How one so young could be endowed with so much wisdom, insights and the ability to articulate all my insecurities and idiosyncrasies with such precision is beyond me. I feel I have come home! when I emerge out of my cocoon I will do so with a new confidence. Thank you Wenzes for your gift and more importantly for sharing it generously with your kindred spirits! May God bless you in this new year and beyond, ❤
Theres a time in my life that I shine bright. But then I have to dim it when my kids become teenager. I place myself as trainor-mentor-backup plan for them, so they can get their own stage. Now the younger one preparing to enter university, so I prepare myself to shine again.
I've accepted myself fully in highschool when my mom helped me accept im born dark skin and I will die dark skin. So I might as well love, all of me and stay out of trouble and avoid trouble ridden people who have no interest in changing for the better
I didn’t like me until I tried to kill myself. I failed obviously, I woke up and it was the first time I thought to myself “I don’t deserve to be treated so badly to the point I want to kill myself” . And I decided to never let anyone make me feel that way again. Including myself. I persecuted myself for making mistakes and I took a step back and realized I always give people way too many chances and I’m so forgiving why can’t I forgive myself? So I did. I own my mistakes to this day. Everyone makes mistakes. And I’ve grown so much. And I like me. I accept my past and I like my past because it brought me to where I am today. And there ARE people out there that like me for me too! They are few and far between , but they mean the world to me. I had no one when I went through all of that. But after growing and healing… you attract much better people. If you don’t like yourself , you’re just gonna attract other people that don’t like themselves and they will take it out on you.
Thank you. Didn't know before that personality like INFJ existed. I knew for years that I was different and after suffering, hesitation, trying to be like others, I found that most people do not see, hear and feel like me. I laughed very hard and realized how a curse can also be a blessing. Having since gone through a similar 10 steps, I just want to say I wish I had found this channel sooner. Maybe everything would have gone much easier. Thank you, Wenzes, you are doing a wonderful job. Keep it UP!
Any INFJ here who wants to talk about their dark side from time to time to people but eventually ends up not really diving into it because people look at them like they're out of their mind living in some superhero au?:D
I have finally started valuing myself enough to not desperately run after people for friendships. Now if it happens it happens. You do you Boo, cuz im gonna do me.😊
Wow. The quote "I want people to like me for me liking me.". INCREDIBLE! 😊👍😊👍. My wording of it could have been, " I want people to like me because I like myself." By fully accepting my dark side, it transformed the way people related to me and vice-versa. And the nice thing is, I didn't really have to tell anybody what it was. The change in my attitude simply showed without my having to say anything. The few people who knew my dark side weren't one bit fazed about it except that they were happy for me for accepting it. The biggest change is that my dark side doesn't "run me" any more. IOW, I own it and it doesn't own me.
Excellent advice for entering the gregorian new year. Best wishes to everyone on the path of inner knowing and integration of soul. Embracing my Lilith has helped to heal my Chiron. These vidios have helped with my astrological decode and understanding my own psyche. Being neurodivergent and having struggled to accept mobility issues related to dis/ease, I can say through 20 years experience that health care professionals including Neurologists and Psychologists could learn a thing or two from you. Bless you and thankyou. xx
Damn. I made friends with my dark side, but I know what it takes for me to show it. I don't want to hurt anyone, but people think nothing of intentionally hurting me. I don't tolerate the disrespect anymore, & will immediately cut them off. I'm not sacrificing my peace & happiness for someone who doesn't reciprocate my efforts, or feel entitled to my time & energy.
Wishing everyone a happy new year. Thanks to Wenzes, I am starting 2024 almost as a new person, replacing anxiety, joylessness and fearfulness with courage, conviction and excitement. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Whoop whoop whoop !! I actually had a message right before I listened to this. It was Jordan Peterson saying, “you have to learn to be a monster” and I was contemplating that statement, which is out of context, but basically what you are saying and it’s so timely. Thank you
I’ve realized that I can truly traumatize people if they push past a certain threshold. I’m an exceedingly patient person, and I’ll do all I can to avoid getting there. But if I had to go there, I fight to win, and I do. But I draw no pleasure from that. Incidentally I’m a military analyst by trade, and pocking holes in arguments is what I do best. That is a reason why I started writing as a way to embrace my dark side ✍🏼 - my life is finite, but my words will transcend me in every manner. But you’re right, some people now see me in a whole new light they didn’t realized before. I’ve made my peace with it and looking forward to an awesome 2024! Happy New Year!
