Blocking Is Not Enough
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- Опубликовано: 19 сен 2024
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HG Tudor explains from the narcissists perspective why you blocking the narcissist is not enough to keep the narcissist at bay,
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Social media has absolutely changed relationship dynamics...playgrounds for narcisissts
U-tube only please and be discerning
Hometown playground Stomping ground.. Literally the Devils playground 🔥🤬☠️
Agreed. Fantasyland but it has also been useful in exposing who the toxic people and traitors are.
I had that same epiphany today.
Dating sites are playgrounds for narcissists as well.
I changed my #, moved and blocked him on
all social media. After 6 mos, his friend sent me a friend request (denied). 6 mos later out of curiosity, I made the HUGE mistake of reaching out on FB. Two days of lies, fake niceness and apologies, gaslighting, triangulation. Same zebra, same stripes. Keep them blocked forever!!
My entire family is narcississtic, can you believe it? They put me through hell because they knew nothing better. They stopped supporting me when I needed it the most. If you think cutting off a lover was difficult, imagine cutting off everybody you knew in your life.
But I created a new life.
Here is the conclusion: Cut them off. Do not look back in any way. Create your own life and move on. Period. Your life is your own. Nobody should have any say in that no matter how they try to manipulate you. Get your bloody irrational thinking under control. Live your own life the way you want to.
everyone in my life is abusive from time i was born. My parents, my stepmom, my siblings, my uncle, so called friends, roommates, peop i worked w/at every job, ex husbands and fiances etc. So i understand how u feel. I just left my wicked evil husband who abused me in covert manner. I am believing he is not just narc but a sociopath like my last ex husband. I had no place to go so I stayed w/a so called friend I have known my whole life and she and her family abused me as well so I had to move out of there. I had no money when I left my husband and then I spent more money i didnt have to get out of her house. Now I am living in a old house run down and insect infested and I have no money left at all. If I loose my job I will be homeless bc I have nothing left in savings and I am way into debt. I know I had to leave. I should not have stayed w/this so called friend as they were mean to me in past but had apologized. I blocked this evil woman and she keep blowing up my ph and email. I gave this so called friend a 2nd chance and now I realize i was stupid. I go by my emotions and have been told I am empath. I always worry about hurting someone feelings. But I realize I had to shut all these peop out or I was going to commit suicide from the abuse and I am still suicidal but cant find plan to take my life. but i have nothing to live for. The abuse started in my family when I was born and continued till i ended it in my adulthood with my family that is. I also have been abused by peop who do not even know me and flying monkeys and counselors in past etc too. so unfortunately I can believe that u whole family is narcs. I have changed my ph num and emails so many times and hid my address. my ex husband ex wife is stalking me too so I had to take my name off internet and hide all my info. i am basketcase. my health is bad. I just wanted to comment bc I understand what u are saying. ♥
Your work has nearly healed me. He put me through hell, and YOU helped me out of it.
Sadly she did much much worse to me than I had ever done! Mistakes where made, lessons had been learned, personal responsibility taken but the devaluation continued with such malice and spite... it nearly killed me but I now stand tall once more: this channel was my salvation and source of understanding for that which presents as so esoteric and distorted.
My sister and I too feel immense gratitude to HG. He has taught us so much and knowledge is power. He has been absolutely invaluable in educating us and helping us heal
♥
I do not know which is scarier - the fact you know us so well - or that we are so damn predictable...
Thank you HG. I don't know whether it's emotional thinking that makes people feel validated by a hoover. From reading comments some feel important, loved and missed if they get a hoover but the contrary is true. The hoover is about the narcissist not about the 'hoovee '. By leaving ourselves open to a hoover, we are actually validating the narcissist. Like HG once said, if he can still reach you he decides you are still under control and decides to walk away. The only thing that says game over, is no contact.
If someone is hoovering you, you know you're dust, dirt.
I had to look this up today. Just a reminder that strengthening your boundaries means not indulging in thinking about them or going by any of the places you visited. Looking for them. Searching them on FB…. These are all violations of your no contact. Hold yourselves accountable and do the work…
I needed this. Ex narc is blocked on everything, but he still messages me from a texting app. Which still keeps me emotionally involved. I’ve removed myself from social media months ago. I know I need to get a new number. This confirmed it.
