1. Value yourself over others. 2. Make yourself rather than making others. 3. Stand for yourself rather than for others. 4. Don't trust anyone but only you. 5. Don't change for others unless they do for you. 6. Don't give till they do, as you will feel ditched and dissatisfied with every relationship. 7. Stop making other feel they are special and do it for yourself. 8. Be the best version of yourself for yourself you always needed. 9. Make money lot of it. 10. You'll make other once you are best of yourself, as an INFJ you cannot stop helping others.
1. You’re never going to get the recognition you crave from others. 2. INFJs are powerful beyond measure. 3. You can live a life full of meaning, connection, and excitement. 4. Your vision is your superpower. 5. Everything will change once you start sharing your gift without waiting for other’s appreciation. Very much worth the listen. She goes into greater detail. Thank you!!! I needed to hear this, especially the last one where I am free to use my gift because it helped me, so it might help someone else. Do it anyway for you!!!
I was gifted with DEFIANCE !! You don’t like me ? You don’t have to. Now I’m old and on Social Security and my life is amazing. It’s very simple, VERY simple and I love the peace I have. I struggled incredibly hard all of my life and I am currently reaping the rewards. Hang in there INFJ’s !! It definitely gets better.
I'm 75 and retired and actually loved the way I was. The trouble was I didn't listen to my intuition. I made tragic mistakes that cost me my life. Yes, cost me my life. Please 🙏 listen to your inner voice and do what it says. Married 57 years to a Narrisist, 2 children 1 abortion another born when I was 7 months pregnant. My life is over but even as I suffer everyday it can't come fast enough!! I can't wait for it to be over. TY for this beautiful channel.. 😍
This overview in 5 points is the real truth - I started living my Epic Life 15 years ago and I wanted to become a digital nomad - step by step I reached my goal - I call myself a database nomad - and I created a website with blog so that other INFJ's can be inspired to do the same, to follow the same path - 2 years ago I discovered Wenzes and all she's giving away in her videos, is the real thing - I wish I had this information when I was a kid or at least younger (63 years young now) - Thank you Wenzes to help all the INFJ's Sarah
Im an INFP and I absolutely love INFJs.. unfortunately its never truly reciprocated.. i see the potential in them, i see their value.. theres a particular one i love so much, but i cant seem to reach him. I can only pray that God will allow us to get to know each other more someday.
I’ve always felt like the observer, always sitting on the sidelines or on the outside looking in...I’ve even kinda accepted and embraced that role in alot of ways. I thought it was just me and because of my background and lack of participation in certain things. Didn’t realize it was common among other INFJs.
As adults we must fill that hole with us and it can be done. Realize we are envied by others. Self positive reinforcement, self compassion, and gratitude for life, and for getting to be you. It works. Then you can really love you. It works. Start with books, start with positive affirmations. You will ferret out your tribe and feel balance.
So much dense info crammed into this post. I still feel a sense of guilt when I don’t seek to adapt to everyone’s expectations, especially with family and at work. It’s like a gnawing impulse looking to find something to critique about myself always picking something new to hang the blame. I have to observe the impulse and remember it’s all originating within me and I’m projecting it on to external reality, like a Rorsasch test.
To my inner child, forward motion attitude detirmines alltitude backed in a corner by bullies press onward to the end. One day at a time. Seek first the kingdom. Stop conflict. Come lord. Thank you so very much wenzes
Ive already experienced a good life, peak of career, being life of the party in friendship, being close to marrying my dream person at first I didnt think I deserve but just got sidetracked by trivial matters, but still getting almost there makes me feel worthy. I will continue to choose what I've built for myself, the person I love who loves me for believing the same things, can ride along
As a long time subscriber of yours, thank you Wenzes, and congratulations because your videos are getting more and more qualitative! I have listened to this one twice already and plan on doing it again. I just feel this is one of your most powerful ones in a long time, there's so much in it! Keep inspiring us Wenzes, you may not see all the ripples, but you help a lot of other people even indirectly, by helping INFJs to live their epic life!
