Time stamps :)) No surprises - Radiohead 00:00 - 03:32 Hurt - Oliver Tree 03:32 - 06:12 I Can’t Handle Change - Roar 06:13 - 09:30 YKWIM - Yot Club 09:31 - 13:04 Young - Vacation 13:05 - 16:12 Haunt me (x3) - Teen Suicide 16:13 - 18:38 Backroom Labyrinth - Oliver Buckland 18:38 - 21:27 Not Allowed - TV girl 21:28 - 24:14 Dark Red - Steve Lacy 24:15 - 27:06 Nobody - Mitski 27:07 - 30:19 Class of 2013 - Mitski 30:09 - 32:00 Please - Jagger Finn 32:00 - 34:56 To everyone who relates to the “therapist friend” stereotype, I’m sorry. You’re not their therapist, you’re their friend. Take care of yourself and set boundaries
I'm sorry that on that day, the day you were shut out and left to die, no one was there to lift you up in their arms, the way you lifted others into yours.
very relatable. im suffering here and my friends are kinda just sucking my happiness unitentionally. Im so glad i have a bf now, someone who I t=can talk to. it feels like no one is there.
when I try to complain a bit saying that today was exhausting they answer me "yes me too no one loves me everyone abandons me" so I console them even if I'm not well because otherwise they think that I don't like them and complain about me. It hurts. Therapist friends deserve better. I like this playlist
imagine this, you're mind is a flower, a healthy, beautiful flower, and your friend's flower is molting, rotting. You then put yourself in front of them giving them soil and helping their flower. Meanwhile, your flower is rotting on its own. No one there to take care of it. Your job is to protect and keep that flower healthy, its YOUR flower. Its never wrong to give a helping hand, be there for them, yes...but you need to draw a line and maybe tell them get professional help, if their really a good friend then the'll understand and take your word. I wish only the best for everyone in this comment section, the statements I made in this comment was adapted from a youtube video ill send you the link if you want in the comments :)
Ain't that the truth it's mentally taxing but it's a role someone has to play I'm glad that there's a little community of people who also have to be the therapist friend honestly thank you and thank everyone here for playing this sometimes wonderful sometimes terrible role I at one point needed a therapist friend and I'm glad that I've become a therapist friend so I can help those i care for the most even if it gets hard
I'm the therapist friend, the solves the problems friend, the mediator friend, the shows up to all the things friend, the always notices friend, but I'm also th unnoticed friend, the excluded friend, the once I've fixed it they forget me friend. I just want to be appreciated. I hope no one relates, but something tells me a lot will, so I'll enjoy this little community.
Me being the mother/therapist friend of the group really deserves a playlist like this :] I want everyone to know that you are not alone. Its hard but I know that there's gonna be that one person that will hold you too.
I am always the one who help listening To this made my cry okay 7 years of hearing all of these im praticly the same as i was but now i need To see a therapist for my anxiety
I am the therapist friend but remember you have to take care of yourself too it can be hard because you feel like you have no one but you are loved. Side note do you guys have trouble letting people in cus I do idk if that is cus I keep secret for other so they don’t have to carry all the weight or that is just me? lol also did you guys have a toxic friendship tooooo also do you have anxiety or get overwhelmed easily
Something that I've found helpful in being a therapist for myself, is to write on my notes. Everyday, or days where i feel most low. Whether it be writing stupid things like, forgetting to do work, or how I hit my foot on the kitchen counter. It's every little thing I remember and find interesting. It just, helps. And, just because you're good at carrying baggage, doesn't mean it isn't heavy. It's good to unload, even if its to another bag that you'll carry in the future. But at least, in the future, you'll be a little bit stronger, and a little bit more prepared to carry the bag little you couldn't.
At this point im gonna drop the friend who literally vents to me all the time and when i pour my heart out when shes upset i give her my all and when i try to vent all she says is "idk" "Im sorry lily idk" It hurts I always try my best to help her but she doesnt care about how I feel at all-
I have a friend just like this but I would feel to guilty to stop talking to her so I’m putting myself under more stress then a need and I’m trying to help all my other friends and I can’t do this anymore I feel like I’m gonna snap at any second.
@@sashafrazier1688 It must be hard. Just a few days ago, I had a friend who also didn’t react very well to my vents. It was understandable since I was probably being too honest but I hoped they would comfort me back since that’s what I did for them. If you’d like to talk about it or vent, I’m all ears.
As a Therapist friend to many of my friends and my lover, I enjoy this music. I really try to help them but they’re just like “oh, you don’t get it do you?” “Can’t you try to help a little harder?” And I feel really bad trying to help when I know I can’t but I don’t talk about my problems to them so they don’t feel like I do with them. Thank you for this playlist.
The fact that you're still trying to help them despite all that is admirable and something they should realise. It's fine to have your own problems and to focus on them even if you think they might be small things. I don't know you that well but I hope your friends notice how hard you're trying because you deserve as much help as you give out.
I completely understand you with this one. Best bet is to just tell them, "Hey, I'm here if you need to talk and get things off your chest. I might not be able to solve all your problems or help in the way you'd like, but I'm here for you when you need me."
Y’all sound like really nice people. I’m really sorry if I ever did something like this. It’s not easy to be friends with me because ✨brain’s fucked up✨, and I’m incredibly grateful for having their support. I don’t know how to let them know that and I don’t want them to think that they can’t come to me for that same kind of support.
"You can always talk to me, I'm here to listen." No, you're not. They never are. Because your problems are always worse, and even if you think I can vent to you like you always do to me, I'll always think I'm adding to your burden. Therapist friends carry everything.
Yeah, now due to quarentine I no longer have friends since I moved. I've had to listen to everyones problems because I wanted to help and wanted to care. I want to get better, I have been trying and working towards it. This is our journeys we have to get better and not rely on others like they did us. We are the ones growing. We can do it.
I’m the therapist friend, most of my friends vent to me but i have no one to vent to, i cant vent to my friends because i feel like i would be a burden to them, worsening all their other issues. tbh my friends don’t like being vented to anyway so i guess i’m just stuck.
im kinda stuck in a similar position, there was this really nice guy at my school, we were close and always vented to each other, but then told me the "i want to be more than friends" type convo, and we havent talked since, i told him that i dont feel the same, but i genuinely miss him, he was a great friend, and now i have no therapist friend ;-; but in all seriousness i really miss just talking to him when things got hard but now its awkward and idk what to do anymore :/ i dont vent to my other friends either only cuz i just dont trust them
@@amateurartfromanamateurper8505 Things are going to be awkward after that, no doubt. The best advice I can give to you is to just approach them and be honest. Explain that you really miss their company and all the conversation you'd have together. Tell them about the impact they had in your life and how even if you don't have any romantic feelings towards them, you still care for and wish only the best for them. Yes, it'll be hard to start a conversation after that, but hey, I believe in you! Go get your "vent buddy" back! :'D Sorry if I assumed some feelings there. I fear that my relationship w/ my vent friend is getting to that point cause they've started dropping hints.
@@eggtrats thanks for the advice, we both got into the same highschool so that helps the best advice i can give in return is to not just ingore them lol, he told me his feelings over text and i just panicked. so it does get to that point, tell them how you feel in return. i didn't and left them hanging for a while until he finally got the memo, yeah telling your friend that you dont feel the same will be awkward but just tell them straight away that you are not looking for a relationship, but enjoy their company and would love to remain friends. hope this helps!
I honestly love playlists like this, they make me feel welcomed into my own little corner of the internet with my stuffed animals and an endless amount to cry my heart out. I hate being friendly, I hate it so much, I hate that I can make people happy in less than 2 minutes but when ever IM SAD, they just talk to me like I'm there dog, everyone has there own problems and I get that, I just wish people could understand that sometimes, Therapists need there own Therapist.
This playlist gives me a lot of comfort, I used to be the therapist friend for all my friends as well as people online that I didn’t even know, my anxiety got really bad during that time, I was really depressed and I never told anyone my problems which led to mutliple mental break downs. I’m out of those toxic relationships and I’m a lot happier now, but I’ll never forget the times I stayed up late begging them not to kill themsevles :/
This. This was summer of 2021 for me. I've stopped because someone snapped me out of it. I'm still always kind to people, but its not as horrible as I was then. Even though it happened long ago, just to think, I fell apart so fast back then, I have no happy memories of summer, yes I had fun , but I was suffering. Summer is coming up again, what if something else causes that to happen? Or what if I fall back into another hole? I'm never truly happy because Ik, Its temporary and one day, I won't be. That time has come but It's just me being stressed all the time and never truly knowing how I feel. Just thinking about the past every day. I wish summer could come sooner so that I can finally get a real one, a real summer, a real break. *a real escape*
@@pinkyanimates3460 hey i know its been 10 months since this but I want you and other people feeling a similar way to know that life is full of ups and downs, and lows and highs will happen with these ups and downs. However, we all know that every low is temporary and not permanent and same goes with happiness but if you take it into consideration its your low moments that make the memories and moments so happy yk? Yeah, happiness is temporary and I'm not going to sit here and tell you any different because I'd just be lying and I don't want to do that to you but I know you can make it through the low to make it to the high, the battle may be tough but I know you are strong enough, even if you dont feel like you are ; I promise you that you are
My entire life, ive been that friend. Almost 18 years of it. I will never regret it though, ive helped so many people through attempts and relationship problems. But in the end, nobody helped me through my attempts, relationship problems, mental problems, sh, family losses and family problems. They all thought that i would take my own advice. They were wrong. I had to fix myself.
I'm not the therapist friend but I really wanna be it, not to get attention but to comfort people, I'm really good at comforting people but honestly, none of my friends vent to me. They always vent to others that don't want to be the therapist friend. I'm so tired of it. I honestly just feel like quitting and start enjoying my spot as the artist friend. I'm so close to quitting.
Being a therapist friend is really hard, and if you’re not it’s hard to see others venting to other people when you know that you can help them better. Im so sorry you feel this way, you should maybe try to enjoy being a friend in no specific category as you don’t need to be in any friend category, as long as you’re nice to your friends that’s enough
@@Waffli It is hard, and nowadays for me all I do is my schoolwork, videogames (which I just can't find as fun as I used to), and keeping my friends alive.
I don't know you but I love you because our situations are so similar except I did become the therapist friend and yet most didn't appreciate it but the ones that did really made it up and reciprocated the act, but overall it's not worth it you'll damage yourself a lot if you try to become everyones rock, so only do it for people who you know will appreciate it at most, also don't allow people to inforce social roles onto you, be what YOU want to be fuck your friends respectfully.
Being the therapist friend is very hard because if you say one thing and you are friends do it wrong (or even not at all or even do not listen to you) you will tell yourself that it is your fault because you did not advise them well and believe me because I am and in addition to being that I am the "mom" of the group. And if YOU want to vent you will not be able to because you are the therapist friend and you don't want them to worry about you because you tell yourself that they have other things to do..