I changed my number right away..not only for the ex narc ..also for his family members. It feels good to start over with a new number and phone😎
Quit giving these narcissists credit. Forgive and move on. Karma will eventually catch up to the narc once again.
I sincerely nominate you for a Nobel Peace Prize for helping us victims, GOSO and heal
🤗👣🙌🕊GODKNOWS, ON♡WARD SOLDIER, ON♡WARD!!!!😇🙌👣🕊🗝🔔🔊🔊🔊🤐🤣
Addiction to them is real. Bcoz some of us are addicted to our narcissistic parents.. thats the real deal. Getting over that childhood addiction
This is only possible if we cut off all narcs from our lives. Akin to any de-addiction regime. Simple yet complicated.
We need to be NC with our parents too. The real deal is any interaction with any of your narcs in your life releases same chemicals in your body which causes your body to get addicted to it.
Unless your body clears the chemicals whoever the narc is , the cycle will continue.
So rule is NC with all narcs in your life. Work place, colleagues, friends, family and romantic. There is no other way.
HG. You make so much logical sense. When I recently said No all hell broke loose about 4 weeks ago. I allowed him to suck all the life out of me. I’m at my lowest point ever. I hate being an empath and being emotional. He found a new supply. I found myself almost begging him back and I’ve never did that before ever. I cannot do this alone. I Thank you
I wish I had more people to share your content with...it’s truly unrivalled. ❤️❤️❤️
Your immovable advice about what it means to block at first seemed extreme, but it has been a huge lesson that indeed the empath must, must, block all communications. Reading just one email can have a major impact on the empath even if they do not respond. Each Narc communication is like a knife, carefully crafted and delivered to the most sensitive parts of the empath. I finally blocked everything, I blocked phone numbers to ensure no voice or texts got to me and used the rules tool in most emails to detect emails from certain senders and delete immediately. Of course the Narc can always use another phone line or email address but those are again easily caught. It has been 4 months and I am only starting to lose the constant pain and heal. HG knows what he is talking about. Listen and follow.
Couldn't agree more
My Samsung phone has the option to view texts from blocked numbers and you still receive voice mails. I had no choice but to change my phone number because this option gave me an additional three months of hoovering. All because I didn't 'feel like updating the number with everyone else'. This has helped prevent contact and helped me heal a lot of the emotional thinking. Thank you for pointing all this out HG, Its so important!
I never understand why people tell me this “I don’t want to change my number because then I have to update everyone else on my new number” as if it’s the hardest thing in the world ... all you have to do is copy everyone into one text “this is my new number” done!
Even washing the dishes is more physically strenuous then sending one text.
So it’s obviously the addiction which is still wanting contact with the narcissist
That is a hair true, I wasn't fully convinced he was this type of person yet. But when I say 'everyone else' I'm referring to schools, jobs, banks, social media login etc. That is a pain in the ass lol
@@dishonest-corset4942 Most lists are more than personal friends. All my online shopping accounts, cable, phone, hydro, banks and the list goes on and on. But yet I did change it. You have to be ready to do it.
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You are right HG! I have taken a 6 month break from social media. I must keep my no contact regime as strong as possible.
Emotional thinking does cause us to make excuses for why we “can’t” change everything. Protecting mental well being is most important!
The fact that the blocked 🚫 number is still on the list is too tempting.
Many thanks HG. It is an addiction, as strong as any other. As a business person, these suggestions have been very helpful.
From myself and my sister: Your work is life changing and life saving. We are so grateful for and to you. Youve given us so much knowledge and knowledge is power. In the 6 months since we found you, we have gone from strength to strength. THANK YOU
Also laughter is a good medicine. What you do with your information and humour along with it. Very well done to you ✌
So true.. We want them to contact us. We need our fix...
Indeed.
But then one day after a significant amt of healing you don't want the contact. For me it was anyways. 2.5 yrs no contact.
