Hey guys I know I'm a lil late to say this but thank you all so much for the support on my videos like this. It's crazy to read how one of my projects and favorite shows helped people I don't know, work things out. Keep it pushin, much love ❤️
I know I should've hated gumball for the Christmas presents thing at the end, but later on in life, I met my grandfather for the first time in a long time. I had only met him once before and I had the chance to just be around him for a while . Honestly, this was the first thing that went through my mind as well, I was 20 at the time. Sadly, a few days before my 22nd birthday, my grandfather died. I basically spent my first ever birthday around extended family the same exact time my grandfather died. It was awkward, and I honestly didn't expect anything from anyone, but they did, in fact, throw me a surprise birthday party. Many of my family members there had never seen me face to face before. Everyone there was super nice except for my adopted uncle. Dude made it a point to lecture me for 3 hours about my life when he had never even been apart of it in the first place.
my favourite emotional moment in gumball has to be how nicole met richard and how she accepts that her family life isnt perfect but she wouldent change that for the world
Nicole has ALWAYS reminded me of my own mom. She grew up in a strict Korean-American family where she was always forced to overachieve. She ended up taking a vacation to Australia, meeting my dad, and getting married all within a few months without telling her parents anything.
Richard may be almost child-like in his actual intellect, but the man's emotional intelligence is higher than anyone else in the show even if he doesn't know it. He always supports his wife and kids emotionally, usually giving them actually sound advice on how to handle their emotions in productive ways even if the advice could come across as simple. "What am I supposed to do with my life?" "Maybe.. Start living it?"
It's how little he thinks about it that helps so much, he can come up with simple solutions because he doesn't overthink anything, Richard is simple minded and it fits his character plus it's helpful
One of my favorite moments of the show is the episode where her old rival comes back (Masami's mom). She's upset and fuming at the grocery store and he just starts being goofy until she laughs, then calmly asks her what's wrong.
When Mary opens her phone and it's revealed that she has Gumball, Darwin, and Anais on her phone and cares about Nicole's children is shocking I thought she didn't want nothing to do with them
There were othe little things, like the face she makes when Nicole walks away after telking them she's marrying Richard and that's the tragedy here, Nicole's parents do love her but they suck at showing it and that has lead to years of resentment from both parties
@@ntfoperative9432 given their age and the time they grew up i wouldnt say that as he does care for her and is hurt by her words its jsut like his daughter to fucking stubborn to admit when they are wrong and dont really like showing weakness. hell for all we know after he went back in the house after nicole left probley broke down in tears
@@coolchrisable don't want to show weakness? Fine by me, king/queen, rest in power. For me it is even more aggravating when they want to engage with the grandchildren but not wanting to make amends with their child who is now a parent and demonstrated how much of a failure they were. In fact I know a few parents who are still aggravated with their children BECAUSE they directly or indirectly proved them wrong by raising their kids the opposite of what they got. Reap what you sow, and gaze upon your fields and see they are barren.
@@Mordecrox ty King/queen i would mostly say its both him and nicole are overly stubbon. i do agree Nicole has every right not wanting to make amends with her folks thats 100% understandable and not wanting them around her kids. also this isnt for you i jsut wanna point this out no one questions when granny joe joe also kicked richard out like do we all jsut forget that while nicole stormed out richard was kicked out
10:42 as i really analyzed this, i found out this was actually a metaphor. he means that the broken mug is the relationship, it's so broken that is can't be fixed. it's a relationship full of blinded anger and rage, the good moments are forgotten by all of this anger. nicole's parents probably wanted the best for her, every parent does! but be careful how you control your kids, their relationships, the friends they make, cuz they might rebel.
Love this but not every parent cares about what's best for their child. It's not healthy to say that every parent knows or wants best because it's factually incorrect. Not trying to be condescending but it just concerned me!
I like how Richard is portrayed as dumb and stupid but he's always there for his wife and is definitely emotionally smart at times. Nicole is the logical leader and Richard is the emotional supporter which is why they get along very well together
I don’t like how they flip back and forth between him being dumb and not being dumb, because it makes me think he’s got some sort of disorder they’re playing off as stupidity.
@@SupHapCakit’s not that they’re flipping, it’s that he is intelligent in some ways, an absolute idiot in others. He definitely couldn’t tell you how to fix a car, how to get a job, but if you’re down and out, he’ll know what needs to be done to get you back up again
@@SupHapCakI think it’s more so that he’s always emotionally intelligent. He goofs around. Brings joy to others. Makes people smile, shake their head and say “you’re a goofball” He ain’t the brightest bulb, but he’s always shining.
10:41 The metaphor here is that the mug is the relationship, it's not broken or cracked, it's oblitterated. And like a smashed mug, sometimes it's so broken it's beyond repair.
@@AlemoBavirIn other words? Be a doormat and buy them all the mugs they want to smash. Screw that hippie crap. Toxic parents or family members in general aren’t owed shit just because of similar genes. Outside of the child’s consent? Their parents did the legal minimum to keep their children alive so as to not get legally attacked by the law. And or project a fantasy of a loving home to keep up societal expectations. You assume everyone is redeemable and have the best interests at heart. That they’re not narcissistic sociopaths who see themselves in the right despite whatever bullying and abuse they dish out. Here’s this paraphrased quote from Buffy: The Vampire Slayer. They actually have to WANT to be redeemed first and acknowledge the pain they have dealt to others. Nowhere does it say their victims have to give them any sort of forgiveness or trust them ever again. And they shouldn’t have to. It’s insane to expect victims to accept horrible behaviors from others they wouldn’t have to tolerate from others who aren’t genetically related to them.
@@doritos4956 uhg what an amazing analysis. The concepts of not forgiving and going no contact with parents who are truly beyond redemption has not been intergrating into our society well. But its still so nesscesary to be understanding of the spectrum of realities of adult children-parental relationships.
@@AlemoBavir like what she did with her life, gave up on what her parents wanted her to do and did what she wanted instead and married richard and went on to have a happy (yet dysfunctional) family
15:00 you have no idea how much i needed to hear that right now, im in a bit of a sticky situation with my family and those words give so much comfort to me im legitimately tearing up.
I feel like the message could also be interpreted as Nicole sacrificing her career prospects over prioritizing her family like many parents who are having felt rushed into having kids but doesn't regret it and now they have to live with their choices.
i really used to find this episode boring because now, as a 15 year old understand it was because i was so numbed by my own family drama that the bickering back and forth felt like it was supposed to be any normal family drama between everyone. to the point if theres yelling in my home, i dont even realize until its after the fight since my brain just mutes it. now I just feel okay now, after disowning a family member who was the source of my pain and my health i feel free and happy again! just wish my families problems could work out like this episode
@topdon.goldist it's often difficult for someone to like something they don't understand. As they said in the reply above, they were 7. most kids at that age don't understand such harsh concepts. this episode deals with some incredibly dark matters, that could be applied to many pieces of trauma, such as a bad divorce or abuse.
@@Elitaria Honestly, the only thing that brings this episode down, in my opinion, is the tone-deaf last laugh of Gumball stating that the song was supposed to be about Christmas presents. Other than that, the episode really is good.
It is absolutely wild that some people think it’s on Nicole to repair the relationship. It absolutely is not. Her parents fundamentally do not understand what love is. They are insecure people dissatisfied with how their lives went and had a child only so they could force their kid to be everything they weren’t and live vicariously through her.
It is so anguishing because that’s the same situation with my father. He treats us like trash over and over again and we have to forgive and try to extend the olive branch and forgive. He can fuck himself
She has to apologize for making them think that their daughter had ran unqay with a loser and no prospects in life and probably ended up somehwre in a ditch without a penny to her name, I'd say
right? and reconcilation takes effort from both parties anyway. they both have their problems. if the parents never personally wanted to hear nicole out and improve themselves then they would never be able to forgive each other. so... pinning the responsibility solely on nicole is stupid
@yasininn76 If you watched the whole video, you'll see that this started when gumballs mom was a child. Just because you have good intentions dosent give you an excuse to be mean, to a kid no less.
It's crazy how the show can go from Gumball and Darwin trying to return a DVD and going to school, to loving someone for who they are and reuniting a daughter and her parents.
“Breath in breathe out, that wasn’t you from years ago, it wasn’t that nagging voice in your head, that was you, and while you have time you gotta embrace you” that hits fucking different man
For lack of a better term, this "documentary" vid is probably the only one that I've ever actually sat down and watch. The fact you manage to balance humor and the beautiful message as perfectly if not better than the source material you're reviewing is absolutely incredible to me. Kudos m8. I'm in tears rn. 😢 This is just incredible.