Look a lot of the therapist friends wanted to be the therapist friend but now we just hate it. That is why you see those people who don't want to be a therapist friend. It just leads you down a dark hole.
It's hard being the therapist mother of my friends, I love them, and I never want to leave them, but it's also hard for me, I'm alone, I don't have anyone to tell my hurts, sadness and that banal stuff, great choice of songs.
Being the “therapist friend” is hard, you have that people who you’re always there for them but when it’s you, there’s no one there for you, when I try to vent to my friends, they will think I’m faking, but when they vent to me, I will try to give all of my love,support,care, and attention all to them, as I said it’s really hard for us “therapist friend”, we have life’s too, we have feelings too, we may as well been through harder shit then any of our friends say they been through, but as they always fucking say “life is unfair” I hate it, thank you for the playlist and thank you for letting me vent here, I feel a bit more safe then I ever felt in a while. Thank you❤️
I just moved from a close friend and now all my online friends are having problems and I always solve them but I never vent to them but they never listen to my vents a just feel like I’m gonna snap any day now and I would feel guilty if I stopped talking to them but I need a break.
You could kindly tell them to take a break or vent to my discord Waffles#6057 you could try to reconnect with your old friends online and make new friends, find a better side of life
I’m the therapist friend, have been for years. It used to feel like it was slowly killing me, feeling as though my issues were nothing and that I would burden my friends when they have their own problems, but then I became numb to it. I became numb to the stress it puts onto me, and now I have really unhealthy mindsets to make myself get better so I don’t have to burden them. There are so many things that I don’t tell my friends cause I need to be there for them, which that led to believing I should never be listened to or cared for. I’m still affected by being a therapist friend, mainly just unhealthy mindsets that consume my thoughts, but at least I’m numb to the feeling of overwhelming dread that I used to get when being the therapist friend :D
hey I know this is 2 yrs ago, but I do hope ur doing better. Like everyone here I’ve been in the same position, and it numbs you down so much. I hope you’ve found something or someone to help carry the immense load you do, and if not, trust me-things get better. It feels Sisyphian, but it does, eventually :]
@@yourlocaldemon2195 i literally forgot this comment existed. thank you so much for your kind words!! 🤧 it sucks that so many people go through this, but it feels nice to have people who understand. if you were curious- things did get better, only after they got worse. i was a person’s full time therapist for 3 years (my mental health was sO bad for two of them). and another friend, who never talked to me, only did so to vent about their life. i’m no longer friends with either of them now. in present day i have two friends who i talk to occasionally, not super close by any means, (unlike the two friends i lost) but i don’t mind. me and my partner are three years strong, they have been such an amazing support, my rock throughout all the bad shit. they’ve always been there for me. my mental health is sO much better than from 2 years ago, and i’m doing pretty alright in my uni courses. i’m studying psychology with the goal of becoming a therapist. might as well get paid for my skills, yk? i hope your doing well, and again, thank you so much for your comment! :3
I'm the therapist friend, the solves the problems friend, the mediator friend, the shows up to all the things friend, the always notices friend, but I'm also th unnoticed friend, the excluded friend, the once I've fixed it they forget me friend. I just want to be appreciated. I hope no one relates, but something tells me a lot will, so I'll enjoy this little community.
I actually like to be the therapist friend, it makes me feel so happy that my friends trust me enough with their problems. I find it nice to just be able to be there for them, give them advice, and sometimes, all you have to do to comfort someone is to just sit beside them, either silently, or listen to music with them, even just drawing with them, many small things can make someone happy, and if you can't keep up with their problems, tell them, you're not a servant, and if they get mad because you aren't mentally able to hold their burdens, then they are in the wrong. don't feel like a burden. I'm not saying you should listen to me, heck, you can just ignore this, but please don't just ignore your own needs either, just because you might feel like a burden, your aren't, tell someone else your feelings to, don't try to bottle them, it will make everything worse. Take care and smile at the next person you see walking in the street or at school, it might make someones day, now go get hydrated, my readers.
I feel like I’ve avoided my own feelings by helping others with theirs for so long that if I don’t have problems to help with I’ll be entirely empty. I get so mad at myself if I can’t give advice on something but someone else can.
Surprisingly, despite being the most chaotic and mentally messed up of my friend group, I have to be their therapist. I, the one who is literally a lesbian in a Christian private school, who had multiple mental breakdowns due to getting B's in school, who tried to kill myself, am the therapist to my arguing friends. And I get nothing from it. And it tires me.
As another lesbian in a Christian private school and a therapist friend, I can relate to this. Just know, you can tell them you can't handle it anymore. They might be mad at first, but they have to understand that you cannot always be what they "need".
you guys arent alone. it hurts me to see you all like this. im here for anyone. youre amazing and im proud of you. make sure to take care of yourselves :)
as a one of these friends it's hard taking care of 1000 ppl at once and you barely have time for your own mental health yet you know if you go focus on yours more then theirs may crash down and they die then you'll be left with the empty hole in your heart thinking it was all your fault cause you didnt focus and you think your selfish.
@@Angel.bunny_16 she's doing a lot better now she's finally accepted the fact that she can vent to people (with consent) so now she gets to relieve some pressure!!
I somehow managed to become one of my friends mothers therapist, my mother, my older brother, little brother, my mothers boyfriends daughter, random people at school, the school councilor, MY therapist, and my "friends". Being a therapist friend, a people easier, an overthinker, and have body image issues with so little sleep is absolute torture.
I've been everyone's own immediate therapist since the kindergarden, and honestly it's gotten tiring. I ask my friends to describe me and they all say something around "mother figure". I don't know why people come to me too vent and ask for advice, but they do (even if they have their own professionally trained therapist). Because of this I feel expected to sit there and listen to everyone's issues and make them feel better even if it means putting my feelings aside. Thank you for the playlist, it helps ease all my stress that's been added with the overbearing job of "friend therapist".
i love being the therapist friend because i can help my friends and comfort them but i hate being the therapist friend because when i vent about myself my feelings are invalidated
Being the therapist friend is willing taking your friends burdens and helping them through just about anything and everything, through the good and the bad, helping them because you want the best for them. So now on top of the things that you have already is everyone else’s problems, and I’m not blaming them it’s just kind of hard to handle. Seeing them all happy and having fun is the reward I get :). (Also I really like the playlist)
gotta love the feeling of having to save someone over text at 4am from commiting, and then feeling like you didnt do enough and then they cast you aside till they need to talk again. its been 2 years since that happened to me and i still havent recovered. being the therapist friend actually sucks. another downside is since all these people vent to you, you know what it feels like to be vented on so you dont want to burden people by venting to them. just so much fun man. feeling so numb is just normal now. havent felt any emotion in a while.
Honestly, i went to school today and had a huge fall out with one of my best friends after i joint up the dots and realised they have been lying to me about multiple things. I Remember when we were closer, i would try to vent to them, but they would just make it all about them and me being me, would just sit there and comfort them like im not having issues. They would also act as if they were the only one with the bad mental health and the only one with family issues. And now that i recall it, i dont think we had a single conversation that began and ended with me. I feel like that friendship was only beneficial for them. I cant believe i was so naive, i feel so stupid
18:39 An accurate representation of what my brain sounds like as I debate whether or not to tell my friends about the things that have been bothering me or to just keep quiet and push it down again
It really hurts when your the therapist to your own mother. I hear about rent, break ups, work, shitty friends, everything. I'm fourteen. I say I'm 'so sorry', She says 'why?'. I'm falling apart. I have secrets so dark she would cry, say 'why?!'... I would smile, even laugh. I'd say 'I'm sorry!'. Then I'd cry, forever. Never ending. Please, nobody tell me their sorry. Nobody dare say it'll get better. I know why you are here, on this playlist. If you try console me, I will cry. I have too much empathy, and so do you.
I just want people to realise that I'm also with emotions. I sometimes want to cry and vent like them. I'm glad I'm a trustworthy person to you but I just want to be recognised as well
I'm the therapist friend and it's like, it really sucks because I know a lot of things and my friends has a lot of issues, and me being the only one knowing a lot of things, it makes them run straight to me for help, but like, I I never feel helped, nobody helped me, it's just me and my own mind, it really sucks, I feel so overwhelmed and I feel like I need to solve other people's problems, man, I'm just a kid.
i am the therapist friend, because comforting is the one thing ik i can do good. i love making people feel safe and loved with me. but yeah it can take its toll. i never feel safe venting because i just feel guilty. im the therapist friend to help people like me. i feel like its the only thing keeping me alive. people have it so much worse, if i can ease that pain, only if it were just for a moment then ik ive just helped someone even though im a shitty person. even though i like helping people and comfort them i hate it at the same time because i dont have an outlet. i just take it and deal with it on my own i really dont know anymore.
I'm the therapist friend in my group but we all vent to each other and my friends are like "you need to say no to people randomly venting to you, you cant handle that, we know you know it". and I'm like "no its fine" and that just go "NO ITS NOT ITS TOXIC DUMBASS". and I know that and I told my therapist i just got about how I'm like a school therapist and she straight up went "you are literally playing the role as an unpaid therapist when you yourself cant handle it. you should get paid for it though, especially since you cant even handle it". and she gave me a really helpfully analogy for this, my anger issues, and my depression. so it want to try this is what you do. you get a piece of paper, draw a bucket, and grab a few makers. now lets say blue is depression put how much of your emotional bucket that takes, then do the same with different this like stress, anxiety, anger, homework, bills(if your an adult), etc. and then if your the therapist friend and put your friends problems on you, 9 times outta 10 you have no room in the bucket so you spill over, and if other things happen when your bucket is filled you will constantly over flow causing emotional breakdowns, anxiety/panic attacks, over stimulations, sleeping problems, exhaustions, emotional burn outs, and worse out comes(I think y'all know what I'm pointing at). it helped me realize that i really do need help so it was kinda eye opening.
This playlist softens the hard thoughts that I get, so many people vent out to me a lot, friends, strangers, classmates, siblings, and my own lover. I’ve always been there, but recently I’ve been having suicidal thoughts of my own yet I feel like I’m obligated to be there for everyone, I just wanna make them happy or even just make them feel a little better. But they all seem too busy for me. I’m not a priority to them anymore, am I? Everyone who I’ve helped is having a better life now but now it’s me who needs someone but then again, they may think that I just let them vent out to me for JUST this one moment. I don’t want to hurt anybody, so I just deal with it. As much as I don’t like it, it’s for them, I should just stay quiet shouldn’t I? Okay. *I’ll still be there.*
Vent: My friend sent me a “goodbye” kind of text a few hours ago and I started completely sobbing. It only lasted for a minute or so before I stopped and acted fine. I canceled my plans with my friend tonight wanting to cry alone, but now I have to see a family member in the hospital. The only people I can vent to are the people I’m being the therapist friend to. I need to be strong for them but it’s getting hard when I can’t even be strong for myself. I have so many issues I can’t talk about with anyone, especially the people I’m close to. It truly hurts but I have to be strong. Thank you for reading this if you took the time. Have a fantastic day and you’re truly awesome, no matter what you do or what is said to you.❤️❤️❤️
it hurts so badly when people vent to you and you listen and try your very best to make them feel better but then whenever you try to vent to them they just ignore you :)
"I'm sorry that on that day, the day you were shut out and left to die, no one was there to lift you up in their arms, the way you lifted others into yours. And then, what became of you, I should have known, you wouldn't be content to disappear."
