@@RosesAreRedVoiletsAreBlue1 what? I wasn’t hitting on him did you watch the video? I was talking about each individuals man they are dealing with not the content creator 🤦🏼♀️
Exactly & ya, where was all of this at when I was growing up, (no offense at all to my parents, my late dad & my mom who is still alive, just sadly, very sadly in a home) but ya, I have wondered that at least 1 time, "where was all of this when I was growing up!?"... ugh...
Was in a 7 year relationship with a man who had divorced twice before. He never wanted to live together or make a commitment with me. I deserve to be happy and married but he wouldn’t get married because of his past trauma. I left. He cries about how much he loves me. Just not enough to make an honest woman of me. Don’t waste your time ladies
If we can trust God for a partner and stay in tune with the spirit, we can never go wrong. We are not as smart as we think we are sometimes! I can't be stressed 😊
Some men start from the beginning as If he wants a relationship and marriage and later change up. Some men will lead women on as If he wants her but don't. Women must value her time to move on.
I've only noticed this over the past few years or so. Once upon a time a relationship was just an automatic. Now it's just silly out there and I'm not interested in fears or games or however people want to complicate it.
Things change so much , women are sleeping no protection cooking for the guy spending time at your place . Then MF said to we are not committed 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ after 10 Months in this Bullshit 😫that was the last time he heard from me . Blocked/ deleted and dismissed. Bye ✌️
I always try to keep in mind that regardless of his reason for why he won’t commit to you, it’s in your best interest to move on when the answer is ‘no’. Because whatever the reason (not being ready, not looking for commitment, bad timing, future life change, etc.), he’s either telling the truth, or a lie. If he’s telling the truth, then you know where you stand and should step away. If he’s lying, he’s trying to maneuver the situation for his best interests, not yours, so you should step away. Especially, and specifically, if he says no but still wants to see you.
Most make excuses of not wanting to commit. Yet still want to contact and somehow keep you around. we have to listen and move on, they telling on themselves. Keep temples close as well. 😊
It is true💯, Quality of time is one of important things to me in a relationship. As a guy if you don't spend quality of time, not making an effort for me and being inconsistent in communication then you are not serious to me of being in a relationship. Amen 🔥🔥🙏🙏 Thank you so much Stephan.
Agreed. I have no problem with someone who isn't ready, just don't try keeping me in a situationship with no intentions to ever commit. I immediately dip out.
I love how you always include God. Truly He's the only one who has the answers to all these difficult questions that people try to figure out on their own.
I love the way you explain everything, Stephan! I share your videos to almost everyone. Even in the bus, grocery, school (I am very social and want to help as many women as I can, just like you). I think all women should watch your videos. 🌹 Thank you so much for helping us women (and men). 🙏❤️🙏
We talked about marriage snd engagement before we ever dated. I know thats what we both want but he wont know if he wants it with me until we have gone out and gotten to know each other enough. Id love if he asked me early but it wouldnt be appropriate. So i want it when its right for both of us. I set a deadline. If he doesnt ask me by then id leave.
I am going through it and I've had enough, we have had the talk and it's me alone talking, this man still only saying I just want to live my life..there no clarity and I know this man is wasting my time..I've been with this man for a year and he has never invited me to his home, it doesn't matter if I need help he pours nothing into me..He takes me no where, he doesn't even ask about my young kids...No real attention..he just wants me to get pregnant because he's 35 with no kids...my God this man has drained me, I'm feeling nothing for him anymore and anytime I leave him, he comes back after awhile..but I'm tired....communicating with this man is like walking on egg shells...
RUN like you're in the Olympics. You are worth so much. Why are you still there? Get out of town quick, fast and in a hurry, today, right now, before the sun goes down!! It will hurt and I know from experience you will get ove it.
