Best first date I ever had was also the last first date I've ever had. We met at a Panera for lunch and yes I did pay right away. I had offered to pick her up, but she felt more comfortable driving herself. Guys, don't feel bad about that, the ladies are just looking out for themselves and more power to them. Getting into a car with a guy they barely know is very intimidating for many women. I figured a lunch date would go maybe an hour and a half. We sat and talked for four hours. I'm sure it would have been longer but I had to leave to get to my job. We found tons of things in common and were able to enjoy a lovely time. I'd never been able to talk to a girl as easily as I did that day. About two years later I asked her to marry me. We've been married for six years now, have a beautiful daughter and a son on the way. Great things can happen from a first date.
Number 1 tip for my fellow brothers What you feel, she feels. If you're nervous, awkward, uncomfortable. She will feel the same If you're confident, chill, relaxed, having fun. She will feel the same
Can u give some tips how to start conversation, because I don't get what topic I need to start with what question I need to ask....tomorrow is my date. If you throw some ideas I can get light.
@@ivandsouza5973 Your surroundings, the place you are in is always the starting point. Depending on her answer keep elaborating on other places like this that she likes…. Etc. What she is wearing, comment on that. What drinks/food assuming you are on a Restaurant.
1. Dress well (best version of yourself but not looking a try hard) 2. Pick the perfect place (not on your place) 3. Conversation (get to know her and if she doesn't reciprocate, she's probably not into you) 4. Know when to stop or continue your date (if you don't feel like continuing the date, be polite and tell her you had a good time) 5. Be clear about your next steps (don't give her false hopes!)
@@alangwhiteTheBoss you don't get my point. What I meant was this specific video "5 First Date Tips For Men". Study statistics and RUclips algorithms, then come back here and tell me if that raised your IQ.
@@hasiko_xgj7791 I ended up moving to Florida 😂 but I lost feeling tbh. I’m single and trying to better myself at the moment. I rlly don’t need a gf tbh I think I wanted one cuz everyone else had one and I felt desperate. Honestly tho being single is rlly awesome when u think abt it. Like I can better myself and do what I want to do w/o someone taking up my time.
I agree to pay the bill as a guy. But as a college student I spent $100 on a first date, she told me she had a really good time, and then just ghosted me a day later 🙃
The nice thing is that as the man, you get to pick the place. If you don't want to spend $100 (I don't blame you), then don't take her somewhere that is $50 per person. If she likes you she won't care where you went that much, and if she doesn't like you, a nice restaurant isn't going to change that.
Getting ready for my first date with a girl I’d been crushing on for the entire semester at my grad school, she was frequently complimenting what I wear and would frequently bring up that she thought it was really cool that I worked as scuba instructor to pay through grad school. One the last day of the semester, I managed to conjure up the courage to ask and it was an emphatic yes. I’ve seldom felt happier lol, we’ve been texting nonstop for the three weeks between semesters and wow I already really like her, and it seems to be reciprocated. We’re going on our first date in literally 30 mins, this was incredibly helpful thank you so much!
@@Themrcesar53 It did, it went really well! We dated for a little bit and it was wonderful, but ultimately her religious convictions were too strong for me. Religion is absolutely cool just not my thing. She’d take me to church twice a week and always talked about God, I’m agnostic but sort of pretended to be Christian to make her happier. I need someone more secular and she needs someone as devout as she is. But it was totally amicable and I’m seeing a new girl :)
@ericfelds6291 glad u found out. I go on mine at 5pm. Been thinking about it since she gave me the word last night. And she wants me to pick her up. I've known her since high school. But idk were I should take her since she riding with me. I know a spot by my house but it's 20min away from we're she lives or should I find something close by her spot.
So I watched this video like 2 days before a first date because I was soo nervous lol. We were going to meet up and have lunch and it turned into us hanging out for 7.5 hours. Best date of my entire life I’m actually seeing her again later lol
why.....on....earth would you spend 7hours on the first date?????????? why? why not spread that out in a matter of weeks instead of 7 fuking hours in one day....that's ridiculous.
@@mohamedadan6678 I hope you find someone one day that makes you feel like you never want the date to end, best of luck bro because it’s honestly the best feeling in the world :)
Moreover, ask for a date, without necessarily a crush, but just only if there may be a little interest in her. I'm 19 and I never get a crush. Last week I was thinking about how I am single cuz I never had a date for this reason. Moreover, thinking about, now I know well that feeling for another person becomes making good things with her if she is the right. But I can't know who it's the right for me and make things with her if I don't do dates...
Usually it's the other way around. Women can't take their eyes and hands off their phones anymore. I'd not even bring my phone on a first date if that wouldn't look too weird on the other side.
Just relax, don't forget that the girl (or man) is trying to impress you too. Just have a cup of coffee, listen and if it doesn't work out, there is plenty of fish in the sea.
Conversation is a huge part. Keep it light. Inject in the conversation, but listen more than you speak. Women love hearing their own voice talk about themselves.
Re: the after-date text, I don't even wait that long. I usually know whether I want to see her again by the end of the date, so if I do, I'll just tell her then that I enjoyed it and want to go out again. Then we'll work out the date and time details by text. The girls I've been out with seem to have really appreciated that.
When you said "who knows maybe that will lead to you being with them for two years" it dawned on me just how much our society has lost sight of real commitment.
Yep. Society is really messed up ever since social media, and its only getting worse. And people still wonder why I don't want to get married or have kids 😂
@@lynic-0091 I get you completely man. I'm religious living in Israel, and it's been non-stop girls looking for one night stands and short term garbage. I'm still a virgin and still waiting patiently to find that special someone. Life is tough.
@@yonahgreene don’t wait you’re wasting your time. Adapt to today’s world. The princes story is long gone. You Need to have experiences and if they are open to casual dating why you don’t. Take care and shalom!
My wife teases me about our first date (low key restaurant, open to talking and conversation)... a couple of arrogant comments on my part during the date (and I had warned her that I was operating on 2 hours of sleep that day. She was bothered enough (and kind enough) to have a much better 2nd date :) 10 years married in July.
Happy I searched for this and found it. Honestly, this is one of the best first date tips I've heard. I don't want sex during the first date. I want to get to know her first. I haven't done a first date in almost a decade. So, it was great to get a "refresher" in the topic. Thank you!
The first date with my partner now, for many years, was a no-expectation, I'll do it for a friend, kind of set up. I wanted to be kind and considerate, but had no expectation of anything but a nice quick casual lunch on a Sunday afternoon. It was at a brunch cafe in downtown B**lder, CO. We met at a parking lot downtown, walked a couple blocks to the place, had a nice low key conversational lunch, and walked back. Lots of conversation, I could see that she liked some attention. As we stopped for a crosswalk light at her lot, I just sort of spontaneously gave her a quick peck on the cheek. No drama. I could see that it lifted her almost literally off her feet. We floated across to her car, she got in and I said goodbye. Our next date was a hike on the ridge behind town. So there you go, by accident I hit most, if not all the suggestions you had in you list. I was never a big dater, and spent a couple tours in the Nav. That was about the first decent date that I'd ever had. We been together now for quite a while, with kids.
A lot has changed in the last 16 years, and I find myself in the situation of having to find someone new to share my life with. I'm trying to improve myself in dress, attitude, and how to treat both men and women, and it's nice to have yet another more traditional perspective to at least help me know I'm not completely out in left field. Thank you Courtney! Nice channel you have going here. I appreciate it.
My first 4 dates: 1) Her: wow that's a nice shirt. 2) Her: wow that's a nice shirt 3) Her: okay he's wearing the same shirt as the first day 4) Her: this guy only has 2 shirts 😐
Its also important for the man to make her laugh. I started dating this women because i made her laugh. 27 years later and where not only together. We are married with 4 children. Every time i hear her voice if I've not seen her most of the day. That makes me so happy.
