hope things work out, come back again after your meetup if you want to okay? it's okay to feel confused, not everyone has everything figured out, it's normal and part of growing up. letting go is hard, especially when you re hanging on to some amazing memories but remember to be lenient with yourself and not blame yourself either. the hate is stronger when the love is strong, you dislike him while wanting to help him because you still care for him and that's okay, just set some boundaries between the two of you according to what you need in a friend and what you can't accept, see how it works out :)
I would say that it is very unlikely. I am quite socially awkward but have a lot of compassion for others. (Neuroatypical here). But just because my interactions might seem more awkward or uncertain does not mean my compassion is false. I am just bad at reading certain social cues, but I am better than I was when I was little. I actually started laughing at a work colleague's story about her work day. I thought she was mock stressed not really stressed and being humorous and mock upset (sort of frustrated but not actually overwhelmed). Later I realized she was not and I apologized and told her I thought she was mock angry...as a form releasing tension. (My brain often finds stuff most people get angry about really silly so sometimes I might inadvertently laugh but that is because sometimes it seems so minor to me.) However, if I know someone is actually upset I feel very stressed for them and will try to cheer them up. I also do not spread rumors. I hate discussing anyone when they are not present unless it is for something positive like a surprise birthday party. But watching this video made me realize a person I used to work with might be a dark empath. Not socially awkward like me - the opposite, in fact - but people told me she was talking about me behind my back and I could infer that she might have been mocking me. But she always seemed so kind to my face. But then things got more complicated and I did not know who to trust. It lead to me getting quite overwhelmed at work and having a panic attack. Sorry. That was longer than I had intended to write.
I made this for anybody who doesn’t have time to watch the video 1: their kindness feels fake 2: they manipulate you 3: They guilt trip you 4: they love malicious humor 5: they spread rumors I hope this helped :D
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These are ALL narcisstic traits. "Dark empath" may not be the best descriptor of someone with these traits. Personally, I don't see the label "dark empath" as a valid label.
Just cos someone seems like he forces himself into complimenting you doesn't mean they are dark empaths...they might as well be shy when it comes to these things and whenever they try to say something nice, they cringe or feel very vulnerable in that moment that it comes out as not sincere. Or some people have even hard time actually "feeling" the emotion, they are in a happy state, but they're not particularly excited about it, everything feels flat or numb for them, so a compliment from such person might seem like they're not really feeling it, they're just saying it cos that's what you wanna hear. And that's also hurtful to *them*.
its just kinda annoying that even my own friend thinks im being fake when truth is that im just uncomfortable and trying to be polite so the words or actions i show comes out stiff..
I know this feeling way too much, I’ve been called fake because I tried being more excited about giving compliments, I did genuinely want this person to feel better but I guess I tried too hard
I very much dislike empathy. As long as I can remember, I’ve “absorbed “ the feelings of around those around me; therefore, I’ve spent a great deal of time being that guy that everyone comes to when they feel down. It’s hard when you feel sad around so many sad people. It also leaves you open to manipulation.
I’ve learned to never put too much of a burden of someone else’s problem on your shoulders from past experiences. You’d be surprised as to how much people really don’t care about your problems, even when they express it. Also the same ppl you sympathize for are rarely on your side when it is your time of need. Know your worth and try not to compromise yourself to hard for others bro Ik exactly how u feel. I was that guy in the past but no more
Yeah man. It doesn't pay off. I've been that guy for some time now, ever since I realized that I should be doing something to help people around me...but then my wife and I caught covid and this old friend stopped talking to me because I couldn't bring myself to listen to and fix some tiff they were having with their partner and friends. I was like how the hell does that sound like something I'll deal with when I've got my wife to keep alive? Regardless, it makes me happy to do this as long as I can spot these a-holes and avoid them.
You can learn to turn it off, your ability, but it means that sometimes you gotta be an a-hole to be able to 'protect' yourself. If you can do that without later feeling guilty about it, bonus! You can't be everyone's sponge, but you already know that!
I don’t think this term should have ever been created. It’s easy to understand empathy if you understand it. But if the person leans on the ASPD spectrum too that’s basically what a dark empath is. No need for another term.
My sister seems like this, just because she’s only a decent person to anyone not related to her. She is close to a cousin of mine but also treats her badly to the point where my cousin got sick of it and cut ties to her as an adult. Real shame too, as they grew up together and I always thought she liked my cousin.
My ex was kinda similar. I remember everytime id visit her shed be yelling her guts off at her brother. She was extremely violent verbally to him. She would rarely ever talk in a normal tone when saying something to him, like shes always annoyed by him. I remember watching a movie with her in the living room and he wanted to join but she would constantly kick him out. I really hated that, partially cos i remember when i was younger i know i liked spending time with my older sisters friends when they come over. She was definitely the people pleaser type, like she bends over backwards to help you with something or to show you she loves you
@@rotmgdabeatz What if her brother was just an extremely anoying person & otherwise she was an empathetic person that liked to help people~ just not all people
I really hate the fact that I used to be very manipulative and just overall toxic. I luckily realized how hurtful I was being after experiencing it first hand in a relationship, and immediately took a few steps back. I went to therapy for a while which really helped me see myself and other people much more differently, and at one point I went personally to every person that I used to be close to, but I was very toxic towards, and actually apologize and try to make up to them. I wasn’t sad/angry when they turned it down, because I know how hard it is to trust someone after they manipulated you, and hurt you. I’m really in an amazing place now, and I’m so happy that people actually enjoy being around me, and genuinely like and respect me. I have way more kind and caring friends around me, and I feel like I can also give as much as possible to them in a healthy way, and vise versa. Sorry for going on this rant, but getting out of this manipulative and toxic mindset was one of the best things that I have personally accomplished
I am hearing dark empath for the first time and understood it as a personality type and didn't know it can be changed! May I ask, how long did it take to change you?
A "dark" empath just sounds like an empath with their own trauma. Just like with other malevolent personality types, people have the capability to suppress the urge to do these things. At the end of the day, if we can understand other's emotions, we can understand that we are hurting them and choose not to, or to out ourselves so that people feel confident to call us out for being disingenuous. Some people are "dark empaths" AND people pleasers. These traits don't just come from nowhere and we are all fighting something at any given time. People often times pick them up trying to cope. Let's stray away from the term "dangerous" eh? People can grow and change. A more important thing to know is how to protect your OWN emotional well-being. Sure diagnosing the people in your life can help YOU some, but it's more important to learn how to communicate boundaries and protect yourself if that's the concern. Without that part, it's unlikely to help either party. Edit: I am so glad this was helpful to some of you. I want to be clear, I am not saying that anyone is responsible for anyone else. I am also not saying that you should keep toxic people in your life. I am also not saying that there is any excuse for hurting other people. There is a reason, sure, but that doesn't excuse the behavior, ever. All I'm saying is that there are probably people with these traits in your life, and you don't have a clue. They work hard to suppress the urges and choose to communicate honestly and respect your boundaries. They are neither good or bad people. Just people. The video doesn't really show you how to deal with the people in your life, it just tells you that these are bad people. That's why I said what I said about clear communication and boundary setting. If you avoid everyone that obviously sucks, then great. But you're probably less aware of the people who could suck, but don't. If you identify with these traits, like I do, know that you can be better and that emotionally balanced relationships are infinitely more blissful and rewarding for everyone involved. Toxic relationships are terrible, and you should not stay in one for any reason. If they are not showing meaningful change, or you simply don't want to wait, you absolutely shouldn't.
very true, people don’t fit into neat little categories like this, even when it comes to personality disorders. narcissist/empath stuff is pretty much just pop psychology lol
Most of the people pleasers I know have been neglected throughout their childhood and begging for attention seems to be the only thing they have left to distract them from that reality.. kinda makes sense since no one would really want something if they had it in the first place.
Great video, thanks. I’m an empath, I had a friend who was a dark empath. I’m glad it’s thing of the past. As psychologist I want to add, not all signs are essential to identify, 1-2 of these are good, for you to walk away from dark empaths
Many people who identify as “empaths” are people who’ve survived complex childhood trauma and most likely had to manage a parents emotions growing up. It’s our job to practice boundaries so we aren’t being taken advantage of… if you identify as an empath, it’s most likely because you don’t have boundaries around compassion, care, affection and love.
Yep. First two men my mother married physically abused her. Third one abused my sister and I, and belittled our other sibling. I developed panic attacks around age 16-18. I wasn't raised by a mother or a father, as my father was homeless and usually involved with drugs. My mother was either working or having myself and my sister watched by a baby sitter or after school teacher. The ability wasn't chosen it was stricken into me. I feel others emotions without needing to. If someone is generally distressed in tears I absorb that. I feel it. Sometimes it can become my own emotion just from feeling it. I'm tired of these fake ass empaths. They're not real and have not had childhood trauma.
@@mailboxxy I’m really sorry you had to deal with that, you absolutely did not deserve it. It is something that your brain and especially your body remember from having to keep up with everyone else. That’s not fair to you, it wasn’t back then and it isn’t now. I hope you are able to find healthy relationships and also validate those experiences you had as a child. Healing is a long journey and having boundaries around your energy and what you’re taking on is something you have to do each moment. I believe in you and I’m sending you so much love and care from afar. I’m rooting for you
@@mailboxxy I've been through quite a bit as child to were I did develop strong empathy for others. I was a really nice kid but with the family drama, abuse, and mental neglect, I go to the point were my emtions were no longer mine. They were everybody's around me and it's a consuming feeling. Being a empath has led to me to depression, anxiety, natural fear of people, and etc. because I never knew how to separate my emotions from the swarm around me. Although, it's been incredibly useful. I might not be able to pinpoint my emotions right off the bat (yet) but I am most definitely able to feel and relay exactly what other people feel. I've helped a lot of people and as long as I can I will continue to help but with boundariesthis time.
I've always known I was a dark person, and known exactly how to read people. However, I make an active choice to never misuse it because I hate hurting people. *With great power, comes great responsibility.*
@@OrbitalPulsar I actually laugh at some of the memes people make about that tragic events. And usually the song “September” by EWF would play on my mind. Ik im effed up sometimes
As a dark empath I enjoy turning people against each other and feeding on their confusion and sorry. Their leftover tears are used to power my Genesis device, granting me eternal youth.
I'm a dark empath but I REALLY don't care about others and I know exactly what others are thinking and can know anything about'em in by observation (PLAINLY) I don't think I exploit it even though I really want to sometimes a part of me knows that its a BIG waste of time.
Take all of this with a grain of salt. No one listed as part of this has any background in psychology, at least from what I could find looking them up. Most psychologists hate terms like "dark empath" because it attributes morality. You're insulting people who have psychological issues that lead them to these behaviors, and subconsciously tell them they can't be fixed. They're just a dark person. More though, this whole video is just talking about psychopaths and sociopaths and rebranding them as dark empaths. Which is why the referred study (Heym and associates) doesn't have much weight in the psychology world. Then on top of this, trying to teach people in under 5 minutes how to spot one based on behaviors? This video is just going to start a lot of unfounded fights between friends and loved ones.