@@thanks2ugodI ran so fast from this toxic narcissist man . I freaking 🥇 the Olympic 😂😂😂. Blocked / deleted and dismissed for ever . I was never been with man real talk . 💪💪💪
The worst thing is if he is making big words and promises on and on but then nothing happens. If you are truely in love and sure about someone due to (...) you will not walk away. You have lots of truth in your Video! I specially like point of not playing games. And its so true many times people speak into your life out of their bitterness. So its do important to pray... but still if we think God has given green light and the your faith brought you there and then its still not working out. It is so complicated also to discern Gods voice from your own. You should Coach men! Men need to learn to be able to commit. We dont have enough serious men out there. In my opinion good rolemodels are missing.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️ I have a men's channel where I coach men called Stephan Speaks for Men 👉www.youtube.com/@StephanSpeaksforMen
That was my question to him yesterday where I realized all along I dated myself..it was a closure to a long wasted time (3years) though my heart is broken 💔
I'm so sorry. I'm telling you, 3 months is the limit without commitment. I just leave after that. I find it highly insulting when someone wastes my time for months on end just so they can get their needs meet with little regard to my time and feelings. Fuck that. I wish you a fast healing. Heartbreak is terrible. 😢❤
I was dating myself too. I finally had the courage to break up with him and it hurt because I had already built up a vision of a future and now we have twins together. Time and God will heal all wounds. It'll get better. What helped me was write a list of all the qualities I want in a future husband (supports my goals and dreams, makes time for me) and he wasn't it. That's living below your purpose and settling.
I am continuously amazed at how long people can drag out these pre-marital relationships, and I am a guy. I don't know whether to call people incredibly patient, or incredibly crazy. My gut says crazy, but the part of me that wants to believe the best in people and not throw stones wants to say patient. Either way, I don't see myself being able to do that.
*You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.*
Thank you for this video, Stephan because it gave me some clarity. About a week ago, I gave this guy I have known for years my phone number because he said he’s attracted to me and wants to spend time with me again. He only called me once and he texts me sporadically. His communication doesn’t seem consistent. However, him and I follow each other social media. I see him posting a lot, so that seems to be important to him instead of getting to know me on a deeper level. I think it’s time for me to move on.
Going through this right now. Just walked away, the stress. Got tired of waiting, a year and four months. Still it hurts, as if I’m just not enough or worth loving.
Virtual high five. I had an uncomfortable conversation with my POI and he admitted that he didn't want a serious relationship. After 3 1/2 months of interacting with him, I needed to know.
I had the talk a year ago and of course he didn’t want me. Wish I didn’t take so long suppressing my feelings and being scared of asking for clarity. I didn’t wanna rock the boat. Well I’m here to tell you rock that shit cause walking away is the best choice. LISTEN TO A MANS ACTIONS if he WANTS you he won’t have you questioning yourself or the relationship. A lot of men do this cause they’re reaping other benefits from you. And you’re just there as a fucking place holder. So stop making excuses and thinking you don’t have the right to ask questions. If he doesn’t wanna commit to you walk away with grace and dignity. Shit ain’t easy but has to be done. Love yourself first! Let em’ play with someone else
How timely was this video. I realized that i wasn't getting what i deserve i talked to God n sent him a beautiful note...praised n thanked him all at the same time but told him this is where our journey is coming to an end. He replied by saying "Though i don't understand...Take Care" My time is very precious. I asked the question of what are we doing? What is he looking for? His reply was vague. After a month n a half I sat with my thoughts and said if a man chooses to text rather than call me when he gets off from work then only sees me once a week. Nahhhh!!! Not for me! I was being patient rather than walking away from the very beginning but after his actions wasn't lining up as if he was interested in dating me I said let me walk away NOW before investing too much time n energy while I'm possibly blocking the one who God has to LOVE ME RIGHT!!! KEY: Get them in and Get them out! And this is after seeking God's will❤ My PURPOSE matters more to me than just having any man!
🔥🔥🔥😍💯💯 Thank you for sharing Some ppl string others along in give false hope so they can continue to play the field while holding on to someone good 😔 Trusting God!💯💪🏽🙏🏽
Did as you suggest, just few days ago, and now the video reassured me I did the right thing. It feels right in the gut. Pain will heal 🙏. Im afraid, moving on from all these men who wont commit, im spending my youth just by myself :p ... Short question for Stephan: are you mostly gifted by God with your wisdom, or you have gained it mostly by experience and work in coaching?
When u have been with a guy for so many years and you have a son with him you living together but he have not mentioned anything about marriage I find that very odd
This was Meticulous Steph You left me wanting more I enjoying listening and learning from you Whats striking is that your presentations Are reenforced by your lovely personality And your constant dependency on GOD You are such a blessing to me Thank you Stay talented and BLESSED
Thank you! you have such a great way in coming across and explaining matters and Really hitting all points. Everything resonated with me. I left my boyfriend almost 3 weeks ago. It took a lot of courage for me to do it and I tried with him through counseling for 10 months. The only giveaway the Therapist gave to me without her violating any law is to tell me that he has a “rigid side“. He would not do the exercises she prescribed for us, nor come up with his own when he didn’t like her ideas. I know it’s all complex. However, I am glad I made the decision to leave and it’s very hard, but I’m coming out of it better than I thought in recovery from the grief.