This episode hit me hard. My own relationship with my mother has been very rocky for the past couple years and being able to see a show actually tackle that kind of subject is a breath of fresh air, especially with how the explained it and the ultimate message wasn’t to just “forgive those who hurt you”, but more so to learn to live despite of the pain you endeared. To not let that trauma hold you back with how you live your life and your relationship with others. It’s a lot more realistic and mature than what I see in some other series that attempt to tackle these kinds of subjects. Thank you for covering it.
Something to give a REALLY BIG mention is that "Hit the Brakes" was not only a expression in the song but visually too as a giant truck was going to the same intersection that Nicole's parents car, as they decided their lives were not worthy as they screw up their chance to have a family back At other words, if it wasn't for Nicole stopping them, those roads would have been tainted red It's so crazy how that scene was passed by CN as it is something really hard to watch as an adult or in a age that you can understand this kind of stuffs, but honestly i'm thankful for that scene and it's meaning
@@alishbasajjad2953 it's not shown in this video but you can search the song and look at the moment after Nicole gets back to the house Almost at the end
that ending part with the breathe in breathe out thing genuinely made me feel so much better, ive been having extreme mood swings 3 days in a row and keep thinking of my trauma.. thank u man
You’re able to move forward 🥰 if you’re depressed you’re in the past , if you’re anxious you’re in the future and you have peace when you’re present 🥰 it’s all in the mind.
Yeah, I had a childhood trauma with my parents fighting sometimes and some stupid Disney sequel that reflected my own life I wish I never saw as a kid, but despite those I still had a great childhood with other great things that made it so memorable. Nowadays as an adult on the spectrum, I just wanna move on and be successful but it's so darn stressful sometimes still living with parents at age 28 now, and even an 2nd older brother that couldn't afford to buy a house of his own like my 1st eldest did. I thought if I lived in a house of my own, I could finally live in peace with no arguments, anxiety, stress, and pressure to succeed and live my dream career as a producer and make great movies and shows like 𝘎𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘢𝘭𝘭 but I still have to remember that family is still the most important thing of all, this episode of Nicole's downfall with her parents really spoke my language. That deep breathing exercise at the end really helped me let go of the anxiety, stress, and anger that just built up on me when I comes to my parents--I'm just for one glad they never put too much pressure on me and give me insane expectations, as Nicole said in this episode, as a child unlike how Nicole's parents did to their poor daughter
Oof. I'm getting my little brother into gumball and at first he was giggling at the fight scene but then when we got deeper he just continuously said "I'm sad ):"
@@felixstrider ...Or just throw the shards away. It's not EVER the responsibility of a victim of any kind of abuse, neglet, or mistreatment from their parents to forgive them and make amends. If you feel like cutting them off is the best choice for yourself, then do. I refuse to put both Nicole and her parents on the same footing. She was a child, and she deserved better. That's the truth.
this is the first "documentary" video where I've legit sat all the way through it, cried a bit, and didn't feel the need to skip at any given point. THis is a masterpiece man
13:45 Not gonna lie this is one of the words that i really needed. I always looking back and thinking "where did i go wrong?" and just living with regrets, i'm still 20 years old and turning 21 next year, it is such a young age to be dealing with regrets and things to feel sorry for myself but im facing hard time because i have an addiction problem and it's one of the reason i always looking back and regretting my mistake that lead me into this path. Hearing you say "you are not your past self" and "while you still got time, you gotta embrace you" brings hope to me that i can still change the way i am now so i could be a better person tomorrow, clearly will go back to this comment and video everytime my addiction kicks in to stop me from doing those things and changing myself to be a better version. Thanks a lot bro, hope you make more cool vid in the future.
It was really incredible storytelling when the writers made everything Gumball had said previously make sense in both the context of being about Nicole and her parents, and also in the context of being about Gumball wanting his grandparents to give him Christmas presents. Lines like: “If it’s too hard to forgive, then just give,” and before he even sings, “there’s too much on the line here,” can be easily interpreted as just being about getting Christmas presents.
That last bit with the breathing in and out was honestly really sweet and useful. It's so easy to get caught up in everything going on around you and how difficult things are, you forget how reliving it is to just...breathe. It doesn't change your problems, but gosh darn it does it help you relax, even if it's for only a second.
The episode analysis especially the ending made me subscribe. I have to embrace me and not let my past define me, I have a hard time letting stuff go from the past until I let it build up. So thank you for this, I really appreciate it 💚💚💚💚
@@foogily_googilyson It's cut from this video, but in the episode a truck is barreling down the intersection while Nicole's father is distracted looking in the mirror. It's implied if he hadn't hit the brakes then and there, they'd have been in a lethal car accident. Which seems a bit morbid for a cartoon thinking back on it...
I think that's supposed to be a reference to like how if you don't forgive someone, sometimes you won't get another chance to. Which is a bit dark honestly but sometimes you gotta get your point across
Okay that last bit with the breathe in and out made me cry. I’ve been trapped in the past for so long, hating who I was, hating that I’m not who I want to be, and so on that I never really gave a second thought of who I am now. Thank you.
This show was always a surprising gem, its animation style, the humor being multi-generational, the messages running deep. And it wasn't preachy or obnoxious, and it didn't overstay its welcome. Only flaw it had was how it ended, it really needed a better resolution.
I put this video on my watch later shortly after an immense breakup and heartbreak, now I am finally coming around to it. For me, I never truly knew how deeply the past could control you until this year. Luckily, I am learning that it doesn't have to be that way. That message you gave at the end of the video made me tear up and smile, thank you.
I actually really like what you said at the beginning TAWOG can really go from really goofy and fun to really deep and emotional. I actually broke down at the sad moments inside of the episode “The Hero” it really shows how much power any show has
As someone that lived with grandparents like this, low contact was the best thing that ever happened. My grandmother died without her daughter or grand-kids being beside her because of how much pressure she put on everyone. She had the guts to tell my anorexia sibling she was too fat while my mom was trying to get her to eat, and how much of a disappointment it was we where not born and raised old country. That was not even her greatest hits. I would remember my mother getting off the phone crying with her. This episode was clearly written by someone that has not experienced that.
You don't get to make such broad and sweeping generalizations regarding other people. Their experiences are not yours and you are not allowed to speak for them either.
Yeah, low contact is the best for some when reconcilation has been attempted, but failed, or they're actively dangerous even to the kids. I would never, ever want my mother or mama (step-mother) near my own children. I've seen the latter abuse and psychologically damage our female cousins in just a week's visit. She's messed up even maids to the piint they try to kill pets from sheer helplessness and wanting revenge. She's incredibly abusive and even minimal interaction with her is dangerous.
There's a hidden detail about this episode- it's implied if Nicole's parents didn't hit the brakes, they would have DIED. The episode goes out of its way to show a truck was coming at the intersection, and Nicole's parents were distracted looking back and/or crying to notice the oncoming traffic. If her father hadn't hit the brakes to come back, it would've been too late to make up- forever.
I feel like that’s putting way too much guilt and blame on Nicole, who was an actual child when they hurt her. She’s under no obligation to forgive them, and that whole “well someday they won’t be here” BS is only ever used by people who don’t understand that sometimes cutting family off has less to do with petty grudges and more to do with actual sanity and mental wellness- or, the abusers themselves. The parents were ALWAYS the ones responsible for making things right. They didn’t. If she never saw them again, it would be their own fault.
@@LeBatteur From my view it didn't feel like that scene was putting blame on Nicole. It was signifying that if her parents didn't realize their mistakes and went back to make up, then they would never have another chance to reconcile with her.
@@LeBatteur I don't think this is about Nicole? The song was definitely referring to the parents too. It's _their_ time that's running out, and their only legacy with their daughter is anger and fighting. In fact it had to be her _parent's_ decision to stop and come back to _her._ Isn't that directly implying it had to be her parents that decided to come back and finally show their care for their daughter, rather than it should be Nicole to do all the effort to receive acceptance?
@@LeBatteuridk, i feel it's more complicated than that. I totally agree that no one should be under obligation to stay in their family's lives just because there's this stigma that family will always unconditionally love you so you should put up with abuse, but in this specific instance in the show there's still a want on both sides to fix things despite all the mistakes. Regardless of who is to blame, the only way for the relationship to be given the chance they all want, is for both parties to be willing to let go of all the fighting. You're right that Nicole is a victim in this circumstance of pretty bad parenting, but by the time they're adults BOTH nicole and her parents have done a whole bunch of unnecessary crappy things to each other and refuse to take accountability because "well that was only after you did this!". They all still wanted to make things work, and the only way to do that was to let go of all the past fighting. Not every family dynamic works like that, and it doesn't have to. I think it works well in the show though. I'm sorry if you go through something similar with your family, i have as well and it's so hard to go through..