You're the BEST, REALISTIC explanation of how a man should set his expectations and demeanor. I've lost 3 beautiful relationships because I didn't truly understand the dynamics you unveiled. I'm 50. Have a new date tonight and will heed youre words
Another tip... Pay attention to what she says! If you ask questions that get her to open up and have fun, she'll tell you the worst about her on the first date. I've avoided a lot of bad second dates that way. Once I learned this trick, I looked back and realized all my worst relationships told me how the denigrated and manipulated the men in their lives and I wasn't paying attention when they said it!
Women have liberated themselves in every way that's convenient for them, but in few of the ways that would make them truly equals. So when it comes to things like initiating or paying for the first date(s), they fall back on "I'm a traditional girl."
Lately I've felt like I would never need this but now I do. I started to develop feelings for a friend recently and also realized she most likely has been flirting with me. I asked her out today at work and she surprisingly said yes. I plan on having a dinner date at a dine-in restaurant. Not fancy, just something regular like texas roadhouse or Applebee's.
Always found things like laser tag and window shopping to be good choices, allows you to have fun at both. Laser tag allows her to show off her competitive side,( allows her alpha to show if she has an alpha personality) and window shopping allows you to get a vibe on what her interests may be depending on the stores she chooses to visit as you kind of hang back and observe.
I have a first "date" story that I still hold dear to my heart. It was July 3rd, and I asked this girl from my summer grad course if she had plans to see fireworks the next day. She said she didn't, and that she came from Thailand and didn't know where to go watch. So I asked her if she wanted to come with me to see the fireworks. She agreed, and we exchanged numbers. The next day, we met up around 5 to go to a food court to eat. We spent at least two hours just talking, we had not even realized that time just flew right by. We left the food court and walked to where we were going to see the fireworks. It was a nice cool summer day, we walked along a river, and talked some more for another hour. It was around 9 when we found a good spot to see the fireworks, and we just plopped right down to enjoy the time before the show began. And we just talked and talked until the fireworks began. Fireworks finished at 10:30 and we started to leave. We walked back to the train station and headed our separate ways. On my way back home, probably around midnight, I texted her that I had a great time with her and she also felt the same. It's amazing how much you got to know a person from just talking for so many hours, and just cap off a great day with a fireworks display!
Thank you Courtney! I took all your advice and had a very good first date. I texted her after to tell her and she responded right away. My next step is to work on seeing her again.
I'm going to put this on all the posts I watched. I watched this video the morning of my first date and it helped a tonne. Stories about my life I was struggling to think of beforehand but funny ones came to me during the date just as I needed it. If you ever start discussing something negative, always turn it positive with a funny story. Make her laugh, never sit opposite if you can. Always get there before her. The bouncers gave me one last tip before the date arrived. I was standing in the cold lol. Don't wait outside; it makes you look desperate. Also how you feel, she feels so push away nerves by talking to those around you before she arrives and familiarising yourself with the environment. Make bets with her and lose so she can buy you a drink too. Let her repay the evening with only a drink/ice cream or whatever during the same date (she should offer). Go kino EARLY. Start with a hug, she may or may not choose a peck. Be decisive but a gentleman e.g. about when to eat or do things etc. Don't ask her where she wants to go, have things planned out. Flow in conversation. Move environments, even if it's seats in the same bar. Have things planned like a competitive or team work activity that allows you to interact. Gentle taps on her shoulder whilst laughing, briefly move your hand over hers and let go whilst your both laughing. But don't go too early on this, it has to set up a relationship for a bit. So maybe an hour in if it's going well. Move in close sitting next to her. Maybe even lean close to say something funny (make sure your mouth hygiene is impeccable. Floss, Use a tongue cleaner/scraper with tongue gel and ultradex to be sure). If it's going well you should have tonnes to talk about. Someone here said FORD family, occupation, recreation, dreams. Don't reveal too much about yourself if you want a second date. Tease her a little, to break down her wall but don't make her feel insecure. Compliment something she has done e.g. hair/worn rather than a feature of her body. Never compliment makeup; the reasons for that should be obvious. If the date is successful she'd set up the second one in some way, it might be mentioning she's doing something for charity etc. Take interest in HER. Generally if things are going well, her eyes won't wander, this is why it is so important you set up an environment you're comfortable with. The worse you are with conversation, the more external focus you need e.g. bowling to fill the gaps/tour a stately home, palace together or go on a boat ride. Point out similarities between you rather than differences. Choose DIFFERENT drinks to her on purpose after asking what she's having to show you have a mind of your own. Do something spontaneous at least once during the date like do something you're both willing to do to make you both embarrassed like dance randomly for a few seconds on your way out. It will show her CONFIDENCE and fun and exciting. You'll only have confidence if you calm your nerves that's why I'll say it again, talk to people around you and make small talk to compose yourself before the date. Finally go kino again at the end, with a hug, hopefully she'll give you the peck this time. Remember the aim of the first date is NOT to get a kiss (that's a Hollywood thing), but instead, a second date with her. Hopefully it's her that sets you up. Walk her to wherever she's going to get her ride home. Be a gentleman and put your arm round her, asking her if she doesn't mind you bringing her close if she's cold. Finally after an hour or two text to ask if she got home safely, she'll probably text saying she had a lovely time before that though. Give her a chance to do it though. Resist the urge to text her the next day before she does. Resist a further urge to text back straight away. That urge will be the hardest you've done. Respond with things that follow up on things you talked about during the date. Make her feel good about herself but always make yourself the prize and like a kitten, she'll keep interest in the ball of wool. Never boast though. I learned so much in one night and can't believe how many years I feared this day... And it went beautifully. She set up the next date. I just want to thank all of you in the comments section and the creator of this video who literally changed my life. Don't be put off if it goes bad, not everyone is made for each other and it is better you break off and stay friends than force something that won't work. Take it all slow. Don't be disheartened. Perfect practise makes perfect. Good luck brothers.
Thanks for this video. I've had a rough time lately and I felt like I shouldn't be trying to meet any women. This video gave me a moral boost I needed. Thanks for what you do (and it's also great that you are a fellow Clevelander like me)
I have never understood why people stress so much about that "after date text". At the end of the day I have always believed you should just be yourself and express how you really feel. If you like the person and you want to see them again just say so. 'Real' is IMHO always the best way to be.
Same I just texted her after we dropped her off at home and then I texted her and told her about how it was a lot of fun and she agreed. No stress involved
Just to go a bit further re knowing when to hold em and knowing when to fold em, it's always a good idea to end the date on a high point/note. Don't get caught up thinking you have to just keep dragging it on forever, if it's going well, because you're scared if you end it while it is that you'll never be able to get it going that well again. Back yourself to be able to get back there, if you end it on a high note, and LEAVE HER WANTING MORE!
Hi Courtney. Would you consider doing a video, from a women's perspective, on how women want men to approach them? Sometimes they're with friends or their parents, or in a crowded workplace and it can be a little awkward and unclear what to do or say.
I really enjoy your perspective. It’s nice to get reasonable persons opinion on dating advice. It’s just honest and helpful and not filled with gimmicks. Cheers courtney!
I would advise having pre-first date that is in public place, and very low investment, like meeting for coffee. That way if she's 15 years older than her profile pictures, you can gracefully make your exit, if things are going well, you can extend the date. This also allows the woman to exit gracefully, with no feeling of obligation.
On a couple of those where that was "their" response, I'm like, "Gee, I thought you wanted to go on a date!?" Wrongo, sports fans... but it's all good. Any honest response, however unkind, beats getting taken to the cleaners by a gold-digger of either sex. Of those I got, my only thought was, gee I feel sorry for whoever you wound up with.
