Very much so. I have ADHD as well so my brain is constantly nagging but my executive function is not obedient. I feel like being an INFJ with ADHD just intensifies everything that is typical to both.
I used to feel lazy until I learned that during our leisure time is when we gain wisdom. We don’t have to do everything, just the right things. Thank you Wenzes!
read this. your method is good wenzes but its too slow for personal growth. i fit the infj type but i am very fast and talented and disciplined. may be i am rare but i dont care may be i am infj but i am more
just help those who help back, let the others burn and realize being surrounded by fakers is the number one thing to feel demotivated. I don't understand feeling unmotivated.......always worked for my own business and hence always felt motivated.
One day, I heard that DaVinci used to draw for hours and not feel hungry or sleepy. He was just into it, I dreamed with it, but I never thought about searching something that could make me feel like that. But now I'm ready to search for something like that. Thanks Wenzes...
I feel unmotivated because i am powerless to change or accomplish anything that matters to me. I have no relationships because nobody wants what i have to offer. The world is going to crap, im only one person and nobody is willing to even listen. I am happy with who i am but that doesn't bring any satisfaction. I dont care about my job, having nice things, or any external things. The realization that there doesn't seem to be anyone in real life that that thinks the way i do or cares about what i do. All the authenticity in the world has not brought me any happiness. I just want to help people grow and have genuine connections with people. I dont belong on this broken planet. Very depressing lol
Wayne Dyer said one of my favorite mantras in life; paraphrasing, nobody knows enough in life to stay pessimistic. My advice to you is to concentrate on goals of what you want and then have the courage to confront changes to make your goals happen. For example, if you do not prefer to be around the current people in your life, see new people. If you do not like your current surroundings, explore new places. It is frankly up to you.
I feel you. I'm getting tired of having to explain myself to people because they constantly misunderstand me. I've just come to the point where I don't care if they do, even if they're supposed to be close to me. I'd say planning is better than having goal per se. A goal is something in a distance, it amplifies how far you are from it. If you plan you take a step towards something that you want, as long as you know the next step you're good. No need to work out every detail up to the finish line. Even if you're not sure of the next step, take a break and it shall come to you. For example I wanted a dog for the longest time. They don't judge you, point out your shortcomings, care about your looks and so on. They just accept you as you are. People have been telling me "having a dog is costly", "it's a huge responsibility", "you can't take a day off", "responsibility, responsibility, RESPONSIBILITY". Well, that may be so but dogs are also delightful, great companions, good for your mental health, give you unconditional love and greet you like you're the best thing in the world when you get home after a draining day. And they don't demand much. There's a reason why they add years to your life. I don't care about what people say anymore. I do what I think is best for me.
Inaction inside malaise makes me determined to step outside look to horizon to open perspectives. The first step to start first shoe on to the next. Infj's enjoy non profits. Visit a thrift store compliment thank cashier to brighten day, even volunteer. Look for sad persons to encourage brings positive benefits.
Seven years ago I decided to quit my job as a wedding coordinator and get a job as an advocate for victims of human trafficking, domestic violence, and I have never been happier though I know I’m in a broken world filled with broken people. But we INFJ’s are like a dialysis machine that can connect deeply, empathize and by our example help others. It’s scary to step out there and find something satisfying in our lives where we can share our gifts with the world. I hear you. Been there. Wenzes helped me get where I am at. Just keep listening to these videos and applying what feels true to you!
I'm 25 and feel completely lost job-wise. I haven't worked since December and I don't know what to do... It's like every job I see and have done sounds like a nightmare if done on a daily basis... In September I'll probably start tutoring as an English private teacher but I don't look forward to it, I just 'want' to do that because it sounds like the less unpleasant thing to do... Working exhaust me (I've done cashier, harvests, working in culture in front of a computer all day etc) and I always end up looking forward to when the contract ends (the longest I've done was six months) so that I can feel like I have my freedom back. Always ended up disliking coworkers that were above on the hierarchy (I hate the unfair power dynamic). Not working is not good for my mental health because it makes me feel useless and stagnant, but working makes me feel like whoever is in charge owns me and my time and I hate that feeling. I just don't know what job to do/ create for myself, I don't know where to turn...
Would working in a school district excite you? I taught ESL and several other positions within a school district because they allow you to move a lot. I was never bored and really liked working with kids (as opposed to adults :)).
