How to stop being attached to someone you love
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- Опубликовано: 11 май 2024
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Imagine loving someone more than anything else and then you remember that this person doesnt even exist
It’s true but impossible to stop
Same I am dealing with that!
Idek wt she looks like starting to think it’s just a feeling
Can relate🙂
I got abandoned by my GF so its kinda possibel
The fear of being alone.
Practice being OK with loneliness and act on your values anyway, if you’re always being a slave to the loneliness, the brain knows how they react to loneliness let’s give them more loneliness because then they do more compulsion, and I can protect them more. That doesn’t mean to build relationships with his relationships proactively not reactively whenever you feel lonely go on Tinder or something.
Or the fear of rejection
@@StarJesseTaylor my issue is that i dont feel loneliness anymore. i am so ok with being alone that i've accepted the fact of dying single and alone. i dont let other people love me. i am so avoidant that it makes me sad. i've been alone for the majority of my life without friends, relationships, romantic relationships that i just wont let anyone in my life anymore.
@@strangerdaysss same even i dont have any friends and im always alone...im practising to accept that its ok to be alone for now,but i may finx people in future who knows...
omggg literally
Imagine u care someone more than anything but they dont care about you its the worst feeling💔
Going through that right now…. I have become attached to a woman who detached from me
@@joev7014I’m broken mate, my girlfriend was pregnant she lost our baby, i stood by her side through it all and she’s left me and blocked me on everything. I’m hurting so much
so real
😢😢😢
Update, I feel way better and I’m at peace. Thank God it’s over. I can finally focus on things that matter
It hurts it really hurts
I just had a breakup and I don’t think I can survive it. My heart clenches every second and I legit feel like I’m sick. I hate this so much
@@egwuekwechima4463break ups are rough. I had a bad one. Lost a lot of sleep. It takes time, you will be ok. Just give it time.
10 years, not sure how long the pain would stay, its killing me
Burns
@egwuekwechima4463 you're not alone remember that. Next... 😉
I fell in love with person and I felt my whole world click yet.. this person doesn't really see it. Sometimes I feel it's all my fault, and other times I just can't let go. Sometimes I cry so hard, and other times I laugh uncontrollably. But I've come to understand that it's actually ok to make mistakes, to miss that person but much more, to love myself more for who I am and live my life not just for that person but for me. You can do it also.... Don't let anyone steal u're peace... Trust You will be alright at the end of it all❤
This is so true, I’m just used to thinking about him, but I don’t think I’ll be actually happy with him
How do you break this pattern addiction? Mines probably from loneliness or the affection i didn't get when i was young, so what do I do to fix me?
Hi Utkaresh! You are breaking the pattern by not acting on the pattern anymore. And instead act on the things that you value mindfully. That means not spending time with your hair trying to control parents, but mindfully acting on your values
@@pamkay1756 I hope you find someone who loves you.
@@richardadorno9187 Awww. Thank you. I.hope so too.
@@pamkay1756 I think if we try to hard for love than it’s not meant to be.
@@richardadorno9187 I agree.
I pray in god that all of us here will find love and remember he planned everything
Don't let nobody play with you just because you got a good heart
Setting boundaries is important
The fear of losing them
I also understand this addiction mostly its because of childhood trauma...whether it can be abandonment issues or parents being over protective and so we not thinking independently from childhood....hence while growing into adult we tend to bond with ppl who are similar and controlling as like our parents so that we may feel protected and secure....hence we get too attached and stick to the dynamics of runner and chaser......I was kind of repeating patterns.....hence its very important to recognise the patterns and act mindfully.....we will definitely encounter fear of loneliness and urge to be in a relationship for validation and that happy feelings....but it's essential to control our emotions mindfully.....we should mindfully take a relationship and dating detox for 3 to 6 months.....focus on building urself....focus on loving urself,becoming healthy,fit,beautiful and chasing ur purpose of ur existence....talk your heart out to a trustable friend....just understand one thing ...we cane alone and we have to leave alone...in that short period of time try to live a purposeful life...then our vibrations become stronger and we become independent....then we ll be able to attract the perfect healthy and balanced relationship.....
How to do all this ooo
Thank you so much, you really made my day better
That childhood trauma thing is so accurate... people mostly tak abandonment issues into their account but there are also people who face trauma because of overprotectiveness too .