Great simple advice. Shows that there is not nessisarily a formula to a perfect date but its more of an instinctual thing when the vibes are right. First date tonight. This really helped me get my head on straight. Thanks.
1.) Dress up a little bit- business casual 2.) Pick a public setting that isn’t super expensive or formal where you can talk. (No movies or loud venues) 3.) Conversate and allow silence to happen. If these silences are happening a lot and you’re the only one filling them, that’s not a good sign. Figure out if you and this person are looking for the same thing. 4.) Knowing when to end or continue the date. Pay for the first date. 5.) Be honest about if you want to see her again. Take some time to reflect on this after the date. 6.) The after-date text. Text her that you had a good time after the date or next morning. 7.) If you had a good time, and get a good response to your after date text, it’s a great time to set up that 2nd date
This video really helped me out more than I thought. I was always nervous about all of the things that you covered in this video. Now I feel alot more calm and comfortable.
Great tips, I agree with all you said. In fact, one tip I shared in my video is to avoid dinner for a first date altogether. Eating a full meal can sometimes make the conversation a bit awkward, especially when you're asked a question after having just taken a bite of food lol. Instead I think drinks and appetizers are great.
First rule, when you want to find out if you're compatible with the other person: - be yourself!...be your natural being, and if its meant to happen, it will!...that way you can start clean and honest, without faking and lying just to impress, all the rest will flow by itself naturally.
It’s good that you said that a man should text a girl just to see if she’s ok after the date as i think a lot of men think “Oh no now I’m going to come across as too needy”.
@@servmlrcc Well showing interest in a girl might be saying something such as to show you know it’s not an entitlement but that you’d like to meet her such as “I know it’s a bit cheeky but I’d like to take you for a drink”. While an example of being needy would be talking about the next date while on the first date and saying stuff like “oh we are going to see each other again?”. While looking at her all nervously. The first example you expressed interest in a girl not particularly putting too much pressure on the outcome and the second was very needy putting the girl as if she is oxygen and just killing the mood by putting a lot of pressure on the outcome.
As a man, I agree with the tip that a man should offer to pay for the meal on a first date. But: not as follows: a female friend of mine (a feminist, as it happens) was on a first date, which had been pleasant, but when the waiter delivered the bill, the man said to her "I'll get this, of course." That "of course" really stuck in her mind. (There was not a second date.) Another thing not to do: another woman I know was on a first date in which a man took her to dinner at a fine restaurant. After criticizing her perfume and attire, he proceeded to order meals for both her and himself. My friend excused herself to the rest room, then went home. When he called her cell to ask where she was, she told him "Eat with the waiters."
That’s how I usually behaved in my first date with a girl ,, Some guys said she was out of my league,, but it’s all about confidence,, I know what I want and I made it Clear to her so I don’t Waste my time and her time ,, I totally agree with you ,,
Courtney Ryan is extremely pretty 😍. But that isn’t the only reason I subscribed to her channel. Her good advice and intelligence is the main primary reason I watch her videos. Have an awesome day Courtney! 😊
So the thing that you mentioned about the movies, something that I was told a while ago is that movies can work on a first date, if you've already met them prior like a friend that you're seeing about taking further. However, what saves this from being an awkward first date is to go for dinner after. That way you have more talking points after the movie and its something that you guys now have a common experience.
I only ever landed four first dates in my lifetime, zero second dates. So I'm in my mid 40's with dang near zero dating experience. I managed to pull off a few weekend flings in my 30's though. I think your advice is awesome for someone starting out in their teens or twenty's. For someone as old as me though it's long beyond game over.
@@MasterPourKnowP I tried for years. Ladies were right. Dating is over for a man when he hits age 30, he is just too old to date. Now at age 40 it's beyond over.
@@animestarlord9021 Women love older men. LOVE THEM! Hit the gym, eat right, stop masturbating, buy a new outfit, learn a few simple dance moves, hit a bar or club, exchange a smile with a cool lady, ask her to dance, and then just act natural. If it doesn’t work the first few times (and honestly it most likely won’t) learn from it, tweak it, and try again. I have faith you will find someone well within the year.
@@MasterPourKnowP I get out all the time and try to chat with folks. Ladies have always told me they will not date anyone more than a two year age gap, period. So me being age 40, age 38-42 is the only working range I have. Most ladies over age 35 are too strong and independent to need a man anyway so the amount of single moms where I live is just beyond insane.
I went on a first date with a girl i met on tinder, At first we went seeing a movie she'd invited me for and then after we went to have something to eat at a restaurant I suggested, we sat opposite each other and we really had a long and good conversation, because I was that good at holding a conversation. Everything really went well and until I fucked up by giving her a kiss on the lips when it was time to leave each other and say goodbye, I thought she would be cool with, and that was the first and last date and the last time I heard from her. Smh
Thank you for sharing, and I wish you the best. I think the bigger problem is agreeing to the movie date and a restaurant. That allows the girl to put up with you the least if she decides she doesn't like you back.
How many guys watched this video and thought that they would be happy to have a first date with Courtney and not be worried that they wasted their money on a nice meal?
You've made me more confident, feel more stupid and nervous. The cinema date hit me because i came up with it and luckily we decided not to. But I am scared about what happens after the date. I have no plans to invite her to but if it goes well I don't want to cut it short.
I learned to let her pay, the dates always turned into relationships. Because it shows she wants to be there. When I paid, they never realized how much it was, and it seems like an obligation for her to be there.
I recommend doing one of those wine and design things were everyone paints the same picture that is roughly sketched for you. You can talk about color choices you date would have to put the cell phone away. Also, you both doing something, so you don't have to stress about having a moment or two of silence. Plus, at the end of the date you have some creative art for your wall.
Please tell me Teddy's first date move was as follows: 1 takes you to fancy restaurant, 2 pulls out watch box from under table and starts "educating" you.
1st Take: "My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier." Yours sincerely, Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook 2nd Take: “My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.” Decently yours, Cardi B. My Humble Take: What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way. *Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous *The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi *The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar *The Myth of Male Power* by Warren Farrell *The Feminist Lie: It Was Never About Equality* by Bob Lewis *Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe *Men on Strike* by Helen Smith Proverbs 31:3 Don't give your strength (attention, resources, mental point origen) to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings. Isaiah 3:12 *Childish* leaders oppress my people, and *women* rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road.
#3 on date #1 always pick things you can do in an hour. NOT a hike, or dinner, or an involved activity. you dont want to look like you have nothing you need to be doing later or in the morning. happy hour or lunch is ideal. if she wants to do coffee, fine. easier and cheaper, and she is prob lame so its a good way to find out. #4 - 60-90 mins for a 1st date, and then leave. however if its a weekend night maybe and she seems like she wants to have more drinks, stay. just dont expect anything. dont even expect a 2nd date. and dont stay if you aint willing to pay. and let her decide if there is gonna be an after party at either person's place. #5 - you can say "hey text me that you got home ok"
In my case, my first date with a woman who I saw for 1,5 years was a concert of a band we both liked. Some context : I met her at work. She used to work in a different department, and neede my help occassionally. After work, we met a few times by coincidence at the same bars. She came in with her friends, and I came in with mine, or was having a drink by myself at the bar, and joined her. We got to talking and found out that we had similar interests. I mentioned that I wanted to see this band, and then she said that she,d like to join me. So she actually asked me out. This was a slow burner. I knew her for a year before we went out.
For any question about dating or how to behave with a women around, just realize that she is basically having the same question and for what reason should she have the golden answer to it if you dont? So, it should be actually you defining the answer for yourself based on the question, well, what do you(!) like to do, and not based on what she expects you to do. The answer is not predefined but this is actually the interesting part that shows your individual personality which is what girls want. No girl wants a guy acting from a textbook or giving answers that follow some random rules someone put up for some weird reason. A girl wants to find out who you are which includes your own answers on any question that comes up. So just keep in mind, they don´t have a clue, and if you don´t have a clue, take a moment for defining your own clue based on what you think is right. If it works out, perfect. If not, perfect as well because you don´t have to waste time with someone who does not like your answers. Just move on to the next one.