It’s so weird when you lose friends when all you do is help those people with all your heart and all they do is throw it away and use you up and then you drop those people and you realize wow I really am better off without them even if it takes a little while you did the right thing dropping them and I’ve realized why don’t I take care of myself like how I took care of those awful people who used me this playlist is like a hug I’ve need for a really long time thank you
I am the therapist friend in the group. I get to know everyone's problems even their deepest secrets. Knowing that I can't tell ANYONE, that I will take it to the grave makes me know I'm a trusting and caring person, but it's overwhelming. When I say "I'm not okay" they don't get it. I'm even left out and I'm still there. I try to speak up, It's back on me. When I try to get therapy from another friend, they end up telling someone else. If I don't tell them I'm called ""Fake Friend," and I still don't even tell them it.
I play this sort of music whenever I’m stressed out about certain things. And that I’d not only when I feel like I’m being the therapist friend and always making my friend feel better when she never does that to me. But I also play this when I’m stressed about other things as well. So thank you for making this playlist it helps a lot.
I tried so hard to make all my friends and classmates in general feel safe with themselves.. But it was never enough for them, constantly hearing "You don't get it though!" "Are you even trying to help at this point." Those words hurt so much to someone who can't bring themselves up without bringing other people up. (Notice that they never do bring themselves up anyways.) So if you are one of those people who try so hard to bring others up. Just know, you're loved no matter where you stand in life. You helped those people for a reason, you can take a break for a little if you don't feel enough. Sometimes people take advantage of you and how you are, but you can still be loved for how you are.
I love being the therapist friend. I get to help people. I get to look at them smile after I know all of their pain. But sometimes it’s hard to see them try so hard. You know you’re trying to help the issue, but you’re scared of doing something wrong. You’re scared of hurting them more by doing too much. You realize you’ve done something in the past to hurt them. And you shame yourself. You feel guilt. So you are so cautious on restricting yourself and making sure you won’t hurt anybody by seeing the true feelings and depression of others you feel it yourself, like it’s contagious. But you decide to go through because you know you have a good life compared to them. You know you have nothing to complain about. You know you have the best compared to them. And you force yourself to believe that they deserve the life you have. But then you forget you have struggles. And feelings. It’s always making others happy. But you are never pleased with yourself. You just keep hurting the people you love. They ignore you and get mad. You shame yourself for causing them to be upset and hurting them further. You figure out it was a dumb reason and wait it out. You cry to yourself. They forgive you after awhile, but then it’s fine. And then you make the mistake of saying the wrong thing. Either trying to be funny or just being yourself. You slipped up. You offended someone. Now you have to repeat it. An endless cycle. You cry to yourself late at night on your phone reflecting on why that one person you loved and trusted never read your message or texted you back. You sit there and listen to playlists like these to try and soothe yourself. But you know you can’t get away. Feel familiar? So many people are like this. And we can’t all help each other if we are breaking ourselves. Please, just find a person. Another therapy friend. Maybe then you can find a relatable person and you can find out that you guys have more in common than you think. Please. I’m may be a random person on the internet. But just believe me. I know. It hurts beyond what others may think. Just know… there are people like us out there. Be safe.
"I'm sorry that on that day, the day you were shut out, and left to die, no-one was there to lift you up into their arms, the way you lifted others into yours." - Cassette man FNaF6 Fire recording mid [1.]
Honestly, part of me hates being the therapist friend. I help so many people, but I'm scared to vent to them too. I always have to keep myself from comparing what they're venting about to my own experiences. It's comforting knowing that someone is going through the same stuff as you, but I also don't want to make it seem that they're unimportant because I go/went through the same thing. At the same time, I like being the therapist friend. It sometimes feels like I'm the only one who can help people, and it makes me mad when someone vents to someone else and all that person responds with is stuff like "Idk" "Sorry ig" or "Idk what you're even talking about". It makes me mad because I can understand, I can comfort, I can provide the help someone needs when others can't for them. I love helping people, but at the same time I absolutely hate it because it also feels burdening.
I feel like my world is falling apart, I'm too busy helping everyone else. But I cant tell anyone though because they don't say the right things and just pity me. I just needed to get that out...
As a therapist friend i have no words for how much a appreciate this ( Im crying silently over this rn :) ) Sure, i do want to tell someone but without adding onto their burden and worrying like i had to do.
Okay, therapy for the therapist coming in. The reason you have everyone vent to you, yet no one to vent to is because: You are the most stable of those around you. Whether they're aware of it or not, you are the most calming/emotionally sensitive/insightful person around. You are the strongest, everyone else is looking up to you, and unfortunately that means we don't have anyone to look up to. It's lonely at the top because if the strong help the weaker, who helps the strongest? It's scary to be at the top, so please, reach for others. As long as you keep your hand out, the right one will grab it.
Every day is a struggle to wake up, to talk to my friends, to work, to eat, to come home and your family yelling at you, at each other, to love someone with all your heart to have them break it into pieces, you try to fix it but someone breaks it more, to go to school and be picked on and touched, you want to tell your parents but are afraid of what they’ll do to you, I hate life, I hate I can’t talk to someone, I hate that all I want is someone to hug me, all I want is someone to love me with all their heart and to care about and protect me from people and even myself
Here’s the thing, I want to help and I love to help, and I wouldn’t mind being the therapist friend, but when I say something that happens to me the person I’m talking to says “Yeah, we’ll my situation is worse because..” and then they would tell me there problems totally pushing mine aside. And then they make the excuse “Oh, I don’t know how to comfort people, sorry.” I’m just… I don’t know anymore. Love the playlist btw❤
Lately, I have felt so alone but as the therapist friend my priorities are never first. I love my friends so much, but when I try to ask for help am I always faced with "oh that sucks" "oh me too, like when..." Or "haha ok". I only have three close friends, and I was never close to family, so I really have no outlet. I just say that I am fine and they believe me, but for once I wish someone will say " no it's not" and just hug me. My friends always rant to me and say I give the best advice, but once I help them they just leave, only coming back for more advice.
I can't handle people constantly venting to me, I always feel like I'm not enough, and the guilt is crushing me. But I'd rather have people vent to me than have no one at all. The stress of always being there because you are someone's only lifeline has me shaking and crying on the floor. Just yesterday I talked my best friend out of killing themselves. I take everyone's burdens even though I struggle with my own. I'm suffocating but no one can hear me, and I never tell anyone my problems because I don't want to be a burden.
being the therapist and mother friend for one of my closest friends and general friend group honestly kind of sucks, they kind of take a lot of what i do for granted and the only person who actually understands how i feel responds with the “idk” and the “that sounds like it sucks” most of the time. i snapped at one of my friends because i was absolutely pissed at them because they put absolutely 0 effort into one of our projects for math which forced me to rush most of it at an ungodly hour and all they said in the argument was “this is really adding to my stress you know” then shunned me for not doing the work earlier when they knew i has other things to get finished. ouch.
⚠️Vent Comment⚠️ You know, sometimes I don't mind being the mom/therapist of the group but, sometimes I want to be heard and vent. And it sucks because I don't get that chance as often as the rest of them do. 😕 My only way to vent is to talk to myself because I know most people won't understand. I just want to be understood. It's even harder to make newer friends when you aren't very social. I'm a very quiet and shy person, which means if I don't talk first I won't meet new people and I hear that a lot. I used to have so many friends and then once I moved to a new school, I only knew a few people, and it's not like the pandemic helped either. I had so much drama with my friends because I had a toxic friend. The sad part is, is that I used to have great times with them and then they changed. One of my friends moved and then I didn't get to talk with them often. I distanced myself from the toxic friend and now I have no one to talk to but to myself, my family, or meet new people. - Just a vent I wanted to write, had a lot on my mind. Have a good day/night. 🧍♀️
See I'm not only the therapist friend, I'm the therapist (grand)son, cousin and sibling. I have 2 years worth of feelings pent up inside. Where else do I put them? No one will let them out. *so I bury them*
Being rhe therapist/ support friend is bittersweet. I genuinely like that even one hug or a few words helps them... but I suck at reaching out when I'm down/ upset. Sometimes solitude is all I need and rarely do I need someone by my side... I've adapted
im always the therapist friend in my gc, most of my friends go to me only to be comforted. im always trying to share an optimistic and fun energy in the group. everytime i get excited someone always has to say "its not the right time." or "okay, anyways" ive always felt used and left out. im trying to keep my fake personality and try to not feel insecure each day. i just wanted someone to open out to and finally get a real friend or person that will give me the same kindness that i never had. i never cried normally, its only when i get hurt. ive been brutally inforced in the emotionless state that ive been in because of my relatives pushing me into insensibility. being called "cry baby" "sensible" "freak" and "weird" ever since ive been 7 years old. (i did cry, and had a break while typing this)
As someone who has been the therapist friend since I was in first grade, I just want to say, you will find someone who can listen! I only found my partner recently, and they listen to everything, and will console me no matter what. So, don't give up just yet! you'll find that person and when you do, you'll be able to see the pure bliss that comes with being able to get things off your chest. :D Have a lovely day and drink water loves!
as somebody who’s the ‘therapist’ in their friend group, im sometimes afraid to vent to my friends because i think I’m putting the same stress on them from when they try to vent to me and I sit back and try to convince them that it’ll all be okay.
or if you do open up, they have a worse problem, or more stress then you have and you can’t pile more upon them, it just feels wrong to do that, I’m so sorry you have to be the therapist
I hate being too nice for my own good. I don't know how to comfort people and it sucks. They keep venting to me, but they're still upset when they're done and then I'm upset because I don't know how to fix it. I hate being vented to, but isn't that selfish? I don't want my friends to hurt, but dont I deserve that same courtesy? I hate being vented to, but I hate feeling guilty for hating it. But I can't just say no, because how could I? If something were to happen to them, it'd be all my fault, and isn't that worse?
i have been the therapist/mom friend for years. One friend group took advantage pf my kindness they showed me sh scars, made me fear for peoples lives, talk people out of ending it. One claimed i was her gf and then when i "broke up" with her that "friend" group turned on me and blocked me. Im still recovering. But my recent friends are better
I left all of them, finally. I think I always knew they went good for me but I just loved feeling like I mattered to them even though I could see through the shallow relationships we had. I recently got back in touch with one of my old friends that got bullied out of the group we were in. Its such a refreshing feeling that I’m out of there but it still guests to know I can’t help them. I think one of the most important things I’ve learned is that I can’t save everyone and to just help myself first.