Thank you! People are taking these RUclips Hobby Psychology videos waaaay too serious. All these comments of people trying to 'diagnose' people they don't like as 'dark empaths'.. It's ridiculous. These videos are for enertainment puropses only. You can't diagnose someone with RUclips videos lmao
i am not disagreeing with you but just to say: the references worked for me, you just have to take off the dot at the end before copy-pasting it (if that makes sense) also sorry for my english ^^ have a nice day ~
I agree with you. This is a very misinformed video. I've written several books about Empathy and Empaths, on Llewellyn Worldwide. Empathy REQUIRES a "compassionate response" that is genuine. There is such thing as a flustered/overwhelmed/snappy Empath, but not a "Dark Empath," because it's a contradiction. Empathy REQUIRES emotion and compassion, so the people spoken of in this video are exploiters of empathy; NOT Empaths of any variety.
I see so many comments like "my friend is like this, my family member is like this" etc.. Learning to guard against predatory behavior is wise, but don't label people or diagnose them because you notice similar behavior. I think, most of all, learn from these videos about yourself, so you can recognize your own tendencies..
Yea. Honestly I get scared and super self aware of my own habits. And i start thinking to myself “am I the one who’s actually manipulative? Am I just not realizing it and other people see me for who I really am but I don’t?” Thoughts like that scare the hell outta me. But at least this video shows me I’m not a dark empath lol
@@luisburgos7365 the fact that you're even worried about your possible behavior, shows that you're pretty leveled out. It's when you're in denial about a personality trait that is cause for concern, ironically. Everyone alive is capable of being manipulative or predatory in some fashion, it doesn't always put you in a category. Hell, many people fake empathy without having an angle.. Sometimes it's just common decency. It doesn't make them sociopaths. How you act on your capabilities is what defines you.
Right! They could’ve just said the greater narc VS. the SUPER EMPATH instead of using new fake terms. The only “dark side” of the empath is when we FINALLY decide to stick up for ourselves and others going into supernova mode! We have to then turn the narcissist tactics back onto them as a mirror for their own insecurities with the element of surprise that the narcissist didn’t know we were capable of causing MAJOR narc injuries so bad they won’t even want to return! They just run off to new supply instead of healing themselves by facing their true selves after soul fragmentation.
@@moodyringtarotllc1624 this description is spot on. Like my last relationship, my narc couldn’t BELIEVE I would leave him And give up so completely and utterly overnight after years of tolerance and blind love
Can’t wait for people to label themselves as dark empaths thinking they’re some emo anime protagonist when in reality they’re just cringe to the max and back
They are going to reply with a link from a TikTok video they uploaded where they dance in the background while in the front they are going to have something sort of "I'm Dark Empath, I'm bad bla bla" and they will hope to get views this way.
I've started learning about dark empath today and it seems to fit me, but no, I don't think I'm some emo anime protagonist, in fact I'm not emo at all and yes I agree those people are cringe.
@@MP-ut6eb yeahh theyre not too kind to be sure, so perhaps quite the fitting name.I donot believe i am acting superior as that would require me to think i was good or amazing where in alot of different ways on a daily basis im very much struggling to improve myself, there are several tests you can have done and if youre truthful then it should be showing signs of how much of dark personal trait cluster is in you and mine came out 0,3% so Im definitely alot less than perfect but i am not in any way mean, i enjoy helping most people and animals i meet. Also I generally dont take much part in name calling but people with npd can cause some serious harm in the lives of others though i do mostly feel bad for them as they to some extent are hollow and can never fully feel love, unless they seek treatment or try to selfimprove, im codependent and empathic, and no as it is rn im quite far removed from being anything dark, but i do hope i never will get closer as well. Also even an asshole can call another asshole an asshole, and even a good person can once in a blue moon call someone else that even without putting themselves on a pedestal, as we are all merely human and most of us mess up on a daily basis in a multitude of ways, much definitely myself included sadly.
I am experiencing the aftermath of such personality in current working life. Operating ups and downs without my notice until my responsibilities were snatched away and transferred to her. Pretending to be a caring person for her ultimate purposes. By the way, dark empathy has strong correlation to levels of IQ and EQ. Need to be aware of one with very good academic records and abnormally strong sense of empathy. However, not everyone with these signs are dark empathy. Continuous monitoring would be a way to find out.
Metaphorically I was... Or am. I'm very draining to be around, especially if I try. Never managed more than 2 minutes with another while being myself. So I'm not crazy, just a right bastard to be near who hurts others without trying.
I think this video has helped me understand my own internal workings just a bit better, not to say that I am a dark empath but to say I am not unfamiliar with any of these red flags in my own behaviour even among my best moments, in spite of my constant attempts to be better than I have been.
This is only scratching the surface... or trying to There are a lot of people with different circumstances that might end up being kind, but sounding shallow... because of their own trauma and insecurities.
I know this feeling all too well. Like trying to compliment someone just to be told that you’re only doing it to boost your own ego really sucks, like obviously that’s always going to be a factor but I believe if you’re trying to make someone feel better because it’s the right thing to do then that’s great, but if you’re doing it just to feel better about yourself that’s just wrong. The grey area is when you’re doing something because it’s the right thing but you’re afraid that if you keep doing it, you’ll grow into the kind of person that only helps others for their gain. I think that would be an interesting topic to cover.
@@thedolphinlover4859 What about a person like me, whom helps others because other's well-being will eventually help my well-being, but I also feel good helping people? I help others for personal gain, AND to feel good about myself doing so, plus they enjoy it as well.
@@thedolphinlover4859 You're conflating a certain philosophy (altruism) with psychology. To understand what Dark Empath meant is not to just treat it like a thou shalt text. Don't think just because the intention is "selfish" that you're gonna assume that a person is bad or that its a sign of a dark empath. Its way more complicated than that, your take on it is too dogmatic and is really gonna affect your entire view in Psych, just like so many people. First, leave your philosophy of selfless = good, selfish = bad outside the door, and instead define the goal as: To Understand Behavior > which is what Psychology was supposed to be about (thanks to american politics and shitty psych EXPERTS for degrading that) Dark Empath is supposed to be a bridge between Psychopathy and Typicals. Remember Psych treats these idea as Typicals vs Atypicals (not good vs evil) Empath Typicals falls to certain categories (Physical, Emotional, Animal, Plant...) It means that a dark empath is fully capable of sensing and feeling any of these, and if needed be they can adapt psychopathy. Now that you understand that, let's get back to our main goal, identifying them: First, let's define psychopathy, specifically adaptive psychopathy: Natural lack of remorse/guilt + inability to tend to other certain feelings (original definition, not the random bullshit from psych blogs) The adaptive version of this being that: these traits shows under certain circumstances. And i hate giving examples because people take this out of context every damn time but here: Edmund Kemper murdered his grandparents as a child and was sent to juvenile, not long he was observed to be showing perfect typical behaviour and was released by psychiatrists when he turned adult. This trait will be seen with every victim he met before proceeding to continue his murder spree. The reason? Because he really has empathy but to tend to his disturbed past he could adapt psychopathic behavior to carry out what he did. Notice that to identify DE is to identify genuine empathy and then identify psychopathy. This comes in phases: Typicality -> Impulsive/Premeditated Amoral Action -> Signs of Psychopathy. Remember this could literally have nothing to do with selfishness or feeling good about oneself, Psychopaths don't feel good, they feel less, hence their immoral actions are often pleasure seeking. If you understood what i said, you'll realize that it has no connection to the idea that *to feel good about oneself* is wrong, neither is this about the intention or manipulation: a psychopath could pretend to be typical but in realiry they're being cunning and manipulative, but a Dark Empath may not be pretending. (doesn't also disregard the fact that they could) So, even if you feel a person is being shallow with compliments in order to feel good about themselves, remember this falls under typical behaviour. (which i despise philosophically, not all typicals are good) If what your pretense here is your philosophy then fine, but just be informed please. Psychology is full of idiots who've turned this field upside down, I'm working on an abstract to slam all of these false pretenses that has been pushed within the field which is mind numbing people.
I may come off as agressive here but remember I'm not mad at you. I'm mad at Psych Experts who've turned to blog writing and create these random D&D types of lore on well established psychological topics, and confusing everyone. Remember, there are people with credibility who does this often to get clicks or support from political figures.
Although the dark triad is a well-researched personality type LOW in empathy, “Dark Empath” is just a new buzzword made up less than a year ago. It is not a good thing to pre-judge people and put them in a category like this based on a collection of traits. It’s another weaponized word you can use to character assassinate someone and then burn a bridge the lazy way.
Have you ever heard of Dark Empath? We hope to bring some insight on this topic. If you want to learn more about the dark triad, we have a video on that too: ruclips.net/video/kvJDkPKbaLE/видео.html
Nope-
Never heard of it, no.
Thank u for everything. After the day i started watching u guys my life changed thank u😘
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Nope glad to know now
Empathy means you can understand people. What you do with that ability is whole different story.
Edit: a lot of comments here. Seems that i should have specified the difference between cognitive empathy and emotional empathy. But I didn't know when i wrote this comment lol.
not only, it's also feeling what they feel. that's why we talk about cognitive empathy here, it's because you can understand the person but you don't feel it.
They sound so similar to Narcs IDK. But all this ish is unhealthy!
@@pofficial3345 is this bad? What if you know how someone feels but don't know how to react about it? I'm confused lmao
@@a-lonley-box3657 it’s okay if you don’t know how to react but using someone’s feelings against them to achive your own goals it’s not okay
@@mira6494 i do this often.
moral of the video: dont trust anybody with an orange scarf
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I suppose if you’re worried about being a dark empath then you can’t be. Because you genuinely care
Okay thank you for this comment, it made me feel better about myself
@@Strawberry-9019 Okay thank you for this comment, it made me feel better about myself
I am a dark empath
@@xhstan How do you know?
I didnt care until i read your comment. Then i didnt care at all lol >:)
"If you notice at the end of every argument or discussion that only their needs are met, they may be manipulating you." -> that's powerful!
Fake kindness, manipulation, guilt seeding, malicious humor (to belittle you), spreading rumors.
Other than the last one, I've seen the other 4 in some people who I know...
Relationships of personal life r dfrnt types relationships r all based we all. But Outside ppl as service giver taker relationships, strangers unknown ppl fr a while etc we r supposed to b formal humanity holder fr all, may we understand them or not may we feel them or not, they r never own ppl just lawfully using them wth no wrong all humanity, normal.