Ones that could get me arrested. 😂 Joking of course but, it is unleashing the annihilator. I want to tell people what I think at that very moment of an encounter. I see so much and right through people. I don’t need to curse or raise my voice to destroy anyone, just polish my mirror and let it blast back at them (like a CareBear 😁). I don’t want friends or people around me so being what someone else wants me to be is not an issue. It’s me giving myself permission as, I had been told even as an adult, change everything about you so the family can love you. I also feel like what I perceive as ‘being mean’ may actually just be feeling uncomfortable when I shouldn’t because I’m just establishing boundaries. I know that’s more than INFJ challenges but it plays into our coping mechanisms and tools. Thank you for your channel! I binge listen while cleaning. 🙏💜
Wow, I didn't know nothing about this type of personality 😳 this video just appeared in my feed and woooow I'm blown away it felt like you were describing me 😂 thank you so much I always felt like lost and weird for not having this information ❤ thank you thank you sooo much, I will do research for months now lmao THANK YOU, YOU SAVED MY LIFE!
This is so true. The only difference is that I was very attuned to my dark side. So dark, I was capable of almost anything. Later in life, I couldn't find my dark side, and I was suffering being a people pleaser because I was so aware of my dark side and my power but, I didn't want to use it. Now, I have learned to embrace both sides. But, the power still scares me, even to the point where it holds me back at times. But, I like to think of myself as being in a super position. I am both and neither a 1 or a 0. The cat is neither dead nor alive until it is observed. At least, that's my idealized self. Reality is more nuanced.
The INFJ Glow-Up is a MASTERPIECE!! Thank you, Wenzes. Happy New Year everyone! I just received my new planner, I’m going to watch it all over again, this time taking notes. This Glow-Up is what I’ve needed to hear since I was a teenager. Thank you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤
Happy New Year dear lady Wenzes! I am happy to have found your great channel, your videos are so very helpful, I so much appreciate you! Thank you for all❤️
This dark side is like a fearsome monster dragon that sleeps in a cave. It can really harm people if awaken. Normally people would think the trick is about the rules to unleash it, but no. The real trick is to train the beast to not hurt anyone but the one who attacked you. Anyone else must remain untouched by the beast. Such training has served me to not get into trouble. Also the beast must be trained to not put anyone´s life in real danger. For example, the beast should not put the attacker at the edge of the cliff, because if the attacked falls by accident, the whole situation becomes am unintended tragedy that goes beyond the intention of setting a limit. In this example I described a physical example, but in real life situations may be less physical, and yet it could have a similar tragic effect. So the beast needs to be tamed. My beast is at the end of a long cave. It is so long that people confuse patience with weakness, but I do not care. To see that beast in the eyes, an attacker needs to make me back down a lot, and I mean that by the time the attacker faces the beast you know that this attacker bought all the lottery tickets and earned the prize. If someone witness the beast, I explain that I never unleash it on people who did not go into the cave to seek it. And I also explain that is why I have so much patience. The beast is not wild animal., It is a guardian. And it sleeps when it does not need to protect.
I knew i am infj n my suffer different priority value why my self critic trauma was all infj prob. I knew it now at 37 😂 so i am at inner peace 😂 i love me
You'd be living your own life your way, free from the shackles of a personality trait. Btw, no one is born into any personality trait. Theres no "INFJ genes" in your body. That aint up to God. Thats on you. Free will
As an 30s infj My dark side is living for myself self love mymental health only focus in my inner circle n detachment from everyone . Hiw to make money oj social media as an introvert 😂
Happy New YEAR! Bravo, enjoyed the whole series. I know so much more now and understand all those things happened to me are real. i can see no end, going to be a wonderful last third of my life. With my pattern recognition skills. I can day trade bitcoin with the best of traders. My new career.at age 67 looking to give it to charities. Sounds like a INFJ.
I know this is not exactly right on topic but it is certainly an indirect topic to this one. Am I the only INFJ dealing with adrenal fatigue? I tried my best to heal myself with vitamins and minerals but I still am tired. Is there somebody who is in my situation here? I would love so much eventually to have an INFJ making a video of how to heal your adrenal glands and I wish I was this person but I am not healed yet. My descent started I was a young adult and it went from there. I certainly improved my health but not satisfactory because I can not do anything that I can REALLY sustain because of lack of energy. That's why I did not join the bootcamp yet - even though I was very tempted to do so at the end of last year - because there is something I need to fix first. Thank you for reading.