I am addicted to my husband, I lived , breathed, everything to make him happy he was my life my world. I felt his pain , I completed his sentences. He was my safety. I depended on him for everything. And then he died 4 1/2 years ago and I’m still in a deep depression
Idk what to say
Your so strong
I dont think i would survive that
I am praying for you ♥️
God protects you ❤️
So Sorry, I Hope You Find A Way To Be Happy Without Forgetting Or Erasing Him From Your Mind & Heart❤️
May Allah (SWT) make it easy on you❤
It’s hard to let go of someone you were dating when you thought you found the person of your dreams, or they make you feel like someone you never thought you would ever need in your life.
Yeah😢
😢how you guys holding up? Im struggling so hard right now.
i'm going thru it now😭
@@sunbeamcheeks it’s been 5 months for me after the break up, but officially 2 weeks now not talking to each other anymore. Just cry it out, 🥲that’s honestly all you can do to get better in a way. Feel it all and just process it slowly all the emotions. It’s the only way to heal😭
@@karenreyes8348 no distractions needed, these days i woke up with swollen eyes. I agree with you, that's the only way🥺 thank you, i hope we could heal soon ❤️
In my junior year I met a coworker of mine. She was pretty, smart, and a great artist. It wasn’t love at first sight or anything but she grew on me quickly. No other woman made me feel the same way she did before or since. I felt alive when I finally told he I liked her. The sad thing is that she said nothing back. Not even no. Soon after I moved to a new school halfway through my junior year. It pretty much broke me and I spent my senior year picking myself up. She still lingers in the back of my mind through. No matter what I do I can not move on from her. I decided to join the Air Force and I’m moving on with life. I’m going to have to thank her though later. She was the first person I fell in love with and made me realize feelings I didn’t even know existed.
Thank you my friend’ 🙂 I’ve figured that out’ big time! The problem was the emptiness within me’ hoping’ praying that it could be fulfilled from someone/ anyone else! It never happened! So I became/ learned to be enmeshed within me’ and I’m feeling’ much better these days ❤
Thank you for your appreciation! I’m glad you’re doing so much better
how did you do it
That's great and all but you can't be alone for ever, I was hopping to start a family and get married in the next year now I have to completey change the future I've built for the last 7 years
Bro I think you finally opened my eyes. Thats exactly whats been happening in my life all the time.
In mine too
It is natural to be attracted to those that we feel good around, to go towards to good feelings, and it is also natural to feel good around those who we are compatible with. Those things can be in action whether or not a pattern addiction is present…
I didn’t say anything about that in the video
It’s coming from a place where I feel I won’t meet anyone else like her who understands what I do and all the love and passion I put into everything and it just feels like I’m getting in her way cause she doesn’t care
And I’m putting myself through it because I’m so scared that nobody in this world will understand my hurt my heart. My joy my pride I’ve givin her ALL OF THAT and I’ve done so much for her..but she just doesn’t wanna care like that and it’s hurting me and I know if I stay then I’ll hurt more but I genuinely like her..as a person she’s funny she’s caring she’s wise and I love her so much and I know love is a strong word to use in this situation but I’m not getting love back only kisses cuddles and fuck…
This is what I'm going through right now, from talking on the phone every day to not even talking no more.
I’m just lonely and tired of constant rejection
I just want a soul mate for fock sake ..
To hug me
Exactly. Human primary need and that's fully legit 😊
I needed this today
I love him in every way, I know I’ll never get to be with him but talking him and seeing him smile and laugh just warms my heart❤️
You will love more. Start with yourself. Do actions for yourself
It’s companionship. Being alone, is lonely. We are meant to have a community and people around us.
Thank you man for solving 99%problems of mine.. It's very difficult to control...
Thank you for your appreciation
Its scary how i felt alone even when i was with him but its more scary to think of being alone without anybody.
I have stopped this pattern addiction and haven't been in love in 10 years and have been focusing on myself for the last 10 years and I don't miss being in love or wanting a person so bad anymore
Imagine loving someone so much and they know it but still choose to ignore you now 15 years later and a 7 year old I'm still in love and alone, maybe it's not love but a pattern addiction, maybe I'm mad that he left me with no words and I chased him all these years and nothing I do will make hims stay not even a kid he asked for 😢
the desire to love someone and feeling safe
Yes we all have that
Damn I wish I was emotionally addicted to this person but they treated me like shit for years yet I still want them Becuase I don’t see them as just that even though I get mad and it pisses me off at times and sometimes I would let it out on them. But I really love and care for this person and I’d want to be the best for them.
ur love is so pure. thats all
The way u described this was impeccable
Thank you!