Every sensitive person that had an evil feeling once after watching this:
"Maybe i am a monster"
so what if im the monsTAAAAHHHH ok ill leave bye
Oh god. This was me the entire time while watching this video. I am a monster. I sad
I have this thought at least once a day :)
Lmaoo
Im not a dark empath.I think im just toxic to the people i want to be toxic to :]
FYI: not everyone who is a dark empath will act like this. People are not animals and have self-control. Someone with these traits can choose to suppress their urges or act on them just like how someone with anger issues can learn to walk away from confrontation, so can the dark empath learn to behave in non-harmful way. They are not all good or all bad, like everyone else on planet earth. As humans, we all have to ability to think and feel without acting. There is no point in demonizing everyone with a certain characteristic.
This is an important comment.
You are right. But we should still be cautious.
Maybe the Key is to know when they lose to their urges if they are sincerely trying to suppress them.
Or correct their bad personality if you can?
Right. Using your powers for good and whatnot.
@@saltychebs im not sure you understand it right, dark empath means u know what the other person feels but you dont necessarily feel for them so you can act selfishly without remorse and get ur way but some people can decide to not be totally selfish because of awareness they are not sadists who enjoy misery
Yes, thank you for that clarification. I feel so much better about myself now 😌
In short, these people are not truly dangerous from violent humour and such
*They are dangerous because they actually listen*
I need someone who listens to me-
@@xavierfrancis2425 for me it's more like I can open up more to people who don't know me or ik I can talk to ig? But like not people who care about me😂
@@golgappasingh4141 well im ok rn🥺
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@@xジク Good to know❤️😘
*as a dark empath* i feel the need to nuance this; even though we are capable of the things mentioned in this video, we can still be very functioning. Eg. my parents gave me a VERY strong moral compass, that always guides me back whenever me instincs are malicious. So for me I have the thoughts and understand humans very well, but i dont misuse it since I know its wrong. A big part of me wants to, but I hold back. Im married and have kids and never let my shadows affect those around me. Im also fully transparent with my wife about how my mind works, but she knows that i shut that part down and do what i KNOW is right. and therefore you can still make it work as a dark empath
I think I’m a combination of dark and sorrowful empath. The sorrow is the hardest to deal with. As far as being a dark empath I completely agree with you. It’s always tempting, but you know deep down in your heart that it is wrong and destructive.
Dark Empaths are with a strong moral compass are actually great vs Non-empathic Narcissists and Abusive Personalities. Dark Empaths are the best because they can sense the feelings of those being afflicted and rise to meet the Narcissist head on to protect those they have learned to care about.
@@robertalexstormexactly. A lot of times as a dark empath I can sense and observe when someone is using empathical tactics for personal gain and expose the true intentions.
@@robertalexstormnot only that but sense when something said is going to take a turn for worse on someone specifics emotions and steer it away before it goes there
you're not a dark empath lol stop watching anime, you're not him
Ah, the typical personality found in high school students.
I can confirm that I am in highschool
@Jessica Stein yep sounds about right it's a well known fact that highschool suck
Nah, they are usually mean af
@undelete this You be in their place, Like bro, dark empaths can take revenge, as a person who was a dark empath when i was realllyyy sadistic before, Its easier for them than you think.
Actually though! It’s why personality disorders can’t be diagnosed until young adulthood.
In Adolescence people are going from the evolutionarily necessary full self absorption of early childhood and learning empathy and to grow out of it.
It stands to reason that some who are actually quite empathetic haven’t matured enough to use that gift for good.
Some will never grow out of it. Some will.
But yes, adolescents are genuinely a little more evil.
As a dark empath this video helped me hide my true intentions better, thanks
Nice👍🏼
@@havoc666 same lol
I hope you find this comment in a few years and cringe as hard as I am right now
@@specialknees6798 one can hope.
@@specialknees6798 I'm pretty sure they were joking..
the main way how to recognize dark empath is that he/she wears a scarf everywhere
just say they
@@soycause what's wrong with how he said it?
@@s-metrics6431 they them pronouns are more inclusive gender wise + it takes less time to say/type :D
@@noabutterfly2607 Enjoy it while it lasts it's all I'm going to tell you.
@S-METRICS they is literally gender neutral?
I had a friend who was a dark empath, I realized this later on, and I don’t talk to him anymore. I feel a lot better now.
how did you realoze it ?
The worst thing is you can’t tell if you’re one fully because to understand whether you’re one, you need outside perspective
I am happy I am not one of them.
At the same time, you could get one from a dark empath themselves.
I feel as if all that kind of reflects me except I don't spread runmors
I thought so at first, too, because the first point is a little vague.
I personally feel like a lot of empaths are people pleaser, which doesn't mean we aren't sincere, but sometimes it seems blurry in moments of insecurity.
BUT I think the following points do make it rather clear.
I feel horrible, hurting other people, even if it is an accident and even if it is with people I don't really like.
Acting selfish to accomplish sth by consciously hurting others, I couldn't do that.
I think that maybe the difference.
@@pyrtemptationxxo5524 that's a good point sometimes I feel like I might be manipulating someone but I still don't want to hurt them....
"They sound forced when giving you compliments."
Me who's not used to giving compliments but tries to give it to my friends when they're feeling insecure: 😓😢
The huge difference can be felt in a voice, and it's definitely not the same when someone who is shy gives a compliment, and when a manipulator does it. Don't worry ♡
@@anelliel I see what you mean, but not being used to giving compliments isn’t the same as being shy, though. One can be extroverted and not be accustomed to handing out compliments because of stuff like growing up in a household where that wasn’t the norm. Manipulators are what they are bc they’re good at it. So saying manipulators “sound forced” noticeably could be harmful to people who highkey do force themselves out of their comfort zone in order to compliment their loved ones, ‘cause now it can lead them to question their own motives. And it can push their Loved ones to question their motives too, vice versa.
@@FaerieElethia True! I like your explanation, and thank you for this. Instead of "sound forced" might be better to state that manipulators "sound fake" while giving compliments, but it's really hard to notice since they are good actors.
And now after watching this video your friends might start to think you have malicious intents..
You'll be fine as long as your intentions are good. People pick up on energy that's why in an instance where someone actually is being malicious, the other person feels uneasy or disconnected from what the manipulator is saying. If you are not doing that they will likely write it off as nerves or nervousness, which is what it is given you are forming a new habit. 😉
5 signs of a dark empath:
1. Their kindness often feels fake
2. They manipulate you
3. They guilt trip you
4. They love malicious humor
5. They spread rumors
I'm soooooo confused! So a narcissistic person!!??
@@pourladentelle a narcissistic empath
Ngl, this is me. But like. Not?
@@KAMS1198 same gurl
@@KAMS1198 I think, as a dark empath, we are being misrepresented by her list of "signs". I mean yeah I use those but not like all the time. 3:)
I am VERY empathical (or however you say it) and will cry at anything remotely sad. I am also very good with knowing emotions and how people respond to different things. I don't abuse these powers in the way a dark empath does, but it is a useful tool to pursade.
Edit: The craziest part is that I'm in introvert yet I know more about socializing than some extroverts I know. Please if someone could tell me why that is
I'm not sure but maybe ur observant and since ur an introvert u know what to do while socializing with other people who aren't introverts?
I am an introvert too and I'm just like you and this is what I feel but yours might be different idk 😅
Your a latent psychopath, jk. This video is bullshit. Anyone and everyone has good and bad qualities. We are born into a corrupt world and quickly become corrupt ourselves perpetuating the cycle of pain.
No literally same. I've just summed it up to I'm always listening to other people socializing and subconsciously making mental notes. I hate socializing but I can when I need to because I'm always observing interactions between others and how doing or saying a certain thing will result. Thats just what I've come up with cause I've asked myself the same question lol
Being introverted does not necessarily mean being unable to socialize. Having social skills and choosing to socialize or not are two different things. You might have more social skills than an extrovert, but you might not choose to socialize or charge your social battery by spending your time alone. Or you could just be an ambivert.
Introverted or extroverted isn't relevant to being an Empath. In 2007 scientists discovered that when people talk face to face for around 10 minutes, the limbic systems of their brains fall into rhythm with each other. They synchronize. The limbic system is the primary emotional processing/routing/filtering center of the brain.
Empaths sync immediately, deeper, and can do it over greater distances. They/we tend to lack the ability to filter extra information...so we get overwhelmed by both happy and negative high energy environments. Some of us love high energy, but we still need a daily retreat to recharge, re-balance.
To tell if an emotion is yours or not, someone else's emotions will only be felt in your chest, upper back, shoulders, and maybe back of neck.
Your emotions will come from your center of gravity a couple inches below the navel called the Hara or Dan Tien. You will feel it in the hips, abdomen, entire back, chest shoulders, neck and head. Basically your entire torso.
From head to your thighs, it's your time to cry.
Shoulders and chest belong to the rest.
Hope that helps!
If your fake kindness feels fake to others, you’re not doing it right.
LMFAO DARK EMPATH GANG
But sometimes I got tired doing it lol. 🤣🤣 sometimes I just want to be myself.
@@Krashevil cringe af
@@Krashevil yep fr, cringe af
@@Krashevil stfu
“Have you met someone who is a dark empath?”
Yup. Its called toasty. Its a cat that i live with who likes being pet but when it looks like it wants pets, even rubbing on my leg, when i try to pet it, it scratches my hand badly. I dont like this cat
Lol
Noo no, that's just a narcissist. 😂
give it away you dont have to keep an animal you dont like
😂😂😂yeah toasty is very manipulative
@@goreobsessed2308 bruh all cats do that and it takes time to them to open up if everyone was to give away cats like this no one would have cats.
Ok but the orange person actually looked kinda cute and cool with that scarf.
That's how they get you
I guess that's the point...
Thats the point...
He manipulated you to think that
@@andyd5762 lmao damn you beat me to it 😭 I was literally about to type that
An empath is someone who believes the thoughts in their head are indicative of other people’s feelings or emotions. Run!
Their kindness feels fake: my entire school. We have this positivity program and people try to act nice to be nice not because they are.
fake it until it becomes real.
Sounds like a field day for me .
@@Amynity i was just about to say: what else am i supposed to do? there is just so many people i dont actually care about but there is this kind of expectation in society to care about people. so you are just nice because you have to be. you dont get by on being snarky and telling people what you think. i dont put up a fascade for malicious intentions, but because its the easy way to navigate life.
@@Thundermikeee Easy way to navigate life ? If everyone is putting up the nice mask and playing it , how do you know who really is nice , who is your friend truly or partner , who can you trust and who uses you ? Dont confuse a civilised coexistence with the illusionary bubble-rainbow world that festers today , it created more anxiety , depression and suffering that the hardest and cruellest parts of our past , and when it pops it will be even more messy .
@@MrOssyan yes easy. to be polite and nice, to smile and to not tell people they are idiots when they are idiots makes life a lot easier.
and you can tell by their actions, after all do their motives matter if they support you and have your back? besides the mask doesnt hold up under close inspection. the mask is the " hey how are ya doing? im doing fine too, thanks for asking." type things. or again not saying what you think.