This Woman is a gem🌹 So, here is as far as I am concerned. Point 1: So true. But I've already given up on that a long time ago. I am my own judge, and I love myself. If I do find someone that does that, too; fine, super. But I will not change for anyone. Been there, done that - doesn't work. Point 2: I made my vision come true at my workplace, and I've updated it already for my next step. I now am putting up an effort to maybe find a partner; the one I want. We'll see what happens here. Point 3: My life already has meaning, since I understood the world and how it works years ago; so you cannot surprise me anymore. I am, however, very willing to give it a shot when it comes to excitement; and looking for a partner and, among other things, potentially joining the INFJ Community are other things on that list. There is basically nothing to lose here. Point 4: Vision sounds so incredibly high, but I go with it: My Vidion became true, at work, as I said before - basically the same thing as Point 2. Point 5: Sharing is a good idea; I think I'll take that up at work and in my private life as well. I already did that a little bit, but so far, the results are rather meager - maybe they're the worng kind of people. We'll see.
Some song influence me a lot. one that grow my self-acceptance : The Greatest Love of All - Whitney Houston thanks a lot to talk about this thing. now I'm on track to do my vision
So Tru. Even tho I believe my religion more than infj theory. But yes, I can tell you that holding my positive thought helped. Yes, ppl didn't appreciate the way I was expecting and after few years I somehow got into where I wanted to be kinda (I did work on it tho xD classic infj thing uno). So yeah! Stay positive, focus and work on it. Dots will get connected one-day;) more way to goooo
Technically, I am retired, but chose to stay in substitute teaching for a while. This has helped me to do meaningful things, although I constantly have to be revising due to age and health (both of which are satisfactory but not like when I was 21!). I find myself having to revise plans periodically. I also have to remind myself of these points. They are all very true but we need to build up our faith in ourselves by going over them a lot. There's a lot of good wisdom here.
I’ve been binge watching your videos today, I finally know my personality type. After becoming sober I can evaluate this information clearly and know I’m not waffling on who I really am. It’s a great feeling to know! Thank you.
Unfortunately my solution was alcohol. But been sober 4 years now. I fell into that trap because of my personality. Wonder if we’re prone to substance abuse??
Hmm I was going to say I don't fully agree with the first point, but your concluding words flipped that around 😊 I was thinking about how, in another video, you talked about how we crave deep connections and meaning. This rang really deep with I watched thay section several times. Having recently met someone who feels the same and reslly clicks with me my world was turned upside down and this sense of external validation is extremely strong, and far more beautiful then anything I could have given myself on my own. But I have to agree this is made possible because of foundations we laid ourselves.
Spot on and very timely. Using the darker months here in the UK to lay the business plan out and tweek ready for the coming spring (my new year). Slow to grow the vision alone but worth it all and very humbling. Now looking out for sponsors with the same vision and moral ethical code including legal advice as the industry I am in is very corrupt and cruel to true visionaries i.e plagiarism. Thank you Wenzes.
I know my way of asking this would be so bad, for I still struggle with articulating my thoughts, but I have a question that I'd hope you'd answer for me : how do you deal with the concept of people's emotional balance running out? Like, you're in a relationship with someone, be it a sibling, friend, or a life partner, and you know, in life things happen and the people around you let you down often, not because you have high expectations of them in the first place, but it just happens. When you need them the most, for instance, they let you down. And please note that I usually give these same people many chances before it feels like their emotional balance had run out. And then, even if we have to keep the relationship because they're like a direct relative or a family member, I feel like there is a wall in my heart, like a major disconnect. Like, I act like my old self with them, but when push comes to shove I know what to expect (which is that I don't anymore). But if it's my life partner and he'd made this mistake in the past (due to being young and inexperienced when it came down to what way of acting is appropriate and what's not in the relationship/add in-laws to the mix and you'll probably know what I mean) and after confronting him with it and he's already changed and stood up fo me when I needed him, BUT, like regarding future matters and our plans, I can't help but have this residue of doubt within me that he's going to break my heart and go back to his old ways and do the same mistakes again(even though I know he wouldn't). So how exactly do I get rid of this lingering doubt? Should I even or is it a good thing (as a self-preservation mechanism)? I hate it, like it makes me feel so distrustful of everyone, because, you see, he and my kids are the last close people I have left, so, what do you think?
