I didn’t even realize how my mother wounds made me feel like I didn’t want children because of how scared I was of being just like her and my grandmother (her mom). I’m healing generations of mother wounds and it’s really making sense on how it’s affected me my whole life. Thank you for these prompts to dive deeper into self . 💓
Could you please leave all links to Bethany's on-line help, because I am desperately trying to help my adult daughter with her Mother Wound. She is in a psychotic state at the moment, hearing threatening, hateful voices, along with the fixed delusion that the voices are real. Her adult daughter is overwhelmed, trying to help her at the moment, but there are long waiting lists for treatment. She is not that open to treatment, because she truly believes her delusion. She is able to function, despite this, as she is very intelligent, but this is an emergency. At present, she only has her methadone counselor and her psych meds, she says do not help. Can you send any info that she can interact with on-line. Thank you. Your videos are helping me, also, and I am glad you relate to Eckhart Tolle.
Listening for the second time in order to take notes.... is it just me or did she skip a step? It seems she went from step 3 to 5. This was so helpful, I'd love to know what step 4 is! :)
step 4 is The mother impossible dream : dream created that there is something wrong with me. Dream that one day, whenever i’m what she wants me to be, everything will be alright, i’ll get loved. Then, i’m gonna be happy, get what i need. “Had to be superhuman to be deserving”
The answer is in Bethany Webster's book, which I am listening to on audible for a second time now and will likely order the hardback because there are so many quotes in there that I want to capture and review. It is a long book and I absolutely loved it, even though it doesn't 100% apply to me as a 40-yr old male. Currently on my own healing journey after a divorce led me to finally realize I come from a family recipe of covert narcissism & abuse that I had hidden deep away in the shadows and thought I was past it. Currently on a path of deep introspection for self-awareness, mindfulness, gratitude, empathy, self-compassion, boundaries, and all that emotional stuff that was inconvenient for my family and wasn't gonna make me money, or so I thought. Now I realize I'm an idiot and so here we go for another growth cycle until the next realization hits me. Answer is in her book.
I don’t see your mother reading a journal as being invasive or a predator at all, It’s wanting to protect and prevent the child from experiencing or making the mistakes that she made
How is a cis woman, talking about her journey and her life's work that she created from her journey, supposed to include and speak to an experience that isn't hers? If you want something else, go seek a gender-fluid/ gender non conforming / trans teacher around the mother wound. Which might be about cis women... since it's called the mother wound... and most mothers of the world are cis.
I didn’t even realize how my mother wounds made me feel like I didn’t want children because of how scared I was of being just like her and my grandmother (her mom). I’m healing generations of mother wounds and it’s really making sense on how it’s affected me my whole life. Thank you for these prompts to dive deeper into self . 💓
I was brave enough to be honest with myself to decide to not have children. I loved them souch that I chose "not" to give birth to them.
I tried the heart talk with my Mom, Not a good, healthy result. Her reactions were very telling. I'm not making excuses for her anymore
I’ve also been doing this work and it is very freeing. I wish more men did the work!
I am so glad to hear that 🙏
Heck. Being the emotional support animal for my mom wasn't easy. And I hardly ever got what I needed either
I was doing this same thing! being my mother’s everything!!
I'm in her class... Brilliant and healing.
Could you please leave all links to Bethany's on-line help, because I am desperately trying to help my adult daughter with her Mother Wound. She is in a psychotic state at the moment, hearing threatening, hateful voices, along with the fixed delusion that the voices are real. Her adult daughter is overwhelmed, trying to help her at the moment, but there are long waiting lists for treatment. She is not that open to treatment, because she truly believes her delusion. She is able to function, despite this, as she is very intelligent, but this is an emergency. At present, she only has her methadone counselor and her psych meds, she says do not help. Can you send any info that she can interact with on-line. Thank you. Your videos are helping me, also, and I am glad you relate to Eckhart Tolle.
Excellent topic 🙏✨❤️ thank you. Great insights
Thank you for the video!
My pleasure! ❤️
We’re missing step 4 yo!
Such an important topic ❤️
Listening for the second time in order to take notes.... is it just me or did she skip a step? It seems she went from step 3 to 5. This was so helpful, I'd love to know what step 4 is! :)
step 4 is The mother impossible dream : dream created that there is something wrong with me. Dream that one day, whenever i’m what she wants me to be, everything will be alright, i’ll get loved. Then, i’m gonna be happy, get what i need. “Had to be superhuman to be deserving”
@@saintpam thank you!
Share your notes
Would you like to?
thanks
You are most welcome 🙏
Should I buy the book?
It's way too costly in India!
You said you were pregnant at 19, what happened to your child?
The answer is in Bethany Webster's book, which I am listening to on audible for a second time now and will likely order the hardback because there are so many quotes in there that I want to capture and review. It is a long book and I absolutely loved it, even though it doesn't 100% apply to me as a 40-yr old male. Currently on my own healing journey after a divorce led me to finally realize I come from a family recipe of covert narcissism & abuse that I had hidden deep away in the shadows and thought I was past it. Currently on a path of deep introspection for self-awareness, mindfulness, gratitude, empathy, self-compassion, boundaries, and all that emotional stuff that was inconvenient for my family and wasn't gonna make me money, or so I thought. Now I realize I'm an idiot and so here we go for another growth cycle until the next realization hits me. Answer is in her book.
I don’t see your mother reading a journal as being invasive or a predator at all, It’s wanting to protect and prevent the child from experiencing or making the mistakes that she made
No. It's wrong especially if your child clearly communicated to you that it's their boundary that you shouldn't cross.
It’s absolutely invasive.
Privacy is a basic human right.
I wish this was less cis gender focused but that aside some really good wisdom in here
How is a cis woman, talking about her journey and her life's work that she created from her journey, supposed to include and speak to an experience that isn't hers? If you want something else, go seek a gender-fluid/ gender non conforming / trans teacher around the mother wound. Which might be about cis women... since it's called the mother wound... and most mothers of the world are cis.
@Aloria Banks agreed this is absurd
I'd like to hear your perspective on the mother wound from the non-cisgender angle. Would you mind sharing?
@Aloria Banks Can you explain how this is against women?
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You need to just get straight to the point
Relationship with mom is due to patriarchy?
So your mom gave you this trauma but it's man's fault - you need to do more work
And where do you think her mom's trauma came from?
@@Val-zx7ro Her mom's mom
It's a transgenerational trauma transmitted through maternal lineage due to patriarchal society
That's what I'm saying...I thought this was going to be helpful.