I am doing things that makes me happy n proud of me yes😂 but people see us like a weak simple dumb but the thing is ur opinion toward physical world is not my priority
I use RUclips as a therapist when needed and usually only seek the videos that are laid out of front of me.. this is the 2nd validation of a journey to come that aligns with the topic at matter. I truly admit I'm nervous of stepping over my threash hold and stretching the moral compass retrospectively. Your words brought strength as your eyes brought me comfort. Your vibration is as an infj General. 🫡
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Happy new year wenzes and fellow INFJ warriors! More epic life moments this year 2024 ❤
How one so young could be endowed with so much wisdom, insights and the ability to articulate all my insecurities and idiosyncrasies with such precision is beyond me. I feel I have come home! when I emerge out of my cocoon I will do so with a new confidence. Thank you Wenzes for your gift and more importantly for sharing it generously with your kindred spirits! May God bless you in this new year and beyond, ❤
An old soul recognised an old soul.
Theres a time in my life that I shine bright. But then I have to dim it when my kids become teenager. I place myself as trainor-mentor-backup plan for them, so they can get their own stage. Now the younger one preparing to enter university, so I prepare myself to shine again.
INFJ here, a kind hearted compassionate person whose also a warrior when need be.
Yes mio amore❤
Me too I am also an INFJ very compassionate, very caring very loving Man but if need be I’m a different person when provoked, 💯
I've accepted myself fully in highschool when my mom helped me accept im born dark skin and I will die dark skin. So I might as well love, all of me and stay out of trouble and avoid trouble ridden people who have no interest in changing for the better
I didn’t like me until I tried to kill myself. I failed obviously, I woke up and it was the first time I thought to myself “I don’t deserve to be treated so badly to the point I want to kill myself” . And I decided to never let anyone make me feel that way again. Including myself. I persecuted myself for making mistakes and I took a step back and realized I always give people way too many chances and I’m so forgiving why can’t I forgive myself? So I did. I own my mistakes to this day. Everyone makes mistakes. And I’ve grown so much. And I like me. I accept my past and I like my past because it brought me to where I am today. And there ARE people out there that like me for me too! They are few and far between , but they mean the world to me. I had no one when I went through all of that. But after growing and healing… you attract much better people. If you don’t like yourself , you’re just gonna attract other people that don’t like themselves and they will take it out on you.
Thank you. Didn't know before that personality like INFJ existed. I knew for years that I was different and after suffering, hesitation, trying to be like others, I found that most people do not see, hear and feel like me. I laughed very hard and realized how a curse can also be a blessing. Having since gone through a similar 10 steps, I just want to say I wish I had found this channel sooner. Maybe everything would have gone much easier. Thank you, Wenzes, you are doing a wonderful job. Keep it UP!
She has helped me so much
Any INFJ here who wants to talk about their dark side from time to time to people but eventually ends up not really diving into it because people look at them like they're out of their mind living in some superhero au?:D
This is exactly my life
With great power comes great responsibility
-- Stan Lee
Happy new years INFJs, hopefully this the years we start focusing on ourself.
I have finally started valuing myself enough to not desperately run after people for friendships. Now if it happens it happens. You do you Boo, cuz im gonna do me.😊
Wow. The quote "I want people to like me for me liking me.".
INCREDIBLE! 😊👍😊👍. My wording of it could have been, " I want people to like me because I like myself."
By fully accepting my dark side, it transformed the way people related to me and vice-versa. And the nice thing is, I didn't really have to tell anybody what it was. The change in my attitude simply showed without my having to say anything. The few people who knew my dark side weren't one bit fazed about it except that they were happy for me for accepting it.
The biggest change is that my dark side doesn't "run me" any more. IOW, I own it and it doesn't own me.
🎉❤wish all my very dear infjs a superb year 2024 🎉
I am an Infj giant. 1% of 1%. It’s more than a disconnect from people after I go there. It’s saying I choose being alone over being disrespected.
Wenzes, you and this channel have been a blessing in 2023! Thank you and blessings to you and yours in the new year!
As Bob Marley said _"I am the darkness that must come out (of) the light"_
You are quite the guide for me to be liking myself.
Uncanny how your words are truths in my life experience.
Thanks !!!
Well, it just sounds like my new year's resolution. I really need to show more of my self.