Its the spiritual belief...in ur soul and the mechanism of creation that allows us 2 keep our vision ..am I right fellow INFJ's ? Or is it merely a personality type? Let me know?❤✈️
We INFJs do seem hardwired to believe in higher and deeper things, to have a deep faith. Not all of us have that faith in a form of spiritual or religious belief. I think we have to believe there is more to life than just what we can take in through the physical senses, in part because so much of this world disappoints us (or maybe it's the people in the world who disappoint us), and in part because we sense on a non-physical level that there is more. We just seem to see and notice and know things that so many others don't. I believe in God. And I believe he made me an INFJ for a reason. What that reason is, I don't know, but I'm getting there. My talents and skills are needed in this world, even if only in a small way in a small place.
We can only share our gifts if people ask for it, and we are not any reward collectors. We can see what the enemy thinks because we are the sentients in the matrix world. If you take the red pill you will go beyond the subconciousness and see behind the fasade of the real world, spoken with honesty by Morpheus. We are the ones that relate to what Morpheus is built for, to see beyond what others might be missing and to guide the chosen ones through the rabbit hole.
It is interesting that you mentioned the NORTH star. A very private focual part. And I didnt share THAT video with you. But its right here on youtube. The First of the North Star.
The north star is a pretty common term in some places when one speaks of navigating, guiding, or charting a course. Comes from sailing by the stars. The north star was always a good point to reference to make sure you knew where you were, and thus where you were headed.
I don't know... what if you find another Infj to be your partner? I had a best friend who was like me. Two sides of a coin. Dark and light. If I found that in a spouse, I think it would change everything. Maybe you settled.
I usually watch your vedios, the subject you choose to talk about is great but the vedios are really lengthy, like i watch half of it and then saving it that i will watch it later because the vedios are long and overwhelming, but you know i miss a lot of them due to busy routine. So, can you please make these vedios little bit short like it will be easy to get the idea and save time.
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What are some things you wish to tell your younger INFJ self?
You have the right to be as much of an anomaly as you want to be
1. Value yourself over others.
2. Make yourself rather than making others.
3. Stand for yourself rather than for others.
4. Don't trust anyone but only you.
5. Don't change for others unless they do for you.
6. Don't give till they do, as you will feel ditched and dissatisfied with every relationship.
7. Stop making other feel they are special and do it for yourself.
8. Be the best version of yourself for yourself you always needed.
9. Make money lot of it.
10. You'll make other once you are best of yourself, as an INFJ you cannot stop helping others.
Keep a mind to love suffering if it keeps coming at you , the more it comes the more we love suffering , embrace suffering
Wenzes 👏👍💖✨
I love you for who you are. You are enough.
1. You’re never going to get the recognition you crave from others.
2. INFJs are powerful beyond measure.
3. You can live a life full of meaning, connection, and excitement.
4. Your vision is your superpower.
5. Everything will change once you start sharing your gift without waiting for other’s appreciation.
Very much worth the listen. She goes into greater detail. Thank you!!! I needed to hear this, especially the last one where I am free to use my gift because it helped me, so it might help someone else. Do it anyway for you!!!
Every INFJ should watch this video. There are about 81 million INFJs in the world.
Yet I hardly meet any of them in real life 😂 why? Because we sit at home non stop I wonder?@ 😂
I was gifted with DEFIANCE !! You don’t like me ? You don’t have to. Now I’m old and on Social Security and my life is amazing. It’s very simple, VERY simple and I love the peace I have. I struggled incredibly hard all of my life and I am currently reaping the rewards. Hang in there INFJ’s !! It definitely gets better.