I remember being the therapist friend, it was not the best feeling at all, I wanted to vent but when I tried to it would most likely end up as my friends venting to me instead of me venting to them :( but now I'm not the therapist friend anymore :) everything got much better than before, if you are the therapist friend, I'm sorry for you :( you're not your friend's therapist , you are their friend, always remember that
"Im sry that on that day,the day u were shut out and left to die, no one was there to lift you up into their arms, the way you lifted others into urs." Me and my best friend are the therapist friends we stick together alot and unfortunately her parents are more strict than mine so i cant ft with her much but i can talk to her online and tbh that line is my messenge to her (she isnt d3d btw just traumatized) she will one day be safe in my arms that i am sure of but until then i shall be there as much as i can for her also sry for the rant bein a bit more hormonal this morning
i try to vent to my friends but all they say is 'oof lol' or 'see a therapist' but when they vent to me i let them speak, to be honest the venting is to calm me down, but all i ever get is 'oh than see a therapist' or 'oof- thats rough' but nothing else, and im not even good at comforting people but i try! im getting really confused now!
Thank you for making this, it truly helps me after my toxic friend vents to me (I dropped them today). It's always hard being the therapist/the person to vent to in a group chat filled with people I knew that turned toxic. Thank you once again.
You`re ``bestfriends`` use you as a venting mechanism for themselves but you listen to them, and then bully you saying ``if i bully you that means i consider you a real friend`` then dump you and they don`t tell you why and act like nothing happened ...
I'm not really a therapist friend, but my friend group has the habit of venting to me whenever they want, practically dumping all their stress on me, I don't mind it, but I do like this playlist! Thanks for making it, all my favourite songs are in here, it helps me calm down and it also helps me do my concentrate on my homework more, So thank you!
vent incoming !! I'm the "therapist friend", or atleast I used to. I may only have one friend but I'd do anything for them honestly.. They vent to me alot, most times not even asking for permission. I assured them with everything I could give, countless paragraphs and months of patience just for them to calm down and talk to me at their own time. It was quite overwhelming whenever they vented to me, since I don't have a stable mindset either, but I tried my best to comfort and to be there for them. But nothing ever worked. No amount of reassurance would ever comfort them. I never complained, I never thought bad of them for it. But oh when I ask to vent they somehow manage to turn the story towards them. The moment where I wanted some comfort from who I considered to be my only friend only ends up with us switching places. As time passed they kept on ranting about every single problem they have to me and I was expected to listen. It even came to the point where they threatened to hurt themselves.. I felt so uncomfortable and pressured, as if I was the one to be blamed for it. Not only that, but whenever we see each other in real life they barely even notice me unless they want to copy off my answers or something and then they'd have the audacity to tell others that I'm the one who hates them? I'd really like to end our friendship but they guilt me into thinking I'm the only one they have. But if I'm the only one then why would they keep on ignoring me? why would they never comfort me? the only time they notice me is when one of our classmates point out the fact that something was wrong with me yet they never did anything. they just run off. like always.. That was quite alot.. huh? My apologies. Well if you somehow relate to this or even if you don't, please do take good care of yourself:] you are worthy of being loved
I really needed this playlist in my life. :) My friends would non-stop vent to me. whenever I'm about to cry or need to release stress/vent that's when they mostly decide to vent to me. It always very hard for me to even stay strong when they try/do vent to me or come complaining about their relationships. whenever I try to vent to them, they just simply ignore me or respond with "idk what to do." "idk" or just don't let me even vent to them period. I don't want to say I don't like it when they vent to me but don't let me vent to them. because they are my only friends, and I don't want to lose them. I now go to therapy whenever they try texting me to vent, I ignore them even thou I'm probably on a pathway of losing them I know I will end up lonely. but... It won't matter to me as much anymore after the incident. im just happy that they wont be crying to me anymore about their boyfriends or stuff like that.
I think I’d fit the therapist friend category. I love helping my friends out whenever I can because everyone has something they need to get off their chest yk? I’m not the most stable person myself but every time I get asked if I’m okay i only deceive them. I want their help but I feel like they need me more. I have to be stronger for other people but it’s so exhausting to a point where it can drain me of any emotion at all. I hope that all you guys in the comments get better and get help soon. You matter as much as your friends do! Please take care of yourself too
Sometimes I feel like I'm the therapist friend, and sometimes I feel like I'm not doing enough. It's weird because I feel like forcing othet people to be happy because of my bad mood. Me out of anyone in my friends should know it's hard to keep all your feelings to yourself, so...yeah idk what I'm saying anymore, I think there's a reason why I have a therapist. :"/ Good luck to every therapist friends out there
I'm not scared to be there, it gives me purpose and connection where I'd otherwise feel disconnected and abandoned from everyone around me. It gives me secondhand catharsis through excessive empathy. I'm not scared of being the only one I come back to at night, I'm the best I've got when it comes to tending to my own wounds and knowing what to do. I'm not scared when they come to me on the verge of dying, I'm used to it and getting them help and stability is second nature to me. But I am terrified of the fact that I feel like I'm the only one who quite understands this specific sensation, these tasks and rules to fixing myself and others up that I learned by my own blood and that of others. The unshakeable feeling that my blood is filled with soap and debris that water down this poison that gave me rotten flesh. I feel putrid, but that's nothing I can't accommodate for. I just hope that one day when I'm at a brink that I can't pull myself back from and deal with on my own, someone is there just like I've always forced myself to be. I hope somebody just happened to be on watch that night, whenever it comes. I've been there at that moment myself so many times before for somebody else, why can't there just be one time like that for myself when I'll need it most? Somebody who just got an uneasy feeling that night and decided to check in right before it all failed.
this hits tbh. not only am i the therapist for my friends but for my own family. (specifically, my female cousins.) i havent seen them for a year and last month when i came to visit them, all they did was talk about their boyfriends, dumb experiences and 'sad moments'. i loved listening to them, but it got exhausting when i would mention an old boyfriend that asked for nudes, or a boy who touched me the wrong way at school, or how i wanted a bf, of course, they gave the good ol' "oh that sucks," or "damn!" dry reply. i remember sitting there next to them as they chatted away with each other about something they didnt give context to me about. so basically, i was stuck listening to something i couldnt just ask about or be remotely interested in. 5 of my girl cousins, 2 of my aunts and even my best friend forgot my own 15th birthday this year. my mother had to text them at 10 pm at night to say it was my birthday because i didnt get a single hb from them. keep in mind, i always text these girls happy birthday on their birthdays, but due to recent events i might as well not even contact them anymore. just today actually, i texted one of my other cousins about a guy i was talking to on snapchat and i asked what should i say if i got a boyfriend, and how should i tell him if i did. (she knows the guy), and which she hadnt replied all day. but just a few minutes ago i figured out she was awake by looking at her story. idk, its just so hard having to listen to close relatives and best friends about their problems but not be able to spit out one work about myself. ive vented this to my parents and they always say that i shouldnt listen to them anymore, which is a good idea. though unfortunately i am too considerate to control that. i always comfort them and give advice but get not even a single but of genuine reaction or care from the people i love. i guess the yearning of wanting someone to hear me out took me to youtube - a small playlist- to the comment section full of people just like me who arent being listened to as well. thanks for reading, i guess this was more about "not being listened to" vent but yk. lol
Idk it's like for my friend group we're all each other's therapists, trying to comfort each other and goof around to alleviate all the negative feelings and insecurities we've been struggling with. We're a bunch of weirdos that can't seem to fit in, meaning that our group is basically like the "Losers Club" from It.
I really needed this playlist. Being the therapist friend/mother figure of the group can be hard especially when everyone starts thinking that you’re the healthiest of the group because you never have shared your true thoughts with anyone so they just assume “you’re lucky that you aren’t feeling what we are” but I have vent to them but all they ever do is vent on top of my vent or just go “oh sorry about that” “sorry im tired right now, another time?” And it’s like they don’t even care about my feelings at all!? Have I not tried hard enough? What else do you want me to do what do you want me to say to you when you vent to me just to get you to care for me as much as I care for you? “I tried and I guess it’s just not enouh for you. and when i’m happy leave me alone and stop acting like you get nothing when you’re the favourite”
im the therapist. i always listen to them. even if i didnt want to. even if they started saying it randomly in front of me. even that one guy who compared a day of what he went through to years of my trauma. i told him i didnt want to hear it. nobody was there for me when i was at my lowest. it hurts.
Кино
Time stamps :))
No surprises - Radiohead 00:00 - 03:32
Hurt - Oliver Tree 03:32 - 06:12
I Can’t Handle Change - Roar 06:13 - 09:30
YKWIM - Yot Club 09:31 - 13:04
Young - Vacation 13:05 - 16:12
Haunt me (x3) - Teen Suicide 16:13 - 18:38
Backroom Labyrinth - Oliver Buckland 18:38 - 21:27
Not Allowed - TV girl 21:28 - 24:14
Dark Red - Steve Lacy 24:15 - 27:06
Nobody - Mitski 27:07 - 30:19
Class of 2013 - Mitski 30:09 - 32:00
Please - Jagger Finn 32:00 - 34:56
To everyone who relates to the “therapist friend” stereotype, I’m sorry. You’re not their therapist, you’re their friend. Take care of yourself and set boundaries
Pls pin this
The fact that I know most of these songs kinda hurts since I randomly picked this playlist :,)
*"I'm sorry that on that day, the day you were left out to die, no-one was there to lift you into their arms,"*
That shit hit me LMAO
Same broo
I'm sorry that on that day, the day you were shut out and left to die, no one was there to lift you up in their arms, the way you lifted others into yours.
LOL.
LMFAO SAME
Fr i cried instantly
I honestly love these types of playlist cuz it feels like a little community down hear that has all the same problems as me
Yeah, I hope to see you in the future as I will be making more of these :))
same honestly, it feels good in a way to know I'm not the only one struggling with stuff like these
very relatable. im suffering here and my friends are kinda just sucking my happiness unitentionally. Im so glad i have a bf now, someone who I t=can talk to. it feels like no one is there.
