Honestly, if you knew how good you are at making youtube videos, how entertaining and how adorable you are, I know you would post regularly. You are so talented and interesting. I'm one of those guys that's been watching you for many many years, and I always say to myself that I can't believe you don't capitalize more on your youtube channel. Anyway, I'm so happy when you post and you are looking GREAT! And sounding healthy. Love you!
I’m 70 now and had this same talk with myself at 27. You will be happier the older you get. You instinctively know how to be alone. Yes keep cutting those toxic friends that fuck up your vibe. Otherwise you end up living their lives. You should be counting FANS and not friends. God damn.
I'm not sure I agree with "you wiII be happier the oIder you get." I'm not referring to Pano, just in generaI: Iife seems to me to be a Iong series of diminished expectations. I aIso Iike Carrie Fisher's remark: "Fame is just obscurity biding its time." IoI
I'm 23 and ever since I graduated high school I've just felt this overwhelming lack of motivation to do anything. And that really sucks because I see people from my class going out and just being successful while I'm stuck here alone and just trapped in a bubble really.
Success isn't really external circumstances! Sure, maybe those people you're comparing yourself to have external wealth but how can you really know they are able to enjoy it internally? Success is really an inside job
I feel this in my bones. But remember that not everyone will walk through life at the same pace. And not everyone has the same goals. It’s up to us to pave our own path.
I never comment on your videos before but I always been watching them! I have done the same thing as you, I started around at age 29 and now that I am 31 it is still a work in progress! You don't need any negative people in your life that don't help you grow. Never rush to be in a relationship either, it's better to be single than to be in one where it isn't going nowhere and it drains your energy. i agree on everything you said. good luck on your journey!!
Don't feel alone. I'm older than you and have no friends either. I've learned that most people are only out for themselves and that you have to be lucky to actually have a true friend or two. Honestly, I've just stopped caring about it and have resigned to being alone forever, lol. Anyway, I'd be your friend any day ❤️🙂
Not just handsome...talented, and very intelligent as well. You are on the right path. Cherish the friendships you have. Cherish the mistakes, they make you who you are and teach you on this journey called life. Oh and I love fishing!!! Peaceful. Best wishes as you move forward. Anyone would be blessed to have you in their life.
When you mentioned toxic people this really resonated with me, because I used to think that I needed to cut people from my life the moment I found their patterns of thinking were interfering with my life. I used to think that if I just allowed the people that really understood me and respected me I would find happiness and it would be a win-win situation for everyone: my friends and I would be happy with each other's presences and neither me or the toxic people in my life would be at odds with each other. But the truth is that toxic people are everywhere. They are at work, college, parents, family, friends and I realized that if we don't tolerate them, then we'd be pretty much restricted to do almost everything. We may not have the energy to deal with all of these people, but some others are not so bad. I think that looking at their problematic behaviours with a 'it's something with them, not me, so it's okay' mentality really helps me empathize with them. I realize now that when I empathize with them I can really relate to their suffering. Sometimes, I even see my own flaws in these people. I found that it's ok to avoid people in my life when their energy is too much for me at the time. It's okay to give myself space to think, feel and be. But I feel better when I can give them a part of myself, even if it's a little bit, just to make their lives feel a little better. We're all people, after all.
At 25 years old myself I get what your saying cause I've been doing and going through the same. Who needs friends that are only there to use you when you can instead be working on yourself and cultivating the few worthwhile relationships that you have.
What do you mean by "use you"? In a relationship, two people should use each other to make them better people and, in turn, a better couple. Depending on one another is the bond that should hold a couple together. Maybe you just aren't ready to share your life with someone, yet.
@@darrinlindsey well by "use you" I'm referring to friends and those fake friends who are only there when times are good, when times are bad they are no where to be found. And by "use you" I've had a friend of 10 plus years literally use me and my family for money etc but anyways that's not a discussion for a public space lol. But I hope that clears it up for you
My 20s were a great time in my life. I was self assured, ready to be me and open and wanting to explore. Then, I lost sight of who I was and didn’t navigate and direct my life the way I had in my 20s. I am working on getting back to that energy of my 20s. So much of what you said resonates with me (and I am sure MANY others) that I needed to put something in the universe that supports and encourages self reflection, self worth and and individual respect. Great video, Pano! Dee Jay
Oh hey, I also turned 27 recently (like three weeks ago) and a lot of what you talked about really resonated with me. Wishing you all the best as you continue on your journey to self-love.
I had a toxic relationship in my 20s, but when I turned 38 I met the best person for me and we were together for 24 years till he died 15 months ago. I am a mess now, but feel so fortunate that we met. BTW. Love you content.
It sounds to me as though you are doing exactly the things you need to be doing for yourself. I wish I had been as self-aware at your age as you are, but part of that comes with the generation I grew up in and the situation I grew up in as well. having a few really good friends can be just as rewarding as having a lot of friends; it’s the quality of the friendships that matters more than the quantity of them.
I relate to your situation. I also hit 27 this year and started reevaluate relationships, my own behaviors and ideas . I'm learning to accept that I don't need to chase other people's dreams,that i also need to stop comparing myself to them. Things aren't always going to be perfect and ,that can be ok . There's no advantage in stressing about it.
Best piece of advice in your video, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Maya Angelou. That one lesson will save you so much pain in life if you stay true to it. One other huge one is to not define your value by your physical attractiveness. That's a hard one to learn as a gay man...especially if you're used to getting attention for being attractive. My 20s were about struggle. I had to scrape my way through college with no help whatsoever and it's hard to maintain that drive when you're working full time and going to school at night. You're 30s are about building your career for the most part. Friends come and go. Your no-matter-what friends throughout your lifetime can be counted on one hand... if at all. Even good people are far too self absorbed to be that for another person. They want it for themselves, but they can't be bothered to be that for another person.
wow, this video really speaks to me. Been having the same thoughts and I am going through a similar transition. The process is hard, but totally worth it. Reducing stress, cutting off toxic people and focussing on wellbeing is the beeeeeest decision :) thanks for sharing! new drag name: Welcome to the stage, Sharon inspiration
Hey Pano it was nice to see you again this morning. I totally understand where you are coming from. I am a retired, 70 year old man and haven't been involved with anyone for over 10 years and as you said, I have no close friends. I take care of myself. I of course can't understand why someone wouldn't want to be with you but we all have our standards and whoever you are with, must come up to those standards. I still go out occasionally and see people I know but I don't call them "friends" just acquaintances. Love seeing a good drag show occasionally but really enjoy my own company. I guess my best time was in my mid to late 40s (45-50). Spent too much of that time trying to catch a guy that would be my BFF or my husband. All I can say to you is enjoy your life and take chances but don't expect miracles. You are an very handsome and talented young man. The music is really good. Just stay in touch, I love your little chats on here. Love you!!!
