I waited two years after finishing my masters to start my PhD. Definitely needed the time to decompress and begin to feel excited and motivated again. I think you have made a wise decision ❤
Ruby, there’s no right or wrong in life. Over the years, I’ve watched you shine, and I know I speak for many when I say, “Well👏done👏you👏!” You’ve accomplished what few can-not just in your academic journey, but in inspiring thousands who are finding their own paths. Now it’s time for us to encourage you to keep moving forward on yours. You’ve got this!
As Oxford student myself studying English it's fun and hard at same time , I know how you feel and thank you so much for showing real and raw reality of student life which make be feel that I am alone suffering with unstable mental health. I love studying at oxford but there are times where my mental health is unstable, had panic attacks , feeling lonely and homesick . As a girl who has been surrounded by family , suddenly shifted to London alone for studies was really hard on my mental health. Wishing you all the best as you embark on this exciting new journey Ruby...💕
Hey Ruby! Props to you for putting your mental health first! I'm a Ph.D. student here in the States and can assure you that getting a doctoral degree can take a heavy toll.
Good for you for doing what’s best for your mental health! It can be difficult to let go (even temporarily), but I believe you’ll be better off in the long run.
I think with adulting, so many lose their childhood curiosity or joy or wonder, because people are genuinely burnt out from trying to survive in our society. Unfortunately, many people cannot afford to rest and recover, and therefore are stuck in perpetual cycle of stress and survival. Yes, you can take steps to lessen the effects of burnout, but I do feel like it’s incredibly difficult to recover from it while our society is the way it is 😞☹️
They lose their curiosity because most of the accessible things have been explored and only high effort things are left to explore so you're way less inclined to pursue them (by the time youre an adult you pretty much saw anything unless youve been living under a rock). Also i think theres also a physiological drop in brain plasticity and excitability, so even if you had an adult with no memories or something, it would be less curious or excited about stuff anyways
You're doing the right thing. You need a mental/emotional break from 5 years of very intense focus. Introverts focus their energy more inward (I know myself) and it can drain our energy tremendously. I look forward to your continued efforts next year.
Darling, Ruby. This video will have helped so many people to be more open about their mental health, to listen to their gut, and to know it is in their best interests to step away and press pause when they need to prioritise their mental health. Love you for this. x
That's wonderful, Ruby! Your videos really inspire me to read more & learn more. Thank you for being so transparent. You're an encouragement to many people. So happy you're doing well. 😊❤
Ruby, you truly are an inspiring academic. I was a PhD student right out of undergrad (not sure what undergrad is called across the pond) and it was not a good decision for me. I loved school and to me, the PhD just made sense, but that level of work is extremely challenging. My mental health tanked and I fell behind. I ended up receiving a terminal masters and have been working ever since, still trying to cope with the pain I experienced for so long. As people who love school and academia, these decisions are so hard to make. I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story and taking care of yourself. I have no doubt you’ll have your doctorate soon enough but take your time. Studying is a life long love.
Thank you so much for being open about your mental health. I took a gap year after my A-levels which turned into 2 gap years because I was in such a bad place mentally. Now I’m starting Uni and I feel so great and happy about having taken the two years for myself however it took me quite a while to stop feeling ashamed of being 2 years behind my peers. It’s great to see someone I see as a role model be so relatable and I am sure you’ll get better and get your PhD one day!
my partner did a very similar thing but for math she just wasn’t mentally present enough and academia can be very tiring you made a good move for you! ❤
You have so much wisdom to take the break, I can imagine that would have been such a difficult decision but I think it's an inspiring decision. On an unrelated note I find Rebecca and Jane Eyre to be very different, haha -- maybe it's just the lasting impression/feeling the books left once I finished each
Hi Ruby, I'm in my final year of university. I've seen your videos for quite a while, and they're helpful with my university life as they give me motivation to succeed. I don't know if I want to pursue a Masters after graduation. All I can say is, thank you for everything ❤
You are wise to take a year off. I took a year between my BA and my graduate work (MA & PhD) and it was one of my best decisions. PhD work is very intense; you have to be in the right frame of mind to do it. Someone I knew once described her dissertation as her "Demon Lover," and she wasn't half wrong about that! Good luck!
That’s fine, you did the right thing and need to have a bit of a rest first. Just pushing through won’t work, better than dropping out during the phD. Take care of yourself!
Take time to regroup and begin it when you're ready. Use this time to build experience outside of academia and try new things. I think you'll find this time valuable when you do start your phd.