@@IKILLEDXIX same with my friends 🫤
Yeah.
when I try to complain a bit saying that today was exhausting they answer me "yes me too no one loves me everyone abandons me" so I console them even if I'm not well because otherwise they think that I don't like them and complain about me. It hurts. Therapist friends deserve better. I like this playlist
imagine this, you're mind is a flower, a healthy, beautiful flower, and your friend's flower is molting, rotting. You then put yourself in front of them giving them soil and helping their flower. Meanwhile, your flower is rotting on its own. No one there to take care of it. Your job is to protect and keep that flower healthy, its YOUR flower. Its never wrong to give a helping hand, be there for them, yes...but you need to draw a line and maybe tell them get professional help, if their really a good friend then the'll understand and take your word. I wish only the best for everyone in this comment section, the statements I made in this comment was adapted from a youtube video ill send you the link if you want in the comments :)
Ain't that the truth it's mentally taxing but it's a role someone has to play I'm glad that there's a little community of people who also have to be the therapist friend honestly thank you and thank everyone here for playing this sometimes wonderful sometimes terrible role I at one point needed a therapist friend and I'm glad that I've become a therapist friend so I can help those i care for the most even if it gets hard
they DO derserve better
I'm the therapist friend, the solves the problems friend, the mediator friend, the shows up to all the things friend, the always notices friend, but I'm also th unnoticed friend, the excluded friend, the once I've fixed it they forget me friend. I just want to be appreciated. I hope no one relates, but something tells me a lot will, so I'll enjoy this little community.
Me being the mother/therapist friend of the group really deserves a playlist like this :] I want everyone to know that you are not alone. Its hard but I know that there's gonna be that one person that will hold you too.
Ofc you deserve it, you’ve done so much to help other people
@@jiggilyfumbulus2547 me too dear tho of course if you need it I can be yours? I don't mind I swear ❤
All of you guys are gonna make me cry. ❤ I hope you guys are doing good
I am always the one who help listening To this made my cry okay 7 years of hearing all of these im praticly the same as i was but now i need To see a therapist for my anxiety
I am the therapist friend but remember you have to take care of yourself too it can be hard because you feel like you have no one but you are loved.
Side note do you guys have trouble letting people in cus I do idk if that is cus I keep secret for other so they don’t have to carry all the weight or that is just me? lol also did you guys have a toxic friendship tooooo also do you have anxiety or get overwhelmed easily
Something that I've found helpful in being a therapist for myself, is to write on my notes. Everyday, or days where i feel most low. Whether it be writing stupid things like, forgetting to do work, or how I hit my foot on the kitchen counter. It's every little thing I remember and find interesting. It just, helps.
And, just because you're good at carrying baggage, doesn't mean it isn't heavy. It's good to unload, even if its to another bag that you'll carry in the future. But at least, in the future, you'll be a little bit stronger, and a little bit more prepared to carry the bag little you couldn't.
At this point im gonna drop the friend who literally vents to me all the time and when i pour my heart out when shes upset i give her my all and when i try to vent all she says is
"idk" "Im sorry lily idk" It hurts I always try my best to help her but she doesnt care about how I feel at all-
I’m so sorry you feel this way. If you feel comfortable you can always vent in these comment sections or my discord: Waffles#6057
I feel just the same way
I have a friend just like this but I would feel to guilty to stop talking to her so I’m putting myself under more stress then a need and I’m trying to help all my other friends and I can’t do this anymore I feel like I’m gonna snap at any second.
dude litterally ALL but like two of my friends do this!!! we twinning :DD
@@sashafrazier1688 It must be hard. Just a few days ago, I had a friend who also didn’t react very well to my vents. It was understandable since I was probably being too honest but I hoped they would comfort me back since that’s what I did for them. If you’d like to talk about it or vent, I’m all ears.
As a Therapist friend to many of my friends and my lover, I enjoy this music. I really try to help them but they’re just like “oh, you don’t get it do you?” “Can’t you try to help a little harder?” And I feel really bad trying to help when I know I can’t but I don’t talk about my problems to them so they don’t feel like I do with them. Thank you for this playlist.
The fact that you're still trying to help them despite all that is admirable and something they should realise. It's fine to have your own problems and to focus on them even if you think they might be small things. I don't know you that well but I hope your friends notice how hard you're trying because you deserve as much help as you give out.
I completely understand you with this one. Best bet is to just tell them, "Hey, I'm here if you need to talk and get things off your chest. I might not be able to solve all your problems or help in the way you'd like, but I'm here for you when you need me."
your not Alone :(
Honestly this made me cry because of my therapist friend. I feel so horrible for never asking how you felt G I'm so sorry
Ik this was 8 months ago but if nothing changed, we lie. Well tell you were fine but we're not.
@@Down_bad_cockroach yea .. :')
Y’all sound like really nice people. I’m really sorry if I ever did something like this. It’s not easy to be friends with me because ✨brain’s fucked up✨, and I’m incredibly grateful for having their support. I don’t know how to let them know that and I don’t want them to think that they can’t come to me for that same kind of support.
"You can always talk to me, I'm here to listen."
No, you're not. They never are. Because your problems are always worse, and even if you think I can vent to you like you always do to me, I'll always think I'm adding to your burden. Therapist friends carry everything.
fr:(
I feel like I will ruin the friendship with my problems if i shared them...
Yep..
real real
Yeah, now due to quarentine I no longer have friends since I moved. I've had to listen to everyones problems because I wanted to help and wanted to care. I want to get better, I have been trying and working towards it. This is our journeys we have to get better and not rely on others like they did us. We are the ones growing. We can do it.
I’m the therapist friend, most of my friends vent to me but i have no one to vent to, i cant vent to my friends because i feel like i would be a burden to them, worsening all their other issues. tbh my friends don’t like being vented to anyway so i guess i’m just stuck.
You don’t have to agree to people to vent to you. You are loved. You can always vent to me at Waffles#6057 on discord
@@Waffli okay, ty :)
im kinda stuck in a similar position, there was this really nice guy at my school, we were close and always vented to each other, but then told me the "i want to be more than friends" type convo, and we havent talked since, i told him that i dont feel the same, but i genuinely miss him, he was a great friend, and now i have no therapist friend ;-;
but in all seriousness i really miss just talking to him when things got hard but now its awkward and idk what to do anymore :/
i dont vent to my other friends either only cuz i just dont trust them
@@amateurartfromanamateurper8505 Things are going to be awkward after that, no doubt. The best advice I can give to you is to just approach them and be honest. Explain that you really miss their company and all the conversation you'd have together. Tell them about the impact they had in your life and how even if you don't have any romantic feelings towards them, you still care for and wish only the best for them. Yes, it'll be hard to start a conversation after that, but hey, I believe in you! Go get your "vent buddy" back! :'D
Sorry if I assumed some feelings there. I fear that my relationship w/ my vent friend is getting to that point cause they've started dropping hints.
@@eggtrats thanks for the advice, we both got into the same highschool so that helps
the best advice i can give in return is to not just ingore them lol, he told me his feelings over text and i just panicked. so it does get to that point, tell them how you feel in return. i didn't and left them hanging for a while until he finally got the memo, yeah telling your friend that you dont feel the same will be awkward but just tell them straight away that you are not looking for a relationship, but enjoy their company and would love to remain friends.
hope this helps!
I honestly love playlists like this, they make me feel welcomed into my own little corner of the internet with my stuffed animals and an endless amount to cry my heart out. I hate being friendly, I hate it so much, I hate that I can make people happy in less than 2 minutes but when ever IM SAD, they just talk to me like I'm there dog, everyone has there own problems and I get that, I just wish people could understand that sometimes, Therapists need there own Therapist.
love this playlist, the start speech mixed with the song almost got me crying -
Thank you!
This playlist gives me a lot of comfort, I used to be the therapist friend for all my friends as well as people online that I didn’t even know, my anxiety got really bad during that time, I was really depressed and I never told anyone my problems which led to mutliple mental break downs. I’m out of those toxic relationships and I’m a lot happier now, but I’ll never forget the times I stayed up late begging them not to kill themsevles :/
This. This was summer of 2021 for me. I've stopped because someone snapped me out of it. I'm still always kind to people, but its not as horrible as I was then. Even though it happened long ago, just to think, I fell apart so fast back then, I have no happy memories of summer, yes I had fun , but I was suffering. Summer is coming up again, what if something else causes that to happen? Or what if I fall back into another hole? I'm never truly happy because Ik, Its temporary and one day, I won't be. That time has come but It's just me being stressed all the time and never truly knowing how I feel. Just thinking about the past every day. I wish summer could come sooner so that I can finally get a real one, a real summer, a real break. *a real escape*
@@pinkyanimates3460 hey i know its been 10 months since this but I want you and other people feeling a similar way to know that life is full of ups and downs, and lows and highs will happen with these ups and downs. However, we all know that every low is temporary and not permanent and same goes with happiness but if you take it into consideration its your low moments that make the memories and moments so happy yk? Yeah, happiness is temporary and I'm not going to sit here and tell you any different because I'd just be lying and I don't want to do that to you but I know you can make it through the low to make it to the high, the battle may be tough but I know you are strong enough, even if you dont feel like you are ; I promise you that you are
My entire life, ive been that friend. Almost 18 years of it. I will never regret it though, ive helped so many people through attempts and relationship problems. But in the end, nobody helped me through my attempts, relationship problems, mental problems, sh, family losses and family problems. They all thought that i would take my own advice. They were wrong. I had to fix myself.
I'm not the therapist friend but I really wanna be it, not to get attention but to comfort people, I'm really good at comforting people but honestly, none of my friends vent to me. They always vent to others that don't want to be the therapist friend. I'm so tired of it. I honestly just feel like quitting and start enjoying my spot as the artist friend. I'm so close to quitting.
Being a therapist friend is really hard, and if you’re not it’s hard to see others venting to other people when you know that you can help them better. Im so sorry you feel this way, you should maybe try to enjoy being a friend in no specific category as you don’t need to be in any friend category, as long as you’re nice to your friends that’s enough
@@Waffli It is hard, and nowadays for me all I do is my schoolwork, videogames (which I just can't find as fun as I used to), and keeping my friends alive.
I don't know you but I love you because our situations are so similar except I did become the therapist friend and yet most didn't appreciate it but the ones that did really made it up and reciprocated the act, but overall it's not worth it you'll damage yourself a lot if you try to become everyones rock, so only do it for people who you know will appreciate it at most, also don't allow people to inforce social roles onto you, be what YOU want to be fuck your friends respectfully.
Being the therapist friend is very hard because if you say one thing and you are friends do it wrong (or even not at all or even do not listen to you) you will tell yourself that it is your fault because you did not advise them well and believe me because I am and in addition to being that I am the "mom" of the group. And if YOU want to vent you will not be able to because you are the therapist friend and you don't want them to worry about you because you tell yourself that they have other things to do..
Look a lot of the therapist friends wanted to be the therapist friend but now we just hate it. That is why you see those people who don't want to be a therapist friend. It just leads you down a dark hole.
"in my darkest times, i ended up becoming the kind of person that i needed the most."