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Do not ever overlook or not address the red flags!! If it is something that can be easily corrected then that man is willling to make a change and if not then it is time to walk away.
Yep I’ve had the talk with him I told him if your purpose isn’t to flow with me into the future then this does not work. Gave him 2 weeks then he asked me last week let’s do this me & you. but there are things that I know will be red flags I will be addressing them now before we can down years of not addressing would rather do it now while it’s early days assuming is not good. Just ask I think we want to talk but we sometimes don’t like what we hear but hey life is short you don’t want uncertainty in your life so if God wants you to be together the hell do that Get clarity with the relationship where you’re going I think it’s important for us women to just tell men how it is.
Love your videos. Thank you for sharing your insight which gives us food for thought and eyes wide open. Lead with your heart and love but back it up with conscious thought.
Thanks Stephan this was a video that I needed. Good point about the red flags, they should be addressed because misunderstandings do happen. Great point about not playing games as well. They only make thing worse. These were helpful reminders. Could you please do a video on having the exclusivity conversation? I often hear that women shouldn't ask and the guy should be the one to bring it up... Can you give more insight into how exclusivity occurs.
Very insightful information that I can relate to that I eventually FREED my own self from…with God at the forefront of course! Thank you Stephan for sharing this thought provoking knowledge of yours…greatly appreciated 🙏🏽👍🏾❤️💯
Hello! Thanks for your wonderful video. I have been viewing quite a few of them.. Well said & pleasantly stated. You mentioned about Red Flags. Some Flags some men given us not just Red. Its Multicolored. I have been dating a man. Correction! A boy in a man's body for Six (6) months. However everything mentioned in your video , plus more was done & no changes. Well guess what. I walked away with no regrets. I have to say this is the worst person I ever met in my life. Sorry to say. He claims to be a hard worker. My GUT feelings are he either cannot read or write or he is an Illegal Alien. I said that based on his movements & lack of hiding many things that would be natural for the average human being to disclosed. I am a very Patient person. Unfortunately it ran out. Keep your videos coming. Wished you all of God's Blessings.
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@@michelecraig9658 I just feel I have wasted so much time with this man. I am in my 50's. All I want is to be happy and at peace. I guess the only way I will have this is to be alone. This is very hard for me! I will need some type of therapy cause I will not be able to do this alone. I pray for Better Days and I say on a daily " No weapons formed against me shall prosper" all with tears in my eyes and my heart is just so heavy. I feel like I am about to explode. So happy! You had the courage to find yourself and you are Happy.
@@NewMe1515 we live in different countries. Effort for me is two things: 1) speaking on the phone (he prefers texting, which already is a red flag in itself) 2) visiting me (he cancels when I want to meet in person) We have met in person. We used to be old colleagues and very good friends…
If he makes no effort then You make a move and block him End of story or are you waiting For red flag # 4 Based on what u say theese are hudge RED flags
@@user-fh1tr9zp3l I know! But, we have a strong connection and he has always been very supportive. He is the one who has blocked me everywhere, which I think is all about having control. If, I block him on one social media he texts me from another site.
I believe that's what happened to me are first 3months in a relationship was great like caring about me and wanted to be around me but I never had the talk but I start getting frustrated now it's like he wants to stay far away from me so now he'll try to stay to work all night if you can and that way time he get off it's time for me to go to school😢
Stephan am i hearing correctly ? What the hell is theese ladies thinking ? No official relationship or commitment And you are allowing this man to move in with you ? Nonsense 😮 Ladies do no encouage bad and horrid habits ah !!
I’m with a guy who sort of lives with me-he calls me his gf but is a serial cheater. It’s confusing and upsetting. He hasn’t been coming home lately and claims he’s working but he says that to the fiancé of 5 years I found out he has. He’s always hiding his phone etc. I think he may just be using me to have a home….im disabled and he targets women who are older and disabled etc.
It’s ok to be single. If you are disabled and older than him, he sees you as just an option. Get rid of him. Become emotionally independent. Learn to enjoy your own company. Learn to take care of yourself.