@@sagebay2803 My mom is an English teacher in a public middle school and when she speaks about her job I always thought it sucked, it didn't match her personality and clashed with her unresolved trauma (if you don't respect yourself children won't respect you). As I love English and look like my mom everyone always asked/told me "do you want to be a teacher?" and I always said no. I don't want to work with groups of children or people who don't specifically want to learn what you're teaching, I can barely discipline myself I can't deal with having to discipline other people 🫤. I want to work with people who enjoy what they're doing. I don't like noisy environments and dealing with groups 😅. Although if you taught ESL, which I guess would be English sign language 🤔? it was a less noisy class aha. I think I prefer one-on-one interactions, like tutoring, as it tends to make people more respectful and lead to a better connection. Also it's less boring because the work environment changes, and you get to tailor lessons to the child's specific needs 🤔
It's like that. No work or career path is easy. If u want to make money, you have to endure. That's why they call it compensation. Compensation for the pain and time u suffered😂
@@yh3428 yes, but some people actually like their job even though it's not easy. I did "easy jobs" that were horrible for various reasons, we just have to find what suffering we can endure on a daily basis 😂.
My struggle is the fact that I know that I want to work for the car industry since I was 5 but after an almost 20 year career I’m still not there. I have been doing jobs I know I can do but that give me 0 fulfilment. And in the meantime, every time I apply for a job linked to that subject , I’m never the best candidate. It’s incredibly frustrating.
Taking action in the real world based on who we want to be, that lived experience , is excellent advice. Not just embracing but embodying that is that bridge to a new now.
I was inspired and felt powerful by the tremendous personal transformation you've gone through since 2014 😍 It will happen to us step by step bc we know there's an exponential growth behind the scenes as long as we stay consistent with it 🔥
Your words always hits me hard. I often get asked or ask myself about what I want for my life? What I fancy for my life? Then I would be lost in thoughts "it's not a big house nor an expensive car that I want, then what is it?". Well the answer is right there. You explained it beautifully wenzes.
Wenzes, I’m so grateful that I found you here on YT. I’ve been struggling to take my voice and to put myself on the spotlight in a project that I recently launched…. and this week, I remembered my INFJ personality so I started searching… and your channel has been so helpful to understand why it was taking me so much time to structured what I want to say and to actually do it (because of course I want to share a lot of stuff and this will be the first time I’m sharing my perspectives of life ) So now I know that slow is my nature and it’s ok because I am progressing. Thank you for all the value that you share for us.
Wenzes your videos have always been very helpful. Thank you for for teaching and helping us INFJs so much. I have been trying to be myself and intense with everyone and in everything as you suggested, but after repeated rejections I feel its just easier to be by myself. However even if I try to embrace the loneliness and hermit mode I still end up craving for meaningful connections, for partnership for family. How do I embrace this? Should I try to embrace loneliness or should I keep trying?
Go and share your truth! You are valuable and what you bring is helping people. Hermit mode is good for a while to stabilize yourself but then keep going out and stand up for what you believe. Be the best version of yourself, look for outlets where you can share your gift with people who can and WANT to accept your help. People might reject you at first because they don't get it but if you keep choosing you the right people will come (back) and embrace you the way you are. You are worth it!
….oh, and dimming our light for another, whom we cannot help but to FEEL the lifetime of emotional pain that resides within them ~ THIS, oh boy, has been a bit of a sticky wicket for me, even as a child. I, at times ~ later, in the analysis of my response to their pain ~ think that it was my destiny, in this particular human lifetime of my soul, to sacrifice my body to be used as a healing tool. Colloquially referred to as a “pity f*ck.” It’s very complicated, the factors of my childhood that created how I view myself as a sexual tool for male broken souls. I don’t typically publicly share such deep or dark machinations of my psyche, but the purpose of your channel is to HELP INFJ’s better understand themselves and use this knowledge to live their best life, so I share with that altruistic goal, from my heart❣️
So you believe your purpose is to give your body to narcissistic and evil people for their pleasure?. Do you have some kind of dark alliance with them yes?