Great to hear from you again! I’ve learned over the years that feeling in your gut about friendships is right on. Some friendships come in seasons and have a natural conclusion as we evolve as an individual. Some come back into season, but many don’t and that’s ok. :) Keep loving yourself, friend. You’ll always be better for it. Looking forward to the next time you feel like sharing. You’re one of the best in my book. Take care!
In my 20s I had my midlife crisis at 25 just to get it out of the way! Just wait till you get into your thirties, ha.. every decade is a new you.. I will say meditation it's a great way to find self peace. And yes I've been following you for years always great when you do a check in.
I'm leaving my 20s unfortunately by the end of this month, but I 100% agree with you on the friends points and stuff. This year has definitely been the best of my life (my golden year too!) but it hasnt been perf and been working on myself as well. We stan self growth!
I go through this about every two months where I get real mopey and start thinking that I don't have friends, no one understands me yada yada. When I take a step back I realize. that I actually have a great mix of friends, and they don't necessarily want to take up all my time because they are secure in themselves as well. I can also relate to the feeling of always having to be productive. I have a few years on you so maybe I feel it more because I am getting a little older but this is something I need to work on as well, just allowing myself to relax. You are a cute and smart guy and I appreciate your insights, thank you!
Couldn't agree more with regards to cutting those toxic ties! I started doing that in my late 20s and it was the best thing I have done, I'm far less disappointed by people these days! Cut them and hold onto the gems- even if a small few! Great video! You look/sound so good!
Yooo he's back!! 'Nother channel re-launch 2022!!! I love ya man, but you've got more scrubbed launches than NASA at this point... Stick around this time! 😂
You’re fucking awesome man!! Not being a content creator or someone that’s really on social media, I can’t imagine how hard it must be to deal with all the haters out there, but I hope you really can just ignore them and keep pushing forward!
It's refreshing to see this level of self awareness and maturity. I went through some similar stuff in my 20's and I'm glad to see you're pulling through. It's also very refreshing to see others recognize EI as a vital human trait in society. Good for you and keep on. I liked the video because yes you are so damn cute. =]
I, too, lost my school Spelling Bee (in 6th grade)... to a girl in our neighborhood who had stolen my brother's bike a few years prior. A smart thief? Who would have thought? 😂 I'm in a very similar position to you. I'm quite the introvert and have grown apart from most of the people I used to know. Who you are today is who you're meant to be. 💪🏼 "I've just been focused on things that are low-pressure and make me feel good." 100000% the best way to go about things. Happiness isn't prioritized by so many these days. As for being single, there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with being "single." The perception that we need someone else to be complete or depend on is insane. If it's meant to be, love will happen. Until then, keep loving yourself and keep doing what makes you happy. Thanks for sharing this!
You are so not alone! I'm 27, about to turn 28, and I had that exact same feeling a few times the last couple of years. For me, I took it as a sign, not so much to find more friends, but to invest more time in those friends I did have and myself. You're so right: putting good things into yourself is the best investment. 👌
Awesome to see you again Pano! You're looking great!! Very insightful and oh so true. I recently had to cut ties with someone toxic as you described. Very liberating and truly for the better. Life is what you make it and you're living proof of that!
I am more than twice your age and I agree with what you are saying. I wish I had your good sense and perspective when I was your age. Hell, I also wish I had had it in my 30's, 40's and 50's! People come in and out of your life even those that seem to be true friends, sometimes just drift away. The handful of friends I have, I cherish and we have been friends for decades. They are people who I truly enjoy being around and we all support one and other completely. To be honest, I do miss my youth but I am also quite content today. Great video! Enjoy your youth and your good looks!
Pano, I've been following you since almost day 1 - you post amazing content, and I listen to you so much, you're in my top recommended in Spotify - I love your music, love your vides, and love your face. Keep serving it!
Love this perspective. It’s so hard dealing with black holes. Other things that make it easy to see are just general simple things. If they can’t say please or thank you, this person is likely not someone worth investing time and energy into. They are black holes.
So great to see you making content again. I can't believe I wasn't subscribed, but I am now. I am not in my 20s but starting over again, moving to the east coast, to Philly last year. Having to start over making friends again, I've been reminded just how you are about all this. Loving yourself is so important, and being selective about who you let into your life is so important. In my 20s I was afraid to cut people out if they were toxic. I had to learn to love myself enough to do it, to protect myself. And to not put up with bad behavior. So glad you are learning to do that in your 20's.
You could not have described almost the exact same situation I am currently facing in life at 29. Best years of my life were 16-19, I had so many friends, was social as heck, etc. Then like you described, you start to realize a lot of those “friends” you had in high school aren’t really friends anymore because they don’t really care about you and your feelings, wellbeing, and start to prioritize themselves, a career, making a family, or having a relationship. So I lost a lot and kept a few good ones and now it’s basically just my best friend and I. She’s my pretty much my soul mate and would be my husband if she was a dang man haha 😂 But still haven’t found the right guy, shit or any guy… Only thing I’d love to know more about and experience. Things don’t change much but I sure do keep trying and I know they’ll change for you, Pano. You are an amazing person!❤ I’ve come to the same conclusion you have, if I’m gonna be alone then ima live it up! thanks for the video Pano, hope you and your cute self are doing great!
Better to be alone for the right reasons than in a couple for the wrong reasons, nothing worse than feeling trapped/rolling your eyes. So many do not 'self examine' and are stuck and repeat their bad habits or bad choices on others and go into the same cycle of 'performative' relationship which always ends badly. Keep working on yourself, be aware and have faith. When one is 'interested' in other things they come off as 'interesting' to others. Being yourself is the greatest aphrodisiac.
I'm 64 now and still remember my 20's. Things are easier now with being gay and out. I came out in my 20's and lost a lot of friends and family. I also met a guy that was my first real relationship and I stayed with him for 8 years and realized he wasn't the one and stayed single for many years after. I have been with my husband now for 15 years and we will be celebrating 13 years of marriage this month. I am not sure how long I have been watching your channel but it has been years and you are fucking still so cute. Do what is best for you because in the end that is all that matters.
dude i literally vibe with what you are saying and it’s funny cause i just broke up with my ex last night and gave him the same speech. No bad blood, it’s just that we aren’t compatible and i have so much i need to work on as does he. I’m 27 too and dude it’s been such a weird year. I noticed how my focus has shifted and how the pressure i put on myself has doubled. It’s definitely part of the journey. It’s growth, it might hurt now but it’ll makes sense later on.