I watched a couple of first date tutorials now and the most interesting part about them was how many men, creating these tutorials, really try to hammer into you how important it is to touch the girl and to be very close to her (like not over the top of course). More like to sit next to each other, instead face to face, so your legs possibly touch or you can casually touch her hand or push her. On the other hand women creators do not mention that part at all. It is really interesting and kind of shows that women really do not know what they want, not trying to be offensive, especially because men always going to tell you that it is in fact one of the MOST important factors on a first date. Just my two cents, thanks for the video :)
Thanks for all the down-to-earth content, Courtney! Perhaps I'm overthinking planning a first date during Covid but is meeting at Costco first, for example, make a difference before inviting them to brunch on a first date? I appreciate your insight!
love this video alot. Please make more of thyis videos. Its so helpful. wanted to keep hearing more tips cos they were so relatable and beneficial. Thanks Courtney!
I'm 43 and going on my first date in over 6 years. She's absolutely beautiful and really cool as well. Ifeel pretty confident about this date because we have been getting on really well but I still need this advice. Thankyou!
I remember my first date i booked her favorite cafe. It took so much work to find it out without giving it away. The smail on her face was so worth it. I alway say put in the work and you will always get so much back. She still talks about it probably because i took a bit of a lemon and the look on my face was amazing she says lol.
Popped up in my feed the day before my first date. 🤞Courtney and Jesus help me! I've never even hung out with friends before! I've come a long way and success would probably move me to tears. Wish me luck friends!
You forgot the most important way to greet her: "I'm Date Mike, nice to meet me, how do you like your eggs in the morning?" Followed by multiple failed attempts at winking. 😏😏😏
Thanks for saying the stuff about being honest and confident in yourself. I am generally pretty confident, but not when it comes to dating. I needed someone to tell me what you said :)
I love your content! Your videos really make me feel like dating is a lot easier than it seems. I've started to look at it in a humble, natural, and healthy way, rather than thinking that I have to be a millionaire Greek god and a smooth talker to date women. For me, the most challenging part of a date, especially the first one, is conversation. I try to find ways to make it feel more exciting and natural, rather than having that job interview vibe with the predictable questions. Thank you very much for taking the time to help us men with dating. Keep up the great work and remember that you're always making a difference and changing lives! 😍👍🤝 @CourtneyRyan
Ok this is a year old but as I’m going speed dating tomorrow I’m looking for tips! Great advice, Courtney, I love your videos. Thank you for helping a guy that’s been single for so long!
I'm getting ready for mine in a few hours just don't know we're to take her. She wants me to pick her up. But I know spots around my house and that's 20min away. But if I get a spot by her then I don't gotta conversate in the car that long
I always found a coffee at a nice spot the best first date option not too loud decent setting and if it goes bad you and end it quick or if it goes well you can always stay longer !!
Best first date I ever had was also the last first date I've ever had. We met at a Panera for lunch and yes I did pay right away. I had offered to pick her up, but she felt more comfortable driving herself. Guys, don't feel bad about that, the ladies are just looking out for themselves and more power to them. Getting into a car with a guy they barely know is very intimidating for many women. I figured a lunch date would go maybe an hour and a half. We sat and talked for four hours. I'm sure it would have been longer but I had to leave to get to my job. We found tons of things in common and were able to enjoy a lovely time. I'd never been able to talk to a girl as easily as I did that day. About two years later I asked her to marry me. We've been married for six years now, have a beautiful daughter and a son on the way. Great things can happen from a first date.
Eric Willett thank ❤️❤️ LOVE this!!!
Fucking legend
congrats u legend
You married her in 2 years, so what was she doing for you then & what is she doing for you now?
And you sir, have won at life. A true legend :)
I'm panic watching this 30 minutes before a first date
Did it go well lol
@@jamiemcmahon7707 It did, I have a girlfriend now luckily :)
@@jamiemcmahon7707 I think he died on the date... Maybe a heart attack... Lol
He met a serial killer he's dead F for zonked
@@bishop8852 Yes I died on the date which sucks because now I have to plan my funeral
As a guy I have to say that I really like it when the girl texts me after the date to thank me for an enjoyable time. It a nice courtesy .
Number 1 tip for my fellow brothers
What you feel, she feels.
If you're nervous, awkward, uncomfortable. She will feel the same
If you're confident, chill, relaxed, having fun. She will feel the same
It depend on the woman you dealing with some women will take advantage of your nervousness
@@righteousmasculine ONLY if they feel like they are above you.
Do not let them feel like that.
Can u give some tips how to start conversation, because I don't get what topic I need to start with what question I need to ask....tomorrow is my date. If you throw some ideas I can get light.
@@ivandsouza5973 Your surroundings, the place you are in is always the starting point. Depending on her answer keep elaborating on other places like this that she likes…. Etc.
What she is wearing, comment on that. What drinks/food assuming you are on a Restaurant.
@Ivan Dsouza how'd it go mate?
1. Dress well (best version of yourself but not looking a try hard)
2. Pick the perfect place (not on your place)
3. Conversation (get to know her and if she doesn't reciprocate, she's probably not into you)
4. Know when to stop or continue your date (if you don't feel like continuing the date, be polite and tell her you had a good time)
5. Be clear about your next steps (don't give her false hopes!)
Why not your place? What if you have a nice place?
@@alangwhiteTheBoss if you're watching this RUclips video then you probably don't have a "nice" place.
@@jericcenon6782 that’s not logical millions of people who have nice homes watch RUclips videos. Raise ur iq.
@@alangwhiteTheBoss you don't get my point. What I meant was this specific video "5 First Date Tips For Men". Study statistics and RUclips algorithms, then come back here and tell me if that raised your IQ.
@@jericcenon6782 I have a really nice place and I think that that was an ignorant thing to say...
I’m going on a date with this stunning girl that is way out of my league but this helped me realize that leagues don’t exist and gave me confidence
@@lipfishingthosebass5812 but isn’t that kinda lying. Like why he someone ur not
@@lipfishingthosebass5812 I see. It doesn’t matter anyway Bc I’m moving to Florida and I can’t date her Bc I live in Ohio
@@jackr4442 tell us what happened bruh
@@hasiko_xgj7791 I ended up moving to Florida 😂 but I lost feeling tbh. I’m single and trying to better myself at the moment. I rlly don’t need a gf tbh I think I wanted one cuz everyone else had one and I felt desperate. Honestly tho being single is rlly awesome when u think abt it. Like I can better myself and do what I want to do w/o someone taking up my time.
@@jackr4442 yuppp get yourself right first man eventually you’ll want a girl for the right reason and you’ll be a better dude anyway
I agree to pay the bill as a guy. But as a college student I spent $100 on a first date, she told me she had a really good time, and then just ghosted me a day later 🙃
Ouccch 😂
The nice thing is that as the man, you get to pick the place. If you don't want to spend $100 (I don't blame you), then don't take her somewhere that is $50 per person. If she likes you she won't care where you went that much, and if she doesn't like you, a nice restaurant isn't going to change that.
LMAO!
In all seriousness though why the **** are you going to a restaurant on a first date? Just go for inexpensive drinks/coffee.
sorry to hear that homie i been there done that probably why im watching this video so it doesn’t happen again.
Kevin, you are not alone. Things appear just rosy, then I get ghosted ! Frustrating because I have no #@%& clue as to why or the reason !
Don't be that girl that doesn't ask anything about the guy.
I had one of those. Shocker!
@@DanTuber the worst people, shows how up themselves they are.