Woo-hoo, new upload❣️ When your face pops up on your upload, I joyfully say out loud, “Hey Wenzes, baby girl, yay!” Best wishes, hope Bootcamp is smashing it❣️ And, whoa, I ‘thought’ I fully understood the concept of “Living in my head,” but I had a lightbulb moment regarding this tendency we have, 2 days ago. When I’m in next bootcamp, I can share, because it was a “living in my head,” then not doing that which had been living in my head for 2 months, which led to me basically wasting about $2500, because when I got to the place & person that had been living in my mind for 2 months….well, I didn’t think it was a good idea to do that which had played out vividly in my mind! WTF!? And, this was a eureka moment that solidified & affirmed my belief that I will benefit & improve my Standard Operating Procedures of Thought, Behavior & Life by investing in INFJ EPIC LIFE BOOTCAMP❣️ You know that it’s often a slowly revealing process for us, to get to the point where our thoughts crystallize and action is compelled❣️
What I love about this particular video is how sincere it truly is. It seems like you are speaking from your soul and, in the end, it helped me as well. Thank you for this one, it really did make a difference, especially when all the insights are taken into account.
Do you feel lazy or unmotivated as an INFJ? Does it bother you?
Very much so. I have ADHD as well so my brain is constantly nagging but my executive function is not obedient. I feel like being an INFJ with ADHD just intensifies everything that is typical to both.
I used to feel lazy until I learned that during our leisure time is when we gain wisdom. We don’t have to do everything, just the right things. Thank you Wenzes!
read this. your method is good wenzes but its too slow for personal growth. i fit the infj type but i am very fast and talented and disciplined. may be i am rare but i dont care may be i am infj but i am more
Yes, and I ask myself that every day.
just help those who help back, let the others burn and realize being surrounded by fakers is the number one thing to feel demotivated. I don't understand feeling unmotivated.......always worked for my own business and hence always felt motivated.
A crouching Tiger looks lazy and unmotivated until the time is right.
👏👏👏
ooh i like that
The hard part is saying no and not feeling bad about it.
Do it while you are feeling bad
As an INFJ with ADHD this motivational video will last 5 mins after I finished listening to it 😔
Yes, I do lots of times feel burnt out and couldn't figure it out.
One day, I heard that DaVinci used to draw for hours and not feel hungry or sleepy. He was just into it, I dreamed with it, but I never thought about searching something that could make me feel like that. But now I'm ready to search for something like that.
Thanks Wenzes...
I feel unmotivated because i am powerless to change or accomplish anything that matters to me. I have no relationships because nobody wants what i have to offer. The world is going to crap, im only one person and nobody is willing to even listen. I am happy with who i am but that doesn't bring any satisfaction. I dont care about my job, having nice things, or any external things. The realization that there doesn't seem to be anyone in real life that that thinks the way i do or cares about what i do. All the authenticity in the world has not brought me any happiness. I just want to help people grow and have genuine connections with people. I dont belong on this broken planet. Very depressing lol
share what you know on youtube or similar and help people who would be thankful for your help!
Wayne Dyer said one of my favorite mantras in life; paraphrasing, nobody knows enough in life to stay pessimistic. My advice to you is to concentrate on goals of what you want and then have the courage to confront changes to make your goals happen. For example, if you do not prefer to be around the current people in your life, see new people. If you do not like your current surroundings, explore new places. It is frankly up to you.
I feel you. I'm getting tired of having to explain myself to people because they constantly misunderstand me. I've just come to the point where I don't care if they do, even if they're supposed to be close to me. I'd say planning is better than having goal per se. A goal is something in a distance, it amplifies how far you are from it. If you plan you take a step towards something that you want, as long as you know the next step you're good. No need to work out every detail up to the finish line. Even if you're not sure of the next step, take a break and it shall come to you. For example I wanted a dog for the longest time. They don't judge you, point out your shortcomings, care about your looks and so on. They just accept you as you are. People have been telling me "having a dog is costly", "it's a huge responsibility", "you can't take a day off", "responsibility, responsibility, RESPONSIBILITY". Well, that may be so but dogs are also delightful, great companions, good for your mental health, give you unconditional love and greet you like you're the best thing in the world when you get home after a draining day. And they don't demand much. There's a reason why they add years to your life. I don't care about what people say anymore. I do what I think is best for me.
Inaction inside malaise makes me determined to step outside look to horizon to open perspectives. The first step to start first shoe on to the next. Infj's enjoy non profits. Visit a thrift store compliment thank cashier to brighten day, even volunteer. Look for sad persons to encourage brings positive benefits.