Dear Ruby, I hope you will feel better soon. I m a long time subscriber since my old youtube account. I know you can figure out what to do, take your time and take care xx
I'm in a really similar boat. I lost my mom in February. I kept pushing and pushing myself to keep up with school so that I could get into a professional program that I've been working toward getting into for the last two years. This whole entire year has been an uphill battle, and my mental health is in the trash, as is to be expected...I'm still very much in the middle of my grief. I got into my program.....and then two days later had another MASSIVE change in my family situation. At this point, I am frozen, and I think I need to take time to regroup, so I am 99% sure that I'm going to withdraw from school (temporarily) and decline my seat in the program. Which is absolutely bizarre. I spent 2 years working towards this, I thought I would be over the moon, but it's just not right for me right now. I have also been putting it off. It almost feels like a breakup. But, as others have said before me, education will always be there. Take care of your mental health now so that you can set yourself up for success later.
i had to chnage courses and wihtdraw and now I am in college doing somthing differnt. I get it, its okay. as someone who had a big wake up call mental health is so important
I think what you wear is absolutely adorable and a lovely combination of academia/preppy/charm and a little whimsy at times. You do you, girlfriend. Haters are just unhappy people, bless their hearts!
Something was very clearly wrong at the end of your last term. I hope you are getting the help you need to deal with things better if you go forward with the Ph.D.
Starting masters in Nov, who knows if I'll finish it (I won't if I find it dull or too difficult for me personally) but good luck w whatever you do because you actually love studying and academia and it seems like it was made for you to dive into so deeply🤎
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I waited two years after finishing my masters to start my PhD. Definitely needed the time to decompress and begin to feel excited and motivated again. I think you have made a wise decision ❤
Ruby, there’s no right or wrong in life. Over the years, I’ve watched you shine, and I know I speak for many when I say, “Well👏done👏you👏!” You’ve accomplished what few can-not just in your academic journey, but in inspiring thousands who are finding their own paths. Now it’s time for us to encourage you to keep moving forward on yours. You’ve got this!
As Oxford student myself studying English it's fun and hard at same time , I know how you feel and thank you so much for showing real and raw reality of student life which make be feel that I am alone suffering with unstable mental health. I love studying at oxford but there are times where my mental health is unstable, had panic attacks , feeling lonely and homesick . As a girl who has been surrounded by family , suddenly shifted to London alone for studies was really hard on my mental health. Wishing you all the best as you embark on this exciting new journey Ruby...💕
Hey Ruby! Props to you for putting your mental health first! I'm a Ph.D. student here in the States and can assure you that getting a doctoral degree can take a heavy toll.
Good for you for doing what’s best for your mental health! It can be difficult to let go (even temporarily), but I believe you’ll be better off in the long run.
I think with adulting, so many lose their childhood curiosity or joy or wonder, because people are genuinely burnt out from trying to survive in our society. Unfortunately, many people cannot afford to rest and recover, and therefore are stuck in perpetual cycle of stress and survival. Yes, you can take steps to lessen the effects of burnout, but I do feel like it’s incredibly difficult to recover from it while our society is the way it is 😞☹️
They lose their curiosity because most of the accessible things have been explored and only high effort things are left to explore so you're way less inclined to pursue them (by the time youre an adult you pretty much saw anything unless youve been living under a rock). Also i think theres also a physiological drop in brain plasticity and excitability, so even if you had an adult with no memories or something, it would be less curious or excited about stuff anyways
There’s an endless amount of things to be curious about and to wonder about. If anything I’m more curious than ever the older I get
Good for you trusting your gut. Great idea to break from academia for a while. You're a winner in my eyes. xx
You're doing the right thing. You need a mental/emotional break from 5 years of very intense focus. Introverts focus their energy more inward (I know myself) and it can drain our energy tremendously. I look forward to your continued efforts next year.
Darling, Ruby. This video will have helped so many people to be more open about their mental health, to listen to their gut, and to know it is in their best interests to step away and press pause when they need to prioritise their mental health. Love you for this. x
That's wonderful, Ruby! Your videos really inspire me to read more & learn more. Thank you for being so transparent. You're an encouragement to many people. So happy you're doing well. 😊❤
Ruby, you truly are an inspiring academic. I was a PhD student right out of undergrad (not sure what undergrad is called across the pond) and it was not a good decision for me. I loved school and to me, the PhD just made sense, but that level of work is extremely challenging. My mental health tanked and I fell behind. I ended up receiving a terminal masters and have been working ever since, still trying to cope with the pain I experienced for so long. As people who love school and academia, these decisions are so hard to make. I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story and taking care of yourself. I have no doubt you’ll have your doctorate soon enough but take your time. Studying is a life long love.