I didnt understand why no contact is so important. I know now because they get back into your head and manipulate
Yes this is so true
It is true that H G is saying, the strugle in No Contact regime is actually with us not with them, with our emotions, with our inner pain. Thank you HG
He’s 💯% Correct
Blocking on the cell phone is useless. *67 allows them to call you as "private caller". My ex narc did this as well as used mutual friends phones to call me.
I think I have cut off most contact with my ex but if I had to have contact for the kid in the future I’m at the point where I really don’t care if he gets fuel or he tries to Hoover cause I will shut it down. U eventually get to the point where it don’t matter if they get fuel or they Hoover when u done with them completely. I really don’t Care how he thinks or feels at all. Like who cares about there fuel or Hoover’s I know I don’t care 🤷🏻♀️ he can try till he dies and I will shut it down every time
When I block someone, I block for good. Sadly not the first Narcissist I fell for.. But I didn't tell him ( I didn't see the use, since he didn't want contact anyways) There was a hoover 2 months later, but I didn't even read it, then blocked. But then strangely appeared in my neighborhood, a month later x amount of calls from an unknown number.. I don't know what's next..
My emotions are my enemy 😢
I don’t know man… I don’t care if they see my stuff. I don’t care if the narc snoops. I laugh at the attempts that my narc makes. Does that make me a sociopath? I kind of don’t care cause I never cared about him. I thought of this narc interaction as a game, but I know it’s not. But some part of me had fun confusing the narc into making him think I actually liked him.
I realize others have been deeply hurt and have experienced dangerous situations with them though. I will never take that way from someone else.
Very true indeed. Blocking is never enough.
Very well explained..because iv been through this so many times ..blocking an then unblocked..because of my magical thinking ..ty
We also need to never google that name again in our life, never look for it.
I like listening to your videos, I escaped from a narcissist last year, it wasn’t a long relationship, and I was the extra supply, so it took me no time at all to get over it. I recognised he was one, because my mother is one.
I just find it interesting, and most of all, LAUGHABLE, how their minds work. How anyone could pine over someone like this, baffles me. They’re a narcissist! WHY would you EVER want a relationship with one? 😂😂😂😂😂
Why would anyone want to smoke cigarettes. We are addicts
It's called Trauma Bonding that holds people/us to pine over a Devil Narc. Even more so if it was a longer relationship. Many people try and try tonleave and let go and move on --some fail over and over because of the trauma bonding and unhealed trauma. So it's not that simple and straightforward as you may think of have experienced.
H.G. your videos are enthralling to say the least.
Something you may or may not be aware of as most are not.
Phone hacking and spying. I'm not talking about hacking your accounts or something so cute. I'm talking about direct monitoring, LISTENING through your phones microphone and WATCHING via the cameras.
Had I not experienced it myself firsthand, I'd still be in the aforementioned group of oblivious people who take such things for granted.
As I know you engage with your audience and do your "due diligence". I look forward to your thoughts on this particular topic.
Agree ! I found this on my phone as well
I've been listening to you for about a month and I really appreciate your honesty it hurts but you keep it real I believe I was in a relationship with a narc didn't know who or what I was deal with until he disengaged with me after 3yrs I was confused afterwards then I start to educate myself on narcissist then I started to understand why I love him with everything and he wasn't capable of giving back I tried everything writing to him my feelings talking until I just decided to stop giving to him and the relationship no sex no conversation total distance
Blocking isn't enough! They will call from different phone numbers using different apps to camouflage their phone number! I changed my phone number, those creatures are deranged and unstable.
Fortified Blocking with HG Tudor 👍 Well done Sir. Eradicate the Narcissist. Thank you.
HG I may have a hoover for the record books...an instant message from an ex on Facebook who I haven't spoken to since 1985.
😱😬 insane
Yeah I have one from over 20 years ago..there is no timestamp..especially if social media is at play.
Wow!!
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Me too lol actually 30 years ago I went out with this guy once or twice that's all, now he's divorced and reaching out to anyone he can remember from the past and is single. I totally forgot about him and both of us moved to different countries...it just shows...lol
Oh and my ex narc is still around; he's now with someone he was dating decades ago...and once, we were in a town and he wanted to visit his first ex mother-in-law, I had no choice but to go with him, the lady didn't even recognize him that's how long she didn't see him, in decades...but he just showed on her door step like, hey, it's me! I'm here now!