Or girls that are 90% of the date on her phone
@@AC_241 walkout
@@jon5833
Getting ready for my first date with a girl I’d been crushing on for the entire semester at my grad school, she was frequently complimenting what I wear and would frequently bring up that she thought it was really cool that I worked as scuba instructor to pay through grad school. One the last day of the semester, I managed to conjure up the courage to ask and it was an emphatic yes. I’ve seldom felt happier lol, we’ve been texting nonstop for the three weeks between semesters and wow I already really like her, and it seems to be reciprocated.
We’re going on our first date in literally 30 mins, this was incredibly helpful thank you so much!
Hope it went well :)
30 mins wasn't enough to prepare mate😂... how did it go? Myself going for one tomorrow and lm actually preparing for it before l mess up😅
@@Themrcesar53 It did, it went really well! We dated for a little bit and it was wonderful, but ultimately her religious convictions were too strong for me. Religion is absolutely cool just not my thing. She’d take me to church twice a week and always talked about God, I’m agnostic but sort of pretended to be Christian to make her happier. I need someone more secular and she needs someone as devout as she is. But it was totally amicable and I’m seeing a new girl :)
@ericfelds6291 glad u found out. I go on mine at 5pm. Been thinking about it since she gave me the word last night. And she wants me to pick her up. I've known her since high school. But idk were I should take her since she riding with me. I know a spot by my house but it's 20min away from we're she lives or should I find something close by her spot.
great tips! guys and girls, please unless the date is a train wreck, stay off the smart phones and pay attention to each other.
So I watched this video like 2 days before a first date because I was soo nervous lol. We were going to meet up and have lunch and it turned into us hanging out for 7.5 hours. Best date of my entire life I’m actually seeing her again later lol
🥺👏🏼 I wish I could like this more than once! So happy for you!
why.....on....earth would you spend 7hours on the first date?????????? why? why not spread that out in a matter of weeks instead of 7 fuking hours in one day....that's ridiculous.
@@mohamedadan6678 when you’re having a good time with someone you don’t really check the clock 😂 relax bro
@@mohamedadan6678 I hope you find someone one day that makes you feel like you never want the date to end, best of luck bro because it’s honestly the best feeling in the world :)
What’s the update bro? Please tell me, you’re still seeing her? 🙏🏼
The best tip for becoming a dating expert: have more dates.
Lol practice makes perfect!
Moreover, ask for a date, without necessarily a crush, but just only if there may be a little interest in her. I'm 19 and I never get a crush. Last week I was thinking about how I am single cuz I never had a date for this reason. Moreover, thinking about, now I know well that feeling for another person becomes making good things with her if she is the right. But I can't know who it's the right for me and make things with her if I don't do dates...
@@CourtneyRyan brilliant video. Speaking of dates don't suppose you'd be interested in one with me?
Lewis Stroud, we have something in common, because I don't suppose she will either!
Courtney Ryan 🤯practice makes permanent not perfect 🤒
Tip 6: keep your eyes on the girl and forget your smartphone for a few hours 😎
You’re absolutely right! 👏🏼👏🏼
that should apply more to women
Doesn't that make you a simp?
@@anonymousperson8301 Merry Christmas to you too
Usually it's the other way around. Women can't take their eyes and hands off their phones anymore. I'd not even bring my phone on a first date if that wouldn't look too weird on the other side.
Just relax, don't forget that the girl (or man) is trying to impress you too. Just have a cup of coffee, listen and if it doesn't work out, there is plenty of fish in the sea.
I do that on as a pre-date just to take the stress off things when you go for an actual date
Except that this is bullshit and decent men are generally fucked in the dating pool.
@@dannylovell7876 Decent men shouldn't care , so it shouldn't matter.
Conversation is a huge part. Keep it light. Inject in the conversation, but listen more than you speak. Women love hearing their own voice talk about themselves.
Re: the after-date text, I don't even wait that long. I usually know whether I want to see her again by the end of the date, so if I do, I'll just tell her then that I enjoyed it and want to go out again. Then we'll work out the date and time details by text. The girls I've been out with seem to have really appreciated that.
When you said "who knows maybe that will lead to you being with them for two years" it dawned on me just how much our society has lost sight of real commitment.
where did she say that? Must've missed it
Yep. Society is really messed up ever since social media, and its only getting worse.
And people still wonder why I don't want to get married or have kids 😂
@@lynic-0091 I get you completely man. I'm religious living in Israel, and it's been non-stop girls looking for one night stands and short term garbage. I'm still a virgin and still waiting patiently to find that special someone. Life is tough.
@@yonahgreene don’t wait you’re wasting your time. Adapt to today’s world. The princes story is long gone. You Need to have experiences and if they are open to casual dating why you don’t. Take care and shalom!
I thought the same thing. A relationship that only lasts 2 years is just a waste of 2 years.
My wife teases me about our first date (low key restaurant, open to talking and conversation)... a couple of arrogant comments on my part during the date (and I had warned her that I was operating on 2 hours of sleep that day. She was bothered enough (and kind enough) to have a much better 2nd date :) 10 years married in July.
Happy I searched for this and found it. Honestly, this is one of the best first date tips I've heard. I don't want sex during the first date. I want to get to know her first. I haven't done a first date in almost a decade. So, it was great to get a "refresher" in the topic. Thank you!
Personally I believe the best first date is just going with the flow. Best dates I've ever had always felt natural and flowed well.
The first date with my partner now, for many years, was a no-expectation, I'll do it for a friend, kind of set up. I wanted to be kind and considerate, but had no expectation of anything but a nice quick casual lunch on a Sunday afternoon. It was at a brunch cafe in downtown B**lder, CO. We met at a parking lot downtown, walked a couple blocks to the place, had a nice low key conversational lunch, and walked back. Lots of conversation, I could see that she liked some attention. As we stopped for a crosswalk light at her lot, I just sort of spontaneously gave her a quick peck on the cheek. No drama. I could see that it lifted her almost literally off her feet. We floated across to her car, she got in and I said goodbye. Our next date was a hike on the ridge behind town. So there you go, by accident I hit most, if not all the suggestions you had in you list. I was never a big dater, and spent a couple tours in the Nav. That was about the first decent date that I'd ever had. We been together now for quite a while, with kids.
@@jkaugust3586 lucky you
A lot has changed in the last 16 years, and I find myself in the situation of having to find someone new to share my life with. I'm trying to improve myself in dress, attitude, and how to treat both men and women, and it's nice to have yet another more traditional perspective to at least help me know I'm not completely out in left field. Thank you Courtney! Nice channel you have going here. I appreciate it.
Remember , even Left field is still in the ball park ..
@@gumshoe7237love that lol
My first 4 dates:
1)
Her: wow that's a nice shirt.
2)
Her: wow that's a nice shirt
3)
Her: okay he's wearing the same shirt as the first day
4)
Her: this guy only has 2 shirts 😐
This is fucking gold lmaooo
Funny! LMAO!
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I discovered this channel like 30 minutes ago after an alpha m. video, and i’m already sooo early in the comments
Glad you found me! Thanks for watching 😊
Same xD
Same lmao
Congratulations???
Dude me too!
Its also important for the man to make her laugh. I started dating this women because i made her laugh. 27 years later and where not only together. We are married with 4 children. Every time i hear her voice if I've not seen her most of the day. That makes me so happy.
You're the BEST, REALISTIC explanation of how a man should set his expectations and demeanor.
I've lost 3 beautiful relationships because I didn't truly understand the dynamics you unveiled.
I'm 50.
Have a new date tonight and will heed youre words
Another tip... Pay attention to what she says!
If you ask questions that get her to open up and have fun, she'll tell you the worst about her on the first date. I've avoided a lot of bad second dates that way. Once I learned this trick, I looked back and realized all my worst relationships told me how the denigrated and manipulated the men in their lives and I wasn't paying attention when they said it!