It's hard being the therapist mother of my friends, I love them, and I never want to leave them, but it's also hard for me, I'm alone, I don't have anyone to tell my hurts, sadness and that banal stuff, great choice of songs.
yes, I agree with this so much. also sometimes I feel like I have no right to be sad, bcs my friends have much worse problems..
Being the “therapist friend” is hard, you have that people who you’re always there for them but when it’s you, there’s no one there for you, when I try to vent to my friends, they will think I’m faking, but when they vent to me, I will try to give all of my love,support,care, and attention all to them, as I said it’s really hard for us “therapist friend”, we have life’s too, we have feelings too, we may as well been through harder shit then any of our friends say they been through, but as they always fucking say “life is unfair” I hate it, thank you for the playlist and thank you for letting me vent here, I feel a bit more safe then I ever felt in a while. Thank you❤️
I just moved from a close friend and now all my online friends are having problems and I always solve them but I never vent to them but they never listen to my vents a just feel like I’m gonna snap any day now and I would feel guilty if I stopped talking to them but I need a break.
You could kindly tell them to take a break or vent to my discord Waffles#6057 you could try to reconnect with your old friends online and make new friends, find a better side of life
I’m the therapist friend, have been for years. It used to feel like it was slowly killing me, feeling as though my issues were nothing and that I would burden my friends when they have their own problems, but then I became numb to it. I became numb to the stress it puts onto me, and now I have really unhealthy mindsets to make myself get better so I don’t have to burden them. There are so many things that I don’t tell my friends cause I need to be there for them, which that led to believing I should never be listened to or cared for. I’m still affected by being a therapist friend, mainly just unhealthy mindsets that consume my thoughts, but at least I’m numb to the feeling of overwhelming dread that I used to get when being the therapist friend :D
hey I know this is 2 yrs ago, but I do hope ur doing better. Like everyone here I’ve been in the same position, and it numbs you down so much. I hope you’ve found something or someone to help carry the immense load you do, and if not, trust me-things get better. It feels Sisyphian, but it does, eventually :]
@@yourlocaldemon2195 i literally forgot this comment existed. thank you so much for your kind words!! 🤧 it sucks that so many people go through this, but it feels nice to have people who understand. if you were curious- things did get better, only after they got worse. i was a person’s full time therapist for 3 years (my mental health was sO bad for two of them). and another friend, who never talked to me, only did so to vent about their life. i’m no longer friends with either of them now. in present day i have two friends who i talk to occasionally, not super close by any means, (unlike the two friends i lost) but i don’t mind. me and my partner are three years strong, they have been such an amazing support, my rock throughout all the bad shit. they’ve always been there for me. my mental health is sO much better than from 2 years ago, and i’m doing pretty alright in my uni courses. i’m studying psychology with the goal of becoming a therapist. might as well get paid for my skills, yk? i hope your doing well, and again, thank you so much for your comment! :3
I'm the therapist friend, the solves the problems friend, the mediator friend, the shows up to all the things friend, the always notices friend, but I'm also th unnoticed friend, the excluded friend, the once I've fixed it they forget me friend. I just want to be appreciated. I hope no one relates, but something tells me a lot will, so I'll enjoy this little community.
I actually like to be the therapist friend, it makes me feel so happy that my friends trust me enough with their problems. I find it nice to just be able to be there for them, give them advice, and sometimes, all you have to do to comfort someone is to just sit beside them, either silently, or listen to music with them, even just drawing with them, many small things can make someone happy, and if you can't keep up with their problems, tell them, you're not a servant, and if they get mad because you aren't mentally able to hold their burdens, then they are in the wrong. don't feel like a burden.
I'm not saying you should listen to me, heck, you can just ignore this, but please don't just ignore your own needs either, just because you might feel like a burden, your aren't, tell someone else your feelings to, don't try to bottle them, it will make everything worse. Take care and smile at the next person you see walking in the street or at school, it might make someones day, now go get hydrated, my readers.
more likes tbh
thank you aFrog
I feel like I’ve avoided my own feelings by helping others with theirs for so long that if I don’t have problems to help with I’ll be entirely empty. I get so mad at myself if I can’t give advice on something but someone else can.
Surprisingly, despite being the most chaotic and mentally messed up of my friend group, I have to be their therapist. I, the one who is literally a lesbian in a Christian private school, who had multiple mental breakdowns due to getting B's in school, who tried to kill myself, am the therapist to my arguing friends. And I get nothing from it. And it tires me.
Sounds rough.
As another lesbian in a Christian private school and a therapist friend, I can relate to this. Just know, you can tell them you can't handle it anymore. They might be mad at first, but they have to understand that you cannot always be what they "need".
the small talk in the beginning really hit close to home.
you guys arent alone. it hurts me to see you all like this. im here for anyone. youre amazing and im proud of you. make sure to take care of yourselves :)
as a one of these friends it's hard taking care of 1000 ppl at once and you barely have time for your own mental health yet you know if you go focus on yours more then theirs may crash down and they die then you'll be left with the empty hole in your heart thinking it was all your fault cause you didnt focus and you think your selfish.
just because i try to be a decent person and don’t express my feelings to gain pity like they do doesn’t mean i don’t have feelings like bro
I feel so bad for my friend because she is basically the definition of a therapist friend and she never gets to vent.
I’m so sorry about that, check up with her okay?
@@Waffli I did she is doing okay right now but she is still very upset over the whole situation of people using her as a therapist
I'm a therapist friend, i am begging you pls check up on her.
@@Angel.bunny_16 she's doing a lot better now she's finally accepted the fact that she can vent to people (with consent) so now she gets to relieve some pressure!!
Small vent:
ive stopped opening apps, checking messages, etc because i cant handle being the therapist friend anymore
This is so real
I somehow managed to become one of my friends mothers therapist, my mother, my older brother, little brother, my mothers boyfriends daughter, random people at school, the school councilor, MY therapist, and my "friends". Being a therapist friend, a people easier, an overthinker, and have body image issues with so little sleep is absolute torture.
You're the therapist for- THE THERAPIST-?
@@MaxTheStupid wooah-
I've been everyone's own immediate therapist since the kindergarden, and honestly it's gotten tiring. I ask my friends to describe me and they all say something around "mother figure". I don't know why people come to me too vent and ask for advice, but they do (even if they have their own professionally trained therapist). Because of this I feel expected to sit there and listen to everyone's issues and make them feel better even if it means putting my feelings aside.
Thank you for the playlist, it helps ease all my stress that's been added with the overbearing job of "friend therapist".
i love being the therapist friend because i can help my friends and comfort them but i hate being the therapist friend because when i vent about myself my feelings are invalidated
Being the therapist friend is willing taking your friends burdens and helping them through just about anything and everything, through the good and the bad, helping them because you want the best for them. So now on top of the things that you have already is everyone else’s problems, and I’m not blaming them it’s just kind of hard to handle. Seeing them all happy and having fun is the reward I get :). (Also I really like the playlist)
gotta love the feeling of having to save someone over text at 4am from commiting, and then feeling like you didnt do enough and then they cast you aside till they need to talk again. its been 2 years since that happened to me and i still havent recovered. being the therapist friend actually sucks.
another downside is since all these people vent to you, you know what it feels like to be vented on so you dont want to burden people by venting to them. just so much fun man.
feeling so numb is just normal now. havent felt any emotion in a while.
Real..
A very similar thing happened to me as well. I'm so, so sorry you have to deal with that. I understand how much it can fuck up inside.
4 years and I still get upset over that day they almost did it.
Honestly, i went to school today and had a huge fall out with one of my best friends after i joint up the dots and realised they have been lying to me about multiple things. I Remember when we were closer, i would try to vent to them, but they would just make it all about them and me being me, would just sit there and comfort them like im not having issues. They would also act as if they were the only one with the bad mental health and the only one with family issues. And now that i recall it, i dont think we had a single conversation that began and ended with me. I feel like that friendship was only beneficial for them. I cant believe i was so naive, i feel so stupid
18:39 An accurate representation of what my brain sounds like as I debate whether or not to tell my friends about the things that have been bothering me or to just keep quiet and push it down again
It really hurts when your the therapist to your own mother. I hear about rent, break ups, work, shitty friends, everything. I'm fourteen. I say I'm 'so sorry', She says 'why?'. I'm falling apart. I have secrets so dark she would cry, say 'why?!'... I would smile, even laugh. I'd say 'I'm sorry!'. Then I'd cry, forever. Never ending.
Please, nobody tell me their sorry. Nobody dare say it'll get better. I know why you are here, on this playlist. If you try console me, I will cry. I have too much empathy, and so do you.
I just want people to realise that I'm also with emotions. I sometimes want to cry and vent like them. I'm glad I'm a trustworthy person to you but I just want to be recognised as well
I'm the therapist friend and it's like, it really sucks because I know a lot of things and my friends has a lot of issues, and me being the only one knowing a lot of things, it makes them run straight to me for help, but like, I I never feel helped, nobody helped me, it's just me and my own mind, it really sucks, I feel so overwhelmed and I feel like I need to solve other people's problems, man, I'm just a kid.
i am the therapist friend, because comforting is the one thing ik i can do good. i love making people feel safe and loved with me. but yeah it can take its toll.
i never feel safe venting because i just feel guilty. im the therapist friend to help people like me.
i feel like its the only thing keeping me alive. people have it so much worse, if i can ease that pain, only if it were just for a moment then ik ive just helped someone even though im a shitty person.
even though i like helping people and comfort them i hate it at the same time because i dont have an outlet. i just take it and deal with it on my own i really dont know anymore.
I needed something like this, too much stress from taking emotional care of my friends has been piled onto me. Thank you :>
I'm the therapist friend in my group but we all vent to each other and my friends are like "you need to say no to people randomly venting to you, you cant handle that, we know you know it". and I'm like "no its fine" and that just go "NO ITS NOT ITS TOXIC DUMBASS". and I know that and I told my therapist i just got about how I'm like a school therapist and she straight up went "you are literally playing the role as an unpaid therapist when you yourself cant handle it. you should get paid for it though, especially since you cant even handle it". and she gave me a really helpfully analogy for this, my anger issues, and my depression. so it want to try this is what you do. you get a piece of paper, draw a bucket, and grab a few makers. now lets say blue is depression put how much of your emotional bucket that takes, then do the same with different this like stress, anxiety, anger, homework, bills(if your an adult), etc. and then if your the therapist friend and put your friends problems on you, 9 times outta 10 you have no room in the bucket so you spill over, and if other things happen when your bucket is filled you will constantly over flow causing emotional breakdowns, anxiety/panic attacks, over stimulations, sleeping problems, exhaustions, emotional burn outs, and worse out comes(I think y'all know what I'm pointing at). it helped me realize that i really do need help so it was kinda eye opening.