I'm 53. I spent the past decade in a relationship with a narcissistic, abusive person. I even went to far as to marry them. This month (October 2022) will be when the divorce is finalized. I am reclaiming my power, my sense of self, my love for myself. Like you said, if I end up single the rest of my life, that's fine, because I know my worth. I know what I should and should not accept in the way that people treat me. Sometimes, that's the most difficult thing to acknowledge. Step by step...my life is getting better. May yours continue to improve as well!
Pano...refreshing to find your level of self-awarness...at 27 years of age. It helps to be of the 'internet age' with all it's resources and examples, such as your own. When I was 27 years old, back in the Ice Age(truly frozen out of a healthy social life) the resources and examples for a young gay man were RARE if they even existed. Keep posting when you can, even with necessary pauses, because what you do for your peers and younger souls IS IMPORTANT. With what you perceive as imperfections makes you unique, of course, yet perfect as a working example to others. I can only wish in hindsight there had been such a friend like you when I was 27.... the dark and threatening savagery of lonliness and despair almost did me in; I'm a bit hardened by those experiences and can only say, and hope for you, don't let the loneliness harden you and change your beautiful energy.
Yes you do! Only 40 seconds in and paused. Add lots...and lots...and lots of decades to your age and you find me. I currently have only a few friends in my life. After discovering the reason for that in my personal past history...I am making many changes to improve my socializing. As a long time viewer of your channel, having instantly bonded with you in spirit...I know that you are loved by many.
Your introspection about who you are is outstanding, and this introspection will continue as you approach 30, then 40, then ... As a much older person than you (in early 80's) I have worked my way through who I am and how this produces understanding what I can do to show my love for my family without destroying my love for myself.
Pano, hope all is well. Happy Belated Birthday, 27. I remember when you were in your teens. Don't worry, after this pandemic I swear my friend list went south. Let's hang, no agendas, just friends. Be well and stay safe. Alex from LA.
Ok but this video is so on point with what my friend and I have been talking about the past two days. Literally we were just talking about how we use to be so good at spelling yesterday. And as for the friends aspect I totally feel it. I’ve learned that I’m a high energy giver but low maintenance friend. I give a lot but don’t expect anything back. And when I’m the only one reaching out to friends I’ve learned that the energy exchange isn’t equal and that is important. So I’ve slowly just stopped reaching out so I can protect my energy and keep those who treat me how I treat them. AND I literally just broke up with my super toxic, narcissistic, financially abusive and controlling ex boyfriend of 3 years and I learned a lot about what I expect in a relationship and will tolerate. Cause he was my first relationship so I learned a lot from him being so negative and judgmental. I got over so much internal homophobia because of him and I can live myself without it being conceited and whatnot. So I wouldn’t take back my experiences but I will continue to grow and evolve.
Something I will remember whenever I think about how many friends I have at any given time is the phrase. "Understand that friends come and go, But a precious few, who should hold on"
You at least have the right frame of mind about relationships and people. I quit trying to hold onto those people I loved to be around, even if it didn’t serve me any purpose but to feel included. You are correct in saying you can’t change people. If they want to be your friend, they have to be willing to change. I would rather have one awesome friend, than a roomful of people who could care less about my life. It can be exhausting to try to make people like you, when really if you’re not happy, it could be you’re not happy with yourself. I’m still looking for that one person though. Someone to really share life with me, and look past the flaws. He better be forging, cuz I may mess up a lot! 😂 Enjoyed the video. You brought up some really good points. Oh and btw…27 isn’t very old. Enjoy it to its fullest! ❤❤
I get what you mean, my early 20's were so joyous. I think that was partly because as a queer person I was beginning to explore who I really was. But then life inevitably threw some shit and I began to realise that I had some serious shit I needed to work on. Now I'm far enough through that process to stop chasing after things I don't really want, but still have to fight the instinct that I should want those things. Also I think the world seems more daunting now, not in my ability to navigate it, but in understanding how complicated it's problems really are.
Literally what I've been talking about 2 days ago with my friend on Facetime .. now I see your video in my recommendations (I've been a fan since the beginning lol) and I guess we are all part of this collective consciousness .. we think the same thoughts without even realizing it we're better off without some people (ex friends) they were like phases, we learned a lot from them but we cannot linger to the past, just take the good memories and run with it to a brighter day ahead
Hey, Panos! You said so much of your truth. Live it as you are able. Butm know you'll not "arrive" to wholeness until your done living, if then. We're always a work in progress, but we "strive for excellence to reach for perfection." It's a little idealistic to think you'll arrive and "be whole" before you take next steps/chapters in life. We change, and so grow and discover new things to work on. But it sounds like you're on a good, healthy path and are happy doing so! Hurrah! In my 20s, I was discovering/trying a succession of career choices that made me happier or more fulfilled. By 30, I had chosen just one, and made avocations for others. Now toward retirement, I'm revisiting a couple and making them central to my life going forward, because they give still me joy and meaning in these years. As you said, be patient, forgiving, and graceful with yourself. Love yourself, and from that, love others with empathy. That's wisdom. You're a fantastic young man. and are loved, for being ever more yourself, your own best friend and lover. That's sexy and real and attractive. 💛
Been watching you since 2012. I also turned 27 just last month and asked myself literally every question you listed. That makes me feel somewhat comforted. Seems like it's just another step in life. But despite feeling older, I like to remember that I'm still relatively young and that my decisions at 27 are still as impactful as when I was 17. At least in the long run. And this time I'm pretty confident I can make much wiser decisions because stupidity is inevitable at 17.
Wow Bro!!! That was THE BEST deconstruction of life & love ever...kicked dr philphony out...THANK YOU...just wish i had heard this, not just advice, a lesson in reality when i was 18 & a freshman in college. I know now, i lost my best chance at a mate (my roommate), back then out of fear; then went on to repeat the same mistake year after year right till now. Hope you will do more like this one & i really hope this message reaches millions of persons everywhere. We are living in dangerous toxic times; with violent people who will kill or destroy decent progressive wonderful spirits like you...stay safe, stay well & as the old saying goes: KEEP ON, KEEP'N-ON !!!
27, such a young puppy. I am always curious about people who think about things so much. Fishing! That is good therapy, Come fishing if your ever near Cape Cod.
I'm 62, and I'm not interested in whether anyone likes me. Im fine with it if they don't like me. Now that ive reached older age things that bothered me when I was younger don't anymore. I do what I want , I'm not a people pleaser like I once was. Be yourself, and don't compare yourself to others. Seeking validation from people takes alot of energy. Accept that people are not going to like you. There are differences. I'm happy now and at peace.