Excellent advice for entering the gregorian new year. Best wishes to everyone on the path of inner knowing and integration of soul. Embracing my Lilith has helped to heal my Chiron. These vidios have helped with my astrological decode and understanding my own psyche. Being neurodivergent and having struggled to accept mobility issues related to dis/ease, I can say through 20 years experience that health care professionals including Neurologists and Psychologists could learn a thing or two from you. Bless you and thankyou. xx
Damn. I made friends with my dark side, but I know what it takes for me to show it. I don't want to hurt anyone, but people think nothing of intentionally hurting me. I don't tolerate the disrespect anymore, & will immediately cut them off. I'm not sacrificing my peace & happiness for someone who doesn't reciprocate my efforts, or feel entitled to my time & energy.
Happy new year thank you for everything you do for us INFJs I don’t know where I would be without you !
Wenzes, you should make a video about the differences between a "Dark INFJ" and the "INFJ dark side.... I believe there is a difference
1000%
Really needed this ❤ thanks so much for this video and your content
Wishing everyone a happy new year. Thanks to Wenzes, I am starting 2024 almost as a new person, replacing anxiety, joylessness and fearfulness with courage, conviction and excitement. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Whoop whoop whoop !! I actually had a message right before I listened to this. It was Jordan Peterson saying, “you have to learn to be a monster” and I was contemplating that statement, which is out of context, but basically what you are saying and it’s so timely. Thank you
What are some of your dark side traits you are afraid to embrace?
the destoyer…
Letting toxic people go
Letting many people go..😢
I’ve realized that I can truly traumatize people if they push past a certain threshold. I’m an exceedingly patient person, and I’ll do all I can to avoid getting there. But if I had to go there, I fight to win, and I do. But I draw no pleasure from that. Incidentally I’m a military analyst by trade, and pocking holes in arguments is what I do best. That is a reason why I started writing as a way to embrace my dark side ✍🏼 - my life is finite, but my words will transcend me in every manner. But you’re right, some people now see me in a whole new light they didn’t realized before. I’ve made my peace with it and looking forward to an awesome 2024! Happy New Year!
Ones that could get me arrested. 😂 Joking of course but, it is unleashing the annihilator. I want to tell people what I think at that very moment of an encounter. I see so much and right through people. I don’t need to curse or raise my voice to destroy anyone, just polish my mirror and let it blast back at them (like a CareBear 😁).
I don’t want friends or people around me so being what someone else wants me to be is not an issue. It’s me giving myself permission as, I had been told even as an adult, change everything about you so the family can love you.
I also feel like what I perceive as ‘being mean’ may actually just be feeling uncomfortable when I shouldn’t because I’m just establishing boundaries. I know that’s more than INFJ challenges but it plays into our coping mechanisms and tools.
Thank you for your channel! I binge listen while cleaning. 🙏💜
Happy New Year everyone. Thanks Wenzes for doing what you do. I truly appreciate it. Ken
Wow, I didn't know nothing about this type of personality 😳 this video just appeared in my feed and woooow I'm blown away it felt like you were describing me 😂 thank you so much I always felt like lost and weird for not having this information ❤ thank you thank you sooo much, I will do research for months now lmao THANK YOU, YOU SAVED MY LIFE!
Briefly dated an INFJ with Borderline Personality Disorder. It was emotionally stressful.
Dating anyone with BPD would be stressful
Happy new year infj master❤
You have no idea. The power of the Darkside.
I definitely needed this video as an infj .
Thank you so much Wenzes and happy new year to you and my fellow INFJs.
Happy new year ✨🙌
Happy new year 🙂
Happy new year wenzes and INFJs😊😊
Happy new year ✨🙌
Afraid of being abandoned,
This is so true. The only difference is that I was very attuned to my dark side. So dark, I was capable of almost anything. Later in life, I couldn't find my dark side, and I was suffering being a people pleaser because I was so aware of my dark side and my power but, I didn't want to use it.
Now, I have learned to embrace both sides. But, the power still scares me, even to the point where it holds me back at times. But, I like to think of myself as being in a super position. I am both and neither a 1 or a 0. The cat is neither dead nor alive until it is observed. At least, that's my idealized self. Reality is more nuanced.
Thank you for the comfort we needed to mch this moment.....true colours beautiful colours...we embrace the oneness ❤...God bless you sista.
With great power comes great responsibility. Independence is a great way to utilize gifts. 3:35
Happy New Year Thank You For Being You I’m Grateful 🤗
What is called here a dark side, I would call an inner Light (hidden). I see no dark in it at all.
Very thank you wenzes 😊
Dark empath.