Well what about 4tears later and he just shuts down and also proposed but didn’t get a ring for a year and yet you became resentful because everything just druggg on nothing you could do around the house because it was his house and yard ect it’s frustrating. You become depressed and have no desire to do things anymore and you have a hard job that he basically doesn’t understand but thinks he knows the job and invalidated it. Also when you come home after work and you don’t work on a clock but they drink too much and expect you to go To bed when they do but your job constantly changes everyday. Just too much it’s depressing. After proposing no talk of when we should plan for a wedding NOTHING what’s the point!?!? I ask questions but basically I have to call the shots there’s no togetherness it’s like no clarity but now it’s way past that and it’s exhausting.
Don’t think these types ever change. A guy I know win his mid thirties has been single for years on end and constantly updates his dating profile wanting ‘casual’. He refuses to commit to anyone because ‘he’s afraid of getting hurt’. Yet, how he behaves, treating women like objects gets him hurt! Some people are their own worst enemy.
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There’s just 1 thing to do. leave him alone and Move on.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Definitely 😰🏃🏽♀️
Amen!!🤣👏👏😍
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Don’t be afraid of rejection ladies, it’s better than living in delusion. Lol 😂 ❤ a man who at least cares about you will answer all your questions.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
@@RosesAreRedVoiletsAreBlue1 what? I wasn’t hitting on him did you watch the video? I was talking about each individuals man they are dealing with not the content creator 🤦🏼♀️
senpai here
rejection>delusion this was so helpful @JHW44 time is money
@@JHW44don't respond girls thirsty on the internet it's so dizzy
6 monthes and I'm done with him ✌🏾 I will not continue without commitment...some of these men are selfish and full of themselves
Totally relate to this
Mr slow to commit
This one is for you
Don t complain
When Mr organized snatches
This woman away from you
It's only a matter of time
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
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Some of us women were never even taught about any of this or ever shown what to do. This is why I appreciate these videos.
I have no children, but try to pas this on to young ladies who cross my path
Exactly & ya, where was all of this at when I was growing up, (no offense at all to my parents, my late dad & my mom who is still alive, just sadly, very sadly in a home) but ya, I have wondered that at least 1 time, "where was all of this when I was growing up!?"... ugh...
@user-rd6ov5pt4v I didn't have good relationship mentorship growing up or even in early adulthood either.
So true. When I was in this exact situation, I heard some bad advice that kept me from asking the guy what we were. I wish I knew this sooner! 😔
Stop giving your value and your time. Stop explaining what has been said, do not repeat yourself. 🙏🏻🕊
Was in a 7 year relationship with a man who had divorced twice before. He never wanted to live together or make a commitment with me. I deserve to be happy and married but he wouldn’t get married because of his past trauma. I left. He cries about how much he loves me. Just not enough to make an honest woman of me. Don’t waste your time ladies
It doesn't take 7 years ever for a guy to.commit.
He realized marriage has no benefits for men. Just the times we live in.
If we can trust God for a partner and stay in tune with the spirit, we can never go wrong. We are not as smart as we think we are sometimes! I can't be stressed 😊
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you are welcome ❤️
God ain't jack squat.
Some men start from the beginning as If he wants a relationship and marriage and later change up. Some men will lead women on as If he wants her but don't. Women must value her time to move on.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I've only noticed this over the past few years or so. Once upon a time a relationship was just an automatic. Now it's just silly out there and I'm not interested in fears or games or however people want to complicate it.
Sometimes men change their minds because they don't want that with you anymore, due to something they see in you that they don't want to commit to
Facts ! Most lie about wanting one
Things change so much , women are sleeping no protection cooking for the guy spending time at your place . Then MF said to we are not committed 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ after 10
Months in this Bullshit 😫that was the last time he heard from me . Blocked/ deleted and dismissed. Bye ✌️
I always try to keep in mind that regardless of his reason for why he won’t commit to you, it’s in your best interest to move on when the answer is ‘no’.
Because whatever the reason (not being ready, not looking for commitment, bad timing, future life change, etc.), he’s either telling the truth, or a lie.
If he’s telling the truth, then you know where you stand and should step away. If he’s lying, he’s trying to maneuver the situation for his best interests, not yours, so you should step away. Especially, and specifically, if he says no but still wants to see you.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
❤️🔥💯❤️🔥 Precisely, and so beautifully explained!!