Lol. Oh my god, that’s crazy as hell.
I confirm that I experiended all that. A covert narcissist I was in contact with got caught. We both dumped him. Since then he tried everything - emails, calls from a strange number, letters... he tries every month with me and the next month with the other woman (we are in contact). FYI, HG - you CAN block an email so it doesnt reach you al all (not even in spam, same with social media). Phone number is a problem - he knows the number of my company’s mobile, cant change this :(
When I block someone I never see them in spam. I see nothing.
HG in my opinion what trumps an Ultra Narcissist is a Narcissist pretending to be an empath and giving narcissist advice.
Trump is a lessser. H. G. Did a video on him.
@@edgreen8140 He's not talking about former president Trump.
I don't think so, if they give the same type of information then no one trumps over
Pretty sure Ultra means they are directly connected to the devil
Honestly, my mid-ranger ex is lazy. He wouldn't go to the effort of going through anyone else or using new phones or profiles. During our relationship, all of his energy was spent chasing new supply. He is, I'm sure, doing the same during his relationship with the new IPPS.
Not necessarily true for all narcs. He's been blocked for almost a month just on my phone but not email and he hasn't called to leave voicemails or send emails. He's forgotten about me and moved on. I'm trying to move on and keep him blocked but it is emotionally hard like you are saying HG. If their egos are super big they will not hoover.
Thank you. Listening from Alaska.
Having difficulty with a sister. 💔
HG you are absolutely 100% on point. I had to change my mindset and think of this in terms of identity theft. Tip for all the US listeners, if they have your DL# they can find you through many sources like the Bureau of Motor Vehicles and background checking platforms.
You underestimate an empath that went through 20 years of abuse, I am now in control even with kids, still no direct contact
I only block on fb you are right though it took 2 years of healing not to respond, sucks having 5 children to him
And been through a few Hoover’s I left once before and went back now I use that lesson to not do that again, yep had no caller I’d calls I just tell him to get lost
HG Tudor I changed the number and he found it. Not via friends or family. Afraid to change again and he will find it.
Weird, I was just thinking this. Even with no contact, it feels like a no-win situation. Either he sends me handwritten letters via post, or I spent hours feeling anxious over wondering what's next. He's a midrange pathological parasite.
Btw: Why do you do this? I get that you're the omnipotent "HG Tudor" and this gives you some satisfaction, but you're very helpful with it too, in showing us the inner workings of the narc mind.
Please see the video ‘Why do I do this?’
If he keeps sending letters via post, put them in a burn box unopened and set fire to them. It can assist as part of purging the narcissist from your life. It also provides you with a feeling of control over your situation.
I had to actually move out of state to separate myself from a narcissist.
Your English is impeccable
It's true HG I've change my number my life is much better ..... two years no contact
I finally changed my phone number 2 weeks ago. After 3 year relationship with narcissist.. It really gave me a feeling of freedom.
Well done. Make sure you are staying out of all five arenas of interaction.
@@hgtudor-theultra This video really helped me. I listen to it often. Thankyou
Severing ties.
Can be hard as others one loves stay with the narcissist in family and social circles.
So many ties must be cut.
It’s overwhelming if considered in certain unexpected moments, due to the positive connections within certain groups.
They all know about the narcissist, but don’t care.
I feel for myself that I need to block not just those known to actively be negative, but those who are connected to the relevant controlling narcissist.
I believe I was married to a narcissist. She requested the divorce, then ducked out in signing the papers. She then wanted to fight me, why? Then she stated that she will have me to herself again no matter what. I ran
I have been through this in past with my kids mom. After split she hoovered and orbited my family and smear campaigned me to the point I literally went exile with my whole family except a select few. Its really quite disturbing they can steal your family and make them their flying monkees. There are no boundaries.
Dan I have a similar problem
@Dan Daniel
And brings out the best bullying qualities and what I assume are ordinary people. At times I have found myself having to resist responding and immediately putting in the last commentator down with my own leave in the situation but I have learned this kind of interaction serves no purpose for anyone. But I sometimes just set my morning coffee and read through the Cora gossip site and see the back-and-forth between people correct in each other and even correcting the English of people who obviously do not have English as a first language.