“Their kindness feels fake”
Me, genuinely always trying not to come off as passive-aggressive: *it’s not me it’s not me it’s not me*
They _did_ say not to jump to conclusions, and that the fakeness could be other things (people-pleaser, for example)
@@Motishay How did you invert my reply box!?
Its u
@@praesidiumemosie6678 in some languages, the write from right to left, instead of left to right.
@@gravykinss I know but it ain't that, every other thing I've come across doesn't invert my reply box man
Man the artstyle is so relaxing it’s wonderful :>
I agree :D
I'm glad you like it
I feel like that's the idea
ikr
I know right?
thanks to this video i just realized i dated a dark empath for almost 2 years of pure hell.
I don’t socialize enough to determine anything about myself or others lol
Sorry guys, I actually have friends now and learned how to socialize…
i acknowledge this struggle 😞✊
We should hang out
Yea me too
FELT THAT
No socialize=no dark empath
People who refuse to apologize and instead say "it's JUsT a jOke."
Schrodinger's douchebag is what they're called
iTs juSt a pRanK brO
you are so lame, bro.
it's just a joke.
Because it is just a joke
They did that on me once.
I left immediately and never talked to them again after making drama then saying it's a joke If you confront them about it
I think if someone with a "dark empath" personality knows how to control themselves, they can be the most effective leaders and decision makers. The most dangerous people are often the heavy-hitters in life because they have that darkness within them and know how to use it in the right way.
exactly.
Most effective leaders are prob like this
Especially effective generals and commanders in wars, they know how to use your emotions to motivate you into battle, effective empaths care too much for peoples lives to do that.
Well what am I an Angel, i can't control my shit and can't even social (well I'm noisy in internet) but srly am i an angel?
I also covered this in another comment here too... You are correct.
"Unfortunately... I do have dark empathic traits and have had a history of doing such things. There's a lot more to it though than it just being something we enjoy doing. Or like we do it on purpose. A lot of what happens to make a dark empath is many years of trauma and betrayal, typically in childhood.
So please don't try to paint them as a monster like this. It's not as black and white. Years of therapy and introspection can allow a dark empath to center themselves and regain their sense of humanity and worth. A lot of what these traits are projecting is a lack of love of self, so they attempt to mask that self hatred and esteem issues by helping and caring for others, and unfortunately when that fails it results in rejection of failure and accountability.
As a dark empath myself, I have learned to understand that the trauma and pain that may dictate my actions can be mended and controlled. You can bring them back away from the toxicity of their habitual coping mechanisms.
So please, understand it's much, much more than this."
With that said, knowing myself and understanding these traits has definitely allowed me to be a viable leader for those who need a.mentor and someone to help them stand confidently on their own feet. I apply this by being an artist who drives and runs my own community of other artists who have their own issues with self esteem and work accountability.
It's useful when you can use these abilities for good. Thank you for understanding.
The problem with these educational mental health videos is that the traits are very general fairly relatable. This makes it easy for people to ascribe themselves as whatever type of person is described. In short, there's way more than 20% of people in these comments that now think that they're dark empathy. And while some are taking it to a positive direction, saying now they know how to be better now, many are crushed even further with this knowledge.
Try to bring this knowledge to the people while also teaching ways to work around, avoid, or heal from these problems
Plottwist: The narrator is Dark Empath. She is trying to manipulate you, to not trust your friends...
Joke aside. Interesting to have this video in my recommendation...
Ikr... I got this video in my recommendation. I think RUclips knows what’s up. 😂
Lol random but her voice is soothing. I like it
RUclips tryna call us out with these recommendations lol
(deppression)
I am totally fine!
Ah, yes so Shane Dawson wasn't lying when he was saying he was an empath
LMAO
Insulting every other existing dark empath
I came here just to comment this 😂
God damn it, I was gonna say this
The way dark empaths are described it seems they are the most dangerous and evil kind of person on earth. More evil and more dangerous than a psychopath whom I consider the most evil kinds of people imaginable. There's no way I can see Shane no matter how fucked up he is as on par to the evilness inside of a psychopath.
This person I see fits more of a dark empath would be Mark Zuckerberg. It would finally explain his cognitive dissonant personality though. His genius and his "compassionate humanity" is ultimately bringing down modern day civilization destroying social interactions and replacing it with cheap imitation knock off "social interactions" causing a massive amount of people to display ADHD like traits and stirring vanity and false happiness in people never before seen anywhere in history and its only going to advance as technology grows stronger.
Everyone in the comments: “Well of course I know him. He’s me.”
"Ah yes, every highschool teenager have this personality"
Fuck off kids, being a psycho is not fun and cool, its horrifying
Ngl
That was me the whole time-
I did have a dark personality since oh, before you where born...
@@mrdrakenius1 Sorry but I was born way before 2004, get outta here kiddo
@@DefinetelyNOTtheFeds Facts
In psychology there is no such thing as a dark empath. This is just someone who is mentally unhappy seeking revenge. That is not empathetic.
Spot on.
"their kindness often feels fake"
*sweats*
"they may just be a people pleaser"
phew... wait it doesn't make it better
Yet not worse!
Eyyy join the club
Lmao. Had a similar reaction
Glad to know I'm not the only one who felt called out. 😅
Ditto 😅
" 5 Signs of a Dark Empath"
Me, an empathic African American: *nervous sweating*
Hilarious
Lol
I was like 'huh?'.....and then it hit me lmfao
Looool OOF
Bruh I'm black too and it took me far longer than it should have to get the joke
1. Their kindness often feels fake 1:56
2. They manipulate you 2:41
3. They guilt trip you 3:06
4. They love malicious humor 3:24
5. They spread rumors 3:49
I hope I could help! (:
Tysm it was helpful! Btw I think you're the first comment. XD
@@sylvie5403 yep their comment was made a day ago
@Joseph wtf ?
Thanks
You watched it before everyone, like yesterday
As an INFJ who’s done this to somebody before (I can not stand that I did this, but want to share it) I want to share a situation I had like ones described in this video
I have an amazing home life, and I’ve had a passion for helping people for several years now. It’s so easy to use that to get what I want. You play a little night in shining armor, slowly grow closer, and from there it’s all about the wording and how much to take. If done “well”, the victim is never, ever going to know that they were played. No guilt tripping, manipulation, rumors, or anything. They’re 100% blind, walking into the jaws of a shark thinking it’s an escape.
I look back on the situation where I did this to somebody and want to smack myself across the face, I hate that I did that and never want to do it again. I just wanted to comment this as a follow up sorta thing, to confirm this point Psych2Go made (Not to say they were insincere). Be careful, and be aware out there people
can you share the specifcs?
With great empathy comes great responsibility
This is exactly what I would have said. Empathy is generally a gift, but if one uses it for malevolent purposes, it can be rather destructive.
@@ubilwilbur4775 Does a empath who just doesnt care and instead of being malevolent, distance themself falls to the category of dark empath?
@@Michael-um4kv No, that's just cognitive empathy, not dark empathy. All's good as long as no harm is caused.
haha... I am more scared of myself than normal right now...
im gonna put some guilt in your eye
“They love malicious humor”
my inner voice: *sweats aggressively*
LOL (litteraly) ruclips.net/video/cnXAtEGzgtM/видео.html
Shiet same can't even have a laugh anymore if it ain't far fetched humour
Malicious humor.. uh oh, dont be a pussycat , until it's really fun and noone is really hurt it should be fine
Nagasaki 2: electric boogaloo
@@veretxnerd983 cmon that’s just destructive I was expecting someone to get freaking shot in the foot or something would’ve been wayyyyy funnier
The “dark empath” sounds more like a vulnerable narcissist and not at empathic in any way.
They’re both really, once you realize that empathy is double sided it becomes extremely obvious
@@RickyRiceB I guess that's why they attract empaths🤔.. I'm still struggling with the idea if they can actually be helped/healed or for ever doomed.. What do you think?
@@briibrii4524 I had a friend that ended up losing close to all her friends because of all the emotional manipulation, and from what I hear from mutuals is that she’s cleaned her act up a bit
@@RickyRiceB Hmm that's good to hear, pretty hopeful for others whom struggle with the traits.. But was she narcissistic or NPD tho? (cause that's actually what I mean🤭)
I was thinking the same, my mom is a narcissistic and this is so like her is disgusting
I knew this was going to make me think of myself and I still felt sick when it did haha. But I can watch in retrospect my empathetic self turn more and more defensive due to familial (and some friendships) abuse. I always had a slapstick trickster sense of humor but only as far as nobody actually getting hurt. As soon as it looked actually painful or the person was in real distress I'd flip right over to crying with them. I've had to commit to choosing sincerity at the expense of a preferred outcome in many situations, but if I'm not on top of myself I can be too strategic to be genuine and I never respect myself when I act that way - I'm always ashamed when I guilt trip or choose my needs over the greater good. Confessing and apologizing outright and then getting to watch people learn to trust you is a very empowering experience because you realize integrity is so much more meaningful. Self-assuring tactics leave you in lonely, strained relationships - you might as well just be alone at that point, or admit blatantly what you're really looking for is help/attention/validation/etc
having empathy sometimes is not being an empath, you're not an empath, no real empath would ever actually say they are because real empaths don't like that burden and wish they didn't have it
i said "my empathetic self", not even "my empathic self" - far from saying "as an empath..." I'm not sure why you felt the need to say "you're not an empath" to a comment like mine nor what that says about _you_ but if you'd paid attention I had carefully sidestepped "i'm An Empath" language bc 1) i don't claim to be and 2) i'm a little critical of the concept if an "empath" as a (diagnosable let alone literal) entity in the first place. All that being said, just like _you_ said, being empathetic is certainly a thing and probably a sufficient enough quality to be able to relate to at least some of this video.
@@skybug1706 it’s not enough, because despite the similarity in root word, the kind of empathy that regular people can experience vs the kind of empathy that empaths experience are worlds apart, and different enough to warrant an entirely different word. Regardless, you’re incredibly misguided if you found this video to be anything but extremely harmful and pandering.
where would you suggest I educate myself?
@@skybug1706 the bad faith answer would be a real psych degree, or 3, but unfortunately formal education can be pretty brutal for a lot of people to get their hands on. Pop psych is a cancer on the minds of anyone hoping to understand themselves or anyone else better, because channels like this and websites like psychology today are founded in confirmation bias and a desperate need to feel validated and externalize their toxicity onto others. Ironically enough, what I would start with is google. When you think of topics you are interested in, look up research. Look up numbers, and if you have the patience, read from the DSM-V. It has a lot of clinical language, and it’s not really meant for light reading, but it has some incredibly interesting descriptions and also a rich context provided for every disorder that includes testing methods, comorbidities, false diagnosis tendencies, and a lot more. Getting familiar with the kind of language actual researchers use goes along way in understanding most of the topic of psychology much more meaningfully, and will help you weed out toxic and unhelpful sources in your analysis. For example, if this video were to be your blackpill moment, you might see the word empath and think “how many of those are there in the world? Seems kind of uncommon”, which would lead you to that 2% or less number after a google search and checking out a couple of the sources, then you’d 1: notice the sheer amount of people claiming they are empaths or dark empaths in the comments, and 2: notice that the language they use is almost copy pasted from each other. This is not because they’re empaths all experiencing each others consciousness at the same time, it’s because they’re all the same kind of toxic person getting their confirmation bias tickled. You might not be one of them, maybe I went way too hard on you, but take a second to look around you and see the company you’re keeping. These people are unhinged. Sorry for the novel.