Thank you so much🙏🏾
Most make excuses of not wanting to commit. Yet still want to contact and somehow keep you around. we have to listen and move on, they telling on themselves. Keep temples close as well. 😊
Call their bluff. Go no contact. They just want the upper hand by hiding their interest level.
It is true💯, Quality of time is one of important things to me in a relationship. As a guy if you don't spend quality of time, not making an effort for me and being inconsistent in communication then you are not serious to me of being in a relationship.
Amen 🔥🔥🙏🙏 Thank you so much Stephan.
For me if he is slow to commit
Only means he is undecided
No big deal
But for sure am not wasting any time with such dude
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Agreed. I have no problem with someone who isn't ready, just don't try keeping me in a situationship with no intentions to ever commit. I immediately dip out.
Exactly! I don’t have problems with it either, but he should not try to tell me that he wants a baby!
A baby ?
Ok get some play dough and make him one
He must be refering to something like this
That joker
I love how you always include God. Truly He's the only one who has the answers to all these difficult questions that people try to figure out on their own.
Put God first, then all things be added onto you Z your heart desires. ❤
When I asked him to meet his family,he left me 🤔so here was something hidden 😤I blocked him,and no more contact for ever!
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I will keep my heart open. There is no clarity time to move on. Enough conversations spoken. Mr. Right here I am.
I love the way you explain everything, Stephan! I share your videos to almost everyone. Even in the bus, grocery, school (I am very social and want to help as many women as I can, just like you). I think all women should watch your videos. 🌹
Thank you so much for helping us women (and men). 🙏❤️🙏
Glad I could help 🙏
What a great video. You were dead on so many points. Especially when you said it doesn't take that long for him to know if you're the one.
We talked about marriage snd engagement before we ever dated. I know thats what we both want but he wont know if he wants it with me until we have gone out and gotten to know each other enough. Id love if he asked me early but it wouldnt be appropriate. So i want it when its right for both of us. I set a deadline. If he doesnt ask me by then id leave.
I am going through it and I've had enough, we have had the talk and it's me alone talking, this man still only saying I just want to live my life..there no clarity and I know this man is wasting my time..I've been with this man for a year and he has never invited me to his home, it doesn't matter if I need help he pours nothing into me..He takes me no where, he doesn't even ask about my young kids...No real attention..he just wants me to get pregnant because he's 35 with no kids...my God this man has drained me, I'm feeling nothing for him anymore and anytime I leave him, he comes back after awhile..but I'm tired....communicating with this man is like walking on egg shells...
Get out
RUN like you're in the Olympics. You are worth so much. Why are you still there?
Get out of town quick, fast and in a hurry, today, right now, before the sun goes down!!
It will hurt and I know from experience you will get ove it.
Runnnnnnnnnnnnnn Fast as you possibly can. Seek God for healing
@@thanks2ugodI ran so fast from this toxic narcissist man . I freaking 🥇 the Olympic 😂😂😂. Blocked / deleted and dismissed for ever . I was never been with man real talk . 💪💪💪
The worst thing is if he is making big words and promises on and on but then nothing happens.
If you are truely in love and sure about someone due to (...) you will not walk away.
You have lots of truth in your Video! I specially like point of not playing games. And its so true many times people speak into your life out of their bitterness. So its do important to pray... but still if we think God has given green light and the your faith brought you there and then its still not working out. It is so complicated also to discern Gods voice from your own.
You should Coach men!
Men need to learn to be able to commit. We dont have enough serious men out there. In my opinion good rolemodels are missing.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️ I have a men's channel where I coach men called Stephan Speaks for Men 👉www.youtube.com/@StephanSpeaksforMen
That was my question to him yesterday where I realized all along I dated myself..it was a closure to a long wasted time (3years) though my heart is broken 💔
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I'm so sorry. I'm telling you, 3 months is the limit without commitment. I just leave after that. I find it highly insulting when someone wastes my time for months on end just so they can get their needs meet with little regard to my time and feelings. Fuck that. I wish you a fast healing. Heartbreak is terrible. 😢❤
I was dating myself too. I finally had the courage to break up with him and it hurt because I had already built up a vision of a future and now we have twins together. Time and God will heal all wounds. It'll get better. What helped me was write a list of all the qualities I want in a future husband (supports my goals and dreams, makes time for me) and he wasn't it. That's living below your purpose and settling.