I like and agree with everything in this video, but I hate how it kinda says that Nicole is the reason her childhood sucked and/or didnt have a right to eventually fight what she dealt with in her childhood. Im sure thats not at all what you mean or think, but idk if her wanting independence or to form her own happiness was a “mistake.” Her parents, however good their intentions were for her, were ultimately in the wrong. Their mistakes were withholding love, putting the weight of the world on her shoulders and then blaming her for being a *child* (finger painting Mary mentioned). Nicole “mistake” was her not being okay with suffocating anymore. imo its amazing she was even able to get out. Still, its beautiful she was willing to try to ‘give’ them 💀
Watching this video without watching the episode when it aired almost made me tear up, and I almost did the same thing when I rewatched The Hero from second season. Man, what is the deal with this cartoon? In one scene I'm laughing like an idiot, and in the other I'm almost crying like a baby. I think that's kinda amazing, ngl
The song made me tear It made me realize how grateful I should be for my parents and made me know that simpler times are better than now. Love it. I'm gonna hug my parents now BYE
The Choices hit me like a sock full of D-Cell batteries. It starts out as this goofy sequence of "What if?"s and eventually lays out the story of Nicole and Richard's entire relationship... I teared up. I don't think any other children's show besides Avatar: The Last Airbender has ever made me cry.
As great as this episode is, it’s pretty obvious that Nicole’s parents are in the wrong. Obviously their unrealistically high standards are exaggerated for the sake of comedy, but it kinda irks me how the show sorta half-assedly defends this style of parenting with a “both sides are in the wrong” argument.
She ran away from her parents with what looked like a man that would've been an absolute drag on her life and could've had her end up under a bridge. An apology for that seems warranted enough
14:12 what if I actually want to feel that anger, what if a person was so deprived of emotion they couldn’t even smile, frown, or cry. My childhood was “you are to be seen and not heard” I was verbally and mentally abused by BOTH my parents and turned into “ the perfect child” drone. I always did what I was told with no talk back, and yet I was treated like shit by the people that gave birth to me. Moving on for me wouldn’t feel right and it’ll just make me resent them even more. This is ideal but everyone has different experiences, and thinks differently.
Honestly, I think it still applies. It's not wrong to feel anger, you're entitled to your feelings and, honestly, 99% of the time is part of the healing journey. Anger has a use and a value, as all feelings do. But as years pass and you grow as a person, holding on to anger will just keep dragging you down. At some point, the anger will stop being useful, and that's when you should learn to move on from it. Does this mean that you'll forgive and make up with your abusive parents? No, fck 'em. You owe them nothing. But holding on to past anger might hurt you in the long run. This is what happened to my mom, and it really affected our relationship. She became bitter, full of regrets, and unble to see the good things she managed to build over the years. I wouldn't want anyone to end up like that.
Honestly this episode with the emotional whiplash between the beginning middle and end works so well. The CORNED BEEF joke being almost instantly followed by meeting Nicole’s parents really makes the rest of the episode hit hard and then Gumball’s joke at the end right after one of the most emotional scenes in the whole show makes the joke hit like the iceberg hit the titanic making it so much more hilarious
Forgive and forget is a nice sentiment, but it doesn’t work in all situations. In this case, it’s mostly a difference of opinion that led to the schism but when you’re talking about actual abuse, actual neglect, forgive and forget isn’t enough, and it never will be.
Holding onto the past is a double edge sword. You’re able to move forward but you have to decide to. Look forward to the future because the past isn’t you. Yes it was bad but we’re still alive. There is a tomorrow so let’s loon forward to that.
@@valeriaramirez2586 That doesn’t mean validating abuse. It’s ok for people to go their separate ways forever family or not it’s not on the victim to give them peace
@@emeraldpichu1I think it’s important to forgive yourself most of all as a kid all the lessons you’ve learned all the bad stuff don’t give it to another child you have to at least acknowledge what happened because most children had to repress their feelings you got to forgive not for anyone else but you so you don’t hurt anymore you don’t keep the poison in you but rather get rid of it and have the child in you wake up if they’re abusive then don’t go back but like if they change which some do you gotta give them a chance at least but if they mess it up go seperate I wouldn’t want a family to be damaged realistically but if that’s the only way go ahead
@@Ttyumbra forgiving, and forgetting, isn’t the same thing as letting go. Forgiving and forgetting demands communication with the other party letting go is for yourself. I can’t claim to be a person who has seen the most extreme version of this, but suffice to say there is a person that I have let go of and have no desire to see them again it’s nothing that occupies any part of my life unless the discussion comes up from a third-party like here, but it doesn’t change the fact that forgive and forget, isn’t a solution here. When the other party is an unashamed user of people, you can’t let them in even just to say you’re let this go because it provides benefits to no one but them and that’s not really something worth bothering with in the first place. Some people are just born sociopaths or narcissists, or entitled to the point that to approach them in any capacity is to put yourself at risk. Do you consider that I get what you’re going for but some people are just beyond that.
@@emeraldpichu1 yeah for sure 👍, I can see how maybe people are beyond that. I can say yeah forget and forgive but only if they are willing to do so. In your case you got a bad hand of people, I should’ve specified if your in danger obviously don’t approach it in that manner. I just want you to be free from whatever is binding you. Now, that I know that it’s not a situation that can be fixed, hey my bad. All I know is if you’re still carrying that boulder, that baggage since you were a kid, the bad things that eventually get in the back of your mind, and you gotta look at the bad parts, and help yourself from 10 years ago. Like I said if they are abusive don’t go back, my ultimate message is do some self exploration, not for your parents but for your sake. Find out how you were in your past and get the kid some hope, you some hope. My intention isn’t to force anyone to do anything ,that will put them at risk it’s to pull the poison out and get to the root, hence I said wake your child self up. I just want you to be better from whatever bad shit you got through.
This episode is honestly one of my favourites and is just so good. Growing up I would always watch this show with my older brother as it was how we bonded. But the older he got the more he would mentally abuse and criticise me. Watching this video made me remember this episode. Thank you for putting this back into my memories, so I can remember the good times with my brother. Also your channel is completely underrated. Keep making this type of content.
Holy shit, this was legitimately eye opening, I’ve disliked so many things just on the basis that I didn’t when I was little, I can’t let that shape me as, thank you for making this, I never would have come to this realization with this video
I’m really glad everyone seems to have grown on this episode, cause at the initial airing it seemed everyone was torn on it, really nice deep dive into it now.
Oh wow I got genuinly emotional when you showed that song. My mother is mentally abusive and now that I got away, she refuses to speak to me. The only words she said when she finally brought my stuff to my father's place (where I live now) after a year and a half of not seeing or talking to me at all were "I don't want to talk to you".
My mom sent my stuff in a bunch of garbage bags, and she had my dad bring them for her. He also purposely came during my class hours to avoid me. Still haven’t seen or heard from either of them for nearly a year. I think it’s for the best though, because I’ve been using this time away from them to mentally heal. I was never able to probably speak in front of my mom due to a fear response where I’d break down in tears and my throat would close up. I also obviously couldn’t produce a coherent string of words. I’m using this time while they’re ignoring me to heal in a way I could never do if they were harassing me. Maybe that’s what this time will be for you? It’s okay to take time for yourself and heal.
I dont know, I do like the episode, but I do kind of hate the message of "just move on and forgive", not because thats not important, but because its not always as simple as that. It didnt happen that way for Nicole luckily, but just moving on and forgiving someone whose not even sorry, and letting them back into your life can just open your life back up to people who will continuously cause you pain, and never be sorry for anything. Whose to say in a few years, that her parents dont start doing the same things to her kids as they did to her? Whose to say they dont get worse? Forgiveness and moving on are both important lessons, but I think its also important to know your worth, and know when youre owed an apology, or a show of behavior improvement.
While I do understand your reasoning, I think that isn't the main message. Sure thats what it looks like in the surface, but I think its more about reconciling with your past. This doesn't necessarily mean 'to forgive'; like what was mentioned in the video, even if one of them takes the blame they won't really be remorseful about it and it just continues the cycle. I'd like to think that its more about just letting go, where old mistakes are not forgiven and forgotten but still acknowledged, and just settling with all thats happened because the point is we don't have all the time in the world. I don't expect Nicole's parents to come back _looking for forgiveness_ after this, rather, just them trying to make do with whatever time left they have for their daughter
You know what, man? Well said. I'm in that exact boat right now. Og needing to move forward from something, being able to forgive most of what happened about it, but actually still seeing and knowing where I am owed an apology for what happened. I'm about to have a talk with the person involved in an hour and I'm just here to kill time, but I wanted to basically just say you said it very well here. It's important to be able to forgive and move forward no matter what happened. But do not forget that you are a person too. Deserving of love. Deserving of respect. Deserving of an answer. Closure. Properly. By all means, forgive the person, and move forward with your life. But remember that you are also a person who deserves better than what happened.