Awesome.Take care ❤
Great share. Thank you😊
I'm 75 and retired and actually loved the way I was. The trouble was I didn't listen to my intuition. I made tragic mistakes that cost me my life. Yes, cost me my life. Please 🙏 listen to your inner voice and do what it says. Married 57 years to a Narrisist, 2 children 1 abortion another born when I was 7 months pregnant. My life is over but even as I suffer everyday it can't come fast enough!! I can't wait for it to be over. TY for this beautiful channel.. 😍
Can't wait to retire. I am sooooo tired.
So beautifully vulnerable. Sounds like you have Lots to share and inform others.... take care. ♡@@nancyhanscom1374
This overview in 5 points is the real truth - I started living my Epic Life 15 years ago and I wanted to become a digital nomad - step by step I reached my goal - I call myself a database nomad - and I created a website with blog so that other INFJ's can be inspired to do the same, to follow the same path - 2 years ago I discovered Wenzes and all she's giving away in her videos, is the real thing - I wish I had this information when I was a kid or at least younger (63 years young now) - Thank you Wenzes to help all the INFJ's
Sarah
I don't expect anyone to appreciate me, but I do demand to be respected.
Im an INFP and I absolutely love INFJs.. unfortunately its never truly reciprocated.. i see the potential in them, i see their value.. theres a particular one i love so much, but i cant seem to reach him. I can only pray that God will allow us to get to know each other more someday.
I’ve always felt like the observer, always sitting on the sidelines or on the outside looking in...I’ve even kinda accepted and embraced that role in alot of ways.
I thought it was just me and because of my background and lack of participation in certain things. Didn’t realize it was common among other INFJs.
I hope that Ms Wenzes will make a series on how INFJ will heal from life traumas 🌺
As soon as you said, "be our own parent to our inner child.." I knew I was in the right place ❤
I’m always so blown away 🤯 how accurate you are. Thank you for the clarity and insight ❤
“…more in our head than we are in reality”
so grateful for this channel
I would tell my younger self to subscribe to your channel! I sure do wish this awesome wisdom was available to me 30 years ago!!!
As adults we must fill that hole with us and it can be done. Realize we are envied by others. Self positive reinforcement, self compassion, and gratitude for life, and for getting to be you. It works. Then you can really love you. It works. Start with books, start with positive affirmations. You will ferret out your tribe and feel balance.
So much dense info crammed into this post. I still feel a sense of guilt when I don’t seek to adapt to everyone’s expectations, especially with family and at work. It’s like a gnawing impulse looking to find something to critique about myself always picking something new to hang the blame. I have to observe the impulse and remember it’s all originating within me and I’m projecting it on to external reality, like a Rorsasch test.
To my inner child, forward motion attitude detirmines alltitude backed in a corner by bullies press onward to the end. One day at a time. Seek first the kingdom. Stop conflict. Come lord. Thank you so very much wenzes
Ive already experienced a good life, peak of career, being life of the party in friendship, being close to marrying my dream person at first I didnt think I deserve but just got sidetracked by trivial matters, but still getting almost there makes me feel worthy. I will continue to choose what I've built for myself, the person I love who loves me for believing the same things, can ride along
As a long time subscriber of yours, thank you Wenzes, and congratulations because your videos are getting more and more qualitative! I have listened to this one twice already and plan on doing it again. I just feel this is one of your most powerful ones in a long time, there's so much in it!
Keep inspiring us Wenzes, you may not see all the ripples, but you help a lot of other people even indirectly, by helping INFJs to live their epic life!
This Woman is a gem🌹
So, here is as far as I am concerned.
Point 1: So true. But I've already given up on that a long time ago. I am my own judge, and I love myself. If I do find someone that does that, too; fine, super. But I will not change for anyone. Been there, done that - doesn't work.
Point 2: I made my vision come true at my workplace, and I've updated it already for my next step. I now am putting up an effort to maybe find a partner; the one I want. We'll see what happens here.