Great advise! Thank you. Just got out of a 5 year relationship, and I'm going on my first date since then. Way less nervous now.
Women have liberated themselves in every way that's convenient for them, but in few of the ways that would make them truly equals. So when it comes to things like initiating or paying for the first date(s), they fall back on "I'm a traditional girl."
Lately I've felt like I would never need this but now I do. I started to develop feelings for a friend recently and also realized she most likely has been flirting with me. I asked her out today at work and she surprisingly said yes. I plan on having a dinner date at a dine-in restaurant. Not fancy, just something regular like texas roadhouse or Applebee's.
how that shi go youngeen
Always found things like laser tag and window shopping to be good choices, allows you to have fun at both. Laser tag allows her to show off her competitive side,( allows her alpha to show if she has an alpha personality) and window shopping allows you to get a vibe on what her interests may be depending on the stores she chooses to visit as you kind of hang back and observe.
I have a first "date" story that I still hold dear to my heart.
It was July 3rd, and I asked this girl from my summer grad course if she had plans to see fireworks the next day. She said she didn't, and that she came from Thailand and didn't know where to go watch. So I asked her if she wanted to come with me to see the fireworks. She agreed, and we exchanged numbers. The next day, we met up around 5 to go to a food court to eat. We spent at least two hours just talking, we had not even realized that time just flew right by. We left the food court and walked to where we were going to see the fireworks. It was a nice cool summer day, we walked along a river, and talked some more for another hour. It was around 9 when we found a good spot to see the fireworks, and we just plopped right down to enjoy the time before the show began. And we just talked and talked until the fireworks began. Fireworks finished at 10:30 and we started to leave. We walked back to the train station and headed our separate ways. On my way back home, probably around midnight, I texted her that I had a great time with her and she also felt the same.
It's amazing how much you got to know a person from just talking for so many hours, and just cap off a great day with a fireworks display!
Absolutely love this! 👏🏼❤️ thanks for sharing!
So yall married or what
Thank you Courtney! I took all your advice and had a very good first date. I texted her after to tell her and she responded right away. My next step is to work on seeing her again.
I'm going to put this on all the posts I watched. I watched this video the morning of my first date and it helped a tonne. Stories about my life I was struggling to think of beforehand but funny ones came to me during the date just as I needed it. If you ever start discussing something negative, always turn it positive with a funny story. Make her laugh, never sit opposite if you can. Always get there before her. The bouncers gave me one last tip before the date arrived. I was standing in the cold lol. Don't wait outside; it makes you look desperate. Also how you feel, she feels so push away nerves by talking to those around you before she arrives and familiarising yourself with the environment. Make bets with her and lose so she can buy you a drink too. Let her repay the evening with only a drink/ice cream or whatever during the same date (she should offer). Go kino EARLY. Start with a hug, she may or may not choose a peck. Be decisive but a gentleman e.g. about when to eat or do things etc. Don't ask her where she wants to go, have things planned out. Flow in conversation. Move environments, even if it's seats in the same bar. Have things planned like a competitive or team work activity that allows you to interact. Gentle taps on her shoulder whilst laughing, briefly move your hand over hers and let go whilst your both laughing. But don't go too early on this, it has to set up a relationship for a bit. So maybe an hour in if it's going well. Move in close sitting next to her. Maybe even lean close to say something funny (make sure your mouth hygiene is impeccable. Floss, Use a tongue cleaner/scraper with tongue gel and ultradex to be sure). If it's going well you should have tonnes to talk about. Someone here said FORD family, occupation, recreation, dreams. Don't reveal too much about yourself if you want a second date. Tease her a little, to break down her wall but don't make her feel insecure. Compliment something she has done e.g. hair/worn rather than a feature of her body. Never compliment makeup; the reasons for that should be obvious. If the date is successful she'd set up the second one in some way, it might be mentioning she's doing something for charity etc. Take interest in HER. Generally if things are going well, her eyes won't wander, this is why it is so important you set up an environment you're comfortable with. The worse you are with conversation, the more external focus you need e.g. bowling to fill the gaps/tour a stately home, palace together or go on a boat ride. Point out similarities between you rather than differences. Choose DIFFERENT drinks to her on purpose after asking what she's having to show you have a mind of your own. Do something spontaneous at least once during the date like do something you're both willing to do to make you both embarrassed like dance randomly for a few seconds on your way out. It will show her CONFIDENCE and fun and exciting. You'll only have confidence if you calm your nerves that's why I'll say it again, talk to people around you and make small talk to compose yourself before the date. Finally go kino again at the end, with a hug, hopefully she'll give you the peck this time. Remember the aim of the first date is NOT to get a kiss (that's a Hollywood thing), but instead, a second date with her. Hopefully it's her that sets you up. Walk her to wherever she's going to get her ride home. Be a gentleman and put your arm round her, asking her if she doesn't mind you bringing her close if she's cold. Finally after an hour or two text to ask if she got home safely, she'll probably text saying she had a lovely time before that though. Give her a chance to do it though. Resist the urge to text her the next day before she does. Resist a further urge to text back straight away. That urge will be the hardest you've done. Respond with things that follow up on things you talked about during the date. Make her feel good about herself but always make yourself the prize and like a kitten, she'll keep interest in the ball of wool. Never boast though.
I learned so much in one night and can't believe how many years I feared this day... And it went beautifully. She set up the next date.
I just want to thank all of you in the comments section and the creator of this video who literally changed my life. Don't be put off if it goes bad, not everyone is made for each other and it is better you break off and stay friends than force something that won't work. Take it all slow. Don't be disheartened. Perfect practise makes perfect.
Good luck brothers.
*Taking your time, enjoying the moment, and letting things flow naturally is key to having a successful first date.*
Thanks for this video. I've had a rough time lately and I felt like I shouldn't be trying to meet any women. This video gave me a moral boost I needed. Thanks for what you do (and it's also great that you are a fellow Clevelander like me)
I have never understood why people stress so much about that "after date text".
At the end of the day I have always believed you should just be yourself and express how you really feel. If you like the person and you want to see them again just say so. 'Real' is IMHO always the best way to be.
Same I just texted her after we dropped her off at home and then I texted her and told her about how it was a lot of fun and she agreed. No stress involved
Just to go a bit further re knowing when to hold em and knowing when to fold em, it's always a good idea to end the date on a high point/note.
Don't get caught up thinking you have to just keep dragging it on forever, if it's going well, because you're scared if you end it while it is that you'll never be able to get it going that well again.
Back yourself to be able to get back there, if you end it on a high note, and LEAVE HER WANTING MORE!
Hi Courtney. Would you consider doing a video, from a women's perspective, on how women want men to approach them? Sometimes they're with friends or their parents, or in a crowded workplace and it can be a little awkward and unclear what to do or say.
This is a great topic! Thanks for the suggestion 😊
Great idea!
Id pay to see that movie
That is a huge problem for a lot of us, so yeah it would be really helpful :)
Totally looking forward to such video. How do we approach a girl and what to say.
Appreciate her presence and always be warm ✨
Courtney is the only female advisor that I truly trust because she cares for your best interest. She would make an amazing mom
She most cares about the money and to make it out of you in RUclips , be realistic!
I really enjoy your perspective. It’s nice to get reasonable persons opinion on dating advice. It’s just honest and helpful and not filled with gimmicks. Cheers courtney!
Thank you! Happy to help 😊
I would advise having pre-first date that is in public place, and very low investment, like meeting for coffee. That way if she's 15 years older than her profile pictures, you can gracefully make your exit, if things are going well, you can extend the date. This also allows the woman to exit gracefully, with no feeling of obligation.
"You're the worst person ever, have a horrible day" That made me laugh more than it should have.