Same sitch and age. Yay Spring babies and 27. But for real having a rough time with this feeling abandoned and hearing this from someone else with a similar vibe is really great. Almost clicked away...again... cause I didn't want to think bout it but I'm glad I decided not to.
You have lots of youtube friends, Pano. I, too, once was an excellent speller; but this no longer the case. However, I have gotten much better at solving Jumbles -- unscrambling sets of letters to form 5 and 6 letter words. You have a wonderfully expressive face -- the large chocolate eyes beneath heavy, trim brows are a large part of this and are very articulate with a great sense of humor. All your youtube fans wish you success and happiness in life. John🌈
Why for the love of Merlin does this not have more views and likes?! I’ve been proud to here on Pano Pancakes journey.. *RIP Spongebob twerking* Yes, your younger years & college days were hilariously amazing to watch and it’s been amazing to be on this journey with you. You are awesome and I’m glad you’ve embraced so much love for yourself. P.S. - Yes.. I remember & love your rant videos.. they gave me so much life. Great to see your beautiful face again.✌️
I have just discovered your channel today and I definitely can connect with what you're saying. I was an extremely sensitive kid. I'm an empath and that journey wasn't easy. Thank you so much. I hope this makes sense, had very little sleep past 3 days :) Always, Marcus
Thank you for doing this you tube. I got such a great feeling listening to you. It’s not about how many friends it the quality of who is in your life!! I subscribed and thankful you are here..)
I almost feel like I haven’t related to a video so much before, even just turned 20 but I agree with almost the entire video. It’s good to see I’m not alone in thinking and doing the same things :)
The Age of the Narc is upon us. My empathetic self has attracted Narcs all my life. No more. I always laugh at how The Age of the Narc has arrived just as I've left. Then I get worried at all the others who have not reached that point yet and will get devoured by the evil Narc 😕
What is it about 27? Just turned 27 as well and been feeling a lot of the feelings you just explained. Patience to deal with people who I just don't vibe with has diminished tremendously - working on not just being completely intolerant with other people, trying to find the balance between respecting my boundaries (new to me lol) and people pleasing (what I usually do).
Just listened to a part of Sesame. I can see why you go by two names: Blue Franklin (or at least that song) seems grittier than the guy who introduced me to FOR THE LOVE OF DILF ( thanks by the way). While the song isn't my cup of Cherry Coke Zero ( I'm more Adele, Sam Smith, Kevin Ross), it seems really good. Continue on with your music!!
Super CUTE!! 😜 My twenties were Fun, full of excitement, & adventures. Best years of my life between college and first job doing what I Love, to having the opportunity to buy a business & running it for 7 years. So enjoy whatever season of life you’re in cause reflection is when you truly realize how great of a time is was. ❤️ your videos Panos😁
I was just thinking about you this past weekend and wondering if you had stopped posting on here; so good to see that you are well. To answer your question, 'Yes, I will be your friend'.
Thats kind of similar to me. Don't have many friends, cause I'm a bit of a shut in introvert, and everyone kind of drifted. Also used to take great pride in my spelling, and now end up misspelling simple words because I click the letters in the wrong order 😞. Anyways, you're awesome, and one of my favorite youtubers who rarely post ❤
I love this. Good luck with your journey. It’s great that this all came to you at 27. At 34 years old, I wish I discovered this at 27 as well. But I eventually did and it’s very empowering and freeing.
I'm turning 30 in 34 days, but I actually never asked myself those questions in recent years. I avoided toxic people and those casual "fake friends" right before I turned 20. And I've experienced a lot of my deeper self. Now I'm at the right place with a lot more confidence and even though friendships will optionally grow over time (because you're able to be lonely but choose not to), I'm a loyal person and would do almost everything to those who appreciate, love and support me.
I'm 33 and I'm on the same boat of forcing myself to relax starting this summer. Disney movies, chess with the fiance, spa excursions. I have coloring pages waiting for me lol. I think for some of us millennials, as much as Boomers and gen X don't believe it, we still have that old mindset of grind till you die. But with the changing culture, it's difficult to see the world as Gen Z does; that work should not be the primary purpose of life. Our generation has always been at the cusp of so much, it's no wonder there is so much angst. I really can't remember how long I've been a fan of yours (at least 8 or 9 years), but I'm always happy to see your face.
Honestly, if you knew how good you are at making youtube videos, how entertaining and how adorable you are, I know you would post regularly. You are so talented and interesting. I'm one of those guys that's been watching you for many many years, and I always say to myself that I can't believe you don't capitalize more on your youtube channel. Anyway, I'm so happy when you post and you are looking GREAT! And sounding healthy. Love you!
So true!!! I agree with every word. I'm an OG also.
Stop it simp
Awww thank you!! I'm definitely more inspired to make videos these days. And this comment helps make to make me feel it even more!
100% agree, my gay ass literally grew up with Pano
I agree too he’s one of my most favorite RUclipsrs
I’m 70 now and had this same talk with myself at 27. You will be happier the older you get. You instinctively know how to be alone. Yes keep cutting those toxic friends that fuck up your vibe. Otherwise you end up living their lives. You should be counting FANS and not friends. God damn.
Wayne, great comment and great advice. I can tell you're pretty cool at 70. 😍
I'm not sure I agree with "you wiII be happier the oIder you get." I'm not referring to Pano, just in generaI: Iife seems to me to be a Iong series of diminished expectations. I aIso Iike Carrie Fisher's remark: "Fame is just obscurity biding its time." IoI
Ditto, im 66
Great comment,agree thoroughly! I'm 49 and had this talk 27,37 &47
That's some solid advice my friend.
I'm 23 and ever since I graduated high school I've just felt this overwhelming lack of motivation to do anything. And that really sucks because I see people from my class going out and just being successful while I'm stuck here alone and just trapped in a bubble really.
Success isn't really external circumstances! Sure, maybe those people you're comparing yourself to have external wealth but how can you really know they are able to enjoy it internally? Success is really an inside job
You'll be fine just enjoy being 23 .😁
I feel this in my bones. But remember that not everyone will walk through life at the same pace. And not everyone has the same goals. It’s up to us to pave our own path.
I am currently in the exact situation as you and really needed to hear this today because I was feeling extra lonely. Thank you for giving that to me.
Any time! Thanks for watching
We're all lonesome Jerome. Don't despair, it's part of the human condition.
One day you'll look back and say what I learned back then was just what everyone else knows by now.
This video is perfection and so relatable. I'm 24, and going through the same damn thing. Sending a lot of love and strengh. You are great.
Thank you!!
