Cold Approaching Her = Ego Death
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Many men have gained the world but lost their soul. They have the car, the house, the girl, but have lost themselves along the way. External results mean nothing without the inner peace and integration to enjoy them. The outer trappings and achievements just become the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.
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Cold approaching will kill your ego... this is a good thing
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Never ever cold approach a huge waste of time. You are giving her the power.
In the cold approach universe, the first rejection is the fuel to self-confidence. Good luck, mates! 🍀💔
Really just don’t even wanna play the game anymore. It’s a waste of time only because I know women r human just like us. Heaven on earth and when I leave is my goal till I lay to rest.
@VectomAnimal huh
@VectomAnimal have fun
If you died right now are you a 100% sure you’d go to heaven?
All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Due to our sin. Hell is the punishment
.“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”
Revelation 21:8 KJV
but Jesus who is God. Came down to earth as a man lived a perfect life never sinned people got jealous of him got him convicted on false charges then he died buried and resurrected
Remember how I said our sin is why we can’t go to heaven? The only thing that can wash away your sins in the blood of Jesus
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.” Roman’s 5:8-9 KJV
So to get saved is super easy
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: not of works, lest any man should boast.”
Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV
Salvation is a free gift by faith alone. You can’t earn it by going to church, getting water baptized, or by any good thing you do.
“For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.”
2 Corinthians 7:10 KJV
Then you just have to feel guilty and sorry for being a sinner and repent for being a sinner. Do you feel guilty for being a sinner? If you do then there’s just one final step.
“that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.”
Romans 10:9 KJV
Pretty much all you have to do is tell God out loud with your mouth that you believe the gospel. That’s it super simple. You MUST mean it from your heart to work.
You can pray something like this
“dear God i repent as a sinner. i believe jesus is God, who died, buried, and ressurected, so his blood can wash away my sins. so i only trust in the blood alone to save me not my good works. Save me from hell in jesus name i pray amen”
If you meant it your saved!
@VectomAnimal congratulations
@VectomAnimal I’m Egyptian and southern you cannot take that away from me
Become the kind of person that you'd like to be approached by, if you were a hot girl or great friend. Got it!
THAT"S IT.
I believe that men NEED to do difficult things. Facing a stressor and learning to enjoy that as a challenge to be overcome in my opinion can lead to some of the most potent personal growth and development. Arnold said in the 70s "The resistance that you fight physically in the gym and the resistance that you fight in life can only build a strong character." The moment you start avoiding things that are hard, or have some risk to them is also the moment you stop growing in that area. Stop training your chest, your chest stops growing. If you don't train your charisma and ability to approach women, then your skills and comfort in that area won't grow. In the gym, you go for a PR 5kgs higher than before and you FAIL, what do you tell yourself? "That was close I'll get it next time" Failure is inevitable before growth. Training to failure. You fail a conversation with a women, you try again another day, just as you would in the gym. Stay strong bro's. We will make it.
Beautifully said brother. There is no growth without struggle. It's a law of the universe; it's here to help us evolve. But it takes a willingness.
Absolutely long wonder idiotic comment.
Be careful that cold approaching doesn't boost your ego too much, or destroy it either. Like anything, it's a balance - I've done 1000's of approaches, but take my recent examples:
1) I cold approach a girl, it's an amazing interaction and it's sparky - we have similar life paths and are excited to exchange igs. We do. 1 hour later, unfollowed. (I've done loads of approaches before, and I do usually know when a girl is not interested, so this threw me off entirely).
2) I cold approach a girl in a mall, again, nice interaction and it turns out she lives in my condo. We go on a date, seems pretty nice but in the end she says she wants a guy to financially pay for her cost of living, so says it's better to be friends
Cold approach is great, but it's low volume, and can have you thinking things are amazing if the interaction is amazing - but you have no idea yet of her personality type, expectations, or psychology... Not saying don't do it. I don't want to sound like a killjoy, but I think my message is just don't get too excited, or attached to an outcome based on a recent one, too soon.
Cold approaching can also break you. Women can be really brutal and you must have a strong foundation before cold approaching
If you go in with the intention of growing, learning, and facing your fears of rejection head on. You win no matter what.
