Familial narcissism is where the scapegoat is selected to be shunned and abused by the collective, so that all other members can feel superior and perfect. There is also intentional sadistic narcissistic abuse. It is not all so innocent.
I can resonate. I was the scapegoat of the big family [my mom's side] I could see their sadistic, especially the narc mom. I was outstanding somehow so they hated me even more. They tried to dim my light.
Your first point is so true, but not only in a family environment - it can be ‘learned’ (like learned helplessness), in a school environment, which is 1000 times worse, because you are now out in contact with society, and prone to believing that now SOCIETY AS A WHOLE rejects you.
I have been uncovering this message in different forms, lately. I couldn’t agree more that our lack of self worth is at the root of all the decisions we make and the problems we face! I have certainly learned that to be true for myself!
Wow this is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you! I feel so worthless these days, it’s almost unbearable. And that is because I’m not functional in this system anymore. Wow this is profound, thank you
Raised by a father who could be very vindictive at times and couldn’t tolerate the sight of us, just like his mother couldn’t tolerate the sight of him and rejected him at birth. I learned to navigate a volatile environment where doing something wrong, or saying one wrong word could lead to escalation and devastation. It was very confrontational to realize that unconsciously my programming wanted chaos. Before accusing someone of wronging or rejecting you, I invite you to do somatic inquiry. Check into your body as you may be surprised to uncover deep-seated programming driven by repression that has been shaping your perception all along.
I agree with everything you said except for blaming it on society or capitalism or whatever.... These issues have been around since way before capitalism or modern society. Thankfully we know now how to fix these issues in ourselves. It is on us to train others, especially the next generation, on how to help and heal rather than deflect and blame
Nice to see someone in this field bringing in politics into the discussion of spirituality and how it impacts on family relationships. The general airy fairy spirituality talks out there are so out of touch with reality.
No no no. It is fundamentally NOT SAFE to “accept” or give worth to this wounded child within. I guarantee that taking such unnecessary risks will result in further shame and humiliation. We can’t force others to see us the way we’d like to be seen. You can’t tell your boss that she has to be nice to you. Life doesn’t work like that. I detest this toxic positivity that assumes life will just work out if you be yourself, it’s so deeply invalidating. Its exasperating to hear this trite rubbish over and over. It’s so deeply insulting to be told that I am the one being immature or delusional. I’m glad that you can just *decide* to love yourself like flicking a switch, but I find this to be completely unrelatable and as advice it’s like telling a drowning man to just breathe.
I've heard it explained "treat yourself how you would treat others".....imagine you were babysitting a child. Would you give it positive attention or ignore it? Thats what we have to do is be our own loving parent. I know it sounds silly but it is necessary for healing. Because that child is still there, it never went away
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Familial narcissism is where the scapegoat is selected to be shunned and abused by the collective, so that all other members can feel superior and perfect.
There is also intentional sadistic narcissistic abuse. It is not all so innocent.
I can resonate. I was the scapegoat of the big family [my mom's side] I could see their sadistic, especially the narc mom. I was outstanding somehow so they hated me even more. They tried to dim my light.
Your first point is so true, but not only in a family environment - it can be ‘learned’ (like learned helplessness), in a school environment, which is 1000 times worse, because you are now out in contact with society, and prone to believing that now SOCIETY AS A WHOLE rejects you.
I have been uncovering this message in different forms, lately. I couldn’t agree more that our lack of self worth is at the root of all the decisions we make and the problems we face! I have certainly learned that to be true for myself!
Wow this is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you! I feel so worthless these days, it’s almost unbearable. And that is because I’m not functional in this system anymore. Wow this is profound, thank you
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@@beyondpsychology_euYes, this feels so true to me. This is a clear explanation, dankje 🙂
Raised by a father who could be very vindictive at times
and couldn’t tolerate the sight of us, just like his mother couldn’t tolerate the sight of him
and rejected him at birth. I learned to navigate a volatile environment
where doing something wrong, or saying one wrong word
could lead to escalation and devastation.
It was very confrontational to realize that unconsciously my programming wanted chaos.
Before accusing someone of wronging or rejecting you,
I invite you to do somatic inquiry.
Check into your body as you may be surprised to uncover deep-seated programming
driven by repression that has been shaping your perception all along.
Years of psychology summarized so efficiently in 14min37sec. Thank you 🙏🏽
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Good message!👌👌
You are brilliant. So glad I found this channel.
Just listened to your video! Excellent information and very true! God bless!
Thank you Paul! 🙏🏼🕊
Amazing explaination!! Thank you very much🥰
You’re welcome! Hope it helps 🙏🏼🫂🕊
Brilliant
I agree with everything you said except for blaming it on society or capitalism or whatever.... These issues have been around since way before capitalism or modern society. Thankfully we know now how to fix these issues in ourselves. It is on us to train others, especially the next generation, on how to help and heal rather than deflect and blame
This is so so good, I wish it was longer. Thank you 💕
My pleasure! Thank you for your kinds words!
Wow it was so beautiful! God bless you!
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Nice to see someone in this field bringing in politics into the discussion of spirituality and how it impacts on family relationships. The general airy fairy spirituality talks out there are so out of touch with reality.
Agree. Spirituality not rooted in present day reality is often escapism or dissociation from buried pain such as grief or anger.
This is beautiful. Thank you
Thank you. Glad to hear. Hope it helps!
I love all your content ! Thank you for making these informative and very special videos.
You’re very welcome! Thank you for your kind words!
Thank you so much for your amazing work. ❤❤❤
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Thank you!
It relates to me, core wounds
Pheomenal, 🙏😌
Thank you Mark! Appreciate your comment 🙏🏼
No no no. It is fundamentally NOT SAFE to “accept” or give worth to this wounded child within. I guarantee that taking such unnecessary risks will result in further shame and humiliation. We can’t force others to see us the way we’d like to be seen. You can’t tell your boss that she has to be nice to you. Life doesn’t work like that. I detest this toxic positivity that assumes life will just work out if you be yourself, it’s so deeply invalidating. Its exasperating to hear this trite rubbish over and over. It’s so deeply insulting to be told that I am the one being immature or delusional. I’m glad that you can just *decide* to love yourself like flicking a switch, but I find this to be completely unrelatable and as advice it’s like telling a drowning man to just breathe.
I've heard it explained "treat yourself how you would treat others".....imagine you were babysitting a child. Would you give it positive attention or ignore it? Thats what we have to do is be our own loving parent. I know it sounds silly but it is necessary for healing. Because that child is still there, it never went away
Generational curses
Very true but you’re not telling how to heal?
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