This episode has a theoretically nice message but doesn't account for the fact that sometimes leaving, cutting all ties, is far safer and healthier. Forgiveness should not be touted as the objectively correct option to any situation. You are not obligated to repair a relationship strained and broken by the other party, and unfortunately this is rarely recognized. Forgiving someone if they haven't demonstrated remorse or change just leads to more abuse. I struggle to appreciate this episode because of this.
gosh, that moment at the end (14:47) made me tear up! It's so easy to get lost in the memories of what once was, and the idea that "this wouldnt have happened if ___". Living in the past is a universal experience, and it's one I've struggled with in my own way. Hearing those words really squeezed my heart, and I'm sure it positively impacted the other thousands of people who have watched this video. Wonderful analysis of this episode, It's left me with a lot to think about!
what you said at the end made me tear up because my mind is filled with so much doubt and dislike for myself but also cuz i can see this in so many people around me and its just so frustrating that the cycle just seems to continue and nobody can do anything about it cuz no one want to confront it
I appreciate the nuance of this video but one thing you said I think summarizes the conflict. 12:25 “It all led up to-that she came out of it okay happy and successful. But also a mother and a father never getting to see their child become a happy adult” Uh.. but Nicole is a happy adult..? She has her problems and personality but in general she appreciates the life she has. She went beyond reasonable effort to show that to her parents, but it didn’t work All her parents have to do is open their eyes and not be morons. They were written to provide conflict obviously, but you did a great job breaking down the details of their relationships
I think what he meant was simply that Nicole's parents never saw her *grow up* to be that happy adult. They were never around to see her become that happy adult.
I wasn’t able to comment this the day the video was released, but I came back to say thank you man. The video really helped me think about stuff going on in my life and helped me sort stuff out. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Side note: never really imagined that a Gumball video will make me realize a lot about my life
How dare you pierce me right in the heart with such deep and thoughtful words right at the end there and then plop down in your seat like you ain't just changed my outlook on life 👏 instant subscribe and like what the heck, this whole video was just so [chefs kiss]
Solid video with some great points, and I liked your commentary. I'll be happy to check out more of your channel. But there were a few points where the audio dipped in volume randomly, I don't know if it was a mic issue on your end or just my PC but I tested it over speakers and headphones and had the same dip. Example at around the 12:18-12-24 mark. Not a major issue, but I still felt the need to mention it.
i think this is my favorite video in all of youtube, it really hits in a time where is difficult for me to forgive people and i need to remember that life is too short to be angry all the time
So, while I was watching this video, I slammed my fist at the table (it goes with out saying, but please don’t do that) and I kid you not, my cat came in, jumped on my knees and started purring, as if she was checking on me. And the at the end of the video, that breath-in section, really makes me feel better. Wonderful job as always! 👏 Reminded me, how I discovered your channel thanks that video about SpongeBob Credits song.
This was the best analysis I've ever heard from one of my favourite animated series that was low-key aimed at adults. My eyes got just a little bit glassy. Don't have much time for the other stuff you mentioned at the end, but subscribing for the effort and thought you put into this video.
This was a lovely review and wow, I had no idea Richard could be so emotionally intelligent (even if he was talking to the corned beef, fff) it shows he really is exactly what Nichole needs. Beautiful video and your points are very illuminating.
I don't normally comment on yt comments but this episode of Gumball really hit close to home. I do not have the healthiest relationship with my family and in many ways, it is similar to Nicole's situation with her parents. This video was a real eye-opener for me to approach my view on them differently. The ending of the video is also very validating and comforting so thank you very much! This is the first video that I have watched of RT60 but I'm so glad I stumbled onto him! I will definitely be watching more of his videos in the future!
Hey guys I know I'm a lil late to say this but thank you all so much for the support on my videos like this. It's crazy to read how one of my projects and favorite shows helped people I don't know, work things out. Keep it pushin, much love ❤️
Yaaa the sims with the deleting the ladder in the pool murder was allways a thing
I know I should've hated gumball for the Christmas presents thing at the end, but later on in life, I met my grandfather for the first time in a long time. I had only met him once before and I had the chance to just be around him for a while . Honestly, this was the first thing that went through my mind as well, I was 20 at the time. Sadly, a few days before my 22nd birthday, my grandfather died. I basically spent my first ever birthday around extended family the same exact time my grandfather died. It was awkward, and I honestly didn't expect anything from anyone, but they did, in fact, throw me a surprise birthday party. Many of my family members there had never seen me face to face before. Everyone there was super nice except for my adopted uncle. Dude made it a point to lecture me for 3 hours about my life when he had never even been apart of it in the first place.
It was cute when Nicole was pregnant
I wish Steven Universe Future did the same for Greg and his parents.
😢
Gumball is like the only show where the workaholic mom and the lazy lay-about slob dad being together actually makes sense.
I understand Marge and Homer tbh
I don't even understand Cosmo and Wanda.
@@sarad2487 I remember when they loved each other
@@genericname2747 yeah, the first seasons were gold.
It's almost like she wanted to be with Richard in order to spite her family though.
my favourite emotional moment in gumball has to be how nicole met richard and how she accepts that her family life isnt perfect but she wouldent change that for the world
I tear up everytime at the music montage of them meeting, growing up and staying together through thick and thin
Don't get me started on "the hero" 😭
@@Joeh_ the song richard sang made me bawl my eyes out for some reason
@@Joeh_the problem is how they tried to solve it. Darwin had a better solution.
Ikrrr
Nicole has ALWAYS reminded me of my own mom. She grew up in a strict Korean-American family where she was always forced to overachieve. She ended up taking a vacation to Australia, meeting my dad, and getting married all within a few months without telling her parents anything.
What happened afterwards? I genuinely curious.
@@BlossomPathOnStage15 well obviously this commenter was born
but, does your grandparents know all about this after all these years? and if so, do they accept this?
Getting married within months of meeting each other doesn't sound too responsible.
@@a_random_lizard they do. we visited them once but all i really remember is my mom and grandma arguing a lot.
Richard may be almost child-like in his actual intellect, but the man's emotional intelligence is higher than anyone else in the show even if he doesn't know it. He always supports his wife and kids emotionally, usually giving them actually sound advice on how to handle their emotions in productive ways even if the advice could come across as simple.
"What am I supposed to do with my life?"
"Maybe.. Start living it?"
It's how little he thinks about it that helps so much, he can come up with simple solutions because he doesn't overthink anything, Richard is simple minded and it fits his character plus it's helpful
One of my favorite moments of the show is the episode where her old rival comes back (Masami's mom). She's upset and fuming at the grocery store and he just starts being goofy until she laughs, then calmly asks her what's wrong.
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"Maybe start living it"
Thats deep for Richard
That's deep for MOST people!
Indeed
'' it's because you tried to ship Richard to Guatemala'' that line never failed to make me laugh 😅
Guatemala🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹
Guatemala 🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹
GUATEMALA MENTION 🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹🇬🇹
I would lmao if nicole was in the crate too and took a free vacation
Guatemala 🎉🇬🇹
6:45
“Didn’t want anything”
Correction. He wanted out of that tree stump
and those acorns
That's different though. Those were small things. Everyone else wanted big things out of her
@@Sskidouno
I mean, that was basically just asking, “Hey, can you help me up”, as opposed to years of overbearing parental and social expectations.
So!? He made it all by himself, didn't he,!?
When Mary opens her phone and it's revealed that she has Gumball, Darwin, and Anais on her phone and cares about Nicole's children is shocking I thought she didn't want nothing to do with them
There were othe little things, like the face she makes when Nicole walks away after telking them she's marrying Richard and that's the tragedy here, Nicole's parents do love her but they suck at showing it and that has lead to years of resentment from both parties
@@CRSB00i feel like her mother more than her father
@@ntfoperative9432 given their age and the time they grew up i wouldnt say that as he does care for her and is hurt by her words its jsut like his daughter to fucking stubborn to admit when they are wrong and dont really like showing weakness. hell for all we know after he went back in the house after nicole left probley broke down in tears
@@coolchrisable don't want to show weakness? Fine by me, king/queen, rest in power.
For me it is even more aggravating when they want to engage with the grandchildren but not wanting to make amends with their child who is now a parent and demonstrated how much of a failure they were.
In fact I know a few parents who are still aggravated with their children BECAUSE they directly or indirectly proved them wrong by raising their kids the opposite of what they got.
Reap what you sow, and gaze upon your fields and see they are barren.
@@Mordecrox ty King/queen
i would mostly say its both him and nicole are overly stubbon. i do agree Nicole has every right not wanting to make amends with her folks thats 100% understandable and not wanting them around her kids.
also this isnt for you i jsut wanna point this out no one questions when granny joe joe also kicked richard out like do we all jsut forget that while nicole stormed out richard was kicked out
"Pfffff, that wasn't about them, that was about the Christmas presents they owe us!"