I'm addicted like, i paused this video and thought about him for a while then continued watching.. Someone please help
It will pass
Meditation will help and mindfulness. You need to learn to steer your focus
Same 😆
Relatable 🥺😅🙂
I have finally understood my pattern. But it goes way back. Being ignored by my father. So, I have unconsciously later turned to partners who are there but not there. Emotionally absent and that's also the feeling I chased and thought was love all my life. How crazy isn't that. But I also see when I face this how my body and soul get like a stress on blows. Then to just give up on myself and give everything of myself. Destroying myself. Put away men in my life who were really there. For them, I thought it was strange. But after a long period of repairing myself. Even reprogramming me. Am I in a different place in life. But no one got a bed of roses without hard work. As well as starting to see a self-worth.Not afraid to be alone anymore. Have myself. The best friend and partner you can have. The other can come later. But it can be done in peace. No stress. Getting to know each other for a long time. So I see what it is I face. Also that I myself have to be open and vulnerable. Have boundaries. Being able to say stop and no. Because I have never dared to do that. So those I have met have gone far beyond my limits. But no more ever.
Thank you for sharing that! Really great to see those things for yourself
You feel safe and happy with them conforted
Yeah and the thought of having to start up again from scratch
I definitely needed to hear this today. Tysm
great advice & just subbed
Thanks, needed to hear this
But how do you actually get over it? because I like this person. and we are friends. But i know he doesn't like me in that way. and I've tried everything. I tried new hobbies, making new friends. I just don't know what to do. especially because he's the only one who understands me. What do I do? its kinda got out of control I'm crying over it. I don't know what to do.
I also Know i cant go on like this.
same situation although she's a girl and always unsure of it to the point it becomes platonic
@@chinatsumatsumoto8143 I mean no offence but at least I'm not the only one struggling with this stuff.
How are you now? Im in a similar situation
@@buzz6989I’m not going to lie I’ve managed to get over him just about well more or less he’s still my best friend but I don’t see him as the person I need in my life. And how are you?
When you enjoyed the experiences and the time you spent together
That’s it ! Pattern addiction is what i’ve had my entire life . Thais why i can’t tolerate changes in my life . If anything altered my lifestyle pattern i would become very fearful and insecure . A Pattern of emotional security is of course addictive . It’s like breathing air or drinking water .
But what if you love someone because of who they are? It's like you found someone you would love because all you wish in a person is in them.
You still only know hundreds of people in person. There’s billions out there that you don’t know. There’s at least hundreds of thousands that you could be in love with. But you were saying it’s only this one.
@@StarJesseTayloryeah maybe you're right, I hope she likes me back whom ever that person that I like that much.
@@StarJesseTaylorand....how do i know if i really love someone? and it's not just a "patern" ?
@@StarJesseTaylorjust because there are billions out there doesn’t mean you will meet someone for you. Some people never do. Some people only meet one true love in a lifetime. Truly special someone is not many. It’s rare.
Yeah I wouldn't take advice of this guy he's probably someone who never gets a girl and says it because he doesn't want one lol
makes so much sense. i am extremely avoidant so i dont do this with romantic relationships but i do see this with other aspects of my life.
"You are what you love not who loves you"
Charlie Kaufman
All living things are designed to move toward pleasure and away from pain. It is our survival mechanism.
when I told her about what I felt of her, she said, "okay..". and I asked, "what do you feel about me?"..She said, "i dont have feelings for anyone at the moment." I've known her and loved her for 5 years then. it's the 6th year.. I thought i moved on, but it kicked in again. Suffering of it rn..
THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!!!
Thank you for your appreciation!
This is actually true, I started dating her and now that I am I’m not even happy we’re are breaking up soon
Pattern addiction happens to me all the time 😢
7 years has passed, and yet there is still a little bit of faith in me, but with the faith.. there is a huge pain behind it
Thank you for this I started crying when I realized that this is how I am feeling
Thank you for your appreciation!