I’m actually writing a story about a protagonist exactly like this, but I never realized that this type of thing had a name. This was really interesting and helpful.
Oh wow that seems an exciting storyline :)
Woah same-
I feel bad I can't show the world this story because I have no talent in drawing and editing tho :(
@@desperateeffort4132 I can draw! It's more or less cartoonish, though.
And the one drawing on my channel is an old one- I'm a lot better now
@@haiiooo3858 ooooh what's you IG @
wow i really like that concept. have you published it anywhere?
Nobody:
Shane Dawson: I'm an empath.
Me after watching this video: Yes. you are.
I WAS THINKING THAT TOO
Came hère for the Shane comments lol
@@BBrunnel literally same 😂
Hey, I'm new to YT. What's up with him?
@@hurmaes look up dangelo wallace's video on him.
I feel like a lot of people need to be warned that they shouldn't play armchair psychologist after watching these videos.
I have a problem 🤧😔
Samev
👍
I’ve never play that game
It's not a medical term to begin with. The worst thing the teens who watch this channel could do is spreading it around as a real thing. not even acting as an armchair psychiatrist.
Yeah empathy can be used in so many different ways, and they arent wrong empathy is a ability but you choose to do what you do with it.
Worried about me being a Dark empath:
"They have dark traits"
*Starts sweating*
"They also have empathy"
*Sighs of relief*
LOL.
Hahahaha 🤣
😂😂😂
Oh my-
Lol that's great.
This seems like a study of most of the politicians.
politicians have 0 empathy tho
And naturally so.
Politicians win election campaigns, after all, by understanding and acting on the feelings of the people. Hence, the winners will usually be high on emotional and cognitive intelligence.
@@natashaelenamuhammadjazri2312 the have just enough empathy to make people believe they can trust them. Gotta get that vote
There are studies that show that most politicians rank high in the sociopathic scale.
@Attauak Heelioocop I know that, I could never be a politician, the cold blood you need to have to make the decisions they do, to simply sign a letter that will kill hundred of thousands of people for example.
Aaaaaand here comes the usual "am I a bad person?" Question keeping me up all night.
for real
Same :,)
oh my god... exactly what i am doing rn :(( i keep watching psych2go to check myself if i am the bad person
Same tho
Don't worry. The fact that you are stressing over it is proof that you aren't a bad person.
Im a dark empath, but i have trained myself to feel for the other person, and not manipulate others
Me using malicious humor with friends: *”I swear its not what it looks like”*
That line reminds me of gacha life every time
**sigh**
i got it from my dad.
*Laughs in diabolical*
@@metra8604 Same ;-;
_lol they probably lowkey hate it when you do that if you do that all the time_
Teachers preaching the golden rule: "Treat others the way you want to be treated."
Sadomasochistic self destructive dark empath: "Hold my beer!"
Gotta spread that joy to the world.
Omg! This made my day lmao 🤣
@@pragyachauhan705 you are welcome. It's a bad joke, but I'm glad a it made someone happy.
@@thomasgormly6941 oh I just find it relatable... Although I'd rather kill myself than to hurt others in any form... So yeah ✌🏻
@@pragyachauhan705 it was an old joke out of dark satire, but after dealing with people in 2020.... I've had my benevolent type empathy tested.
Me: Worried about me having these traits
Video: Dark empaths know just what to say
Me: Haha never mind
*.....slowly raises hand*
I literally spend ten minutes writing a response-
@@duksp lol same tho, I go through a whole process of thinking how i may sound to someone else then end up not responding
Same 😂😂
me: has zero social functionality and couldn’t manipulate a person if they tried
me: damn i’m so good i got damned manipulated myself
Everyone has intentions. So with empathy it is easier to pursuit the own goals. It is a gift to have empathy and borders. A real empathy is no fake person. Empathy means feel for others.
Props to those who realised their faults and worked on getting better. That itself is a sign of goodwill.
Thank you
Better depends on who your talking to
Goodwill is for cattle
Watching this immediately kindof hit me like "Oh wait this is me"
It takes courage to change. I, too, applaud anyone who makes the effort. =)
This is like a fake friend, but on a whole new level.
😂 yess
It's a whole enemy.
It is SO fake it makes fake friends seem real
Biden is one of them...
I don't trust him 😑✌️
@@m4lev0lentdem0nknightamv5 pick the lesser evil then that's what i do lil
I believe an empath can be changed into a dark empath if they’ve absorbed enough negative energy that they’ve been dealing with and basically give up caring about others at that point.
Doesn't make them any less responsible for their actions.
Agreed
Doesn't make sense to me. True empath can't be changed into dark empath. That's not the movie where kind character becomes an evil one.
@@georgegvelukashvili6097 you're assuming the commenters in this channel are +19 y/o
@@georgegvelukashvili6097 Well you have to be an empath to understand complex feelings otherwise your just "DARK" without the empath.
Woahhhh I feel like I've unlocked a new acheivment... I'm for sure an empath, I can always tell how someone is feeling and when someones upset I almost always know why without even speaking to them about it. I'm also really good at figuring out why people do certain things on a psychological level. I've never even thought about using this info in a bad way but this made me realize its possible... I've always tried to read people so that I can better help them (which has gotten me into really toxic situations cause I've never learned to accept that I can't fix people). It's like being a waterbender. You have the power to heal and the power to control, and its up to you which power you use.
And yet you were unable to deduce the fact that your ex boyfriend was not truly in love with you?
Relatable
@@andythehandyman472LMAO I FEEL CALLED OUT 😂😂
HEAL
LLLLL
@@andythehandyman472, no, no, that one was delusion 😔
Dark empath: displays empathy but uses it against you
1. Their kindness feels fake
2. They manipulate you
3. They guilt trip you
4. They love malicious humor
5. They spread rumors
I think I might be one but I stopped being a mean dude back in like 7th grade. 1, 2, and 4 describes me well :( but i try not to manipulate anyone to cause them harm
You just described 90% of the people I went to high school with 😂🤣
everythign aligns with me except maybe for the spreading rumors, i mean if being jokingly racist is "malicious humor" as well but its pretty nice
@@feles_cat Q: Why don’t people in the Middle East teach Driver’s Education and Sex Education on the same day?
A: They don’t want to wear out the Camel.
@@deathbymazda took me awhile but got it, thats pretty good
This sounds a lot like Mother Gothel from Tangled.
The channel Cinema Therapy did a whole video on how manipulative she is.
Could be a possibility! She is famous for gaslighting as well. You should look up the “Cinema Therapy” channel about their Tangled review. It’s really well done :)
ok I'm gonna look up Cinema Therapy because of you people
@@grayc3814 i have and it was i great vodio
@@wendysessions2581 that’s awesome! I love them so much 😊
nobody:
psych2go: There are 7 billion personality types
It's kind of annoying. Sometimes I feel like they just make up new terms for content.
@@Helenavanthof i mean just bc you haven’t heard of this stuff or met ppl like they’re explaining in the video doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist
@Jaden Pereira Nah, I'm sure this channel bases their videos on existing theories in psychology. I don't think this channel is actually making things up. However, I personally find it annoying in general that every little concept or occurrence seems to need a label. I'm admittedly already biased against the term 'empath' since I feel like it's really vague. I mean... almost all of us have empathy. Some may have more than others but how do you measure empathy? When is the 'amount of empathy' enough for someone to be considered an empath?
Having terms/labels for every concept in psychology suggests that the human psyche is black and white, and I don't agree with that idea. I think the lines are more blurred than that, and that you can't sort your personality and behavior in little fixed boxes, no matter how good it may feel to put 'empath' in your social media bio. It's just not that simple in my opinion
@Yuziferry yeah you're right everybody is unique to your own way
I mean, if you want to classify identical personalities, yes, there are a little more than 7 billion.
Alternate Title:
5 Signs That You Might Be a Politician.
Me, a INFJ: *sweats nervously* ill never be like that!
I'm sorry to tell you that I have two Infjs in my life that I'm really close with, one of them is such a sweetheart, while another manipulate things or situations and people for their own convenience and what best accommodate their current situation . No one knows about this ofcourse I only know because the person actually told me that side of them. So I don't think type actually matters.
Me an INTJ watching this,I have scored moderate to high on the dark triad traits on multiple tests,am high in cognitive empathy too,low in compassionate & affective empathy,but the characteristic features that this video narrated as typical to be displayed by a dark empath isn't like me at all,in fact I try to be as sincere as possible when comforting the people I care about,I'd probably know exactly how to manipulate someone in a situation but simply wouldn't,as my Fi would consider it wrong & I wouldn't do it until it was my only resort🤔
Neither would I indulge in employing guilt trips,malicious humor or spreading rumors(absolutely nasty,my Fi would be against it and my Te simply would consider it inefficient use of time & effort)
@@pb8301 a fellow INTJ, love to see it. That’s the point, we know how to, but we don’t, we spend too much time thinking how we could do this, but we actually do, when someone who was once close, turns toxic, then we use the information we have gathered to make a attack on them lmaoooo. But spend too much time thinking instead
Uhm anyways-
@@ethinke been there,done that,my Fi works with relative morals,what can I say!! XD
5 Signs of Dark Empath: 1:54
1.) Their kindness often feels fake: 1:57
2.) Their manipulate you: 2:41
3.) They guilt trip you: 3:06
4.) They love malicious humor: 3:24
5.) They spread rumors: 3:49
Did you mean I'm a girl with "g"? Plus you also SP'ed "you're" with "ur".
@@Vy-Oh-Letter bruh
I don't understand.
@@Vy-Oh-Letter it's your a god
@@illuminaillustrates8651 Oh thanks, but I think you meant "goddess" for "god", since I'm a female, and "you're" for "your".
Nobody:
Shane: "I'm something of a ( ᵈᵃʳᵏ ) empath myself"
I CANTTTJEJJS
I was looking for a Shane comment lmaooo
@@myajanette Dude I'm so conflicted as to whether or not I hate him tho
I was looking for this
which shane?
As a dark empath, it looks has seemed like i needed this to hide my intentions better. Great video
You mean narcissist. Dark empaths aren't real. As a narcissist, you want to believe you're this cool sounding thing, because well, you're a narcissist. The term dark empath isn't a real clinical term. Now please stop self diagnosing. It makes you look silly.