I never comment on your videos before but I always been watching them! I have done the same thing as you, I started around at age 29 and now that I am 31 it is still a work in progress! You don't need any negative people in your life that don't help you grow. Never rush to be in a relationship either, it's better to be single than to be in one where it isn't going nowhere and it drains your energy. i agree on everything you said. good luck on your journey!!
Thank you!!
@@PanoT You are so welcome man!
I literally feel the same way 🥹 I’m lonely asf. It’s different when you’re out of highschool and such
I’m with you. I’m 42 and have no friends. It sucks more than anyone can know. It’s so painful. I legit have no idea how find or meet friends.
Appreciate this so much! You’re not alone ❤
We are friends ❤.
Don't feel alone. I'm older than you and have no friends either. I've learned that most people are only out for themselves and that you have to be lucky to actually have a true friend or two. Honestly, I've just stopped caring about it and have resigned to being alone forever, lol. Anyway, I'd be your friend any day ❤️🙂
Happy Belated Birthday! Also, if you need a friend, some of us are ready to embrace you.
Dude honestly this video is so relatable! The older you get you realize who your true friends are or don’t have any friends at all 👍
Not just handsome...talented, and very intelligent as well. You are on the right path. Cherish the friendships you have. Cherish the mistakes, they make you who you are and teach you on this journey called life. Oh and I love fishing!!! Peaceful. Best wishes as you move forward. Anyone would be blessed to have you in their life.
Agreed. And he’s gorgeous! 😍
@@b286guy agreed...total hot AF STUD
Thank yo u!!
@@b286guy True, but he can't help that, he was born that way 😉
When you mentioned toxic people this really resonated with me, because I used to think that I needed to cut people from my life the moment I found their patterns of thinking were interfering with my life. I used to think that if I just allowed the people that really understood me and respected me I would find happiness and it would be a win-win situation for everyone: my friends and I would be happy with each other's presences and neither me or the toxic people in my life would be at odds with each other.
But the truth is that toxic people are everywhere. They are at work, college, parents, family, friends and I realized that if we don't tolerate them, then we'd be pretty much restricted to do almost everything. We may not have the energy to deal with all of these people, but some others are not so bad. I think that looking at their problematic behaviours with a 'it's something with them, not me, so it's okay' mentality really helps me empathize with them. I realize now that when I empathize with them I can really relate to their suffering. Sometimes, I even see my own flaws in these people.
I found that it's ok to avoid people in my life when their energy is too much for me at the time. It's okay to give myself space to think, feel and be. But I feel better when I can give them a part of myself, even if it's a little bit, just to make their lives feel a little better.
We're all people, after all.
You got this! Age can get to all of us , but realistically no one has it together. Glad to see your update
At 25 years old myself I get what your saying cause I've been doing and going through the same. Who needs friends that are only there to use you when you can instead be working on yourself and cultivating the few worthwhile relationships that you have.
What do you mean by "use you"? In a relationship, two people should use each other to make them better people and, in turn, a better couple. Depending on one another is the bond that should hold a couple together. Maybe you just aren't ready to share your life with someone, yet.
@@darrinlindsey well by "use you" I'm referring to friends and those fake friends who are only there when times are good, when times are bad they are no where to be found. And by "use you" I've had a friend of 10 plus years literally use me and my family for money etc but anyways that's not a discussion for a public space lol.
But I hope that clears it up for you
You seem so happy and assertive. I’m so happy to see that and I’m happy to provide External Validation if and when necessary.
It's good to see that you are continuing to grow and give yourself the love you want and need. I'm 77 and can assure you that the best is yet to come.
My 20s were a great time in my life. I was self assured, ready to be me and open and wanting to explore. Then, I lost sight of who I was and didn’t navigate and direct my life the way I had in my 20s.
I am working on getting back to that energy of my 20s. So much of what you said resonates with me (and I am sure MANY others) that I needed to put something in the universe that supports and encourages self reflection, self worth and and individual respect.
Great video, Pano!
Dee Jay
Oh hey, I also turned 27 recently (like three weeks ago) and a lot of what you talked about really resonated with me. Wishing you all the best as you continue on your journey to self-love.
I had a toxic relationship in my 20s, but when I turned 38 I met the best person for me and we were together for 24 years till he died 15 months ago. I am a mess now, but feel so fortunate that we met. BTW. Love you content.
Very sorry to hear. But glad you are able to still feel fortunate for having met him. All the best to you :)
Patrick, I'm going to borrow a quote from Queen Elizabeth, "Grief is the price we pay for love."
I feel your pain. I was in an 18 year relationship until death did us part.
It sounds to me as though you are doing exactly the things you need to be doing for yourself. I wish I had been as self-aware at your age as you are, but part of that comes with the generation I grew up in and the situation I grew up in as well. having a few really good friends can be just as rewarding as having a lot of friends; it’s the quality of the friendships that matters more than the quantity of them.
I relate to your situation. I also hit 27 this year and started reevaluate relationships, my own behaviors and ideas .
I'm learning to accept that I don't need to chase other people's dreams,that i also need to stop comparing myself to them.
Things aren't always going to be perfect and ,that can be ok . There's no advantage in stressing about it.
Best piece of advice in your video, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Maya Angelou. That one lesson will save you so much pain in life if you stay true to it. One other huge one is to not define your value by your physical attractiveness. That's a hard one to learn as a gay man...especially if you're used to getting attention for being attractive. My 20s were about struggle. I had to scrape my way through college with no help whatsoever and it's hard to maintain that drive when you're working full time and going to school at night. You're 30s are about building your career for the most part. Friends come and go. Your no-matter-what friends throughout your lifetime can be counted on one hand... if at all. Even good people are far too self absorbed to be that for another person. They want it for themselves, but they can't be bothered to be that for another person.
wow, this video really speaks to me. Been having the same thoughts and I am going through a similar transition. The process is hard, but totally worth it. Reducing stress, cutting off toxic people and focussing on wellbeing is the beeeeeest decision :)
thanks for sharing! new drag name: Welcome to the stage, Sharon inspiration
Hey Pano it was nice to see you again this morning. I totally understand where you are coming from. I am a retired, 70 year old man and haven't been involved with anyone for over 10 years and as you said, I have no close friends. I take care of myself. I of course can't understand why someone wouldn't want to be with you but we all have our standards and whoever you are with, must come up to those standards. I still go out occasionally and see people I know but I don't call them "friends" just acquaintances. Love seeing a good drag show occasionally but really enjoy my own company. I guess my best time was in my mid to late 40s (45-50). Spent too much of that time trying to catch a guy that would be my BFF or my husband. All I can say to you is enjoy your life and take chances but don't expect miracles. You are an very handsome and talented young man. The music is really good. Just stay in touch, I love your little chats on here. Love you!!!