Thank you. I’m in love with a dream, I need to better myself and stay focused and self confident if I’m ever going to make my dreams a reality. I need to let go of the old so I can embrace the new good things coming my way
i love her so much it physically hurts me and i want to continue be in a relationship but i don’t want to smother her by constantly texting her and stuff. it affects my life too because i’m constantly thinking about her. i want to love her but it would be to hard on her and myself for this relationship to remain as one sided as it feels.
Whoa. This accurately describes me
I remember a guy liking me for this exact reason. I knew that. So I didn’t give him what he wanted. He is now less needy, and he is growing. I am glad I was able to do him a favor by staying away, because I am sure the only reason he wanted that is to feed off of it, and not to help it to thrive. Stay sharp ladies
That’s very aware from you
@@StarJesseTaylor thank you 😊
I met my dream girl in morocco after 20 years of being single. We got married this year in September and went on our honeymoon. I can honestly say I've never been happier. She was also mad happy too. It's December and the racist Tory government in uk want to rise the financial requirements to values I can't reach and the possibility of us not having the future we planned and or losing her is breaking my heart. It devastated me but she's so positive and uplifting, our phone calls are a life line to me. I'm extremely worried about my mental health as suicide keeps popping to mind, if I can't ever be happy what's the point. I'm not built for this 😢
Start meditating and don’t take the thoughts so serious. Start therapy and focus on doing more valued actions. Also watch the heal heartbreak video on my RUclips
I believe in you! Don’t give up on love . Just work on yourself kings 👑
Bro I'm literally crying now!..you just described me...pls helo ke...refere to a video you've done that helps...please... I've not been able to read or even focus...and yes in my forst uear ot happened with someone amd in second uear it's happening again 😭😭😭
Thank you for your appreciation! Check out the how to heal heartbreak video!
After going through this stuff in real life by myself, ive got to say he's damn right. Losing my girlfriend was hard, realising i maybe never loved her, and just tried to replace the happiness i cant give myself. Life your life and let people come and go, it will help you much more than finding a human who fills something, your supposed to give sourself.
This is really helpful, thank you.
I thought chemistry was hard
Welp that explains the feeling I have with the girl I liked for 10 yrs since kids till now and when I ask for a valid reason saying cuz we’re too close… u may sound like a psychopath but trust me I’m not… I just exerted too much effort to the person to the Point that’s I don’t hate her nor love her….
I really really REALLY liked this guy. He lead me on for like two months (talked and flirted EVERY day, I went to his house and we made out (which he initiated)) time comes ofc that I tell him I like him and he said he wants to stop flirting and just stay friends because he doesn't like me like that. It hurts so much dude
If u been with that person for years it's not easy to just drop em I'm having problems n I want peace but I cannot let go
You are so right my friend.
Thank you!
Literally thank you ❤
that hurts.. THE REALITY MY HEART IS PAINING
No man i just loved him, i don’t need him to be happy but he’s just in my heart 💔
thank you, man. I think I need to see this video everyday
Thank you for your appreciation!
Thank you for explaining things to me much clearer.
Glad it was helpful!
This is true I only have one friend and I don’t talk to many people so when a guy talks to me and makes a conversation something clicks inside my head and I just start to have a crush on him I need to get over a guy rn because apparently he’s dating someone and I had no idea 😭
You hit the nail on the head
Thank you!
It’s so true it’s come when I hear some songs .I think I avoid it first then it will be easy to forget him ….
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Found out that the girl I once loved has a boyfriend, so I’m here to learn how to let go. 😢
I met this girl two years ago... We both fell in love in just 1 month, but since we were far away from each other , she was getting tired to accept this fact... It affected her happiness... So she set boundaries
So that she should not feel very dependable on me... But i wasn't ready for all this , she never actually talked about this , or even when she did, i said, it will work out.
I dont know how to set my own boundaries...
My mind is constantly just thinking about her
How can i help myself
She probably seeing someone elses
I was traumatized as a child and growing up with this person made me distracted from constantly feeling and thinking about it…. I made them my home without them choosing to be… I’ve chosen them far and way before they even know and could ever now. So now I’m choosing to let them go, and having to heal from making a decision for someone/ a very important role in my life someone never asked to be in.
Holy fuck… I’m sending this to my therapist- this is absolutely me.
Thank you for your appreciation!