Got me rolling
And, while EVERYONE is looking at Gumball with a disapproving stare, only Darwin gives him what he REALLY deserves! A GOOD slap upside the head!
Metal pipe noise
@@Elijahdafactspeaker excellent contribution, i agree
@@Cheshieruu lol I wrote that a month ago not expecting anyone to reply
10:42 as i really analyzed this, i found out this was actually a metaphor. he means that the broken mug is the relationship, it's so broken that is can't be fixed. it's a relationship full of blinded anger and rage, the good moments are forgotten by all of this anger. nicole's parents probably wanted the best for her, every parent does! but be careful how you control your kids, their relationships, the friends they make, cuz they might rebel.
489 likes and no replies? fixing that
Love this but not every parent cares about what's best for their child.
It's not healthy to say that every parent knows or wants best because it's factually incorrect.
Not trying to be condescending but it just concerned me!
I like how Richard is portrayed as dumb and stupid but he's always there for his wife and is definitely emotionally smart at times. Nicole is the logical leader and Richard is the emotional supporter which is why they get along very well together
I don’t like how they flip back and forth between him being dumb and not being dumb, because it makes me think he’s got some sort of disorder they’re playing off as stupidity.
@@SupHapCakit’s not that they’re flipping, it’s that he is intelligent in some ways, an absolute idiot in others. He definitely couldn’t tell you how to fix a car, how to get a job, but if you’re down and out, he’ll know what needs to be done to get you back up again
@@SupHapCak
Being academically intelligent and emotionally intelligent are two different things.
Welcome to 1K likes my dude
@@SupHapCakI think it’s more so that he’s always emotionally intelligent. He goofs around. Brings joy to others. Makes people smile, shake their head and say “you’re a goofball”
He ain’t the brightest bulb, but he’s always shining.
10:41 The metaphor here is that the mug is the relationship, it's not broken or cracked, it's oblitterated. And like a smashed mug, sometimes it's so broken it's beyond repair.
Also, what do you do with broke unfixable things, you replace it, start over.
@@AlemoBavirIn other words? Be a doormat and buy them all the mugs they want to smash.
Screw that hippie crap. Toxic parents or family members in general aren’t owed shit just because of similar genes. Outside of the child’s consent? Their parents did the legal minimum to keep their children alive so as to not get legally attacked by the law. And or project a fantasy of a loving home to keep up societal expectations.
You assume everyone is redeemable and have the best interests at heart. That they’re not narcissistic sociopaths who see themselves in the right despite whatever bullying and abuse they dish out.
Here’s this paraphrased quote from Buffy: The Vampire Slayer. They actually have to WANT to be redeemed first and acknowledge the pain they have dealt to others.
Nowhere does it say their victims have to give them any sort of forgiveness or trust them ever again. And they shouldn’t have to.
It’s insane to expect victims to accept horrible behaviors from others they wouldn’t have to tolerate from others who aren’t genetically related to them.
Or you throw it out and don't replace it... it's an amazing metaphor that works for both ways one can handle a situation like this.@AlemoBavir
@@doritos4956 uhg what an amazing analysis. The concepts of not forgiving and going no contact with parents who are truly beyond redemption has not been intergrating into our society well. But its still so nesscesary to be understanding of the spectrum of realities of adult children-parental relationships.
@@AlemoBavir like what she did with her life, gave up on what her parents wanted her to do and did what she wanted instead and married richard and went on to have a happy (yet dysfunctional) family
That last line about breathing in and out made me tear up wtf
me too
right??? like literal tears coming out of my eyes omg why???
Same -
real??
Same ☹️
15:00 you have no idea how much i needed to hear that right now, im in a bit of a sticky situation with my family and those words give so much comfort to me im legitimately tearing up.
I feel like the message could also be interpreted as Nicole sacrificing her career prospects over prioritizing her family like many parents who are having felt rushed into having kids but doesn't regret it and now they have to live with their choices.
i really used to find this episode boring because now, as a 15 year old understand it was because i was so numbed by my own family drama that the bickering back and forth felt like it was supposed to be any normal family drama between everyone. to the point if theres yelling in my home, i dont even realize until its after the fight since my brain just mutes it. now I just feel okay now, after disowning a family member who was the source of my pain and my health i feel free and happy again! just wish my families problems could work out like this episode
well said craig tucker, well said 😢
you should update your about section in your profile
There are BORING episodes?
@@BlackDiamond2718 bru did you read the whole thing or JUST the beginning 😭??
@@the_best_username lol
I remember not liking this episode as a kid, but now seeing it again, it really is one of the best.
How could you not like this episode? Because it's emotional? I kinda want to know
@@topdon.goldist I don’t rly remember, I think I just found it boring. But also I was like 7 so.. yes
@topdon.goldist it's often difficult for someone to like something they don't understand. As they said in the reply above, they were 7. most kids at that age don't understand such harsh concepts. this episode deals with some incredibly dark matters, that could be applied to many pieces of trauma, such as a bad divorce or abuse.
@@Elitaria Honestly, the only thing that brings this episode down, in my opinion, is the tone-deaf last laugh of Gumball stating that the song was supposed to be about Christmas presents. Other than that, the episode really is good.
@@AFishInPajamas That's just Gumball being Gumball, I'm glad he got slapped for it though.
Gumball just ages so well as a show.
It is absolutely wild that some people think it’s on Nicole to repair the relationship. It absolutely is not. Her parents fundamentally do not understand what love is. They are insecure people dissatisfied with how their lives went and had a child only so they could force their kid to be everything they weren’t and live vicariously through her.
It is so anguishing because that’s the same situation with my father. He treats us like trash over and over again and we have to forgive and try to extend the olive branch and forgive. He can fuck himself
She has to apologize for making them think that their daughter had ran unqay with a loser and no prospects in life and probably ended up somehwre in a ditch without a penny to her name, I'd say
right? and reconcilation takes effort from both parties anyway. they both have their problems. if the parents never personally wanted to hear nicole out and improve themselves then they would never be able to forgive each other. so... pinning the responsibility solely on nicole is stupid
@yasininn76
If you watched the whole video, you'll see that this started when gumballs mom was a child.
Just because you have good intentions dosent give you an excuse to be mean, to a kid no less.
@@nunya404 And a bad childhood does not excuse you being bad to your own child.
4:15 no shut up, i remember cheap corn beef, when i chewed there was literally the head of a thumbtack, im not kidding 😭😭😭😭
Nah man I feel you coz I had similar experiences 😭😭
12:23 the mom acts tuff until Nicol actually leaves. I thought that was a good detail
It's crazy how the show can go from Gumball and Darwin trying to return a DVD and going to school, to loving someone for who they are and reuniting a daughter and her parents.
Sup Bryce
@@Yoshihelicopter not much.
@@Bryce_the_Woomy_Boi wdym?
@@Yoshihelicopter sup means "what's up" and there's not much going on for me.
@@Bryce_the_Woomy_Boi oh ok.
“Breath in breathe out, that wasn’t you from years ago, it wasn’t that nagging voice in your head, that was you, and while you have time you gotta embrace you” that hits fucking different man
ngl this actually almost made me cry dawg I never finished this episode of gumball but this hits different now
15:05 I really needed to hear this. Thank you, wonderful video. This episode always gets me, especially Nicole’s last line to her parents.
For lack of a better term, this "documentary" vid is probably the only one that I've ever actually sat down and watch. The fact you manage to balance humor and the beautiful message as perfectly if not better than the source material you're reviewing is absolutely incredible to me. Kudos m8. I'm in tears rn. 😢 This is just incredible.
Better word would be "video essay" 😊
This episode hit me hard. My own relationship with my mother has been very rocky for the past couple years and being able to see a show actually tackle that kind of subject is a breath of fresh air, especially with how the explained it and the ultimate message wasn’t to just “forgive those who hurt you”, but more so to learn to live despite of the pain you endeared. To not let that trauma hold you back with how you live your life and your relationship with others. It’s a lot more realistic and mature than what I see in some other series that attempt to tackle these kinds of subjects. Thank you for covering it.
Something to give a REALLY BIG mention is that "Hit the Brakes" was not only a expression in the song but visually too as a giant truck was going to the same intersection that Nicole's parents car, as they decided their lives were not worthy as they screw up their chance to have a family back
At other words, if it wasn't for Nicole stopping them, those roads would have been tainted red
It's so crazy how that scene was passed by CN as it is something really hard to watch as an adult or in a age that you can understand this kind of stuffs, but honestly i'm thankful for that scene and it's meaning
OH SNAP THE ALMOST DIED
Timestamp?