You will heal eventually.
I am continuously amazed at how long people can drag out these pre-marital relationships, and I am a guy. I don't know whether to call people incredibly patient, or incredibly crazy. My gut says crazy, but the part of me that wants to believe the best in people and not throw stones wants to say patient. Either way, I don't see myself being able to do that.
*You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.*
Thank you for this video, Stephan because it gave me some clarity. About a week ago, I gave this guy I have known for years my phone number because he said he’s attracted to me and wants to spend time with me again. He only called me once and he texts me sporadically. His communication doesn’t seem consistent. However, him and I follow each other social media. I see him posting a lot, so that seems to be important to him instead of getting to know me on a deeper level. I think it’s time for me to move on.
Going through this right now. Just walked away, the stress. Got tired of waiting, a year and four months. Still it hurts, as if I’m just not enough or worth loving.
Talk to God...important step ❤
Wow!!!! I needed to hear this. You said a mouthful stephan. It's like you're talking to about my current situation
❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching and sharing I appreciate hearing from you!
Virtual high five. I had an uncomfortable conversation with my POI and he admitted that he didn't want a serious relationship. After 3 1/2 months of interacting with him, I needed to know.
Joining the seminar. Giving away my value. Wow I have diminished mine to adapt. I have to stop.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I had the talk a year ago and of course he didn’t want me. Wish I didn’t take so long suppressing my feelings and being scared of asking for clarity. I didn’t wanna rock the boat. Well I’m here to tell you rock that shit cause walking away is the best choice. LISTEN TO A MANS ACTIONS if he WANTS you he won’t have you questioning yourself or the relationship. A lot of men do this cause they’re reaping other benefits from you. And you’re just there as a fucking place holder. So stop making excuses and thinking you don’t have the right to ask questions. If he doesn’t wanna commit to you walk away with grace and dignity. Shit ain’t easy but has to be done. Love yourself first! Let em’ play with someone else
This video mirrored my entire last dating experience. Thank you so much for your words. Its given me so much clarity in the path to moving forward.
You don't need to do seven things you do (one) and one only get out of the fake relationship. 👌
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I like the new background...and the message of course. Thanks for stating what we are never sure of and don't receive guidance on.
You are such a blessing Stephan!!! Thank God for you and all the free advice you give us, it’s truly priceless!
How timely was this video. I realized that i wasn't getting what i deserve i talked to God n sent him a beautiful note...praised n thanked him all at the same time but told him this is where our journey is coming to an end. He replied by saying "Though i don't understand...Take Care" My time is very precious. I asked the question of what are we doing? What is he looking for? His reply was vague. After a month n a half I sat with my thoughts and said if a man chooses to text rather than call me when he gets off from work then only sees me once a week. Nahhhh!!! Not for me! I was being patient rather than walking away from the very beginning but after his actions wasn't lining up as if he was interested in dating me I said let me walk away NOW before investing too much time n energy while I'm possibly blocking the one who God has to LOVE ME RIGHT!!!
KEY: Get them in and Get them out! And this is after seeking God's will❤
My PURPOSE matters more to me than just having any man!
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Thank you for sharing
Some ppl string others along in give false hope so they can continue to play the field while holding on to someone good 😔
Trusting God!💯💪🏽🙏🏽
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
How does this work when the pig gets married and continues to try to get at you (narcissist behavior)
You ask him if he wants to pursue a relationship (obviously not after 1st date 😂) or not- if not, you walk away. Simple.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Yea wow im done giving it up for thrills.. wow thank you!! 💯
My pleasure ❤️
Praying for the courage to have the break up convo
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Did as you suggest, just few days ago, and now the video reassured me I did the right thing. It feels right in the gut. Pain will heal 🙏. Im afraid, moving on from all these men who wont commit, im spending my youth just by myself :p ...
Short question for Stephan: are you mostly gifted by God with your wisdom, or you have gained it mostly by experience and work in coaching?
When u have been with a guy for so many years and you have a son with him you living together but he have not mentioned anything about marriage I find that very odd
Thank you! We really appreciate these videos..alot of wisdom and lessons...love from Uganda ❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching I appreciate your feedback!