Point 3: My life already has meaning, since I understood the world and how it works years ago; so you cannot surprise me anymore. I am, however, very willing to give it a shot when it comes to excitement; and looking for a partner and, among other things, potentially joining the INFJ Community are other things on that list. There is basically nothing to lose here.
Point 4: Vision sounds so incredibly high, but I go with it: My Vidion became true, at work, as I said before - basically the same thing as Point 2.
Point 5: Sharing is a good idea; I think I'll take that up at work and in my private life as well. I already did that a little bit, but so far, the results are rather meager - maybe they're the worng kind of people. We'll see.
To validate myself.
Thank you sooo much. I'm out of adjectives to tell you how grateful i am of your existence and you doing this. Keep making videos
Some song influence me a lot. one that grow my self-acceptance : The Greatest Love of All - Whitney Houston
thanks a lot to talk about this thing. now I'm on track to do my vision
Please address how being raised as an INFJ in a home subjected to emotional, physical and sexual abuse can alter ones true self.
Wenzes, you are an angel to all INFJs. Thank you so much for your message
😮 0:22 congratulations on all respect
So Tru. Even tho I believe my religion more than infj theory. But yes, I can tell you that holding my positive thought helped. Yes, ppl didn't appreciate the way I was expecting and after few years I somehow got into where I wanted to be kinda (I did work on it tho xD classic infj thing uno). So yeah! Stay positive, focus and work on it. Dots will get connected one-day;) more way to goooo
Technically, I am retired, but chose to stay in substitute teaching for a while. This has helped me to do meaningful things, although I constantly have to be revising due to age and health (both of which are satisfactory but not like when I was 21!).
I find myself having to revise plans periodically. I also have to remind myself of these points. They are all very true but we need to build up our faith in ourselves by going over them a lot.
There's a lot of good wisdom here.
I’ve been binge watching your videos today, I finally know my personality type. After becoming sober I can evaluate this information clearly and know I’m not waffling on who I really am. It’s a great feeling to know! Thank you.
As an INFJ this was so on point 3:29
This brought tears to em eyes in how accurately it described my life.
I appreciate you for sharing 🙏
That face! 😂 you’re cute when you’re frustrated and have a point to make. I’ve see that face somewhere before. Thank you 🙏
Unfortunately my solution was alcohol. But been sober 4 years now. I fell into that trap because of my personality. Wonder if we’re prone to substance abuse??
Hmm I was going to say I don't fully agree with the first point, but your concluding words flipped that around 😊 I was thinking about how, in another video, you talked about how we crave deep connections and meaning. This rang really deep with I watched thay section several times. Having recently met someone who feels the same and reslly clicks with me my world was turned upside down and this sense of external validation is extremely strong, and far more beautiful then anything I could have given myself on my own.
But I have to agree this is made possible because of foundations we laid ourselves.
Spot on and very timely. Using the darker months here in the UK to lay the business plan out and tweek ready for the coming spring (my new year). Slow to grow the vision alone but worth it all and very humbling. Now looking out for sponsors with the same vision and moral ethical code including legal advice as the industry I am in is very corrupt and cruel to true visionaries i.e plagiarism. Thank you Wenzes.