You and you alone I listened I learned and I thank you for saving me🙏
Second that. For both myself and my sister
I feel like this was confirmation. I’ve been wondering how to navigate them on social media for a while now
It’s hard sometimes to listen to your words, however you are excellent and thank you for the time and effort to help myself and others like me... ❤️💋
Just ordered the 20 Famous Empaths and 50 Famous Narcissists and when Narcs Collide. Makes a lot of sense.
Thank you, this really hit home
I don’t care what he’s doing. I sc if he contacts me or not. I want him to leave me alone. I blocked him he can’t accept the fact that I moved on. He feels I can’t move on. So now he’s trying to befriend my future bf. Got him to believe we’re still together. Going around all the ppl I k. Being friends with them. Wanting them to go against me. I literally stay by myself on purpose. Make ppl think I died. My new bf I don’t even want him anymore if he befriending the enemy. I moving out of this town. New start. They can all sit n talk about me n I’ll be gone. I don’t ever wanna hear from him again and I mean that from the bottom of my heart. I have no feelings or emotions for him at allllll. Just wish he find another victim.
Soooo I have not blocked him. I just don't open the messages and ignore all communication. If he is busy trying to hoover me, hopefully it spares someone else for a few seconds. It's been a year and a half and he still tries 🤣 I am not tempted to respond. I know what and who he is.
Spot on HG.
My narc ex could careless to contact me. He moved onto the his 26 yr younger than him supply he was screwing for a year. I blocked him in every way. He could careless about me.
HG, I have done what you mentioned in this video, blocking then unblocking the narcissist, when I unblock him, I do ignore the hoover... I am doing much better than I used to, however my no contact has some holes in it... I did finally master not going around him in person... I loved the example you used of the narcissist that is contacting you through your blog and youtube channel... When narcissist do that to you are they an unaware narcissist???
He's living full time in an RV after living in a luxury apartment... His ex trapped him with a baby so now he is ghosting everybody I'm ghosted as well out of nowhere he doesn't block me he just doesn't answer
Can a narcissist tell his partner about you when you block him without notice ? The smearing got large he's a victim of harassment and I'm a temptress with no morals...
I only got bored. 😆
Thank you so much it's only been two weeks we broke up and he already sneaking in the next building messing with somebody my friend saying them and he going to lie to me and say I'm bugging out I did everything for him and I am a super super empath, 😭💔💯💔
Generous. Thanks.
He Told me to unblock him, I said ok. But I kept him blocked! I can only imagine when he does try my number again it appears that will cause a narc injury, good.
You must also cease contact with all your mutual friends..sounds cruel and as I found, very hard to do, but it's very important...I cut all my ties except for two people who had become very good friends..they were not overly happy with him (the now ex narc) and don't have a lot to do with him..but know to never mention him or anything about him..they also live in different countries so they have very little contact with him anyway and don't seek him out anymore
Social media is more dangerous that gangs street these days period lol
6:26 "It makes you almost want the hoover so that you continue to matter because it hurts that you don't." Doesn't this work both ways? Does it hurt the narcissist when you continue to maintain no contact? Does the narc occasionally check back to see if they are still blocked? If they are still blocked, after a year, two years... does that cause a narcissistic injury, or do it just stop mattering to them once they've realized you've fully escaped? (obviously I haven't "fully escaped" to ask a question, such as this. Fully escaped means I've stopped caring. I'm getting there.)
They believe they own you indefinitely so if something triggers you to come up on their radar, they might hoover. If they can’t reach you, they just withdraw and focus on their other shelved supplies constantly rotating them. They don’t really care about you, just the fuel you provide… and that is easily interchangeable. Long story short, you don’t matter and they don’t care… they go after whatever fuel is most convenient to obtain. GOSO.
At first I blocked him ect.
But now.. I think.. he has to suffer.
He is unblocked.. so everytime he reaches out trying to hoover me I shit in his ego. I make him feel hatefull... angry.. and confused.
Every time he tries I hurt him by telling him what a FUCK of a human he is. He regulary comes up for a beating. And he deserves.
He deserves to see how well I'm doing... my money .. my success ... and he will get NOTHING.