2020: the year of getting canceled
2021: the year of happiness
*closes book*
as if thats ever gonna happen
*There's a plane crash in Indonesia no one survived*
hopefully
@@lami5048 Nice Shrek reference
...atleast i know someone is enjoying his life
That one guy: **throws a ball at another guy’s face**
Me: “mood- oh wait-“
“Fuck”
@@azuretyphoon6267 yes, very much *"fuck"*
I have a story that relates very well to this comment.
@@phoenixflame6048 go on, I will listen if you want
@@kagaminelen2652 alright, this happened about a year ago, on my freshmen year of highschool. Im a really passive guy so if someone annoys me or physically harms me I usually let them get away with it (except for on 2 occasions). Anyways someone I considered as a friend was in my gym class and we were playing dodgeball, let me tell you a little bit more about this guy, he's kind of a small guy and was on the wrestling team of our highschool, he always acted like he was a badass and would usually do stuff that would physically harm me, I would just tell him off usually as I'm kind of a pushover. Anyways back to the story, we were playing dodgeball and I had a ball in my hand, he kept telling me to give it to him but I didn't and right then the game ended. I said I was sorry and gave him the ball, and unexpectedly he started to walk away with the ball and turned around and whipped the ball full force at my face. When the impact came I saw white, it hit me dead in the nose, now something about me is that I have incredibly bad bloody noses and my nose is extremely sensitive. So my nose started flowing with blood, this got the attention of everyone in the court and the only thing that was on my mind was to not get blood on the court as I know how much work it would be for the janitor, I also knew about the dangers of blood borne pathogens, so I held my nose over my hands to catch all the blood flowing out, I filled both of hands completely with blood before I went with the gym teachers to a place I can get treated. They said I had to let the blood flow until it stopped so I just sat and talked with them, I told them about what happened but a mistake I made was not completely blaming my friend for what happened, anyways we just kept pulling humongous amount of blood clots out of my nose over and over again, another thing to know is that the gym teachers I was with were both football coaches and they had seen their fair share of bloody noses, but they were truly disgusted by the amount of blood coming out of my nose as I could see it on their faces and one said to me "This is the worst bloody nose I have ever seen!" Eventually I was free to go after a while of being in that room as my nose wasn't leaking as badly. I later talked with the kid who threw the dodgeball and told him how pissed I was. He never even said sorry and the only thing to come out of his mouth was "I didn't even throw it that hard". Turns out the school never did anything about it and I don't blame them, it was my fault for not telling them the story straight. Of course my parents were pissed also but I told them its over and done with and there's was no need to complain. I never really got near the guy again understandably. I still had a couple more follow up bloody noses for a week after, I took a picture of one of those follow up bloody noses and still have it in my phone. Anyways that's all I really have to say, I actually had a similar thing happen to me that same year also involving someone throwing something at my face and having a bloody nose, but I would have to write out an essay like this one again. 😅
I feel bad but i gotta admit. When that Dark Empath dude drilled the other person with the red ball i bust out laughing. I just wasnt expecting that.
Same. I couldn’t help it
I too, bust out laughing. It was very unexpected and a great way to drive the point home 😆
@olafpenner I too have been hit in the face and launched backwards into the grass by a ball before. But for me it was a soccer ball.
1:45 v i b e c h e c k
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The BEST of both Worlds! ❤
Everyone commenting Shane, but I feel like Jeffrey is the ultimate social dark empath on the internet
@Kylie Hua same question im kinda curious
If memory serves me right... Both are youtubers. Jeffrery is known as a beauty guru. He also sell makeup as well (aside doing review etc). Shane is... Well I'm not sure which he stands for in the RUclips categories. But you two can look them up. There are some article and blogs about them.... Though just be aware that there are a mixed crowds on their... Friendliness and Likability. Take it as you well... 😅
How are they empaths?
It looks like they just know how to take advantage of people. Doesn't mean they are empaths.
@@theywalkinguptoyouand4060 .. 🤔 There's truth in that for sure.
The thing is, Shane had shouted up and down about how he was an empath, how empathetic he was, how hard it was to be an empath, etc, in multiple videos, especially during his "documentaries" or "apologies". Jeffree has never, too my knowledge, directly made the claim. That's why Shane comes to mind first.
They're both very dark personalities and manipulators, however. And they both know just how to work their fans.
Dark Empath: Shane Dawson
Empath: Garrett Watts
Frrr lmao
Thinking the same thing.
I was searching this comment! Glad I found it.
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LITERALLY
Summary: Never trust a person with an orange scarf
:D congrats you just learnt a lesson! :D
Lmfao yes
Cant trust scarf wearers in general from what YTTD has taught me
@@parasitophobia man im just always cold whats wrong
@@i.2844 sorry bro, just can’t trust ya
@@parasitophobia
Ayano Tateyama: *nervous sweating*
I believe I used to be a bit of a dark empath. I could easily read other's emotions, their feelings, and used it to my own advantage to get at them. Worked like a charm, got extremely close, really got to know them deep down. Some people just can't resist spilling a few secrets to a close friend, you know? I used everything I gained from them, lying, deception, manipulation, the works. Nothing extremely serious, just rumor spreading and relationship troubles, no lives in danger. Couple years later, started to see how bad that was. It was pretty harsh sometimes which seemed to be entertaining for me back then. I've emotionally matured a lot more, and now I'm just trying to make some close friends, I strive to be that friend that you can talk to about anything, they'll comfort you the best way they can, the kind of friends that your grateful for and make you happy. I realized that makes me more happy inside then the other stuff. I'm doing a lot of stuff I used to do for bad things, getting close to people, knowing their emotions, etc. But I just want to genuinely be close to them in a good way now. Might make up for all the bad stuff too. interesting video :>
In the first half of your comment I hated you
Now I don't Hate and I'm happy your trying to be better
I know for a fact how harmful your actions must've been cuz I've gone through that with other people
Even if lives weren't in danger, relationships must've been destroyed
So it's not a small thing
I'm not saying drown in guilt I'm pointing how bad it must've been to them and u must not have even realized the true extent
I'm happy your changing now pls don't stop 😊
What you are trying to do is what I try to accomplish as well, I gain my satisfaction by the trust that people give me, it makes me feel important. They get the feeling of being understood, good solutions to problems, comfort, advice and the likes
literally anyone ever can realize peoples feelings and use it against them. its even a propaganda tactic. its literally everywhere. theres babies seperated from their parents at the border. ok maybe they are terrible parents for putting their kids through that maybe they are seeking a better life. use the emotional response to propagandize one view or another. divide the voters into teams of speculative bullshit
1. 2:00 their kindness often feels fake
2. 2:43 they manipulate you
3. 3:06 they guilt trip you
4. 3:26 they love malicious humor
5. 3:49 they spread rumors
everyone has a lil bit of some of these flaws and that's okay as long as you know about it (especially its negative effects) and try to work towards making it less of an important part of your person if it really is. dont beat yourself up for relating, use this extra knowledge to your advantage :))
I have a person who is really close to me, and I think he's a dark empath.. what actions should I do? I dislike him but I want to help him at the same time, I am really confused right now..
@@frankaustriablas6186 i think the best way to help them would be to talk about it with them (or maybe watch this video together).
on your part:
-ask to meet face to face
-think through and through about concrete examples (but dont insist on showing him proof, or else they could feel like you were purposely framing them).
-if you really care about this person enough to value your friendship make sure they understand it when you explain why some things about them are dislikeable and tell them you're worried about them and your relationship
-don't turn it into a fight or blame them in any way (make sure to clear your mind before the meetup), even if they are in the wrong to you, the message almost never gets through when both people are in a heated mindset
-if you want to keep them in your life, tell them clearly that you are not trying to get rid of them and that you simply wish for them to self-reflect (ask them if they've ever thought about it, their point of view)
on their part:
-they'll have more insight on themselves from what you tell them and it's up to them to decide if these traits are "part of who they are" or something they ll never fix even for the sake of the friendship
this clearly upsets you a lot and if being friends with them takes a toll on your life maybe you should ask for some space from them for a bit (i d say a month or 2 to start), see if a weight feels lifted and if you can see a better future without them in the picture. i know it s harsh but you gotta think about yourself most and foremost (you're not responsible for their actions, it's their own decisions and you cant force someone to be good, it's up to them to make a change or not). i ve learned that sometimes people arent meant to be even if it hurts like hell, don't beat yourself up worrying about others so much, of course talk it out but after clearly communicating through and through, if they do nothing, it's time to move on. anyways you seem like a very nice person i hope things work out, come back again after your meetup if you want to okay? it's okay to feel confused, not everyone has everything figured out, it's normal and part of growing up. letting go is hard, especially when you re hanging on to some amazing memories but remember to be lenient with yourself and not blame yourself either. the hate is stronger when the love is strong, you dislike him while wanting to help him because you still care for him and that's okay, just set some boundaries between the two of you according to what you need in a friend and what you can't accept, see how it works out :)
not me who likes insulting people for humor
Thats not a dark empathy, thats a narssacist
^Hero^
socially awkward empaths after watching this: are we the baddies?
literally me, i feel so bad whenever i do something to hurt someone though, i really dont want to be one of these people they sound awful.
I would say that it is very unlikely. I am quite socially awkward but have a lot of compassion for others. (Neuroatypical here).
But just because my interactions might seem more awkward or uncertain does not mean my compassion is false. I am just bad at reading certain social cues, but I am better than I was when I was little. I actually started laughing at a work colleague's story about her work day. I thought she was mock stressed not really stressed and being humorous and mock upset (sort of frustrated but not actually overwhelmed). Later I realized she was not and I apologized and told her I thought she was mock angry...as a form releasing tension. (My brain often finds stuff most people get angry about really silly so sometimes I might inadvertently laugh but that is because sometimes it seems so minor to me.) However, if I know someone is actually upset I feel very stressed for them and will try to cheer them up. I also do not spread rumors. I hate discussing anyone when they are not present unless it is for something positive like a surprise birthday party. But watching this video made me realize a person I used to work with might be a dark empath. Not socially awkward like me - the opposite, in fact - but people told me she was talking about me behind my back and I could infer that she might have been mocking me. But she always seemed so kind to my face. But then things got more complicated and I did not know who to trust. It lead to me getting quite overwhelmed at work and having a panic attack.
Sorry. That was longer than I had intended to write.
@@kpaxian6044 no don't be sorry, it makes a lot of sense. Thank you so much for explaining it so eloquently!
@Dark__ Wolf It’s ok to be a little selfish as long as it doesn’t affect others negatively imo :))
My thought
I made this for anybody who doesn’t have time to watch the video
1: their kindness feels fake
2: they manipulate you
3: They guilt trip you
4: they love malicious humor
5: they spread rumors
I hope this helped :D
This helped me, thank you!
thanks alot
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Romans 3:23
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These are ALL narcisstic traits. "Dark empath" may not be the best descriptor of someone with these traits. Personally, I don't see the label "dark empath" as a valid label.