This video came at the right time. I really needed this ❤
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
AMEN I NEEDED TOO HEAR THIS LOOK AT GOD THANK YOU JESUS HALLELUJAH AMEN GOD HAS HIS PEOPLE GLORY THANK YOU. ❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
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This was Meticulous Steph
You left me wanting more
I enjoying listening and learning from you
Whats striking is that your presentations
Are reenforced by your lovely personality
And your constant dependency on GOD
You are such a blessing to me
Thank you
Stay talented and BLESSED
❤️ 🙂 Thank you and may you stay blessed as well!
I have listened to alot of stephans videos and for 1 time in my life I have agreed with some one 100%
Thank you! you have such a great way in coming across and explaining matters and Really hitting all points. Everything resonated with me. I left my boyfriend almost 3 weeks ago. It took a lot of courage for me to do it and I tried with him through counseling for 10 months. The only giveaway the Therapist gave to me without her violating any law is to tell me that he has a “rigid side“. He would not do the exercises she prescribed for us, nor come up with his own when he didn’t like her ideas. I know it’s all complex. However, I am glad I made the decision to leave and it’s very hard, but I’m coming out of it better than I thought in recovery from the grief.
Great meeting you this weekend! What a lovely surprise! Great info as usual!!!
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This is so accurate! Thank you Stephan ❤
My pleasure ❤️
Amazing content in this video! I rarely suggest anything in comments, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is a game-changer. It provides deep knowledge on wealth and self-care that can really make a difference. Take care, everyone
You have said sooooo much in this one segment.... Thank you!
I've watched this 3 times to digest the nuggets!
First comment ❤❤
I want to hear this. Thanks 😊😊
My pleasure ❤️
Don't lean on your own understanding, go to God.
That is what I am doing trying to start my healing process and I pray he follows suit.
Dated a guy in 2022 off and on we connected late 2023 he still doing the same thing in 2024 i blocked his number
They never change 😢💔
Wow I needed to see this video. Thank you 🫶🏼
Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone
Now, how to get from BF to more after 2 years, and get out of this holding pattern.
Omygoodness...right in the beginning, so true
...happened to me
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Do not ever overlook or not address the red flags!! If it is something that can be easily corrected then that man is willling to make a change and if not then it is time to walk away.
In the casual box cause that was what I wanted years ago. Been exploring emotionally just as friends.
Thank you 💞 Stephen.
GOD BLESS
YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
Yep I’ve had the talk with him I told him if your purpose isn’t to flow with me into the future then this does not work. Gave him 2 weeks then he asked me last week let’s do this me & you.
but there are things that I know will be red flags I will be addressing them now before we can down years of not addressing would rather do it now while it’s early days assuming is not good. Just ask I think we want to talk but we sometimes don’t like what we hear but hey life is short you don’t want uncertainty in your life so if God wants you to be together the hell do that
Get clarity with the relationship where you’re going I think it’s important for us women to just tell men how it is.
I love you Stephan ! Thank you for these vids
Best advices ever ❤ Thanks Stephan
My pleasure ❤️
Love your videos. Thank you for sharing your insight which gives us food for thought and eyes wide open. Lead with your heart and love but back it up with conscious thought.
Thanks Stephan this was a video that I needed. Good point about the red flags, they should be addressed because misunderstandings do happen. Great point about not playing games as well. They only make thing worse. These were helpful reminders. Could you please do a video on having the exclusivity conversation? I often hear that women shouldn't ask and the guy should be the one to bring it up... Can you give more insight into how exclusivity occurs.
Very insightful information that I can relate to that I eventually FREED my own self from…with God at the forefront of course! Thank you Stephan for sharing this thought provoking knowledge of yours…greatly appreciated 🙏🏽👍🏾❤️💯
This is guuuuuud✍🏽💕 sharing with my ladies
Hello! Thanks for your wonderful video. I have been viewing quite a few of them.. Well said & pleasantly stated. You mentioned about Red Flags. Some Flags some men given us not just Red. Its Multicolored. I have been dating a man. Correction! A boy in a man's body for Six (6) months. However everything mentioned in your video , plus more was done & no changes. Well guess what. I walked away with no regrets. I have to say this is the worst person I ever met in my life. Sorry to say. He claims to be a hard worker. My GUT feelings are he either cannot read or write or he is an Illegal Alien. I said that based on his movements & lack of hiding many things that would be natural for the average human being to disclosed. I am a very Patient person. Unfortunately it ran out. Keep your videos coming. Wished you all of God's Blessings.