@@alishbasajjad2953 it's not shown in this video but you can search the song and look at the moment after Nicole gets back to the house
Almost at the end
@@hedgehogpower194 thanks
The truck also had a driver
It isn’t an unstoppable force.
that ending part with the breathe in breathe out thing genuinely made me feel so much better, ive been having extreme mood swings 3 days in a row and keep thinking of my trauma.. thank u man
You’re able to move forward 🥰 if you’re depressed you’re in the past , if you’re anxious you’re in the future and you have peace when you’re present 🥰 it’s all in the mind.
Yeah, I had a childhood trauma with my parents fighting sometimes and some stupid Disney sequel that reflected my own life I wish I never saw as a kid, but despite those I still had a great childhood with other great things that made it so memorable. Nowadays as an adult on the spectrum, I just wanna move on and be successful but it's so darn stressful sometimes still living with parents at age 28 now, and even an 2nd older brother that couldn't afford to buy a house of his own like my 1st eldest did. I thought if I lived in a house of my own, I could finally live in peace with no arguments, anxiety, stress, and pressure to succeed and live my dream career as a producer and make great movies and shows like 𝘎𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘢𝘭𝘭 but I still have to remember that family is still the most important thing of all, this episode of Nicole's downfall with her parents really spoke my language. That deep breathing exercise at the end really helped me let go of the anxiety, stress, and anger that just built up on me when I comes to my parents--I'm just for one glad they never put too much pressure on me and give me insane expectations, as Nicole said in this episode, as a child unlike how Nicole's parents did to their poor daughter
"IVE BEEN LOOKIN AT MY ANALYTICS AND IMMA NEED YOU TO ~enjoy the video 💜. Its all that I ask." I FEEL THE LOVE YOU PUTTING INTO THESE
5:37 boss baby lore!?!?!?!??!??!
Lolllll😂😂😂😂
Oof. I'm getting my little brother into gumball and at first he was giggling at the fight scene but then when we got deeper he just continuously said "I'm sad ):"
That is pretty understandable
Nicole has every right to hate her parents for how they treated her.
She really had. But that's the point of the entire episode: would it be the best choice, though?
@@mrwonka407whatever choice made her feel better was the right one.
@@angstyteen6042at the end, she said “i just want you guys back” .. it seems like she just wanted to see them again, but not through fighting
@@mrwonka407Uh, yeah? They abuse her and tried to export a whole man. I think she has a case to go no contact
@@felixstrider ...Or just throw the shards away. It's not EVER the responsibility of a victim of any kind of abuse, neglet, or mistreatment from their parents to forgive them and make amends. If you feel like cutting them off is the best choice for yourself, then do.
I refuse to put both Nicole and her parents on the same footing. She was a child, and she deserved better. That's the truth.
this is the first "documentary" video where I've legit sat all the way through it, cried a bit, and didn't feel the need to skip at any given point. THis is a masterpiece man
13:45 Not gonna lie this is one of the words that i really needed.
I always looking back and thinking "where did i go wrong?" and just living with regrets, i'm still 20 years old and turning 21 next year, it is such a young age to be dealing with regrets and things to feel sorry for myself but im facing hard time because i have an addiction problem and it's one of the reason i always looking back and regretting my mistake that lead me into this path.
Hearing you say "you are not your past self" and "while you still got time, you gotta embrace you" brings hope to me that i can still change the way i am now so i could be a better person tomorrow, clearly will go back to this comment and video everytime my addiction kicks in to stop me from doing those things and changing myself to be a better version.
Thanks a lot bro, hope you make more cool vid in the future.
It was really incredible storytelling when the writers made everything Gumball had said previously make sense in both the context of being about Nicole and her parents, and also in the context of being about Gumball wanting his grandparents to give him Christmas presents. Lines like: “If it’s too hard to forgive, then just give,” and before he even sings, “there’s too much on the line here,” can be easily interpreted as just being about getting Christmas presents.
Gumball is such a silly show, but when it gets emotional and serious, it drives those things home, with this episode being a shining example.
RT60 is so underrated
You know who else is underrated?
@@stupidface2292ur mom
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@@stupidface2292MUSCLE MAN’S MOM!
i CANNOT believe this video essay about gumball nearly made me cry
0:09 What I noticed is while she had a stern face before she left.
Nicole's mother can be seen crying into her hands in the background.
Yeah later you see it clearly
That last bit with the breathing in and out was honestly really sweet and useful. It's so easy to get caught up in everything going on around you and how difficult things are, you forget how reliving it is to just...breathe. It doesn't change your problems, but gosh darn it does it help you relax, even if it's for only a second.
3:50 I think we was talking to the canned beef not her lol.
Yet Nicole managed to calm down a bit. Food really does speak for you in this case. 🤔
it's pretty cliché to say this but i really needed that message at the end of the video, it helped me realize a few things. thanks brother
The episode analysis especially the ending made me subscribe. I have to embrace me and not let my past define me, I have a hard time letting stuff go from the past until I let it build up. So thank you for this, I really appreciate it 💚💚💚💚
13:08 Nah coz in the episode, if they literally didn't hit the breaks, Nicole would see her own parents get run over by a speeding truck 😭😭😭
where tf do people see this
@@foogily_googilyson It's cut from this video, but in the episode a truck is barreling down the intersection while Nicole's father is distracted looking in the mirror. It's implied if he hadn't hit the brakes then and there, they'd have been in a lethal car accident. Which seems a bit morbid for a cartoon thinking back on it...
I think that's supposed to be a reference to like how if you don't forgive someone, sometimes you won't get another chance to. Which is a bit dark honestly but sometimes you gotta get your point across
@@TheKBrosTechcould be why my man the uploader mentioned how Nicole’s parents are alive and able to talk to her
Dude... That final part was the most impactful shit, and it hit me like a fucking truck hurdling towards an anime girl. Well done, my guy.
I get this reference
ZLS?
Lmao like the truck that was gonna hit the parents
Okay that last bit with the breathe in and out made me cry. I’ve been trapped in the past for so long, hating who I was, hating that I’m not who I want to be, and so on that I never really gave a second thought of who I am now. Thank you.
Same but I still hate who I am and would rather be a kid again so I could choose not to end up like this.
This show was always a surprising gem, its animation style, the humor being multi-generational, the messages running deep. And it wasn't preachy or obnoxious, and it didn't overstay its welcome.
Only flaw it had was how it ended, it really needed a better resolution.
I put this video on my watch later shortly after an immense breakup and heartbreak, now I am finally coming around to it. For me, I never truly knew how deeply the past could control you until this year. Luckily, I am learning that it doesn't have to be that way. That message you gave at the end of the video made me tear up and smile, thank you.
10:05 sorry but this part always hits because of the built up and the way Nicole said,”Separately.”
that deep breath bit at the end was genuinely so beautiful, this channel is amazing
I actually really like what you said at the beginning TAWOG can really go from really goofy and fun to really deep and emotional. I actually broke down at the sad moments inside of the episode “The Hero” it really shows how much power any show has
As someone that lived with grandparents like this, low contact was the best thing that ever happened. My grandmother died without her daughter or grand-kids being beside her because of how much pressure she put on everyone. She had the guts to tell my anorexia sibling she was too fat while my mom was trying to get her to eat, and how much of a disappointment it was we where not born and raised old country. That was not even her greatest hits. I would remember my mother getting off the phone crying with her. This episode was clearly written by someone that has not experienced that.
Your asshole grandmother has some signs of narcissistic behaviour. Like if she was born broken, beyond reparations
The majority of parents aren’t like that, so why are you projecting those experiences onto the masses?
You don't get to make such broad and sweeping generalizations regarding other people. Their experiences are not yours and you are not allowed to speak for them either.
Yeah, low contact is the best for some when reconcilation has been attempted, but failed, or they're actively dangerous even to the kids. I would never, ever want my mother or mama (step-mother) near my own children. I've seen the latter abuse and psychologically damage our female cousins in just a week's visit. She's messed up even maids to the piint they try to kill pets from sheer helplessness and wanting revenge. She's incredibly abusive and even minimal interaction with her is dangerous.
@@pinokosthewifethat last part is ducking funny you make her saund like a ducking pathogen
5:28
"Only because we loved you-"
*_*ERRRR❌️❌️❌️🚫🚫🚫_**
Lie detector
wdym? they did love her. yeah, they were WAY to strict, but still loved her. thats a fact smh
There's a hidden detail about this episode- it's implied if Nicole's parents didn't hit the brakes, they would have DIED. The episode goes out of its way to show a truck was coming at the intersection, and Nicole's parents were distracted looking back and/or crying to notice the oncoming traffic. If her father hadn't hit the brakes to come back, it would've been too late to make up- forever.