Thank you so much!!
Great to hear from you again! I’ve learned over the years that feeling in your gut about friendships is right on. Some friendships come in seasons and have a natural conclusion as we evolve as an individual. Some come back into season, but many don’t and that’s ok. :) Keep loving yourself, friend. You’ll always be better for it. Looking forward to the next time you feel like sharing. You’re one of the best in my book. Take care!
In my 20s I had my midlife crisis at 25 just to get it out of the way! Just wait till you get into your thirties, ha.. every decade is a new you.. I will say meditation it's a great way to find self peace. And yes I've been following you for years always great when you do a check in.
I'm leaving my 20s unfortunately by the end of this month, but I 100% agree with you on the friends points and stuff. This year has definitely been the best of my life (my golden year too!) but it hasnt been perf and been working on myself as well. We stan self growth!
I go through this about every two months where I get real mopey and start thinking that I don't have friends, no one understands me yada yada. When I take a step back I realize. that I actually have a great mix of friends, and they don't necessarily want to take up all my time because they are secure in themselves as well. I can also relate to the feeling of always having to be productive. I have a few years on you so maybe I feel it more because I am getting a little older but this is something I need to work on as well, just allowing myself to relax. You are a cute and smart guy and I appreciate your insights, thank you!
Couldn't agree more with regards to cutting those toxic ties! I started doing that in my late 20s and it was the best thing I have done, I'm far less disappointed by people these days! Cut them and hold onto the gems- even if a small few! Great video! You look/sound so good!
Relatable. Great advice
Chris!!! Pano is the best.
Thanks Chris!
Yooo he's back!! 'Nother channel re-launch 2022!!! I love ya man, but you've got more scrubbed launches than NASA at this point... Stick around this time! 😂
You’re fucking awesome man!! Not being a content creator or someone that’s really on social media, I can’t imagine how hard it must be to deal with all the haters out there, but I hope you really can just ignore them and keep pushing forward!
It's refreshing to see this level of self awareness and maturity. I went through some similar stuff in my 20's and I'm glad to see you're pulling through. It's also very refreshing to see others recognize EI as a vital human trait in society. Good for you and keep on. I liked the video because yes you are so damn cute. =]
Yay for growing internally! It's awkward and life-long, but the rewards are absolutely worth it.
I, too, lost my school Spelling Bee (in 6th grade)... to a girl in our neighborhood who had stolen my brother's bike a few years prior. A smart thief? Who would have thought? 😂
I'm in a very similar position to you. I'm quite the introvert and have grown apart from most of the people I used to know. Who you are today is who you're meant to be. 💪🏼
"I've just been focused on things that are low-pressure and make me feel good." 100000% the best way to go about things. Happiness isn't prioritized by so many these days. As for being single, there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with being "single." The perception that we need someone else to be complete or depend on is insane. If it's meant to be, love will happen. Until then, keep loving yourself and keep doing what makes you happy.
Thanks for sharing this!
You are so not alone! I'm 27, about to turn 28, and I had that exact same feeling a few times the last couple of years. For me, I took it as a sign, not so much to find more friends, but to invest more time in those friends I did have and myself. You're so right: putting good things into yourself is the best investment. 👌
Awesome to see you again Pano! You're looking great!! Very insightful and oh so true. I recently had to cut ties with someone toxic as you described. Very liberating and truly for the better. Life is what you make it and you're living proof of that!
You still have your childish glow which is so beautiful. Everyone wants that, so hold on to it!!
I am more than twice your age and I agree with what you are saying. I wish I had your good sense and perspective when I was your age. Hell, I also wish I had had it in my 30's, 40's and 50's! People come in and out of your life even those that seem to be true friends, sometimes just drift away. The handful of friends I have, I cherish and we have been friends for decades. They are people who I truly enjoy being around and we all support one and other completely. To be honest, I do miss my youth but I am also quite content today. Great video! Enjoy your youth and your good looks!
Pano, I've been following you since almost day 1 - you post amazing content, and I listen to you so much, you're in my top recommended in Spotify - I love your music, love your vides, and love your face. Keep serving it!
Love this perspective. It’s so hard dealing with black holes. Other things that make it easy to see are just general simple things. If they can’t say please or thank you, this person is likely not someone worth investing time and energy into. They are black holes.
Thank you very much Pano!!! You explained so much to me! Times and people are less friendly and less laid back than they were decades ago
Mid-Late 20s and feeling this video rn, I've been around since 2014 so nice to see you uploaded again.
Great clarity and growth! Happy for you! You are glowing! 🙌✨❤️🎶 Can’t wait for your new music! Your music is fire 🔥!!!
Omg 100% everything u said i felt and thought off , it's like we have the same ego and thinking patterns
Bro!! I turned 27 on may 27 and had the same thoughts. Hang in there and know we are all in the same boat
I was shaking my head yes through almost this whole video! I love your new and improved state of mind.
So great to see you making content again. I can't believe I wasn't subscribed, but I am now. I am not in my 20s but starting over again, moving to the east coast, to Philly last year. Having to start over making friends again, I've been reminded just how you are about all this. Loving yourself is so important, and being selective about who you let into your life is so important. In my 20s I was afraid to cut people out if they were toxic. I had to learn to love myself enough to do it, to protect myself. And to not put up with bad behavior. So glad you are learning to do that in your 20's.
I don’t have anything but the best friends ever of now 30+ years. Not the quantity but quality of the friendships you make.
You could not have described almost the exact same situation I am currently facing in life at 29. Best years of my life were 16-19, I had so many friends, was social as heck, etc. Then like you described, you start to realize a lot of those “friends” you had in high school aren’t really friends anymore because they don’t really care about you and your feelings, wellbeing, and start to prioritize themselves, a career, making a family, or having a relationship. So I lost a lot and kept a few good ones and now it’s basically just my best friend and I. She’s my pretty much my soul mate and would be my husband if she was a dang man haha 😂 But still haven’t found the right guy, shit or any guy… Only thing I’d love to know more about and experience. Things don’t change much but I sure do keep trying and I know they’ll change for you, Pano. You are an amazing person!❤ I’ve come to the same conclusion you have, if I’m gonna be alone then ima live it up! thanks for the video Pano, hope you and your cute self are doing great!
Better to be alone for the right reasons than in a couple for the wrong reasons, nothing worse than feeling trapped/rolling your eyes. So many do not 'self examine' and are stuck and repeat their bad habits or bad choices on others and go into the same cycle of 'performative' relationship which always ends badly. Keep working on yourself, be aware and have faith. When one is 'interested' in other things they come off as 'interesting' to others. Being yourself is the greatest aphrodisiac.