Wishing you all the best on you business 👏🏽
Thank you, I appreciate the support 💜@@tamiaj851
I know my way of asking this would be so bad, for I still struggle with articulating my thoughts, but I have a question that I'd hope you'd answer for me : how do you deal with the concept of people's emotional balance running out? Like, you're in a relationship with someone, be it a sibling, friend, or a life partner, and you know, in life things happen and the people around you let you down often, not because you have high expectations of them in the first place, but it just happens. When you need them the most, for instance, they let you down. And please note that I usually give these same people many chances before it feels like their emotional balance had run out. And then, even if we have to keep the relationship because they're like a direct relative or a family member, I feel like there is a wall in my heart, like a major disconnect. Like, I act like my old self with them, but when push comes to shove I know what to expect (which is that I don't anymore). But if it's my life partner and he'd made this mistake in the past (due to being young and inexperienced when it came down to what way of acting is appropriate and what's not in the relationship/add in-laws to the mix and you'll probably know what I mean) and after confronting him with it and he's already changed and stood up fo me when I needed him, BUT, like regarding future matters and our plans, I can't help but have this residue of doubt within me that he's going to break my heart and go back to his old ways and do the same mistakes again(even though I know he wouldn't). So how exactly do I get rid of this lingering doubt? Should I even or is it a good thing (as a self-preservation mechanism)? I hate it, like it makes me feel so distrustful of everyone, because, you see, he and my kids are the last close people I have left, so, what do you think?
thank you Wenzes. I feel so much confidence whenever I watch your videos.
This is right on time for me. Especially numbers 4 and 5!
I have a message to share. I really do. I am on the right path.
Its the spiritual belief...in ur soul and the mechanism of creation that allows us 2 keep our vision ..am I right fellow INFJ's ? Or is it merely a personality type? Let me know?❤✈️
We INFJs do seem hardwired to believe in higher and deeper things, to have a deep faith. Not all of us have that faith in a form of spiritual or religious belief. I think we have to believe there is more to life than just what we can take in through the physical senses, in part because so much of this world disappoints us (or maybe it's the people in the world who disappoint us), and in part because we sense on a non-physical level that there is more. We just seem to see and notice and know things that so many others don't.
I believe in God. And I believe he made me an INFJ for a reason. What that reason is, I don't know, but I'm getting there. My talents and skills are needed in this world, even if only in a small way in a small place.
Keep moving focus on goal
We can only share our gifts if people ask for it, and we are not any reward collectors. We can see what the enemy thinks because we are the sentients in the matrix world. If you take the red pill you will go beyond the subconciousness and see behind the fasade of the real world, spoken with honesty by Morpheus. We are the ones that relate to what Morpheus is built for, to see beyond what others might be missing and to guide the chosen ones through the rabbit hole.
Thank you for this. So needed ❤❤❤
Best video yet. Many many thanks.❤
It is interesting that you mentioned the NORTH star. A very private focual part. And I didnt share THAT video with you. But its right here on youtube. The First of the North Star.
The north star is a pretty common term in some places when one speaks of navigating, guiding, or charting a course. Comes from sailing by the stars. The north star was always a good point to reference to make sure you knew where you were, and thus where you were headed.
This is beautiful, i love your contents alot, thank you ❤
Thanks!
Thank you Wenze. This video transformed my thinking and energized me. Right on time❤
Great talk today. Thanks, and Happy New Year!
I don't know... what if you find another Infj to be your partner? I had a best friend who was like me. Two sides of a coin. Dark and light. If I found that in a spouse, I think it would change everything. Maybe you settled.
I usually watch your vedios, the subject you choose to talk about is great but the vedios are really lengthy, like i watch half of it and then saving it that i will watch it later because the vedios are long and overwhelming, but you know i miss a lot of them due to busy routine. So, can you please make these vedios little bit short like it will be easy to get the idea and save time.
Thank you so much!
Can you talk how we can let go of attachment to our vision. Stop this attachment it makes us close minded or we should trust our vision.
Good morning Wenze's I like your vox I concur.Wenze's your a good at guidance concerning us.Thank you Wenze's.Jerome❤❤❤
Off topic here, but I've never seen that RL style sweater, where did you find it?
Same! 😉 it’s a beautiful color
Why should I change or improve when I already have my Life exactly where I want it as it is perfect already?
Thank you Wenzes!
we love you wenzes!! I see how passionate you are about your vision about infj epic life
I love you ♥️
Dont think im keeping any secrets only secrets i wznt to keep. Not to protect any one. No loyalty at all an fuck the Florida shit with Gerald
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What the F is an IN FJ?
You seem tired.. Perhaps you work to much..? Take care!