I feel like that’s putting way too much guilt and blame on Nicole, who was an actual child when they hurt her. She’s under no obligation to forgive them, and that whole “well someday they won’t be here” BS is only ever used by people who don’t understand that sometimes cutting family off has less to do with petty grudges and more to do with actual sanity and mental wellness- or, the abusers themselves.
The parents were ALWAYS the ones responsible for making things right. They didn’t. If she never saw them again, it would be their own fault.
@@LeBatteur From my view it didn't feel like that scene was putting blame on Nicole. It was signifying that if her parents didn't realize their mistakes and went back to make up, then they would never have another chance to reconcile with her.
@@LeBatteur I don't think this is about Nicole? The song was definitely referring to the parents too. It's _their_ time that's running out, and their only legacy with their daughter is anger and fighting. In fact it had to be her _parent's_ decision to stop and come back to _her._ Isn't that directly implying it had to be her parents that decided to come back and finally show their care for their daughter, rather than it should be Nicole to do all the effort to receive acceptance?
WOAHH
@@LeBatteuridk, i feel it's more complicated than that. I totally agree that no one should be under obligation to stay in their family's lives just because there's this stigma that family will always unconditionally love you so you should put up with abuse, but in this specific instance in the show there's still a want on both sides to fix things despite all the mistakes. Regardless of who is to blame, the only way for the relationship to be given the chance they all want, is for both parties to be willing to let go of all the fighting. You're right that Nicole is a victim in this circumstance of pretty bad parenting, but by the time they're adults BOTH nicole and her parents have done a whole bunch of unnecessary crappy things to each other and refuse to take accountability because "well that was only after you did this!".
They all still wanted to make things work, and the only way to do that was to let go of all the past fighting. Not every family dynamic works like that, and it doesn't have to. I think it works well in the show though. I'm sorry if you go through something similar with your family, i have as well and it's so hard to go through..
I like and agree with everything in this video, but I hate how it kinda says that Nicole is the reason her childhood sucked and/or didnt have a right to eventually fight what she dealt with in her childhood. Im sure thats not at all what you mean or think, but idk if her wanting independence or to form her own happiness was a “mistake.”
Her parents, however good their intentions were for her, were ultimately in the wrong. Their mistakes were withholding love, putting the weight of the world on her shoulders and then blaming her for being a *child* (finger painting Mary mentioned). Nicole “mistake” was her not being okay with suffocating anymore. imo its amazing she was even able to get out. Still, its beautiful she was willing to try to ‘give’ them 💀
Watching this video without watching the episode when it aired almost made me tear up, and I almost did the same thing when I rewatched The Hero from second season. Man, what is the deal with this cartoon? In one scene I'm laughing like an idiot, and in the other I'm almost crying like a baby. I think that's kinda amazing, ngl
The song made me tear It made me realize how grateful I should be for my parents and made me know that simpler times are better than now. Love it. I'm gonna hug my parents now BYE
The Choices hit me like a sock full of D-Cell batteries. It starts out as this goofy sequence of "What if?"s and eventually lays out the story of Nicole and Richard's entire relationship... I teared up. I don't think any other children's show besides Avatar: The Last Airbender has ever made me cry.
10:27 this the mf that beat up dream
And?
@@TM01_ Made him look stupid lmao
@@Fockoffofyoutubewho, gumball or dream?
@@TM01_ that made you look stupid
obviously dream @@TM01_
As great as this episode is, it’s pretty obvious that Nicole’s parents are in the wrong. Obviously their unrealistically high standards are exaggerated for the sake of comedy, but it kinda irks me how the show sorta half-assedly defends this style of parenting with a “both sides are in the wrong” argument.
yikes i didnt even catch that cuz i was too focused on nicole and richard’s relationship 😭
for me i see it more as a “both sides are hopeless” even though nicole’s parents are the cause of it
IKR
She ran away from her parents with what looked like a man that would've been an absolute drag on her life and could've had her end up under a bridge. An apology for that seems warranted enough
@@yasininn76 an apology is warranted for a "what if" that never happened? Are you narcissistic or just offensively stupid?
7:18 sometimes you just need a Richard.
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14:12 what if I actually want to feel that anger, what if a person was so deprived of emotion they couldn’t even smile, frown, or cry. My childhood was “you are to be seen and not heard” I was verbally and mentally abused by BOTH my parents and turned into “ the perfect child” drone. I always did what I was told with no talk back, and yet I was treated like shit by the people that gave birth to me. Moving on for me wouldn’t feel right and it’ll just make me resent them even more. This is ideal but everyone has different experiences, and thinks differently.
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Honestly, I think it still applies. It's not wrong to feel anger, you're entitled to your feelings and, honestly, 99% of the time is part of the healing journey. Anger has a use and a value, as all feelings do. But as years pass and you grow as a person, holding on to anger will just keep dragging you down. At some point, the anger will stop being useful, and that's when you should learn to move on from it.
Does this mean that you'll forgive and make up with your abusive parents? No, fck 'em. You owe them nothing. But holding on to past anger might hurt you in the long run.
This is what happened to my mom, and it really affected our relationship. She became bitter, full of regrets, and unble to see the good things she managed to build over the years. I wouldn't want anyone to end up like that.
Honestly this episode with the emotional whiplash between the beginning middle and end works so well.
The CORNED BEEF joke being almost instantly followed by meeting Nicole’s parents really makes the rest of the episode hit hard and then Gumball’s joke at the end right after one of the most emotional scenes in the whole show makes the joke hit like the iceberg hit the titanic making it so much more hilarious
Forgive and forget is a nice sentiment, but it doesn’t work in all situations. In this case, it’s mostly a difference of opinion that led to the schism but when you’re talking about actual abuse, actual neglect, forgive and forget isn’t enough, and it never will be.
Holding onto the past is a double edge sword. You’re able to move forward but you have to decide to. Look forward to the future because the past isn’t you. Yes it was bad but we’re still alive. There is a tomorrow so let’s loon forward to that.
@@valeriaramirez2586 That doesn’t mean validating abuse. It’s ok for people to go their separate ways forever family or not it’s not on the victim to give them peace
@@emeraldpichu1I think it’s important to forgive yourself most of all as a kid all the lessons you’ve learned all the bad stuff don’t give it to another child you have to at least acknowledge what happened because most children had to repress their feelings you got to forgive not for anyone else but you so you don’t hurt anymore you don’t keep the poison in you but rather get rid of it and have the child in you wake up if they’re abusive then don’t go back but like if they change which some do you gotta give them a chance at least but if they mess it up go seperate I wouldn’t want a family to be damaged realistically but if that’s the only way go ahead
@@Ttyumbra forgiving, and forgetting, isn’t the same thing as letting go. Forgiving and forgetting demands communication with the other party letting go is for yourself. I can’t claim to be a person who has seen the most extreme version of this, but suffice to say there is a person that I have let go of and have no desire to see them again it’s nothing that occupies any part of my life unless the discussion comes up from a third-party like here, but it doesn’t change the fact that forgive and forget, isn’t a solution here. When the other party is an unashamed user of people, you can’t let them in even just to say you’re let this go because it provides benefits to no one but them and that’s not really something worth bothering with in the first place. Some people are just born sociopaths or narcissists, or entitled to the point that to approach them in any capacity is to put yourself at risk. Do you consider that I get what you’re going for but some people are just beyond that.
@@emeraldpichu1 yeah for sure 👍, I can see how maybe people are beyond that. I can say yeah forget and forgive but only if they are willing to do so. In your case you got a bad hand of people, I should’ve specified if your in danger obviously don’t approach it in that manner. I just want you to be free from whatever is binding you. Now, that I know that it’s not a situation that can be fixed, hey my bad. All I know is if you’re still carrying that boulder, that baggage since you were a kid, the bad things that eventually get in the back of your mind, and you gotta look at the bad parts, and help yourself from 10 years ago. Like I said if they are abusive don’t go back, my ultimate message is do some self exploration, not for your parents but for your sake. Find out how you were in your past and get the kid some hope, you some hope. My intention isn’t to force anyone to do anything ,that will put them at risk it’s to pull the poison out and get to the root, hence I said wake your child self up. I just want you to be better from whatever bad shit you got through.
This episode is honestly one of my favourites and is just so good. Growing up I would always watch this show with my older brother as it was how we bonded. But the older he got the more he would mentally abuse and criticise me. Watching this video made me remember this episode. Thank you for putting this back into my memories, so I can remember the good times with my brother. Also your channel is completely underrated. Keep making this type of content.
Reply: Wait I didn’t think he would heart this. Thank you dude.
If you don't mind...
Hows your relationship with your big brother now?
@@mjay_arts4Sorry I’ve only seen this a month later. He’s still a little bit abusive but not as much, he’s more friendly now.