You cannot wait to "be ready" to act.
That's true, it happened to me when I was younger. I used to think getting rejected was about myself being not enough or stupid. Cold approaching without knowing who you are and what you stand for can lead to a very difficult place to recover from.
Healing from that place is what made me change my mindset and be able to go out and take risks again, tho I'm still working on it.
@@TheConsciousMan143 Youre both correct but Ciskuss is dropping wisdom. You dont workout your shoulders when you have a socket injury. Same principle applies, you can worsen trauma especially if you roll a bad encounter
This one was on another level mate. Astounding insights and a real, tangible sense of emotional resonance with the way you talk and present your ideas. Very pleased that your content is connecting with so many others, including myself. Keep it up!
I appreciate you man. And right back at you. I believe your channel is doing a lot of good in the world and helping people glimpse some of those higher realms and bringing awareness to the profound experiences that are happening every single day.
I stumbled upon your channel a couple of years ago, and it was exactly what I needed at the time.
Much love brother.
Beautiful. Yup honestly it's just about starting with basic conversation and not overthinking.
"@13:11 You can become that person" I like that. Effectively creating the world you want through action
This is the answer. It's simple, but not always easy. It takes intention and tenacity.
Have been periodically cold approaching and it’s has taken me to new levels
It's certainly a game changer for most men
wow found your channel about 30 min ago, all i gotta say is thanks for what your posting, it is doing good for us men struggling
Glad you found your way here brother.
I think it's easy to listen to you speak. The pauses and breaths you take in between your word formality is just enough for me to stay in tune and engaged. You keep it real, despite how uncomfortable that may be for others to do along the process of their journey.. Cold approaching is something I've heard about once before and I'm glad to find that you've made this video to expand upon it.. Thank you , all love brother.. 👍
Appreciate you man. Glad you found your way to the channel. Much love my friend.
"Only what you do not give, can ever be lacking"
That hit me hard as fuck
Me too man... me too
I’ve actually been talking to more women at the gym lately and it isn’t all that bad. There have been a few who have been terrible people (flirting with multiple guys while having a boyfriend, lying to just get attention, etc.) but luckily everyone isn’t so bad, even though a great deal of the ones I talk to now are still on the socially concerning side, it’s still been good socialization recently. But the ones who I should really steer clear of have a certain vibe that has my body screaming “no” in a healthy way, not a I’m nervous because “I might get rejected.” There is a certain degree of discernment that is necessary for making sure someone is actually worth talking to and it helps having a deep connection to your body when approaching women. Knowing the difference between anxiety and a bad guy feeling is imperative.
its not the fear of rejection, its the fear of ending up in front of a judge.
Unless you're doing something way out there, that's extremely unlikely to happen.
Dog park ( if you have a dog ) is an awesome place to start making connections.
Glad I stumbled across this channel, you rock man.
Appreciate you man
thanks for the motivation reboot ❤
You would not believe how much this resonated with me brother. Living on my own in a different country(in my mid thirties) exposing myself everyday has been the best and the scariest at the same time. I wanted to burst the bubble.. now it is is not as easy as it sounds..heheheBringing out all the demons I had to face and burn, and then wake up and so it again.. amazing one. For real. Thanks so much
I see you brother.
Great video dude! I cracked up at the “watch the game at Hooters” 🤣
Glad we have the same humor. Appreciate you brother.
Bro I love these videos! Extremely insightful and resonates with me deeply!
1:38 That's always my intention, but then it just turns into a deep, dark existential crisis where my entire sense of identity is destr0yed and I'm forced to face the truth behind everythng.
Thanks Bro, perfect timing as always, going out tomorrow and see you on Thursday!
Can't wait brother!
happy for ya channel to be growin lika that thang
thank you for sharing your thoughts, it's really valuable content
Hey man just wanted to let you know I really appreciate what your doin for the world.
I’ve been facing a very large amount of pain for a long time (physically, and extreme mental illness) and dealing with trying to beat my addiction for years and im not one to quit but fuck man I’m in so much pain bro physically mentally idrk what’s going to happen at this point. I love y’all
Spent years jus trying not to die. I just don’t really know anymore man
Women are the ultimate psychedelic
@VectomAnimal huh?