I always say this , wenzes your intelligence is sensual. I love you ❤️
Very interesting.
The INFJ Glow-Up is a MASTERPIECE!! Thank you, Wenzes. Happy New Year everyone! I just received my new planner, I’m going to watch it all over again, this time taking notes. This Glow-Up is what I’ve needed to hear since I was a teenager. Thank you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤
Happy New Year dear lady Wenzes! I am happy to have found your great channel, your videos are so very helpful, I so much appreciate you! Thank you for all❤️
Happy new year. I would like to become a member of your coaching. I definitely need some help I'll be in touch soon. Fellow infj here.
This dark side is like a fearsome monster dragon that sleeps in a cave. It can really harm people if awaken. Normally people would think the trick is about the rules to unleash it, but no. The real trick is to train the beast to not hurt anyone but the one who attacked you. Anyone else must remain untouched by the beast. Such training has served me to not get into trouble.
Also the beast must be trained to not put anyone´s life in real danger.
For example, the beast should not put the attacker at the edge of the cliff, because if the attacked falls by accident, the whole situation becomes am unintended tragedy that goes beyond the intention of setting a limit. In this example I described a physical example, but in real life situations may be less physical, and yet it could have a similar tragic effect.
So the beast needs to be tamed.
My beast is at the end of a long cave. It is so long that people confuse patience with weakness, but I do not care. To see that beast in the eyes, an attacker needs to make me back down a lot, and I mean that by the time the attacker faces the beast you know that this attacker bought all the lottery tickets and earned the prize.
If someone witness the beast, I explain that I never unleash it on people who did not go into the cave to seek it. And I also explain that is why I have so much patience.
The beast is not wild animal., It is a guardian. And it sleeps when it does not need to protect.
I knew i am infj n my suffer different priority value why my self critic trauma was all infj prob. I knew it now at 37 😂 so i am at inner peace 😂 i love me
What would I do without you, Wenzes?
You'd be living your own life your way, free from the shackles of a personality trait. Btw, no one is born into any personality trait. Theres no "INFJ genes" in your body. That aint up to God. Thats on you. Free will
As an 30s infj My dark side is living for myself self love mymental health only focus in my inner circle n detachment from everyone . Hiw to make money oj social media as an introvert 😂
HappyNew Year Wenzes
Happy New YEAR! Bravo, enjoyed the whole series. I know so much more now and understand all those things happened to me are real. i can see no end, going to be a wonderful last third of my life. With my pattern recognition skills. I can day trade bitcoin with the best of traders. My new career.at age 67 looking to give it to charities. Sounds like a INFJ.
Yes, Happy New Year to all and Wenzes, this is one of the best. Thanks! 💗
Thank you Wenzes
Awesome
Happy NewYear Wenzes !
@Wenzes Excellent video Wenzes! I wish you a (belated) Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year! 🙂❤🌹😘👍🏼
Happy New year wenzes! Thank you!
Happy New Year! Thank you for sharing your info!
But i can act everything wat people like and wanna see in social media if there is any🤑
How do you explain doing things you like to do and not wanting to be there? Having a good time but wanting to be anywhere but there?
Thank-you!❤
Thank you
Happy New year to you as well ❤
Wow🔥🥂
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I know this is not exactly right on topic but it is certainly an indirect topic to this one. Am I the only INFJ dealing with adrenal fatigue? I tried my best to heal myself with vitamins and minerals but I still am tired. Is there somebody who is in my situation here? I would love so much eventually to have an INFJ making a video of how to heal your adrenal glands and I wish I was this person but I am not healed yet. My descent started I was a young adult and it went from there. I certainly improved my health but not satisfactory because I can not do anything that I can REALLY sustain because of lack of energy. That's why I did not join the bootcamp yet - even though I was very tempted to do so at the end of last year - because there is something I need to fix first. Thank you for reading.
Happy New year Wenzes!
💪💪💪💪💪
What's infj?
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I am doing things that makes me happy n proud of me yes😂 but people see us like a weak simple dumb but the thing is ur opinion toward physical world is not my priority
I just watched the Saltburn movie. My friends believe that the character Oliver is an INFJ. What do you think?
I use RUclips as a therapist when needed and usually only seek the videos that are laid out of front of me.. this is the 2nd validation of a journey to come that aligns with the topic at matter. I truly admit I'm nervous of stepping over my threash hold and stretching the moral compass retrospectively.
Your words brought strength as your eyes brought me comfort. Your vibration is as an infj General.
🫡
Thank you
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