5 SIGNS THE INFJ IS BURNED OUT, NOT LAZY
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Explore the five key indicators of burnout specifically for INFJs and understand how to distinguish these signs from mere laziness. It's easy to fall into the trap of self-doubt, especially when you're feeling overwhelmed, but don't let that deter you from pursuing an epic life. Drawing from personal experiences, this insight will guide you through recognizing burnout and the steps to overcome it. Discover how navigating through burnout can not only restore your energy but also boost your motivation, leading to a more fulfilled and enthusiastic approach to life and its challenges.
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Do feel like you are "too lazy" as an INFJ? Do you have signs of burnout?
Thank you! I needed to hear this - I been feeling fatigued and been busy (though productive) but kind of bleehhhh 😵💫 when getting started again each day - your advice resonated and gave me a much needed sanity check.
not really, i used to be but not so much these days.
Wenzes, ❤ you. Where was this all my life? Am a therapist (respiratory) and artist (martial), found you 2 weeks ago, what an amazing transformation that is currently evolving. Have met other fellow INFJs at work and we are always energetically uplifting each other. The awareness has also affected the way I interact with patients as well as teammates! As far as the lazy mindset, worked thru pandemic, post years lost my beloved pet and home and just collapsed for about a year. Current state, found you and the MBTI, that explains everything. Much has changed, and thank you for the continual life coach support. You are an inspiration, keep doing what you are doing. We all need to stick together to make this world, a better, safer place. ❤
Yes, I feel tired and drained very often and I want to change it. I just feel it's not who I am actually.
Thank you for this!
I am an infj who has been struggling a lot.
If someone tells you-you are being lazy, it means they want something from you.
1:20 You feel shame and guilt around it
2:32 You give more in relationships than you're getting back
6:42 We withdraw from reality too much
9:30 You feel others' pain, but you're not aware of your own
12:58 We're waiting for others to see our worth based on what we're doing for them
Also when you are surrounded by energy vampires in your life with no resources to remove yourself away from the situation yet, that also make you burnout. Sending love to all INFJs who are surviving that hell and fighting to get out. I believe in you ❤
That’s my situation right now. Really feels like survival mode. Thanks for the support. ❤
@@Nikki-fx6yy aww Nikki, you got this girl! I'm on the same boat. We'll make it through and not only survive but we'll also thrive. I'm rooting for us 💕
This is where I have been 😪
@@SupaMac1002 you got this 🌸
It's complicated. I'm sure many are in this same situation. TY for your support & kind thoughts for all.🙏❤️🔥🥰
This was almost painfull to hear. It's 5 out of 5 for me. I really thought something is wrong with me, why have I become so lazy when I know it's not a trait that I ever would have used to described myself before. And then the guilt starts. I think the hardest part for me to get away from is the validation portion, but I am still learning
The burnout is bigger than ever before. I lost my partner last year and am trying to juggle being both mom and dad while taking care of other responsibilities. I've always been easily stressed and needed a certain amount of time to build up again, but this is different than before. Thanks for the video. We do have a specific natural threshold, and it is okay to admit to it. I like to call it relaxation to self instead of laziness.
You will get trough it ok ❤️‼️ 4:47
Ooh yes “you are not LAZY ‼️❤️” 😊🇧🇪
Try some me Rhodiola it is against burnout ,and it’s planted based on , just hold on ❤️‼️
People are so so very exhausting 😅
. . . Only the vast majority. The very rare few of the rare ‘others’ are just the opposite … but not without
exceptions, learned the hard way .
It was while I was experiencing #5 (waiting for others approval for what I was doing for them) that I discovered the truth of #2 (giving more in relationships than I was getting back). And even though a lot of this happened in my pre Myers-Briggs days (computers not readily available in the mid 70s and early 80s) it still didn't take long to realize that many times I was "being had" and was wasting my time.
It took a while to process all of this. I appreciated #4: ..." feeling others' pain but being unaware of our own." My experience with this was that I did have an awareness of my own pain - but thought it was a selfish reaction on my part - after all, I'm "supposed" to want to help, right? And I did feel a lot of pain when helping somebody when he or she would be rude in the process.
It took some time and even sharp language on my part to let them know that my help required civil behavior from them if it was to happen. But I stood my ground.
Care providing for my mother with Alzheimers is a reality right now. I have let go of people who ask for my help to give myself alone time. Thank goodness for relief days when I can find myself. I have lists of things that I need to do for myself. Putting one foot in front of the other untill my exit plan is a reality.
100% on point. I've been hanging on INFJ burn out for a while now. Coping with some of these and with your video will work on coping on the others I had not recognized yet. Thank you!