Okay so, I'm a 3, 4, and a casual 2 BUT um uh... Yeah idk how to make an excuse
I think I may be an empath. I can suddenly hurt when others cry
Just cos someone seems like he forces himself into complimenting you doesn't mean they are dark empaths...they might as well be shy when it comes to these things and whenever they try to say something nice, they cringe or feel very vulnerable in that moment that it comes out as not sincere. Or some people have even hard time actually "feeling" the emotion, they are in a happy state, but they're not particularly excited about it, everything feels flat or numb for them, so a compliment from such person might seem like they're not really feeling it, they're just saying it cos that's what you wanna hear. And that's also hurtful to *them*.
thank u for saying that :>
its just kinda annoying that even my own friend thinks im being fake when truth is that im just uncomfortable and trying to be polite so the words or actions i show comes out stiff..
I know this feeling way too much, I’ve been called fake because I tried being more excited about giving compliments, I did genuinely want this person to feel better but I guess I tried too hard
@@thedolphinlover4859 but then when you show your genuine external reaction they think you’re a bitch lmao it’s so complicated I hate socializing
So basically me
Both me and my mom have a hard time showing actual genuine emotions
I very much dislike empathy. As long as I can remember, I’ve “absorbed “ the feelings of around those around me; therefore, I’ve spent a great deal of time being that guy that everyone comes to when they feel down. It’s hard when you feel sad around so many sad people. It also leaves you open to manipulation.
Feel you
I’ve learned to never put too much of a burden of someone else’s problem on your shoulders from past experiences. You’d be surprised as to how much people really don’t care about your problems, even when they express it. Also the same ppl you sympathize for are rarely on your side when it is your time of need. Know your worth and try not to compromise yourself to hard for others bro Ik exactly how u feel. I was that guy in the past but no more
Yeah man. It doesn't pay off.
I've been that guy for some time now, ever since I realized that I should be doing something to help people around me...but then my wife and I caught covid and this old friend stopped talking to me because I couldn't bring myself to listen to and fix some tiff they were having with their partner and friends. I was like how the hell does that sound like something I'll deal with when I've got my wife to keep alive?
Regardless, it makes me happy to do this as long as I can spot these a-holes and avoid them.
You can learn to turn it off, your ability, but it means that sometimes you gotta be an a-hole to be able to 'protect' yourself. If you can do that without later feeling guilty about it, bonus! You can't be everyone's sponge, but you already know that!
Yes. I am like that too. What I do is to abstract the negative feeling and be a filter not a sponge. Very hard tought, constant alert
I had a "friend" who was like that. Haven't seen him in like 10+ years now so that's good.
he might manipulating you for thinking when he leave you, you will be fine, but you are not.(just a joke pls dont take this seriously)
@@tranbachngo3208 Haha always 2 steps ahead like a typical psycho in a TV-series? :D
@Mounir games i think i had a stroke
Ooop same
Im that friend
I don’t think this term should have ever been created. It’s easy to understand empathy if you understand it. But if the person leans on the ASPD spectrum too that’s basically what a dark empath is. No need for another term.
My sister seems like this, just because she’s only a decent person to anyone not related to her. She is close to a cousin of mine but also treats her badly to the point where my cousin got sick of it and cut ties to her as an adult. Real shame too, as they grew up together and I always thought she liked my cousin.
My ex was kinda similar. I remember everytime id visit her shed be yelling her guts off at her brother. She was extremely violent verbally to him. She would rarely ever talk in a normal tone when saying something to him, like shes always annoyed by him. I remember watching a movie with her in the living room and he wanted to join but she would constantly kick him out. I really hated that, partially cos i remember when i was younger i know i liked spending time with my older sisters friends when they come over. She was definitely the people pleaser type, like she bends over backwards to help you with something or to show you she loves you
@@rotmgdabeatz What if her brother was just an extremely anoying person & otherwise she was an empathetic person that liked to help people~ just not all people
@@rotmgdabeatz Yeah, that does sound like my cousin but my sister used it to her advantage.
I helped you get 666 :3
@@KillAllCops88 Thanks haha :)
I really hate the fact that I used to be very manipulative and just overall toxic. I luckily realized how hurtful I was being after experiencing it first hand in a relationship, and immediately took a few steps back. I went to therapy for a while which really helped me see myself and other people much more differently, and at one point I went personally to every person that I used to be close to, but I was very toxic towards, and actually apologize and try to make up to them. I wasn’t sad/angry when they turned it down, because I know how hard it is to trust someone after they manipulated you, and hurt you. I’m really in an amazing place now, and I’m so happy that people actually enjoy being around me, and genuinely like and respect me. I have way more kind and caring friends around me, and I feel like I can also give as much as possible to them in a healthy way, and vise versa.
Sorry for going on this rant, but getting out of this manipulative and toxic mindset was one of the best things that I have personally accomplished
I'm glad you turned around! That's awesome!
@@CB-fq2ye thanks! :)) I’m also really glad I was able to recognize the toxic behavior in myself and change
I am hearing dark empath for the first time and understood it as a personality type and didn't know it can be changed! May I ask, how long did it take to change you?
Did you feel that there was something awkward when you were acting ? Or did you think that it was all right ?
I'm happy that you're doing well after that, congrats on your change!
A "dark" empath just sounds like an empath with their own trauma. Just like with other malevolent personality types, people have the capability to suppress the urge to do these things. At the end of the day, if we can understand other's emotions, we can understand that we are hurting them and choose not to, or to out ourselves so that people feel confident to call us out for being disingenuous. Some people are "dark empaths" AND people pleasers. These traits don't just come from nowhere and we are all fighting something at any given time. People often times pick them up trying to cope. Let's stray away from the term "dangerous" eh? People can grow and change. A more important thing to know is how to protect your OWN emotional well-being. Sure diagnosing the people in your life can help YOU some, but it's more important to learn how to communicate boundaries and protect yourself if that's the concern. Without that part, it's unlikely to help either party.
Edit: I am so glad this was helpful to some of you. I want to be clear, I am not saying that anyone is responsible for anyone else. I am also not saying that you should keep toxic people in your life. I am also not saying that there is any excuse for hurting other people. There is a reason, sure, but that doesn't excuse the behavior, ever. All I'm saying is that there are probably people with these traits in your life, and you don't have a clue. They work hard to suppress the urges and choose to communicate honestly and respect your boundaries. They are neither good or bad people. Just people.
The video doesn't really show you how to deal with the people in your life, it just tells you that these are bad people. That's why I said what I said about clear communication and boundary setting. If you avoid everyone that obviously sucks, then great. But you're probably less aware of the people who could suck, but don't. If you identify with these traits, like I do, know that you can be better and that emotionally balanced relationships are infinitely more blissful and rewarding for everyone involved. Toxic relationships are terrible, and you should not stay in one for any reason. If they are not showing meaningful change, or you simply don't want to wait, you absolutely shouldn't.
very true, people don’t fit into neat little categories like this, even when it comes to personality disorders. narcissist/empath stuff is pretty much just pop psychology lol
So importanttt! Louder for the ppl in the back please
Most of the people pleasers I know have been neglected throughout their childhood and begging for attention seems to be the only thing they have left to distract them from that reality.. kinda makes sense since no one would really want something if they had it in the first place.
Exactly. Theres no difference just people who are smarter or supress urges better.
Ignoring that rare person that loves seeing everything around them burn.
Great video, thanks. I’m an empath, I had a friend who was a dark empath. I’m glad it’s thing of the past. As psychologist I want to add, not all signs are essential to identify, 1-2 of these are good, for you to walk away from dark empaths
Many people who identify as “empaths” are people who’ve survived complex childhood trauma and most likely had to manage a parents emotions growing up. It’s our job to practice boundaries so we aren’t being taken advantage of… if you identify as an empath, it’s most likely because you don’t have boundaries around compassion, care, affection and love.
This 👏👏👏
Well I agree this but I think it’s when you become aware you start up boundaries. Although, I don’t feel like it stops you from a empath though.
Yep. First two men my mother married physically abused her. Third one abused my sister and I, and belittled our other sibling. I developed panic attacks around age 16-18. I wasn't raised by a mother or a father, as my father was homeless and usually involved with drugs. My mother was either working or having myself and my sister watched by a baby sitter or after school teacher. The ability wasn't chosen it was stricken into me. I feel others emotions without needing to. If someone is generally distressed in tears I absorb that. I feel it. Sometimes it can become my own emotion just from feeling it. I'm tired of these fake ass empaths. They're not real and have not had childhood trauma.
@@mailboxxy I’m really sorry you had to deal with that, you absolutely did not deserve it. It is something that your brain and especially your body remember from having to keep up with everyone else. That’s not fair to you, it wasn’t back then and it isn’t now. I hope you are able to find healthy relationships and also validate those experiences you had as a child. Healing is a long journey and having boundaries around your energy and what you’re taking on is something you have to do each moment. I believe in you and I’m sending you so much love and care from afar. I’m rooting for you
@@mailboxxy I've been through quite a bit as child to were I did develop strong empathy for others. I was a really nice kid but with the family drama, abuse, and mental neglect, I go to the point were my emtions were no longer mine. They were everybody's around me and it's a consuming feeling. Being a empath has led to me to depression, anxiety, natural fear of people, and etc. because I never knew how to separate my emotions from the swarm around me. Although, it's been incredibly useful. I might not be able to pinpoint my emotions right off the bat (yet) but I am most definitely able to feel and relay exactly what other people feel. I've helped a lot of people and as long as I can I will continue to help but with boundariesthis time.
I've always known I was a dark person, and known exactly how to read people. However, I make an active choice to never misuse it because I hate hurting people.
*With great power, comes great responsibility.*
You gotta admit when that kid got beat with that ball it was pretty funny
@@balisticcreeper2648 Ikr and when those towers fell
Does that still make people like us dark empaths?
@@OrbitalPulsar I actually laugh at some of the memes people make about that tragic events. And usually the song “September” by EWF would play on my mind. Ik im effed up sometimes
Uncle Ben?
As a dark empath I enjoy turning people against each other and feeding on their confusion and sorry. Their leftover tears are used to power my Genesis device, granting me eternal youth.
Jezuz Christ
🍻🚬 Let's have a smoke and toast to that. Into disorder
Ah yes, dominancr
@Yael Henein I think he was joking 👁👄👁
Ah yes. No need to buy salt if you can just use their tears.
I'm a dark empath but I REALLY don't care about others and I know exactly what others are thinking and can know anything about'em in by observation (PLAINLY) I don't think I exploit it even though I really want to sometimes a part of me knows that its a BIG waste of time.
Take all of this with a grain of salt. No one listed as part of this has any background in psychology, at least from what I could find looking them up.