Seven years ago I decided to quit my job as a wedding coordinator and get a job as an advocate for victims of human trafficking, domestic violence, and I have never been happier though I know I’m in a broken world filled with broken people. But we INFJ’s are like a dialysis machine that can connect deeply, empathize and by our example help others. It’s scary to step out there and find something satisfying in our lives where we can share our gifts with the world. I hear you. Been there. Wenzes helped me get where I am at. Just keep listening to these videos and applying what feels true to you!
I'm 25 and feel completely lost job-wise. I haven't worked since December and I don't know what to do... It's like every job I see and have done sounds like a nightmare if done on a daily basis... In September I'll probably start tutoring as an English private teacher but I don't look forward to it, I just 'want' to do that because it sounds like the less unpleasant thing to do... Working exhaust me (I've done cashier, harvests, working in culture in front of a computer all day etc) and I always end up looking forward to when the contract ends (the longest I've done was six months) so that I can feel like I have my freedom back. Always ended up disliking coworkers that were above on the hierarchy (I hate the unfair power dynamic). Not working is not good for my mental health because it makes me feel useless and stagnant, but working makes me feel like whoever is in charge owns me and my time and I hate that feeling. I just don't know what job to do/ create for myself, I don't know where to turn...
Maybe a small workplace with few employees less dynamic, more friendly.
Always keep learning new skills helps keep brain sharp active.
Would working in a school district excite you? I taught ESL and several other positions within a school district because they allow you to move a lot. I was never bored and really liked working with kids (as opposed to adults :)).
@@sagebay2803 My mom is an English teacher in a public middle school and when she speaks about her job I always thought it sucked, it didn't match her personality and clashed with her unresolved trauma (if you don't respect yourself children won't respect you). As I love English and look like my mom everyone always asked/told me "do you want to be a teacher?" and I always said no. I don't want to work with groups of children or people who don't specifically want to learn what you're teaching, I can barely discipline myself I can't deal with having to discipline other people 🫤. I want to work with people who enjoy what they're doing. I don't like noisy environments and dealing with groups 😅. Although if you taught ESL, which I guess would be English sign language 🤔? it was a less noisy class aha. I think I prefer one-on-one interactions, like tutoring, as it tends to make people more respectful and lead to a better connection. Also it's less boring because the work environment changes, and you get to tailor lessons to the child's specific needs 🤔
It's like that. No work or career path is easy. If u want to make money, you have to endure. That's why they call it compensation. Compensation for the pain and time u suffered😂
@@yh3428 yes, but some people actually like their job even though it's not easy. I did "easy jobs" that were horrible for various reasons, we just have to find what suffering we can endure on a daily basis 😂.
My struggle is the fact that I know that I want to work for the car industry since I was 5 but after an almost 20 year career I’m still not there. I have been doing jobs I know I can do but that give me 0 fulfilment. And in the meantime, every time I apply for a job linked to that subject , I’m never the best candidate. It’s incredibly frustrating.
Whats your current job?
Taking action in the real world based on who we want to be, that lived experience , is excellent advice. Not just embracing but embodying that is that bridge to a new now.
Boundaries and limits. I used to succumb to what others think I should do, but now no. And "No"is a full sentence.
Listening to this is encouraging me to "keep on keeping on.". Everything was very well-said
I was inspired and felt powerful by the tremendous personal transformation you've gone through since 2014 😍 It will happen to us step by step bc we know there's an exponential growth behind the scenes as long as we stay consistent with it 🔥
Exactly 👏👏👏
my problem is what parts of me a just lazy and unmotivated and what parts are due to mental health e.g anxiety and depression
Your words always hits me hard. I often get asked or ask myself about what I want for my life? What I fancy for my life? Then I would be lost in thoughts "it's not a big house nor an expensive car that I want, then what is it?". Well the answer is right there. You explained it beautifully wenzes.
❤️
I tried rock climbing back in 95 with some friends who were quite skilled at it...I hated every minute of it
I'm Going to buy audio book course after Bootcamp. That way I can stay on the course and keep improving.