Really
On a couple of those where that was "their" response, I'm like, "Gee, I thought you wanted to go on a date!?" Wrongo, sports fans... but it's all good. Any honest response, however unkind, beats getting taken to the cleaners by a gold-digger of either sex. Of those I got, my only thought was, gee I feel sorry for whoever you wound up with.
Great simple advice. Shows that there is not nessisarily a formula to a perfect date but its more of an instinctual thing when the vibes are right. First date tonight. This really helped me get my head on straight. Thanks.
1.) Dress up a little bit- business casual
2.) Pick a public setting that isn’t super expensive or formal where you can talk. (No movies or loud venues)
3.) Conversate and allow silence to happen. If these silences are happening a lot and you’re the only one filling them, that’s not a good sign. Figure out if you and this person are looking for the same thing.
4.) Knowing when to end or continue the date. Pay for the first date.
5.) Be honest about if you want to see her again. Take some time to reflect on this after the date.
6.) The after-date text. Text her that you had a good time after the date or next morning.
7.) If you had a good time, and get a good response to your after date text, it’s a great time to set up that 2nd date
Conversate is not a word . It is converse.
@@IVvOOvVIyou must be fun
This video really helped me out more than I thought. I was always nervous about all of the things that you covered in this video. Now I feel alot more calm and comfortable.
Side note. They really need to add your voice to Google Maps.
😂 I’m flattered. Back up, Siri!
@@CourtneyRyan No. I have a Pixel !
Agreed
So funny and true! I also love that she seems to have pure motives.
@@CourtneyRyan lol
Setting up a first date this week after not dating for over 5 years. Thank you for the great information 🙏
Hope it went well bro
@@MC-dz8be thank you brother. Date went well but later found out we were just on two different pages. The hustle continues!
@@BigDBulldawg599 luv the outlook bro! 😌
@@BigDBulldawg599 great mentality, hope everything is going well for you now
4:35 - 4:45 was an emotional rollercoaster I was not ready to get on considering I already bought movie tickets 😅
Great tips, I agree with all you said. In fact, one tip I shared in my video is to avoid dinner for a first date altogether. Eating a full meal can sometimes make the conversation a bit awkward, especially when you're asked a question after having just taken a bite of food lol. Instead I think drinks and appetizers are great.
So true 😂
Why don’t you just eat less food? Why order a big meal?
@@IVvOOvVI which is why I suggested appetizers
First rule, when you want to find out if you're compatible with the other person:
- be yourself!...be your natural being, and if its meant to happen, it will!...that way you can start clean and honest, without faking and lying just to impress, all the rest will flow by itself naturally.
Completely agree with you! 👏🏼
@@CourtneyRyan thank you!
Worked for me!
Great video! Keep up the great work, and congrats for a good video, on a great channel so far🙏
Stay safe!
It’s good that you said that a man should text a girl just to see if she’s ok after the date as i think a lot of men think “Oh no now I’m going to come across as too needy”.
Definitely! There’s a big difference between being needy and showing interest.
What's an example of being needy vs showing interest?
@@servmlrcc Well showing interest in a girl might be saying something such as to show you know it’s not an entitlement but that you’d like to meet her such as “I know it’s a bit cheeky but I’d like to take you for a drink”. While an example of being needy would be talking about the next date while on the first date and saying stuff like “oh we are going to see each other again?”. While looking at her all nervously. The first example you expressed interest in a girl not particularly putting too much pressure on the outcome and the second was very needy putting the girl as if she is oxygen and just killing the mood by putting a lot of pressure on the outcome.
“There’s more fun to be had” like this girl
Thanks for the tips Courtney! I will keep them in mind for the future. Your video made me realize that I am capable of being a strong, confident man.
this channel is going to become huge..continue your nice job
I always click on Courtney’s videos for her beauty…but I stay for the knowledge she gives 🔥
As a man, I agree with the tip that a man should offer to pay for the meal on a first date. But: not as follows: a female friend of mine (a feminist, as it happens) was on a first date, which had been pleasant, but when the waiter delivered the bill, the man said to her "I'll get this, of course." That "of course" really stuck in her mind. (There was not a second date.) Another thing not to do: another woman I know was on a first date in which a man took her to dinner at a fine restaurant. After criticizing her perfume and attire, he proceeded to order meals for both her and himself. My friend excused herself to the rest room, then went home. When he called her cell to ask where she was, she told him "Eat with the waiters."
That’s how I usually behaved in my first date with a girl ,,
Some guys said she was out of my league,, but it’s all about confidence,,
I know what I want and I made it Clear to her so I don’t Waste my time and her time ,,
I totally agree with you ,,
Courtney Ryan is extremely pretty 😍. But that isn’t the only reason I subscribed to her channel. Her good advice and intelligence is the main primary reason I watch her videos. Have an awesome day Courtney! 😊
I did it from boredom
@@romancleanser2709 she never replied to my comment. Not taking it personally though.
@@PraveenSrJ01 good
So the thing that you mentioned about the movies, something that I was told a while ago is that movies can work on a first date, if you've already met them prior like a friend that you're seeing about taking further.
However, what saves this from being an awkward first date is to go for dinner after. That way you have more talking points after the movie and its something that you guys now have a common experience.
Agree. Movie first then dinner after. It works for me.
I only ever landed four first dates in my lifetime, zero second dates. So I'm in my mid 40's with dang near zero dating experience. I managed to pull off a few weekend flings in my 30's though. I think your advice is awesome for someone starting out in their teens or twenty's. For someone as old as me though it's long beyond game over.
Behind flirt game yes, but not to find someone.
Are you dead?
Yes? - you’re long beyond game over
No? - put on your big boy pants and go find someone
@@MasterPourKnowP I tried for years. Ladies were right. Dating is over for a man when he hits age 30, he is just too old to date. Now at age 40 it's beyond over.
@@animestarlord9021 Women love older men. LOVE THEM! Hit the gym, eat right, stop masturbating, buy a new outfit, learn a few simple dance moves, hit a bar or club, exchange a smile with a cool lady, ask her to dance, and then just act natural. If it doesn’t work the first few times (and honestly it most likely won’t) learn from it, tweak it, and try again. I have faith you will find someone well within the year.
@@MasterPourKnowP I get out all the time and try to chat with folks. Ladies have always told me they will not date anyone more than a two year age gap, period. So me being age 40, age 38-42 is the only working range I have. Most ladies over age 35 are too strong and independent to need a man anyway so the amount of single moms where I live is just beyond insane.
A hero we never deserved, but needed.
❤️❤️😊
I went on a first date with a girl i met on tinder, At first we went seeing a movie she'd invited me for and then after we went to have something to eat at a restaurant I suggested, we sat opposite each other and we really had a long and good conversation, because I was that good at holding a conversation. Everything really went well and until I fucked up by giving her a kiss on the lips when it was time to leave each other and say goodbye, I thought she would be cool with, and that was the first and last date and the last time I heard from her. Smh
Thank you for sharing, and I wish you the best.
I think the bigger problem is agreeing to the movie date and a restaurant.
That allows the girl to put up with you the least if she decides she doesn't like you back.
Would be a great “what to wear” video
How many guys watched this video and thought that they would be happy to have a first date with Courtney and not be worried that they wasted their money on a nice meal?
You've made me more confident, feel more stupid and nervous.
The cinema date hit me because i came up with it and luckily we decided not to.
But I am scared about what happens after the date. I have no plans to invite her to but if it goes well I don't want to cut it short.
More stupid?
Courtney, it's pretty obvious to the casual observer, but you're really good at this "advice for guys" thing!
Holy I was inspired to comment from how blaringly obvious this advice is. Least informative video I've watched on YT
I learned to let her pay, the dates always turned into relationships. Because it shows she wants to be there. When I paid, they never realized how much it was, and it seems like an obligation for her to be there.