I graduated a few hours ago!!!! Your videos and your approach to studying have been instrumental to my studies, so thank you Ruby! 💞
Thank you so much for being open about your mental health. I took a gap year after my A-levels which turned into 2 gap years because I was in such a bad place mentally. Now I’m starting Uni and I feel so great and happy about having taken the two years for myself however it took me quite a while to stop feeling ashamed of being 2 years behind my peers. It’s great to see someone I see as a role model be so relatable and I am sure you’ll get better and get your PhD one day!
So proud of you Ruby, the PhD opportunity will always be there, taking care of your mental health is much more important
my partner did a very similar thing but for math she just wasn’t mentally present enough and academia can be very tiring you made a good move for you! ❤
I am so proud of you Ruby. You are brave and wise and made of strong stuff ❤
You have so much wisdom to take the break, I can imagine that would have been such a difficult decision but I think it's an inspiring decision.
On an unrelated note I find Rebecca and Jane Eyre to be very different, haha -- maybe it's just the lasting impression/feeling the books left once I finished each
Hi Ruby, I'm in my final year of university. I've seen your videos for quite a while, and they're helpful with my university life as they give me motivation to succeed. I don't know if I want to pursue a Masters after graduation.
All I can say is, thank you for everything ❤
You have done the bravest thing and the most right thing in the world! You should be proud of yourself ❤ 4:07
You are wise to take a year off. I took a year between my BA and my graduate work (MA & PhD) and it was one of my best decisions. PhD work is very intense; you have to be in the right frame of mind to do it. Someone I knew once described her dissertation as her "Demon Lover," and she wasn't half wrong about that! Good luck!
That’s fine, you did the right thing and need to have a bit of a rest first. Just pushing through won’t work, better than dropping out during the phD. Take care of yourself!
Take time to regroup and begin it when you're ready. Use this time to build experience outside of academia and try new things. I think you'll find this time valuable when you do start your phd.
I just got my pumpkin productivity planner in the mail and it’s great. Love ur videos Ruby🥰
oh my gosh, Ruby congratulations You've hit 900k subscribers. I am so happy for you.
🙌🙌🙌🙌 here for whatever content (PhD or no PhD), because I generally find it very interesting
I love your style. It’s beautiful and suits you so well.
Dear Ruby,
I hope you will feel better soon.
I m a long time subscriber since my old youtube account. I know you can figure out what to do, take your time and take care xx
So happy for you❤ can't wait for your future videos❤
I'm in a really similar boat. I lost my mom in February. I kept pushing and pushing myself to keep up with school so that I could get into a professional program that I've been working toward getting into for the last two years. This whole entire year has been an uphill battle, and my mental health is in the trash, as is to be expected...I'm still very much in the middle of my grief. I got into my program.....and then two days later had another MASSIVE change in my family situation. At this point, I am frozen, and I think I need to take time to regroup, so I am 99% sure that I'm going to withdraw from school (temporarily) and decline my seat in the program. Which is absolutely bizarre. I spent 2 years working towards this, I thought I would be over the moon, but it's just not right for me right now. I have also been putting it off. It almost feels like a breakup. But, as others have said before me, education will always be there. Take care of your mental health now so that you can set yourself up for success later.
damn, i keep being earlier every time... I don't know what that says about my phone usage XD
Yayyy! Excited to watch. ❤❤
Whiskey! (Well usually) I think the chef brings out the haggis and it’s one of their sous-chefs who parades out in front of them with the whiskey.
i had to chnage courses and wihtdraw and now I am in college doing somthing differnt. I get it, its okay. as someone who had a big wake up call mental health is so important
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Happy for you
It was called bluebird tea before it became bird and blend in case anybody is wondering
I love your videos so much! 💗
I thought you were at Oxford for your undergrad too for some reason. Loved this Q&A
I think what you wear is absolutely adorable and a lovely combination of academia/preppy/charm and a little whimsy at times. You do you, girlfriend. Haters are just unhappy people, bless their hearts!
wow I'm sooo early hehe I
Lo que menos importa de la epoca victoriana es la "desigualdad/descriminacion".Sino la falta de higiene😂.
Really understandable, lots of love to you
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Is a PhD in England generaly a 3 year period? In Belgium its 4 years or even 6 years long, it depends on who is funding it.
what kinda job do you have :)
I also asked that on the last video. Unanswered. 🙁
Something was very clearly wrong at the end of your last term. I hope you are getting the help you need to deal with things better if you go forward with the Ph.D.
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How come it’s a 9-5 if it’s in a school? Xx
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Hmmm well I would say climb every mountain! Do the thing you are afraid to do. But I suppose not everyone would agree with that.
Will you merry me Ruby ? 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
Starting masters in Nov, who knows if I'll finish it (I won't if I find it dull or too difficult for me personally) but good luck w whatever you do because you actually love studying and academia and it seems like it was made for you to dive into so deeply🤎