I'm in that phase of life where I'm saying "if you don't make it in your 20's, you'll make it in your 30's" lmao
I'm 64 now and still remember my 20's. Things are easier now with being gay and out. I came out in my 20's and lost a lot of friends and family. I also met a guy that was my first real relationship and I stayed with him for 8 years and realized he wasn't the one and stayed single for many years after. I have been with my husband now for 15 years and we will be celebrating 13 years of marriage this month. I am not sure how long I have been watching your channel but it has been years and you are fucking still so cute. Do what is best for you because in the end that is all that matters.
dude i literally vibe with what you are saying and it’s funny cause i just broke up with my ex last night and gave him the same speech. No bad blood, it’s just that we aren’t compatible and i have so much i need to work on as does he. I’m 27 too and dude it’s been such a weird year. I noticed how my focus has shifted and how the pressure i put on myself has doubled. It’s definitely part of the journey. It’s growth, it might hurt now but it’ll makes sense later on.
I'm 53. I spent the past decade in a relationship with a narcissistic, abusive person. I even went to far as to marry them. This month (October 2022) will be when the divorce is finalized. I am reclaiming my power, my sense of self, my love for myself. Like you said, if I end up single the rest of my life, that's fine, because I know my worth. I know what I should and should not accept in the way that people treat me. Sometimes, that's the most difficult thing to acknowledge. Step by step...my life is getting better. May yours continue to improve as well!
Just watched this. Thank you! I appreciate your candor & self-honesty. Also your opener was adorable!,
I've missed your energy. Thank you for this update.
Pano...refreshing to find your level of self-awarness...at 27 years of age. It helps to be of the 'internet age' with all it's resources and examples, such as your own. When I was 27 years old, back in the Ice Age(truly frozen out of a healthy social life) the resources and examples for a young gay man were RARE if they even existed. Keep posting when you can, even with necessary pauses, because what you do for your peers and younger souls IS IMPORTANT. With what you perceive as imperfections makes you unique, of course, yet perfect as a working example to others. I can only wish in hindsight there had been such a friend like you when I was 27.... the dark and threatening savagery of lonliness and despair almost did me in; I'm a bit hardened by those experiences and can only say, and hope for you, don't let the loneliness harden you and change your beautiful energy.
Yes you do! Only 40 seconds in and paused. Add lots...and lots...and lots of decades to your age and you find me. I currently have only a few friends in my life. After discovering the reason for that in my personal past history...I am making many changes to improve my socializing. As a long time viewer of your channel, having instantly bonded with you in spirit...I know that you are loved by many.
Your introspection about who you are is outstanding, and this introspection will continue as you approach 30, then 40, then ... As a much older person than you (in early 80's) I have worked my way through who I am and how this produces understanding what I can do to show my love for my family without destroying my love for myself.
Pano, hope all is well. Happy Belated Birthday, 27. I remember when you were in your teens. Don't worry, after this pandemic I swear my friend list went south. Let's hang, no agendas, just friends. Be well and stay safe. Alex from LA.
Happy to see you 👋🏻
I'm more or less at the same point in my life, age and situation. Relatable
Ok but this video is so on point with what my friend and I have been talking about the past two days. Literally we were just talking about how we use to be so good at spelling yesterday. And as for the friends aspect I totally feel it. I’ve learned that I’m a high energy giver but low maintenance friend. I give a lot but don’t expect anything back. And when I’m the only one reaching out to friends I’ve learned that the energy exchange isn’t equal and that is important. So I’ve slowly just stopped reaching out so I can protect my energy and keep those who treat me how I treat them. AND I literally just broke up with my super toxic, narcissistic, financially abusive and controlling ex boyfriend of 3 years and I learned a lot about what I expect in a relationship and will tolerate. Cause he was my first relationship so I learned a lot from him being so negative and judgmental. I got over so much internal homophobia because of him and I can live myself without it being conceited and whatnot. So I wouldn’t take back my experiences but I will continue to grow and evolve.
This rings true throughout the ages. Hilarious and very enjoyable. Good luck young man
Something I will remember whenever I think about how many friends I have at any given time is the phrase. "Understand that friends come and go, But a precious few, who should hold on"
You at least have the right frame of mind about relationships and people. I quit trying to hold onto those people I loved to be around, even if it didn’t serve me any purpose but to feel included. You are correct in saying you can’t change people. If they want to be your friend, they have to be willing to change.
I would rather have one awesome friend, than a roomful of people who could care less about my life. It can be exhausting to try to make people like you, when really if you’re not happy, it could be you’re not happy with yourself.
I’m still looking for that one person though. Someone to really share life with me, and look past the flaws. He better be forging, cuz I may mess up a lot! 😂
Enjoyed the video. You brought up some really good points. Oh and btw…27 isn’t very old. Enjoy it to its fullest! ❤❤
I get what you mean, my early 20's were so joyous. I think that was partly because as a queer person I was beginning to explore who I really was. But then life inevitably threw some shit and I began to realise that I had some serious shit I needed to work on. Now I'm far enough through that process to stop chasing after things I don't really want, but still have to fight the instinct that I should want those things. Also I think the world seems more daunting now, not in my ability to navigate it, but in understanding how complicated it's problems really are.
You seem like a sincere and honest person. Would love to more of your videos. I'll subscribe.
Literally what I've been talking about 2 days ago with my friend on Facetime .. now I see your video in my recommendations (I've been a fan since the beginning lol) and I guess we are all part of this collective consciousness .. we think the same thoughts without even realizing it
we're better off without some people (ex friends) they were like phases, we learned a lot from them but we cannot linger to the past, just take the good memories and run with it to a brighter day ahead
Hey, Panos! You said so much of your truth. Live it as you are able. Butm know you'll not "arrive" to wholeness until your done living, if then. We're always a work in progress, but we "strive for excellence to reach for perfection." It's a little idealistic to think you'll arrive and "be whole" before you take next steps/chapters in life. We change, and so grow and discover new things to work on. But it sounds like you're on a good, healthy path and are happy doing so! Hurrah! In my 20s, I was discovering/trying a succession of career choices that made me happier or more fulfilled. By 30, I had chosen just one, and made avocations for others. Now toward retirement, I'm revisiting a couple and making them central to my life going forward, because they give still me joy and meaning in these years. As you said, be patient, forgiving, and graceful with yourself. Love yourself, and from that, love others with empathy. That's wisdom. You're a fantastic young man. and are loved, for being ever more yourself, your own best friend and lover. That's sexy and real and attractive. 💛
Friends are for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. All important and make a difference.