This playlist softens the hard thoughts that I get, so many people vent out to me a lot, friends, strangers, classmates, siblings, and my own lover. I’ve always been there, but recently I’ve been having suicidal thoughts of my own yet I feel like I’m obligated to be there for everyone, I just wanna make them happy or even just make them feel a little better. But they all seem too busy for me. I’m not a priority to them anymore, am I? Everyone who I’ve helped is having a better life now but now it’s me who needs someone but then again, they may think that I just let them vent out to me for JUST this one moment. I don’t want to hurt anybody, so I just deal with it. As much as I don’t like it, it’s for them, I should just stay quiet shouldn’t I? Okay.
*I’ll still be there.*
That really sucks. I hope things turn out better for you soon.
Even if it’s hard and makes me feel sad sometimes, helping someone feel better and happier again will probably always make me smile
YOU AND ME BOTH 😭
i hate it, when I say someone can vent to me they dont trust me. but when they do, they do it randomly
You should try to just respond with “I’m sorry but you didn’t ask to vent to me”
Vent:
My friend sent me a “goodbye” kind of text a few hours ago and I started completely sobbing. It only lasted for a minute or so before I stopped and acted fine. I canceled my plans with my friend tonight wanting to cry alone, but now I have to see a family member in the hospital. The only people I can vent to are the people I’m being the therapist friend to. I need to be strong for them but it’s getting hard when I can’t even be strong for myself. I have so many issues I can’t talk about with anyone, especially the people I’m close to. It truly hurts but I have to be strong. Thank you for reading this if you took the time. Have a fantastic day and you’re truly awesome, no matter what you do or what is said to you.❤️❤️❤️
Vent to me now you deserve it
it feels like a one way mirror.
you see their problems and help them all the way through while they don't do shit.... they don't see through.
it hurts so badly when people vent to you and you listen and try your very best to make them feel better but then whenever you try to vent to them they just ignore you :)
"I'm sorry that on that day, the day you were shut out and left to die, no one was there to lift you up in their arms, the way you lifted others into yours.
And then, what became of you, I should have known, you wouldn't be content to disappear."
It’s so weird when you lose friends when all you do is help those people with all your heart and all they do is throw it away and use you up and then you drop those people and you realize wow I really am better off without them even if it takes a little while you did the right thing dropping them and I’ve realized why don’t I take care of myself like how I took care of those awful people who used me this playlist is like a hug I’ve need for a really long time thank you
I am the therapist friend in the group. I get to know everyone's problems even their deepest secrets. Knowing that I can't tell ANYONE, that I will take it to the grave makes me know I'm a trusting and caring person, but it's overwhelming. When I say "I'm not okay" they don't get it. I'm even left out and I'm still there. I try to speak up, It's back on me. When I try to get therapy from another friend, they end up telling someone else. If I don't tell them I'm called ""Fake Friend," and I still don't even tell them it.
I play this sort of music whenever I’m stressed out about certain things. And that I’d not only when I feel like I’m being the therapist friend and always making my friend feel better when she never does that to me. But I also play this when I’m stressed about other things as well. So thank you for making this playlist it helps a lot.
I tried so hard to make all my friends and classmates in general feel safe with themselves.. But it was never enough for them, constantly hearing "You don't get it though!" "Are you even trying to help at this point." Those words hurt so much to someone who can't bring themselves up without bringing other people up. (Notice that they never do bring themselves up anyways.)
So if you are one of those people who try so hard to bring others up. Just know, you're loved no matter where you stand in life. You helped those people for a reason, you can take a break for a little if you don't feel enough. Sometimes people take advantage of you and how you are, but you can still be loved for how you are.
I love being the therapist friend. I get to help people. I get to look at them smile after I know all of their pain. But sometimes it’s hard to see them try so hard. You know you’re trying to help the issue, but you’re scared of doing something wrong. You’re scared of hurting them more by doing too much. You realize you’ve done something in the past to hurt them. And you shame yourself. You feel guilt. So you are so cautious on restricting yourself and making sure you won’t hurt anybody by seeing the true feelings and depression of others you feel it yourself, like it’s contagious. But you decide to go through because you know you have a good life compared to them. You know you have nothing to complain about. You know you have the best compared to them. And you force yourself to believe that they deserve the life you have. But then you forget you have struggles. And feelings. It’s always making others happy. But you are never pleased with yourself. You just keep hurting the people you love. They ignore you and get mad. You shame yourself for causing them to be upset and hurting them further. You figure out it was a dumb reason and wait it out. You cry to yourself. They forgive you after awhile, but then it’s fine. And then you make the mistake of saying the wrong thing. Either trying to be funny or just being yourself. You slipped up. You offended someone. Now you have to repeat it. An endless cycle. You cry to yourself late at night on your phone reflecting on why that one person you loved and trusted never read your message or texted you back. You sit there and listen to playlists like these to try and soothe yourself. But you know you can’t get away. Feel familiar? So many people are like this. And we can’t all help each other if we are breaking ourselves. Please, just find a person. Another therapy friend. Maybe then you can find a relatable person and you can find out that you guys have more in common than you think. Please. I’m may be a random person on the internet. But just believe me. I know. It hurts beyond what others may think. Just know… there are people like us out there. Be safe.
sometimes i dont open up because i feel like i need to help everyone else to earn comfort
Here we all are, from so many different places around the world but we all are so connected
"I'm sorry that on that day, the day you were shut out, and left to die, no-one was there to lift you up into their arms, the way you lifted others into yours." - Cassette man FNaF6 Fire recording mid [1.]
Honestly, part of me hates being the therapist friend. I help so many people, but I'm scared to vent to them too. I always have to keep myself from comparing what they're venting about to my own experiences. It's comforting knowing that someone is going through the same stuff as you, but I also don't want to make it seem that they're unimportant because I go/went through the same thing.
At the same time, I like being the therapist friend. It sometimes feels like I'm the only one who can help people, and it makes me mad when someone vents to someone else and all that person responds with is stuff like "Idk" "Sorry ig" or "Idk what you're even talking about". It makes me mad because I can understand, I can comfort, I can provide the help someone needs when others can't for them. I love helping people, but at the same time I absolutely hate it because it also feels burdening.
I feel like my world is falling apart, I'm too busy helping everyone else. But I cant tell anyone though because they don't say the right things and just pity me. I just needed to get that out...
As a therapist friend i have no words for how much a appreciate this ( Im crying silently over this rn :) ) Sure, i do want to tell someone but without adding onto their burden and worrying like i had to do.
I need to change my ringtone from ‘I can’t handle change’, I always have a heart attack whenever one of these playlists have it hhhh
Okay, therapy for the therapist coming in. The reason you have everyone vent to you, yet no one to vent to is because: You are the most stable of those around you. Whether they're aware of it or not, you are the most calming/emotionally sensitive/insightful person around. You are the strongest, everyone else is looking up to you, and unfortunately that means we don't have anyone to look up to. It's lonely at the top because if the strong help the weaker, who helps the strongest?
It's scary to be at the top, so please, reach for others. As long as you keep your hand out, the right one will grab it.
Thank you 💛
Every day is a struggle to wake up, to talk to my friends, to work, to eat, to come home and your family yelling at you, at each other, to love someone with all your heart to have them break it into pieces, you try to fix it but someone breaks it more, to go to school and be picked on and touched, you want to tell your parents but are afraid of what they’ll do to you, I hate life, I hate I can’t talk to someone, I hate that all I want is someone to hug me, all I want is someone to love me with all their heart and to care about and protect me from people and even myself
credit to another person i forgot the name lmao
Here’s the thing, I want to help and I love to help, and I wouldn’t mind being the therapist friend, but when I say something that happens to me the person I’m talking to says “Yeah, we’ll my situation is worse because..” and then they would tell me there problems totally pushing mine aside. And then they make the excuse “Oh, I don’t know how to comfort people, sorry.” I’m just… I don’t know anymore. Love the playlist btw❤
Lately, I have felt so alone but as the therapist friend my priorities are never first. I love my friends so much, but when I try to ask for help am I always faced with "oh that sucks" "oh me too, like when..." Or "haha ok". I only have three close friends, and I was never close to family, so I really have no outlet. I just say that I am fine and they believe me, but for once I wish someone will say " no it's not" and just hug me. My friends always rant to me and say I give the best advice, but once I help them they just leave, only coming back for more advice.
I can't handle people constantly venting to me, I always feel like I'm not enough, and the guilt is crushing me. But I'd rather have people vent to me than have no one at all. The stress of always being there because you are someone's only lifeline has me shaking and crying on the floor. Just yesterday I talked my best friend out of killing themselves. I take everyone's burdens even though I struggle with my own. I'm suffocating but no one can hear me, and I never tell anyone my problems because I don't want to be a burden.
being the therapist and mother friend for one of my closest friends and general friend group honestly kind of sucks, they kind of take a lot of what i do for granted and the only person who actually understands how i feel responds with the “idk” and the “that sounds like it sucks” most of the time. i snapped at one of my friends because i was absolutely pissed at them because they put absolutely 0 effort into one of our projects for math which forced me to rush most of it at an ungodly hour and all they said in the argument was “this is really adding to my stress you know” then shunned me for not doing the work earlier when they knew i has other things to get finished. ouch.
⚠️Vent Comment⚠️
You know, sometimes I don't mind being the mom/therapist of the group but, sometimes I want to be heard and vent. And it sucks because I don't get that chance as often as the rest of them do. 😕
My only way to vent is to talk to myself because I know most people won't understand.
I just want to be understood.
It's even harder to make newer friends when you aren't very social. I'm a very quiet and shy person, which means if I don't talk first I won't meet new people and I hear that a lot.
I used to have so many friends and then once I moved to a new school, I only knew a few people, and it's not like the pandemic helped either. I had so much drama with my friends because I had a toxic friend. The sad part is, is that I used to have great times with them and then they changed. One of my friends moved and then I didn't get to talk with them often. I distanced myself from the toxic friend and now I have no one to talk to but to myself, my family, or meet new people.
- Just a vent I wanted to write, had a lot on my mind. Have a good day/night. 🧍♀️
Thank you for making this a spotify playlist.
The song choices are on point and amazing (just like you)
💕💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you so much, I’ll definitely be making more shortly!!
See I'm not only the therapist friend, I'm the therapist (grand)son, cousin and sibling. I have 2 years worth of feelings pent up inside. Where else do I put them? No one will let them out.
*so I bury them*
Being rhe therapist/ support friend is bittersweet. I genuinely like that even one hug or a few words helps them... but I suck at reaching out when I'm down/ upset. Sometimes solitude is all I need and rarely do I need someone by my side... I've adapted
I feel bad about venting to my friends. It feels like they never listen.. idek if I can trust them
Try to ask them directly, “can I trust you?”
im always the therapist friend in my gc, most of my friends go to me only to be comforted. im always trying to share an optimistic and fun energy in the group. everytime i get excited someone always has to say "its not the right time." or "okay, anyways" ive always felt used and left out. im trying to keep my fake personality and try to not feel insecure each day. i just wanted someone to open out to and finally get a real friend or person that will give me the same kindness that i never had. i never cried normally, its only when i get hurt. ive been brutally inforced in the emotionless state that ive been in because of my relatives pushing me into insensibility. being called "cry baby" "sensible" "freak" and "weird" ever since ive been 7 years old.