The usage of someone else’s phone to ask if my phone number still belongs to me was tried 2 weeks ago. They said my number was in their phone and asked who I was since the number didn’t have a name! 🙄😂
Some of his personality traits he was always negative he was always right he had no empathy for anyone me my children I felt as if I was always on trial when would try and talk about anything concerning me very secretive I never meet anyone that knew him I felt as if I was begging for him to love me back I used to wonder if any of it was real but finding you confirm what I all ready know it hurted to except that but it is what it is im single have been since him scared to trust again HELP ME
Get rid of every one and everything involved their life out of yours. Check out your family and your friends and mutual friends.
Anyone else notice that this guy's accent is the same as every evil intellectual villain in American films?
Damn, my voiceover gig has been rumbled.
@@hgtudor-theultra LOL 😂 😆
😂😂😂
Hahaha Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. I been there. Get ready to get out the heavy artillery. Call 📞 the police, file criminal charges, file for a restraining order, move to another city, or another state, maybe another country. And don't change your phone number, purchase a new phone and get a new phone number.
I have been stalked, spied on, my phone was hacked, my parents were groomed by the church pastor and his wife to accept the harassment of me, I was very young. I was gossiped about by the church pastor and his wife for rejecting their son's advances. And all of this happened while I was very young under age even. They called me a whore for rejecting their son.
That was HORRIFIC abuse against a minor (me) And that was my first experience with narcissists. And mind you, I NEVER HAD ANY SORT OF RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR SON, OR WITH THEIR CHURCH.
I didn't know it then, but I could have sued them for sexual harassment against a minor or even for child molestation being that I was a minor.
The worst part of it was that my parents DID NOTHING ABOUT THE HARASSMENT OF ME. Which is something that I always resented.
All of that finally ended because I took it upon myself to call the police for help. The police did warned them, that should the harassment continue, they would be put in jail and charges against them could be filed against them.
Unfortunately due to the fact that I was all alone in the world, while having parents who didn't care, I was completely on my own in every area of life and they were for the most part able to get away with their abuse of me.
It is important to repeat that, NEVER AT ANY TIME DID I EVER HAD ANY INVOLVEMENT WITH THEIR SON. All of this happened precisely because I TOTALLY REFUSED AND REJECTED ALL OF THEIR SON'S ADVANCES. Me and their son we were both the same age. This went on and on and on for a period of about 3 and a half years. It finally ended when I was 19 years old and I called the police on them.
The police at that time advised me to press criminal charges against them for the sexual harassment of a minor (me) and the police also advised me to file a restraining order against them and they told me that, I should consult with a lawyer about suing them.
But, like I said before, due to the fact that I had extremely neglectful parents who basically were good for nothing, nothing was ever done about it. Even though my parents were always aware of the harassment, stalking and spying that I was suffering from.
All of these events and many contributing factors completely ruined my relationship with my mother for basically NEVER BEING A MOTHER TO ME IN ANY WAY AT ALL.
The old drunken whore is finally dead (my mother) and I am EXTREMELY GRATEFUL FOR HER DEATH.
My life is much better now that she's finally dead. Much more peaceful and less chaotic.
Unfortunately I did ended up marrying another narcissist a few years later, who tried to kill me many times. I don't know how I survived all of that.
After much suffering I have decided to educate myself on the topics of narcissists and psychopaths so as to AVOID MAKING ANY MORE MISTAKES.
Recently I just got done rejecting another narcissist. But, this time I NEVER HAD ANY PERSONAL INVOLVEMENT WITH HIM. We were just friends for a long time, he was a great friend of mine. He wanted more, and I said NO because I have been through too much and I DON'T WANT TO END UP WITH THE WRONG MAN AGAIN.
we managed to remain friends for a long time. Without having any form of personal involvement. But, his mask came off and the real monster came out and I ended our long friendship.
He's definitely another narcissist, but I was extremely careful NEVER TO GET PERSONALLY INVOLVED WITH HIM.
Besides, I have been actively trying to educate myself regarding the topics of Narcissists and psychopaths and IT PAID OFF VERY WELL.
But, knowing narcissists the way that I know them, I have discarded my old phone and I purchased a new phone.