I felt like I met my soulmate… but I’m patient because I know what she’s going through and I know that she’s going through a hard time and needs a friend. I know what I want and she feels like she doesn’t Deserve it but as long as I know I gave it 110% while still doing what I have to that’s all that matters
Thank you 🙏🏾 🙌
You are so welcome
I always thought i was never attached to anyone and that i could leave them properly and not give a shit about them, but only now im realising that the reason i felt that way was because i always knew they would return to me eventually and find a way to contact me which does happen so i always had that bit of comfort. Now that theres someone in my life who i know isnt good for me and i have full control over actually removing them in a way that they cannot even contact me, it hurts me so bad. The thought of never speaking to them again gives me anxiety. I dont even think im in love with them but im so used to constantly falling out with them and then having them return to me again and again, knowing they will never return is killing me. Ive never actually left someone that i care for completely. Do i just cut off from them and deal with it or slowly desensitise my feelings from them and then cut off?
I swear it's the same with me
How to slowly desensitize feelings and cut off
@@precious_diamondajala5985 for me i just ignore my feelings for them and just turn it into some sort of anger towards them
@@Honeyxx hmm but what if thle person has been too good to you for you to even find a way to be angry at them
@@precious_diamondajala5985 then what makes you think that they are bad for you?
So freaking true!
Thank you!
He literally made all my dreams about love come true. He made me feel love I never thought would happen to me because I didn’t believe in love. I really thought we would be together for longer. It hurts so much. I never thought I’d find love like that only to lose it. How much I wish we had continued to be friends.
Watch the how to heal your heartbreak video. You will notice that it’s your brain warping your reality because you are spending time on the obsessions
Deep thank you time for change time for me to be happy to be by myself love myself
I was happy with him , I enjoyed our time together,and than the time he actually had left after new job went elsewhere.
loving someone taken is something different, especially having to chain your feelings when you're with that person really breaks a man/female
I’m in the same position bro. She’s like one of my best friends, we are together all day but she’s in a great long distance relationship and it hurts me a lot to hide my feelings and jealousy. I really want her but can’t have her. I can’t even try to come in a relationship with someone else. It’s hard rn but I just keep moving
@dakshmassey1059 to be honest bro atleast shes next to you, if i was you i would confess
@@eross899 i kind of told her before but since she’s in a relationship she couldn’t do anything about it so i just told her I’m over her now. Honestly bro being with her all the time is much harder than if I didn’t see her at all
@dakshmassey1059 to be honest its better to distance yourself, and show up after a while of improvement when they are either free or you are done with them
Attachment leads to suffering, whether its a thing, or person.
This literally means, i never even fall in love with anyone.. And that life motivation i got from loving(not sure anymore cause of this video) will disappear if i try to kill this addiction that you kept sayin. I will be left as an empty shell again. Not all addiction is bad
It’s not an addiction. It’s normal human need and desire. It’s like saying to a baby or a child - stop your addiction to a parent. It’s normal . We are born to be connected and be in unions.
Wow i think deep but this hits hard thank you, i finally understand it ❤
but how then how do you know if it is real love or not with the feelings...I'm a Cancer 😂 feelings are my thing
You're welcome 😊
How To Be In Control Of Myself From Not Seeking The Validations From The Person And Being Happy In My Own Company Too , And Its not I always want that person but sometimes that pulling power of being away from that person is super high in terms that I feel I am missing a part of myself which is like away with them
I just wanna see her happy (the happiness i never got)
It's that feeling in my chest that I need to get rid of. that's all 😢
Thank you for sharing. This is very helpful❤.
That was soo deep
Thank you❤
Thank you for your appreciation!
But it's really hard to leave that person whom we loved the most 💔
Yes, that’s really hard. But you gonna meet so many more people that you can love And first of you want to love yourself by doing actions that support you and stop spending time in your head on that person use your focus
The issue is that I’ve completed the puzzle of myself, I just am struggling because I’ve been trying to add onto it and realizing that it wasn’t meant to be despite almost everything clicking. Something isn’t letting me drop it and I know it’s going to either be worth it in the end or just kill the part of me that is trying so hard.
The only my way I got over my ex was to literally think like they don’t exist. As far as I know they died. It helped
You're really amazing. I'm facing with these problems. When, I attached with someone, I can't really be happy why? I can't focus on my reality.
I want to be with him because he is literally the man of my dreams, prayers, etc.. but we met at a bad time and so I screwed it all up and now have to let go.
Bro I just wanna be loved
Thank you, man, you're right 💯
Thank you for your support!