@VectomAnimal okay 👌
What you mean? Cold approaching is everything.. yes you fail but that’s what builds tenacity and the Idgaf attitude.
The answer to that is Mindset and the ability to forgive ( i learned this the hard way forgiveness is like cutting yourself from all the dramas , bondages and things in relation to people events circumstances that weigh you down) when you do this for a year you'll get to a point where there's nothing to blame for where you are at with life thats the point when you realise all this time instead of victimising yourself you could have taken the action to get where you wanna get to. That's the purpose do what youve got to do no matter what Never look back trust yourself have faith in yourself beleive in yourself and you are not someone else's opinion. With forgiveness and an open mind you'll get to a state where you are not operating from the ego if a circumstance comes up ( consider this a purge ) your reaction to it is what's gonna keep it alive (to keep you in your victim loop) develop mental stamina and mental strength to surpass these things ( you'll have to give up your current lifestyle and meditate regularly and work on mindset) pain over pleasure. If you do this youll get to live the best life. Anything that stops you from doing something that voice inside you that says No is the ego don't fall for it.
red flag
You just don’t have the personality on game or communication skills or bait to score high.
@@beatzclinic2043 All bs
Women are so much more approachable and friendly in other countries.
PASSPORT BROS FOR LIFE!!!
epecially non western countries
Putting women on the spot like that, is what a 'cold approach' does, no? They're minding their own business, and then suddenly forced to make a huge decision.. to either break a guy's confidence or not, out of the blue like that. That's a lot of weight to involuntarily have to suddenly manage. And you're not really in control either, because she either has to lie if she's not into you, or else be forced into an interaction with someone she's not into, right?
It either gives her the opportunity to either have a conversation with someone she's attracted too, or to politely decline...
It's out job as men to make sure it's a pressure free interaction. Keeping it light and fun no matter what, and not making it so serious.
This gives her the freedom to choose without unnecessary pressure.
I Will Come Back After 108 Approaches Soon
You got this.
Thank you young andrew huberman
Something is telling me you're not living in liberal city.
Was just about to say that. 😂
Think about this men are terrified of starting a conversation with a complete stranger.... it's not that hard
It really isn't, just start by saying "hello, how's your day going?" No crazy bs stories. If you get rejected it may feel awkward and be temporarily painful but really it builds character
its porn dude plain and simple
Yeahh when harassment and eve teasing rates are rampant in your area, then cold approach might land you up in trouble if you approach the wrong one.
Good video bro
Thanks buddy
@@TheConsciousMan143 Just came off a 6 year relationship and it hit home when you mentioned about the social interaction rustiness
Has anyone started this journey after 40? I'm not sure what I want out of life TBH, but then I never met the person that makes it worth while, assuming it is another person that makes it all worth while...
You are certainly onto something brother. A person outside of you will never make it worth while... you ARE that person. Other people are just the icing on the cake. You are the cake itself.. Most people don't realize how powerful they already are.
It's why I talk so much about self work, self forgiveness, self love, meditation, looking within, etc... In then allows for the external world to follow suit.
So I have one question. My biggest fear with cold approaching is that I have a really hard time telling women's ages. Like I know and have known multiple women who look like they should be in high school but they are 22. I also have known high school girls who look 22. So my big fear is that I will accidentally approach some 17 year old. It does get easier-ish to judge a womans age as I get older but man it is still so confusing. Makeup and everything just blows my mind. For reference I am 24. so I am looking for that 18-24 year old range. that range happens to be very confusing and hard to tell apart.
What’s your lighting setup?
im trying to get in better shape first because i don’t feel confident or think that i could feel that way while im in this fat lumpy body like i know that cool kind guy is in there somewhere but he gets too shy and messes up his own chances
You’re driving a 2003 Toyota Avalon.
@@NFS4LFE close. 2001
@@TheConsciousMan143 ah! Excellent car though. I had a 2003 Camry XLE that was a comfy tank. I miss that car.
Don’t rack up L’s
Fear of failure is what prevents people from truly growing and learning.