I definitely feel burnt out from over a decade of being out and around people. I don't mind being around people, but it's like my socialization time has an expiration time and after work or after I hang out with friends or family, I feel the need to be at home and chill. I used to give more than I got from relationships. I have a big heart and want to show my love, but I found that giving time to friends and being available because I wanted to hang out with them, I felt like that wasn't reciprocated and now I've done a 1-80 and have just given up on relationships entirely.
very timely - thank you - feeling extremely lazy and guilty and what's wrong with me? also aware that I'm totally burned our from work stress and financial woes and just need some serious down time. Been taking it super slow this weekend and allowing myself to just not do much - which feels odd - but I can tell it's burn out. Just making art and watching old movies and letting the tears and grief come and go. Reading a lot. Just being with myself and accepting this is how it is for the moment. Thank you for this wonderful video/insights.
TY. INFJs need to be more aware during life changing events. I was so focused on being a Strong Mom & Foster Mom to support everyone in my life when my mom suddenly died in 2000, that relatives who started Dollar Store Chains were able to help Mom's Cult Survivor 5th hubby transfer all her assets to himself so my grandsons got nothing from all my mom had worked so hard to leave for their future. Underhanded Accountants who were Pastors & Musical Directors of Evangelical Churches get women to sign over Beneficiary rights right before sudden death tricks if you don't stay on your toes in Florida. INFJs get taken advantage of easily before we mature, is my point I hope to pass on to other INFJs.🙏🤦
When I come to do work, I come to get sh*t done. If it's something I don't want to do, it doesn't get 100% effort. I just got tired of doing that much work or work I didn't want to do for people who couldn't care less about that much effort neing put in. And not even being compensated for it.
I don't believe myself better than anyone. But my work speaks for itself. I don't ever claim to be better than anyone. I'm just willing to go above and beyond to get the job done. A quality many people brush off as "overachieving". They just show up for a paycheck. I show up to do work
For real. This hits hard with me. As an INFJ, I put so much thought and thoroughness into my work; whereas my coworkers could care less about the accuracy and appearance of their work. I rarely have to do re-work, and my employer recognizes that I'm an overachiever, but they do nothing to properly compensate me for my extra and high quality work.
This is what has burned me out. I give, give, give at work to my employer, but my employer doesn't reciprocate.
Unfortunately, due to health reasons and ties to a pension, I feel stuck at my current employer. I am deathly afraid of seeking a new job elsewhere, because the amount of energy that will take is daunting to me.
INFJ's are too often taken advantage of, and it's definitely not got for our mental health.
@@MrM-mb5ll That's a rough place to be where you have to solely rely on a place that feels like abuse. And not really having any other options outside of that to go to.
Unfortunately for me, regardless of where it put me. I split from every job that I ever felt was just that. An abusive setting. I've quit well paying jobs and I've quit not so well paying jobs. All in the search for a place I could actually enjoy showing up to work. There was only 1 time that had happened. And it was when I was working for myself. But even that was conditional
I am exactly in this same situation. On one hand if I stay at my current job, then I need to lessen my work ethic (which goes against who I am and is concerning) to meet the 30/70 rule. If I leave then that is also energy draining for age and health issues. Neither choice is optimal so I am still deciding.
@@suemaz9846 Given my track record with jobs I'm probably not the person to take advice from. But what I will say is do what you think is right. In my case, what I thought was right was getting TF out of all those jobs that didn't seem to appreciate effort that wasn't for them.
But in your case, I really don't know your situation, I wouldn't be too hasty. If you're not sure about leaving, because of the uncertainty that follows. I'd say you might just have to make a compromise. An easy job is better than no job. Ask me how I know.
Because I've been somewhat (actually very) steadfast in being uncompromising, I'm in a very poor situation. So my advice would be to stay until you find something you would want to transition to. Because if not, that transition may take longer than anticipated. Which could leave you stranded with no lifesaver or raft to float on. Then it just makes a bad situation infinitely worse
Wow the timing.I just cut off communication with a coworker who I help multiple times a day . I'm the worst people pleaser and always put others first. In 10 months this person called me 577xs. We wfh and this was during work hours not personal calls. I would put my work aside to teach them how to do their's and I think I just help them beat me out of the promotion 😭 if this doesn't wake me up and get my attention I have some major issues ahead yet in life
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Wenze's I concur with your thoughts.Wenze I thank you for you.Wenze's love your brains and beauty.Jerome❤❤❤
I like this videos it reminds me when I was younger before I ever knew I was an INFJ we've been in that where we felt like we had to be other person next to us until later on in our lives we found out we have to truly be ourselves internally and once we do that then people get offended lol 🤣 once we know our worth people question our worthiness because they know theirs truly us INFJs we're a real life mirror effect to people
Well stated. It's hard to put on the brakes. No one can stop us from feeling and caring. We are great healers. Trying to fix someone is not possible, a terrible notion, and will tear us up.