🥳🥳🥳
Wenzes, I’m so grateful that I found you here on YT. I’ve been struggling to take my voice and to put myself on the spotlight in a project that I recently launched…. and this week, I remembered my INFJ personality so I started searching… and your channel has been so helpful to understand why it was taking me so much time to structured what I want to say and to actually do it (because of course I want to share a lot of stuff and this will be the first time I’m sharing my perspectives of life ) So now I know that slow is my nature and it’s ok because I am progressing. Thank you for all the value that you share for us.
❤️❤️❤️
You have a most amazing gift. "Be the hero of your own movie". Thank you.
Wenzes your videos have always been very helpful. Thank you for for teaching and helping us INFJs so much. I have been trying to be myself and intense with everyone and in everything as you suggested, but after repeated rejections I feel its just easier to be by myself. However even if I try to embrace the loneliness and hermit mode I still end up craving for meaningful connections, for partnership for family. How do I embrace this? Should I try to embrace loneliness or should I keep trying?
Go and share your truth! You are valuable and what you bring is helping people. Hermit mode is good for a while to stabilize yourself but then keep going out and stand up for what you believe. Be the best version of yourself, look for outlets where you can share your gift with people who can and WANT to accept your help. People might reject you at first because they don't get it but if you keep choosing you the right people will come (back) and embrace you the way you are. You are worth it!
@@WenzesShe's 100% right.
Thank you for this. Incredible insight and motivational for me.
….oh, and dimming our light for another, whom we cannot help but to FEEL the lifetime of emotional pain that resides within them ~ THIS, oh boy, has been a bit of a sticky wicket for me, even as a child.
I, at times ~ later, in the analysis of my response to their pain ~ think that it was my destiny, in this particular human lifetime of my soul, to sacrifice my body to be used as a healing tool. Colloquially referred to as a “pity f*ck.” It’s very complicated, the factors of my childhood that created how I view myself as a sexual tool for male broken souls. I don’t typically publicly share such deep or dark machinations of my psyche, but the purpose of your channel is to HELP INFJ’s better understand themselves and use this knowledge to live their best life, so I share with that altruistic goal, from my heart❣️
So you believe your purpose is to give your body to narcissistic and evil people for their pleasure?. Do you have some kind of dark alliance with them yes?
Thank you so much for sharing this! I feel so seen watching this 🙏 I just found your channel
Woo-hoo, new upload❣️ When your face pops up on your upload, I joyfully say out loud, “Hey Wenzes, baby girl, yay!” Best wishes, hope Bootcamp is smashing it❣️
And, whoa, I ‘thought’ I fully understood the concept of “Living in my head,” but I had a lightbulb moment regarding this tendency we have, 2 days ago. When I’m in next bootcamp, I can share, because it was a “living in my head,” then not doing that which had been living in my head for 2 months, which led to me basically wasting about $2500, because when I got to the place & person that had been living in my mind for 2 months….well, I didn’t think it was a good idea to do that which had played out vividly in my mind! WTF!?
And, this was a eureka moment that solidified & affirmed my belief that I will benefit & improve my Standard Operating Procedures of Thought, Behavior & Life by investing in INFJ EPIC LIFE BOOTCAMP❣️ You know that it’s often a slowly revealing process for us, to get to the point where our thoughts crystallize and action is compelled❣️
Woo-hoo 🥳
Progress makes space for what's meant to be in our experience! ❤
Thank you for this, beloved sis! 😊
Hey Wenzes,
Do you think being a diplomat is gonna be a good idea for an INFJ?
Love you Wenzes,
You are one of my biggest blessings.
What I love about this particular video is how sincere it truly is. It seems like you are speaking from your soul and, in the end, it helped me as well. Thank you for this one, it really did make a difference, especially when all the insights are taken into account.
Wise words Wenzes!
Exactly!.
Resonating 🎉
This is very reaffirming. Thanks.
I thought it was the massive depression I constantly feel.
Those were my only reason why Im too unmotivated. .or just tired. .
Indeed! 💪🪄
People are really stupid...they think they know us 😊
That's so true
I feel unmotivated often because I know I cannot undertake a task the way that gives me a perfect result😢 so i just dont do it😂
Hey Wenzes, as a life coach, do you make consultations, and if Yes, what is the form of that? Thanks.
Hi Dimitar, here you can find all the infos on the coaching I offer:
1-on-1-coaching.wenzes.com/
All the best, Wenzeslawa
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