Also, I have warned him never to look for me or I will take legal action against him.
He knows my history with narcissists, he knows that I am at a point where I will most definitely take legal action against any narcissists if I have to in efforts to protect myself.
Thank you for your work. It is very much needed and appreciated.
then one day he said he was tired of making me unhappy and being unhappy i ask him how long has he been unhappy he replied 3weeks I remember say are you serious as I tried get an explanation out of his decision no closure my final attempt to get him to talk to me im hurting cause I'm not understanding whats happening he looks at me with smile on his face as if he was getting off at my pain I will never forget that look its been six months he attempted one time to make contact and I have him blocked haven't seen or heard from him since thank God I don't want to see him or talk my question is am I allowing him to control my life because I won't go any place that think I met run into him?
It's the evil look which in fact is evil. Get over it in reality and walk away move on ect
Exactly-how often did I looked to the spam folder-now address and Facebook account deleted thanks to your work
Thank you 🙏
Aside from moving and changing my phone number, I have done everything else you suggest. I plan to change my number but I'm involved in a business/legal issue that prevents me from doing it now. I appreciate your advice.
You are welcome.
My soon ex blocked me and moved on with his new supply.Oh well great for him good for me .😎
HG have you touched base in another video on orbiting. I can't say she is narc but can confirm she is histrionic due to having been diagnosed with ms. So im currently dealing with an ex who has kept my friends and some family on social media and portrays herself still in a nice shiny light while I'm staying in no contact. If I comment on any of my circle of friends she's right there commenting or liking while keeping me from contact as well. I have dealt with similar in past and was strong. My friends haven't deleted or stopped contact as they were under impression the breakup was temporary and relationship was gonna be worked out. The are asking me questions and I say ask her cause I'm getting silent treatment and they are starting to feel uncomfortable as they really don't know her and only through me. I took a hiatus from social media but went back as believing my circle is mine and she should stay in hers. This orbiting thing is starting to seem quite psychotic and appears to be a hoover but digitally.
You can use Mailwasher, too. It's worth the price to get rid of your narc.
When I blocked him for him misbehaving with me for 1 day , he reacted by apparently quitting social media....
And he withdrew until I had to call him to know where he was ofcourse I dint know then what I was dealing with .
I feel so regret
How to forgive ourselves by being stupid to get hoovered again again.I look past and feel I was so stupid that I dint maintain my boundaries and always gave him benefit of doubt.
Youre totally right, I finally changed my phone number and email.
that is so interesting that narcissists become obsessed with HG. why is that? I understand why empaths become obsessed with HG but why a narc who HG refuses to fuel?
People can just google a business to get the new number, though.
Thank you so much for your insight! I was thinking of changing my number but he'd most likely be able to look it up and find it, right? I used to call him detective davey...now it's demon dave
This is 💯
HG if a narcissist is also psychopath, will he be aware of what he is?
HG is a narcissistic psychopath and is completely aware of it, so yes
You are a brilliant man.
💔 and on top of that he's married for 13 years he lied to me about that lied to me say he didn't have no son he have a son and then break up with me two weeks ago and messing with somebody in my next building and going to say I'm bugging and that's not true and he's 45 years old and you should know better I take care of him I did everything for that man and then he have a nerve a block me and then he would take me all blocked and then he will block me so I got tired of arguing with him a few minutes ago I hang up on him he called me back I sent him to voicemail then he text me and tell me do not call his phone anymore wow I wasted seven months for nothing
Is a hoover an attempt to get attention without actually making the first move? I am currently around a woman who seeks my attention by making noise or being where she knows i will be( this is a work place situation) but makes no attempt to actually just come find me and talk. This can go on for weeks and months. I did run to her but haven't done for along time now.
Get Out Stay Out(GOSO)!
Ive blocked and he blocked me ( the covert narc Ex) remember hes playing "victim " I blocked all of his friends and family on social media vice versa but turns he has a new page with no picture of him or anypost whatsoever.
But hold on he kept that one mutual friend that we both share...so now Ive blocked them all again.
Its extremley triring so I took HG advice and deactivated.I also have a very small online buisness too.
So be really becareful with mutual friends.