(i did cry, and had a break while typing this)
As someone who has been the therapist friend since I was in first grade, I just want to say, you will find someone who can listen! I only found my partner recently, and they listen to everything, and will console me no matter what. So, don't give up just yet! you'll find that person and when you do, you'll be able to see the pure bliss that comes with being able to get things off your chest. :D Have a lovely day and drink water loves!
as somebody who’s the ‘therapist’ in their friend group, im sometimes afraid to vent to my friends because i think I’m putting the same stress on them from when they try to vent to me and I sit back and try to convince them that it’ll all be okay.
or if you do open up, they have a worse problem, or more stress then you have and you can’t pile more upon them, it just feels wrong to do that, I’m so sorry you have to be the therapist
I hate being too nice for my own good. I don't know how to comfort people and it sucks. They keep venting to me, but they're still upset when they're done and then I'm upset because I don't know how to fix it. I hate being vented to, but isn't that selfish? I don't want my friends to hurt, but dont I deserve that same courtesy? I hate being vented to, but I hate feeling guilty for hating it. But I can't just say no, because how could I? If something were to happen to them, it'd be all my fault, and isn't that worse?
i have been the therapist/mom friend for years. One friend group took advantage pf my kindness they showed me sh scars, made me fear for peoples lives, talk people out of ending it. One claimed i was her gf and then when i "broke up" with her that "friend" group turned on me and blocked me. Im still recovering. But my recent friends are better
I left all of them, finally. I think I always knew they went good for me but I just loved feeling like I mattered to them even though I could see through the shallow relationships we had. I recently got back in touch with one of my old friends that got bullied out of the group we were in. Its such a refreshing feeling that I’m out of there but it still guests to know I can’t help them. I think one of the most important things I’ve learned is that I can’t save everyone and to just help myself first.
As a fellow therapist friend this helps a lot and I really love playlists like these great work :]
I remember being the therapist friend, it was not the best feeling at all, I wanted to vent but when I tried to it would most likely end up as my friends venting to me instead of me venting to them :( but now I'm not the therapist friend anymore :) everything got much better than before, if you are the therapist friend, I'm sorry for you :( you're not your friend's therapist , you are their friend, always remember that
"Im sry that on that day,the day u were shut out and left to die, no one was there to lift you up into their arms, the way you lifted others into urs." Me and my best friend are the therapist friends we stick together alot and unfortunately her parents are more strict than mine so i cant ft with her much but i can talk to her online and tbh that line is my messenge to her (she isnt d3d btw just traumatized) she will one day be safe in my arms that i am sure of but until then i shall be there as much as i can for her also sry for the rant bein a bit more hormonal this morning
i try to vent to my friends but all they say is 'oof lol' or 'see a therapist' but when they vent to me i let them speak, to be honest the venting is to calm me down, but all i ever get is 'oh than see a therapist' or 'oof- thats rough' but nothing else, and im not even good at comforting people but i try! im getting really confused now!
Thank you for making this, it truly helps me after my toxic friend vents to me (I dropped them today). It's always hard being the therapist/the person to vent to in a group chat filled with people I knew that turned toxic. Thank you once again.
You`re ``bestfriends`` use you as a venting mechanism for themselves but you listen to them, and then bully you saying ``if i bully you that means i consider you a real friend`` then dump you and they don`t tell you why and act like nothing happened ...
I'm not really a therapist friend, but my friend group has the habit of venting to me whenever they want, practically dumping all their stress on me, I don't mind it, but I do like this playlist! Thanks for making it, all my favourite songs are in here, it helps me calm down and it also helps me do my concentrate on my homework more, So thank you!
vent incoming !!
I'm the "therapist friend", or atleast I used to. I may only have one friend but I'd do anything for them honestly.. They vent to me alot, most times not even asking for permission. I assured them with everything I could give, countless paragraphs and months of patience just for them to calm down and talk to me at their own time. It was quite overwhelming whenever they vented to me, since I don't have a stable mindset either, but I tried my best to comfort and to be there for them.
But nothing ever worked.
No amount of reassurance would ever comfort them. I never complained, I never thought bad of them for it. But oh when I ask to vent they somehow manage to turn the story towards them. The moment where I wanted some comfort from who I considered to be my only friend only ends up with us switching places.
As time passed they kept on ranting about every single problem they have to me and I was expected to listen. It even came to the point where they threatened to hurt themselves.. I felt so uncomfortable and pressured, as if I was the one to be blamed for it. Not only that, but whenever we see each other in real life they barely even notice me unless they want to copy off my answers or something and then they'd have the audacity to tell others that I'm the one who hates them?
I'd really like to end our friendship but they guilt me into thinking I'm the only one they have. But if I'm the only one then why would they keep on ignoring me? why would they never comfort me? the only time they notice me is when one of our classmates point out the fact that something was wrong with me yet they never did anything. they just run off. like always..
That was quite alot.. huh? My apologies. Well if you somehow relate to this or even if you don't, please do take good care of yourself:] you are worthy of being loved
I really needed this playlist in my life. :)
My friends would non-stop vent to me. whenever I'm about to cry or need to release stress/vent that's when they mostly decide to vent to me.
It always very hard for me to even stay strong when they try/do vent to me or come complaining about their relationships.
whenever I try to vent to them, they just simply ignore me or respond with "idk what to do." "idk" or just don't let me even vent to them period. I don't want to say I don't like it when they vent to me but don't let me vent to them. because they are my only friends, and I don't want to lose them. I now go to therapy whenever they try texting me to vent, I ignore them even thou I'm probably on a pathway of losing them I know I will end up lonely. but...
It won't matter to me as much anymore after the incident.
im just happy that they wont be crying to me anymore about their boyfriends or stuff like that.
I listen to the vast majority of these songs. The ones I don’t are great, thanks!
I think I’d fit the therapist friend category. I love helping my friends out whenever I can because everyone has something they need to get off their chest yk? I’m not the most stable person myself but every time I get asked if I’m okay i only deceive them. I want their help but I feel like they need me more. I have to be stronger for other people but it’s so exhausting to a point where it can drain me of any emotion at all. I hope that all you guys in the comments get better and get help soon. You matter as much as your friends do! Please take care of yourself too
Sometimes I feel like I'm the therapist friend, and sometimes I feel like I'm not doing enough. It's weird because I feel like forcing othet people to be happy because of my bad mood. Me out of anyone in my friends should know it's hard to keep all your feelings to yourself, so...yeah idk what I'm saying anymore, I think there's a reason why I have a therapist. :"/
Good luck to every therapist friends out there
I'm not scared to be there, it gives me purpose and connection where I'd otherwise feel disconnected and abandoned from everyone around me. It gives me secondhand catharsis through excessive empathy. I'm not scared of being the only one I come back to at night, I'm the best I've got when it comes to tending to my own wounds and knowing what to do. I'm not scared when they come to me on the verge of dying, I'm used to it and getting them help and stability is second nature to me.
But I am terrified of the fact that I feel like I'm the only one who quite understands this specific sensation, these tasks and rules to fixing myself and others up that I learned by my own blood and that of others. The unshakeable feeling that my blood is filled with soap and debris that water down this poison that gave me rotten flesh. I feel putrid, but that's nothing I can't accommodate for. I just hope that one day when I'm at a brink that I can't pull myself back from and deal with on my own, someone is there just like I've always forced myself to be. I hope somebody just happened to be on watch that night, whenever it comes. I've been there at that moment myself so many times before for somebody else, why can't there just be one time like that for myself when I'll need it most? Somebody who just got an uneasy feeling that night and decided to check in right before it all failed.
this hits tbh. not only am i the therapist for my friends but for my own family. (specifically, my female cousins.) i havent seen them for a year and last month when i came to visit them, all they did was talk about their boyfriends, dumb experiences and 'sad moments'. i loved listening to them, but it got exhausting when i would mention an old boyfriend that asked for nudes, or a boy who touched me the wrong way at school, or how i wanted a bf, of course, they gave the good ol' "oh that sucks," or "damn!" dry reply. i remember sitting there next to them as they chatted away with each other about something they didnt give context to me about. so basically, i was stuck listening to something i couldnt just ask about or be remotely interested in.
5 of my girl cousins, 2 of my aunts and even my best friend forgot my own 15th birthday this year. my mother had to text them at 10 pm at night to say it was my birthday because i didnt get a single hb from them. keep in mind, i always text these girls happy birthday on their birthdays, but due to recent events i might as well not even contact them anymore. just today actually, i texted one of my other cousins about a guy i was talking to on snapchat and i asked what should i say if i got a boyfriend, and how should i tell him if i did. (she knows the guy), and which she hadnt replied all day. but just a few minutes ago i figured out she was awake by looking at her story.
idk, its just so hard having to listen to close relatives and best friends about their problems but not be able to spit out one work about myself. ive vented this to my parents and they always say that i shouldnt listen to them anymore, which is a good idea.
though unfortunately i am too considerate to control that. i always comfort them and give advice but get not even a single but of genuine reaction or care from the people i love. i guess the yearning of wanting someone to hear me out took me to youtube - a small playlist- to the comment section full of people just like me who arent being listened to as well.
thanks for reading, i guess this was more about "not being listened to" vent but yk. lol
Keep on keeping on therapist friends. We work in the hopes they get better. Help yourself as you help others. God bless.
Idk it's like for my friend group we're all each other's therapists, trying to comfort each other and goof around to alleviate all the negative feelings and insecurities we've been struggling with. We're a bunch of weirdos that can't seem to fit in, meaning that our group is basically like the "Losers Club" from It.
I really needed this playlist. Being the therapist friend/mother figure of the group can be hard especially when everyone starts thinking that you’re the healthiest of the group because you never have shared your true thoughts with anyone so they just assume “you’re lucky that you aren’t feeling what we are” but I have vent to them but all they ever do is vent on top of my vent or just go “oh sorry about that” “sorry im tired right now, another time?” And it’s like they don’t even care about my feelings at all!? Have I not tried hard enough? What else do you want me to do what do you want me to say to you when you vent to me just to get you to care for me as much as I care for you?
“I tried and I guess it’s just not enouh for you. and when i’m happy leave me alone and stop acting like you get nothing when you’re the favourite”
im the therapist. i always listen to them. even if i didnt want to. even if they started saying it randomly in front of me. even that one guy who compared a day of what he went through to years of my trauma. i told him i didnt want to hear it. nobody was there for me when i was at my lowest. it hurts.
thank you for the playlist :)