Oh man I needed this. I feel so lonely it hurts. I need to have patience for myself
Happiest time between 17 and 20 - Those were the best years of my life too. I think back to them, but they never come back.
Been watching you since 2012. I also turned 27 just last month and asked myself literally every question you listed. That makes me feel somewhat comforted. Seems like it's just another step in life. But despite feeling older, I like to remember that I'm still relatively young and that my decisions at 27 are still as impactful as when I was 17. At least in the long run. And this time I'm pretty confident I can make much wiser decisions because stupidity is inevitable at 17.
Wow Bro!!! That was THE BEST deconstruction of life & love ever...kicked dr philphony out...THANK YOU...just wish i had heard this, not just advice, a lesson in reality when i was 18 & a freshman in college. I know now, i lost my best chance at a mate (my roommate), back then out of fear; then went on to repeat the same mistake year after year right till now.
Hope you will do more like this one & i really hope this message reaches millions of persons everywhere.
We are living in dangerous toxic times; with violent people who will kill or destroy decent progressive wonderful spirits like you...stay safe, stay well & as the old saying goes: KEEP ON, KEEP'N-ON !!!
27, such a young puppy. I am always curious about people who think about things so much. Fishing! That is good therapy, Come fishing if your ever near Cape Cod.
I'm 62, and I'm not interested in whether anyone likes me. Im fine with it if they don't like me. Now that ive reached older age things that bothered me when I was younger don't anymore. I do what I want , I'm not a people pleaser like I once was. Be yourself, and don't compare yourself to others. Seeking validation from people takes alot of energy. Accept that people are not going to like you. There are differences. I'm happy now and at peace.
Same sitch and age. Yay Spring babies and 27. But for real having a rough time with this feeling abandoned and hearing this from someone else with a similar vibe is really great. Almost clicked away...again... cause I didn't want to think bout it but I'm glad I decided not to.
You have lots of youtube friends, Pano. I, too, once was an excellent speller; but this no longer the case. However, I have gotten much better at solving Jumbles -- unscrambling sets of letters to form 5 and 6 letter words. You have a wonderfully expressive face -- the large chocolate eyes beneath heavy, trim brows are a large part of this and are very articulate with a great sense of humor. All your youtube fans wish you success and happiness in life. John🌈
Why for the love of Merlin does this not have more views and likes?! I’ve been proud to here on Pano Pancakes journey..
*RIP Spongebob twerking*
Yes, your younger years & college days were hilariously amazing to watch and it’s been amazing to be on this journey with you. You are awesome and I’m glad you’ve embraced so much love for yourself.
P.S. - Yes.. I remember & love your rant videos.. they gave me so much life. Great to see your beautiful face again.✌️
I’ve never run across or seen one of your videos before I enjoyed it. And I do have to say, you are absolutely incredibly as cute as they come!! Lol.
I have just discovered your channel today and I definitely can connect with what you're saying. I was an extremely sensitive kid. I'm an empath and that journey wasn't easy. Thank you so much. I hope this makes sense, had very little sleep past 3 days :)
Always,
Marcus
Thank you for doing this you tube. I got such a great feeling listening to you. It’s not about how many friends it the quality of who is in your life!! I subscribed and thankful you are here..)
I almost feel like I haven’t related to a video so much before, even just turned 20 but I agree with almost the entire video. It’s good to see I’m not alone in thinking and doing the same things :)
The Age of the Narc is upon us. My empathetic self has attracted Narcs all my life. No more. I always laugh at how The Age of the Narc has arrived just as I've left. Then I get worried at all the others who have not reached that point yet and will get devoured by the evil Narc 😕
As someone who has had a series of narcs come and go in my life - I get it
What is it about 27?
Just turned 27 as well and been feeling a lot of the feelings you just explained. Patience to deal with people who I just don't vibe with has diminished tremendously - working on not just being completely intolerant with other people, trying to find the balance between respecting my boundaries (new to me lol) and people pleasing (what I usually do).
Happy Belated 27th Birthday! You have really grown up since that summer spent in Los Angeles.
Emotional intelligence lies on a spectrum between Garden Hose (the lowest) and Lady Diana (the highest).
Just listened to a part of Sesame. I can see why you go by two names: Blue Franklin (or at least that song) seems grittier than the guy who introduced me to FOR THE LOVE OF DILF ( thanks by the way). While the song isn't my cup of Cherry Coke Zero ( I'm more Adele, Sam Smith, Kevin Ross), it seems really good. Continue on with your music!!
Super CUTE!! 😜 My twenties were Fun, full of excitement, & adventures. Best years of my life between college and first job doing what I Love, to having the opportunity to buy a business & running it for 7 years. So enjoy whatever season of life you’re in cause reflection is when you truly realize how great of a time is was. ❤️ your videos Panos😁
Such the perfect message I needed to hear this morning!
Thank yo!! 😁😁
Crazy amazing video...and SO relatable! Keep it on, you're doing a great great job! All the best ☺️
I was just thinking about you this past weekend and wondering if you had stopped posting on here; so good to see that you are well. To answer your question, 'Yes, I will be your friend'.
Thats kind of similar to me.
Don't have many friends, cause I'm a bit of a shut in introvert, and everyone kind of drifted.
Also used to take great pride in my spelling, and now end up misspelling simple words because I click the letters in the wrong order 😞.
Anyways, you're awesome, and one of my favorite youtubers who rarely post ❤
I love this. Good luck with your journey. It’s great that this all came to you at 27. At 34 years old, I wish I discovered this at 27 as well. But I eventually did and it’s very empowering and freeing.
I'm turning 30 in 34 days, but I actually never asked myself those questions in recent years. I avoided toxic people and those casual "fake friends" right before I turned 20. And I've experienced a lot of my deeper self. Now I'm at the right place with a lot more confidence and even though friendships will optionally grow over time (because you're able to be lonely but choose not to), I'm a loyal person and would do almost everything to those who appreciate, love and support me.
I'm 33 and I'm on the same boat of forcing myself to relax starting this summer. Disney movies, chess with the fiance, spa excursions. I have coloring pages waiting for me lol.
I think for some of us millennials, as much as Boomers and gen X don't believe it, we still have that old mindset of grind till you die. But with the changing culture, it's difficult to see the world as Gen Z does; that work should not be the primary purpose of life. Our generation has always been at the cusp of so much, it's no wonder there is so much angst.
I really can't remember how long I've been a fan of yours (at least 8 or 9 years), but I'm always happy to see your face.
This is some great perspective!! I completely agree. It is one of the weird products of being on the cusp of the age of the internet
Love you Pano! Used to watch YT vids years ago before COVID.