@@RainingBeanz Atleast he's improving, right? I hope it keeps it that way and maybe he'll change for the better
Holy shit, this was legitimately eye opening, I’ve disliked so many things just on the basis that I didn’t when I was little, I can’t let that shape me as, thank you for making this, I never would have come to this realization with this video
15:00 that wasn't me you asked me to breath
Are you possessed or something
@@tamertonper595 no im an alien i dont breath
@@fairuzfairuz2391 oh
@@fairuzfairuz2391 did you bring monkeypox from your planet?
@@fairuzfairuz2391 does that mean that you’re the reason for monkeypox?
I’m really glad everyone seems to have grown on this episode, cause at the initial airing it seemed everyone was torn on it, really nice deep dive into it now.
This episode is so deep. You’re one of my favorite people to watch for sure. 😢😢😢
I really needed this video…
Getting over trauma is difficult… glad RUclips recommended this
Oh wow I got genuinly emotional when you showed that song. My mother is mentally abusive and now that I got away, she refuses to speak to me.
The only words she said when she finally brought my stuff to my father's place (where I live now) after a year and a half of not seeing or talking to me at all were "I don't want to talk to you".
My mom sent my stuff in a bunch of garbage bags, and she had my dad bring them for her. He also purposely came during my class hours to avoid me. Still haven’t seen or heard from either of them for nearly a year. I think it’s for the best though, because I’ve been using this time away from them to mentally heal. I was never able to probably speak in front of my mom due to a fear response where I’d break down in tears and my throat would close up. I also obviously couldn’t produce a coherent string of words. I’m using this time while they’re ignoring me to heal in a way I could never do if they were harassing me.
Maybe that’s what this time will be for you? It’s okay to take time for yourself and heal.
@@justalittleturtle5600 Yeah that's what it is.
Some relationships just don't work and that includes your relationship with parents.
@@agni3743 Yeah I noticed that.
Any bond can be broken, even blood. Family may be family, but you can still cut them off when they're shitty to you.
this is a really well-put-together video explaining the episode. it really shifts your perspective on things, so thank you!!
7:45 ironically it was because they interpreted rsvp as a location and they went to RSVP in Moldova (in Gumball not irl)
My man really made me cry and heal all in one episode about TAWOG. I'm deceased. Thank you, my homie 😭
I dont know, I do like the episode, but I do kind of hate the message of "just move on and forgive", not because thats not important, but because its not always as simple as that.
It didnt happen that way for Nicole luckily, but just moving on and forgiving someone whose not even sorry, and letting them back into your life can just open your life back up to people who will continuously cause you pain, and never be sorry for anything.
Whose to say in a few years, that her parents dont start doing the same things to her kids as they did to her? Whose to say they dont get worse? Forgiveness and moving on are both important lessons, but I think its also important to know your worth, and know when youre owed an apology, or a show of behavior improvement.
While I do understand your reasoning, I think that isn't the main message. Sure thats what it looks like in the surface, but I think its more about reconciling with your past. This doesn't necessarily mean 'to forgive'; like what was mentioned in the video, even if one of them takes the blame they won't really be remorseful about it and it just continues the cycle. I'd like to think that its more about just letting go, where old mistakes are not forgiven and forgotten but still acknowledged, and just settling with all thats happened because the point is we don't have all the time in the world. I don't expect Nicole's parents to come back _looking for forgiveness_ after this, rather, just them trying to make do with whatever time left they have for their daughter
I’d say forgive and move on, but be mindful that the cycle doesn’t continue, in such cases.
Also it’s a kids show so of course it should on a positive note.
I get that
You know what, man?
Well said.
I'm in that exact boat right now. Og needing to move forward from something, being able to forgive most of what happened about it, but actually still seeing and knowing where I am owed an apology for what happened.
I'm about to have a talk with the person involved in an hour and I'm just here to kill time, but I wanted to basically just say you said it very well here.
It's important to be able to forgive and move forward no matter what happened. But do not forget that you are a person too. Deserving of love. Deserving of respect. Deserving of an answer. Closure. Properly.
By all means, forgive the person, and move forward with your life. But remember that you are also a person who deserves better than what happened.
The gender part had me rollin 😂 2:48
Bro😭
Imagine failing gender 🙄
This episode has a theoretically nice message but doesn't account for the fact that sometimes leaving, cutting all ties, is far safer and healthier. Forgiveness should not be touted as the objectively correct option to any situation. You are not obligated to repair a relationship strained and broken by the other party, and unfortunately this is rarely recognized.
Forgiving someone if they haven't demonstrated remorse or change just leads to more abuse. I struggle to appreciate this episode because of this.
It's a children's cartoon not your psychotherapy sessions.
This is why "The amazing world of Gumball" is such a great show.
GOAT T60 the ending made me feel alot better thank you
The ending message was actually to real
gosh, that moment at the end (14:47) made me tear up!
It's so easy to get lost in the memories of what once was, and the idea that "this wouldnt have happened if ___".
Living in the past is a universal experience, and it's one I've struggled with in my own way. Hearing those words really squeezed my heart, and I'm sure it positively impacted the other thousands of people who have watched this video.
Wonderful analysis of this episode, It's left me with a lot to think about!
what you said at the end made me tear up because my mind is filled with so much doubt and dislike for myself but also cuz i can see this in so many people around me and its just so frustrating that the cycle just seems to continue and nobody can do anything about it cuz no one want to confront it
Oh my god this video got me breaking down in tears
Wait wtf I already commented 7 months ago😭
I appreciate the nuance of this video but one thing you said I think summarizes the conflict.
12:25 “It all led up to-that she came out of it okay happy and successful. But also a mother and a father never getting to see their child become a happy adult”
Uh.. but Nicole is a happy adult..? She has her problems and personality but in general she appreciates the life she has. She went beyond reasonable effort to show that to her parents, but it didn’t work
All her parents have to do is open their eyes and not be morons. They were written to provide conflict obviously, but you did a great job breaking down the details of their relationships
I think what he meant was simply that Nicole's parents never saw her *grow up* to be that happy adult. They were never around to see her become that happy adult.
@@kres6009 that’s a good point that makes sense
I wasn’t able to comment this the day the video was released, but I came back to say thank you man. The video really helped me think about stuff going on in my life and helped me sort stuff out. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Side note: never really imagined that a Gumball video will make me realize a lot about my life
13:42 That metal pipe was perfect.😂
Sorry tried to sneak in for a cookie 😆
How dare you pierce me right in the heart with such deep and thoughtful words right at the end there and then plop down in your seat like you ain't just changed my outlook on life 👏 instant subscribe and like what the heck, this whole video was just so [chefs kiss]
Solid video with some great points, and I liked your commentary. I'll be happy to check out more of your channel.
But there were a few points where the audio dipped in volume randomly, I don't know if it was a mic issue on your end or just my PC but I tested it over speakers and headphones and had the same dip. Example at around the 12:18-12-24 mark. Not a major issue, but I still felt the need to mention it.
Honestly one of your best videos so far. The ending was really good. Keep up the great work RT.
Tried to breath out, I almost cried... F u man, this was too emotional
Really good video. The moment with breathing truly touched me. I didn't know how much I needed to hear what u said. Thank you!
The therapy I didn't think I needed.
Thanks man. You're awesome.
i think this is my favorite video in all of youtube, it really hits in a time where is difficult for me to forgive people and i need to remember that life is too short to be angry all the time
14:49 i didn't expect that part but regardless it felt ........ good, thanks 😊
THE RETURN OF THE KING!
So, while I was watching this video, I slammed my fist at the table (it goes with out saying, but please don’t do that) and I kid you not, my cat came in, jumped on my knees and started purring, as if she was checking on me.
And the at the end of the video, that breath-in section, really makes me feel better.
Wonderful job as always! 👏
Reminded me, how I discovered your channel thanks that video about SpongeBob Credits song.
bro why’d u do that tho
@@Dxuser5 Bro, It’s all good, don’t worry about it. 🙏
This was the best analysis I've ever heard from one of my favourite animated series that was low-key aimed at adults.
My eyes got just a little bit glassy.
Don't have much time for the other stuff you mentioned at the end, but subscribing for the effort and thought you put into this video.
This was a lovely review and wow, I had no idea Richard could be so emotionally intelligent (even if he was talking to the corned beef, fff) it shows he really is exactly what Nichole needs. Beautiful video and your points are very illuminating.
I don't normally comment on yt comments but this episode of Gumball really hit close to home. I do not have the healthiest relationship with my family and in many ways, it is similar to Nicole's situation with her parents. This video was a real eye-opener for me to approach my view on them differently. The ending of the video is also very validating and comforting so thank you very much! This is the first video that I have watched of RT60 but I'm so glad I stumbled onto him! I will definitely be watching more of his videos in the future!