Loving the new background. 😍Amazing video as always. Thanks for sharing
i really needed to see this WOW!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Can you please do a video on long distance boyfriends your opinion on it juggling work aka demolition money ploblems 🙏😭
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
This was so extremely helpful. Thank you ❤️
Thank you for releasing such a great video that every woman needs to hear ❤👌✌
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!
My pleasure ❤️
It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!
I needed to hear this❤
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Thank you for this insightful information ❤
My pleasure ❤️
Excellent points. You really help me to make a decision about a man in my life. 🙏👍
Great video! I needed this. Thank you!! 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
I feel stuck! I should have set a time limit a long time ago. But now it may just be too late. We have two grown children together.
Never too late, sis. I left after thirty three years (married at 20). It was hard, but I am so happy I found myself.
@@michelecraig9658 I just feel I have wasted so much time with this man. I am in my 50's. All I want is to be happy and at peace. I guess the only way I will have this is to be alone. This is very hard for me! I will need some type of therapy cause I will not be able to do this alone. I pray for Better Days and I say on a daily " No weapons formed against me shall prosper" all with tears in my eyes and my heart is just so heavy. I feel like I am about to explode. So happy! You had the courage to find yourself and you are Happy.
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Thank you, Stephan! I am writing with a guy for 2 years, he keeps saying that he has real feelings, but makes no effort. It is very frustrating!
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
What is effort for you if I may ask!
@@NewMe1515 we live in different countries. Effort for me is two things:
1) speaking on the phone (he prefers texting, which already is a red flag in itself)
2) visiting me (he cancels when I want to meet in person)
We have met in person. We used to be old colleagues and very good friends…
If he makes no effort then
You make a move and block him
End of story or are you waiting
For red flag # 4
Based on what u say theese are hudge RED flags
@@user-fh1tr9zp3l I know! But, we have a strong connection and he has always been very supportive. He is the one who has blocked me everywhere, which I think is all about having control.
If, I block him on one social media he texts me from another site.
I believe that's what happened to me are first 3months in a relationship was great like caring about me and wanted to be around me but I never had the talk but I start getting frustrated now it's like he wants to stay far away from me so now he'll try to stay to work all night if you can and that way time he get off it's time for me to go to school😢
10:50 lol 😂 an orange flag, I love it! Just get everything out of the way.
Thanks!
If u don’t know your relationship status, continue dating other men. Do not commit to a man who hasn’t committed to you
😢 ok thank you, I just love him so much.😢
Stephan am i hearing correctly ?
What the hell is theese ladies thinking ?
No official relationship or commitment
And you are allowing this man to move in with you ?
Nonsense 😮
Ladies do no encouage bad and horrid habits ah !!
I’m with a guy who sort of lives with me-he calls me his gf but is a serial cheater. It’s confusing and upsetting. He hasn’t been coming home lately and claims he’s working but he says that to the fiancé of 5 years I found out he has. He’s always hiding his phone etc. I think he may just be using me to have a home….im disabled and he targets women who are older and disabled etc.
Don’t let him live in your house. He doesn’t love you, he is just using you
It’s ok to be single. If you are disabled and older than him, he sees you as just an option. Get rid of him. Become emotionally independent. Learn to enjoy your own company. Learn to take care of yourself.
Powerful message.
Hmmm Interesting but great video!🙏🏾
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I don't want him.back!
I feel stuck
Well what about 4tears later and he just shuts down and also proposed but didn’t get a ring for a year and yet you became resentful because everything just druggg on nothing you could do around the house because it was his house and yard ect it’s frustrating. You become depressed and have no desire to do things anymore and you have a hard job that he basically doesn’t understand but thinks he knows the job and invalidated it. Also when you come home after work and you don’t work on a clock but they drink too much and expect you to go
To bed when they do but your job constantly changes everyday. Just too much it’s depressing.
After proposing no talk of when we should plan for a wedding NOTHING what’s the point!?!? I ask questions but basically I have to call the shots there’s no togetherness it’s like no clarity but now it’s way past that and it’s exhausting.
Amen 🙌 I received the message
Don’t think these types ever change. A guy I know win his mid thirties has been single for years on end and constantly updates his dating profile wanting ‘casual’. He refuses to commit to anyone because ‘he’s afraid of getting hurt’. Yet, how he behaves, treating women like objects gets him hurt! Some people are their own worst enemy.