Most psychologists hate terms like "dark empath" because it attributes morality. You're insulting people who have psychological issues that lead them to these behaviors, and subconsciously tell them they can't be fixed. They're just a dark person.
More though, this whole video is just talking about psychopaths and sociopaths and rebranding them as dark empaths. Which is why the referred study (Heym and associates) doesn't have much weight in the psychology world. Then on top of this, trying to teach people in under 5 minutes how to spot one based on behaviors? This video is just going to start a lot of unfounded fights between friends and loved ones.
Thank you! People are taking these RUclips Hobby Psychology videos waaaay too serious. All these comments of people trying to 'diagnose' people they don't like as 'dark empaths'.. It's ridiculous. These videos are for enertainment puropses only. You can't diagnose someone with RUclips videos lmao
I have to agree.
i am not disagreeing with you but just to say: the references worked for me, you just have to take off the dot at the end before copy-pasting it (if that makes sense)
also sorry for my english ^^
have a nice day ~
preach preach preach preach
I agree with you. This is a very misinformed video. I've written several books about Empathy and Empaths, on Llewellyn Worldwide. Empathy REQUIRES a "compassionate response" that is genuine. There is such thing as a flustered/overwhelmed/snappy Empath, but not a "Dark Empath," because it's a contradiction. Empathy REQUIRES emotion and compassion, so the people spoken of in this video are exploiters of empathy; NOT Empaths of any variety.
I see so many comments like "my friend is like this, my family member is like this" etc.. Learning to guard against predatory behavior is wise, but don't label people or diagnose them because you notice similar behavior. I think, most of all, learn from these videos about yourself, so you can recognize your own tendencies..
Couldn't agree anymore...
Yes! I think that you shouldn’t jump to conclusions about other people too quickly because it can ruin your relationships
Yea. Honestly I get scared and super self aware of my own habits. And i start thinking to myself “am I the one who’s actually manipulative? Am I just not realizing it and other people see me for who I really am but I don’t?”
Thoughts like that scare the hell outta me. But at least this video shows me I’m not a dark empath lol
@@luisburgos7365 the fact that you're even worried about your possible behavior, shows that you're pretty leveled out. It's when you're in denial about a personality trait that is cause for concern, ironically. Everyone alive is capable of being manipulative or predatory in some fashion, it doesn't always put you in a category. Hell, many people fake empathy without having an angle.. Sometimes it's just common decency. It doesn't make them sociopaths.
How you act on your capabilities is what defines you.
Well these kinda represent my behaviors except i dont want to “hurt” others or whatever. What should i do?
“Dark Empath”= A psychic narcissist energy vampire
The narcissist has lack of empathy
Literally lol
Right! They could’ve just said the greater narc VS. the SUPER EMPATH instead of using new fake terms. The only “dark side” of the empath is when we FINALLY decide to stick up for ourselves and others going into supernova mode! We have to then turn the narcissist tactics back onto them as a mirror for their own insecurities with the element of surprise that the narcissist didn’t know we were capable of causing MAJOR narc injuries so bad they won’t even want to return! They just run off to new supply instead of healing themselves by facing their true selves after soul fragmentation.
@@moodyringtarotllc1624 this description is spot on. Like my last relationship, my narc couldn’t BELIEVE I would leave him And give up so completely and utterly overnight after years of tolerance and blind love
YES! Exactly what I was thinking. Also beware people there’s a lot of them on here claiming they are spiritual gurus
When I watch Psych2go I learn more things about myself
Can’t wait for people to label themselves as dark empaths thinking they’re some emo anime protagonist when in reality they’re just cringe to the max and back
They are going to reply with a link from a TikTok video they uploaded where they dance in the background while in the front they are going to have something sort of "I'm Dark Empath, I'm bad bla bla" and they will hope to get views this way.
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@@Oddragnar If you know you know
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I've started learning about dark empath today and it seems to fit me, but no, I don't think I'm some emo anime protagonist, in fact I'm not emo at all and yes I agree those people are cringe.
I had no idea these people existed, now I’ll make sure to watch out for them
Glad to hear you learned something new! - Cindy
@@MP-ut6eb yeahh theyre not too kind to be sure, so perhaps quite the fitting name.I donot believe i am acting superior as that would require me to think i was good or amazing where in alot of different ways on a daily basis im very much struggling to improve myself, there are several tests you can have done and if youre truthful then it should be showing signs of how much of dark personal trait cluster is in you and mine came out 0,3% so Im definitely alot less than perfect but i am not in any way mean, i enjoy helping most people and animals i meet. Also I generally dont take much part in name calling but people with npd can cause some serious harm in the lives of others though i do mostly feel bad for them as they to some extent are hollow and can never fully feel love, unless they seek treatment or try to selfimprove, im codependent and empathic, and no as it is rn im quite far removed from being anything dark, but i do hope i never will get closer as well.
Also even an asshole can call another asshole an asshole, and even a good person can once in a blue moon call someone else that even without putting themselves on a pedestal, as we are all merely human and most of us mess up on a daily basis in a multitude of ways, much definitely myself included sadly.
I didn’t know that these people existed before watching the video either.
I am experiencing the aftermath of such personality in current working life. Operating ups and downs without my notice until my responsibilities were snatched away and transferred to her. Pretending to be a caring person for her ultimate purposes.
By the way, dark empathy has strong correlation to levels of IQ and EQ. Need to be aware of one with very good academic records and abnormally strong sense of empathy. However, not everyone with these signs are dark empathy. Continuous monitoring would be a way to find out.
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High school kid: "yeah, so basically I'm like a vampire.."
Metaphorically I was... Or am.
I'm very draining to be around, especially if I try.
Never managed more than 2 minutes with another while being myself.
So I'm not crazy, just a right bastard to be near who hurts others without trying.
@@bloodlove93 We got a badass over here.
@@cheesesoup2894 Nope just a freak. So says everyone I've met at least.
Not sure where you got that incorrect and inane idea.
@@bloodlove93 Then it´s time to get your shit together
@@bloodlove93 wow your so unique and cool
Just stop
I think this video has helped me understand my own internal workings just a bit better, not to say that I am a dark empath but to say I am not unfamiliar with any of these red flags in my own behaviour even among my best moments, in spite of my constant attempts to be better than I have been.
This is only scratching the surface... or trying to
There are a lot of people with different circumstances that might end up being kind, but sounding shallow... because of their own trauma and insecurities.
I know this feeling all too well. Like trying to compliment someone just to be told that you’re only doing it to boost your own ego really sucks, like obviously that’s always going to be a factor but I believe if you’re trying to make someone feel better because it’s the right thing to do then that’s great, but if you’re doing it just to feel better about yourself that’s just wrong. The grey area is when you’re doing something because it’s the right thing but you’re afraid that if you keep doing it, you’ll grow into the kind of person that only helps others for their gain. I think that would be an interesting topic to cover.
@@thedolphinlover4859 What about a person like me, whom helps others because other's well-being will eventually help my well-being, but I also feel good helping people?
I help others for personal gain, AND to feel good about myself doing so, plus they enjoy it as well.
That is a very good point.
@@thedolphinlover4859 You're conflating a certain philosophy (altruism) with psychology. To understand what Dark Empath meant is not to just treat it like a thou shalt text. Don't think just because the intention is "selfish" that you're gonna assume that a person is bad or that its a sign of a dark empath. Its way more complicated than that, your take on it is too dogmatic and is really gonna affect your entire view in Psych, just like so many people.
First, leave your philosophy of selfless = good, selfish = bad outside the door, and instead define the goal as: To Understand Behavior > which is what Psychology was supposed to be about (thanks to american politics and shitty psych EXPERTS for degrading that)
Dark Empath is supposed to be a bridge between Psychopathy and Typicals. Remember Psych treats these idea as Typicals vs Atypicals (not good vs evil)
Empath Typicals falls to certain categories (Physical, Emotional, Animal, Plant...)
It means that a dark empath is fully capable of sensing and feeling any of these, and if needed be they can adapt psychopathy.
Now that you understand that, let's get back to our main goal, identifying them:
First, let's define psychopathy, specifically adaptive psychopathy:
Natural lack of remorse/guilt + inability to tend to other certain feelings (original definition, not the random bullshit from psych blogs)
The adaptive version of this being that: these traits shows under certain circumstances. And i hate giving examples because people take this out of context every damn time but here: Edmund Kemper murdered his grandparents as a child and was sent to juvenile, not long he was observed to be showing perfect typical behaviour and was released by psychiatrists when he turned adult. This trait will be seen with every victim he met before proceeding to continue his murder spree. The reason? Because he really has empathy but to tend to his disturbed past he could adapt psychopathic behavior to carry out what he did.
Notice that to identify DE is to identify genuine empathy and then identify psychopathy. This comes in phases:
Typicality -> Impulsive/Premeditated Amoral Action -> Signs of Psychopathy.
Remember this could literally have nothing to do with selfishness or feeling good about oneself, Psychopaths don't feel good, they feel less, hence their immoral actions are often pleasure seeking.
If you understood what i said, you'll realize that it has no connection to the idea that *to feel good about oneself* is wrong, neither is this about the intention or manipulation: a psychopath could pretend to be typical but in realiry they're being cunning and manipulative, but a Dark Empath may not be pretending. (doesn't also disregard the fact that they could)
So, even if you feel a person is being shallow with compliments in order to feel good about themselves, remember this falls under typical behaviour. (which i despise philosophically, not all typicals are good)
If what your pretense here is your philosophy then fine, but just be informed please. Psychology is full of idiots who've turned this field upside down, I'm working on an abstract to slam all of these false pretenses that has been pushed within the field which is mind numbing people.
I may come off as agressive here but remember I'm not mad at you. I'm mad at Psych Experts who've turned to blog writing and create these random D&D types of lore on well established psychological topics, and confusing everyone. Remember, there are people with credibility who does this often to get clicks or support from political figures.
Sounds like a lot of influencers and social media personalities.
Like Shane Dawson.
They were fun cause people were bored of censorship :P
they only care about two things: Your Money and Your Attention
PS: you forgot those extreme PC Actors
Sounds like alot of Military Ncos...
Although the dark triad is a well-researched personality type LOW in empathy, “Dark Empath” is just a new buzzword made up less than a year ago. It is not a good thing to pre-judge people and put them in a category like this based on a collection of traits. It’s another weaponized word you can use to character assassinate someone and then burn a bridge the lazy way.
This channel seems like an astrology channel basically. Seems like pop "science"
That's what I get from these channels people are more complicated than that also dark empath honestly sounds like a class or job in an RPG
I dont think anyone with critical thinking would take this one seriously.
It doesnt make sense.
Everyone will be accussing their ex of being a dark empath. The new " my narc" bla bla bla.
Y'all getting real defensive in here.....but most of this is just a carbon copy of narcissist personalities.......oop...😔😮