I recommend doing one of those wine and design things were everyone paints the same picture that is roughly sketched for you. You can talk about color choices you date would have to put the cell phone away. Also, you both doing something, so you don't have to stress about having a moment or two of silence. Plus, at the end of the date you have some creative art for your wall.
Please tell me Teddy's first date move was as follows: 1 takes you to fancy restaurant, 2 pulls out watch box from under table and starts "educating" you.
😂😂 hahaha not quite but it wouldn’t have surprised me lol
@@CourtneyRyan lol
Rytime I'm guessing you didn't watch the video, or listen to what she was saying!?
@@murphsviews I did. it's a joke about her boyfriend's watch channel. It's funny in context.
1st Take:
"My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier."
Yours sincerely,
Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook
2nd Take:
“My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.”
Decently yours,
Cardi B.
My Humble Take:
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way.
*Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous
*The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi
*The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar
*The Myth of Male Power* by Warren Farrell
*The Feminist Lie: It Was Never About Equality* by Bob Lewis
*Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe
*Men on Strike* by Helen Smith
Proverbs 31:3
Don't give your strength (attention, resources, mental point origen) to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings.
Isaiah 3:12
*Childish* leaders oppress my people, and *women* rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road.
#3 on date #1 always pick things you can do in an hour. NOT a hike, or dinner, or an involved activity. you dont want to look like you have nothing you need to be doing later or in the morning. happy hour or lunch is ideal. if she wants to do coffee, fine. easier and cheaper, and she is prob lame so its a good way to find out.
#4 - 60-90 mins for a 1st date, and then leave. however if its a weekend night maybe and she seems like she wants to have more drinks, stay. just dont expect anything. dont even expect a 2nd date. and dont stay if you aint willing to pay. and let her decide if there is gonna be an after party at either person's place.
#5 - you can say "hey text me that you got home ok"
In my case, my first date with a woman who I saw for 1,5 years was a concert of a band we both liked. Some context : I met her at work. She used to work in a different department, and neede my help occassionally. After work, we met a few times by coincidence at the same bars. She came in with her friends, and I came in with mine, or was having a drink by myself at the bar, and joined her. We got to talking and found out that we had similar interests. I mentioned that I wanted to see this band, and then she said that she,d like to join me. So she actually asked me out. This was a slow burner. I knew her for a year before we went out.
For any question about dating or how to behave with a women around, just realize that she is basically having the same question and for what reason should she have the golden answer to it if you dont? So, it should be actually you defining the answer for yourself based on the question, well, what do you(!) like to do, and not based on what she expects you to do. The answer is not predefined but this is actually the interesting part that shows your individual personality which is what girls want. No girl wants a guy acting from a textbook or giving answers that follow some random rules someone put up for some weird reason. A girl wants to find out who you are which includes your own answers on any question that comes up. So just keep in mind, they don´t have a clue, and if you don´t have a clue, take a moment for defining your own clue based on what you think is right. If it works out, perfect. If not, perfect as well because you don´t have to waste time with someone who does not like your answers. Just move on to the next one.
you literally have the best perspective on this and a womans view is invaluable! awesome content 💯
I watched a couple of first date tutorials now and the most interesting part about them was how many men, creating these tutorials, really try to hammer into you how important it is to touch the girl and to be very close to her (like not over the top of course). More like to sit next to each other, instead face to face, so your legs possibly touch or you can casually touch her hand or push her.
On the other hand women creators do not mention that part at all. It is really interesting and kind of shows that women really do not know what they want, not trying to be offensive, especially because men always going to tell you that it is in fact one of the MOST important factors on a first date.
Just my two cents, thanks for the video :)
Thanks for all the down-to-earth content, Courtney! Perhaps I'm overthinking planning a first date during Covid but is meeting at Costco first, for example, make a difference before inviting them to brunch on a first date? I appreciate your insight!
@alias ali lmfao! If you didn’t notice Sam, Ali is beeping sarcastic! No don’t go wait in a Costco lineup first hahahaha
Thank you for helping men have more success in love. The more you help the more success you will have.
Courtney, you seem like a genuinely kind person. Down to earth, good advice
Hi Courtney, thanks for all the advice. I know all the guys appreciate it! Also, hair came out great!
I took my first girlfriend too 7 eleven. then we walked to the park . 17 years later now were married with 4 kids.perfect spot for your first Date.
Wtf...
@@MekhiTheOne what's fucked up is how much better the food today .😂😂
@@ronnieburton9593 bruh u the goat lol
@@DirkkGotGame 😂😂😂 I got the Nacho cheese with jalapeno. 😂😂😂 starbursts, a pack of mentos .she got chips and soda 😂😂😂 luv u sugamamma
@@MekhiTheOne what
love this video alot. Please make more of thyis videos. Its so helpful. wanted to keep hearing more tips cos they were so relatable and beneficial. Thanks Courtney!
“A movie is the worst first date”
Me, after scheduling a movie for a first date 😶😶😶
I'm 43 and going on my first date in over 6 years. She's absolutely beautiful and really cool as well. Ifeel pretty confident about this date because we have been getting on really well but I still need this advice. Thankyou!
I could've used this information about 30 years ago. Oh well, better late than never! ;-)
A nice primer for somebody who’s getting back on the dating game
I've never binged watched a RUclipsr's video this much. Thanks Courtney!
I remember my first date i booked her favorite cafe. It took so much work to find it out without giving it away. The smail on her face was so worth it. I alway say put in the work and you will always get so much back. She still talks about it probably because i took a bit of a lemon and the look on my face was amazing she says lol.
Hey Court...
Always nice seeing a clip
of yours !
U and Teddy be safe now.
Cheers
Popped up in my feed the day before my first date. 🤞Courtney and Jesus help me! I've never even hung out with friends before! I've come a long way and success would probably move me to tears. Wish me luck friends!
Literally the most soothing voice I’ve ever heard
She sounds very sweet.
The tips here are really helpful and practical. You forgot to mention - smell nice.
Thanks Courtney!
You forgot the most important way to greet her: "I'm Date Mike, nice to meet me, how do you like your eggs in the morning?" Followed by multiple failed attempts at winking. 😏😏😏
👏🏼👏🏼😂😂 classic!!
LOL dude.
All together now: 'UNFERTILISED!'
Yes!!!! You learnt that from Patrice O’Neal lol.
Usually I cringe at half the advice in these kinds of vids but I think this one was spot on.
Thanks for saying the stuff about being honest and confident in yourself. I am generally pretty confident, but not when it comes to dating. I needed someone to tell me what you said :)
Spot on. Also, don't do an evening first date unless you already have an advanced online relationship.
I love your content! Your videos really make me feel like dating is a lot easier than it seems.
I've started to look at it in a humble, natural, and healthy way, rather than thinking that I have to be a millionaire Greek god and a smooth talker to date women.
For me, the most challenging part of a date, especially the first one, is conversation. I try to find ways to make it feel more exciting and natural, rather than having that job interview vibe with the predictable questions.
Thank you very much for taking the time to help us men with dating.
Keep up the great work and remember that you're always making a difference and changing lives! 😍👍🤝
@CourtneyRyan
Ok this is a year old but as I’m going speed dating tomorrow I’m looking for tips! Great advice, Courtney, I love your videos. Thank you for helping a guy that’s been single for so long!
Getting ready for a first date in a couple of days. These tips are super helpful! Thank you! 😊
I'm getting ready for mine in a few hours just don't know we're to take her. She wants me to pick her up. But I know spots around my house and that's 20min away. But if I get a spot by her then I don't gotta conversate in the car that long
I always found a coffee at a nice spot the best first date option not too loud decent setting and if it goes bad you and end it quick or if it goes well you can always stay longer !!
I totally agree! 👏🏼