Such an important conversation - to listen to & to have with ourselves. It just changed my whole perspective on ALL my relationships. 🤯
This was painfully spot on!
Thank you Wenzes
Thank you so much for this video.
Actually it's been too hard for me lately,and I wasn't aware that i'm suffering. I was questioning myself without finding answers like : what's wrong with me , why i'm like that? Lazy, procrastinating, feeling guilty all the time, tired......
Especially separated from reality to the point that i'm no more hearing other's voices or seeing them , drowned inside my world, like it's not the real life! Reality exist inside me...
And the most important one is sign 4 that you mentioned in video " you feel other's pain but you're not aware of your own" that made me realize that i was too harsh on myself and it's super normal to feel that way ,i'm not sick neither a weirdo.
_ so i really hope if you can make a video and help me and thoose who're struggling like me ,how to know their feeling and accept them.
❤thank u so much coach ❤
Especially the last one...felt like a slap in the face!
And...yes, of course I too have had my fair share of "friends" who I've helped and mentored so much and for so long only to have them say in the end: don't pretend like you did that much, I am at your same level , in fact I am better than you!
Thank You dear Wenzes ❤❤❤
Totally agree....I am working on this for last few years. Thank you.
Sometimes I feel I've never meant to be part of all this nonsense. Almost 60 years trying to understand what's going on. Allways felt that my comfort zone is uncertainty.
Thank you, awesome advice
Yes and as a budding astrology coach, also in my general experience teaching adults, there is this thing where they take me for granted as an equal, and overlook my mentor role and what I contribute. That is a hard part. I'm bit burned out and feeling lazy since arriving back in US from new home UK (since 3-1/2yrs living there) ... I think it's hard to adjust my mind to my transition being back in this country's dynamic again. There are a lot of things here that fit with me and my energy. Also I just went to a digital marketing conference, it was big help for me but also a lot to take in, and I stepped into my power and now I'm kinda vegging despite being in a holiday situation where there is much to do of practical chores and touristy things.
Right now I had to put someone in his place after using me and then disrespecting my abilities. I did the real INFJ call-out, as an INFJ astrologer it's double-whammy. I made myself vulnerable for a person with a mental problem and he thought he could attack because I was polite about his condition. So I went right ahead and showed exactly where his condition showed up in the chart in detail and how it related to his disrespect. But your video is making me consider ways to nip that shit in the bud. Or let a person with a mental condition know that they can get two options, the normal version for a respectful person and the hard reality for a person with disresepct issues. I tend to see mental illness as a form of abuse of others. They choose to cross boundaries and they don't care the consequences. That's why people used to treat them badly. They still do, but it's called medication.
I had around 10 INFJ Epic Weeks in a row, and now I've been burned out for a few days. It already seems like I've been burned out for an eternity. But just a few days ago I was at Epic levels. Perception can change so fast
Wenzes, благодарю! Как всегда все точно и вовремя! Спасибо за ваш труд!
Да, этот материал работает для всех стран и народов)
My mom has got much more energy than me during the exams, I totally agree.
Excellent. Thank you, Wenzes!
We are definitely not lazy ❤️😊‼️
Thank you so much Wenzes❤
Yes i am
Right on video. Thanks Wenzes
The last point really fits to my situation and I am touched by your words and sharing your experience with us.
This is so relatable. I just have experienced this burn out and I needed this! Thank you!
I still think I'm a little bit lazy, but it's true, most of the time, I feel guilt.
I was wondering this today! Thank you! You make things all better.
I'm so so so so tired, help!
Omg so so burned out 😩
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I dont have it in me right now but i have to i dont have a choice.
It was while I was experiencing #5 (waiting for others approval for what I was doing for them) that I discovered the truth of #2 (giving more in relationships than I was getting back). And even though a lot of this happened in my pre Myers-Briggs days (computers not readily available in the mid 70s and early 80s) it still didn't take long to realize that many times I was "being had" and was wasting my time.
It took a while to process all of this. I appreciated #4: ..." feeling others' pain but being unaware of our own." My experience with this was that I did have an awareness of my own pain - but thought it was a selfish reaction on my part - after all, I'm "supposed" to want to help, right? And I did feel a lot of pain when helping somebody when he or she would be rude in the process.
It took some time and even sharp language on my part to let them know that my help required civil behavior from them if it was to happen. But I stood my ground.