Beta male
Blah blah blah 😂
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When I was a teenager, I used to cold approach often. In fact, there were times where my friends and I would have little competitions on how many girls numbers we could get just being out and about at the mall or something. I used to cold approach just to try and make a girl's day sometimes. That is, until I was in my early twenties and I made the mistake of cold approaching a girl at a busy bar in a very alcohol centered kind of town. I myself was drunk, but not to the point of being out of my mind or anything. I complimented this woman, offered to buy her a drink, and she politely declined with a smile on her face. It was nothing unusual and I walked away, leaving the bar. As I left, (this bar was positioned by an alleyway that you had to walk through to get back to the rest of the town, not even 10 feet away) I heard a man shout at me from behind. Something along the lines of "did I just see you talking to my girl." As I turned around to see who it was, I was sucker punched. The guy ran up on me and knocked me to the ground with a single punch. He had three other guys with him who all proceeded to kick me while I was on the ground. Thankfully, (probably because we were still in a very populated area) they didn't go any further than that and left me there. I was hurt pretty bad, but was able to get up and run to my car parked just a couple blocks away. Ever since that night, I haven't had it in me to ever cold approach again. I consider myself extremely lucky that the attack was something minor and not a crippling (or life ending) experience. But in all retrospect, not a single one of my cold approached in my entire life was ever worth it. Sure, it boosted my confidence, and it might have made a girl smile for a brief moment in time, but I'm 29 right now and never once had a girlfriend. None of my cold approaches ever brought a real relationship to my life. Not once. And it all lead to me being jumped.
The point I'm trying to make here is that it's not worth it to cold approach. Sure, one bad experience ruined it for me, but I could've easily been killed that night. If you aren't some super handsome, jacked, affluent guy, you're chances of earning even a response from a cold approach is slim. We, as men, are much better off spending our time and energy cultivating skills and crafting a life we deem worthwhile. I believe that if we as men make ourselves successful (and that goes beyond being wealthy and jacked, success is a state of mind) then women will notice it and THEY will likely be the ones approaching. Trust me, women are not docile, anxious, timid beings. There are women I've seen who have far more confidence than some men. If she knows what she wants, she will say something to you. I hate to say it, but there truly is a stereotype to guys who cold approach. You may come off as friendly and mean no harm, but to anybody on the outside looking in, they will almost immediately jump to the conclusion that you are a creep. Women approaching any kind of guy, on the other hand, nobody would bat an eye to it. Focus on success, gentlemen. Put energy into being the best version of yourself and that will exude a different, more pure, type of confidence that will magnetize women to you.
Man i read it all. I live in an orthodox society, so cold approach is still considered creepy by girls and it shocks them hard. I have approached few before and i see them go totally confused and crippled in that situation. I did a lot when i was 23, and making average money. The uncertainty before every approach brought lot of thrills and the heart pounding adrenaline rush was sometimes too much to take , and once Imanaged to make a girl go to my place with me but some guy friend of hers blocked us in between. Im 27 now and stopped that game years ago. Im making decent money now and these days i feel like cold approaching lot of girls. I know its not worth but i want some smv boost and could start that thrill again
Sorry that happened to you man. One thing I will say is that it depends on where a guy is at in is life...
If he is living life deathly afraid of beautiful women (most men are), then it would be in his best interest to cold approach for a season to break free from living in fear.
I don't cold approach any more at random bars because I don't need to. It served it's purpose for a time so I could learn to free myself from a deep rooted fear that was also affecting other areas of my life.
If I were to cold approach now it would be in my daily life (a coffee shop, a super market, etc.) not in a potentially degenerate or dangerous environment like a bar.
I can see how this experience can traumatize someone. Sure there are situations that you could be putting yourself in danger, but (in most western countries) it is very much the rare exception, and not the rule.
Yes, social awareness and prudence are helpful tools in life but living in fear is never the answer. Even after being traumatized. It's in everyones best interest to heal and integrate the trauma in order to grow from it.
Best of luck man.
@@TheConsciousMan143 hey man, your vids are very helpful to me. Keeping up my spiritual growth. Love from Varanasi❤
Very inspiring bro
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